Yeah right. This has been going on for YEARS, untreated thanks to her parents. OP better get some cameras, locks, and a dog just in case she tries anything
Story one: NEVER let her near your family or you. People like her don't change, they get worse. You don't know what she's plotting. If I were you, I would move.
I think I’d be very VERY careful & never let sil be alone with any of your children & never take your eyes off sil. Don’t let her near any food or drink in case she tries something. At least not until she proves she can be trusted.
One Don't leave her with your child or baby at or with in laws sorry you need to control this too. Because they will let their daughter around your child . Without a taught and then your child's kidnapped and gone with sister in-law or stolen and disappeared . You need to be on guard . Until she has her own child,also make it clear to In laws about not letting daughter in if baby is there. Just because she states . I have gotten help means nothing until proved.
OP1 is definitely NTA but her in laws certainly are, I'll give the Husband a pass, as her brother he wasn't responsible for her, but the parents should've taken that girl to therapy for this a long time ago. As they said, there;s little they can do when she's an adult, but they should've helped her as a child.
the first story, sil's parents, they really should've take her to therapist because it's does harming to people because they're partially stealing someone else's identity and personal stalker. if they don't stop the copycat, that person will resolve in violence when they realize they can't be the person that they copy of. also, that's bit too late for getting the help for sil. sil was smiling and telling op to be twins forever and just get rid of her unborn child. no, I fear for op and her unborn child but mostly on her unborn child because I hear alots of messed up stories, especially stalking and copying cat. sometimes, that person will harm the innocent child because they're in the way of their target. op, need to have cameras and strict boundaries and rules about sil and op's baby. sil isn't safe around op during the pregnancy and safety of the child.
That gal needed to hear what OP said to her. I can't believe that the parents didn't get her help long before she was an adult. My brother is 12 yr younger than me. When I was 18-19, the last thing I wanted to do was hang out with my little brother. Now that we're both adults, we hang out frequently. But the age difference when you are at those ages is vast. Not so now that we're older.
Her parents are the real villains. I mean she is obviously crazy. But the stigma of therapy is just to horrible. She could have slipped off the deep in at any time before this.
Story 1 I am terribly sorry she needs, therapy because this is not normal or acceptable behaviour, you and husband must talk to her parents I would be furious to if someone asked me to abort my child but be careful she may try to injure you, keep safe
Story 1: This “patience” was just complacency. This SIL is demented and has no ability to enjoy the world without erasing herself to feel good about herself. For a moment I thought husband had made a blunder but I’m happy I was wrong. Story 2: OP was a doormat but she tried to give it back and none of these weirdos even mentioned it was antiques.
Last story. U can’t force certain feelings on someone . At least she wasn’t a bully like some kids I’ve read about. Accept that she tolerates them .Stepdad needs to stop pushing the boundaries
Yeah, id refuse to be in her presence after, and id probably justifiedly freaked that SIL may try to abort it by herself on OP. Pushing her down the stairs, food tampered with abortion meds or other foods with high chance of miscarriage or deformity etc. all trust for SIL would be demolished forever, even if she got therapy
this! she could try anything to get rid of the baby! op needs to file a restraining order and if anything happens to her in the presence of the SIL if she comes around her, she has something on record.
They’ve been dropping things off at her for years and then when she finally gets rid of it , she tried to give it to other people they want to take it🤦♀️10 years
Story 1 The sil is crazy to expect OP to abort her baby. The way she thinks that she and OP must do everything together, including having a baby, is not healthy. She does need professional help. She isn't fine if she can't see that expecting OP to abort her baby isn't normal. I am happy to hear from the update that the sil is finally getting the help she needs. Story 2 If the family just dumped furniture in the storage unit for ten years without coming to collect it they couldn't have had much interest in it. OP had every right to sell it when she left the country.
