alhumdulilah, I feel blessed that my husband and I were able to marry at a relatively young age. We were 19 and 20 years old. We have increased in deen together, and duniya. All glory is due to Allah, Al-Haadi, who guided us.
Mashallah, may Allah bless you both. May Allah grant me a righteous husband as soon as possible as well, Im 26 and its really hard out here. SubhanAllah
I became Muslim before #YusufEstes I was also in my early 20s. Got married after practising for a while and learned the basics. Marriage is work and commitment. Think about ur future children and choose a good spouse even if he's not rich or very handsome but you like him 😊 Pray 'stikhara' b4 u make up ur mind about a person. Even if ppl get divorced some time later it's not a sin. You should still behave decently especially for ur children's well being.
I couldn't agree with you more...my wife and I decided to remove our three children from public school. Alhamdullilah, all three of our kids are now home schooled.
While I can't say I'd do that to my kids, I can definitely respect your decision, public schools in most countries are very bad, I've sent my kids to private school, it definitely hurts my budget but for their future I think it's worth my current situation.
To be honest, I saw some of brothers who got married at their 19th and some neighbor girl who got married at 18 and their marriage failed. Now I realized that these marriages could've easily been successful if both sides were in ome page when it comes to deen, but still it drove me back from thoughts of marriage. There is definitely other factors as well, and I personally know brothers who at the same circumstances kept their marriage. But in the end, not understanding our religion well made me forgot about this for now. I'm 23 now and Insha Allah I'll do my masters, but if I can find a muslimah who has strong emaan and knowledge of her deen I'm ready to step into real adulthood. And may Allah reward you for your efforts to call us to the good.
Salaamu alaykum ustadth. Im a 52 yr old salafi who has been married for 23 yrs and you are 100% on point keep up the good work for the sake of Allah. Jazak Allahu khyran
Allah may take care of you, but Muslims today aren't like before. "The Game" has infiltrated our ranks, and now, Muslimahs want the same traits in men disbelieving women want, and Muslims want in women what is idealized in women through media. Hypothetical example: I don't want to raise someone else's kids, and I don't expect a Muslimah to want a man that is inexperienced with women.
@@ManhaJSalafee asalam alaukum im man salafi alhamdolilah i wanna to marry not problem if you have kids but i wanna serious woman with hijeb pray afraid allah This my number whatsup 00212638791419
Sheikh we have a lot of communities in America that get married very young. Unfortunately the track-record is very poor. Very common to find teenage divorcees and people going through a number of marriages by their early and mid 20's. Often times this creates a lot of turmoil and particularly the young women rebel against the deen at this point thinking it is the only means to a stable life. The flipside of course is those waiting until they're much older, but the reality is for most of those who grew up here they'll be dating in that time period and their parents will have minimal influence on them. Those with stronger parental influence are those you'll most often see married in their 20's.
BaarakaAllahufeek, I'd love to know more about the specifics of this because I've never really heard about brothers & sisters getting married as teenagers in the U.S. or their experiences, seems like an important thing to learn from. Also I love your Muslim Tapes series, please keep em coming insha'Allah, jazakaAllahukhair.
Umar Lee Big problem is the lack of real commitment and they have to work harder on the marriage instead of fighting. We had sisters and brothers literally punching each other in their car outside the masjid on Eid! That was a smaller masjid in Montreal 25 yrs ago. Ppl maybe need to leave behind their Jahiliyah ways b4 marriage is even considered?
We would have to raise our children from very young ages to expect to be married while young in order for this to work. As is, we raise OUR sons and OUR daughters, forgetting we're raising someone else's wife or husband, leaving them unfit to marry at any age. Because if this phenomena, and the encroachment of western materialism and feminism into the Muslim community, I had to tell my son to prepare for the eventuality of never marrying, as nowadays we imitate all the negative traits of non-Muslims and feminism has gone haywire. But if he does marry, he must tell his kids at a young age to be responsible enough to marry, or they'll fail and divorce no matter what age they marry.
Assalamu alaykum I personally think it has to come from parental guidance, sadly parents are failing to teach their children in many factors, talking to the children whilst growing up is a must and I really feel society has an affect but the home life has to be firm, consistent and no compromising of the Deen. Many parents safeguard children upto a certain age and then let them go at teenage years, these years they need the parental control the most. Relationship development is so important. Parents really need to fear Allah and stop blaming society. Actually what these kids are doing under the parents roof is unbelievable. Contradiction of the Deen from the parents is a big factor and is confusing our youth. We are following the non Muslim in so many factors. May Allah guide us all. Aameen.
salamu alaikum akhi, I found this talk very beneficial and filled with haqq.i married my wife knowing she wasn't religious ie didn't pray often or fast the full month of Ramadan excetra.I didn't care much because I wasn't fully devoted to my Deen either meaning holding down my five pillars.now I'm 30 she's 25 and we have been married for 3 years of i have alhumdulillah become devoted to my Deen and bettering myself and now she doesn't pray at all subhan Allah and didn't fast one day in the month of Ramadan.Now I feel so separated from her and it saddens me that I didn't marry for her Deen as prescribed by our prophet saw.
