As young men, we're fed to be nice towards girls in order to win their affection and love. What you've described is what's missing, the raw masculine energy that has led to many great inventions and ideas that have launched the human race forward over thousands and thousands of years. Thank you for this video David, our gender needs these types of videos in order to understand what we must do to improve ourselves both internally and externally.
dont take sides, just show affection when you feel it and show your masculinity when you feel it, the problem with nice guys or bad guys is that they are choosing one side of them and shunning the other, the truth is every man has a nice and a bad guy in him, just need to learn to show it at approriate time which is usually when you feel like it
I appreciate that you don't shit on women like many of these other "alpha" channels do it gets old really fast and it takes away self-accountability and responsibility for their own roles that men play and ends up just sounding whiny in the end. Real men get the fuck up, brush themselves off, learn, and move on. Good stuff!
Just meet a girl who can appreciate your kindness. If you need those advice videos because of a girl, she is not the one for you. If you meet a right girl, you don’t even need those advices.
This is what we called “The difference between being assertive man and being submissive/passive man.” We don’t need to be aggressive to control or overpower people, neither to be submissive to be controlled by others.
I love what you say man. Not only are you aware of the essential key to become successful as a man, but you also put value in being kind. I believe kind stems from pure and good intentions, and being only nice stems from insecurity and fear, a need for admiration or lack of self-love as you said before.
I still believe being yourself is most important if you're a nice guy continue to be that because eventually you'll attract a girl who loves how nice you are changing yourself for a girl is always a bad idea
i think its more about just not being extra nice/too nice, like a tryhard for avoidance. if you're a nice person, then you're a nice person, if youre more egotistical, you're that. you would wanna still try not to overdo whatever your tendency is, overdoing it will just lead you to the same failures you've had previous
So I'm guessing this also applies to holding your ground/standing up to yourself and for others in order to protect your values/beliefs. And also basically not to be a people pleaser and not allowing to fully compromise yourself (not setting boundaries). These videos are really making me think deeply and philosophically. Love your content man!
Your videos came up on my recommendations, and I appreciate what you are doing so much. THANK YOU for breaking down the “nice guy” facade. 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 As a woman with a ton of strong feminine energy, finding a man, who has that genuine service based kindness rooted out of masculine energy, to match with is so rare. But once I experience it (which has only happened a few times), it’s absolutely magnetic. Your explanation has enlightened me. Thank you. Men, please listen up. We (our Global society) needs this.
You can be a nice guy in its actual full definition, one of the major problems is that majority of self proclaimed nice guys aren’t actually nice guys! They are ‘ACTING’ nice to try and get the girl, buying flowers and chocolates, for no reason at all, wining and dining, being overly spoiling for no real reason at all, and then they get angry when they don’t get what they are wanting back in return. They don’t get laid, or they don’t get prioritised, or the girl chooses someone else over them! They get abusive, and toxic! That is not being a nice guy! That is a trade! They are trying to ‘BUY’ that chicks favour or attention, and that is manipulative as fuck!
Love that you’re concentrating all these extremely important information into one TH-cam channel. You’ve uploaded videos on every subject covered by well known guys and made it whole lot shorter and I would say somewhat more practical. Now I can just forward your channel to friends instead of cherry picking videos from Jordan Peterson, Elliott Hulse, Rollo Tomassi etc
Love your contents! Thanks for putting these knowledge and insights about healthy masculinity out to many guys. We really need more men with this awareness and ownership.
Wow. I did not expect this at all and I'm a woman. You really made me question a lot of things I had taken for granted. I used to define nice very differently until I saw this. I agree, we and I mean a lot of women including me are looking for men who are kind and generous and helpful but we confuse that with "niceness". I am so glad I watched this video. I have been trying to move on from a situation where I felt grateful that someone was "nice" to me, that made me make up stories of what-ifs in my head. Not trying to put him down, I didn't know him well enough to know where his heart was and where he was in his own journey of growth so this made me look at the situation a lot more objectively, and question what I consider is nice and whether that is in any way harming me. Really good job!
Don't give them advice...if someone comes to you with their problems, listen to them, give them advice only once, and never give them help ever again...you have your own life to live, learn the simple power of the word "No"...
