I have been watching hello counselor for years and what yeongja said was true. Dongyeop has never been this frustrated, he's usually calm listening to the concerns, but in this one, he just spit it out. You can see how frustrated he is
It's really not about who has it or who doesn't, the point is some humans handle it different and can take it better. Just like some people could break and arm and barley bat an eye and some people stub their toe and cry.... Different levels, different personalities and people. That's what makes humans.
Woman : my husband spends money endlessly, has drinking habit, smokes, violent, doesn't care about his own family..... Me as an mc : ok stop. You two follow me. Let's get your divorce paper at the nearest courthouse.
this be me with literally every family. i feel bad for the kids but it's for their mental health. having a sick in the head parent won't help them. so i would probably prepare divorce papers for any couple or family going on this program (where the parents are the troubled ones) and bitch sign that shit
No, it is impossible to get a score of 200. They said it in one episode, the maschine cant take all 200 votes in because there are too many and toi little time or something like that
I'm happy that they actually consulted the psychiatrist and confirmed that she had depression, to make the dad understand. Hopefully the dad will change.
Yeah. What made me angry was he compared himself with his daughter and then said that (and I’m paraphrasing) “she’s fine. She will get over it like I am” 😤 She is a child. She doesn’t understand why she feels like that. And if things carry on like this she will be miserable later. 😡
depressed people tend to be self-centered (im sorry i dont know how to make it more polite). but he take it the wrong way. his hobby is used as his medication which not actually work effectively but turned as obsession. he think he's fine but no, he too, need professional help. this is the worst case of depression when he's hurting a lot of people by it.
Working at a hospital, I see countless female colleagues working 18hr shifts, high stress jobs, and they still go home, cook food, do household chores, send their kids to school, etc. I have NEVER seen them neglect their family due to stress. Stress is not an excuse, and if youre burnt out, seek therapy, take time off from work, dont make people suffer.
He is not only a bad husband, he is the worst person ever. Please people if you feel like you are not ready to show love & spend time & money for your own family stay on your own.
when the little girl said that the tree wil die end that it cant be helped i broke down crying!!!!! thats absolutely not what has to be on a childs mind!!!!!
My ex husband was worse.lol.i earned double than him and paid for my clothes,flights,house rent,meds,furniture and paid off his loans and then him and his family said am money minded cz i refused to give my whole salary to them.they expected me to send the entire month's salary to them whilst my ex wanted to control how much of my own money I could spend.he said he was surprised how come my salary was not his money
you have to marry one! My husband crazy if he can't go fishing he spend a lot of money to buy fishing gear and he has another hobby where he spending a lot of money too.
Its not just about fishing, its about all the process into it and how the place where you fish Is calm and usually with a nice view and you just hear the sea/lake and birds while you relax and wait... You'll only understand if you're a person that stresses a lot
I’m always so scared for the people who requested help on this show because what if something happens to them once they get home and no ones there to watch what action the problem maker makes? He sounds really controlling and abusive even towards his kids.
Literally what I was about to say, this is just a show, who knows what goes on at home, he does show signs of control and abuse in a way and I really hope they’re all well and maybe on their own, bc being with him seems worst then being by yourself with 3 and now 4 kids
I've heard that if the concern is great enough, they receive some kind of after care from the show. I don't know if that's true but I hope so, and in that case this is definitely of high enough concern to receive it.
Nope no nope. I know it would be extremely difficult but she cannot freaking stay with this guy. HE KICKED HER IN THE STOMACH. She needs to leave him immediately. For her own safety
“While we were asleep” she got kicked in the stomach. Being a wild sleeper isn’t violence. If the kids mentioned it I would worry. But the kids didn’t mention it. I wish the police arrested him for DUI for being asleep on the road in the car after drinking.
I've never wanted to get married or have children, but after watching "Hello Counselor" for the last four years, that feeling has increased one-hundredfold. This show is like birth control. Some of these spouses are a hot mess. If they're not alcoholic, then they're selfish; if they're not selfish, then they are (verbally)abusive; and if they're not abusive, then they're just so, so incredibly immature. 🤦♀️ I almost flipped the table after his remarks @18:26.
Try to watch superman returns( dads and kids's show) then😁 this show is kinda a problem solver show or something of course most of the families or merried couples that you saw have problems within them..it's not that bad to getting merried if you choose a right one and do it with trust and responbility respect and care for each others..it is depend on us how our marriage life will be tho😁
I still want to get married but this show does help me to recognize red flags for abuse/neglect in a relationship, and define what i don't want in my future spouse!
@@amiwu517 the thing about superman is that they are nit like filmed 24h a day, its planned wich days they are going to film and then the dads can plan what they are gonna do that day. They spend more time with the kids, yes, but is not the same. And also realize that still have some celebrityes that have shown in the shiw but still they divorced later (not the stay casting but the vists) Anyway hello counselor touches more real life than there, here there is just facts and there is a show, planned so... But its true, after this i go there to watch a little so i dont get too scared of geting married but still i dont hace the dream of it too. XD
The tree picture was the scariest. She said the tree will die and there is nothing that can help it. That's really scary. I can't imagine what her world must look like. I'm wondering if she had suicide thoughts yet or violent thoughts :O or convinced her sisters to do weird or scary things.
