So let me get this straight...OP's parents essentially wrote bizarre erotic fanfiction about their own child (ew), spread it to everyone, gaslit OP when called out on it, then demanded forgiveness while maintaining they've done nothing wrong. I...just...words fail me.
Sounds like they're the ones with dementia. Or a bad joke told 10 years ago they latched onto and spread as gospel. BUT EVEN THEN. even if they TRULY believed that's how they met. WHY TELL OTHER PEOPLE, WHY TELL YOUR SIBLINGS AND NEPHEWS?? EW??? WTF
@@thechapLenits worse than you think if this is how she acts about a child thats not hers imagine how much she’s going to spoil her own child and op will be trying to teach their child, its going to cause drama
@@mandalorianhunter1yeah she tells him last minute she wants this cake, doesn’t get or make it herself, and is upset that another mom wanted the cake but OP got it first?
Story 1: Even if it was true, what kind sick freaks would go out of there way to tell the whole family about there daughter for 10 years? And it's not like the family wants to here about it either, so they were going out of their way to lie about what happened between you and your ex. Now this is something to go CN for.
The worst is that OP has the friends who actually introduced the two to back up the true story, while her parents' own 'proof' is on their twisted minds and they keep changing the story while OP's one keep consistent; It's not OP breaking up the family for not wanting to be with toxic gaslighters, it's them for making up lies about their own daughter and not wanting to accept the consequences for their horrible behaviour.
Story 3: OP better watch out. If his wife is staying at her mother's house there is a high possibility that if she goes into labor she won't tell him until AFTER she gives birth and names the baby. And that would just open a whole new can of worms if he tries to get the name on the birth certificate changed.
@@lorilancaster5917 she could try, but he could take the matter to court and demand a DNA test and when the test proves he is the father he can sue to be put on it. But no matter what happens there is going to be a whole mess of drama going on.
@@laurabaumgartner3085 as I mentioned if she does this OPs only course of action would be to take her to court. They may not have the resources to do so
I think people often forget that you're not just naming a baby, you're naming a person. A person who will have to deal with the name for the rest of their lives unless they change it. Goes double for "cute" names, fandom names, and other similar names that yes, should go to the family pet and not the baby.
Fr, I had a classmate whose name was Willy because his parents thought William was too old and wanted to name him after his grandpa that recently passed away. The kid was bullied relentlessly and legally changed his name the second he could. That name that was meant to honor his grandpa caused him endless suffering, severe self esteem issues and anxiety. He was one of the smartest kids in our grade, incredibly emotionally intelligent for our age and really friendly once you got through his hard shell, I can only imagine what heights he could've achieved had he not received all that abuse. I don't know how he's doing now since he's distanced himself with everyone once he left and I don't want my curiosity to cause someone else to relive bad memories, but I hope life is treating him well wherever he is and that he's surrounded by people who respect and appreciate him. Parents please name your kids responsibly, that one decision can influence the entire trajectory of their lives.
So true. Fandom names are the worst, imo. I was talking to a regular at work about one of his tattoos, which was inspired by Avatar: The Last Airbender. I love the show, it's fantastic! But then, the guy tells me that he and his wife had named their son Iroh, after one of the characters. The character is awesome too, but really? Use that name for your dog or something!
@@jessicalee5260i think that you forget that iroh is an actual chinese name ^^ you bring up a good point but lets not throw Actual Ethnic Names belonging to Actual Real Cultures under the bus even if they belong to a fandom character? like. idk
I've heard of the lawyer/bind date test where you say "this is your lawyer - (baby name)" or "this is your blind date - (baby name)" as a way of testing what kind of life that kid is going to have with that name.
First Story, NTA: OP's parents are weird as hell. Why are they making these rumors about their own daughter and her husband? Also, its clear its on purpose because of the fact that their story is changing constantly. OP's parents are toxic Second Story, NTA: Um, just because thie lady has a kid doesn’t mean OP is obligated to give some random child cake he already ordered and probably paid for. This looks like a first come first served situation Third Story, NTA: OP's wife is trying to set this kid up for failure in life. This kid will 100% get bullied over this name (especially if other kids/teens google the meaning). The fact that she had pick this name behind OP's back after agreeing to take the name off the list is disrespectful Fourth Story, NTA: Anyone who puts a partner above their kids are scum in my eyes. The fact OP's wife wasn’t willing to sacrifice anything and prefer to milk OP's son for financial gain is really telling of this woman. Fifth Story, NTA: What would be more embarassing: them sitting on foldable chairs or the bride and groom explaining to everyone that the in laws' guests are basically wedding crashers
Story 1: It's clear that the parents find something about their relationship embarrassing or want to hide something that they did as something done by their child instead. I wouldn't be surprised if it was because of how long between OP's previous and next partner.
In the first story, my perception is that the parents *have* actually somehow managed to convince themselves of the truth of their version of events (no fucking *clue* _how,_ though) and, when confronted with the truth, their cognitive dissonance is kicking in and forcing them to become defensive. They've either got to convince OP that she _did_ meet her current husband in a threesome with her old one, convince her that it's not a big deal that they got that wrong or admit to themselves that they've been spreading weird, false rumours about their daughter for a decade and it *is* a big deal!
The thought that is twirling in my head is that they could have started the rumors for attention. Like a twisted way of bragging about your kid where, instead of talking about accomplishments, they tell a weird story that is going to stick for how absurd it is. That is the only logical explanation that I can think of, and then, after a decade, they just absorbed this story.
My first husband was a liar bout everything. I don't know if you would consider him a pathological liar. But I swear he believed the lies he told. So it makes me wonder if the mother or the father told the other person as if it were truth and that's why they both believe it. But he really did believe these lies he told and he told them with such confidence. There was a time he was telling his friends about something he and I had done. Telling them about somewhere we had gone, something we had done. The thing is none of it was true. I'm sitting there looking at him like what are you talking about. I don't know where the story even came from and what made him tell his friends about it or anything. It was so bizarre to me. But the fact it was something him and I did, that he's telling them with me standing right there, was even more bizarre.
The story is so weird. Like what is their motivation for doing this in the first place? My only answer is that OP'S ex husband was the one to tell them that story just to spite her, and they believed it was true all this time. It's the only explanation that makes sense
@@codyjohnson6427 I agree. That's the only explanation that seems to make even a little bit of sense, even if it's still weird. Regardless of how the story generated, OP's parents were willing to start sexual rumors about their own daughter. The ick factor is very high. Who knows what else they'll say about their daughter and her husband? If they have kids, will they start rumors of child abuse or neglect? For the sake of her marriage and family, I think OP should stay faraway from her parents. They are sabotaging her marriage and her reputation.
I have the sneaking suspicion that the wife plans on giving birth without telling hubby so that she could officially name the kid Mune before he could make his intentions known to the hospital staff. If she’s trying power plays like the thing with her moms blanket gift then just maybe… Also, in my observations girls can be so much more brutal in their bullying than boys.
Exactly hence why she called for mommy to take her. She knows she’s due any day and I bet she won’t tell OP until after the baby is born that she delivered. This is a game to her now and she wants to win.
I wonder if OP will divorce her or just call the son by a different name, make it seem like Mune is a pet name his mom calls him and have Michael or something as his “real” name
Baby Name Story: Just wanted to toss in that I am a woman with a last name that is very, very similar to a genre of music. All throughout elementary school I would get mocked if anyone found out my last name, both by boys AND girls. So yes. Girls do in fact make fun of (and get made fun of) for names. It ain't just a boy thing.
@@rochie4865He probably just tried to come up with a reason why the wife doesn't see the problem... but yeah, it was a weird guess, that just didn't make sense🤷🏻♀️
Last story: I'm pretty sure the friends figured it out when you had to find chairs and tables for them. My guess is they were all obviously mad because they crashed a wedding and was more than likely getting dirty looks from the invited guests, now your in-laws have to make it look like this was a misunderstanding by forcing the bride and groom to apologize without saying what they probably already know. They made their bed they get to lie in it, you have no obligation to apologize and of anything allowing them to stay with pretty nice of you and your husband.
Something I don't understand is why parents are like that. "Oh, my kid wants your stuff. Give it" like, no?? Teach your kid that no is a no, and there's a reason for it. Doesn't matter the reason.
I worked at a “democratic” summer camp one year. We started each week by getting the kids to write their own camp rules. It was, indeed, hilarious. The number of grudge matches I saw play out week to week was great. Kid A has a pet peeve? Pet peeve is banned! Kid B likes doing A’s pet peeve. Next week kid B creates a rule banning something A likes.
