Maybe consider getting a wearable baby carrier? Either a wrap or something like the artipoppe! That might be helpful so baby can snooze and snuggle and you can also get some stuff done!
It takes a village to raise a baby. So don't be afraid to ask for help or if you need a break. It shouldn't just be all on you even though you're a super mom. Small tasks can be completed by friends family or even Sawyer. Also, slow down. Its hard to get caught up on wanting to do everything all at once but i would make a list of maybe two tasks a day and focus on that. When they say time flies by it really does and they pass that newborn baby stage so fast.
He has REALLY grown since your last video! So precious! You may need to look into cutting out dairy or something you're eating to see if that helps with him spitting up as much. I'd get portable/ cordless pumps that you can use no matter what you're needing to do... also, maybe try to wear him. It may take trying a couple/few different carriers/wraps to see what works but man, it can be a lifesaver! Just go off his wake windows for your cues and unfortunately these aren't set in stone daily and the amounts change frequently, but that's the best gauge to know and use in my opinion. You seem to be doing really well! You're doing it and obviously enjoying the mess out of him and I couldn't be happier for you!
Things that helped us the most was making sure everything was split evenly. We both work full time and sometimes over so there were days where one person will pick up a bit extra than the other but making sure it is all reciprocated has proven to be very beneficial for the both of us, including our daughter ❤
Can you talk about your breastfeeding/pumping journey? Also, it’s impossible to get on a schedule with an infant. In the first year especially (before on one nap per day), their schedule is constantly changing and it’s more about following wake cycles than having a set schedule. Knowing that it is going to be messy and things will never be perfect will honestly help your mindset. Otherwise you’ll feel like you’re always failing. Babywear babywear babywear. Find a carrier that baby likes, and you can work, clean, cook, everything.
Oh Angelique I wish I could give you a big hug 🤗 I really empathized with you on the struggles of pp hormones, not having your mom around to help anymore and finding a reasonable pumping schedule. I have 2 kids. My first just turned 3 (around your original due date time) and my second is about to turn 6m this week. With my first, I also struggled with staying consistent on a pumping schedule, feeding baby, myself, getting ready, housework, etc. so I had vivid flashbacks. I just wanted to say you are doing a great job! Motherhood is not easy but it is so full filling 💛just know you are not alone and Atlas is lucky to have you as his sweet mama
Don’t you have sawyers mom right down the street? You should see if there’s 1 day a week she could come over and help for a few hrs so you can get your work done. I’m sure she’s there often tho, but just a designated day for you to specifically work and get stuff done!
balacing mom life with work life, house, marriage, puppies, etc, is super challenging and you’re doing amazing!! This is a reminder to tell yourself how proud of yourself you are, because it’s not easy having all these responsibilities 🥹🥹🩵🩵 Also, just take one day at a time. It is so true what they say, “the days are long, but the years are short”. YOU GOT THIS!!
Oh Angelique I wish I could give you a big hug 🤗 I really empathized with you on the struggles of pp hormones, not having your mom around to help anymore and finding a reasonable pumping schedule. I have 2 kids. My first just turned 3 (around your original due date time) and my second is about to turn 6m this week. With my first, I also struggled with staying consistent on a pumping schedule, feeding baby, myself, getting ready, housework, etc. so I had vivid flashbacks. I just wanted to say you are doing a great job! Motherhood is not easy but it is so full filling 💛just know you are not alone and Atlas is lucky to have you as his sweet mama
Like anything in life, “you don’t know what you don’t know until you know!” You are truly the best Mom for Atlas Hartman and he tenderly feels it in his ❤. Sending you and Sawyer much grace, patience, rest and love. Your YT fam is here for you; thank you for sharing your beautiful family with us.
It gets easier but if I can give unsolicited advice. Naps in the dark when they are so little it will help you out so much! Send you lots of new momma love.
It’ll get easier mama ❤️ it all takes time ! You’re doing an amazing job ! I have 2 kids and each of them were completely different from each other and it definitely takes time to adjust and figure out ❤
Angelique I’ve been following you for a while and love your content. I want to tell you that it seems you’re doing a wonderful job at being a new mom. There is definitely an adjustment period and figuring out what that new routine looks like looks different for all families. You will slowly figure that out. Some things that helped me; 1. Baby wearing, I wore my son while I did stuff around the house, cleaning, cooking. 2. My husband started helping out more with things that I would normally easily do myself. If he’s not able to consider asking a friend to come once a week to help. You’re doing amazing!
Also, cluster feeding (eating often and maybe less at a time but more over all) and changes in a nap schedule and being more fussy and wanting to be held more are pretty good indicators that your little guy is going through a leap. You might have found that acter that week he was a little more coordinated or maybe follows objects with his eyes or just concentrates on something dor a little longer or can now hold his head up a little better... small but also big chamges for your little one.
Sending lots of love ❤ everything will get better ! And soon your mom will be back with you guys 💕 one day at a time and ask for help and try to get sunshine ❤. You got this girl !
I'm not trying to be rude here, but here at the end of your night Sawyer has gone to bed and you're still up still needing to do bottles and pump parts, etc... I must be missing something bc I'm not understanding why he's not helping with these kinds of things. It's just so heartbreaking to see you struggling to adjust and it seems there are so many easy ways he could do more to help you! I hope you allow him to do more and more of the daily household chores/cooking/cleaning, etc! In order for you to have some sanity it takes both of you or a wedge will be there sometimes!
