Relationship red flags 🚩🚩| The Unpopular Opinion UG
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Claire
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Prim
/ nyonyoziprim
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Kemi
/ fionakemi_
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You are preaching!
I am back to 'sing' communication.
A partner who can't communicate is a big NO.
We are adults and expressing our feelings- great or uncomfortable should be bare minimum.
Tell me how you become a nag because you what to discuss real issues🤔...before somebarre 'accidentally' puts a pillow over your face as you sleep.
Nedda.
On top of sweeping things under the rug, there are those who use silent treatment as a weapon.
Suddenly you are replaying conversations and actions so that you can decide what you did wrong because someone lost their speech (except they can conveniently speak to everyone else🤔)
Walking on eggshells at our big age?
NO.
****
Narcissism. We should be on the look out.(please read up extensively on this if you haven't already/if you suspect your person is exhibiting the characteristics)
Their charm and confidence might draw you in but it comes at a price, eventually (e.g their manipulation, gaslighting insecurity, lack of empathy or reciprocity etc)
It is important to identify narcissistic traits so that you decide if you are going to run or how you shall (better) handle things should you decide to stay.
And as a parting shot, your partner/friends/family are not your therapists. Please find professional help if you can afford it or work towards solutions that will help with healing.
Oh wow Esther, this is elaborate, well thought out and amazingly articulated. My God we would be great friends. *Shoots shot*
Ladies when are you hosting Esther. I have started running to the comment section to read her contributions...
Ma'am! This is why you are my role model in life. Because the things you be saying?!!! Prepare please. We really must have you join us some time this year.
And thank you in a special way for that last bit. A partner once tried to convince me to do the friends as therapists thing and my spirit wasn't on board.
Estherrrrr 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 (standing ovation)
Mic drop 🎤
My red flag that many may not find so important is partners who do not emotionally let you in. They are usually afraid of letting you see their soul or feel they have to be 'strong' or put this face on so you never really know what is truly on the inside. That mask falls off and can leave you every disappointed.
And we start saying that the person changed. They didn’t change they didn’t show you their true selves from the beginning
@@nyonyoziprim right. People usually don't change actually. Masks falls off.
In total support of you
My redflags:👇🏾🚨
A sweet talker who always borrows my money but when it’s my turn he’s broke. 🤬 ( Parasites)
He forces me with his charmig ways to squeeze him in my schedule but when it’s my turn, he’s busy or low battery. Aaaahh.😨( Smart wire )
He’s always late to our appointments pretending he passed out then appears in the middle of the night when ur resting and done everythg all by urself. SLAY KINGS.😤
# Ndi mukoowu!✌🏽
Laziness breeds poverty. Biggest red flag, we all need a partner that's going to challenge us in different aspects of life, do things differently basically be a better version of ourselves.
You need a cold bottle of soda 😊
A partner who always tries to put you down and makes you feel small simply because they never want you to realize that you deserve better
I personally think most of our mothers sacrificed so much to remain in their marriages that at times they stayed in abusive relationships because of that mentality. This is now a huge deal for us that were raised in such homes
The biggest red flag for me is a partner who makes me doubt or question my instinct and gut feeling. I recently had this validated. And now I know for sure, my instinct will never lie to me, my body will never lie to me, and this sense I have about certain things will never lie to me..
You can say that again, sis. That ka thing of, 'don't worry about it. It's no big deal' but your gut is screaming.
We have instincts for a reason… if someone is making you question your instinct, you have to wonder why.. 🤔
SOO TRUE OMG! this guy would term my gut instinct as 'overthinking' & i started questioning myself a lot,,, whole time i was Right
i adore all of your accents. This was a very insightful video. And i agree with everything you touched on. A red flag for me to look out for is a man that expects the woman to persue and drive to their house or plan all the time for a date. I have a sister that everytime she asked her man to choose where he wanted to go out and eat he would always shrug his shoulders and say "i dont know. Where do 𝐲𝐨𝐮 wanna go?" He wouldnt at least 𝐭𝐫𝐲 to plan and be romantic for her. It was exhausting for her. Men in this generation are becoming more feminine to me but its to the point where we love our man more than he loves us and thats not how it should be. If a man isnt putting in the effort, ladies RUN. Dont wait for him to change. You can change a teenage boy..not a man.
girrrrl we hear you. that convenient type of love. Thanks for watching 🤍
When Nyonyozi said "don't speak for me"🤣🤣🤣🤣 I'm on the floor
All of these are so relatable. I would say men who talk badly about their exes, it shows a lack of accountability and a disrespect towards women. Also men who have a strained relationship with their mother and show no motivation to want to address it.
that's a great point.
