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You are right, it's not depression because as soon as you have enough money to be free and escape work, the "depression" goes away. It is your soul telling you that this is NOT what you are meant to be doing......
No job is worth getting depressed about. Decades ago I had a phase of pursuing an IT job. After some time I landed a job but it was in a toxic racist environment. My manager was a bully. After being overloaded with too much work I took it to HR (at the time I thought HR were there to help 😂) the HR manager was friends with my manager so nothing got done. I got more work given to me and increasingly snide insidious comments from the manager. This got to me and I started to get depressed and suicidal....it was then I realised I needed to just quit...no job to go to just get out of there. Never felt so much relief once I quit. There was a little stress as the company threatened to sue me for breach of contract (leaving without notice) I told them to go ahead ...they never did
@@skyblazeeternoMan if only it was as easily as not wanting to work and quitting. Unfortunately bills are a thing and so is this lowkey unlivable economy we live in
@@michael-ph3jn The reality for most is that accumulating enough resources to be able to exit paid employment will take decades but most don't think about it until it's way too late or spend what they earn trying to make themselves feel better about life.
I literally view work as hell. It terrifies me. The hard crushing truth that I will have to go back to work soon is like a knife stabbing through my soul. People bragging about getting a new job is perplexing to me. "Work" is the opposite of "Life." Life BEGINS when WORK ENDS.
Well you can provide humanity with products and get paid that way? If you can't do that go hunting and harvesting cuz you can't keep yourself alive otherwise
@@TomScryleusWhen you have a child it's much harder as you are still extremely tired when in fact you need even more energy. And if you are a decent human being know and feel rightful GUILT not to give your best energy for your child since company has already drained it during that weekm
I quit my successful career after 13 years and I’ve never been happier. I now work on a farm, it’s grueling but fun and I love it. I’m a better father and I feel like a human again
Its my dream to live simply like that one day. We weren't meant for the restrictive 9-5 workday. Its just not natural. Its why so many of us are depressed and anxious
@@creepcraddle we are depressed and anxious because we fear telling people,who do have power over us, the truth. You really shouldn't be facing dismissal for saying you're overworked or the company is dicking you around by not processing days off etc My advice. Get a pool of money to act as a buffer so you can challenge things and lose fear of losing your job for being "difficult"
I feel you, as an introvert the worst part of work for me is having to make boring small talk with bloody awful people I wouldn't give the time of day to if I didn't have to lol
You cant win hey. Its a catch 22 any way you look at it, yes. Hillarious conclusion. Damned if you do damned if you dont. Is there a middle ground insight or what. You always feeling like you got one foot in heaven and the other in hell. Take the good with the bad, yes. Society will soon find a way to have its cake and eat it too one day. That is, to have life but without suffering or bad so help them God. Give us the wisdom. We've gotta long way to go but as we evolve things will change for the better for those who seek change for the better and have a mission or purpose in life. Look how the horse and carriage has evolved into what it is today. Its evolved for the better. However, AI is slowly but surely taking over jobs at the speed of light and its difficult to beat it or see it coming. Is man controlling AI or it man. And is it vicious. See Terminator for clues often in movies. We are playing musical chairs. A game. Thus, someone finds it amusing. And in any game you will have winners and losers, more losers than winners like in games. Ppl are slowly loosing thier (chairs) jobs, homes etc and even thier minds and bodies while playing this childish game. Everyone cant be on top or win at this game. Its cutthroat. Ppl who decided not to have kids as a result of looking at the state of the world and the movie Terminator aren't playing no games. As one childfree woman states, why bring a being here to do something you yourself dont like and are you capable of providing a stable job, one they may like for them. Ppl dont like all work and no play. Ppl dont like to work bc it provides no pleasure. And like all rationally irrational beings they want thier cake and eat it too. I know i do at times and i should have it.🤔That is, a life work balance. It has to be a Better way bc the bitter one isn't working. Peace out everyone. Think twice before bringing a child here is the best advice that can be given in todays climate or calamities.
We are supposed to live near nature, growing, having animals for milk and food, farming. But today we are told to live on top of eachother, shopping modified food in big stores, sitting on an office doing nothing worth anything. We need to go back to the roots.
Walked away from a 20 yr career as a software engineer. Id been with this company for 12 yrs and one day in a sprint retro, I said "guys, I'm done." That was 2 years ago. I spend my days riding my motorcycles, making stuff with wood, and spending time with my girl. Best decision I ever made.
3:19 You have to pretend to be someone your not. This is how feel around everyone, not just work colleagues. This is why I have as little contact as possible with people. I’m just not compatible with them. I only feel my true authentic self when alone. Humans together are not authentic. I trust no one ever
Yes, I feel the same. I also remember when I was a child or even at university I was full of life and entuziastic about everything. But now, after 14 years of corporate working I do not recognize myself: always tyred, bored, sad.
Since a young age I thought I was weird and people normal having to work hard for someone else's dream, but I know now I'm not the only one. Working towards my escape, working for others sucks and drains the human out of us
I do feel the sunday blues and monday dread. Even I start later in the day (college) I like what I am studying but I do not like how working in general makes me feel. Sometimes they make you feel like they should be your priority but I have a life you know 😅
Well work HAS TO dehumanise people as it's all about profit and growth and efficiency so EVERYTHING gets quantified and measured often to absurd levels
Nothing excites me anymore, I rarely genuinely smile, I rarely genuinely laugh, and I dislike being around most people. I definitely feel less human. I think that wage slavery combined with COVID and middle age have done this to me. Now I expect to get comments about "manning up" and "making a better life" for myself.
@@GenerationX1984it's weird as to why those people are concerned with how another person lives their life? I suspect it's some form of deep down jealousy with the protestant work ethic still having too much a grip on people
Man, your videos are so relatable. You are describing a nightmare that I desperately want to escape forever, but I know is coming back! When you have spent a few years being free of work, but know that you have to return to it, that is when you really start to realize the magnitude of how bad it is. You can't get the proper perspective of how awful something is, until you escaped it for some time. Then it all comes back, and you think "I might have to go back to THIS again?" It is honestly terrifying.
Wow, this pretty much summed up everything I've thought and felt about work for most of my career. The analogy I use to explain my circumstance to others who dont understand is that when I'm at work, I feel like I'm being exposed to high levels of radiation. By the end of the work week, my energy and spirit are completely drained and I feel physically ill. I try to recoup over the weekend but it's not enough. The cumulative effects over 20 years are that I'm now just a shell of a human and prematurely aged beyond my years. Ive always had family depending on my income so I couldnt take big risks when I was younger. I only have 2 more years of wage slavery left and I'm financially independent and free to leave the workforce forever. My hope is that I can live a few more decades, post wage slavery, healthy enough to live like a kid again and try to enjoy this life. I hope the same for all of you. Keep on keeping on.
I can very well understand what you mean. You're right about everything. We're not made for a 9-to-5 job. A full-time job drains your energy. After work, you hardly have the energy or desire to do anything. On top of that, you're working for someone else's dream while you only get the crumbs that fall off. Most people just exist, they don't live: get up, go to work, eat, sleep. Then it starts all over again. In most cases, the salary is just enough to survive, which means buying food and having a roof over your head. This goes on until you reach retirement age. Is that the meaning of life? I don't see it that way. I don't have anything against work, I have something against work determined by others in a dependent employment relationship. I am against wage slavery. There must be other solutions.
The worst part of slavery is when they get you to think that your only purpose is to be a slave. This is a common abuse tactic and sadly we gaslight ourselves into it. You hit the nail on the head with the masking point, I think the reason i resent work so much is that i gaslight myself into caring and being someone i am not. I will have to think on this as i think its very powerful. Great video as awlays!
thank you. I like that first sentance a lot. "The worst part of slavery is when they get you to think that your only purpose is to be a slave" I might steal it for a future video :)
@@TomScryleusit's almost like a cult. It starts in school and many times in the family. They got it from school, personal experience where maybe they or someone they know needed a job and didn't find one easily...fine, but it doeasn't need to be the same for everyone. They should consider that maybe some are luckier.
Not so easy to "just get another job" especially when you are older. Also it takes a lot of energy to look for another job and if you are burned out and just gutted from a lifetime of soul crushing work you have no energy to go to interviews and go through that hideous process.
True that. The process of job seeking itself is demoralising...they've made everything as hard as possible to drain as much energy and vitality out of us as they can.
Even as a young person, in a dying economy, where having like multiple degrees is the bare minimum to even earn the right to not be treated as a dog at work and you have none. Just finding a single job is extraordinarily difficult, nevermind finding a good job
Yes and with a permanent impairment (back injury) while serving in the military and you get hung out to dry it is extremely difficult to obtain a new job especially when you worked as a tradesman for the last 20 years and it’s almost impossible to do physical labour. 😢
I feel the same about work taking up so much emotional energy I have little left for fun stuff or potential side hustle. That makes me feel guilty that my time off is wasted. Your videos and comments from your followers do remind me that I am not the only one who feels that way.
Almost died on a job. Been on sick pay for 5 months. About 7 more to go. Never felt so alive. Haven't heard hardly any sign of living from my co-workers or boss since.
