Never did it crossed my mind that i would be in this situation, crying over someone that doesnt want me and trying to drown my feelings with liquor. Weed only helps so much but i find myself smoking more. I know whats best for me but i dont want it, i want to just punish myself for my greatest mistake ever.
for a lot of men, their girlfriend or wife is the only person they can talk to about their feelings or other intimate/personal things that would be weird to discuss with other males. This might be a reason why men feel numb and take a lot longer to recover due to the lack of social or emotional support.
As a man I am starting to realize, it is not that men aren't talking or should talk more, we cope with emotion in a completely different way than does a woman. we process our emotions with movement and activity based coping, I think our neuro-anatomy and physiology lends itself to making a man a slightly less efficient talker of emotions, and naturally a better doer of emotions via actions...
yes ! my ex bf told me he felt numb and angry and totally dull after broken up with me even he still go meet friends or travel, but the emotions keeps in his heart so sometimes it shows up sometimes like a normal person.
I know a friend her ex still wants to b friend with her despite he was the one who wanted breakup and friendzoned my friend and she still loves him but does not want hurt him so she still talks to him
It's been 24 years, and the thought of her still stings my heart. I still feel like a golden opportunity for lifelong happiness slipped through my fingers. There aren't enough words to describe how much I miss her.
It’s been 20 years for me so I totally understand how you feel. The pain literally never goes away, you’re numb all of the time and barely have energy to get out of bed. The one reply of “Call her”; no, he can’t do that because it opens him up to possibly more pain because she could be happily married and if she wanted to be with him, she would contact him.
Well that’s just a fantasy you have built in your head obviously when the person for you if you were if you’d be together and I’m sure you found somebody else instead thank your lucky stars you got away from her.
The best connection on why men would have a harder time with a break up is because there is no emotional support. If you show off your emotional/sensitive side to your family most likely they'll tell you to stop whining and man up. If you show your self to a female friend they will tell you how unattractive you're acting (and that's if they're frank with you). And guy friends don't even know what to do in a situation is right in front of them. Hopefully, there are a few friends that are willing to talk about the situation of a break up with full support with no awkwardness or uncomfortably. Compare that to a women who are given full support with almost everyone and not be looked down upon by showing their sensitive side.
Lui s This is the second biggest problem facing men especially on the western hemisphere. People don't give a shit about your feelings if you've got a penis. It's always "Man up," "Don't act like a little girl," or "Stop being a pussy." Because after all, Men are feeling-less assholes and if you have feelings, you must be a woman.
GuyWithAnAmazingHat That is ironically also the same moment when we become players and very successful in dating. Because we have learned how the game should be played.
GuyWithAnAmazingHat My belief in love didn't die, my trust in women did. However that is recoverable, and currently I'm happy with the girl I'm with. We both treat each other very well and go out of our way for one another yet still respect each other as individuals.
I found a girl who was definitely a “one” for me. The feeling was unlike anything else I’ve experienced. Being with her made me feel at peace with myself and with everything. She was the most beautiful person I’ve met. I screwed up and lost her. I didn’t know I could feel so miserable. The magnitude of the regret is unbelievable. I went over those events in my mind a thousand times. Since then, I’ve been on a mission to find another girl who makes me feel the way she made me feel. I’ll find her, or else die tired and alone. But, when I find her, I’ll make her my wife, and she’ll be the luckiest girl on Earth. I wish I could have given that to the first girl, instead of causing her pain. All I can do is move forward and create as much love and happiness in this world as I can in my lifetime.
@@pmthert523 There is always red pill/MGTOW cultists lurking on videos like this. You shit heads need to stop trying to lure vulnerable men into your toxic cult.
@DarkBirgon Blue pill, Red pill, Purple pill. Step right up and pick your cult of choice in this Luciferian construct known as Civilization. Just be careful with the derogatory personal attacks, or no one will want to join your cult.
I think women fall in love faster, but they also fall OUT of love faster. Their attraction to a man is very much based on feelings and emotions, and these emotions can fluctuate wildly. Men take longer to develop feelings, but they can stay on for a long time after the relationship is over.
Achilles you could be right about that. I agree with you. Maybe it is our job as men prevent women from falling out of love by showing them that we love them back.
It's because we are caught off guard with the breakup. While women have been planning to break up with you for months before she does. So she is damn near already over you when she gives you the bad news.
Some women plan this for years....while cheating behind or even in front of their man....then when he gets "weak"...they get rid of him...talk about evil here.....
Wrong, men definitely invest more into a relationship. That's why getting over it takes longer. And women can find a replacement much easier then men can. In most cases they already have a replacement before the relationship ends
kuunami for real. A girl probably has a few dudes in her phone she can hit up and just say "come over" and dudes will step over each other to see her. I know I don't have that luxury. *sigh* What sucks is she set the bar really high. I'd say we were definitely 85-90% compatible, she's into Asian dudes, and I'm into white girls. Shared a lot of common things. And the kicker? She lives less than 8 miles away... One hell of a tough act to follow.
You become ok and move on but suddenly one fine day you hear a song which was famous during your past relationship and used to listen to it together a lot. It just brings back everything and crystal clear memories just play back on your mind. Like a Truck hit you again. At that point I suggest just smile and be happy that you have some good days and felt loved once.
Everyone is talking about how they miss their exes yet here I am, happier than I ever was with my ex. We were together for almost a year and a half until she cheated on me and left me for the dude she cheated with. I was devastated for about a month or two, after which I've been happier than ever. Then half a year later she came running back to me, apologizing and begging me to take her back. I just laughed at it and kindly told her no. I guess it's just my mentality, that if people leave your life, it's for a good reason. They served their purpose, and something way better is underway. And that way of thinking worked perfectly because now, almost 2 years after the breakup, I met an amazing girl that I've always dreamed of. So the moral of this story is your future is determined by the way you react to present.
My ex also cheated on me and hang out with dudes and even engaged behind my back , thank God it wasn’t me otherwise I would live with regret and pain for the rest of my life. We had some arguments before but no matter what reason she shouldn’t have treated me this way. Later she said she regrets but it was too late.
women can find a new relationship faster than men and have no problems moving on. it's played out like women are so emotional.. yet men are actually more attached when they really love someone
Lol no! It’s just that in today’s world it’s difficult for men to find a new woman. They dread having to flirt and impress other women. They hate moving out of their comfort zone and finding someone new. If a guy found a hotter girl, he wouldn’t even for a second think about his ex. It’s just that men have lesser opportunities than women. And you usually feel heartbreak until you find another person.
Manasa Reddy I have slept with hotter women than my ex after breakup but I still miss her, because the relationship meant something to me. There is a thing called love. What bullshit logic are you talking about ?
Its simple when a man gets his heart broken he loses his confidence and mojo which makes him unattractive. When a women gets her heart broken there are many men who would gladly be her rebound. Simple
It’s even simpler than that. Women don’t love men. They love what men can do for them. So, when they lost a man, there’s still plenty of men who will immediately fill that void. Men don’t need to love women but need a purpose, only that biology of men make relationship, which is potential future family, to be the center of their lives, which can be brutal if that purpose is taken away. Men with purpose in life other than relationship, are immune to emotional toll of breakups.
Sharif S At least there is some comfort in knowing youre not going through the same incredibly confusing and hard situation alone. Hope things work out in the end my friend
thats crazyy.. ive been depressed to that extent myself.. but not because of a girl.. thats.. man life's crazyy sometimes.. all we can do for eachother is try to be there but not judge
@@moimaris3369 Actually they won't still now I am seeing her in everywhere even though if we get into relationship with other women it won't be that strong as that one girl it's like fire under the ashes there are lot of guys keeping their one true loves name to their kids. That pain won't leave still we go to our grave we can't able to bare the pain of your loving one is moving on with some one else it's been 7 years even now I am having that pain looking back her pictures
Women can get over it because of all the emotional support they have. If men get emotional they are judged as being whiney and weak so they internalise it which is why men don't ever really get the chance to get over it. They keep it in and don't say anything to anyone. The reason why women are more likely to initiate a breakup is they have much more to gain. Divorce and custody battles almost always favor women. There is a reason for this it's not strictly biological response.
Uh, no. Stop pretending you know anything about this topic. My ex boyfriends had way more emotional support than I did. Life is not a romantic comedy. Not even touching the other dumb shit you said.
My high school sweet heart reached out to me after 11 years and told me he still hasn’t gotten over me . I got over him in 4 months because boy did he mistreat me and make me cry all the time . I feel bad for him but I’m happy I was able to get over someone who mistreated me .
Been with someone for 4 years who is a narcissist and has abused me mentally, emotionally and physically. We have broken up 7 times in 4 years and k have made 13 moves (500miles each) because he said he changed and wants to marry me and be happy.... I've been back now for 2 weeks and he has already told me to move back home with my parents.... I'm 26.... He's 38... Despite everything I actually loved him and still do... But this will be my 14th trip of 500miles back. And me packing up my life 14 times and trying to establish roots again. When I entered the relationship I was such a bubbly silly happy girl... Now I have no clue who I am and my parents can't stand the sight of me and claim "youre not our daughter anymore... she's been gone for 4 years." I hate my ex so bad for doing what he has done to me and how I allowed it so many times... He says he'll never get over me.... I honestly hope he struggles for the rest of his life. Because God sure knows I have and I have almost lost myself completely.... (I've tried to commit suicide 3 times because of the abuse and feeling trapped and unwanted/unrecoverable.) I hope I have your strength and can move on and be protected to never meet a man like this again...
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I know someone like that, he was horrible to her but he really did love her still does, sometimes we have to lose that person to make us realize how we went wrong, and as the saying goes you dont realize how much you truly loved that person till there gone.
Јана Марковић It's true, went through a break up 4 days ago.. I can't work, I can't sleep, or I can't eat, my family is just looking at me wondering what's wrong but I've never showed them these emotions before, I've only been truly vulnerable with her, I love her.. I gave her my heart and it hurts everytime I think about her and look at her pictures... nights are long and lonely and sad, full of love songs and sorrow
Solo PAC sorry to hear that buddy. If you still want her back, it might be worth trying to win her over again. Search on TH-cam for Brad Browning - he is a relationship coach who does videos specifically to help people get their ex back. Good luck!
Cameron Lorna Don't think I can go back to her, just gotta let her see what she lost.. I'm a good guy, I'm loyal, I don't cheat, I listen, I care, but sometimes it's just not enough for em.. Can't waste my time trying to love, and get back someone who doesn't appreciate me Shit sometimes they just want a guy that treats em like shit, that treats em like a used rag.. I guess I'm the fool for wanting to treat them like Queens Thanks though bro, Respect✊
Anjana Devi yea but there are so many good honest people out there.. we can't let the ones who hurt us make us believe it will always happen again.. ya know
Justin yeap you're right... but I guess we mostly gravitate towards 'bad' people cos they're the ones who seemed willing to give us attention, show kindness and concern. 'Good' people seem nice and that's it. They don't seem to want anything more than that. You feel awkward..as though you're not good enough for them. OK...I'm kinda ranting...lol
As a man, nothing feels the same after. You just try and not talk about it to anyone, you wallow in isolation and every little thing seems to annoy and irritate you. The company you usually keep NEVER helps, you can’t even look at her pictures or social media accounts, trying desperately to forget about her and the pain you feel and the only thing that PARTIALLY heals the emotional scarring is time. That’s it. A new relationship definitely helps but you’re always feeling afraid of a break up during such times, leaving you potentially in an even WORSE state than before! From what I’ve seen, it can take women a mere few months to get over a break up and find someone else. For a guy? It can literally take YEARS to recover.
scowl face Hang in there buddy. Been through the same thing and the initial 2 year spell is ALWAYS the worst. Once you get over that, things only start looking up from there. The one thing that irritates women after breakup/divorce is seeing their ex moving on with someone else and seem even HAPPIER than when they were when they were married to them. Chin up buddy, good and even better times are ahead of you!
