At some point the outlook on finance in marriage shifts and you stop thinking about it as 50/50 or income dependent but more like one number for the entire household. And if both are aligned in terms of future goals and spending behavior then many potential arguments about finance just disappear
@@shalizeboh125 agree, that's the single person mindset. But it might take a second for newlyweds to realize that just because some spending is only for one person or is higher for one person it doesn't mean you need to have separate budgets. Like, I don't know, keep hygiene/make up products separate. And when he is on the way and it's easier for him to buy them then what, you give him money back? Ridiculous 😂 That's a totally different concept. One household budget, not a 50/50 joint account for bills and purchases that in general benefit both of us
oo fascinating! great perspective. after some time passes (and we enter postnup conversations), we'll start looking into how merging our finances actually work on our accounts. i think things will definitely change a lot more once kids enter the picture and one person needs to take a step back from work. lots of planning to do!
@@shalizeboh125 hm idk which reply this is to, but i don't think we ever had a moment where we "owed" the other person. we kind of just swap off covering each other based on convenience or points and it pretty much evens out to 50/50. we don't track it very stringently. we generally like providing for each other at the current moment ~
Thank you kakonavi!! so glad you enjoyed this video! it was a lot more long form than my usual ones, so i was litto afraid we'd seem rambly. it felt a little like a podcast!!
We also went through a civil ceremony and it was just the right amount of attention we can handle. Intimate, quiet, memorable. So glad to see you and Kevin flourish into another chapter in life! Best wishes 🎉
We also eloped, and that was fun! Rings are so tricky! My husband and I both have two rings, one for the winter and one for the summer when your hands swell from +90f weather.
We also did courthouse to save money and avoid all of the stress. We’re happy and glad we did because we saved up a lot of a house, a car and welcome our newborn.
the last piece for us is to figure out the financial planning for the kids!! we haven't gotten to that step yet - lmk if you have any recs on resources for this!
I don't know if you already answered this but how can you be so sunny and positive "all the time"? My neutral mood is always so serious and I wish I could be more like you, it may attract more genuine and also happy people idk
oh you're not alone! i have my days too where things aren't always so sunny and positive, but it's always nice to be optimistic! you're perfect the way you are
Definitely agree with everything related to weddings in SoCal!! My friend got to see a western style venue in OC that had the Asian banquet food! Maybe you could look into venues that might have this option!
Congratulation! I love how practical your financial decisions are!! So refreshing to hear them~ (Gosh, 12+k diamond rings, i will fear for my life everyday)
Love your practicality with your marriage, ring, postnup, and finances. You are great role models! Congratulations and wishing you both the best. I hope Kevin's comment about not wanting 2 daughters doesn't come back to bite him 😂Thinking about those lyrics from "I'll Make a Man Out of You" in Mulan
My niece just did a perfect wedding. My sister enjoyed so so much. I don't think it costs a lot of money in Asia. It is a good memory. It is only once in a lifetime. I don't think money will be an issue for you two because there is different ways to save money in the wedding. But, time may be an issue for many people. Best wishes to both of you.
Aww the cover photo of this vid is soo adorable! Congrats on the wifey upgrade, Chloe! 😜🥰 Wishing you both a beautiful life ahead ❤❤ I also have a qq if you dont mind - you spoke about potentially having a wedding in Taiwan so costs would be less. But those costs kinda get offloaded to the guests right? In the form of travel costs? I had close friends have weddings in their home countries, and it felt devastating to miss it, but at the same time I couldnt afford such an expensive trip :( , so i guess im j curious what your thoughs are on this! (No judgement at all)
Yes very good question! We put together an invite list and asked all of our core friends if this is within budget. Since it’s quite far out and because we’re all in pretty stable stages of our careers, everyone was happy to go. Their attitude was mostly excited about making a trip out of it. Very blessed in this respect!
Just had my civil marriage too, and am now planning for the ‘reception’ day. Pretty overwhelming but I am sure that it’ll be worth it. Congratulations and all the best for your wedding planning too!
I am so glad one of your random videos and followed immediately cause you look so much like my younger sister. And today I am so amazed by how we share very similar situations and personalities even Kevin's personality matches so much with my husbands. So much love for you guys and this video made me so happy ^^ Stay blessed always
Congratulations on your marriage! Wishing you a happy life together. I also did a civil marriage earlier this month. I think the most I spent on were the photos as I've only had 1 ever professional photo done of me ever.
