19 weeks pregnant and every time I orgasm I would get these AWFUL cramps for an hour or more. I talked to my doctor about it and she said it’s probably best to avoid orgasm because it sounds like my uterus contracts (this would happen occasionally pre-pregnancy as well but it didn’t matter since I wasn’t trying to keep something in my uterus). It’s been a huge bummer especially since my libido has massively increased. Yet another thing no one ever mentions about pregnancy lol. I’m happy for those that do not have this issue- enjoy it!!
I have the same thing, orgasm especially if combined with nipple stimulation caused me horrible cramps every time but I was assured by my doctor that even though it is technically contractions it's not dangerous and wont harm the baby or cause miscarriage.
@@Larissa_KD Oh my gosh! I've never had anyone else say they have this happen. This happens to me too - cramps on orgasm. I don't have endo that I am aware of. But it's been happening for a few years now. It is frustrating, and I haven't had any doctor take it seriously or be able to tell me what is happening.
I don't often talk about my sex life but one thing I can say is as you get older the "sex" may not be as often but like you said about the flirting and treating each other as a sexual beings. As long as you keep that then you truly still feel connected and that is more important than the physical act.
Make sure your hold on to that mindset! I'm pregnant with my second and we have a toddler so intimacy is much more complicated. Once you have postpartum and baby, it's important to enjoy the time you do get with your partner and it's hard when you're exhausted and all your schedules and scripts have to shift and change. It seriously shifts the dynamic. Make sure to ENJOY the 2nd and 3rd trimester when you it's still just you and your partner! Also take lots of naps! As much as you can while you can. Sleep and sex are the 2 things I wish I'd enjoyed more before having a kid. This pregnancy is so much harder because I can't really just lie down when I'm nauseous or exhausted when I have a 2 year old to take care of.
Oh my god I forgot about the discharge situation! My favourite part of pregnancy was the last trimester energy burst that pop culture would tell you goes into nesting, but I just used all that energy on sex and it was amazing.
I love this comment so much, Elizabeth! Having sex while pregnant is still treated as a taboo topic sometimes, which I think is absolutely ridiculous. Good for you for enjoying yourself!
I completely forgot about the discharge after my first and was totally thrown by it when pregnant with my second. Made an emergency purchase of cloth pantyliners cos I got so bored of changing knickers multiple times a day. The worst!
My baby is 6 weeks old now. First time being intimate after she was born was a bit scary. I think it's more about being comfortable physically and mentally. Also it depends on how the birth went.... I had a forceps birth that also meant I had stitches, so healing up properly was a priority before being intimate to avoid infection. Good luck Hannah ❤
Obviously excited for your journey and for you starting your family with Dan, but omg yesss Pregnancy content!! I find this so interesting and love being nosey into peoples lives!! (especially with things that aren't ok to ask rando pregos :P)
@@hannahwitton Thank you! :) Your videos have been a great source of information and have helped resolve a lot of fear around pregnancy and fertility for me personally.
Totally relate to the pleasure helping to alleviate physical symptoms. I’m not even pregnant right now but get bad stomach issues from anxiety. Having the physical distraction of “real” sensations is so nice. I’ve got two little ones, we stayed active until the final days. It was always fun trying to work around the belly haha.
I'd love to see more of this sort of video out there as there is so much sterile and ingenuous info out there around pregnancy and sex that (in my opinion) leads to some pretty significant misconceptions around the whole thing. Sure, most midwives and doctors will answer your questions and give you good info - if you ask - actually asking and knowing what to ask about isn't as easy as it sounds. Great work, Hannah!
Has nothing to do with pregnancy but with sex drive. Since coming off the pill 3 years ago (have copper IUD now so no hormonal birth control) I've been tracking my cyle in the Clue app and talking a lot about it with my partner. Together we've found out that most of my mood, energy level and sex drive is dependent on where I am in my cycle. So now we've found out that around 2 weeks of my cycle I'm more open to sex. So in those 2 weeks there is a few day peek where we sometimes have sex a couple days in a row and that can be it for my entire cycle. And sometimes I have a random day in between where we do it but knowing my cycle and knowing which symptoms come with what part of my cycle has really helped me in everyday life. I don't plan a lot of things when I'm just before my period, I allow myself more rest in that time. I start to doubt everything just a few days before my period and can get very grumpy and emotional for like 1 or 2 days before. Once my mood brightens up, I know there is blood🤣 Some books Hannah recommended like "mind the gap", "doing it" the podcast and her overall content have really helped me see that having a "sex drive" isn't really a thing. In a Dutch podcast I've heard the terms sex aversive, sex neutral and ready for sex. That also really helped me. So when I'm sex neutral (so not horny but open to the idea of having it) we just go to bed a little earlier and see what happens. If I don't feel like it after 10 minutes or so of kissing and hugging, we just get some extra sleep. But most of the time it leads to sex because I was open to the idea and there was no pressure since we have enough time. Long TMI story but maybe it has helped someone. Open communication with my partner is the modt important thing since, even after 8 years, he can't read my mind of course. So if I don't tell, he doesn't know what's going on and might start to doubt himself.
I’m in my first sort of serious adult relationship and I have no sexual experience at all. Your videos comfort me with how casually you talk about sex and intimacy. Even though this video is about pregnancy, I still find it really helpful :)
This is one of my favorite looks I’ve seen of yours over the years! You look so beautiful and I love listening to you talk about such introspective and thought provoking things x congrats to you and yours!