Emperor and Scowl Face - I wish you both to meet a loyal person in the future. As I wish it to myself. They must exist out there. Our head knows it but our heart can't have faith (for now). And how can we ever assess loyalty in someone at the start? Impossible. We've had signs she was a good person, but it's terrible when finally she turns out to be a child who wants a new toy. I have to admit I am now scared about women's dictator behaviour.
Really? My experience told the other way around. Hurt so bad i cried like 2 months every single day. After a year i get better. After 2 years i decided to move on 🙂
I'm really sorry that happened to you, I feel you, it came out of nowhere from one day to another and caught me by surprise I was devastated for the past week but I realized today that although it hurts us now, it'll hurt them when we move on and stop trying to stay in their life. Those people will realize they Messed up when it's too late, we'll be okay :')
It kills...to have those amazing memories flood your mind. The emotion and feeling of those moments, and knowing that you won’t have them again. You want to let go, and forget. But everything reminds you of them, and you feel nothing but regret, loneliness and emptiness. And you find yourself stuck in a worse situation than before. And you wonder, “What all went wrong?”
I wish guys feelings were taken more seriously. Reminders throw us down after it all, it’s even worse when they tell you they still love you but then switch up the next time you see them. Plays with your heart and head, and they think it’s alright...
Can't watch the same movies, tv shows etc that you seen with them or certain smells like food or go to places that we held hands at. The little things might not seem like a big deal but sure was powerful enough to make me move to a different province.
My ex broke up with me because she said i act like a kid 😭, then i stood up, wipe my tears and move over it. On the next morning i went to her house 🏡 and rang the bell 🔔 three times and ran away 🤷🏾♂️
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Hey, some women probably feel the same as men do in this situation but those women probably have the same mentality of guys while bring trapped in a ladies body.
it's not that women don't love men, it's that they involve themselves so much into the relationship that it's terrible at the beginning, and then when finding someone else, women involve themselves again in a relationship and so on. It seems that it's not fair, but actually it's for biological reasons
Problem is we get soo attached with that one person its almost like we hypnotize ourselves into thinking they're a part of us. That's not the case, never was. It was just a season in your life, now its time to let go and come back to you, the main prize. Shift the focus back on yourself and your life goals i.e education, career, self growth, etc. We were once individual people breathing and living fine before that person showed up. Mourn. Let go. Move on.
2011 it was, now its 2018 Still not over that. Been single from 7 years by choice. And will probably never marry. The heartbreak eats you alive inside that is the most painful feeling i have ever felt
Just broke up yesterday after 4 months. I understand that to married people 4 months are nothing, but it's killing me inside, i can't even sleep at night.. i am 28 btw and she's 25
Men are generally not as open as women emotionally so the affection they get from a relationship is probably more addictive than the other way around. Women have deeper emotional connection with their friends than men and it works like a safety net after a breakup.
+NiekGAE Mine normally take half the time of the total relationship. So if a relationship lasted 2 years - 1 year to get over it. Never fully over it, but enough to move on.
+Scorch428 I was with a girl for six months and it took me two plus years before I was even ok being alone. I just got out of a one year relationship with worse of a withdrawal effect. I'm not sure how long it will take to get over her. at least this one gave me more reasons to move on.
+Marshall Ells Keep your head up, man. Realize that your emotions are a result of evolution, nothing more. They aren't real, in the true sense of the word. It's tough to get past them - no doubt. 4 different woman have ripped me apart in my early 20's, seemingly without a care in the world. You'll get through it, tho. Just KNOW that. :) It just takes time.
Marshall Ells If its of any reassurance, my first love took me 2 years to get over. We were together for only 3 months. 3 fucking months. The one I was talking about, a 5 year relationship, well it doesn't look like it'll take me 20 years to get over her even though I still love her and miss her right now. It'll pass. It will get better. There will be other girls for us bruv. Girls that actually appreciate us. Really drunk right now so sorry if I'm not making snese.
If she genuinely loves you mate, don't breakup I repeat don't breakup! You gonna end with someone anyway so why not her? So stay together no matter what. Just delete the word breakup from your relationship.
He did that. I won't say I am the best person to love, but I know one thing. I truly loved him. Despite all of our issues. I was thankful for the I love I had. He didn't. He bailed out when things got tough. And that's when I know it's gonna eat him up alive. I tried it all. Begged him. Wrote him messages that I would do my part. But he didn't even take one accountability. Men and their escapist mentality cause so much of trauma, both for themselves, and their SOs. Just get therapy and work it out guys. In this world if you have come across someone who likes you for who you're. You're lucky. Work for it. It's all worth it. I am moving on from him, and his inability to love us. Bye, boo. Take care.
i miss my ex. i wish we had had an explosive breakup so I could hate her, but that was not the case. It was the most civil breakup, ending with a hug and a kiss. My food doesnt taste as good, my temper is set off by the littlest things, i dont eat, i can't sleep, i cant focus, i drink way too much, i flip between being completely numb to the world, or feeling every waking part of it. I miss her, and theres not a damn thing I can do. Time can't go by fast enough :( Really wishing I could turn off my feelings
Robert Fine imagine ... feeling nothing ,absolutely nothing .becoming 100% emotialy numb, beautiful!!! no more pain ,no more suffering ,no more. i wish i could achieve that...
I don't want to get over her. I don't want to fall out of love with her. Nothing ever felt more right than with her. Everyone says "you'll get over it" but I don't want to lose that. Even if it's more pain than I ever imagined I could experience. It just hurts so bad that she's over me, and there's not a thing I can do.
@@chasity3878 You seem like you’d be a great person to actively search for people in pain online and reply to them laughing. It’s scary that people like you raise kids.
@@pats3071 Yeah Pat, let Sarah remind you that it is, in fact, okay to move on. Trust me, I'm having to do the same after wife dumped me after a 20 yr. relationship, the last 15 yrs. in marriage.
This is only true if a guy thinks she was his "one", if he does he'll never get over her. If or when he doesn't think so he'll get over her. It's all about how the individual thinks about the relationship after it ends that helps them get over it. If you focus on how they weren't good for you the faster you get over it. No one ever does that, everyone is too busy thinking about what they've lost and not what they've gained.
Mark Orwa but even though I know my ex was a complete bad person for me he’s still on my mind or I get reminded of him even though I want nothing more to do with him at all. And I don’t know why that is .. maybe Bc I haven’t replaced him yet 🤔
It's been 17 years since I foolishly broke up with my ex gf because of my own insecurities. I've regretted it every day since. I tried moving on, even was married, but woke up every morning since the break up thinking about her, go to sleep every night thinking about her, think of her through the day and never stopped loving her. I just turned 40 and its just getting worse.
Surrender to God, btw God put you out that relationship for a reason. Things that God don’t allow is for your own good, look at it as a blessed btw marriage is just a game of tossing around emotions, marriage is a game of hot potato someone is gonna drop it.
"post-breakup, most people engage in self destructive behavior" I guess I'm not like most people then because you know what happened when my first girlfriend broke up with me earlier this year? I got my first job a month later I graduated high school at the time of me writing this comment, I am a college freshman I'm currently learning how to play the guitar I grew a beard, started trying a new look and I got a new girlfriend in the previous month, who I feel much more comfortable around having known what kind of girl I wanted this time around I'm doing well for myself and proving a point that relationships are not the most important thing in your life and anyone who tries to tell you otherwise is the type of person who you don't want to even start dating to begin with. anyone who is going through a break up right now and is reading this, I just want you to remember that you have more value than your current situation may lead you to believe.
Erik Stewart I really hope you really didn't feel the sadness rather than blocking it because if you blocked the sadness it will return and it will be very ugly
Noah Martinez I felt sad for like a day then I was bitter for a few months and now I'm over it in full and loving every second I spend with my girlfriend
I clicked at this video because that title made me angry. I'm just like you. I got the best grade possible for my Bachelor thesis, put on 15 pounds of muscle, continued with my engineering studies at the university to get my master degree, changed my look and got my first job as well and I found so many new friends. That doesn't mean I was immediately over her at that point. It still took me some months to get over it, but that's completely normal. Sure I cried about it. I even cried in front of my friends, but that doesn't mean you have to be self destructive. Not EVER getting over it, that's not normal and it's also not healthy. For all those people going through a breakup: As long as you have feelings about your ex (angriness counts as well), check her social media or think about her, you're not over the breakup. You have to realize that you're not depending on the love of a partner to be happy. Many people forget that. You have to overcome certain things to get over a breakup and some people just aren't strong enough, that's my opinion. If you keep checking her facebook or instagram every once in a while, you're not gonna get over it, it's not gonna work.
I never got over my first two big breakups until I met my wife. Had small relationships before but did nothing emotional for me. After falling in love with my wife I was over my past loves and problems and 11 years later I am so very happy!
Wife is always been a support system in every situation. But if she is a gf of someone she may not continues her relationship further after getting a better one than u So wife is always trustworthy
It is all in your hands when to hold and when to let go. If you cherish the memories, you tend to hold longer. If you are determined to get over it, you will start looking for greener pasture.
@@louielouie22 Yes, you are perfectly right. Moreover, relationships end when people get tired of pretending to be the person their partner really likes.
I can understand why some men experience emotional pain only way after, where as women suffer a lot only right after the breakup. Men deal initially well with the breakup and ignore their now-ex's feelings. But after awhile they "wake up" and regret the breakup but only way way after, meanwhile the woman had enough time for her to recover and convince herself he just don't love her and was such a douchebag to her or even find an amazing man. It's probably why some suffer for much longer after because they realize they should have shown more consideration towards her and blame themselves because they were not brave enough to just say "I love you I am truly sorry" when the woman needed them to say it(remember women are devastated at the beginning so are more willing to accept apologies at the beginning). But now it's too late and the woman actually moved on and forgot about him, while the man is left with a feeling of insatisfaction and regret. It is just my opinion based on experience.
JIJI soooooooooooo true !!!!!!! My ex have reach out to me and keeping asking me to forgive him, I went through hell with him, why ?!? I wasted my time, my energy for what 🤷🏻♀️🤷🏻♀️🤷🏻♀️ took him 5 years to realize that ???? R u kidding me lmao I’m his dream girl now 🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️ he is definitely not my dream boy anymore, he used to be!!!! I moved on thank god!
Yeah right, men are neglectful and douchebags, whereas women are always honest and never blind-side their partners as it seems. Laughable! Men suffer more and never get over a break-up because the blind-siding women do is of epic proportions. Men believe that are in a true and open relationship and then the news hit them like a bag full of bricks! Not all cases are the same of course, but women tend to be more manipulative and dishonest. It's a fact...
Alexandros you know, I came from a different background where women are straight forward and if we like a men we show affection and love, I believe we give our hearts to broken heart people who didn’t have time to heal, as much u leave past behind it does follow us, I meet good people too, when I said 1 guy I didn’t mean all guys, I didn’t date all the men in the world. Anyway most of the time our problems come from our childhood.
It's been almost 2 years since she broke up with me ,I've had prettier girls approaching but I can't even begin to picture myself with someone else.I'm still so much in love with her
F' LOL jacob!! you're awesome bro. and guess what -- this is the kind of easy humor that not only gets people over pain, it attracts new love. and nothing soothes like new love, even if it's love for ourselves (usually the best kind) ❌
+niko michael m, if you feel that you got good qualities that attractive women appreciate yourself and feel that she lost those qualities. thats one part of loving yourself.
