PY Episode 10 | Topic: I Paid Myself LOBOLA | Marriage | Divorce | ICOP Marriage | Cheating
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The need to belong is the most painful thing ever.
People get themselves in painful situations because of the need to belong.
Let's stop judging her. She didn't create it. Let's pray for her.
Let's pray for our kids.💔
Very true
she needs to stop being desperate
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@@sekoaib
She has stopped I guess.
i like section 9, he is the devil
To all born-again women out there, don't be pressurized by anyone to get married.Nale nto yomama yoksaba amantombazane angashadile ayikho right.Nisikhonzisa kabi😢😢😢
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And being a widow
The thing is bafuna ukwenza isex manje it's not allowed if they are not married, as a result bafosa umshado
Being rejected as a child makes one want to give in an abnormal way. Buying relationships or doing more to be accepted becomes inevitable. Forgive yourself Sisi❤❤hold on to the word, the church may not know how to help you. Remember the Samaritan woman, she was discriminated and had to draw water alone, this enabled her to meet the Saviour. Jesus Christ accepted her. I wish you well. ❤❤
Well said 🙏
Thank you for what you said.
Well said 🙏🙏🙏
Amen.
I really need to Ntando. I have been though similar situation. Got divorce in 2011. She is really a chosen . You will be okay as time goes on.
Why did I watch this, I'm just in tears, She reminded me on my own failed marriage and how that affected me, I remember I was literally going crazy. It felt like I had lost my own life. Yoo it' was said hence I believe She will heal
Thank you so much for sharing your story. Many have not shared their story because they have been shamed for being an honest loving person. The person who should be ashamed the man who was dishonest is praised and said he is just a man its fine. Its not fine, you are not ugly or stupid for making the decisions. You are beautiful and wonderfully made by the Lord, genuine and loving. He was the deceiver and manipulator. Let's stop shaming woman for every decision they make. We love you WOG!
Ntando thanks for being strong to share this.
Two things that I would like to tell you.
1. As you are anointed; what the anointing does; it attracts everything good or bad; but It needs you to be very strong in prayer; any thing you want to do enquire from God like King David.
Remember God is a jealous God.
2. I love your heart; you have a heart of gold; so its very easy for God to work through you.
3. God will bring someone from His own heart. Don't rush anything; that one will come at an appointed time. Just focus on God only; all shall fall into place. If you have God you have everything.
Bent but not broken.God will restore whatever the enemy stole from you ❤❤❤
Say that again
All things work together for the good for those who love the Lord. May God bless usisi abundantly. You are beautiful inside and out ❤
Gullibility is COSTLY for sure- painful experience but indeed NECESSARY in the awakening process. May Section 9 give you justice!
Our sisters in Christ are so desperate for marriage. I pray this be a warming to all, to wait upon the Lord. The Lord is good and gracious. He has His own plans for us. And His ways are better than ours. Learn to be patient towards Him. Sisi May the grace of our Lord Jesus be with you, the Communion of the Holy Spirit be with you. The Spirit of the Lord teaches us patience. It's a fruit of the Spirit.
This is so true and as ladies we should accept that not all of us will marry.
We're indoctrinated to be wives
The desperation is instilled to us by pastors . Before i became christian i didnt care about umshado but after i started going to church pastors will always preach marriage and even pray for us to get husbands i hate this
@scissors, this is sooo true, at some point I felt like there was something I was doing not pleasing God. Laying of hands for marriage, every altar call to pray for single ladies, your pastor calls your name, Eish kuningi nje. Even abazalwana treating you as if there is something wrong with you
I love you my sister, God doesn’t make mistakes,that’s why He protected you from that lion’s den, you were in that for this testimony to help us,❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
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Wee how and where do we get hold of this lady . Her story will save many young woman . It’s painful sisi but thank you for telling your story.
She is so beautiful. The fact that the ex husband said he married her because she's ugly is just crazy.
Exactly what I was thinking. He’s insane indeed.
She’s so beautiful nyhani🥹🥹 and she looks like a very sweet and humble person ❤❤❤
She's truly beautiful 👌
He was just trying to destroy Ntando's self confidence
Yhoo my sister thank you for sharing your story. Your story and mine are similar. By the grace of God I managed to come out alive.
God fights for his own. He Will fight for you my sister ❤️
Absolutely.
😭Just from the first 26 minutes I feel very sad for sis Ntando and for the church people. To be saved at age 7 its very scary for me. I am not limiting God's power but its hard for me to understand because she have not really discovered herself or tested anything serious in life.
And that kind of decision it can cause serious problems in future. What serious decision can a kid aged 7 take, like in real senses.
