So he married her because he wanted a servant??? To become a a maid to him and his parents??? Not because she's beautiful, she's kind, she's understanding, OF ALL THINGS "she's good at serving me and my family." MESSED UP. DITCH HIM.
i think this is the FIRST TIME that i have seen a concern in this show, in which there is no clapping after reading the letter, nearly no jokes, no laughing (except for the "this is ridiculous, i am so shocked - laugh), just rawness and realness to the actual issue! i apploud them, for being so serious, i mean this is a horrible concern after all.
@@wolfkanna9983 the concern is not jus about swearing it is about how the father is a child. He doesn't do housework, don't try to fix their relationship, I can't even tell if he wants he baby, only cares about himself and swearing is not a big issue in Korea but u would if that person swears at u constantly
@@wolfkanna9983 well it's not just Korea. Basically, Asian parents doesn't like their child to get used of cursing cuz it consider as rude & bad manner here.. I mean ofc we still curse, but we tend to avoid cursing in front of ppl dat older than us especially our family (except with our silly siblings) cuz we're gonna be scolded & nagged badly if we ever do dat. So obviously it's not seen as good parenting if the parents curse in front of their children cuz the children gonna imitate them..
This is definitely the worst I have ever seen. The way he smiles as his wife cries in pain is truly disgusting. Just by the way he talks, you can tell the wife isn't lying. He is quick to be defensive and turn things around. He is so fast to shut someone down before they can finish speaking. He's never bathed his own son? What kind of human is he? He really needs to go to the doctor. He has quite a few things to work on. I sincerely hope that the mother and son will leave this... thing.
I get what you're trying to Say but Many men hasnt bathed their sons. I wouldn't leave Him cuz everyone har a good side and a bad one. I understand the concern but I would try going to a professional couple therapy and if that doesnt work out I would then leave him
@@btslover9700 What good side? He literally has none apart from having a good facade to put up in front of others. Verbally abusing your spouse and child? Acting like a child and not owning up to your responsibilities as a husband and father? Being manipulative and forcing an abusive situation on your family because you know they can't leave? Talking down on and forsaking the kindness of others? He's absolute garbage. Couples therapy won't fix this. He even says in the video he doesn't feel sorry. He knows he's wrong, so what? He doesn't care that he's wrong. There's a difference between knowing and acknowledging. I hope that she left him because he doesn't deserve her. I sincerely hope she's found a better life, because this man is disgusting.
BTS Lover he doesn’t deserve a second chance, he needs to be thrown away immediately. people like him don’t deserve to have a family, friends or any other relationship with other humans.
@@sun-sinyi4202 Sandeul was also pretty perceptive about what might happen if things don't improve. Like he said, the son takes mom's side of a fight, but learns foul language from dad. Sandeul was scared about what`could potentially happen between the son and dad during an argument. If things don't improve, the son might grow up being resentful of his dad because of his bad treatment of his mother. That would be things going from bad to worse.
Nox Dawn Her parents worry about her and her husband asking if they're alright and if he helps out etc so I would assume she could go back home for the meantime while he reflects on the reality of what hes actually doing wrong.
That’s so true. I grew up in an environment like this and sometimes I just lose myself. Even though my „father“ left years ago, I still just start to swear when I’m having an argument with someone. I hate myself for it and I want to change because I don’t want to end up like him, but it’s really hard for me
She is probably scared of being a burden to them, plus if she has been an housewife since they got married it might get hard for her to find a job. She said it herself she has a low self esteem, I don't know if she will ever find the strength to leave him. She probably thinks she's also in fault and she might even worried about her kid blaming her :( Also we don't know how Korea views divorce, I heard (but I don't know if it's true) that a lot of Koreans think that people shouldn't get divorced. That they should work together to ameliorate their couple no matter (even when it's impossible) for the "sake" of their kid. Plus, she might be scared of people mocking her child for being the kid of a divorcee.
The fact that you noticed that side of you & are trying to improve is already amazing, instead of being mad at yourself you should be proud. You are not letting your progenitor affects on your new life ! Cheer up !
"she can't stay out because she has a child" ...sir, you also have a child. A child isn't created by just one person, it's both of your responsibility. I feel so sorry for this woman. She married a child. This man doesn't want to stay with her because he loves her he wants to stay with her because it would look bad for him if she left him. The kid is going to grow up without having fel an ounce of love from his father and that's just pathetic. There are people out there that would kjll to have a family or a wife like this but he just sits on his arse and behaves like an unthankful brat. Never have i wanted to hit a man more...
He's done for. The whole nation will have seen this. His co-workers will have watched it and agree with his friend that he's trash. I'm sure he was on his knees in front of both his parents and in-laws. If the marriage doesn't work out, she can use this episode to strengthen her divorce case
Thank you! The fact that you actually write that in the comment section, made me relieved a lil bit, thinking what that husband has to go through after this show.... he totally deserves every bit of it. Such a relief imagining it. And the wife deserves someone much much better than him.
It's a very unhealthy relationship. If the guy doesn't change at all, they should just consider breaking up, although it is very hard. A marriage is between two people and if the other one is not trying to keep it by doing things as if he has a servant, then, it is very bad. And blaming all on fighting? God, just because you fought doesn't mean your responsibilities stop. Also, if he owns the house then let him be, leave him and she should just stay with her parents she was working when they met, she can recuperate there then start working as soon as she can. It is better to raise a kid as a single parent than raise him/her with two people but the other one isn't even of much help. Nothing would change if the husband doesn't want to grow up. He doesn't even understand what's wrong with it! Looking at the smug look at his face? Gosh, I'm so angry!
Arre Mnemosyne not to mention that if the child grew up with someone like that as a higher figure and someone to look up to, he or she would learn to have that same trait(s).
