Rising Above Anxiety: Breaking Free From VICTIM MENTALITY
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 25 มี.ค. 2023
- I've never met ANYONE who suffered from chronic anxiety and didn't see themselves as a victim, including and especially ME.
For the most part, anxious people were victims of trauma or unresolved emotional pain and our nervous system was trained to be on defense, which will never allow us to heal from anxiety.
To heal, we must see our victim mentality and go TOWARDS our fears and not retreat from it.
Thank you for listening.
You can find me on IG: @theanxietymd if you have any questions.
P.S I wrote THE book on healing anxiety. It's my life's work so that you don't have to suffer like I did.
You can get it here -- www.theanxietymd.com/linkinbio
I used to live in chronic protection from real & imagined threats,
now I'm moving in to the pleasure of safety, comfort, & rest.
I’d give Dr Kennedy a Nobel prize. No one ever explained all about anxiety so clearly, and with such compassion. Like he really is trying to reach deep inside every listener. Each and every video is full of life changing information. I’m filled with hope. Many blessings Dr. Russ. TY
For me, it's health anxiety that's exacerbated by general anxiety. The cortisol and adrenaline keep me from sleeping and cause all sorts of muscle tension that my amygdala interprets as heart issues or stroke or whatever...and that triggers the panic.
CBT is helping but, when I'm tired at the end of the week, shaky and weak, survival mode gets triggered and the brain decides that it's our last 12 hours left alive and the obsessive, catastrophic thoughts flow. A good night's rest after lemon balm tea clears it up and I am totally OK the next day...until fatigue and tension wear me down for another crisis in a couple of days.
I am so sick of this cycle.
Truly inspired ! Thank you for showing up today and pushing thru your 'freeze'. I started to get anxious today while 'alone' at the Farmers Market. A little girl by me was so delighted by buying herself a pear, that I grabbed my own pear and reflected how wonderful our pears were going to be. I thought......wait a minute..... I bought a pear for MY inner child, and my anxiety and feelings of aloneness started to subside, and I felt better. I've been doing some self-directed brain re-training. I used to command my limbic system to calm down and not fire off all time. But now I use a softer, understanding mommy tone, and speak more kindly to my protective limbic system, and I think that it's working better to help me find calm.
I confronted my victim mentality about a month ago a few weeks after a breakdown where I landed in a mental health ER overnight. Factually my situation is precarious and am facing financial, career instability and some level of housing instability. But I was thrust into this after coming out of straight marriage, so I remind myself I chose this. I could not continue to live someone else's life. Cognitively I know this, but my traumatized child is definitely taking over, and the insomnia and hypertension are almost debilitating. I am practicing showing my traumatized inner child love and compassion thanks to you. Cognitively I am all for moving forward, but am concerned that my body will give out from the physical strain. In any case thank you for this, Doctor, and I hope all is well with your mother.
This is the most powerful straight-talk about victim mentality that I have EVER heard. Thank you for this gift!
Fascinating description of the cascade of events…
This was life-changing. I had a fight with my boyfriend last night that almost broke us up during which he accused me of constantly playing the victim and making him the perpetrator. I denied it profusely because I thought being a victim meant being powerless, but it can also look like blaming others for your own negative emotions as you mentioned. I suffer from GAD so everything you said checks out, and I'm so grateful that you listed clear action items for coming out of victim mentality and healing anxiety.
Thank you so much for such an enlightening video as always, your content has been transformative and I hope I can be healed one day like you!
You nailed it, Doc! Despite your heavy heart, you shared your wisdom. Thank you so much. Praying for your Mom. 🙏
Dynamite as always. Straight to the point, compassionate and doable. Thank you
Hope both your mum & you are doing better 🙏🏼🙏🏼 Thank you for still thinking of us 🫶🏼
Thank you for showing up even though you didn’t want to. I hope your Mom is ok. I love the way you share your content scientifically & psychologically whilst including your own personal experience. I have recently found myself defaulting to victim mode as i navigate grief following the death of my Dad last year & having to clear & sell the home I grew up in & move house myself- all whilst trying to rebuild my business. My anxiety at times, has been through the roof. I have found moving my body & cold water swimming helpful, yet the repeated practice required to break the pattern of anxiety can feel exhausting.
I’m finally feeling like I’m emerging. I’m curious to know your take on how to heal without falling into victimhood during bouts of grief. Thank you again 🙏✨
Thank you for this podcast. I’ve been increasingly aware of when I enter victim mentality and your talk today really helped! Your book and all of you posts and podcasts are helping my healing along. And ps. You didn’t seem “off” at all!!