Very insightful video. I’ve been binge watching them a bit and I needed these wake up calls. I’m really curious on the books you were talking about. I would love to read them for myself
5:09-5:54 ty so much. I have seen those other channels that do claim all those things you’ve said; which I do see there pov, but as you said at the end of the day it really comes from a hurt place on their behalf. something about it was just morally wrong to me. Thank you. I’m new to your channel and will definitely be following you for a long time . Best of luck - mate cheers 🙏🏽
My girl is mad at me for being too nice, because someone told her that she is behaving like a kid, and she saw that in herself and i failed to tell her
You said here in the video hit me hard. Hehehe yes i am really a nice person, i also seldom voice out what ever is in my thoughts, To make the story short. Everything you said here really make sense to me.. its like building inner strength of a real man, thank you hehehe
I agree with what is being said I myself been told I was to nice don't get me wrong I have a dad and sometimes he was a jerk also he was nice and respectful with my mom he wasn't a pushover growing up he had more than one job and was lad off a few times. My mom didn't talk down to him he spent many days trying to get a job 3 mounths late he was able to be more of a responsible farther. My dad has taught me many responsible things in life when he wasn't home he tells my mother to tell us what to do. Yes women want men that are a challenge and assertive leaders there is a difference between a nice guy that's a pushover meaning weak beta male simp or doormat. The reason I was being nice because so many women I have seen been hurt by jerks I just didn't want to be to much like one and I learn not to be a pushover.
In another way to look at this is more like nice guys arent really that sincere. Women seem to consciously or subconsciously know, the only reason why they are that nice is because they want something out of this interaction. Cuz if you think about it, probably even the girl's parents arent even that nice to her, so isnt that suspicious?
Nice guy - a codependent oppressed man who had an arrogant and controlling mother and he never had a chance to stand up against his own mother and to stand up for himself finally to create his own space and not be in a fear of women. That's how I see it. It is a person exactly as you said - who will bit their tongue just not to say anything just not to create conflict. It is a very weak and traumatized person who hasn't discovered the warrior within (yet).
I think the takeaway here is to be genuine, not to be fake. If you're not a nice person, then don't try too hard to be nice. If let's say you're a nice person, then stay that way. Also, there's a big difference between being generally nice and being "nice". A generally nice person, is a giver. He does not need validation because he can give without expecting return. That is a very raw form of masculinity. Whereas being "nice" means you're nice to people because you want them to like you back. This is not a genuine mentality and you're constantly in vain out of fear of being dislike.
I apologize for those kinds of women too as they exist because of the issues they have had with men. It's a vicious circle that this new world is changing. This again comes down to balancing our masculine and feminine energies within us all. Heal ourselves and in turn we heal the world, male or female.
My opinion, is that women, do not like controlling or abusive men. The traditional thing is that they do look for leadership qualities in men. That they take leadership role to some extent within the relationship. Not controlling abusive persons. (It is weak)
I think the question is being changed from what the common and burning question really is. Nice is NOT synonymous with weak. Weak is weak. Most all people understand why most women don't like a weak guy. That is not a mysterious subject. The burning question is why many women leave a strong, nice, good and decent, hard working man in exchange for a low-rent, low character, do-nothing garbage of a person, who only exhibits behavior that he cares for nobody but himself. That is what people have been scratching their heads over. And it is quite prevalent.
@@danh4435 I read the Quran in English, where a full chapter is about Lukman. It is the best advice ever given & I recommend it to any parent for their kids. Despite what the mainstream media talks about Muslims, I find the Quran to be the best source for peace. Thanks
Good video, had some helpful tips, I appreciate it! however.. Women are manipulative bro lol. It does not mean we should hate them, despise or dislike them, it's just their nature. It's very important for all men to know that when dealing with women. Whether they choose to date, get into relationships or even marry. It's important to know how women are.
As a girl who has been dating but hasn't ever been in a relationship I can say with confidence that bad guys ain't shit but some nice guys can also be as bad as the ultra Chad's. What I have noticed is that there are not many genuine nice guys or people in general they pretend they are nice but in return if you are not willing to give them sex after two dates they just ghost you or act like I owe them that. The bad guys try to hard to act like they are something they are not they always put on a show and try and impress you but it all ends up being a huge turn-off because like dude chill what fucking age do you think we live in. There was only one guy I actually liked. He was sweet and kind and actually nice but could stand up for himself wasn't afraid to give his opinion on things even if we had different ones and was willing to hear me out if he did not agree with mine. It was fun talking to him and a day could pass with us just hanging out and it would feel like that was too short. Unfortunately I had to move away and we lost contact I sometimes wonder if I will ever meet someone like him because so far I only keep finding ugly personalities with nice looking faces.
