To be fair, if you've ever sat in those deeeeep old school chairs, there is absolutely NO way to sit comfortably in that. The armrest are sloping from like chest down, so if you're sitting back like he is your arms are so high up. If your legs are short then you're fighting your leg from kicking out and dangling like a school kid. 0/10 experience. The other dude is awkward as hell too but it's at least less weird since he has his hands in his hoisted up leg, also helps that the other dude is taller.
I can't help but wonder if the chair or his clothes were making too much background noise, so they told him to avoid moving, and he just froze up like a statue.
My VERY CONSERVATIVE Christian parents made sure that I got fact-based and age appropriate sex ed, and, years ago, when my mother was the youth group director at our church, we had a doctor come in to give sex ed classes, as it was clear that the state of Florida wasn’t giving the teens in the youth group adequate information. Because, despite supporting abstinence first, no one in our church leadership was stupid enough to think that teenagers weren’t going to experiment, and we wanted to make sure that they were prepared and protected. And, you know what? We haven’t had another teenager in our church get pregnant since we took that approach. I really don’t understand why so many people fight against proper sex ed. It will only help the kids in the long run.
I had factual information from my Christian mother at an early age. But in the early 1970's our church gave a presentation for teenagers that told us girls are just asking for assault by dressing provocatively, not wearing bras, and even Christian boys can't help themselves. I was not wearing a bra because I was only 12, and I felt very self conscious and outcast. I quit church shortly after that.
Alas, I didn’t get that experience. I was forced to attend Christian school where we did not talk about anything reproductive-adjacent. We talked about Jesus and purity instead. I didn’t take a sex ed class until I got to college. My best friend got her period before me, and I learned about periods from her. Honestly, don’t recommend it.
Actually now that I’ve finished the video, it makes sense that they would put a reverend in the credits at the beginning: to comfort (or placate) parents who are concerned about sex education being unchristian! It was clearly a well thought out tactic to get uncomfortable parents to feel better about watching this
My friend’s four year old’s first question when told I’m pregnant was “How does the baby get out of your tummy?” I said “From my vagina.” He was totally satisfied and carried on with his life.
My oldest daughter was about 4 when I was pregnant. When she asked how the baby would get out, she asked if I had a zipper! I explained it would come from my vagina which would stretch to make room and then return to normal. Not a problem, on with life, but I have to admit, the zipper sounded like a great idea!
That's what I think is so fascinating about kids. They have a limited set of facts about the world. Not bad. They're kids. So they take existing information they have and make connections. They need honest factual information to expand that set of facts to extrapolate information. I told my mom to get get hit by a car so she could go to the hospital and bring home a baby. Thankfully my mother took that chance to educate her daughter on how babies are made/born. I'm smarter now 😉
@@franciannecollson7427I was watching some period piece set in the 1930s and a character made a joke about a zipper after being told she’d need a repeat C-section
My mom (a doctor) always answered my questions with simple answers, and if it was something she thought was too much, but I asked, she would say “That’s a more grown up answer, do you want to know now, or later?” If I said later and forgot about it then she didn’t bring it up. But if I remembered, thought about it more, and was still curious she took it as proof I was ready for the answers. I think she did it really well
Sounds like the conversations I had with my kids. Thankfully, I was prepared enough to know to ask for a little more exact question so I didn't answer the wrong way. My daughter (while I was pregnant with my son - she was about 3½ at the time): where do you get the baby? Me: do you want to know how the baby is born? Daughter: no. Where do you go to get the baby out of you? Oh! Me: I'll go to the hospital. Doctors and nurses will help get the baby out of me. Daughter: am I going to be there? Me: do you want to be? Daughter: No! I just don't want to be left home alone. Me: don't worry. You'll be at Yia-yia's or with your aunt and uncle. Daughter: oh, good. I can wait until you bring my baby brother home to see him. Me: you want a brother? Daughter (puts hand on my belly): it doesn't matter what I want. You're having a boy, and his name is Andrew. I was barely three months pregnant. She ended up absolutely correct with her proclamation. I had a boy, but we opted not to name him Andrew. 🤷🏼♀️
Exactly. My mum was a nurse and a midwife and always gave us age appropriate factual answers. By the time we did sex Ed in school it was a refresher of what we knew. I also think the approach of starting young with basic education about how bodies work and building on it each year works well not just a sudden, awkward class at about 11 or 12. Mum started menstruation young (single digit age, her mum thought she had another few years before the talk would be needed) so ensured I knew about periods from about 7 or 8 just in case I also started young.
@@leemasters3592 yeah I just recommended a book to my Sister-in-law to give to my niece that has information on menstrual cycles, puberty, and peer issues that's written for 9-10 year olds. They plan on reading it with her and answering questions before bed.
My son, age 3 walked in on my Mum changing her tampon. She told him it was blood from pooing, which did NOT help his potty training (he was fully trained for urination) as he "didn't want to see blood". I told him, very simply "it is normal for women to bleed from their privates, but if a man ever sees blood like that, it is not normal, and they must see a doctor." He nodded and asked if we could have pizza for dinner! As for my own Nanna, I started my periods age ten and she wanted to take me shopping for a "belt and pad" until I told her that they actually just stick on to my underwear. When I got pregnant, she went through each of her own five labours in great detail. Her reasoning, "I don't want you being scared or shocked like I was" and I could literally ask her anything about anything, no matter how personal! I won't prattle on with more anecdotes but parents, - please normalise talking to your kids about their bodies, and all they can do!
Your Nanna is a legend among women. I felt I was more or less prepared for labour and delivery, thanks to the internet, but I still came out of the experience feeling absolutely affronted by the fact that no one, not the NCT, not my mother, no woman in my life or support network stopped to talk about dealing with trauma at birth. And my birth was fairly straightforward (medically classed as "difficult" as there were some complications, but we were both healthy and had no serious or life-threatening complications before, during or after the delivery) -- but I still ended up with minor PTSD and no one to talk to about it. No woman should have to feel like she is going through that alone.
My toddler frequently walks in on me changing my menstrual cup. I tell her I'm doing my period stuff (and then mentally scramble to find better words for next time lol) She still sometimes says "are you doing your red stuff" because i was so unprepared the stress time she asked (and distracted by the cup), so I just spat out "doing my red stuff" and then felt bad about giving less-than useful information 😂😂
I'm in my 60s, and I didn't see this film. I did watch a menstruation film, but many girls were not allowed to see it, leading to one of my friends fainting in a school bathroom stall and smacking her head on the toilet. Thank God it was an American bathroom stall so they could haul her out underneath the door. It was quite a scandal, and we didn't see her for a week. I worked with her a decade later, and we discussed the incident. Poor girl, her mother knew she fainted at the sight of blood and let her believe that she wouldn't get her period until she was "ready."
🤔Kid asks, "Where did I come from?" 😳Mom gets all flustered & goes into the whole anatomical discussion about sex. 😟Kid looks very confused & says, "Daddy said I came from Cleveland." 😁
Funny joke, but not funny in real life. When I was 6-years old, we had a tropical fish tank. One day I noticed a bunch of tiny guppies hiding in the plants. I asked my dad, "Where did the baby guppies come from?" Dad looks at my mom, and said, "We agreed that you'd explain it when she asked." Mom nodded, and told me that she'd explain it to me later. That night, when my mom was giving me a bath, she explained not where the baby guppies came from, but where baby humans come from. In a ridiculous amount of detail. I started sobbing and between sobs I said that I only asked about the guppies!!! I literally had nightmares for YEARS about it. A simple question turned traumatic because parents didn't listen to their kid's question. I'm 61, and I remember it like it was yesterday. And I still remember the nightmares. Honestly, I've had anger issues all my life, and I never knew where they came from. I wasn't abused and had loving parents. I suspect a lot of my anger issues stem from that one incident.
My mom got her period at 10 and had this experience with my grandmother. She went to her thinking she was dying, and my grandmother - who had never explained menstruation to her or told her to expect it at some point - scoffed at her like she was stupid for not knowing what was happening. My maternal grandparents were awful in a lot of ways but that always struck me as particularly cruel.
This happened to me with my mom when I was 9. I was 11 when a friend's mom took the responsibility to teach me about sex ed and puberty and I was 15 when my grandma realized I didn't know how to use the period products properly so she had to teach me about how to use those. My grandma had no idea that my parents didn't teach me any sex ed until that moment. The disappointment she had was palpable.
Med student from Czech Republic here. Fun fact: in Czech (and Slovak, my native language) we call implantation of the embryo "nesting", but I've never heard anyone describe or translate endometrium as a nest. Doctor Jones, I've been a subscriber since my highschool years, thank you for inspiring me to pursue this field❤
Literally what I’m here for rn (I already follow MDJ, but *right now* I’m specifically trying to find good sex ed material for my kids); I would SO back this!
Yes!! I've been wanting this for a while. My oldest is 9 and she's started asking some questions. I previously thought to show her MDJ reaction to the 1950's "Sex Ed" video, though it's really just about menstruation. But I thought that would still be pretty good with MDJ's comments and info updates. But I also would appreciate a proper sex ed video from MDJ with good information presented in an age appropriate way.
16:45 my granny told me something similar: when she was 16, during WWII, she was working on a field when the mensis began. she was so afraid, that she had a bleeding stomach and were about to die. no one ever told her. luckily there was a female supervisor who educated her. believe it or not, it was a nun. i am so glad, my mom was always cool with being asked about personal stuff.
I love that the video itself mentioned how women who have this kind of traumatic experience rarely repeat it and do better for their own kids. You were a generation removed (and still benefited greatly!) but similar story with my mom. I have much older than typical parents- I’m mid-30s and my parents are both in their early 80s (heck yes IVF!) so my mom was probably around 14 in the late 1950s and she also thought she was dying and her mother didn’t explain a thing. Just basically tossed one of those old school menstrual belts at my mom and left her to figure it all out on her own. I started puberty really early (I think I was 8 or 9 when I got my period. Definitely happened before anyone I knew. I think my best friend got hers at 13 when she was spending the night at my house actually. and i was geeked to be able to help her out!) and i applaud my mother for being very aware and on top of things. Especially since some of the earlier puberty stuff hit me out of the blue. Suddenly I’m being teased about needing a bra and how gross my hairy legs were. But my mom gave me a great period talk well before it happened in school. Because she was such an older mother and her last period came shortly after she gave birth to my little brother all she had on hand to show me unfortunately were huge thick post pregnancy type pads and I still remember that part. Haha. But she was so reassuring and open because she did not want me to go through what she had. It’s funny actually because I have never had a great relationship with my mom and she was quite a disconnected and often neglectful parent who was especially emotionally absent (and not that I’m fully defending this but I know she had a very traumatic childhood and I was diagnosed with autism in my late 20s and I’m pretty sure my mom is autistic as well. And it could not have been easy all around for my mom. I’m the oldest of two and my mom was 46 when I was born.) but yeah, she really handled this particular thing so well. Presumably it’s a very formative and traumatic experience when folks aren’t educated about their own bodies and don’t get the support they need at such a vulnerable time.
Certain nuns were weirdly progressive, especially when they knew that the men weren’t watching too closely. Might have something to do with the number of them who were nurses
My mother had to learn about menstruation from her schoolfriends, so she made darn sure I knew before I got them, so when it happened I could just show her & ask: is this periods? No woman wants the horror of not knowing what a period is.
19:05 the absolute joy and elation on your face when you talk about this being your favorite subject really cements that healthcare is exactly where you need to be. the world is better off because of you!
