“There are a lots of people commenting loudly and dying silently in their marriage, because they haven’t been able to articulate their needs in terms of sex” A WORD!!!
@@MrsKevOnStage I don't mean that in an idolizing way either. Lol. It's more like, "God, free me from the bondage of religion like THAT!" Following God should never feel burdensome, but for years it has been that way for me largely due to topics like this video pertains to as well as the stigma of mental health in the church. Your obedience to God has made a huge impact. ❤️
I encourage people who grew up in the church to do the required work to grow up in God (work out YOUR OWN salvation). #LordDeliverUsFromPeople #PeopleWhoHaveNoHeavenOrHellToPutMeIn
I really enjoyed this episode. A lot of Christian culture shames women and young girls and it takes a life time to build your self esteem and awareness. I speak from experience and went on a journey to find myself and realize my worth. That modest narrative is traumatizing when it is done extremely. And honestly a lot of times it is only directed to women but no modesty training for men. At the end of the day we are all on the spectrum of Christianity and we should not shame others for their own journey. I have loved watching Melissa's journey bc it has helped me and encouraged me greatly.
Me too, I’m married and still suffering and trying to make sense of my sexuality. Working on being comfortable with my sexuality. It stems from religion.
All the things Melissa wanted to say, but didn’t: Play with ya mammie, not me. Mind ya business, not mine. We good over here, thanks boo boo. You mad, huh? Is you done, or is you done? Hahah shout out to you for using your platform to say something meaningful. Our God is greater than the box we sat God in, period.
Haven't watched not NANN second yet but HAD to hit that like based on the skrempf of the IG conversation alone!!! They BIG mad!! DO YOU SIS!!! DO YOU!!!
Yahweh says the marriage bed is undefiled. Talk about it, learn together about it, enjoy it! Sex is the best gift God give marriage couples. Be happy in your sexuality and give Yahweh His praise for it.
100%. I can't believe talking/learning about sex was so taboo in Christianity, yet its a such an important subject in our lives. The way some Christians' view Elohim's salvation is confusing.
Thank you for this conversation!! I didn’t grow up in church (although I’m a Believer now) and I still had issues of shame with sex. Popular culture focuses on male pleasure and female pleasure is secondary.
Dang Melissa, the ending was a whole "Exiting read"... Take you concerns/comments to Jesus, not me! Mic Drop... You even had Kevin clutching invisible pearls 😂😂😂. Blessings to you. Love y'all
👻 and 🎬 Here!!!! Melissa (and Kev) are doing the work of the Lord, PERIODT! I just want to say, as a consumer, I can see, hear, and feel the growth between Melissa who started the 1st installment of the Love Hour (on SoundCloud) and THIS Melissa right here! I’m all for the personal growth, empowerment, education, and ALL THE THINGS. Also, as a young woman who grew up in the church with a lot of the same messaging around sex/sexuality/women’s bodies, it takes CONSTANT affirmation and reminders to own your body and stand confidently in that. THANK YOU Melissa!
Thank you, Melissa, for always being so considerate and thoughtful in your responses to controversial issues. You don't want to blast people for their un-Christlike comments, but your elegant approach hopefully shamed them into some self-reflection and growth. Greatest takeaway: why would we NOT want to understand everything about the way that God made us? Why would we NOT want to experience everything from sex that God intended? 👐🏾
Great conversation. What happens behind "closed doors" in our Christian sex lives needs education, open and honest discussion. And healing. Thank you for being a part of that.
A@46:33i agree this was me for a few years .I thought that my spiritual life was struggling and that I was sinning..Not knowing that it was my body just changing due to the hormones e.g ovulation. It was so scary I was calling all my girls asking for help now I know better ,I am still on this celibate journey and aware of my triggers and full of the Holy Spirit.Thank you MrsKevonStage for this ..
I LOVE the emphasis and importance MKOS puts on leaving space for people who disagree or who have questions. I don't find anything anything they said to be controversial but it is important to leave room for people to grow, respectfully.
GREAT CONVERSATION I appreciate you for not pointing fingers, not allowing for harsh judgment regarding no matter where a woman or man is regarding their journey. As a Christian woman I appreciate the growth of my marriage my husband being open minded and wanting to learn and please me. I do appreciate the privacy and covenant of the bedroom. There is much to say here and the conversation has to be had with our children.
