I don't know why women get so offended by the concept of men getting attracted to a woman who looks physically attractive. It's the same for women. It's natural for us to get attracted to a man who's physically attractive and that's why we too are asked to lower our gaze
Yup! We all have our hijabs and we both should lower our gaze. Also it's not about why this or that. It's about this is how we are born. Many women get offended because they feel as if they are not pretty enough for their husbands.
It's because they refuse to acknowledge that they are attracted to men. They think that being 'independent' means you can't be attracted to the opposite sex. But of course, biology is biology, and as much as they try to hide it, they obviously will be attracted to attractive men. Same for the other way around.
@arish ahmad what vegans most do is prohibite themselves from consuming meat which is halal thus one makes haram what is halal ,and animal products contain more minerals than plant based
@Mossab Salih In my experience, the langauge has a grammar easier than English. There certain new odd things that you will have to learn but that is true for any langauge (e.g different counter for different things depending on their shape). Kanji is certainly the main reason why Japanese is considered hard. There are different techniques to learn the Kanji. At the end of the day, if you just memorize a lot of kanji but do nothing with them, you will forget them. Since more and people people (especially from western countries) started learning Japanese, some people have tried to find new ways to make it easier to understand and memorize the Kanji. The efforts of Jack Halpern are of special importance. He wrote some books, including a dictionary for nonnative learners. There are techniques to ease the pain, but no shortcuts with Kanji. Just remember that of the few thousand kanji that are in regular use, some have higher frequency of occurance than others. This can be used to your advantage. In a text e.g a newspaper, all characters do not occur with same frequency. Learnign characters based on frequency usage will be more helpful than learning those characters that occur less frequently but are simpler to write. Now here is the thing, initially you will feel like you are torchering yourself, however after doing the first few hundred characters, you will see that the remaining ones just contain repeats of simpler characters in them. A type of pattern will emerge, although you will (for most characters) not see the link between what it means and how it is written, you may make seldom connection between reading and how it is written though.
@Mossab Salih Just one thing, complex kanjis can often have very similar looking other kanjis. It is best to learn these "similar looking but different" kanjis together so you know which is which. Jack Halpern's book will help you in this.
"They're proud of their backwards ideologies and you're not proud of the truth?" Wallahi, that hit me really deeply. Alhamdulillah I cover myself but I know myself to slip into complacency sometimes and do handshakes with men. Allah forgive me in my laziness.
Narrated Abu Huraira: I heard Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) saying. "All the sins of my followers will be forgiven except those of the Mujahirin (those who commit a sin openly or disclose their sins to the people). An example of such disclosure is that a person commits a sin at night and though Allah screens it from the public, then he comes in the morning, and says, 'O so-and-so, I did such-and-such (evil) deed yesterday,' though he spent his night screened by his Lord (none knowing about his sin) and in the morning he removes Allah's screen from himself."
"Who are you trying to please? Is it Allah or the people.." really love that part ya sheikh. This is the best thing to remember if the opposite gender offers his/her hand for a handshake. It doesn't matter whether he will agree with your beliefs or if he will try to make you feel like this is something extreme, but what's important is that Allah is happy with us for implementing the right thing. May Allah protect your wise mind sheikh and continue to make you an instrument for the whole of humanity to benefit. :)
You comment is a bit misleading.Muslims are allowed to to touch non muslims e.g shake hand and hug.But they are not allowed to touch the opposite gender .
@@strangelight159 The Quran itself doesn't mention touching the opposite gender as being haram, especially not the hands. Hands aren't generally considered awrah, so touching them with member of the opposite gender isn't haram, per se. The issue is that there is a Hadith in Sahih Bukhari which shows that the prophet didn't shake hands with women when they took their oat of allegiance to Islam. But the truth is that what is and isn't haram isn't based on what the prophet didn't and didn't do. What is an isn't haram is based on what the prophet said God declared to be haram. Likewise, there is also a Hadith in Sahih Bukhari that shows the prophet refused to dry himself with a towel at at least one point, but that doesn't mean it's haram for believers to dry themselves with a towel. Since the prophet didn't declare in his revelation either drying yourself with a towel or shaking hands with the opposite gender haram and instead simply refused to do them himself, I think his refusal to do those things was simply a personal preference for him.
@@technoloverish 1) stop making stuff up . Where is your source for stating that the only place that it's haram to touch is the awrah ? 2) there's a hadith. There is a hadeeth (narration of an event) from Ma’qil ibn Yassar, saying; The prophet, peace be upon him said, “It is better for you to be stabbed in the head with an iron needle than to touch the hand of a woman who is to permissible to you.” [At-Tabarani in “Al Kabir, #486. Shaikh Albani said in Sahih al-Jaami’ it is sahih #5045]
@@hmmm3210 That Hadith is not considered Sahih. There is much debate over whether it's authentic. It lacks enough of a chain of narrators to be considered authentic. And the Arabic text the Hadith doesn't have the word "hand" in it. It just says "touch a woman". The word "touch" is thought by many scholars to a reference to sexual intercourse. One piece of evidence of such is that Surat Maryam, Verse 20 says "She said, 'How can I have a boy while no man has touched me and I have not been unchaste?'" Additionally, Surat Al-Ahzab, Verse 49 says "O You who have believed, when you marry believing women and then divorce them before you have touched them, then there is not for you any waiting period to count concerning them. So provide for them and give them a gracious release." So the word for "hand" not in the original text of that Hadith, that Hadith is not considered Sahih by all scholars, and the word "touch" in both of those verse from the Quran clearly is a metaphoric way of saying "intercourse". Therefore, the Hadith most like is referring to intercourse or perhaps even assault. I think that makes sense. I mean, imagine a man who is brought to court and charged with assaulting a woman. In court, he would likely defend himself against the charge by saying something like "I swear I didn't touch her!" Of coarse, one against touch in that context would clearly be a reference to something other than only touching.