I've recovered from all of my relationships. Been cheated on and cheated on. Delete all social media, get out there and create a new circle. 6 months you're fine.
My breakup initially hit me hard; I could feel the constant strain on my heart for at least 3-4 months. 2 years later and I still sometimes feel the lingering pain and emptiness. I’m sure it’s one of the contributing factors to my ongoing depression.
The person who loved the other one as their first choice and sacrificed the most of themselves will be the one who takes the break-up the hardest. Sometimes that is the man. Sometimes that is the woman. My mother never recovered from being divorced and spiraled down into mental illness. My father was her first ever love. She was very young, fell in love with him at 16 and smitten and he was EVERYTHING to her. Took her out of her mother's house. Showed her the world and her life revolved around him. After the divorce, he left her with nothing, re-married and she was permanently broken. I had a landlady who was the perfect doting Catholic wife. Her husband was a philandering asshole. He was sleeping with girls in her daughter's class. She would be at work and women bearing his baby would come to her demanding money. Totally broke her up. Worse yet, the church made her feel guilty over divorcing him. She is like a nun now. It's almost like she blames herself for it still and is trying to compensate by devoting all her time to the church. Worse yet, now that her ex-husband is old and no other woman wants him, he has moved back in with her and expects her to care for him. From what I have seen of women who totally make themselves vulnerable and fall head over heels and allow themselves to be at the full mercy of a man, it is a DANGEROUS risk. Not to mention the horror stories about HIV I have encountered of doting wives infected by philandering and down-low husbands. I am not surprised the daughters of these women do not want to end up like their mothers and are making more calculated decisions when it comes to protecting themselves from men who are just like their fathers. They have zero tolerance for any signs of the same kind of behavior and are quick to walk away if they see any indications of it.
Broke up a few days ago and I feel like I'm dying inside. I took her for granted and stopped putting in any effort in our relationship after a while of dating thinking she wouldn't leave me but the second I lost her, I realised how much she meant to me
Leon Johnston My ex took me for granted too. I did everything I could to save our relationship but he kept fucking it up. But here I am asking myself what I did wrong.
When your girl tells you she loves you one day and the next day you are blocked by her on every social media with no explanation. Btw never did anything and definitely never cheated or thought about cheating. It sucks and I've been miserable for 2 months.
For all my brothers hurting out there i feel your pain, but remember you will find another woman who someday will make you happier and then you will forget about your ex!
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TH-cam or google. It didnt happen here, but i found content and advertisements that popped out of nothing whithout any recent search on the topic. Just talking on the phone
This at least gives me the comfort that there's a chance that he still actually cares. When he broke up with me because of something he thought I did, he told me he didn't love me anymore and that he doesn't care even if I hurt. Hopefully this science applies to him too. I know he's very smart and will probably not let the breakup get to him but he's human, too. He's just really mad at me right now. He shouldn't even be. But', I hope one day he'd realize that he shouldn't have done this to me.
If you believe that he loved you very much, he's still probably not over your breakup even if he's the on who initiated it. I did the same with my Gf last year and as this video said, I felt the numbness and the kinda unreal? Feeling but I told myself I don't love her anymore. Turns out I still did and I regretted it a lot after months have passed. Same thing happened with a friend of mine. Of course we'll deny it, even with close friends and even ourselves, but it stays and it sucks.
The first man who was ever intersted in me left me. I was 23. It took me a whole year to recover. I didnt take a break i just went to work. But i was so depressed but i just had to keep going. Just had to get on with it. My heart was completely broken. And i was such a proud carefree person. Now i continuously thought about suicide. I never laughed, or smiled for 5 months. I wrote a poem about my pain. And i finally started getting better. When another man came into my life. He was not the type of man i would have went for. But he really stuck to me like glue and pulled me out. It was a slow burner. Now im 27 and were engaged.
What does having a six pack have to do with your feelings and emotions😂. What if you a guy who don't have a six pack? In that case your get over ex faster?😂
@@monas Building six packs takes a lot of effort and makes you strong mentally.....thats what I mentioned......but they still breaks down mentally after a relationship issues....hope you got it
wtf is going on in united states?? Please brothers stop watching "the notebook", stop eating junk, filter your water, read more books on manliness. I dont know what else you can do but please find the way of becoming more masculine and stop the drama.
Well I'd hate to burst your bubble but.. "forever" really is a stretch. I'm a man and while some breakups have hit me like a truck, over time I've come to embrace everything and move on. I'm quite emotional, more so than most men, so if I could get over it I reckon anyone can. So take this study with a grain of salt.
I think it's by the person you were breaking up with. And maybe how the break up happened. Like I was in love with my ex and we were literally planning our lives together. I thought I was okay when it ended at first. Now it's 2 years and another relationship later and I'm all screwed up about it. So yeah.
Broke up almost 2 years ago and never seen her since the breakup. I've partially moved on but I still feel sad and can't go to places where we've had some great moments together. Girls do move on quick but I'm glad I got to experience a heartbreak and become a stronger version of myself.
sirrus13 dude totally feel you. Life after some of my breakups, felt like a real man after. Stronger man indeed. But I can see the difference when I was in a relationship and right after the relationship. Like I can actually do what I want now!
You can better manage a relationship the next time round. Time will heal. When you meet the right girl, you will be healed completely. You will never regret of having gone through it. Think positively and attract more positive influence.
Its been 4 years since my breakup and no matter what I do, who I meet, I feel sad, lost and lonely. I wish I never met her. She living life with the man she was seeing behind my back. She happy and doesn't care about me. While I'm here everyday just barely getting through days trying to feel happy. 4 years of my life just crying and thinking. Guess I'm gonna die alone, I got no confidence or trust left in women. :(
bro nobody can throw you out like a piece of trash when you know your value. Dont blame women, work on yourself, learn to love yourself and you wont need noone to validate you.
@@kuunami brother there is nothing wrong with recognizing that, the problem is when you allow the situation to turn you into a victim. We as men need to learn that life is more than just women. We can travel, work on our health and bodies, we can learn new skills etc. The purpose of my comment is not to bring men down , it is just to tell them to stop thinking that a women can complete them, so then they can start working on themselves. Thanks
It's an easy solution, don't get too close to any woman. If you make a woman the focus of your happiness, you'll spend the rest of your days miserable.
Yea Right That is the same for men. Some can just pretend like they're in love with you for YEARS and then just dump you like you meant nothing to them.
Nattie Bubbles, as much as I would like to believe that, and I am a Christian, my ex fiancé claimed to be one as well. Being with her, as much as I unconditionally loved her, was a living hell at least 75% of the time. I have never met a more narcissistic person with more double standards and anger issues than her. Jesus is not always the answer you need. A good therapist can do wonders for a person.
What I hate about breakups: Guys are immediatly seen as the bad guy if they end it. Wtf is that for? Why does guys get taken so poorly, just because they ended the relationship? "Oh that guy is a fucking douch bag. He never deserved you." They say to the girl. Why? Because the guy probably was cheated on, or what if he wasn't in love anymore, or what if he didn't feel comfortable in the relationship. If the girl breaks up, it still always seem like the guy is the bad guy in the picture. Its despicable.
I dont even know what i did. her friend texted me and told me how much of a judgemental jerk i was. I feel awful and i apologised and said goodbye. I want to cry 😟
There is no greater love than a companionship that is infinite. For love that is unconditional lasts through all circumstances and does not separate. So I have learned to enjoy my own company.
Since no one will ever see this, I still love the girl who left me. Her name is Parker, I helped her through everything, quit my job for her, and showed her that life was fun. Then one day she left me. It's been 2 months and I still can't get over the fact that everything we did together and all the fun times and the love she claimed to have for me shall never happen again. Need to go cry now, I miss her so much. Too bad I have to love her...
Im Maxing RS same bro, been two months, I still think she was the one. I would do everything for her to be able to feel better. It hurts so fucking much. She was my crush in highschool. We got into a relationship after 3 years of the graduation. She was so adorable. It's like I won't be able to get over her for lifetime. :(
Can you do a video on why in a relationship why there's always one person who likes the other person more? Like why can't it be more balance? This always happens..
Zeeke Easily explained - entropy. There are many more states in which something can be asymmetrical than symmetrical, so by definition relationships will tend to be asymmetrical rather than symmetrical.
Zeeke Because it's far more likely to have two different levels than both having the same. Think of it this way. You have a barrel of skittles. You shove two hands in and grab as many skittles as you can with each hand. One hand will always have more skittles than the other.
Zeeke Easy, same reason why on of youyr arms is bigger than the other, since there is not real equality just estimates. One is always gonna love more than the other.
Zeeke When going over selecting a mate for the general purpose of reproductive strategy, I liken it to used car shopping with a trade in car. Both individuals at the precipice of a relationship start evaluating the market position of the other to determine if they are affordable and desirable. This often involves a little prior introspection to ascertain your own value to shop out in the market; and usually inspires to detailing work to make sure you get top dollar. This works well when selling anything in general. If two people decide with or without help that they can make fair market value for each other, a relationship happens. Value changes after the transaction and some may feel a need to step up and away from a current deal at some point, should one side's value go up or the other's value goes down. This is mostly a one sided decision to benefit one to leave the other formerly content with the deal at the curbside. I took liberty to expand upon this. courses.washington.edu/ssci200/Econ_of_Dating_and_Mating.pdf
I was only with her for a month and a half although I had known her for a bit longer. When we started it felt like the best thing that ever happened to me. We would see each other every single day, and take turns making each other food or going out on dates. Every day I got to wake up and the one thing that I wanted to see and to hold was always right in front of me. I remember once before we dated but when we both could tell we were into each other. We went on a walk during the fall before the last leaves had fallen from the trees and we laid down next to each other just talking. I wish I never left that moment. Before she decided to break up with me she told me what she wanted to do for me that Christmas. She wanted to take me up north where I was from so I could show her all of my favorite places that I wanted to share with her. Only a few days later, she ended it. I don't remember the reason. I was so shocked. The only thing I could say is that I understood and that I wanted her to be happy and that if she was happier without me then so be it. The last thing I remember is when she hugged me and I held her tight. I tucked my head over her shoulder and smelled her hair one last time as every part of my soul screamed "Whyyyy!" inside of me. The most confusing part is that when I decided I wanted to get it over with and leave SHE was the one who wouldn't let go. A year later, I still can't stop thinking about all of the memories, and the things I possibly could have done better. I wish it was my fault. At least that way I would know what to improve on. But it wasn't in my control. I gave it everything I had but it didn't matter. It has affected me in ways I hate to admit. Yet, that month and a half was the best time of my life and I wouldn't have changed a thing.
After all it was just a month and a half. Like, dont get me wrong, I understand, but remember that there are people who had the same time you had but for years... its easier to forget 1 month of your life than 3 years for example..
@@EthanDavis.w If that felt like an excuse, you sensed that it was hard for her to let go as well at that moment, then tell yourself it was because of the Wrong timing. Don't let this history destroy your future happeness. Wish you the best
It is still hitting me hard... I am not a very social person and when I met my ex it was the best thing that had ever happened to me... I messed things up and we broke up early 2016... It hurts everyday because of the fact I met such a special person who cant be with all because of my insecurities & fears... now I feel like nothing... ah well lets see how the rest of the year goes.
This is kinda similar of what my ex did to me. He destroyed me and I did the best I could. He has looked for me after I left several times (I couldn't spent anymore time with someone who never valued me). Now I can proudly say I got over him and that I never want him back. 😊 Peace and respect to all ✌️
it's been more than 3 months and I am still crippled in bed from the break up. while he is posting videos of him rock climbing and celebrating new years eve being all happy.
