Why You Don't Need To Be Compatible To Marry | Jefferson & Alyssa Bethke
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I love the way Alyssa looks at Jeff, she looks madly in love with him, I could only imagine that how Jesus looks at us, so focus, and so in love with us
I think that look should be how WE look at him!
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Jefferson, you're doing much better with letting her talk and not interrupting her, good job. It shows.
JustinOhio I had the same observation!!!!!
Yeah I had to learn this too
When people ask me why I'm a virgin and I tell them I'm waiting for marriage they're always like " Your gonna die a virgin " and I'm like I'd rather die a virgin than taking away another mans wife's experience of saying they both waited until marriage ...
Jenna R
Well said.
Jenna R ... Amen
@Benjaminr77880@Gmail.comre Praying for your relationships to be filled with Ephesians 3 love and James 3 wisdom. I am a sinner too...and I know that God has called us all to be fruitful and multiply (within a marriage)...but He also called us to abide in Him and to seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness. Praying this message reaches you well, and that all who read this post will be blessed in knowing that our God is merciful and just to forgive...and we are called to forgive one another in the same way that Christ first forgave us.
I like that.
Off topic but jealous of how beautiful Alyssa always looks with no makeup! 😩😍
PREACH. IT. Yes you guys!! This is so true, I love how well you talked about this topic, explained it, and illustrated it! So encouraging, and that was great what you said about how God can use a couple's opposite personality traits to help shape one another into becoming more like Him, I can 100% relate to that! :)
Alyssa's smile just makes me want to be happy and smile big. Love your Joy, Alyssa!
Amen!
"I think we completely over-empathize compatibility and under-empathize commitment." - Jefferson Bethke
I loved the part at the end about how our differences, although like sandpaper rubbing against each other sometimes, can actually help sanctify us, make us holy, and make us more like Jesus. It's all in your perspective of how you view differences and work around them. Thank you for that nugget!
Bridget McCoy I was gonna say the same thing! As a perpetually single, introverted adult, fast-approaching 30, I've always thought one should be compatible. Right? The sand-paper analogy did me in. I'm changing my prayer now. Thanks Jeff and Alyssa!
Knowing Gods Will is the most important. "Seek ye first the kingdom of God, and all these things shall be added unto you"
Put God first, and he will bring the right one for you.
+1
A lot of Christian youtubers that I watch have been uploading videos talking about certain things that I happen to be struggling with as a believer, like the topic of this video. God is trying to tell me something, I know it.
WhiteWolf Yin I feel like you can marry anyone and get along with anyone as long as you have the same values and morals in life and have similar goals. As long as your committed to each other it will turn out good.
WhiteWolf Yin Same. God's talking and working :) He sees the big picture! We just need to trust and be obedient.
WhiteWolf Yin can you please tell me some Christian youtubers?
Camila Bido The only other Christian youtubers I can think of atm are Blimey Cow and Katie Gregoire. Hope that helps!
Camila Bidó yes ! Please do share them 💙
I love that balance of - you can make it work with anyone, but be wise about who you marry.
Good balance! Hi Tiffany! Love your channel too :)
Solid stuff, guys. It's about the covenant! 🙌🏼
Could you please do a video on college, going to college, tips, relationships, dating, etc! This would be so helpfully!!! Thank you! Love your videos :)
I think the "compatibility" that matters is really just your deal breakers- your CORE values. Your mate should match up with those most important foundational values. So things like religion and other stuff that fundamentally shapes who your are.
I love this.
My husband and I, just because of how different we are and how different our likes are--it was hard to explain what we had in common to people or what was keeping us together. It's about more than just liking the same things or always getting along. We are growing together and learning to appreciate each other more within and despite our vast differences because we are united in our commitment to each other and our kingdom goals :)
This was incredibly helpful. There is a guy who likes me. I used to like him but it started to were off when I realized we might not be very compatible. Also I've been looking at things all wrong and forgetting my purpose of marriage. I've been selfish and wanted someone who would complete and complement me all the time. When in reality I need to find someone who will seek Jesus with me side by side.