Unfortunately most husbands are like this and it sounds like his job is demanding. The more they get the swing of it they should be able to get a nightly routine where Sawyer can help before he needs to go to bed. I am SO thankful for a husband that would never let me stay up working he will work and force me to go to bed first.
@@RyleeMcWilliams-vf4rmluckily that is not my experience. The dads I know all equally contribute to taking care of the little one/household. As it should in my opinion, you’re both parents and adults so you should both do the work. I may find it a bit frustrating to see Angelique being the only active parent doing all the work, but I hope they’ve talked about this before hand and are both okay and happy with the situation.
She only shows a small portion of her life but my husband usually helps prep things for the night and then goes to bed. This is because he takes the first night feeding and I get to sleep so that could be what they do.
I first just want to say that you’re so beautiful and look amazing! I’m so sorry you’re struggling a little getting into a routine with your mama gone. I promise you’re amazing and going to figure it out! I was and am still in a very similar dynamic where my husband is home, but works full time and then I work from home and take care of the baby. It’s so hard to figure out. Something that helped us TREMENDOUSLY was the moms on call book. We followed all of these schedules, had our baby sleeping through the night and taking decent naps. We always had a monitor and him in his own room and that helped his naps transition so much compared to having him next to me everywhere. You’re amazing! It’s such a learning experience and every baby is a little different. You’ve got this!!!! ❤
I can see you and Sawyer fall in love with Atlas over and over again, it is so precious. We don't get to see every second of your life, but I am grateful for what you do share
What I learned with my 14 month old was that if you think you're getting on a predictable schedule, they're about to go through a developmental leap and change everything up on you. Once I started to relinquish my idea of a schedule and go more with a flow for the day, my self criticism quieted down. It was more of a "I am just going to try and get us both dressed and ready for the day and teeth brushed and breakfast eaten before his first nap" than a "OK so he should wake up at 6:30 and it should take me until 7:30 to get us ready..." that kind of a thing.
I hear you sister!!! All us Mama's do!!! With my first I had my Mama for two weeks and when she left the reality of what becoming a Mama really took hold. It was so scared that I was going to do something wrong, but we figured it out and here I am four children later, two have made it to adulthood (one with a baby of her own) and two more that will be up and out on their own in a few short years. Don't worry Mama... you will figure it out too! Just remember... be kind to yourself, Love. Becoming a Mama for the first time can be extremely overwhelming. Give yourself grace. Love on yourself. You are not perfect and you won't always do things perfectly. Don't worry to much about "schedules" with a new born. Because the second you think they're on a schedule, they'll do a complete 360 into something else and you have to create a new schedule. 😊 At this point, try to focus on balance. But understand some days the scales will tip more in babies favor than yours and vice-a-versa and that is ok. Then there will be days that everything goes to pot and you just throw your towel in a spend the day on the couch or in bed with your baby and that is ok too!! Take good care of yourself because he needs you now more than ever and you can't take care of him properly if you're not making your own care a priority. It's ok to ask for help. It's ok to say "I can't do this right now!" You have an amazing support system at home and ALL of us Mama's out here will love on you and support you any way we can. You are never alone. You are brave. You are strong. You got this Mama!!! You got this! Light, love, and warm peace filled prayers coming your way! 💕
We used moms on call book which provides schedules for babies based on wake windows. It won’t be perfect, but it really helped make feeeding and naps more predictable which can help you with work!
As much as I loved the “previous” season of your life/videos. I enjoyed so much this type of video. ❤ I’m excited to see this as your new story now ! thank you for taking the time and doing this.
Hi, I find that having different activities in different rooms helped entertain baby so I can get things done. Maybe a baby gym, he can at least lay on his back and look at the toys. Swings are great, there is so many types. He's beautiful! And you look amazing! ❤
I am in the same boat as you my little guy is almost 3 months old. I would say that trying a hands free pump may help because you could have pumped while getting ready or even pumping while he’s eating! I also would recommend giving yourself grace it’ll get easier! I’m still learning but you got this!😊
My daughter had twins two years ago, and the only way to get anything done is to get the babies on a set schedule, from feeding at the same time to playtime. She got a lot of great tips from her baby doctor. When you can get baby boy to eat more each feeding, he should nap longer. Other than that, just enjoy this time, as you already noticed he is growing so fast, and don't beat yourself up if you can't do it all. Thankyou for sharing your beautiful baby.
You’re doing such a good job!!! I found the baby brezza bottle washer to be life changing! I was spending so many hours per day washing pump parts and bottles. Love love love my bottle washer!
You have to get a set of portable pumps! Mom cozy has some great, affordable ones! Mom cozy S12 to be exact! They are life savers. Sometimes I pop them on, and start doing things around the house and forget I have them on. Also, you're doing great! Moming is tough, especially the first time around. Give yourself, Sawyer, and baby Atlas some grace ❤
You’re going to figure this all out, all your cleaning videos were so organized and thorough. My kids were exactly like Atlas is, you feed them, change them, they close their eyes for ten minutes and round two. Maybe one of those little beds that swing back and forth. Do you swaddle him at all, that calms them and they sleep really well. Good luck.
For the washer/dryer alerts, the songs annoy me so -- I turn off the audible alerts and we put a smart outlet on each machine so that when they stop drawing power (the cycle is done) it sends a text.