Too bad we Americans lost her to New Zealand due to the horrid state of health care in the US, particularly in Texas where she originally practiced. She packed up her family and left; I do not blame her. Other medical people have also left either to retire, retire early, or to pursue something less stressful; and many bright and promising young people are definitely not choosing medicine as a career; why would they? That leaves all us patients with very poor health care, even no health care at all. Something has got to change dramatically. If it does, maybe she will come back.
I was born in 1979. My parents were born in the 1940s and my grandparents were born in the 1890s and 1920s. My grandparents generation, both my grandmother's and my great aunt's, all the women; were absolutely kick arse women. Very opinionated and determined. Here in NZ women got the vote in 1893, so I'm guessing the previous generation was as well. There can be a tendency to dismiss generations before our own memory as having passive women who put up with nonsense out of necessity, and I am so glad that that was definitely not the case. That older lady and her anger about the lack of sex education when her periods started is wonderful to me. I'm so pleased that my grandmothers' and their mother's were not content to sit back and allow things to continue in so unsatisfactory a manner. I wish I had met my paternal grandmother, my great aunt's, and my great grand mothers. They were amazing people who in my opinion helped change the world.
I'm glad I learned about Dr Calderone today. She is definetly an American hero. Reproductive rights and healthcare are essential to the freedom and body autonomy of women and anyome AFAB. She should be covered in schools. I can't imagine the number of lives she directly and indirectly saved.
16:04 unfortunatly had the exact same reaction but my mother added "don't they teach you this stuff in school? You need to pay attention more" just to rub salt into the wound. This lady's anger is so justified and I share it.
It is so justified, my parents didn’t tell me anything and I learned a tiny bit about it from a friend, but I still ended up passing out in my sex ed class from shock
My parents weren’t great when it came to sex ed topics. With my kids (14 female and 13 male) we’ve told our kids from the beginning no topics are off limits or taboo. My husband and I want our kids to have healthy and positive view of their bodies and sexuality. Also it is so important to help them what consent is!!!
I'm convinced that a lot of the push to forbid sex ed is influenced by people who want to make sure the kids in their church won't notice being molested. Look at all the religious organisations in the US that had a huge scandal where an investigation found they were covering up SAs (you can look up the names of the organisations). Those are some powerful people preaching that kids ought to be surprised by menstruation etc. And you have to think, ancient Israelites were farmers. They saw farm animals every day, whether their own or somebody else's. None of their kids didn't know what sex was by the time they were old enough to toddle.
When my daughter started I paid for a subscription box that would contain the pads/tampons that she needed, plus treats such as chocolate or bath or hair stuff. She loved getting these boxes and I think it made her more open about it. She has to be more willing to talk to her dad, I'm disabled and I don't do shopping much so often her dad will get her pads and heat pads. I've always been open about it with all my kids
I started off with teaching my daughters the correct terms for their bodies, and then had to tell them that not everybody likes to use those words, so we'll just use them at home, when, at 5, my oldest was told by her preschool teacher that using "vag*ina" was inappropiate. I need to look into maybe getting her a subscription box. I have heard of them but hadn't looked far into them. My oldest is 12 now and we've been waiting for a year now for her to start.
That's a good idea! My mom went through menopause before I was old enough to need those, so I just got whatever she had left over. It worked, but wasn't great, and I'm glad I was able to switch to reusable things. I'm also disabled, so not having to worry about running out of things is great, since I can just throw them in the wash and they're ready for next time. It can lead to some awkward conversations with friends if I leave something out, but the more education, the better, and it shouldn't be so taboo.
I really appreciated that they showed how you actually talk to a child about these things in "age-appropriate" ways. I've never quite understood it until seeing it happen and going, oh yeah...their level of development and understanding of the world informs how much you tell them and why. Like, it's not that hard when you actually see it happen, and I love the advice from MDJ to give as short an answer as you can and let them ask follow ups
Love your commentary Doctor Jones! I think that overall, this was a "sex positive" film and give the producers credit for trying to educate. My parents failed miserably at "sex ed" as did my HS Health Class where the instructor was shut down due to protests from other parents. What I learned about "sex" I had to learn from friends, classmates and my cousins who were older. While working as a substitute at a High School, I did occasionally have young women come to me when they had their period for the 1st time and was glad to be there to help answer any questions. I thought we were making progress and advancing in the US, especially with the advent of the internet and information from content producers such as yourself, so it is a little disheartening to see the backlash and regression towards a much more oppressive society.
My mom (born in 1943) said that she wasn't told much about mensuration when she was younger either and had a similar experience as the woman in the video when it first happened to her. She vowed that she would make sure that I was informed about it well beforehand and as a result she made sure I had age appropriate sex ed, including puberty. I'm grateful to her for that, because I can't imagine just bleeding one day and not knowing why or what was happening.
I was told very early, openly, and honestly about periods. But that first time I saw blood I forgot everything and STILL thought I was dying. It really is scary!
I remember it happened to a classmate at school, and didn't know what to do! Thankfully the school had a big box of a variety of different sized pads in a supply closet that all the teachers knew about, so usually girls would find a female teacher and ask them, or just go into that closet themselves. I was told early, and that cramps would happen, but I ended up having worse ones, so I really wished that people said that you should see a doctor if it's really painful.
My mom told me about it but I researched it so intensely that I understood everything and what to do. And everyday I would wait until I got it 😅 one day when I was 11. I had a huge gush of blood that happened one time. I was so excited. But what was scary is that it stopped. Like one big gush and that's it. Everything I researched said that it would last 3-7 days. So I was freaked out because I wasn't bleeding MORE. Then nothing for 6 months and I was so disappointed because I thought I got my first period and it would continue monthly. The next time I bled, I was so excited again. I put in a tampon just like I watched on TH-cam. It came monthly after that. But I noticed irritation with tampons. So I searched for better options and found a menstrual cup. Used that on my 5th or 6th period I ever got. Eventually cups started giving me issues so switched back to tampons which also gave me issues. Moved to menstrual disc's and never went back. Found out I am allergic to whatever chemicals they put in tampons and pads. I'm 18 now.
That's true! For me it happened during summer vacation, so my mom did not have extra pack pads for me, we had to buy it. Meaning, I was SO prepared via Sex education, but we were caught off guard it happened while we were not at home 😂
My Belgian, Catholic mother, who raised me in the 90s-2000s, told me: "I'm glad you learned all of that at school, so I didn't have to explain anything." The only sex ed-ish thing she taught me was how to use a pad.
I was born in 1964. I remember a lot of these smear campaigns. We received no sex ed in public school (graduated 1978) or Catholic high school (graduated 1982). Even worse, I went to an all male high school. I'm trans. HS was a nightmare. I finally got some decent sex ed in college. FWIW, because of the taboos regarding sex, homo/transsexuality at the time, I remained closeted until the mid 2000's, when I was finally able to transition. But not without a ton of guilt inflicted from my childhood and HS years. I'm still dealing with the emotional ramifications.
Before my mom got pregnant with my brother in 1992, she was told that endometriosis made her unable to have children. Instead of treating her with birth control, they discontinued all birth control instead. She didn't actually have endo and it was uterine prolapse, which they didn't discover until AFTER I WAS BORN in 1995 -- I was considered her miracle baby because she had been straight up told that she was completely infertile after my brother. So.... Sex ed in the 60s-70s was really doing the work. (My mom was 35 when she had me.) She also had a horror story about her mom treating her having her first period in WHITE PANTS on the playground at her school similarly to the story in this film. Idk why that was the norm back then because it really makes no sense.... Anyway. I just wanted to share. I quite enjoy these types of videos. I enjoy all of your videos but these especially get my attention! Thanks for making it!
I think of it more as a "It shouldn't hurt enough that you cant be distracted from it". When on the pill, I have a period that registers as painful, but it's not difficult to distract myself from it. It's truly painful when it starts to actually pull my thinking away from tasks. It's debilitating when I can't perform tasks. Pain needs context sometimes
@@sophiewhitehouse6718 Yeah but that only makes sense if you already know it's supposed to mildly hurt. Kids watching this will almost definitely not know so if they feel the slightest pain they'll panic.
I can always tell what kind of month I've just had from my period. Good months don't hurt at all. Bad months I need to take a sick day and stay in bed on the first day. So I think they have a point.
We’ve been so dead set on being open & honest with our kids.. fast forward to now and I’m a surrogate for a gay couple. I had a whole conversation with my 5 year old (while my 3 year old was listening) about how I’m going to “grow a baby” for 2 boys because “boys don’t have a uterus to grow a baby”. Explained that they would get to come to the hospital and meet the baby, but then the baby would go home with it’s dads because it’s not mine/ours. I didn’t really have any expectations of what reactions they would have, but I was not expecting the excitement and how cool they think it is. My 5 y/o thinks the baby is so lucky to have 2 dads and my 3 y/o wants to “grow babies when she grows up.” The uterus/specific details part of the conversation was seriously no big deal, and it really doesn’t have to be.
Wow one of your best! We all learned so much. I did know that the AMA didn’t advocate birth control but I thought it was in the 40s or 50s that was ended not in the 60s. I’m 67yrs and I remember my grandmother’s period horror story of starting at school. She was 12 yrs (about 1927) when she was going to the bathroom she saw the blood and started screaming. The principal and the teacher had to coax her out of the bathroom. She remembers being in the restroom crying and hearing the teacher and principal say how they wished mothers would tell their daughters about having periods. They just hated being put in this situation. Even after that her mother didn’t talk to her. She found a book and rags on her bed a week or two later. She just used rags out of the rag bag the first month. My grandmother also swore not to do it to her daughter. She didn’t and told my mother what she needed to know before she started her period. My grandmother was so ignorant about sex that when she was in labor she asked the nurse how the baby got out. The nurse told her the same way it got in. I feel bad for woman kind being treated so terrible.
MDJ, I would love if you could one day talk more about the way our language about the sperm and the egg replicates Western gender roles, where the sperm is anthropomorphized and takes action (“races” etc) while the egg “waits” and has minimal “agency”. You’ve probably heard of Emily Martin’s “The Egg and the Sperm: How Science Has Constructed a Romance Based on Stereotypical Male-Female Roles” but that goes into a lot of it. I’d love hearing your take on that!
To be fair, sperm cells actually physically swim around, and when we think of eggs we also tend to think of something motionless like a chicken egg- just a container and nothing else. Not that sexism COULDN'T have played a role, but I think it's more because sperm seems more alive at a glance than an egg does. And something that is not alive is not thought of as having agency.
That’s my point though-neither are actually alive, neither have real agency. Sperm is portrayed as if they are knights in shining armor instead of mindless cells moving basically randomly, which disregards the functions of the vaginal canal and egg itself in contributing to conception. It’s complicated, but i see where you’re coming from
TY for all you do - i didn't get SxEd from parochial school NOR my parents - I'm autistic & queer & thus, I had no friends til I was 15/16. Aaaaaand the result of this ignorance was i was freq. abused & also was pregnant by the time I was 17. Strongly encouraged to get married too (at 17). I didn't quite "get" how 𝑩𝑩𝒔 were made - i figured out it was Sx by the time I was 16, but knew nothing about b.ctrl. Anyhow my life would've been SO much better if you'd been around when I was young - I'm 50 & STILL learning · but I DID make sure to educate my kids & give them a sense of sex positivity. Including convos about consent. TY again for all you do!! ♥︎♡❥❤︎❤︎❥♡♥︎
Oh no! I also went to parochial schools but the City of San Francisco requires *everyone* to learn certain basics, so we got an extra dose on STIs and practical Filipino nuns putting condoms on bananas admonishing "better a venial sin than a baby you're not ready for or worse a mortal one" ... but that's better than the 'nothing burger' most parochial school students (like you) in other states got.