Story 3: no you're not wrong she tried to publicly announced that name to force you into accepting it and now she's upset it didn't work, she even got her mom to go along with it. Also now that we know the name means breast in Japanese it's a definite no. You want that name so bad keep talking about it but don't agree to veto then try to force your husband to go with it because the entire family thinks that there's name, and if he's willing to do that much then I would be worried she tried to do something sneaky to use it on the birth certificate without your knowledge.
The only thing that I don't agree with Rslash is the bullying part. I have the most basic and normal name and my husband too, and we still got bullied because of the name. When a bully decides that you are a target, ANYTHING is a reason for bullying.
@@misoppas Bullies will always exist. However, there is no need to give them ammunition to use against you. All you will end up doing is making it worse.
As someone who as watch the movie sometime ago... The fact it means Breast in japanese is like... IRRELEVANT ? Multipule names that are pretty common can have meaning in other languages ? The veto part, Ok I agree she shouldn't do that... The fact that Mune ( Prononce Moon in the movie ) is in fact a cute name and the movie is really great ( I invite people to look at the movie ) overall... The Breast part is irrelevant due to my point below... and the fact tha the post DOESN'T MENTION THAT The husband can't really say the name is stupid too because I know some people named after many characters in fiction...
As someone who knew a kid who had a last name that meant breast in Spanish he didn't get bullied. I think people are once again jumping the gun. Kids will forever be cruel and do stupid shit. You can call a kid David or Ken and they will find a way to make fun of someone.
Also Mune means breast in the same way that the word "chest" means breast. No one would be like "Say it with your chest... you're talking about BOOOBS!!!!"
Story 4: As a girl with a traditionally guy's name I got made fun of it a lot. I have only really come to embrace it when I turned 18, and it was becoming a trend. I really hope that kid isn't named Mune
As a dude with a traditional girl's name I was lucky that there just happened to be two grown men at the church I grew up at who had my name too. Weird coincidence, because it is rare, but it sure helped me. I've never really sweat the name and kids didn't make fun because they realized quickly I wasn't sensitive about it or insecure.
For the kids name story: as a former girl, girls do -- very often -- make fun of each other's names. They make fun of friend's names, enemies' names, family names, their own names. They're hilarious with it too.
@@voodoovixen666 Maybe you had good friends or a name hard to make fun of. I had a friend who rhymed my name with everything, well not my name how it's actually pronounced, but it has a silent "e" at the end of it, so she pronounced it and it make for some awful rhymes which I hated.
Story 1: NTA go no contact with them completely if anything you should get revenge on your parents spreading a "rumour" saying they're so obsessed with your love life they tried catching you in the act give them a taste of there own abusive gaslighting medicine. Story 2: Nta this was a very teachable moment for the mother but nope she instead used this moment to act entitled and enable her daughter to throw a tantrum trying to guilt you. Story 3: nta baby names are a 2 yes 1 no situation because end of the day it's your kid not hers, also what is up with your wife sneaking behind your back and basically making this huge decision without your consent and embrassing/emotionally blackmailing you just because she's putting her desires over yours super disrespectful.
First story, go to all social media and openly call out the parents, tell everyone they've been lying about OP and her husband's life, call them out for going behind their backs, etc. Besides, it sounds like they're a lost cause because they raised the big red flag that shows they aren't accepting responsibility.
About the baby name story: OP’s wife is likely thinking of their future son in “baby” terms only. How cute it woul be to have a cute tiny baby who’s name is “Moone”, rather than envisioning him as the man he will become having to deal with such a name.
That first story might be very simple: Since the details are so explicit and don't appear to have changed between people, I think this is how OP'S PARENTS started their relationship. Them insisting it is fine and seeking acceptance for the story from the family is just them seeking acceptance for their own past while also distancing themselves from their own actions by using OP as a proxy. So long as OP is the one who did it, and OP is not being shamed for what happened, their own past is validated and they do not ever need to feel bad about themselves. It would make everything make sense. Why they spread the story in a way that would prevent the OP from knowing about it, yet everyone in the family still seems to accept OP as they are despite that stigma. Why they are denying it, since accepting they lied and what they did was wrong is equal to them to admitting their own past was wrong. And they will keep telling and re-telling THEIR story to others, claiming it was 'someone else' who did it, whenever they need to feel validated in their life choices with the safety if knowing that if there'll be fallout, their little proxy will be affected and they can play doting parents to help fix it.
I love that you gave the wife in the cake story a score, and I’m with you on it. “I would have been fine with it if you gave the cake to them.” My ass. OP would have been in the doghouse if he had done that. 😂
Thank you Be damned if you do, be damned if you don't Honestly I hate people like the wife, who are like "always be the bigger person". Like you asked your husband for a cake and it already was late.
@@mandalorianhunter1 i see that attitude mostly with women and i get the feeling that its a society issue ala "you need to put other's wants and needs above your own" you spend all your life being told to "be the bigger person" and let others walk all over you and suddenly you can't handle confrontation, won't "rock the boat" when people take advantage of you or hurt you, and you bend over backwards to put other people's wants above your own needs.
@@abiean222 Truth Society tells you to fight back but only on "certain conditions" or that you need stand up for yourself, only for you to be punished for it. Just the hypocrisy.
Story 1: People will usually do this to embellish stories to either make the story seem less embarrassing for them, usually by playing up their role, or this is something preemptive to hide something that they did in case the story about them ever gets out.
My guess is that they're projecting, and that the experience they're talking about did happen, but not to OP. Instead, the people looking for a threesome were them. They just couldn't hide this juicy little story of theirs, but they were too embarrassed and afraid of the disgusting look they know people would give them that they instead looked for different main characters. The whole "we accept your choices" bs might also be them justifying themselves too.
@@aleahlrb I hate that your theory is far more plausible than some of the others rolling around in my head. And unfortunately I know people who would do this to their own kids/family...
@@aleahlrb Eh, I think it's simpler than that. They preferred the ex-husband over the current husband and this is their way of trying to sabotage the relationship.
I'm not saying I agree with the woman in this story but I do believe that the kid should get a job so he can buy thing he want, and get some responsibility. He going to need a car and a way to maintain it. I am not saying he should be paying rent and bills but getting a job at that age is liberating.
About the cake story (4:14), OP did well. OP wasn’t in the obligation of bending backwards to please a spoiled brat, and to shut up an entitled mom. Like you said rSlash, first come first serve. OP should also be aware that his wife might be entitled and an enabler the way she talked to him about what happened in the bakery store and what he did.
As a former baker and being involved with catering that last story got to me. Food supply for an event is not endless, we don't have a magic storeroom with extra stuff. Oh, and calling up a day before the event and asking to have a dozen extra people CAN be a problem. Supplies have already been ordered, prep is already being done. Those in laws were stupid.
The story with the stepmom trying to make her stepson pay rent: It just seems like another classic case of evil stepmom more than anything. She probably figures she’s going to have kids with OP eventually, so she’s trying to strong-arm his son out of the picture so that way she can have all of OP’s resources allocated to her and her kids, stepmoms do it all the time to their step kids. I guarantee she wouldn’t even *THINK TO SUGGEST* if it were her kids, that they should get a job and pay rent when they’re 16. She’s just trying to drive a wedge in between OP and his son like so many stepmoms do with their stepchildren.
which is so stupid, because, just like with dating a cheater, if they can do it to their kids with another woman, they do it with your kids. i never understand how anyone would want to have kids with someone willing to abandon or abuse their kids from a previous relationship. its such a major red flag, and yet, still over and over we see men and women willing to marry and have kids with someone who doesn't treat their kids right.
You know what the funny(?) thing is? When my dad remarried, I was living with him for a while, and paying $400 a month. I was so cucked or something that I considered myself lucky because apartments start at twice to three times that much. But I failed to account for the fact that I was paying for a corner of the entry room, where I kept my own mattress and desk and all my other worldly possessions. Anyhow, to make a long story short, his wife hates me and eventually got him to throw me out. Then, when they were having money troubles, it came up that he never actually told her I was paying rent. Like, no wonder she hated me, she thought I was a freeloader... that everyone just treated like shit. -Also, there maybe be some part of this story where Dad was spending my money on wine, women, and song; or something (I wouldn't put it past him), and that's why he kept it secret... but that's not my problem.-
Wife's reaction in the baby name story tells you everything you need to know about what kind of mother she will be. Controlling, manipulative and emotionally unavailable.
The name is cool in my opinion, but agree 100%. She could have even compromised by suggesting it as a middle name and/or altering the spelling to “Moon” (to avoid confusion with pronunciation), but she chose to go behind her partner’s back.
At least if she had named him Goku, there's be a 50/50 chance of the other kids embracing it. Like if he grows up to be super athletic or something... they'd still tease him for being dumb as a brick, even if he were an astrophysicist.
