I love (although it will be difficult for me!) the process of waiting a few days to switch roles. It slows down or eliminates the reactivity, or maybe puts it into perspective. The reality is listening doesn't need a response from me. A lesson I need to learn! Thank you!
I’m trying to decide if having my introvert wife talk for 15 minutes or me listening that long is going to be more difficult. Seriously though, I brought it up to her and she was the one that said that about herself. I think my inability to listen is very connected to my reactivity and has contributed to her unwillingness (not inability) to talk. This was very helpful and I want to learn how to train myself to listen to her better. I love how you made it about connection. Thanks again for your ministry.
Terri we appreciate you being with us and we too are anxious to hear how it goes with you and your husband. Listening, to know and being known is a transformative gift for our relationships. May it bless you both Bucky
Being a retired counselor, if there is such a creature, your program today is so needed. My husband's mom just passed this morning, about 7:15cst. My gifts will be tested, soon. Thank you guys🙏🏻⚘️🕊
We are so deeply sorry to hear of your husband's mother journey to Jesus' arms - may you find peace and comfort during this difficult season Our thoughts and prayers are with us Bucky
Hi John, This format of discussion is terrific.. It becomes more personal without being too intrusive. The silent periods are for pondering, analysing and reacting ....Non-Verbal communication, if you like...A very useful tool when dealing with complex issues... I loved it... Took a great deal from this discussion...Thanks for all the nuances that I am gleaning... It is still dodgy here in UK weather wise...Today, Dull , grey, cold winds and no Christmas Cheer apart from your podcast..... As always, Thanks for all that you all do...Arnold. (UK).🙂🤕🙏💅
Interesting research and perspective. It's funny thinking about Zachariah while listening to the Dr. I would love to hear about a control group that didn't say anything to each other but showed up for 15 minutes. Then, about a group that showed up and listened for 15 minutes but didn't take notes. Then, compare it to this group that showed up for 15 minutes, listened, and took notes. Then, a group that didn't bring it up a week later compared to a group that did bring it up a week later. Zachariah really had to go through all these steps for the time he was waiting for JTB to be born.
Thank you John and Rick ! Will practice this with my dearest oldest friend coming for Christmas. We have talked and listened to each other on the phone over the years for thousands of hours I imagine and have gotten the hang of it, sort of. I’m way better at talking than listening !! God bless you ❤️
So good! Thx! I think this will be so good for me. Realizing I’m way more reactive than I would’ve guessed. Can’t wait to do this work:). I would love to hear more. I have a couple of questions:). B/N continues to be such an encouragement and amazing resource for me. Thanks guys!! You too Dr. Rick- you’ve never laid eyes on me, but I feel like you’re family:) Blessings:)
Interesting. Hey, have you ever thought about doing a weekly podcast? I like the daily thoughts, because they are available in short bursts. I think you would be very successful with a longer podcast as well.
I’m wondering if part of listening to God could be reading Scripture? At some point could Dr Rick apply this to one’s connecting to one’s self? Thank you all!!
Are there parameters to what the sharer is talking about? Is it only in relationship to the other person or could it be how you felt about random daily matters?
I think for a lot of us being “slow to speak and slow to anger” (James 1:19) requires that we train ourselves, with God’s help of course, to respond to ppl in a way that maintains dignity - often in our initial reactions, that line can be easily crossed. This exercise allows time to think before we speak which to me seems to be the difference.
I love (although it will be difficult for me!) the process of waiting a few days to switch roles. It slows down or eliminates the reactivity, or maybe puts it into perspective. The reality is listening doesn't need a response from me. A lesson I need to learn! Thank you!
Listening is so powerful Mary - yes it slows us down and engage Be Blessed Bucky
Thank you John & Rick ! !
You are most welcome Rose - thank you for being part of our Become New Community Bucky
Great discussion & so appreciate it. I get so triggered in conversations & will apply this to listen better & stay quiet.
Glad it was helpful - be still and engage in listening is a powerful transformative experience Be well Bucky
Oh wow!! Thank you Rick and John! This was powerful!🙏❤️
You are welcome Tracy we are grateful for Rick to share his insights and experiences with us - it helps us all grow. Blessings Bucky
I’m trying to decide if having my introvert wife talk for 15 minutes or me listening that long is going to be more difficult.
Seriously though, I brought it up to her and she was the one that said that about herself. I think my inability to listen is very connected to my reactivity and has contributed to her unwillingness (not inability) to talk.
This was very helpful and I want to learn how to train myself to listen to her better. I love how you made it about connection.
Thanks again for your ministry.
This is so honest, and so true of many of us spouses. I'm happy it was helpful. I hope you both have a wonderful Christmas. - Brad
I’m REALLY grateful for this episode today! Thank you for such practical & helpful input as we gather with our families & friends for Christmas!
Glad it was helpful Diane - may you have a peace and loving Christmas as you gather with your friends and family We are grateful for you Bucky
This was awesome. I took notes! I’m anxious to try this with my husband. So thankful for these gems everyday.