Really interesting to hear your side of things. I felt so sick we didn't do anything until I was well into my second trimester. We also haven't done anything penetrative as it is really tied into my pregnancy anxiety that I which I think is linked to having a previous miscarriage. It has been really weird as my libido has been really high in the second trimester so doing other things has been good for us.
I'm not sure why "sneaky little bastards" made me laugh as hard as it did, but thanks for the day brightener! Love seeing all these interesting looks into pregnancy as someone who is considering it in the next 5-10 years :)
I love that you are talking about these things! My partner and I will be TTC in about a year and I’ve been watching all kinds of videos to learn what to expect and how to care for myself during pregnancy and all that. I normally have I high sex drive, so I’m curious to see what will happen with it when I get pregnant. Your videos about all of these things are my favorites by far!
I've never been pregnant or tried to conceive but this is really interesting to hear, I didn't know that things would be so different. Congrats on the pregnancy!
Hannah, thank you so much for your channel, and what you do, your willingness to share your life, feelings and opinions and thoughts. You are so frank, and open and natural. I'm a bit repressed and cannot (yet) talk about these topics freely myself and your channel is so inspiring and I learn so many things from watching. I just love you!!! Thank you.
Great video! I had my pregnancy 5 years ago so I don’t really remember the sex changes but in case anyone finds this helpful: I did experience some spotting in my 2nd trimester and it turned out to be thrush (which you’re more prone to getting during pregnancy). I had no idea but it could be useful information to some people (obviously check all symptoms with your midwife or doctor).
I’m currently 22 weeks, the amount of discharge and thrush is like I’ve wet myself. I’ve spoken many times with my general practitioner, midwives.... the creams don’t work. I tried the pessary (with instructions not to insert deep) which gave me some relief for a few days but it came back. My GP explained that because my body temp is higher than normal, I’m sweating more it’s prime conditions for bacteria to grow. I asked if my little one will be ok and he said that’s she’s protected in two layers plus my cervix plug.... but it still makes me nervous (and uncomfortable. Also also, in my first trimester, I was so sick with all day nausea. I basically spent 2 months bed ridden. But aside from that, I had absolutely no sex drive. My clitoris basically felt numb. Now I’m feeling better, no nausea and my energy is back, I have my sex drive back but the thrush is restricting any sexual activities. My partner is really supportive and caring which makes me feel a bit better but... I still feel sad for us. One last thing, now that I am starting to feel little movements, it’s kind of messing with my head that there is this little human inside of me. Kind of brings me out of my sexy headspace 😅
@@meals1459 Oh no 😢 There are other ways to be intimate other that sex but that is sad if you feel like you want to have sex. The kicks are so special ❤️ I miss that feeling so much!
12 weeks pregnant here. Totally felt a dip in libido because my body, especially belly up until boobs, felt so sensitive (in a not fun way) that I didn’t want to be touched at all. Very emotional for me because I’m usually a cuddly sleeper. First time having sex after weeks felt very intimate though, in a way that I felt really expressed the love between us. So that was beautiful to experience and really built up my confidence again. Also on team Dripping Discharge here since a week or so 🙃 the first time it landed on my foot after a shower, I was so confused as to what it was 😂
Nothing to do with sex in pregnancy, just thought of this because you mentioned being interested in learning about labour: when I was my friend’s birth partner, I read the book The Birth Partner by Penny Simkin to learn how to best support her during labour and it was really useful. We did attend a birthing class and all that, but the book was so much more in depth and way more scientific. I found it incredibly helpful and my friend has repeatedly told me that I did a good job. 😆 Not trying to give unsolicited advice - just in case Dan might be interested in something like that!
This was a really interesting video! I found it quite fascinating how much eas different in my first pregnancy compared to my second. Not only is every person different, but each individual pregnancy can be surprisingly different!
Currently 28 weeks. My sex drive was almost non existent in first trimester and up to about 19 weeks and then just went back to normal. I don't think it helped that when we had sex early on in first trimester I started spotting and it was a very scary experience at the time. Now I'm 28 weeks I'm feeling very tired again and also sore and uncomfortable so though I have a 'normal sex drive' I'm not really interested most of the time. Definitely had the increased discharge throughout but has increased further the further along I get.
Hannah, thank you so much for saying all that stuff about libido & sex frequency! I honestly felt really embarrassed about not wanting sex anymore at some points (especially during the 1st trimester but even before getting pregnant which made me worry we might not get pregnant at all) and this video really helped me see I'm not the only one having these concerns and really helped me gain some perspective. Thank you so much for sharing everything you do and I would definitely give the Enigma a go haha :)
This is such a great video! I'm so glad you are talking about all this stuff, there needs to be more content like this and people telling their stories who are comfortable doing so. I don't normally comment stuff like this but I also love what you have done with your hair and your earrings!
I'm not pregnant but hope to be one day! This video still was super interesting for me though and has made me feel better about my "sex guilt" with my partner of not feeling like its frequent enough compared to others. So as always, thank you!
Thank you for this great Video Hannah!🙂💕 I really resonated with the low-level anxiety you described about having too little sex and if you have the "normal amount of sex"! I haven't talked much about this anxiety except with my partner and my therapist, and I felt a lot of relief when I heard you talking about the same worries and thoughts and I recognize that I wanna talk about this more and normalize for myself, that the sex in my relationship change and that less sex doesn't mean that the relationship and the sex isn't as good anymore! Much Love from Germany, Linda🦉🌸
I am currently 28 weeks pregnant, wooo 3rd trimester! I have a ton of discharge too. I have really enjoyed being pregnant but unfortunately my body isnt a fan. I have hypermobile EDS and currently my hip keeps trying to dislocate. So thats been fun. Ive also had the muscle pain in my butt thats been a killer. I can never remember the name of the muscle but its something like the periformis or something. Mentally and emotionally this pregnancy has been pretty dang good! Physically, my body is falling apart at the seams. But ya know, its all worth it.
