I male, straight and gender non conforming. To some I am a crossdresser, but I'm GNC. I try to get out in my styles and looks, and am one that thinks gender rules limits and stereotypes are a key to the gender issues we are dealing with today. The moment "crossdressing" is destigmatized. The better.
17-year old south-african boy here👋🏽. For a while now, I've wanted to experiment with feminine clothing as a form of expression, and I've felt so insecure about it, like I'm just a weird creep who isn't supposed to exist. I've felt so alone. It's so relieving seeing a video like this. It just reminds me that just there's always someone out there in the world who gets you, and that often, many people are staved of this because of now close-minded the world is. And I really love that he still chooses to live his truth in spite of the judgement. He's more of a man than any "real man" will ever be.
It’s called rejection. I don’t understand it, so I’m glad I have an open mind and learned more, but not enough. However, just because I don’t understand it, doesn’t mean I think it’s a psychological affliction. Savanah is open and brave. Chuck is even braver.
It’s so interesting that people are commenting about savanah/chuck’s mental health. People who shame others are usually projecting or using a defense mechanism called reaction formation or displacement. People who use these need to put more of their efforts into their mental health. Also, I see people discussing the diagnostic manual for mental disorders. Guess what, a diagnosis is only made when the symptoms are affecting a person’s day-to-day life. Chuck/Savannah sound like they are living fulfilling lives. Finally, I see people discussing fetishes. People who have fetishes, which savanah/chuck do not, are normal (as long as there is consent and it doesn’t affect their daily life). PS I am a therapist.
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well if you come out as trans at forty or fifty, this can affect many people. entire families destroyed, financial catastrophe,its a mess
Also, we can be BOTH coping and grateful/happy and still have mental health issues at the same time. It's not one of the other. P.S. I'm a therapist too ;)
I don't believe in using two names. Even though I have the appearance of a woman with my being on estrogen and wearing dresses, I don't have feminine name as I go with my real male name John.
I believe our Hetro Crossdressing community need to come out and let everyone know Savannah said and tell then how you really are which is normal ,caring human beings. Bravo Savannah for your speech.
It's a very fascinating community that doesn't get enough representation/respect and is bigger than most people who aren't part of it or know someone who is don't know much about.
You go, Savannah! I'm a girl and love a casual pair of jeans and a pair of flip flops, and 150 yrs ago, that would have been considered cross dressing. Now it's just a preference. You do you. 💜💛💚💙
Thank you! Thank you! and, thanks for pointing out the obvious unevenness of female-to-male fashion acceptance versus male-to-female fashion acceptance!
Women have been dressing as men for years. Power suits. Pants and jackets in the workplace. Society thinks nothing about it but God forbid If a man puts on a skirt or a dress. If it helps your mental well-being so be it.
@@mariebourgot4949 Very sadly in schools whom priorities should be to taught qualities like: Critical rational THINKING, Using brain instead of the emotions, Practical skill, Inteligence, preparing students to take care of themselfs instead of relying on the goverment. But no. They're using taxpayer's money to spread leftist propaganda and produce useless dumbasses
As a Trans woman , it strikes me how similar our experiences are. Different expressions of our gender identities yet the same experiences. Thank you for this.
Your courage, to be yourself despite the sometimes harsh world we live in, is an inspiration! Your books are full of wisdom and have helped me, and many others, to better understand ourselves! Thank you Savannah!
This poor person is referring to themselves as 2 different people Savanah and chuck. Two people/personalities in 1 body. Half way through, but it sounds like they need some counseling
I know this can be confusing. I study a lot of people who are different than me. Savannah and Chuck dont think of themselves literally as two different people, but just two different representations of the same person, in female and male form. Some genderfluid or non-binary people instead choose a more gender neutral name, for simplicity, while others choose separate names... Often because they do not want to expose one side of their personality, the side that runs contrary to what society accepts, to their normal life, for fear of ridicule, loosing friends, etc.... But they dont literally see themselves as two different people. When this person talks about not sharing Savannah's accomplishments with their parents, they simply mean that they cant talk to their parents about experiences they had as Savannah, without exposing their double life, and facing ridicule from their parents. There is so many diverse types of people in this world. People like savannah/Chuck, people with autism, and other things that cause them to see the world very differently. You can find videos and information online to help see many different types of people in a new light.
@@sleeperawaken36 So there is hope there are still some normal parents who will try to lead their children and reject their wicked brhaviour if necessary
I find it interesting that you chose to create a new persona for your femininity rather than call it your own. Are you truly accepting of it or are you distancing yourself further?