@@hhheavennnit's interesting until you realize she's naming the kid after a blue fawn furry alien kid thing? Imagine being 30 and someone asks how you got your unique name
Story 3, about naming their kid: at the party, when the reveal happened, id have probably been an AH about it "whats it say?" "Oh, what's that mean?" "Okay but why is it on our child's blanket?" "Thats not what we talked about, whered it even come from?" Just played really dumb about it, making it very obvious I had no say in the name. Because if you are gonna be an AH and name our kid without me, I want everyone to know thats exactly what happened.
4th story. I left so many bad ideas because they wanted me to choose them over my babies. My now husband and I got into an argument over my daughter's bad behavior (she is neurodivergent). He told me it was her or him. I threw a duffel bag and his engagement ring at him. He spent 3 years fixing that mistake. She is now grown with her own family, but she still calls him and they have a great relationship. But my kids will always come before anything or anyone else. If that makes me an asshole, I will wear it like a badge of honor.
People can’t date or marry someone who has kids and expect to be their number one. Any good parent will always put their kids first. Granted the partner has the right to express issues especially if the relationship between them and kid needs help. However there is a line and I wish OP saw her flags sooner.
You and my mom would get along amazingly. I'm her eldest and she's as protective of me as she is my younger brother and sister. Literally yelled at someone when I was little for giving me a desert with Banana's in it which both she and me are allergic to, this person knew this and STILL decided that me trying something that could hospitalize me was more important than my over-all health. Why tf this person thought nothing would happen I have no idea because me and my mom never ate Bananas around this person. I was given ice cream after we left for being in my mom's words 'A brave girl who did the right thing for myself'. Still one of my best memories of her
Uninvited story: My son just got married last weekend and let me tell you, you never invite ANYONE without the permission of the bride and groom. The couple pick a venue that fits their amount of guests, so you have to be careful about going over capacity and making it a safety concern. Most venues handle a bulk part of the wedding reception itinerary, so they need an accurate number to pull it off. Besides, it’s just plain rude to invite people, without an invitation.
People who name their kids weird names are just setting them up for a lifetime of strife. This just goes back to the old saying that not everybody should be parents...
Last story: I'm very sorry for not being psychic enough to foresee and accommodate your invitation that nobody told me about. Sarcasm aside, I think OP was actually being very generous by making post-hoc accommodations instead of kicking out the uninvited guests.
Maybe they enjoy the attention. I've seen other stories of people who make up stories about their friends and relatives just to get attention from others.
Story 1: The aunt was the VIP by thinking the story was out of character for OP and letting OP know about it. Gossip is often vicious and untrue, and it also reveals a lot about the people who are spreading it. The parents should be humiliated by their actions, though they sound rather shameless.
Last story, the bride was extremely gracious to the uninvited guests. They got them a table and chairs and fed them. She was totally right to tell the inlaws to clean up their own damn mess.
14:43 There is only so much that a venue can do for its guests. Communication is key, for adding extra guests. Guests cannot just add more guests on their own, in regards to someone else's wedding.
Story 3: The wife should really listen to Johnny Cash's "Boy named Sue" to get a clearer picture of what she is setting her son up for. Unless that was her plan....
That's honestly what I was thinking. They either loved the ex to death over the current husband, or they were disappointed that their daughter divorced her ex and married someone else. Maybe even both.
11:28 there’s no gender bias, girls make fun of other girls names, I did it and was a receiver of it ( around 6-7 yo). There’s names I like but they’re English names and I’m French Canadian, so I have to think about how other people will see it
Of course there is a gender bias, just not like rSlash said. Boys are more likely to hit each other, girls are more likely to emotionally abuse each other. If boys make fun of a name, they usually just wanna provoke a brawl in the short run. Girls on the other hand will make fun of, gaslight and spread rumors over months or years until their victims physically mutilate themselves. Though... The name alone doesn't matter... A bully will torture his victims without needing any reason. The most important thing to teach your child is to fight back. Because abusers prefer victims that don't.
Kid name story: As a girl I can tell you girls do for sure make fun of people too, its literally called mean girl.. If the mother don't care for their child not to stand out like this its only gonna go down hill from here.The lack of respect will only get worse from here on out. Leaving at 9m when you can go into labor at any moment especially because of the strong feelings. Man this is divorce territory for me..
Oh I already hear about story 1, there is an update too. Basically, the parents, in particular the dad, just wanted to show off with a sensational story. A family member has his marriage, and both OP and OP's parents are invited. OP make dad promise to stop with this story. In the marriage, OP's dad did a toast where he compares the married couple to OP and her husband, in particular how they meet. OP take the micro, apologizes and tell the true story. OP's dad then want apologized from OP for humiliating him in front of the family. Half the family didn't believe him before, no one does now. OP apologized to the main couple for the drama to their weeding, but they don't blame her. Op and OP's dad are estranged.
3rd story: one thing that rslash didn't even bring up, is that not only did the wife go behind OP's back to try and use the name, SHE TOLD HER MOM the name, who then sewed it into a baby blanket! Now, if Mune isn't the kid's name, OP will most likely throw the blanket out because.. Mine isn't the kids name, why would that be on the blanket? And throwing the basket away will cause even more drama
*4th Story:* IMO, it's perfectly reasonable to not expect rent from an adult child still living at home if they're attending college. _"If you're not learning, you're earning."_ Maybe it's time OP's wife puts on a McDonald's uniform if she wants more money.
Story 4: okay I'm just going to go on a limb and say your wife never wanted children, also she's stupid. No one in their right mind would ever have the expectation that they would come before the child, except for entitled people that think they're better than they actually are. Tell her get a job if she wants more money, or give up some of the expensive activity she likes to do, you already made it clear your son will never be an option. In fact this reminds me of something my dad said when people criticize my dad for not charging my brother rent after graduating college. "If he could pay rent to he wouldn't still be living with me. He should be saving to move out."
Second story: The wife isn’t being ‘mindful’ - shes repeating her conditioning to make peace/compromise/give in/make excuses or even tell fibs to smooth things over. OP’s wife is in the wrong, 100%, but she doesn’t realise her own conditioning and how it affects her.
Theory on story one: it was the ex husband that started the story, but it happened so long ago, in the parents memories the teller switch from the ex to OP.
For the cake story: if the cake wasn't for the wife he should have eaten it right in front of the kid while making direct eye contact. Children need to learn that the world is a cruel evil place.🤣
Story 3: Both parents need to agree to the name. You don't go behind people's backs like that. I don't really think a name like Mune would be a name to get bullied over, but it pretty much takes a backseat when the following day comes and OP calls out his wife for sticking to a name he disagreed with anyway, because he was undermined
I was bullied over my name. You may notice how extremely boring it is, but it rhymed with "knob" and that's all the little shits needed. This kid will absolutely be savaged over his name if she manages to name him that.
People forget that they're not naming a baby. They're naming a future adult that will have to navigate professional and social situations with the name you give them. Please have some empathy for your baby.
Story 1: I would turn the tables on the parents. Just tell the whole family you're concerned with your parents' mental stability with all the stories they've been telling and make it seem like they're going senile with their age 😂 I have a feeling they're the type of parents who would paint their own child in a bad light so they can be the "oh where did i go wrong" types of parents but as soon as someone thinks anything remotely negative about them they can't handle it.
First story is by far one of the weirdest I've heard. Either they lied to seem interesting and are embarrassed they got caught. Or they actually think its true and have SERIOUS memory issues. Either way either get them to a doctor or go no contact.
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Wife picking name against partner's wishes: 2.5/5 buttholes. Wife leaving as emotional blackmail: 3.75/5 buttholes. I don't know if that's recoverable. That's straight up emotional abuse.
Story 4: The deal I made with my parrents when I was 18. 25% of my income goes to a savings account, 25% goes to my parrents as long as I live with them, the rest is mine to use as I see fit. For every month I keep doing this. I will get X amount returned to me the day I move out.
The cake story; you forgot one detail R/Slash; if OP did give the roll to the child and came home with nothing or something else, you know FOR A FACT the pregnant wife would've lost her mind!
That first one already has so many red flags purely because of gaslighting. My mom lied about me so much that I gag at the thought of her saying "I love you" Parents that lie and avoid any sort of truth are easily the least parental person you can have in your life. Abandon them.
And even if she doesn’t hypothetically, she still named the child behind OPs back and if he stays and has another kid with her she will do the same thing.
Anyone named after Kevin McAllister from Home Alone, most likely disagrees with you. Just because it's a "normal" name, doesn't make it any better. Jumping onto any naming hype screws your child just as much as an overly exotic name!