One thought that might make your life easier is to just nurse his and then after he eats pump out the rest. That way you’re not having to wait for milk to get warm and the. Feed him then pump yourself .
I think you are doing a great job, everything is new for Atlas and you are hi safe space as all he’s ever known is you. So maybe wearing him while you do things around the house would help both of you. Motherhood is hard, and all of it is new no matter what stage of it you are in, just as you feel like you are getting into it, they grow and change and you have to learn things all over again. Don’t put so much pressure on yourself to get things done or try to be more like how it was before he arrived, as it will always be different and no point trying to stress yourself out trying to get to do everything all the time… My son is 3yrs old and I feel like I’m always learning how to manage life and him and trying to be a good parent as I’m the only one he has… it’s a constant battle that does get better and so much more rewarding as time goes on. Keep doing what you are doing and it will get better, you’ll find your groove 😊
Have you tried gas drops or gripe water? His crying out during sleep and falling back asleep sounds like gas pains maybe... ? Obviously, idk, but just thought I'd ask to see in case you hadn't tried. I previously mentioned maybe changing your diet up as something may be causing him discomfort so that's an idea too. Sending you warm wishes as you're going through all these changes! You're doing great!
@angeliquehartman Yes, yes, yes. I was going crazy until I joined up with a whole gang of new Moms and their babies. I went from sad to glad very quickly. So much fun to have a group of Moms with all the babies the same age to be with a few hours daily/weekly (whatever works for you). I actually considered it a lifesaver since it brought me (and my baby) such much happiness and additional emotional support beyond my husband/family.
Lol exactly as I put my laundry in the washing machine, your finish song started playing. I was confused for a second.. I also have one from Samsung 🤣🙈
I work a 9-5 from home and have my daughter home with me. When she was an infant, I had her in the carrier while I was working , doing laundry, dishes etc. It will get easier mama
Angelique, first of all you’re doing amazing! I had my first baby girl 11 months ago. My (unsolicited lol) advice for you is to get someone aside from you and Sawyer to watch the baby a day or 2 a week for a few hours so you can check things off your list and maybe go on a date. It gets easier as you get into a flow, but baby will get more active and things will always be busy. So either have family member or hire a part time nanny and I promise you will feel better, more productive and enjoy being a mommy to the fullest! I hated to leave my baby at first, but I quickly realized my active personality needed that productive time to be the best mom! P.S I pumped while I was away and It wasn’t as hard as I thought it would be!
Being a new mom is so hard. I feel for you at this early stage. It does get better. It seems though that he is eating too much and is very gassy. That’s why he can’t sleep and is spitting up so much.
Put your pump parts in ziploc and put in fridge every other pump and it cuts down on how often you need to wash. From a professional nanny/nbcs and breastfeeding educator.
I swear by the Artipop baby carrier or any baby carrier, it’s gonna change your life! Once you get used to doing things while wearing him, life becomes so much easier!
I just wanna say how proud I am of you. You’re doing amazing! I have an 8 month old now. It’s been a crazy learning curve. I highly suggest getting rid of a schedule. You cannot predict anything. It won’t be like this forever!!!! I promise, but he will never be this little again. Soak up alllll the snuggles. Get a baby carrier or 5! I’ve tried them all and I have liked different ones at different stages. The baby swings are awesome. But also pumping is super time consuming. Have you thought about doing direct breastfeeding? No dishes with that, no worrying about needing to pump and feed him. You can side lie and nurse and look into safe sleep 7 guidelines and you may sleep better. I know American society tells us not to do all of these things things. But attachment parenting and the rest of the work does co sleeping and it saved my mental health. No matter what you choose, just know you’re doing amazing!!! The first 6 months are really hard. But you will turn a corner and find a groove around 6 months. This is just a season. Also, car naps are next level. Some days I put her in the car and drive around. Get myself something to eat and just sit in the car with a podcast while she sleeps.
I don’t want to offer unwanted advice, but something that helped my emotions a LOT postpartum was a ton of skin to skin with my baby. It helps regulate both his and your emotions & releases oxytocin + helps bonding. Maybe you can do that while he’s feeding or you can baby wear with him just wearing a diaper. ❤
With all the chaos going on, trust me, it will help you feel grounded and calm. Skin to skin is a literal drug. Google it and how beneficial it is for both you and baby ❤❤❤❤❤
Atlas may not be digesting that particular milk. My boys both spit up a lot and therefore didn't nap well because they were still hungry. Once the Dr put them on soy milk they held it down and felt full because they spit up less. U might mention it to the pediatrician. Hope this helps
No judgement at all just genuinely curious! What made you decide to pump and bottle feed instead of breastfeed? Asking as someone who’s hoping to conceive soon and just curious about your journey
I have the MomCozy M5 cordless pump and it’s life changing. I pump while feeding my baby on my legs. My little girl is the same age as yours! I would have quit exclusively pumping if it wasn’t for the cordless pump. I would also swaddle little guy and you might get a longer stretch of sleep! Hope this helps! You’re doing great mama!
Youre still pretty early on. These infant staged are all over the place right now. You will figure out your own rythym that works best for you! You got this, praying for you! ❤
Omg what a cute baby!!! As for advice from a lactation counselor, Since you seem to be an exclusive pumped, it may be worth the investment to get a pair of cordless pumps so you can have more freedom while pumping
Ugh I’m nervous I’m bout to have twins next weekend. It was hard with my first born I know it’s going to be even harder with 2 newborns. And the pumping was hard for me to keep up with with my first born too stressful for me so I stopped pumping and just breastfed on demand and if my mom or hubby would be with him he’d have formula.