Akhi if it has been that long then I think it's best that you move on. Any longer can put your Deen at risk !! If you really have been giving her naseeha from the beginning till now, and she still doesn't PRAY (Pillar of ISLAM btw...) then Wallahi you can do so much better.
You need to be patient and practice your nassiha and da’wah towards her softly. It’ll take time.. don’t forget, she could have been the one who became devoted to the deen instead of you.. don’t let her down. You married her knowing that and you were like her. May Allah swt help you achieve your goal!
you were at a low point of your deen as well. the religious are for the religious, that's kinda how it works. The same way you slowly became religious, your wife can too. Just advise her often. If after years of trying it's too much, then go to a sheikh or smth and sort it out in shaa allah
Couldn't agree more, it's really sad to see young muslim teens from as young as 16 stop losing hope in keeping chaste untill mariage just because the endgoal(marriage) feels so far away. These are issues that need to be spoken about more really
very true. i went to an all girls school in high school but in middle school the environment was very hard to be around and you do get influenced sometimes. but alhamdulilah my mom instilled in me to always be proud as a muslimah
Saajid, u really opened my eyes; I'm always saying I won't get marry until I get a better job or opportunity , but I'm realising now that I'm getting older . Greetings from Tunisia :)
As a 16 old living in Saudi Arabia, I can tell you that this extends problem far beyond the US. Now of course Saudi Arabia has laws and a society that go by Islamic rules that facilitates the life it dictates for Muslims, but through the west's shows and anime and manga from japan, we get exposed to this the life style you mentioned. I can only speak for myself but the result is utter hatred for the religion, from the heart, and how conservative it is. It's like I have missed out on a far more rich, fulfilling (to some extent), interesting, fun (to a good extent) and dynamic life because of the society the religion has brought about. All the while not truly finding religion as false so as a result being further in pain for hating on it.
Golden words right here! Its so frustrating how muslim parents delay marrying off their kids. The pros of marrying young (warding off fitnah which has become overwhelming in modern times) far surpasses the cons (having an actual career).
afwan there are many different books from the scholars that are way better than the book men r from mars... and it's translated into English. Rights of the Spouses by Sh. Ruhaylee, Concise Marriage Manual by Sh. Uthaymeen n more. that's better for us as Muslims to avoid books on this topic from Non Muslim Authors Allahu Aliim jaza ka Allahu khairan akhii for the efforts
mashaAllah a very good video, you are quite right in saying thst Islam has made things easier for us, its we that make it difficult by adding our terms and conditions on to the matter, jazakaAllah for spreading a good word
I pray that Allah opens the hearts and minds of those who seek to save their selves and their families from destruction in this life and the next. This is no joke! Brother Saajid, بارك الله فيكم
Good god you are all as brain dead as him. The picture he paints is rubbish. Islam is for people with no self control You have to be ruled by an evil draconian set of rules to be able to behave like decent human beings. God help you all..
Why are there so much rape and domestic violence in Islamic societies? Those stats are available too. In many cases, women are too scared to come forward. Our Ummah is far from clean in this matter. Maybe it has nothing to do with Islamic or non-Islamic societies. Maybe it has to do with many millennia of men oppressing women.
i dont know why non muslims have to comment on each of our videos its nothing to do with you guys go away we dont need you ....your not welcome here because you come here with intensions to make fun ....but in real your making fun of your own selves .... .ALLAH is great ......end of story
Haq upon Haq upon Haq akhi. If only those born into Islam could see it the way most converts do.... There is no harm in men and women marrying in college even if they can't afford to move out together. Just like non Muslims have girl friends and boy friends who visit each other's houses every weekend or whatever... Why can't Muslims do the same by marrying each other? Why such taboo? inshaAllah we need to not repeat the mistakes of our parents with our children. Excellent video mashaAllah.