All relationships which have failed to work out
There is a sense of mistrust or luck of truth from the beginning
All people fall in relationships for different reasons
Since you don't become honest to each other and speak truth to your feelings whether positive or negative.......
I as a person
I don't consider love ❤️ as the only reason why one should give out whole heartedly
Know what you want in a relationship and bargain for from day one and if the opposite sex doesn't willing to offer them
Better wait even if one is 40yrs better stay alone than a drainage and abusive relationship.
I rest my case
A red flag for me is being with someone who doesn’t see where our relationship is going; we need to be at the same wave length of purposeful togetherness and if they do not have a sense of that - then it’s not for me🤷🏾♀️
When you ask the question, so what are we ? And they ask you what you mean? What do you want? Why do you want to start a fight? 🙄
And the ends up wasting 2 years of your life… 🤦🏾♀️ TO THE LEFT!!!
@@nyonyoziprim the thing is, i don’t have to even ask „What are we“😂 if i reach that question level, i know I’m going for the pits
I once dated this guy who brought out a monster, a terrorist in me.damn! Even when I tried to be peaceful, he always poked me, he would say I'm too serious, mbu I can't joke.
Ogusaaja gwantama!.
So prim you're right. It's not supposed to be that hard
Someone who brings out the worst in you🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩 this man had me wanting to yell yet I'm a calm person ah ah nedda
Major RED, sis, Bye bye
IKR said no to this man who wanted to marry me cz we would quarrel every single day in our relationship
Awesome guys!!!! We definitely need a part II....
New subscriber💃💃💃💃 watching everything back to back, thanks ladies
I enjoyed this episode so much. Well done ladies.
Newest subscriber in thee house..🔥3 beautiful ladies full of wisdom!!!📌
You girls am in my late 20s and i don't know how thank you for these shows🥰🥰 listening to you lights up my day stay blessed Queens
Congratulations for finishing a year I personally have enjoyed the topics.Thanks Prime for reminding us that Luxury is good health.
You ladies are such a vibe
Red Flag a partner who is good to you but not good to other people. Your turn is coming.
Rude to the waitress or waiter, conductor, generally assuming his above everyone.
🤣🤣
Yup! Has always been my red flag too. P
Is love en it's between two of u ,so why do u care Abt ur partners business with other pipo,every person is an angel to someone and a devil to another
@@256techspecial I care about the all round morals and sensibility of the humans I get close to and the fact that you don't care would make me question you.
Enjoyed this, banaye I have enjoyed it. Thank you
I was once told “my wings need to be clipped”…. You mentioned this deal breaker - a guy that’s not happy about your progress and is silently jealous …
WTF!!!! What in the audacity name is this😣
@@bridgettejoanne5636 Yep… my same exact expression and more 😩
Stay away from jealous spouses. The ones who ask you to leave certain jobs to stay at home.
Cringe!!!!!!!!!!!! WHAT???? In 2022, we need men that are fanning our wings not ones that are trying to clip them. 🙄
Reminds me of one who ghosted me when I got a good job, I also deleted the number and never looked back.
I’m going through a brake up and OH MY GOD!!! You guys are helping me realize a lot of things 🤦🏽♀️keep it up!!!
aww hun this really warms our hearts. Glad our conversations can help in some way💖
Much love from kenya,taking my notes,thank you ladies😘
Thank you. We love you too ❤️
claire is looking so beautifull. wooow!...You guys are so on point in your conversations
Officially gotten three sengas to guide through relationships. Thank you ladies 🎉❤
I think the biggest red flags 🚩 for me :
1) a possessive person
2) a show off
These ….
And once you see these from the beginning, runnnn
At this age, a man who shows off is a big NO!!!!!
Yes a show off is a big one!
A show off is a complete turn off
Long awaited !
Glad you enjoyed it!
Finally got around to watch this video, and I don't regret at all. My evening is well spent ❤❤
I love you all and your content... the show I didn't know I needed. Sis is hooked.