Dominance over others and aggression towards others is being dependant on others. Real strength is energy directed within overflowing outside. It is not hurt or influenced by external factors.
Damn y'all this guy speaks light years of Truth however I'm going to add one stipulation and that is that you have to also understand that he is saying this from a young man's point of view. Like for real I give this dude respect cuz I believe what he is saying is true, however you have to realize the stereographics, the nature of women, my dude it is mostly younger immature and shallow women who want a man to be there "rock" so they can personally feel good about themselves and the relationship their in. As women mature, and hell gain alittle wisdom they will still look for the masculine energy but they will also look at other qualities as well. It is a known fact that when you start to get to know somebody better you judge him more by their personality and less by looks, masculine alpha energy etc.
I know I’ve commented a lot but being nice is good. But for the right reasons. Plus being manly and doing you. You should have the packaged deal. If you’re just nice, that’s fake. Everyone has different emotions than just being nice. Something is wrong if you’re just being nice. Hell, it’s like a disorder. You don’t get mad? You don’t act like a jackass sometimes? You don’t disagree with people? You don’t have passion or things you like for yourself? Get it? We all have that. Being just nice is literally driven by misdirected motives. It’s manipulative too. If a guy was to tell me it’s ok I’m being nice and respectful to her. I’d ask him why. He’s knows damn well it’s to get the girl. Well it shouldn’t be a fuckin mission.
From a woman and strong single mom, nail on the head!! We want a strong man, strong in will, in faith, confident, a leader. "Nice" guys are timid, unsure of themselves, no opinions, cannot make decisions, not willing to explore...
As a more mature guy in his late 40's ..In good health and good condition ... I DON'T CARE what woman think or like ..I am MY OWN MAN ... If you don't like me.. REGARDLESS OF WHAT YOU HAVE BETWEEN YOUR LEGS .... Close the door on the way out please.. I do NOT care ..
So if this is true,...what women are looking for is all self serving. When her initial interest and then later, her continued presence, devotion and faithfulness is all dependent upon what she is getting FROM you,..This describes something that is quite the opposite of love. Love is dependent upon nothing. Its the very thing that sets it apart from being fond of someone, infatuated or liking someone. Those are things that are dependent and perishable. They are not completely selfless. If this is both acceptable and true then we've all been sold a lie.
I'm not just a nice guy but I'm a freak before humanity. Women thought they were above me. Nothing they do is good enough for me and they think that all I'm worth their mediocrity. I've had to fight against that mentality for a while. I've lost all of the women. Even if they are around I don't have them. I'm not treated like a human being, when I see other men I feel inferior to them. They give me the impression that I owe them approval for me to live my life. I 've never felt as lonely and angry as I have in these past years. I've never felt the temptation for suicide as I have today. I might may be a long ways from home or I may be close I don't know. I know that I'm tired.
Stop being nice fellas . Call her out on her bullshit !! Trust me , they’ll respect you more in the long run . Also, don’t text everyday ...create distance and then come back . It drives them crazy.
Who has time to be calling a grown ass person out on they bs just leave her alone move on to the next. Thats what i did when i was single and just dateing
There is nothing wrong with being a "nice" person. The problem is many guys, especially men raised by their moms, believe that being nice to a woman is all they need to build sexual attraction. Wrong! Being nice without possessing masculine traits does not build sexual tension. Women see stereotypical "nice guy" behavior as off-putting. Women see nice guy behavior as weak, timid, submissive and feminine. Most women want men that are masculine, confident and assertive. Women are attracted to masculine energy which allows them to express their feminine energy. A confident masculine man is a man who knows who he is and what he wants. He does not seek approval or validation from women. He is unapologetic im standing by his convictions and his purpose. He has self respect and he sets boundaries and doesn't let people walk all over him. These masculine traits build sexual tension and attraction. Women feel protected and secure with masculine men. But there is a also a difference between a masculine, confident man and an aggressive, arrogant man. Many women fail to make this distinction and often find themselves in toxic relationships with bad boys or abusive men. These men possess masculine traits but have little to no integrity. And they are often very insecure and over compensate by acting arrogant and overly aggressive. They often lack purpose and can lead women down a bad path. Most modern women gravitate to these toxic men because so many men nowadays lack masculine traits
Why women hate nice guys? Nope, You and I, WE, can only guess, we can't be 100% sure. There are different kinds of women out there just like there are different kinds of men. And unless we study or made a career out of human psychology, we cannot 100% understand how a woman's mind works. But one thing is for sure. All caps, TACT. You can be tactful and still express what you want to express without giving off the impression of being rude.