The part about how “no one tells you can wear two pads on a heavy day” is exactly my experience. I was told to change my pad before I go to bed and when I get up in the morning. So I never thought I could change it more than that and I had extremely heavy periods when I was a young teen. I bled through my pants many times
Honestly watching that movie is so frustrating, knowing that it's from the 60s and has such good info, but that if anything we've gone backwards in terms of sex ed education in school here in the states. I graduated high school in 2008 in Texas and was given abstinence-only education, and I don't remember getting great detail on how puberty worked either. We had an extremely high population of teenage pregnancies (a girl in my year actually spent our senior year pregnant with her 3rd baby), and I can't understand how they thought abstinence- only education was ever going to cut it, let alone not teaching us how our own reproductive systems even worked to begin with. It just makes me so angry.
And one of the most maddening things, besides how many people are harmed by these stupid policies, is that there's nothing in the Bible about sex ed. But we know that ancient Israelites were farmers, before they became city people, and a lot of them still were after that. Their children knew what sex was, even if they didn't understand how the sperm and egg thing worked.
That older lady who was angry about what her mother did to her reminded me so much of my Grandma. Her period came and she literally DID think she was dying. So she called her mom to tell her about it, and my Mimi (Great Grandma) said to her, "Didn't you find the book I left for you on your bookshelf about this?" SURE, MIMI, BLAME THE 12 YEAR OLD.
Its crazy to think that these old sex ed videos did a better job than my public school system. There is a Christian group that spends a week at each school teaching abstenstece only in high school and i never had school tell me about periods or sex. The craziest part i remember is they took 2 pieces of tape and stuck each one to everyones arm and then tried to stick the 2 pieces of tape to eachother (surpise, they didn't stick). Then they basically told us that if we had premarital sex that our marriages would fail (we were the tape). It feels like a fever dream to think about, i had to learn everything for myself via youtube/friends bc my family never talked about it either
As a Christian mom, I LOVED the video! I don’t know why people pushed against this type of video, especially since it was made for the parent so the parent-child relationship is not severed by external input!
Mama your gonna have to remake this video for today, in a comfy chair, BUT you have refer to the 'NESTY BIT' and least 3 times! .. Mary Calderone was an absolute Queen! ..I'm not sure what retirement age would have been considered normal for her but I am sure that 74 was well beyond that!! My hero!
I was adopted and so were my younger twin brothers (from another biological family). I was four, almost five, when the adoption was finalized. My parents had to fly to their birth state to pick them up. I assumed all parents had to fly to pick up their babies, cause you know I was four, and my grandma hated that “uninformed assumption”. My grandma sat me down and made me watch “The Miracle of Life” over and over until I completely understood how babies come about. I stared kindergarten a few months later and told all the kids were babies actually came from. Had to spend a lot with the school counselor that year.
Similar story for me. Im adopted and was 5 when we got my little sister. According to 5 year old me, you go out in the car somewhere you've never been before, go in a house (which I now understand was a foster home) and meet a baby, and you're told that baby is going to be your new sister. Then a few weeks later a lady with curly hair brings that baby in a car seat and pops it on the living room rug and chats to your parents for a few hours while you, as the new older brother, entertains the baby in the car seat. Obviously I recounted this factually correct where-little-sisters-come-from story several times at school. Apparently my school teacher asked my mum to explain exactly what happens to me, as I was getting in fights with the other kids who had younger siblings via the "normal" way, because obviously they were wrong...
I'm 62 now. When i was growing up, my mother did not talk to us AT ALL about sex and bodily functions. All that was shameful, not to be discussed. I did have sex ed in 5th grade, so at least i wasn't totally clueless. But my mother was no help at all. And i had bad cramps but just had to keep it to myself. It all made me hate being female, though eventually i got reconciled to that. I managed better once i got old enough to move out and manage for myself. I didn't have kids. If i had, i would have taken a much more informative and supportive approach. I like to think that, on average. these things are handled better now, especially with folks like MDJ providing good info. Thanks MDJs!
My mom never gave me "The Talk" and i asked if a certain activity was healthy and she told me if i had other topics related to "that", to ask my uncle about it. So i had to teach myself about it and it annoys me that she couldn't tell me about sex or other related topics
Also, Betty Dodson helped bring acceptance of Self Love(m-a-s-t-u-r-b-a-t-i-o-n) and also was able to reassure men that it was okay to do it. "Sticky: A Self Love Story" is a great documentary on the history of masturbation.
Oh jeez. So grateful my mom was a NICU nurse and educated me as I aged. She came to my only sex Ed class in grade school. And after school asked if I had any questions or learned anything new. As an adult and looking back I can see and hear her holding back laughter and rolling her eyes.
Wow, if you hadn't taken that deep dive at the end, I might have done it myself. Thanks for doing that because I had no idea about Dr. Mary Calderone. What a shame we haven't gotten much further than this nearly 60 years later. On a side note, I totally understand why they only focused on talking to boys during the girls' segment. I think my mom was brought up that way and when I was a teen in the 90s, that's all she cared about - whether or not I had a boyfriend. And back in the 50s/60s, girls were not growing up with any other goal in mind than to be a wife and mother.
I was raised by my dad and I got my period in 1993 at eleven years old. On thanksgiving. All he had said was it’s normal. No discussion or anything. I thought I was going to die.
Lol we have to bring back calling the endometrium "the nest" 😂. That was great. Also, not to leap to conclusions, but I feel like this "open, honest conversation" about sex is why the 70s were so "peace and love" and that's why folks panicked afterwards and rolled back sex ed to an alarming degree.
Its a nest, and the lining is like a wonderfully prepared collection of blankets and pillows and when no baby comes... Well the uterus throws out all the blankets and pillows in anger 😂
Judging by the timing, I would guess that even more than prudery, it was political. The 80s were when they started pushing anti-abortion fear, and there's lots of documentation about how that was political.
I wish I was told that cramps shouldn't be excessively painful as part of my sex ed. I lived with PCOS and Endometriosis for 15 years before seeking specialist help because I was told by my mother and a GP that "Everyone has painful cramps" and "irregular periods aren't a concern if they've always been like that". Overall my education was pretty thorough and accurate, but I went through a decade and a half thinking everyone had it that bad and I just wasn't as tough as other people, when I could have had treatment to help.
I cannot believe modern sex ed is often so much worse than this video from the 90's. The fact it's encouraging parents to answer questions, with accurate anatomical language and everything, is amazing even by today's standards
Okay...in the 60's, when I was 8; it happened the first time and terrified my parents. They took me to a doctor, spoke in hushed tones behind closed doors. Silence all the way home; they told me to go into the bathroom and shoved a "period kit" with a pamphlet through the door. *eye roll* My daughter got a bit of a hint when she asked about the babies. I got supplies ahead of time. When she was unusually goth level gloomy one day, she admitted. "It started." when she got home from school, I put a half of a chocolate cake,, and three heart shaped red baloons, in her room. I got a side eye. I told her I had initually planned to deliver them to school in the middle of her class. (Yeah, at that point she realized I was joking) We hugged. I shared that the WORST part for me, the first one; was that they told me it was going to happen every month for the rest of my life. I was CRUSHED. So UNFAIR!!. I threw a tarntrum and my parents laughed and laughed. (I was a very quiet little girl....usually)
My daughter knew about periods long before she started. It wasnt a shock or taboo by any standards. She knew it was the lining of her uterus shedding and it was just part of life for many. Even when the topic of sex came up it was nothing uncomfortable. She thought it was disgusting haha i told her thats a totally normal feeling when you first learn about it. Im very thankful we have such an easy time communicating because my goodness is it important.
first of all - your fit & nails matching looks amazing, keep killing it. going on,, the STILL RELEVANT discussion at the start about parent-child communication was actually so good. it's STILL that way! i'm okay if someone doesn't necessarily want to leave sex ed to a school (it should still be available there!) but it comes with the caveat that you *have to teach your kids* about it, lest you set them up for failure in the future. also the statement of "masturbation is fine" seems surprisingly ahead of its time that poor woman learning about periods when she was young...call it a sign of the times, but that's just abuse.
I love how they let that woman show her deep, deep anger, from the way she was treated decades ago. This is a common story, and refusing to listen to all these women who've been hurt is extremely immoral.
I was 15, but got really bad pains for a long time, and even nausea. It was so bad that I had to skip a day of university, and only then, was I told to get help. And the only help I got was being told to take fish oil (which made me more sick) and an iron supplement (which did help).
Laughs in suspected endo as well, seriously thought sex ed was seriously downplaying how painful or not periods could/should be, but then there seem to be a lot of doctors don’t believe they can be debilitating either
My new gp is great, he gave me a "provisional diagnosis" of endo, because my symptoms can't be explained by anything else, but it's not a definitively proven diagnosis. My periods were like someone was scooping out my insides with a rusty fork 😂
I went to Catholic schools grades 5-12. I remember getting some info on periods, but nothing more in my junior high, but my high school actually gave us evidence based sex ed, including the contraceptive options that were available back then, their effectiveness under ideal conditions and effectiveness under actual use. They emphasized the fact that natural family planning methods were the only ones sanctioned by the Catholic church, and went into some serious detail on tracking methods. But the fact that they mentioned the other methods with effectiveness rates and side effects was useful to this non-Catholic deciding to use the pill. It wasn't comprehensive, since they never covered pleasure. I got that info by finding a copy of the Hite Report in my parents' basement. Not sure how it got there (having a fun time, mom?) but that taught me enough to eventually figure out masturbation, though that took a while.
If we're talking about development comparisons, some girls worry about breast size and having their period at the same time as their peers. That was why "Are You There God? It's Me, Margaret" was the hot book passed around in 4-5th grade and beyond as I was growing up. And yes, my age group was told that the endometrial tissue was a "nesting place" for an ovum.
You know you're in for a good time when the "educational" video has the distinctive sound from that time period (the kind of quality that was recording then)
Thought about period kits: my girls also really liked practicing how to use a pad beforehand, so they felt like they knew what to do in a very fundamental way and the pads weren’t scary. Also, we talked a lot about how to deal at a very practical level if there’s spots on clothes in different situations as that was a big concern for them (tie a sweater around your waist, go to the school nurse, mom will bring you a change of clothes, etc)
Open communication is so very important. Sometimes talking about hard topics is easier for kids if it's not direct face to face sit down conversation. Talking in the car, while on a walk, while doing stuff around the house or something like that can be easier for them to open up. If it's something you are just not able to talk about for your own reasons, thankfully, we have resources like MDJ to turn to. It's so important to have people like her who care about getting factual information out there and destigmatizing these topics. I love that she's so passionate about education and what she does. I guarantee she's impacted a lot of young people's lives in a huge way. The "sex-ed" my kids had in school was absolutely terrible. A couple of highlights- don't use condoms because helium leaks out of balloons (with a demo) so condoms don't work- a demonstration using tape and sticking it to multiple people's shirts then being left with a piece of tape that won't stick to show that if you don't wait until marriage you'll be all used up and not be able to bond with your future husband- after sharing gross pictures of STIs insisting that if you have multiple partners you will get these things and then no one will want you and your life will be ruined- I don't remember the specific details of anything else off the top of my head. My kids attended public schools. Had we relied solely on the school for sex-ed, they would not only have received useless information but misinformation from the local crisis center they hired to do this. Some of my daughter's friends in highschool started coming to me with questions, which was much harder than talking to my kids because I didn't want angry parents coming after me. It was hard to navigate through that. We gave our kids books to look through as they wanted to as well as talking to them. This wasn't a big talk, but talking over time. We gave them books that went more in depth when they were ready for that. The video from the 60's is so much better than what I was taught in school as well as what my kids were taught. I admire MDJ for doing TH-cam and helping battle these issues. We have got to get a grip as a society and end all the nonsense surrounding bodily functions. Regardless of the parts a person has, they should understand how the parts they have work as well as how the opposite parts work. It's ridiculous that it's almost 2025 and we're still dealing with this.
