The complete new and updated video seminar can be found at: www.selfloverecovery.com/collections/video-seminars/products/the-11-stage-self-love-recovery-treatment-program
I would like to thank you, Ross, for all the help your videos have provided for me over the past year! You helped me find my power to say no and set boundaries. To anyone reading this that is new to this channel, keep watching! Ross changed my life. It is so heartwarming hearing you describe step 9 knowing I'm there. When you made the waitress reference I had to laugh cause the reactions you get from saying no to a narcissist truely are unbelievable.
Wow Dr Ross this video was so encompassing and illustrative of the 11 steps. I do not have access to a therapist or western books, except kindle as I've been living in China for the last 11 years , but marathoning your videos has been an oasis of sanity and self understanding to self reflect and climb a few steps of that ladder myself towards recovery. I'm now "sober" more self sufficient as a single guy and working on imposing boundaries (at work/friendships first) and recognizing gaslighting which has been immensely helpful, and I can say No now instead of yes to everything for the first time in my life, so I'm getting a taste of having a self and self identity instead of being a people's pleaser. I was able to backtrack it to not feeling (and being) loved as I was by my parents in childhood. Please keep up the great work, I'm your fan!
Wow Dr. Rosenberg! You are truly a remarkable human being! Since I've found your TH-cam channel, (only last night) I've been provided with incredibly rich information that's just the path I've been searching for to get to a place of healing. I can't thank you enough for all of your hard work and dedication to others, the difference you make is truly one of the most meaningful things a person could do for another.
Wow, after much counseling and work in co-dependency I learned it is really SLDD. What a revelation!!! I appreciate you being interviewed with Dr. Les Carter. Ya, I was brought up to be other focused, no selfishness allowed. I am happy I don't absorb or engage in induced conversations with a Narc. I now can detatch during low contact. You are terrific! My counseling did discuss self-love, but no techniques, other than self talk. Thank you for the gift of understanding ourselves. I knew we were part of the puzzle. 🙂
I'm personally right around stage 4 and you just clicked it on for me. The love bombing, the little gifts and shit my mother would do for me while she would, on the other hand, guilt trip me and require me to be that little angel everyone else thought I was. I literally, before you said anything, believed I hadn't been gaslighted but it turns out I was.. Whether she meant to do it or not, she absolutely did...
I bought your program and I am only 30 minutes in but it's so validating to what I have been going through as a co-dependent person. Thank you so much for making this... I'm excited to heal.
I will buy your book soon. This is excellent for others. I didnt have this comfort. Im still searching and networking new friends. My family has been divided some children estranged. I went through the worst imaginable events. Im definitely a survivor but Im impoverished and this hasnt changed. Im 67. I was in a religious cult. I had 12 children. I look forward to reading your books. I live in WNY and need a support network.
I am almost to the stage where I am ready to date. It sucks because like you said, if I had received unconditional love and formed my identity back in highschool or late teens I would've been able to find my people and build real relationships. As it stands now, I have nobody and am starting from scratch. But my vision is so much clearer and I am in tune with my intuition and emotions and needs. So much time and experiences I will never get back. Instead I was in survival mode and seeking the familiar abuse unconsciously. I was made the scapegoat of the family and considered a failure and a loser because my family judges and thinks I'm crazy rather than listens to me. It has been a rough ride and to have so much tied to your formative years in childhood is a troubling realization.
I can't believe how I had worked these steps on my own without knowing. I'm somewhere between stage 8 and 11 because I have self love driven relationships and I'm working on being SLA but am still processing and integrating traumas. But iv only learned of this graph recently Revised for new updates on graph
Thank you so much 🙏🙏🙏💗 I usually watch the videos several times,and I could make a good change in my life. Every minute that I feel free from all those horrible moments in my life، I ask God all the best for all people who helped me to come out of that dark jail I was in .🙏🙏🙏🙏💐💐💐
Thank you, I am in a toxic back and fourth relationship I am a survivor, I have this belief in my head that I will be alone and never find love if I leave for good, I’m breaking that lie it’s a lie no more!
"It won't be about narcissists." A detail from the description of Stage 10.Clarification edited in: like the problems you face won't be those old narky routines. So liberating - figuring out a new world.
i totally get the victim looking to the gaslighter as protector. that explains how i looked at my ex. he even said to me last week we had been over for ten years and he doesn't understand who women stay with abusers. very telling id say. ty ross.