IMO it's quite common for women to shit-test a man by engaging in behaviors or setting conditions in a relationship that she on some level knows are demeaning or undermining. The self-repressing nice guy response in that situation confirms to her that the man will make decisions against his own interest and, in a partnership, hers as well. She may stick around to scoop up the benefits of his desire to please her but her attitude will devolve into contempt, the surest (according to Jordan Peterson) relationship killer.
Okay here's my scenario I'm introverted and shy and have parents who brought me up conservative so I am always nice I wanna know what should I do to flip the script around I'm 24 and people know me as Mr nice always but I feel no one takes me serious and am willing to change ps I live in India love your content you earned a subscriber today my first life lesson channel I hope I can get all my bad habits and vices out soon thanks brother
@1Scuter thanks for that man I feel much better after reading this I will try this and get back once I'm a better man and thanks for that book suggestion will read it ASAP
Hope you guys enjoy the video! As always self-development coaching/course down below. Cheers! 🤟☺️ www.self-developed.com
Please send me the 5 books every man should read
Women loves kind gentlemans man
Iv been single for 9 years i rather die single to end my generation
As young men, we're fed to be nice towards girls in order to win their affection and love. What you've described is what's missing, the raw masculine energy that has led to many great inventions and ideas that have launched the human race forward over thousands and thousands of years.
Thank you for this video David, our gender needs these types of videos in order to understand what we must do to improve ourselves both internally and externally.
Weston 1878 100% brother. 1 step at a time, let’s kill this! 👊🔥
dont take sides, just show affection when you feel it and show your masculinity when you feel it, the problem with nice guys or bad guys is that they are choosing one side of them and shunning the other, the truth is every man has a nice and a bad guy in him, just need to learn to show it at approriate time which is usually when you feel like it
Weston 1878 yea be ur self u will get better
Good luck with that lol
This youtube channel will thrive
Moto Rem Cheers bro!
You were right :D
It did.
INVEST AND HODL
I appreciate that you don't shit on women like many of these other "alpha" channels do it gets old really fast and it takes away self-accountability and responsibility for their own roles that men play and ends up just sounding whiny in the end. Real men get the fuck up, brush themselves off, learn, and move on. Good stuff!
Just meet a girl who can appreciate your kindness. If you need those advice videos because of a girl, she is not the one for you. If you meet a right girl, you don’t even need those advices.
Amen
So true 👌
PREACH!!!
I need kindness. Personally. But assertive enough to protect me
Yuupppp, remember people not all woman are the same and their are over a million in your country lol
Fact 👌
This is what we called “The difference between being assertive man and being submissive/passive man.” We don’t need to be aggressive to control or overpower people, neither to be submissive to be controlled by others.
Please, you can even control your mom
Skura Reiza fuck him tbh I can be as aggressive as I want smh
females like balanced men, neither overly submisive or overly dominant
best tip is dont be afraid to show your manlyness or your soft side
That’s fair bro🙏🤜🤛
But many woman don't like men with a soft side
@@jeffpro8That is true
100%
this one was really insightful man
Thanks a lot , keep doing the good work ! Lots of respect !
Cheers brother! Let's get it!
I love what you say man. Not only are you aware of the essential key to become successful as a man, but you also put value in being kind. I believe kind stems from pure and good intentions, and being only nice stems from insecurity and fear, a need for admiration or lack of self-love as you said before.
I still believe being yourself is most important if you're a nice guy continue to be that because eventually you'll attract a girl who loves how nice you are changing yourself for a girl is always a bad idea
i think its more about just not being extra nice/too nice, like a tryhard for avoidance. if you're a nice person, then you're a nice person, if youre more egotistical, you're that. you would wanna still try not to overdo whatever your tendency is, overdoing it will just lead you to the same failures you've had previous
I will always remain a nice guy and never become a bad guy I will not change for anyone
So I'm guessing this also applies to holding your ground/standing up to yourself and for others in order to protect your values/beliefs. And also basically not to be a people pleaser and not allowing to fully compromise yourself (not setting boundaries). These videos are really making me think deeply and philosophically. Love your content man!
I always come back to these older videos. Nothing beats em
I appreciate men who are nice guys. They really melt my heart. If they are secure in their masculine energy that’s even better.