Story one. Op is not an ah, but her inlaws are! They should have made their daughter go to therapy long ago. To a certain degree, it's pretty normal to want to emulate people you look up to, but to copy someone to the point where you barely even have a personality of your own? That's very unhealthy, not to mention possibly dangerous. They're lucky she didn't try to copy the wrong person and end up with a criminal record or drug addiction...
The "heirlooms." I am the oldest daughter of an oldest daughter. I am married to the oldest of 2 sons. I was the dumping ground for every ugly old piece of junk anyone could imagine that anyone had looked at a generation ago. After 20 years of this, we told everyone we were selling our house and everything in it. They had a month to come and get whatever they wanted. A few noses were put out, but anyone who complained after that got told it was their own fault the stuff was gone.
Yeah. "We'll give you all our unwanted stuff, but you can't sell it or throw it out... oh, and we expect you to pay for it to be stored forever". My mother does this. Hardly a week goes by that we are 'given' something that's totally unsuitable, unwanted and unneeded. She's worked out that if she gives it to us, she doesn't have to pay the authorities to take it away. Luckily, we have a charity shop at the bottom of the road.
Friend of mine had an 8 year old daughter that he was parenting after his wife died when his daughter was 5. He met another girl, who had a 9 year old daughter, that she was parenting after a really bitter divorce. They married, and the two girls became as close as sisters could be. They are both adults now, and both are married with kids of their own. The close ties that they have as a family is wonderful to see. Parties are a riot of fun and kids laughter, but there is of course the occasional moment of drama that you always have when kids are involved.
LOVE IS A FEELING U HAVE/ DON'T HAVE NATURALLY FOR SOME 1 /SOMETHING IT CAN'T B FORCED . IT IS NATURAL FOR OP'S DAUGHTER TO NOT LOVE HER STEP-FARTHER+ STEP-SIBLINGS .NO 1 CAN TELL ANOTHER PERSON WHAT FEELINGS TO HAVE .
I’m going to throw this out there, about SIL in story 1, because I’m seeing some behaviours that make me wonder if she might be on the Autism Spectrum. Mimicry of others behaviour particularly in females is very common and SIL’s reaction to the pregnancy announcement (or lack there of) plus removing herself from a very emotionally overwhelming time, plus her very “logical” requests make me wonder about a possible ASD diagnosis.
I understand what you are suggesting, however most of the mimicry associated with Neuro divorce women has to do with expressions and other kinesthetic movements. Asking her to end a pregnancy goes far beyond the mimicry that has been researched.
Mirror Syndrome (Body Dysmorphia Syndrome) is a mental illness. There is no formal test so diagnosis is 'fluid'. It may be linked to Tourette Syndrome, Autism, Schizophrenia, Epilepsy, Strokes and Dementia. She doesn't actually want the baby dead; she simply cannot process the fact that you are in a 'condition' that she cannot imitate.
@@jmiller92027 I’m not suggesting the SIL’s insistence of ending the pregnancy is mimicry, however, her general flat affect is concerning, her previous mimicry is, I think she believes that OP terminating her pregnancy so that they are pregnant at the same time may seem logical to someone with an inability to properly read social queue’s
@@anufoalan Granted this is all a story, the SIL could possibly be neurodiverse and comorbidly displaying some schizophrenic tendencies with the extreme mimicry. 🤷♀️ Just a guess since things tend to get comingled and are usually not the function of one particular thing.
I know this is weird, (I've seen some twin stories/research) but is it possible that her mom was pregnant with twins and lost one of them during the pregnancy? It really sounds like something has been lost to her and she's out there trying to find it. The fact she's so keen on emulating others just makes me wonder 🤔. However she really needs some therapy. She's a stalker/kidnapper in the making... "Misery" part 2.. good movie bytheway
That's always possible and that sort of thing does happen. Normally, the living sibling always wishes they were a twin and stuff like that. This person's family should have picked out good things about this person that are individual to her and let her know how much they appreciate her as her. If they do this sort of thing regularly, she may learn to stop trying to copy other people.