Most people are sheep celebrating the shepherd for protecting them from the wolf, unknowing that the shepherd only keeps them for their wool, milk and meat.
these last few days, I have been thinking a lot about the inner child I once was. Its kind of sad. you kind of remember small things from that life when you were you. and not this empty vessel worked turned you into.
Hey Tom I understand how you feel about this life it's pretty much all about slavery and I just wanted to say thank u for giving me the courage to quit my job today I really hated my job it was terrible but anyways thank you and I just wanted to say that I love you and Jesus loves you and he knows your pain and he's here for you please believe in him and trust that everything will be ok
Believe in Jesus Christ and accept him as your savior he loves you and he wants to save you salvation is a free gift u don't have to work for it it cannot be earned he paid for our sins on the cross so all we have to do is believe and trust in him
Yes, but school (not uni, uni was the best) was so constraining for my soul that paid work was a welcome change. In my case, it really prepared me to be a worker, as its stated goal was back in the 19th century. By being worse than a job. Except for vacations...but even those, homework?! I shudder at the thought, even as someone that worked 16 hour days a lot this year. Homework was just evil :)
I can certainly relate - as a kid I used to have the Sunday evening blues thinking about going back to school and it's the same with work, probably worse and I get paid now! :) I think much of it for me is the being told what to do and feeling constrained and trapped by the money, which lets face it is the main thing keeping most of us in the job's we dislike or seemingly lack of other options - but working on it! Just wanted to mention your video editing is great, you can tell you're passionate about it, it really shows. :)
Hi Tom. The feeling is mutual! One topic that would be interesting to cover in future videos is HR. I have been let down by them at every company that I’ve ever worked for, they pretend like they’re on your side, when they really not.
HR isn't there to help you, they're there to manage humans as a resource. You're just a number to them. They're there to protect the company and their legal backside.
I actually said “yes” out loud when you said “fuck KPIs.” I work in public sector, and it’s just as soul crushing as the private sector. We spend more time talking about what we’re going to do, reporting on what we’ve done (including audits, performance reviews, endless nauseating bullshit, etc.), and answering email than actual work product. We’re in a purgatory of managerial make-work that feels like a penance for some horrible crime that none of us ever committed.
If you also do things you find meaningful and do them well, don't accept other tasks. They'll be forced to accept it if they cannot afford to lose you.
I want to add.... i wear different trainers and fragrances to break up the week, because days merge into one. In winter i have different jackets for every day of the week to add character to the day. I even change my base ball caps every day. 1980s were my child hood and boy did things change after my degree when i found my self commuting on the tube into central london and realised i had be programmed to become a wage slave. Reality hit me hard.
Gotta do whatever you can to stay true to you while doing your grind. Even if it's just something small, little things matter because you are you and you matter, even if your employer only sees ID numbers and never ending KPIs.
Left the rat race in 2020. Moved to Mexico from Sweden. Then met my future wife online. Now living in Florida building our dream farm. My soul was dead when I worked as a programmer in Sweden. I’ve never felt more alive than I do now. Never going back to office work again.
There is another aspect to your happiness that you probably arent aware off. I moved from Mediterranean country to Ireland and let me tell you the SAD(seasonal affective disorder) is a real thing. In my country it only lasted for a month or two at max but here its opposite. I only feel good for few months. Its not vitamin D, I supplement and eat well. Its lack of light. Red light specifically that signals cells to produce energy. You can get it even under clouds but you need more exposure. Problem in countries like Sweden and Ireland is that there is less light and also most of us work indoors and go to work before light comes out and get home once it sets. The body thinks its an apocalypse and shuts down the whole system. I use red light machine now to start my day and it helps but still it doesnt compare to being in sunny day.
Some of us just aren't cut out for work. I have never had a 'real job' and get by on a subsistence income doing my own thing. I was freelancing for years, hoping that it would lead somewhere and it never did. AI came along and overnight I lost a substantial workload and clients ghosted me. Now I mow lawns. I am not going to work myself to the bone, life is too short and the things I enjoy most are either free or cost very little. I'd much rather have free time than more money. And then I know some very high achieving people who are entrepreneurs or in corporate jobs and seem happy. I can't understand that, I know that a job like that would be the death of me. We're all wired differently I guess..
@@furiousdestroyah9999 Lets not act like children now. Work should be mandatory because we live in society and things have to be produced and maintained. But working hours should be cut in half and more flexible. Nothing worse than coming into work 15 mins late and then being ask like a child in school why were you late? Pisses me off like nothing else.
@@outlander234 Things could still run just fine if people weren't forced to work. A person that isn't already burnt out by work/society would usually not really have anything against working, if you really think about it, it's all basic psychology. Why force somebody to begrudgingly do something when you can just make them want to do the thing instead? In an ideal world basic necessities (food, shelter, etc.) would be guaranteed and if you wanted anything more than that you'd have to work for it.
The distress and pressure from it landed me in hospital due to having a crazy panic attack, which I thought was maybe a seizure. I've left since then. It sucks that it had to get to that point before I quit.
@@boatdoctors Yeah I do feel alot better, still stressed because I want to find a job that doesn't make me feel that way. Hopefully you feel better soon.
this hits so hard, it’s nice to know someone else feels like this. You have captured my life exactly. I would quit my job in a second, but then what? Gotta eat, gotta live somewhere, gotta pay bills. I hope TH-cam works out for you but it’s sad that there is no answer to the question except just keep on trying.
Try to do something you're very good at doing, you'll be paid enough to save and get out early. Then from time to time get back in just to save the savings.
Thanks Tom. Your videos are very helpful. I have made the decision to take 6 months away (long service leave) from work and have felt a little unsure about it. This is what over 25 years of full time work has done to me. I won't feel 'useful' and will feel guilty and 'unproductive' as the weeks and months go by. This is where I have to start deprograming all the wage slave conditioning and become comfortable with how I choose to use my time rather than fall in with choices made for me by society.
Tom this video is pure art, these are not just practical videos that are a side hustle its true art. Art is something that conveys the human experience and touches people. Well this video and your channel in general have touched me greatly. I can tell you love filmmaking but i truly think the youtube video format is the best way to convey these thoughts no film could ever make me feel so understood and connected. I appreciate your content so greatly I listen to it every sunday night as i get work anxiety its the only thing that makes me feel like i can tackle the work week. I think you should take sponsors it wont detract from your content at all in fact i think the cherry on top is to make some extra income from these videos. They take an immense amount of work and mental bandwidth if you don't capitalize on that i think your subconscious will resent that. Cheers from a fellow wagie wannabie filmmaker in the USA!
Last week I finished the "self grading" part of the yearly performance review. This is so that some anonymous HR person at corporate HQ to figure out if I have been a good cog in the machinery or not, and to adjust my salary accordingly. I have a feeling that the employer really feel that we are humans either, if they did, someone who actually knew us would do the rating/adjusting.
From 2011 to 2016 I hated Sunday nights. They caused an anxiety knowing that my nightmare started over the next morning. I hated feeling hung over on Mondays but I would drink on Sunday nights, probably as a form of self sabotage. I left retail banking (glorified ass wiping) to open my own business. Left an $80k salary to make $18k the first year. Let’s just say I’ve 7X my first year earnings since then and growing at 16% per year. Best decision I’ve ever made hands down.
such a genuine and relatable introspection. i've seen hundreds of youtubers come and go due to burnout. you already have quite an audience. just imagine how big of a stadium your viewers would fill. i hope you can make the process enjoyable and keep making videos you are truly passionate about.
I also felt this while volunteering on something I was very passionately about. In less than a year, it took its toll, and I was completely burned out. It was so mentally tiring, that I didn't even want to move. I sat still, not able to move, because I didn't want to make that effort of moving.
It’s very frustrating and archaic that this society is still adamant on 5-6 day work weeks. It’s all about humans controlling other humans. It’s gross and I’m beyond over it. Nobody cares about your health, sleep, or family. You have to look out for yourself and really try to find something that works for you because this system will drain and kill you, then move to the next. We are a society with an expendable and musical chair mindset. Why I’m not bringing kids into this absolute sh*t show.
What I don't get is how many people who actually and genuinely seem to enjoy working their 9 to 5 jobs. If I didn't have to I wouldn't work another day of my life. Wage slavery has brought nothing but anxiousness and unhappiness to me.
I wanted to be a composer - write music for movies. I have degrees in music Composition - a lifetime of debt. Have never held a livable job in music - even teaching as a professor at a university. It's a bankrupt world, classical music...I chose poorly, or my heart did.
It says a lot about the societies we've created -- and none of it good and all of it sad -- that you can't make a living as a composer or a professor, but you could probably get any old soul-crushing corporate job.
The problem with Society is a lack of value in the arts. Today a lot of it is “shock art” or “sensational” art that won’t be remembered in the long term. Art is judged by how you can make it a commodity whether it’s mediocre or even below average to sell , and not on its inherent worth of what it gives back to humanity in the long term. Everyone wants their children to experience the arts whether it’s in a concert or art museum but no one wants their child to be an artist because in their eyes, it’s wasteful and won’t make you big money, which they think makes a person worthy of society. I apologize for my rant but I hurt for this composer and hope that you will carry on. The world needs you!