You contradicted yourself. Just used an oxymoron.
are you in your 30? lol
@Rohit Mukherjee Do you have any friends?
Contradictory with the last sentence
@Rohit Mukherjee they are already doing it brother
Bro... thank you for all you do, you are changing many lifes including mine
top quality video as usual. nothing but respect for you David!:)
Cheers homie!
He is a real man ..he respects women and not controlled by insecurities
Your videos came up on my recommendations, and I appreciate what you are doing so much. THANK YOU for breaking down the “nice guy” facade. 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 As a woman with a ton of strong feminine energy, finding a man, who has that genuine service based kindness rooted out of masculine energy, to match with is so rare. But once I experience it (which has only happened a few times), it’s absolutely magnetic. Your explanation has enlightened me. Thank you. Men, please listen up. We (our Global society) needs this.
You can be a nice guy in its actual full definition, one of the major problems is that majority of self proclaimed nice guys aren’t actually nice guys!
They are ‘ACTING’ nice to try and get the girl, buying flowers and chocolates, for no reason at all, wining and dining, being overly spoiling for no real reason at all, and then they get angry when they don’t get what they are wanting back in return. They don’t get laid, or they don’t get prioritised, or the girl chooses someone else over them! They get abusive, and toxic! That is not being a nice guy! That is a trade! They are trying to ‘BUY’ that chicks favour or attention, and that is manipulative as fuck!
Ya agreed,they woo girls like a simp and are often confused with themselves
I just left one of those 😃
I learned this the hard way. I wanna change the way I am. I can't wait to get my hands on the book.
Love that you’re concentrating all these extremely important information into one TH-cam channel. You’ve uploaded videos on every subject covered by well known guys and made it whole lot shorter and I would say somewhat more practical. Now I can just forward your channel to friends instead of cherry picking videos from Jordan Peterson, Elliott Hulse, Rollo Tomassi etc
Love your contents! Thanks for putting these knowledge and insights about healthy masculinity out to many guys. We really need more men with this awareness and ownership.
what up you old hag. how you doin
I think girls prefer mean boys rather than nice boys. Actually that’s a fact, don’t be a simp.
No. I’m a girl and when guys aren’t caring and nice towards me or other people I become uninterested lol
@@shwty8753 all of you are 2 face dishonests
Not mean, its different,
@@shwty8753 fair enough, now that I read back on my statement I feel like I was wrong, you just gotta be yourself.
@@shwty8753girls like u are rare though
this channel, is a gem
i can't believe i just found out about your channel..subbed!
Nati’s perspective 🙏🙏
Experiences taught things differently : Perfect Example : Enjoy this lovely mind set bro. Thanks for such lovely videos. Godbless
I like the way you talk and just say whatever in your mind I respect that👍🏻
Wow. I did not expect this at all and I'm a woman. You really made me question a lot of things I had taken for granted. I used to define nice very differently until I saw this. I agree, we and I mean a lot of women including me are looking for men who are kind and generous and helpful but we confuse that with "niceness". I am so glad I watched this video. I have been trying to move on from a situation where I felt grateful that someone was "nice" to me, that made me make up stories of what-ifs in my head. Not trying to put him down, I didn't know him well enough to know where his heart was and where he was in his own journey of growth so this made me look at the situation a lot more objectively, and question what I consider is nice and whether that is in any way harming me. Really good job!
The beginning had me thinking I disagree, but you make valid points
Ok we weren't born "nice" something or someone must have programmed that weakness into us as children.
Ya in general we all are taught to be nice cause its like a rule of nature.
THANK YOU for this video. From a woman’s perspective he is so right!
im doing this man, and they called me selfish. when some things go wrong with their life, they always asked for help and guide from me , so sad.
Don't give them advice...if someone comes to you with their problems, listen to them, give them advice only once, and never give them help ever again...you have your own life to live, learn the simple power of the word "No"...
OMG!! First man who gets it!! This is the truth behind this!! Really good explanation described!! Thank you for this video!!
David's the best looking rock I know ;)
hahaha cheers brotha !
Hahahahahahahahahahahaha
I love your energy man, subscribed!
Very insightful video. I’ve been binge watching them a bit and I needed these wake up calls. I’m really curious on the books you were talking about. I would love to read them for myself
bro you are so great you give value to our lives
Be this be that!! C'mon people
Key is always to be YOURSELF
Thank you for the wisdom man! 💪
Ube 100p brother! 🔥📈✊
Really great video man, thank you!