Some parents won't settle on names. At least she was that upfront. My ex-wife wanted our sons middle name to be a name I had a lot of trauma and bad memories around. We settled on something similar but with a different pronunciation and spelling like Michael and McHale. She added a bunch of letters to it on the birth certificate to change the name back to the other pronunciation.
Names are super important to get right when you have a kid. I had a male teacher whose first name was Leslie and he used to tell us about how difficult it was growing up with a more feminine sounding name. He didn't even tell us his name, a student FOUND OUT by stalking his online profiles and spreading it around the school, which just goes to show how cruel kids can be.
Story 1: NTA the only logical explanation that I can come up with is that OP’s parents are narcissistic and have a weird complex for their own daughter. That they’re spreading these lies to break up OP’s relationship with everyone around her so she’s can only depend on them and do and/or be used how they see fit.
I'd go NC with the parents if I was OP having to deal with parents who want to invent weird stories about how I and my spouse got together to satisfy their own personal kinks.
The first story reminds me of my parents, I told them that I became an atheist bc I had doubts and questions about a variety of topics. They told me a few months later I became an atheist bc I wanted sin. Told them again and they said that same thing back to me. Its like once a narrative has been established in their minds you can't snap it out of them.
To answer your question, rslash, girls make fun of each other's names. At least in my area. I knew a girl named Ryan, and she was teased relentlessly for having a "boy's name." I think it might not be as common though, because this is the only example I can think of. Either that or the kids I went to school with just liked to attack other things.
I would have just deadpan said to the wife’s mom “we are not naming our baby after breast” then would have pulled out google translate and shown them and the wife and said “we aren’t naming the kid tities because I am not going to try making up a story about how his name is special and stuff” then said in front of everyone “his gonna get called tities boy and you’ll fault because you can’t agree on a normal name”
Third story: Adding to rSlash's commentary about how boys' names get made fun of more, I feel like if OP's soon-to-be born son was a girl instead, they could have still kept Mune since it's unique enough and sounds feminine enough to pass, and other kids may even like that name. The problem really is that Mune isn't a good name for a baby boy since it does sound feminine, and it would lead the child to get bullied.
I don't think the problem is its too feminine. It's too weird. And if it's pronounced Moon. That poor kid is going to be spelling their name and getting it said wrong for the rest of forever. It's definitely the kind of name for a pet or a nickname. Not a name of a real person.
Second story: kid needs to learn that u don’t always get what u want. No parent should even ask if you’d be willing to give it up. Their kid needs the lesson and they should b teaching their kid that first come first serve is how it works. Also I can see why the kid screamed and threw a fit, mom definitely taught it that behavior
For the first story, my guess is the parents just really liked the ex. So when op divorced him and moved on they made up a lie to make op and new husband look like bad people in fear that op would share the real story and make ex look bad instead. So they've been preemptively spreading this lie so no one asks op herself. Also Mune Guardian of the Moon is not a Japanese movie but a French one and Mune is pronounced Mewn if that helps.
Story 1 op is NTA. It seems to me like the parents are trying to reclaim some sort of relationship that just doesn't exist anymore. Like maybe they really got along w/ op's ex husband & they're trying to trick or into leaving her current husband & go back to her ex. But I can't imagine them trying so hard at that for a decade. They could be trying to hold something over op's head or manipulate op by ruining her relationship w/ extended family members. Its super weird for them to make up this whole story about op & even weirder that they shared it w/ extended family. Like why would you tell such a story about your own daughter, especially to other family members & when the story is blatantly false. If they were sane they'd tell the true story. If their made up story is actually true, that's still no reason for them to share it. If they're willing to lie about something like that, I'm wondering what else they'd lie about
So let me get this straight...OP's parents essentially wrote bizarre erotic fanfiction about their own child (ew), spread it to everyone, gaslit OP when called out on it, then demanded forgiveness while maintaining they've done nothing wrong. I...just...words fail me.
At least the mom wasn't dressing up as OP for for RP with her husband/OP's dad?
@@benjie128 That we know of! 😳
@@benjie128I'm going to send you an invoice for my brain bleach
Sounds like they're the ones with dementia. Or a bad joke told 10 years ago they latched onto and spread as gospel. BUT EVEN THEN. even if they TRULY believed that's how they met. WHY TELL OTHER PEOPLE, WHY TELL YOUR SIBLINGS AND NEPHEWS?? EW??? WTF
@@katphish30 there's an entire subreddit called eyebleach that's all cute images
The cake story: The mother lost a perfect opportunity to teach her child that life doesn't always give her what she wants.
I agree and the pregnant wife also sucks
And OP's wife missed out on appreciating her husband and instead made him feel bad. Just awful.
@@thechapLenits worse than you think if this is how she acts about a child thats not hers imagine how much she’s going to spoil her own child and op will be trying to teach their child, its going to cause drama
@@mandalorianhunter1yeah she tells him last minute she wants this cake, doesn’t get or make it herself, and is upset that another mom wanted the cake but OP got it first?
@@lorilancaster5917 hell yeah and that he needed to be more mindful
Yeah, i had parents like that.. Guess what? They haven't seen my kids,or been in my life for over 10yrs,and I'm so happy!! I've never been happier!!!
Have your parents ever attempted to contact you during that time, or have they respected your wishes in going no contact?
@@danielbrant6740😅😊😅😊😮😮😊😊😊
@@shineher1are u ok?
@@-castus-Bro had an mental breakdown rn.
SEE YA, WOULDN'T WANNA BE YA!! as rSlash famously says
Story 1: Even if it was true, what kind sick freaks would go out of there way to tell the whole family about there daughter for 10 years? And it's not like the family wants to here about it either, so they were going out of their way to lie about what happened between you and your ex. Now this is something to go CN for.
Also, if that gets 3/5 buttholes, what does it take to get 5/5?
@@reubenmanzo2054He usually saves 5/5 for Pedos, child molesters, extremely deadbeat parents and stuff like that.
Ikr? Even if it was true, it sounds like something I would CONFIDE in my parents. Not expect them to tell EVERYONE and their mom, literally.
The worst is that OP has the friends who actually introduced the two to back up the true story, while her parents' own 'proof' is on their twisted minds and they keep changing the story while OP's one keep consistent;
It's not OP breaking up the family for not wanting to be with toxic gaslighters, it's them for making up lies about their own daughter and not wanting to accept the consequences for their horrible behaviour.
Their* way
Story 3: OP better watch out. If his wife is staying at her mother's house there is a high possibility that if she goes into labor she won't tell him until AFTER she gives birth and names the baby. And that would just open a whole new can of worms if he tries to get the name on the birth certificate changed.
Mune Pikachu Starwalley Karen.
@@ronsukas🤣 a name to live up to 😂
And then I bet she doesn’t include him on the birth certificate in order to keep him from having any say without involving the court.
@@lorilancaster5917 she could try, but he could take the matter to court and demand a DNA test and when the test proves he is the father he can sue to be put on it. But no matter what happens there is going to be a whole mess of drama going on.
@@laurabaumgartner3085 as I mentioned if she does this OPs only course of action would be to take her to court. They may not have the resources to do so
I think people often forget that you're not just naming a baby, you're naming a person. A person who will have to deal with the name for the rest of their lives unless they change it. Goes double for "cute" names, fandom names, and other similar names that yes, should go to the family pet and not the baby.
Fr, I had a classmate whose name was Willy because his parents thought William was too old and wanted to name him after his grandpa that recently passed away. The kid was bullied relentlessly and legally changed his name the second he could.
That name that was meant to honor his grandpa caused him endless suffering, severe self esteem issues and anxiety. He was one of the smartest kids in our grade, incredibly emotionally intelligent for our age and really friendly once you got through his hard shell, I can only imagine what heights he could've achieved had he not received all that abuse.
I don't know how he's doing now since he's distanced himself with everyone once he left and I don't want my curiosity to cause someone else to relive bad memories, but I hope life is treating him well wherever he is and that he's surrounded by people who respect and appreciate him. Parents please name your kids responsibly, that one decision can influence the entire trajectory of their lives.
So true. Fandom names are the worst, imo. I was talking to a regular at work about one of his tattoos, which was inspired by Avatar: The Last Airbender. I love the show, it's fantastic! But then, the guy tells me that he and his wife had named their son Iroh, after one of the characters. The character is awesome too, but really? Use that name for your dog or something!
@@jessicalee5260i think that you forget that iroh is an actual chinese name ^^ you bring up a good point but lets not throw Actual Ethnic Names belonging to Actual Real Cultures under the bus even if they belong to a fandom character? like. idk
I've heard of the lawyer/bind date test where you say "this is your lawyer - (baby name)" or "this is your blind date - (baby name)" as a way of testing what kind of life that kid is going to have with that name.