I keep thinking she reflected the tree as herself- like how most artist sometimes personalize their drawing and make them more like themselves. Also the fact that she is the oldest and most of the time the younger siblings follow meaning they will probably also get affected and follow with her way of thinking
I'm refraining myself so much from writing here. It's been a long time since I left one but when it comes to kids, I can't help it. Little Hanbyeol is surrounded by her little sisters that I felt a bit relieved because they look like they get along well. As someone that used to be depressed, isn't it possible for him to empathize more of her and run to her when the result came out? Be more attentive of her actions, words or thoughts? Because once you're in a bad place, you'll be everywhere to stop any of your beloved ones to be in the same state because you yourself felt of how horrible that place is? She isn't as cheerful as the other kid, she only speaks one word at a time, being asked. She won't be able to start a conversation if no one approached her first. She's probably the one walking by herself when mom's hands were occupied with a fishing rod and her two other kids. How scary would that be because you have no one to hold, walking on the street with a lot of harmful things with her mom, could be yelling for her to walk faster or walk closer to them. And at home being the eldest, she's probably entrusted with a lot of things to do, as little as playing with her other siblings when she wasn't feeling like she want to. Hearing your parents unlimited fights and shouts, it tore a kids' heart more than anyone could imagine. When he said that it's too expensive for a $30 treatment/therapy cost, I died inside. How could you as a father is soooooo selfish?! You worked hard, yeah, props to you. But where all the money goes? $2500 a month for fishing trips and $30 therapy you called it expensive. Then you expected your kid to find her own way out of the situation, herself, an 8 years old little daughter. I could fit 80, $30 therapy sessions in that fishing cost. Which could help an innocent kid breathe a new life and have faith that life is a beautiful thing and feeling loved by the closest people in her life. Please protect her after this, Mr Dad. Then I'll give my respect to you.
I still won't respect him. I'd acknowledge him as a person yes but no respect for him. It's good he's noticed his problem but the type of stubborn person he is he won't last long with his promise.
I rarely type any comments but this case really really upset me. I doubt that this man will ever change. The poor wife that has to go through all of this and he keeps blaming her/ not realizing that he is wrong. It really is sad that the little girl at the age of 8 is going through depression. Depression is hell and she shouldnt be experiencing this at such a young age. He should get his shit together and finally care for his family. Help his daughter to get the necessary treatment and be there for his family. This is so sad.
When the child told the professional that the tree would die over time.... It's true, but it made me so sad that it was the first thing in her mind. An optimistic child would've said it'll grow or make fruits over time. I hope she gets help and lots of love.
Their daughters are so lovely. I just hope their situation gets situated fast. They're too precious. Them _and_ their mom for having to _be_ in such a position!
I appreciated that a professional was consulted for this concern. After seeing the clips of his daughter's session, the dad was able to see that something has to change for his children to thrive. I hope that this family will go to counseling.
The wife have seen a red flag on her first pregnancy but still have more kids. The sad part is the kids are the most affected of everything. If that was me if my husband did not help me on my first pregnancy, I would never let him touch me and get pregnant again, i dont care if he will divorce me atleast my priority then is my child...what a b....rd husband .
I don't think she really has a choice... divorce is a taboo topic in korea. It'll make the first child ostracized too. Either way she hasn't got a choice and her kids will suffer still
Am I the only one who can see that the dad seems to have an anti-social personality dissorder? I don't have the qualifications to say so but he should undergo some evaluation because his actions are exteremly callous, he's giving lame exuses without any feeling of guilt and his regret was only obvious when his was shamed on national tv by his daughter's innocent drawing. He seems far too smug for anything. He is also obsessed with himself- the way he carries himself, spends on himself and doesn't care about his family- this natural way of treating his family like his tools is just... pathetic. I am so frustrated, angry and sad after watching this episode. I am also surprised that when the mother talked about the story when she had her first child, her parents-in-law also seem to not have reacted or helped with her. Also the people who are generalizing all Korean men to be bad, this is just one case. Yes, their families are very patriarchal and children may not have much freedom. None-the-less, they are extremely family oriented in every tradtion. But your evaluation is based on the culture you come from which is obviously non-Asian. For Asians, this is very normal. What makes this family's sitation particularly bad isn't because he's patriarchal. It's because he's totaly impersonal with his own blood. He cannot see how serous the problem is and how much suffering he is causing. This problem is far more serious than can be handled in this program, in one session. and needs more intervention by mental healthcare professionals. The entire family really have it tough and I pray their situation improves. My heart bleeds for them. Asian society is very harsh on single mothers and they blame everything on the woman very easily. Atleast with this program, it was outed how serious the problem is and might get them some help.
Exactly what i thought. And it leads me to one question. Is it not common for korean woman to take any birth control pil? I mean there are some cases where wife got so frustated with their husband, yet they got 3 kids or more. If i got stress from my husband since my 1st pregnancy, then i am gonna protect myself not to have more kids with him. Because the stress obviously can affect the kids as well.
@@someday29 I am not sure but it could be that way. But it's also possible the husband pressured the wife or she faced some other familial pressure. Having many children is seen as a good thing in Asian cultures even if it may not be essentially a good thing in the real world. 'one big happy family' idea
@HijoPlay So she can get a job now! That excuse isnt good enough,she should have thought about that before she had 4 innocent babies that deserve better!
Women should pay more attention to their education and have financial freedom. So they can leave, earn and live their life on their own when they end up with a jerk like him.
That man is a creepy person i think, with his innocent intonation explaining his bad behavior without feeling sorry doing that. Omg, so creepy. And.. Just stop having kids. Your man isn't capable being a good husband and a good dad.
those kids is so precious and pretty. i hope he can change his attitude and his craziness for fishing because he actually hurting the whole family. i cant stand this guys even for a while i dnt understand how his wife cope with this for 8years already
Their daughters are beautiful and it shocked me when Hanbyeol just said that she won't live in the house she had drawn and the tree would die. I meant, normal kids would happily draw their family members in the gouse, flowers all over the place and they would cheerfully added 'the tree will grow so big in the future!' with cute eyes drawn on the tree. I really hope Hanbyeol gets treatment and the parents to reconcile. Childhood life is very important and once you ruin it there's no coming back. I hope the husband don't waste this second chance.
I cried so much, because this is exactly how my family is. I literally hear her talking about my father and I see my mother when she talks about herself.