5:09-5:54 ty so much. I have seen those other channels that do claim all those things you’ve said; which I do see there pov, but as you said at the end of the day it really comes from a hurt place on their behalf. something about it was just morally wrong to me. Thank you. I’m new to your channel and will definitely be following you for a long time . Best of luck - mate cheers 🙏🏽
LOVE IS JUST FANTASY
Nice guys can also be hard when need be!
there is a reason the term simp is a thing
“Waste no more time arguing what a good man should be. Be one.” - Marcus Aurelius
I love ur topics. They are such IMPORTANT to get that balance in relationship, in life.
Thank u very much,
Sameer, from Melbourne
My girl is mad at me for being too nice, because someone told her that she is behaving like a kid, and she saw that in herself and i failed to tell her
And if you tell her that she will argue with you
Your videos help me so much David
You are the best
Keep on making videos
I have a question women always talking about they want a man that can protect them. Protect them from what
This video is best, I really like what this man saya.. its exactly what I need to know.. best info I ever heard
Powerful stuff 🙏🏽
You said here in the video hit me hard. Hehehe yes i am really a nice person, i also seldom voice out what ever is in my thoughts, To make the story short. Everything you said here really make sense to me.. its like building inner strength of a real man, thank you hehehe
I agree with what is being said I myself been told I was to nice don't get me wrong I have a dad and sometimes he was a jerk also he was nice and respectful with my mom he wasn't a pushover growing up he had more than one job and was lad off a few times. My mom didn't talk down to him he spent many days trying to get a job 3 mounths late he was able to be more of a responsible farther. My dad has taught me many responsible things in life when he wasn't home he tells my mother to tell us what to do. Yes women want men that are a challenge and assertive leaders there is a difference between a nice guy that's a pushover meaning weak beta male simp or doormat. The reason I was being nice because so many women I have seen been hurt by jerks I just didn't want to be to much like one and I learn not to be a pushover.
Love your videos ,respect bro!❤💪🏽
Not all women hates nice guy but to those who don't like good men, well it's their choice. Go to next!
There is a difference between a nice guy and a guy who is nice
In another way to look at this is more like nice guys arent really that sincere. Women seem to consciously or subconsciously know, the only reason why they are that nice is because they want something out of this interaction. Cuz if you think about it, probably even the girl's parents arent even that nice to her, so isnt that suspicious?
Nice guy - a codependent oppressed man who had an arrogant and controlling mother and he never had a chance to stand up against his own mother and to stand up for himself finally to create his own space and not be in a fear of women. That's how I see it. It is a person exactly as you said - who will bit their tongue just not to say anything just not to create conflict. It is a very weak and traumatized person who hasn't discovered the warrior within (yet).
Now i feel better, thanks man
I think the takeaway here is to be genuine, not to be fake. If you're not a nice person, then don't try too hard to be nice. If let's say you're a nice person, then stay that way. Also, there's a big difference between being generally nice and being "nice". A generally nice person, is a giver. He does not need validation because he can give without expecting return. That is a very raw form of masculinity. Whereas being "nice" means you're nice to people because you want them to like you back. This is not a genuine mentality and you're constantly in vain out of fear of being dislike.
A nice guy does the favours with expecting something back.
To the point 👌🏻💯
Always brother!
I apologize for those kinds of women too as they exist because of the issues they have had with men. It's a vicious circle that this new world is changing. This again comes down to balancing our masculine and feminine energies within us all. Heal ourselves and in turn we heal the world, male or female.
Leah Justyce Artist that’s t! 🙏❤️
Why do we even have this set up, that being nice it's a good thing?
finally ive found the video i been looking for
My opinion, is that women, do not like controlling or abusive men. The traditional thing is that they do look for leadership qualities in men. That they take leadership role to some extent within the relationship. Not controlling abusive persons. (It is weak)
I think the question is being changed from what the common and burning question really is.
Nice is NOT synonymous with weak.
Weak is weak.
Most all people understand why most women don't like a weak guy. That is not a mysterious subject.
The burning question is why many women leave a strong, nice, good and decent, hard working man in exchange for a low-rent, low character, do-nothing garbage of a person, who only exhibits behavior that he cares for nobody but himself.
That is what people have been scratching their heads over. And it is quite prevalent.
Your channel will blow up trust me.
Amazing. I can't believe I didn't find your vids earlier.
There's a great saying by Lukman the (wise). Don't be so sweet people swallow you up nor so bitter they spit you out .
