This is the classic abusive family dynamic with trauma that lasts a lifetime. Jeffrey pulled her out of that toxic environment with a marriage that has endured for decades ! Very very fortunate !
Too often wealthy parents just throw money at the kids and don’t give them the structure they desperately need. I worked at a rehab where ultra-rich kids had no clue how to handle the simplest of life’s tasks. They were never taught, just given everything or had “people” that did it for them. Children need love , not expensive things.
Ina was my favorite on Food Network and I purchased all her books. She was and is a classy lady. So thankful that her beloved Jeffrey rescued her from the abuse.
Good to know she didn't jump out of the frying pan and into the fire....to wind up with a loser. Unfortunately, that usually is the case with teen girls looking to escape a troubled home life.
Wow! She is a wonderful, strong woman. Not sure if I could have done the same. Thankfully, she did not marry an abusive man like so many victims of childhood trauma do.
Her parents were Narcissists. Her mother definitely was a covert narcissist. My mother was a narcissist & I know how it feels to be always ignored & never can’t do anything right. Your feelings don’t matter, your choices don’t matter. As a person you don’t exist. You’re the toy that unfortunately has living breathing life!
I have always loved Ina and have her cookbooks. LOVED watching her on her cooking show and how she adored cooking for Jeffrey (especially his favorite chicken dish). I'm very sorry to hear about how she was treated by her parents. You sure wouldn't know it by her sunny and uplifting personality. Shine on Ina, you are a bright, shining star!
Breaks many heart hearing Ina speak of the abuse...came from both parents. I'm sure Jeffrey helped Ina get through some pretty difficult times. What a beautiful couple. They radiate such love and compassion for each other. Who wouldn't want that?
as if i couldnt love this woman more, i find that i do - im stunned she is 76 - she looks so much younger - she is just a beautifully bright spirit who has been with me for a long time - i love her for sure - she helped me get through some difficult hard times as a young woman raising kids etc - God bless Ina
I experienced the same treatment. I still don’t understand what these horrible parents hoped to achieve. Did these violent and negligent parents really believe we would forget?
They had the same upbringing and many times horrifically worse. They legitimize it and believe that if they failed as parents it was because they should have done more of what they did. I hid in my room and saw the hopelessness of other defensive responses such as " fight or flight or even appease. Just hide and freeze". One sister fought, another ran away and I scared of both those options hid. Helped because I read. Many of that generation had children but did not want them.
However….too many of us thought we were getting a Jeffrey, but instead got more of the abuse. It’s important for young women to know that many, many, many times more - the guy who pretends to be Jeffrey turns out to be an even worse abuser. I’m SO happy that Ina got a “good one” - but to the young ladies: They usually are picking up on your abusive background- it’s subtle cues - they don’t even know they’re picking up on it. But predatory abusers SOMEHOW always find young women who’ve been abused. Be careful.
In those days it was not considered abuse, it was simply considered parenting. Glad to know she at least patched things up with her Dad and he apologized somewhat
Reading the book ADULT CHILDREN OF EMOTIONALLY IMMATURE PARENTS currently and it is eye opening. I thought I was one of the only kids who dealt with this (well, my sister did too). I get it. So heartbreaking, but praise GOD I’m free now. I’m grateful I don’t have to repeat their actions nor attitudes. Ina GARTEN is respected in so many ways and even more so after knowing this.
There are so many similarities between Ina's childhood and mine. I've never been able to get passed it. I did forgive my father on his death bed, he was so afraid of dying. My mother is still alive and we haven't spoken in well over a decade. I'm considered the black sheep, the crazy one, and that may be true. But I was never as viscous, cruel and dismissive as she was. I just did not live up to her unreachable standards. It still hurts, and I'm 65.