That is absolutely true, even in the Arab world and in Saudi Arabia it is hard now unfortunately to get married, society epically in big city doesn’t accept marriage for young men and women, girls and their parents want her to live in a palace, men want to marry extremely beautiful women and this is the only thing they care about. Then when they reach to their 30s they start regretting their decisions, why not before?
the marriage that is islamic nikkah gives honour to spouses for graceful relationship. you cant just do something bad and be at the back or quit without treating somebody in the most humane way. Nikkah even allows a women and man to have relationship while they can progress in their career and help and support one another with love. Brother i totally agree with all problems of society but their should be more awareness platforms, people even the muslims do not thoroughly understand the eases they are blessed with bcoz they donot study Quran
I agree with you brother,but many people complicated this issue. I hope Muslim brothers and sisters understanding theirs relegions it's not complicated it's easy take it easier!!!! Money and materialise is not all in life.... Thank you brother.
islam is a religion that incorporates logic alhamdullilah. wisdom is found after analyzing any piece of guidance in the Quran and sunnah. great video as usual
From my personal experience, I can say that only those who have a really high "iman" along with a great chance (because it doesn't all depend on us), jump into marriage when young and without being rich or with a good salary. Most of us, me the first, are terrified of fear of facing such a thing as marriage, without really possessing the financial means already. Often then, it is the brides and their families who are terrified of accepting a young man who does not have much. Intellectually speaking, almost all of us Muslims have the mathematical certainty that it is Allah who decides the wealth or poverty of each of us, and when and how to deliver it to us, but in practice, the perception we have from the behavior of most of us contradicts this our belief. Our fear is stronger than our reason on this matter.
Ma Shaa Allah. You right brother 💯. Subha a Allah I got that book while ago although it's translate French. It's. Amazing to to see how different we are male and female
Assalam Alaykoum brother, well spoken, when it comes to polygamy in USA, the brothers are using Islam to used and manipulate the sisters, they barely have enough to take care themselves, most of them have this records that the wife have to be dealing with for the rest of her life, the brother needs to work for about 12 hours a day, no time to even give the wife her Intimacy right, sometimes 1 time a week or 2 weeks, Howe in the world Islam can Allow that brother to have more than one wife? When the first wife don't have 10% of her right, they need to lower their gaze , man have they answer from Allah, they cheating because they want to have different women all the time, I know Muslims with 3,4 wives and still cheat, remember when some man use to have 40 wives before Islam, they can't satisfy all those 2,3or 4 wives, not in USA, sisters will never forgave them for not providing all their rights
@@GNALENKonate72 That's right, So I suggest brothers save up their money for a year or two and move to a country like Egypt where the dollar goes a lot farther and make a business so they can have enough money to do what they want and afford to give the rights to their wives.
Totally agree with you brother. Muslims should *REVIVE ISLAMIC WAY OF LIFE; GET MARRIED EARLIER IN THEIR LIVES, just like what MOST of* *our parents did and just like how ALL our grandparents did.* Salaam to you and to all.
Gray Kin the aim of marriage is not to marry a virgin but rather marry a woman for your needs and to fulfill her need for protection and commitment. Prophet Mohammed’s (pbuh) first wife was not a virgin. The older people get the more likely they are to sin but their sin has nothing to do with your sin . If you want to marry when you are older are you trying to say you want to sin first and then marry a sinner or are you trying to say you just don’t want to get married ever .
Parents are accountable for all that the youth are going through. And it does not help in the Arab culture where parents are always thought of as right.
The marriage problem is a multifaceted problem with so many different nuances it's crazy, I think the biggest issues is we've left the sunnah behind and we're not raising children to become adults and responsible, alot of these problems would dissappear if we go back to the deen
This is exactly what I always think when Muslims want to migrate to west and think it's the paradise there!! I mean they either are puting their deen after everything else or they are not really thinking logicaly and honesly about all this! May Allah guides us and them
Sometimes I think about billionaires and how it's crazy how their kids grow up with so much money. Then I wonder, "why don't they just get married again if they have the means to take care of more people? Subhanallah it's such a waste, theres no way they can even spend that much money." I say this as a Muslim woman.
Cool. Its better to get married than in an unlawfull kind of relationship. Marriage is not haram in young age if the boys and girls in their puberty age.
I wish I could marry :( All the women wants is wealthy husbands. What about people like me? I don't mean to generalize but deen in a husband is the last thing girls and their dad's are looking for where I live. It's all about what job you have, what car you drive. Heck I can't marry a poor man's daughter too. Even most of them want a rich husband or prefer to marry in their own communities :/ It is tough for us young men. The sahaba had the trial of fighting in the way of Allah and we today have the fitna of wealth and women and marriage is difficult and zina is easy :((
@Gray Kin Im resigned to the fact that I will marry a refugee, an orphan or a widow. This life is short, so why not just accumulate good deeds and have what you desire in Jannah :)
Women don’t want wealthy men, they want security and caring men. Women usually abandon their families and lives to be wholly committed to their future husbands. It’s very challenging and somehow scary. So they need to be reassured. They want a man who is a real qawamun and a lover. I would say women are more into the looks than money nowadays. As for men, it has become all about looks AND money. More and more men demand wealthy women.. what’s worse? Both men and women have lost their priority of deen. They are only directed by their own interests and passions. May Allah swt help you find the spouse you deserve.