I had to come back to this in the new year as it really was such an empowering conversation with many, many, many gifts for those who are ready to receive!!!
Ohh preach on Kev! I had to realize that people may not grow at the same rate as me, but I give grace to others because someone gave it to me as I was growing spiritually. It's always so strange to me when people thank God for delivering them or opening their mind, but they don't want anyone else to have that growth.
So at marker 1:11:23 or so I almost broke into tears because that is what I had to and am still coming to understand that I have to take ownership of my body, it is not on my husband. I thank you so much Melissa for being willing to share ur journey it has been the biggest blessing in my life next to my husband 🤗 AND to all those who have a issue with this pretty please for the sake of being a good witness for the Lord go have a real conversation with God. He wants us to feel joy in EVERY WAY and if you are not able to respectfully and lovingly disagree with someone then what part of the Bible are you really reading 🤔. Ok that is my peace, blessings to all
I watched by the privilege of being part of the Stage Krew! Which was 2 hours by the way... It pays to be part... However Liss we appreciate & Support (Big SUPPORT) your GROWTH in being who you are. Thank you for curating a space for use to be open in a safe/non judgemental environment.
Has anyone ever read Song of Solomon? That whole book is very explicitly speaking about intimacy. And guess what? It made it into the Bible!!! God created ALL of our sexual organs. Guess what?!? Before the fall we were walking around booty but naked.. lol..... Sin is what brought shame. It says that we were naked and without shame. After the fall that’s when we wanted to start hiding and covering up. We should not be ashamed to openly discuss sexuality. The enemy and sin has taken sexuality and perverted it. Many of our first sexual experiences came in the form of some sort of perverted act. Maybe someone violated you sexually and as a result shame has attached itself to your sexuality. We as Christ followers have to take sexuality back!!! We need to have more conversations like this, ESPECIALLY in the church. If anyone has the authority to speak on sex and sexuality, it should be those who are walking in relationship with Christ. Keep doing your thing Melissa!!! I’m here for it!
Right! As Christians we want to take everything else back that the enemy stole (your hopes, your health, your finances, family, etc.). But sex!? We fail at that part. For the life of me I don't understand. I'm a single Christian woman & learning about my body through educational resources like these because though I'm not married I've learned at a young age about sex from the world and others that did it. But as I got older that I learned I have the responsibility to know and learn the body God gave me to keep it healthy, and have it be backed biblically & scientifically. And once I am married I will know about my ownself & have these conversations with my spouse to let them know (especially because men have no problem telling women how they feel or what they want). Healthy informative sex conversations start way too late these days.
I feel like there is nothing wrong with a woman being Christian and talking about her body and what gives her pleasure. These conversations always reveal to me just how much people like to control women's bodies. Now when we specifically look at black women people do not like the fact these women have agency and are taking control over their bodies and expressing what they need within intimacy. Christians need to stop! a persons intimacy has nothing to do with their faith. Leave people alone!!
Agreed. Honestly, Christian marriages would be much better if we stop to remember what sex was designed for. But too many are scared to have that talk. This was needed.
i hope that you'll will never stop what you are doing every time i click the love hour i learn and hear the things that i have been either questioning in my mind and there is no one talking about it for so many of the reasons that you all have hit not to mention what you have not said. i encourage you all please do not stop. i am a christian and have been taught along the lines of no sex b4 marriage but no real depth of the human body, not only mine but men as well. So again thank you be blessed and keep it pushing!!
This is a much needed conversation. That mentality is still in the church today. It’s really sad. I’m so glad I’ve matured to study to show myself approved.
where were you when I was younger. hopefully it is not too late for me. I would have been nice if Kevin would allowed us who were open to this talk hear the entire talk. I was honestly listen to learn. opened to overcoming the shaming of women in church about sex
I really enjoyed this episode!! As someone who had always said that Christianity and sex should always have been a conversation this episode is everything!!! Thank you to all 3 of you for making this a topic and not being scared to share it! Also Melissa...girl you are truly like my big sis!!! Love you!!!
Christian don’t only shame sexuality but we hide it too . It’s a very hidden topic that we believe shouldn’t be expose. This is some areas we need to address. The word of God states that there is no shame or condemnation for those who are in Christ . Yes we have a standard to uphold as believers but we do not need to hide what God made .. but we do have to make sure that we are honoring God with the way we present his creations .