This is absolutely stupendous, Thank you Ross, I love your work, You're absolutely beautiful, Peace, love, joy and happiness to you and everyone, Thank you universe 👽🌌🛸👁😍🧿🦄🌈😃🫂🐉🧝♀️😊🥰
I do/did not. However, everything i teach revolved around the concept that you cannot adequately protect your children, while staying frozen in Self-Love Deficit Disorder (Codependency). Like the concept when in an airplane, you have to first put the oxygen mask on yourself before your children. You can't help them if you have not first resolved the problem that keeps you (and your kids) stuck with the abuse. My experience tells me this is the only way.
The cure is awareness and education that narcissists exists and were responsible for setting boundaries to take care of ourselves. Honoring our feelings is also important since they were ignored and invalidated. Next, building new, healthier relationships and setting and achieving goals to help fulfill one’s life outside of a relationship, and ‘behaving’ the SLD principles on a consistent basis is essential. While I’m career driven by nature, I see it’s been a distraction. Taking time to feel, honor, reframe, and replace old toxic feelings and mindset is emotionally exhausting but liberating nonetheless. The emotional intangible work is always the hardest.
Sound is terrible. Showed this to my group and they all said it was difficult to stay focused because of the sound issue. Suggestion-re-make video and use more professional methods. The information presented is outstanding regarding Coda recovery.
Very helpful information! However, I can't seem to find a printed/book copy of this information. Is there one?? Sorry, but I find the poor audio distracting and I learn best by reading and making notes...
Ty Ross if o ever dreamed ud have bee ostrasized from that group I'd have never expected it because they were my total support system and my old boss knew this .I had no attorney. I SOE t time recovering actually believing what other psychologist told me some of therapist were god awful. They had no idea what a two room apartment meant to me my bosses wife was a nurse oractioner abd they had a total group on to themselves ..its been by far Avery lonely road. I had one frie.d who was a librarian who divorced abs its been like that movie " IRS a wonderful life " with twisted folks who got no love..I actually jumped out if the frying pan into the fire. Tisay in my car with sister shes the one who says " it takes two " she's not bring supportive other than to find ways to utlalize me. I'm in my sixties
Absolutely! Also, this other seminar may be helpful: www.selfloverecovery.com/collections/video-seminars/products/codependency-addiction-attraction-to-narcissists
Nice to c u, Ross. It's all new with each painful hit new patterned toxic relationship begins to abuse, darker, it seems each time. So horrific yet I'm learning red flags of dark triad phsychsociopaths. I believemy father is one. Scary n menacing terror yet somewhat familiar. So sad. To get out without attacking punishment on other end...too scared to leave.we can pull out faster. But what about the safety of our families n loved ones? Just when I think I'm getting better, my mates are still very sick. Just terrifying. Don't fall for their Hoover tricks. Would luv to get over it. Peace n luv n wishing for sum kind of hope before they destroy all including lives, young n old. How do we get there? Please help. Losing hope. Losing people
There is a quote Ross put in the video... Handling a narcissist in itself is not easy... Dark triad? If you think you have learnt enough to analyze the person as dark triad... You should know it's not an easy escape... Start with the question how influential the person is... A narcissist would mostly cut all your contacts to imprison you, and dark triad? He would have read you in and out... Find a therapist... I don't mean to be sarcastic... Getting to a prison lying about a crime not committed or getting self into a mental facility is far easier and safer than getting the guy caught or being rescued from him... I just got this idea from the movie final destination2, when you know you cannot escape death and it's patterns... This female who posed to have premonition, gets herself locked in a high secure prison only to escape death... Dealing with a dark triad is like dealing death's pattern... Once you have found out his secret, be will hunt you down...
I just happened to recall because I do not want you to misunderstanding my comment... I have been living for last 4 years with a few who have the traits of the same dark triad you speak of... The first sign of it was animal cruelty and they enjoy it, they do not have emotions towards their or other's feelings reacting inversely... And they have been forcing me to kill animals... Trying to train me to be a psychopath, triggering my temper when I refuse to do so... Can you believe there are females too in this group and this is clearly a sign of psychopaths... I've been warning to vacate them from my compound and they are trying to make me insane... I got out from one place and here I am in my own house and same situation by the same people with the same traits of dark triad... Defense is sleeping not understanding the consequences of these psycho(s)....