I studied in a field where it was predominately women (speech pathology) and I kid you not, you could count the amount of men in that building on your hands. In fact I was the only male in my graduating class. Not once in my years studying/ working/ job interviews was a woman EVER offended when I said I could not shake hands for religious purposes. I live in the US and it is the norm to shake hands with the opposite gender. All im saying is its really not that difficult to say no, and people are a lot more understanding than you may think. May Allah help us all.
The shaking hand story is soo real.. When you dont shake hands and dont listening to music the first thing you hear from non-muslims is but every other muslims do it and you a convert (as to say you're not as real as a born-muslim). Which got me to think non-practicing muslims hurt practicing muslims more than non-muslim. May Allah help us all
Before Covid the shaking of hands was the main way to greet people all over the world. Here in Africa all shake hands, Muslims and non Muslims: no Coranic evidence of shaking hands being a problem.
@@musamusashi the least you could have done is research why is it haram to shake hands with a non-mahram before commenting. Islam is Quran and Sunnah. There are many narrations that indicate that it is haram to make physical contact with a non-mahram. Ex... The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: ‘If one of you were to be struck in the head with an iron needle, it would be better for him than if he were to touch a woman he is not allowed to.” -Reported by al-Tabaraani; ".... By Allaah, his ( Prophet Muhammad) hand never touched the hand of any woman when accepting their bay’ah; he accepted their bay’ah by saying ‘I have accepted your bay’ah on this basis.’” Reported by al-Bukhaari, 4512
@@abdalaliydesert5576 that is if you accept hadit to have the power to make haram what Allah has NOT made haram. To each his/her own and Allah will tell us who is closer to Him. As salam alaikum.
Salam brother Saajid, your video is very helpfull for us believers. Many of our young muslim people are seeing obscenity as a normal thing and that is going to destroy their faite. At the last time of world, bad things will be considered as good and vice versa. May Allah guide us on the right path amiine
As a muslim sister myself, i FELT this. May Allah protect you and your family and grant you jannah. I have people online that call me oppressed then proceed to insult me. Its just so hypocritical.
THANK YOU, YOUNG BROTHER!!!! May Allah bless you and keep you straight on the path, ameen. I'd like to add a dimension to the issue of women covering. As a woman who covers properly, with not just a scarf on my head, but an over cloak on my clothes, (jilbab, abaya, khimar... it goes by many names), I have seen another level of protection provided by this practice. Everyone cries about the men, and ask why are the women responsible for the behaviours of the men, and this brother very clearly articulated why the covering prevents the men from adultery and leering, MashaAllah. But he is not a woman. Let me tell you what it does for a woman. Also being a convert like this brother, I was raised with Western culture and ideology which supports and even promotes "sexual freedom". But this societal practice takes no responsibility for the wreckage left behind after this promiscuity. The heartbroken, the diseased, the aborted, the neglected pregnant women, the abandoned and orphaned children, the sexually exploited children of the absent fathers and overworked mothers with their new men in the house, the child pornography, the human trafficking in sexual slavery, the rejected, dejected, demoralized and marginalized wreckage of the selfishness of "sexual freedom". After being set loose without any guardian or any rules, a woman floats through the labyrinth of self-preservation and self-respect only to find she has neither; only an illusion of one or both. ONLY AFTER becoming a Muslim and changing not only my clothing, but my own behaviour, did I find both of these. Cloth will not prevent sexual assault, but covering and carriage are absolutely self-preserving and self-respecting acts and result in these physical and psychological ideals. I no longer feel the need to compete with other women in beauty or sensuality. I no longer feel the need to manipulate every man I interact with, vying for his attention or approval using my body, or my eyes, or my perfumes, or even my speech, to get preferential treatment, or a boost to my self-esteem, or a notch on my belt, or a vindictive vengence against another woman. I no longer need validation from anyone other than the ones who love me and need me and protect me. My hijab protects me from my own bad behaviours; my old patterns of flirtatious, manipulative, and promiscuous social interactions which are only ever societal poisons; not nutritive in any way. Alhamdulillah, I am the Queen of my castle! And I built a moat around it. It's my hijab.
Amazing. I agree with everything except the "Cloth will not prevent sexual assault" part. Definitely won't prevent 100% but will reduce it a lot, which is why it is in Islam. The rules will always fail for a fringe minority but the vast majority of guys won't go raping a girl totally covered up since his desires aren't even being stimulated.
Women know exactly what men feel like that's why they do it actually, they like doing that because they get sense of value. They feel like they worth something because a man would look at them.
Yeah because the western men treat them like garbage so they have to adapt. Its a battle going nowhere and the root cause is loss of guidance. May allah guide them inshallah
You are absolutely right, ma sha Allah my brother. As a women I appreciate when men respect me in public by not sitting next to me directly or keeping their distance, that's called being a gentleman. And I think it's only because they see me wearing Hijaab with veil, and as I said a gentleman doesn't get offended in anyway in fact it only increases them in respect and sensitivity. But, I don't think that inner gentlemen would be triggered had I been semi naked, and before wearing hijab I didn't receive such and once I did I saw respect from men,except a little. So, the men who want to see a women's body is the men that get offended when they see a women covered. And men from a long time have deceived women to thinking it's freedom for her to wear what she wants because that's what they want to see, so women you want freedom cover yourself or at least don't hate on women who do, at least your men are safe from us, you can appreciate that. And you'll know covering is freedom because men(majority) will have a problem with you once you cover, and it's your body and that's your integrity and honour.