Thank you Melissa! I needed this. Im a tall 26 year old married woman and its tough fighting the church thoughts and being sexual shoot even picking clothing is hard. I have long legs so I have always avoided shorts and mid length dresses because of it. All the times the saints yelled at me and told my mom about my "short" skirts has subconsciously affected the way I dress. My husband had to tell me to wear what I want after I was struggling to find long shorts for a pool party and ended up sitting down the entire time because I had on shorts that were above the knee and felt awkward.
Liss the way you speak about disagreement and handling of differing opinions you should teach people how to discuss politics... The same taboo of discussing religion and it's effects on our lives is the same with politics
This was so good and needed. So many gems and nuggets. You are always authentic, educational and you share worthwhile content meant to make others better and improve lives. May God continue to bless your work. We love you and the way you care about us! Thank you!
I enjoy you owning your space... Mel came with it and she wasn’t playing. The stunned look on Kev face when she said lick the clit said it all. Stay blessed and speak your truth...
I think we’ve had enough REAL battles in 2020 to last us a lifetime. Maybe we can start moving more towards building bridges than furthering the culture of polarization? Let’s normalize having the differences that naturally come with human diversity NOT resulting in an “us vs. them” situation/mood all the time. 🥰🙌😇💖🙌💕🙌
Thank you Mellissa. You’ve helped me tremendously embrace my sexuality and be able to have important conversations with my husband. We are thankful . It’s the lack of knowledge that allows Shane to come in. We are brain washed to think it wrong to please your self or want to do things sexually.
@MrsKevOnStage thanks for doing this video! After watching this... 1. Word on the Instagram comments: After 2020, I truly hope people can stop being so hype like “ if you aren’t for my views/don’t agree with me, you’re AGAINST me!!!” B/c that was the mood of the comments I read on both sides of the aisle and it legit almost felt as anxiety-striking as the 1st presidential debate. Seriously, is there not enough space for folks to make sure we understand other ppls actual (not presumed or stereotyped) point of view before blazing them into oblivion? Must everything be about “checking” folks & making sure so-and-so doesn’t “come” for us? Our last names aren’t Trump; hope we become more intentional about acting like it. 2. The shirt was definitely an attention getter. Maybe something that could have helped the shirt come off as more educational would have been to have the stats Brit said at the bottom or on the back of the shirt. Then there’d be info to go w/ the initial attention getter that would help spread real awareness. So.... 3. Maybe the majority of this situation isn’t half as much about ignorance & grouping most Christians as being foolish and disadvantaged in their thinking as it is a breakdown/lapse in communication. As w/ SOME cases of cultural appropriation issues: sometimes it might not come off so bad if the prsn’s intention was self-evident. 4. Thank you Brit for providing such hearty sex education. It is so important to understand these awesome art pieces (bodies) God made! 💕
I absolutely love this episode. Melissa you are me and I am you. I grew up in the church and have been afraid all theses years to speak up and explore. Growing up I felt a shame about sex all because what I was taught growing up in Pentecostal church. Even when I was married I was afraid to speak up of what I needed to reach the stars🤣. Just this year I was able to be me and tell what I like. It’s the CLIT for me. I felt so free and then to have man that didn’t have a problem with me being so vocal but actually enjoy the GPS was a cherry on top. We, women, must stop being judgmental especially Christian women. Keep unpacking and flourishing. And I know I will.
But Christians be the main ones crying and complaining about “The World” and songs like WAP. If we have these conversations in the church we probably wouldn’t be so booty cheek tight. But I digress
I LOVE MELISSA FREDRICKS & what she's doing for women in general & specifically for black "saved" women/marriages & I'm a single woman saying this! #blackgirlmagic @it's finest!
Kev, the science of Apologetics is based upon the scripture 1 Peter 3:15, "...always being prepared to make a defense to anyone who asks you for a reason for the hope that is in you; yet do it with gentleness and respect". One of the leading apologists was the late great, Ravi Zacharias. Someone that I currently follow is Frank Turek and Michael Ramsden.
