Ep. 20 | I CHEATED ON HER BECAUSE SHE SAID NO TO SEX, Marriage, Cheating, Love, Kids, Divorce.
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 25 ต.ค. 2024
- We conversing with Brother Sbulele Ngumbela Ntando's Husband about his journey of marriage with Ntando. and Pastor Mkhulise is dropping some powerful advices on their journey of love and other couples at large.
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Watson kamandi mfundisi hope bazonxedakala babenoxolo.lwangapakathi, cheating yona iyayona shem imitshato. Umtshato yinto ka Thixo qwaba
There are many red flags with this guy...but very few will see because he has a sweet tounge
THANK GOD 4 THE FEW WHO CAN SEE RIGHT THROUGH HIM
Thank you
He's a narcissist
I think according to both they need ukwelulekwa
This man never loved Ntando and, as a result, she was constantly frustrated.
Wona umshado between a Christian and a non-Christian uba nezinkinga eziningi kakhulu
uthethetha inyani mtanesekhaya n most of us asufhuni ukuli vuma eloqiniso
I beg to differ mem,ukushayisana kwama characters akudalwa ukuhluka kwezinkolo
I disagree we have high rate of devorce kubazalwane everyday.
They is nothing like Christian in this world.
But uNtando akasindiswanga😓
Anyway after watching this episode, I conclude that there was really no need for all the so called evidence. This guy never treated himself like he is married. And nje he is a narcissist who have a soft voice.
Mfundisi spoke so well
Angikuzwa...
@@sizwesamadinekamlambo9376read Sizwe, read
@@sizwesamadinekamlambo9376hayi nam andimva shame
🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏❤❤🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹
ST I followed indaba ka Ntanto kule Chanell from scratch. And the picture she created in me when you interviewed her is complete different from what I start to see now, I won't count anything but I will be specific kwi dating life yakhe, aibo I remember saying pastors where coming left and right trying to marry her and she was praying for the right man until inbox show up from her husband. I remember you asked her if were they kissing or doing the deeds with her husband before marriage when she snitch him in church place.
She was so innocent like she was starting to do izinto, I was so shocked when I saw her in another Channel saying she got two kids that don't belong to this guy, I was so shocked izolo ukuva uba she even divorced before and that was never mentioned in her episode here.
I am not judging or choosing any side, I am just commenting as your best fan ST, I love your show. Tone here, not background music or anything... Just proffesional
What? I also thought this man was her first man because that's what she said. what platform is that where she disclosed that info?
@@londiweprincess3547 This is her Episote
th-cam.com/video/9EaNb78kPNg/w-d-xo.html
It would be a crime I cannot reply on this comment. Ngane yakwethu ngyabonga. Your support 💞💞 thank so much, the growth of the podcast yenziwa yini.
Thank you million timesm
💯💯💯 wayibeka indaba
@@KhombisileZulu this shows us the importance of getting both sides of the story.
Powerful..mfundisi iinkolo ziyaqguzulana. Confusion nje eenganeni. Kuyathandazwa noba kuyiwa kwiinyanga. Bazalwane yekani ukushada nabantu abangakholwayo cz uThixo uyayiveza lonto ukuba akuyona eyakhe that is why kukho ama challenges amaningi.
they both hv their mistakes but Ntando is spreading lies bcz she doesnt wnn appear as a bad person in the church!!
Lol so Thando decided not to come Huh.
I've been catching small snippets of this ongoing story but now im invested.
I cant wait for conclusion and this will disappoint a lot of women who were cheering for Thando.
Sana, I wish we could invest more in ourselves than other people.
Ukungezi kuka Ntando kwi show says it all 😎😎😎
😂😂😂😂 ehhena
Mxm
Its eaither u r acting dumb or u really are
Ufuna ukulandwa lowo sisi ukhuluma isi Zulu kodwa ngu Xhosa...akaxoki akaxoki.....
@@mmeme5861 izomlanda
This man has a smooth tongue.