Honestly at this point the only solution is divorce, what he is doing is psychological abuse. She needs to find a way to get out of this toxic relationship asap
I've never cried so much for a Hello Counsellor episode. She is not even asking for much just for him to treat her and son right. It makes me soo sad to see a mother that broken
He's not gonna change, trust me. My dad did this to my mom and it got worse and worse with age to the point where he was talking to her like an abused dog every other hour. I never understand why she didn't leave him when she always made more money than him and actually retired at a later age. He passed away at the beginning of the year and as much as I love the guy, we're all better off now that he's gone.
My sister was also in a super controlling, abusive relationship similar to your mother, her husband always lied to her and made out to be paranoid. When they argued he even sometimes beat and seriously injured her several times.
aside from all the cursing and the fact that he rarely helps her and disrespects his mother-in-law, the part where she talked about how her father often verbally abused her really hit me I don't remember where I read this but people who experience abuse as a child by their parents/guardians tend to make bad relationship choices and end up with abusive partners and struggle to escape from them ://
if I'm not mistaken there's something called imago effect in psychology that it's similar to this thought,basically you tend to look for the people who are similar to the ones who disappointed you in your childhood,so you can 'finish' what you didn't receive.I'm not sure I'm explaining this right because I only read about it,I never studied this stuff sorry,but if you search for it,you can find a better explanation
To be honest, i don't believe in this things because if a person was abused as a child then he/she knows how is it to be humiliated by others and wouldn't want to have someone else in their lives doing the same thing. They actually try to have a partner who is totally opposite from the abusive figure. The thing is that a lot of people pretend to be what they aren't when they start dating just to reveal themselves later, just like the wife said that he already used to curse before but he was kind to her and treated her well at first.
@@srta_beca I respect if you don't believe in it but it does happen. There are enough explanations for why it happens and I've seen it myself. When helping out for a place where people with psychological issues could meet up I have met several people in the exact same position. It's like a never ending rabbit hole for them
I read something like this as well. I really need to find that article again but yeah, basically it was written that people who used to have abusive parents/family tend to get in relationship with abusive partner. It's not a conscious act and though...
It’s been 2 years since I watched this, and I rlly hope she has divorced him. Tbh like I’m thinking for their child . Imagine their child watching this or hearing his own father curse at 2yrs old. I’m just so- mad . How could such a human being exist
It's a sign of a lack of imagination and maturity. If one can't argue without resorting to swearing and insults. From there it's a short step to physical abuse.
kerokero You should try being sworn at in Cantonese. Our curses are literally that. Cursing various aspects of one's family, wishing ill fortune, attacks on the reproductive capabilities of a person, etc. Wikipedia has a great article on it. In East Asia, attacks on a person's ancestors and family is the highest form of offense that can be offered
This is one of the heaviest stories Ive watched on Hello Counselor tbh. This was just horrid, I ended up crying for the wife. How can he smirk and blame everything on her, hes so selfish
i feel like not divorcing him would do worse for the child than divorcing him. if the father continues all this crap, the child will get scarred at a young age & have a traumatic childhood growing up. the child should grow up with his mother, where he is loved. although there aren’t two parents in his life, he’ll have one who loves him tremendously than having one that hurts his mother.
That's actually a really old way of thinking. Divorce is fairly common these days. And suffice it to say, growing up in a stable and loving environment with one parent is much more preferred than enduring verbal and psychological abuse just to be able to say you grew up in a two-parent household. The days when kids were ostracized or stigmatized for being a child of a single parent (mom or dad) or being a child of divorce has long passed. In fact being able to raise good children under these circumstances are more often than not lauded by society in general. Social status aside, the well-being, safety and happiness of the child MUST always take precedence over anything else.
stan talent, stan B.A.P comeback in december in korea its more harsh and they are more closed minded. In korea bullying isnt taken seriously so i can see the kid getting bullied for it. He might not though. I hope he doesnt if his mom and dad get divorced
I love the expression, early on, that is worn by one of the ladies on the panel. You can see her jaw set and a deep glare in her eyes. I think the vast majority of us can agree with that emotion in this case.
the woman seems like she had enough of his bullshit, im not surprised if they divorce. id slap someone if i hear them insulting my mom, even though im not that close to my mom smh this guy is the type of person who never admits their mistake, he should marry an animal bcs he is in the same species
다들 도망가세요... 애인 사이에 욕한다? 예외 없습니다. 살다보면 익숙해진 느낌에 묻고 가시겠지만 사람은 쉽게 안바뀌고 그냥 그렇게 계속 참게 되실 거예요. 그게 쌓이고 쌓이면 결국 본인 스스로를 잃고말 겁니다.. ㅠ 도망가세요 세상에는 님들한테 좋게 얘기해줄 사람 많아요.
It's not easy to divorce in Korea. Traditionally it is heavily frowned upon as it it reflects badly on the wider family. It also stigmatises the single parent. From what I understand it's not as bad these days but still the society is still quite conservative when it comes to divorce
신동엽, 정찬우는 진짜 웃음기 싹 사라지고 찐으로 빡친 거 같고 .. 김태균도 옆에서 한마디씩 얹는 리액션이나 표정이 진짜 하찮다고 생각하는 듯 .... 그리고 이걸 보는 내 반응도 엠씨들과 같음 .. 보는 사람도 그런데, 당사자는 어떨지... 아직 같아 살고 계시는지.. 진심 궁금함 ..
I haven't even finished watching, but I would've packed up and left a long time ago. It's not good for the child and what he does is similar to verbal abuse.