Honey - you are the SANE person in this thing. You do not owe ANYBODY any kind of thing - especially not your mother. She will have her own reckoning that has nothing to do with you. Take care little angel. You’ve suffered enough. Go forth and live happy
I forgave my dad at 19 because when he stated what a great dad he was, I reminded him of how I felt and told him he was not a great dad. he teared up and quivering he acknowledged and said, "ok can we be friends ?" I immediately hugged him and said "of course". He remained a great comfort in my live until he passed. My mother passed away 5 years ago, she was a narcissist and luckily I was living in another country far away from the toxicity. In the end, I sent her a message that I forgave her so that she could rest in peace. I am still haunted on how treacherous she was to me, favoring my other sisters and finding fault in whatever I did. She did not acknowledge my accomplishments, a very proud woman. I had four loving children all graduates from great Universities that do not know how hard it was growing up for me. I have tried to explain and they just think it is too sad to hear. I believe there are many stories like mine. We had it all, but love, tenderness and understanding
I would never have thought Ina had parents like this. She has been very classy not talking about this all of this time. So sad given her parents were likely not impressed with her becoming an engineer and then doing a stint at the White House. Thank goodness Jeffrey came into her life when she was as young as 16.
Ahhhh. That explains why she never had kids. I know a couple of very intelligent ladies who had similar stories who never had children because they feared they missed out on learning how to be a good parent. What a shame.
I never had kids. My childhood was so sad. It never looked appealing to me and I certainly didn’t have a role model for parenting. It was the right decision for me.
I'm so thankful for first wave feminists who fought for the right for young women to get educated, seek a career, remain single and childless----if they chose to and not be stigmatized for taking a different path. Not every woman wants to raise children or is naturally cut out for motherhood. We shouldn't be forced into roles for which we know we're not suited.....and then have to endure all the flak when the kids don't turn out perfect.
It is really terrible how many children grew up in abusive homes.So many people are unfit to have children,should a license be required to have children?That seems too intrusive.
There should be some training required, and then a license. Yes. You need training to drive a car -- but they just hand a kid over to you at the hospital with NO training. To adopt a dog you have to prove all sorts of environmental, financial and emotional competency - and have visits from the shelter before hand, pass background chcks. But a human baby? Pffft. No problem; anybody can have one. Here ya go, try not to throw it in the garbage.
It is beyond sad that people got away with so much abuse towards the very innocent children they should have taken care of and nurtured both physically and emotionally.
Very sad@Ina. Fortunately, I had two loving and caring parents, but we did not take advantage of their kindness. We grew up well behaved and became well-mannered adults. Thank you, Lord.
So often we say…no surprise there…..but Ina? How can it be? I’ve thought often, she has such a lovely open face. Not a trace of worry or wounding, no carry over of any troubles. She’s always smiling. Thanks to her for this reveal. Must be difficult, but it makes it easier for someone else. Another form of Me Too. Or…another recipe share from a food diva. Recipe for success….
She rescued herself by choosing a lifetime of happiness with Jeffrey rather than ceding to her mother's controlling behavior. She chose love, and only love endures.
Unfortunately, it happens all over the world. It's happening right now. It's even harder to swallow especially when it's your own family when someone you love beats you everyday or moleste and rape you every day and no one believes you mental physical abuse its alot for a person to go threw. My heart goes out to you may you have peace and always remember your beautiful and your not a victim your a human being that God loves and you will be ok. May God bless you have a great fun sunshine day!!!!!
Not sure how to feel about this “airing one’s dirty laundry.” Does good come out of talking about those who’ve harmed us…Good for Ina for sharing though.
Yes, that's why. I saw a clip of Ina very recently admitting it's the reason. She went on to say Jeffrey would have loved to have had children but the decision was hers and whatever made her happy was okay by him.
This is the classic abusive family dynamic with trauma that lasts a lifetime. Jeffrey pulled her out of that toxic environment with a marriage that has endured for decades ! Very very fortunate !
It can happily to anyone, terrible and sad, smh..
I thought they are now divorcef
@@monafernandes3889They are definitely not divorced.
They have a "partnership" as she says.