I don't know if you get this message or not becuz it's been 4 years since you commented but I want to write this : I hope your mum get all the enjoyment with her kids and all the love from you, you can't change what's passed but you can spend some good time with her now for sure you people would be doing that ,I wish you ,yr mother all the happiness.❤❤❤❤
This is one of the saddest episodes I've watched this year. Watching the wife cry resonated with me because I have been there. Raising one child can be difficult but, three with one on the way is quite overwhelming especially when you don't have help and support. Also, I may be wrong but I believe the father still suffers from depression and this is why he has invested in fishing as a way to escape reality. He seems miserable and in return he is making his family miserable by his selfishness. This couple needs family counseling and I pray that they can provide a stable, loving home for their precious daughters.
If he's stressed from work, why won't he destress by bonding with his wife & daughters instead? :/ I always look forward to going home to my family after a long day.
27:55 Thank you DongYeob,so glad he said this to him.... dad needs to pay the money for his daughter's treatment! Please don't have kids if you're not emotionally, financially, mentally ready
People seems to forget that being a stay at home parent = 24/7 job without rest or vacation and without any paycheck. These people work way harder than those in the office and are more noble than most people. 😤😤😤
It broke my heart to see the little girl and how she answered the questions about the drawing. She shouldn’t have to go through depression at such a young and innocent age 😔
My heart aches for Hanbyeol. No child should ever go through that, I couldn't help but tear up when she drew the picture of the house and when she talked about the tree. I wish her and her sisters the best including their mom.
My mom have 8 kids and she clean the house wash the dishs do the lundary cook us food take care of my small brother and sisters and you know that my dad never sayed thank you he say (is that what you call work) so I started to help my mom with work even that I have homework so I really feel how she is feeling
Men like this are so the cause of many problems in this world. Don't they realise that he will grow old and is gonna be at a mercy of their wife and children? Wish these men would think a bout how they would want their wife & children want to treat them when they are old, weak, and not earning money anymore.
my gosh, an 8 year old kid drawing a tree having the sea as a foundation and knowing it will die in the future is a sign for a very serious case of depression... I just wish the kid gets all the help and love she needs.
I think he plenty cares for himself, when he buys his 150$ shoes, his 150-200$ shirt. Its oretty clear the problem is he care too much for himself and not others 7-7
The fact that it was his day off on her first pregnancy was even more reason to go to his wife. It wasn't like he was missing anything important. IT WAS HIS DAY OFF.
This made me cry too much. I have two sisters close to my age too, they reminded me so much of them. Their little matching dresses made me think maybe their mom made it, like mine did. My parents fought a lot too, and we were really hurt by it. Watching their cute precious daughters made me understand a little why my parents stayed together as well, they probably thought we were too important. They only divorced when we were almost adults, and that's why we never got to feel a safe and stable home in our childhood. I didn't even know how harmful it was, before getting out.
Im crying when their daughter diagnosed with childhood depression. She's too young 😭 ohmy..... Need to alert my self so that i wouldnt burden my child with depression 😭
I don't wanna have kids if they were gonna just suffer like that especially if the husband is crap like this one I really feel bad for the mom and her kids this show made me hate something called fishing and drinking i swear!!😥
This woman is so beautiful and her babies omg 🥰🥰🥰 hope she's doing well tho 😫😫😫 it's just too heartbreaking to watch especially when her daughters had that psychological test and she started to cry 😢😢😢
I don't think I've ever been so upset about one of these concerns before now. Don't get me wrong, there are a lot of concerns on the show that frustrate me to no end, but this takes the cake. I honestly have no idea where to start. I would have looked this girl straight in the eyes and said, "Girl, leave him. Run for the hills because this is gonna get worse." The two things that struck me were the costs between his spending habits and the spending habits his wife had. He spends around $2,500 on fishing alone, not including extra expenses like his clothing purchases and God only knows how much on alcohol. But he gets pissed when she buys hair clips for their daughters, inexpensive clothing or anything else. He's even monitoring how much she's spending, which concerns me too. He even had the audacity to say that his child's treatments for her depression was too expensive? Like seriously? Which brings me to number two, the little girl. Hanbyeol is only 8 years old in this clip in Korean age, which would maybe be like 7 internationally if it wasn't already converted to that age on the show. She drew a house that she wouldn't want to live in, with no family inside. She drew a tree on a beach that will die and said it wouldn't be able to survive. Typically, from what I would see from other kids drawings when I was younger, even today, are full of color and life family members and friends, maybe even a sun in the corner. I would imagine that kids who drew trees would say they would make lots of fruits or would be able to thrive. She didn't. She went straight to that tree is going to die. There's no saving it. There's nothing that can be done. That broke my heart. Sorry for the rant but things like this just upsets me so much.
I really feel for Hanbyeol since I went through the same. I had childhood depression, severe social anxiety and a very low self esteem because I was also ostracised and bullied when I was 7. I also didn't have anyone to talk to about because I saw how my parents were struggling being new migrants in a country where we didn't know the language and my mum was going through post natal depression. I hope Hanbyeol gets the treatment because she needs it. I didn't and I've only recently been working through it all and I'm 27.
I have never seen a more despicable, pathetic, immature, irresponsible and selfish human being in my life. Hearing him just while watching the video is so frustrating-I don't know what I would have done had I been there in the audience. I just wish this woman understands where this man stands in her life and walks out of this marriage because this man clearly shows no ounce of remorse, sympathy or respect for his family🤬
i honestly think the husband think that highly of himself because he's the one who make money in the family. he think he can do all of that because he's the one who provide the family. how come his parents didn't talk to them? he's so full of himself.
They're probably enabling him. I knew a family, they only had one son and he was lazy as hell but his mom would always praise him but yell at his sister even though she does both of their chores after going to school and her extra co-curricular activities. They would also buy him whatever he wanted. I'm going to bet my money that they don't believe their daughter in law because they think he's too good for her.