In my opinion, creating a new persona for it might just be a part of the fun of crossdressing. And to go against your second sentence, I think that it can both allow one from being closer to themselves or not, because they can ditch an identity they don't want at the moment and pick up their femininity, especially without feeling weird to be a "Chuck he/him" while wearing a bodycon dress and heels. For me, personally, I don't like it; I'll go out in a skirt and prefer to be she/her and the next day go out in high top Vans and a battle jacket and for preferences, well I don't really care then, but my point is it's possible for it to be just more comfortable that way.
This is a very good question, but I cant help but feel Savannah is finding herself along about this video. Hugs and love to Savannah and Chuck. I can relate to a drive within that creates a mind catalyst for others. It is not easy to integrate with such existing judgments. But we all change with the help of expressive people like this. Hugs and love to all.
So when you get up and get dressed in the morning your putting a coustume on ? Input this to you when a women wheres mens clothes its considerd trendy but when a man wheres womens clothes its the worst thing out double standereds a . Crossdressing is not costume dressing .@@VinegarPotato
Savannah, you are so beautiful. So amazing. I’m so incredibly proud of you for shining a light and speaking up on something that so many people constantly misunderstand. You are nothing short of amazing. Your entire talk is touching so many lives. The negative comments are from people who simply don’t understand- choose not to understand- and I feel sorry for them. You are an astounding person, Savannah- and this talk was amazing. I’m so touched by your words. Thank you so much for having the courage to speak up and tell your story- and the story of so many others, since so many others are just like you- in order to bring awareness to the cross dressing experience and many other experiences. You’re an astounding human being and a true inspiration for so many, including me. Thank you so much for sharing your story. We have so much love for you.
@@raiden2048 once again- your ignorance is showing. I feel so sorry for people like you who feel this burning need to comment hateful, horrible things rather than just walking away and saying nothing at all. It really speaks to who you are as a person- close minded, and scared of anything and anyone that doesn’t fit into your “box” of what is “normal”. I hope one day you learn how to accept people who aren’t exactly like you, and that you begin to realize that beautiful individuals like Savannah impact you in *ZERO* way personally. Savannah is a human being. Trans folks are human beings. Crossdressing folks are human beings. Just like you. But will you ever understand that? Clearly not. I do hope one day that you do, however, rather than going around spreading hate and being a bully. I’m ending this conversation, because you’re just a person who is hiding behind a keyboard rather than spreading positivity in the world and this isn’t worth my time. Check yourself. Goodbye.
I accidentally posted one of my crossdressed pictures on my register instagram once. I was high af 🤣 my family and my in-laws already know that I like to cross dress, but I haven’t told my cousins or army friends. The next morning when I realized I posted that picture I immediately deleted it, but I put out a story, saying yes that was me and it’s a hobby I like to do on my free time. And then the next story said if you have any questions at all, please feel free to ask any question I will answer, truthfully.
I want to thank you for putting this out. I have known a few cross dressers, but not wanting to hurt any feelings, I haven't known any of them well enough to ask sensitive questions that you have answered here today. I wish you the best. I am also STUNNED that you did this in SOUTH CAROLINA OF ALL PLACES. I've lived in a LOT of places, and this state (where I now live) is the cruelest, most judgemental, backwards, and narrow minded states of any that I have lived in. Amazing story that proves that if you can conceive it, you can achieve it. Thanks again.
We have come far with normalcy and acceptance (in certain ways), while we are still indoctrinated and engrained with realistic fears of how we may be received due to how we physically express ourselves against a backdrop of stereotypical expectations of societal norms. Stay brave and positive!
Hard to imagine how do you really feel, if you are reading comment section under this TEDx Savannah/Chuck. I'm always surprised in bad way, how many people are hateful against something odd, what doesn't fit to their world, but it is completely harmless to them. So I wish to you to find as much support you need, and ideally no hate against your personality. :)
I dress in mens clothing for months at a time and I am yet to receive my invitation to do a Ted talk. Is there more to it than dresses and make up? That's not really 'womanhood', just the superficial parts. I don't know enough about this to judge it as a concept.
@@frannyparkerful He could do that without giving himself a traditionally female name, using female pronouns and demanding access to female segregated spaces. So no, he's actually equating femininity with womanhood: same old misogynistic thinking, different century.
@@exiledeve i think the response he might find while dressed as 'Savanah' in a mens loo couod be very uncomfortable at the least and very dangerous at the worst. Also you cant speak to how different Savanah feels to Chuck, it might feel completely appropriate to Savanah.