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I hope your mom is doing better now.
My mom also has asthma. She had a hard time with covid.
Looking forward to your yoga thing you're working on.
4 words. Thank you for sharing. It completely resonates for me dr. Very appreciative 🙏
Hi from Liverpool UK love your. Videos help me sooooooo much x
Hope your mom is doing better and you’re at peace now. Thank you for sharing your knowledge at such a difficult time.
Thank you for being a great example of freeing from the victim. Wish all the best with your mom. ❤
Thank you so much for all your work Russel, you are so open a honest about your humanity, that helps me to be more compassionate and loving to myself, I do not anyone on youtube to be so vulnerable. All blessings for you Dear brother
Thank you so much for this talk. Can’t tell you how much this is going to help me. Just what I needed to hear at this time. All the best. 🙏🏼
You done good, Dr. Russ! Keep 'am comin'!
Thank you Doc, your words are very inspiring, hope your mom gets well.
♥️💙♥️💙♥️💙👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻this is so incredibly helpful….I’m going to begin my decluttering today! ty!!
Always enjoy listening to your videos. Thank you.
That's good stuff. Very helpful. Thank you.
Thank You for Your Unbelievably Timely Gift.
God bless, praying for you Doctor 🙏🏽
I want to speak with as much conviction as you some day
Thank you for being here even though you are carrying weight today.
Mushrooms containing psilocybin saved my life. The aided my benzodiazepine withdrawal allowing me to quit illicit pill addiction after three years of heavy daily use before it would had became medically dangerous to quit. It has also helped me survive depression.
Psychedelics definitely have potential to deal with mental health symptoms like anxiety and depression, I would like to try them again but it's just so hard to source out here
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Thank you!
Thank you for all your words of hope
Thank you very much, Russell. This is really helpful to me. I really apreciate you making these videos. I hope your mother is getting better 🙏♥
So glad you did this video…it’s exactly what I needed to hear/learn today, as I juggle so many issues, all of which you mentioned in this vid🙌🏼😃..thank you 💞
I’m healing thank you❤️
Thank you for your work 🙏you are help a lots of people
Thank you very much for whole your videos. You videos was an aye opener for me. After 20 years I realized what I have a panic attack again. I am working now with self therapy based on IFS system
Thank you. I hope your mother is better.
Truth spoken here from a deep understanding of the issue. Thank you for this - so helpful.
Thank you for sharing valuable information I can surely use personally and share with my clients!!❤
Thank you for explaining this. I am grateful to you, doctor.
Thank you!
I found The polyvagal theory very interesting. I did the safe and sound protocol
Yoga nidra.. bring it on.
You are a blessing!
Movement is very helpful.
Thank you
I hope your mom feels better soon❤
This is powerful
Thank you!
Amazing video and you are a wonderful guy who helped us so much ❤ Dr Russ, is different parts of alarm equals to different ages of our childhood with diff trauma?? 😊 appreciated so much
Sooo wonderful you are!
Thx !😂
The physiological symptoms of anxiety is unbelievable
So much truth.
From another video but I tried looking for my ALARM at 4 am with anxiety. I thought I felt it and held onto it. It didn’t feel good but I continued to try. 2 hours later when I got up I had MAJOR anxiety. I don’t understand 😢
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When I find that child, it's painful! I experience the pain again, like I'm living it...help!
I am terrified of traffic and being away from my house. I've tried so so much but I get such crippling panic attacks. I'm so stuck physically/mentally
Is the yoga nidra trying to address any particular chakra?
Whew.
I’m stuck trying to reach the sub cortical. It still hurts
Sir i Don't know how to thank you...may allah gives you more knowledge. I wish i could work with you as assistant.. I studied in pharmacy..
How do you deal with trauma caused by religious indoctrination in being fearful to all powerful god? Some of my anxiety comes from that trauma of not being good enough to god, always falling short in sin. Also regarding moving, my anxiety causes me to always be on the move. It is difficult to stay still and just relax.
How do you dialogue while in terror mode of the worst kind,
all the while moving forward
Where is the Yoga Nidra??
Thanks in advance 🐰
I’m recording it right now.
Yoga nidra ready Dr.Kennedy?❤
What if we never became a “competent adult?” What if we spent our entire life in fear?
We all have ELEMENTS of competence. Focus on what you CAN do. ❤️
Put love in the dark room where the dark stuff is?
Yoga nidra?
having trouble being cornered by a posing wife who needs to sift through my family and smirk or make me feel like a chump, because her identity is mrs. jones....she is a the new workplace bully.
What a likeable guy