Hi Dan, That Lukman (wise man) his advice is in the Quran. Read the full detail by downloading the English Quran!
Foday k Ceesay really I seen it online randomly so I quoted it
@@danh4435 I read the Quran in English, where a full chapter is about Lukman. It is the best advice ever given & I recommend it to any parent for their kids. Despite what the mainstream media talks about Muslims, I find the Quran to be the best source for peace. Thanks
Women like nice guys, not pushovers.
Also being “too nice” is a form of manipulation. Yeah they don’t like that.
I used to be nice but not anymore because of bad past terrible friendships with men and women who rejected me because of my looks I hate this world
Im glad you stop the tea sipping bro 😆
subbed yesterday fuckin wit the channel Yesssirrrr
Good video, had some helpful tips, I appreciate it! however.. Women are manipulative bro lol. It does not mean we should hate them, despise or dislike them, it's just their nature. It's very important for all men to know that when dealing with women. Whether they choose to date, get into relationships or even marry. It's important to know how women are.
Correction: Humans are manipulative. Men are just as manipulative as women.
@@h06nort No.
Cant figure out if you're saying woman or women?
As a girl who has been dating but hasn't ever been in a relationship I can say with confidence that bad guys ain't shit but some nice guys can also be as bad as the ultra Chad's.
What I have noticed is that there are not many genuine nice guys or people in general they pretend they are nice but in return if you are not willing to give them sex after two dates they just ghost you or act like I owe them that. The bad guys try to hard to act like they are something they are not they always put on a show and try and impress you but it all ends up being a huge turn-off because like dude chill what fucking age do you think we live in.
There was only one guy I actually liked. He was sweet and kind and actually nice but could stand up for himself wasn't afraid to give his opinion on things even if we had different ones and was willing to hear me out if he did not agree with mine. It was fun talking to him and a day could pass with us just hanging out and it would feel like that was too short. Unfortunately I had to move away and we lost contact I sometimes wonder if I will ever meet someone like him because so far I only keep finding ugly personalities with nice looking faces.
My boyfriend is the nicest guy ever. I love him so much. Nine years together.
So is my invisible friend nine years going strong lol.
@@paulcooper5748 You legend...👊
THANK YOU
Great topic nice guy's lack the general masculine trait being dominance & aggression
smeefy zeus to then be of service and protect/provide for those they love yes.
Dominance over others and aggression towards others is being dependant on others. Real strength is energy directed within overflowing outside. It is not hurt or influenced by external factors.
@@davidbloem8122 Love it, very true!
@@davidbloem8122 true strength is internal not on outside forces
Damn y'all this guy speaks light years of Truth however I'm going to add one stipulation and that is that you have to also understand that he is saying this from a young man's point of view. Like for real I give this dude respect cuz I believe what he is saying is true, however you have to realize the stereographics, the nature of women, my dude it is mostly younger immature and shallow women who want a man to be there "rock" so they can personally feel good about themselves and the relationship their in. As women mature, and hell gain alittle wisdom they will still look for the masculine energy but they will also look at other qualities as well. It is a known fact that when you start to get to know somebody better you judge him more by their personality and less by looks, masculine alpha energy etc.
I know I’ve commented a lot but being nice is good. But for the right reasons. Plus being manly and doing you. You should have the packaged deal. If you’re just nice, that’s fake. Everyone has different emotions than just being nice. Something is wrong if you’re just being nice. Hell, it’s like a disorder. You don’t get mad? You don’t act like a jackass sometimes? You don’t disagree with people? You don’t have passion or things you like for yourself? Get it? We all have that. Being just nice is literally driven by misdirected motives. It’s manipulative too. If a guy was to tell me it’s ok I’m being nice and respectful to her. I’d ask him why. He’s knows damn well it’s to get the girl. Well it shouldn’t be a fuckin mission.
I'm extremly scared to tell my crush that i love her...what shld i do..? Cause im scared of rejection.
Bevo it’s scary to fear what could go wrong but think about what could go right. You won’t know what could happen unless you tell her
From a woman and strong single mom, nail on the head!! We want a strong man, strong in will, in faith, confident, a leader. "Nice" guys are timid, unsure of themselves, no opinions, cannot make decisions, not willing to explore...
Subbed cos you deserve it. You're like a big brother to me.