How long does stage 7 last ? He’s been unhinged this whole time - it’s been 3 years but it’s getting worse. Everything you said is happening and worsening. I am handling it as well as you can - but wondering how long it lasts. People keep saying “he will let it go sometime” but it’s like he’s angrier over time and more covert over time…
me too, my Mom was a narc and died this year, she never changed, I just had to protect myself and get away from her when she got mean or got off the phone. Now I am dealing with adult children who act narcisstic. Here I go again.
The complete new and updated video seminar can be found at: www.selfloverecovery.com/collections/video-seminars/products/the-11-stage-self-love-recovery-treatment-program
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@FlorDiniz this was very good information! Thank you
This link you give for the program is the first product to start with? I would like to do it right way. Thank you for your response.
Ross, the time has come. The time has come to let go of bad audio, and welcome acceptable audio into your life! :-)
I agree. I seem to mess up a lot by not making sure my good microphone is working. I will try to be more diligent.
@@RossRosenberg There's always hope for everyone...hang in there! 😆🤣😂😹
is he using the first computer microphone ever invented? he sounds like he's under water lol
please increase volume
I would like to thank you, Ross, for all the help your videos have provided for me over the past year! You helped me find my power to say no and set boundaries. To anyone reading this that is new to this channel, keep watching! Ross changed my life. It is so heartwarming hearing you describe step 9 knowing I'm there. When you made the waitress reference I had to laugh cause the reactions you get from saying no to a narcissist truely are unbelievable.
Jessica, thank you for your kind and affirming words.
Wow Dr Ross this video was so encompassing and illustrative of the 11 steps. I do not have access to a therapist or western books, except kindle as I've been living in China for the last 11 years , but marathoning your videos has been an oasis of sanity and self understanding to self reflect and climb a few steps of that ladder myself towards recovery. I'm now "sober" more self sufficient as a single guy and working on imposing boundaries (at work/friendships first) and recognizing gaslighting which has been immensely helpful, and I can say No now instead of yes to everything for the first time in my life, so I'm getting a taste of having a self and self identity instead of being a people's pleaser. I was able to backtrack it to not feeling (and being) loved as I was by my parents in childhood. Please keep up the great work, I'm your fan!
Thank you so much for your support. Let's both keep up the good work!
Wow Dr. Rosenberg! You are truly a remarkable human being! Since I've found your TH-cam channel, (only last night) I've been provided with incredibly rich information that's just the path I've been searching for to get to a place of healing. I can't thank you enough for all of your hard work and dedication to others, the difference you make is truly one of the most meaningful things a person could do for another.
Thank you so much for your words Shannon. 🙏
Wow, after much counseling and work in co-dependency I learned it is really SLDD. What a revelation!!! I appreciate you being interviewed with Dr. Les Carter. Ya, I was brought up to be other focused, no selfishness allowed. I am happy I don't absorb or engage in induced conversations with a Narc. I now can detatch during low contact. You are terrific! My counseling did discuss self-love, but no techniques, other than self talk. Thank you for the gift of understanding ourselves. I knew we were part of the puzzle. 🙂
I'm personally right around stage 4 and you just clicked it on for me.
The love bombing, the little gifts and shit my mother would do for me while she would, on the other hand, guilt trip me and require me to be that little angel everyone else thought I was. I literally, before you said anything, believed I hadn't been gaslighted but it turns out I was.. Whether she meant to do it or not, she absolutely did...
I bought your program and I am only 30 minutes in but it's so validating to what I have been going through as a co-dependent person. Thank you so much for making this... I'm excited to heal.
I will buy your book soon. This is excellent for others. I didnt have this comfort. Im still searching and networking new friends. My family has been divided some children estranged. I went through the worst imaginable events. Im definitely a survivor but Im impoverished and this hasnt changed. Im 67. I was in a religious cult. I had 12 children. I look forward to reading your books. I live in WNY and need a support network.
Thank you, Ross! This is priceless!
I am almost to the stage where I am ready to date. It sucks because like you said, if I had received unconditional love and formed my identity back in highschool or late teens I would've been able to find my people and build real relationships. As it stands now, I have nobody and am starting from scratch. But my vision is so much clearer and I am in tune with my intuition and emotions and needs. So much time and experiences I will never get back. Instead I was in survival mode and seeking the familiar abuse unconsciously. I was made the scapegoat of the family and considered a failure and a loser because my family judges and thinks I'm crazy rather than listens to me. It has been a rough ride and to have so much tied to your formative years in childhood is a troubling realization.