I’m actually so sad this made me cry. She seems like a lovely woman wanting to raise her baby in a hostile FREE environment and wanting to be in a loving caring home and all he does is verbally abuse her and treat her like a servant. My prayers go to her and the baby.
He wants to take but not give. She treats the husband parents well, but he cant take himself to do the same. He wants her to carry for him but dont want to worry about her. He wants someone treats him like a prince but wants to treat like s@ the other. That human deserves to be alone because nobody deserves to live in that misery. >:(
He's such a vile human why didn't he understand that his wife and baby are two seperate people he's using their fighting or his busy work schedule as an excuse for everything. I really wish I was a guest or there in tbr audience to just ask him why did he bother having a child if he can't take responsibility and whether he would be happy if she had a miscarriage second time round because he does jackshit for them. How could you say such disgusting things to your wife and neglect your baby I really hope she isn't suffering too much right now . I don't think anything would have changed at all for her and her baby I hope she gets a chance to go into treatment for how horribly he's scarred her and lives a food life without him I wish I could give her money so she can live in a house or apartment near her parents with her baby. She shouldn't be living with a cruel man like that .
I've never been this upset by a case on this show! I could barely finish watching the episode and it left me in tears, I can't even start to imagine what it must be like for her.
I've only seen this now, but it's been over a month for this episode. I really do hope that the wife stops making excuses to endure the kind of treatment she's experiencing from her husband. A man that childish, selfish and self-centered does not deserve a wife and son. If she doesn't leave him for herself, I hope she leaves him for the good of her son. Her son would benefit more growing up in a loving single parent household than with a father like that.
He's completely hopeless. Sigh~.. I'm just thinking, if the bond is not strong enough, it will surely lead to divorce. This is just like a toxic relationship. I pray that they have their happiness after this.. If not, she should just leave this. It's too toxic for her and her baby..
The way he smiles when her wife is in deep pain shows how bad his attitude is. I know this is too much but I want her to divorce him because it felt like their child will be the one to suffer in the end. This kind of attitude is hard to change and he'll just slipped back and hurt her again like its a cycle
This is really sad. Being cussed at even if it's a joke still hurts what more if you are fighting and with your husband. At the end where the guy said he will change, I was waiting for a sorry but I guess his pride will make it look like he lost. I hope the wife can be happy.
The scariest thing is, I specialise in 3D facial modeling so I pay close attention to very small facial expressions. When I see people asking him stuff about why isn't he taking care of the baby he shows a lot of disgust and deep anger. Very small muscles around the nose and mouth area are moving quick and involuntary. Idk, he is just holding a lot of rage in him, probably not only because he is being judged on TV, but because of his pride issues.
This was so aggravating that it actually sincerely concerns me. I’ve watched this show a lot and never have I seen such a concern. Who wouldn’t feel like that when even your baby gets dragged into this? I’m afraid that If this continues, the baby adapts to the environment as he grows up and maybe even curse at his mom. This is a concern that should really be resolved. I’m asian and I think If my parents hear me cussing at people, oh I can’t even imagine what they’d do.
every woman in the world deserves a good man. a man that takes care of her and treats her like a queen. there's a saying in korean, the wife/woman is the sky and the man/husband is the earth. this woman deserves nothing but love and respect. that man does not deserve her
My dad is also like this even worse is that he embarasses mom by shouting mean things to her so that the neighbors could hear, he sometimes gets violent and break things specially when he's drunk, my mom (not only mom but also me and my siblings) would always cry to sleep he's not scared of anyone because he has connections
dirty watae I'm living that too. With my mom. All the neighborhood can hears her shout... Insulting us... Break some things.... We are not enough good for her... NEVER. But with others.... She is THE perfect mom who give all for her children.... And I'm 21 years old (I want to finish my home study and leave the house), and she say to others thay is me who shout and insulting her and my yonger brother...... She knows that I have feelings for a guy.... She comes to his house, speaks with his mother and say that I'm doing nothing, I shout on her, and I'm a bad daughter..... That weird because she talk on them back few weeks ago...... But I just hope that I will go out of this hell.
don't worry i have suffered the same thing but have hope and take care of your family cause things will eventually get better. good luck with your life.
This truly angers me like the way he’s just smirking the whole way through and how unbothered he looks by the whole situation. Hope she broke up with him she looks like such a kind genuine woman!❤️ Doesn’t deserve to be treated like that at all!
i don't think i can tolerate a boyfriend like this.. even if he is nice to me but cursing is really rude.. i wouldn't even dream of marrying and all the more dating a guy who curses like crazy...
This is so sad, I couldn't help but tear :( just why... fathers like him are the reason why children sometimes have to grow up watching their moms cry.
안녕하세요 보면서 mc 4명다 저렇게 빡친거 첨봄ㅋㅋㅋ 보통 심각해도 부드럽게 만들려고 농담도하고 장난도치고하는데 그나마 정찬우는 포커페이스하고 진행하려하는데 이영자는 거의 말문이막힌상태고 특히 신동엽이랑 김태균 둘다 방송할때 자기감정 잘 안드러내는걸로아는데 리얼로 빡친거 다 느껴짐
My former friend experience that situation but it's not just about cursing. The husband always made sure that in every argument he wins and my former friend would end up blaming herself. It's like that, the husband wants to be pampered like a kid. The husband also hurt her when they are in heat argument. The husband is also a cool nice guy at work but at home he treats his wife poorly. I hope anyone who is currently in a toxic relationship will have the courage to get out. And to all whose in a relationship right now I hope you all be mindful of the red flags. In this episode the husband might not be hurting her physically but mental and emotional abuse is also something to worry about
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So he married her because he wanted a servant??? To become a a maid to him and his parents??? Not because she's beautiful, she's kind, she's understanding, OF ALL THINGS "she's good at serving me and my family." MESSED UP. DITCH HIM.