Love this quote from Tim Keller in The Meaning of Marriage when he talks about compatibility as marrying someone who is your best friend or capable of becoming your best friend-
"This principle - that your spouse should be capable of becoming your best friend - is a game changer when you address the question of compatibility in a prospective spouse. If you think of marriage largely in terms of erotic love, then compatibility means sexual chemistry and appeal. If you think of marriage largely as a way to move into the kind of social status in life you desire, then compatibility means being part of the desired social class, and perhaps common tastes and aspirations for lifestyle. The problem with these factors is that they are not durable. Physical attractivess will wane, no matter how hard you work to delay its departure. And socio-economic status unfortunately can change almost overnight. When people think they have found compatibility based on these things, they often make the painful discovery that they have built their relationship on unstable ground. A woman "lets herself go" or a man loses his job, and the compatibility foundation falls apart."
Is it unethical for me to create a bunch of TH-cam accounts to like this video multiple times?
During a sermon about marriage, my pastor said that Love is not an emotion but rather an action. In marriage you are constantly choosing to continue to love the person no matter how hard it may get. Emotions and feelings come and go, but when you decide to continue the action of loving another person you can and will be with them forever while they do the same.
"Oh, we're not compatible"
God says, "I KNOW, and I wanna use that for you!"
Awesome! :)
1:18 "Leaving a relationship due to a loss of the feeling of love is like leaving your car because it ran out of gas." -Jefferson Bethke
I love you two so much! So grateful for how God uses you both to make the impact the He does through you. This video was different and helpful, and I'm sure it's allowing many to reevaluate the way that they look at someone they consider dating or a future with. A new and fresh perspective for relationships! Thank you! God bless y'all!
This was great, you two - thanks for sharing it!
I would add that in addition to making sure that you're heading in the same direction, faith-wise, it might be wise to make sure that your rates of speed and/or rates of acceleration are similar. I was in a relationship with someone who told me that her relationship with God was the number one thing in her life, which sounded great to me. However, as we got further into the relationship, it became apparent that she really wasn't comfortable with some of the conferences I was attending in an effort to grow spiritually, and her interest in worship was significantly lower than mine was. So although we both loved God and considered Him to be the most important thing in our lives, these differences put more and more strain on our relationship. That wasn't the only issue in the relationship, of course, but it was a significant one, and we wound up parting ways. So I would encourage people reading this to consider your compatibility in spiritual hunger levels, too.
Thank you for a great video ! I don't normally comment but thought I would today . I have recently been thinking a lot about how people are different and how those differences in relationship can be a detriment in relationships. But God has really been challenging my thinking to start celebrating difference and what you bring to the table adding value to someone else's life .Your video today just confirmed this ! Thank you for sharing!
I use the "have to test drive the car before you buy" excuse to see if she could cook though! Oh sweet Jesus my wife can cook so well! LOL
*applauds*
Marry a good cook. Agreed!
fun!
The topic of friendship really intrigues me. What do you look for in a friend, and especially how do be one yourself?
amen. God is using you guys in a powerfull way thanks
hey guys, this is really off topic but do you think you could make a video on what you think about the whole transgender/nonbinary/same sex marriage conversation that's been happening a lot lately? i'd love to know what you guys think because this topic is starting to invade everywhere, even the church! anyways, love your videos, God bless!
What if after you get married you realize that you are not chasing/ desiring/ called to the same goals and destiny as the other?
Yes..."the one" is the one you marry.
Love how they look at each other, so precious ❤
I married my husband 1st because we have the same faith. 2nd because I enjoyed being around him and 3rd he's the opposite of me lol it has helped me as a Christian to grow and vise versa. And We never stop learning ! 😁 ( We have the same dream , YES! ) and yes if you cannot be around that person iT will be a really rocky road. I agree with this beautiful couple . God Bless you!
Great points and definitely agree. I love the talk about personality types 🤣 I am an INFJ which basically means I’m driven and committed to whatever I choose to be committed to.
A wise person once told me that you should marry someone with similar values, not necessarily similar interests.
Glad to hear you echo that concept!
My world view changes often the more I learn what if you marry someone equally yoked but then as you grow at separate rates or directions you no longer believe the same core things? This is one thing the keeps me from marrying. I know I am not the same as I was a year ago and that if someone had grabbed my arm to walk life with me they would be headed a different direction in a years time.
