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In this video I want to point out a significant hindrance that can keep you stuck for quite some time in cyclical patterns of suffering - and worse, a pattern that justifies this process from happening.
It may be so familiar to you that you don't even think to question it.
I hope you find this helpful :)
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My channel is a resource for helping you reduce suffering in daily life through the application of root level solutions. This is advocated with orientating toward Awakening/Non-Dual awakening, Source-code emotional integration using somatic (emotional) inquiry and taking on an empirical, open hearted investigation of core beliefs and perceptual overlays that innocently accrue in childhood and create suffering.
If you resonate with teachers such as Angelo Dilullo, Ramana Maharishi, Jeff Foster, Suzanne Chang, Violet Synergy, Joseph Goldstein, Scott Kiloby, Michael Taft and Adyashanti - you’ll find this material very relatable.
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You figured it out. Non duality is not what you should start with. It should be taught to the students who did their shadow work. To start with non duality is equivalent to putting in your engine without building your chassis. Your main goal is to truly love yourself, EVERY ASPECT, first before you transcend yourself. Until then you’re creating friction from resisting your dark side. It will sabotage you until you do this.
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Do you not feel that this is maybe the issue? You’re trying to “get somewhere” and to get “rid” of vs accepting self and surrendering to who you truly are?
Maybe it could be. I’m not entirely sure to be honest with you. What I do know is that a fully surrendered state is certainly something I have practiced ardently for. I travelled around Asia being in immediacy of sensation, not planning, taking each moment as it came - well out of my comfort zone. Yet, I found it most profitable to investigate the emotional pains and pangs to unveil the True Self and bring about more ease. I discovered a relief in integration that I was yearning for through trying to practice toward with a surrender based practice - one that felt embodied and real and very human. I still keep the door open for something to drop and still practice in a way of curiosity to have my view uprooted completely, but this stage feels authentic and right rather than trying to force or take on what teachers suggest artificially rather than listening to the innermost promptings of my heart and intuition.
@@SamRoff Thank you for your response. For myself, I use top down and bottom up methods and each into is differently but the “same”. I find that the more “I don’t know”…..the happier I personally feel. “I” don’t have to know but I simply follow the inner guidance of where I’m being led ie surrendering to what is and simply allowing the emotion to rise up too and be with it vs understanding it and that’s when it passes for me. Follow what feels right for you. Keep going 🙏
@@ritagordon9859 likewise to you ❤️🔥 I like that, the more I acknowledge ‘I don’t know, the better I feel’. Feels accurate here too.
Hi Sam.
As always I love your content!
For me, you are at your best when you slow down and talk from your own direct raw experience, dropping the theme/topic and just letting it flow, showing all the minds conditioning and seeing thought it.
Pump out some of that action!
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Showing your vulnerability/honestly (not sure of the exact wording) as things bubble up in your direct experience come across as so real and is very good for leaning into and experiencing in real time what you are talking about.
My man!
Great feedback. Thank you . Do you think the recent videos reflect that?
And absolutely, I’m all about modelling that in real time. I’ll keep that in mind. It always feels good to drop any front and tap into anything more real.
Haha, I just watched your previous video and started to eat my words, as you did slow things down a little more.
Dude, I don't know if it's just me, but when you authentically show your conditioning and the seeing through of it in real time, it hits hard!
@@terryplace560 awesome man! I’ll keep that in mind :). So good to hear from you dude.
Self-enquiry leads to self-attention
Yep!
Interesting comment thanks for sharing. I am on the pathless path so this helped me.
The fixation in the masculine is a common one in ancient tradition for sure, especially in this heavy duty practice such as vipassna and rinzai zen, good video
Good way to put it. Yeah for sure. Need to unify masculine and feminine into an interpenetration.
I went to a 10 day course.
And after I came home I ran across your channel.
After watching your channel I have no desire to take this vipassana thing too seriously.
Thank you
You’re welcome. Always nice to hold it all more lightly.
Brother, suffering isnt supposed to go away. Just as you know space is beyond the blue sky, even though the sky prevents you from seeing it, likewise the atman/brahman is beyond the unreal ego consciousness of this world which experiences the dualism.