Look.... 'Liss went OOOOFFFFFFFF!!!!!!! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾✊🏾✊🏾✊🏾💪🏾💪🏾💕💕💕💕 I enjoyed this podcast sssssooooo much as a single woman. Love & need you guys!! Very helpful for us believers. Keep living your ministry. These real convos are needed for real. Time out for the "church fluff" Let those that hate- hate. Do you boo #unbothered 😌 #goreadabook 😒😂😂😂😂
Great conversation. The church doesn’t like talking about sex, in the right context. I’ve had to find books to read that help me understand sex and singleness.
I recommend reading/listening to the book: Come as you are by Emily. It helps with accepting your sexuality, your sexual body parts, and your sexual responses as a woman. On a different note: it's interesting that knowing the terms of our sexual body parts reducing sexual abuse is empowering to learn about. Education = power. Empower yourself and your children with this knowledge.
This is 100000000000 percent #FACTS Thank you for making it clear that we CAN be Christians who love God AAAAAAAND understand the beauty of our bodies, sex and sexuality! THANK YOU for helping to erase the shame. Btw, pecs=pectorales major/minor; quads=quadriceps; clit=clitoris!!! Amen! 😊
“There are a lots of people commenting loudly and dying silently in their marriage, because they haven’t been able to articulate their needs in terms of sex”
A WORD!!!
Honestly, seeing Auntie Melissa express her sexual liberation has been so necessary for the purity culture church girls.
FACTS! That stuff can be sooo toxic for girls.
Yes! 👏👏👏
HeyHey
And Agnostic girls 💕✊🏽
Melissa, girl, witnessing your growth is everything I ever needed to see. 😭🙌🏾
Thank you so much!
@@MrsKevOnStage I don't mean that in an idolizing way either. Lol. It's more like, "God, free me from the bondage of religion like THAT!" Following God should never feel burdensome, but for years it has been that way for me largely due to topics like this video pertains to as well as the stigma of mental health in the church. Your obedience to God has made a huge impact. ❤️
I encourage people who grew up in the church to do the required work to grow up in God (work out YOUR OWN salvation).
#LordDeliverUsFromPeople
#PeopleWhoHaveNoHeavenOrHellToPutMeIn
Work on your own salvation!!! Whew that's a word and the truth.
@@jazzyja9090 💪🏿✊🏿 #ItsInTheBook
The most powerful and anointed experiences I have ever had has come from separating from the church. Felt like the day I got saved all over again.
I really enjoyed this episode. A lot of Christian culture shames women and young girls and it takes a life time to build your self esteem and awareness. I speak from experience and went on a journey to find myself and realize my worth. That modest narrative is traumatizing when it is done extremely. And honestly a lot of times it is only directed to women but no modesty training for men. At the end of the day we are all on the spectrum of Christianity and we should not shame others for their own journey. I have loved watching Melissa's journey bc it has helped me and encouraged me greatly.
Totally agree with you 👑
Me too, I’m married and still suffering and trying to make sense of my sexuality. Working on being comfortable with my sexuality. It stems from religion.
Totally agree.
All the things Melissa wanted to say, but didn’t: Play with ya mammie, not me. Mind ya business, not mine. We good over here, thanks boo boo. You mad, huh? Is you done, or is you done?
Hahah shout out to you for using your platform to say something meaningful. Our God is greater than the box we sat God in, period.
Haven't watched not NANN second yet but HAD to hit that like based on the skrempf of the IG conversation alone!!! They BIG mad!!
DO YOU SIS!!! DO YOU!!!
I will say this....
Y’all growth is helping me to grow, PERIOD.
It’s making me reevaluate a lot of things in my own live.
Yahweh says the marriage bed is undefiled.
Talk about it, learn together about it, enjoy it!
Sex is the best gift God give marriage couples. Be happy in your sexuality and give Yahweh His praise for it.
Exactly
100%. I can't believe talking/learning about sex was so taboo in Christianity, yet its a such an important subject in our lives. The way some Christians' view Elohim's salvation is confusing.
Thank you for this conversation!! I didn’t grow up in church (although I’m a Believer now) and I still had issues of shame with sex. Popular culture focuses on male pleasure and female pleasure is secondary.
Wow! I so appreciate that you shared this. That women are often secondary.
Dang Melissa, the ending was a whole "Exiting read"... Take you concerns/comments to Jesus, not me! Mic Drop... You even had Kevin clutching invisible pearls 😂😂😂. Blessings to you. Love y'all
Melissa’s face in the thumbnail is perfect for this episode
👻 and 🎬 Here!!!!