I am in a very similar position (minus the degree in music composition). I would love to be a video game composer for a living. I am trying my hardest to get projects done on my down time, but it can feel nearly impossible to juggle my motivation to chase my dreams with the responsibilities of adult life. Add on top of that mental health issues and things can get really dark sometimes. I wish you all the best. I will never stop making music, even if nobody cares about what I do. I hope you do the same. All the best!
@@lad5329 It's not just the arts. If you want to do anything with QUALITY in mind, you can't seem to make money at it. Think about it. It's the garbage that sells because the money goes in to marketing and promotion rather than the product or service itself.
@l.5832 fascinating point - farm fresh vegetables are outrageously expensive. But add a million processing steps, move it around the world twice, and suddenly the crap becomes much cheaper. Most art is produced in a similar way and they are slowly removing humans from the process. Well, more quickly now that AI has begun running instead of crawling.
I'm in a position that I don't have to work, but, if I didn't I would have just enough to pay the bills from a small pension and savings. This would leave no money for holidays, strips out etc... The thing is I'd happily forgo these "luxuries" just so I don't have to return to a toxic work environment. Love this video, it really resinated with me - thanks
These conversations take such a different turn when you have children or dependents. Turns out I feel everything in this video, but being golden cuffed with dependents I don't feel I'll ever escape outside of sickness and death. Health insurance alone is a huge issue.
Tom, you deserve a great deal of credit for turning down money on the table. It's deeply ethical, especially given the subject matter of this channel, and shows immense integrity. It's this strength of character that gets you through the hellish work week.
Thank you for answering, "Why don't you get a job that makes you happy?" honestly. It is much more difficult than many people think. I can't just switch from my current profession to something completely different.
@@TomScryleus Indeed. And, the truth is, I used to love my job. But anything becomes boring and burnout-inducing after many years. Now, after being laid off, I find myself wondering if anything would make me happy work-wise. The answer is no. So it's not worth trying to find a new career.
Although I'm skeptical that that's the case, I'd probably start my search by finding organizations that 100% legitimately work for the greater good of the earth and its people. I can imagine enjoying a job much more if the work I do has a big, important purpose.
I think a lot of the problem is that word you said "profession". You have probably invested tons of money for your education that you haven't even paid off yet. Back in the Depression, unemployment was extremely high but you also could change careers without 6 years of university and a fortune of debt. You could be a teacher with one year of 'normal school'. Nursing, two years, and if you wanted to sell real estate, apply for a licence. University, if you have to go in to debt, enslaves you because you need the wages of that profession to pay off the debt to get in to that profession in the first place. I think the whole university pyramid scheme system needs to be re-thought.
I’ve realised how unhappy work makes me, my job isn’t that bad compared to some. I had a week off last week, we went camping, sat around fires with my family, hiked, swam in rivers. It’s the most human I’ve felt in as long as I can remember. The week seemed to last forever and I genuinely felt happy, no anxiety, full of energy. I just think we’ve moved so far away from how we evolved and lived up til around 100years ago. Being sat staring at a screen all day is torture as it goes against every fibre of our being.
I like to work. I like accomplishing things. However, when the cost of living skyrocketed and my standard of living plummeted I too started feeling like a wage slave and now things feel so meaningless. Working my butt off to just barely get by. I don’t like this. I don’t know what to do.
Liking to accomplish things at work is the way to a better pay. Maybe you should make a scene about it, complain in a tough way, fight loudly for it, worked for me when I had something to show for it.
@@lucianboar3489 lol. I was offered a promotion at a small fish packing warehouse I was working at when I asked for more hours. The “promotion” was to a salaried position where I would have been making less per hour after all was said and done. So, while I agree with your suggestion, the reality of how it worked out for me was hilariously bad. Thank you for commenting. Best wishes to you.
@@BigDaddyDru noo, no promotions :) that's a scam to seemingly pay you more but you have to do even more. Unless you become a huge jerk and delegate the hell out of it to subordinates.
Just gotta wait until retitement, wherever that is a few decades from now (it won't exist at that point 😂). Seriously though, nothing pisses me off like meeting people irl that are retired and brag about it. Both because it's a privilege that will cease to exist soon and because it's a massive cope. Congratulations, you sold most of your life away for a few years of peace before you croak and die. Now you get to actually live your life, on your wheelchair, with your dentures 😂
@@skyblazeeternoyep, I wouldn't do what I do in a heartbeat if I got paid less. Or I would accept less (not much less, of course) if I had to do only the tasks I would list as enjoyable (i.e. find meaningful) and not on a 9-5 basis. I'd do them on my own schedule, the only constraint being the deadline. Other than that, it's my problem when I work or not or decide to go on vacation and for how long.
I have been looking for a job that I can handle again for a year now and lately I started looking into it more and people asking me about it and my severe depression came raging back. I haven't slept in a week, bern crying, am angry with everyone for not helping me, and booked a doctor's appointment now for my own safety.
I am a Case Manager at a homeless shelter in Florida. Even with that, the corporate feeling is still there with HR and Admin, but fortunately I can throw myself into my fun and peculiar type of clients! Great video and God can I relate. There are times I just look forward to the after-life!
I loved the pictures at the end of you in nature and your wife and Loke the dog. This is how I always think of you. I’m sorry you still have to go to work, Tom. Your videos are wonderful.
Trading time for money gets old, even if you do something you like reasonably well for a living. Monday rolls around and it’s such a drag. I feel like we have to snatch little tidbits of life out of the weekends and evenings and the few days off each year. It’s not really a fulfilling way to live and ends up so soul crushing after doing the same drill for decades.
When I drove to work everyday I imagined of just driving to the ocean instead... after a while seing the calls of my boss, asking me where I am and I just say- driving to the seaside- and hanging up. This thought never died over the years working there. And as depressing as this sounds... deep in my heart I knew as long as this thought comes up every day- I am still alive.
Work is dread indeed.... I recently had a month's break before starting work again, and am feeling it again....😅 Your video helps me think I m not alone
Agree, stale tired disinterested fake. Everyone dislikes the game . Except to the sycophant , sociopath, to these type of people it's the game that is the job , not the product the company is producing.
OMG i am so glad that i found your channel!! it's like we share the same mind and thoughts about life and work slavery! Excellent videos and very well presented! Let's hope one day we will be free
I love the depth and deep thinking of your videos they resonate with a lot of people. Even as the most low-budget youtuber that exists(I don't even edit... don't know how), I skip videos too on the weekend. Love your videos.
Thank you Lizzy. I think, its like a radio. like, finding the right frequency to reach people. and once I started to be more authentic, people heard my frequency. Maybe that sounds silly. but thats how think of it.
@TomScryleus Yes, and you do a great job at communicating your frequency & people connect with it.Remember Aristotle,Plato, and Epicurus, were all are trying to find the meaning of life,what brings true happiness and this is in the year 300-400,so man has always been searching.Now it's harder because screens have taken over in person conversations....but this is better then war and famine 😉
The feeling you're describing is more like us all becoming zombies 🧟♂️ 🧟♀️ and robots, just doing something you're forced too make a living, which let's all be real we don't make enough to make a true living each month. That's why we have to find ways to make that money work for us. I'm doing this in my early 20s and don't regret it rather than not trying!
I quit my job a few months ago to study marketing, so that I can eventually start my own business. I'm never going back to the damn 9-5 office ever. No more coworkers keeping tabs on me to gossip and middle managers timing my toilet breaks. God I hate office politics.
I really appreciate your comment! It sounds like you're taking control of your life and making a huge shift toward something more fulfilling. Studying marketing and building your own business is a powerful step toward escaping the 9-5 grind. Wishing you all the best on your journey-no more office politics or micromanagement!"
This is an awesome video Tom. Lately, I have been feeling exactly the same way the closer I get to retirement age. Creating content makes me happy; however, I'm currently a slave to the machine right now. Soon freedom will come. Thanks for sharing.
I have had depression since I was a child. I currently have a good handle on it. I have for a few years now. I am looking forward to the possibility of you making a video on your experience with depression.
people who haven't experienced it don't know how terrible it can be. I have wanted to make a video about depression for a really long time. But its a difficult topic to talk about for me, and also, you have to say the right things. you know? but I will do that video some day. hopefully next year.
I feel the same I work 3 days a week now and slowly starting to feel like me again, got energy can spend time with my kids with out snapping at them all the time, and can help my wife with her business and spend quality time with her. And able to do my own things and hobbies aswell aswell. Been working in construction for 27 years and it takes a toll on you mentally but mostly physically, and stated to notice problems with joints and stuff so decided I need to slowdown a bit, I notice all the older guys you retire are physically in a really bad way joint problems, vibration white finger and lung conditions from silica (cement) and asbestos (it’s everywhere). Finally getting a balance👍🏻
I work as a truck driver doing hard physical labor 50-60hr/week. It’s terrible. This wasn’t a career I chose. Just the only way I could find to make enough money to survive. It’s terrible. My plan is to quit and leave the area for somewhere less expensive by next August. Most people seem to feel the same way, they just don’t have any plans on improving their lives and instead focus on coping with it. Having a plan is the important part.