LuBloop It's been more than a year since we broke up after five years of being in a relationship and she can't even text me once every six months to even check if I'm alive. I devastating.
West Senkovec it's devastating to hear that even after a year or years people can't get over someone. I really hope I won't waste any more of my life crying over someone who doesn't even care...but sadly I will.
AmarNathan it's a combination of those two things for me. I dated him because he was in every sense perfect for me and because I could imagine spending my life with him.
Remember: People only/mostly show their positive sides and experiences on social media. Very few upload videos of themselves laying sleepless in bed at night thinking depressing thoughts. Also.. I am sure someone with such mesmerizing eyes as you will attract at least a few interesting new acquaintances.
Swanky Pants because you’re weak. U think some woman is supposed to make you happy when you’re the source of happiness. The internal creates the external.
Yeah buddy, you have to value yourself before someone will ever know how to value you. You’re worth it, but you have to know that for you first, them second. If you don’t love yourself, you’ll never truly have love with someone else. Make steps every day to find that path and you will be happy.
Pissed Hulk I agree...2 and a half years since the breakup and I still miss her...But I try to focus on other things since now she is married and has a baby.
Ady Adrian the only real way to truly get over them is to find someone with a better connection but that's almost impossible in this day. A lot of females are corrupted by society and we may never get that chance sadly..
Ady Adrian it's been plus 5 yrs for me, I've "moved on" fucked pointless hoes, focused on money & hobbies, and still I feel her "there" like Phantom pain. she has 2 kids and a husband now and I'm happy she found peace but I haven't :/
Pissed Hulk Corrupted by society?? Like...they have a job and also other things to focus on.You want a girl to revolve around you all the time??Strange like you blame only women, when it takes two to tango.
My gf of 5 years left me just this February. Still getting over it. I feel so close to it leaving me but I still have bad dreams and nightmares. almost every night.
Phuong Trang It'll get better man, I'm doing great. I started working out, focusing more on expanding my hobbies and interests, and just over all making my self a better person for me. And I gotta say, each day get more and more bearable. When I have bad dreams now, It doesn't affect me as much as it used to. There are some days were it gets really bad, but I find those days more and more rare.
When going into a relationship, always assume that it will end in a bad way, and you can never be disappointed. Better to brace for the impact than to ignore the risk.
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Drinking and talking to friends helps but right when you're alone it hits you like a rock
Yup
True 😓
me right now
Got that right.
True +1
No matter how much alcohol we consume or how many other women we take to our bed, nothing on earth could rid us of the memories that plague our mind.
Never did it crossed my mind that i would be in this situation, crying over someone that doesnt want me and trying to drown my feelings with liquor. Weed only helps so much but i find myself smoking more. I know whats best for me but i dont want it, i want to just punish myself for my greatest mistake ever.
No wonder why men use women disgusting
Ryan Harrison What’s your story Ryan?
@@tsebosei1285 woman do it more then men check U. N. DATA
Nice God of War quote.
for a lot of men, their girlfriend or wife is the only person they can talk to about their feelings or other intimate/personal things that would be weird to discuss with other males. This might be a reason why men feel numb and take a lot longer to recover due to the lack of social or emotional support.
2vain4u exactly!!! Some one with fommon sense! Its called repressing! Woman talk, men are taught not to talk.
As a man I am starting to realize, it is not that men aren't talking or should talk more, we cope with emotion in a completely different way than does a woman. we process our emotions with movement and activity based coping, I think our neuro-anatomy and physiology lends itself to making a man a slightly less efficient talker of emotions, and naturally a better doer of emotions via actions...
amen . for real tho
yes ! my ex bf told me he felt numb and angry and totally dull after broken up with me even he still go meet friends or travel, but the emotions keeps in his heart so sometimes it shows up sometimes like a normal person.
I know a friend her ex still wants to b friend with her despite he was the one who wanted breakup and friendzoned my friend and she still loves him but does not want hurt him so she still talks to him
It's been 24 years, and the thought of her still stings my heart. I still feel like a golden opportunity for lifelong happiness slipped through my fingers. There aren't enough words to describe how much I miss her.
Wow 24 years, you must have really loved her. What happened?
It’s been 20 years for me so I totally understand how you feel. The pain literally never goes away, you’re numb all of the time and barely have energy to get out of bed. The one reply of “Call her”; no, he can’t do that because it opens him up to possibly more pain because she could be happily married and if she wanted to be with him, she would contact him.
seriously dude 24 years???
Bruh get over it
Well that’s just a fantasy you have built in your head obviously when the person for you if you were if you’d be together and I’m sure you found somebody else instead thank your lucky stars you got away from her.
The best connection on why men would have a harder time with a break up is because there is no emotional support. If you show off your emotional/sensitive side to your family most likely they'll tell you to stop whining and man up. If you show your self to a female friend they will tell you how unattractive you're acting (and that's if they're frank with you). And guy friends don't even know what to do in a situation is right in front of them. Hopefully, there are a few friends that are willing to talk about the situation of a break up with full support with no awkwardness or uncomfortably.
Compare that to a women who are given full support with almost everyone and not be looked down upon by showing their sensitive side.
Lui s pretty accurate
Lui s spot on sir
Lui s This is the second biggest problem facing men especially on the western hemisphere. People don't give a shit about your feelings if you've got a penis. It's always "Man up," "Don't act like a little girl," or "Stop being a pussy." Because after all, Men are feeling-less assholes and if you have feelings, you must be a woman.
Lui s i never thought about it this way , thank you sir
+Caracal Just putting my two cents out there.
Almost 4 years and I still miss her. She was the first girl to ever like me back, when I had lost hope .
hope my friend is the worst thing right now
James Dean Youngs hey im here for u
James Dean Youngs I get you man....even if they do you so wrong we still miss them :(
4 years dude? come on now
Get over it!!
This has always been true, all men know that we can never forget our first ex, our belief in "love" also dies after the first breakup.
+GuyWithAnAmazingHat I've never been in love and I already lost my belief in it =P
+GuyWithAnAmazingHat i don't believe in it either, my first ex i want her sooo bad but i hate her to the point of no return.
GuyWithAnAmazingHat That is ironically also the same moment when we become players and very successful in dating. Because we have learned how the game should be played.
Tespri yeah, but you always KNOW you wish it wasn't just some game and maintain a dream of finding that "true love", even if denying to yourself.
GuyWithAnAmazingHat My belief in love didn't die, my trust in women did. However that is recoverable, and currently I'm happy with the girl I'm with. We both treat each other very well and go out of our way for one another yet still respect each other as individuals.
I found a girl who was definitely a “one” for me. The feeling was unlike anything else I’ve experienced. Being with her made me feel at peace with myself and with everything. She was the most beautiful person I’ve met. I screwed up and lost her. I didn’t know I could feel so miserable. The magnitude of the regret is unbelievable. I went over those events in my mind a thousand times. Since then, I’ve been on a mission to find another girl who makes me feel the way she made me feel. I’ll find her, or else die tired and alone. But, when I find her, I’ll make her my wife, and she’ll be the luckiest girl on Earth. I wish I could have given that to the first girl, instead of causing her pain. All I can do is move forward and create as much love and happiness in this world as I can in my lifetime.
Women don't want a worthless lazy loser like yourself. so keep dreaming the impossible.
Same dude
Don't search for her in other women, you won't find it trust me.
@@pmthert523 There is always red pill/MGTOW cultists lurking on videos like this. You shit heads need to stop trying to lure vulnerable men into your toxic cult.
@DarkBirgon Blue pill, Red pill, Purple pill. Step right up and pick your cult of choice in this Luciferian construct known as Civilization. Just be careful with the derogatory personal attacks, or no one will want to join your cult.
I think women fall in love faster, but they also fall OUT of love faster. Their attraction to a man is very much based on feelings and emotions, and these emotions can fluctuate wildly. Men take longer to develop feelings, but they can stay on for a long time after the relationship is over.
Agreed
Yep I'm a heartbroken dude
Achilles you could be right about that. I agree with you. Maybe it is our job as men prevent women from falling out of love by showing them that we love them back.
I agree
He stopped feeling for me after 2 weeks the first time and 1 week the last time.. 2 months later i still love him
When i broke up with my ex. I lost around 180 lbs. Thats how much she weighed.
Shane Sanders wow sounds like you are in your best shape ever. Congrats.
Shane Sanders lmfao
Shane Sanders aaahah i said the same thing when my husband left
Shane Sanders Damn she was a big girl.
Thomas Jackson i wear a size 8 and 180 lbs. sorry but size 8 is not big
It's because we are caught off guard with the breakup. While women have been planning to break up with you for months before she does. So she is damn near already over you when she gives you the bad news.
Some women plan this for years....while cheating behind or even in front of their man....then when he gets "weak"...they get rid of him...talk about evil here.....
Do not give your soul to anyone....protect yourself
77thekey not all the time. Some guys are dicks and just ghost you and ignore you and you find out 2 weeks later they got a new girl
War brides...
77thekey exactly!
“A wise man never loses anything as long as he has himself.”
Dammn, that is so true and so false at the same time
True
@@moisesdiaz9852 why false
I'm not wise then.
Its just a dialogue
Men never get over break ups because we/males have to work harder to get into relationships in the first place
MrPokemon907 faaax
This makes total sense.
and maybe because we really love sincerely and unconditionally. We there for the long haul but they dont see it!!
Incel alert❗⚠️
Just date another guy lol
Wrong, men definitely invest more into a relationship. That's why getting over it takes longer. And women can find a replacement much easier then men can. In most cases they already have a replacement before the relationship ends
Bull's Eye!!!
kuunami
Ding ding ding, we have a winner
That is so True
invest in love, time AND MONEY if all out, guys would be investing more
kuunami for real. A girl probably has a few dudes in her phone she can hit up and just say "come over" and dudes will step over each other to see her. I know I don't have that luxury. *sigh*
What sucks is she set the bar really high. I'd say we were definitely 85-90% compatible, she's into Asian dudes, and I'm into white girls. Shared a lot of common things. And the kicker? She lives less than 8 miles away... One hell of a tough act to follow.
Darn. Relationships are dangerous.
tell me about it steven
Steven H Wang not if you got a long wang
That's the entire point behind them actually
No shit....
For men yes
While Watching the video u are still thinking abt your ex
sham s that’s me right now!!!
sham s thats obvious. if youre thinking ab a breakup, you are thinking of ur ex
Wrong
You become ok and move on but suddenly one fine day you hear a song which was famous during your past relationship and used to listen to it together a lot. It just brings back everything and crystal clear memories just play back on your mind. Like a Truck hit you again. At that point I suggest just smile and be happy that you have some good days and felt loved once.
seriously bro... fuckin a!
yes
Dreamer - Ozzy Osbourne.
@@DMNCKM baby i love your way for me
Your best bet
Everyone is talking about how they miss their exes yet here I am, happier than I ever was with my ex. We were together for almost a year and a half until she cheated on me and left me for the dude she cheated with. I was devastated for about a month or two, after which I've been happier than ever. Then half a year later she came running back to me, apologizing and begging me to take her back. I just laughed at it and kindly told her no.
I guess it's just my mentality, that if people leave your life, it's for a good reason. They served their purpose, and something way better is underway. And that way of thinking worked perfectly because now, almost 2 years after the breakup, I met an amazing girl that I've always dreamed of.
So the moral of this story is your future is determined by the way you react to present.
You did the best job by dumping that stupid girl.