I live in southeastern Louisiana so I know exactly where you're coming from. Luckily I'm only a half hour from New Orleans and love to express myself when I see my therapist whose not only supportive, but encouraging. I have a very small support bubble and it's nice to have people who truly accept you for who you are. I've just crossed the threshold of the half century mark and just beginning to openly express my feminine desires which have been repressed for too long. Safe journeys Savannah and to all other explorers.
@@savannahhauk3359 Not me, I would never be able to do what you did. I live in the dark, in secrecy, terrified and ashamed. Shunned by family and friends and alone with my humiliation. Perhaps my next life will be better. Thank you for taking the time to reply.
@@steveroberts728 We all find the spark of bravery for our authenticity in different ways and avenues. How I present to the world is not the only way to exist and thrive. Just need to find that sense of inner peace fro yourself.
Thank you for your talk. I’ve kept my crossdressing hidden for 40 years, and I opened up to a few friends a couple weeks ago. I ended up spending the weekend wearing a skirt on a rafting trip. For years I’ve dealt with the anxiety and mental strife that many of us face daily. I’ve spent thousands of dollars binging and purging female clothing. I fought my way through alcoholism and addiction, and I used to contemplate suicide daily. I’m not fixed, but I’m doing better today. Again, thank you.
Such a great talk. Especially for someone like me who aren't in that community at all. Still let's me learn and see the world from more perspectives. Helps me raise my boys right I think, to know how to educate them and support them how ever they may grow up. Thank you Savannah, for being you
Well done Savannah. Here in the UK the scene is quite similar. I can recall going out in the centre of London and having a great time. Most of the places in thee 1970's were accepting and I had made many friends there. Denmark id also a good place, you can walk the streets of Copenhagen day or night and feel very welcome. If you get the chance, come on over to England, you will be very welcome !
As a Straight Male Transvestic Fetishist Who wears Women's Footwear, especially High Heels. I would Love to live in London, or where You found the Courage to be Truly Yourself to the Other Non-judgemental Side of the World. I just want to wear The Footwear of my choice, but Not Of The "Norm".💯👠
It's lovely to see the face and voice behind the books. I love your story and it resonates with me as a TGirl only out since June 2020. Why is it so hard to be accepted as yourself? I've identified mainly female all my life and love my days out as a woman but have to live my life mainly as a man because of things... Keep up the good work Savannah, you have a British fan, living in Spain x
Thank you so much for your kind words and endorsement for the "Living with Crossdressing" book series. I'm thrilled to have a Spain-residing, British-bred fan!!
Very helpful for me to hear your story. I commend you. You are taking this huge risk by being your true self. It is difficult to see someone struggle with imposed shame, guilt and insecurity. You go girl !
Excellent. I am so very glad to be of help and service. Everyone dealing with imposed shame (of any kind) deserve to live a life out from under its yoke.
@XORRE Projecting your insecurities on others is actually worse for yourself in the long run. You should get help instead of ignoring your own issues and blaming them on others. Sorry to be blunt.
@XORRE when people are told they are wrong and/or weird, they don't accept your prescription and suddenly change...in fact, they are prone to dig their heels further into their beliefs and go harder for their cause. The same way a stranger on the internet telling me how I should see/approach a crossdresser doesn't move me. It's a time honored terrible tactic and I'd rather play chess in a checker playing culture. If this dude wants to go out looking like Janet Reno evey day in this country, he should be able to say and do what he wants by the rights afforded in the constitution- as long as he doesn't hurt anyone physically. But he is also not free from the consequences of people who believe his behavior is abnormal who may say or do what they are free to say or do what they want, as long as they don't physically HURT him in the process. If I see it becomes somehow directly HARMFUL to me or mines- I'm in it with both fists. But until then, I been thru too much in life to expend my energy arguing. Honest Q: How will this dude wanting to wear a dress in public make things "worse" for you or others?
Years ago, I befriended a guy who towed my car... So desperate for acceptance he confided that he loves to cross dress. I gave him some of my clothes. I'm so happy for him.
Embracing our truth--hopefully with the support of loved one--is so very important to our mental well-being and a healthy productive thriving existence on this earth.
@@MrPakurfulo If so many people can't accept an innocent freedom of others, it means that there is a problem because this persons who want to do an innocent action like crossdressing won't be able to live a normal life without prejudice
@@BioUmano nobody needs to "accept" anything. Crossdresser are free to crossdress, and some people is free not like it. I also don't like people who don't wash, and I also don't need to accept it.