Love that after the show clip. Appreciate your stance on not taking money for those you don't align with. And making a living out of freedom while asking others to buy things that keep them enslaved?! And yes I know the work of being a content creator. I do it ALL on my own. It is A LOT. As usual, thanks for sharing dude.
This might be my favorite video so far because I'm easily flattered with a shout out! No, seriously, I love how you keep tinkering and evolving your editing style, you keep adding little flourishes, camera movements, subtle sound editing, it's engaging without being aggressive (which I might fall victim too at times), and then just solid storytelling, pacing, and editing... So your escape of wage-slavery resides within your passion for something else, making videos. Hope it continues to make you passive income and keeps you inspired! Really, curious if there is a sponsor that would align with your content, but I can totally see how difficult that would be. Better Help sponsors a lot of creators (which in theory seems good) but every time they do, I read the comments about something apparently unethically the company did... So even if you do find a company you believe in, I'm sure you'll get push back as very few companies have a clean record and many resent sponsored content altogether. Yet, maybe a website builder or something like that might make sense for helping people who want to change careers or be self employed.
Thank you! Glad you liked it. I like the video too. I was trying some different techniques, and I had SO much fun working on the editing. The closest thing to being a kid again. you know? :) I should have tinkered with with it a bit more though, but it got late on Sunday, and Loke (the dog) was interrupting me and reminding me that I need to go downstairs and spend at least some time with him, my wife and the cat! :) Regarding sponsorship, I think I need to reach out to the companies I want to colaborate. The requests I keep getting are a bit... well.. not for me. :) BetterHelp is something that I want to actually try, and then if I like it, I would love to get sponsored by them, because the idea som sounds awesome.
Tom talks whimsically about chiildhood, and I think about that too, because not having the responsibility of bringing in money all of the time was great. But I had the same kind of dread, maybe even more, as a child on Sunday evenings, or at the end of summer vacation, as I face as an adult going to work the next day. It's the dread of my freedom going away. I think having freedom is wired into my psyche somehow.
I have had an outside of work activitie for nearly 30 years something I really enjoy, and more to the point "get lost in " time becomes irrelevant. Because i love it and have done it for so long i have become very good at it, good meaning people have said you should make money out of it. Yes but then it becomes a job a business . I would not trade the joy, excitement , escape, peace of mind of my hobby for all the money in the world.
The five acts that you created for this video demonstrate that you are a deep and evocative playwright. The emotions, experiences, sensation, and thoughts described in this video are distilled with epic qualities of Shakespearean tragic plays. The first thing that crossed my mind when I was watching your video is the Japanese concept of Wabi-sabi - a world view that embraces the acceptance of a perfectly imperfect life - a possible/hypothetical solution to the issues mentioned in the video. However, this Japanese concept would not work here as your story is an onion made up of many psychological and mental concentric layers. This video also reminds me of the play written by Samuel Beckett, Waiting for Godot. The protagonists in this play have experienced a sense of entrapment, the slow and piercing erosion of their lives, and a form of purgatory in which they find it difficult to escape…… The most beautiful, meaningful, and memorable part of this video is the Proustian depiction of your childlike imagination, childlike joy, and childlike enthusiasm: “A time of playing, just being, and stuffed animal, everywhere. Do you remember building forts out of blankets and chairs? Do you remember when you enjoyed every second of your life?” This video makes the themes and idealism of Le Petit Prince story(Antoine de Saint-Exupéry) come alive. Thanks, :) Tom
Problably the nicest comment I've read today. :) it will keep me smiling all week hopefully. IM not familiar with some of the names you mentioned. But I will check them out.
Appreciate the honesty, it's all corporate BS, all just nodding along in team meetings, I think most think the same as us, it's all garbage, though if I'm being paid I do the best I can always, whilst others get away with tossing it off. Stick to your own morals, take the money, beware of those around you at work, but don't let the bastards grind you down.
Yeah, it's sad. Like you, I'm also these days just passionate about things that help me escape the rat race. Other sources of income and skills that can earn money. That leaves me to ask what happens when I actually escape the rat race? What will I be passionate about then now that my inner child has been murdered pretty deeply.
yeah, that inner child thing, I have been thinking a lot about it these last few days. its kind of sad. you kind of remember small things from that life when you were you. and not this empty vessel worked turned you into.
Man this video cut so deep. Ive worked my share of jobs over the years and im currently working a job where ive made the most money ive ever made but i also dont want to be here either. Its just a means of paying my bills. I have a business im working on the side as my way out of wage slavery but of course, building a business is anything but smooth. Heres to both of us making it out of wage slavery
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You are right, it's not depression because as soon as you have enough money to be free and escape work, the "depression" goes away. It is your soul telling you that this is NOT what you are meant to be doing......
No job is worth getting depressed about. Decades ago I had a phase of pursuing an IT job. After some time I landed a job but it was in a toxic racist environment. My manager was a bully. After being overloaded with too much work I took it to HR (at the time I thought HR were there to help 😂) the HR manager was friends with my manager so nothing got done. I got more work given to me and increasingly snide insidious comments from the manager. This got to me and I started to get depressed and suicidal....it was then I realised I needed to just quit...no job to go to just get out of there. Never felt so much relief once I quit. There was a little stress as the company threatened to sue me for breach of contract (leaving without notice) I told them to go ahead ...they never did
That is the truth, when you are in that state, lower vibration, you can be easily manipulated
@@skyblazeeterno And what's your job today?
@@punxsutawneyphil3944 I'm unemployed . Edited out my kneejerk bad comment
@@skyblazeeternoMan if only it was as easily as not wanting to work and quitting. Unfortunately bills are a thing and so is this lowkey unlivable economy we live in
*I'm leaving wage slavery and I'm gonna become a human again.*
WHO IS COMING WITH ME?
I'm on the same boat, left my golden handcuffs and now just work 5 hours a day or less, and am my own boss. Saving lots of money and less stressed,
Meee! Dunno how but I’m certain about it
before you're 65 like me.
@@michael-ph3jn The reality for most is that accumulating enough resources to be able to exit paid employment will take decades but most don't think about it until it's way too late or spend what they earn trying to make themselves feel better about life.
Agree
I literally view work as hell. It terrifies me. The hard crushing truth that I will have to go back to work soon is like a knife stabbing through my soul. People bragging about getting a new job is perplexing to me. "Work" is the opposite of "Life." Life BEGINS when WORK ENDS.
I know! every damn day! it is hell.
Well you can provide humanity with products and get paid that way? If you can't do that go hunting and harvesting cuz you can't keep yourself alive otherwise
@@TomScryleusWhen you have a child it's much harder as you are still extremely tired when in fact you need even more energy. And if you are a decent human being know and feel rightful GUILT not to give your best energy for your child since company has already drained it during that weekm
I believe you
Perhaps we should also go back live in caves? :)
I quit my successful career after 13 years and I’ve never been happier. I now work on a farm, it’s grueling but fun and I love it. I’m a better father and I feel like a human again
thats great! I envy you!
@@TomScryleus your videos are one of the reasons I left. Keep it up your doing good work my friend
Yes!
Its my dream to live simply like that one day. We weren't meant for the restrictive 9-5 workday. Its just not natural. Its why so many of us are depressed and anxious
@@creepcraddle we are depressed and anxious because we fear telling people,who do have power over us, the truth. You really shouldn't be facing dismissal for saying you're overworked or the company is dicking you around by not processing days off etc
My advice. Get a pool of money to act as a buffer so you can challenge things and lose fear of losing your job for being "difficult"
I feel you, as an introvert the worst part of work for me is having to make boring small talk with bloody awful people I wouldn't give the time of day to if I didn't have to lol
I resonate profoundly 😢
When you said, "Tomorrow is Monday," I felt dread. And I work from home.
Working from home is nice. But its not good enough.
I work remotely too but it has turned my peaceful sanctuary, my home into a prison
You cant win hey. Its a catch 22 any way you look at it, yes. Hillarious conclusion. Damned if you do damned if you dont. Is there a middle ground insight or what. You always feeling like you got one foot in heaven and the other in hell. Take the good with the bad, yes.
Society will soon find a way to have its cake and eat it too one day. That is, to have life but without suffering or bad so help them God. Give us the wisdom. We've gotta long way to go but as we evolve things will change for the better for those who seek change for the better and have a mission or purpose in life. Look how the horse and carriage has evolved into what it is today. Its evolved for the better. However,
AI is slowly but surely taking over jobs at the speed of light and its difficult to beat it or see it coming. Is man controlling AI or it man. And is it vicious. See Terminator for clues often in movies. We are playing musical chairs. A game. Thus, someone finds it amusing. And in any game you will have winners and losers, more losers than winners like in games. Ppl are slowly loosing thier (chairs) jobs, homes etc and even thier minds and bodies while playing this childish game. Everyone cant be on top or win at this game. Its cutthroat. Ppl who decided not to have kids as a result of looking at the state of the world and the movie Terminator aren't playing no games.
As one childfree woman states, why bring a being here to do something you yourself dont like and are you capable of providing a stable job, one they may like for them. Ppl dont like all work and no play. Ppl dont like to work bc it provides no pleasure. And like all rationally irrational beings they want thier cake and eat it too. I know i do at times and i should have it.🤔That is, a life work balance. It has to be a Better way bc the bitter one isn't working.