Perfect timing, thank you both 💕
Wow when she says your personality differences are like sandpaper making us smoother and better. You hit the nail on the head! Thanks for making this video.
love your videos spoken words are my favorite I use them all the time
I am Gali, in the year 1980 I lost all my hopes, I became a thief and club dancer. At that time I heard about Christ, the Lord spoke with me though the Scripture.
JOHN 14:6 “I AM THE WAY THE TRUTH AND THE LIFE NO MAN COMETH UNTO THE FATHER BUT BY ME.”
I surrendered my life to Lord Jesus and confessed that He is the only Lord and died for my sins to deliver me from all my sins (Karma). When I totally surrendered my life to the Lord He has delivered me from evil spirits, which suffered me about 6 years. I became a new person in Christ. I love Bible so much and started memorizing the scriptures.
By the grace of God I have memorized Five Thousand (5,000) Verses from the Holy Bible. Every week I also remember all the verses. Morning time I remember about 1500 verses for praise, worship and prayer. (Including 100 Psalms). This practice helps me to grow strong in the Lord and also to help others for the glory of the Lord. John 14:6 is my favorite verse; I preach this word to many unsaved people that they may find the peace in Jesus Christ because He is the Lord of all.
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LOVE IT GUYS! great advice yet again. bless ya :) :)
We got married September 16th. 1966 and being compatible was paramount to us, when one knows the word means, able to exist together without conflict.. Even the Christian texts speak of being equally yoked so as a team you are pulling the marriage in the same direction and not going in different directions.
Which is why being on the same page when it comes to if and how many children one wants,handling finances, attaining life goals, what religion the child(ren) will be raised in if it's a inter faith marriage, willingness to move for a job, and even how important sex is to both partners are key to success.
And...asking hard questions like, what if my spouse gains weight, gets a serious illness, cannot have children, develops an addiction, gets into debt? Because marriage is a commitment, not something you bail on when times get tough. Makes me sad that many couples put more thought and money into the wedding day, which is ONE day, then they do ALL the days after. Oh...and husbands are NOT a project!!
This is where the traditional vows many Christians have said for centuries stress for richer and for POORER, in SICKNESS and in health, for better and for WORSE, forsaking ALL others until death we do depart need to be reflected on.
you guys rock!! young ppl need to hear these things so much!
Always so encouraged by these !
Love you guys 💕 #bringpodcastsback
Alyssa is the best commentator of all TIME... "ooooo"..."hashtag"
Really liked what Alyssa said about your personalities rubbing up against each other making you more like Jesus! It reminded me so much of proverbs 27:17, "as iron sharpens iron, one person sharpens another" 💖 lotta love for you both from Ireland, keep doing what u do xx
This video made me really miss your podcasts!
You guys 🙌🏼
I would love for the two of you to do another video on singleness.
You guys are wonderful! Your marriage honestly from an out wider view just looks so genuine and truly god's best! It's encouraging to see bc I am currently trying to trust god for my own self in that area and jus being okay with being alone right now! Not being in a relationship! But you two are are very inspiring and give me HOPE! Thank You! I love all of your videos!
I watch all of your videos.. thank for blessing my life
I really enjoyed this, it's such an eye opener. Thank you for this!
@WhiteWolf Yin
I'm struggling with this exact thing as well. definitely need to watch this a couple times and think on what I'm struggling with personally. good luck to you! and great video :)
Alyssa's sandpaper analogy 👌🏾👌🏾
Exactly. Thank you guys.
THERE'S A WORLDLY WAY OF DATING AND A GODLY WAY!!!! FOLLOW THE GODLY BIBLCIAL WAY!!!!!!
hey I am an INFP! and supposedly INFP's are compatible with ENFJ's mostly. lol. just some insight.
I love what Alyssa said. "As a wife you never wanna hold back your husband from what God is calling him to, and as a husband you never wanna shut down what God is doing in your life."
Love your guyses videos. God Bless!
When you chose to love someone by compatibility, you are loving them as yourself
because you don't only think about them or about yourself; you think about how useful you can be to them and how useful they can be to you.
You are really fulfilling scriptures. That's the way to chose a partner unless GOD gives us a special command through his will (like he told a prophet to marry a prostitute).
There are exceptional cases where GOD will unite two people with a great degree of incompatibility may be to show that his love can overcome the incompatibilities between men.
The problem sometimes is that we try to generalize exceptional cases. Exceptional cases
But it's righteous that we seek compatibility in relationship; it promotes equity in relationships and makes things realistic for most people.