@@Hannah-xj1dz ameen. Maybe that may be true where you are sis, but I have already have 3 proposals rejected :) I was not even asked about my deen, we didn't even reach the looks part, primary questions are wealth related, things like what you do, what your dad does, where you live (signifies wealth) And maybe the part of men wanting wealth is true where you are. One of the proposals I intended was actually the daughter of a land farmer :) For context I am in Pakistan and wealth is like the primary selling point (many times the only) for men
AOA brther Sajjid, just a thought: Allah created Woman for Man's "companionship" & vice versa. This "relationship" is far beyond "physical" parameters. Our mach & feline personas have stagnated our onward journey together in our married lives. This is not just a "physical togetherness" it is merging of two "spirits, a "sacred union". We have to surpass the flesh & blood phenomena, to achive our inherent potential which Allah Desires. Vas Salam. Peace to all.
alhumdulilah, I feel blessed that my husband and I were able to marry at a relatively young age. We were 19 and 20 years old. We have increased in deen together, and duniya. All glory is due to Allah, Al-Haadi, who guided us.
Great.. for some reason ur comment made me cry sis.. u made a great decision
Nouman SAGHIR turning 37 and been wanting to get married for more than 10 years. Qadr...
@@Hannah-xj1dz Allah tests the ones He loves.
Masha Allah، لا حول و لا قوة الا بالله
Im happy for you sister
Mashallah, may Allah bless you both.
May Allah grant me a righteous husband as soon as possible as well, Im 26 and its really hard out here. SubhanAllah
can you make this kind of video LONGER. I wouldn't mind to watch even if it's an hour. I am atheist but love your content.
You can watch his all of his videos. He makes really eye opening content.
Read Quran 52:35-36
I became Muslim before #YusufEstes I was also in my early 20s. Got married after practising for a while and learned the basics. Marriage is work and commitment. Think about ur future children and choose a good spouse even if he's not rich or very handsome but you like him 😊 Pray 'stikhara' b4 u make up ur mind about a person. Even if ppl get divorced some time later it's not a sin. You should still behave decently especially for ur children's well being.
Jazakillahu khairon sister for the advice 😊
I couldn't agree with you more...my wife and I decided to remove our three children from public school. Alhamdullilah, all three of our kids are now home schooled.
Brother trust me you did your kids a huge favour and saved them from massive fitnah. May Allah reward your family for doing the right thing.
Kraixo Jazakulllah khair akhi may Allah bless you.
As long as my kids don't grow out to be like you I will be more then happy.
you're basically destroying your kids social skills. they will grow up unprepared in the world
While I can't say I'd do that to my kids, I can definitely respect your decision, public schools in most countries are very bad, I've sent my kids to private school, it definitely hurts my budget but for their future I think it's worth my current situation.
To be honest, I saw some of brothers who got married at their 19th and some neighbor girl who got married at 18 and their marriage failed. Now I realized that these marriages could've easily been successful if both sides were in ome page when it comes to deen, but still it drove me back from thoughts of marriage. There is definitely other factors as well, and I personally know brothers who at the same circumstances kept their marriage. But in the end, not understanding our religion well made me forgot about this for now.
I'm 23 now and Insha Allah I'll do my masters, but if I can find a muslimah who has strong emaan and knowledge of her deen I'm ready to step into real adulthood.
And may Allah reward you for your efforts to call us to the good.
I am a muslim girl studying psych and bio in America, but men in here they want only one stand relationships and it is not for me!
00966553590936 ... Looking for a serious muslima , am religion student in Saudi madinah university Inshallah.
☝Ignore this brother astagrifullah . Stay strong sister stay on islam
Marriage is sacred and to be taken seriously.
Salaamu alaykum ustadth. Im a 52 yr old salafi who has been married for 23 yrs and you are 100% on point keep up the good work for the sake of Allah. Jazak Allahu khyran
Marriage depresses me. I am a revert to Islam and I have two children as a single mother. Who wants to marry a woman that already has kids?
Allah may take care of you, but Muslims today aren't like before. "The Game" has infiltrated our ranks, and now, Muslimahs want the same traits in men disbelieving women want, and Muslims want in women what is idealized in women through media. Hypothetical example: I don't want to raise someone else's kids, and I don't expect a Muslimah to want a man that is inexperienced with women.