Speaking of weddings, my friends still rave about how good the food was at our wedding 😁 We had the traditional 8 course Chinese/Vietnamese dinner, but at a more modern venue.
Love this…..I’ve been married 23 years next week and it’s all down to communication 101! My husband is always away (pilot), we have 3 boys (all born within 3 crazy years)…..2 dogs and a cat…..life is nuts….but we all come together a speak crap together😂Enjoy your time together.
I cooked some food and I'm glad that I did watch this video while eating! I felt like I was invited to dinner lol I'm recently in a relationship (after 3 failures and almost 4 years of working on myself). I loved the comments about daiting, it IS a big game. I loved you answer, the feeling I get is that Hubby and you are in the same page and I like that. AND I'm rencently looking into how to handle finances while being in a relatioship, so if you have info on that I really appreaciate it :D Love the vibe! Hubby + Chloe!
ah this is a really big question and i definitely think i'll be generalizing a bit, but the big items are: 1. real estate is way too expensive 2. SF itself is extremely mismanaged and doesn't provide enough resources for the communities I want to build up 3. not a great place to raise kids given the costs, safety, and lack of spaces for kids to openly learn in. I do miss martuni's - a piano bar in SF. I used to go there pretty much every monday night for showtunes night and sing a song with the pianist there. the local theatre community is incredible - nothing but positive vibes and support for each other. i also did like san mateo - it's such a cute area! but it is quite expensive to live there :(
I admire how you were able to have a wedding you wanted without spending a ton of money. It’s foolish to start a marriage in debt if it can be avoided, especially from a wedding
Fun fact: Lab grown diamonds *are real diamonds* ...however, under a spectroscope, a skilled gemologist can detect a lab grown diamond by looking at inclusions in the crystals.
Congrats! What will really get your parents excited is once you have kids and they get to play with them (especially when they call them yeh yeh and nai nai for the first time!). Daycare costs are no joke though at $500 to $600 per week per kid in many major cities for Monday to Friday (full-time) care.
i do have massive baby fever T_T!! but i gotta work out a few things in my life first to feel a bit more ready. also i'm terrified of the daycare costs. ahhhh!
that and webtoons where the girl time loops and relives her past life and there's a hot smexy male protagonist crown prince guy with lots of sexual tension 😂😂😂😂
Absolute lovely!!! Besides finances, the other elephant in the room and equally as important as money-- intimacy. Divorces start without any sex as well. Would you guys answer juicier questions?
ahhhh! it's a copyright hoodie by elliot choy - he actually has a drop coming out tmrw if you wanna check it out :) shopcopyright.com/ comfiest hoodie ever!
Screaming here because YES YES YES!!! I need more intelligent 30 yo girlies doing this because when I did it (October 11 2023) I got a lot of flack from people saying we did it wrong or we're "cheap" and all that stuff hahahaha. We live in Copenhagen, Denmark - our parents are back in Lebanon so flying people here is expensiiiiiive, we didn't want to pay 10 OR 100 grand for a single night back there and we want to own a house (too) and it's just a lot of hassle for just a night!!! So yes - courthouse and yes cutie pictures. I bought a designer dress but I wanted that, and my ring is almost same specs haha also lab grown. We have a shared account where we're saving for a house deposit for next year, but we do have our money perfectly split. No last name change. 😆 And the stresssss lol same. Sister, same. Sorry I had to make the long comment haha. This is what women need in partners. Men who think the same open and supportive and smart way. And you guys are cute.
so many similarities!!! 💕 i'm not sure how I feel about the actual wedding dress im gonna get though. i will literally never wear it again, so am thinking of renting one. so many things!!
@@chloeshih if renting is an option then DEFINITELY rent! I adore my dress, but rental is not so common in Europe so I had to buy it. But at least now you bought yourself plenty of time for the actual party 😌
Oh my gosh we have the same diamond ring specs! lol Now I really only just wear my wedding band day-to-day because the actual ring gets caught in things.