Compatibility is not mandatory; GOD's will is! But compatibility is very indispensable at a natural level to have quality relationship.
Sometimes GOD will bypass natural rules to accomplish something special; a miracle for instance. Like JESUS walking on water. But we shouldn't try to draw a pattern from that.
Analogically, When we want to seek a job, we consider how suitable that job is to our skills; our intellectual potential; brief, how compatible we are to the job. Unless GOD gives us a special command to chose a job out of our professional compatibility range, we should not have that intention by ourselves.
And yet the job is very temporary. But it's kinda absurd that when we want to get in a lifetime relationship with someone, we don't consider compatibility of personalities at a natural level. And yet relationships can be more challenging than jobs.
If someone ever claims that compatibility doesn't matter at a natural level, it means that they can settle with any partner who wants to be with them independently of their natural personality. If the later is not the case, then they are being hypocritical.
COMPATIBILITY DOES MATTER AT THE NATURAL LEVEL, DON'T GET IT TWISTED!
Yes you do need to be compatible in the real world 🌎 unless you want to be stuck together and miserable. I don’t want to be lifetime miserable.
Yes you do....Life is like working together......If to people don't get along..... Always agrueing.....What kind of life together would They together
Good stuff ! Seems like christian Vloggers are buried deep down! God bless ya!
I am Gali, in the year 1980 I lost all my hopes, I became a thief and club dancer. At that time I heard about Christ, the Lord spoke with me though the Scripture.
JOHN 14:6 “I AM THE WAY THE TRUTH AND THE LIFE NO MAN COMETH UNTO THE FATHER BUT BY ME.”
I surrendered my life to Lord Jesus and confessed that He is the only Lord and died for my sins to deliver me from all my sins (Karma). When I totally surrendered my life to the Lord He has delivered me from evil spirits, which suffered me about 6 years. I became a new person in Christ. I love Bible so much and started memorizing the scriptures.
By the grace of God I have memorized Five Thousand (5,000) Verses from the Holy Bible. Every week I also remember all the verses. Morning time I remember about 1500 verses for praise, worship and prayer. (Including 100 Psalms). This practice helps me to grow strong in the Lord and also to help others for the glory of the Lord. John 14:6 is my favorite verse; I preach this word to many unsaved people that they may find the peace in Jesus Christ because He is the Lord of all.
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More... spoken... words
Great Statement for reflection on this topic. Thanks!
What about chemistry though? Chemistry as a subject fascinates me. Why we feel instantly attracted to one person and not another. Is this important? Why would you even date someone that you feel no chemistry with?
Why didn't I hear about this years ago...I would be done now...I transfer schools but had to transfer back because of money...Oh and the video and content was great...I never just look for how well I match with a person by the things that like...I actually think its pretty dumb...
YEEESS YES YES YES. You guys nailed this so well, thank you both for speaking on it, it was definitely something I needed to hear today. God bless
Love your videos! :)
If you're wondering about the personality types, look for: Meyers-Briggs (MBTI) test. It says there are e.g. certain introverted and extraverted personality types, and it's quite interesting!
It can help in understanding yourself better, and help understand how people preferably function or interact with eachother - also in relationships. Take note it's of course to help, not to confine. Bless!
This video needs captions on the bottom. Your other videos have that option. Please put that option on! Helps deaf/HoH people to follow what youre saying.
I think something in other words, specifically for those called to Ministry, the primary thing you need to think about can she come with you on your calling? Like, does that woman fit in the plan that God calls for your life? Don't be stupid about it, but think about that before you get married so you don't end up making a mistake:
Wow. I appreciate y’all’s videos so so much! Thank you for sharing.
Love it! My fiancé and I have recently taken personality tests and we were asked if we would call off the wedding if we weren't compatible and I found that to be a very interesting question. Thanks for sharing on this.
Please pray for me. I'm being tempted by this world too much and living too much in it. Please pray I remain heavenly minded.
Lol not compatible and God says I know! 😂 sometimes that's the whole point. God is dealing with us on a higher level than compatability. Sometimes it makes no sense but God knows what he's doing.
i told a friend I was interested in this same exact thing (being I was trying to be intentional towards a relationship) and we are still friends lol but seriously it's really about willing to commit but I also did notice things in her about belief, worldviews, convictions that sometimes conflicted with mines. We talked but we're still friends. Great video Jeff and Alyssa!