Thank you... I feel alot better
Thank you you are great
not everyone their gfs cheated on them like yours , me and my ex just couldnt keep up the long distance thing m after a year we broke up
My ex also cheated on me and hang out with dudes and even engaged behind my back , thank God it wasn’t me otherwise I would live with regret and pain for the rest of my life. We had some arguments before but no matter what reason she shouldn’t have treated me this way. Later she said she regrets but it was too late.
women can find a new relationship faster than men and have no problems moving on. it's played out like women are so emotional.. yet men are actually more attached when they really love someone
Right On :D
Lol no! It’s just that in today’s world it’s difficult for men to find a new woman. They dread having to flirt and impress other women. They hate moving out of their comfort zone and finding someone new. If a guy found a hotter girl, he wouldn’t even for a second think about his ex. It’s just that men have lesser opportunities than women. And you usually feel heartbreak until you find another person.
There is no point to find women who are deviants
Exactly because we value anyone who we are with in a relationship and it is hard to just "get over it" and "move on".
Manasa Reddy I have slept with hotter women than my ex after breakup but I still miss her, because the relationship meant something to me. There is a thing called love. What bullshit logic are you talking about ?
Never been through a break but this comment section breaks my heart. I hope y'all get better soon.
Thankyou
Its simple when a man gets his heart broken he loses his confidence and mojo which makes him unattractive. When a women gets her heart broken there are many men who would gladly be her rebound. Simple
that seems crazy true when you put it that way
Yeah that's true. My Ex had guys lined up as rebounds and a lot of them knew they were rebounds too.
Women are evolutionarily privileged
It’s even simpler than that. Women don’t love men. They love what men can do for them. So, when they lost a man, there’s still plenty of men who will immediately fill that void. Men don’t need to love women but need a purpose, only that biology of men make relationship, which is potential future family, to be the center of their lives, which can be brutal if that purpose is taken away. Men with purpose in life other than relationship, are immune to emotional toll of breakups.
I think women are better at dealing with emotions. Like the emotions during a break-up.
Its hard to get over a breakup because of all the good times u had together all the memories
The Predator I bet female yautja’s break your heart all the time huh
Yeap, bros, this shit gonna last.
Sharif S At least there is some comfort in knowing youre not going through the same incredibly confusing and hard situation alone. Hope things work out in the end my friend
Yo dude sick name!
sharif mutasim
full name: adam berkeley-frenette. A bit over the top...
Adam Berk sorry I was actually talking to Sharif since we have the same first name.
Dammit. I saw Sharif and figured it was Sharif. My bad
It hurts us guys more cuz we're more invested in to the woman. We love them a lot more. And when they leave, it damages us permanently
Men can never get over when he had a true strong bond with a girl I even tried to take my life once it took years to get over that pain
thats crazyy.. ive been depressed to that extent myself.. but not because of a girl.. thats.. man life's crazyy sometimes.. all we can do for eachother is try to be there but not judge
How do men get over that pain? By dating a new woman?
@@moimaris3369 Actually they won't still now I am seeing her in everywhere even though if we get into relationship with other women it won't be that strong as that one girl it's like fire under the ashes there are lot of guys keeping their one true loves name to their kids. That pain won't leave still we go to our grave we can't able to bare the pain of your loving one is moving on with some one else it's been 7 years even now I am having that pain looking back her pictures
@@vettriventhan7446 😭😭bruh
@@vettriventhan7446 sorry bro
Never fall in love, love will have u doing shit u never thought u would do
Yup true
fucking true
HAH true that. Love is blind.
Faxxx
cuz love is irrationale.
Women can get over it because of all the emotional support they have. If men get emotional they are judged as being whiney and weak so they internalise it which is why men don't ever really get the chance to get over it. They keep it in and don't say anything to anyone. The reason why women are more likely to initiate a breakup is they have much more to gain. Divorce and custody battles almost always favor women. There is a reason for this it's not strictly biological response.
*THIS*
Numberless Oats This is the truth.
Uh, no. Stop pretending you know anything about this topic. My ex boyfriends had way more emotional support than I did. Life is not a romantic comedy. Not even touching the other dumb shit you said.
ok no Care to *explain* in depth why it's wrong?
Please share your knowledge.
But thankfully men tend to be more logical so breakups aren't emotionally taxing for them (minus the sensitive ones).
My high school sweet heart reached out to me after 11 years and told me he still hasn’t gotten over me . I got over him in 4 months because boy did he mistreat me and make me cry all the time . I feel bad for him but I’m happy I was able to get over someone who mistreated me .
Yea don't go back
Been with someone for 4 years who is a narcissist and has abused me mentally, emotionally and physically. We have broken up 7 times in 4 years and k have made 13 moves (500miles each) because he said he changed and wants to marry me and be happy.... I've been back now for 2 weeks and he has already told me to move back home with my parents.... I'm 26.... He's 38... Despite everything I actually loved him and still do... But this will be my 14th trip of 500miles back. And me packing up my life 14 times and trying to establish roots again. When I entered the relationship I was such a bubbly silly happy girl... Now I have no clue who I am and my parents can't stand the sight of me and claim "youre not our daughter anymore... she's been gone for 4 years." I hate my ex so bad for doing what he has done to me and how I allowed it so many times... He says he'll never get over me.... I honestly hope he struggles for the rest of his life. Because God sure knows I have and I have almost lost myself completely.... (I've tried to commit suicide 3 times because of the abuse and feeling trapped and unwanted/unrecoverable.) I hope I have your strength and can move on and be protected to never meet a man like this again...
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Lol
I know someone like that, he was horrible to her but he really did love her still does, sometimes we have to lose that person to make us realize how we went wrong, and as the saying goes you dont realize how much you truly loved that person till there gone.
I'm a guy. Break ups feel like death for me
Are u for real? I've never thought guys feel this way. It has always seemed to me like guys don't care about brake ups at all
Јана Марковић It's true, went through a break up 4 days ago.. I can't work, I can't sleep, or I can't eat, my family is just looking at me wondering what's wrong but I've never showed them these emotions before, I've only been truly vulnerable with her, I love her.. I gave her my heart and it hurts everytime I think about her and look at her pictures... nights are long and lonely and sad, full of love songs and sorrow
Solo PAC sorry to hear that buddy.
If you still want her back, it might be worth trying to win her over again. Search on TH-cam for Brad Browning - he is a relationship coach who does videos specifically to help people get their ex back.
Good luck!
Cameron Lorna Don't think I can go back to her, just gotta let her see what she lost.. I'm a good guy, I'm loyal, I don't cheat, I listen, I care, but sometimes it's just not enough for em.. Can't waste my time trying to love, and get back someone who doesn't appreciate me
Shit sometimes they just want a guy that treats em like shit, that treats em like a used rag.. I guess I'm the fool for wanting to treat them like Queens
Thanks though bro, Respect✊
Solo PAC so basically you are boring and that's why she left?
Being single again isn't the hard part.. it's being alone that sucks
Justin no being fooled yet again is the hardest
Anjana Devi yea but there are so many good honest people out there.. we can't let the ones who hurt us make us believe it will always happen again.. ya know
Justin yeap you're right... but I guess we mostly gravitate towards 'bad' people cos they're the ones who seemed willing to give us attention, show kindness and concern. 'Good' people seem nice and that's it. They don't seem to want anything more than that. You feel awkward..as though you're not good enough for them. OK...I'm kinda ranting...lol
Justin when you feel,lonely just workout and buy some nice clothes and go clubbbing it always works : )
Benny Gonzalez Shit is so true, just broke up with my girl 4 days ago.. Every night hurts now, just up lonely and wanting her to come back
As a man, nothing feels the same after. You just try and not talk about it to anyone, you wallow in isolation and every little thing seems to annoy and irritate you. The company you usually keep NEVER helps, you can’t even look at her pictures or social media accounts, trying desperately to forget about her and the pain you feel and the only thing that PARTIALLY heals the emotional scarring is time. That’s it. A new relationship definitely helps but you’re always feeling afraid of a break up during such times, leaving you potentially in an even WORSE state than before! From what I’ve seen, it can take women a mere few months to get over a break up and find someone else. For a guy? It can literally take YEARS to recover.
scowl face Hang in there buddy. Been through the same thing and the initial 2 year spell is ALWAYS the worst. Once you get over that, things only start looking up from there. The one thing that irritates women after breakup/divorce is seeing their ex moving on with someone else and seem even HAPPIER than when they were when they were married to them. Chin up buddy, good and even better times are ahead of you!
Emperor and Scowl Face - I wish you both to meet a loyal person in the future. As I wish it to myself. They must exist out there. Our head knows it but our heart can't have faith (for now). And how can we ever assess loyalty in someone at the start? Impossible. We've had signs she was a good person, but it's terrible when finally she turns out to be a child who wants a new toy. I have to admit I am now scared about women's dictator behaviour.
i just get high
Really? My experience told the other way around. Hurt so bad i cried like 2 months every single day. After a year i get better. After 2 years i decided to move on 🙂
Lol story of my life
Just thinking about her with other men who I know don't deserve her, really hits me like a meteor
How r u now?
i just had a break up and i feel like dying... thanks for the tips.
same
never bin in a relationship (basicly afraid too) but godlbess hookers and coke
me too 💔 after a year and eight months
im sorry that happend to you. i was engaged and got dumped.
I'm really sorry that happened to you, I feel you, it came out of nowhere from one day to another and caught me by surprise I was devastated for the past week but I realized today that although it hurts us now, it'll hurt them when we move on and stop trying to stay in their life. Those people will realize they Messed up when it's too late, we'll be okay :')
when ur ex Says she is too busy for a relationship but then goes with another guy after a week
I feel you its bullshit man
ja kub yo I feel that
It kills...to have those amazing memories flood your mind. The emotion and feeling of those moments, and knowing that you won’t have them again. You want to let go, and forget. But everything reminds you of them, and you feel nothing but regret, loneliness and emptiness. And you find yourself stuck in a worse situation than before. And you wonder, “What all went wrong?”
Fucking Accurate.
Gotta think about the fucked up memories
I wish guys feelings were taken more seriously. Reminders throw us down after it all, it’s even worse when they tell you they still love you but then switch up the next time you see them. Plays with your heart and head, and they think it’s alright...
Can't watch the same movies, tv shows etc that you seen with them or certain smells like food or go to places that we held hands at. The little things might not seem like a big deal but sure was powerful enough to make me move to a different province.
@@FreshBiscuit-n6z Same men. I stopped drinking coffee because it reminds me things.
My ex broke up with me because she said i act like a kid 😭, then i stood up, wipe my tears and move over it.
On the next morning i went to her house 🏡 and rang the bell 🔔 three times and ran away 🤷🏾♂️
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R u kidding me?? 😂😂😂
Oh God😄😄😄😄😄😄
Its sad, but funny😁
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You really act like a kid. Don't worry though, we all have that little kid version in our minds going 'Hey don't forget about your stupid self!'
It's a sad day men, we just found out that women don't love us.
Hey, some women probably feel the same as men do in this situation but those women probably have the same mentality of guys while bring trapped in a ladies body.
Yeah that was kinda retarded.
Is joke bro.
...I got a chuckle out of it. I dont know how it was missed.
it's not that women don't love men, it's that they involve themselves so much into the relationship that it's terrible at the beginning, and then when finding someone else, women involve themselves again in a relationship and so on. It seems that it's not fair, but actually it's for biological reasons
Can't suffer a break-up if you never get into a relationship.
Titan Slayer *taps forehead*
Exactly NEVER AGAIN!!!
Modern problems need modern solutions.
#Mgtow
And you'll never be depressed or have to pay a mortgage if you're dead but really, isn't the negative sometimes worth it?
Problem is we get soo attached with that one person its almost like we hypnotize ourselves into thinking they're a part of us. That's not the case, never was. It was just a season in your life, now its time to let go and come back to you, the main prize. Shift the focus back on yourself and your life goals i.e education, career, self growth, etc. We were once individual people breathing and living fine before that person showed up.