It’s so great to have you here.
aww we are so glad you're here, hun! we love you too
I had a partner who was a gaslighting master , he can't validate your feelings or listen, only condescending
Prim is a favorite 🥰😂😂😂
Love her !!🥰🥰👏🏽
I loved this... For me communication is everything and more
We need to communicate our failures ,victories , insecurities and everything ..I mean...
Communication is really up there
It’s something we keep referring to. Even in our next episodes.
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾🙏🏾 A relationship is as good as it’s communication channels.
This definitely needs a part II!
We actually would love to expound on one.
We’ll definitely do a part two ❤️🤗
No more struggle love!! I hear you @Prim..
No sis. The old is gone, and the new has come
Again Claire is such a big thinker😘😘😘 I want to be like you girl😂
I just ran into you guy's channel today and man I'm loving the topics and conversation as well as the differences in the 3 of you as co-hosts which enriches the depth of information and knowledge shared.
I'm glad to join this useful and relatable community.
Well done Ladies! Keep up the great work!❤️
You gorgeous humans just got a loyal follower. Y’all Insta content brought me hiyaaaaaa 💗💗💗💗💗
Guuurl thank you so much
Awwww thank you babe ❤️❤️❤️
Anita! we are so glad you joined us over here too 🤍
@@nyonyoziprim I have spent a whole day just falling in love with how open and real you are in these conversations....thank you for being yourself,not judgment,you look down on now one even from your words.Keep shinning.
Eeeeeeeh I needed this
Prim is keeping it real. She's so relatable
We need a part TWO!!!!!
Definitely putting this down for a future video !
Loved this👍
Thank you aisha
Omg I remember being in struggle love 😂😂😂 HISTORY!!! God saved me
Ba bye struggle love. See you never
You saved your self sis. You needed to get out of it. Well done.
To the left with struggle love !!!
Am loving this episode 😍
Thanks Nancy 🥰
Thank you Nancy
Awww thank you ❤️
Phiona i love your hair, it seems light.
Some one told me that "iwe zaho" 🚩🚩🚩🚩
Thanks hun. I have a full video on this hairstyle on my TH-cam (link in description) -Fiona-
Bye bye to 'iwe zaho'
Thnx ladies , nice opinions
Oh my god I agree with Claire on the issue of staying home.. I can stay home if the man is earning money for the both of us
Okay, could we ge t a part II now? Pretty please?
I love the content
Just subscribed ,i can see i didnt make a mistake
Biggest red flag, emotional immaturity and emotionally abusive
For me,my most red flag is some one who is a snob..omg ,every time,”me that,me this “etc even in the public especially out together,mehnnn ,it’s a total turn off.
Love this
Love you atuhaire
❤️❤️🙏🏾
So I just remembered this hmmm once dated a solider who was so full of himself.... We were out somewhere and a waitress made a mistake and guy almost boxed her... And he all brought this jazz of you know am trained to kill🙆🏾🙆🏾🙆🏾🙆🏾🙆🏾...
Well the other red flag was me having to explain why I missed his phone calls and yet him, hmmm no explanations nothing.
Oh lord. The fact that this person’s violence is always on top. Just there waiting to show up. I hope you ran away sis.
@@nyonyoziprim yes yes... I took off almost immediately...
Sis, you dodged a bullet because woah!
@kabagyeni phionah OMG I had a similar experience. His order took abit long and the waiter started by apologising but he did not let the waiter finish talking. He hurled all sorts of insults and threats, I wanted to hide so that they don't mark my face and spit in my drink or food the next time I am in the same place. Meanwhile I was not supposed to talk to any waiters or male staff of any place. If he found me making an order with one, that would be the end of the date. Also there was that unspoken rule of I am not allowed to call him, he would get offended and say wait for my call. I also don't click who had bewitched me for me to keep seeing him when he calls but the last nail was when he insulted me too and I actually cried during but he was unbothered and kept on saying many things. I was like no matter what sort of hold this person has over me, I am done here, My parents did not hustle to raise me so that I can suffer. He still calls me to this day, I did not even block him. I let the phone ring till it stops...
@@kendir7881 glad that you took off... Cyber hugs!
I love these ladies
Hoo phiona iam going through that, this man will do everything right in front of my friends and family but is different with me. Eeeh then when you try to talk to people about him, your own family thinks your crazy . Like they tell you maria oli mulalu.