The furniture. The parents retired to town. When she died the house was stuffed. Basement, front and back sheds, attic. The family asked if they could leave the stuff there for a bit. Being good people, we’d bought the place about 3 months after she passed and agreed. We figured a year. The house needed vital repairs and some things just couldn’t be done because of how stuffed things were. It neared the year, father started asking her children (the same age or older than him) to come get things. It was nearing the year. Seemed to fall on deaf ears. A lawyer letter was sent saying they had a month to come forward or on a certain date, we were going to clean and toss it. Return receipt letter, father go the slip back. The day came. He borrowed a grain truck and backed it up to the front of the house, we opened an upstairs window and started emptying the attic. It was mostly old rotted mouse peed and chewed clothes from the 50’s, old papers from farming, and TONS of old magazines and newspapers. Trust me nothing of value. We went through all of it in case there was something of merit (old photos, scrap books, deeds, stock certificates; etc.) nothing. Two grain trucks (about a skip dumpster) full. FOUR YEARS LATER they had their daughter ask gradeschool me about coming to get the stuff. I asked parents, father had another lawyer letter done to inform them that they’d ignored the previous letter and the house had been cleared. That everything had been gone through and what the contents had been. Furthermore to avoid him so far that to contact us he’d thought having his daughter contact us, was irresponsible. They offered to sue, father countered with a cleaning bill. It gets better. Decades later after my parents were gone, I was contacted about a lawsuit over the stuff. I wrote back, about what I remembered, the letters and how we made sure nothing of value was thrown. Been a while longer and haven’t heard anything.
Old Dark Furniture DOES NOT SELL! NOBODY WANTS TO BUY IT EVEN PPL THAT HAVE INHERITED? LAND UP DUMPING IT BECAUSE NOBODY WANTS IT EVERYONE THINKS *THEIR* STUFF IS WORTH GOLD!!
First story the parents should have took her to therapy as a teenager I know they say flattery is the best compliment but there’s a point where you got to stop.
Last Story: NTA You need to sit down and tell him. This was discussed. She is NOT mistreating your kids. She made it EXTREMELY CLEAR. Ad you cannot come now demanding she do these things. She told you...NO! No is a full sentense. STOP DISRESPECTING MY CHILD AND TRYING TO DICTATE TO HER! You have literally ZERO SAY HERE! Accept it or don't but you won't ever be pulling that again. Then text the daughter encouraging her to black him.
Story 4 You cannot push your daughters relationship and if she civil its enough,she has memories of her father,i think you have been a wonderful parent, your daughter can not be forced into a relationship its not her job your husband is being unfair she cannot produce instant love she not mistreating the children,
You can’t force someone to love someone else I agree OP’s daughter needs to start acting like a family with her siblings but her husband was in the wrong to pressure her
1st these parents are abusive! We don't want our child to get therapy as a teen even though she is obviously crazy and unstable. Not getting someone help sooner is neglect and abuse.
In the first place you probably should have had the furniture appraised before you got rid of it. You could have also told the family out we’re moving & they had 10 days to claim what they wanted. Other than that, they gave you the furniture. No one wanted it back for 10yrs & you offered multiple times. Maybe they’ve learned a lesson
Abort your baby or put it up for adoption that sister-in-law is nuts she needs help therapy it helps I hate when people poo poo it. I would be pissed too, The sister-in-law needs to figure out who she is and every once a while copy something from someone
Story 1: Honey, no one is *ever* the asshole in the situation where someone demands that you abort your baby because they want to be pregnant at the same time as you. That is so creepy and disturbing on so many levels it's not even funny. And it's implied she has done this before to many other people. That girl has no personality of her own and she seriously needs some honest to goodness help. But you can't help someone who refuses to be helped. They'll either help themself or they won't.
S2: People with lesser usable brains would act exactly like OP and his partner. They were more worried about getting rid of them, than knowing the value of antique furniture. If they had done even a couple of hours of research, they would have known its value. A simple teapoy from 60s or anything before that would have fetched them close to $3k to $5k. Imagine the whole lot of antique furniture.