Mourn. Let go. Move on.
Cody 💪
Lol
You are right I agree 100 percent.
Thanks
I've been married 35 years and have six grandchildren. I'm still hurting from a breakup 36 years ago.
My goodness.
Here 13 years married with kids
Everyday I am crying.
I am my own enemy
Thats like cheating emotionally on your current wife of many years if you’re crying over a past one that has been long gone. That sucks.
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@@gamalsankara1388 Usually relationships end when people get tired of pretending to be the person their partner really likes.
2011 it was, now its 2018
Still not over that. Been single from 7 years by choice. And will probably never marry.
The heartbreak eats you alive inside that is the most painful feeling i have ever felt
I get that same feeling of dying inside, as the days pass since she ended our relationship.
Motown Stickman i would suggest to find something that you’re passionate about. Do that.
Even my worst enemy should never feel this pain
same here dude
Just broke up yesterday after 4 months. I understand that to married people 4 months are nothing, but it's killing me inside, i can't even sleep at night..
i am 28 btw and she's 25
Men are generally not as open as women emotionally so the affection they get from a relationship is probably more addictive than the other way around. Women have deeper emotional connection with their friends than men and it works like a safety net after a breakup.
Gary Nailed it.
Pinpoint accuracy with that comment.
Yes
hmm.... interesting...
3 months to get over a breakup? If only. Its been nearly 1,5 years damnit I'm done with feeling torn up, angry and sad about it.
+NiekGAE Mine normally take half the time of the total relationship. So if a relationship lasted 2 years - 1 year to get over it. Never fully over it, but enough to move on.
Scorch428 Yup thats what I've heard often. By that logic I got 1 more year left to go. Woohoo.
+Scorch428 I was with a girl for six months and it took me two plus years before I was even ok being alone. I just got out of a one year relationship with worse of a withdrawal effect. I'm not sure how long it will take to get over her. at least this one gave me more reasons to move on.
+Marshall Ells Keep your head up, man. Realize that your emotions are a result of evolution, nothing more. They aren't real, in the true sense of the word. It's tough to get past them - no doubt. 4 different woman have ripped me apart in my early 20's, seemingly without a care in the world. You'll get through it, tho. Just KNOW that. :) It just takes time.
Marshall Ells If its of any reassurance, my first love took me 2 years to get over. We were together for only 3 months. 3 fucking months.
The one I was talking about, a 5 year relationship, well it doesn't look like it'll take me 20 years to get over her even though I still love her and miss her right now. It'll pass.
It will get better. There will be other girls for us bruv. Girls that actually appreciate us.
Really drunk right now so sorry if I'm not making snese.
If she genuinely loves you mate, don't breakup I repeat don't breakup! You gonna end with someone anyway so why not her? So stay together no matter what. Just delete the word breakup from your relationship.
Karan sin I wish my ex would see this comment I genuinely loved him :(
what if the guy cheated on her but she still loves him?
Wtf are u saying?people breakup for different reasons they dont breakup for nothing
He did that. I won't say I am the best person to love, but I know one thing. I truly loved him. Despite all of our issues. I was thankful for the I love I had. He didn't. He bailed out when things got tough. And that's when I know it's gonna eat him up alive. I tried it all. Begged him. Wrote him messages that I would do my part. But he didn't even take one accountability. Men and their escapist mentality cause so much of trauma, both for themselves, and their SOs. Just get therapy and work it out guys. In this world if you have come across someone who likes you for who you're. You're lucky. Work for it. It's all worth it. I am moving on from him, and his inability to love us. Bye, boo. Take care.
Love is such a potent drug
i miss my ex. i wish we had had an explosive breakup so I could hate her, but that was not the case. It was the most civil breakup, ending with a hug and a kiss.
My food doesnt taste as good, my temper is set off by the littlest things, i dont eat, i can't sleep, i cant focus, i drink way too much, i flip between being completely numb to the world, or feeling every waking part of it. I miss her, and theres not a damn thing I can do.
Time can't go by fast enough :(
Really wishing I could turn off my feelings
Robert Fine imagine ... feeling nothing ,absolutely nothing .becoming 100% emotialy numb, beautiful!!! no more pain ,no more suffering ,no more. i wish i could achieve that...
Shock You will. It's called death.
Cheikhouna Gueye well right now with the available technology its true that the only way to achieve happiness is death...
You call that happiness? Not to be rude but have you contemplated suicide and/or do you have contempt for your life.
similar for me
I am not broken, I'm just learning how it feels
P john Good for you, John.
Do you want to talk about it?
I don't want to get over her. I don't want to fall out of love with her. Nothing ever felt more right than with her. Everyone says "you'll get over it" but I don't want to lose that. Even if it's more pain than I ever imagined I could experience. It just hurts so bad that she's over me, and there's not a thing I can do.
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@@chasity3878 You seem like you’d be a great person to actively search for people in pain online and reply to them laughing.
It’s scary that people like you raise kids.
@@pats3071 Yeah Pat, let Sarah remind you that it is, in fact, okay to move on. Trust me, I'm having to do the same after wife dumped me after a 20 yr. relationship, the last 15 yrs. in marriage.
@@pats3071 how are you now?
@@khushbusingh1014 A lot better
Who else watched this just after getting broken up with:(
Me
me as well man
me to. but fuck that bitch!!!
for real dudes. shits whack
Daniel Chapman Me to but fuck that bitch😂
This is only true if a guy thinks she was his "one", if he does he'll never get over her. If or when he doesn't think so he'll get over her.
It's all about how the individual thinks about the relationship after it ends that helps them get over it.
If you focus on how they weren't good for you the faster you get over it. No one ever does that, everyone is too busy thinking about what they've lost and not what they've gained.
Mark Orwa but even though I know my ex was a complete bad person for me he’s still on my mind or I get reminded of him even though I want nothing more to do with him at all. And I don’t know why that is .. maybe Bc I haven’t replaced him yet 🤔
Thank you. You’re right, Mark.
Wise
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The thing that really sucks is when you try your hardest, and still can't think of a single thing about her that was bad for you
It's been 17 years since I foolishly broke up with my ex gf because of my own insecurities. I've regretted it every day since. I tried moving on, even was married, but woke up every morning since the break up thinking about her, go to sleep every night thinking about her, think of her through the day and never stopped loving her. I just turned 40 and its just getting worse.
How is it now?
I know that feeling too..its so hurting!!
Well u deserve it
glittern Glossed no wonder you’re so bitter, it’s because you are ugly and nobody wants to date you and you’re stupid make up videos!
Surrender to God, btw God put you out that relationship for a reason. Things that God don’t allow is for your own good, look at it as a blessed btw marriage is just a game of tossing around emotions, marriage is a game of hot potato someone is gonna drop it.
Owner of a lonely heart much better than an owner of a broken heart
Stay single dawg not worth losing your mental health over
"post-breakup, most people engage in self destructive behavior"
I guess I'm not like most people then because you know what happened when my first girlfriend broke up with me earlier this year?
I got my first job a month later
I graduated high school
at the time of me writing this comment, I am a college freshman
I'm currently learning how to play the guitar
I grew a beard, started trying a new look
and I got a new girlfriend in the previous month, who I feel much more comfortable around having known what kind of girl I wanted this time around
I'm doing well for myself and proving a point that relationships are not the most important thing in your life and anyone who tries to tell you otherwise is the type of person who you don't want to even start dating to begin with.
anyone who is going through a break up right now and is reading this, I just want you to remember that you have more value than your current situation may lead you to believe.
Erik Stewart I really hope you really didn't feel the sadness rather than blocking it
because if you blocked the sadness it will return and it will be very ugly
Noah Martinez I felt sad for like a day then I was bitter for a few months and now I'm over it in full and loving every second I spend with my girlfriend
Erik Stewart I think how much you liked your ex also is an important factor
good for you and I really hope it doesn't come back to bite you ever
Noah Martinez thank you
I clicked at this video because that title made me angry.
I'm just like you.
I got the best grade possible for my Bachelor thesis, put on 15 pounds of muscle, continued with my engineering studies at the university to get my master degree, changed my look and got my first job as well and I found so many new friends. That doesn't mean I was immediately over her at that point. It still took me some months to get over it, but that's completely normal. Sure I cried about it. I even cried in front of my friends, but that doesn't mean you have to be self destructive. Not EVER getting over it, that's not normal and it's also not healthy.
For all those people going through a breakup: As long as you have feelings about your ex (angriness counts as well), check her social media or think about her, you're not over the breakup. You have to realize that you're not depending on the love of a partner to be happy. Many people forget that. You have to overcome certain things to get over a breakup and some people just aren't strong enough, that's my opinion. If you keep checking her facebook or instagram every once in a while, you're not gonna get over it, it's not gonna work.
I learned more from the comments than the video.
Lol me to. I guess men have hearts....
And feelings...
Ya me also
Hey Huda Me 2 😌
Not so easy forget when your gf is the one who got you arrested and you gotta fight for your life in court
3 months to move on? No way. Not after investing years into someone, it takes months or even a year. Self work and self love takes a lonnnng time.
I agree... It took me a loooong time to love myself again... And moving on? Still on the way
Going on two years and I am still broken....
@@patrickwalsh8913 i get you.. 2 years
Men never forget their first love. I try my best to avoid it.
Took me 5 years to move on
Over ten years and she still shows up in my dreams. It’s funny how society frames everything backwards.
yikes.
I never got over my first two big breakups until I met my wife. Had small relationships before but did nothing emotional for me. After falling in love with my wife I was over my past loves and problems and 11 years later I am so very happy!
Jarod Reddig thank you for saying this
At least there's some hope
Wife is always been a support system in every situation. But if she is a gf of someone she may not continues her relationship further after getting a better one than u
So wife is always trustworthy
When you don't date so you aren't hurt by breakups.
Touche!
*cant
WINDEX touche
THIS^
Clayton Griffith
one needs the time to withdraw and eventually giving yourself the permission to let go.
sucks I know.
It is all in your hands when to hold and when to let go. If you cherish the memories, you tend to hold longer. If you are determined to get over it, you will start looking for greener pasture.
@@louielouie22 Yes, you are perfectly right. Moreover, relationships end when people get tired of pretending to be the person their partner really likes.
I can understand why some men experience emotional pain only way after, where as women suffer a lot only right after the breakup.
Men deal initially well with the breakup and ignore their now-ex's feelings. But after awhile they "wake up" and regret the breakup but only way way after, meanwhile the woman had enough time for her to recover and convince herself he just don't love her and was such a douchebag to her or even find an amazing man. It's probably why some suffer for much longer after because they realize they should have shown more consideration towards her and blame themselves because they were not brave enough to just say "I love you I am truly sorry" when the woman needed them to say it(remember women are devastated at the beginning so are more willing to accept apologies at the beginning). But now it's too late and the woman actually moved on and forgot about him, while the man is left with a feeling of insatisfaction and regret.
It is just my opinion based on experience.
Accurate
This happened to me.
JIJI soooooooooooo true !!!!!!!
My ex have reach out to me and keeping asking me to forgive him, I went through hell with him, why ?!? I wasted my time, my energy for what 🤷🏻♀️🤷🏻♀️🤷🏻♀️ took him 5 years to realize that ???? R u kidding me lmao I’m his dream girl now 🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️ he is definitely not my dream boy anymore, he used to be!!!! I moved on thank god!
Yeah right, men are neglectful and douchebags, whereas women are always honest and never blind-side their partners as it seems. Laughable! Men suffer more and never get over a break-up because the blind-siding women do is of epic proportions. Men believe that are in a true and open relationship and then the news hit them like a bag full of bricks! Not all cases are the same of course, but women tend to be more manipulative and dishonest. It's a fact...