That guy is fucked up. He needs to be forever alone.
I agree
She needs a divorce immediately
@@farhcawalid8224 pfffft stop using korean language without hangul
And yes SHE IS BEAUTIFUL
@@farhcawalid8224 lol you think she is not beautiful?
결혼하지 말았어야할 남자.
욕문제가 아니라 정신과 진단받아야할 수준이네요.
부인이랑 아이 정말 불쌍하다..
남자 실실웃는거.. 참 소시오패스같다
이남자 나르시시스트임
i think this is the FIRST TIME that i have seen a concern in this show, in which there is no clapping after reading the letter, nearly no jokes, no laughing (except for the "this is ridiculous, i am so shocked - laugh), just rawness and realness to the actual issue! i apploud them, for being so serious, i mean this is a horrible concern after all.
Vivi N it is one of the mildest ive watched
I don't think swearing is bad...well i guess in korea it is lol
@@wolfkanna9983 the concern is not jus about swearing it is about how the father is a child. He doesn't do housework, don't try to fix their relationship, I can't even tell if he wants he baby, only cares about himself and swearing is not a big issue in Korea but u would if that person swears at u constantly
@@wolfkanna9983 well it's not just Korea. Basically, Asian parents doesn't like their child to get used of cursing cuz it consider as rude & bad manner here.. I mean ofc we still curse, but we tend to avoid cursing in front of ppl dat older than us especially our family (except with our silly siblings) cuz we're gonna be scolded & nagged badly if we ever do dat. So obviously it's not seen as good parenting if the parents curse in front of their children cuz the children gonna imitate them..
Wolfkanna do u even understand the whole situation?? its not just about swearing lmaooo
3 years later, hoping she divorced him and is living a better life.
We can only hope 😞
Yeeeah me too...I hope she got divorce, she deserve better life, better husband....😔
This is definitely the worst I have ever seen. The way he smiles as his wife cries in pain is truly disgusting. Just by the way he talks, you can tell the wife isn't lying. He is quick to be defensive and turn things around. He is so fast to shut someone down before they can finish speaking. He's never bathed his own son? What kind of human is he? He really needs to go to the doctor. He has quite a few things to work on. I sincerely hope that the mother and son will leave this... thing.
I get what you're trying to Say but Many men hasnt bathed their sons. I wouldn't leave Him cuz everyone har a good side and a bad one. I understand the concern but I would try going to a professional couple therapy and if that doesnt work out I would then leave him
@@btslover9700 What good side? He literally has none apart from having a good facade to put up in front of others. Verbally abusing your spouse and child? Acting like a child and not owning up to your responsibilities as a husband and father? Being manipulative and forcing an abusive situation on your family because you know they can't leave? Talking down on and forsaking the kindness of others? He's absolute garbage. Couples therapy won't fix this. He even says in the video he doesn't feel sorry. He knows he's wrong, so what? He doesn't care that he's wrong. There's a difference between knowing and acknowledging. I hope that she left him because he doesn't deserve her. I sincerely hope she's found a better life, because this man is disgusting.
BTS Lover he doesn’t deserve a second chance, he needs to be thrown away immediately. people like him don’t deserve to have a family, friends or any other relationship with other humans.
13:22 Shin Dong-yup's words are wise words.👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏
@@sun-sinyi4202 Sandeul was also pretty perceptive about what might happen if things don't improve. Like he said, the son takes mom's side of a fight, but learns foul language from dad. Sandeul was scared about what`could potentially happen between the son and dad during an argument. If things don't improve, the son might grow up being resentful of his dad because of his bad treatment of his mother. That would be things going from bad to worse.
omg almost all the business proposal cast linked up 4 years back !! cuteee
Finally found someone who noticed this!!
I also
But this is from 6 yrs ago?
I want to slap that smirk off his face so bad he doesn't even look sorry although he says it. 🙄
Btw nice profile pic hahaha
ikr? I couldn't take it seriously because of ong
I KNOW RIGHT I FEEL YOU
MY HEART WILL GO 옹 i actually laughed at this
When I saw your profile pic, his "Hooooooo~" echoed in my mind 😂
아니 진짜 어이가 없네 ... 29분52초를 동안 계속 한숨만 하고 눈물날 뻔했어요 .... 이 남자분은 딱 자기 같은 사람 만나 봐야 해
I would take my child and leave. Such an unhealthy environment if the child has to grow up like that.
He said their house belonged to him, I don't think she has anywhere to go if she were to leave him...
Nox Dawn Her parents worry about her and her husband asking if they're alright and if he helps out etc so I would assume she could go back home for the meantime while he reflects on the reality of what hes actually doing wrong.
That’s so true. I grew up in an environment like this and sometimes I just lose myself. Even though my „father“ left years ago, I still just start to swear when I’m having an argument with someone. I hate myself for it and I want to change because I don’t want to end up like him, but it’s really hard for me
She is probably scared of being a burden to them, plus if she has been an housewife since they got married it might get hard for her to find a job. She said it herself she has a low self esteem, I don't know if she will ever find the strength to leave him. She probably thinks she's also in fault and she might even worried about her kid blaming her :(
Also we don't know how Korea views divorce, I heard (but I don't know if it's true) that a lot of Koreans think that people shouldn't get divorced. That they should work together to ameliorate their couple no matter (even when it's impossible) for the "sake" of their kid. Plus, she might be scared of people mocking her child for being the kid of a divorcee.
The fact that you noticed that side of you & are trying to improve is already amazing, instead of being mad at yourself you should be proud. You are not letting your progenitor affects on your new life ! Cheer up !