@@MrPakurfulo The problem of acceptance exist in the instance of work space, public space, discrimination etc. Do you really think that people care what others accept or not, but personal opinion mustn't translate into lack of freedom. Maybe for you there isn't any problem and people can crossdress as much as they want, but for many commenters, if they'd have the possibility, they'd happily make disappear crossdresser from society, obligating them to hide and not do it in public etc.
You are travelling in a time wave, your destination is determined by your mind waves, create positive waves as per your life goal which takes you to desired environment. Be happy on your travel, life is all about memories and experience. 😃 Have a Nice day 😊😄
I am a man who lives as a woman. It took courage to overcome the fear of getting out there and do normal things like buy groceries. My parents accepted me in front of me but behind my back not so much. They complained that I was isolating myself from the family, yet I am always making attempts to reach out. Tomorrow they are coming to visit again. And I will proudly receive them as my guests with my purple nails and in my tasteful dress.
I congratulate you for keeping your masculine identity no matter how you present yourself. I am also a man who presents like a woman with my bust, long hair, and dresses. John
Thank you for sharing your story and a portion of your personal life . It takes a LOT of courage to share your truth, your growth in a world where people love to be critics . Mastering yourself is huge . Empowering others to stand up for the less popular opinion is huge . Again, thank you for educating and teaching people that thought processes are out dated and ‘maybe’ we can learn a few things if we just listen instead of talking , and allow people to be their true selves as long as it doesn’t hurt anyone .
I can't believe how important this is and how much this has so incredibly and drastically changed my life, I'm so glad we are finally getting to the things that *really* matter in life. So, so incredibly thankful for this massive step forward in human evolution. I can't imagine life without it. Just simply wonderful. This is so much more relevant than making life multiplanetary, fighting climate change, or anything else really. So happy this is here for us to learn from and change our lives. Simply wonderful. Cannot speak highly enough of it.
@@phantomblue523 what attitude? I'm clearly being very genuine and happy to have learned this. I'm blown away. This has changed my entire outlook on the universe. Without this ted talk, I'm not sure life would still be worth living. This is simply earth shattering. Simply wonderful
@@phantomblue523 so glad we see eye to eye on this. We need to take this message now to the entire world. Climate change accords need to pause, Mars can wait, technology must halt... this must be discussed and witnessed by everyone. We must begin now, for our future as a species now depends on this
@@claudiaxander “well congratulations, seeing me can be very great, its the truth” very great.” - Donald j Trump. or me idk whatever. Also i hope chuck has a great life, i will make jokes tho.
To savannah thank you for your interesting talk having discussed this with my lady friend she went out and purchased both of your books look forward to reading them thank you for your courage your bravery an intestinal fortitude and bringing something that is an all cross dressers that needs to be brought into the open and accepting not something that is a abolishment to be Stuffed pigeonholed and leading to Abyss of depression. Thank you again
Thank you so much for your comment and compliment. Knowing how dire our existence can be without support and visible individuals to model after, it warms my heart that the talk resonated with you. Thank you, Maryjayne, so much.
It’s okay. I read through all of the comments in order to better understand the opposition’s philosophies... and to applaud those brave enough to be allies and defenders.
@@foxphoenixpodcast Hi!! None of the negativity here takes away from your achievements and you deserve to be seen and heard. As someone who dreams about giving a ted talk one day, you are truly an inspiration! Thank you for giving this ted talk and creating a space for dialogue on these topics. I wish more people would be more open-minded to simply listen without hate!
I Love Your Story and Testimony, as I Still (In my Mid-60's) am partially in "The Closet". I went thru and experienced the same emotional Sense of Shame, Scecrecy and Fear of being Judged by the "Norms" that Society has dictated for What, How, Why, etc., We should Live.
My problem is that we would rather encourage these useless antics than encourage them to get help for their deep seated psychological issues that may be contributing.
I'm so glad you're vastly educated in mental health enough to take to the youtube comment section and right this wrong. What would we do without your heroic honesty?
@@phantomblue523 right??? So many highly educated PhDs seem to have found their way to this video - it's like a miracle from heaven. No, but in a seriousness: it's sad how so many people classify Chuck's/Savannah's story as a mental illness, just because they don't get it. And I don't really get why tbh, but the fact that people still won't accept what they don't understand.