Alexandros you know, I came from a different background where women are straight forward and if we like a men we show affection and love, I believe we give our hearts to broken heart people who didn’t have time to heal, as much u leave past behind it does follow us, I meet good people too, when I said 1 guy I didn’t mean all guys, I didn’t date all the men in the world.
Anyway most of the time our problems come from our childhood.
It's been almost 2 years since she broke up with me ,I've had prettier girls approaching but I can't even begin to picture myself with someone else.I'm still so much in love with her
That was 3 yrs ago. Aren't you glad you moved on?
Uh you did move on..didn't you?
I look at my good qualities and say to myself she missed this!
i look at my good qualities and, well shit i dont have good qualities
+jacob pattee, wow then you need to build some bro
F' LOL jacob!! you're awesome bro. and guess what -- this is the kind of easy humor that not only gets people over pain, it attracts new love. and nothing soothes like new love, even if it's love for ourselves (usually the best kind) ❌
+niko michael m, if you feel that you got good qualities that attractive women appreciate yourself and feel that she lost those qualities. thats one part of loving yourself.
symon mandawala me too!
In my experience I never fully recover till I meet a new person.
Yeah same here bro after the brake up I feel like crap than I still think of my ex but when I end up dating someone else I tend to forget about her.
I've recovered from all of my relationships. Been cheated on and cheated on. Delete all social media, get out there and create a new circle. 6 months you're fine.
FPS_ Aizen thank you brother. Exactly what am doing now
social media is not the problem i tink.. its just.. humanity as a whole perhaps.. th-cam.com/video/Cx4GvzjRMx8/w-d-xo.html
6 months? isn't it so much..I don't wanna wait this much :(
Berk Cetin relax you will be fine, it been 4 months am totally fine, my business is going good and making new friends.
@@berkcetin7993 how are you doing man? its been 4 months now since you wrote about it, how do you feel?
i eat a lot of chocolate, binge watched, then entered depression, 2 years on getting close to a new girl, wish me luck!
Good luck mate. I hope that everything works out for you :)
I drank a lot of tequila and listened to mariachi music. I guess each culture copes differently.
That's why you join up at the gym instead, and better yourself, all aspects of your life get better when you're exercising...
Yeah, just don't get caught up in the Gym Thots, 99% of them are toxic AF. Eye candy yes, relationship material no.
Not so easy forget when your gf is the one who got you arrested and you gotta fight for your life in court
God forbid guys actually value relationships huh
Send them in my direction
insta please?
It's a feminine trait.
No they dont
Lol
Nah it's not that we don't recover over breakups but it changes us
Case Closed it changes everyone... the key is to not repress your emotions.. thats where men and women differ
My breakup initially hit me hard; I could feel the constant strain on my heart for at least 3-4 months. 2 years later and I still sometimes feel the lingering pain and emptiness. I’m sure it’s one of the contributing factors to my ongoing depression.
How are you now?
The person who loved the other one as their first choice and sacrificed the most of themselves will be the one who takes the break-up the hardest. Sometimes that is the man. Sometimes that is the woman.
My mother never recovered from being divorced and spiraled down into mental illness. My father was her first ever love. She was very young, fell in love with him at 16 and smitten and he was EVERYTHING to her. Took her out of her mother's house. Showed her the world and her life revolved around him. After the divorce, he left her with nothing, re-married and she was permanently broken.
I had a landlady who was the perfect doting Catholic wife. Her husband was a philandering asshole. He was sleeping with girls in her daughter's class. She would be at work and women bearing his baby would come to her demanding money. Totally broke her up. Worse yet, the church made her feel guilty over divorcing him. She is like a nun now. It's almost like she blames herself for it still and is trying to compensate by devoting all her time to the church. Worse yet, now that her ex-husband is old and no other woman wants him, he has moved back in with her and expects her to care for him.
From what I have seen of women who totally make themselves vulnerable and fall head over heels and allow themselves to be at the full mercy of a man, it is a DANGEROUS risk. Not to mention the horror stories about HIV I have encountered of doting wives infected by philandering and down-low husbands.
I am not surprised the daughters of these women do not want to end up like their mothers and are making more calculated decisions when it comes to protecting themselves from men who are just like their fathers. They have zero tolerance for any signs of the same kind of behavior and are quick to walk away if they see any indications of it.
Broke up a few days ago and I feel like I'm dying inside. I took her for granted and stopped putting in any effort in our relationship after a while of dating thinking she wouldn't leave me but the second I lost her, I realised how much she meant to me
if your the only one putting in the effort then shes not your girlfriend.
That's too bad.I'm dying inside too. I love him so muuuuuuch . But We broke up cuz of unsolved problem. And i'm not feeling well these day....
Leon Johnston My ex took me for granted too. I did everything I could to save our relationship but he kept fucking it up. But here I am asking myself what I did wrong.
@@seppphy so true. Me and my gf just broke up and I was scrambling to solve it but they don't want to😔
Please treasure your next, it hurts badly when you realise your partner stops giving.
Simple solution, don’t get into relationships
Sounds very mature...
relationships are shite, its a one way system and not for the mans benifit.
Thanks mate
Being a bachelor is cheaper & less drama. Go Mgtow!
That's the cowards solution. It robs u of lives most wonderful thing. U r poor if u think so. U let them beat u down. Get up again u fool.
5 years relationship. He left me 10 months ago. Still feels like yesterday.
Hmmmm sorry for you. I hate this love stuff. Just pains
Same
How ? Women Can t love inconditionaly...
Sorry for my english 🤘🏾🇨🇵
I feel you, girl.
3 months
Still feels so fresh ! 🙃
When your girl tells you she loves you one day and the next day you are blocked by her on every social media with no explanation. Btw never did anything and definitely never cheated or thought about cheating. It sucks and I've been miserable for 2 months.
you might have given her some stds
I don't mean to be harsh but she sounds very complicated...might be the best to stay away
Black Enigma Dude if she isn't even mannered enough to explain her reason for doing so then she's a big waste of your time. You don't need her
I swear to god that happen to me 2 months ago
Black Enigma get out of that fast. You are going to get super hurt soon. Trust me that crap just happened to me
Over 10 years and it still hurts.
Get over it fast before it destroys your soul !
Prashanth Budihal I have no soul.
Wade Wilson
All the best for your future.
oh my god
For all my brothers hurting out there i feel your pain, but remember you will find another woman who someday will make you happier and then you will forget about your ex!
cristian Lucizumaki i still want my ex to be the one who will give me the happiness i want.
It is proven fact that after getting your better half ..situation will be changed unlike todays rejection, lonliness, obsessive with thoughts
She will not make you happier if you do not change th wrongs you did with the previsous attention seeker.
Okay no lie, TH-cam is actually listening; Like five minutes after I got into a "break up" this is what is recommended to me.
BlueApple that’s a feelsbad and a feelsgood at the same time
me too!
TH-cam recommends all sorts of topics to you. You only pay attention to the ones that are relevant in your life and you ignore the hundreds that are irrelevant. You're cherry picking.
TH-cam or google. It didnt happen here, but i found content and advertisements that popped out of nothing whithout any recent search on the topic. Just talking on the phone
@@marcobistagnino8713 your phone records everything
Why am I watching this? I haven't been in a relationship for a long time. And still I'm watching a video about breakups.
+Samuel Nilssom Incentive to make keep making the effort to maintain it.
This at least gives me the comfort that there's a chance that he still actually cares. When he broke up with me because of something he thought I did, he told me he didn't love me anymore and that he doesn't care even if I hurt. Hopefully this science applies to him too. I know he's very smart and will probably not let the breakup get to him but he's human, too. He's just really mad at me right now. He shouldn't even be. But', I hope one day he'd realize that he shouldn't have done this to me.
move on, eat some food, live your life. You're FREE
I lost a friend to a situation like this. I can't imagine losing my boyfriend the same. However, it was a nice excuse to eat donuts.
if he breaks up with u that means he doesn't want to date men can't get over breakups when it happens to them
If you believe that he loved you very much, he's still probably not over your breakup even if he's the on who initiated it. I did the same with my Gf last year and as this video said, I felt the numbness and the kinda unreal? Feeling but I told myself I don't love her anymore. Turns out I still did and I regretted it a lot after months have passed. Same thing happened with a friend of mine.
Of course we'll deny it, even with close friends and even ourselves, but it stays and it sucks.
why did he break up with you ?
The first man who was ever intersted in me left me. I was 23. It took me a whole year to recover. I didnt take a break i just went to work. But i was so depressed but i just had to keep going. Just had to get on with it. My heart was completely broken. And i was such a proud carefree person. Now i continuously thought about suicide. I never laughed, or smiled for 5 months. I wrote a poem about my pain. And i finally started getting better. When another man came into my life. He was not the type of man i would have went for. But he really stuck to me like glue and pulled me out. It was a slow burner. Now im 27 and were engaged.
firecracker 91 and do you love the new guy now ? Are you happy with him ? Do you still remember your ex ?
100$ yall are divorced
men are actually super fragile in case of relationships........ we might have six packs bt we r really too emotional from inside
@Bob Salazar Nope.
wrong, you are emotional do not put all men in the emotional category brother
What does having a six pack have to do with your feelings and emotions😂. What if you a guy who don't have a six pack? In that case your get over ex faster?😂
@@monas Building six packs takes a lot of effort and makes you strong mentally.....thats what I mentioned......but they still breaks down mentally after a relationship issues....hope you got it
wtf is going on in united states?? Please brothers stop watching "the notebook", stop eating junk, filter your water, read more books on manliness. I dont know what else you can do but please find the way of becoming more masculine and stop the drama.
Is anyone else here to feel good about the fact that their ex is scientifically going to miss them forever? This gives me a weird sense of closure.
Well I'd hate to burst your bubble but.. "forever" really is a stretch. I'm a man and while some breakups have hit me like a truck, over time I've come to embrace everything and move on. I'm quite emotional, more so than most men, so if I could get over it I reckon anyone can. So take this study with a grain of salt.
the thought was good while it lasted
I think it's by the person you were breaking up with. And maybe how the break up happened.
Like I was in love with my ex and we were literally planning our lives together. I thought I was okay when it ended at first.
Now it's 2 years and another relationship later and I'm all screwed up about it. So yeah.
"Yay.. the person i used to love will suffer for the rest of his life for what i've done"
"That makes me feel good"
You are fucked up lady..
Maybe he was an abusive person? Stay in your lane bud we all have our reasons.
i never broke up with anyone, because nobody has ever wanted me.
HAHAHAHA MY LIFE STORY LMAO
Kuri the wolf same here... 😞
Kuri the wolf Be brave. Initiate conversation
Oh come on. Someone will like you, want you, and break up with you
Have you waited all your life? If not, who knows the future? The right one will show up at the right time so that you will not waste time searching. 😊
Broke up almost 2 years ago and never seen her since the breakup. I've partially moved on but I still feel sad and can't go to places where we've had some great moments together. Girls do move on quick but I'm glad I got to experience a heartbreak and become a stronger version of myself.
sirrus13 dude totally feel you. Life after some of my breakups, felt like a real man after. Stronger man indeed. But I can see the difference when I was in a relationship and right after the relationship. Like I can actually do what I want now!
sirrus13 I've noticed in my own life and from observation it takes 3 years for men to get over a woman
You can better manage a relationship the next time round. Time will heal. When you meet the right girl, you will be healed completely. You will never regret of having gone through it. Think positively and attract more positive influence.