It would be easy for someone to loose there identity. It sounds strange but if you loose sense of yourself or dont understand who you are, you do try to mimic those around you and think well thats obviously right or whats right for me. We all tend to do it in small ways, especially in groups we go along or agree with things later we scratch our heads and think "what was I thinking". But if you feel void and isolated and that one person does understand you, what they say or do becomes 110% more important to you. What she said was not right and completely wrong, but she needed sympathy at that point instead of lecturing her. The girl said it herself, we do everything else together and while creepy they appeared to tolerate that, so the warning signs were there already.....
Story 1 His sister is mentally unstable and please don't be surprised if your MIL does not support you she needs therapy,she asked you to kill your unborn baby,she needs assistance i believe your husband did the right thing
Let me remind you that people who imitate other people are not exhibiting flattery, and it could definitely lead to danger--case in point, MARK DAVID CHAPMAN, who killed John Lennon. This man copied the way John dressed, participated in things he read John did, he even married a Japanese woman, like John did. Of course, John was out of the spotlight at the time he started his imitation. When John released a new album after so many years, now MDC had a problem--that's when he went to NYC from Hawaii and killed the real John Lennon.
Your SIL was completely out of line. And you're hormonal from pregnancy. She's nuts. She needs therapy for sure. She's immature and definitely needs help. But let me tell you, she's going to be a threat to your child. Until she gets help, you should go no contact.
YOUR FRIEND RIPPED YOU OFF... he knew it was valuable and that you didn't, that's why he gave you such a low ball offer. YOUR THE AH for not having the furniture APPRAISED 1st
Story 3 Please don't have romantic ideas of Scotland because its so different from America, enjoy your new life but settling into a new life ,but they would not take them back when you asked so its not your fault,she can not demand money,i think you asked them again and again
S1 NTA why do you think you behaved rashly? Are you sisters? Tell your husband what she said. She needed help along time ago and her parents are responsible for this, so is she, she's an adult.
The SIL have issues, but its also a reflection of our current young society which has little values regards unborn children. Now people act like doing abortion its nothing and unborn childs can be thrown away like nothing happens or ever existed. Happy that SIL was able to manage and find herself in order to get some help!
Am I hallucinating or did you repeat lines twice? Once in the first story and again in the third. Not trying to be an idiot or cruel, just wondering if I might be losing my mind!
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The sister did not want you to have that baby, she declared herself an enemy of your child at that point. That sister better never be around that kid.
The SiL story. Asking any mother to 'get rid of' her baby. Instant Mamma Bear reaction initiated. Rightly so.
NTA don't let this person anywhere near your baby. She might do something terrible to your baby. Oh hell no.
I’m so glad that sister-in-law got the help she needed, I wish everyone got the help they needed.
Yeah right. This has been going on for YEARS, untreated thanks to her parents. OP better get some cameras, locks, and a dog just in case she tries anything
Story one: NEVER let her near your family or you. People like her don't change, they get worse. You don't know what she's plotting. If I were you, I would move.
I think I’d be very VERY careful & never let sil be alone with any of your children & never take your eyes off sil. Don’t let her near any food or drink in case she tries something. At least not until she proves she can be trusted.
First!
NTA- The SIL is creepy as hell! GET HER OUT THE HOUSE. How could you tell someone to abort their baby just so you both could reach milestones?!
😅🤣😂
People can't be angry if they abandon stuff and refuse to take it back for TEN YEARS!
NTA. I would have been scared 😱 to death. I would be nervous around her. Please be careful while pregnant and especially after baby born.
Don’t trust her again even though she got help
DANGER!!
DANGER!!
DANGER!!!!
SIL is a crazy as a loon! Cut off all contact and don’t let her near your baby!
One Don't leave her with your child or baby at or with in laws sorry you need to control this too.
Because they will let their daughter around your child .
Without a taught and then your child's kidnapped and gone with sister in-law or stolen and disappeared .
You need to be on guard .
