It’s not about relaxing, it’s not about taking care of your body, not mainly anyway, it’s about changing your way of looking at it. This is about what you tell yourself
I absolutely love listening to you. I’m a massive doer in life and with my anxiety issue and I get frustrated with myself that all of the things I try to do doesn’t make it go away but you are helping me to just let it be and let go of control and get on with my life. Thank you so much!
I perfectly agree. What makes it hard are the sensations but, OK. Let it settle down, let it go, put it down, don’t get involved, stop watching it, leave it be. Do nothing and just go on with life. Continue. Noted
This is not about doing, it’s about not doing. You don’t make it go away, you let it go away. You got anxious, you didn’t like it, but you can deal with it, dust yourself off and move on. When you look back at it, don’t fret, say “actually that wasn’t so bad.” And gradually it will fade away
These videos are so useful as they reinforce so many other aspects and make connections. Each one always clarifies at least one thing for me - the glass of sand and water was excellent and the connection with our “self regulating system”...this really made me understand the need to “ do nothing” .... but that is often very hard to learn
I'm the epitome of a doer and anxiety and my relentless fight to stop it is showing me that. I love your videos, they are so authentic and accurate, and your analogies are perfect and make me laugh. Thank you for the content!
I don't know why there are not many more comments but Michelle this is one of the best examples over the internet I was quite confused with the Shaan kasm analogy of acceptance but you nailed it basically he and you are on the same page but you just summed up his whole youtube channel into this one video just by giving the examples of sand jar Loved it. God bless you
This is 100% me. I have been watching all your vids (and can't wait for the private session I booked!) I feel hope for the first time in so long. This one is possible one of my fav. I am completely the do-er. tell me what to do and I will do those things! I feel like (though maybe this is more doing) I need to make a sand/water jar to remind myself. Leave it the eff alone!
Thank you Michelle, This is so true. Sometimes the simplest visual effects have the largest impact. Love the sand and water jar. Going to make one for my self. Thanks you.
I get anxious for it too go and that makes me worst so I'm trying each day to over come it with dare.. I'm so glad for you look happy I hope I too become like you.
So - We overcome anxiety by basically doing nothing right. Its like those animals who have an ruff around their neck. It prevents them from scratching and repoening the wound. After a time, the wounds are closed and the ruff removed, so even if they scratch it, it wont really matter- therefore they wont even be wanting to scratch because there are no wounds left. To zoom out of anxiety as a gigantic monster - we can see it just as a damn itching. we just have to do nothing about it and it will basically go away. There we go
Hoo boy, didn't expect to get choked up about a jar of watery sand. This is haaaaaard. I can work it in principle, but some panicky sensations are just intense and i can't resist the urge to "do something". Lately I've been opting for remedies created by a skilled homeopath, as it seems less like a medicalised "oh, this is serious" type response.
I've been there, like you, countless thousands of times. But unless and until you really follow what Michelle is advocating here - and really let go - I fear that you'll continue to have problems. My view, for what it's worth, is don't waste your money on homeopathy. I tried that too. Hope you get to where you want to be.
The jar of sand and the toy are good concrete examples to make your point of letting our systems settle on their own but I want to know how to not get all "shaken up" to begin with.
Michelle is the modern Claire Weekes. Great communication skills. Easy to understand. Your work is extremely important
It’s not about relaxing, it’s not about taking care of your body, not mainly anyway, it’s about changing your way of looking at it. This is about what you tell yourself
I absolutely love listening to you. I’m a massive doer in life and with my anxiety issue and I get frustrated with myself that all of the things I try to do doesn’t make it go away but you are helping me to just let it be and let go of control and get on with my life. Thank you so much!
You are saving lifes😢
I perfectly agree. What makes it hard are the sensations but, OK. Let it settle down, let it go, put it down, don’t get involved, stop watching it, leave it be. Do nothing and just go on with life. Continue.