Peace out everyone. Think twice before bringing a child here is the best advice that can be given in todays climate or calamities.
I work from home too. The isolation after a while is not good. There is no work community on any level...it's you by yourself.
@@SongofaBeach2012exactly, the place where you eat relax and enjoy something turns in a dreadful prison cell mentally.
We are supposed to live near nature, growing, having animals for milk and food, farming. But today we are told to live on top of eachother, shopping modified food in big stores, sitting on an office doing nothing worth anything. We need to go back to the roots.
Walked away from a 20 yr career as a software engineer. Id been with this company for 12 yrs and one day in a sprint retro, I said "guys, I'm done."
That was 2 years ago. I spend my days riding my motorcycles, making stuff with wood, and spending time with my girl. Best decision I ever made.
but where do you get money for gas and basic needs?
I feel you. I am 18 years in that job, but still waiting for "that" Sprint Retro to come.
@@farmoboy83indeed. Everybody can quiet but then what…
How do you afford to do this? Did you pay off your mortgage?
@@farmoboy83 I would guess they have quite a lot of money. Not working and enjoying it is usually the privilege of the rich
I just started a new job and you have been a god send,
I thought I was just lazy and unmotivated but when I worked part time I was way happier.
You are not lazy. Your work is boring and you deserve better.
3:19 You have to pretend to be someone your not. This is how feel around everyone, not just work colleagues. This is why I have as little contact as possible with people. I’m just not compatible with them. I only feel my true authentic self when alone. Humans together are not authentic. I trust no one ever
Humanity is mostly horrible
I made a video last year, about my introvert side. Why I enjoy being alone.
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Why did we give up ourselves as home universes? To play an eternal game of “survival”. Time for me to be back home.
No one hates work and the entire concept of it as much as I do, but you Tom, are probably the only one that comes close. Great content as usual!
I take pride in that comment! :)
@@TomScryleus I mean every word :)
I believe you :)
When you're anti-work and anti-capitalist in a world that *only* values work and capitalism 😅
@@furiousdestroyah9999 exactly, but what do you mean by saying that? Just asking out of curiousity :)
Do you feel like work has made you less human?
or is it just me?
Yes, I feel the same. I also remember when I was a child or even at university I was full of life and entuziastic about everything. But now, after 14 years of corporate working I do not recognize myself: always tyred, bored, sad.
Work has certainly made Squidward Tentacles feel less human 🐙 🍔
Since a young age I thought I was weird and people normal having to work hard for someone else's dream, but I know now I'm not the only one. Working towards my escape, working for others sucks and drains the human out of us
I do feel the sunday blues and monday dread. Even I start later in the day (college) I like what I am studying but I do not like how working in general makes me feel. Sometimes they make you feel like they should be your priority but I have a life you know 😅
Well work HAS TO dehumanise people as it's all about profit and growth and efficiency so EVERYTHING gets quantified and measured often to absurd levels
Nothing excites me anymore, I rarely genuinely smile, I rarely genuinely laugh, and I dislike being around most people. I definitely feel less human. I think that wage slavery combined with COVID and middle age have done this to me. Now I expect to get comments about "manning up" and "making a better life" for myself.
I usually ignore people who say stuff like that because it's easy to guess their IQ.
@@GenerationX1984it's weird as to why those people are concerned with how another person lives their life? I suspect it's some form of deep down jealousy with the protestant work ethic still having too much a grip on people
Covid wasn't anything, it was the response to it that was so insufferable.
@@rabbiezekielgoldberg2497 That's what I meant. The whole situation of it.
@@skyblazeeterno Yup. Deep down they're jealous that someone else didn't fall for the unhealthy workaholic ethic hook line and sinker like they did.
Man, your videos are so relatable. You are describing a nightmare that I desperately want to escape forever, but I know is coming back! When you have spent a few years being free of work, but know that you have to return to it, that is when you really start to realize the magnitude of how bad it is. You can't get the proper perspective of how awful something is, until you escaped it for some time. Then it all comes back, and you think "I might have to go back to THIS again?" It is honestly terrifying.
thank you. Appreciate the kind words.
I will getout next year or so. And the fear of going back will hopefully drive me.
I hope..
Wow, this pretty much summed up everything I've thought and felt about work for most of my career. The analogy I use to explain my circumstance to others who dont understand is that when I'm at work, I feel like I'm being exposed to high levels of radiation. By the end of the work week, my energy and spirit are completely drained and I feel physically ill. I try to recoup over the weekend but it's not enough. The cumulative effects over 20 years are that I'm now just a shell of a human and prematurely aged beyond my years. Ive always had family depending on my income so I couldnt take big risks when I was younger. I only have 2 more years of wage slavery left and I'm financially independent and free to leave the workforce forever. My hope is that I can live a few more decades, post wage slavery, healthy enough to live like a kid again and try to enjoy this life. I hope the same for all of you. Keep on keeping on.
I read your words, and its like you read my mind.
Im glad you only have 2 years left. Enjoy the freedom when you get there. I will join you some day.
I can very well understand what you mean. You're right about everything. We're not made for a 9-to-5 job. A full-time job drains your energy. After work, you hardly have the energy or desire to do anything. On top of that, you're working for someone else's dream while you only get the crumbs that fall off. Most people just exist, they don't live: get up, go to work, eat, sleep. Then it starts all over again. In most cases, the salary is just enough to survive, which means buying food and having a roof over your head. This goes on until you reach retirement age. Is that the meaning of life? I don't see it that way. I don't have anything against work, I have something against work determined by others in a dependent employment relationship. I am against wage slavery. There must be other solutions.
System should be: very good at what you do, get a lot of money for it, afford to quit, do it, leave room for others to do the same
The worst part of slavery is when they get you to think that your only purpose is to be a slave. This is a common abuse tactic and sadly we gaslight ourselves into it. You hit the nail on the head with the masking point, I think the reason i resent work so much is that i gaslight myself into caring and being someone i am not. I will have to think on this as i think its very powerful. Great video as awlays!
thank you. I like that first sentance a lot. "The worst part of slavery is when they get you to think that your only purpose is to be a slave"
I might steal it for a future video :)
@@TomScryleus please do would love to see it!
@@TomScryleusit's almost like a cult. It starts in school and many times in the family. They got it from school, personal experience where maybe they or someone they know needed a job and didn't find one easily...fine, but it doeasn't need to be the same for everyone. They should consider that maybe some are luckier.
Not so easy to "just get another job" especially when you are older. Also it takes a lot of energy to look for another job and if you are burned out and just gutted from a lifetime of soul crushing work you have no energy to go to interviews and go through that hideous process.
True that. The process of job seeking itself is demoralising...they've made everything as hard as possible to drain as much energy and vitality out of us as they can.
💯💯💯
Even as a young person, in a dying economy, where having like multiple degrees is the bare minimum to even earn the right to not be treated as a dog at work and you have none. Just finding a single job is extraordinarily difficult, nevermind finding a good job
It’s by design, but don’t give up on who you’re truly meant to be. It’s a fight worth fighting.
Yes and with a permanent impairment (back injury) while serving in the military and you get hung out to dry it is extremely difficult to obtain a new job especially when you worked as a tradesman for the last 20 years and it’s almost impossible to do physical labour. 😢
I feel the same about work taking up so much emotional energy I have little left for fun stuff or potential side hustle. That makes me feel guilty that my time off is wasted. Your videos and comments from your followers do remind me that I am not the only one who feels that way.
I get annoyed when people say ‘just get another job’. We are in a recession in the uk, and retraining costs time and money
yepp.. its not easy to get a job. any job.
Same in the US. Apply and apply and apply, to hear nothing back. These companies are just gathering resumes to not hire, only to have us on backup.
There's not enough jobs. It's as simple as that. Businesses/capitalism loves unemployment as it keeps workers in their place
@@andromeda_25 probably far more accurate than the "official" figures of 1.5 million unemployed and 1 million jobs
@@andromeda_25And then you also gotta factor in ghost jobs which are around 80% of all job openings. There's like 1 real job opening per 10 people
The sadder thing is even after leaving wage slavery, you won't escape unscathed. It takes a toll which sometimes takes years to fix
You'll never be the same as before after abuse, even after escaping said abuse
Almost died on a job. Been on sick pay for 5 months. About 7 more to go.
Never felt so alive.
Haven't heard hardly any sign of living from my co-workers or boss since.
May Almighty God heal you.
I don’t want a nation of thinkers, I want a nation of workers.
JD Rockefeller.
His wish came true. A nation of unthinking stooges is modern America.
Most people are sheep celebrating the shepherd for protecting them from the wolf, unknowing that the shepherd only keeps them for their wool, milk and meat.
With all the porno, it's a society of wankers.
@@laaaliiiluuu also he's actively raising wolves in the wild to keep the sheep terrified.
F the Rockefeller’s.
here is another video I wasn't planning to make. It just happened. Hope you like it.