Until she has her own child,also make it clear to In laws about not letting daughter in if baby is there.
Just because she states .
I have gotten help means nothing until proved.
OP1 is definitely NTA but her in laws certainly are, I'll give the Husband a pass, as her brother he wasn't responsible for her, but the parents should've taken that girl to therapy for this a long time ago. As they said, there;s little they can do when she's an adult, but they should've helped her as a child.
NEVER let her sil near your children NEVER, NEVER
the first story, sil's parents, they really should've take her to therapist because it's does harming to people because they're partially stealing someone else's identity and personal stalker.
if they don't stop the copycat, that person will resolve in violence when they realize they can't be the person that they copy of.
also, that's bit too late for getting the help for sil. sil was smiling and telling op to be twins forever and just get rid of her unborn child. no, I fear for op and her unborn child but mostly on her unborn child because I hear alots of messed up stories, especially stalking and copying cat. sometimes, that person will harm the innocent child because they're in the way of their target.
op, need to have cameras and strict boundaries and rules about sil and op's baby. sil isn't safe around op during the pregnancy and safety of the child.
I understood all, but I was hurt!
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6 words.... The hand that rocks the cradle!!!! 😳
*coughs* What?! Abort the baby?! What the hell is wrong with that SIL?!
1st story sister in law belongs in the screwball house. Get a restraining order on her she is nuts
That gal needed to hear what OP said to her. I can't believe that the parents didn't get her help long before she was an adult.
My brother is 12 yr younger than me. When I was 18-19, the last thing I wanted to do was hang out with my little brother. Now that we're both adults, we hang out frequently. But the age difference when you are at those ages is vast. Not so now that we're older.
Her parents are the real villains. I mean she is obviously crazy. But the stigma of therapy is just to horrible. She could have slipped off the deep in at any time before this.
Copying someone is a child’s game and silly
Story 1
I am terribly sorry she needs, therapy because this is not normal or acceptable behaviour, you and husband must talk to her parents I would be furious to if someone asked me to abort my child but be careful she may try to injure you, keep safe
I have only one thing to say : BE YOURSELF, BY YOURSELF, and STAY AWAY FROM ME ( Pantera)
Walk was always my favorite song of theirs. Especially when people get on my nerves 😜 all of their songs rock. 🤘
Story 1: This “patience” was just complacency. This SIL is demented and has no ability to enjoy the world without erasing herself to feel good about herself. For a moment I thought husband had made a blunder but I’m happy I was wrong.
Story 2: OP was a doormat but she tried to give it back and none of these weirdos even mentioned it was antiques.
Last story. U can’t force certain feelings on someone . At least she wasn’t a bully like some kids I’ve read about. Accept that she tolerates them .Stepdad needs to stop pushing the boundaries
Yeah, id refuse to be in her presence after, and id probably justifiedly freaked that SIL may try to abort it by herself on OP. Pushing her down the stairs, food tampered with abortion meds or other foods with high chance of miscarriage or deformity etc. all trust for SIL would be demolished forever, even if she got therapy
this! she could try anything to get rid of the baby! op needs to file a restraining order and if anything happens to her in the presence of the SIL if she comes around her, she has something on record.
They’ve been dropping things off at her for years and then when she finally gets rid of it , she tried to give it to other people they want to take it🤦♀️10 years
Story 1 The sil is crazy to expect OP to abort her baby. The way she thinks that she and OP must do everything together, including having a baby, is not healthy. She does need professional help. She isn't fine if she can't see that expecting OP to abort her baby isn't normal. I am happy to hear from the update that the sil is finally getting the help she needs.
Story 2 If the family just dumped furniture in the storage unit for ten years without coming to collect it they couldn't have had much interest in it. OP had every right to sell it when she left the country.
Story 1: Don't believe she is getting help unless the therapist can be confirmed.
