This video was going well until the 8min mark when you started misquoting the Quran. The verse doesn't mention loving equally in fact this is the verse {وَإِنۡ خِفۡتُمۡ أَلَّا تُقۡسِطُواْ فِي ٱلۡيَتَٰمَىٰ فَٱنكِحُواْ مَا طَابَ لَكُم مِّنَ ٱلنِّسَآءِ مَثۡنَىٰ وَثُلَٰثَ وَرُبَٰعَۖ فَإِنۡ خِفۡتُمۡ أَلَّا تَعۡدِلُواْ فَوَٰحِدَةً أَوۡ مَا مَلَكَتۡ أَيۡمَٰنُكُمۡۚ ذَٰلِكَ أَدۡنَىٰٓ أَلَّا تَعُولُواْ ٣} { If you fear you might fail to give orphan women their ˹due˺ rights ˹if you were to marry them˺, then marry other women of your choice-two, three, or four. But if you are afraid you will fail to maintain justice, then ˹content yourselves with˺ one or those ˹bondwomen˺ in your possession. This way you are less likely to commit injustice.} So that point you're mentioning about love was just a fabrication. Still on that point about a man not being capable of loving another woman while he married to another. No matter how many children you have you can love all of them and do justice by them. One child might be more intelligent, one might be dutiful to parents, another might be tidy and hard working around the house but that doesn't mean that you now have the inability to love all and do right by them. You might even go a step further and have a favourite / favorites but you can still have love for all. My point is we are not equal in creation, not even identical twins are equal. We have different qualities that my appeal to different people. So loving "equally is impossible" but you can do justice by them and fulfil all their rights without favoritism. So I may be married to a Zimbabwean woman who is just generally more affectionate than the other and that could be something I love her for. The other wife might be a nigerian sister who brings something different to the table and that could be something I really love about her. Stop diminishing love to the Hollywood stereotype we've been fed over decades. Polygyny has been practiced and has been the default preference until the last hundred years, when the west push a monogamous agenda on countries they colonised and invaded. At least in Islam that man MUST take care and look after his wives JUSTLY.
Is never really abput what others think. Is about you hurting another woman's feelings simply to get your own joy. No woman come in destroy my home and expect to be happy.
If she is Christian and he is Muslim they have no business marrying at all. I realized that Muslim men are allowed to marry Christian women. Christian women who want to be obedient to the scriptures will not marry a Muslim man at all. Believers in Christ should only marry other believers in Christ , or you will be asking for trouble. That is whether he is Muslim, or an unbeliever, or a Mormon, or anything else. And so to the point that the young lady was bringing up about raising the kids in a certain religion, we already know that in Islam, the children will be considered Muslim regardless of what the mother is. By definition, the children will be born muslim in their minds. So there is no way for a Christian woman to properly bring up Christian kids married to a Muslim man. It's a no-go.
A person can love more than one person. So if you love one child you can’t love your other children. Or you love one child more than you love your another other child(ren)
I wish that all women's understood the true nature of a man and that God made man to be that way to love more than one woman. Women by nature are monogamous,but men are polygyny. Study the Bible, and you will see that the Most High had no issues with it. Other than that, a man is not supposed to be a whore or sleep with another man's wife. I challenge anyone who can show proof that it's a sin for a man to have more than one wife.
In my normal life dating a marry man is wrong. But when I became friends with a Muslim man who is marry he convinced me that its ok and what he is doing is not wrong. Now I am confuse. What about the feelings of the 1st wife? How does 2nd wife works? If he keeps me a secret then it must be wrong right? These questions are important because we are from different countries, different religion and different languages. It seem like so much to adjust to. I dont think I am ready but as a 36yr female I am worry about not becoming marry in time to give my husband children. He is showing great interest in me, very loving and caring. Sigh
If you don't marry him, now, another woman will marry him, try and accept his faith, and become a better Muslim, if you dispose his faith, your children will be neglected!