I'm crying a lot watching this episode. Hopefully the husband will treat the wife much better than before. And also a child with a depression? She didn't deserve that 😭
May God bless those kids!There so pretty I hope in the future they become big and only take care of there mother and knows they don’t need a “dad”like him
The kids are so pretty oh my god..... Hope they get raised well from now on and hope the elder one get cured as fast as possible.. Its too sad that she have depression from that early age
This is such good evidence and reason for a divorce. Take it to court end get your own money through maintenance and keep the house. As a law student I think this is very reasonable grounds for divorce if you want out of the marriage because this doesn’t seem like a problem that can be fixed on a show.
I hate this so much. The way he neglected his wife and children makes my blood boil. And that poor little girl omg. She's only 8 but already has depression. I myself suffer depression as well, and what the dad said is kind of true when he said you have to overcome it yourself. You do have to work hard to fight depression, but especially a eight year old girl needs someone to help her fight. Everyone does. You can't fully get rid of depression but with the right people helping you, youll be able to fight it whenever it comes again. I hope that that little girl gets the help she needs and that her sister's don't develop depression as well.
I hope that they fix their problems to be able to build their family again, for their daughters to be happy once again and get out of depression. Trust me, It's hard to always hear your parents fighting and act like everything is alright when you're in school or with friends. Don't let your beautiful daughters experience whaf I have wnet through. Wish your family all the best💓 love from the Philippines.
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I have been watching hello counselor for years and what yeongja said was true. Dongyeop has never been this frustrated, he's usually calm listening to the concerns, but in this one, he just spit it out. You can see how frustrated he is
Exactly - usually he's the one trying to calm everyone down, and this time it was the other way around
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@@lonewolf9246 umm what
I hate it when they use "stress" as an excuse. Who doesn't have stress?!
Abbie Terrell they like "stress" so much hh-,-
It's really not about who has it or who doesn't, the point is some humans handle it different and can take it better. Just like some people could break and arm and barley bat an eye and some people stub their toe and cry.... Different levels, different personalities and people. That's what makes humans.
me? I don't feel stressed at all...
That is so dumb cause guess what I am street,you are stressed,EVERYBODY IS STRESSED....LIFE IS STRESSFUL .....
@@scootersandy4269 THANK YOUUUU i got so stressed when whoever commented that
I can never be on hello counsellor. my automatic response would be "leave him sis"
Ikr
same😂😂😂
samee. Like, I’m glad I’m not there as the audience because if I am, I would stand up and yell at those troubled jerks 😂🤣
Woman : my husband spends money endlessly, has drinking habit, smokes, violent, doesn't care about his own family.....
Me as an mc : ok stop. You two follow me. Let's get your divorce paper at the nearest courthouse.
this be me with literally every family. i feel bad for the kids but it's for their mental health. having a sick in the head parent won't help them. so i would probably prepare divorce papers for any couple or family going on this program (where the parents are the troubled ones) and bitch sign that shit
the 33 people who didn't find this as a problem....are a problem.
Maybe they weren’t paying attention
No, it is impossible to get a score of 200. They said it in one episode, the maschine cant take all 200 votes in because there are too many and toi little time or something like that
mm...that explains why i've never seen a full score, but I Have seen scores higher than what this got.
SHOT FIRED!!!😂💀😂 this is the best COMMENT
I saw a 197 back in the days tho.
I'm happy that they actually consulted the psychiatrist and confirmed that she had depression, to make the dad understand. Hopefully the dad will change.
Finally they engage a professional.
Yeah. What made me angry was he compared himself with his daughter and then said that (and I’m paraphrasing) “she’s fine. She will get over it like I am” 😤
She is a child. She doesn’t understand why she feels like that. And if things carry on like this she will be miserable later. 😡
@@loridaniel1718 plus it's never possible to just "get over it".He was clearly making an excuse again
The dad will most likely not change. In my opinion he is a sociopath.
depressed people tend to be self-centered (im sorry i dont know how to make it more polite). but he take it the wrong way. his hobby is used as his medication which not actually work effectively but turned as obsession. he think he's fine but no, he too, need professional help. this is the worst case of depression when he's hurting a lot of people by it.
I can't stop my tears knowing poor hanbyeol diagnosed with depression at a such young age !
I'm so heart broken :'(
same here :'(
Same😣😣
Yeah...
And yet her own dad didn't shed a tear. How can he sit there like a stone?
I cried
Working at a hospital, I see countless female colleagues working 18hr shifts, high stress jobs, and they still go home, cook food, do household chores, send their kids to school, etc. I have NEVER seen them neglect their family due to stress.
Stress is not an excuse, and if youre burnt out, seek therapy, take time off from work, dont make people suffer.
that's why guys sucks
@@aerireikii Uh.. Not all guys are like that. Just because a few of them suck doesn't mean all of them are like that.
Is it registred nurse?
Nonayo Dambusinus OK well the ones that do that suck. Shut the hell up
100% yes the husband really bad. Do not marry if cannot take the responsibility of the marriage.really hatr this type of man.
He is not only a bad husband, he is the worst person ever.
Please people if you feel like you are not ready to show love & spend time & money for your own family stay on your own.
omg yes yes
Okey
TELL MY FATHER TOO PLEASE I CANT WAIT TO FINALLY MOVE OUT
@@sopheyy7573 Study and work hard to leave as soon as possible! Don't give up and be strong 💪
I think he is looking down on his wife because she is not working and staying at home ...and I feel like his parents doesn't care about her (wife)
when the little girl said that the tree wil die end that it cant be helped i broke down crying!!!!! thats absolutely not what has to be on a childs mind!!!!!