There's a difference between pain and suffering. Pain is inevitable and suffering is optional. For example: I have a headache, ofc i can't avoid the pain of having a headache that's inevitable but suffering isn't there necessarily. Suffering is only created the moment I'm not able to accept the present moment as it is.
@@thuynguyen-fj6dy humans aren't designed to existence in a world of a single pole, you can't know joy without suffering
You do have a higher self, and it is a witness to this world, an “unattached observer”. But, it can’t be known by doing tons of other things that doesn’t pertain to it. Gather all of your focus and sincerely ask it to give you an experience of it. If you are sincere and there is a fire of needing to know within your heart of hearts, if you keep asking and befriend it, You will then get somewhere -your higher self will allow you to discover the truth. There’s no other way that it happens except by the Self giving you the experience of the state of being that is “higher Self”. Self realization comes at the invitation of the higher self. You have to be ripe for it. Only the higher self knows the truth about what is in your heart.
Great vid Sam. I only recently came across the term "Spiritual bypassing" and really noticed my tendency to do that in the past, I really like the approach you outlined for integration it will make the process more explicit for me
Hey man! Yeah it’s a juicy and loaded term. Neglecting the emotional content in the name of deepening in insight. “There’s no one to integrate” “there’s nothing to do” meanwhile having completely dysfunctional relationships. Pretty icky stuff. Glad you like it brother.
Sam, good video, I understand the urge to change feelings. There is this 'I' that wants to influence the experienced reality because the reality doesn't feel right for the 'I'. But it seems I noticed that exactly this influence of the 'I' on the circumstances creates suffering. My ego wanted to achieve enlightenment for a long time because the ego thought it had to kill the ego to finally be happy. I made so much effort with the hope of one day 'reaching' this state of effortlessness. When my ego was finally at its end, my body sat down in a meditation position, and a thought said, "I now let go of every effort and do nothing." And then I started laughing hysterically, a sensation of release and liberation appeared in the body, and I finally understood that the absolute truth everyone is seeking is not a truth that can be understood, but a fundamental relaxed reality that already is, but can only be seen if one forgets EVERYTHING one believes to know about life, oneself, spirituality, etc. for just a moment. I realized that I wanted enlightenment because I wanted a life without suffering, yet this spiritual search kept me constantly on edge and turned the relief that happens here and now into something that is far away, something that can only be achieved when every single trauma of the ego has been lifted. The end of the search is already here when the ego is finally ready to let go of all the concepts. It's like saying inwardly, "I give up my responsibility for myself and my dreams" (of course, the ego is afraid of this, and that's why most people don't awaken because people want to awaken and at the same time still dream of a future), but then there is really no more responsibility, and there is a feeling as if another force perfectly manages your life.
May peace be with you all🙏
Thanks for sharing. I don't know other than to trust the deepest instinct and follow that all the way.
Is there a difference between working with the five hindrances and emotion work?
Oof good question. There’s significant overlap. The only distinguishment I’d comment on between them is that shadow work engages them full on, while the 5 hindrances can be more of an intellectual understanding depending on how the teaching is delivered… Shadow work would be to sit in the flames of desire, ill will, doubt, restlessness/worry, sensual desire ect and process them.
I am grateful to have encountered your content, presence & your penetrating stare. I appreciate your emphasis on somatic & shadow work..BTW you remind me a lot of my own 21yr old beloved son.. thanks for your work & accompanying the undeniable shift, at almost 55, that oscillates in my experience. 💕☘️💌
Thank you. I’m glad it’s of some help to you Clare. So wonderful you’ve experienced such a shift ❤️
Btw Clare, I just posted this on my community feed. I would be thrilled to have a conversation with you if you're open to it. 'th-cam.com/channels/pP9u-uLaXXwCaWcESSN5uQ.htmlcommunity?lb=UgkxFDfEZGHO_r9GMoFnXWteJtSnkh8nu81p' :)
good to see you back mate
Good to be back 😊
Did you stop your daily 2 hour Vipassana practice altogether or just added shadow work on top of it?
Well I still technically do Vipassana, just not as taught by S.N Goenka. Vipassana just means to see things as they are with equanimity. In that respect I practice pretty much all the time. Formal 1 hour sits ect are sort of replaced with more self inquiry and natural curiosity now rather than body scanning. But that tool of observation from Vipassana has been invaluable for observation of sensation ect in daily life.