Again once you confess that you are saved then imijolo nje uyibeka ecaleni, for me usisi played inside the church and that is very dangerous and God can literally punish you just to teach you His rules.
Once you are really saved there is no way you can accept an unbeliever as your spouse(But believers are doing it anyway, I saw this last of last week and church people celebrated it 😭😭💔) . where was the leadership to guide you and advise on matters of relationships.
No guys there is a lot that we still need to do as believers we need to guide one another, this pains my heart to see umtana weNkosi suffering this much for no reason. I am sorry if I am too judgmental😭😭.
Ya but we can't judge her, salvation is not always straight, at some point we all fail, the most dangerous thing is to think you are God, u don't make mistakes, God do not punish people, human do
I hear you Mister , I appreciate your fair response.
Sis Tando uyasifundisa ubuntu+ siyazi izinto ezinje ziyenzeka noba umuntu sesindisiwe. End zenzeka umntu sengajolanga nalomfana ,nomfana engajolanga, kodwa ziqale izinto sekutshatiwe umyeni angajoli asuse amaphepha. Umtshato uyohlala usiliwa. Let's pray for that. Depression iyayibulala imitshato. Thixo siyabulela akuhlakaniphise ungekafi❤
You on point...you mot judgemental...truth needs to be told....
Ndikuva kakuhle mna kunzima nyani kona.
One of the biggest questions we as young born again women need to answer is, is it really God's plan for our lives to get married to men with kids and baby mamas while we have kept ourselves & waited? Definitely not!!
I appreciate her honesty & vulnerability, a lot of Christian women are going exactly through what she is going through.
I think we must await on the Lord. 🙏🙏🙏. Currently am dating a guy that got 2 kids and other baby mama is very rude.
God will lead you and give you the grace of where you should marry. Whether kids or no kids. There is no one size fits all
@RayOfLetsatsi, that's a good question. I'm not married, I will not marry a man with kids or divorced with a spouse who is still alive. I'm very clear about that.. I will wait on the Lord I don't mind...
Ntando has 2 kids before she even got married guys .benoEx husband ingane yabo yashonela eswini
Law will not fail you on this one. Akazuyifumana lemali or assets ezi acinga he is entitled to. Keep fighting, keep being strong
So honest, well done girl. Now you know better, go on and do better❤
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I pray for you to get justice. But once he sees that he's about to loose everything he might come back and try to play you one more time, I really hope you will never give him another chance, you deserve better and YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL, DON'T YOU EVER FORGET THAT . All the best sisi❤.
I'm a man but I don't think I would have survived if I were in your position Ntando , but ke kufika lelizwi in my heart when you are still sharing your story the word says ZININGI IZINHLUPHEKO ZOLUNGILEYO ,KEPHA U JEHOVA UYAMKHULULA KUZO ZONKE. PSALMS 34;19. relax do not worry give it to GOD.
It alwayd buffles me how people with a 'prophetic gift' don't see counterfeits when they come to course shipwreck in their lives and Ministries.
If they have not done the deep introspection about their lives (emotional, childhood, psychological) it can happen....
Spiritually powerful people are also people with histories...even childhood traumas. In the church we need to start looking at a person holistically as well... therapy doesnt mean you are not a child of God or a person with no faith. ....
@@sebentilezanini1085 Well said 👏
But then with this one, the guy was never born again. They were equally yoked. I watched the recent episode of the episode he's wearing the red string on his wrist. Truth must be spoken, wazifaka uNtando...
Being divorced in the church, especially this one, was most heartbreaking. You struggle to find your place. You feel so rejected and told better to endure a toxic marriage. I totally relate...
You are a strong woman , dodnt feel guilty about amything
Ftff
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I hope you don't loose your stuff that you have worked for during this hard process of divorce. Thank you ST Media for bringing such interesting content that is also teaching us.
As for sis Ntando may the Almighty God continue to make you strong. You such a loving, kind and humble soul. You have a big heart and there is very few people with such strong and loving character you have.
May God protect you and keep u strong .NO weapon shall prosper.
Appreciated.same to you.
Honey, you are not stupid at all. You are intelligent, beautiful and very caring.
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She's truly beautiful and caring. She must never look down on yourself.
What a power house. She's definitely going far. What a weak husband ophanda kabi. His karma scares me.
Part 2 pleeeeeeease. Thanks for sharing sis, you are still Gods own, konke kuyadlula, I love you for your honesty.
I love her honesty. AOG push marriage before getting to know each other. Rejection is bad, you end up paying for love your whole life not even aware, But we are taking notes sis.