I, as a man who has been on estrogen and have developed a feminine appearance including a bust, wear dresses, and have hair beyond my shoulders. I retain my masculine name and gender designation as a male. I guess I have been very fortunate in that I have never been hassled or threatened. I am an active member of a Bible believing church and sing second bass in my church choir. I live in the Dallas-Fort Worth area. John
I sense a deep anger and unresolved fear in Savannah: from the lack of acceptance given by his/her parents, which is projected towards society at large. Absolutey, we as a society should learn to be more accepting, and see the common humanity of all people, and that they are worthy of respect and love, no matter if they are man, women, both, neither, or some shade of both. Absolutely. But at the same time, I deeply sense Savannah is here because, unable to find love and acceptance from his/her own parents, they are now on a misguided crusade to change the entire world instead. I deeply believe we attract the partners we deserve and believe. If there is a part of us that cannot accept our own cross dressing, for example, we will also attract a partner who does not accept this part of us. I can only imagine the pain it must have been to go through not one but two long term relationships ending due to this. When in many perspective, there was no need to get into a relationship with someone who cannot accept this important aspect of you in the first place. There are many wonderful people out there who would love him/her just as they are. I humbly submit before Savannah, to perhaps turn and find the courage to speak to his/her parents. Then, no matter their respones, to keep your heart open to communicaiton and love; and find your crowd and people. Continue to nudge the world closer to acceptance and love, absolutely. But we must also not hide from the shadows and demons of our childhood/generational trauma, for it is often there that we find the true resolution and longing we seek. As a wise psychologist (I apologize I can't remember who) said: "Often the people who can provide us with the deepest and most profound healing, are the very people we resist and avoid." But regardless, I wish you well Savannah, and you are a beautiful human being.
High rates of male suicide are worth tackling and as gender identity issues have often been linked with suicide I think there's a good argument for this being discussed...
Nobody said these are the "really important questions in life" but clearly they are important topics to some people's lives...But you knew that...right?
There are many who can love and accept what you are saying and doing. Clothes are harmless expression of inner experience. Expression of our inner word in the outer world is important. You are compelled, keep going, find the purpose, I believe it is to help others. We must make a better, more loving world.
Thank you for the kind words. And, you are right. Displaying our gender identity through clothing is a harmless, yet a powerful way of expression. I look forward to a more accepting and loving world.
No, it isn’t. What you’re commenting is what happens when YOU neglect deeply rooted psychological issues. Casting assumptions, commenting on something you clearly haven’t found the time to truly learn about- THAT is your own problem. Savannah is brave, mentally sound, and one of the most beautiful human beings I’ve ever had the pleasure of knowing. She spoke exactly about people like you- people who cast assumptions. She is specifically trying to demystify the ignorance around how people assume this is a “fetish”, a “psychological issue”, a “problem”…to try and educate individuals like yourself who aren’t open minded to the fact that just because someone doesn’t fit into what YOU believe is “normal”, does NOT mean she or any other beautiful human being who cross dresses has a “psychological issue”. You could have skipped this video entirely. You could have not commented at all. Instead, you chose to leave a comment regarding this brave woman’s mental state- and I can’t stress enough how much more that says about you than about Savannah. Educate. Research. Learn. Hear people’s stories. And for the love of all that is holy- please do not go around accusing someone who doesn’t fit into your “box” of what is considered normal as having a “deeply rooted psychological issue”. I hope one day you learn to love and accept those who are different from you without casting rude assumptions regarding their mental state. Truly. And that’s all I have to say to people like you.
I am not against crossdressing I am also not in favour of crossdressing . If crossdressing sets ur soul free then do it . If it hurt u deep down ... Then avoid it .
Says a LOT of people, usually (but not always) on the old side, in every generation ever. Try something new for once: perspective. And you will see that your comment is ridiculously biased and unfounded.
it's probably more the behavior. You see the vast majority of people using the internet and leaving comments like this still remember the 90's. Grunge and Punk resulted in dresses for everybody in defiance of social norms. So when people like this man start asking for special consideration decades later, they tend to be judged on a bit more than clothing choice. In this case the glaring list of red flags suggesting this man is extremely mentally disturbed.
It's not just clothes. She, or should I say he, created an entire another identity with its own name. It's not offending, no, I'm all for it when someone wants to express themselves in a uncommon for gender norms way, but I'm definitely against encouraging psychological issues, especially on a TED talk. Disappointed. Crossdressing is art, creating identities is not.
@@merey7695 what type of disorder is this? Because he definitely doesn't have multiple personalities or DID, he just doesn't have a traditional identity, changing your name and clothes isn't a mental issue, it's a conscious choice
Exactly right! If one does no harm to themselves or others, why is fabric and the way it is sew together into a specific garment so off-putting? Love your comment.
this whole crossdress/trans issue is an absolute smack to the face for womens rights lmao. to think a man can just declare himself a woman now, im sure the suffragettes are rolling in their graves
Thank you so much for doing this. I've purchased and read your book as well. You echo my thoughts and feelings so closely. I too grew up in the 70s and 80s and although no one except my wife knows, I'm OK with that. She still loves me for who I am and I'm so grateful for that. I love to hear you speak. If ever we could meet, that would be a pleasure. Keep up the great work.
