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1. It feels like a roller coaster ride. 2. You walk on eggshells. 3. The effort is not equal. 4. "Revenge" takes the place of communication. 5. Your other relationships suffer. 6. Being with the person makes you tired. 7. Three or more people who love you are warning you about this person. 8. You are the person's "life coach." 9. You are consistently disappointed.
So helpful, articulates what i know to be true deep down about my current situation and helping me move out of denial. Thank you Mat for these videos, so saturated with meaning and hope
Same here. Just kicked out my bf of three years, this time for good.. and I still struggle to give up hope on a „us“. I am so caught up in my own net of denying obvious things.. I guess I need some help 😣
Spending more time with solitude....even in a marriage, you can make yourself too available and then you can get taken for granted. Working on self care and self control.
Cheers to the ONLY RELATIONSHIP COACH on TH-cam that speaks High, Punch Reaching Hot facts! Relatable instances and examples, real life mistakes brought to the fore, and all you need do is Listen, Obey and be Blessed with results!! He's a Father everyone will wish to have, or an Uncle you should have in your lineage! Thank you Matt! I can clearly see the mistakes now
Thank you. I was in a bad mood; doubting, feeling sorry for myself etc. But these 9 signs didn't match with my relation, and suddenly I felt much better. I will follow your good advice.
Thank you Matt. I woke up this morning and asked in prayer for clarity in my relationship and your video popped up!!! Perfect. Love you and have a video with you from when I was Certified in DreamBuilders so I’ve kept!! This video was exceptional and I love it when you use your own experience. Haven’t seen very many videos from you lately, hope all is well. Do you still have your coaching programs??
I have been married for almost 21 years now. Signs 2, 3, 4 and 9 all fit my marriage to a T. Number 5, he's never really tried to divide me from my friends, but he doesn't want to be around them himself. I have learned not to ask him to go places with me/my friends because he gets bored and irritable and wants to go home early so I can't enjoy myself either. I yearn for freedom but am struggling with what to do.
Such a blessing, … I recently had a previous relationship pop back into my life - as friends! I believe he’s wanting more and these reminded me of why I fought for the courage to leave! Thank you so much!
Thank you so much for this amazing video, I wish I knew those signs at the beginning of my previous relationship! It would’ve saved me so much pain , headache, and drama.
Numbers 3, 6, 8, and 9. I wish I would have seen this video sooner! I broke up with my boyfriend on Tuesday. I found out that I’m more interested and more in love with him than he is with me. And that’s not a relationship that I want nor need to be in. But now that I’m processing this relationship, there were those 4 factors that weren’t healthy at all. I guess I was just waiting for him to change. Now I can heal, move on, and create space for the right man to be in my life.
Just in time - thank you. I was getting to know a man who was unable to share any feelings, not about me, in general. And he said if I don’t like something, then it’s my decision to end it… i cannot tolerate being threatened so i kindly said good bye..
I left this person about a month and half ago. We were acting like boyfriends and girlfriends but after two months together he told me he wasn’t ready for a boyfriend and girlfriend title. He said to him it’s just a title. I was hurt. Crying for so many weeks. I did often feel disappointed and tired with him but always hope this work.
Thanks My hallmark is the tiredness Can’t stand the hot and cold Non communication Not equal Too much work Especially now Theresa third party A warden in the household vetoing everything
About the 4th sign I commonly used the term "you did the same thing" in my previous relationship but never with the intention of revenge. I used to do it because I genuinely thought it was normal to act like the opposite person. Then my ex would retaliate by saying oh so you're looking for revenge? When I used to explain myself that I thought it was something normal because he was acting the same way he would tell me that I should not change myself just because the opposite person is different. I don't know if what I did was right or wrong because his actions didn't hurt me and seemed pretty reasonable but he hated it when I did the same with him.
Can I ask Matt...do you think the age & stage of life you're in makes a difference to these points? I agree if somebody is....say, under 50 yrs of age but if the person is older is it maybe wiser to cut them some slack as there's less chance of meeting an alternative? Of course its better to be alone at ANY age than to be in a real toxic relationship but .... ??