Somebody who have kids will marry you
In sha Allah
@@ManhaJSalafee asalam alaukum im man salafi alhamdolilah i wanna to marry not problem if you have kids but i wanna serious woman with hijeb pray afraid allah
This my number whatsup
00212638791419
Maybe you can find another revert with children?
Hope Allah swt has eased your problems sister
Brother I have been reading the book you recommended 'Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus', it really is an eye opener! JazakAllah Khair
Sheikh we have a lot of communities in America that get married very young. Unfortunately the track-record is very poor. Very common to find teenage divorcees and people going through a number of marriages by their early and mid 20's. Often times this creates a lot of turmoil and particularly the young women rebel against the deen at this point thinking it is the only means to a stable life. The flipside of course is those waiting until they're much older, but the reality is for most of those who grew up here they'll be dating in that time period and their parents will have minimal influence on them. Those with stronger parental influence are those you'll most often see married in their 20's.
BaarakaAllahufeek, I'd love to know more about the specifics of this because I've never really heard about brothers & sisters getting married as teenagers in the U.S. or their experiences, seems like an important thing to learn from. Also I love your Muslim Tapes series, please keep em coming insha'Allah, jazakaAllahukhair.
Umar Lee Big problem is the lack of real commitment and they have to work harder on the marriage instead of fighting. We had sisters and brothers literally punching each other in their car outside the masjid on Eid! That was a smaller masjid in Montreal 25 yrs ago. Ppl maybe need to leave behind their Jahiliyah ways b4 marriage is even considered?
We would have to raise our children from very young ages to expect to be married while young in order for this to work. As is, we raise OUR sons and OUR daughters, forgetting we're raising someone else's wife or husband, leaving them unfit to marry at any age. Because if this phenomena, and the encroachment of western materialism and feminism into the Muslim community, I had to tell my son to prepare for the eventuality of never marrying, as nowadays we imitate all the negative traits of non-Muslims and feminism has gone haywire. But if he does marry, he must tell his kids at a young age to be responsible enough to marry, or they'll fail and divorce no matter what age they marry.
Assalamu alaykum I personally think it has to come from parental guidance, sadly parents are failing to teach their children in many factors, talking to the children whilst growing up is a must and I really feel society has an affect but the home life has to be firm, consistent and no compromising of the Deen. Many parents safeguard children upto a certain age and then let them go at teenage years, these years they need the parental control the most. Relationship development is so important. Parents really need to fear Allah and stop blaming society. Actually what these kids are doing under the parents roof is unbelievable. Contradiction of the Deen from the parents is a big factor and is confusing our youth. We are following the non Muslim in so many factors. May Allah guide us all. Aameen.
SubhanAllah... #haqq! May Allah make it easy for us shabaab to get married and make us steadfast before that.
Ameen
I will be 75 in Dec, but I'm learning keep up the good work Allahu wa aalam
salamu alaikum akhi, I found this talk very beneficial and filled with haqq.i married my wife knowing she wasn't religious ie didn't pray often or fast the full month of Ramadan excetra.I didn't care much because I wasn't fully devoted to my Deen either meaning holding down my five pillars.now I'm 30 she's 25 and we have been married for 3 years of i have alhumdulillah become devoted to my Deen and bettering myself and now she doesn't pray at all subhan Allah and didn't fast one day in the month of Ramadan.Now I feel so separated from her and it saddens me that I didn't marry for her Deen as prescribed by our prophet saw.
Akhi if it has been that long then I think it's best that you move on. Any longer can put your Deen at risk !! If you really have been giving her naseeha from the beginning till now, and she still doesn't PRAY (Pillar of ISLAM btw...) then Wallahi you can do so much better.
You need to be patient and practice your nassiha and da’wah towards her softly. It’ll take time.. don’t forget, she could have been the one who became devoted to the deen instead of you.. don’t let her down. You married her knowing that and you were like her. May Allah swt help you achieve your goal!
you were at a low point of your deen as well. the religious are for the religious, that's kinda how it works. The same way you slowly became religious, your wife can too. Just advise her often. If after years of trying it's too much, then go to a sheikh or smth and sort it out in shaa allah
It is for you to leave her. It i not allowed for people who are striving for piety to be with people who aren't.
Couldn't agree more, it's really sad to see young muslim teens from as young as 16 stop losing hope in keeping chaste untill mariage just because the endgoal(marriage) feels so far away. These are issues that need to be spoken about more really
very true. i went to an all girls school in high school but in middle school the environment was very hard to be around and you do get influenced sometimes. but alhamdulilah my mom instilled in me to always be proud as a muslimah
When you don't fear Allah, your on a downhill spiral
Keep up the good work! I trust that you will come back to the U. S. to teach your people when you are ready Inshallah.