You need to nap and rest while the baby naps. Everything else can wait or not get done at all. List on what HAS to be done in order so like drink water, pump, feed, etc. Again let everything else go.
It gets easier and more predictable I promise! Just know that it does get more predictable and they get more in a routine and schedule as they get older and older. Right now, just accept it’s unpredictable and all over the place and out of your control to prevent your mindset from spirally down when thrown off balance. Baby is boss and every day can be different
Advice : Sometimes it’s just okay to not be a working mom or a vlogging mom that shares products. Just do normal vlogging without editing , keep it real and easy . This year or atleast the first 8 months should just be about your health recovery and the baby the baby is most important . You will slowly get your life back and you will miss the time where you used to have a baby that grew up and now is teenager in their room. So enjoy this new phase journey until you find yourself again and that will take time !!! Until baby grows up ( lay in bed , pump , sleep with baby , stay in bed , and order cooked food , get paper plates , tell sawyer to wash the pumps) the real norm ,
Give yourself grace. Rome wasn’t built in a day. Don’t stress over things you weren’t able to get. Make time for yourself each day. It can be something small like getting your nails done or soaking in a bath. Talk with Sawyer and designate that time for you and that could also be bonding time between Dad and Atlas.
New subscriber here! I’m also a new mom and did struggle a bit too as my husband also works full time. I know it can be overwhelming. Self care is important and I also try to squeeze in time to get myself ready. Sometimes you just need to look good to feel good. l just wanted to let you know that you’re doing a great job. 🫶
My tip would be: breastfeed directly. It safes SO much time. The milk is always ready to go and at perfect temerature when needed. You don't need to clean, store or heat up bottles. And if you want the freedom of someone else beeing able to feed the baby every once in a while then you can occasionally pump the odd bottle when you feel like it while the baby is on the other boob.
He is probably being fed too much in a short period of time, hence the spit ups lots...make sure he gives a good burp after each feeding. Also, have him sleep in his crib, in his own room, and close curtains and/or dim lights. If you haven't gotten a camera yet, get one, this will have you keep an eye on him while he is in the crib. You will get there...pinky promise! ;)
From a mama who pumped for 4 months exclusively take the week of HARD to get that baby to latch to your breast. It’s so much easier. You don’t realize how much time you are missing out on by pumping separately. Also he seems extremely fussy for a newborn. I would see if anything you are eating isn’t agreeing with him. Usually it’s dairy. Also, get a carrier so you can hold him on you and get a Hakka and get your extra milk from the opposite breast he is eating off of. It shouldn’t be this tough so I’d really look into allergies and such. It makes me so sad it’s so stressful and tough for you guys right now. Some babies are harder. If you work on getting to the root and freeing up time from pumping you’ll feel like a different women. Also, hiring a mother’s helper isn’t a bad idea either especially since you are home just to have another set of hands. You’ve got this! Just be careful PPD hits hard when you are in the trenches and I was there exclusively pumping. It was so so hard!
Your doing amazing! Suggestions take with a grain of salt but try to start sleep training asap it will help your day schedule as well as night so much! Allows u to do things and them to sleep and wake up happy. Sounds like he maybe having stomach issues. Maybe get his dairy allergy tested I love the saying breast is best but some baby’s bellies don’t agree and that’s okay!! I know a ton that have the allergy and switching to goat or non dairy helps a ton with mood and sleep! Lastly baby wearing; Gives u free hands and they love the comfort feels like there back in womb with ur heart beat and voice vibrations
Every baby is different , don’t compare your life with other moms some babies sleep all day and don’t cry and let moms do things and some babies are clingy and want to be held all day it’s hard
Why are you using bottles and just storing your milk? Breastfeeding is from.....the Breastfeeding. Of course you need to store extra milk,but he needs the comfort and closeness of Mom! Breastfeeding! And your home needs color for the little guy 🎉
You’re not alone 🫶🏻 you’ll get through this new stage and it will be so much easier. I struggled as a first time mom to twins. The first year is still a blur lol Be kind to yourself, ask for help when you need it and accept it when it’s offered 🩵
Maybe consider getting a wearable baby carrier? Either a wrap or something like the artipoppe! That might be helpful so baby can snooze and snuggle and you can also get some stuff done!
It takes a village to raise a baby. So don't be afraid to ask for help or if you need a break. It shouldn't just be all on you even though you're a super mom. Small tasks can be completed by friends family or even Sawyer. Also, slow down. Its hard to get caught up on wanting to do everything all at once but i would make a list of maybe two tasks a day and focus on that. When they say time flies by it really does and they pass that newborn baby stage so fast.
All in favor of Mama Coop moving to FL!!! You’re in the thick of motherhood. I promise we all struggled with this
He has REALLY grown since your last video! So precious!
You may need to look into cutting out dairy or something you're eating to see if that helps with him spitting up as much.
I'd get portable/ cordless pumps that you can use no matter what you're needing to do... also, maybe try to wear him. It may take trying a couple/few different carriers/wraps to see what works but man, it can be a lifesaver!
Just go off his wake windows for your cues and unfortunately these aren't set in stone daily and the amounts change frequently, but that's the best gauge to know and use in my opinion.