I learn soo much from your videos, even though I've never had sex, don't have a boyfriend and honestly I really doubt I will any time soon. But it's just so interesting to know and be informed about these topics.
I found your channel last week and have been binge watching your content, I’m so happy for you and your partner 🥰 und keep up your fantastic work, really love your content. Lots of love from Germany 🤗
I feel like your hair looks so healthy and shiny, I thought this before you announced it so I guess what they say about the pregnant glow is true (at least in your case.)
The last trimester I had quite a high libido but feeling the baby kick and tumble was such a huge turnoff for both me and my husband that after trying a few times we decided that not having sex was okay 😅. However, I had a c-section and stopped bleeding pretty soon so from 2 weeks after birth we were at it like rabbits, way, way more often that ever in our relationship!
I've only just started the discharge stage at 13 weeks. We had to go through fertility treatments because without them I just didn't have a cycle at all, so was not used to that at all and I thought something was wrong! Fortunately I was able to research information and find that it was normal.
As soon as I got pregnant, I had what I learned was called a catatonic pelvic floor. I'd never had issue with pain during sex, but it genuinely took until I was 6 months postpartum to have a p in the v. It was really really awful, I did physical therapy and it has gotten better but I'm very interested to see if it happens during a second pregnancy!
I love that you said you were feeling some kind of anxiety about the frequency of sex in a relationship and that it's gone now! I had the exact same feeling before we had our daughter. I often pushed us into having sex, not because I was horny but because I thought that's what's normal in a relationship. And with having a child, sex definitely needs some effort! So now we only have sex when we are both in the mood! Meaning our sexlife actually hasn't been better! 😁
I have an 18 month old. I have also always had a low libido. During pregnancy it dropped even lower!! Lol. Another thing is that nursing completely obliterated it. My partner and I did not have sex from about 30wks pregnant until I stopped nursing a few months ago. So for about a year and a half total it was absolutely nothing lol.
I'm not pregnant but I know 100% I want a child.... But.. that might not be anywhere near the cards for me naturally. So I have an Endometrioma on my right ovary which was discovered by ultrasound and I was told its quite large (previous knowledge tells me its been there for at least 15 years), I got referred to the gyno people and I have finally had that appointment! My DrGyno described it as IMPRESSIVE, which made me chuckle a little bit and then he told me its roughly the size of a newborn babies head, which is not fun to think about (its not a baby lol its just a cyst filled with old period juice). But during my appointment we went over other things including the fact that he is currently unwilling to remove said endometrioma because of my weight (surgery risks) and discussed other symptoms I have and decided I have PCOS, which is strange as I do have the external symptoms of PCOS (weight/hair/skin etc) but no "multiple cysts" which is normally considered a must for diagnosis? So a little confusing.. But I also googled more things about endometriomas and apparently its like 1.6% of people who have this kind of cyst who don't go on to have full blown Endometriosis, and apparently you CAN have BOTH PCOS and Endo.. so fucking hell.. Luckily he has now put me on the recommended medication for PCOS (metformin) which can help with my weight so that I can then have the surgery to remove the gremlin in my abdomen! FUN!
9+ 3 pregnant here and my libido couldn’t be lower! And it’s so very strange because normally I have a very high and driven libido, but feeling sick 24/7 it’s been awful!
There are some good things to do if you’re having PCOS. If someone don’t get pregnant - check if you have pcos. There are vitamins ect and other help from the gynecologist. Everyone should always check blood, sperm ect and start with vitamins for getting pregnant ☺️
In some countries you cannot check fertility or sperm unless you’ve been trying for at least a year. I do agree with a Gyno visit if things seem different from normal or you suspect PCOS or other conditions that could impact fertility. Prenatal vitamins are always a good idea.
@@latinabeeotch417 if you have pcos as a diagnosis you probably will get help sooner. At least here in Sweden. Because with pcos many can’t get pregnant because they don’t ovulate at all.
I am pregnant right now! 8ish weeks. So many things you've felt im feeling! Sexytime really helped relieve nausea and fatigue for me for a bit... it was nice while it lasted lol. My sex drive has been normal if I didn't feel so crap then it would be very similar to when I wasn't pregnant. I have a very few hours per day I feel okay enough to get things done but otherwise very sick! I've noticed being close to my partner and skin to skin contact has helped with relaxing and a little relief as well.
This is my 2nd pregnancy now and I haven't been able to have sex at all in the first trimester for either pregnancy, just been way too ill, tired and had a lack of libido. However that did all change in the second trimester and sure made up for it 🤣
Your Kegel ball video shows as up next but it made me wonder, would they be something you would use now and after your pregnancy to help with you pelvic floor muscles?