Melissa (and Kev) are doing the work of the Lord, PERIODT!
I just want to say, as a consumer, I can see, hear, and feel the growth between Melissa who started the 1st installment of the Love Hour (on SoundCloud) and THIS Melissa right here! I’m all for the personal growth, empowerment, education, and ALL THE THINGS.
Also, as a young woman who grew up in the church with a lot of the same messaging around sex/sexuality/women’s bodies, it takes CONSTANT affirmation and reminders to own your body and stand confidently in that. THANK YOU Melissa!
@Chelsea Horne Yasssssss, the work of the LordT! 👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿
Also...🗣You better go head Melissa! Your work and dedication are appreciated
Thank you, Melissa, for always being so considerate and thoughtful in your responses to controversial issues. You don't want to blast people for their un-Christlike comments, but your elegant approach hopefully shamed them into some self-reflection and growth. Greatest takeaway: why would we NOT want to understand everything about the way that God made us? Why would we NOT want to experience everything from sex that God intended? 👐🏾
Absolutely!! Melissa is Special and a Gift from God to awaken women in the kingdom!!! 🙏🏾🌺🙏🏾
"You are people's answered prayer." I love that. That's an evergreen affirmation.
Christians: God knows my heart
God: You know who else knows ur heart? YOU!
She said save your characters.....LOVE IT!!! Need a shirt with that saying, Mrs. KevOnStage!
Great conversation. What happens behind "closed doors" in our Christian sex lives needs education, open and honest discussion. And healing. Thank you for being a part of that.
A@46:33i agree this was me for a few years .I thought that my spiritual life was struggling and that I was sinning..Not knowing that it was my body just changing due to the hormones e.g ovulation. It was so scary I was calling all my girls asking for help now I know better ,I am still on this celibate journey and aware of my triggers and full of the Holy Spirit.Thank you MrsKevonStage for this ..
I LOVE the emphasis and importance MKOS puts on leaving space for people who disagree or who have questions. I don't find anything anything they said to be controversial but it is important to leave room for people to grow, respectfully.
I am here for all of this! Purity culture messed up my mind (still and I have been married since 2015). this is necessary!
GREAT CONVERSATION I appreciate you for not pointing fingers, not allowing for harsh judgment regarding no matter where a woman or man is regarding their journey. As a Christian woman I appreciate the growth of my marriage my husband being open minded and wanting to learn and please me. I do appreciate the privacy and covenant of the bedroom. There is much to say here and the conversation has to be had with our children.
I had to come back to this in the new year as it really was such an empowering conversation with many, many, many gifts for those who are ready to receive!!!
Ohh preach on Kev! I had to realize that people may not grow at the same rate as me, but I give grace to others because someone gave it to me as I was growing spiritually. It's always so strange to me when people thank God for delivering them or opening their mind, but they don't want anyone else to have that growth.
Melissa Fredricks is my friend in my mind. Thank you for this conversation!
Go off Liss 🗣🗣🗣🗣
Y’all were talking just right 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 #itstheclitforme
So at marker 1:11:23 or so I almost broke into tears because that is what I had to and am still coming to understand that I have to take ownership of my body, it is not on my husband. I thank you so much Melissa for being willing to share ur journey it has been the biggest blessing in my life next to my husband 🤗 AND to all those who have a issue with this pretty please for the sake of being a good witness for the Lord go have a real conversation with God. He wants us to feel joy in EVERY WAY and if you are not able to respectfully and lovingly disagree with someone then what part of the Bible are you really reading 🤔. Ok that is my peace, blessings to all
God created Science. Loved this topic.
It's freedom for me, so grateful that you're doing this topic. Because I struggle with this for years
I watched by the privilege of being part of the Stage Krew! Which was 2 hours by the way... It pays to be part... However
Liss we appreciate & Support (Big SUPPORT) your GROWTH in being who you are. Thank you for curating a space for use to be open in a safe/non judgemental environment.