I'm a girl and I wanna be nice to people but I have a feeling I'll just be made fun of it so I just keep quite
As a more mature guy in his late 40's ..In good health and good condition ... I DON'T CARE what woman think or like ..I am MY OWN MAN ... If you don't like me.. REGARDLESS OF WHAT YOU HAVE BETWEEN YOUR LEGS .... Close the door on the way out please.. I do NOT care ..
So if this is true,...what women are looking for is all self serving.
When her initial interest and then later, her continued presence, devotion and faithfulness is all dependent upon what she is getting FROM you,..This describes something that is quite the opposite of love.
Love is dependent upon nothing.
Its the very thing that sets it apart from being fond of someone, infatuated or liking someone. Those are things that are dependent and perishable. They are not completely selfless.
If this is both acceptable and true then we've all been sold a lie.
I'm not a mean guy
I'm not a nice guy
I'm a real man 👌
I'm not just a nice guy but I'm a freak before humanity. Women thought they were above me. Nothing they do is good enough for me and they think that all I'm worth their mediocrity. I've had to fight against that mentality for a while. I've lost all of the women. Even if they are around I don't have them. I'm not treated like a human being, when I see other men I feel inferior to them. They give me the impression that I owe them approval for me to live my life. I 've never felt as lonely and angry as I have in these past years. I've never felt the temptation for suicide as I have today. I might may be a long ways from home or I may be close I don't know. I know that I'm tired.
Hey man, you got really good stuff, English is not my mother tongue so can you explain to my what the hell is FAP means please bro. peace!
Dave some of these men told me this, " You are a good man, but not a pushover. " Is this true to a degree?
I don't hate nice guys. I prefer a guy has leadership skills.
Stop being nice fellas . Call her out on her bullshit !! Trust me , they’ll respect you more in the long run . Also, don’t text everyday ...create distance and then come back . It drives them crazy.
I'm a women and I do that. It actually drives man crazy
Who has time to be calling a grown ass person out on they bs just leave her alone move on to the next. Thats what i did when i was single and just dateing
There is nothing wrong with being a "nice" person. The problem is many guys, especially men raised by their moms, believe that being nice to a woman is all they need to build sexual attraction. Wrong! Being nice without possessing masculine traits does not build sexual tension. Women see stereotypical "nice guy" behavior as off-putting. Women see nice guy behavior as weak, timid, submissive and feminine. Most women want men that are masculine, confident and assertive. Women are attracted to masculine energy which allows them to express their feminine energy. A confident masculine man is a man who knows who he is and what he wants. He does not seek approval or validation from women. He is unapologetic im standing by his convictions and his purpose. He has self respect and he sets boundaries and doesn't let people walk all over him. These masculine traits build sexual tension and attraction. Women feel protected and secure with masculine men. But there is a also a difference between a masculine, confident man and an aggressive, arrogant man. Many women fail to make this distinction and often find themselves in toxic relationships with bad boys or abusive men. These men possess masculine traits but have little to no integrity. And they are often very insecure and over compensate by acting arrogant and overly aggressive. They often lack purpose and can lead women down a bad path. Most modern women gravitate to these toxic men because so many men nowadays lack masculine traits
David, have you ever coached men from india?
This dude got a nice voice
Why women hate nice guys? Nope, You and I, WE, can only guess, we can't be 100% sure. There are different kinds of women out there just like there are different kinds of men. And unless we study or made a career out of human psychology, we cannot 100% understand how a woman's mind works.
But one thing is for sure. All caps, TACT. You can be tactful and still express what you want to express without giving off the impression of being rude.
IMO it's quite common for women to shit-test a man by engaging in behaviors or setting conditions in a relationship that she on some level knows are demeaning or undermining. The self-repressing nice guy response in that situation confirms to her that the man will make decisions against his own interest and, in a partnership, hers as well. She may stick around to scoop up the benefits of his desire to please her but her attitude will devolve into contempt, the surest (according to Jordan Peterson) relationship killer.
Okay here's my scenario I'm introverted and shy and have parents who brought me up conservative so I am always nice I wanna know what should I do to flip the script around I'm 24 and people know me as Mr nice always but I feel no one takes me serious and am willing to change ps I live in India love your content you earned a subscriber today my first life lesson channel I hope I can get all my bad habits and vices out soon thanks brother
@1Scuter thanks for that man I feel much better after reading this I will try this and get back once I'm a better man and thanks for that book suggestion will read it ASAP
as a woman, i love nice guys :)
I wish there were more of you out there :)
I love women like you.I wish every women in this world to be like you.
Lie.