From context in the video she referenced, I think that it just meant that they had sex but they didn't do it as a specifically scheduled and planned act for trying to conceive, just having sex because they felt like it. So, sort of an unplanned withdrawal from the Sperm Bank of Dan. To take the banking metaphor a little further, I suppose it could also be said that their joint venture had a fortuitous injection of capital (equipment)? Not strictly accurate, but close enough for the joke, maybe. :p
I’m 40 weeks and 2 days, and when you mentioned using orgasms to induce I was immediately like “I should go do that after watching this video” 😂 The last few weeks my baby’s head has been so low that it’s actually making sex difficult. My husband can feel his head in there and it must be holding the top of the vagina open because sex doesn’t feel nearly as good as usual
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My libido dropped during pregnancy but I remember in my third trimester the WORST thing happened with my pelvic floor and literally every time I would go to climax I’d fart 😂😂😂😂 fun times
I hope this is okay to ask but what are the politics around masturbating in a relationship ? Do you huddle away and hide in the bathroom, or stay in bed with your partner reading next to you ? And sorry if it was a not okay question !!
I had a low libido when pregnant with my daughter and a much higher libido when pregnant with my son. Don't know if there's any correlation, but I found it interesting.
Male foetuses produce testosterone. Testosterone causes women to be hornyer than usual. Testosterone can also cause an enlargement of the clitoris which can cause more (often subtle) clitoral stimulation throughout the day.
My little boy is almost 5 weeks old. I feel like in my first trimester, other than the fact I felt like crap and when my symptoms were really bad I didnt want to have sex, my libido didn't change that much. Second trimester sex is where it's at tho, I LOVED sex in my second trimester, I was so much more sensitive down there, sex felt amazing and orgasms were way better and I wanted to do it all the time 😂 we had sex up until a few days before he was born but it definitely decreased dramatically in the third trimester, mainly because I was quite miserable haha. I was so uncomfortable and I had a lot of back pain and I was just generally massive so sex didn't appeal that much that often. Haven't had sex yet because still in the delightful postpartum recovery period but interestingly, my sex drive has sky rocketed since giving birth which I wasn't expecting!
I was just very randomly thinking that Hannah’s eyes are a very dark colour, just as Jake’s from Brooklyn 99… and then immediately after she did the coolcoolcool bit that Jake does😂 It was so random
What I miss the most about being pregnant is having spontaneous orgasms during sleep 😂😂😂 the thing is: pregnancy usually doesn't stop you from having sex. The baby does once it's born 😂😂😂😂
This is so interesting and definitely not a subject that was covered anywhere when I was pregnant really. My HG symptoms stopped every time I had sex too. Later on down the road we found that she would move a lot after I'd orgasmed (a few minutes after) which was interesting. Quite weird at first but soon became a personal challenge for my husband 😂 that may sound weird but it's all just hormones innit
oh geez man, im only a couple months behind you, and i was so nervous/queasy, that we kinda unintentionally abstained for the whole first trimester...but let me tell ya, my body was taking care of it. In the first few weeks i woke up from wet dreams almost EVERY night! and it would freak me out cos I'd get cramps after! but there was no controlling it, i'd just keep having orgasmic dreams, and everything was fine! 😂 they've calmed down a bit now, but it was pretty hilarious having no control over my body demanding regular orgasms. 🤷♀️
@LizTiddington Discharge can be all lubrication or contain lubrication in it. Medically discharge just means fluid is coming out. Most of the time it is perfectly normal.
17:59 made me laugh out loud “bit broken luv” how delightfully british
I spat out my brownie when she said “high sex drive, careful there” with all the prudishness of the nan in your car going around a bend too fast😂
19 weeks pregnant and every time I orgasm I would get these AWFUL cramps for an hour or more. I talked to my doctor about it and she said it’s probably best to avoid orgasm because it sounds like my uterus contracts (this would happen occasionally pre-pregnancy as well but it didn’t matter since I wasn’t trying to keep something in my uterus). It’s been a huge bummer especially since my libido has massively increased. Yet another thing no one ever mentions about pregnancy lol. I’m happy for those that do not have this issue- enjoy it!!
oh I'm sorry to hear that!! I hope you still manage to have fun, sexy, lovely times even without orgasm!
I have the same thing, orgasm especially if combined with nipple stimulation caused me horrible cramps every time but I was assured by my doctor that even though it is technically contractions it's not dangerous and wont harm the baby or cause miscarriage.
Ohhhh that sucks, I have this just in general, I think because of my endometriosis (not pregnant). Therefore I never have sex anymore, woops.
@@Larissa_KD I also have endometriosis it sucks so much the pain is so excruciating...
@@Larissa_KD Oh my gosh! I've never had anyone else say they have this happen. This happens to me too - cramps on orgasm. I don't have endo that I am aware of. But it's been happening for a few years now. It is frustrating, and I haven't had any doctor take it seriously or be able to tell me what is happening.
I don't often talk about my sex life but one thing I can say is as you get older the "sex" may not be as often but like you said about the flirting and treating each other as a sexual beings. As long as you keep that then you truly still feel connected and that is more important than the physical act.
Make sure your hold on to that mindset! I'm pregnant with my second and we have a toddler so intimacy is much more complicated. Once you have postpartum and baby, it's important to enjoy the time you do get with your partner and it's hard when you're exhausted and all your schedules and scripts have to shift and change. It seriously shifts the dynamic. Make sure to ENJOY the 2nd and 3rd trimester when you it's still just you and your partner! Also take lots of naps! As much as you can while you can. Sleep and sex are the 2 things I wish I'd enjoyed more before having a kid. This pregnancy is so much harder because I can't really just lie down when I'm nauseous or exhausted when I have a 2 year old to take care of.
Oh my god I forgot about the discharge situation! My favourite part of pregnancy was the last trimester energy burst that pop culture would tell you goes into nesting, but I just used all that energy on sex and it was amazing.
oooh amazing!!