Barak'Allah'feekum ya sheikh. Very good video.
jazakalah khayr Saajid, this making sence alot
Saajid, u really opened my eyes; I'm always saying I won't get marry until I get a better job or opportunity , but I'm realising now that I'm getting older . Greetings from Tunisia :)
I am in tune with everything you are saying we are on the same page, thank you brother for spreading the positive message
In hindsight it's crazy that High Schools had daycares ...
As a 16 old living in Saudi Arabia, I can tell you that this extends problem far beyond the US. Now of course Saudi Arabia has laws and a society that go by Islamic rules that facilitates the life it dictates for Muslims, but through the west's shows and anime and manga from japan, we get exposed to this the life style you mentioned. I can only speak for myself but the result is utter hatred for the religion, from the heart, and how conservative it is. It's like I have missed out on a far more rich, fulfilling (to some extent), interesting, fun (to a good extent) and dynamic life because of the society the religion has brought about. All the while not truly finding religion as false so as a result being further in pain for hating on it.
It is only when you lose something you later realize its true value.
very good advice. JazakAllahuKhair
Wow very good video you are right brother it is not easy especially for the elder sisters and all praise to the most HIGH ALLAH is the GREATEST!
Golden words right here! Its so frustrating how muslim parents delay marrying off their kids. The pros of marrying young (warding off fitnah which has become overwhelming in modern times) far surpasses the cons (having an actual career).
afwan there are many different books from the scholars that are way better than the book men r from mars... and it's translated into English. Rights of the Spouses by Sh. Ruhaylee, Concise Marriage Manual by Sh. Uthaymeen n more. that's better for us as Muslims to avoid books on this topic from Non Muslim Authors Allahu Aliim jaza ka Allahu khairan akhii for the efforts
Jazakillahu khairon sister for your recommendation 😊
One of the best scholars I'm following, may Allah bestow on you his rahamat and bless you with more and more knowledge
Thank you for the video, lots of great info, and the way you put it is just flawless.
I haven't subscribed to the brother channel but I keep get suggestions of his videos. Here am subscribing now
This hit me very deeply. I appreciate your videos, it is helping me to become a better person.
mashaAllah a very good video, you are quite right in saying thst Islam has made things easier for us, its we that make it difficult by adding our terms and conditions on to the matter, jazakaAllah for spreading a good word
I pray that Allah opens the hearts and minds of those who seek to save their selves and their families from destruction in this life and the next. This is no joke! Brother Saajid, بارك الله فيكم
MA SHA ALLAH Beautiful video...May ALLAH bless you always Ameen.
ربي يحفظك من ليبيا
Thank you so much! 💓
Jazaka Allhu khairan brother.
well said 💯 brother saajid
Good god you are all as brain dead as him. The picture he paints is rubbish. Islam is for people with no self control
You have to be ruled by an evil draconian set of rules to be able to behave like decent human beings. God help you all..
why u have so many rape cases in the non islamic socities? you can look up the stats
Why are there so much rape and domestic violence in Islamic societies? Those stats are available too. In many cases, women are too scared to come forward. Our Ummah is far from clean in this matter. Maybe it has nothing to do with Islamic or non-Islamic societies. Maybe it has to do with many millennia of men oppressing women.
i dont know why non muslims have to comment on each of our videos its nothing to do with you guys go away we dont need you ....your not welcome here because you come here with intensions to make fun ....but in real your making fun of your own selves .... .ALLAH is great ......end of story
@@DarlingEbony
Maybe it has to do with the fact that you're lying and the fact that the US has a higher rape rate than any Muslim country.
Always love your videos, Sallam from Indonesia akhi
LOVE AND RESPECT FROM LONDON
Lipham! honestly you are a blessing to this Ummah and I pray Allah preserve you for us. Love from Nigeria.... Salaam
Haq upon Haq upon Haq akhi. If only those born into Islam could see it the way most converts do.... There is no harm in men and women marrying in college even if they can't afford to move out together. Just like non Muslims have girl friends and boy friends who visit each other's houses every weekend or whatever... Why can't Muslims do the same by marrying each other? Why such taboo? inshaAllah we need to not repeat the mistakes of our parents with our children. Excellent video mashaAllah.
brother I'm not even Muslim but I agree with some of the points you made that are solid as a rock
That is absolutely true, even in the Arab world and in Saudi Arabia it is hard now unfortunately to get married, society epically in big city doesn’t accept marriage for young men and women, girls and their parents want her to live in a palace, men want to marry extremely beautiful women and this is the only thing they care about.