"she can't stay out because she has a child"
...sir, you also have a child. A child isn't created by just one person, it's both of your responsibility. I feel so sorry for this woman. She married a child. This man doesn't want to stay with her because he loves her he wants to stay with her because it would look bad for him if she left him. The kid is going to grow up without having fel an ounce of love from his father and that's just pathetic. There are people out there that would kjll to have a family or a wife like this but he just sits on his arse and behaves like an unthankful brat. Never have i wanted to hit a man more...
He's done for. The whole nation will have seen this. His co-workers will have watched it and agree with his friend that he's trash. I'm sure he was on his knees in front of both his parents and in-laws. If the marriage doesn't work out, she can use this episode to strengthen her divorce case
you can actually see the blood pressure of the audience rising the more he speaks
Thank you! The fact that you actually write that in the comment section, made me relieved a lil bit, thinking what that husband has to go through after this show.... he totally deserves every bit of it. Such a relief imagining it.
And the wife deserves someone much much better than him.
Hmm
He's an incel
저 남편
정신 연령이 한 4~5세 정도 되는듯
오은영 선생님과 상담이 필요하거나 정신과 상담이 필요해보임
Sometimes you just gotta throw the whole husband away
I-
eye- true tho
Forreal 😂😂😂😂😂😂
lmao
Agreed :)
이혼 증거자료로 쓰였길 간절히 바랍니다...........
It's a very unhealthy relationship. If the guy doesn't change at all, they should just consider breaking up, although it is very hard. A marriage is between two people and if the other one is not trying to keep it by doing things as if he has a servant, then, it is very bad. And blaming all on fighting? God, just because you fought doesn't mean your responsibilities stop. Also, if he owns the house then let him be, leave him and she should just stay with her parents she was working when they met, she can recuperate there then start working as soon as she can. It is better to raise a kid as a single parent than raise him/her with two people but the other one isn't even of much help. Nothing would change if the husband doesn't want to grow up. He doesn't even understand what's wrong with it! Looking at the smug look at his face? Gosh, I'm so angry!
He was like that before they got married. He will never change.
Arre Mnemosyne not to mention that if the child grew up with someone like that as a higher figure and someone to look up to, he or she would learn to have that same trait(s).
What epsiode is this
Arre Mnemosyne chill
i know and he doesn't feel sorry when his wife is already crying her ass out
It's soo funny how almost 3 people in the guests are casted in business proposal as main cast 😂😂
When it reaches this point she should really consider going to professional couples counsellor after the show
Honestly at this point the only solution is divorce, what he is doing is psychological abuse. She needs to find a way to get out of this toxic relationship asap
I'm glad I'm not the only one who saw how abusive he is.
The way he smiles whilst they're talking about his bad behavior creeps me out so much.
CottonTheRabbit Do you actually think he would go?
I don't think he would.
First of all, the people on stage ARE professional. If you check the website they all have licenses. Second of all, he wouldn’t agree to go anyway.
22:12 저는 진짜 처음부터 화가났지만....어머니까지 건드리면 아니라고 봐요.
한심하다..그 아이가 크면서 무슨생각을 할까..
he's smiling. smiling throughout the video like he wasn't wrong, EVER. like what he did was normal. it sickens me to see this.
신동엽도 많이 화난 듯. 얼굴이 뾰로통해 있는데... 중간에 직접 느끼게도 해주고, 설명도 다르게 계속 해주고, 정말 다르다는게 느껴지네요. 정말 좋으신분 같아요.
that's man didn't diserve a good wife
allison De leon deserve
or a good mother-in-law
Hes not even a man😂😂 hes a childish brat
부모한테 잘해서 결혼했다=대리효리시키려고 결혼했다
I've never cried so much for a Hello Counsellor episode. She is not even asking for much just for him to treat her and son right. It makes me soo sad to see a mother that broken
이남자는 아직도 상황판단 못했어요. 시간낭비하지마시고 갈라서시는것이 최선인것 같은데요. 여자분과 아기가 정말 마음이 아프네요.
He's not gonna change, trust me. My dad did this to my mom and it got worse and worse with age to the point where he was talking to her like an abused dog every other hour. I never understand why she didn't leave him when she always made more money than him and actually retired at a later age. He passed away at the beginning of the year and as much as I love the guy, we're all better off now that he's gone.
God bless you.
I am so sorry your mom and you faced a situation like that
My sister was also in a super controlling, abusive relationship similar to your mother, her husband always lied to her and made out to be paranoid. When they argued he even sometimes beat and seriously injured her several times.
지금은 잘 살고 있으세요?
아기엄마가 경제력 갖추고 이혼해서 행복하게 아기랑 살면 좋겠어요
20:46 this girl is literally me, the whole episode long
Yes I think of you too when I'm on the toilet ,Tae
same.
(both of your comment and your username)
Same lol
Autumn Rose lol same 😂
Same 😂
Yes I think of you too when I'm on the toilet ,Tae Your username xD
남편분 정신과 치료가 필요해 보여요 아무래도 남편분도 폭력 피해 경력 있을거 같음
aside from all the cursing and the fact that he rarely helps her and disrespects his mother-in-law, the part where she talked about how her father often verbally abused her really hit me
I don't remember where I read this but people who experience abuse as a child by their parents/guardians tend to make bad relationship choices and end up with abusive partners and struggle to escape from them ://
just tell me why Bcs they got used to it and didnt realize that they weren in danger, right?
if I'm not mistaken there's something called imago effect in psychology that it's similar to this thought,basically you tend to look for the people who are similar to the ones who disappointed you in your childhood,so you can 'finish' what you didn't receive.I'm not sure I'm explaining this right because I only read about it,I never studied this stuff sorry,but if you search for it,you can find a better explanation
To be honest, i don't believe in this things because if a person was abused as a child then he/she knows how is it to be humiliated by others and wouldn't want to have someone else in their lives doing the same thing. They actually try to have a partner who is totally opposite from the abusive figure. The thing is that a lot of people pretend to be what they aren't when they start dating just to reveal themselves later, just like the wife said that he already used to curse before but he was kind to her and treated her well at first.