I love this comment so much, Elizabeth! Having sex while pregnant is still treated as a taboo topic sometimes, which I think is absolutely ridiculous. Good for you for enjoying yourself!
I completely forgot about the discharge after my first and was totally thrown by it when pregnant with my second. Made an emergency purchase of cloth pantyliners cos I got so bored of changing knickers multiple times a day. The worst!
My baby is 6 weeks old now.
First time being intimate after she was born was a bit scary. I think it's more about being comfortable physically and mentally. Also it depends on how the birth went....
I had a forceps birth that also meant I had stitches, so healing up properly was a priority before being intimate to avoid infection. Good luck Hannah ❤
Obviously excited for your journey and for you starting your family with Dan, but omg yesss Pregnancy content!! I find this so interesting and love being nosey into peoples lives!! (especially with things that aren't ok to ask rando pregos :P)
hahaha I'm totally happy to be that person you can ask Qs to that you wouldn't ask rando pregos 😂
@@hannahwitton Thank you! :) Your videos have been a great source of information and have helped resolve a lot of fear around pregnancy and fertility for me personally.
Totally relate to the pleasure helping to alleviate physical symptoms. I’m not even pregnant right now but get bad stomach issues from anxiety. Having the physical distraction of “real” sensations is so nice. I’ve got two little ones, we stayed active until the final days. It was always fun trying to work around the belly haha.
I'd love to see more of this sort of video out there as there is so much sterile and ingenuous info out there around pregnancy and sex that (in my opinion) leads to some pretty significant misconceptions around the whole thing. Sure, most midwives and doctors will answer your questions and give you good info - if you ask - actually asking and knowing what to ask about isn't as easy as it sounds. Great work, Hannah!
Has nothing to do with pregnancy but with sex drive.
Since coming off the pill 3 years ago (have copper IUD now so no hormonal birth control) I've been tracking my cyle in the Clue app and talking a lot about it with my partner. Together we've found out that most of my mood, energy level and sex drive is dependent on where I am in my cycle. So now we've found out that around 2 weeks of my cycle I'm more open to sex. So in those 2 weeks there is a few day peek where we sometimes have sex a couple days in a row and that can be it for my entire cycle. And sometimes I have a random day in between where we do it but knowing my cycle and knowing which symptoms come with what part of my cycle has really helped me in everyday life. I don't plan a lot of things when I'm just before my period, I allow myself more rest in that time. I start to doubt everything just a few days before my period and can get very grumpy and emotional for like 1 or 2 days before. Once my mood brightens up, I know there is blood🤣
Some books Hannah recommended like "mind the gap", "doing it" the podcast and her overall content have really helped me see that having a "sex drive" isn't really a thing. In a Dutch podcast I've heard the terms sex aversive, sex neutral and ready for sex. That also really helped me. So when I'm sex neutral (so not horny but open to the idea of having it) we just go to bed a little earlier and see what happens. If I don't feel like it after 10 minutes or so of kissing and hugging, we just get some extra sleep. But most of the time it leads to sex because I was open to the idea and there was no pressure since we have enough time.
Long TMI story but maybe it has helped someone.
Open communication with my partner is the modt important thing since, even after 8 years, he can't read my mind of course. So if I don't tell, he doesn't know what's going on and might start to doubt himself.
I have the same type of symptoms. Once the cervical fluid changes, I know my sex drive will increase
I’m in my first sort of serious adult relationship and I have no sexual experience at all. Your videos comfort me with how casually you talk about sex and intimacy. Even though this video is about pregnancy, I still find it really helpful :)
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This is one of my favorite looks I’ve seen of yours over the years! You look so beautiful and I love listening to you talk about such introspective and thought provoking things x congrats to you and yours!
Really interesting to hear your side of things. I felt so sick we didn't do anything until I was well into my second trimester. We also haven't done anything penetrative as it is really tied into my pregnancy anxiety that I which I think is linked to having a previous miscarriage. It has been really weird as my libido has been really high in the second trimester so doing other things has been good for us.
I'm not sure why "sneaky little bastards" made me laugh as hard as it did, but thanks for the day brightener! Love seeing all these interesting looks into pregnancy as someone who is considering it in the next 5-10 years :)
I love that you are talking about these things! My partner and I will be TTC in about a year and I’ve been watching all kinds of videos to learn what to expect and how to care for myself during pregnancy and all that. I normally have I high sex drive, so I’m curious to see what will happen with it when I get pregnant. Your videos about all of these things are my favorites by far!
I've never been pregnant or tried to conceive but this is really interesting to hear, I didn't know that things would be so different. Congrats on the pregnancy!
Hannah, thank you so much for your channel, and what you do, your willingness to share your life, feelings and opinions and thoughts. You are so frank, and open and natural. I'm a bit repressed and cannot (yet) talk about these topics freely myself and your channel is so inspiring and I learn so many things from watching. I just love you!!! Thank you.
Hannah describing the vibration build was 🤌😂
Great video! I had my pregnancy 5 years ago so I don’t really remember the sex changes but in case anyone finds this helpful: I did experience some spotting in my 2nd trimester and it turned out to be thrush (which you’re more prone to getting during pregnancy). I had no idea but it could be useful information to some people (obviously check all symptoms with your midwife or doctor).