Then when they reach to their 30s they start regretting their decisions, why not before?
the marriage that is islamic nikkah gives honour to spouses for graceful relationship. you cant just do something bad and be at the back or quit without treating somebody in the most humane way. Nikkah even allows a women and man to have relationship while they can progress in their career and help and support one another with love. Brother i totally agree with all problems of society but their should be more awareness platforms, people even the muslims do not thoroughly understand the eases they are blessed with bcoz they donot study Quran
that speaks to me so much !
Absolutely right brother, and a very beneficial video
جزاكم الله الجنة من الفردوس الأعلى.
Having a righteous wife is the most enjoyable thing in the world.
Mashallah, may Allah bless you brother and all muslims and guild all whom seek the truth to his mercy.
I agree with you brother,but many people complicated this issue.
I hope Muslim brothers and sisters understanding theirs relegions it's not complicated it's easy take it easier!!!!
Money and materialise is not all in life....
Thank you brother.
ان لم تنصروه فقد نصره الله
سبحان الله يرتد العرب ويسلم العجم
اللهم بارك في امة محمد صلى الله عليه وسلم
This came exactly when I needed it. But how am I suppose to marry if I'm still studying and not working ? How will I hold the house together.
islam is a religion that incorporates logic alhamdullilah. wisdom is found after analyzing any piece of guidance in the Quran and sunnah. great video as usual
Massa-Allah tabarakallah brother your speech will enlighten both male and female and the ummah at large.
From my personal experience, I can say that only those who have a really high "iman" along with a great chance (because it doesn't all depend on us), jump into marriage when young and without being rich or with a good salary. Most of us, me the first, are terrified of fear of facing such a thing as marriage, without really possessing the financial means already. Often then, it is the brides and their families who are terrified of accepting a young man who does not have much.
Intellectually speaking, almost all of us Muslims have the mathematical certainty that it is Allah who decides the wealth or poverty of each of us, and when and how to deliver it to us, but in practice, the perception we have from the behavior of most of us contradicts this our belief. Our fear is stronger than our reason on this matter.
Parents as well should make things easy for their children. They make marriage so difficult.
جزاك الله خيرا ❤️🇩🇿
Ma Shaa Allah. You right brother 💯. Subha a Allah I got that book while ago although it's translate French. It's. Amazing to to see how different we are male and female
What's the book? Missed the name
brother you are right! the ideology came out through your talk I trust on it. many muslim family I saw, they don't take it seriously.
Thank you so much brother. May Allah protect and bless you amin.
Excellent book recommendation, ma sha Allah.
brother can you please show the roads when you are making video we'd love to see madinah
mohammad zohorul Asalam aleykum I'd , too
mohammad zohorul great idea! a two camera setup, put his face as a video-in-video and see Madinah.
Masha allah Alaahu akbar Alaahu akbar Alaahu akbar Alaahu akbar Alaahu akbar Alaahu akbar Alaahu waa lilaahi hamdi
Assalam Alaykoum brother, well spoken, when it comes to polygamy in USA, the brothers are using Islam to used and manipulate the sisters, they barely have enough to take care themselves, most of them have this records that the wife have to be dealing with for the rest of her life, the brother needs to work for about 12 hours a day, no time to even give the wife her Intimacy right, sometimes 1 time a week or 2 weeks, Howe in the world Islam can Allow that brother to have more than one wife? When the first wife don't have 10% of her right, they need to lower their gaze , man have they answer from Allah, they cheating because they want to have different women all the time, I know Muslims with 3,4 wives and still cheat, remember when some man use to have 40 wives before Islam, they can't satisfy all those 2,3or 4 wives, not in USA, sisters will never forgave them for not providing all their rights
@@GNALENKonate72 That's right, So I suggest brothers save up their money for a year or two and move to a country like Egypt where the dollar goes a lot farther and make a business so they can have enough money to do what they want and afford to give the rights to their wives.
BROTHER IS MORE PURE MUSLIM THEN WE MUSLIM BY BIRTH,
ALMIGHTY LORD BLESS YOU ,AMIN,
you are so right Masha'Allah!
Great advice. We need more of these discussions
Well said, brother. Jazakallahu kheiran.
Mashallah spot on
Totally agree with you brother.
Muslims should *REVIVE ISLAMIC WAY OF LIFE; GET MARRIED EARLIER IN THEIR LIVES, just like what MOST of*
*our parents did and just like how ALL our grandparents did.*
Salaam to you and to all.