Ohhh thought lwas the only one seeing that narcissist engakushiye jele ungena Cala smooth operator.justifying cheating no accountability nceeee yazini
Ohhh thought lwas the only one seeing that narcissist engakushiye jele ungena Cala smooth operator.justifying cheating no accountability nceeee yazini
U say that because the truth is on his side. U were already against him
Lol...yes,coz you have run out of things to say because you see that Thandos lies are about to come light😂😂😂
Where is the video with that Thando😂😂,don't know these people .
I love this Pastor, he wise and Matured.
Kakhulu 🙌
Ayikho nje into ayishoyo. He is useless
Too much yhooo
Red flag! There is no relationship that fails because of one person, the minute you can’t take responsibility of your own mistakes, awuthembakalanga
I hope one day this guy will be liberated ngoba from the episodes he is a bit truthful and nga uyza nalodade maybe singazi why eyala to be divorced if he is truely abused.
Kwaaaaa
Vele abusers look innocent in such a way that no one will believe the victims when they cry for help… once I hear abuse I loose trust
Ngivumelana nawe kulendawo
Uma ekhuluma ngokuthi Ntando unenkinga yokushawa. Ungikhimbuza ubhuti engake ngazwana naye, ethi ungihlukumeza ngoba vele into engikhule ngaphansi kwayo. So I shouldn't blame him, I feel sorry for sis Ntando. This guy is a narssist nje. 😢😢
So where is the blameless lamb Eliwu Ntando?
Don’t be quick to judge you will be shocked my sister .
As Thando wants this to be over she should be here in the podcast yonke lento izodlula she is not there because she knows a lot that will come out might not favor her now because she won’t be alone in the platform
Please don't get me wrong mtasekhaya. I was only commenting on the fact that he doesn't see anything wrong with him abusing Ntando. But instead he is justifying himself by using Ntando's abusive past. @@TheeAnonymousTrader
@@MkitakaziI'm not judging anyone but all I am saying is that he is justifying his abusive traits using Ntando's past. As for Ntando not pitching up. I'm also worried because she should have came and supported everything she shared with us.
Imagine- so this means he had a right
if you ever loved her of if you have self respect, divorce her and leave with what you come with qha ngaloko uzihlisa isidima uchaza into engekho
Hayi kodwa uNtando usikhohlisile naye wenza engathi iyngane zakhe uthole kulendoda kant umakade ebona abanye abantu bacasha ngenkolo
When a man is fed up there's nothing you can do, you can tell ukuthi the guy is tired,he is fed up. Unfortunately now is too late for ntando to fix things
Whatever
Personally I see i pride as a main factor that destroyed this marriage. I am saying both parties bashawa i pride. They didn't have umoya wokwakha
....exactly! and from both sides....and victimhood.
Ladies if sizoba supportive into engekho kaNtando then kwathina we are sick. UNtando is one dillusional fake mzalwane. You will say niyabasaba abobhuti abathulayo what about ivoice kaNtando faking innocence. Some men will die innocently from their abusive female partners.
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Ave nithanda amadoda whats tangible in all this said here or u too stupid?
And the insults she sent to this guy Kodwa ungu mshumayeli?
@@pamelatshikila2004 fake lowa cc shame and simbonile bt late
Some women are victims and you will never know until you meet one. Ntando needs counseling for her childhood trauma and then move on. Kubuhlungu Uma indoda Yala umuntu wesifazane kodwa bona bathanda ukuthi ngamshiya as if Thina sishoda ngothando.
Thes 3 side of the story come please mam and join the party we don't mind our data come and clear your name
In law we have something called “Audi alteram Patem” that means hear the other side.
Good n fair
One thing women must note about this guy being calm, etc, is that that's just how most men are in "high-pressure" situations. Let that not be a 🚩.
It's so easy to believe women because we're not as strong as men are in nature. We're very compassionate and too understanding in most instances. And we are very good at portraying ourselves in a manner that will gain us sympathy from the masses. That's why everybody ends up " believing all women" even when we shouldn't. Let's all learn discernment bazalwane.