I’m currently 22 weeks, the amount of discharge and thrush is like I’ve wet myself. I’ve spoken many times with my general practitioner, midwives.... the creams don’t work. I tried the pessary (with instructions not to insert deep) which gave me some relief for a few days but it came back. My GP explained that because my body temp is higher than normal, I’m sweating more it’s prime conditions for bacteria to grow. I asked if my little one will be ok and he said that’s she’s protected in two layers plus my cervix plug.... but it still makes me nervous (and uncomfortable.
Also also, in my first trimester, I was so sick with all day nausea. I basically spent 2 months bed ridden. But aside from that, I had absolutely no sex drive. My clitoris basically felt numb. Now I’m feeling better, no nausea and my energy is back, I have my sex drive back but the thrush is restricting any sexual activities. My partner is really supportive and caring which makes me feel a bit better but... I still feel sad for us.
One last thing, now that I am starting to feel little movements, it’s kind of messing with my head that there is this little human inside of me. Kind of brings me out of my sexy headspace 😅
@@meals1459 Oh no 😢 There are other ways to be intimate other that sex but that is sad if you feel like you want to have sex.
The kicks are so special ❤️ I miss that feeling so much!
12 weeks pregnant here. Totally felt a dip in libido because my body, especially belly up until boobs, felt so sensitive (in a not fun way) that I didn’t want to be touched at all. Very emotional for me because I’m usually a cuddly sleeper. First time having sex after weeks felt very intimate though, in a way that I felt really expressed the love between us. So that was beautiful to experience and really built up my confidence again.
Also on team Dripping Discharge here since a week or so 🙃 the first time it landed on my foot after a shower, I was so confused as to what it was 😂
Belated congratulations on your pregnancy, Hannah
💛🎉🎊💛
Nothing to do with sex in pregnancy, just thought of this because you mentioned being interested in learning about labour: when I was my friend’s birth partner, I read the book The Birth Partner by Penny Simkin to learn how to best support her during labour and it was really useful. We did attend a birthing class and all that, but the book was so much more in depth and way more scientific. I found it incredibly helpful and my friend has repeatedly told me that I did a good job. 😆 Not trying to give unsolicited advice - just in case Dan might be interested in something like that!
This was a really interesting video!
I found it quite fascinating how much eas different in my first pregnancy compared to my second. Not only is every person different, but each individual pregnancy can be surprisingly different!
Currently 28 weeks. My sex drive was almost non existent in first trimester and up to about 19 weeks and then just went back to normal. I don't think it helped that when we had sex early on in first trimester I started spotting and it was a very scary experience at the time. Now I'm 28 weeks I'm feeling very tired again and also sore and uncomfortable so though I have a 'normal sex drive' I'm not really interested most of the time. Definitely had the increased discharge throughout but has increased further the further along I get.
Hannah, thank you so much for saying all that stuff about libido & sex frequency! I honestly felt really embarrassed about not wanting sex anymore at some points (especially during the 1st trimester but even before getting pregnant which made me worry we might not get pregnant at all) and this video really helped me see I'm not the only one having these concerns and really helped me gain some perspective.
Thank you so much for sharing everything you do and I would definitely give the Enigma a go haha :)
This is such a great video! I'm so glad you are talking about all this stuff, there needs to be more content like this and people telling their stories who are comfortable doing so.
I don't normally comment stuff like this but I also love what you have done with your hair and your earrings!
Wow here so early!! So stoked to watch this instalment of the Hormone Diaries!!
thanks Eva!!
I'm not pregnant but hope to be one day! This video still was super interesting for me though and has made me feel better about my "sex guilt" with my partner of not feeling like its frequent enough compared to others. So as always, thank you!
Thank you for this great Video Hannah!🙂💕 I really resonated with the low-level anxiety you described about having too little sex and if you have the "normal amount of sex"! I haven't talked much about this anxiety except with my partner and my therapist, and I felt a lot of relief when I heard you talking about the same worries and thoughts and I recognize that I wanna talk about this more and normalize for myself, that the sex in my relationship change and that less sex doesn't mean that the relationship and the sex isn't as good anymore! Much Love from Germany, Linda🦉🌸
Congrats Hannah. Hope you have a blessed pregnancy and labor.
I am currently 28 weeks pregnant, wooo 3rd trimester! I have a ton of discharge too. I have really enjoyed being pregnant but unfortunately my body isnt a fan. I have hypermobile EDS and currently my hip keeps trying to dislocate. So thats been fun. Ive also had the muscle pain in my butt thats been a killer. I can never remember the name of the muscle but its something like the periformis or something. Mentally and emotionally this pregnancy has been pretty dang good! Physically, my body is falling apart at the seams. But ya know, its all worth it.
I've just had my second child and also had hypermobile EDS! Its not easy, you've got this 🙌
I learn soo much from your videos, even though I've never had sex, don't have a boyfriend and honestly I really doubt I will any time soon. But it's just so interesting to know and be informed about these topics.
Off topic but your earrings are absolutely stunning!!!
Yes would love to know where they're from!
The lelo link isn't a hyperlink it's just text. Also I really love your videos and you are the Kindest, sweetest, person and I'm so happy for you.
just edited!
Very informative as usual Hannah
I’m so happy to find out that you’re pregnant now 🥰 Thanks for sharing your journey all the way Hannah!
I found your channel last week and have been binge watching your content, I’m so happy for you and your partner 🥰 und keep up your fantastic work, really love your content. Lots of love from Germany 🤗
20:18 aw that was such a sweet and genuine giggle of excitement, so excited for you 💖 😁
Hannah describing the modes 😂I am so here for it
Hannah you’re glowing!