You seem to be doing really well! You're doing it and obviously enjoying the mess out of him and I couldn't be happier for you!
Things that helped us the most was making sure everything was split evenly. We both work full time and sometimes over so there were days where one person will pick up a bit extra than the other but making sure it is all reciprocated has proven to be very beneficial for the both of us, including our daughter ❤
Can you talk about your breastfeeding/pumping journey?
Also, it’s impossible to get on a schedule with an infant. In the first year especially (before on one nap per day), their schedule is constantly changing and it’s more about following wake cycles than having a set schedule. Knowing that it is going to be messy and things will never be perfect will honestly help your mindset. Otherwise you’ll feel like you’re always failing. Babywear babywear babywear. Find a carrier that baby likes, and you can work, clean, cook, everything.
Oh Angelique I wish I could give you a big hug 🤗 I really empathized with you on the struggles of pp hormones, not having your mom around to help anymore and finding a reasonable pumping schedule. I have 2 kids. My first just turned 3 (around your original due date time) and my second is about to turn 6m this week.
With my first, I also struggled with staying consistent on a pumping schedule, feeding baby, myself, getting ready, housework, etc. so I had vivid flashbacks.
I just wanted to say you are doing a great job! Motherhood is not easy but it is so full filling 💛just know you are not alone and Atlas is lucky to have you as his sweet mama
Don’t you have sawyers mom right down the street? You should see if there’s 1 day a week she could come over and help for a few hrs so you can get your work done. I’m sure she’s there often tho, but just a designated day for you to specifically work and get stuff done!
balacing mom life with work life, house, marriage, puppies, etc, is super challenging and you’re doing amazing!! This is a reminder to tell yourself how proud of yourself you are, because it’s not easy having all these responsibilities 🥹🥹🩵🩵 Also, just take one day at a time. It is so true what they say, “the days are long, but the years are short”. YOU GOT THIS!!
Oh Angelique I wish I could give you a big hug 🤗 I really empathized with you on the struggles of pp hormones, not having your mom around to help anymore and finding a reasonable pumping schedule. I have 2 kids. My first just turned 3 (around your original due date time) and my second is about to turn 6m this week.
With my first, I also struggled with staying consistent on a pumping schedule, feeding baby, myself, getting ready, housework, etc. so I had vivid flashbacks.
I just wanted to say you are doing a great job! Motherhood is not easy but it is so full filling 💛just know you are not alone and Atlas is lucky to have you as his sweet mama
Like anything in life, “you don’t know what you don’t know until you know!”
You are truly the best Mom for Atlas Hartman and he tenderly feels it in his ❤.
Sending you and Sawyer much grace, patience, rest and love. Your YT fam is here for you; thank you for sharing your beautiful family with us.
It gets easier but if I can give unsolicited advice. Naps in the dark when they are so little it will help you out so much!
Send you lots of new momma love.
It’ll get easier mama ❤️ it all takes time ! You’re doing an amazing job ! I have 2 kids and each of them were completely different from each other and it definitely takes time to adjust and figure out ❤
You’re doing an incredible job mama! Everything you shared totally resonates.
Angelique I’ve been following you for a while and love your content. I want to tell you that it seems you’re doing a wonderful job at being a new mom. There is definitely an adjustment period and figuring out what that new routine looks like looks different for all families. You will slowly figure that out. Some things that helped me; 1. Baby wearing, I wore my son while I did stuff around the house, cleaning, cooking. 2. My husband started helping out more with things that I would normally easily do myself. If he’s not able to consider asking a friend to come once a week to help. You’re doing amazing!
Also, cluster feeding (eating often and maybe less at a time but more over all) and changes in a nap schedule and being more fussy and wanting to be held more are pretty good indicators that your little guy is going through a leap. You might have found that acter that week he was a little more coordinated or maybe follows objects with his eyes or just concentrates on something dor a little longer or can now hold his head up a little better... small but also big chamges for your little one.
Girly! My newborn lived in a graco swing & loved it! Please get one! You’ll be able to get so much done. ♥️ Promise!
Sending lots of love ❤ everything will get better ! And soon your mom will be back with you guys 💕 one day at a time and ask for help and try to get sunshine ❤. You got this girl !
I'm not trying to be rude here, but here at the end of your night Sawyer has gone to bed and you're still up still needing to do bottles and pump parts, etc... I must be missing something bc I'm not understanding why he's not helping with these kinds of things. It's just so heartbreaking to see you struggling to adjust and it seems there are so many easy ways he could do more to help you! I hope you allow him to do more and more of the daily household chores/cooking/cleaning, etc! In order for you to have some sanity it takes both of you or a wedge will be there sometimes!
Unfortunately most husbands are like this and it sounds like his job is demanding. The more they get the swing of it they should be able to get a nightly routine where Sawyer can help before he needs to go to bed. I am SO thankful for a husband that would never let me stay up working he will work and force me to go to bed first.
@@RyleeMcWilliams-vf4rmluckily that is not my experience. The dads I know all equally contribute to taking care of the little one/household. As it should in my opinion, you’re both parents and adults so you should both do the work.
I may find it a bit frustrating to see Angelique being the only active parent doing all the work, but I hope they’ve talked about this before hand and are both okay and happy with the situation.