I don’t think there isn’t anything wrong with have a wedding oversees. I personally think it’s so much better than the US. As you said. The weddings here are so expensive for a basic and plain wedding
"Chloe's just a very loyal human being and I realized she would do anything for us" thought Kevin and 5 other companies that gave her a cushy job only for her to resign and move on soon after.
That comment about three "women" in the house left such a sour taste in my mouth. Hilarious that he doesn't want to have three women because he will have to SUFFER through periods??!! Logic has left the chat.
i totally agree ! Wedding culture in Cali is so crazy and the so expansive and food sucks and no fun , and too pricy and not affordable . So I also don’t plan a wedding anymore
I highly recommend that you browse through the song Prenup through Trillionaire Cat. It is actually uproarious and also useful for all guys that are actually considering marital relationship.
New to your channel and love the content so far! But man you guys are so mean about SoCal weddings! 🥲There are plenty of beautiful, non-boring venues with good food
I really appreciate this video and what you mentioned on expectations on finances with marriage and I also appreciate how progressive y'all are with these expectations. ❤✨🫰🏼
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I love how comfortable you both are and looking so happy
thank you!!!
At some point the outlook on finance in marriage shifts and you stop thinking about it as 50/50 or income dependent but more like one number for the entire household. And if both are aligned in terms of future goals and spending behavior then many potential arguments about finance just disappear
8:40 owe??? Yall are married. I think when you think of money as 50/50 it’s just a weird exchange
@@shalizeboh125 agree, that's the single person mindset. But it might take a second for newlyweds to realize that just because some spending is only for one person or is higher for one person it doesn't mean you need to have separate budgets. Like, I don't know, keep hygiene/make up products separate. And when he is on the way and it's easier for him to buy them then what, you give him money back? Ridiculous 😂 That's a totally different concept. One household budget, not a 50/50 joint account for bills and purchases that in general benefit both of us
oo fascinating! great perspective. after some time passes (and we enter postnup conversations), we'll start looking into how merging our finances actually work on our accounts.
i think things will definitely change a lot more once kids enter the picture and one person needs to take a step back from work. lots of planning to do!
@@shalizeboh125 hm idk which reply this is to, but i don't think we ever had a moment where we "owed" the other person. we kind of just swap off covering each other based on convenience or points and it pretty much evens out to 50/50. we don't track it very stringently. we generally like providing for each other at the current moment ~
@@chloeshih Yes! Me and my husband experienced the biggest change within the first year of our marriage. Good luck to you guys!
Love your videos Chloe - from your personality that shines through, the vibe and the editing, and they are all super entertaining. 👏
Thank you kakonavi!! so glad you enjoyed this video! it was a lot more long form than my usual ones, so i was litto afraid we'd seem rambly. it felt a little like a podcast!!
I love how comfortable you are on camera!
Thank u shalaka!! ❤❤
As a new TH-camr I want to be less awkward on camera haha help!!!
We also went through a civil ceremony and it was just the right amount of attention we can handle. Intimate, quiet, memorable. So glad to see you and Kevin flourish into another chapter in life! Best wishes 🎉
aw we couldn't agree more - definitely loved the intimate setting! thank you for your kind words!
We also eloped, and that was fun!
Rings are so tricky! My husband and I both have two rings, one for the winter and one for the summer when your hands swell from +90f weather.
congrats on the wedding omg!! and the editing is so clean :3
thank you!! i had an editor help out with this video!!
You seriously deserve happiness so much, God bless both of you 💖💖
thank u!! it's been a wonderful year!! excited for the new chapter of married life ~
We also did courthouse to save money and avoid all of the stress. We’re happy and glad we did because we saved up a lot of a house, a car and welcome our newborn.
the last piece for us is to figure out the financial planning for the kids!! we haven't gotten to that step yet - lmk if you have any recs on resources for this!
so hype about the salary pm video!!!
It’s coming!! But I feel like it’s quite a sensitive topic. Want to make sure I share about it thoughtfully!
I don't know if you already answered this but how can you be so sunny and positive "all the time"? My neutral mood is always so serious and I wish I could be more like you, it may attract more genuine and also happy people idk
oh you're not alone! i have my days too where things aren't always so sunny and positive, but it's always nice to be optimistic! you're perfect the way you are
@@chloeshihyou are so sweet ❤
Underrated channel definitely deserves more viewers and subscribers
aw thank you so much for the kind words!!