Jonne Van heijster
I literally cried so much that girl was in so much pain I hope she one right now
Yeeees me too that's so sad
How can a child have this ideas
@RAWAN ALMADI wow
how does he spend $200 on a shirt but get mad at her for spending $3 on hair pins?? where is the logic
he is just the same as my father, he spends "his money" for himself..like buying new bikes etc. but me and my mom can't even buy $2 underwear
Valentová Magdaléna I really hope everything’s going ok in your family
My ex husband was worse.lol.i earned double than him and paid for my clothes,flights,house rent,meds,furniture and paid off his loans and then him and his family said am money minded cz i refused to give my whole salary to them.they expected me to send the entire month's salary to them whilst my ex wanted to control how much of my own money I could spend.he said he was surprised how come my salary was not his money
Sadia Adil Wow. I’m sorry you had to go through that ☹️
That was the worst scene
Such a little girl has to deal with depression already :(
Wtf did I just watch !!!! Since 3 years I watch hello counselor and this concern is one of my top 5 the worst !!!! Poor the kids and the wife
Who doesn't worry about this concern? 😖 the poor girl even has depression. This concern is worst from the worst
I agree. This is by far the worst!
omg, he is the same as my father, it hurt me watching this
Yes defo up there with the one where L from Infinite was on. Sigh how can people be like this?!!
What is the other 4 on your list??
it's not hello counselor without husband drinking or fishing issue.
I think its more like husband with drinking habbit or addicting issue/obsession
eljaydl honestly or when they are obsessed with some sport and the wife is most likely pregnant
Wow! I didn’t even watch the concern and I knew she was pregnant!
Or both
Why are guys salty, this is a counseling channel. They are trying to help most families that send their concerns
Her drawing make me sad. So lonely ㅠㅠ
I will never understand how fishing can be so fun and addicting lol
you have to marry one! My husband crazy if he can't go fishing he spend a lot of money to buy fishing gear and he has another hobby where he spending a lot of money too.
Crabbing is fun though.
I hate my husband during crabbing season. I worry so much if he catch under size and female 🦀 and be caught by fisheries officer.
Its not just about fishing, its about all the process into it and how the place where you fish Is calm and usually with a nice view and you just hear the sea/lake and birds while you relax and wait... You'll only understand if you're a person that stresses a lot
I found its boring hobby to have
I’m always so scared for the people who requested help on this show because what if something happens to them once they get home and no ones there to watch what action the problem maker makes? He sounds really controlling and abusive even towards his kids.
Literally what I was about to say, this is just a show, who knows what goes on at home, he does show signs of control and abuse in a way and I really hope they’re all well and maybe on their own, bc being with him seems worst then being by yourself with 3 and now 4 kids
I've heard that if the concern is great enough, they receive some kind of after care from the show. I don't know if that's true but I hope so, and in that case this is definitely of high enough concern to receive it.
@@kinseylise8595 yah that’s what i was hoping was happening.
It's already a public concern once it's aired so I'm pretty sure this served as a warning although it can backfire and cause more harm
Nope no nope. I know it would be extremely difficult but she cannot freaking stay with this guy. HE KICKED HER IN THE STOMACH. She needs to leave him immediately. For her own safety
He is a jerk but it seemed like they were sleeping when they happened. The kids didn’t say he was violent. He is a selfish controlling absent drunk.
But he still was violent toward her
“While we were asleep” she got kicked in the stomach. Being a wild sleeper isn’t violence. If the kids mentioned it I would worry. But the kids didn’t mention it. I wish the police arrested him for DUI for being asleep on the road in the car after drinking.
Less room under the blanket on the bed when you are pregnant.
kris Sharp yes being a wild sleeper is not violence but he didn’t event care about her when she went to the hospital
I've never wanted to get married or have children, but after watching "Hello Counselor" for the last four years, that feeling has increased one-hundredfold. This show is like birth control. Some of these spouses are a hot mess. If they're not alcoholic, then they're selfish; if they're not selfish, then they are (verbally)abusive; and if they're not abusive, then they're just so, so incredibly immature. 🤦♀️ I almost flipped the table after his remarks @18:26.
i feel ya.
Try to watch superman returns( dads and kids's show) then😁 this show is kinda a problem solver show or something of course most of the families or merried couples that you saw have problems within them..it's not that bad to getting merried if you choose a right one and do it with trust and responbility respect and care for each others..it is depend on us how our marriage life will be tho😁
Same. The senarios are my worst fear
I still want to get married but this show does help me to recognize red flags for abuse/neglect in a relationship, and define what i don't want in my future spouse!
@@amiwu517 the thing about superman is that they are nit like filmed 24h a day, its planned wich days they are going to film and then the dads can plan what they are gonna do that day. They spend more time with the kids, yes, but is not the same. And also realize that still have some celebrityes that have shown in the shiw but still they divorced later (not the stay casting but the vists) Anyway hello counselor touches more real life than there, here there is just facts and there is a show, planned so... But its true, after this i go there to watch a little so i dont get too scared of geting married but still i dont hace the dream of it too. XD
Those 33 people who don't think it's a concern are my concern
The tree picture was the scariest. She said the tree will die and there is nothing that can help it. That's really scary. I can't imagine what her world must look like. I'm wondering if she had suicide thoughts yet or violent thoughts :O or convinced her sisters to do weird or scary things.
I keep thinking she reflected the tree as herself- like how most artist sometimes personalize their drawing and make them more like themselves. Also the fact that she is the oldest and most of the time the younger siblings follow meaning they will probably also get affected and follow with her way of thinking
Their kids are so adorable! They are so cute! Protect them at all cost!