Thank you for your kind words. Yes, having a system of love and support is so so validating and important for a healthy and thriving existence. Thank you for supporting my efforts as well. If you ever make it to a conference or travel to the southeastern USA, let me know! xoxo
@@elsewherehouse try looking for group in your local area that support lgbtq and/or trans issues and community. Otherwise, maybe give the “Living with Crossdressing” book series a read. You can also reach to me through social media for more details.
Great talk! Thanks for sharing. I learned some things, not to mention this is an enjoyable listen. You're a storyteller and a speaker. You're courageous. You're beautiful. You're strong af. Wonderful job. Brava! (Oh, and now I know my cross-dressing name is Woody John Cabbot! lol)
@@SIC-SEMPER-TYRANNIS Is that the only response you have? You took time to harasss this poor man...but you can't even justify it with a reason? Are you just harsh for no reason? Did u come into this Earth just to be a happiness leech for other people? Do u really have a good enough reason as to why that man shouldn't dress however he likes? Why do u assume that there's something wrong with him if he likes womens clothing?
This sounds very similar to people that LARP, cos play, or do reenactments... he's just playing. He's using a character to facilitate that. Same thing. It's not that unusual, people just have attachments to their assumed gender roles so this bothers those people. Let it go man. We made up gender roles -we can change them.
@@mariebourgot4949 Maybe the kids should listen-. "In the United States today, there is a pervasive tendency to treat children as adults, and adults as children. The options of children are thus steadily expanded, while those of adults are progressively constricted. The result is unruly children and childish adults." -Thomas Szasz
Your courage is to be admired, you are a role model for I suspect, 100s of 1000s of people, at the very least, across this country. Even more globally.
Yea there are clear scriptural rules against this exact thing Theres a verse specifically talking about men not dressing in women's apparel. As a Christian its you're responsibility to stand up against wrong
@@phantomblue523 I disagree completely. As a christian you're commanded to stand against wrong. This is wrong and regardless of how people feel about me I'll continue to say it.
I really wonder, always, how can you just entitle yourself into deciding what people can't and can do in their own freedom, it just shocks me how the concept of innocent freedom is so simple, yet so misunderstood.
Thank you for sharing. I found it really interesting when you were talking about your childhood. Since you don't like conflict, I wonder if you internalized your parent's criticism of your neighbor and took on that role to psychologically ally yourself with him so you could find some level of control and/or say against those feelings of rejection?
That's too much drama for nothing... You don't need to be dressed like a woman to go to the supermarket, just go dressed like a normal men and wear whatever you want at home if you are afraid... I don't understand the problem here...
@@savannahhauk3359 I'd like to believe that we 1% of the population but it just doesn't ring true. 1% of us are out and saying "this is me" that if understand. We need not alter any aspect of "civilisation" to allow gender expression. A touch of education is all that is needed. And everyone benefits from education.
Very good talk . Im a crossdresser from New Zealand ive kept it secret and hidden for all my life im 50 in January its a long tomr to kep it a secret . Told my wife she said she accepts it and understands it but strugles with it i understand that its a big thing to tell her . She even said we have go buy dresses for you i was so happy . But now i have to hide in the house im not alowed ouside incase the neighbors see . It feels like im back to square one again . I want to walk up a strett dressed up buy clothes etc dont think its goingvto happen unless i sneak out and do it
It is sad that underneath a video about acceptance and inclusiveness, you guys feel the need to be rude and to tell people what they can and can't do in their own body
@@insaneExtrapilot do you genuinely think s/he doesn't know what they look like... and needs you to point that out? Clearly they go places and do things as Chuck, and if they felt the need to lose weight they would do so.
Ted talks are for these people now huh? He needs therapy, not spreading his "excuses". Where are the scientists, engineers, psychologists, artists, war veterans, monks, and teachers?
They are in another videos, so just click on one of these? Why wasting your time on commenting on a video of which you already could have guessed the content of? From this behaviour alone I doubt your mental capacity to understand an engineer's video tbh.....