Couldn't agree more!
It's so good &high quality it feels unreal to just watch for free😂❤
Definitely agree with everything related to weddings in SoCal!! My friend got to see a western style venue in OC that had the Asian banquet food! Maybe you could look into venues that might have this option!
I did!! I didn’t super love the decor tho :/ but the food is pretty banger at Asian banquet halls!
Such warm vibes in this video! ❤❤
☀ ☀ ☀ bringing the LA sun to your feed ~
Congratulation! I love how practical your financial decisions are!! So refreshing to hear them~ (Gosh, 12+k diamond rings, i will fear for my life everyday)
Such a wholesome video! Thanks for sharing! :)
Thank you for watching abby!
Managing finances for couples can definitely be tricky! But good and open communication is key! I know you guys will be okay!!! ❤
Love your practicality with your marriage, ring, postnup, and finances. You are great role models! Congratulations and wishing you both the best. I hope Kevin's comment about not wanting 2 daughters doesn't come back to bite him 😂Thinking about those lyrics from "I'll Make a Man Out of You" in Mulan
lmao just watch us have 2 daughters 😂😂😂
omg the a-yi to mama transition and kevin's cringe reaction lol i love it
My niece just did a perfect wedding. My sister enjoyed so so much. I don't think it costs a lot of money in Asia. It is a good memory. It is only once in a lifetime. I don't think money will be an issue for you two because there is different ways to save money in the wedding. But, time may be an issue for many people. Best wishes to both of you.
your videos are so relaxing 🥹
Thank u, wizard!! ❤❤
@@chloeshih AGHHHHH ❤️❤️❤️
Aww the cover photo of this vid is soo adorable! Congrats on the wifey upgrade, Chloe! 😜🥰 Wishing you both a beautiful life ahead ❤❤
I also have a qq if you dont mind - you spoke about potentially having a wedding in Taiwan so costs would be less. But those costs kinda get offloaded to the guests right? In the form of travel costs? I had close friends have weddings in their home countries, and it felt devastating to miss it, but at the same time I couldnt afford such an expensive trip :( , so i guess im j curious what your thoughs are on this! (No judgement at all)
Yes very good question! We put together an invite list and asked all of our core friends if this is within budget. Since it’s quite far out and because we’re all in pretty stable stages of our careers, everyone was happy to go. Their attitude was mostly excited about making a trip out of it. Very blessed in this respect!
Just had my civil marriage too, and am now planning for the ‘reception’ day. Pretty overwhelming but I am sure that it’ll be worth it. Congratulations and all the best for your wedding planning too!
thank you!! it is so overwhelming. btw are you getting a wedding planner? i don't think i've decided that quite yet!
So cool to hear you say you’ve been “promoted” to wifey. Such a sweet and humble soul you are
I can't believe I just discovered your channel! Love everything about you two, liked and subscribed!
I am so glad one of your random videos and followed immediately cause you look so much like my younger sister. And today I am so amazed by how we share very similar situations and personalities even Kevin's personality matches so much with my husbands. So much love for you guys and this video made me so happy ^^ Stay blessed always
oh wow!! i'm very curious to see what your younger sister looks like haha~
also, sounds like you have an amazing husband!! ❤❤
"I PM my own wedding" was the best part. Now as a PM, I am working on the PRD without my "stakeholder"
Loved this. Yal are so cute
thanks taylor 🥰🥰
+10000 respect for kevin. Yakuza series is amaze
Congratulations on your marriage! Wishing you a happy life together. I also did a civil marriage earlier this month. I think the most I spent on were the photos as I've only had 1 ever professional photo done of me ever.
Love your content!
i love how real you two were when talking about having daughters 😅🩸
haha yes periods ALL the time 😅
Speaking of weddings, my friends still rave about how good the food was at our wedding 😁 We had the traditional 8 course Chinese/Vietnamese dinner, but at a more modern venue.
Love this…..I’ve been married 23 years next week and it’s all down to communication 101! My husband is always away (pilot), we have 3 boys (all born within 3 crazy years)…..2 dogs and a cat…..life is nuts….but we all come together a speak crap together😂Enjoy your time together.