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Mashaallah good message. I just wish we really implemented it - all Muslim women wear hijab not some...cause they start judging you for it. I had to explain to a non Muslim how courtship is in Islam and he agreed with our way. Men and women cant be alone because the devil is the third party. I explained that Islam does not recognize boyfriend/girlfriend relationships. I explained "the wali" father or responsible Male guardian (uncle, older brother ) must be present in order for girl to be married. There is no such thing as eloping with opposite sex in Islam...family must be notified, wali must be present and witnesses must be there on wedding day.
While I agree with many things that you said, I have to add that it also depends when it comes to marriages. The wali who is the father doesn’t have to be there necessarily depending on the situation like my parents got married in the USA and her father was still in Malaysia. She was allowed to use a wali of the court. My best friend has a father who was against her marriage to her fiancé simply because their wedding was supposed to be held in Singapore but he wanted it held in Malaysia. It was a very non-issue on his part but my best friend and her fiancé are good Muslims, both practicing and they have never even held hands or touched in any way, they have kept it all halal. Also, her father is a Syiah and not Sunni. He cannot be her wali so now for her upcoming wedding, she will get a wali of the court and not her father.
I totally agreed with you brother. I’m so sick of non-muslims calling us oppressed. I don’t live in Saudi Arabia so hijab isn’t mandatory at all and it’s totally fine not to wear it, I’m a hijabi by choice since I was 12 and now I’m 27, I also never shake hands with a foreign man, I made people in my inner circle understand and respect this, that a man never tries to do so. I’m happily married for 2 years to my work colleague, we’ve a 5 month old baby boy. He loves and respects me and we married out of mutual understanding, respect, trust and love.
Thank you for your thoughts on this matter brother Saajid. It’s so refreshing to hear someone speak so straightforward on this, not beating around the bush at and no disregarding the fact that Muslims are still at the end of the day…MEN! We have the same weaknesses as non-Muslim men when it comes to the opposite gender, what separates (or rather should separate) the Muslim man this awareness and conscious of his own weakness, and then understands that the commands of Allah and what He has prohibited is there to benefit him - not Allah Himself. But it’s such an ordeal to argue this point without hearing the whole “men should lower their gaze, if a woman can control herself why can’t guys?” spiel. Yes men should lower their gaze just as women should - but liberal mentality has assumed that men and women have the exact same weaknesses and strengths, and anything that challenges that notion makes you backwards, misogynistic, perverted and a judgmental person against and individuals freedom of expression. What a world we live in now, people know who the truth are afraid of acting on it, and the wicked are free to promote and celebrate what was incomprehensible even just a few decades back.
It's really good that you add the note in your video's title that this is an 'Angry Rant' because it puts things into context for the viewers. I hope you make always put that disclaimer so viewers will understand where you're coming from. It adds so much non-verbal context to this video. 👍🏻 👍🏻 👍🏻 May Allah bless you with more Knowledge, more Wisdom, more Guidance, and most of all, with Patience. Thank you for your reminder. We are all guilty of one sin or another. May we all forgive each other's sins and trespasses against us/each other, and make dua that Allah will Guide us all even more on the straight path tomorrow than what we are on today.
You nailed it Ustadh Saajid! I don't know why it's so hard for some people to understand that western live style doesn't belong to us ! We don't want to be in a relationship with someone who doesn't lower his gaze ! Let alone shaking hands or hugging other women under the title of "just friends"! Islam is the solution for social problems! And believe me women are the winners if they followed Islam properly! They will live in a happy household and their men will protect them with their lives ! Just leave the mentality of feminism and the western live style they won't bring you Justice ! Islam will save your life!
When I see people like Brother Saajid Lipham, Brother Yusha (Joshua) Evans and other good brothers adhere to the Islamic teaching and speaking it out in public with pride, i remember this verse : { يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا مَن يَرْتَدَّ مِنكُمْ عَن دِينِهِ فَسَوْفَ يَأْتِي اللَّهُ بِقَوْمٍ يُحِبُّهُمْ وَيُحِبُّونَهُ أَذِلَّةٍ عَلَى الْمُؤْمِنِينَ أَعِزَّةٍ عَلَى الْكَافِرِينَ يُجَاهِدُونَ فِي سَبِيلِ اللَّهِ وَلَا يَخَافُونَ لَوْمَةَ لَائِمٍ ۚ ذَٰلِكَ فَضْلُ اللَّهِ يُؤْتِيهِ مَن يَشَاءُ ۚ وَاللَّهُ وَاسِعٌ عَلِيمٌ} (المائدة:54)
@@SaajidLipham Its a confusing age to be in, and I want to be sure that what im following is the truth. That said, I'm sick of the modern world, and I see Islam and Sharia as having the cure. I believe there is only one God, but I dont know if Muhammad is His messenger.
@@SaajidLipham You make a good point. If God has revealed Himself, it would make sense that Muhammad was a Messenger. However many people have claimed to have received messages from God, and they would not be Gods messenger from your perspective, such as Catholic and Orthodox saints for example. So, who's telling the truth.
He is just spitting facts. Nowadays, people are so into throwing the double standard card which is to say “oh, but men can walk shirtless!” “Oh but men can be players!” But that’s not what Islam teaches us. Islam teaches us to be chaste, to be decent, to be pure and not to corrupt ourselves. Both men and women have our aurats to cover.
Salam alaykum I really understand this...its hard to tell men why i cant touch them especially my male cousins (I come from a mexican american background). Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this issue brother. im a new revert, focusing on understanding quran, and im barely learning some hadiths but i need more help. Im scared to reach out because i live in usa and most muslims here make me feel extreme for simply following what quran and prophet muhammad pbuh. may Allah help and guide us ameen
Mashallah sister, I’m really happy you have found the right path :) And don’t worry about not having much knowledge about Islam, this will change over time, we all start somewhere! You can try reading a translated version of “Riyad al Salihin” and some Fiqh, Aqidah, etc...Also if you have Reddit there’s a Islam/Muslims subreddit where you can ask for resources and join a North American Muslim group. Mind false info please, I advise you to join an Islamic course to protect yourself from falsehoods. As for your cousins, I’m sure they can understand where you’re coming from and respect your boundaries if you explain it to them. Best of luck!