More proof that a child doesn't need wealthy parents. A child needs to be seen and loved unconditionally.
Too often wealthy parents just throw money at the kids and don’t give them the structure they desperately need. I worked at a rehab where ultra-rich kids had no clue how to handle the simplest of life’s tasks. They were never taught, just given everything or had “people” that did it for them. Children need love , not expensive things.
Oh absolutely ❤
, love your children 🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗
Awww Ina, so glad Jeffrey has been with you ❤
Very sad. I am glad she found happiness with her husband.
Yes. Remarkably fortunate. So thankful, but surprised that she was even able to trust someone enough.
Good for her for creating a good life.
Ina was my favorite on Food Network and I purchased all her books. She was and is a classy lady. So thankful that her beloved Jeffrey rescued her from the abuse.
She rescued herself by leaving and choosing a kind, not abusive man.
Good to know she didn't jump out of the frying pan and into the fire....to wind up with a loser. Unfortunately, that usually is the case with teen girls looking to escape a troubled home life.
Me too! I use her books often....they are classic, excellent & dependable recipes & she's a treasure!😅
Wow! She is a wonderful, strong woman. Not sure if I could have done the same. Thankfully, she did not marry an abusive man like so many victims of childhood trauma do.
So sorry, Ina. May God heal your wounds and thank God for Jeffrey. He is Godsent♥️♥️🙏🏿🙏🏿
What a lovely gracious lady, must have been so difficult. Thank goodness for her beloved jeffrey, her successful and fabulous life, she’s just great.
It must be hard to constantly living in fear, especially for a child. I have always loved Ina, she seems like a nice lady. So glad she found Jeffery.
Her parents were Narcissists.
Her mother definitely was a covert narcissist.
My mother was a narcissist & I know how it feels to be always ignored & never can’t do anything right. Your feelings don’t matter, your choices don’t matter. As a person you don’t exist. You’re the toy that unfortunately has living breathing life!
I have always loved Ina and have her cookbooks. LOVED watching her on her cooking show and how she adored cooking for Jeffrey (especially his favorite chicken dish). I'm very sorry to hear about how she was treated by her parents. You sure wouldn't know it by her sunny and uplifting personality. Shine on Ina, you are a bright, shining star!
Breaks many heart hearing Ina speak of the abuse...came from both parents. I'm sure Jeffrey helped Ina get through some pretty difficult times. What a beautiful couple. They radiate such love and compassion for each other. Who wouldn't want that?
This is very sad but she is blessed with her husband.many people never have that blessing ever
How sad to hear Ina went through this. She is such a lovely person. Glad she went on to create a beautiful life for herself.
as if i couldnt love this woman more, i find that i do - im stunned she is 76 - she looks so much younger - she is just a beautifully bright spirit who has been with me for a long time - i love her for sure - she helped me get through some difficult hard times as a young woman raising kids etc - God bless Ina
How awful. She’s such a sweet person. I’m so happy she found success and love.
I experienced the same treatment. I still don’t understand what these horrible parents hoped to achieve. Did these violent and negligent parents really believe we would forget?
They had the same upbringing and many times horrifically worse. They legitimize it and believe that if they failed as parents it was because they should have done more of what they did. I hid in my room and saw the hopelessness of other defensive responses such as " fight or flight or even appease. Just hide and freeze". One sister fought, another ran away and I scared of both those options hid. Helped because I read. Many of that generation had children but did not want them.
They say if you marry the right spouse they can help heal your childhood.
Ina, you deserve so much love and happines. You have a beautiful soul... I wish you and Jeffrey more lifetimes together 🙏🏾🍁💖. Stay forever blessed 🙏🏾
You're a lovely presence on youtube...cooking up such wonderful recipes. I'm glad you found happiness. ❤
She deserves all the happiness, wish her and Jeffery good health and happiness
Ina is an amazing chef! Her recipes always come out perfect! ❤
However….too many of us thought we were getting a Jeffrey, but instead got more of the abuse. It’s important for young women to know that many, many, many times more - the guy who pretends to be Jeffrey turns out to be an even worse abuser.