Noted
How brilliant..!! Great to see Dare have specialists like Michelle.. She gives the brand, process and App so much credibility in my opinion💪
This is not about doing, it’s about not doing. You don’t make it go away, you let it go away. You got anxious, you didn’t like it, but you can deal with it, dust yourself off and move on. When you look back at it, don’t fret, say “actually that wasn’t so bad.” And gradually it will fade away
These videos are so useful as they reinforce so many other aspects and make connections. Each one always clarifies at least one thing for me - the glass of sand and water was excellent and the connection with our “self regulating system”...this really made me understand the need to “ do nothing” .... but that is often very hard to learn
I'm the epitome of a doer and anxiety and my relentless fight to stop it is showing me that. I love your videos, they are so authentic and accurate, and your analogies are perfect and make me laugh. Thank you for the content!
This video deserves a whole lot more views than it has. That was a great explanation and visual aids!
I don't know why there are not many more comments but Michelle this is one of the best examples over the internet I was quite confused with the Shaan kasm analogy of acceptance but you nailed it basically he and you are on the same page but you just summed up his whole youtube channel into this one video just by giving the examples of sand jar Loved it. God bless you
The power is so often in the story or explanation. Really good job michelle
Very good analogies! DARE is working for me! This video explains it so well.
Great analogies with the sand and the toy. I can relate. It’s not easy. Meditation helps me be proactive but not a cure all.
This is 100% me. I have been watching all your vids (and can't wait for the private session I booked!) I feel hope for the first time in so long. This one is possible one of my fav. I am completely the do-er. tell me what to do and I will do those things! I feel like (though maybe this is more doing) I need to make a sand/water jar to remind myself. Leave it the eff alone!
Thank you Michelle,
This is so true. Sometimes the simplest visual effects have the largest impact. Love the sand and water jar. Going to make one for my self.
Thanks you.
Dang, that toy is a perfect analogy! I am not sure why I need to hear this over and over again, until it will finally sink in. Thank you again. 😊
Thank you Michelle, you have been so helpful! I've been watching all of your videos and you're amazing. Thank you for all that you do :)
I get anxious for it too go and that makes me worst so I'm trying each day to over come it with dare.. I'm so glad for you look happy I hope I too become like you.
Thank you Michelle !!! This video helps me remember what to do when feeling anxious!
So - We overcome anxiety by basically doing nothing right. Its like those animals who have an ruff around their neck. It prevents them from scratching and repoening the wound. After a time, the wounds are closed and the ruff removed, so even if they scratch it, it wont really matter- therefore they wont even be wanting to scratch because there are no wounds left. To zoom out of anxiety as a gigantic monster - we can see it just as a damn itching. we just have to do nothing about it and it will basically go away. There we go
It's so so hard because my symptoms are so strong. Just laying doing or stopping can take an hour to settle a panic attack
Great synopsis. Now I know what I’ve done for years. I got good at anxiety! In fact I became a master of it!😂🤣😅
You helped me very much i feel all your talk to me Michelle you don't stop videos
Love u Michelle i am Arabian
Hoo boy, didn't expect to get choked up about a jar of watery sand.
This is haaaaaard. I can work it in principle, but some panicky sensations are just intense and i can't resist the urge to "do something". Lately I've been opting for remedies created by a skilled homeopath, as it seems less like a medicalised "oh, this is serious" type response.
I've been there, like you, countless thousands of times. But unless and until you really follow what Michelle is advocating here - and really let go - I fear that you'll continue to have problems. My view, for what it's worth, is don't waste your money on homeopathy. I tried that too. Hope you get to where you want to be.
Hello! I agree. Thank you!
I’m starting to understand and practice acceptance. However, how do you tell if it’s anxiety or something that you actually need to get checked out?
The jar of sand and the toy are good concrete examples to make your point of letting our systems settle on their own but I want to know how to not get all "shaken up" to begin with.
Thank you!
Is the dare app , the same you would get if you joined via the Dare website
Very helpful thanks
Brilliant.
Brilliant!
This works
It’s hard not to watch the sand tho because it’s such a strong feeling.
it gives me anxiety thinking it takes lot of time
I love your examples. I wish I could do therapy with you. Would be great.
Yeah would love to know how to do nothing! Doesn’t make sense.