She only shows a small portion of her life but my husband usually helps prep things for the night and then goes to bed. This is because he takes the first night feeding and I get to sleep so that could be what they do.
Loving this era for u two and u are doing so good
I first just want to say that you’re so beautiful and look amazing!
I’m so sorry you’re struggling a little getting into a routine with your mama gone. I promise you’re amazing and going to figure it out! I was and am still in a very similar dynamic where my husband is home, but works full time and then I work from home and take care of the baby. It’s so hard to figure out. Something that helped us TREMENDOUSLY was the moms on call book. We followed all of these schedules, had our baby sleeping through the night and taking decent naps. We always had a monitor and him in his own room and that helped his naps transition so much compared to having him next to me everywhere.
You’re amazing! It’s such a learning experience and every baby is a little different. You’ve got this!!!! ❤
I can see you and Sawyer fall in love with Atlas over and over again, it is so precious. We don't get to see every second of your life, but I am grateful for what you do share
Try swaddling the baby for his naps. Try also putting him in a quiet room with some white noise.
What I learned with my 14 month old was that if you think you're getting on a predictable schedule, they're about to go through a developmental leap and change everything up on you. Once I started to relinquish my idea of a schedule and go more with a flow for the day, my self criticism quieted down. It was more of a "I am just going to try and get us both dressed and ready for the day and teeth brushed and breakfast eaten before his first nap" than a "OK so he should wake up at 6:30 and it should take me until 7:30 to get us ready..." that kind of a thing.
I hear you sister!!! All us Mama's do!!!
With my first I had my Mama for two weeks and when she left the reality of what becoming a Mama really took hold. It was so scared that I was going to do something wrong, but we figured it out and here I am four children later, two have made it to adulthood (one with a baby of her own) and two more that will be up and out on their own in a few short years. Don't worry Mama... you will figure it out too!
Just remember... be kind to yourself, Love. Becoming a Mama for the first time can be extremely overwhelming. Give yourself grace. Love on yourself. You are not perfect and you won't always do things perfectly. Don't worry to much about "schedules" with a new born. Because the second you think they're on a schedule, they'll do a complete 360 into something else and you have to create a new schedule. 😊 At this point, try to focus on balance. But understand some days the scales will tip more in babies favor than yours and vice-a-versa and that is ok. Then there will be days that everything goes to pot and you just throw your towel in a spend the day on the couch or in bed with your baby and that is ok too!!
Take good care of yourself because he needs you now more than ever and you can't take care of him properly if you're not making your own care a priority. It's ok to ask for help. It's ok to say "I can't do this right now!"
You have an amazing support system at home and ALL of us Mama's out here will love on you and support you any way we can.
You are never alone.
You are brave.
You are strong.
You got this Mama!!!
You got this!
Light, love, and warm peace filled prayers coming your way! 💕
YOU ARE DOING AMAZING ! HONESTLY ITS IMPRESSIVE.
give yourself grace ❤️ this is a new journey and you’ll figure it all out naturally!
We used moms on call book which provides schedules for babies based on wake windows. It won’t be perfect, but it really helped make feeeding and naps more predictable which can help you with work!
As much as I loved the “previous” season of your life/videos. I enjoyed so much this type of video. ❤ I’m excited to see this as your new story now ! thank you for taking the time and doing this.
Hi, I find that having different activities in different rooms helped entertain baby so I can get things done. Maybe a baby gym, he can at least lay on his back and look at the toys. Swings are great, there is so many types. He's beautiful! And you look amazing! ❤
I am in the same boat as you my little guy is almost 3 months old. I would say that trying a hands free pump may help because you could have pumped while getting ready or even pumping while he’s eating! I also would recommend giving yourself grace it’ll get easier! I’m still learning but you got this!😊
My daughter had twins two years ago, and the only way to get anything done is to get the babies on a set schedule, from feeding at the same time to playtime. She got a lot of great tips from her baby doctor. When you can get baby boy to eat more each feeding, he should nap longer. Other than that, just enjoy this time, as you already noticed he is growing so fast, and don't beat yourself up if you can't do it all. Thankyou for sharing your beautiful baby.
You’re doing such a good job!!! I found the baby brezza bottle washer to be life changing! I was spending so many hours per day washing pump parts and bottles. Love love love my bottle washer!
You’re doing a good job❤. Postpartum is so hard. Especially the first time. You’ll find a rhythm
You have to get a set of portable pumps! Mom cozy has some great, affordable ones! Mom cozy S12 to be exact! They are life savers. Sometimes I pop them on, and start doing things around the house and forget I have them on.
Also, you're doing great! Moming is tough, especially the first time around. Give yourself, Sawyer, and baby Atlas some grace ❤
He looks 100% like a mini you! absolutely adorable:)
You’re going to figure this all out, all your cleaning videos were so organized and thorough. My kids were exactly like Atlas is, you feed them, change them, they close their eyes for ten minutes and round two. Maybe one of those little beds that swing back and forth. Do you swaddle him at all, that calms them and they sleep really well. Good luck.
For the washer/dryer alerts, the songs annoy me so -- I turn off the audible alerts and we put a smart outlet on each machine so that when they stop drawing power (the cycle is done) it sends a text.
One thought that might make your life easier is to just nurse his and then after he eats pump out the rest. That way you’re not having to wait for milk to get warm and the. Feed him then pump yourself .
YES!
You don’t need to warm breast milk
Maybe he’s having latching issues. My first never latched so I had to pump.