Loved the points you touched on in the end of the video, sad that the average view time is only 5 minutes (based off TubeBuddy extension) because most people missed the main point. Subscribed, hoping to see more from you inshallah
Assalāmu alaikum wa rahmatullāhi wa barakātuh akhi, may Allāh reward you immensely. That was a great reminder and to the point. I have just recently found your channel and so far benefitting from it. Akhi can you please do a video addressing sisters, who like the brothers have a strong desire to study and attain ilm. Wallahi i have for the longest time wished to live in Madinah but i think you can understand the difficulty in making that dream a reality. Is there any way for sisters to study/work there?
I have seen a comment in another one of his videos where a sister mentioned the females in the city meet up and do female-only halaqas to learn and teach each other. Try looking into those in your place.
This brother is so insparational. Walahi, I am so proud of you. Calling a spade a spade. Please keep up your amazing work. I am arab and I know excatly what you are talking about. Fun fact: Going against your values DECREASESE confidence.
Thanks for your videos bro. I agree with most of the things you think and it feels good to know there is a community out there with a like mind. Future Imaams, stay strong
Mashallah brother you spoke about this very important issue so eloquently. Here in the UK as I am sure is the case in many countries, fornication is rife in our communities and the hijab is often mocked. Only Islam has the solution required to resolve these issues. People including myself will spend so much time watching all sorts of vlogs on here but we give little time to Islam. You are doing a better job at representing Islam than Muslims like me who were born into Islam and have become ungrateful. May Allah reward you for your efforts my dear brother.
EEeeee my brother, you're hitting the nail. Here in Bosnia we have an islamic community that is not a classic community, it almost is on state level (exists over 100 years, made in time of Austria-Hungary), a bit difficult to explain... Anyway, there is a leader of that community called reis-ul-ulema (grand mufti) and he shakes hands of non-muslim women. It's a norm. He "has" to do it. And then when I don't shake hands with woman, everyone is kinda like, "what, are you better than grand mufti?!". My practicing uncles would give hand to my wife every single time they see us, and every single time it's akward situation for 10 seconds. And it's all because of a "leader" who has no problem of giving a hand to non-mahrem and then of course you're a wahhabi, extermist and what not... How is that for "throwing you under the bus"? :)
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I'm a Christian but I love listening to this dude
Keep on getting more information and in challah you'll be on the right path
Thanks for having an open mind
@@g7108 you have such a sad life, you hate religions yet you're on a Muslims channel spewing hatred
He thinks stoning the gays is ok
yea am born muslim but this brothher has HELP ME KNOW MY FAITH MORE. follow his lectures and ask God for guidance! you will be come a muslim soon then
I don't know why women get so offended by the concept of men getting attracted to a woman who looks physically attractive. It's the same for women. It's natural for us to get attracted to a man who's physically attractive and that's why we too are asked to lower our gaze
Yup! We all have our hijabs and we both should lower our gaze.
Also it's not about why this or that. It's about this is how we are born.
Many women get offended because they feel as if they are not pretty enough for their husbands.
They only get offended when UNATTRACTIVE men find them physically attractive
@@emateiblin5409 you are delusional
It's because they refuse to acknowledge that they are attracted to men. They think that being 'independent' means you can't be attracted to the opposite sex. But of course, biology is biology, and as much as they try to hide it, they obviously will be attracted to attractive men. Same for the other way around.
I'm not Muslim oh, I'm not even religious however listening to him has served me a lot of Truth 100% agree with him
I invite you sister to read the Quran and may you find the right path.
Ameen brother. You are spot on.
Finally, a Muslim that doesn't apologize for his faith. I was beginning to think we didn't exist.
It's because he's a scholar
Not Muslim but I agree .
open minded people like you give me hope in the world
@arish ahmad what vegans most do is prohibite themselves from consuming meat which is halal thus one makes haram what is halal ,and animal products contain more minerals than plant based
I’m not Muslim , but I agree with some of your arguments.
Just some?
@Mossab Salih la, ana min al-bakistan
af-ham allughtul jabaniyya.
@Mossab Salih University when I was doing my Electronic Engineering studies.
@Mossab Salih In my experience, the langauge has a grammar easier than English. There certain new odd things that you will have to learn but that is true for any langauge (e.g different counter for different things depending on their shape). Kanji is certainly the main reason why Japanese is considered hard.
There are different techniques to learn the Kanji. At the end of the day, if you just memorize a lot of kanji but do nothing with them, you will forget them.
Since more and people people (especially from western countries) started learning Japanese, some people have tried to find new ways to make it easier to understand and memorize the Kanji. The efforts of Jack Halpern are of special importance. He wrote some books, including a dictionary for nonnative learners.
There are techniques to ease the pain, but no shortcuts with Kanji. Just remember that of the few thousand kanji that are in regular use, some have higher frequency of occurance than others. This can be used to your advantage. In a text e.g a newspaper, all characters do not occur with same frequency. Learnign characters based on frequency usage will be more helpful than learning those characters that occur less frequently but are simpler to write.
Now here is the thing, initially you will feel like you are torchering yourself, however after doing the first few hundred characters, you will see that the remaining ones just contain repeats of simpler characters in them. A type of pattern will emerge, although you will (for most characters) not see the link between what it means and how it is written, you may make seldom connection between reading and how it is written though.
@Mossab Salih Just one thing, complex kanjis can often have very similar looking other kanjis. It is best to learn these "similar looking but different" kanjis together so you know which is which. Jack Halpern's book will help you in this.