I'm refraining myself so much from writing here. It's been a long time since I left one but when it comes to kids, I can't help it. Little Hanbyeol is surrounded by her little sisters that I felt a bit relieved because they look like they get along well. As someone that used to be depressed, isn't it possible for him to empathize more of her and run to her when the result came out? Be more attentive of her actions, words or thoughts? Because once you're in a bad place, you'll be everywhere to stop any of your beloved ones to be in the same state because you yourself felt of how horrible that place is? She isn't as cheerful as the other kid, she only speaks one word at a time, being asked. She won't be able to start a conversation if no one approached her first. She's probably the one walking by herself when mom's hands were occupied with a fishing rod and her two other kids. How scary would that be because you have no one to hold, walking on the street with a lot of harmful things with her mom, could be yelling for her to walk faster or walk closer to them. And at home being the eldest, she's probably entrusted with a lot of things to do, as little as playing with her other siblings when she wasn't feeling like she want to. Hearing your parents unlimited fights and shouts, it tore a kids' heart more than anyone could imagine. When he said that it's too expensive for a $30 treatment/therapy cost, I died inside. How could you as a father is soooooo selfish?! You worked hard, yeah, props to you. But where all the money goes? $2500 a month for fishing trips and $30 therapy you called it expensive. Then you expected your kid to find her own way out of the situation, herself, an 8 years old little daughter. I could fit 80, $30 therapy sessions in that fishing cost. Which could help an innocent kid breathe a new life and have faith that life is a beautiful thing and feeling loved by the closest people in her life. Please protect her after this, Mr Dad. Then I'll give my respect to you.
I still won't respect him. I'd acknowledge him as a person yes but no respect for him. It's good he's noticed his problem but the type of stubborn person he is he won't last long with his promise.
I rarely type any comments but this case really really upset me. I doubt that this man will ever change. The poor wife that has to go through all of this and he keeps blaming her/ not realizing that he is wrong. It really is sad that the little girl at the age of 8 is going through depression. Depression is hell and she shouldnt be experiencing this at such a young age. He should get his shit together and finally care for his family. Help his daughter to get the necessary treatment and be there for his family. This is so sad.
I think all the people who came in this show will not change.
not to mention he's really narcissistic
When the child told the professional that the tree would die over time.... It's true, but it made me so sad that it was the first thing in her mind. An optimistic child would've said it'll grow or make fruits over time. I hope she gets help and lots of love.
My heart hurts for her, she deserves a loving husband and a loving dad for her kids. I would never wish anyone to have a spouse like him. EVER.
He said the kids are his future. That is WRONG. They are his PRESENT.
Their daughters are so lovely. I just hope their situation gets situated fast. They're too precious. Them _and_ their mom for having to _be_ in such a position!
What is that stupid smile he had during the process? Shouldnt he be embarrassed for what he did?What an a****** . Keep making excuses.
_"You almost failed to be a human being"_
HAHAHAHAAHHAAHAHHAAHHAAH
He already failed to be one LMAO
Their kids looks so much a like i thought they're triplets 😂 they're cute!✨
That little girl should not have depression in a very young age. She deserve better future. 😭😭😭😭
I got a real goosebump when hanbyeol said her tree drawing "it'll die"
I appreciated that a professional was consulted for this concern. After seeing the clips of his daughter's session, the dad was able to see that something has to change for his children to thrive. I hope that this family will go to counseling.
when hanbyeol mentioned about the tree dying and not being able to fix it... i was so shocked.
The wife have seen a red flag on her first pregnancy but still have more kids. The sad part is the kids are the most affected of everything. If that was me if my husband did not help me on my first pregnancy, I would never let him touch me and get pregnant again, i dont care if he will divorce me atleast my priority then is my child...what a b....rd husband .
I don't think she really has a choice... divorce is a taboo topic in korea. It'll make the first child ostracized too. Either way she hasn't got a choice and her kids will suffer still
Am I the only one who can see that the dad seems to have an anti-social personality dissorder? I don't have the qualifications to say so but he should undergo some evaluation because his actions are exteremly callous, he's giving lame exuses without any feeling of guilt and his regret was only obvious when his was shamed on national tv by his daughter's innocent drawing. He seems far too smug for anything. He is also obsessed with himself- the way he carries himself, spends on himself and doesn't care about his family- this natural way of treating his family like his tools is just... pathetic. I am so frustrated, angry and sad after watching this episode.
I am also surprised that when the mother talked about the story when she had her first child, her parents-in-law also seem to not have reacted or helped with her.
Also the people who are generalizing all Korean men to be bad, this is just one case. Yes, their families are very patriarchal and children may not have much freedom. None-the-less, they are extremely family oriented in every tradtion. But your evaluation is based on the culture you come from which is obviously non-Asian. For Asians, this is very normal. What makes this family's sitation particularly bad isn't because he's patriarchal. It's because he's totaly impersonal with his own blood. He cannot see how serous the problem is and how much suffering he is causing.
This problem is far more serious than can be handled in this program, in one session. and needs more intervention by mental healthcare professionals. The entire family really have it tough and I pray their situation improves. My heart bleeds for them.
Asian society is very harsh on single mothers and they blame everything on the woman very easily. Atleast with this program, it was outed how serious the problem is and might get them some help.
Exactly what i thought. And it leads me to one question. Is it not common for korean woman to take any birth control pil?
I mean there are some cases where wife got so frustated with their husband, yet they got 3 kids or more.
If i got stress from my husband since my 1st pregnancy, then i am gonna protect myself not to have more kids with him. Because the stress obviously can affect the kids as well.
@@someday29 I am not sure but it could be that way. But it's also possible the husband pressured the wife or she faced some other familial pressure. Having many children is seen as a good thing in Asian cultures even if it may not be essentially a good thing in the real world. 'one big happy family' idea
@HijoPlay So she can get a job now! That excuse isnt good enough,she should have thought about that before she had 4 innocent babies that deserve better!
Women should pay more attention to their education and have financial freedom. So they can leave, earn and live their life on their own when they end up with a jerk like him.
That's basically what my Father always said to me 💗
My respect to him. My parents were the same.
Or men shouldn’t be selfish jerks
@Mon Bon...not all men are jerks but some definitely are. This one is.
maybe the joke that girls only like bad boys has went too far
These 'hobby' obsessed people should pay for my college tuition instead of wasting their money on these things.