10. When you come from an unhealthy family environment and you don’t recognize that you are walking into an unhealthy love relationship as you are so blinded by the former treatment to know what healthy love should look like
It didn't help that he was married, all the while telling me he's single. Calling me "his girlfriend" and then I found out. It took me 2 years to get to the truth. And he still denied it. That's why I'm done with men
I'd like to add another one: you lose interest in talking or sharing information about what's going on with you. You'd rather share it with someone/others.
Telling you what hairstyles to make to look classy and friends to hang around with because he clearly sees those friends bring his mistakes to your limelight and creating rules for you is just a No no!
Leave. People think they need people more than what they think. Back in the 1800 people lived miles apart and had to ride a horse miles to see someone. They didn't have phones either.
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1. It feels like a roller coaster ride.
2. You walk on eggshells.
3. The effort is not equal.
4. "Revenge" takes the place of communication.
5. Your other relationships suffer.
6. Being with the person makes you tired.
7. Three or more people who love you are warning you about this person.
8. You are the person's "life coach."
9. You are consistently disappointed.
5/9 is that still a chance for things to turn around??? 🤔😔
This came at the perfect time. 8/9 signs that im in an unhealthy relationship. Working on finding the courage to let it go and regain inner peace.
I spent over 9 years to finally face me fears and admit that this is very true for my relationship too and leave
So helpful, articulates what i know to be true deep down about my current situation and helping me move out of denial. Thank you Mat for these videos, so saturated with meaning and hope
Same here. Just kicked out my bf of three years, this time for good.. and I still struggle to give up hope on a „us“. I am so caught up in my own net of denying obvious things.. I guess I need some help 😣
Spending more time with solitude....even in a marriage, you can make yourself too available and then you can get taken for granted. Working on self care and self control.
Cheers to the ONLY RELATIONSHIP COACH on TH-cam that speaks High, Punch Reaching Hot facts! Relatable instances and examples, real life mistakes brought to the fore, and all you need do is Listen, Obey and be Blessed with results!! He's a Father everyone will wish to have, or an Uncle you should have in your lineage! Thank you Matt! I can clearly see the mistakes now
This is great. I tick all 9 boxes. Yep, I was right to let it go. Thanks Matt
Thank you. I was in a bad mood; doubting, feeling sorry for myself etc. But these 9 signs didn't match with my relation, and suddenly I felt much better. I will follow your good advice.
Thank you Matt. I woke up this morning and asked in prayer for clarity in my relationship and your video popped up!!! Perfect. Love you and have a video with you from when I was Certified in DreamBuilders so I’ve kept!! This video was exceptional and I love it when you use your own experience. Haven’t seen very many videos from you lately, hope all is well. Do you still have your coaching programs??
I have been married for almost 21 years now. Signs 2, 3, 4 and 9 all fit my marriage to a T. Number 5, he's never really tried to divide me from my friends, but he doesn't want to be around them himself. I have learned not to ask him to go places with me/my friends because he gets bored and irritable and wants to go home early so I can't enjoy myself either. I yearn for freedom but am struggling with what to do.
Such a blessing, … I recently had a previous relationship pop back into my life - as friends! I believe he’s wanting more and these reminded me of why I fought for the courage to leave! Thank you so much!
Thank you so much for this amazing video, I wish I knew those signs at the beginning of my previous relationship! It would’ve saved me so much pain , headache, and drama.
Most accurate checklist I have ever come across
Numbers 3, 6, 8, and 9. I wish I would have seen this video sooner! I broke up with my boyfriend on Tuesday. I found out that I’m more interested and more in love with him than he is with me. And that’s not a relationship that I want nor need to be in. But now that I’m processing this relationship, there were those 4 factors that weren’t healthy at all. I guess I was just waiting for him to change. Now I can heal, move on, and create space for the right man to be in my life.
Thank you for the advice & food 4 thought
Thank you ! I had all 9 signs 🙏👍🫶
Just in time - thank you. I was getting to know a man who was unable to share any feelings, not about me, in general. And he said if I don’t like something, then it’s my decision to end it… i cannot tolerate being threatened so i kindly said good bye..