Keeping you in secret is wrong, he shouldnt be dating as a married man thats also wrong, it will cause problems if no one tells wife no.1 and she finds out later. Id advise you to look into Islam before marrying him. After all that, wish you all the best in your choice!
Well, it may depend on cultural practices and religious beliefs. In my culture, a man must not hide dating a girl for a second marriage. No family, whether a potential groom or bride, will approve the marriage if the first wife remains unaware. I am a married man, and my wife knows who I am dating. If my wife rejects a particular girl, I must respect her decision and move on to another, or she may even choose a co-wife of her own. When it comes to responsibilities, it is my responsibility to provide them with equal proportions, depending on the number of kids each has. I must treat them equally in love. In today's world, social transformation and beliefs have had an impact on almost everything. But it is up to married people to be cautious about their marriages. What is going on in Kenya is totally wrong. A man dating a girl secretly or even getting married secretly is wrong! Kenyan girls also encourage this practice. because they love their boyfriends. This is bad! Go for marriage if you love a man, but don't choose a man just because of the wealth or support he has for you. This practice must stop; otherwise, women are killing each other now in Kenya because of this practice. Marriages are broken because of this evil practice called boyfriend-girlfriend.
Believe me if he's a good muslim he'll be a good husband for you even he has other wife. I'm a muslim man if I married another wife I'll treat her well. But make sure is he treats his first wife fair. Then he'll treat you well.
They said to send a DM to them on Facebook or an email to Jessica. Watch another video of theirs on TH-cam. She usually shows how to send the message in the beginning
You mention that he is MUSLIM, but he is committing adultery. She is already helping him commit adultery. She allowed him to try her out to see if she is wifey material. She has to remember she has rights as well. She said that she loves him, not the other way around. maybe his lies are catching up to him.
I’m trying to figure out why are y’all portraying this to be a Muslim thing in the Old Testament king Solomon was no Muslim but he 700 wives plus 300 concubines and God blessed him greatly so stop it Abraham had Sarah and concubines( side chics) he’s not Muslim
Imma keep it sweet, the same way he found you after number 1 is the same way number 3snd 4 will come… come to Christ who knows you because he made you and he said one man and one woman, no need to ask because it’s clear like the love of Christ is clear…
Your message is misleading, and you will remain misled in your life. This refers to a colonial or Western perspective. The Bible provides guidance on relationships and families without explicitly stating that marriage is only between a man and a woman. Be cautious of those who pose as religious leaders for their own benefit and mislead others. According to some interpretations, our ancestors were blessed with multiple partners, leading to a close relationship with God. Today, some believe that societal changes and modern interpretations have distanced us from our spiritual connection, leading to beliefs that may seem disconnected from traditional practices. Individuals who claim a divine calling in the church may pose risks.
The way shes acting, shes already his second wife without making it official. If she had issue being a second wife, why would she be the secret mistress of a married man.
I am a Muslim ☪️ and from Somalia 🇸🇴 my grandfather had 4 wives and I have a lot of aunts and uncles. A huge large family 👪
Lol it also depends on the first wife - does she approve. If she doesn’t want that type of marriage then don’t ruin another woman’s home.
This video was going well until the 8min mark when you started misquoting the Quran. The verse doesn't mention loving equally in fact this is the verse
{وَإِنۡ خِفۡتُمۡ أَلَّا تُقۡسِطُواْ فِي ٱلۡيَتَٰمَىٰ فَٱنكِحُواْ مَا طَابَ لَكُم مِّنَ ٱلنِّسَآءِ مَثۡنَىٰ وَثُلَٰثَ وَرُبَٰعَۖ فَإِنۡ خِفۡتُمۡ أَلَّا تَعۡدِلُواْ فَوَٰحِدَةً أَوۡ مَا مَلَكَتۡ أَيۡمَٰنُكُمۡۚ ذَٰلِكَ أَدۡنَىٰٓ أَلَّا تَعُولُواْ ٣}
{ If you fear you might fail to give orphan women their ˹due˺ rights ˹if you were to marry them˺, then marry other women of your choice-two, three, or four. But if you are afraid you will fail to maintain justice, then ˹content yourselves with˺ one or those ˹bondwomen˺ in your possession. This way you are less likely to commit injustice.}
So that point you're mentioning about love was just a fabrication.