So glad. Words can be either empowering
Or disempowering.
I'm looking forward to when instead of sober, we say conscious.
I can't believe how I had worked these steps on my own without knowing. I'm somewhere between stage 8 and 11 because I have self love driven relationships and I'm working on being SLA but am still processing and integrating traumas. But iv only learned of this graph recently
Revised for new updates on graph
Same here, stage 6. Exciting, reassuring
Thank you so much 🙏🙏🙏💗 I usually watch the videos several times,and I could make a good change in my life.
Every minute that I feel free from all those horrible moments in my life، I ask God all the best for all people who helped me to come out of that dark jail I was in .🙏🙏🙏🙏💐💐💐
You are so welcome.
thank you for your content
A week into no contact with sociopath....really need this video
Glad this is helpful Carol. Keep up the good work.
How are you doing today?
Thank you, I am in a toxic back and fourth relationship I am a survivor, I have this belief in my head that I will be alone and never find love if I leave for good, I’m breaking that lie it’s a lie no more!
Glad this was helpful.
Thank you for this!
You are welcome! Thanks for watching.
Thank you Ross. 💞
Thankyou Ross ,very informative as always.
Very welcome Michelle.
"It won't be about narcissists." A detail from the description of Stage 10.Clarification edited in: like the problems you face won't be those old narky routines. So liberating - figuring out a new world.
Omg! He knows. I went thru this solo. He is 100% correct.
i totally get the victim looking to the gaslighter as protector. that explains how i looked at my ex. he even said to me last week we had been over for ten years and he doesn't understand who women stay with abusers. very telling id say. ty ross.
Thanks for sharing Maryann. Glad this was helpful.
This is absolutely stupendous, Thank you Ross, I love your work, You're absolutely beautiful, Peace, love, joy and happiness to you and everyone, Thank you universe 👽🌌🛸👁😍🧿🦄🌈😃🫂🐉🧝♀️😊🥰
I love this sooo much. I am SLA now. ..you are sooo emotional about stage 9. ❤🙏💜
I hope you will cover how to protect children from Narcissistic abuse.
I do/did not. However, everything i teach revolved around the concept that you cannot adequately protect your children, while staying frozen in Self-Love Deficit Disorder (Codependency). Like the concept when in an airplane, you have to first put the oxygen mask on yourself before your children. You can't help them if you have not first resolved the problem that keeps you (and your kids) stuck with the abuse. My experience tells me this is the only way.
Great video 👌🏻
Thanks for the visit.
This is so bad I'm so upset and O am so Thankful for your videos.Thank you so mucj
The cure is awareness and education that narcissists exists and were responsible for setting boundaries to take care of ourselves. Honoring our feelings is also important since they were ignored and invalidated. Next, building new, healthier relationships and setting and achieving goals to help fulfill one’s life outside of a relationship, and ‘behaving’ the SLD principles on a consistent basis is essential.
While I’m career driven by nature, I see it’s been a distraction. Taking time to feel, honor, reframe, and replace old toxic feelings and mindset is emotionally exhausting but liberating nonetheless. The emotional intangible work is always the hardest.
There are so many narcissists out there. Once our eyes are opened its a truly pitiful world. How to navigate them out of your life is important.
It is so true!!
thanks for the video
Sound is terrible. Showed this to my group and they all said it was difficult to stay focused because of the sound issue. Suggestion-re-make video and use more professional methods. The information presented is outstanding regarding Coda recovery.
Thank YOU FOR SHARING IM
REALLY LOOKING FORWARD TO THIS AFTER
BEING A VICTIM OF NARCISSISTIC ABUSE.
JESUS LOVES YOU :) AND ABUSE FREE IS THE WAY TO BE!
@@nicksanders9148 THANK YOU 🙏
I expect two more stages by the end of 2022.
🤣 what are those 1 the covid depression stage from being in lockdown. 2 the financial crisis stage from being in lockdown 🤣
Something is up with the audio.
Does anyone have resources to if such a program is available in NYC ?
I was called back and was not prepared! My own children. Wish I knew.
Very helpful information! However, I can't seem to find a printed/book copy of this information. Is there one??
Sorry, but I find the poor audio distracting and I learn best by reading and making notes...
Please visit Ross's website for all of his resources: www.selfloverecovery.com/. Thanks!
What is the title of your book that you recommend prior to treatment?
The Human Magnet Syndrome. You can find it in different formats here: www.selfloverecovery.com/collections/human-magnet-syndrome-books.
