Thank you for this video! The child's father came to conferences yesterday. My director sat in on the meeting. She emphasized that the child's behavior is concerning: no eye contact, his level of energy in the classroom. Based on experience, other students his age (almost 4) have more developed speech. The father listened but kept saying his son needs to adapt to new voices and tones. It's only the first week and that he has no problems at home. We left it as the dad having a conversation with the mom about seeing the pediatrician for speech. I do not think they will go to a pediatrician for this. I had at least 5-6 other parents complaining about their child being pushed by him. A few of the kids do not want to come to school. Do you think if this goes on for another week, if parents get involved they might put pressure on the boy's parents to seek help? I know this is a process but I don't see how I can teach without a daily 1:1. The floaters that come in or my assistant try as hard as they can to keep him away from the others but it is exhausting.
I know exactly how you feel. Great job having a meeting and including your director though...that's the first step. I would suggest that there be a notebook in a location that your aide and the floaters know where it is. Start documenting the behaviors. When you feel it's time, schedule another meeting. Talk to your director before the meeting, share all the notes you and the aides have been taking. Sometimes you need to suggest an evaluation of more than just speech before the child can return to the classroom. Parents are really reistant to anything being wrong with their child, or their child neecding some extra help. If there is a behavior specialist in your area that can observe this child in class and observe what is going on with the other children ...that is helpful too. Sometimes if you have a behavior specialist join in on the meeting and talk directly to the parents, it will diffuse the situation a bit so the parents don't get into blaming mode and blame you or the school. I will tell you the hard truth, the parents might just pull the child from the school and find another school...the same thing will happen and they will try another school. DEnial is really difficult to combat. The fact that they say this isn't happening at. home can only mean 2 things...they are not being honest with you or themselves, or they let the child do whatever he/she wants so there is no conflict..thus perpetuating the problem. Good luck!
Hello Madam I will have a meeting with one of the child has a difficulty behaviour in our classroom... So, can you help me? How can I start the discussion with hiis parent's ...This is my first time to do this
Hi, thanks for reaching out. I would first begin with telling the parents something good you are seeing in their child's behavior. Then I would say something like this-"However there is one thing we are struggling with . Johnny has been hitting the other kids if they have a toy he wants to play with, then he resorts to trying to wrestle the toy away from the other child. As you can imagine, this is causing some problems in my classroom. "s there anything that has changed in Johnny's home life that might be causing him to act out this way? How do you handle these behaviors at home? I want to make sure I am using similar words and doing similar things here in the classroom so I am working with you to help Johnny." The parents will tell you what they do...I usually say, Ok, I'll use those same words, but here is another thing I know to be effective that you might want to try too-then I'll tell them what I do to curb the behavior here in the classroom. End by saying That you will keep track of the incidents and while you work together with them for a week or two you will see if there are any positive changes. Then let them know you will get back to them to revisit Johnnys behavior at the end of that period. A lot of times, the parents are new to parenting or have very little time in their day to actually parent. They need your help just as much as you need theirs. Let me know how it goes
This is fantastic! Thank you so much! Very helpful, I have conferences coming up and wasn’t sure how to tactfully bring things up
i'm so glad it was helpful!
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Excellent video
Thank you very much!
Thank you for this video! The child's father came to conferences yesterday. My director sat in on the meeting. She emphasized that the child's behavior is concerning: no eye contact, his level of energy in the classroom. Based on experience, other students his age (almost 4) have more developed speech. The father listened but kept saying his son needs to adapt to new voices and tones. It's only the first week and that he has no problems at home. We left it as the dad having a conversation with the mom about seeing the pediatrician for speech. I do not think they will go to a pediatrician for this. I had at least 5-6 other parents complaining about their child being pushed by him. A few of the kids do not want to come to school. Do you think if this goes on for another week, if parents get involved they might put pressure on the boy's parents to seek help? I know this is a process but I don't see how I can teach without a daily 1:1. The floaters that come in or my assistant try as hard as they can to keep him away from the others but it is exhausting.
I know exactly how you feel. Great job having a meeting and including your director though...that's the first step. I would suggest that there be a notebook in a location that your aide and the floaters know where it is. Start documenting the behaviors. When you feel it's time, schedule another meeting. Talk to your director before the meeting, share all the notes you and the aides have been taking. Sometimes you need to suggest an evaluation of more than just speech before the child can return to the classroom.
Parents are really reistant to anything being wrong with their child, or their child neecding some extra help. If there is a behavior specialist in your area that can observe this child in class and observe what is going on with the other children ...that is helpful too. Sometimes if you have a behavior specialist join in on the meeting and talk directly to the parents, it will diffuse the situation a bit so the parents don't get into blaming mode and blame you or the school.
I will tell you the hard truth, the parents might just pull the child from the school and find another school...the same thing will happen and they will try another school. DEnial is really difficult to combat. The fact that they say this isn't happening at. home can only mean 2 things...they are not being honest with you or themselves, or they let the child do whatever he/she wants so there is no conflict..thus perpetuating the problem.
Good luck!
@@teachpre-k101 thank you!
Hello Madam
I will have a meeting with one of the child has a difficulty behaviour in our classroom... So, can you help me? How can I start the discussion with hiis parent's ...This is my first time to do this
Hi, thanks for reaching out.
I would first begin with telling the parents something good you are seeing in their child's behavior. Then I would say something like this-"However there is one thing we are struggling with . Johnny has been hitting the other kids if they have a toy he wants to play with, then he resorts to trying to wrestle the toy away from the other child. As you can imagine, this is causing some problems in my classroom. "s there anything that has changed in Johnny's home life that might be causing him to act out this way? How do you handle these behaviors at home? I want to make sure I am using similar words and doing similar things here in the classroom so I am working with you to help Johnny."
The parents will tell you what they do...I usually say, Ok, I'll use those same words, but here is another thing I know to be effective that you might want to try too-then I'll tell them what I do to curb the behavior here in the classroom.
End by saying That you will keep track of the incidents and while you work together with them for a week or two you will see if there are any positive changes. Then let them know you will get back to them to revisit Johnnys behavior at the end of that period.
A lot of times, the parents are new to parenting or have very little time in their day to actually parent. They need your help just as much as you need theirs.
Let me know how it goes