Hearing that one woman repeatedly saying the word Nest and then watching DMJ asking why is that so funny to me?! All I could think of is now I'm definitely not going to be able to NOT laugh whenever I hear someone talk about their smart home NEST devices! 🤣💀 "Honey, you forgot to set the temperature on the NEST before you left today!" I just can't even! 🤣🤣🤣
I definitely was told the blood was a nest as a kid in the 90s. Also my mom totally dropped the ball on teaching me sex Ed in the home. I remember being gaslighted as a young child with my honest questions. Vivid memory of going to the toilet and seeing blood in there. Running to my mom and to tell her about it and asking why there was blood in the toilet. She told 6 year old me “I’ll tell you later.” I waited patiently all day and she never told me later. Or the next day. Or the next. I waited for later for YEARS. When I was 11 we had the female puberty lesson in school and all our moms came and sat to the side watching us while the guest teacher/health care worker told us about periods and I realized that mom never told me later but made me wait for this stranger to tell me why there was blood in the toilet. I hate to say it but I learned that day my mom had lied to me and that I couldn’t trust her to give me this information. I waited for the school to give me more information on sex Ed but it never came. Every time we had a health class I would wait for when they would get to the sex Ed part and it never came. They literally skipped the chapter and went to the next chapter about STDs without telling us what sex was. I wish I was joking. When I was getting ready to graduate from high school and I asked my mom why there was school never offered a sex Ed class or section in health or science class. She was all like, “Oh you know your best friend (name). Well 15 years ago her grandparents successfully lobbied the school district to get rid of sex Ed because they believed it should only be taught in the home by the parents.” I was like, “oh but Mom you and Dad didn’t do that either.” She got so red in the face and deer in headlights look and said, “Oh…well you want me to teach you now?” NOOPE. And I left. I was so mad that I was denied an education. I’d learned I couldn’t trust my parents to teach me. I’d waited patiently for an educator to tell me about it and was denied that because some old fogies got their panties in a twist that they thought they knew what was best for ALL FAMILIES. I swear if I ever meet them I’d spit on those old cronies for what they did.
If you think this is in a circle, wait until you start reading/learning about the changing attitudes around sex and gender in the archaeological record! It's been going back and forth like this since before the written word
When I was born in 1941 my ten year old sister was informed by her cousin that her mother had been pregnant and just given birth to her new brother. Those good old days!
In case you didn’t get an answer about the meaning of BM it means Bowel Movement. We used that term when I was little in stead of saying # 2. I am surprised they are giving this much information that long ago. And speaking to such a young child about sex. I thought the woman explained it well. I am not sure the girl understood what she was talking about. I am 64 I was in middle school in the early 70s and back then boys were very important. We didn’t start to speak about feminism and being independent until I was in high school. Mid 70’s. I graduated in 1978. The girls today don’t seem to be interested in the opposite sex as much as back then, at least that is what I see on TH-cam. I happen to have been very independent. I still am. Many of my classmates were not. Thank you for giving us info. I love to watch your channel.
‘Does it hurt?’ ‘It shouldn’t.’ That’s a great way to make a kid feel comfortable in the moment, then spend months fearing that there’s something dreadfully wrong with them when they find that in fact it does hurt.
I think menstrual pain is hard to explain to a child who's likely never even experienced any kind of cramps before. When a child asks if the bleeding hurts, they may imagine the pain like bleeding from a cut or scrape. Plus, not even all women experience menstrual pain at all, and for those who do there are big differences in severity, frequency, and the location of the pain. Abdominal cramps are the most common, but some girls get back aches or even head aches instead. Some get nausea, diarrhea, or constipation. And some get acne outbreaks, sweatiness, or extra greasy hair. It's pretty hard to prepare a girl for that many possibilities without running the risk of over-scaring them for what might turn out to be no big deal in their case.
Doctor Mama Jones, I am a 69 year old man husband and father of two. I truly love and appreciate your incredibly thoughtful and informative podcast. You are a true Angel of information. Thank you for all you are doing.
I wish I'd been told more earlier! When I first started having periods in the 90s, I had no idea what was happening Also, I love the younger lady in the black dress. She's so chill
Hey, I want to suggest talking about hymens and how they can develop differently. I had some issues with mine. Long story short: my hymen had a band across the vaginal opening, making tampons almost impossible to put in. I didn't know that, and trying to put a tampon was causing WAY more pain than it should've. I would try once or twice a year for about 8yrs, I finally asked my doctor about it because I was watching the show Sex Education and they discuss vaginismus which I thought I might have. Finally saw a gyne who found the band in my hymen almost immediately but at that point I was so sensitive to pain, I had minor surgery to remove it (8mins long lol) and had to do pelvic floor physio since I spent so many years struggling. I would appreciate you informing people about it in case it happens to them, then they might not have to struggle as much as I did :)
my daughter is 5 and we have already started having age appropriate discussions. right now we are talking about names of parts, touches and boundaries. the reason we have already started is that informed kids are less likely to be sxuly assaulted and if so are less likely to keep quiet. my daughter also know what my pads and menstrual cups are for and we brought it up nonchalantly like its a normal everyday thing. it helps that her dad is not fazed by periods and ok with discussing it.
This is incredible! And we think of ourselves as progressive now. 60 years old film is better than what most children nowadays get , at school especially
I talked to my doctor about my brutal period pains and she just told me it’s normal for some people. An ultrasound found no significant abnormalities so she’s not helped me with it any further. There needs to be more information about what to do when that happens. Women are usually abandoned by their doctor at that point and expected to suffer through it with a hot water bottlw
Why do doctors think that ultrasounds can image everything? There are lots of serious problems they can't see. It's like expecting an x-ray to tell you that you have chicken pox. You need a better doctor.
Yeah, there was no sex talk at all in our house. My mom at least gave me a bag of pads and showed me how to use them when Aunt Flo first showed up, but that was it
My oldest daughter had her class recently on puberty and menstruation in 4th grade. They gave them each a zipper pouch of pads and liners. I was surprised. I've had a pair of period underwear in her bag all year but I am glad they did that for all of them and I live in rural Ohio.
My daughter noticed blood in the toilet one morning. I explained that it was nature's way of letting ladies know that they didn't need to plan on a baby showing up. She was almost 3 and took that in while we showered and got dressed, then asked if it hurt, I said some, and that I sometimes was cranky... she replied that she feels better after a nap, or a snack. So we had breakfast. She's almost 30 with a spouse and 2 kids. Her guy and I were there for both of their first breath. Positive vibes from New Hampshire, remember to be kind to each other and yourself during these trying times.
I'm honestly kind of impressed he even brought up that such an unusual audience may actually exist, and while he said it humorously, he also seemed to say it without judgment
I'm willing to bet she had the reverend involved to try to ward off the kind of attacks that she knew she would get from the religious community. (It sounds like it didn't help.)
“Some of you may become uncomfortable” says the man whose body language screams comfort.
Staaahhhp. That was so funny.
To be fair, if you've ever sat in those deeeeep old school chairs, there is absolutely NO way to sit comfortably in that. The armrest are sloping from like chest down, so if you're sitting back like he is your arms are so high up. If your legs are short then you're fighting your leg from kicking out and dangling like a school kid. 0/10 experience. The other dude is awkward as hell too but it's at least less weird since he has his hands in his hoisted up leg, also helps that the other dude is taller.
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I can't help but wonder if the chair or his clothes were making too much background noise, so they told him to avoid moving, and he just froze up like a statue.
imagine being so good at your job that conservatives spend $300 million to shut you up. this woman is GOALS.
She needs to reincarnate or something. She's greatly missed.
Also wild when you consider that this education would now be considered conservative.
Imagine being so stuffy you spend $300 mil to drag a doctor through the mud.
@SewardWriter
More like imagine being so anti-science you felt the need to spend $300 million to drag a doctor throught the sh*t!
i know MDJ can't actually be surprised that the religious right was so threatened by an educated woman delivering scientific sex education to children
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My VERY CONSERVATIVE Christian parents made sure that I got fact-based and age appropriate sex ed, and, years ago, when my mother was the youth group director at our church, we had a doctor come in to give sex ed classes, as it was clear that the state of Florida wasn’t giving the teens in the youth group adequate information. Because, despite supporting abstinence first, no one in our church leadership was stupid enough to think that teenagers weren’t going to experiment, and we wanted to make sure that they were prepared and protected. And, you know what? We haven’t had another teenager in our church get pregnant since we took that approach. I really don’t understand why so many people fight against proper sex ed. It will only help the kids in the long run.
My very Catholic mother insisted on medically accurate sex ed. Her reason, however, was so everyone would have lots of healthy babies after college
@camcat26 same in my school
@@camcat26 Isn't it great when everyones motives align? The only people against good sex ed are people who are dishonest about their motives.
I had factual information from my Christian mother at an early age. But in the early 1970's our church gave a presentation for teenagers that told us girls are just asking for assault by dressing provocatively, not wearing bras, and even Christian boys can't help themselves. I was not wearing a bra because I was only 12, and I felt very self conscious and outcast. I quit church shortly after that.
Alas, I didn’t get that experience. I was forced to attend Christian school where we did not talk about anything reproductive-adjacent. We talked about Jesus and purity instead. I didn’t take a sex ed class until I got to college. My best friend got her period before me, and I learned about periods from her. Honestly, don’t recommend it.
Actually now that I’ve finished the video, it makes sense that they would put a reverend in the credits at the beginning: to comfort (or placate) parents who are concerned about sex education being unchristian! It was clearly a well thought out tactic to get uncomfortable parents to feel better about watching this
I had the exact same thought! Was a very good tactic
And the second credit was a Roman Catholic priest, with the third being a rabbi.
So a pastor, a priest, & a rabbi . . .
@@Rosarium2007 What is this, some kind of joke?
My thoughts too. You beat me to it. 😊
@@wmdkitty What do you mean?
My friend’s four year old’s first question when told I’m pregnant was “How does the baby get out of your tummy?” I said “From my vagina.” He was totally satisfied and carried on with his life.
Seriously people stress out and think they need to overcomplicate things when really a simple straight forward answer is all they wanted.
My oldest daughter was about 4 when I was pregnant. When she asked how the baby would get out, she asked if I had a zipper! I explained it would come from my vagina which would stretch to make room and then return to normal. Not a problem, on with life, but I have to admit, the zipper sounded like a great idea!