I’m SO happy that Ina got a “good one” - but to the young ladies: They usually are picking up on your abusive background- it’s subtle cues - they don’t even know they’re picking up on it. But predatory abusers SOMEHOW always find young women who’ve been abused. Be careful.
Im so happy she found love 😊❤
In those days it was not considered abuse, it was simply considered parenting. Glad to know she at least patched things up with her Dad and he apologized somewhat
Ina has endured & is victorious!
What a beautiful spirit♥️♥️♥️
That’s pretty sad. I’m glad she met Geoffrey and got away from her parents.
Reading the book ADULT CHILDREN OF EMOTIONALLY IMMATURE PARENTS currently and it is eye opening. I thought I was one of the only kids who dealt with this (well, my sister did too). I get it. So heartbreaking, but praise GOD I’m free now. I’m grateful I don’t have to repeat their actions nor attitudes. Ina GARTEN is respected in so many ways and even more so after knowing this.
She was such a beautiful young lady.
There are so many similarities between Ina's childhood and mine. I've never been able to get passed it. I did forgive my father on his death bed, he was so afraid of dying. My mother is still alive and we haven't spoken in well over a decade. I'm considered the black sheep, the crazy one, and that may be true. But I was never as viscous, cruel and dismissive as she was. I just did not live up to her unreachable standards. It still hurts, and I'm 65.
Honey - you are the SANE person in this thing. You do not owe ANYBODY any kind of thing - especially not your mother. She will have her own reckoning that has nothing to do with you. Take care little angel. You’ve suffered enough. Go forth and live happy
The “crazy ones” always tend to be the ones who start healing in their own and developing healthy boundaries
I forgave my dad at 19 because when he stated what a great dad he was, I reminded him of how I felt and told him he was not a great dad. he teared up and quivering he acknowledged and said, "ok can we be friends ?" I immediately hugged him and said "of course". He remained a great comfort in my live until he passed. My mother passed away 5 years ago, she was a narcissist and luckily I was living in another country far away from the toxicity. In the end, I sent her a message that I forgave her so that she could rest in peace. I am still haunted on how treacherous she was to me, favoring my other sisters and finding fault in whatever I did. She did not acknowledge my accomplishments, a very proud woman. I had four loving children all graduates from great Universities that do not know how hard it was growing up for me. I have tried to explain and they just think it is too sad to hear. I believe there are many stories like mine. We had it all, but love, tenderness and understanding
I ❤ Ina & Jeffrey!!💕
I would never have thought Ina had parents like this. She has been very classy not talking about this all of this time. So sad given her parents were likely not impressed with her becoming an engineer and then doing a stint at the White House. Thank goodness Jeffrey came into her life when she was as young as 16.
Ahhhh. That explains why she never had kids. I know a couple of very intelligent ladies who had similar stories who never had children because they feared they missed out on learning how to be a good parent. What a shame.
I'm one of those. Best decision I've ever made!
I never had kids. My childhood was so sad. It never looked appealing to me and I certainly didn’t have a role model for parenting. It was the right decision for me.
I'm so thankful for first wave feminists who fought for the right for young women to get educated, seek a career, remain single and childless----if they chose to and not be stigmatized for taking a different path. Not every woman wants to raise children or is naturally cut out for motherhood. We shouldn't be forced into roles for which we know we're not suited.....and then have to endure all the flak when the kids don't turn out perfect.
I wish she was still on food network.sick of Fieri and competitions i have her cookbooks.enjoy her.
Sad. I know a child who lives in constant fear.
I had no idea Ina grew up this way. I love her cooking and personality.
My parents were awful too but unfortunately, I kept choosing the wrong men.