@@srta_beca I respect if you don't believe in it but it does happen. There are enough explanations for why it happens and I've seen it myself. When helping out for a place where people with psychological issues could meet up I have met several people in the exact same position. It's like a never ending rabbit hole for them
I read something like this as well. I really need to find that article again but yeah, basically it was written that people who used to have abusive parents/family tend to get in relationship with abusive partner. It's not a conscious act and though...
It’s been 2 years since I watched this, and I rlly hope she has divorced him. Tbh like I’m thinking for their child . Imagine their child watching this or hearing his own father curse at 2yrs old. I’m just so- mad . How could such a human being exist
I'm hoping she threw him away honestly
I wonder how bad those curse words are til the extent the audiences had to react like that. It must had been horribly horrendous.
I would imagine the translations don't do them justice.
They really don't
It's a sign of a lack of imagination and maturity. If one can't argue without resorting to swearing and insults.
From there it's a short step to physical abuse.
korean curse words sting like a bullet ant. the words are harsh
kerokero
You should try being sworn at in Cantonese. Our curses are literally that. Cursing various aspects of one's family, wishing ill fortune, attacks on the reproductive capabilities of a person, etc. Wikipedia has a great article on it.
In East Asia, attacks on a person's ancestors and family is the highest form of offense that can be offered
저 뻔뻔한 태도는 절대 안변할듯.. 세상에 애가 우는데 짜증내고 아내한테 걸레라니 집안일 하나도 안하고;; 꼭 이혼하셨으면 좋겠다..ㅜㅜㅜㅠㅠ 안타깝
This is one of the heaviest stories Ive watched on Hello Counselor tbh. This was just horrid, I ended up crying for the wife. How can he smirk and blame everything on her, hes so selfish
신동엽이 표현한 애 라는 것이 맞다.. 어른이 되는데 시간이 필요하다. 그러한 것이 우리 사회의 문제이다. 인성교육이 부재한 사회.
I tried to not to cry.. But when i saw the wife crying.. I couldnt hold my tears... Hope the husband would be a better person after thisss.... Aminnnn
amiin
Aamiin
siti aishah ameen
@@nannn1992 Amin
I just realized we have our favorite business proposal cast here❤
Abusive, narcissistic and misogynistic piece of trash. Divorce him! Beautiful woman who deserves much better!
부들부들 떨고 있는거 보면 저건 100% 안고쳐진다.
I know the solution...divorce. The only disadvantage is when the child is older, he or she should get bullied for leaving his or her father.
idk why do people pick on people who have divorced parents , theres nothing wrong with it but yep you are right the boy might get bullied poor baby :c
i feel like not divorcing him would do worse for the child than divorcing him. if the father continues all this crap, the child will get scarred at a young age & have a traumatic childhood growing up. the child should grow up with his mother, where he is loved. although there aren’t two parents in his life, he’ll have one who loves him tremendously than having one that hurts his mother.
That's actually a really old way of thinking. Divorce is fairly common these days. And suffice it to say, growing up in a stable and loving environment with one parent is much more preferred than enduring verbal and psychological abuse just to be able to say you grew up in a two-parent household.
The days when kids were ostracized or stigmatized for being a child of a single parent (mom or dad) or being a child of divorce has long passed. In fact being able to raise good children under these circumstances are more often than not lauded by society in general. Social status aside, the well-being, safety and happiness of the child MUST always take precedence over anything else.
stan talent, stan B.A.P comeback in december in korea its more harsh and they are more closed minded. In korea bullying isnt taken seriously so i can see the kid getting bullied for it. He might not though. I hope he doesnt if his mom and dad get divorced
I love the expression, early on, that is worn by one of the ladies on the panel. You can see her jaw set and a deep glare in her eyes. I think the vast majority of us can agree with that emotion in this case.
the woman seems like she had enough of his bullshit, im not surprised if they divorce. id slap someone if i hear them insulting my mom, even though im not that close to my mom smh this guy is the type of person who never admits their mistake, he should marry an animal bcs he is in the same species
nat well I mean humans are animals too but I get what you meant
um... he's already married to an animal in the same species... lmao.. a human
but i get what you meant lool
Nah not marry a animal. Even an animal deserves better then that piece of shit. He should stay alone forever and ever.
미국에서 살고 있는 교포인데... 저도 저 프로그램에 꼭 나가고 싶네요.. 저희 남편도 욕을...ㅠㅠㅠ 한국말과 영어로도 욕을 한답니다... 가슴에 한이 맺히네요 이제 저도...ㅠㅠㅠ
정말 저도 미국사는데 같이지내는 사람한테몹쓸말많이듣내요 살면서 도망가야살수있다만 들어요
구냥 헤어져요..ㅠㅠ
다들 도망가세요... 애인 사이에 욕한다? 예외 없습니다. 살다보면 익숙해진 느낌에 묻고 가시겠지만 사람은 쉽게 안바뀌고 그냥 그렇게 계속 참게 되실 거예요. 그게 쌓이고 쌓이면 결국 본인 스스로를 잃고말 겁니다.. ㅠ 도망가세요 세상에는 님들한테 좋게 얘기해줄 사람 많아요.
The comment section has me having high blood already, I don't think I'll be able to watch this without killing someone. Bye bye...