A lot happened in this relationship, and naye untando is definitely NOT innocent. She painted a different picture of who she is, etc, and also tarnished this guys name. Also, Ntando, when you lay your dirty laundry online, be ready for some criticism, stop being rude and bullying people on the comments, we are entitled to have our own opinions. Not everybody is gonna fully support one side (yours).
Im not condoning any physical abuse that ntando received from this guy, BUT what i liked about him is that akazenzi ncono and portraying a different life than the one he's living. Ntando should've come if she's really desperate to finally end this marriage/ move on from this matter.
I wish peace and healing for both of them cause you can tell that they didn’t have things easy.
She did well by not coming abusers always defend themselves
Kuningi okungahlangani lapha Ntando kukhona ongazange ukusho washo into ezo favour uhlangothi lwakho.. Thnx ST ngokubiza ubhuti azochaza uhlangothi lwakhe.
She need help lowa cc shame qha akayiboni lonto
Kunjalo nje and kuzomsiza lokho
Already, there are two kings in this home, so they can not be peace lapha ekhaya
I guess so but which khaya?
Don't come to umshado if you are not ready, ngena emshadweni when ni ready, and we need to pray for our kids, singo mama
UNtando appears not comfortable now about the comments and uphendula u 90 percent wazo and ubuye angaphenduli njengekholwa,sikzwile konke okshilo njengomuntu wesfazane ngyazwelana nawe and kubhlungu uku contribute kumuntu ongakthandi ube umthanda but le yokuphendula no ikbeka njengomuntu ongakholwa nhlobo
The fact that Thando decided not to come she knows what she is running from . I’m not saying this guy is right but Thando is also a liar and she is scared the guy will disclose a lot about her and her lies .
I agree cc cha asikho muncu kodwa uphi Ngoba besizozwa 2side of story
Bt naye moss lobhuti zange Eze kuqala eceliwe ngoku xa sekuthanda yena fanele uThando axhume
@@SiphokaziMatshata here me out she invited the guy after saying so much bad things about him I’m sure he was still processing everthing ngoba once one says shit about you that part of it is not true you just wanna deal with your emotions first . This guy is ready to close this chapter akasamfuni uThando. Ngoku uThando ubaleka nesjungqu sentambo. Let’s learn to listen betuna i have followed this story from Thando’s first episode.
I don't know about Ntando lying, for all we know, her husband might be lying too. It's his words against hers and they are the only ones who know the truth. Another thing ive also learned about relationships is that people experience situations differently leading them to have different perspectives. This relationship was doomed from the get-go, labantu have both been vile and toxic towards one another. Mina ngibona ukuthi kade befosta vele, abakze bathandane labantu. With that being said, nami I wouldn't want to be in a room with someone who has hurt me the way uNtando feels she's been hurt by this guy. The husband knows her trigger points, it probably wouldn't take much for him to trigger her and cause her to lose her composure which i think is what Ntando was avoiding.
@@SiphokaziMatshata jonga I love u ❤
TATA if kuyabanda, go away, most of man killed themselves because of abusive women, I have a son he is in a abusive marriage, as a mother it's so painful
No man of God or a Pastor comes before your Husband. The order of God is God first, then family ( our Spouses and family then the church. No man can come in my house without the presence of my husband no matter how stranded they are. There are guest house to sleep bagithi. Ntando must revisit her Christian journey and read her Bible she is not as perfect as she portrait to be.
You are making sense my brother even though no one is perfect
Yet am not taking any side here but now this brother makes sense really from what I've heard and now wow .Iam not saying he is perfect though but he really shows that he knows what he is talking about ...maybe the interviewer failed to ask some sort of questions that would made him looks the way I looked him before
Indeed A lot of it In fact its too much sense😅
I trust him I know such people
Me too
@@Thembi-ev6rtI know such women and if you're still defending her good luck if you're a guy and I hope you meet one.
Not you sweet Thembi. There are still good people like you that can see the truth from lies.
uWoaw uNtando waze wadlala nge emotions zethu
😂😂
Cabanga. Ndithuka umntana bantu.