You’re a wonderful momma!!
I think you are doing a great job, everything is new for Atlas and you are hi safe space as all he’s ever known is you. So maybe wearing him while you do things around the house would help both of you. Motherhood is hard, and all of it is new no matter what stage of it you are in, just as you feel like you are getting into it, they grow and change and you have to learn things all over again. Don’t put so much pressure on yourself to get things done or try to be more like how it was before he arrived, as it will always be different and no point trying to stress yourself out trying to get to do everything all the time…
My son is 3yrs old and I feel like I’m always learning how to manage life and him and trying to be a good parent as I’m the only one he has… it’s a constant battle that does get better and so much more rewarding as time goes on. Keep doing what you are doing and it will get better, you’ll find your groove 😊
Have you tried gas drops or gripe water? His crying out during sleep and falling back asleep sounds like gas pains maybe... ? Obviously, idk, but just thought I'd ask to see in case you hadn't tried. I previously mentioned maybe changing your diet up as something may be causing him discomfort so that's an idea too. Sending you warm wishes as you're going through all these changes! You're doing great!
Have you joined a mummy and me group?? That was amazzzzong for me postpartum, started it when she was around 10 weeks old as well
@angeliquehartman Yes, yes, yes. I was going crazy until I joined up with a whole gang of new Moms and their babies. I went from sad to glad very quickly. So much fun to have a group of Moms with all the babies the same age to be with a few hours daily/weekly (whatever works for you). I actually considered it a lifesaver since it brought me (and my baby) such much happiness and additional emotional support beyond my husband/family.
Lol exactly as I put my laundry in the washing machine, your finish song started playing. I was confused for a second.. I also have one from Samsung 🤣🙈
I work a 9-5 from home and have my daughter home with me. When she was an infant, I had her in the carrier while I was working , doing laundry, dishes etc. It will get easier mama
Please share all the baby products. Crib , blanket, clothes everything please.
Angelique, first of all you’re doing amazing! I had my first baby girl 11 months ago. My (unsolicited lol) advice for you is to get someone aside from you and Sawyer to watch the baby a day or 2 a week for a few hours so you can check things off your list and maybe go on a date. It gets easier as you get into a flow, but baby will get more active and things will always be busy. So either have family member or hire a part time nanny and I promise you will feel better, more productive and enjoy being a mommy to the fullest! I hated to leave my baby at first, but I quickly realized my active personality needed that productive time to be the best mom! P.S I pumped while I was away and It wasn’t as hard as I thought it would be!
Being a new mom is so hard. I feel for you at this early stage. It does get better. It seems though that he is eating too much and is very gassy. That’s why he can’t sleep and is spitting up so much.
Put your pump parts in ziploc and put in fridge every other pump and it cuts down on how often you need to wash. From a professional nanny/nbcs and breastfeeding educator.
I did this but I kept the same parts in the fridge for that day and then washed each night.
I swear by the Artipop baby carrier or any baby carrier, it’s gonna change your life! Once you get used to doing things while wearing him, life becomes so much easier!
The sing and dance along with the laundry machine is so relatable 😂❤️
Try wearable pumps!! I love mine and can get so much done and we able to focus on baby without having to worry about
Our washer and dryer does same thing I just.muted them
hahahah same laundry sooong!!!!
I just wanna say how proud I am of you. You’re doing amazing! I have an 8 month old now. It’s been a crazy learning curve. I highly suggest getting rid of a schedule. You cannot predict anything. It won’t be like this forever!!!! I promise, but he will never be this little again. Soak up alllll the snuggles. Get a baby carrier or 5! I’ve tried them all and I have liked different ones at different stages. The baby swings are awesome. But also pumping is super time consuming. Have you thought about doing direct breastfeeding? No dishes with that, no worrying about needing to pump and feed him. You can side lie and nurse and look into safe sleep 7 guidelines and you may sleep better. I know American society tells us not to do all of these things things. But attachment parenting and the rest of the work does co sleeping and it saved my mental health. No matter what you choose, just know you’re doing amazing!!! The first 6 months are really hard. But you will turn a corner and find a groove around 6 months. This is just a season. Also, car naps are next level. Some days I put her in the car and drive around. Get myself something to eat and just sit in the car with a podcast while she sleeps.
I don’t want to offer unwanted advice, but something that helped my emotions a LOT postpartum was a ton of skin to skin with my baby. It helps regulate both his and your emotions & releases oxytocin + helps bonding. Maybe you can do that while he’s feeding or you can baby wear with him just wearing a diaper. ❤
With all the chaos going on, trust me, it will help you feel grounded and calm. Skin to skin is a literal drug. Google it and how beneficial it is for both you and baby ❤❤❤❤❤
You're doing great! Thanks for sharing
Atlas may not be digesting that particular milk. My boys both spit up a lot and therefore didn't nap well because they were still hungry. Once the Dr put them on soy milk they held it down and felt full because they spit up less. U might mention it to the pediatrician. Hope this helps
No judgement at all just genuinely curious! What made you decide to pump and bottle feed instead of breastfeed? Asking as someone who’s hoping to conceive soon and just curious about your journey
I have the MomCozy M5 cordless pump and it’s life changing. I pump while feeding my baby on my legs. My little girl is the same age as yours! I would have quit exclusively pumping if it wasn’t for the cordless pump. I would also swaddle little guy and you might get a longer stretch of sleep! Hope this helps! You’re doing great mama!