Agreed.
That's where I was born and bred, I agree with you. That's my home 😢
I pray that God give you strength and restore you, you will find a loving husband one day, thank you for sharing youe wounds with us, your story will heal many people...❤
Thanks cc for sharing with us, I learn a lot
Sisi Ntando, am also on the same situation. Abantu abasindisiwe they are targets because we tend to pray for everything. Even if the paper is passing through. Most of the girls (simdisiwe) they commit suicide because they are being abused eMtshatweni kuthwe bekezela. Thanks Sis Ntando you are an eye opener ❤😊to the woman's out there.
So true..
Ntando, you seem and sound like such a sweet soul.
You tell such a painful story with so much grace. God will avenge you, in due season.
Just when you try to be a loving and supportive partner, closing gaps, unenhliziyo enhle, uthanda ifamily kanti your "partner" has evil intentions. May God be with you my sister. People may/might say you deserve what's happening to you, no you don't. You needed a man, not a boy. And you deserve a man, not a boy. May you heal, recover and live a happy life
We need part 2 where she is expressing her self in a form of venting .bcz she needs to talk more to ease the pain.
She did that hun even on tiktok bamthuka abantu who think they r clever!!!
This story is funny to me only because I see my own foolishness in it. I used to tolerate all kinds of nonsense from my husband. I remember once during my birthday celebration, he gave a speech and said I'm the most tolerant person he has ever seen. Thinking about that makes me want to throw up, just how foolish I was!
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Askies love
No you were not foolish. You were doing good by marriage, he failed on his part and lost a good and worthy woman. Never regret, you did the best in context. Peace be with you.
M sorry bby🤗🤗
Typical relationship with a narcissist. Painful but you have overcome ❤
You just gained a subscriber this is good content, sisi God will fight for you trust Him fully,He will restore you fully you dont even have to lift a finger
Best comment ever 😊❤️ much appreciated sthandwa seZulu
Losisi kodwa wayedibana phi nkosi yam nesisbotho sendoda😢.....The lady she is such a wife material......in my opinion any man who does not have money must stay away from anything love related ❤❤❤❤❤
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True
Same as women
@@sibusisolindokuhle9231 Yinto engangeke yenzeke leyo
Mxit😢
Very painful experience 😢, I'm a widow and a divorcee ,not a nice situations
But God is with me since,and I'm very much thankful 🙏
The worst people to reject you are the ones you thought they are closest especially the church. People please let us do better, strength to you mama may God strengthen you.
I hope you don't divulge too much info regarding the divorce processes until it's finalized. All strength & wisdom to you🙏
I also see that mistake. Hope she wins
Your story is more or less like my life. I beat myself now and again about this thing. Well, i am just glad that we did not go to home affairs, or else I would be in so much trauma. Thank you for for your strong words of encouragement.
I so wish but it's late
But sis if you were lobolad and there was a celebration, you are married under customary law .
Either one of you can claim from each other
What a beautiful lady. All the best mama. God be with you on this journey.
Being too good sometimes doesn't work,we need to use our mind not our heart in the relationships,people are evil.
@@sizwesibeko9652 You are so right! My dad called it “go phela le batho ka bohlale”. Using discernment in all your interactions.
I heard Ntando 's story. Its painful.
I have my story and I want to share it one day.i'm a born again Christian but I have story to tell
Muhle Ntando kakhulu n I believe you ❤
Thank you for sharing it wakes us up as women.
Where is the church when people divorce. I like tge way you reflect. You will help so many woman who have been judged in churches. The next Sarah Jakes. You ladies are relevant and brutaly honest.
Thank you for having the courage to share your story,and God will restore you and will grow you more spiritually,there's no condemnation to those who are in Christ,in Christ you will find comfort
May God's face shine upon you continue doing good i believe God will open the closed doors for you🙏🛐❤️🌹
Thanks for sharing my sister and indeed all things (bad or good) will always work together for your good because you love God and called according to His purpose. God said when things like this, just be still and know that He is God and ABBA (Source). Therefore, my sister stay strong and your story is not unique however it is individually designed for your baking or making of God's Glory and His name alone to be glorified. I wish you all the best, and trusting that whatever God's has started in your life shall be completed because His faithfulness is His nature and may God richly bless you with a husband that you deserve. I so wish to have cappuccino with you❤❤ and indeed your story is beautiful & crafted for such times as this. Stay blessed!!!
Praise God Almighty!
This is an encouraging message.
Thanks for sharing Ntando you have a heart of gold. You are beatiful Ntando.