Gray Kin the aim of marriage is not to marry a virgin but rather marry a woman for your needs and to fulfill her need for protection and commitment. Prophet Mohammed’s (pbuh) first wife was not a virgin. The older people get the more likely they are to sin but their sin has nothing to do with your sin . If you want to marry when you are older are you trying to say you want to sin first and then marry a sinner or are you trying to say you just don’t want to get married ever .
Parents are accountable for all that the youth are going through. And it does not help in the Arab culture where parents are always thought of as right.
Thanks for the talk on marriage in Islam. I have learnt so much from you. Alhamdullilah
May Allah bless you
ماشاء الله بارك الله لنا في عمرنا و جعل من أهل الجنة أخي i'm Mohammed from algéria wish you the best from god and for US
May Allah bless you brother
Amiin
You are really shading a light to a very important factor
MaşALLAH elhamdulillah my brother
Mansha Jzkalaah, nice brotherhood talk
Great thinking and explanation
Mashaallah you right and path guider to light bless you
Ameen. Salam ...
Well said, Brother!
JazakAllahu khaira💕
well talk my brother جزاكم الله خيرا
بارك الله فيك
JazakAllah kheir, good naseeha
As I'm watching this video I'm trying to see if I recognize any scenery in the background.
This is the religion I love and I’m walking away it’s too hard
There was a daycare in my high school too with plenty of girls with kids there, this was a bit of a shock for me.
ماشاءالله سلام salem de france akhy
Thank you for talking about this my brother may Allah rewards you inshallah
The marriage problem is a multifaceted problem with so many different nuances it's crazy, I think the biggest issues is we've left the sunnah behind and we're not raising children to become adults and responsible, alot of these problems would dissappear if we go back to the deen
Your channel is excellent
Spoken like a legend
جزاك الله خير.
Let’s frequently seek forgiveness from Allah because nobody knows what will happen in the next minute Astagfirullah wa atuubu ilaihi🤲🏼
This is exactly what I always think when Muslims want to migrate to west and think it's the paradise there!! I mean they either are puting their deen after everything else or they are not really thinking logicaly and honesly about all this! May Allah guides us and them
Well said.. i couldn't agree more. May Allah reward you Jannah
May Allah bless you Sajid
he is right
Sometimes I think about billionaires and how it's crazy how their kids grow up with so much money. Then I wonder, "why don't they just get married again if they have the means to take care of more people? Subhanallah it's such a waste, theres no way they can even spend that much money." I say this as a Muslim woman.
Cool. Its better to get married than in an unlawfull kind of relationship. Marriage is not haram in young age if the boys and girls in their puberty age.
I wish I could marry :(
All the women wants is wealthy husbands. What about people like me? I don't mean to generalize but deen in a husband is the last thing girls and their dad's are looking for where I live. It's all about what job you have, what car you drive. Heck I can't marry a poor man's daughter too. Even most of them want a rich husband or prefer to marry in their own communities :/
It is tough for us young men. The sahaba had the trial of fighting in the way of Allah and we today have the fitna of wealth and women and marriage is difficult and zina is easy :((
@Gray Kin Im resigned to the fact that I will marry a refugee, an orphan or a widow. This life is short, so why not just accumulate good deeds and have what you desire in Jannah :)
Women don’t want wealthy men, they want security and caring men. Women usually abandon their families and lives to be wholly committed to their future husbands. It’s very challenging and somehow scary. So they need to be reassured. They want a man who is a real qawamun and a lover. I would say women are more into the looks than money nowadays. As for men, it has become all about looks AND money. More and more men demand wealthy women.. what’s worse? Both men and women have lost their priority of deen. They are only directed by their own interests and passions. May Allah swt help you find the spouse you deserve.
@@Hannah-xj1dz ameen. Maybe that may be true where you are sis, but I have already have 3 proposals rejected :)
I was not even asked about my deen, we didn't even reach the looks part, primary questions are wealth related, things like what you do, what your dad does, where you live (signifies wealth)
And maybe the part of men wanting wealth is true where you are. One of the proposals I intended was actually the daughter of a land farmer :)
For context I am in Pakistan and wealth is like the primary selling point (many times the only) for men
@@Hannah-xj1dz I think you're living in another universe.
AOA brther Sajjid, just a thought: Allah created Woman for Man's "companionship" & vice versa. This "relationship" is far beyond "physical" parameters. Our mach & feline personas have stagnated our onward journey together in our married lives. This is not just a "physical togetherness" it is merging of two "spirits, a "sacred union". We have to surpass the flesh & blood phenomena, to achive our inherent potential which Allah Desires. Vas Salam. Peace to all.