결혼 결심했던 이유가 자기 부모한테 잘해서라는 사람이 장모한테 '시골 아줌마'라니... 진짜 못배워쳐먹었네~
가정교육이나 사회에 대해서 못 배운 것 맞는데 그 이전에 어디가 모자른 사람 같아요.
he probably should just brush his teeth
worldwidehandsomejin that's what I thought 😂
Or wash his mouth out with sope ...
See what I did there? ;)
Bangtan trash OMG I AM CRYING 😂 (and I saw what u did there army ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)
Bangtan trash I could only think of Melanie Martinez's song lyrics.. haha.. btw, hi ARMY.
he needs more than just brushing lmao. probably needs to pour in a jug of holy water in there.
When she said that she is crying inside and her baby smile innocently it breaks my heart. they doesn't deserve this kind of environment
I hope she leaves him asifnlkasfnf this is so frustrating
욕쟁이는 성격이 순하던 뭐던 걸러야돼..진짜...친구마저도 정떨어진다..
It seems like he is some what lacking sympathy for other people. His facial expression shows lack of guilt and confidence about him being not wrong.
Kory Kwon could be a sociopath... lack of sympathy and compassion
that's the def of a psychopath
who knew "business propsal's" cast would be here 5 years ahead 👁👄👁
The more he talks the more stupid he sounds. This poor lady, I hope she moves on with out that many problems.
아내와 결혼결심한이유는요? 제부모한테잘해서..
라는 말이 모든걸말해주네.
애초에 그냥 집안일할 여자가필요했던것.
If i would be the wife, I would break up with him
MW technically it’s divorce
Wolf _Doge yes i meant that
Break up with him seems too cheap for him. He should learnt his lesson. Breaking up would make he thinks that his wife gave up and lost to him
HaHaHappyXD but maybe he would realized it that he did many things wrong when he lost the love of his life
It's not easy to divorce in Korea. Traditionally it is heavily frowned upon as it it reflects badly on the wider family. It also stigmatises the single parent.
From what I understand it's not as bad these days but still the society is still quite conservative when it comes to divorce
신동엽, 정찬우는 진짜 웃음기 싹 사라지고 찐으로 빡친 거 같고 .. 김태균도 옆에서 한마디씩 얹는 리액션이나 표정이 진짜 하찮다고 생각하는 듯 .... 그리고 이걸 보는 내 반응도 엠씨들과 같음 .. 보는 사람도 그런데, 당사자는 어떨지... 아직 같아 살고 계시는지.. 진심 궁금함 ..
그러게요
I haven't even finished watching, but I would've packed up and left a long time ago. It's not good for the child and what he does is similar to verbal abuse.
Vivian L it technically is verbal abuse
I’m actually so sad this made me cry. She seems like a lovely woman wanting to raise her baby in a hostile FREE environment and wanting to be in a loving caring home and all he does is verbally abuse her and treat her like a servant. My prayers go to her and the baby.
Suffocation for 30 mins. I wonder how she lives with him under the same roof. She deserves a better person.
Interesting to see business proposal cast together
He wants to take but not give. She treats the husband parents well, but he cant take himself to do the same. He wants her to carry for him but dont want to worry about her. He wants someone treats him like a prince but wants to treat like s@ the other.
That human deserves to be alone because nobody deserves to live in that misery. >:(
인간은 고쳐서 쓰는게 아니다 아내분이 너무 안쓰럽다 눈물나요 남편분 와이프 잘해주고 쓰담쓰담 해주세요 가족이 최고입니다
He's such a vile human why didn't he understand that his wife and baby are two seperate people he's using their fighting or his busy work schedule as an excuse for everything. I really wish I was a guest or there in tbr audience to just ask him why did he bother having a child if he can't take responsibility and whether he would be happy if she had a miscarriage second time round because he does jackshit for them. How could you say such disgusting things to your wife and neglect your baby I really hope she isn't suffering too much right now . I don't think anything would have changed at all for her and her baby I hope she gets a chance to go into treatment for how horribly he's scarred her and lives a food life without him I wish I could give her money so she can live in a house or apartment near her parents with her baby. She shouldn't be living with a cruel man like that .
I've never been this upset by a case on this show! I could barely finish watching the episode and it left me in tears, I can't even start to imagine what it must be like for her.
the husband doesn't deserve her :(
유산댓을때 이혼햇어야지 아답답하네 지금이라도 이혼하세요 저더러운핏줄 애 ㅅㄲ도 던져주고 이혼하세요 욕하는거 다녹음하고 위자료 왕창받구요 아니 왜 같이살아? 왜? ? 설마 이게 사랑이라고 생각하세요? ?
What a total jerk!i've never seen the emcees so mad like this.she should just leave him
Every time I watch one of their videos my faith in love and marriage weakens
I've only seen this now, but it's been over a month for this episode. I really do hope that the wife stops making excuses to endure the kind of treatment she's experiencing from her husband. A man that childish, selfish and self-centered does not deserve a wife and son. If she doesn't leave him for herself, I hope she leaves him for the good of her son. Her son would benefit more growing up in a loving single parent household than with a father like that.
제~~~~~에발~~~
이혼했길..
이혼하길 염원했던방송인데
이게 알고리즘에 왜떴나싶은데
제발 이혼했길
He still can smile?!!!
He's such a terrible husband and father
이거 백퍼 가정폭력으로 이어진다. 애 위해서라도 이혼이 답임. 경험담임.
He's completely hopeless. Sigh~.. I'm just thinking, if the bond is not strong enough, it will surely lead to divorce. This is just like a toxic relationship. I pray that they have their happiness after this.. If not, she should just leave this. It's too toxic for her and her baby..
왜 저런사람이랄 결혼했는지.. 결혼전엔 욕하는거 몰랐나 알고도 결혼했네 참..