When you hear someone having no faults in a relationship you must open your eyes....When I heard that she has no children with the husband I again opened my eyes....Still waiting for the car purchase proof from her.....Young man run ..run...this Ntando will put you in prison
Kanjan
@@mmeme5861 put him in prison for what
True Mfundisi cheating is not a mistake
I didn't know that she was married before
She made a story on her wall. She was married to an abusive man.
😅
@@thembekazwelibanzi1031thnx bby andaz aba bath m a liar
Why sisi Ntando doesnt mention the criminal matter yasemsebenzini which sent her to the sangoma
Hayi the whole seeing prophetess she went to a sangoma? Hayi ghel 😮
This is a proof that we women we can be cruel and heartless or let me put it this way a human being is a very dangerous animal that god created because he was given power and authority more than any other animals
And human beings are miss using that.
But God is still able bhuti
Marriage counsel , family members meeting,,,, I believe both of them they have to sit down and balungise umshado wabo
So true mfundisi let her come
If you dont know the couples the pride it is very difficult to solve them
I listened to this couple and my conclusion is that, the wife needs help or otherwise she is still going to destroy innocent souls. She has serious anger issues and a void to be loved and accepted. I have dated someone like Ntando and I had to end the relationship because she was a born again christian BUT a very toxic person at the same time. An advise to Ntando, never use what you have to control a person. In a love relationship, that is very dangerous let love flows. As for you husband, I think you were still immature because you seem to have danced to her tune and enjoying her money.
Siyambonga uNkulunkulu ngale-show. It is an eye opener.
I think ntando Ungene kulomshato enengxaki zokukhula kunye nomtshato or relationship Asuka kuzo
Yep I said it at first episode.
Kwalento yokhuma......
She needs therapy, she is in no position to shumayela to anyone.
Tyoo lendoda isazobaqeda abantu besifazane ngoba banje .ngoba uNtando engezanga sekunguyena onamanga .siphuma kuzo lezinkinga amadoda anje siyawazi .lobhuti usile lo
It's to take accountability on your own part,to both parties
“Okanye sihambe ngoheartbreak”
Wadlala ngathi uNtando. Hayi ndincamile..
Kakhulu simbone sexoke kakhulu
Wanenzan
@@Thembi-ev6rtuxoke watin
@@lungiswaNtandoLinganNgumbs329 dlale ngathi
Uxoke wathini
They were supposed to be here both of them, unfortunately the one whom we believed first has not come
Where was he when we invited him to come ? Must I jump now ngoba kutanda nina
ST asked this guy bana “zeziphi iinzame azenzileyo to save his marriage” I didn’t hear him answer that
What did he do as a the head?
Umntu oneeda uncedo nguwe lo bhuti wam. Yhuuuuuu zange ndambona umntu olimenemene kanje.
Yherrrrr 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏😭😭 thanks cc 4 seeing right through this man
Limencu
Thando nje ngambona ukuth something is fishy here when she said akazwani nabo bhudi bakhe bonke bowu 2
Mxm wena uyazwana nnomnden wako konje
Noba echaza udaba lwakhe belunga landeleki okufana nalo bhuti. Mara why sizovala into ezimbi esinzeyo nge Bible. Akasa chazi ngengane UNtando ukuthi zino tata wazo, cha akunguye lobhuti. USile manje uNtando tjoo
I believe the guy with all the proofs n worse the lady DDNT come n say her side together
Well spoken uBabu Mfundisi. Oodadwethu bayayithanda lento yoshada nomuntu ongakholwayo. God doesn't approve that. Light and darkness doesn't goes together
Ngoba nabazalwan bakohlakele
@@lungiswaNtandoLinganNgumbs329 Not the real saved ones, unless you're talking about pretenders or actors. Not labo babonakala ngeziqhamo zikaMoya Oyingcwele
I am sorry to say he is not that handsome the way Tando was portraying. To me he is just a man
Lol he is handsome though 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
😂😂 yes that's what I was saying eyyy
Ladies it is very important the man you choose to be your husband
True hey. Marrying someone who is not a believer is never a good idea
“Nakumtshato asuka kuwo bebemnkula” this guy hates Ntando
He is evil xeim lomntu
He hates me with passion shemm
Uyibeka kakubi yhuu"bebemnkula"
Engingakusho ku sisi kuyi ngozi ukucabanga ukuthi imali iyona ezokwakhela uthando ngoba engcineni kuyavela ukuthi akakaze akuthande nangolulodwa usuku fanele understand lokhu sisi imali ayiluthengi uthando Love is a gift of God ❤you
Which money cz he says there was no money they survived by borroeing from his best friend 😅 FUNNY
@@lungiswaNtandoLinganNgumbs32947:47
Angiwa understand lama proof mina. Except only for the first one
Well it none of your businesx
I dont understand any of them😅
Wonder bapi abantwan kuyo yonke le ngqushu😢mental state yabo😢ithini?yhuu it's 2much maan😢
Abantwana are from Ntando first failed marriage. Sibulele has he's own kids from baby mama's.