A new Tom video about work makes my week. Its so relatable
Hugs. I don’t know exactly what to say but that there are many that understand. Myself included. All this sapping of who you are does sucks
It's one of your best that I have seen so far. Impromptu and from the heart.
@@lw3427 thank you.
I just quit my job today and I don't have any remorse for doing so
I quit my job too! All the best for you! It was the right decision 😊
these last few days, I have been thinking a lot about the inner child I once was.
Its kind of sad. you kind of remember small things from that life when you were you.
and not this empty vessel worked turned you into.
Hey Tom I understand how you feel about this life it's pretty much all about slavery and I just wanted to say thank u for giving me the courage to quit my job today I really hated my job it was terrible but anyways thank you and I just wanted to say that I love you and Jesus loves you and he knows your pain and he's here for you please believe in him and trust that everything will be ok
Believe in Jesus Christ and accept him as your savior he loves you and he wants to save you salvation is a free gift u don't have to work for it it cannot be earned he paid for our sins on the cross so all we have to do is believe and trust in him
Let us not allow our children to suffer this system as we did.
Yes, but school (not uni, uni was the best) was so constraining for my soul that paid work was a welcome change. In my case, it really prepared me to be a worker, as its stated goal was back in the 19th century. By being worse than a job. Except for vacations...but even those, homework?! I shudder at the thought, even as someone that worked 16 hour days a lot this year. Homework was just evil :)
I can certainly relate - as a kid I used to have the Sunday evening blues thinking about going back to school and it's the same with work, probably worse and I get paid now! :)
I think much of it for me is the being told what to do and feeling constrained and trapped by the money, which lets face it is the main thing keeping most of us in the job's we dislike or seemingly lack of other options - but working on it!
Just wanted to mention your video editing is great, you can tell you're passionate about it, it really shows. :)
Hi Tom. The feeling is mutual! One topic that would be interesting to cover in future videos is HR. I have been let down by them at every company that I’ve ever worked for, they pretend like they’re on your side, when they really not.
Quite a few have been requesting a video about HR. I have no choice, its on my list. :)
HR is the most deceiving part of corporations.
HR isn't there to help you, they're there to manage humans as a resource. You're just a number to them. They're there to protect the company and their legal backside.
I'm always exhausted and always everyone else wants me to pay. Government, employer, family, everyone and all I want is my life back.
I can totally relate.
I actually said “yes” out loud when you said “fuck KPIs.” I work in public sector, and it’s just as soul crushing as the private sector. We spend more time talking about what we’re going to do, reporting on what we’ve done (including audits, performance reviews, endless nauseating bullshit, etc.), and answering email than actual work product. We’re in a purgatory of managerial make-work that feels like a penance for some horrible crime that none of us ever committed.
I hate those things :)
If you also do things you find meaningful and do them well, don't accept other tasks. They'll be forced to accept it if they cannot afford to lose you.
I want to add.... i wear different trainers and fragrances to break up the week, because days merge into one. In winter i have different jackets for every day of the week to add character to the day. I even change my base ball caps every day. 1980s were my child hood and boy did things change after my degree when i found my self commuting on the tube into central london and realised i had be programmed to become a wage slave. Reality hit me hard.
I love that!
Those are really good tips
Commuting in London is hell.
I escaped corporate slavery in 2015. Also left the U.K.
Gotta do whatever you can to stay true to you while doing your grind. Even if it's just something small, little things matter because you are you and you matter, even if your employer only sees ID numbers and never ending KPIs.
Left the rat race in 2020. Moved to Mexico from Sweden. Then met my future wife online. Now living in Florida building our dream farm. My soul was dead when I worked as a programmer in Sweden. I’ve never felt more alive than I do now. Never going back to office work again.
There is another aspect to your happiness that you probably arent aware off. I moved from Mediterranean country to Ireland and let me tell you the SAD(seasonal affective disorder) is a real thing. In my country it only lasted for a month or two at max but here its opposite. I only feel good for few months. Its not vitamin D, I supplement and eat well. Its lack of light. Red light specifically that signals cells to produce energy. You can get it even under clouds but you need more exposure. Problem in countries like Sweden and Ireland is that there is less light and also most of us work indoors and go to work before light comes out and get home once it sets. The body thinks its an apocalypse and shuts down the whole system. I use red light machine now to start my day and it helps but still it doesnt compare to being in sunny day.
This video explains exactly how I feel everyday. Thank you for this content, it is SO valuable. Much love from California ❤
my pleasure Nicole. thanks for the comment. appreciate it.
have a good week. or try to anyway :)
Some of us just aren't cut out for work. I have never had a 'real job' and get by on a subsistence income doing my own thing. I was freelancing for years, hoping that it would lead somewhere and it never did. AI came along and overnight I lost a substantial workload and clients ghosted me. Now I mow lawns. I am not going to work myself to the bone, life is too short and the things I enjoy most are either free or cost very little. I'd much rather have free time than more money. And then I know some very high achieving people who are entrepreneurs or in corporate jobs and seem happy. I can't understand that, I know that a job like that would be the death of me. We're all wired differently I guess..
One of the reasons why working needs to be a choice and not an obligation
@@furiousdestroyah9999 Lets not act like children now. Work should be mandatory because we live in society and things have to be produced and maintained. But working hours should be cut in half and more flexible. Nothing worse than coming into work 15 mins late and then being ask like a child in school why were you late? Pisses me off like nothing else.
@@outlander234 Things could still run just fine if people weren't forced to work. A person that isn't already burnt out by work/society would usually not really have anything against working, if you really think about it, it's all basic psychology. Why force somebody to begrudgingly do something when you can just make them want to do the thing instead?
In an ideal world basic necessities (food, shelter, etc.) would be guaranteed and if you wanted anything more than that you'd have to work for it.
The distress and pressure from it landed me in hospital due to having a crazy panic attack, which I thought was maybe a seizure. I've left since then. It sucks that it had to get to that point before I quit.
Did the exhaustion and head pressure go away after a while? I left after a massive panic ..
@@boatdoctors Yeah I do feel alot better, still stressed because I want to find a job that doesn't make me feel that way. Hopefully you feel better soon.
@@h.nqv1939 thank you for responding. I thought I would immediately feel better after leaving my job but I did not... ugg. I'm hoping there's healing
this hits so hard, it’s nice to know someone else feels like this. You have captured my life exactly. I would quit my job in a second, but then what? Gotta eat, gotta live somewhere, gotta pay bills. I hope TH-cam works out for you but it’s sad that there is no answer to the question except just keep on trying.
Thank you 🙏🙏
If you can't make it as a content creator you just gotta work until you die where you're standing. Either that or becoming homeless
Try to do something you're very good at doing, you'll be paid enough to save and get out early. Then from time to time get back in just to save the savings.
If you could finish those TPS reports, that'd be great, Thanks
haha.. no! :)
It’s the “that’d be great” for me grrrrrr 🤬
Sorry sir, we'll have to write you up😅@TomScryleus
‘ I’m just talking about fractions of a penny’ 😂
Office space! The funniest movie ever
Thanks Tom. Your videos are very helpful. I have made the decision to take 6 months away (long service leave) from work and have felt a little unsure about it. This is what over 25 years of full time work has done to me. I won't feel 'useful' and will feel guilty and 'unproductive' as the weeks and months go by.
This is where I have to start deprograming all the wage slave conditioning and become comfortable with how I choose to use my time rather than fall in with choices made for me by society.
Tom this video is pure art, these are not just practical videos that are a side hustle its true art. Art is something that conveys the human experience and touches people. Well this video and your channel in general have touched me greatly. I can tell you love filmmaking but i truly think the youtube video format is the best way to convey these thoughts no film could ever make me feel so understood and connected. I appreciate your content so greatly I listen to it every sunday night as i get work anxiety its the only thing that makes me feel like i can tackle the work week. I think you should take sponsors it wont detract from your content at all in fact i think the cherry on top is to make some extra income from these videos. They take an immense amount of work and mental bandwidth if you don't capitalize on that i think your subconscious will resent that. Cheers from a fellow wagie wannabie filmmaker in the USA!
Thank you for the kind words, and for sharing your thoughts. Appreciate it.
Masterpiece! best youtube video of the year!
Really moved me.
Im glad you liked it! :)
Thanks!
oh thank you!! :)
so kind.
did you like the video?
@@TomScryleus Yes. I was just thinking about my job the same way. I left Friday drained and I'm tired.
Still tired right?
Last week I finished the "self grading" part of the yearly performance review.
This is so that some anonymous HR person at corporate HQ to figure out if I have been a good cog in the machinery or not, and to adjust my salary accordingly.
I have a feeling that the employer really feel that we are humans either, if they did, someone who actually knew us would do the rating/adjusting.
I should make a video about HR someday.. worst people in the company.
From 2011 to 2016 I hated Sunday nights. They caused an anxiety knowing that my nightmare started over the next morning. I hated feeling hung over on Mondays but I would drink on Sunday nights, probably as a form of self sabotage. I left retail banking (glorified ass wiping) to open my own business. Left an $80k salary to make $18k the first year. Let’s just say I’ve 7X my first year earnings since then and growing at 16% per year. Best decision I’ve ever made hands down.
such a genuine and relatable introspection. i've seen hundreds of youtubers come and go due to burnout. you already have quite an audience. just imagine how big of a stadium your viewers would fill. i hope you can make the process enjoyable and keep making videos you are truly passionate about.
thank you for your kind words. really appreciate it more than you know.