First Story, NTA: OP's parents are weird as hell. Why are they making these rumors about their own daughter and her husband? Also, its clear its on purpose because of the fact that their story is changing constantly. OP's parents are toxic
Second Story, NTA: Um, just because thie lady has a kid doesn’t mean OP is obligated to give some random child cake he already ordered and probably paid for. This looks like a first come first served situation
Third Story, NTA: OP's wife is trying to set this kid up for failure in life. This kid will 100% get bullied over this name (especially if other kids/teens google the meaning). The fact that she had pick this name behind OP's back after agreeing to take the name off the list is disrespectful
Fourth Story, NTA: Anyone who puts a partner above their kids are scum in my eyes. The fact OP's wife wasn’t willing to sacrifice anything and prefer to milk OP's son for financial gain is really telling of this woman.
Fifth Story, NTA: What would be more embarassing: them sitting on foldable chairs or the bride and groom explaining to everyone that the in laws' guests are basically wedding crashers
Right second story kids have to learn you can't get everything you want all the time I promise that kid forgot about that cake five minutes later
@@sherrita80548if they don’t learn that fact and parents keep spoiling them they will grow up to be entitled brats and cause others to hate them
Story 1: It's clear that the parents find something about their relationship embarrassing or want to hide something that they did as something done by their child instead. I wouldn't be surprised if it was because of how long between OP's previous and next partner.
@@ohnosmoarlulcatzI don’t doubt that at all. Maybe its because OP met her husband while still seperated from her ex? All I know is that they are weird
Maybe they didn’t like OP and their marriage to their current husband that they want to pull the rest of the family away from OP
In the first story, my perception is that the parents *have* actually somehow managed to convince themselves of the truth of their version of events (no fucking *clue* _how,_ though) and, when confronted with the truth, their cognitive dissonance is kicking in and forcing them to become defensive. They've either got to convince OP that she _did_ meet her current husband in a threesome with her old one, convince her that it's not a big deal that they got that wrong or admit to themselves that they've been spreading weird, false rumours about their daughter for a decade and it *is* a big deal!
If I were OP I’d sue for slander and defamation, and demand a public apology as recompense
The thought that is twirling in my head is that they could have started the rumors for attention. Like a twisted way of bragging about your kid where, instead of talking about accomplishments, they tell a weird story that is going to stick for how absurd it is. That is the only logical explanation that I can think of, and then, after a decade, they just absorbed this story.
My first husband was a liar bout everything. I don't know if you would consider him a pathological liar. But I swear he believed the lies he told. So it makes me wonder if the mother or the father told the other person as if it were truth and that's why they both believe it.
But he really did believe these lies he told and he told them with such confidence. There was a time he was telling his friends about something he and I had done. Telling them about somewhere we had gone, something we had done. The thing is none of it was true. I'm sitting there looking at him like what are you talking about. I don't know where the story even came from and what made him tell his friends about it or anything. It was so bizarre to me. But the fact it was something him and I did, that he's telling them with me standing right there, was even more bizarre.
The story is so weird. Like what is their motivation for doing this in the first place? My only answer is that OP'S ex husband was the one to tell them that story just to spite her, and they believed it was true all this time. It's the only explanation that makes sense
@@codyjohnson6427 I agree. That's the only explanation that seems to make even a little bit of sense, even if it's still weird. Regardless of how the story generated, OP's parents were willing to start sexual rumors about their own daughter. The ick factor is very high. Who knows what else they'll say about their daughter and her husband? If they have kids, will they start rumors of child abuse or neglect? For the sake of her marriage and family, I think OP should stay faraway from her parents. They are sabotaging her marriage and her reputation.
I have the sneaking suspicion that the wife plans on giving birth without telling hubby so that she could officially name the kid Mune before he could make his intentions known to the hospital staff. If she’s trying power plays like the thing with her moms blanket gift then just maybe…
Also, in my observations girls can be so much more brutal in their bullying than boys.
Exactly hence why she called for mommy to take her. She knows she’s due any day and I bet she won’t tell OP until after the baby is born that she delivered. This is a game to her now and she wants to win.
If she actually succeeds, I can’t wait for her kid to legally change his name and refuse to respond when she tries to call him ‘Mune’.
Your last comment is so weird? Girls, aren't worse bullies lol kids are kids, gender doesn't matter.
I wonder if OP will divorce her or just call the son by a different name, make it seem like Mune is a pet name his mom calls him and have Michael or something as his “real” name
Oh girls are bloody brutal. Especially when you know that the name literally translates to Breast.
Baby Name Story: Just wanted to toss in that I am a woman with a last name that is very, very similar to a genre of music. All throughout elementary school I would get mocked if anyone found out my last name, both by boys AND girls. So yes. Girls do in fact make fun of (and get made fun of) for names. It ain't just a boy thing.
I was looking for this comment! It's absolutely not a gendered problem and would effect boys & girls just as much
I thought it was weird he said that. Girls can be absolutely ruthless bullies.
I can picture the kid when he gets bullied for having an odd name he would most likely want to change it legally when he gets older.
I'm starting to think that the Wife has a unique name, never got made fun of for it so doesn't know what it's like being bullied b/c of a name?
@@rochie4865He probably just tried to come up with a reason why the wife doesn't see the problem... but yeah, it was a weird guess, that just didn't make sense🤷🏻♀️
Last story: I'm pretty sure the friends figured it out when you had to find chairs and tables for them. My guess is they were all obviously mad because they crashed a wedding and was more than likely getting dirty looks from the invited guests, now your in-laws have to make it look like this was a misunderstanding by forcing the bride and groom to apologize without saying what they probably already know. They made their bed they get to lie in it, you have no obligation to apologize and of anything allowing them to stay with pretty nice of you and your husband.
If anything OP and spouse should bill them for the extra heads.
Something I don't understand is why parents are like that. "Oh, my kid wants your stuff. Give it" like, no?? Teach your kid that no is a no, and there's a reason for it. Doesn't matter the reason.
if OP's wife can have a cake from the department store, so can that kid.
@abiean222 Sure, but not the one that OP's already ordered and paid for. The mom could've went to another store. 😁
Now I’m just thinking of a parliament of 8 year olds discussing rules and laws and I love it😂😂
They probably fight just as much as an adult parliament. 🤣
@@danielbrant6740they'd probably make better choices than adult Parliament but the same tantrums
Sounds like the Kids Next Door, only they're politicians and not secret agents.
I worked at a “democratic” summer camp one year. We started each week by getting the kids to write their own camp rules. It was, indeed, hilarious. The number of grudge matches I saw play out week to week was great. Kid A has a pet peeve? Pet peeve is banned! Kid B likes doing A’s pet peeve. Next week kid B creates a rule banning something A likes.
I'm imagining Kids Next Door
Story 3: no you're not wrong she tried to publicly announced that name to force you into accepting it and now she's upset it didn't work, she even got her mom to go along with it. Also now that we know the name means breast in Japanese it's a definite no. You want that name so bad keep talking about it but don't agree to veto then try to force your husband to go with it because the entire family thinks that there's name, and if he's willing to do that much then I would be worried she tried to do something sneaky to use it on the birth certificate without your knowledge.
The only thing that I don't agree with Rslash is the bullying part. I have the most basic and normal name and my husband too, and we still got bullied because of the name. When a bully decides that you are a target, ANYTHING is a reason for bullying.
@@misoppas Bullies will always exist. However, there is no need to give them ammunition to use against you. All you will end up doing is making it worse.
As someone who as watch the movie sometime ago... The fact it means Breast in japanese is like... IRRELEVANT ? Multipule names that are pretty common can have meaning in other languages ?
The veto part, Ok I agree she shouldn't do that... The fact that Mune ( Prononce Moon in the movie ) is in fact a cute name and the movie is really great ( I invite people to look at the movie )
overall... The Breast part is irrelevant due to my point below... and the fact tha the post DOESN'T MENTION THAT
The husband can't really say the name is stupid too because I know some people named after many characters in fiction...
As someone who knew a kid who had a last name that meant breast in Spanish he didn't get bullied. I think people are once again jumping the gun. Kids will forever be cruel and do stupid shit. You can call a kid David or Ken and they will find a way to make fun of someone.
Also Mune means breast in the same way that the word "chest" means breast. No one would be like "Say it with your chest... you're talking about BOOOBS!!!!"