Uzomthola umuntu ozokuthanda ngokweqiniso Ntando, you are still
Young. Continue with your job.
Ntando ..the only great lawyer is our God ..hand everything to him he will fight this battle for you..
What an hour of a very productive session
There is a person named Benjamin Zulu Ke he is a life couch and a lawyer i personally think my sister here needs some of his advices and i hope she gets all the help she needs
@SMT931 You can't replace Spiritual matters, with Wordly matters. The life coaches, psychologist or therapist are nothing but a waste of money. I am talking from experience
First time here..have seen Ntandonon tiktok I think I got a better understanding of her story..that guy will get into emfanele 🤞unkulunkulu akasosilima..but also we need to be vigilant as woman masisemathandweni ..objective above all else
It’s pain Sisi, that’s wat pain does. They enjoy seeing others suffer also as they won’t be alone in that position. If u pay attention u’ll notice that the most toxic people r the miserable ones. The ones who have nothing good or right going for them.
U r a product of irejection, that’s wat childhood traumas do. But God has restored u, ur light still shines sisi. God is wit u!🙏🏾
Time heals sister. We all make Mistakes but forgive yourself. God will fight for you. By His stripes you are healed.
@Look21 Is there any scripture that supports that or it's just materialism that speaks?
Oh Lord. I m listening attentively to what the Holy spirit is personally saying 2 me. To be kind&patient with myself&others.Yoooooo siyagowisha sana, I always asked God why my marriage is delaying...especially because God sees these lazy Narcissist abathululilwe in the church&izindaba zama characteristics azo azikhulunywa kahle emabandleni...yizwinki zonko bakwe2. Siyazingelwa daily. May God protect His own😢😢😢😢
What a Wonderful Podcast/Content.
Mina Keh I Solemnly Think We As Young People[Youth], We Should Really Learn From Older People's Mistakes, As We Should Learn To Be Better Than Our Parents Or Elders In Particular. Because The First Mistake Was When She Crossed The Line As She Admits That, When She Crossed The Line And Listened To Her Friend NgamaSocial Media. Sikhuzwa Njalo About Such Ways To Get Into Marriage. Rather We Should Fight To Be Rooted In CHRIST Sikhulise Our Spiritual Beings.❤
Nathi As Gents Singadlaleli Kulomkhakha Singekho Financially Stable, My Opinion.🥺😅❤️
Usisi Uzohlala Emithandazweni Yethu, She Will Be Fine Egameni LikaJESU.❤
Amen.
Cc umuhle xem kakhulu and also God blessed you with wisdom and a golden heart I"m also a Young widow I know that pain
She still says “ umyeni wam”😢 i pray for her
@sne eish the way I will address him as that guy 😂😂
She still loves him
Wow sis what a journey 😢 we had learned so much from you may God strengthen you and give you peace and leave your past behind you because you have no power over it may you focus on your future and learn from ur past sister,you are beautiful and st😅rong woman big up sis much love 💙
"I paid my own Lobola" is a better title
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I like how genuinely you tell your story without making it biblical, this is real life experience baningi bakwi same situation dont feel ashamed. I enjoyed yr true story cos cos its genuine. Atleast u know what not to do manje. Love you.
@phumesemenya9244 All that she went through is VERY Biblical. When the Bible says, after sex, you become one. That is why she went back to the guy, soul tie kept calling her. Secondly, Lam5:31-32 tells us that if we don't seek deliverence from curses, alters and iniquities we will have to bear them. If you don't Spiritualise this, what do you imply?
May God give you more wisdom Ntando,you have been through a lot❤❤
Thanks woman of God for addressing the issue of divorcee Christians and people in the discriminate us. I believe God does not see as divorcees. May God richly bless you 🙏.
Do worries sis. Wena uyikho konke ofuna ukuba yikho. Wisdom being another gift God gave you. You just need to associate with the like minded people. May God see you through 🙏🏼❤ Phuma lapho bayoze bathwale ngawe😅
Can't wait for the day the divorce decree is granted. Angafumani lutho, banazo yini izingne bobabini?
Sending love and strength to you, thanks for sharing your story❤
Time heals all wounds. Sending you love and light 💖
Thanks for sharing woman of God, I think seeking professional(therapist) help will assist u to forgive yourself and start trusting ur decisions again.
Sisi you are very intelligent and powerful woman, you are indeed a Proverb 31 you just lacked there and there. Keep up sisi ku hheeee amathanga ahlanzela abangenamabhodo,
Praise God he didn't kill you my sister, God will vindicate you and bring you justice!
Ntando I admire your honesty. Many are the afflictions of the righteous but God will deliver you from them all.