Story one. Op is not an ah, but her inlaws are! They should have made their daughter go to therapy long ago. To a certain degree, it's pretty normal to want to emulate people you look up to, but to copy someone to the point where you barely even have a personality of your own? That's very unhealthy, not to mention possibly dangerous. They're lucky she didn't try to copy the wrong person and end up with a criminal record or drug addiction...
The "heirlooms."
I am the oldest daughter of an oldest daughter. I am married to the oldest of 2 sons. I was the dumping ground for every ugly old piece of junk anyone could imagine that anyone had looked at a generation ago. After 20 years of this, we told everyone we were selling our house and everything in it. They had a month to come and get whatever they wanted. A few noses were put out, but anyone who complained after that got told it was their own fault the stuff was gone.
Yeah. "We'll give you all our unwanted stuff, but you can't sell it or throw it out... oh, and we expect you to pay for it to be stored forever".
My mother does this. Hardly a week goes by that we are 'given' something that's totally unsuitable, unwanted and unneeded. She's worked out that if she gives it to us, she doesn't have to pay the authorities to take it away. Luckily, we have a charity shop at the bottom of the road.
@@cmsxcb Maddening, isn't it.
@@jemase7931 Hell yes!
Friend of mine had an 8 year old daughter that he was parenting after his wife died when his daughter was 5. He met another girl, who had a 9 year old daughter, that she was parenting after a really bitter divorce. They married, and the two girls became as close as sisters could be. They are both adults now, and both are married with kids of their own. The close ties that they have as a family is wonderful to see. Parties are a riot of fun and kids laughter, but there is of course the occasional moment of drama that you always have when kids are involved.
Steps don’t have to love steps.
#1 nta. Op reacted right how she should. Sil need to get in therapy.
#2. Too bad.
#3 nta, no, is not her job to love stepkids.
LOVE IS A FEELING U HAVE/
DON'T HAVE NATURALLY FOR
SOME 1 /SOMETHING IT CAN'T
B FORCED . IT IS NATURAL FOR
OP'S DAUGHTER TO NOT LOVE
HER STEP-FARTHER+
STEP-SIBLINGS .NO 1 CAN
TELL ANOTHER PERSON WHAT
FEELINGS TO HAVE .
I’m going to throw this out there, about SIL in story 1, because I’m seeing some behaviours that make me wonder if she might be on the Autism Spectrum. Mimicry of others behaviour particularly in females is very common and SIL’s reaction to the pregnancy announcement (or lack there of) plus removing herself from a very emotionally overwhelming time, plus her very “logical” requests make me wonder about a possible ASD diagnosis.
I understand what you are suggesting, however most of the mimicry associated with Neuro divorce women has to do with expressions and other kinesthetic movements. Asking her to end a pregnancy goes far beyond the mimicry that has been researched.
Mirror Syndrome (Body Dysmorphia Syndrome) is a mental illness. There is no formal test so diagnosis is 'fluid'. It may be linked to Tourette Syndrome, Autism, Schizophrenia, Epilepsy, Strokes and Dementia. She doesn't actually want the baby dead; she simply cannot process the fact that you are in a 'condition' that she cannot imitate.
@@jmiller92027 I’m not suggesting the SIL’s insistence of ending the pregnancy is mimicry, however, her general flat affect is concerning, her previous mimicry is, I think she believes that OP terminating her pregnancy so that they are pregnant at the same time may seem logical to someone with an inability to properly read social queue’s
@@anufoalan Granted this is all a story, the SIL could possibly be neurodiverse and comorbidly displaying some schizophrenic tendencies with the extreme mimicry. 🤷♀️ Just a guess since things tend to get comingled and are usually not the function of one particular thing.
I thought the same thing.
I know this is weird, (I've seen some twin stories/research) but is it possible that her mom was pregnant with twins and lost one of them during the pregnancy? It really sounds like something has been lost to her and she's out there trying to find it. The fact she's so keen on emulating others just makes me wonder 🤔. However she really needs some therapy. She's a stalker/kidnapper in the making... "Misery" part 2.. good movie bytheway
That's always possible and that sort of thing does happen. Normally, the living sibling always wishes they were a twin and stuff like that. This person's family should have picked out good things about this person that are individual to her and let her know how much they appreciate her as her. If they do this sort of thing regularly, she may learn to stop trying to copy other people.