Happy to see your new vlog again 😊
happy to have you here on day 1!!!! :D :D
I love this so much! You two remind me of myself and my bf who is planning our future / marriage! Congrats you two
awww yyayyy!! seems like the both of you are on a good path!! :D :D
Both of you have the bestie vibes 😊.
hi what app do you use for editing your videos?
Beautiful couple!
thank u ~~ it's mostly kevin
I cooked some food and I'm glad that I did watch this video while eating! I felt like I was invited to dinner lol
I'm recently in a relationship (after 3 failures and almost 4 years of working on myself). I loved the comments about daiting, it IS a big game.
I loved you answer, the feeling I get is that Hubby and you are in the same page and I like that.
AND I'm rencently looking into how to handle finances while being in a relatioship, so if you have info on that I really appreaciate it :D
Love the vibe! Hubby + Chloe!
would you just host like a big casual party to celebrate with friends about yalls wedding? i think that is what me and my boyfriend are opting to do !
Yes, finally a Scorpio with Leo! This gives me hope hahah :)
scorpios and leos ftw!! :)
Congratulation on the wedding. So happy to see you are beautiful....
Relationship goals.
Curious why you didn’t like SF? (Me from LA wanting to move to SF)
ah this is a really big question and i definitely think i'll be generalizing a bit, but the big items are:
1. real estate is way too expensive
2. SF itself is extremely mismanaged and doesn't provide enough resources for the communities I want to build up
3. not a great place to raise kids given the costs, safety, and lack of spaces for kids to openly learn in.
I do miss martuni's - a piano bar in SF. I used to go there pretty much every monday night for showtunes night and sing a song with the pianist there. the local theatre community is incredible - nothing but positive vibes and support for each other.
i also did like san mateo - it's such a cute area! but it is quite expensive to live there :(
@@chloeshih thanks so much for the detailed response!!! :) super helpful!
Success with the new partnership!
thank you michael!! this is a super happy year of our life together ~~
You got this! Actually you both got this!@@chloeshih
You two are so cute
I admire how you were able to have a wedding you wanted without spending a ton of money. It’s foolish to start a marriage in debt if it can be avoided, especially from a wedding
17:15: that's my question, too- lol. 😂
😂😂😂 it's tough out there
I’m also from Michigan Kevin!!
Is the table castlery??
yes it is!! it's the first dining table i bought in LA!! i love it ~
Amazing
Strongly recommend more closely mingling your finances. It's a secret to a long and healthy marriage.
Yakuza! Boyo got good taste 🥵🚨
BAKA MITAI!!
Fun fact: Lab grown diamonds *are real diamonds* ...however, under a spectroscope, a skilled gemologist can detect a lab grown diamond by looking at inclusions in the crystals.
whats both of ur mbti!
agh i took the test like 4-5 years ago. gotta retake it. i remember i was maybe ENFJ or something? i'll ask kevin what his is
@@chloeshihok yes u do have ENFJ energy haha curious to find out what kevins is!
More kevin =D Great to hear both perspectives
yay more kevin for sure!!! but he doesn't like being on camera that much 🥲
Congrats! What will really get your parents excited is once you have kids and they get to play with them (especially when they call them yeh yeh and nai nai for the first time!). Daycare costs are no joke though at $500 to $600 per week per kid in many major cities for Monday to Friday (full-time) care.
i do have massive baby fever T_T!! but i gotta work out a few things in my life first to feel a bit more ready.
also i'm terrified of the daycare costs. ahhhh!
Not made about the K-drama addiction. 😂😂
it's my favorite addiction
that and webtoons where the girl time loops and relives her past life and there's a hot smexy male protagonist crown prince guy with lots of sexual tension 😂😂😂😂
@chloeshih Are you watching 7th Time Loop: The Villaniness Enjoys a Carefree Life Married to Her Worst Enemy? That's pretty much the storyline. 🤣
Absolute lovely!!! Besides finances, the other elephant in the room and equally as important as money-- intimacy. Divorces start without any sex as well. Would you guys answer juicier questions?
Need link to the blue hoodie
ahhhh! it's a copyright hoodie by elliot choy - he actually has a drop coming out tmrw if you wanna check it out :) shopcopyright.com/ comfiest hoodie ever!
isn't this year already year of dragon
it indeed is so the chances for an addition this year is very slim!