I let my beard grow when I learned of the difficulties Muslim women face for wearing Hijab. I am a Muslim. Do what you will. Allah is enough for me.
Dont forget the hat brother
@@randommuslim2149 the kufi?
@@mohamedghassenmahjoub6076 Yes, the kufi
@@randommuslim2149 how has life been for 7 months lol
@@mohamedghassenmahjoub6076 Ups and down you know. What about you brother?
"They're proud of their backwards ideologies and you're not proud of the truth?" Wallahi, that hit me really deeply. Alhamdulillah I cover myself but I know myself to slip into complacency sometimes and do handshakes with men. Allah forgive me in my laziness.
Narrated Abu Huraira:
I heard Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) saying. "All the sins of my followers will be forgiven except those of the Mujahirin (those who commit a sin openly or disclose their sins to the people). An example of such disclosure is that a person commits a sin at night and though Allah screens it from the public, then he comes in the morning, and says, 'O so-and-so, I did such-and-such (evil) deed yesterday,' though he spent his night screened by his Lord (none knowing about his sin) and in the morning he removes Allah's screen from himself."
"Who are you trying to please? Is it Allah or the people.." really love that part ya sheikh.
This is the best thing to remember if the opposite gender offers his/her hand for a handshake. It doesn't matter whether he will agree with your beliefs or if he will try to make you feel like this is something extreme, but what's important is that Allah is happy with us for implementing the right thing. May Allah protect your wise mind sheikh and continue to make you an instrument for the whole of humanity to benefit. :)
You comment is a bit misleading.Muslims are allowed to to touch non muslims e.g shake hand and hug.But they are not allowed to touch the opposite gender .
@@strangelight159
by nonmuslim she meant a opposite gender nonmuslim.
@@strangelight159
The Quran itself doesn't mention touching the opposite gender as being haram, especially not the hands. Hands aren't generally considered awrah, so touching them with member of the opposite gender isn't haram, per se. The issue is that there is a Hadith in Sahih Bukhari which shows that the prophet didn't shake hands with women when they took their oat of allegiance to Islam. But the truth is that what is and isn't haram isn't based on what the prophet didn't and didn't do. What is an isn't haram is based on what the prophet said God declared to be haram. Likewise, there is also a Hadith in Sahih Bukhari that shows the prophet refused to dry himself with a towel at at least one point, but that doesn't mean it's haram for believers to dry themselves with a towel. Since the prophet didn't declare in his revelation either drying yourself with a towel or shaking hands with the opposite gender haram and instead simply refused to do them himself, I think his refusal to do those things was simply a personal preference for him.
@@technoloverish
1) stop making stuff up . Where is your source for stating that the only place that it's haram to touch is the awrah ?
2) there's a hadith.
There is a hadeeth (narration of an event) from Ma’qil ibn Yassar, saying; The prophet, peace be upon him said, “It is better for you to be stabbed in the head with an iron needle than to touch the hand of a woman who is to permissible to you.”
[At-Tabarani in “Al Kabir, #486. Shaikh Albani said in Sahih al-Jaami’ it is sahih #5045]
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That Hadith is not considered Sahih. There is much debate over whether it's authentic. It lacks enough of a chain of narrators to be considered authentic. And the Arabic text the Hadith doesn't have the word "hand" in it. It just says "touch a woman". The word "touch" is thought by many scholars to a reference to sexual intercourse. One piece of evidence of such is that Surat Maryam, Verse 20 says "She said, 'How can I have a boy while no man has touched me and I have not been unchaste?'" Additionally, Surat Al-Ahzab, Verse 49 says "O You who have believed, when you marry believing women and then divorce them before you have touched them, then there is not for you any waiting period to count concerning them. So provide for them and give them a gracious release." So the word for "hand" not in the original text of that Hadith, that Hadith is not considered Sahih by all scholars, and the word "touch" in both of those verse from the Quran clearly is a metaphoric way of saying "intercourse". Therefore, the Hadith most like is referring to intercourse or perhaps even assault. I think that makes sense. I mean, imagine a man who is brought to court and charged with assaulting a woman. In court, he would likely defend himself against the charge by saying something like "I swear I didn't touch her!" Of coarse, one against touch in that context would clearly be a reference to something other than only touching.
What I like about this guy is the language he uses. It is the kind of language used in every day life. It's easy for everybody to understand.
Subnhanallah Akhi, wullahi your video increased my iman a lot. And thank you for your service to the religion. May Allah grant you Jannah.
I studied in a field where it was predominately women (speech pathology) and I kid you not, you could count the amount of men in that building on your hands. In fact I was the only male in my graduating class. Not once in my years studying/ working/ job interviews was a woman EVER offended when I said I could not shake hands for religious purposes. I live in the US and it is the norm to shake hands with the opposite gender. All im saying is its really not that difficult to say no, and people are a lot more understanding than you may think. May Allah help us all.
May Allah SWT bless you bro Sajid🙏 great speech straight to the point. I'm a girl and I agree with you 👏
How have been?
The shaking hand story is soo real.. When you dont shake hands and dont listening to music the first thing you hear from non-muslims is but every other muslims do it and you a convert (as to say you're not as real as a born-muslim). Which got me to think non-practicing muslims hurt practicing muslims more than non-muslim. May Allah help us all
ikr.
even here in indonesia, where muslim is the majority, not shaking hands between opposite sex is still considered alien.
Before Covid the shaking of hands was the main way to greet people all over the world. Here in Africa all shake hands, Muslims and non Muslims: no Coranic evidence of shaking hands being a problem.
So if one shakes hands and listen to music, is labelled a "non practicing Muslims"?
@@musamusashi the least you could have done is research why is it haram to shake hands with a non-mahram before commenting.
Islam is Quran and Sunnah. There are many narrations that indicate that it is haram to make physical contact with a non-mahram.