Thank you!
Ty Ross if o ever dreamed ud have bee ostrasized from that group I'd have never expected it because they were my total support system and my old boss knew this .I had no attorney. I SOE t time recovering actually believing what other psychologist told me some of therapist were god awful. They had no idea what a two room apartment meant to me my bosses wife was a nurse oractioner abd they had a total group on to themselves ..its been by far Avery lonely road. I had one frie.d who was a librarian who divorced abs its been like that movie " IRS a wonderful life " with twisted folks who got no love..I actually jumped out if the frying pan into the fire. Tisay in my car with sister shes the one who says " it takes two " she's not bring supportive other than to find ways to utlalize me. I'm in my sixties
If you’ve already left and are experiencing pathological loneliness, is this seminar still applicable?
Absolutely! Also, this other seminar may be helpful: www.selfloverecovery.com/collections/video-seminars/products/codependency-addiction-attraction-to-narcissists
@@RossRosenberg Hi, I’ve already left as well-where can I access the seminar referenced above?
Nice to c u, Ross. It's all new with each painful hit new patterned toxic relationship begins to abuse, darker, it seems each time. So horrific yet I'm learning red flags of dark triad phsychsociopaths. I believemy father is one. Scary n menacing terror yet somewhat familiar. So sad. To get out without attacking punishment on other end...too scared to leave.we can pull out faster. But what about the safety of our families n loved ones? Just when I think I'm getting better, my mates are still very sick. Just terrifying. Don't fall for their Hoover tricks. Would luv to get over it. Peace n luv n wishing for sum kind of hope before they destroy all including lives, young n old. How do we get there? Please help. Losing hope. Losing people
There is a quote Ross put in the video... Handling a narcissist in itself is not easy... Dark triad? If you think you have learnt enough to analyze the person as dark triad... You should know it's not an easy escape...
Start with the question how influential the person is... A narcissist would mostly cut all your contacts to imprison you, and dark triad? He would have read you in and out... Find a therapist...
I don't mean to be sarcastic... Getting to a prison lying about a crime not committed or getting self into a mental facility is far easier and safer than getting the guy caught or being rescued from him... I just got this idea from the movie final destination2, when you know you cannot escape death and it's patterns... This female who posed to have premonition, gets herself locked in a high secure prison only to escape death... Dealing with a dark triad is like dealing death's pattern... Once you have found out his secret, be will hunt you down...
I just happened to recall because I do not want you to misunderstanding my comment...
I have been living for last 4 years with a few who have the traits of the same dark triad you speak of...
The first sign of it was animal cruelty and they enjoy it, they do not have emotions towards their or other's feelings reacting inversely... And they have been forcing me to kill animals... Trying to train me to be a psychopath, triggering my temper when I refuse to do so...
Can you believe there are females too in this group and this is clearly a sign of psychopaths... I've been warning to vacate them from my compound and they are trying to make me insane... I got out from one place and here I am in my own house and same situation by the same people with the same traits of dark triad... Defense is sleeping not understanding the consequences of these psycho(s)....
How long does stage 7 last ? He’s been unhinged this whole time - it’s been 3 years but it’s getting worse.
Everything you said is happening and worsening. I am handling it as well as you can - but wondering how long it lasts. People keep saying “he will let it go sometime” but it’s like he’s angrier over time and more covert over time…
Boy oh boy, what I would give to fix the sound quality of this video!😢😢😢
Thank the good Lord for captioning 🙏🏻
I hopei get to meet you one day. I finished the program. I am Tamra
I know this was like 3 years ago,but i can barely hear him😢
My support system is my husband
And he was once my boyfriend and new relationship. ( My narc relationship is my mother)
me too, my Mom was a narc and died this year, she never changed, I just had to protect myself and get away from her when she got mean or got off the phone. Now I am dealing with adult children who act narcisstic. Here I go again.
Sld= self love disability?
I am shocked by understanding the gasslighting. My mother is a covert narc.
The sound is extremely bad that it is impossible to listen to this video because I cannot understand what he is saying; it is just a muffle sound.
You have a fake profile on fb?
Good content but 12 ads is ridiculous and simply not worth watching this.
So sorry about that! That was not the intention. We are fixing it. Thanks for letting us know.
For me wel !!! It’s all true !!!!
What if your partner isn't a narrcassist?
and what if its your Mom , then what? the worst life experiences thats what .