Still on that point about a man not being capable of loving another woman while he married to another. No matter how many children you have you can love all of them and do justice by them. One child might be more intelligent, one might be dutiful to parents, another might be tidy and hard working around the house but that doesn't mean that you now have the inability to love all and do right by them. You might even go a step further and have a favourite / favorites but you can still have love for all.
My point is we are not equal in creation, not even identical twins are equal. We have different qualities that my appeal to different people. So loving "equally is impossible" but you can do justice by them and fulfil all their rights without favoritism.
So I may be married to a Zimbabwean woman who is just generally more affectionate than the other and that could be something I love her for. The other wife might be a nigerian sister who brings something different to the table and that could be something I really love about her.
Stop diminishing love to the Hollywood stereotype we've been fed over decades.
Polygyny has been practiced and has been the default preference until the last hundred years, when the west push a monogamous agenda on countries they colonised and invaded.
At least in Islam that man MUST take care and look after his wives JUSTLY.
Is never really abput what others think. Is about you hurting another woman's feelings simply to get your own joy. No woman come in destroy my home and expect to be happy.
If your family unit is strong and healthy, then your making a good choice. Work together for better.
If she is Christian and he is Muslim they have no business marrying at all. I realized that Muslim men are allowed to marry Christian women. Christian women who want to be obedient to the scriptures will not marry a Muslim man at all. Believers in Christ should only marry other believers in Christ , or you will be asking for trouble. That is whether he is Muslim, or an unbeliever, or a Mormon, or anything else. And so to the point that the young lady was bringing up about raising the kids in a certain religion, we already know that in Islam, the children will be considered Muslim regardless of what the mother is. By definition, the children will be born muslim in their minds. So there is no way for a Christian woman to properly bring up Christian kids married to a Muslim man. It's a no-go.
Agreed
Good and fair advice, thanks for sharing!!!
Beautiful video. Thank you Sisters ❤️
Run and don’t look back. Why do you want to be in a slave-master relationship?
Interesting intake. Don’t most married husband have a fling/mistress outside anyhow and hiding about it?
Some but not most. At least not where I live. Adultery used to call for stoning.
A person can love more than one person. So if you love one child you can’t love your other children. Or you love one child more than you love your another other child(ren)
That's a different kind of love. The love you have for your children is a different love that you have for your spouse.
Yeah, as you said if a man can love more than one person and a woman can love more than one person to.
Run 🏃
I wish that all women's understood the true nature of a man and that God made man to be that way to love more than one woman. Women by nature are monogamous,but men are polygyny. Study the Bible, and you will see that the Most High had no issues with it. Other than that, a man is not supposed to be a whore or sleep with another man's wife. I challenge anyone who can show proof that it's a sin for a man to have more than one wife.
Tell them...they are being misled by the msungu mindset.
Run run run
It not easy as you say 😢
In my normal life dating a marry man is wrong. But when I became friends with a Muslim man who is marry he convinced me that its ok and what he is doing is not wrong. Now I am confuse. What about the feelings of the 1st wife? How does 2nd wife works? If he keeps me a secret then it must be wrong right?
These questions are important because we are from different countries, different religion and different languages. It seem like so much to adjust to. I dont think I am ready but as a 36yr female I am worry about not becoming marry in time to give my husband children. He is showing great interest in me, very loving and caring. Sigh
Don't rush and have a strong Spiritual life before any man or woman.