Taken for granted the dynamic has shifted now the ex has returned
Lowering of manners
Which I won’t tolerate
You are the best Man for everyone! Superb!
Matt I loveeee your content!!! But I miss the videos without it all the b roll. You on your own is sooo amazing!!
I left this person about a month and half ago. We were acting like boyfriends and girlfriends but after two months together he told me he wasn’t ready for a boyfriend and girlfriend title. He said to him it’s just a title. I was hurt. Crying for so many weeks. I did often feel disappointed and tired with him but always hope this work.
Thank-you so much. I used this advice to look at my past relationships. ☺️ So helpful.🌿
Thank you for your contstant positov way to talk about relationships even (!) when it's toxic.
So importent easy 'view' into the toxic world!
I stayed too long.
It's too late for me.
Your advice is spot on, so hopefully it will help someone like me.
Thanks
My hallmark is the tiredness
Can’t stand the hot and cold
Non communication
Not equal
Too much work
Especially now Theresa third party
A warden in the household vetoing everything
It is 100% my past relationship! I am so glad it's over and I am free from it❤
You are such a gift Mat, blessings!
Really lovely and insightful Matt.
About the 4th sign I commonly used the term "you did the same thing" in my previous relationship but never with the intention of revenge. I used to do it because I genuinely thought it was normal to act like the opposite person. Then my ex would retaliate by saying oh so you're looking for revenge? When I used to explain myself that I thought it was something normal because he was acting the same way he would tell me that I should not change myself just because the opposite person is different. I don't know if what I did was right or wrong because his actions didn't hurt me and seemed pretty reasonable but he hated it when I did the same with him.
Same here all 9 but I'm finding it difficult to let go!😢
With this I feel like I'm ready for a new relationship ❤
The most amazing video!!!!! Thank you
Thanks you Mat for your advice
Thank you 😢
I think I’m on a time waster situation
I’m really tired 😪
Exhausted
My energy is drained
This is perfect advice and came on time ❤
Thank you, Mat❤❤❤ you are amazing. from the bottom of my heart - God bless you!
Thank you so much for this video
I appreciate you Matt
Most of us are lucky to even get a relationship, so we're not quick to give up on one.
He has the most fantastic videos
Very good!! Time to walk away 😘
7 out of 9. I know I need to leave him. I know I will be happier, but it's so hard to let go of all I've hoped for with him.
TY🎉
True😢
Can I ask Matt...do you think the age & stage of life you're in makes a difference to these points? I agree if somebody is....say, under 50 yrs of age but if the person is older is it maybe wiser to cut them some slack as there's less chance of meeting an alternative? Of course its better to be alone at ANY age than to be in a real toxic relationship but .... ??
I'm saying I know I am in an unbalanced, unhealthy relationship before even watching this video. These are what applies in my relationship #3. #9.
Now i know what co-dependency is.
10. When you come from an unhealthy family environment and you don’t recognize that you are walking into an unhealthy love relationship as you are so blinded by the former treatment to know what healthy love should look like
Now if you are the toxic one and even though you know you don’t talk to your partner but they still treat you like a project, how do you fix that?
It didn't help that he was married, all the while telling me he's single. Calling me "his girlfriend" and then I found out. It took me 2 years to get to the truth. And he still denied it. That's why I'm done with men
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👍🙏🙏🙏🙏
I'd like to add another one: you lose interest in talking or sharing information about what's going on with you. You'd rather share it with someone/others.
Telling you what hairstyles to make to look classy and friends to hang around with because he clearly sees those friends bring his mistakes to your limelight and creating rules for you is just a No no!
So your girl stayed with you for a whole year. That makes no sense to stay with someone for a whole year.
That you don't really like?
Leave. People think they need people more than what they think. Back in the 1800 people lived miles apart and had to ride a horse miles to see someone. They didn't have phones either.
Is your wife ok with you always sharing the stories from your past relationships, writing poems to other girls, etc? 😅
News flash she was already cheating out of town and we next looked promising she bailed sorry brother been there so recognize the plot 😢😢