Abantwana are from Ntando first failed marriage. Sibulele has he's own kids from baby mama's.
No this guy never loved his wife, thina syaxabana but ndimkhumbula ngk siqumbelene but ndimkhumbule esemsebenzini and even wish angathetha xaebuyile then sibe right. Wena ubuphola ungahlali naye?
That's true Mfundisi wam umyeni wam ungumfundisi apha kwakhe nam ndingumfundisi akho ngabafundisi abatheni aba bangayi kwamanye amadoda uNtando unengxaki
Frm where I'm standing wena unengxak enkulu kabi , I swear
I think Sis Ntando she has never healed from the rape and trauma that she experienced when she was growing up. So now that she has money, she thinks she has power over other people. She wanted a man that she can control and walk over because it was obvious that this guy never loved her. She was also desperate for love since she didn't get enough love from her parents.I think she thought marrying a vownarable man would be a successful marriage.
You making sense
This is really boring. I thought Thabani wanted both parties to share their stories and leave everything to them and the law. Hay lo back and forth.. iyadika
Bulela umdali uphume usaphila kula mama.
Shemm
😢😢😢mhhh childhood trauma 😢
Ngisabela usis wami mhla eshanda jeso coz backgrounds can destroy the future if you are not carefully
Communication yafa kudala, so I guess omny nomnyr ebezenzela okwakhe ,mayb uss ngenxa yezinto ezenzekileo,cheating, konke nje,so mtshato was already on the rocks
U speaking sense ❤
Hayi ngempela Mfundisi! Ngifundile ukumamela 2 sides of the story. I repent my God
I think I like the guy he has a sweet tongue
Ntando akaze asindiswe tu,ufun udumo qho
Injalo
An unspoken King
Esheee
Eshee
Cheating, cheating in marriage is not good, man or woman, it's bad
Heee lantando ingathi akayazi enyindoda like akayibali noyibala eyomtshato wokuqala no babe daddy oko kuvela lobhuti hai limenemenw la cc shame mayivalwe bhuti phuma awunatyala
Both parties bane impact kulomtshato ubhuti uwrongo naye kwelakhe side, uNtando I understand her toxic traits akakhulanga right now lanto it’s affecting her she needs counselling or encounter
Ntando is evil nje finish and klaar.. .mina nje ngike ngacishe ngaba kule mess, i refuse
BATHONG
@@qinisonicholus7949 u r extremely evil n cruel nawe rha
Yabona once ubenomuntu wesfazane getting umrholo udlula owakho ubasinkingeni and u wont be valued in the house mina im facing that now until i learn to do izinto ngendlela yami even now im still paying izinto athi wazthenga yedwa but lapho imali yami ikhona then when u ask athi umuntu leyo mali iya enganeni i once called a monster kuningi nje i know it will sound like lobhuti bekadla imali yalosisi kanti its not like that maybe 1 day i will be the one who will be trending but kunjalo sisase together Amen
BATHONG
whatever you do bhuti keep records cz uyabona abantu bayathanda ukuposta
So pastors were supposed to sleep on your sheets, ay man there’s something wrong with this guy
Beside ukungezi kwakhe bekuvele kucaca loyasisi uwunontanda kubukwa if you don't believe look at my comments in her previous episodes 🤞🤞
Ur comments are proof tht ndingunontanda kubukwa 😅😅 some ppl though
So u guy animbukanga nicimezile nje ngamanje ?