Story 4: As a girl with a traditionally guy's name I got made fun of it a lot. I have only really come to embrace it when I turned 18, and it was becoming a trend. I really hope that kid isn't named Mune
As a dude with a traditional girl's name I was lucky that there just happened to be two grown men at the church I grew up at who had my name too. Weird coincidence, because it is rare, but it sure helped me. I've never really sweat the name and kids didn't make fun because they realized quickly I wasn't sensitive about it or insecure.
For those who don’t know her name is Penis Q. Pickleton.
For the kids name story: as a former girl, girls do -- very often -- make fun of each other's names. They make fun of friend's names, enemies' names, family names, their own names. They're hilarious with it too.
Plot twist: the wife was the bully.
I don't know about that and I was once a girl
@@voodoovixen666 Maybe you had good friends or a name hard to make fun of. I had a friend who rhymed my name with everything, well not my name how it's actually pronounced, but it has a silent "e" at the end of it, so she pronounced it and it make for some awful rhymes which I hated.
I'm thoroughly embarrassed that it took me several minutes to figure out what you meant by former girl, lol
yeah, i was a girl too. people used to rhyme my name with fatty.
Story 1: NTA go no contact with them completely if anything you should get revenge on your parents spreading a "rumour" saying they're so obsessed with your love life they tried catching you in the act give them a taste of there own abusive gaslighting medicine.
Story 2: Nta this was a very teachable moment for the mother but nope she instead used this moment to act entitled and enable her daughter to throw a tantrum trying to guilt you.
Story 3: nta baby names are a 2 yes 1 no situation because end of the day it's your kid not hers, also what is up with your wife sneaking behind your back and basically making this huge decision without your consent and embrassing/emotionally blackmailing you just because she's putting her desires over yours super disrespectful.
I'd go no contact after making a statement to other family members. Can't have the parents running wild after all.
The parents writing erotic fanfiction about their own child is definitely 100% the most "WTF" thing I heard all day.
First story, go to all social media and openly call out the parents, tell everyone they've been lying about OP and her husband's life, call them out for going behind their backs, etc. Besides, it sounds like they're a lost cause because they raised the big red flag that shows they aren't accepting responsibility.
About the baby name story: OP’s wife is likely thinking of their future son in “baby” terms only. How cute it woul be to have a cute tiny baby who’s name is “Moone”, rather than envisioning him as the man he will become having to deal with such a name.
That first story might be very simple:
Since the details are so explicit and don't appear to have changed between people, I think this is how OP'S PARENTS started their relationship. Them insisting it is fine and seeking acceptance for the story from the family is just them seeking acceptance for their own past while also distancing themselves from their own actions by using OP as a proxy. So long as OP is the one who did it, and OP is not being shamed for what happened, their own past is validated and they do not ever need to feel bad about themselves.
It would make everything make sense. Why they spread the story in a way that would prevent the OP from knowing about it, yet everyone in the family still seems to accept OP as they are despite that stigma. Why they are denying it, since accepting they lied and what they did was wrong is equal to them to admitting their own past was wrong.
And they will keep telling and re-telling THEIR story to others, claiming it was 'someone else' who did it, whenever they need to feel validated in their life choices with the safety if knowing that if there'll be fallout, their little proxy will be affected and they can play doting parents to help fix it.
That's crazy...so crazy it just might be right.
I love that you gave the wife in the cake story a score, and I’m with you on it.
“I would have been fine with it if you gave the cake to them.”
My ass. OP would have been in the doghouse if he had done that. 😂
Exactly! OP was in a no win situation. And I’m pretty sure that wasn’t the only item at the bakery to where the kid could pick something else!
Thank you
Be damned if you do, be damned if you don't
Honestly I hate people like the wife, who are like "always be the bigger person". Like you asked your husband for a cake and it already was late.
@@mandalorianhunter1 i see that attitude mostly with women and i get the feeling that its a society issue ala "you need to put other's wants and needs above your own"
you spend all your life being told to "be the bigger person" and let others walk all over you and suddenly you can't handle confrontation, won't "rock the boat" when people take advantage of you or hurt you, and you bend over backwards to put other people's wants above your own needs.
@@abiean222 Truth
Society tells you to fight back but only on "certain conditions" or that you need stand up for yourself, only for you to be punished for it. Just the hypocrisy.
The only way to win was not to play. He didn't need to tell his wife about the kid wanting that cake in the store.
Story 1: Sounds like it's time to put these early onset dementia patients into a good home.
They suck! How about OP sends them to one of the crappy homes that the police often visit?
I love the line in the first story that the parents force OP to forgive them. I'm pretty sure that's not how forgiveness works.
I wonder if OP could sue them for defamation of character?
@@lorilancaster5917 Only if you can prove that they did.
@@Lego-Joe-1there’s plenty of family claiming they have
@@Lego-Joe-1The emails they sent back and fourth
@@Lego-Joe-1Plus OP's parents put their lies in writing.
Story 1: People will usually do this to embellish stories to either make the story seem less embarrassing for them, usually by playing up their role, or this is something preemptive to hide something that they did in case the story about them ever gets out.
My guess is that they're projecting, and that the experience they're talking about did happen, but not to OP. Instead, the people looking for a threesome were them. They just couldn't hide this juicy little story of theirs, but they were too embarrassed and afraid of the disgusting look they know people would give them that they instead looked for different main characters. The whole "we accept your choices" bs might also be them justifying themselves too.
@@aleahlrb I hate that your theory is far more plausible than some of the others rolling around in my head. And unfortunately I know people who would do this to their own kids/family...
@@aleahlrb Eh, I think it's simpler than that. They preferred the ex-husband over the current husband and this is their way of trying to sabotage the relationship.
Story 4: She wants to maintain her lifestyle, but not do the work for it. Rather than cut back, she decides that charging the son rent is a good idea
Imagine how red in the face she'll get if she's told, "If you want more money, McDonald's is always hiring, honey." 🤣
@Connel2001lmao! So true!!
If someone wants to be first priority in a relationship then don’t marry or date someone with kids! Any good parent will always put them first!
I'm not saying I agree with the woman in this story but I do believe that the kid should get a job so he can buy thing he want, and get some responsibility. He going to need a car and a way to maintain it.
I am not saying he should be paying rent and bills but getting a job at that age is liberating.
@@j_castle9893yepp aggree, I mean if my college/uni Will be paid ín full ofc I Will get a job tó az least buy tings I want
About the cake story (4:14), OP did well. OP wasn’t in the obligation of bending backwards to please a spoiled brat, and to shut up an entitled mom. Like you said rSlash, first come first serve. OP should also be aware that his wife might be entitled and an enabler the way she talked to him about what happened in the bakery store and what he did.
As a former baker and being involved with catering that last story got to me. Food supply for an event is not endless, we don't have a magic storeroom with extra stuff. Oh, and calling up a day before the event and asking to have a dozen extra people CAN be a problem. Supplies have already been ordered, prep is already being done. Those in laws were stupid.
And so would be the in-laws friends if they blame OP and spouse for their wedding crashing
The story with the stepmom trying to make her stepson pay rent: It just seems like another classic case of evil stepmom more than anything. She probably figures she’s going to have kids with OP eventually, so she’s trying to strong-arm his son out of the picture so that way she can have all of OP’s resources allocated to her and her kids, stepmoms do it all the time to their step kids. I guarantee she wouldn’t even *THINK TO SUGGEST* if it were her kids, that they should get a job and pay rent when they’re 16. She’s just trying to drive a wedge in between OP and his son like so many stepmoms do with their stepchildren.
which is so stupid, because, just like with dating a cheater, if they can do it to their kids with another woman, they do it with your kids. i never understand how anyone would want to have kids with someone willing to abandon or abuse their kids from a previous relationship. its such a major red flag, and yet, still over and over we see men and women willing to marry and have kids with someone who doesn't treat their kids right.
You know what the funny(?) thing is? When my dad remarried, I was living with him for a while, and paying $400 a month. I was so cucked or something that I considered myself lucky because apartments start at twice to three times that much. But I failed to account for the fact that I was paying for a corner of the entry room, where I kept my own mattress and desk and all my other worldly possessions. Anyhow, to make a long story short, his wife hates me and eventually got him to throw me out. Then, when they were having money troubles, it came up that he never actually told her I was paying rent. Like, no wonder she hated me, she thought I was a freeloader... that everyone just treated like shit. -Also, there maybe be some part of this story where Dad was spending my money on wine, women, and song; or something (I wouldn't put it past him), and that's why he kept it secret... but that's not my problem.-
Wife's reaction in the baby name story tells you everything you need to know about what kind of mother she will be. Controlling, manipulative and emotionally unavailable.
Hey baby is a toy, a prop. Not a person
The name is cool in my opinion, but agree 100%.