I male, straight and gender non conforming. To some I am a crossdresser, but I'm GNC. I try to get out in my styles and looks, and am one that thinks gender rules limits and stereotypes are a key to the gender issues we are dealing with today. The moment "crossdressing" is destigmatized. The better.
thank you for not disabling comments
17-year old south-african boy here👋🏽. For a while now, I've wanted to experiment with feminine clothing as a form of expression, and I've felt so insecure about it, like I'm just a weird creep who isn't supposed to exist. I've felt so alone. It's so relieving seeing a video like this. It just reminds me that just there's always someone out there in the world who gets you, and that often, many people are staved of this because of now close-minded the world is. And I really love that he still chooses to live his truth in spite of the judgement. He's more of a man than any "real man" will ever be.
Thank you for the courage to share your story and for finding a kindred spirit which makes you feel less alone.
You're getting misled
Quite honestly, this sounds like some deep seated psychological issues that are not being dealt with.
Yes, absolutely agree
It’s called rejection. I don’t understand it, so I’m glad I have an open mind and learned more, but not enough. However, just because I don’t understand it, doesn’t mean I think it’s a psychological affliction. Savanah is open and brave. Chuck is even braver.
Ok Norm Trooper.
Normal doesn't exist.
@@ZennExile
I’m aware of the DSM V. I used to work in behavioral health. It takes more than 20 minutes to diagnose a mental illness.
@@ZennExile keyword: “non-professional” lol this isn’t your lane to speak on
It’s so interesting that people are commenting about savanah/chuck’s mental health. People who shame others are usually projecting or using a defense mechanism called reaction formation or displacement. People who use these need to put more of their efforts into their mental health. Also, I see people discussing the diagnostic manual for mental disorders. Guess what, a diagnosis is only made when the symptoms are affecting a person’s day-to-day life. Chuck/Savannah sound like they are living fulfilling lives. Finally, I see people discussing fetishes. People who have fetishes, which savanah/chuck do not, are normal (as long as there is consent and it doesn’t affect their daily life).
PS I am a therapist.
well if you come out as trans at forty or fifty, this can affect many people. entire families destroyed, financial catastrophe,its a mess
Also, we can be BOTH coping and grateful/happy and still have mental health issues at the same time. It's not one of the other.
P.S. I'm a therapist too ;)
I don't believe in using two names. Even though I have the appearance of a woman with my being on estrogen and wearing dresses, I don't have feminine name as I go with my real male name John.
I believe our Hetro Crossdressing community need to come out and let everyone know Savannah said and tell then how you really are which is normal ,caring human beings. Bravo Savannah for your speech.
It's a very fascinating community that doesn't get enough representation/respect and is bigger than most people who aren't part of it or know someone who is don't know much about.
I support the straight cd-s as transbi
You go, Savannah! I'm a girl and love a casual pair of jeans and a pair of flip flops, and 150 yrs ago, that would have been considered cross dressing. Now it's just a preference. You do you. 💜💛💚💙
Thank you! Thank you! and, thanks for pointing out the obvious unevenness of female-to-male fashion acceptance versus male-to-female fashion acceptance!
Women have been dressing as men for years.
Power suits. Pants and jackets in the workplace.
Society thinks nothing about it but God forbid If a man puts on a skirt or a dress.
If it helps your mental well-being so be it.
We have institutions for those deranged menthols
@@Terra-Incognlta And we're suposed to have schools for the uneducated, prejudiced and biased like you, but here we are.
@@mariebourgot4949 Very sadly in schools whom priorities should be to taught qualities like:
Critical rational THINKING, Using brain instead of the emotions, Practical skill, Inteligence, preparing students to take care of themselfs instead of relying on the goverment.
But no. They're using taxpayer's money to spread leftist propaganda and produce useless dumbasses
@@Terra-Incognlta now you want to politicise it.
It just clothing not changing biology.
You probably think pink is for girls and blue is for boys.
Right!
As a Trans woman , it strikes me how similar our experiences are. Different expressions of our gender identities yet the same experiences. Thank you for this.
🤣
Thank you for the positive comment!
Your courage, to be yourself despite the sometimes harsh world we live in, is an inspiration! Your books are full of wisdom and have helped me, and many others, to better understand ourselves! Thank you Savannah!
Meh
Glad to be of service to you and to the community in whatever way I can. xoxo
This poor person is referring to themselves as 2 different people Savanah and chuck. Two people/personalities in 1 body. Half way through, but it sounds like they need some counseling
I know this can be confusing. I study a lot of people who are different than me. Savannah and Chuck dont think of themselves literally as two different people, but just two different representations of the same person, in female and male form. Some genderfluid or non-binary people instead choose a more gender neutral name, for simplicity, while others choose separate names... Often because they do not want to expose one side of their personality, the side that runs contrary to what society accepts, to their normal life, for fear of ridicule, loosing friends, etc.... But they dont literally see themselves as two different people. When this person talks about not sharing Savannah's accomplishments with their parents, they simply mean that they cant talk to their parents about experiences they had as Savannah, without exposing their double life, and facing ridicule from their parents. There is so many diverse types of people in this world. People like savannah/Chuck, people with autism, and other things that cause them to see the world very differently. You can find videos and information online to help see many different types of people in a new light.
