How to Build Self Confidence and Self Esteem | Mel Robbins
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To be heard, to be seen, to be belonged
The thought that takes me down is the nicer I am, the nastier someone I love is towards me.
Hi Gisele 😘
i struggle with this one too sometimes but we can always flip it around by saying: im a good person and i deserve good things; i feel good when im nice; im a nice person; my loved ones appreciate me (thinking of ways they do or things they say) + how other people treat me is not my responsibility and i treat others how i want to be treated 🌱🌸
Gisele, you are a better woman than me. I cannot love someone who is nasty in any way, shape or form.
Me too
i'm going to guess you don't have boundaries in place .. because i think if you had boundaries you won't let anyone disrespect you.. to know your worth more..
The thoughts that bring me down - I am not good enough & Nothing can be done by me, I'm just hopeless (and it covers : career, family, friends, success, wealth, looks and obviously luck)
I have been listening to you for about two months now, and you are changing my life every single day. I love how your voice and appearance are so approachable, kind, no-nonsense, and smart. I realize that saying "appearance" there isn't a great thing, I guess, since it's shallow, but it is helpful. When you said Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs today, I freaking hollered about it in my house...I learned this in psyc 101 20 years ago when beginning my degree, but no one was talking about it widely until recently. THANK YOU for doing what you do. Thank you for being honest, vulnerable, real, and helpful.
I want to be seen heard and to be celebrated and accepted as an unique individual.
Love you Mel
thank you for believing in me
a nice and friendly reminder
Unconditional positive regard , communication , loved !
I believe in a long happy life
Negative Thought: “It doesn’t matter how hard I work - Any Good/ Happiness that I achieve, always disappears. Good is only meant for others!”
Mel: Your Step-by-Step Instruction for: Identifying thoughts/beliefs, & new thoughts & Action… Is a God-Send! Thank You!
I want to “Write of my “Everyday Miracles,” to Glorify God, & Draw Others to HIS Son’s Gospel. 2nd Goal: I will start a Charity/ Half-way Facility for Aged-Out Foster Kids that are Homeless (Never Adopted).
Many Narcissists that: Don’t hear Me, Devalue me, & Despitefully use Me. PRAY for them, & turn them over to GOD, instead of pouring more Energy into THEM/ chasing Approval. Instead, use that Energy to Find/Develop a surrogate Family, that will return my Efforts, & “Will hear Me, & will Return my Love with Acceptance & Celebration for ME!”
🙏🏻💛🕊🍃
Your doing good mel your doing great
thank you for telling mel
I think the pandemic opened people's eyes to the fact that we need to go back to what it used to be like.
Meaning spending more time with family not being so self absorbed with work or ourselves. Making time for the people that we love and not just using work is an excuse. I've been through a lot in my life and what always saves me is the fact that I would pull the good out of even the worst situation and I think that's what we all had to do during the pandemic.
I feel that concerning confidence and self-esteem you do have to dig deep and you do have to pause and you do have to reset and change the wording in order to be the best we can be. Love your videos and I'm sorry you had to go through what you did concerning to sell your home.
I want to enjoy the time I have left on this Earth by being appreciated loved scene as well heard.
👆𝚃𝚑𝚊𝚗𝚔 𝚢𝚘𝚞!
👆𝚃𝚑𝚊𝚗𝚔 𝚢𝚘𝚞!
how to build confidence really good
I've thought I was NOT enough for ad long as I can remember. I also know I was NOT born with those ugly doubts & fears. Now I working to celebrate ME, just as I am MINUS the noise of old lies & poisonous doubts and fears.
I don’t have an active thought that takes me down but instead it’s self concept of not being worthy of love, of prosperity, not being worthy of being respected. I’m working hard and eliminating that self concept and live that you have partnered with me for my growth! Thank you Mel ❤️❤️
Good
after noon I'm pure and super healthy and I kept telling and declaring that since it's nice and respectful
Mel Thanks So Much For This Message!❤️🔥
My negative thought is “you suck” said to myself ofc. I’ve been having a lot of success with the internal family systems approach of saying “hello, ‘you suck’ part, thank you for keeping us safe. I value your input and share your concern that we might be behaving in ways that are hurtful to us and others. Please come along for the ride, we’re going to find even better ways to keep us safe by behaving authentically and being kind and considerate towards others. It won’t be easy, but it will be worth it. If it were easy, I wouldn’t have needed your help.”
The only hard part is to catch yourself saying it so you don’t just believe these thoughts automatically
your doing really good
i was raised me to be pure and I'm thankful for that
Yes mel think good thoughts
I was going to watch movies but the TV won't turn on before I came on TH-cam but this is pure
that's really good mel
So thankful I found you. My negative thought is I am not good enough in all aspects. Being Gay this has been haunting me for a lifetime.
I don't miss that I'm pure and super healthy
thankyou jordan
thankyou acceptance isn't a one time thing its about dedication
To be heard, seen, accepted, valued, compromised
that's really excellent
for me it's about dedication
Oof! I cried through this. Thanks Mel ❤
What takes me down is I’m not smart enough…but the underpinning of that is I’m not lovable. Horseshit! Thanks Mel! Would love to talk about your grief in moving from your house! It IS a big deal! ❤
Daily Time Journaling
Looking back at time spent and making current decisions on life moves.
It's your new BFF !!!
I understand mel
to stay here
that's good that your friends
I think my cat Pickles must have been a therapist in her past life. If I am having a bad moment and start to cry, she will be next to me within 30 seconds, rubbing up against me. It's amazing! Boots will just keep sleeping.
I follow the community guidelines
Right on time. Needed this.
+1
👆𝚃𝚑𝚊𝚗𝚔 𝚢𝚘𝚞!