Has anyone ever read Song of Solomon? That whole book is very explicitly speaking about intimacy. And guess what? It made it into the Bible!!! God created ALL of our sexual organs. Guess what?!? Before the fall we were walking around booty but naked.. lol..... Sin is what brought shame. It says that we were naked and without shame. After the fall that’s when we wanted to start hiding and covering up. We should not be ashamed to openly discuss sexuality. The enemy and sin has taken sexuality and perverted it. Many of our first sexual experiences came in the form of some sort of perverted act. Maybe someone violated you sexually and as a result shame has attached itself to your sexuality. We as Christ followers have to take sexuality back!!! We need to have more conversations like this, ESPECIALLY in the church. If anyone has the authority to speak on sex and sexuality, it should be those who are walking in relationship with Christ. Keep doing your thing Melissa!!! I’m here for it!
This!!!!
Thanks for this!!!! So succinctly put!!!!!
Right! As Christians we want to take everything else back that the enemy stole (your hopes, your health, your finances, family, etc.). But sex!? We fail at that part. For the life of me I don't understand. I'm a single Christian woman & learning about my body through educational resources like these because though I'm not married I've learned at a young age about sex from the world and others that did it. But as I got older that I learned I have the responsibility to know and learn the body God gave me to keep it healthy, and have it be backed biblically & scientifically. And once I am married I will know about my ownself & have these conversations with my spouse to let them know (especially because men have no problem telling women how they feel or what they want). Healthy informative sex conversations start way too late these days.
This is a great conversation. Thank you Melissa (& Kev) for being brave & coming out of your comfort zone ✨
Yes ma'am gather 👏🏾everyone👏🏾and👏🏾their 👏🏾thoughts. That was so beautiful to watch. I am so proud of you!
I’ve BEEN waiting for this right hereeee!!!!
Mrs. Kevonstage, you are incredible, thank you for doing this episode and saying what you said.
Keep them coming.
#Melissa 3.0 is Here
I feel like there is nothing wrong with a woman being Christian and talking about her body and what gives her pleasure. These conversations always reveal to me just how much people like to control women's bodies. Now when we specifically look at black women people do not like the fact these women have agency and are taking control over their bodies and expressing what they need within intimacy. Christians need to stop! a persons intimacy has nothing to do with their faith. Leave people alone!!
👏🏽👏🏽Preach Preacher!!
Agreed. Honestly, Christian marriages would be much better if we stop to remember what sex was designed for. But too many are scared to have that talk. This was needed.
I’ve been waiting for this video MKOS! I enjoyed the entire video, thank you for being so transparent!
Two snaps for Melissa 👏🏾
I just want to say I LOVE THE MELISSA FREDRICKS♥️♥️ #period
i hope that you'll will never stop what you are doing every time i click the love hour i learn and hear the things that i have been either questioning in my mind and there is no one talking about it for so many of the reasons that you all have hit not to mention what you have not said. i encourage you all please do not stop. i am a christian and have been taught along the lines of no sex b4 marriage but no real depth of the human body, not only mine but men as well. So again thank you be blessed and keep it pushing!!
This is a much needed conversation. That mentality is still in the church today. It’s really sad. I’m so glad I’ve matured to study to show myself approved.
where were you when I was younger. hopefully it is not too late for me. I would have been nice if Kevin would allowed us who were open to this talk hear the entire talk. I was honestly listen to learn. opened to overcoming the shaming of women in church about sex
Melissa is so beautiful and is such an inspiration! Love this couple!
I really enjoyed this episode!! As someone who had always said that Christianity and sex should always have been a conversation this episode is everything!!! Thank you to all 3 of you for making this a topic and not being scared to share it! Also Melissa...girl you are truly like my big sis!!! Love you!!!
Christian don’t only shame sexuality but we hide it too . It’s a very hidden topic that we believe shouldn’t be expose. This is some areas we need to address. The word of God states that there is no shame or condemnation for those who are in Christ . Yes we have a standard to uphold as believers but we do not need to hide what God made .. but we do have to make sure that we are honoring God with the way we present his creations .
Thank you Melissa! I needed this. Im a tall 26 year old married woman and its tough fighting the church thoughts and being sexual shoot even picking clothing is hard. I have long legs so I have always avoided shorts and mid length dresses because of it. All the times the saints yelled at me and told my mom about my "short" skirts has subconsciously affected the way I dress. My husband had to tell me to wear what I want after I was struggling to find long shorts for a pool party and ended up sitting down the entire time because I had on shorts that were above the knee and felt awkward.