She could have even compromised by suggesting it as a middle name and/or altering the spelling to “Moon” (to avoid confusion with pronunciation), but she chose to go behind her partner’s back.
At least if she had named him Goku, there's be a 50/50 chance of the other kids embracing it. Like if he grows up to be super athletic or something... they'd still tease him for being dumb as a brick, even if he were an astrophysicist.
@@hhheavennnit's interesting until you realize she's naming the kid after a blue fawn furry alien kid thing? Imagine being 30 and someone asks how you got your unique name
@@apensalesman oh god, I just looked it up lmao 💀 you’re right
2nd Story: I hope that pregnant mum teaches her kid the word 'no' in the future
Story 3: “The name comes from a movie and…”
Me: “Nope, NTA. Do NOT name your kid that!”
Story 3, about naming their kid: at the party, when the reveal happened, id have probably been an AH about it "whats it say?" "Oh, what's that mean?" "Okay but why is it on our child's blanket?" "Thats not what we talked about, whered it even come from?" Just played really dumb about it, making it very obvious I had no say in the name. Because if you are gonna be an AH and name our kid without me, I want everyone to know thats exactly what happened.
4th story. I left so many bad ideas because they wanted me to choose them over my babies. My now husband and I got into an argument over my daughter's bad behavior (she is neurodivergent). He told me it was her or him. I threw a duffel bag and his engagement ring at him. He spent 3 years fixing that mistake. She is now grown with her own family, but she still calls him and they have a great relationship. But my kids will always come before anything or anyone else. If that makes me an asshole, I will wear it like a badge of honor.
People can’t date or marry someone who has kids and expect to be their number one. Any good parent will always put their kids first. Granted the partner has the right to express issues especially if the relationship between them and kid needs help. However there is a line and I wish OP saw her flags sooner.
You and my mom would get along amazingly. I'm her eldest and she's as protective of me as she is my younger brother and sister. Literally yelled at someone when I was little for giving me a desert with Banana's in it which both she and me are allergic to, this person knew this and STILL decided that me trying something that could hospitalize me was more important than my over-all health. Why tf this person thought nothing would happen I have no idea because me and my mom never ate Bananas around this person. I was given ice cream after we left for being in my mom's words 'A brave girl who did the right thing for myself'. Still one of my best memories of her
HAPPY BIRTHDAY DABNEY!!! THANK YOU FOR ALL THE GREAT STORIES AND VIDEOS
Story 1: Should have replied: "Well, it's only natural since my parents met at an 0rgy and have continued that life style. I learned from the best!"
It was at a carnival. Momma was on a sling and took like 50 clowns
Happy birthday Mr. Arse Lash! Appreciate all of the work you do
Arse lash😂😂😂
Yes, I also concur, happy birthday from me as well, Mr. Arse Lash!
Arse Lash, I can't 🤣🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣
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I think autocorrect messed you up buddy 😂
Uninvited story:
My son just got married last weekend and let me tell you, you never invite ANYONE without the permission of the bride and groom. The couple pick a venue that fits their amount of guests, so you have to be careful about going over capacity and making it a safety concern. Most venues handle a bulk part of the wedding reception itinerary, so they need an accurate number to pull it off. Besides, it’s just plain rude to invite people, without an invitation.
People who name their kids weird names are just setting them up for a lifetime of strife. This just goes back to the old saying that not everybody should be parents...
Last story: I'm very sorry for not being psychic enough to foresee and accommodate your invitation that nobody told me about. Sarcasm aside, I think OP was actually being very generous by making post-hoc accommodations instead of kicking out the uninvited guests.
Wtf is wrong with OPs parents in the first story? Like mentally, what makes them WANT to tell people that???
Also happy birthday rslash!
Maybe they enjoy the attention. I've seen other stories of people who make up stories about their friends and relatives just to get attention from others.
13:36 thinking of an trained emotional support goat is really funny, i wouldn’t mind if there’s a goat at my wedding
Story 1: The aunt was the VIP by thinking the story was out of character for OP and letting OP know about it. Gossip is often vicious and untrue, and it also reveals a lot about the people who are spreading it. The parents should be humiliated by their actions, though they sound rather shameless.
Last story, the bride was extremely gracious to the uninvited guests. They got them a table and chairs and fed them. She was totally right to tell the inlaws to clean up their own damn mess.
Name story: NTA. If one of the parents vetoes it, the name is out of question, PERIOD.
14:43 There is only so much that a venue can do for its guests. Communication is key, for adding extra guests. Guests cannot just add more guests on their own, in regards to someone else's wedding.
Story 3: The wife should really listen to Johnny Cash's "Boy named Sue" to get a clearer picture of what she is setting her son up for. Unless that was her plan....
I hear it's your birthday rslash! Have a wonderful one! I also love the idea of a whole bunch of kids making up a bill of rights :D
Happy birthday Rslash!!! Love your channel!
Cake story: Doing favors for selfish people is one of the most unrewarding things you can do.
Story 1: why do I feel that op’s parents like her ex husband more than her current husband or their one of those people who don’t believe in divorce?
That's honestly what I was thinking. They either loved the ex to death over the current husband, or they were disappointed that their daughter divorced her ex and married someone else. Maybe even both.
2nd story: I am super sure that the mom would never care for OP's wife being pregnant... so telling her that OP buys it for his wife would be useless
I think she only cared that someone else besides her precious baby gots something!
Why does being a kid make you more deserving of having a cake? Time for a lesson in real life. Can't always bet what you want.
11:28 there’s no gender bias, girls make fun of other girls names, I did it and was a receiver of it ( around 6-7 yo). There’s names I like but they’re English names and I’m French Canadian, so I have to think about how other people will see it
Of course there is a gender bias, just not like rSlash said.
Boys are more likely to hit each other, girls are more likely to emotionally abuse each other.
If boys make fun of a name, they usually just wanna provoke a brawl in the short run.
Girls on the other hand will make fun of, gaslight and spread rumors over months or years until their victims physically mutilate themselves.
Though... The name alone doesn't matter... A bully will torture his victims without needing any reason.
The most important thing to teach your child is to fight back.
Because abusers prefer victims that don't.
Kid name story: As a girl I can tell you girls do for sure make fun of people too, its literally called mean girl.. If the mother don't care for their child not to stand out like this its only gonna go down hill from here.The lack of respect will only get worse from here on out. Leaving at 9m when you can go into labor at any moment especially because of the strong feelings. Man this is divorce territory for me..
Oh I already hear about story 1, there is an update too. Basically, the parents, in particular the dad, just wanted to show off with a sensational story. A family member has his marriage, and both OP and OP's parents are invited. OP make dad promise to stop with this story. In the marriage, OP's dad did a toast where he compares the married couple to OP and her husband, in particular how they meet. OP take the micro, apologizes and tell the true story. OP's dad then want apologized from OP for humiliating him in front of the family. Half the family didn't believe him before, no one does now.
OP apologized to the main couple for the drama to their weeding, but they don't blame her. Op and OP's dad are estranged.
Op dad is such a turd.. I'd go NC
I like how RSlash's mind went straight to Bill Of Rights For Kids for the second story 😂
3rd story: one thing that rslash didn't even bring up, is that not only did the wife go behind OP's back to try and use the name, SHE TOLD HER MOM the name, who then sewed it into a baby blanket! Now, if Mune isn't the kid's name, OP will most likely throw the blanket out because.. Mine isn't the kids name, why would that be on the blanket? And throwing the basket away will cause even more drama
And it sounds like she told others before OP that “they” chose the name Mune.
*4th Story:* IMO, it's perfectly reasonable to not expect rent from an adult child still living at home if they're attending college. _"If you're not learning, you're earning."_ Maybe it's time OP's wife puts on a McDonald's uniform if she wants more money.
She can dust off her g string and hop back on that pole!
Cake story - brat & its spawner need to learn that she doesn't get everything she wants, and especially not by shrieking.
Kinda gives me entitled parents vibes
We don’t indulge entitled people
The wife sucks too. Hope she'll teach her kid better
They are why some places are now charging a bratty child fee.
Story 4: okay I'm just going to go on a limb and say your wife never wanted children, also she's stupid. No one in their right mind would ever have the expectation that they would come before the child, except for entitled people that think they're better than they actually are. Tell her get a job if she wants more money, or give up some of the expensive activity she likes to do, you already made it clear your son will never be an option.
In fact this reminds me of something my dad said when people criticize my dad for not charging my brother rent after graduating college. "If he could pay rent to he wouldn't still be living with me. He should be saving to move out."