I feel like your hair looks so healthy and shiny, I thought this before you announced it so I guess what they say about the pregnant glow is true (at least in your case.)
The last trimester I had quite a high libido but feeling the baby kick and tumble was such a huge turnoff for both me and my husband that after trying a few times we decided that not having sex was okay 😅.
However, I had a c-section and stopped bleeding pretty soon so from 2 weeks after birth we were at it like rabbits, way, way more often that ever in our relationship!
I almost can’t concentrate on what your saying - I’m mesmerized by those earrings!!!!
Who makes them???
The timing of this promo could not be better! My precious bullet just dies earlier this week. Yay Lelo!
I've only just started the discharge stage at 13 weeks. We had to go through fertility treatments because without them I just didn't have a cycle at all, so was not used to that at all and I thought something was wrong! Fortunately I was able to research information and find that it was normal.
The hardest part for me has been the nausea. It never went away. So sex was as simple as we could make it.
You look incredible Hannah! Absolutely glowing
Thanks for being so open !!
Omg ! I must have missed your announcement I didn't know you finally have gotten pregnant congratulations!!!
As soon as I got pregnant, I had what I learned was called a catatonic pelvic floor. I'd never had issue with pain during sex, but it genuinely took until I was 6 months postpartum to have a p in the v. It was really really awful, I did physical therapy and it has gotten better but I'm very interested to see if it happens during a second pregnancy!
Your Voice is a bit low compere to the effects sounds.
I love your videos 😍 and so happy for you guys 🥰
I love that you said you were feeling some kind of anxiety about the frequency of sex in a relationship and that it's gone now! I had the exact same feeling before we had our daughter. I often pushed us into having sex, not because I was horny but because I thought that's what's normal in a relationship. And with having a child, sex definitely needs some effort! So now we only have sex when we are both in the mood! Meaning our sexlife actually hasn't been better! 😁
I have an 18 month old. I have also always had a low libido. During pregnancy it dropped even lower!! Lol. Another thing is that nursing completely obliterated it. My partner and I did not have sex from about 30wks pregnant until I stopped nursing a few months ago. So for about a year and a half total it was absolutely nothing lol.
Wooow
Omg where are your earrings from?
Great vid. I love how I can learn about this topic in such and easy-to-digest manner. :)
Unrelated: love your earrings in this
Loved hearing you talking about the sextoys 😂 so much passion
I'm not pregnant but I know 100% I want a child.... But.. that might not be anywhere near the cards for me naturally.
So I have an Endometrioma on my right ovary which was discovered by ultrasound and I was told its quite large (previous knowledge tells me its been there for at least 15 years), I got referred to the gyno people and I have finally had that appointment! My DrGyno described it as IMPRESSIVE, which made me chuckle a little bit and then he told me its roughly the size of a newborn babies head, which is not fun to think about (its not a baby lol its just a cyst filled with old period juice). But during my appointment we went over other things including the fact that he is currently unwilling to remove said endometrioma because of my weight (surgery risks) and discussed other symptoms I have and decided I have PCOS, which is strange as I do have the external symptoms of PCOS (weight/hair/skin etc) but no "multiple cysts" which is normally considered a must for diagnosis?
So a little confusing.. But I also googled more things about endometriomas and apparently its like 1.6% of people who have this kind of cyst who don't go on to have full blown Endometriosis, and apparently you CAN have BOTH PCOS and Endo.. so fucking hell..
Luckily he has now put me on the recommended medication for PCOS (metformin) which can help with my weight so that I can then have the surgery to remove the gremlin in my abdomen! FUN!
9+ 3 pregnant here and my libido couldn’t be lower! And it’s so very strange because normally I have a very high and driven libido, but feeling sick 24/7 it’s been awful!
9+4 and I’m the same. 2nd trimester can’t come soon enough
@@TheHannahBrophy I m counting down the days I don’t thing my husband either understand the horrible feeling and nausea!!
13 weeks hit me like a freight train. I had no libido in the first trimester until that point
There are some good things to do if you’re having PCOS. If someone don’t get pregnant - check if you have pcos. There are vitamins ect and other help from the gynecologist.
Everyone should always check blood, sperm ect and start with vitamins for getting pregnant ☺️
In some countries you cannot check fertility or sperm unless you’ve been trying for at least a year. I do agree with a Gyno visit if things seem different from normal or you suspect PCOS or other conditions that could impact fertility. Prenatal vitamins are always a good idea.
@@latinabeeotch417 if you have pcos as a diagnosis you probably will get help sooner. At least here in Sweden. Because with pcos many can’t get pregnant because they don’t ovulate at all.
I am pregnant right now! 8ish weeks. So many things you've felt im feeling! Sexytime really helped relieve nausea and fatigue for me for a bit... it was nice while it lasted lol. My sex drive has been normal if I didn't feel so crap then it would be very similar to when I wasn't pregnant. I have a very few hours per day I feel okay enough to get things done but otherwise very sick! I've noticed being close to my partner and skin to skin contact has helped with relaxing and a little relief as well.
Your image here is just perfect
Off topic but you're looking especially beautiful ! I hope you're feeling it, too 💖
You look stunning!
This is my 2nd pregnancy now and I haven't been able to have sex at all in the first trimester for either pregnancy, just been way too ill, tired and had a lack of libido. However that did all change in the second trimester and sure made up for it 🤣
I’m sure it’s been mentioned before but I can’t remember or find it - what app did you use to track your temp/cycle whilst TTC?