😂 agreed
So true
Loreville Clitar 😂😂😂😂
That man is a creepy person i think, with his innocent intonation explaining his bad behavior without feeling sorry doing that. Omg, so creepy. And.. Just stop having kids. Your man isn't capable being a good husband and a good dad.
those kids is so precious and pretty. i hope he can change his attitude and his craziness for fishing because he actually hurting the whole family. i cant stand this guys even for a while i dnt understand how his wife cope with this for 8years already
Their daughters are beautiful and it shocked me when Hanbyeol just said that she won't live in the house she had drawn and the tree would die. I meant, normal kids would happily draw their family members in the gouse, flowers all over the place and they would cheerfully added 'the tree will grow so big in the future!' with cute eyes drawn on the tree. I really hope Hanbyeol gets treatment and the parents to reconcile. Childhood life is very important and once you ruin it there's no coming back. I hope the husband don't waste this second chance.
I cried so much, because this is exactly how my family is. I literally hear her talking about my father and I see my mother when she talks about herself.
I don't know if you get this message or not becuz it's been 4 years since you commented but I want to write this : I hope your mum get all the enjoyment with her kids and all the love from you, you can't change what's passed but you can spend some good time with her now for sure you people would be doing that ,I wish you ,yr mother all the
happiness.❤❤❤❤
I hope they come back to this family later and that things have changed. The most heartbreaking part was hanbyeol’s.
This is one of the saddest episodes I've watched this year. Watching the wife cry resonated with me because I have been there. Raising one child can be difficult but, three with one on the way is quite overwhelming especially when you don't have help and support. Also, I may be wrong but I believe the father still suffers from depression and this is why he has invested in fishing as a way to escape reality. He seems miserable and in return he is making his family miserable by his selfishness. This couple needs family counseling and I pray that they can provide a stable, loving home for their precious daughters.
Trigger warning: domestic violence situation with a child diagnosed with depression.
If he's stressed from work, why won't he destress by bonding with his wife & daughters instead? :/ I always look forward to going home to my family after a long day.
True
Family is the source of joy
because he is selfish & wants to enjoy the feeling of excitement when a fish takes his bate, regardless of how his wife & kids are feeling.
@@AsmaaPurity not all family are the source of joy...
But not all people are like you , you're rare and precious.
some people should just never get married and die alone
27:55 Thank you DongYeob,so glad he said this to him.... dad needs to pay the money for his daughter's treatment! Please don't have kids if you're not emotionally, financially, mentally ready
im really sad for hanbyeol.. Im glad her mom come here fast, this can turn into disaster.. hope she will get better soon
People seems to forget that being a stay at home parent = 24/7 job without rest or vacation and without any paycheck. These people work way harder than those in the office and are more noble than most people. 😤😤😤
i'm so heartbroken for the kids :'(
When she said her daughter had depression tears started flowing, I know it feels when parents fight and it's not a great feeling at all...
It broke my heart to see the little girl and how she answered the questions about the drawing. She shouldn’t have to go through depression at such a young and innocent age 😔
He can't be call as a husband and a man if he act like that.😠
What kinda husband says “you deserved it” when there wife is at the hospital in pain?! And then he had the nerves to say that it was a “joke” like pft
My heart aches for Hanbyeol. No child should ever go through that, I couldn't help but tear up when she drew the picture of the house and when she talked about the tree. I wish her and her sisters the best including their mom.
My mom have 8 kids and she clean the house wash the dishs do the lundary cook us food take care of my small brother and sisters and you know that my dad never sayed thank you he say (is that what you call work) so I started to help my mom with work even that I have homework so I really feel how she is feeling
Men like this are so the cause of many problems in this world. Don't they realise that he will grow old and is gonna be at a mercy of their wife and children? Wish these men would think a bout how they would want their wife & children want to treat them when they are old, weak, and not earning money anymore.
The wife’s actually so strong I have mad respect for her
I started crying when the little girl was being so depressed 😭 I wanna hug her♥️
@@abcdefghijklmnopqrstuvwxyz4645 happy?
😁 ye
The little girl drawing hit me like a truck
my gosh, an 8 year old kid drawing a tree having the sea as a foundation and knowing it will die in the future is a sign for a very serious case of depression... I just wish the kid gets all the help and love she needs.
This man don't even care about himself, he needs help
I think he plenty cares for himself, when he buys his 150$ shoes, his 150-200$ shirt. Its oretty clear the problem is he care too much for himself and not others 7-7
this is so heartbreaking, i cried so much at everything the kid said
Her husband good for nothing
The fact that it was his day off on her first pregnancy was even more reason to go to his wife. It wasn't like he was missing anything important. IT WAS HIS DAY OFF.
The husband seems like a sociopath. The children are adorable, and I hope their situation improves.
I Don't think he is a sociopath but Rather looks like he hasn't gotten over his depression
a kind, overly patient and low self-esteem woman with a manipulative and selfish man ...
This made me cry too much. I have two sisters close to my age too, they reminded me so much of them. Their little matching dresses made me think maybe their mom made it, like mine did. My parents fought a lot too, and we were really hurt by it. Watching their cute precious daughters made me understand a little why my parents stayed together as well, they probably thought we were too important. They only divorced when we were almost adults, and that's why we never got to feel a safe and stable home in our childhood. I didn't even know how harmful it was, before getting out.
Im crying when their daughter diagnosed with childhood depression. She's too young 😭 ohmy..... Need to alert my self so that i wouldnt burden my child with depression 😭
I don't wanna have kids if they were gonna just suffer like that especially if the husband is crap like this one I really feel bad for the mom and her kids this show made me hate something called fishing and drinking i swear!!😥
I want to give a big warm hug to that little girl... 😢
This is not love.