#tallgirlstruggles 🙋🏾♀️😔
I’m so proud of you Lis! Because as you’ve grown in your sexuality I’ve grown in mine! I appreciate you for speaking bold. 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Liss the way you speak about disagreement and handling of differing opinions you should teach people how to discuss politics... The same taboo of discussing religion and it's effects on our lives is the same with politics
It's Melissa breaking out in song for me😂
I'm here for the educating and the opening of the minds of the people. Grow people come into the light and grow
This was so good and needed. So many gems and nuggets. You are always authentic, educational and you share worthwhile content meant to make others better and improve lives. May God continue to bless your work. We love you and the way you care about us! Thank you!
I enjoy you owning your space... Mel came with it and she wasn’t playing. The stunned look on Kev face when she said lick the clit said it all. Stay blessed and speak your truth...
I'm watching it twice because it was/is that good. She should come out with a limited edition of the shirt that says #istandwithMKOS
I think we’ve had enough REAL battles in 2020 to last us a lifetime. Maybe we can start moving more towards building bridges than furthering the culture of polarization? Let’s normalize having the differences that naturally come with human diversity NOT resulting in an “us vs. them” situation/mood all the time. 🥰🙌😇💖🙌💕🙌
Daaaaannnggggggg Melissa!!! Come on!! I loooooooooovvvvvvvveeeeddd this so much!!!! Soooo powerful!
Amen. I am so happy you mentioned the additional books filtering g them thru the word of God. Yes ma'am!!!
Kev is killing me and I’m not even halfway through. This is so so good. I love it.
Love it, Love it... Was confused because I don't see the issue but such is life.Black women rock! Enjoy every moment💜
More people need to hear this!! Love y’all ❤️
Thank you Mellissa. You’ve helped me tremendously embrace my sexuality and be able to have important conversations with my husband. We are thankful . It’s the lack of knowledge that allows Shane to come in. We are brain washed to think it wrong to please your self or want to do things sexually.
This is a great conversation and great answer from the single person....
This was a really great and needed episode!! Thank you Melissa for allowing us to see your growth so others can begin their own journey!!!
@MrsKevOnStage thanks for doing this video! After watching this...
1. Word on the Instagram comments:
After 2020, I truly hope people can stop being so hype like “ if you aren’t for my views/don’t agree with me, you’re AGAINST me!!!” B/c that was the mood of the comments I read on both sides of the aisle and it legit almost felt as anxiety-striking as the 1st presidential debate. Seriously, is there not enough space for folks to make sure we understand other ppls actual (not presumed or stereotyped) point of view before blazing them into oblivion? Must everything be about “checking” folks & making sure so-and-so doesn’t “come” for us? Our last names aren’t Trump; hope we become more intentional about acting like it.
2. The shirt was definitely an attention getter. Maybe something that could have helped the shirt come off as more educational would have been to have the stats Brit said at the bottom or on the back of the shirt. Then there’d be info to go w/ the initial attention getter that would help spread real awareness. So....
3. Maybe the majority of this situation isn’t half as much about ignorance & grouping most Christians as being foolish and disadvantaged in their thinking as it is a breakdown/lapse in communication. As w/ SOME cases of cultural appropriation issues: sometimes it might not come off so bad if the prsn’s intention was self-evident.
4. Thank you Brit for providing such hearty sex education. It is so important to understand these awesome art pieces (bodies) God made! 💕
Amen and God bless you. I loved every minute of it.
It's 2020 and it's amazing how this is still a much needed conversation.
This conversation is so needed!!!!!
Melissa - Thank you!!!!!
I absolutely love this episode. Melissa you are me and I am you. I grew up in the church and have been afraid all theses years to speak up and explore. Growing up I felt a shame about sex all because what I was taught growing up in Pentecostal church. Even when I was married I was afraid to speak up of what I needed to reach the stars🤣.
Just this year I was able to be me and tell what I like. It’s the CLIT for me. I felt so free and then to have man that didn’t have a problem with me being so vocal but actually enjoy the GPS was a cherry on top.
We, women, must stop being judgmental especially Christian women. Keep unpacking and flourishing. And I know I will.