You can see in his eyes that he is swearing inside
와...너무 맘아프다 어떻게 저런남자랑 결혼을한거냐고..
제발 이혼하세요 아내분 인생을 찾으세요!!!
The way he smiles when her wife is in deep pain shows how bad his attitude is. I know this is too much but I want her to divorce him because it felt like their child will be the one to suffer in the end. This kind of attitude is hard to change and he'll just slipped back and hurt her again like its a cycle
This is really sad. Being cussed at even if it's a joke still hurts what more if you are fighting and with your husband. At the end where the guy said he will change, I was waiting for a sorry but I guess his pride will make it look like he lost. I hope the wife can be happy.
이혼하세요...개버릇 남 못줍니다...평생 고생..
Please have a divorce.
The scariest thing is, I specialise in 3D facial modeling so I pay close attention to very small facial expressions. When I see people asking him stuff about why isn't he taking care of the baby he shows a lot of disgust and deep anger. Very small muscles around the nose and mouth area are moving quick and involuntary. Idk, he is just holding a lot of rage in him, probably not only because he is being judged on TV, but because of his pride issues.
I first thought he had bad breath.
Ikr😂
Me tooooo lol😂
Lol, me too 😂
This was so aggravating that it actually sincerely concerns me. I’ve watched this show a lot and never have I seen such a concern. Who wouldn’t feel like that when even your baby gets dragged into this? I’m afraid that If this continues, the baby adapts to the environment as he grows up and maybe even curse at his mom. This is a concern that should really be resolved. I’m asian and I think If my parents hear me cussing at people, oh I can’t even imagine what they’d do.
every woman in the world deserves a good man. a man that takes care of her and treats her like a queen. there's a saying in korean, the wife/woman is the sky and the man/husband is the earth. this woman deserves nothing but love and respect. that man does not deserve her
설인아 진심 영혼을 담아서 경멸하는듯 ㅋㅋㅋㅋ
이혼하세요 여자분..폭언도 폭력입니다
답이 없다..없어
완전 아내를 만만하게 보고 깎아내리네
My dad is also like this even worse is that he embarasses mom by shouting mean things to her so that the neighbors could hear, he sometimes gets violent and break things specially when he's drunk, my mom (not only mom but also me and my siblings) would always cry to sleep he's not scared of anyone because he has connections
dirty watae I'm living that too. With my mom. All the neighborhood can hears her shout... Insulting us... Break some things.... We are not enough good for her... NEVER.
But with others.... She is THE perfect mom who give all for her children....
And I'm 21 years old (I want to finish my home study and leave the house), and she say to others thay is me who shout and insulting her and my yonger brother......
She knows that I have feelings for a guy.... She comes to his house, speaks with his mother and say that I'm doing nothing, I shout on her, and I'm a bad daughter.....
That weird because she talk on them back few weeks ago......
But I just hope that I will go out of this hell.
Hope you'll have a better. Believe me, you truly dont deserve this.
don't worry i have suffered the same thing but have hope and take care of your family cause things will eventually get better. good luck with your life.
I hope you and your mom are someday away from in and find happiness
it's been 4 years, i hope you and your mom are in a better situation now
This truly angers me like the way he’s just smirking the whole way through and how unbothered he looks by the whole situation. Hope she broke up with him she looks like such a kind genuine woman!❤️ Doesn’t deserve to be treated like that at all!
i don't think i can tolerate a boyfriend like this.. even if he is nice to me but cursing is really rude.. i wouldn't even dream of marrying and all the more dating a guy who curses like crazy...
저도 남편이 심하게 욕할때가 많아 상처를많이 받고 슬퍼요 남편분얼마나 잘났는지 모르지만 혼자 사시길 바래요 상처주지마세요 뭐그리변명이많아 입닥치시길
i'm good at sewing so i can do it to his lips
저런 남자랑은 애초에 결혼하지 말았어야했는데.. 저런 남자한테 사랑한다는 말 듣는것도 소름끼칠일 에효… 여자가 불쌍하지만 그것도 자기 선택이니 어쩌겠어 ㅜㅜ
Sigh~ I pity her, its not her fault that she is having bad husband but still I wish from now on you can enjoy your life and meet better persons
This is so sad, I couldn't help but tear :( just why... fathers like him are the reason why children sometimes have to grow up watching their moms cry.
No words how upset I felt I felt like crying when he read all of those words out how degrading she must have felt
안녕하세요 보면서 mc 4명다 저렇게 빡친거 첨봄ㅋㅋㅋ 보통 심각해도 부드럽게 만들려고 농담도하고 장난도치고하는데 그나마 정찬우는 포커페이스하고 진행하려하는데 이영자는 거의 말문이막힌상태고 특히 신동엽이랑 김태균 둘다 방송할때 자기감정 잘 안드러내는걸로아는데 리얼로 빡친거 다 느껴짐
I swear a lot when I am shocked or surprised or I did something wrong, it just comes out. But I don’t swear when it comes to talking to people
how nice
me too
My former friend experience that situation but it's not just about cursing. The husband always made sure that in every argument he wins and my former friend would end up blaming herself. It's like that, the husband wants to be pampered like a kid. The husband also hurt her when they are in heat argument. The husband is also a cool nice guy at work but at home he treats his wife poorly.
I hope anyone who is currently in a toxic relationship will have the courage to get out. And to all whose in a relationship right now I hope you all be mindful of the red flags.
In this episode the husband might not be hurting her physically but mental and emotional abuse is also something to worry about
Just divorce . The husband is a complete trash . I dont think he ever will changed . its not a good environment for the baby .
I feel like when they get home from this show he'll be worse and curse at her for revealing all those things about him. I'm so sorry for that woman