Why nilwa Tata, man must love the wife, wife must humble themselves
Yaz bengijabulele ukuthi bazoba bobabili sizwe both side but ungphoxile uNtando ngathi khona akufihlayo
Kanti kwamxaka kanje ukuthi uNtando akananto khange asho ukuthi urich tyoo nangu umuntu bo tsek amadoda afuna ukudla amandla wabafazi
THANK YOU !! 🙏🙏
where did he get the money to buy the car?
Power
But abafundisi babengalala endlini lapho okulalakhona ingani hayi kwelenu inkamelo.
He must go to a FEMALE PODCASTER i want to see something. She may hsve not been dn angel but this comes across as men understand each other. Im annoyed by this..can't even watch too long of it.
Yhooo hai ungayibhali ncwadi ngalo umtshato, kanti ayingomtshato wokuqala lo yhoo hai ndincamile.
Ndicela khe khu khangelwe indoda kaNtando yoku qhala please i need to ask something
😅😅 good luck
Please siyayifuna....ikhe itsho
Uthi akokwake and akakwaz kuti kukwake but he had a problem abt what was happening kulowamzi walocc awayenze naye " lento engath ngumshado" Wow
The pastors were responsible and respectful enough to call him !? But thet never knew him, never had his noz. Ohh bt she called abt the car - isnt this FUNNY?
Utsho kuba you are no longer together so akakwazi ukuthi kukwakhe ku he moved on yena nomnye umntu
Kwazophezulu thina besingekho
This is tough aaaay
What I have realised on Ntando she is confused on the real meaning of Christianity. They both have their faults and if some of the things both of them are saying is true there are also lies between the both of them. Never take a decision based on one sided story. The motor thing if it is true she didn't buy the car... Haibo Ntando there is no reason to lie sesi. This people they don't belong together period.
Did he show you the car papers? Andith he brought proof Wheres the papers? Wheres the proofs zokfeba kwam
I don't think they love each other
Do you mind to divorce him umnike lento ayifunayo so that azoba free omnye umntana @@lungiswaNtandoLinganNgumbs329
So he used her car b4 he owned " a car" ? Wooow Thnx nibhadle ninuka isirhogo
Ntando une serious problem she need counseling
Am disappointed on Tando for not showing up
U were never dissapointed when he never showed up for months simbiza
@@lungiswaNtandoLinganNgumbs329 the fact he eventually come so feel u should have accepted the invite not do what he did so that we get both ur side of the story.And somethings we do them to show maturity and for peace and progress.
U were not dissapointed when he did not show up 4 months simbiza Bona ba mawthin nitanda gqith amadoda
@@ayandanxumalo5617 I will eventually come klk nam anduzukwenz ngexesha lotanda kwake mna Bathong!
UNtando why waya kwinyanga for icase kanti usasindisiwe..i think wawa yena kwa that time ejola nale ndoda ..i hope she repented
Umzenzisi lo cc
She’s confused ingxaki ufuna dowager macala izonka🤣🤣
Waya enyangen ayazelakupi ? Or u jst getting the story now or ucharmekile shem
@@SlindileMbokaziwho said u r perfect wena
@@Thembi-ev6rtnidom shem I feel 4u
Wondering those who insulted Sibulelo without a full story😢 bathini ngoku
Ngamaxoki omabini ,ngeke ancedwe abohlukane
Thats the only sense u have spoken so far
Kwalentsini ka Ntando andiyi understand, akhomtshato apha zange ubekho kwasekuqaleni phumani niqale impolo entsha kwalendoda si slie foks hlukanani qha idikile kwalento yenu
Benihleka kupi
Yazi one thing i realize if xa ubalisa istory esenzekile between you and the other person you don't mention ur faults 90%of the time uyaxoka
So u guy has mentioned his faults according to u nne !?