Darlene is the best on Codependency. I started with a food disorder, then alcohol, then bulimia and all the while addicted to relationships. My eating disorder is gone , I don’t drink but I’m just over withdrawal from a person. She also talks about not becoming an individual in childhood. You never develop a self.
Darlene is my hero. I started reading her books, especially Codependency and Shame, and I still read it over and over and over. It is so rich, I continue to learn how to unpack my codependency!
I agree with your perspectives. I have experienced this dynamic as NPD(dependent)=BPD(codependent). I was the stage manager since birth for Mentally ill parents who had many traumas from many generations. I can provoke qbout 70 percent of the people I interact with into a NPD or a BPD. The patterns I needed to understand as a child for survival. These enviroments are everywhere _ most people are kindof unaware of the patterns. I was Around 60 when the awakening happened_ a kundalini attack from a psychopath forced me unto this awareness_ literally put a knife into my self esteem.
Codependency is toxic. Full stop. Its basically just an ego dystonic narcissist who realizes they're undercompensating for shame and therefore ends up in a shame spiral. A codependent person looks to their partner to repair their self-esteem, alleviate their pain, and complete their inner emptiness. What ends up happening is that the partner cannot be the person they are. Instead, they are forced to fulfill a role the codependent person has chosen for them, i.e., to provide unconditional love and security. Yet, there is never enough love.
Your comment sounds like an unusually awful experience with a codependent who may have also had a personality disorder. You are correct to some extent, but it's also a question of degrees. No one forces anyone do something, and codependents aren't narcissists. They don't come anywhere near meeting the criteria for NPD; although the reverse is true.
I never thought of thanking Trump for cracking open the world to Abuse. Thanks Trumpy if u every need a 'get out of jail card '_ I got a pocket of Jokers u can buy for the right Price.
Actually America was better all around with Trumpy as President. Jobs for every minority was better economy was better less wars inflation was better. A President is Commander of the military. We would all be worshipping Alah if we didn't have some narcissistic tendencies in our military leaders because the rest of the world don't care how we feel. I don't want Trumpy my therapist or my Pastor but President heck yeah!! Better moral society is the outcome even if it takes a narcissist. Thats hard for some to digest but just think about our soldiers, we don't want empathetic soldiers we want killers. Its sad the world is really that way, it is not a fairy tale, it is a brutal world. Always has always will be. But thank God we have our military to protect us so we can live decent moral lives in safety becoming more empathetic and in touch with the truth about ourselves. But we must have killers to protect us from those who want to kill us like 9/11
Darlene is the best on Codependency. I started with a food disorder, then alcohol, then bulimia and all the while addicted to relationships. My eating disorder is gone , I don’t drink but I’m just over withdrawal from a person. She also talks about not becoming an individual in childhood. You never develop a self.
Darlene is my hero. I started reading her books, especially Codependency and Shame, and I still read it over and over and over. It is so rich, I continue to learn how to unpack my codependency!
I'm very glad you found my book helpful!
I agree with your perspectives. I have experienced this dynamic as NPD(dependent)=BPD(codependent).
I was the stage manager since birth for
Mentally ill parents who had many traumas from many generations. I can provoke qbout 70 percent of the people I interact with into a NPD or a BPD. The patterns I needed to understand as a child for survival. These enviroments are everywhere _ most people are kindof unaware of the patterns. I was Around 60 when the awakening happened_ a kundalini attack from a psychopath forced me unto this awareness_ literally put a knife into my self esteem.
Good luck with the kundalini. Emotions and trauma will wreak havoc with it.
Sounds like the 4 Attachment Styles
Read more about attachment styles on my website: whatiscodependency.com/change-your-attachment-style/
Codependency is toxic. Full stop. Its basically just an ego dystonic narcissist who realizes they're undercompensating for shame and therefore ends up in a shame spiral.
A codependent person looks to their partner to repair their self-esteem, alleviate their pain, and complete their inner emptiness. What ends up happening is that the partner cannot be the person they are. Instead, they are forced to fulfill a role the codependent person has chosen for them, i.e., to provide unconditional love and security. Yet, there is never enough love.
Your comment sounds like an unusually awful experience with a codependent who may have also had a personality disorder. You are correct to some extent, but it's also a question of degrees. No one forces anyone do something, and codependents aren't narcissists. They don't come anywhere near meeting the criteria for NPD; although the reverse is true.
Codependents are often attracted to Narcissists .
I never thought of thanking Trump for cracking open the world to Abuse. Thanks Trumpy if u every need a 'get out of jail card '_ I got a pocket of Jokers u can buy for the right Price.
Actually America was better all around with Trumpy as President. Jobs for every minority was better economy was better less wars inflation was better. A President is Commander of the military. We would all be worshipping Alah if we didn't have some narcissistic tendencies in our military leaders because the rest of the world don't care how we feel.
I don't want Trumpy my therapist or my Pastor but President heck yeah!! Better moral society is the outcome even if it takes a narcissist. Thats hard for some to digest but just think about our soldiers, we don't want empathetic soldiers we want killers.
Its sad the world is really that way, it is not a fairy tale, it is a brutal world. Always has always will be. But thank God we have our military to protect us so we can live decent moral lives in safety becoming more empathetic and in touch with the truth about ourselves. But we must have killers to protect us from those who want to kill us like 9/11