Loved this one.....
Thank you mariah
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You ladies make me miss Uganda. But I want the Uganda that's in your heads lol! Not the Uganda that is happening. If that's makes sense. With these quality conversations I see prosperous Uganda.
We hear you, sis. And thank you for this very kind comment 💗
I personally love the husband my dad has been to my mum... I see myself getting married to a man like him♥️
Awwww I wish many more of us could say that. Bless.
I was in a struggle love type of relationship and it was so draining. By the time I got into a healthy relationship, I was like owaye all alongo love is not that difficult. 🙌🏾
bye bye struggle love. Hello healthy love :)
@@theunpopularopinionug Amen to healthy love!
Y’all are representing my views- very unpopular
Manipulative people... Eh they can make you lose yourself if you aren't paying attention.
Very good staff
i have a friend like that, she is different when people are around.
Love your content,but most of your videos aren't downloadable 💔😭
Am so glad I landed here
I am enjoying this show 🥰🥰
Thank you haphie
I’m so glad you are enjoying. ❤️❤️❤️
One boy always told me that he is old and I am not that young so I should treat him well 😂
All I can say is some partners are so audacious. Whew!
Today u ladies r talking about my flopped marriage.
those types of men who say that the working wife has to cook , wash etc for him , just wants to put the wife down.
My biggest red flag is someone who’s threatened by my feminism
Brother! Go home
If he drives a mark x
Holds an iPhone 13
And lives in an apartment in Kyanja
My sister ruuuunnnn
😂
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What's the logic behind this criteria
What about those who say women are many so you better be begging me to stay😂😂
Am hvng this big grin
Mine is one who pretends to be born again but wen u meet him he wants to touch u like crazy
This is a real red flag
My favorite is between 11:21 - 11:15
Run 😂😂😂😂
guurl, we out here running all day long lol
Girls I have one question please
Hey guys any plug on therapists
Fiona, your first example: the guy had inferiority compex.
Claire is the unpopular opinion herself 😂😂no offense 🤣
Men at me ok speck 2 is god to tell me
Totally agree with Prim.... it shouldn't be that hard and also relationships of our parents are not ours. Nze nange nabigaana.
Also what Fiona said, there are many men using that line of "your days are numbered!" these days 🤣🤣🤣🤣. Like how's that your problem?
Also, INSECURITY!!!!!!!! 🚩🚩🚩🚩
Yes ma'am. This struggling business. Ba bye to this please. As for using our age as a weapon. Miss me with that because we are loving ourselves at every age 🥰
We could care less about these days that are numbered:
🤣🤣🤣 “your days are numbered” this line always kills me… like last me worry about my days 🤣
And the days would get shorter and shorter if we allow their dysfunction
A mean man is a real red flag 🚩
I agree.
Mean people are generally a NO!!!
You guys look gwojasssssss😊
Thanks sis!!!
Oh thank you Anne.
Awww thanks hun ❤️
Please make part2😭
Inferiority complex, telling me my friends are not good for me, showing me their are other bueatiful women you would go out with but chose me konka alot men are red flags generally
Shit my ex had allllllll these
this show is so good but u need someone with a bible or spiritual pespective coz sometimes things happen to people and those very people dont know they are acting out that way.
Hey sistersss💃🏾💃🏾
Heyyy
Hey hey sis
😍 hi girl 🥰🥰🥰
Poor communication.and saying she is just a friend.
I agree with a husband not like my D.
You misleading gals not to cook for their men hehe you will lose the relationship
Come on when a man wants to eat your food you are supposed... come on you are a wife of the home
What do you mean you're supposed to? It's supposed to be a choice sir. Unless you're rich enough to make someone a house wife. Then keep quiet.
But Mainz,you just said it. "WIFE" not "HELP" the worst part is that you know what it's meant to be like
Another red flag... Newman Joseph....RUN RUN RUN
Lmao
I was waiting for this comment...there's a difference between a WIFE and a maid.
It's stupid to say you can't cook, there's no job, no much money to cease our culture. It's very wrong to advise people like that.
If she can't cook, because she's earning much, Red flag.
If he thinks like you, Red Flag🚩
@@tiktokcompilations4967 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣of courser
I support you bro