That's what I think is so fascinating about kids. They have a limited set of facts about the world. Not bad. They're kids. So they take existing information they have and make connections. They need honest factual information to expand that set of facts to extrapolate information. I told my mom to get get hit by a car so she could go to the hospital and bring home a baby. Thankfully my mother took that chance to educate her daughter on how babies are made/born. I'm smarter now 😉
I bet he went to his phone, ipad or whatever and used speech to text and said, "What's a vagina?" 🤣
@@franciannecollson7427I was watching some period piece set in the 1930s and a character made a joke about a zipper after being told she’d need a repeat C-section
My mom (a doctor) always answered my questions with simple answers, and if it was something she thought was too much, but I asked, she would say “That’s a more grown up answer, do you want to know now, or later?” If I said later and forgot about it then she didn’t bring it up. But if I remembered, thought about it more, and was still curious she took it as proof I was ready for the answers.
I think she did it really well
Sounds like the conversations I had with my kids.
Thankfully, I was prepared enough to know to ask for a little more exact question so I didn't answer the wrong way.
My daughter (while I was pregnant with my son - she was about 3½ at the time): where do you get the baby?
Me: do you want to know how the baby is born?
Daughter: no. Where do you go to get the baby out of you?
Oh!
Me: I'll go to the hospital. Doctors and nurses will help get the baby out of me.
Daughter: am I going to be there?
Me: do you want to be?
Daughter: No! I just don't want to be left home alone.
Me: don't worry. You'll be at Yia-yia's or with your aunt and uncle.
Daughter: oh, good. I can wait until you bring my baby brother home to see him.
Me: you want a brother?
Daughter (puts hand on my belly): it doesn't matter what I want. You're having a boy, and his name is Andrew.
I was barely three months pregnant. She ended up absolutely correct with her proclamation. I had a boy, but we opted not to name him Andrew. 🤷🏼♀️
That sounds like a really good approach
Your mom sounds very wise. :)
@ she very much is. Works in brain injury advocacy and medical ethics now. Super proud of her
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Teaching sex Ed in schools doesn't prevent parents from talking or teaching about it at home. We have to serve the majority of students in schools.
Exactly. My mum was a nurse and a midwife and always gave us age appropriate factual answers. By the time we did sex Ed in school it was a refresher of what we knew. I also think the approach of starting young with basic education about how bodies work and building on it each year works well not just a sudden, awkward class at about 11 or 12.
Mum started menstruation young (single digit age, her mum thought she had another few years before the talk would be needed) so ensured I knew about periods from about 7 or 8 just in case I also started young.
@@leemasters3592 yeah I just recommended a book to my Sister-in-law to give to my niece that has information on menstrual cycles, puberty, and peer issues that's written for 9-10 year olds. They plan on reading it with her and answering questions before bed.
My son, age 3 walked in on my Mum changing her tampon. She told him it was blood from pooing, which did NOT help his potty training (he was fully trained for urination) as he "didn't want to see blood". I told him, very simply "it is normal for women to bleed from their privates, but if a man ever sees blood like that, it is not normal, and they must see a doctor." He nodded and asked if we could have pizza for dinner!
As for my own Nanna, I started my periods age ten and she wanted to take me shopping for a "belt and pad" until I told her that they actually just stick on to my underwear. When I got pregnant, she went through each of her own five labours in great detail. Her reasoning, "I don't want you being scared or shocked like I was" and I could literally ask her anything about anything, no matter how personal!
I won't prattle on with more anecdotes but parents, - please normalise talking to your kids about their bodies, and all they can do!
Your Nanna is a legend among women. I felt I was more or less prepared for labour and delivery, thanks to the internet, but I still came out of the experience feeling absolutely affronted by the fact that no one, not the NCT, not my mother, no woman in my life or support network stopped to talk about dealing with trauma at birth. And my birth was fairly straightforward (medically classed as "difficult" as there were some complications, but we were both healthy and had no serious or life-threatening complications before, during or after the delivery) -- but I still ended up with minor PTSD and no one to talk to about it. No woman should have to feel like she is going through that alone.
My toddler frequently walks in on me changing my menstrual cup. I tell her I'm doing my period stuff (and then mentally scramble to find better words for next time lol)
She still sometimes says "are you doing your red stuff" because i was so unprepared the stress time she asked (and distracted by the cup), so I just spat out "doing my red stuff" and then felt bad about giving less-than useful information 😂😂
I'm in my 60s, and I didn't see this film. I did watch a menstruation film, but many girls were not allowed to see it, leading to one of my friends fainting in a school bathroom stall and smacking her head on the toilet. Thank God it was an American bathroom stall so they could haul her out underneath the door. It was quite a scandal, and we didn't see her for a week. I worked with her a decade later, and we discussed the incident. Poor girl, her mother knew she fainted at the sight of blood and let her believe that she wouldn't get her period until she was "ready."
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That is horrendous! Wtf!
Under the bathroom door made me laugh
Everyone in the school and family failed her.
Oh my goodness, the poor thing
🤔Kid asks, "Where did I come from?"
😳Mom gets all flustered & goes into the whole anatomical discussion about sex.
😟Kid looks very confused & says, "Daddy said I came from Cleveland."
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Gotta ask the question specifically enough, if you want to get the answer you have in mind.
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lol thanks for the legit chuckle. This made my day.🤣 such a dad thing to say 🤣☠️☠️
Funny joke, but not funny in real life. When I was 6-years old, we had a tropical fish tank. One day I noticed a bunch of tiny guppies hiding in the plants. I asked my dad, "Where did the baby guppies come from?" Dad looks at my mom, and said, "We agreed that you'd explain it when she asked." Mom nodded, and told me that she'd explain it to me later. That night, when my mom was giving me a bath, she explained not where the baby guppies came from, but where baby humans come from. In a ridiculous amount of detail. I started sobbing and between sobs I said that I only asked about the guppies!!! I literally had nightmares for YEARS about it. A simple question turned traumatic because parents didn't listen to their kid's question. I'm 61, and I remember it like it was yesterday. And I still remember the nightmares. Honestly, I've had anger issues all my life, and I never knew where they came from. I wasn't abused and had loving parents. I suspect a lot of my anger issues stem from that one incident.
My mom got her period at 10 and had this experience with my grandmother. She went to her thinking she was dying, and my grandmother - who had never explained menstruation to her or told her to expect it at some point - scoffed at her like she was stupid for not knowing what was happening. My maternal grandparents were awful in a lot of ways but that always struck me as particularly cruel.
It is so frustrating when parents get irritated or mock their children for not knowing things they themselves should have taught them
This happened to my mother too but it it didn’t mean I got anything better.
@@susanrobertson984 oh no! You deserve better than that!
@ deserved. It was 45 years ago now. But thank you.
This happened to me with my mom when I was 9. I was 11 when a friend's mom took the responsibility to teach me about sex ed and puberty and I was 15 when my grandma realized I didn't know how to use the period products properly so she had to teach me about how to use those. My grandma had no idea that my parents didn't teach me any sex ed until that moment. The disappointment she had was palpable.
Med student from Czech Republic here. Fun fact: in Czech (and Slovak, my native language) we call implantation of the embryo "nesting", but I've never heard anyone describe or translate endometrium as a nest.
Doctor Jones, I've been a subscriber since my highschool years, thank you for inspiring me to pursue this field❤
Dutch here. We call it nesting too.
The German word is also similar 😄
Petition for a accurate and positive sex ed video by mdj productions.
Literally what I’m here for rn (I already follow MDJ, but *right now* I’m specifically trying to find good sex ed material for my kids); I would SO back this!
Yes!! I've been wanting this for a while. My oldest is 9 and she's started asking some questions. I previously thought to show her MDJ reaction to the 1950's "Sex Ed" video, though it's really just about menstruation. But I thought that would still be pretty good with MDJ's comments and info updates. But I also would appreciate a proper sex ed video from MDJ with good information presented in an age appropriate way.
I don't pay for TH-cam or other social media because the budget is real, but I'd pay to invest in that!
@@rebeccar4893My 8yo appreciated that video a lot. We've had a lot of conversations since, just whenever she brings up a question.
Up next: Doctor Jones time travels to the 50s, sneaks into a school and does a live reaction to the sex ed
Now THAT I would PAY to see!
16:45 my granny told me something similar: when she was 16, during WWII, she was working on a field when the mensis began. she was so afraid, that she had a bleeding stomach and were about to die. no one ever told her. luckily there was a female supervisor who educated her. believe it or not, it was a nun.
i am so glad, my mom was always cool with being asked about personal stuff.
I love that the video itself mentioned how women who have this kind of traumatic experience rarely repeat it and do better for their own kids.
You were a generation removed (and still benefited greatly!) but similar story with my mom. I have much older than typical parents- I’m mid-30s and my parents are both in their early 80s (heck yes IVF!) so my mom was probably around 14 in the late 1950s and she also thought she was dying and her mother didn’t explain a thing. Just basically tossed one of those old school menstrual belts at my mom and left her to figure it all out on her own.
I started puberty really early (I think I was 8 or 9 when I got my period. Definitely happened before anyone I knew. I think my best friend got hers at 13 when she was spending the night at my house actually. and i was geeked to be able to help her out!) and i applaud my mother for being very aware and on top of things. Especially since some of the earlier puberty stuff hit me out of the blue. Suddenly I’m being teased about needing a bra and how gross my hairy legs were. But my mom gave me a great period talk well before it happened in school. Because she was such an older mother and her last period came shortly after she gave birth to my little brother all she had on hand to show me unfortunately were huge thick post pregnancy type pads and I still remember that part. Haha. But she was so reassuring and open because she did not want me to go through what she had.
It’s funny actually because I have never had a great relationship with my mom and she was quite a disconnected and often neglectful parent who was especially emotionally absent (and not that I’m fully defending this but I know she had a very traumatic childhood and I was diagnosed with autism in my late 20s and I’m pretty sure my mom is autistic as well. And it could not have been easy all around for my mom. I’m the oldest of two and my mom was 46 when I was born.) but yeah, she really handled this particular thing so well.
Presumably it’s a very formative and traumatic experience when folks aren’t educated about their own bodies and don’t get the support they need at such a vulnerable time.
Certain nuns were weirdly progressive, especially when they knew that the men weren’t watching too closely. Might have something to do with the number of them who were nurses
My mother had to learn about menstruation from her schoolfriends, so she made darn sure I knew before I got them, so when it happened I could just show her & ask: is this periods? No woman wants the horror of not knowing what a period is.
19:05 the absolute joy and elation on your face when you talk about this being your favorite subject really cements that healthcare is exactly where you need to be. the world is better off because of you!
Too bad we Americans lost her to New Zealand due to the horrid state of health care in the US, particularly in Texas where she originally practiced. She packed up her family and left; I do not blame her. Other medical people have also left either to retire, retire early, or to pursue something less stressful; and many bright and promising young people are definitely not choosing medicine as a career; why would they? That leaves all us patients with very poor health care, even no health care at all. Something has got to change dramatically. If it does, maybe she will come back.
It also makes it clear she really is part of our neurospicy community 👍
I was born in 1979. My parents were born in the 1940s and my grandparents were born in the 1890s and 1920s. My grandparents generation, both my grandmother's and my great aunt's, all the women; were absolutely kick arse women. Very opinionated and determined. Here in NZ women got the vote in 1893, so I'm guessing the previous generation was as well. There can be a tendency to dismiss generations before our own memory as having passive women who put up with nonsense out of necessity, and I am so glad that that was definitely not the case. That older lady and her anger about the lack of sex education when her periods started is wonderful to me. I'm so pleased that my grandmothers' and their mother's were not content to sit back and allow things to continue in so unsatisfactory a manner. I wish I had met my paternal grandmother, my great aunt's, and my great grand mothers. They were amazing people who in my opinion helped change the world.