I had no idea she and Jefrey met and married at such a young age!! ❤❤
Love you Ina. Sorry for what you went through. Have all your cookbooks and have made many, many of your recipes. Thank you for everything.
It is really terrible how many children grew up in abusive homes.So many people are unfit to have children,should a license be required to have children?That seems too intrusive.
There should be some training required, and then a license. Yes. You need training to drive a car -- but they just hand a kid over to you at the hospital with NO training. To adopt a dog you have to prove all sorts of environmental, financial and emotional competency - and have visits from the shelter before hand, pass background chcks. But a human baby? Pffft. No problem; anybody can have one. Here ya go, try not to throw it in the garbage.
There was a saying …better feared than loved. Crazy
Ina is the best❤
How sad.
It is beyond sad that people got away with so much abuse towards the very innocent children they should have taken care of and nurtured both physically and emotionally.
Very sad@Ina. Fortunately, I had two loving and caring parents, but we did not take advantage of their kindness. We grew up well behaved and became well-mannered adults. Thank you, Lord.
No telling what her parents went through as children..
People with great parents lose them young! Good people die young and evil people seem to live forever !😂
So often we say…no surprise there…..but Ina?
How can it be?
I’ve thought often, she has such a lovely open face. Not a trace of worry or wounding, no carry over of any troubles.
She’s always smiling.
Thanks to her for this reveal. Must be difficult, but it makes it easier for someone else. Another form of Me Too.
Or…another recipe share from a food diva. Recipe for success….
She rescued herself by choosing a lifetime of happiness with Jeffrey rather than ceding to her mother's controlling behavior. She chose love, and only love endures.
Unfortunately, it happens all over the world. It's happening right now. It's even harder to swallow especially when it's your own family when someone you love beats you everyday or moleste and rape you every day and no one believes you mental physical abuse its alot for a person to go threw. My heart goes out to you may you have peace and always remember your beautiful and your not a victim your a human being that God loves and you will be ok. May God bless you have a great fun sunshine day!!!!!
We love Jeffrey❤️
Not sure how to feel about this “airing one’s dirty laundry.” Does good come out of talking about those who’ve harmed us…Good for Ina for sharing though.
Sometimes it does, yes. The very least it lets others who have had similar circumstances know they aren't the only ones.
Love them both. ❤️
Oh dear. Bless her. Pretty much thr same with my mother!!!🙄
I guess this explains why she didn't grace the world with her children. Our loss!
Same with my father!
No wonder they don’t have kids. 😢
Parents of those times….
Not Asperger’s but rather narcissism. I was raised in a similar environment with an authoritarian father and a covert narcissistic mother.
She wrote nuclear policy for Washington phonies for a number of years. Then became fabulously wealthy! Think about that.
……..Narcissism in her parents. Glad she GOT AWAY! (especially to the Hamptons!! 😀🥂👌).
OH MY!! SHOCKING!!😢
I love her
Aspergers Syndrome is not a violent, controlling condition. Do not malign with the wrong use of labels.
Man omgn!!🤗🤗
How did her jewish father mistreat her?
Since the age of 16 😮
Must have a new book to sell….
Why talk about this now ?
Cuz her popularity is waning. She’s becoming irrelevant and is scared
@@vickikossman9623 let those skeletons stay in the closet. Airing your dirty laundry for social media likes is a bad idea
Another celebrity who sell there family just to make money 🤔
That's why she didn't want to receive a dying child who wanted to be in her show.🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮
Now we’ve heard ina s side of life but is her parents alive to defend this ….
Stop defending evil doers. No one makes this stuff up.
so you would rather Ina come out and tell this about her parents while they're still alive and will have to face the nasty social consequences?
I would have never forgiven them. What awful parents.
I wonder if her abusive upbringing is why she choose not to have children. She and Jeffrey would have been fabulous parents.
Yes, that's why. I saw a clip of Ina very recently admitting it's the reason. She went on to say Jeffrey would have loved to have had children but the decision was hers and whatever made her happy was okay by him.