May the Lord gives you strength sis Tando n restore your heart I believe that it's working for God's Glory n you are so beautiful don't be fooled by an enemy
At our church we love n support widiws b divorcy,we love you as you are because nothing changed you are still Ntando who is powerful,just continue with the calling, preach the gospel n fight for you,UMUHLE UYAGEZA IMPILO IYACHUBEKA
Im so sorry for what she went through, i can relate and yes its the most painful experience. Ntando, you will heal and you will find your purpose in life and painfully this experience will be your greatest strength. God can use a disappointment to lead you to an appointment. you will heal many ladies who will go through this and you will do it better coz you will be using your experience. on another note, you will find a good man and you will want to marry again coz this was not what God had in store for, this was just a lesson. take notes and move forward, dnt define your future based on your painful experience. i have been through this and yes im a stronger woman now, i found my ministry from this experience. Cina Ntombi! God will see you through💝💖🙏🙏🙏
Nomatter the situation, you are not alone. God is with you. Before you do anything remember to hear the voice of God and the holy spirit will guide you.
😩Jesuuuu ngifihle ezitheni zam😭😭
Isitha esikhulu ilesinqanda mathe sakho
Lesson learned from our sister is that never marry a man bcoz he will be problem in the entire marriage. Your were captured from the get go & unfortunately you accepted it.
the desparation to get married will kill woman.
Awesome woman of God who is blessed. Great chapters are written by champions
What a clever and wise woman!!!
I hope she will read these comments. What a heart breaking story...may God restore you my dearest. May He heal even your childhood wounds. You have so much to offer in Christ as your source. There is a one for you in GOD and remember your pain is not wasted if you are Christ. All this pain will be used for the Glory of the Lord Jesus Christ. Ngaze ngakuthanda ngingakwazi❤
This woman is stronger than pain, she just came across a confused male with no direction.
Thank you for sharing your story sis Ntando . I have sent this episode to my 18yr old daughter who loves God, this as a lesson to leanlrn from. We shouldn't take your story as into embi but siyafunda kusona. Kunzima ukuba I christian
Host, your laptop is blocking your face -next time😅😊
You will be surprised just how many women are in a similar situation. Thanks my sister in Christ for your bravery to share and warn others. Keep the courage, keep fighting the good fight!
Section 9 of the Divorce Act is your remedy indeed.
She's so honest, so straight, and very beautiful
There's no beauty that can transcend yours! A virtuous Woman of God. Love your laughter by the way. May section 9 work out for you and May you be filthy rich after the divorce😂😂 Thank you so much for sharing your story so transparently
Cc u are so STRONG yr JOURNEY Inzima kodwa ilula kuwe ngobu no JESU awukhali uyaxoxa baningi abangazuzibulala emva kwalengxoxo yes indeed HOLLY SPIRIT IS A WONDERFUL COUNSELOR may GOD ALMIGHTY BE WITH U DEAR
Ntando you are the best lady ever ❤ you telling the truth from the beginning to the end. ❤ Some stories I relate especially being single Ema esontweni. ❤
Sending you love. ❤️
You are beautiful woman of God, some journey were meant to be, you are brave, it not over the Lord shall repay you. Salute bby, we shall be in contact
Sometimes you should allow your guests akhulume aqede
Ndiyavumelana nawe
Hi Ntando sorrya about happened in your life mtase love is blind but fight for your life you meet wrong person what people said laird your face to God is good all all the time i love your spirit and you beautiful God Will blessed you
That man was sent by the devil... Its sad she's couldn't perceive it. 😒
Soo true about how churches treat widows and divorcees
Thanks for this❤
My message to u baby girl ❤no matter what storm you face you need to know that God love you ❤
God bless you cc. This will bless millions of Christians.
I pray that Section 9 proceedings be successful and the courts rule in her favour
Yhoo sis wam izinto esidlula kuzo . As I'm listening right now my heart is bleeding course I can see that you are good person. I wish ba uNkulinkulu angakwenza kahle uyiwine ne divorce case yakho. Sibaninzi ke futhi abadlule lapho odlule khona , nabasehleli futhi ngoba besaba ukuthi bazakuthini abantu. Sengingasho ke ukuthi mangabe kwakuyintando ka Nkulukulu ukuba udlule la udlule khona kulungile ngoba ngedlela endingubona ngayo . Akakophulanga ubhuti instead ukwenze stronger.God bless you and your Children in Jesus name.
It's very easy to to judge another person, while umuntu exakwe nge yakhe situation.
This is a lesson, not just for u but for other ladies out there