Yeah I can’t watch movies that we have or look at pictures atm. It’s too sad
Its been 4 years since my breakup and no matter what I do, who I meet, I feel sad, lost and lonely. I wish I never met her. She living life with the man she was seeing behind my back. She happy and doesn't care about me. While I'm here everyday just barely getting through days trying to feel happy. 4 years of my life just crying and thinking. Guess I'm gonna die alone, I got no confidence or trust left in women. :(
Exercise!! Trust me on this, look up basic calisthenics routine here on TH-cam and get going on it, it’s not 💯 but trust me it will help
It's all about them and thier feelings.. And when they are done with you they have no problem throwing you out like a piece of trash..
Damn. Nailed it
Well said
bro nobody can throw you out like a piece of trash when you know your value. Dont blame women, work on yourself, learn to love yourself and you wont need noone to validate you.
@@RandyReacciones Just because you recognize that someone has treated you badly doesn't mean that you don't value yourself.
@@kuunami brother there is nothing wrong with recognizing that, the problem is when you allow the situation to turn you into a victim. We as men need to learn that life is more than just women. We can travel, work on our health and bodies, we can learn new skills etc. The purpose of my comment is not to bring men down , it is just to tell them to stop thinking that a women can complete them, so then they can start working on themselves. Thanks
It's an easy solution, don't get too close to any woman. If you make a woman the focus of your happiness, you'll spend the rest of your days miserable.
Yea Right That is the same for men. Some can just pretend like they're in love with you for YEARS and then just dump you like you meant nothing to them.
Nattie Bubbles, as much as I would like to believe that, and I am a Christian, my ex fiancé claimed to be one as well. Being with her, as much as I unconditionally loved her, was a living hell at least 75% of the time. I have never met a more narcissistic person with more double standards and anger issues than her. Jesus is not always the answer you need. A good therapist can do wonders for a person.
As always never go with words, go along with actions. Just saying I love you doesn't mean shit.
True.
What I hate about breakups: Guys are immediatly seen as the bad guy if they end it.
Wtf is that for? Why does guys get taken so poorly, just because they ended the relationship? "Oh that guy is a fucking douch bag. He never deserved you." They say to the girl. Why? Because the guy probably was cheated on, or what if he wasn't in love anymore, or what if he didn't feel comfortable in the relationship.
If the girl breaks up, it still always seem like the guy is the bad guy in the picture. Its despicable.
+Filip Borgersen personally i hate it when people bash my ex, seeing as he was a fundamentally good guy.
+Filip Borgersen
Cuz unfair/unequal gender equality
+Determined Soul and the girl of course perpetuates it and needs to have everyone on their side
I dont even know what i did. her friend texted me and told me how much of a judgemental jerk i was. I feel awful and i apologised and said goodbye. I want to cry 😟
Sometimes , the guys are like my ex.. liars , cheaters , fake , and mean :)
Somethings wrong with meh! It seems like during the day I’m not that sad. But the night....it’s like I can’t stop crying
C00lkid Number #1 I thought only women are like that
Same :(
There is no greater love than a companionship that is infinite. For love that is unconditional lasts through all circumstances and does not separate. So I have learned to enjoy my own company.
Since no one will ever see this, I still love the girl who left me. Her name is Parker, I helped her through everything, quit my job for her, and showed her that life was fun. Then one day she left me. It's been 2 months and I still can't get over the fact that everything we did together and all the fun times and the love she claimed to have for me shall never happen again. Need to go cry now, I miss her so much. Too bad I have to love her...
Im Maxing RS same bro, been two months, I still think she was the one. I would do everything for her to be able to feel better. It hurts so fucking much. She was my crush in highschool. We got into a relationship after 3 years of the graduation. She was so adorable. It's like I won't be able to get over her for lifetime. :(
Hmm, that's really wrong. Women should understand men's feelings.
kiowa 007 but still, This is not a sign of maturity. He loved her a lot, but she left him. she just used him to get pleasure.
That girl needs some schooling, her parents spoiled her. Excessive caring always spoils kids. I am not joking.
Bro upgrade that fucking d med and chain. No wonder she fucking left you.
Can you do a video on why in a relationship why there's always one person who likes the other person more? Like why can't it be more balance? This always happens..
Zeeke Easily explained - entropy. There are many more states in which something can be asymmetrical than symmetrical, so by definition relationships will tend to be asymmetrical rather than symmetrical.
Zeeke Because it's far more likely to have two different levels than both having the same. Think of it this way. You have a barrel of skittles. You shove two hands in and grab as many skittles as you can with each hand. One hand will always have more skittles than the other.
Jonas Hamill Good example of the underlying scientific principle I was trying to convey.
Zeeke Easy, same reason why on of youyr arms is bigger than the other, since there is not real equality just estimates. One is always gonna love more than the other.
Zeeke When going over selecting a mate for the general purpose of reproductive strategy, I liken it to used car shopping with a trade in car. Both individuals at the precipice of a relationship start evaluating the market position of the other to determine if they are affordable and desirable. This often involves a little prior introspection to ascertain your own value to shop out in the market; and usually inspires to detailing work to make sure you get top dollar. This works well when selling anything in general. If two people decide with or without help that they can make fair market value for each other, a relationship happens. Value changes after the transaction and some may feel a need to step up and away from a current deal at some point, should one side's value go up or the other's value goes down. This is mostly a one sided decision to benefit one to leave the other formerly content with the deal at the curbside.
I took liberty to expand upon this.
courses.washington.edu/ssci200/Econ_of_Dating_and_Mating.pdf
I was only with her for a month and a half although I had known her for a bit longer. When we started it felt like the best thing that ever happened to me. We would see each other every single day, and take turns making each other food or going out on dates. Every day I got to wake up and the one thing that I wanted to see and to hold was always right in front of me.
I remember once before we dated but when we both could tell we were into each other. We went on a walk during the fall before the last leaves had fallen from the trees and we laid down next to each other just talking. I wish I never left that moment.
Before she decided to break up with me she told me what she wanted to do for me that Christmas. She wanted to take me up north where I was from so I could show her all of my favorite places that I wanted to share with her. Only a few days later, she ended it.
I don't remember the reason. I was so shocked. The only thing I could say is that I understood and that I wanted her to be happy and that if she was happier without me then so be it. The last thing I remember is when she hugged me and I held her tight. I tucked my head over her shoulder and smelled her hair one last time as every part of my soul screamed "Whyyyy!" inside of me. The most confusing part is that when I decided I wanted to get it over with and leave SHE was the one who wouldn't let go.
A year later, I still can't stop thinking about all of the memories, and the things I possibly could have done better. I wish it was my fault. At least that way I would know what to improve on. But it wasn't in my control. I gave it everything I had but it didn't matter. It has affected me in ways I hate to admit. Yet, that month and a half was the best time of my life and I wouldn't have changed a thing.
After all it was just a month and a half. Like, dont get me wrong, I understand, but remember that there are people who had the same time you had but for years... its easier to forget 1 month of your life than 3 years for example..
You forgot the reason? Because it sounded like an excuse or you were too schocked to even care?
@@bbdeng8689 Both honestly, I remember it most definitely being an excuse but I was also just too upset to care
@@EthanDavis.w If that felt like an excuse, you sensed that it was hard for her to let go as well at that moment, then tell yourself it was because of the Wrong timing. Don't let this history destroy your future happeness. Wish you the best
@@bbdeng8689 Means a lot man! I let it go a while ago, there are just some nights where I stop and think about it
#TeamVirgin4ever
Chibis On The Loose you mean the the wizards if you survive to 30 and wraith at 80 i forgot what 50 was
tazzerdevil98 Oh, yeah, those are my plans for the future
That's really lame you have to have sex at some point
the lucky ones
Chibis On The Loose ENJOY IT WHILE YOU CAN..........
It is still hitting me hard... I am not a very social person and when I met my ex it was the best thing that had ever happened to me... I messed things up and we broke up early 2016... It hurts everyday because of the fact I met such a special person who cant be with all because of my insecurities & fears... now I feel like nothing... ah well lets see how the rest of the year goes.
This is kinda similar of what my ex did to me. He destroyed me and I did the best I could. He has looked for me after I left several times (I couldn't spent anymore time with someone who never valued me). Now I can proudly say I got over him and that I never want him back. 😊 Peace and respect to all ✌️
So?
it's been more than 3 months and I am still crippled in bed from the break up. while he is posting videos of him rock climbing and celebrating new years eve being all happy.
LuBloop his loss....you look like you won't have any trouble getting another date whenever you want it
LuBloop It's been more than a year since we broke up after five years of being in a relationship and she can't even text me once every six months to even check if I'm alive. I devastating.
West Senkovec it's devastating to hear that even after a year or years people can't get over someone. I really hope I won't waste any more of my life crying over someone who doesn't even care...but sadly I will.
AmarNathan it's a combination of those two things for me. I dated him because he was in every sense perfect for me and because I could imagine spending my life with him.
Remember: People only/mostly show their positive sides and experiences on social media. Very few upload videos of themselves laying sleepless in bed at night thinking depressing thoughts. Also.. I am sure someone with such mesmerizing eyes as you will attract at least a few interesting new acquaintances.
I’ve never recovered from any of my breakups. Never will. My belief of love has died. Maybe one day I’ll find happiness
Swanky Pants because you’re weak. U think some woman is supposed to make you happy when you’re the source of happiness. The internal creates the external.
Yeah buddy, you have to value yourself before someone will ever know how to value you. You’re worth it, but you have to know that for you first, them second. If you don’t love yourself, you’ll never truly have love with someone else. Make steps every day to find that path and you will be happy.
U will
Same here. ❤️
my ex's love still haunts me.. time doesn't heal all
Pissed Hulk
I agree...2 and a half years since the breakup and I still miss her...But I try to focus on other things since now she is married and has a baby.
Ady Adrian the only real way to truly get over them is to find someone with a better connection but that's almost impossible in this day. A lot of females are corrupted by society and we may never get that chance sadly..
Ady Adrian it's been plus 5 yrs for me, I've "moved on" fucked pointless hoes, focused on money & hobbies, and still I feel her "there" like Phantom pain. she has 2 kids and a husband now and I'm happy she found peace but I haven't :/
Pissed Hulk Corrupted by society?? Like...they have a job and also other things to focus on.You want a girl to revolve around you all the time??Strange like you blame only women, when it takes two to tango.
Me to :(
My gf of 5 years left me just this February. Still getting over it. I feel so close to it leaving me but I still have bad dreams and nightmares. almost every night.
you'll get there ^^ good luck
Haha thank you.
Same
Phuong Trang It'll get better man, I'm doing great. I started working out, focusing more on expanding my hobbies and interests, and just over all making my self a better person for me. And I gotta say, each day get more and more bearable. When I have bad dreams now, It doesn't affect me as much as it used to. There are some days were it gets really bad, but I find those days more and more rare.
Nice to hear that! Continue the great work. Have you started dating yet? Not girlfriend searching but having fun?
When going into a relationship, always assume that it will end in a bad way, and you can never be disappointed. Better to brace for the impact than to ignore the risk.
@Paritosh Jadhav are bhai ye breakup ksa feel hota hai koi hum singles ko bhi samjhaye😂😂😂
@Paritosh Jadhav Sahi kaha bhai......Safety gears ke saath chalaang lgane ka agar nuksaan kam karna hai to.....jaisa upar bhai ne comment kiya hai😂😂😂😂
@Paritosh Jadhav 😂😂😂
Yaar bhai sachme, kabhi kabhi apne single hone par garv hota hai😂😂.....Haan kabhi kabhi Haath ka Sahara bhi lena padta hai tanhai mitane k liye😂😂😂😂
Overthrower545 I will save this comment and read everyday when I start dating again.
Is it sad that I'm watching this hoping that my ex still loves me because I can't get over him?
Gigi no
Gigi move on lady. Don’t waste your time on nothing.