Second story: The wife isn’t being ‘mindful’ - shes repeating her conditioning to make peace/compromise/give in/make excuses or even tell fibs to smooth things over. OP’s wife is in the wrong, 100%, but she doesn’t realise her own conditioning and how it affects her.
Theory on story one: it was the ex husband that started the story, but it happened so long ago, in the parents memories the teller switch from the ex to OP.
Absolutely lost it at rslash yelling "Too bad loser!"
Pure comedy gold
For the cake story: if the cake wasn't for the wife he should have eaten it right in front of the kid while making direct eye contact. Children need to learn that the world is a cruel evil place.🤣
That's exactly what I would've done!!!😂 Too bad so sad boohoo, bite me!
8:16 no it does not. Gui. Or oppai informally
10:15 uhh no? You were right the 1st time
Story 3: Both parents need to agree to the name. You don't go behind people's backs like that.
I don't really think a name like Mune would be a name to get bullied over, but it pretty much takes a backseat when the following day comes and OP calls out his wife for sticking to a name he disagreed with anyway, because he was undermined
Bullies can get creative. Plus, mooning is a thing.
@@akl2k7and didn’t someone say that Mune is Japanese for breast?
@@lorilancaster5917 There is absolutely going to be one kid who is a little too into anime and will know that. And they will tell everyone.
@@briandaaranda9735also what if OP and or his wife aren’t of Japanese heritage? Little Munie will get picked on about that as well.
I was bullied over my name. You may notice how extremely boring it is, but it rhymed with "knob" and that's all the little shits needed.
This kid will absolutely be savaged over his name if she manages to name him that.
People forget that they're not naming a baby. They're naming a future adult that will have to navigate professional and social situations with the name you give them. Please have some empathy for your baby.
Exactly. Babies aren’t accessories. I don’t even like it when celebrities give their children weird names.
Story 1: I would turn the tables on the parents. Just tell the whole family you're concerned with your parents' mental stability with all the stories they've been telling and make it seem like they're going senile with their age 😂 I have a feeling they're the type of parents who would paint their own child in a bad light so they can be the "oh where did i go wrong" types of parents but as soon as someone thinks anything remotely negative about them they can't handle it.
The cake story reminds me of "Daddy I want to trained professional squirrel"
First story is by far one of the weirdest I've heard. Either they lied to seem interesting and are embarrassed they got caught. Or they actually think its true and have SERIOUS memory issues. Either way either get them to a doctor or go no contact.
The kid n the Swiss roll is a perfect example to teach ya kid that you don't get everything you want all the time.
HAPPY BIRTHDAY RSLASH❤ I watch your videos everyday religiously as part of my routine. I love how you narrate, how your voice sounds, how you talk about your family. Your commentary is always on point. I wish you a happy birthday, I hope you get to have fun with your family that loves you so much❤ Take care, I wish you live up to 100!🎉 Much love from Honduras 🇭🇳
Wife picking name against partner's wishes: 2.5/5 buttholes. Wife leaving as emotional blackmail: 3.75/5 buttholes. I don't know if that's recoverable. That's straight up emotional abuse.
Happy Birthday Dabney! Hope you have an amazing day with your beautiful family!
Story 4: The deal I made with my parrents when I was 18. 25% of my income goes to a savings account, 25% goes to my parrents as long as I live with them, the rest is mine to use as I see fit. For every month I keep doing this. I will get X amount returned to me the day I move out.
Happy Birthday! I hope your day is filled with love, joy & happiness! Also, Thanks for the stories!
The cake story; you forgot one detail R/Slash; if OP did give the roll to the child and came home with nothing or something else, you know FOR A FACT the pregnant wife would've lost her mind!
Story 2: i legitimately believe that was a no win situation he would have gotten frim the wife either way whether he got the cake or not
That first one already has so many red flags purely because of gaslighting. My mom lied about me so much that I gag at the thought of her saying "I love you"
Parents that lie and avoid any sort of truth are easily the least parental person you can have in your life. Abandon them.
Happy birthday!!!🎉🎉🎉🎉
Don’t name your kids after movie characters unless their name is normal. She’s setting her kid up for torment
And even if she doesn’t hypothetically, she still named the child behind OPs back and if he stays and has another kid with her she will do the same thing.
Anyone named after Kevin McAllister from Home Alone, most likely disagrees with you.
Just because it's a "normal" name, doesn't make it any better.
Jumping onto any naming hype screws your child just as much as an overly exotic name!
Some parents won't settle on names. At least she was that upfront. My ex-wife wanted our sons middle name to be a name I had a lot of trauma and bad memories around. We settled on something similar but with a different pronunciation and spelling like Michael and McHale. She added a bunch of letters to it on the birth certificate to change the name back to the other pronunciation.
Names are super important to get right when you have a kid. I had a male teacher whose first name was Leslie and he used to tell us about how difficult it was growing up with a more feminine sounding name. He didn't even tell us his name, a student FOUND OUT by stalking his online profiles and spreading it around the school, which just goes to show how cruel kids can be.
Story 1: NTA the only logical explanation that I can come up with is that OP’s parents are narcissistic and have a weird complex for their own daughter. That they’re spreading these lies to break up OP’s relationship with everyone around her so she’s can only depend on them and do and/or be used how they see fit.
I LOVE Mune! It's a really adorable movie. One of my favorite things is that it doesn't rely on words to convey the story.
I'd go NC with the parents if I was OP having to deal with parents who want to invent weird stories about how I and my spouse got together to satisfy their own personal kinks.
5:00 Can't you feel for a kid? Well yeah, DUH. OP was thinking of his own soon to be kid. xD
As much as i love Mune i'd never name my child after the main character... X')
The first story reminds me of my parents, I told them that I became an atheist bc I had doubts and questions about a variety of topics. They told me a few months later I became an atheist bc I wanted sin. Told them again and they said that same thing back to me. Its like once a narrative has been established in their minds you can't snap it out of them.
To answer your question, rslash, girls make fun of each other's names. At least in my area. I knew a girl named Ryan, and she was teased relentlessly for having a "boy's name." I think it might not be as common though, because this is the only example I can think of. Either that or the kids I went to school with just liked to attack other things.
I think both genders can to cruel when it comes to bullying but they have different methods.
I would have just deadpan said to the wife’s mom “we are not naming our baby after breast” then would have pulled out google translate and shown them and the wife and said “we aren’t naming the kid tities because I am not going to try making up a story about how his name is special and stuff” then said in front of everyone “his gonna get called tities boy and you’ll fault because you can’t agree on a normal name”
Third story: Adding to rSlash's commentary about how boys' names get made fun of more, I feel like if OP's soon-to-be born son was a girl instead, they could have still kept Mune since it's unique enough and sounds feminine enough to pass, and other kids may even like that name. The problem really is that Mune isn't a good name for a baby boy since it does sound feminine, and it would lead the child to get bullied.
I don't think the problem is its too feminine. It's too weird. And if it's pronounced Moon. That poor kid is going to be spelling their name and getting it said wrong for the rest of forever. It's definitely the kind of name for a pet or a nickname. Not a name of a real person.
8:14 I thought "Oppai" meant breast. "Mune" was supposed to mean chest. Pretty close, but not exact.
Baby names is a two yeses and one no. And I agree with rslash on the wife being a butt hole
Second story: kid needs to learn that u don’t always get what u want. No parent should even ask if you’d be willing to give it up. Their kid needs the lesson and they should b teaching their kid that first come first serve is how it works. Also I can see why the kid screamed and threw a fit, mom definitely taught it that behavior
For the first story, my guess is the parents just really liked the ex. So when op divorced him and moved on they made up a lie to make op and new husband look like bad people in fear that op would share the real story and make ex look bad instead. So they've been preemptively spreading this lie so no one asks op herself.
Also Mune Guardian of the Moon is not a Japanese movie but a French one and Mune is pronounced Mewn if that helps.
Story 1: Unfortunately you can't backhand your own parents across the face but hell if I wouldn't be tempted if I were OP.
Story 1 op is NTA. It seems to me like the parents are trying to reclaim some sort of relationship that just doesn't exist anymore. Like maybe they really got along w/ op's ex husband & they're trying to trick or into leaving her current husband & go back to her ex. But I can't imagine them trying so hard at that for a decade. They could be trying to hold something over op's head or manipulate op by ruining her relationship w/ extended family members. Its super weird for them to make up this whole story about op & even weirder that they shared it w/ extended family. Like why would you tell such a story about your own daughter, especially to other family members & when the story is blatantly false. If they were sane they'd tell the true story. If their made up story is actually true, that's still no reason for them to share it. If they're willing to lie about something like that, I'm wondering what else they'd lie about
I hate that so many people are so comfortable with excusing bad behavior.