Terri we appreciate you being with us and we too are anxious to hear how it goes with you and your husband. Listening, to know and being known is a transformative gift for our relationships. May it bless you both Bucky
Wha a great dialogue message .we need this now. Thanks do much.
Glad you liked it Gayle - it is a practice we all can be better at Thanks for sharing Bucky
Being a retired counselor, if there is such a creature, your program today is so needed. My husband's mom just passed this morning, about 7:15cst. My gifts will be tested, soon. Thank you guys🙏🏻⚘️🕊
We are so deeply sorry to hear of your husband's mother journey to Jesus' arms - may you find peace and comfort during this difficult season Our thoughts and prayers are with us Bucky
@BecomeNew I'm so thankful God lead me to BecomeNew🙏🏻🕊⚘️
Great message- thank you for asking how that can be applied in our knowing God and being known by Him.
You are so welcome Linda - knowing God and being know - So beautiful to meditate and reflect on Bucky
Rejoice
Can’t Wait to try this with my wife.
Love you guys
Good luck Kelly - may your relationship with you and your wife be blessed abundantly Bucky
This is so great for family & friends too!
Totally great for family and friends Patricia - feel free to share We appreciate you being with us We are grateful Bucky
@BecomeNew , Thank you! I share on my Facebook page & email to a few people!
Thank you! This is quite timely for me.
Glad it was helpful Andree - we appreciate you being with us on our Advent journey together Bucky
Amen 🙏🏾
And Amen!! Have a blessed day Johnny Bucky
Excellent! Thank you for such great content that is so practical on so many levels! Merry Christmas!
Merry Christmas to you, Anna! - Brad
15/5 great insights on listening skills. Receptivity
It's always nice seeing your comments. :) I hope you have a Merry Christmas! - Brad
Hi John,
This format of discussion is terrific.. It becomes more personal without being too intrusive. The silent periods are for pondering, analysing and reacting ....Non-Verbal communication, if you like...A very useful tool when dealing with complex issues...
I loved it... Took a great deal from this discussion...Thanks for all the nuances that I am gleaning...
It is still dodgy here in UK weather wise...Today, Dull , grey, cold winds and no Christmas Cheer apart from your podcast.....
As always, Thanks for all that you all do...Arnold. (UK).🙂🤕🙏💅
Arnold, I'm in Virginia and it's currently cold, foggy, rainy, and your note has brought me Christmas cheer! :) Thanks for sharing with us. - Brad
Interesting research and perspective. It's funny thinking about Zachariah while listening to the Dr. I would love to hear about a control group that didn't say anything to each other but showed up for 15 minutes. Then, about a group that showed up and listened for 15 minutes but didn't take notes. Then, compare it to this group that showed up for 15 minutes, listened, and took notes. Then, a group that didn't bring it up a week later compared to a group that did bring it up a week later. Zachariah really had to go through all these steps for the time he was waiting for JTB to be born.
Good idea, Thomas. He really did go through the steps as he waited. Merry Christmas! - Brad
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Thank you for always being present with us Danielle - Blessings Bucky
Such a great lesson in reactivity, unfortunately one of my gifts. Thank you!
Glad you enjoyed the lesson Susan - we are grateful for you joining us Bucky
Thank you John and Rick ! Will practice this with my dearest oldest friend coming for Christmas. We have talked and listened to each other on the phone over the years for thousands of hours I imagine and have gotten the hang of it, sort of. I’m way better at talking than listening !! God bless you ❤️
Jeanne so glad you enjoyed Dr. Rick - may it bless you and your dearest friend abundantly this Christmas season and always Bucky
So good! Thx! I think this will be so good for me. Realizing I’m way more reactive than I would’ve guessed. Can’t wait to do this work:).
I would love to hear more. I have a couple of questions:).
B/N continues to be such an encouragement and amazing resource for me. Thanks guys!!
You too Dr. Rick- you’ve never laid eyes on me, but I feel like you’re family:)
Blessings:)
We love these notes, Darin. Become New really has become a family. - Brad
Interesting. Hey, have you ever thought about doing a weekly podcast? I like the daily thoughts, because they are available in short bursts. I think you would be very successful with a longer podcast as well.
Thanks for the suggestion Julie - I will definitely pass it along Thanks for sharing your day with us Bucky
I’m wondering if part of listening to God could be reading Scripture? At some point could Dr Rick apply this to one’s connecting to one’s self?
Thank you all!!
Thanks mommorkus for the suggestion - it will certainly be passed on - thanks for sharing Bucky
Are there parameters to what the sharer is talking about? Is it only in relationship to the other person or could it be how you felt about random daily matters?
I need to save this and share this with my husband. Did your guest have his ideas n a book?
Gayle sharing with your husband is a great idea - Dr. Rick was sharing his past experiences - Bucky
Isn’t reactive a responding to what someone says? Why is this negative.
I think for a lot of us being “slow to speak and slow to anger” (James 1:19) requires that we train ourselves, with God’s help of course, to respond to ppl in a way that maintains dignity - often in our initial reactions, that line can be easily crossed. This exercise allows time to think before we speak which to me seems to be the difference.