Ex...
The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: ‘If one of you were to be struck in the head with an iron needle, it would be better for him than if he were to touch a woman he is not allowed to.” -Reported by al-Tabaraani;
".... By Allaah, his ( Prophet Muhammad) hand never touched the hand of any woman when accepting their bay’ah; he accepted their bay’ah by saying ‘I have accepted your bay’ah on this basis.’”
Reported by al-Bukhaari, 4512
@@abdalaliydesert5576 that is if you accept hadit to have the power to make haram what Allah has NOT made haram. To each his/her own and Allah will tell us who is closer to Him.
As salam alaikum.
Salam brother Saajid, your video is very helpfull for us believers. Many of our young muslim people are seeing obscenity as a normal thing and that is going to destroy their faite. At the last time of world, bad things will be considered as good and vice versa. May Allah guide us on the right path amiine
Alhumdulliah. Our black sister. Lovely comment x
As a muslim sister myself, i FELT this. May Allah protect you and your family and grant you jannah.
I have people online that call me oppressed then proceed to insult me. Its just so hypocritical.
Beautiful rant Brother! Jazak Allah Khair!!!
PREACH PREACH PREACH PREACH..........
i swear this video is perfect it soo clear
You have spoken the truth. GOD bless you.
THANK YOU, YOUNG BROTHER!!!! May Allah bless you and keep you straight on the path, ameen.
I'd like to add a dimension to the issue of women covering. As a woman who covers properly, with not just a scarf on my head, but an over cloak on my clothes, (jilbab, abaya, khimar... it goes by many names), I have seen another level of protection provided by this practice.
Everyone cries about the men, and ask why are the women responsible for the behaviours of the men, and this brother very clearly articulated why the covering prevents the men from adultery and leering, MashaAllah. But he is not a woman. Let me tell you what it does for a woman.
Also being a convert like this brother, I was raised with Western culture and ideology which supports and even promotes "sexual freedom". But this societal practice takes no responsibility for the wreckage left behind after this promiscuity. The heartbroken, the diseased, the aborted, the neglected pregnant women, the abandoned and orphaned children, the sexually exploited children of the absent fathers and overworked mothers with their new men in the house, the child pornography, the human trafficking in sexual slavery, the rejected, dejected, demoralized and marginalized wreckage of the selfishness of "sexual freedom".
After being set loose without any guardian or any rules, a woman floats through the labyrinth of self-preservation and self-respect only to find she has neither; only an illusion of one or both.
ONLY AFTER becoming a Muslim and changing not only my clothing, but my own behaviour, did I find both of these. Cloth will not prevent sexual assault, but covering and carriage are absolutely self-preserving and self-respecting acts and result in these physical and psychological ideals.
I no longer feel the need to compete with other women in beauty or sensuality. I no longer feel the need to manipulate every man I interact with, vying for his attention or approval using my body, or my eyes, or my perfumes, or even my speech, to get preferential treatment, or a boost to my self-esteem, or a notch on my belt, or a vindictive vengence against another woman. I no longer need validation from anyone other than the ones who love me and need me and protect me.
My hijab protects me from my own bad behaviours; my old patterns of flirtatious, manipulative, and promiscuous social interactions which are only ever societal poisons; not nutritive in any way.
Alhamdulillah, I am the Queen of my castle! And I built a moat around it. It's my hijab.
Islam's Way Mashallah Sister so inspirational to share that. May Allah bless you and your family.
Amazing. I agree with everything except the "Cloth will not prevent sexual assault" part. Definitely won't prevent 100% but will reduce it a lot, which is why it is in Islam. The rules will always fail for a fringe minority but the vast majority of guys won't go raping a girl totally covered up since his desires aren't even being stimulated.
This video rings even more true in light of all the recent harassment accusations. Can you make a new video addressing it?
WOW brother that was wonderful !!!!!!! I'm speechless
I can't wait for brother Saajid to hit 1 mil subscribers. So many will benefit
Well said !!!!!!!! God bless you .
I feel you on the not shaking hands example... May Allah increase you in wisdom
Jazakallah khair ya shaikh
Women know exactly what men feel like that's why they do it actually, they like doing that because they get sense of value. They feel like they worth something because a man would look at them.
Yeah because the western men treat them like garbage so they have to adapt. Its a battle going nowhere and the root cause is loss of guidance. May allah guide them inshallah
You are absolutely right, ma sha Allah my brother. As a women I appreciate when men respect me in public by not sitting next to me directly or keeping their distance, that's called being a gentleman. And I think it's only because they see me wearing Hijaab with veil, and as I said a gentleman doesn't get offended in anyway in fact it only increases them in respect and sensitivity. But, I don't think that inner gentlemen would be triggered had I been semi naked, and before wearing hijab I didn't receive such and once I did I saw respect from men,except a little. So, the men who want to see a women's body is the men that get offended when they see a women covered. And men from a long time have deceived women to thinking it's freedom for her to wear what she wants because that's what they want to see, so women you want freedom cover yourself or at least don't hate on women who do, at least your men are safe from us, you can appreciate that. And you'll know covering is freedom because men(majority) will have a problem with you once you cover, and it's your body and that's your integrity and honour.
Saajid needs a bigger audience. Great content. Need his motivation.
This vid made me subscribe. Well done akhi, even after 2 years later.
Not a Muslim but im interested. This video was full of facts & knowledge.
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Mashaallah good message. I just wish we really implemented it - all Muslim women wear hijab not some...cause they start judging you for it. I had to explain to a non Muslim how courtship is in Islam and he agreed with our way.
Men and women cant be alone because the devil is the third party. I explained that Islam does not recognize boyfriend/girlfriend relationships.
I explained "the wali" father or responsible Male guardian (uncle, older brother ) must be present in order for girl to be married.