Powerful, Powerful, Powerful🙌🏽❤️
But Christians be the main ones crying and complaining about “The World” and songs like WAP. If we have these conversations in the church we probably wouldn’t be so booty cheek tight. But I digress
I’m confused as to how the sAINTS found the song to begin with? It’s NOT under the Christian genre...they looked for it! For why tho?!?! 🤔
@@1LocWonder probably the youth or they were snooping around
I mean 🗣BOOTY CHEEK TIGHTTT. It’s ridiculous 😂😂😂
I was soooooo confused.. i was like what is booty cheek thigh??? 🤔🤔🤔🤔... #CleansGlasses Reading is Fundamental.. 🤓🤦🏾♀️
Love this conversation AND It’s Melissa’s cat eye for me
The jeans skirts...I grew up just like that! The slip, girdle, panty hoses....You guys got me hollering sitting at my desk!
Ya'll are the balm! Literally the healing the church needs!
I LOVE MELISSA FREDRICKS & what she's doing for women in general & specifically for black "saved" women/marriages & I'm a single woman saying this! #blackgirlmagic @it's finest!
I love this episode this is good for women who was raised in church their whole life like me.
This was so good. Thank y’all for this.
Kev, the science of Apologetics is based upon the scripture 1 Peter 3:15, "...always being prepared to make a defense to anyone who asks you for a reason for the hope that is in you; yet do it with gentleness and respect". One of the leading apologists was the late great, Ravi Zacharias. Someone that I currently follow is Frank Turek and Michael Ramsden.
This was a very good episode. I thoroughly enjoyed. Thanks for taking the LEAP and posting 😉
Look.... 'Liss went OOOOFFFFFFFF!!!!!!! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾✊🏾✊🏾✊🏾💪🏾💪🏾💕💕💕💕
I enjoyed this podcast sssssooooo much as a single woman. Love & need you guys!! Very helpful for us believers. Keep living your ministry. These real convos are needed for real. Time out for the "church fluff"
Let those that hate- hate. Do you boo #unbothered 😌 #goreadabook 😒😂😂😂😂
Great conversation. The church doesn’t like talking about sex, in the right context. I’ve had to find books to read that help me understand sex and singleness.
@1:15 reality! So sad, but true.
Thanks for education! God bless you all! :)
Amen!!! Thank you so much for the amazing content!! Knowledge is Power!!
Been ready for this one!!!
Excellent episode! ❤️❤️I’m still on my journey. Thank you for sharing.
Melissa singing Deborah Cox in the middle of Kev’s explanation 😂😂😂😂 priceless
Lmaooooooooo at Melissa face during Kevin's part of the blue chew ad
Great episode. I love it. Talk yo ish Melissa! Tell them "Try Jesus, don't try me"!!!
All I cAn say is that I LOVE LISS' MESSAGES of empowerment. It's the Clit for Me is a movement!
I loooved the answer about singles, wise and perfect.
I recommend reading/listening to the book: Come as you are by Emily. It helps with accepting your sexuality, your sexual body parts, and your sexual responses as a woman. On a different note: it's interesting that knowing the terms of our sexual body parts reducing sexual abuse is empowering to learn about. Education = power. Empower yourself and your children with this knowledge.
It’s an excellent book! Emily was actually a guest on the podcast.
@@MrsKevOnStage Right on! That book has been life changing for me, and I haven't even finished reading it! lol
This is 100000000000 percent #FACTS Thank you for making it clear that we CAN be Christians who love God AAAAAAAND understand the beauty of our bodies, sex and sexuality! THANK YOU for helping to erase the shame.
Btw, pecs=pectorales major/minor; quads=quadriceps; clit=clitoris!!! Amen! 😊
Kev’s face during Liss sign off was me and I was so here for it! 😂 You tell em Liss!
Wheeewww!! Brittany you done said something there! We hoard grace for ourselves?? Girl you are reading who I used to be!
"You can pray for me, you can pray for my salvation, you can pray for my fashion choices......save your characters" and that's on PERIOD!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I appreciate her display of growth and being comfortable with her body
Liss gave me so many QUOTEables! Yes!!! 💯💯 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Melissa basically said "try Jesus, not me", and I'm here for it! Save your characters.
Team Save Your Characters!!!! 🙋🏾♀️ I'M 👏🏾 SO 👏🏾 WITH 👏🏾 AWWWL 👏🏾 UH 👏🏾 DISSS!!! 👏🏾 You'd betta snatch folks' edges and be free!!!! 💯🔥💣🎤
"Save your characters" I love it! Great episode!