To everyone watching this and similar episodes: know what you deserve and don't settle for anything less.
this brought me to tears
This woman is so beautiful and her babies omg 🥰🥰🥰 hope she's doing well tho 😫😫😫 it's just too heartbreaking to watch especially when her daughters had that psychological test and she started to cry 😢😢😢
I don't think I've ever been so upset about one of these concerns before now. Don't get me wrong, there are a lot of concerns on the show that frustrate me to no end, but this takes the cake. I honestly have no idea where to start. I would have looked this girl straight in the eyes and said, "Girl, leave him. Run for the hills because this is gonna get worse."
The two things that struck me were the costs between his spending habits and the spending habits his wife had. He spends around $2,500 on fishing alone, not including extra expenses like his clothing purchases and God only knows how much on alcohol. But he gets pissed when she buys hair clips for their daughters, inexpensive clothing or anything else. He's even monitoring how much she's spending, which concerns me too. He even had the audacity to say that his child's treatments for her depression was too expensive? Like seriously?
Which brings me to number two, the little girl. Hanbyeol is only 8 years old in this clip in Korean age, which would maybe be like 7 internationally if it wasn't already converted to that age on the show. She drew a house that she wouldn't want to live in, with no family inside. She drew a tree on a beach that will die and said it wouldn't be able to survive. Typically, from what I would see from other kids drawings when I was younger, even today, are full of color and life family members and friends, maybe even a sun in the corner. I would imagine that kids who drew trees would say they would make lots of fruits or would be able to thrive.
She didn't. She went straight to that tree is going to die. There's no saving it. There's nothing that can be done.
That broke my heart. Sorry for the rant but things like this just upsets me so much.
That depression on that little Hanbyeol had me crying. 😢
I really feel for Hanbyeol since I went through the same. I had childhood depression, severe social anxiety and a very low self esteem because I was also ostracised and bullied when I was 7. I also didn't have anyone to talk to about because I saw how my parents were struggling being new migrants in a country where we didn't know the language and my mum was going through post natal depression. I hope Hanbyeol gets the treatment because she needs it. I didn't and I've only recently been working through it all and I'm 27.
WHEN HE GETS OLD ..SURELY HIS CHILDREN WILL NOT TAKE CARE OF HIM...BEC HE DONT CARE OF HIS FAMILY..UNLESS HE WILL CHANGE...
He smiled through the session, never feel sorry. Just leave him while you can.
I have never seen a more despicable, pathetic, immature, irresponsible and selfish human being in my life. Hearing him just while watching the video is so frustrating-I don't know what I would have done had I been there in the audience. I just wish this woman understands where this man stands in her life and walks out of this marriage because this man clearly shows no ounce of remorse, sympathy or respect for his family🤬
Sometimes, watching this show, i just wanna slap a husband.
What a sad excuse for a father and a human being. You don't deserve to have a family if you are just going to neglect and mistreat them.
I love the guy with glasses he just be spitting facts like yesssss
i honestly think the husband think that highly of himself because he's the one who make money in the family. he think he can do all of that because he's the one who provide the family. how come his parents didn't talk to them? he's so full of himself.
They're probably enabling him. I knew a family, they only had one son and he was lazy as hell but his mom would always praise him but yell at his sister even though she does both of their chores after going to school and her extra co-curricular activities. They would also buy him whatever he wanted. I'm going to bet my money that they don't believe their daughter in law because they think he's too good for her.
the tears wont stop when seeing the part with the daughter having depression
She should’ve left him after the first child. I don’t understand why she keeps staying n having more kids.
vanna8914 maybe she doesn’t have a job or no plan for herself
thats the saddest thing about love.. even if its toxic.. they will still stick to that thing they call love...
Being a single mother in korea is very hard and frowned upon.
Im so glad my mom have a job and got divorced easily. I feel sorry for korean moms
@@SaraOanimeOcookie Being single is frowned upon in all parts of the world. Not just in Korea lol
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“Before we see the results today, I’d like to say that you lost today.” 😭😂
I'm crying a lot watching this episode. Hopefully the husband will treat the wife much better than before. And also a child with a depression? She didn't deserve that 😭
When they talked about the child’s depression it really made me hella sad
May God bless those kids!There so pretty I hope in the future they become big and only take care of there mother and knows they don’t need a “dad”like him
Shin dongyeob being angry makes me laugh😂
I feel so bad for Hanbyeol, she's so young, but now she's depressed because of her parents. I hope she gets the treatment and gets better.
I think she put up with him, hoping he'd change and that's sad.
The kids are so pretty oh my god..... Hope they get raised well from now on and hope the elder one get cured as fast as possible.. Its too sad that she have depression from that early age
This is such good evidence and reason for a divorce. Take it to court end get your own money through maintenance and keep the house. As a law student I think this is very reasonable grounds for divorce if you want out of the marriage because this doesn’t seem like a problem that can be fixed on a show.
I hate this so much. The way he neglected his wife and children makes my blood boil. And that poor little girl omg. She's only 8 but already has depression. I myself suffer depression as well, and what the dad said is kind of true when he said you have to overcome it yourself. You do have to work hard to fight depression, but especially a eight year old girl needs someone to help her fight. Everyone does. You can't fully get rid of depression but with the right people helping you, youll be able to fight it whenever it comes again. I hope that that little girl gets the help she needs and that her sister's don't develop depression as well.
We need this show in our country :)
When he said he stress from work
And that one man said he also stress becoz he need to talk to ppl like him ! Boom roasted 😂🔥 I like it😂🔥
정말 심하네요 결혼은 왜...하신건지..
이런말하면 안되는데...
I hope that they fix their problems to be able to build their family again, for their daughters to be happy once again and get out of depression. Trust me, It's hard to always hear your parents fighting and act like everything is alright when you're in school or with friends. Don't let your beautiful daughters experience whaf I have wnet through. Wish your family all the best💓 love from the Philippines.