There is no such thing as eloping with opposite sex in Islam...family must be notified, wali must be present and witnesses must be there on wedding day.
While I agree with many things that you said, I have to add that it also depends when it comes to marriages. The wali who is the father doesn’t have to be there necessarily depending on the situation like my parents got married in the USA and her father was still in Malaysia. She was allowed to use a wali of the court.
My best friend has a father who was against her marriage to her fiancé simply because their wedding was supposed to be held in Singapore but he wanted it held in Malaysia. It was a very non-issue on his part but my best friend and her fiancé are good Muslims, both practicing and they have never even held hands or touched in any way, they have kept it all halal. Also, her father is a Syiah and not Sunni. He cannot be her wali so now for her upcoming wedding, she will get a wali of the court and not her father.
Wow your so on point it’s a blessing to hear you speak thank you! may Allah swt keep you close and make it easy on you ✌🏼salam
I'am wearing hijab before i'm mariage before i'm thinking to have a boy friend .i'm wearing to protect my self. And u is 100% true
May Allah protect you dear respected sister! Ameen
You're a very wise man, may Allah protect and bless you.
Muslim, backward and proud :D
Assalamualaikum I'm a Muslim from Indonesia, you are awesome
May Allah bless you aminn
I totally agreed with you brother. I’m so sick of non-muslims calling us oppressed. I don’t live in Saudi Arabia so hijab isn’t mandatory at all and it’s totally fine not to wear it, I’m a hijabi by choice since I was 12 and now I’m 27, I also never shake hands with a foreign man, I made people in my inner circle understand and respect this, that a man never tries to do so. I’m happily married for 2 years to my work colleague, we’ve a 5 month old baby boy. He loves and respects me and we married out of mutual understanding, respect, trust and love.
Thx u brother,I love all your videos.keep doing the great work .
Thanks brother
I really needed
Thank you for your thoughts on this matter brother Saajid.
It’s so refreshing to hear someone speak so straightforward on this, not beating around the bush at and no disregarding the fact that Muslims are still at the end of the day…MEN!
We have the same weaknesses as non-Muslim men when it comes to the opposite gender, what separates (or rather should separate) the Muslim man this awareness and conscious of his own weakness, and then understands that the commands of Allah and what He has prohibited is there to benefit him - not Allah Himself.
But it’s such an ordeal to argue this point without hearing the whole “men should lower their gaze, if a woman can control herself why can’t guys?” spiel. Yes men should lower their gaze just as women should - but liberal mentality has assumed that men and women have the exact same weaknesses and strengths, and anything that challenges that notion makes you backwards, misogynistic, perverted and a judgmental person against and individuals freedom of expression.
What a world we live in now, people know who the truth are afraid of acting on it, and the wicked are free to promote and celebrate what was incomprehensible even just a few decades back.
It's really good that you add the note in your video's title that this is an 'Angry Rant' because it puts things into context for the viewers. I hope you make always put that disclaimer so viewers will understand where you're coming from. It adds so much non-verbal context to this video. 👍🏻 👍🏻 👍🏻 May Allah bless you with more Knowledge, more Wisdom, more Guidance, and most of all, with Patience. Thank you for your reminder. We are all guilty of one sin or another. May we all forgive each other's sins and trespasses against us/each other, and make dua that Allah will Guide us all even more on the straight path tomorrow than what we are on today.
Thank you brother jazaka allah khyran for this amazing vedio
You nailed it Ustadh Saajid! I don't know why it's so hard for some people to understand that western live style doesn't belong to us !
We don't want to be in a relationship with someone who doesn't lower his gaze ! Let alone shaking hands or hugging other women under the title of "just friends"!
Islam is the solution for social problems! And believe me women are the winners if they followed Islam properly! They will live in a happy household and their men will protect them with their lives !
Just leave the mentality of feminism and the western live style they won't bring you Justice ! Islam will save your life!
Men have got responsibilities and so do women
Thanks brother, you bring positivity to youtube.
May Allah bless you, mate.
Thank you my brother. Jazak allah khayr Allahumma baarik
This is one of the best video. .straight to the point..RESPECT😎👊👊👊
When I see people like Brother Saajid Lipham, Brother Yusha (Joshua) Evans and other good brothers adhere to the Islamic teaching and speaking it out in public with pride, i remember this verse :
{ يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا مَن يَرْتَدَّ مِنكُمْ عَن دِينِهِ فَسَوْفَ يَأْتِي اللَّهُ بِقَوْمٍ يُحِبُّهُمْ وَيُحِبُّونَهُ أَذِلَّةٍ عَلَى الْمُؤْمِنِينَ أَعِزَّةٍ عَلَى الْكَافِرِينَ يُجَاهِدُونَ فِي سَبِيلِ اللَّهِ وَلَا يَخَافُونَ لَوْمَةَ لَائِمٍ ۚ ذَٰلِكَ فَضْلُ اللَّهِ يُؤْتِيهِ مَن يَشَاءُ ۚ وَاللَّهُ وَاسِعٌ عَلِيمٌ} (المائدة:54)
Allah bless you. This is such an important reminder.
I am glad I found your channel brother. Preach, ma sha Allah.
Not a Muslim, but this is true. These issues are why I'm looking into Islam.
Why aren’t you a Muslim?
@@SaajidLipham Its a confusing age to be in, and I want to be sure that what im following is the truth.
That said, I'm sick of the modern world, and I see Islam and Sharia as having the cure. I believe there is only one God, but I dont know if Muhammad is His messenger.
What do you think about this: th-cam.com/video/nSejr4O9X-E/w-d-xo.html
@@SaajidLipham You make a good point. If God has revealed Himself, it would make sense that Muhammad was a Messenger. However many people have claimed to have received messages from God, and they would not be Gods messenger from your perspective, such as Catholic and Orthodox saints for example. So, who's telling the truth.