Youre still pretty early on. These infant staged are all over the place right now. You will figure out your own rythym that works best for you! You got this, praying for you! ❤
Omg what a cute baby!!!
As for advice from a lactation counselor, Since you seem to be an exclusive pumped, it may be worth the investment to get a pair of cordless pumps so you can have more freedom while pumping
Ugh I’m nervous I’m bout to have twins next weekend. It was hard with my first born I know it’s going to be even harder with 2 newborns. And the pumping was hard for me to keep up with with my first born too stressful for me so I stopped pumping and just breastfed on demand and if my mom or hubby would be with him he’d have formula.
You need to nap and rest while the baby naps. Everything else can wait or not get done at all. List on what HAS to be done in order so like drink water, pump, feed, etc. Again let everything else go.
You are doing amazing
It gets easier and more predictable I promise!
Just know that it does get more predictable and they get more in a routine and schedule as they get older and older.
Right now, just accept it’s unpredictable and all over the place and out of your control to prevent your mindset from spirally down when thrown off balance. Baby is boss and every day can be different
Also cluster feeding is real. I almost lost my mind from the feeding every 5 seconds but that ends soon!
It’s been 24 years I really don’t remember the spit up!! Lol❤
Advice : Sometimes it’s just okay to not be a working mom or a vlogging mom that shares products. Just do normal vlogging without editing , keep it real and easy . This year or atleast the first 8 months should just be about your health recovery and the baby the baby is most important . You will slowly get your life back and you will miss the time where you used to have a baby that grew up and now is teenager in their room. So enjoy this new phase journey until you find yourself again and that will take time !!! Until baby grows up ( lay in bed , pump , sleep with baby , stay in bed , and order cooked food , get paper plates , tell sawyer to wash the pumps) the real norm ,
Give yourself grace. Rome wasn’t built in a day. Don’t stress over things you weren’t able to get. Make time for yourself each day. It can be something small like getting your nails done or soaking in a bath. Talk with Sawyer and designate that time for you and that could also be bonding time between Dad and Atlas.
New subscriber here! I’m also a new mom and did struggle a bit too as my husband also works full time. I know it can be overwhelming. Self care is important and I also try to squeeze in time to get myself ready. Sometimes you just need to look good to feel good. l just wanted to let you know that you’re doing a great job. 🫶
My tip would be: breastfeed directly. It safes SO much time. The milk is always ready to go and at perfect temerature when needed. You don't need to clean, store or heat up bottles. And if you want the freedom of someone else beeing able to feed the baby every once in a while then you can occasionally pump the odd bottle when you feel like it while the baby is on the other boob.
You need a cordless breast pump! Momcozy has a good one!
Have you tried putting him in a dim room to nap? Maybe the dark will help him stay asleep
He is probably being fed too much in a short period of time, hence the spit ups lots...make sure he gives a good burp after each feeding. Also, have him sleep in his crib, in his own room, and close curtains and/or dim lights. If you haven't gotten a camera yet, get one, this will have you keep an eye on him while he is in the crib. You will get there...pinky promise! ;)
Maybe he has a lot of gas. That’s why he’s fussy. Plus the spiting up usually means full or gas.
From a mama who pumped for 4 months exclusively take the week of HARD to get that baby to latch to your breast. It’s so much easier. You don’t realize how much time you are missing out on by pumping separately. Also he seems extremely fussy for a newborn. I would see if anything you are eating isn’t agreeing with him. Usually it’s dairy. Also, get a carrier so you can hold him on you and get a Hakka and get your extra milk from the opposite breast he is eating off of. It shouldn’t be this tough so I’d really look into allergies and such. It makes me so sad it’s so stressful and tough for you guys right now. Some babies are harder. If you work on getting to the root and freeing up time from pumping you’ll feel like a different women. Also, hiring a mother’s helper isn’t a bad idea either especially since you are home just to have another set of hands. You’ve got this! Just be careful PPD hits hard when you are in the trenches and I was there exclusively pumping. It was so so hard!
Could he be constipated? I hear the grunting and sometimes that can be from Constipation.
Your doing amazing! Suggestions take with a grain of salt but try to start sleep training asap it will help your day schedule as well as night so much! Allows u to do things and them to sleep and wake up happy. Sounds like he maybe having stomach issues. Maybe get his dairy allergy tested I love the saying breast is best but some baby’s bellies don’t agree and that’s okay!! I know a ton that have the allergy and switching to goat or non dairy helps a ton with mood and sleep!
Lastly baby wearing; Gives u free hands and they love the comfort feels like there back in womb with ur heart beat and voice vibrations
Every baby is different , don’t compare your life with other moms some babies sleep all day and don’t cry and let moms do things and some babies are clingy and want to be held all day it’s hard
He his spitting up a lot because your feeding him too much too often
Why do you pump and not breast feed?
Why are you using bottles and just storing your milk?
Breastfeeding is from.....the Breastfeeding.
Of course you need to store extra milk,but he needs the comfort and closeness of Mom! Breastfeeding! And your home needs color for the little guy 🎉
Weird man...
You’re not alone 🫶🏻 you’ll get through this new stage and it will be so much easier. I struggled as a first time mom to twins. The first year is still a blur lol Be kind to yourself, ask for help when you need it and accept it when it’s offered 🩵