Not the AH Story 1. Anyone would have gotten mad. Someone else might have slapped her down
The furniture. The parents retired to town. When she died the house was stuffed. Basement, front and back sheds, attic. The family asked if they could leave the stuff there for a bit. Being good people, we’d bought the place about 3 months after she passed and agreed. We figured a year. The house needed vital repairs and some things just couldn’t be done because of how stuffed things were. It neared the year, father started asking her children (the same age or older than him) to come get things. It was nearing the year. Seemed to fall on deaf ears. A lawyer letter was sent saying they had a month to come forward or on a certain date, we were going to clean and toss it. Return receipt letter, father go the slip back. The day came. He borrowed a grain truck and backed it up to the front of the house, we opened an upstairs window and started emptying the attic. It was mostly old rotted mouse peed and chewed clothes from the 50’s, old papers from farming, and TONS of old magazines and newspapers. Trust me nothing of value. We went through all of it in case there was something of merit (old photos, scrap books, deeds, stock certificates; etc.) nothing. Two grain trucks (about a skip dumpster) full. FOUR YEARS LATER they had their daughter ask gradeschool me about coming to get the stuff. I asked parents, father had another lawyer letter done to inform them that they’d ignored the previous letter and the house had been cleared. That everything had been gone through and what the contents had been. Furthermore to avoid him so far that to contact us he’d thought having his daughter contact us, was irresponsible. They offered to sue, father countered with a cleaning bill. It gets better. Decades later after my parents were gone, I was contacted about a lawsuit over the stuff. I wrote back, about what I remembered, the letters and how we made sure nothing of value was thrown. Been a while longer and haven’t heard anything.
Old Dark Furniture DOES NOT SELL!
NOBODY WANTS TO BUY IT
EVEN PPL THAT HAVE INHERITED?
LAND UP DUMPING IT
BECAUSE
NOBODY WANTS IT
EVERYONE THINKS *THEIR* STUFF
IS WORTH GOLD!!
Sil copying you or anyone is creepy
First story the parents should have took her to therapy as a teenager I know they say flattery is the best compliment but there’s a point where you got to stop.
Last Story:
NTA
You need to sit down and tell him.
This was discussed.
She is NOT mistreating your kids.
She made it EXTREMELY CLEAR.
Ad you cannot come now demanding she do these things.
She told you...NO!
No is a full sentense.
STOP DISRESPECTING MY CHILD AND TRYING TO DICTATE TO HER!
You have literally ZERO SAY HERE!
Accept it or don't but you won't ever be pulling that again.
Then text the daughter encouraging her to black him.
Daughter didn’t want to come home for stepsiblings that she didn’t care about and op husband was wrong to pressure her to do so
Pp that think they R Crazy are Usually
Fine
BUT
These That ARE INSANE?
THINK THEY R FINE!
S2 NTA sell the stuff it's your stuff. They abandoned the furniture to you you sold it.
YTA if you think it was wrong to go off her you been but in this situations for a long time and you gave protect yourself and your baby.
Story 4
You cannot push your daughters relationship and if she civil its enough,she has memories of her father,i think you have been a wonderful parent, your daughter can not be forced into a relationship its not her job your husband is being unfair she cannot produce instant love she not mistreating the children,
Story 1: in my opinion that sil sounded like she had borderline personality disorder, but an extreme case, glad she is getting the help she needs
Story 2
They used you as free storage and you asked them to take it back they did not,do not worry it's their fault for not taking it back
Why was sil living with you when the parents were alive? I find this a bit strange for newly weds to have someone else in the house.
You can’t force someone to love someone else I agree OP’s daughter needs to start acting like a family with her siblings but her husband was in the wrong to pressure her
1st these parents are abusive! We don't want our child to get therapy as a teen even though she is obviously crazy and unstable.