Your Kegel ball video shows as up next but it made me wonder, would they be something you would use now and after your pregnancy to help with you pelvic floor muscles?
What is accidental withdrawal? Is it just when the guy pulled out early by mistake?
From context in the video she referenced, I think that it just meant that they had sex but they didn't do it as a specifically scheduled and planned act for trying to conceive, just having sex because they felt like it. So, sort of an unplanned withdrawal from the Sperm Bank of Dan. To take the banking metaphor a little further, I suppose it could also be said that their joint venture had a fortuitous injection of capital (equipment)? Not strictly accurate, but close enough for the joke, maybe. :p
Are there any advent calendars targeted to expected parents? That would be really interesting
I’m 40 weeks and 2 days, and when you mentioned using orgasms to induce I was immediately like “I should go do that after watching this video” 😂
The last few weeks my baby’s head has been so low that it’s actually making sex difficult. My husband can feel his head in there and it must be holding the top of the vagina open because sex doesn’t feel nearly as good as usual
Hannah, looking fantastic, as always. 💞
Thanks so much
You look great! Congratulations!!!
you look so gorgeous!!
Thank you very much for sharing your experience. Being a man without children it is unknown territory. Very interesting.
Hi!! IJust wanted towarn you, cause i don't know if you're notified, that this video has been age restricted by TH-cam. Also it asks that you share your credit card or a legal document to verify if your over 18, witch seams a bit sketchy but yeah... thought you might want to know this. It made me sad/mad that you can't freely share your content
why is this video age restricted oh my god
best earrings!
My libido dropped during pregnancy but I remember in my third trimester the WORST thing happened with my pelvic floor and literally every time I would go to climax I’d fart 😂😂😂😂 fun times
I hope this is okay to ask but what are the politics around masturbating in a relationship ? Do you huddle away and hide in the bathroom, or stay in bed with your partner reading next to you ? And sorry if it was a not okay question !!
3 seconds in to the video but simply must say, YOU'RE GLOWWWWWING GIRL :))
I had a low libido when pregnant with my daughter and a much higher libido when pregnant with my son. Don't know if there's any correlation, but I found it interesting.
Male foetuses produce testosterone. Testosterone causes women to be hornyer than usual. Testosterone can also cause an enlargement of the clitoris which can cause more (often subtle) clitoral stimulation throughout the day.
@@WildWillieWiccan I thought I had heard something like that, but wasn't sure. Thanks.
Hold up ! I didn't know you were pregnant ! Congrats !!!!
How about a video on whether you Become Bustyer, more Buxom-in-abundance, during pregnancy?
Btw, you are (-)_[~] looking wonderful~
the first-try master vlog lmao
Are you doing any kind of maternity clothing video? Maybe on the more hannah channel?
My little boy is almost 5 weeks old. I feel like in my first trimester, other than the fact I felt like crap and when my symptoms were really bad I didnt want to have sex, my libido didn't change that much. Second trimester sex is where it's at tho, I LOVED sex in my second trimester, I was so much more sensitive down there, sex felt amazing and orgasms were way better and I wanted to do it all the time 😂 we had sex up until a few days before he was born but it definitely decreased dramatically in the third trimester, mainly because I was quite miserable haha. I was so uncomfortable and I had a lot of back pain and I was just generally massive so sex didn't appeal that much that often. Haven't had sex yet because still in the delightful postpartum recovery period but interestingly, my sex drive has sky rocketed since giving birth which I wasn't expecting!
With my very high libido and my husband's veeeery low libido anything other than spontaneous sex doesn't seem like a good idea
I know I'm a bit late, but CONGRATULATIONS!!
I get chronic migraines and definitely find sex with a partner helps alleviate my pain & migraine symptoms, at least temporarily!
Means?
love it
I was just very randomly thinking that Hannah’s eyes are a very dark colour, just as Jake’s from Brooklyn 99… and then immediately after she did the coolcoolcool bit that Jake does😂 It was so random
What do u like when your playing with your self
Do you have the experience of all ? Just asking
What I miss the most about being pregnant is having spontaneous orgasms during sleep 😂😂😂 the thing is: pregnancy usually doesn't stop you from having sex. The baby does once it's born 😂😂😂😂
hahaha !
Wow can't watch this video unless I upload a copy of my passport to verify my age.. I'm 19 but should this video even be 18+?
Wow, I got a pop up on my phone saying "this content may not be suitable..." which I had to click TWICE to get past. WTF prudish culture.
This is so interesting and definitely not a subject that was covered anywhere when I was pregnant really. My HG symptoms stopped every time I had sex too. Later on down the road we found that she would move a lot after I'd orgasmed (a few minutes after) which was interesting. Quite weird at first but soon became a personal challenge for my husband 😂 that may sound weird but it's all just hormones innit
oh geez man, im only a couple months behind you, and i was so nervous/queasy, that we kinda unintentionally abstained for the whole first trimester...but let me tell ya, my body was taking care of it. In the first few weeks i woke up from wet dreams almost EVERY night! and it would freak me out cos I'd get cramps after! but there was no controlling it, i'd just keep having orgasmic dreams, and everything was fine! 😂 they've calmed down a bit now, but it was pretty hilarious having no control over my body demanding regular orgasms. 🤷♀️
wait, vag lube and discharge are two different things? Shit, I know nothing
@LizTiddington Discharge can be all lubrication or contain lubrication in it. Medically discharge just means fluid is coming out. Most of the time it is perfectly normal.