I would like to add that for some reason autocorrect added a lot of apostrophes where they weren't wanted there. I'm also a shocking typist.
You're lucky to have em
i dont know why these old sex ed videos are so entertaining lmao but thank you mdj for uploading
I'm glad I learned about Dr Calderone today. She is definetly an American hero. Reproductive rights and healthcare are essential to the freedom and body autonomy of women and anyome AFAB. She should be covered in schools. I can't imagine the number of lives she directly and indirectly saved.
16:04 unfortunatly had the exact same reaction but my mother added "don't they teach you this stuff in school? You need to pay attention more" just to rub salt into the wound. This lady's anger is so justified and I share it.
It is so justified, my parents didn’t tell me anything and I learned a tiny bit about it from a friend, but I still ended up passing out in my sex ed class from shock
YES, PLEASE, a separate video with a deep dive into Dr Mary Calderon and the impacts she had on women's health/medicine!
My parents weren’t great when it came to sex ed topics. With my kids (14 female and 13 male) we’ve told our kids from the beginning no topics are off limits or taboo. My husband and I want our kids to have healthy and positive view of their bodies and sexuality. Also it is so important to help them what consent is!!!
Oh my god, for a split second I thought you meant to had 14 girls and 13 boys hahaha
@ oh boy!!!! Two teenagers is enough for me!!! Love them dearly but I think my sanity would be gone with that many kids. lol.
😂Literally shaking, I tuft you birthed a class
I'm convinced that a lot of the push to forbid sex ed is influenced by people who want to make sure the kids in their church won't notice being molested. Look at all the religious organisations in the US that had a huge scandal where an investigation found they were covering up SAs (you can look up the names of the organisations). Those are some powerful people preaching that kids ought to be surprised by menstruation etc. And you have to think, ancient Israelites were farmers. They saw farm animals every day, whether their own or somebody else's. None of their kids didn't know what sex was by the time they were old enough to toddle.
When my daughter started I paid for a subscription box that would contain the pads/tampons that she needed, plus treats such as chocolate or bath or hair stuff. She loved getting these boxes and I think it made her more open about it. She has to be more willing to talk to her dad, I'm disabled and I don't do shopping much so often her dad will get her pads and heat pads. I've always been open about it with all my kids
I started off with teaching my daughters the correct terms for their bodies, and then had to tell them that not everybody likes to use those words, so we'll just use them at home, when, at 5, my oldest was told by her preschool teacher that using "vag*ina" was inappropiate. I need to look into maybe getting her a subscription box. I have heard of them but hadn't looked far into them. My oldest is 12 now and we've been waiting for a year now for her to start.
It’s already such a bad time, getting a subscription box seems like such a good idea
That's a good idea! My mom went through menopause before I was old enough to need those, so I just got whatever she had left over. It worked, but wasn't great, and I'm glad I was able to switch to reusable things. I'm also disabled, so not having to worry about running out of things is great, since I can just throw them in the wash and they're ready for next time. It can lead to some awkward conversations with friends if I leave something out, but the more education, the better, and it shouldn't be so taboo.
She's lucky to have you
Depending on where you live, Instacart or even Amazon may make delivery an option for menstrual care products.
I really appreciated that they showed how you actually talk to a child about these things in "age-appropriate" ways. I've never quite understood it until seeing it happen and going, oh yeah...their level of development and understanding of the world informs how much you tell them and why. Like, it's not that hard when you actually see it happen, and I love the advice from MDJ to give as short an answer as you can and let them ask follow ups
Love your commentary Doctor Jones! I think that overall, this was a "sex positive" film and give the producers credit for trying to educate. My parents failed miserably at "sex ed" as did my HS Health Class where the instructor was shut down due to protests from other parents. What I learned about "sex" I had to learn from friends, classmates and my cousins who were older. While working as a substitute at a High School, I did occasionally have young women come to me when they had their period for the 1st time and was glad to be there to help answer any questions. I thought we were making progress and advancing in the US, especially with the advent of the internet and information from content producers such as yourself, so it is a little disheartening to see the backlash and regression towards a much more oppressive society.
My mom (born in 1943) said that she wasn't told much about mensuration when she was younger either and had a similar experience as the woman in the video when it first happened to her. She vowed that she would make sure that I was informed about it well beforehand and as a result she made sure I had age appropriate sex ed, including puberty. I'm grateful to her for that, because I can't imagine just bleeding one day and not knowing why or what was happening.
This seems like it was geared toward parents and teachers but still, why did the info get so much worse?! This is great for the most part!
That 40 million, and all that followed it up to now, worked.
Ronald Regan that's why.
I CANNOT wait to watch whatever deep dive you go into after having this video. So fascinating!!
I was told very early, openly, and honestly about periods. But that first time I saw blood I forgot everything and STILL thought I was dying. It really is scary!
I remember it happened to a classmate at school, and didn't know what to do! Thankfully the school had a big box of a variety of different sized pads in a supply closet that all the teachers knew about, so usually girls would find a female teacher and ask them, or just go into that closet themselves. I was told early, and that cramps would happen, but I ended up having worse ones, so I really wished that people said that you should see a doctor if it's really painful.
My mom told me about it but I researched it so intensely that I understood everything and what to do. And everyday I would wait until I got it 😅 one day when I was 11. I had a huge gush of blood that happened one time. I was so excited. But what was scary is that it stopped. Like one big gush and that's it. Everything I researched said that it would last 3-7 days. So I was freaked out because I wasn't bleeding MORE. Then nothing for 6 months and I was so disappointed because I thought I got my first period and it would continue monthly. The next time I bled, I was so excited again. I put in a tampon just like I watched on TH-cam. It came monthly after that. But I noticed irritation with tampons. So I searched for better options and found a menstrual cup. Used that on my 5th or 6th period I ever got. Eventually cups started giving me issues so switched back to tampons which also gave me issues. Moved to menstrual disc's and never went back. Found out I am allergic to whatever chemicals they put in tampons and pads. I'm 18 now.
Everyone forgot to tell me about the clots and clumps of tissue. Feeling those pass REALLY freaked me out
I was super scared at the END of the first menstruations, I fought I was pregnant since I didn't have my period anymore !!
That's true!
For me it happened during summer vacation, so my mom did not have extra pack pads for me, we had to buy it.
Meaning, I was SO prepared via Sex education, but we were caught off guard it happened while we were not at home 😂
My Belgian, Catholic mother, who raised me in the 90s-2000s, told me: "I'm glad you learned all of that at school, so I didn't have to explain anything." The only sex ed-ish thing she taught me was how to use a pad.
I was born in 1964. I remember a lot of these smear campaigns. We received no sex ed in public school (graduated 1978) or Catholic high school (graduated 1982). Even worse, I went to an all male high school. I'm trans. HS was a nightmare. I finally got some decent sex ed in college. FWIW, because of the taboos regarding sex, homo/transsexuality at the time, I remained closeted until the mid 2000's, when I was finally able to transition. But not without a ton of guilt inflicted from my childhood and HS years. I'm still dealing with the emotional ramifications.
I hope you have help and support to heal.
Thanks for sharing your story. Positive vibes from New Hampshire, remember to be kind to each other and yourself during these trying times.
Before my mom got pregnant with my brother in 1992, she was told that endometriosis made her unable to have children. Instead of treating her with birth control, they discontinued all birth control instead. She didn't actually have endo and it was uterine prolapse, which they didn't discover until AFTER I WAS BORN in 1995 -- I was considered her miracle baby because she had been straight up told that she was completely infertile after my brother. So.... Sex ed in the 60s-70s was really doing the work. (My mom was 35 when she had me.)
She also had a horror story about her mom treating her having her first period in WHITE PANTS on the playground at her school similarly to the story in this film. Idk why that was the norm back then because it really makes no sense.... Anyway. I just wanted to share.
I quite enjoy these types of videos. I enjoy all of your videos but these especially get my attention! Thanks for making it!
Re. periods: "Does it hurt?"
"It shouldn't."
Wow. Very few women have no pain at all, even if it ranges from minor to debilitating.
I never did until after my first child. So it does happen.
Mine hurts they way stunning my little toe hurts. midol takes care of it though, so it's not a huge problem.
I think of it more as a "It shouldn't hurt enough that you cant be distracted from it".
When on the pill, I have a period that registers as painful, but it's not difficult to distract myself from it. It's truly painful when it starts to actually pull my thinking away from tasks. It's debilitating when I can't perform tasks. Pain needs context sometimes
@@sophiewhitehouse6718 Yeah but that only makes sense if you already know it's supposed to mildly hurt. Kids watching this will almost definitely not know so if they feel the slightest pain they'll panic.
I can always tell what kind of month I've just had from my period. Good months don't hurt at all. Bad months I need to take a sick day and stay in bed on the first day.
So I think they have a point.
We’ve been so dead set on being open & honest with our kids.. fast forward to now and I’m a surrogate for a gay couple. I had a whole conversation with my 5 year old (while my 3 year old was listening) about how I’m going to “grow a baby” for 2 boys because “boys don’t have a uterus to grow a baby”. Explained that they would get to come to the hospital and meet the baby, but then the baby would go home with it’s dads because it’s not mine/ours.
I didn’t really have any expectations of what reactions they would have, but I was not expecting the excitement and how cool they think it is. My 5 y/o thinks the baby is so lucky to have 2 dads and my 3 y/o wants to “grow babies when she grows up.”
The uterus/specific details part of the conversation was seriously no big deal, and it really doesn’t have to be.
Positive vibes from New Hampshire, remember to be kind to each other and yourself during these trying times.
Wow one of your best! We all learned so much. I did know that the AMA didn’t advocate birth control but I thought it was in the 40s or 50s that was ended not in the 60s.
I’m 67yrs and I remember my grandmother’s period horror story of starting at school. She was 12 yrs (about 1927) when she was going to the bathroom she saw the blood and started screaming. The principal and the teacher had to coax her out of the bathroom. She remembers being in the restroom crying and hearing the teacher and principal say how they wished mothers would tell their daughters about having periods. They just hated being put in this situation.
Even after that her mother didn’t talk to her. She found a book and rags on her bed a week or two later. She just used rags out of the rag bag the first month.
My grandmother also swore not to do it to her daughter. She didn’t and told my mother what she needed to know before she started her period.
My grandmother was so ignorant about sex that when she was in labor she asked the nurse how the baby got out. The nurse told her the same way it got in.
I feel bad for woman kind being treated so terrible.
MDJ, I would love if you could one day talk more about the way our language about the sperm and the egg replicates Western gender roles, where the sperm is anthropomorphized and takes action (“races” etc) while the egg “waits” and has minimal “agency”. You’ve probably heard of Emily Martin’s “The Egg and the Sperm: How Science Has Constructed a Romance Based on Stereotypical Male-Female Roles” but that goes into a lot of it. I’d love hearing your take on that!
To be fair, sperm cells actually physically swim around, and when we think of eggs we also tend to think of something motionless like a chicken egg- just a container and nothing else. Not that sexism COULDN'T have played a role, but I think it's more because sperm seems more alive at a glance than an egg does. And something that is not alive is not thought of as having agency.
@@catpoke9557yeah, sperm cells are motile, while the fallopian tubes have projections that move ova along their path
That’s my point though-neither are actually alive, neither have real agency. Sperm is portrayed as if they are knights in shining armor instead of mindless cells moving basically randomly, which disregards the functions of the vaginal canal and egg itself in contributing to conception. It’s complicated, but i see where you’re coming from
I read that for a gender studies class a few years ago!! Super interesting
TY for all you do - i didn't get SxEd from parochial school NOR my parents - I'm autistic & queer & thus, I had no friends til I was 15/16.