Not getting someone help sooner is neglect and abuse.
Story 2
Please do be careful, she is not exactly safe congratulations on your daughter therapy will take time
In the first place you probably should have had the furniture appraised before you got rid of it. You could have also told the family out we’re moving & they had 10 days to claim what they wanted. Other than that, they gave you the furniture. No one wanted it back for 10yrs & you offered multiple times. Maybe they’ve learned a lesson
Abort your baby or put it up for adoption that sister-in-law is nuts she needs help therapy it helps I hate when people poo poo it.
I would be pissed too, The sister-in-law needs to figure out who she is and every once a while copy something from someone
S3 NTA your husband is responsible for being a parent, he also can't force your daughter to bond with h his kids or him.
Story 1: Honey, no one is *ever* the asshole in the situation where someone demands that you abort your baby because they want to be pregnant at the same time as you. That is so creepy and disturbing on so many levels it's not even funny. And it's implied she has done this before to many other people. That girl has no personality of her own and she seriously needs some honest to goodness help. But you can't help someone who refuses to be helped. They'll either help themself or they won't.
S2: People with lesser usable brains would act exactly like OP and his partner. They were more worried about getting rid of them, than knowing the value of antique furniture. If they had done even a couple of hours of research, they would have known its value. A simple teapoy from 60s or anything before that would have fetched them close to $3k to $5k. Imagine the whole lot of antique furniture.
It would be easy for someone to loose there identity. It sounds strange but if you loose sense of yourself or dont understand who you are, you do try to mimic those around you and think well thats obviously right or whats right for me. We all tend to do it in small ways, especially in groups we go along or agree with things later we scratch our heads and think "what was I thinking". But if you feel void and isolated and that one person does understand you, what they say or do becomes 110% more important to you. What she said was not right and completely wrong, but she needed sympathy at that point instead of lecturing her. The girl said it herself, we do everything else together and while creepy they appeared to tolerate that, so the warning signs were there already.....
Story 1
His sister is mentally unstable and please don't be surprised if your MIL does not support you she needs therapy,she asked you to kill your unborn baby,she needs assistance i believe your husband did the right thing
You will be if her antic's are justified by you.
Love your voice
Let me remind you that people who imitate other people are not exhibiting flattery, and it could definitely lead to danger--case in point, MARK DAVID CHAPMAN, who killed John Lennon. This man copied the way John dressed, participated in things he read John did, he even married a Japanese woman, like John did. Of course, John was out of the spotlight at the time he started his imitation. When John released a new album after so many years, now MDC had a problem--that's when he went to NYC from Hawaii and killed the real John Lennon.
Your SIL was completely out of line. And you're hormonal from pregnancy. She's nuts. She needs therapy for sure. She's immature and definitely needs help. But let me tell you, she's going to be a threat to your child. Until she gets help, you should go no contact.
YOUR FRIEND RIPPED YOU OFF... he knew it was valuable and that you didn't, that's why he gave you such a low ball offer.
YOUR THE AH for not having the furniture APPRAISED 1st
Story 3
Please don't have romantic ideas of Scotland because its so different from America, enjoy your new life but settling into a new life ,but they would not take them back when you asked so its not your fault,she can not demand money,i think you asked them again and again
S1 NTA why do you think you behaved rashly? Are you sisters? Tell your husband what she said. She needed help along time ago and her parents are responsible for this, so is she, she's an adult.
NTA CYA tape ewrything
The SIL have issues, but its also a reflection of our current young society which has little values regards unborn children. Now people act like doing abortion its nothing and unborn childs can be thrown away like nothing happens or ever existed.
Happy that SIL was able to manage and find herself in order to get some help!
Yet another old ass man thinking he should get a say about a womans body
Am I hallucinating or did you repeat lines twice? Once in the first story and again in the third. Not trying to be an idiot or cruel, just wondering if I might be losing my mind!