I also felt this while volunteering on something I was very passionately about. In less than a year, it took its toll, and I was completely burned out. It was so mentally tiring, that I didn't even want to move. I sat still, not able to move, because I didn't want to make that effort of moving.
It’s very frustrating and archaic that this society is still adamant on 5-6 day work weeks. It’s all about humans controlling other humans. It’s gross and I’m beyond over it. Nobody cares about your health, sleep, or family. You have to look out for yourself and really try to find something that works for you because this system will drain and kill you, then move to the next. We are a society with an expendable and musical chair mindset. Why I’m not bringing kids into this absolute sh*t show.
I’m no follower but so many others are……it’s frightening. I like this channel……been watching for 10 mins. I’ll check out more.
Thank you. I try my best. :)
Have a nice week
What I don't get is how many people who actually and genuinely seem to enjoy working their 9 to 5 jobs. If I didn't have to I wouldn't work another day of my life. Wage slavery has brought nothing but anxiousness and unhappiness to me.
They say they would be bored otherwise. Well try it first :)
I wanted to be a composer - write music for movies. I have degrees in music Composition - a lifetime of debt. Have never held a livable job in music - even teaching as a professor at a university. It's a bankrupt world, classical music...I chose poorly, or my heart did.
It says a lot about the societies we've created -- and none of it good and all of it sad -- that you can't make a living as a composer or a professor, but you could probably get any old soul-crushing corporate job.
The problem with Society is a lack of value in the arts. Today a lot of it is “shock art” or “sensational” art that won’t be remembered in the long term. Art is judged by how you can make it a commodity whether it’s mediocre or even below average to sell , and not on its inherent worth of what it gives back to humanity in the long term. Everyone wants their children to experience the arts whether it’s in a concert or art museum but no one wants their child to be an artist because in their eyes, it’s wasteful and won’t make you big money, which they think makes a person worthy of society. I apologize for my rant but I hurt for this composer and hope that you will carry on. The world needs you!
I am in a very similar position (minus the degree in music composition). I would love to be a video game composer for a living. I am trying my hardest to get projects done on my down time, but it can feel nearly impossible to juggle my motivation to chase my dreams with the responsibilities of adult life. Add on top of that mental health issues and things can get really dark sometimes. I wish you all the best. I will never stop making music, even if nobody cares about what I do. I hope you do the same. All the best!
@@lad5329 It's not just the arts. If you want to do anything with QUALITY in mind, you can't seem to make money at it. Think about it. It's the garbage that sells because the money goes in to marketing and promotion rather than the product or service itself.
@l.5832 fascinating point - farm fresh vegetables are outrageously expensive. But add a million processing steps, move it around the world twice, and suddenly the crap becomes much cheaper. Most art is produced in a similar way and they are slowly removing humans from the process. Well, more quickly now that AI has begun running instead of crawling.
Best video you’ve posted so far Tom. Loving your content. Great work!
Thank you. :)
Always a good evening when a vid lands!❤
Already dreading the week ahead as you captured in your vid.
yeah I'm dreading it as well....
I'm in a position that I don't have to work, but, if I didn't I would have just enough to pay the bills from a small pension and savings. This would leave no money for holidays, strips out etc... The thing is I'd happily forgo these "luxuries" just so I don't have to return to a toxic work environment. Love this video, it really resinated with me - thanks
These conversations take such a different turn when you have children or dependents. Turns out I feel everything in this video, but being golden cuffed with dependents I don't feel I'll ever escape outside of sickness and death. Health insurance alone is a huge issue.
Amen my brother, i feel the exact same way...
Good work and keep it up.
Tom, you deserve a great deal of credit for turning down money on the table. It's deeply ethical, especially given the subject matter of this channel, and shows immense integrity. It's this strength of character that gets you through the hellish work week.
Thank you.
But at some point I will have colleborations.
Thank you for answering, "Why don't you get a job that makes you happy?" honestly. It is much more difficult than many people think. I can't just switch from my current profession to something completely different.
well i get that comment a lot. People who have great jobs, they think everyone else should have that too. but as I said, its just not that easy. :)
@@TomScryleus Indeed. And, the truth is, I used to love my job. But anything becomes boring and burnout-inducing after many years. Now, after being laid off, I find myself wondering if anything would make me happy work-wise. The answer is no. So it's not worth trying to find a new career.
100%.
but I just think there has to be something better than just finding a better job you know?
having more control over income.
Although I'm skeptical that that's the case, I'd probably start my search by finding organizations that 100% legitimately work for the greater good of the earth and its people. I can imagine enjoying a job much more if the work I do has a big, important purpose.
I think a lot of the problem is that word you said "profession". You have probably invested tons of money for your education that you haven't even paid off yet. Back in the Depression, unemployment was extremely high but you also could change careers without 6 years of university and a fortune of debt. You could be a teacher with one year of 'normal school'. Nursing, two years, and if you wanted to sell real estate, apply for a licence. University, if you have to go in to debt, enslaves you because you need the wages of that profession to pay off the debt to get in to that profession in the first place. I think the whole university pyramid scheme system needs to be re-thought.
I’ve realised how unhappy work makes me, my job isn’t that bad compared to some.
I had a week off last week, we went camping, sat around fires with my family, hiked, swam in rivers. It’s the most human I’ve felt in as long as I can remember. The week seemed to last forever and I genuinely felt happy, no anxiety, full of energy. I just think we’ve moved so far away from how we evolved and lived up til around 100years ago. Being sat staring at a screen all day is torture as it goes against every fibre of our being.
It’s this that made me a drug addict. At least at the end of a workday I can get so high I forget how unhappy I was. Repeat.
I like to work. I like accomplishing things. However, when the cost of living skyrocketed and my standard of living plummeted I too started feeling like a wage slave and now things feel so meaningless. Working my butt off to just barely get by. I don’t like this. I don’t know what to do.
Liking to accomplish things at work is the way to a better pay. Maybe you should make a scene about it, complain in a tough way, fight loudly for it, worked for me when I had something to show for it.
@@lucianboar3489 lol. I was offered a promotion at a small fish packing warehouse I was working at when I asked for more hours. The “promotion” was to a salaried position where I would have been making less per hour after all was said and done. So, while I agree with your suggestion, the reality of how it worked out for me was hilariously bad. Thank you for commenting. Best wishes to you.
@@BigDaddyDru noo, no promotions :) that's a scam to seemingly pay you more but you have to do even more. Unless you become a huge jerk and delegate the hell out of it to subordinates.
This is why you work hard for while and get out while you can.
thats the plan.
Yup. If you let the corporate culture get to you it sucks your soul dry and it's hard to feel alive again after that
If you're going to sell your soul...sell it for a good price...value yourself
Just gotta wait until retitement, wherever that is a few decades from now (it won't exist at that point 😂).
Seriously though, nothing pisses me off like meeting people irl that are retired and brag about it. Both because it's a privilege that will cease to exist soon and because it's a massive cope.
Congratulations, you sold most of your life away for a few years of peace before you croak and die. Now you get to actually live your life, on your wheelchair, with your dentures 😂
@@skyblazeeternoyep, I wouldn't do what I do in a heartbeat if I got paid less. Or I would accept less (not much less, of course) if I had to do only the tasks I would list as enjoyable (i.e. find meaningful) and not on a 9-5 basis. I'd do them on my own schedule, the only constraint being the deadline. Other than that, it's my problem when I work or not or decide to go on vacation and for how long.
I have been looking for a job that I can handle again for a year now and lately I started looking into it more and people asking me about it and my severe depression came raging back. I haven't slept in a week, bern crying, am angry with everyone for not helping me, and booked a doctor's appointment now for my own safety.
Hey! I recently discovered your channel and wanted to thank you for your work! Take care!
Thank you so much. Means a lot that you took the time to write that. 🙏
Have a great weekend Lukas! ❤️
I am a Case Manager at a homeless shelter in Florida. Even with that, the corporate feeling is still there with HR and Admin, but fortunately I can throw myself into my fun and peculiar type of clients! Great video and God can I relate. There are times I just look forward to the after-life!
I loved the pictures at the end of you in nature and your wife and Loke the dog. This is how I always think of you. I’m sorry you still have to go to work, Tom. Your videos are wonderful.
Thank you. :)
Trading time for money gets old, even if you do something you like reasonably well for a living. Monday rolls around and it’s such a drag. I feel like we have to snatch little tidbits of life out of the weekends and evenings and the few days off each year. It’s not really a fulfilling way to live and ends up so soul crushing after doing the same drill for decades.
When I drove to work everyday I imagined of just driving to the ocean instead... after a while seing the calls of my boss, asking me where I am and I just say- driving to the seaside- and hanging up. This thought never died over the years working there. And as depressing as this sounds... deep in my heart I knew as long as this thought comes up every day- I am still alive.