Are you still looking into Islam?
He is just spitting facts. Nowadays, people are so into throwing the double standard card which is to say “oh, but men can walk shirtless!” “Oh but men can be players!” But that’s not what Islam teaches us. Islam teaches us to be chaste, to be decent, to be pure and not to corrupt ourselves. Both men and women have our aurats to cover.
Thank you sooooo much brother as a practising Muslim woman i am so greatful that you made this video
Damn I like this dude. Thank you
Instantly subscribed, Really good video
Your videos help me stay on the deen. Jazak Allah Khairan! may Allah shower you with blessings 🤲
Angry rant???More like so on point.I loved it
Salam alaykum I really understand this...its hard to tell men why i cant touch them especially my male cousins (I come from a mexican american background). Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this issue brother. im a new revert, focusing on understanding quran, and im barely learning some hadiths but i need more help. Im scared to reach out because i live in usa and most muslims here make me feel extreme for simply following what quran and prophet muhammad pbuh. may Allah help and guide us ameen
Mashallah sister, I’m really happy you have found the right path :)
And don’t worry about not having much knowledge about Islam, this will change over time, we all start somewhere!
You can try reading a translated version of “Riyad al Salihin” and some Fiqh, Aqidah, etc...Also if you have Reddit there’s a Islam/Muslims subreddit where you can ask for resources and join a North American Muslim group.
Mind false info please, I advise you to join an Islamic course to protect yourself from falsehoods.
As for your cousins, I’m sure they can understand where you’re coming from and respect your boundaries if you explain it to them. Best of luck!
This is straight from the heart! Real talk. May Allah protect all societies.
Loved the points you touched on in the end of the video, sad that the average view time is only 5 minutes (based off TubeBuddy extension) because most people missed the main point. Subscribed, hoping to see more from you inshallah
Wow thank you for clearing up and thank you for explaining
حفظك الله يا ساجد وجعلك للمتقين إماماً
Assalāmu alaikum wa rahmatullāhi wa barakātuh akhi, may Allāh reward you immensely. That was a great reminder and to the point. I have just recently found your channel and so far benefitting from it. Akhi can you please do a video addressing sisters, who like the brothers have a strong desire to study and attain ilm. Wallahi i have for the longest time wished to live in Madinah but i think you can understand the difficulty in making that dream a reality. Is there any way for sisters to study/work there?
I have seen a comment in another one of his videos where a sister mentioned the females in the city meet up and do female-only halaqas to learn and teach each other. Try looking into those in your place.
Thank you brother saajid
Thank you brother
I 💗 Saudi Arabia, in fact I love all Muslim majority countries!! I’m amongst my brothers!!!!
This brother is so insparational. Walahi, I am so proud of you. Calling a spade a spade. Please keep up your amazing work.
I am arab and I know excatly what you are talking about.
Fun fact: Going against your values DECREASESE confidence.
may allah bless you brother, need more of videos like these
EXCELLENT speech brother, jazakallah khayran...
You are absolutely right God bless you
I'm muslim..Alladulaah..and i agree👍
U clear my all misconception.
Alhamdulilah for Islam
Interneters need you a lot, thanks for teaching so many of us. May Allah SWT bless your entire life.
جزاك الله خيرًا
Mashaallah I like your take. Keep spreading the truth. Allah will reword you.
You've described this sensitive topic in an incredibly intelligent & favourable aspect.
Zazakallahu khairan.
Love this video.... 👍👍👍
You really well conveyed the issue! May Allah grant you more knowledge and wisdom!!
Thanks for your videos bro. I agree with most of the things you think and it feels good to know there is a community out there with a like mind. Future Imaams, stay strong
Love that vid dude
Your work is priceless. May Allah reward you abundantly. You and Gabriel are so inspired and inspiring.
Mashallah brother you spoke about this very important issue so eloquently. Here in the UK as I am sure is the case in many countries, fornication is rife in our communities and the hijab is often mocked. Only Islam has the solution required to resolve these issues. People including myself will spend so much time watching all sorts of vlogs on here but we give little time to Islam. You are doing a better job at representing Islam than Muslims like me who were born into Islam and have become ungrateful. May Allah reward you for your efforts my dear brother.
Subscribed! Maasha’Allah tabarakAllah
Beautifully said!
I’m so proud of you brother mashallah
EEeeee my brother, you're hitting the nail. Here in Bosnia we have an islamic community that is not a classic community, it almost is on state level (exists over 100 years, made in time of Austria-Hungary), a bit difficult to explain... Anyway, there is a leader of that community called reis-ul-ulema (grand mufti) and he shakes hands of non-muslim women. It's a norm. He "has" to do it. And then when I don't shake hands with woman, everyone is kinda like, "what, are you better than grand mufti?!". My practicing uncles would give hand to my wife every single time they see us, and every single time it's akward situation for 10 seconds. And it's all because of a "leader" who has no problem of giving a hand to non-mahrem and then of course you're a wahhabi, extermist and what not... How is that for "throwing you under the bus"? :)
That is how we are build , Is our test as men . Am just glad is an American Muslim saying this .
Jazak Allah Khair brother
Good muslimbro appreciate what you doing for islam may the ALLAH protect you .have a good Ramadan
Well said brother. Ma sha Allah.
Amazingly said bro. Masha Allah
telling women to cover themselves is the highest level of self-control cause who doesn't like seeing women naked ?
God bless you brother. You are absolutely right about everything you have said
Alhamdullilah
You made it clear bro. Thanks
Jazak Allah Khair akh Sajid, wallahi you said the truth. May Allah SWT protect us and may He SWT keep us firm on the Deen.
Jazakum Allah Khairan
TELL IT! Thank you!
May Allah guide Christian brothers and sisters through this brother ❤️ Ameen