Aaaaaand the result of this ignorance was i was freq. abused & also was pregnant by the time I was 17. Strongly encouraged to get married too (at 17).
I didn't quite "get" how 𝑩𝑩𝒔 were made - i figured out it was Sx by the time I was 16, but knew nothing about b.ctrl.
Anyhow my life would've been SO much better if you'd been around when I was young - I'm 50 & STILL learning · but I DID make sure to educate my kids & give them a sense of sex positivity. Including convos about consent. TY again for all you do!! ♥︎♡❥❤︎❤︎❥♡♥︎
Oh no! I also went to parochial schools but the City of San Francisco requires *everyone* to learn certain basics, so we got an extra dose on STIs and practical Filipino nuns putting condoms on bananas admonishing "better a venial sin than a baby you're not ready for or worse a mortal one" ... but that's better than the 'nothing burger' most parochial school students (like you) in other states got.
The part about how “no one tells you can wear two pads on a heavy day” is exactly my experience. I was told to change my pad before I go to bed and when I get up in the morning. So I never thought I could change it more than that and I had extremely heavy periods when I was a young teen. I bled through my pants many times
gotta make sure my little sister knows about the trick where you put one pad behind the other pad at night!
Honestly watching that movie is so frustrating, knowing that it's from the 60s and has such good info, but that if anything we've gone backwards in terms of sex ed education in school here in the states. I graduated high school in 2008 in Texas and was given abstinence-only education, and I don't remember getting great detail on how puberty worked either. We had an extremely high population of teenage pregnancies (a girl in my year actually spent our senior year pregnant with her 3rd baby), and I can't understand how they thought abstinence- only education was ever going to cut it, let alone not teaching us how our own reproductive systems even worked to begin with. It just makes me so angry.
And one of the most maddening things, besides how many people are harmed by these stupid policies, is that there's nothing in the Bible about sex ed. But we know that ancient Israelites were farmers, before they became city people, and a lot of them still were after that. Their children knew what sex was, even if they didn't understand how the sperm and egg thing worked.
That older lady who was angry about what her mother did to her reminded me so much of my Grandma. Her period came and she literally DID think she was dying. So she called her mom to tell her about it, and my Mimi (Great Grandma) said to her, "Didn't you find the book I left for you on your bookshelf about this?" SURE, MIMI, BLAME THE 12 YEAR OLD.
Its crazy to think that these old sex ed videos did a better job than my public school system. There is a Christian group that spends a week at each school teaching abstenstece only in high school and i never had school tell me about periods or sex.
The craziest part i remember is they took 2 pieces of tape and stuck each one to everyones arm and then tried to stick the 2 pieces of tape to eachother (surpise, they didn't stick). Then they basically told us that if we had premarital sex that our marriages would fail (we were the tape). It feels like a fever dream to think about, i had to learn everything for myself via youtube/friends bc my family never talked about it either
🤢 that was mental and sexual abuse! Imagine if someone in audience was SAed (and likely at least one was) 😭
Suggestion for the background of MDJ’s studio: on top of the neon baby, we want a shrine to Dr Mary Calderone
*starts chanting* Build The Shrine
Build The Shrine
Build The Shrine
Yassssss!!!!
As a Christian mom, I LOVED the video! I don’t know why people pushed against this type of video, especially since it was made for the parent so the parent-child relationship is not severed by external input!
Cant wait for the video about the doctor. Thank you for looking into it. I love your longdorm documentary style episodes
I'm surprised there was better sex information out there in the 60s than what I received in the early 2000s.
I was not taught shhhhh
Same but 80s and 90s for me
Mama your gonna have to remake this video for today, in a comfy chair, BUT you have refer to the 'NESTY BIT' and least 3 times! .. Mary Calderone was an absolute Queen! ..I'm not sure what retirement age would have been considered normal for her but I am sure that 74 was well beyond that!! My hero!
I was adopted and so were my younger twin brothers (from another biological family). I was four, almost five, when the adoption was finalized. My parents had to fly to their birth state to pick them up. I assumed all parents had to fly to pick up their babies, cause you know I was four, and my grandma hated that “uninformed assumption”. My grandma sat me down and made me watch “The Miracle of Life” over and over until I completely understood how babies come about. I stared kindergarten a few months later and told all the kids were babies actually came from. Had to spend a lot with the school counselor that year.
Similar story for me. Im adopted and was 5 when we got my little sister. According to 5 year old me, you go out in the car somewhere you've never been before, go in a house (which I now understand was a foster home) and meet a baby, and you're told that baby is going to be your new sister. Then a few weeks later a lady with curly hair brings that baby in a car seat and pops it on the living room rug and chats to your parents for a few hours while you, as the new older brother, entertains the baby in the car seat. Obviously I recounted this factually correct where-little-sisters-come-from story several times at school. Apparently my school teacher asked my mum to explain exactly what happens to me, as I was getting in fights with the other kids who had younger siblings via the "normal" way, because obviously they were wrong...
@@jameshodgetts7541 Oh my! That's hilarious! I'm glad they explained it to you before too long.
Dr. Calderone deep dive video??? Yes please! I’ll be looking for it in the next month…
I second this!!
I'm 62 now. When i was growing up, my mother did not talk to us AT ALL about sex and bodily functions. All that was shameful, not to be discussed. I did have sex ed in 5th grade, so at least i wasn't totally clueless. But my mother was no help at all. And i had bad cramps but just had to keep it to myself. It all made me hate being female, though eventually i got reconciled to that. I managed better once i got old enough to move out and manage for myself. I didn't have kids. If i had, i would have taken a much more informative and supportive approach. I like to think that, on average. these things are handled better now, especially with folks like MDJ providing good info. Thanks MDJs!
I love that you went down a rabbit hole. Your fascination and curiosity is so relatable and shows how much you care
I am going to research her and read up & then share with all my peeps. She was a pioneer who saved so many lives and none of us knew she existed!❤
My mom never gave me "The Talk" and i asked if a certain activity was healthy and she told me if i had other topics related to "that", to ask my uncle about it. So i had to teach myself about it and it annoys me that she couldn't tell me about sex or other related topics
Also, Betty Dodson helped bring acceptance of Self Love(m-a-s-t-u-r-b-a-t-i-o-n) and also was able to reassure men that it was okay to do it. "Sticky: A Self Love Story" is a great documentary on the history of masturbation.
Oh jeez. So grateful my mom was a NICU nurse and educated me as I aged. She came to my only sex Ed class in grade school. And after school asked if I had any questions or learned anything new. As an adult and looking back I can see and hear her holding back laughter and rolling her eyes.
Wow, if you hadn't taken that deep dive at the end, I might have done it myself. Thanks for doing that because I had no idea about Dr. Mary Calderone. What a shame we haven't gotten much further than this nearly 60 years later.
On a side note, I totally understand why they only focused on talking to boys during the girls' segment. I think my mom was brought up that way and when I was a teen in the 90s, that's all she cared about - whether or not I had a boyfriend. And back in the 50s/60s, girls were not growing up with any other goal in mind than to be a wife and mother.
I was raised by my dad and I got my period in 1993 at eleven years old. On thanksgiving. All he had said was it’s normal. No discussion or anything. I thought I was going to die.
That's why schools need to teach it.
@ I went to Catholic school. They taught it when I was in sixth grade, over a year after I started my period
men suck. im sorry that happened to you
Lol we have to bring back calling the endometrium "the nest" 😂. That was great. Also, not to leap to conclusions, but I feel like this "open, honest conversation" about sex is why the 70s were so "peace and love" and that's why folks panicked afterwards and rolled back sex ed to an alarming degree.
Its a nest, and the lining is like a wonderfully prepared collection of blankets and pillows and when no baby comes... Well the uterus throws out all the blankets and pillows in anger 😂
Judging by the timing, I would guess that even more than prudery, it was political. The 80s were when they started pushing anti-abortion fear, and there's lots of documentation about how that was political.
We are absolutely living in a loop. Must be like Dr. Calderone and keep fighting
Damn, that video was surprisingly good. Really nicely done for the parents.
I wish I was told that cramps shouldn't be excessively painful as part of my sex ed. I lived with PCOS and Endometriosis for 15 years before seeking specialist help because I was told by my mother and a GP that "Everyone has painful cramps" and "irregular periods aren't a concern if they've always been like that". Overall my education was pretty thorough and accurate, but I went through a decade and a half thinking everyone had it that bad and I just wasn't as tough as other people, when I could have had treatment to help.
I cannot believe modern sex ed is often so much worse than this video from the 90's. The fact it's encouraging parents to answer questions, with accurate anatomical language and everything, is amazing even by today's standards
Okay...in the 60's, when I was 8; it happened the first time and terrified my parents. They took me to a doctor, spoke in hushed tones behind closed doors. Silence all the way home; they told me to go into the bathroom and shoved a "period kit" with a pamphlet through the door. *eye roll* My daughter got a bit of a hint when she asked about the babies. I got supplies ahead of time. When she was unusually goth level gloomy one day, she admitted. "It started." when she got home from school, I put a half of a chocolate cake,, and three heart shaped red baloons, in her room. I got a side eye. I told her I had initually planned to deliver them to school in the middle of her class. (Yeah, at that point she realized I was joking) We hugged. I shared that the WORST part for me, the first one; was that they told me it was going to happen every month for the rest of my life. I was CRUSHED. So UNFAIR!!. I threw a tarntrum and my parents laughed and laughed. (I was a very quiet little girl....usually)
My daughter knew about periods long before she started. It wasnt a shock or taboo by any standards. She knew it was the lining of her uterus shedding and it was just part of life for many. Even when the topic of sex came up it was nothing uncomfortable. She thought it was disgusting haha i told her thats a totally normal feeling when you first learn about it. Im very thankful we have such an easy time communicating because my goodness is it important.
first of all - your fit & nails matching looks amazing, keep killing it.
going on,, the STILL RELEVANT discussion at the start about parent-child communication was actually so good. it's STILL that way! i'm okay if someone doesn't necessarily want to leave sex ed to a school (it should still be available there!) but it comes with the caveat that you *have to teach your kids* about it, lest you set them up for failure in the future.
also the statement of "masturbation is fine" seems surprisingly ahead of its time
that poor woman learning about periods when she was young...call it a sign of the times, but that's just abuse.
I love how they let that woman show her deep, deep anger, from the way she was treated decades ago. This is a common story, and refusing to listen to all these women who've been hurt is extremely immoral.
This educational video is 10x better than the previous video(s) seen on this channel
"Does it hurt?" *laughs in endo*
My mom just barely told me about periods in time. I started bleeding 3 days later on my seventh birthday.
My son asked me what endo feels like and I said “you know the Wolverine and Deadpool fight scene in the Kia minivan, it’s like that but to a ten”.
I was 15, but got really bad pains for a long time, and even nausea. It was so bad that I had to skip a day of university, and only then, was I told to get help. And the only help I got was being told to take fish oil (which made me more sick) and an iron supplement (which did help).