Work is dread indeed.... I recently had a month's break before starting work again, and am feeling it again....😅 Your video helps me think I m not alone
Working too much makes you a robot,this is how I feel.
we are in the same robot club then.. :(
Feeling like a robot
Watch it's metal brain corrode
-Megadeth: Symphony of Destruction...
Agree, stale tired disinterested fake. Everyone dislikes the game . Except to the sycophant , sociopath, to these type of people it's the game that is the job , not the product the company is producing.
I also started to feel like a robot. And my creativity has gone down the drain partially. Its like you are waking up to being trained like a dog
Or drone.
OMG i am so glad that i found your channel!! it's like we share the same mind and thoughts about life and work slavery! Excellent videos and very well presented! Let's hope one day we will be free
I love the depth and deep thinking of your videos they resonate with a lot of people.
Even as the most low-budget youtuber that exists(I don't even edit... don't know how), I skip videos too on the weekend.
Love your videos.
Thank you Lizzy. I think, its like a radio.
like, finding the right frequency to reach people.
and once I started to be more authentic, people heard my frequency.
Maybe that sounds silly. but thats how think of it.
@TomScryleus Yes, and you do a great job at communicating your frequency & people connect with it.Remember Aristotle,Plato, and Epicurus, were all are trying to find the meaning of life,what brings true happiness and this is in the year 300-400,so man has always been searching.Now it's harder because screens have taken over in person conversations....but this is better then war and famine 😉
The feeling you're describing is more like us all becoming zombies 🧟♂️ 🧟♀️ and robots, just doing something you're forced too make a living, which let's all be real we don't make enough to make a true living each month. That's why we have to find ways to make that money work for us. I'm doing this in my early 20s and don't regret it rather than not trying!
I quit my job a few months ago to study marketing, so that I can eventually start my own business. I'm never going back to the damn 9-5 office ever. No more coworkers keeping tabs on me to gossip and middle managers timing my toilet breaks. God I hate office politics.
I really appreciate your comment! It sounds like you're taking control of your life and making a huge shift toward something more fulfilling. Studying marketing and building your own business is a powerful step toward escaping the 9-5 grind. Wishing you all the best on your journey-no more office politics or micromanagement!"
This is an awesome video Tom. Lately, I have been feeling exactly the same way the closer I get to retirement age. Creating content makes me happy; however, I'm currently a slave to the machine right now. Soon freedom will come. Thanks for sharing.
You can't be forced to sell a little bit of your soul every day and feel good about your life.
So true
Amazing video! your best work so far!
thank you. :) :) :)
I have had depression since I was a child. I currently have a good handle on it. I have for a few years now. I am looking forward to the possibility of you making a video on your experience with depression.
people who haven't experienced it don't know how terrible it can be.
I have wanted to make a video about depression for a really long time.
But its a difficult topic to talk about for me, and also, you have to say the right things. you know?
but I will do that video some day. hopefully next year.
Groundhog day....over and over and over again. ..
I feel the same I work 3 days a week now and slowly starting to feel like me again, got energy can spend time with my kids with out snapping at them all the time, and can help my wife with her business and spend quality time with her. And able to do my own things and hobbies aswell aswell. Been working in construction for 27 years and it takes a toll on you mentally but mostly physically, and stated to notice problems with joints and stuff so decided I need to slowdown a bit, I notice all the older guys you retire are physically in a really bad way joint problems, vibration white finger and lung conditions from silica (cement) and asbestos (it’s everywhere). Finally getting a balance👍🏻
I work as a truck driver doing hard physical labor 50-60hr/week. It’s terrible. This wasn’t a career I chose. Just the only way I could find to make enough money to survive. It’s terrible. My plan is to quit and leave the area for somewhere less expensive by next August. Most people seem to feel the same way, they just don’t have any plans on improving their lives and instead focus on coping with it. Having a plan is the important part.
Love that after the show clip. Appreciate your stance on not taking money for those you don't align with. And making a living out of freedom while asking others to buy things that keep them enslaved?! And yes I know the work of being a content creator. I do it ALL on my own. It is A LOT.
As usual, thanks for sharing dude.
My pleasure
What an amazing video!!! Thank you for speaking on this.
Im so glad you liked it :)
This might be my favorite video so far because I'm easily flattered with a shout out!
No, seriously, I love how you keep tinkering and evolving your editing style, you keep adding little flourishes, camera movements, subtle sound editing, it's engaging without being aggressive (which I might fall victim too at times), and then just solid storytelling, pacing, and editing... So your escape of wage-slavery resides within your passion for something else, making videos. Hope it continues to make you passive income and keeps you inspired!
Really, curious if there is a sponsor that would align with your content, but I can totally see how difficult that would be. Better Help sponsors a lot of creators (which in theory seems good) but every time they do, I read the comments about something apparently unethically the company did... So even if you do find a company you believe in, I'm sure you'll get push back as very few companies have a clean record and many resent sponsored content altogether.
Yet, maybe a website builder or something like that might make sense for helping people who want to change careers or be self employed.
Thank you! Glad you liked it. I like the video too. I was trying some different techniques, and I had SO much fun working on the editing. The closest thing to being a kid again. you know? :)
I should have tinkered with with it a bit more though, but it got late on Sunday, and Loke (the dog) was interrupting me and reminding me that I need to go downstairs and spend at least some time with him, my wife and the cat! :)
Regarding sponsorship, I think I need to reach out to the companies I want to colaborate. The requests I keep getting are a bit... well.. not for me. :)
BetterHelp is something that I want to actually try, and then if I like it, I would love to get sponsored by them, because the idea som sounds awesome.
Yup, the way the economic system is structured is what's causing people to think they're depressed.
Tom talks whimsically about chiildhood, and I think about that too, because not having the responsibility of bringing in money all of the time was great. But I had the same kind of dread, maybe even more, as a child on Sunday evenings, or at the end of summer vacation, as I face as an adult going to work the next day. It's the dread of my freedom going away. I think having freedom is wired into my psyche somehow.
I❤ your truthful and honest videos, especially today's topic🎉
This video restored my faith in youtube
thank you for the kind words.
Since i worked in a toxic place I started feeling like I was supposed to be a robot
I have had an outside of work activitie for nearly 30 years something I really enjoy, and more to the point "get lost in " time becomes irrelevant. Because i love it and have done it for so long i have become very good at it, good meaning people have said you should make money out of it. Yes but then it becomes a job a business . I would not trade the joy, excitement , escape, peace of mind of my hobby for all the money in the world.
That's not necessarily the case but is an understandable fear
I was thinking a lot about subject.
And I saw your video.
Thanks
The five acts that you created for this video demonstrate that you are a deep and evocative playwright. The emotions, experiences, sensation, and thoughts described in this video are distilled with epic qualities of Shakespearean tragic plays. The first thing that crossed my mind when I was watching your video is the Japanese concept of Wabi-sabi - a world view that embraces the acceptance of a perfectly imperfect life - a possible/hypothetical solution to the issues mentioned in the video. However, this Japanese concept would not work here as your story is an onion made up of many psychological and mental concentric layers. This video also reminds me of the play written by Samuel Beckett, Waiting for Godot. The protagonists in this play have experienced a sense of entrapment, the slow and piercing erosion of their lives, and a form of purgatory in which they find it difficult to escape……
The most beautiful, meaningful, and memorable part of this video is the Proustian depiction of your childlike imagination, childlike joy, and childlike enthusiasm: “A time of playing, just being, and stuffed animal, everywhere. Do you remember building forts out of blankets and chairs? Do you remember when you enjoyed every second of your life?”
This video makes the themes and idealism of Le Petit Prince story(Antoine de Saint-Exupéry) come alive.
Thanks, :) Tom
Problably the nicest comment I've read today. :)
it will keep me smiling all week hopefully.
IM not familiar with some of the names you mentioned. But I will check them out.
Appreciate the honesty, it's all corporate BS, all just nodding along in team meetings, I think most think the same as us, it's all garbage, though if I'm being paid I do the best I can always, whilst others get away with tossing it off. Stick to your own morals, take the money, beware of those around you at work, but don't let the bastards grind you down.
This was very interesting.You are a unique person.Thanks.
Yeah, it's sad. Like you, I'm also these days just passionate about things that help me escape the rat race. Other sources of income and skills that can earn money. That leaves me to ask what happens when I actually escape the rat race? What will I be passionate about then now that my inner child has been murdered pretty deeply.
yeah, that inner child thing, I have been thinking a lot about it these last few days.
its kind of sad. you kind of remember small things from that life when you were you.
and not this empty vessel worked turned you into.
Man this video cut so deep. Ive worked my share of jobs over the years and im currently working a job where ive made the most money ive ever made but i also dont want to be here either. Its just a means of paying my bills. I have a business im working on the side as my way out of wage slavery but of course, building a business is anything but smooth. Heres to both of us making it out of wage slavery
THANK YOU. We WILL make it out!
Tom, best talk yet.
Thank you for enlightening me.
glad you liked it.
Great video - one of your best so far : )
Good video this one. I watch Near Death Experience videos too, to cope with this side of de veil 😢
thank you. glad you enjoyed it.
Känner igen den känslan alldeles väl. Det jobbiga är att försöka hitta sig själv igen. Toppen video.
tack Michael. :)