Exactly...😂..Marriage is ever stronger with juxtaposes but with an underlying similarity of faith ,hope & jovial attitude in tensed situations ..it works out well till the eternity...
re; 1:50 - THANK YOU FOR saying that. because I am one of those rare people who DO fall in that category of "we waited to have sex until AFTER marriage, to find out we're 'sexually incompatible' " it's only been a year and a half but so far were still fumbling and just overall having an awkward sex life. SO THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR this video I needed to hear this I've learned so much and it blesses me and ministers to me, your marriage encourages me to continue to trust in the Lord with my own marriage. keep up the videos! may God continue to bless your beautiful family 💕
Great wisdom about the areas we need to be compatible in Jeff & Alyssa! Essentially following wisdom and not feelings
Spot-on advice about commitment (and I agree that you could succeed in marrying mostly anyone else). Thanx both of you! ...although I think common/identical "interests" gets over-hyped as well as personality. RP 65yrs old (UK)
I believe compatibility is over rated... complementary is more important. Where I'm weak, my wife is strong and vice versa. together we're m more complete...
ABSOLUTEKY AGREE - Also one of the least mentioned verses from 1 Cor ch 12 - God gives the gifts.and He places them where He wlls in the body!!
Thanks for doing this session! I think that being single in this culture right now, this is especially TRUE even with believers! I have to preface all the time to guys I date that I'm not into sexualizing the relationship and am not interested in having sex with eternal commitment. And guess what? Most of them aren't interested, which is beyond bizarre to me!
I wish relationships/marriage were as cut and dried as everyone makes them out to be. Marry someone that's willing to wait and is equally yoked, and does this or does that, or feels this way, has this view on life, marry someone who loves kids, a proverbs 31 woman, a man who's spiritually mature (what ever this means), a modest lady who can support your calling... this is too much. Just trust God and be open to His PLAN for you and your partner's life. We're all different. And as ideal as all the generic advise is, not all of us are going to have a "Christian" relationship or marriage. There's no formula. The person that's meant for you will appear when the time is right. Just keep praying and stay true to yourself and the word/desire/calling God has put in your heart. Every marriage has its own purpose. That being said, Jeff and Alison are great together, and they give beautiful advice and they must continue to do this, it encourages people and gives hope. But it's THEIR marriage. Your own will fulfill you and your partners unique purpose.
This isn't related but I'm Christian and I wanted to know, is there such thing as soulmates?
Imad Coulibaly Proverbs 18:22 Says "He who finds a wife finds a good thing..."
Notice that it says "find", indicating that you look for and choose.
So there's no such thing as asking for God to bring you the right person, that he has made for you?
Imad Coulibaly Who knows might be. but nothing in bible about it
You could ask God to help you make the choice, God knows what's best for us after all. I forget who it was in the Old Testament, but a servant was sent to find a wife for his master. And that servant prayed to God to show them who the right woman would be for his master via certain actions at a well
well, thinking of David and Jonathan in the bible, I definitely think that there are very deep friendships. This can also be observed in present times. I don't think there are soulmates in the literal meaning in the bible, but rather very strong friendships. The thing is, that as christians we can get along with anyone through the power of Jesus' love that's in us and with the help of the holy spirit that enables that. So for me, as long as I have that, I don't really "need" there to be soulmates, but rather very good friends and friendships that can go through anything with the help of Jesus. If that good friend is of the opposite gender, this might very well be the perfect significant other for you. If this friend is of the same gender as you, also perfect because a good friend is such a good person to have near you.
Guys any help with where I am(and prob loads others aswel) at the moment? Me and my partner got together before I became a christian...so we had sex, have 2 children and he still isn't a christian (although I believe the Lord has his plans for him!) I desperately want to get married and be right in the eyes of the Lord but he won't get married - he doesn't see the point in it. How can I make this right? We've been together nearly 11 years now and i can't possibly break up with him because it'll hurt my children so much.... what do I do?!?! Any help would be appreciated!🕆😊
AMEN, brother n sister....I especially enjoyed that part of the video that started with the beginning and went through till the end....😸, really though, the sandpaper part... where God uses one another's strengths and weakness's, to uplift and bolster where the other is lacking....