Laughs in suspected endo as well, seriously thought sex ed was seriously downplaying how painful or not periods could/should be, but then there seem to be a lot of doctors don’t believe they can be debilitating either
My new gp is great, he gave me a "provisional diagnosis" of endo, because my symptoms can't be explained by anything else, but it's not a definitively proven diagnosis. My periods were like someone was scooping out my insides with a rusty fork 😂
@@raenoway and doctors will still say take an Advil and here’s a BC script without any follow up
I went to Catholic schools grades 5-12. I remember getting some info on periods, but nothing more in my junior high, but my high school actually gave us evidence based sex ed, including the contraceptive options that were available back then, their effectiveness under ideal conditions and effectiveness under actual use. They emphasized the fact that natural family planning methods were the only ones sanctioned by the Catholic church, and went into some serious detail on tracking methods. But the fact that they mentioned the other methods with effectiveness rates and side effects was useful to this non-Catholic deciding to use the pill. It wasn't comprehensive, since they never covered pleasure. I got that info by finding a copy of the Hite Report in my parents' basement. Not sure how it got there (having a fun time, mom?) but that taught me enough to eventually figure out masturbation, though that took a while.
If we're talking about development comparisons, some girls worry about breast size and having their period at the same time as their peers. That was why "Are You There God? It's Me, Margaret" was the hot book passed around in 4-5th grade and beyond as I was growing up. And yes, my age group was told that the endometrial tissue was a "nesting place" for an ovum.
You know you're in for a good time when the "educational" video has the distinctive sound from that time period (the kind of quality that was recording then)
Thought about period kits: my girls also really liked practicing how to use a pad beforehand, so they felt like they knew what to do in a very fundamental way and the pads weren’t scary. Also, we talked a lot about how to deal at a very practical level if there’s spots on clothes in different situations as that was a big concern for them (tie a sweater around your waist, go to the school nurse, mom will bring you a change of clothes, etc)
Open communication is so very important. Sometimes talking about hard topics is easier for kids if it's not direct face to face sit down conversation. Talking in the car, while on a walk, while doing stuff around the house or something like that can be easier for them to open up. If it's something you are just not able to talk about for your own reasons, thankfully, we have resources like MDJ to turn to. It's so important to have people like her who care about getting factual information out there and destigmatizing these topics. I love that she's so passionate about education and what she does. I guarantee she's impacted a lot of young people's lives in a huge way.
The "sex-ed" my kids had in school was absolutely terrible. A couple of highlights- don't use condoms because helium leaks out of balloons (with a demo) so condoms don't work- a demonstration using tape and sticking it to multiple people's shirts then being left with a piece of tape that won't stick to show that if you don't wait until marriage you'll be all used up and not be able to bond with your future husband- after sharing gross pictures of STIs insisting that if you have multiple partners you will get these things and then no one will want you and your life will be ruined- I don't remember the specific details of anything else off the top of my head. My kids attended public schools. Had we relied solely on the school for sex-ed, they would not only have received useless information but misinformation from the local crisis center they hired to do this. Some of my daughter's friends in highschool started coming to me with questions, which was much harder than talking to my kids because I didn't want angry parents coming after me. It was hard to navigate through that.
We gave our kids books to look through as they wanted to as well as talking to them. This wasn't a big talk, but talking over time. We gave them books that went more in depth when they were ready for that.
The video from the 60's is so much better than what I was taught in school as well as what my kids were taught.
I admire MDJ for doing TH-cam and helping battle these issues. We have got to get a grip as a society and end all the nonsense surrounding bodily functions. Regardless of the parts a person has, they should understand how the parts they have work as well as how the opposite parts work. It's ridiculous that it's almost 2025 and we're still dealing with this.
Hearing that one woman repeatedly saying the word Nest and then watching DMJ asking why is that so funny to me?!
All I could think of is now I'm definitely not going to be able to NOT laugh whenever I hear someone talk about their smart home NEST devices! 🤣💀
"Honey, you forgot to set the temperature on the NEST before you left today!" I just can't even! 🤣🤣🤣
I definitely was told the blood was a nest as a kid in the 90s. Also my mom totally dropped the ball on teaching me sex Ed in the home. I remember being gaslighted as a young child with my honest questions. Vivid memory of going to the toilet and seeing blood in there. Running to my mom and to tell her about it and asking why there was blood in the toilet. She told 6 year old me “I’ll tell you later.” I waited patiently all day and she never told me later. Or the next day. Or the next. I waited for later for YEARS. When I was 11 we had the female puberty lesson in school and all our moms came and sat to the side watching us while the guest teacher/health care worker told us about periods and I realized that mom never told me later but made me wait for this stranger to tell me why there was blood in the toilet. I hate to say it but I learned that day my mom had lied to me and that I couldn’t trust her to give me this information.
I waited for the school to give me more information on sex Ed but it never came. Every time we had a health class I would wait for when they would get to the sex Ed part and it never came. They literally skipped the chapter and went to the next chapter about STDs without telling us what sex was. I wish I was joking.
When I was getting ready to graduate from high school and I asked my mom why there was school never offered a sex Ed class or section in health or science class. She was all like, “Oh you know your best friend (name). Well 15 years ago her grandparents successfully lobbied the school district to get rid of sex Ed because they believed it should only be taught in the home by the parents.” I was like, “oh but Mom you and Dad didn’t do that either.” She got so red in the face and deer in headlights look and said, “Oh…well you want me to teach you now?” NOOPE. And I left.
I was so mad that I was denied an education. I’d learned I couldn’t trust my parents to teach me. I’d waited patiently for an educator to tell me about it and was denied that because some old fogies got their panties in a twist that they thought they knew what was best for ALL FAMILIES. I swear if I ever meet them I’d spit on those old cronies for what they did.
I'm so sorry! That is so heartbreaking!
This was an amazing video!! I would love to learn more about Dr. Calderone!!
If you think this is in a circle, wait until you start reading/learning about the changing attitudes around sex and gender in the archaeological record! It's been going back and forth like this since before the written word
You’re the reason I’m always willing to answer any questions my guy friends have as long as I have the info! Its surprising how much they don’t know
When I was born in 1941 my ten year old sister was informed by her cousin that her mother had been pregnant and just given birth to her new brother. Those good old days!
Mary Calderone is the patron saint of this channel and I want to learn more! What an amazing woman!
In case you didn’t get an answer about the meaning of BM it means Bowel Movement. We used that term when I was little in stead of saying # 2. I am surprised they are giving this much information that long ago. And speaking to such a young child about sex. I thought the woman explained it well. I am not sure the girl understood what she was talking about. I am 64 I was in middle school in the early 70s and back then boys were very important. We didn’t start to speak about feminism and being independent until I was in high school. Mid 70’s. I graduated in 1978. The girls today don’t seem to be interested in the opposite sex as much as back then, at least that is what I see on TH-cam. I happen to have been very independent. I still am. Many of my classmates were not. Thank you for giving us info. I love to watch your channel.
As an adult I know what a BM is but I’ve never heard of a child knowing that term before! It’s so medical and technical
‘Does it hurt?’ ‘It shouldn’t.’ That’s a great way to make a kid feel comfortable in the moment, then spend months fearing that there’s something dreadfully wrong with them when they find that in fact it does hurt.
I think menstrual pain is hard to explain to a child who's likely never even experienced any kind of cramps before. When a child asks if the bleeding hurts, they may imagine the pain like bleeding from a cut or scrape. Plus, not even all women experience menstrual pain at all, and for those who do there are big differences in severity, frequency, and the location of the pain. Abdominal cramps are the most common, but some girls get back aches or even head aches instead. Some get nausea, diarrhea, or constipation. And some get acne outbreaks, sweatiness, or extra greasy hair. It's pretty hard to prepare a girl for that many possibilities without running the risk of over-scaring them for what might turn out to be no big deal in their case.
@@elisabethb.131 I hear people describing it as the kind of pain you get from being gassy.
We dubbed…MAMA Dr. Jones…the 2nd Grand Dame of Sex Ed.
Doctor Mama Jones, I am a 69 year old man husband and father of two. I truly love and appreciate your incredibly thoughtful and informative podcast. You are a true Angel of information. Thank you for all you are doing.
"Nest", and a generation of girls thought they had feathers inside them. Pads "with wings" made a sort of sense to us. 😂
I wish I'd been told more earlier! When I first started having periods in the 90s, I had no idea what was happening
Also, I love the younger lady in the black dress. She's so chill
Hey, I want to suggest talking about hymens and how they can develop differently. I had some issues with mine. Long story short: my hymen had a band across the vaginal opening, making tampons almost impossible to put in. I didn't know that, and trying to put a tampon was causing WAY more pain than it should've. I would try once or twice a year for about 8yrs, I finally asked my doctor about it because I was watching the show Sex Education and they discuss vaginismus which I thought I might have. Finally saw a gyne who found the band in my hymen almost immediately but at that point I was so sensitive to pain, I had minor surgery to remove it (8mins long lol) and had to do pelvic floor physio since I spent so many years struggling.
I would appreciate you informing people about it in case it happens to them, then they might not have to struggle as much as I did :)
Similar situation; thanks for pointing this out!
This video is so important. My gosh. Thank you for the work you do.
The teenage actors' scenes are something else OMG the writing
my daughter is 5 and we have already started having age appropriate discussions. right now we are talking about names of parts, touches and boundaries. the reason we have already started is that informed kids are less likely to be sxuly assaulted and if so are less likely to keep quiet. my daughter also know what my pads and menstrual cups are for and we brought it up nonchalantly like its a normal everyday thing. it helps that her dad is not fazed by periods and ok with discussing it.
This is incredible! And we think of ourselves as progressive now. 60 years old film is better than what most children nowadays get , at school especially
Your comments 😂
You’re humour always kills me i think you’re my favourite human ever
You should definitely create a series of videos that teach parents how to talk to their kiddos at different ages AND a series to show their kiddos.
I talked to my doctor about my brutal period pains and she just told me it’s normal for some people. An ultrasound found no significant abnormalities so she’s not helped me with it any further. There needs to be more information about what to do when that happens. Women are usually abandoned by their doctor at that point and expected to suffer through it with a hot water bottlw
I'm sorry that happened to you. First line of treatment from my understanding is going on birth control, maybe u can ask about that.
Why do doctors think that ultrasounds can image everything? There are lots of serious problems they can't see. It's like expecting an x-ray to tell you that you have chicken pox. You need a better doctor.
Yeah, there was no sex talk at all in our house. My mom at least gave me a bag of pads and showed me how to use them when Aunt Flo first showed up, but that was it
If it's a "nest" then the egg is "layed" not erupted 😂
This guy reminds me of the narrator on the old show Dragnet.🤣🤣🤣
My oldest daughter had her class recently on puberty and menstruation in 4th grade. They gave them each a zipper pouch of pads and liners. I was surprised. I've had a pair of period underwear in her bag all year but I am glad they did that for all of them and I live in rural Ohio.
The first video was surprisingly modern and I love it, I want more videos like that made
My daughter noticed blood in the toilet one morning. I explained that it was nature's way of letting ladies know that they didn't need to plan on a baby showing up. She was almost 3 and took that in while we showered and got dressed, then asked if it hurt, I said some, and that I sometimes was cranky... she replied that she feels better after a nap, or a snack. So we had breakfast. She's almost 30 with a spouse and 2 kids. Her guy and I were there for both of their first breath. Positive vibes from New Hampshire, remember to be kind to each other and yourself during these trying times.
🙋♀Hi AroAce here, we're the unusual audience you talking about mr.sir 🤣
I'm honestly kind of impressed he even brought up that such an unusual audience may actually exist, and while he said it humorously, he also seemed to say it without judgment
I'm willing to bet she had the reverend involved to try to ward off the kind of attacks that she knew she would get from the religious community. (It sounds like it didn't help.)