Omg this is the same exact im going through right at this moment I’m very confused if I should marry this guy or not
If you don't marry him, now, another woman will marry him, try and accept his faith, and become a better Muslim, if you dispose his faith, your children will be neglected!
Keeping you in secret is wrong, he shouldnt be dating as a married man thats also wrong, it will cause problems if no one tells wife no.1 and she finds out later. Id advise you to look into Islam before marrying him. After all that, wish you all the best in your choice!
Well, it may depend on cultural practices and religious beliefs. In my culture, a man must not hide dating a girl for a second marriage. No family, whether a potential groom or bride, will approve the marriage if the first wife remains unaware. I am a married man, and my wife knows who I am dating. If my wife rejects a particular girl, I must respect her decision and move on to another, or she may even choose a co-wife of her own. When it comes to responsibilities, it is my responsibility to provide them with equal proportions, depending on the number of kids each has. I must treat them equally in love. In today's world, social transformation and beliefs have had an impact on almost everything. But it is up to married people to be cautious about their marriages. What is going on in Kenya is totally wrong. A man dating a girl secretly or even getting married secretly is wrong! Kenyan girls also encourage this practice. because they love their boyfriends. This is bad! Go for marriage if you love a man, but don't choose a man just because of the wealth or support he has for you. This practice must stop; otherwise, women are killing each other now in Kenya because of this practice. Marriages are broken because of this evil practice called boyfriend-girlfriend.
Thanks alot for sharing 😊🙏
I’m passing through the same thing 😢 but I like him
Believe me if he's a good muslim he'll be a good husband for you even he has other wife. I'm a muslim man if I married another wife I'll treat her well. But make sure is he treats his first wife fair. Then he'll treat you well.
I prefer how rhe jews do it. No dating. Meet once talk and then arranged through a type of guardian.
Thanks alot for sharing
Hello, how do we write to the sister sister show please?
They said to send a DM to them on Facebook or an email to Jessica. Watch another video of theirs on TH-cam. She usually shows how to send the message in the beginning
Why must almost only coloured women deal with this issue? This seems to be not a moslem theme, but a African-Men-Theme...
Girl Arabs and desi do it too
Sisters wen I saw u r not muslims I thout u wre not gonna giv helpful ideas.bt u ladies r smrt. Thnks 4 tht # 1 wth red Vail. All of u anyway
You mention that he is MUSLIM, but he is committing adultery. She is already helping him commit adultery. She allowed him to try her out to see if she is wifey material. She has to remember she has rights as well. She said that she loves him, not the other way around. maybe his lies are catching up to him.
You don't understand what adultery is?
Sister, she may be a Christian and a Muslim man is allowed to marry a Christian or Jewish woman.
I’m trying to figure out why are y’all portraying this to be a Muslim thing in the Old Testament king Solomon was no Muslim but he 700 wives plus 300 concubines and God blessed him greatly so stop it Abraham had Sarah and concubines( side chics) he’s not Muslim
Imma keep it sweet, the same way he found you after number 1 is the same way number 3snd 4 will come… come to Christ who knows you because he made you and he said one man and one woman, no need to ask because it’s clear like the love of Christ is clear…
Your message is misleading, and you will remain misled in your life. This refers to a colonial or Western perspective. The Bible provides guidance on relationships and families without explicitly stating that marriage is only between a man and a woman. Be cautious of those who pose as religious leaders for their own benefit and mislead others. According to some interpretations, our ancestors were blessed with multiple partners, leading to a close relationship with God. Today, some believe that societal changes and modern interpretations have distanced us from our spiritual connection, leading to beliefs that may seem disconnected from traditional practices. Individuals who claim a divine calling in the church may pose risks.
The way shes acting, shes already his second wife without making it official. If she had issue being a second wife, why would she be the secret mistress of a married man.
Just. Go break another. Women’s heart. And. Just he will see you 2 days. And yes he will said same for. For her. Its alieee