@@chloeshih Good luck :D:D so look forward to seeing your parenting life in the future!
Screaming here because YES YES YES!!! I need more intelligent 30 yo girlies doing this because when I did it (October 11 2023) I got a lot of flack from people saying we did it wrong or we're "cheap" and all that stuff hahahaha.
We live in Copenhagen, Denmark - our parents are back in Lebanon so flying people here is expensiiiiiive, we didn't want to pay 10 OR 100 grand for a single night back there and we want to own a house (too) and it's just a lot of hassle for just a night!!! So yes - courthouse and yes cutie pictures. I bought a designer dress but I wanted that, and my ring is almost same specs haha also lab grown.
We have a shared account where we're saving for a house deposit for next year, but we do have our money perfectly split.
No last name change. 😆
And the stresssss lol same. Sister, same.
Sorry I had to make the long comment haha.
This is what women need in partners. Men who think the same open and supportive and smart way.
And you guys are cute.
so many similarities!!! 💕 i'm not sure how I feel about the actual wedding dress im gonna get though. i will literally never wear it again, so am thinking of renting one. so many things!!
@@chloeshih if renting is an option then DEFINITELY rent! I adore my dress, but rental is not so common in Europe so I had to buy it. But at least now you bought yourself plenty of time for the actual party 😌
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Congrats! I'm Chinese too and my dad translated his last name to Stone when he came over from Taiwan.
oh SNAP that's lit!! i love that!!
kevin needs to man up and put his foot down. just kidding, his money is your money. he should already know that.
lol what's wrong with 5'10?? or is it too tall??
USD 100,000 or USD 200,000 for a wedding ?
How much do ur peers generally earn in the U. S. ?
yo....not ENOUGH. transparently these folks do come from families that can contribute. so i think wedding culture is really wild o_o
Oh my gosh we have the same diamond ring specs! lol
Now I really only just wear my wedding band day-to-day because the actual ring gets caught in things.
After knowing how De Beers manipulated the global diamond thingy,lab grown makes more sense. So, don’t waste your money on diamonds.
it's v true!!
"ew, I'm not going to hell for that."
😂😂😂
Yass Scorpio twin with that loyalty
scorpios ftw!!!
basedddd
🥹🥹🥹 idk who u are but thank u
@@chloeshih i came from mayuko thats how i discovered you mostly!
Marry me, Kevin!!!
😂😂😂 kevin's all yours ~
I don’t think there isn’t anything wrong with have a wedding oversees. I personally think it’s so much better than the US. As you said. The weddings here are so expensive for a basic and plain wedding
gotta admit, food is better in LA
Ayo, peep that Copyright hoodie
it's my favorite hoodie ughhhh
so funny
She wears the pants ⚠️
"Chloe's just a very loyal human being and I realized she would do anything for us" thought Kevin and 5 other companies that gave her a cushy job only for her to resign and move on soon after.
lol - when I was laid off, I had to pay for Cobra for a month and it is NO JOKE.
YO THAT SH*T IS EXPENSIVE LIKE WTHECK
That comment about three "women" in the house left such a sour taste in my mouth. Hilarious that he doesn't want to have three women because he will have to SUFFER through periods??!! Logic has left the chat.
?????
@@Porcelynnn What are you confused about?
@@arushigupta4235 did he say he will suffer??? lol
@@Porcelynnn Read between the lines bruh
@@arushigupta4235 I think you’re reading into it too much lol
i totally agree ! Wedding culture in Cali is so crazy and the so expansive and food sucks and no fun , and too pricy and not affordable . So I also don’t plan a wedding anymore
I highly recommend that you browse through the song Prenup through Trillionaire Cat. It is actually uproarious and also useful for all guys that are actually considering marital relationship.
New to your channel and love the content so far! But man you guys are so mean about SoCal weddings! 🥲There are plenty of beautiful, non-boring venues with good food
Great vid, Chloe! Thanks for answering my question @gugamguimaraes. It is interesting how you and Kev set goal before the dog, like a lot
I REALLY WANT A DOG 😭😭😭😭
I really appreciate this video and what you mentioned on expectations on finances with marriage and I also appreciate how progressive y'all are with these expectations. ❤✨🫰🏼
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