... but I do have one criticism I suppose... you didn't mention pride. that's the worst of the tools used by the adversary in just about anything, but especially a Sacred Union. ... if you become overtaken by pride... you don't allow your spouse to have God's intended place in your life. I believe it was Tony Evans, hope I'm not wrong, that said to tell your wife...I cannot be the husband that God intends me to be, without you being the wife God intends you to be.... it's a delicate balance... sure figuring in our flaws and having patience, understanding, and loving forgiveness is huge. .. but again... pride is the counterpart to all those things. I firmly believe it's behind every sin in one way or another.
anyway sorry to be so long winded. I love you guys. keep it up. may our Father continue to bless you
Curious about family compatibility, I was thought in marriage you're not just marrying the person, but their family as well. What happens if the other person's family doesn't seem compatible with mine, but the person you are dating is. This also speaks with different cultures/ ethnicity
hey, just to say I love your videos, but recently there have been none really relevent to me, being too young to be married or anything, so i was wondering if you couldaybe to a video on friendships or school or something? thankyou!
this is very true as well because often, you go into a marriage certain ways which may be very "compatible," and then things change, and you're no longer into the same things, and you're no longer the same people you once were. Compatibility changes. It's critical to be committed to be able to work through the changes and to remain Godly compatible - if that makes sense. .. otherwise, as they say, " we drifted apart, we were no longer the same people after the same things, so we got divorced. ............"
I say this all the time- "Virtually any two people can make it work if both people are willing to be unselfish".
A person's purpose should complement and align with yours. And we should strive to be whole and healed so that we don't reject God's best for us due to triggers or accept a person who accommodates our destructive patterns instead of challenging us (in love) to be better.
A healthy soul changes what we are attracted to, and marriage is supposed to make us holy (happiness is a byproduct of marriage not the purpose for it).
I learn so much from you two, thankyou! I do have this general question. "As a wife you never wanna hold back your husband from what God is calling him to, and as a husband you don't wanna shut down what God is doing in your life." I understand that women are the helpmeet of men, but why is it that so often the ministry of the man is emphasized and the ministry of the women is seen as (just) helping the men in what they are doing for God, like taking care of background stuff?
I also prayed when I thought I was ready for marriage but the Lord has always been in control. Somewhere in the other side of the state he was praying for me 😌 so the Lord knows who will be your partner its always best to wait on them and Pray .
Ummm... is Alyssa okay because I haven't watched you in a while and she looks really thin and Ill? I'm genuinely concerned not being a troll ❤️😘
I hear people say this all the time, I got into a debate about this with a friend who says that you have to know if their campatible with each other before marriage.. My opinion is the same as you guys, if you like their personalities if you have fun together and if you’re attracted to them of course, and can imagine being with them all the time those are enough reasons in my opinion. She thinks sexual compatibility is important before getting married and that she would know if they would make better friends then lovers because what if they weren’t compatible. she doesn’t believe in sex after marriage. She believes in God and all that but wants to test the waters with whoever she dates to make sure they will work because why get married to someone if you aren’t compatible 🤷🏽♀️ some people just don’t get the premarital sex is a huge sin. She doesn’t think everything in the Bible is accurate because it was written by man and because of the corruption as far as leaving missing pages out from the Bible.
Hey Jefferson, I dont know if you will read this so amyone else who reads this and has a good answer, just respond. How do you make sure that your girlfriend or wife from becoming an idol, while also acknowledging that they are also an amazing blessong from God?
This is so true. This is coming from a guy who just got married to a beautiful wife after never dating anyone before.
Yes, there are things that will be like... what!??? That is so different from me! But believe me, there are tons of differences and these difference, while might be difficult at first, will round out as you both try to achieve what both of you believe to be the truth, that is the word of God.
Question. Beliefs are the main the we should be compatible with. However, what if the person I'm with is a compatible in the main areas but is a leach? That could turn into a toxic relationship right? Is that what kind a relationship God calls us to be in?
I know he downplayed the question of whether a couple could be sexually incompatible after marriage if they waited but it does happen. I mean what if it wasn't worth the wait and you're sexually frustrated with your partner after all this waiting?
So basically you do need to be compatible!? Lol did they write the title of this video wrong? It seems like they don't know what compatibility means.