Thank you Ms Bethany Williams Jackson MS
I don't do those things and I'm doing really good excellent
This has been really good, to answer the pandemic changes, I lost both my parents, not to Coronavirus, and I basically lost myself, just now coming out of it. Your shedding leaves video was really helpful, I heard you when you scolded, "if it's not serving you find something different"
Thank you
that's great
I'm pure and super healthy I was told to keep my hair short from a lot of people that is why
I am an individual and my communication is pure and healthy
Those thoughts for me are: I’m not smart, people think I’m weird, awkward, I’m not good enough at this or that. No one really likes me, they’re just pretending to like me.
I feel exactly the same way
That’s right Mel! All that negative self bashing is HORSESHIT as you say. Don’t let your mind control your thoughts. Control your thoughts in your mind instead!!😊
Mel, i was born multi racial in the 1950s lived in several differen cultures growing up, your message really hit home ! I don't belong can take me down if I'm not careful ! With therapy I've made a lot of progress !
Doug you were always meant to be here exactly as you are
@@cindygorsica5188 Thank you, encouragement helps everybody.
hello ty and hello cheryl
My thoughts that take me down are of the following:
1. Not worthy enough to become a billionaire, have admiration, respect, good reputation.
2. The nicer I am, the meaner someone is to me, and the ruder, or sassier I get as a result.
3. Not worthy enough to expand worldwide
4. Repeated mistakes that led from past thoughts
5. Astrology
6. My dreams will all be taken away if I do the wrong
7. Too dumb
8. Low vocabulary
9. Don't deserve to be heard at all
10. Always wrong
11. Unhealthy
12. Procrastinator
13. Emotion- based idiot
14. Failure
15. Errors that I have repeated
16. Choices - maybe they're "bad"
17. Worldwide news (which fks a lot up)
18. Not worthy of having friends
19. Not worthy of being self confident
20. I am too ugly
21. Girly
22. Fcked up
23. Not worthy of making new habits
24. Jealousy of others = dumb
25. Too stupid
26. From an ugly room to riches, nope!
27. Intrusive thoughts
28. Intrusive Imagination
You have a very good vocabulary❤I can tell you are a good person because you are reflecting on it, get rid of the dumb person that’s not validating you ❤
i want to be physically, mentally and financially independent, want to be disciplined work out, learn driving, clear gre and ielts and follow a proper study schedule
Bonne vidéo ! Personnellement, pour booster la self-esteem je conseille le livre "CONFIANCE EN SOI, ESTIME DE SOI", de Nathan Stone. Y a tout ce qu'il faut savoir, c'est clair, pas de discours superflu, le top. Je connais beaucoup de personnes de qui ça a changé la vie !
Love , security, human connection
👆𝚃𝚑𝚊𝚗𝚔 𝚢𝚘𝚞!
hello I was drinking water I'm still listening
hello I don't know your name because I have been talking but I thank you
I'm trying to be respectful thankyou
a stable home
reading books is cool
I was raised from family to work hard
Having the parents i had
Sharing love with my children and their families sharing my talents with love to all who call me for an appointment at my private and personal Wig Salon. I am ever so grateful for the opportunity to share my experience of losing my hair 33 years ago, in a tragic loss of a child and my father and guiding men, women and children to the process and my gio my dog bb gurl my cat 🥂 ❤️💚
no I am good individual about myself I am excellent
"And be the way you were when you were born, the center of the world" Odysseas Elitis ( Greek nobel prize winning poet).
Aw shit! This is gonna make me cry. :|
I don't know the lady name that's speaking to you I am here for you
i never been on a plane. I'm a stable person
hello jordan
I don't high five I use the volume on my phone and I listen to this
my family
hello
To be seen
To heard
To loved
I'm okay I'm safe
Core emotional needs:
Love
Safety
Appreciated
👆𝚃𝚑𝚊𝚗𝚔 𝚢𝚘𝚞!
I literally flip myself off in the mirror often, I think it starts with yeah, get over yoirself, as a thought, but I’m certain there is some real F-U there too. I’m not a confident guy in many ways. But I also have a lot of things together. Beats the hell outta me. It’s a constant struggle dragging ourselves through this life. It’s funny I don’t really think much about my own identity, or how other people see me, I just kind of am me.
The most importantly to belong
My negative thought is something like I'm worthless and unlovable and from what my Mom used to tell me is, I am a mistake and not worth the time and effort. I'm basically garbage and (barely) deserve to be a doormat and other peoples' crumbs.. while smiling (aka 'Fine').
I can see
Recognition
Good content but too many ads. Out after 25 minutes and 5 commercials. Too distracting.
i don't go to different countries because im stable and dedicated american
❤❤❤❤
👆𝚃𝚑𝚊𝚗𝚔 𝚢𝚘𝚞!
nothing brings me down
im not a parent never been
my mom told me to listen to TH-cam
technique
Communication
👆𝚃𝚑𝚊𝚗𝚔 𝚢𝚘𝚞!
I’m too much trouble (74 yr old disabled)
Invisible
Shelter food loved seen heard excepted celebrated 👏😍👍
👆𝚃𝚑𝚊𝚗𝚔 𝚢𝚘𝚞!
no im not. I'm pure
Mel, Is cussing necessary to get your point across??
My ex wife keeps stabbing in the back how can I feel better
I’m not liked
I follow the community guidelines
i want to be physically, mentally and financially independent, want to be disciplined work out, learn driving, clear gre and ielts and follow a proper study schedule
👆𝚃𝚑𝚊𝚗𝚔 𝚢𝚘𝚞!
Same! Trying. We need to just talk to ourselves and be the boss of our minds and be patient and have a plan!