@@sleeperawaken36 So there is hope there are still some normal parents who will try to lead their children and reject their wicked brhaviour if necessary
@@sleeperawaken36I am the same: Miss Rachel has many accomplishments that C does not have and vice a versa.
I find it interesting that you chose to create a new persona for your femininity rather than call it your own. Are you truly accepting of it or are you distancing yourself further?
You're asking the right questions.
In my opinion, creating a new persona for it might just be a part of the fun of crossdressing. And to go against your second sentence, I think that it can both allow one from being closer to themselves or not, because they can ditch an identity they don't want at the moment and pick up their femininity, especially without feeling weird to be a "Chuck he/him" while wearing a bodycon dress and heels. For me, personally, I don't like it; I'll go out in a skirt and prefer to be she/her and the next day go out in high top Vans and a battle jacket and for preferences, well I don't really care then, but my point is it's possible for it to be just more comfortable that way.
a name is just a name, and Identity is never stagnant. Language is only a tool. The importance of your birth name is yours to decide.
This is a very good question, but I cant help but feel Savannah is finding herself along about this video. Hugs and love to Savannah and Chuck. I can relate to a drive within that creates a mind catalyst for others. It is not easy to integrate with such existing judgments. But we all change with the help of expressive people like this. Hugs and love to all.
@@katrinathekitchenI am always a he however I find great peace being a she occasionally.
A great TEDx talk!
It's a topic that really needs to be normalized.
Which is REALLY hard to do in North America.
Thank you ! We are taking baby steps !
Yeah tbh
A woman or a man is not a costume.
niiice.
But I’d argue clothes, makeup, hairstyle are a costume
Of course it is
So when you get up and get dressed in the morning your putting a coustume on ?
Input this to you when a women wheres mens clothes its considerd trendy but when a man wheres womens clothes its the worst thing out double standereds a .
Crossdressing is not costume dressing .@@VinegarPotato
Savannah, you are so beautiful. So amazing. I’m so incredibly proud of you for shining a light and speaking up on something that so many people constantly misunderstand. You are nothing short of amazing. Your entire talk is touching so many lives. The negative comments are from people who simply don’t understand- choose not to understand- and I feel sorry for them. You are an astounding person, Savannah- and this talk was amazing. I’m so touched by your words. Thank you so much for having the courage to speak up and tell your story- and the story of so many others, since so many others are just like you- in order to bring awareness to the cross dressing experience and many other experiences. You’re an astounding human being and a true inspiration for so many, including me. Thank you so much for sharing your story. We have so much love for you.
the fall of rome happened because of people like you
@@raiden2048 Your ignorance is showing, coward.
@@michywiz so is your delusional sense of moral superiority, hedonist
@@raiden2048 once again- your ignorance is showing. I feel so sorry for people like you who feel this burning need to comment hateful, horrible things rather than just walking away and saying nothing at all. It really speaks to who you are as a person- close minded, and scared of anything and anyone that doesn’t fit into your “box” of what is “normal”.
I hope one day you learn how to accept people who aren’t exactly like you, and that you begin to realize that beautiful individuals like Savannah impact you in *ZERO* way personally. Savannah is a human being. Trans folks are human beings. Crossdressing folks are human beings. Just like you. But will you ever understand that?
Clearly not. I do hope one day that you do, however, rather than going around spreading hate and being a bully.
I’m ending this conversation, because you’re just a person who is hiding behind a keyboard rather than spreading positivity in the world and this isn’t worth my time.
Check yourself. Goodbye.
@@raiden2048 Rome fell due to deeds and rulers far worse than anyone can imagine. The Caesars were terrible people.
I accidentally posted one of my crossdressed pictures on my register instagram once. I was high af 🤣 my family and my in-laws already know that I like to cross dress, but I haven’t told my cousins or army friends. The next morning when I realized I posted that picture I immediately deleted it, but I put out a story, saying yes that was me and it’s a hobby I like to do on my free time. And then the next story said if you have any questions at all, please feel free to ask any question I will answer, truthfully.
Thanks for sharing. Transparency about your authenticity is always important to you and helpful to others who are interested in learning more.
I want to thank you for putting this out. I have known a few cross dressers, but not wanting to hurt any feelings, I haven't known any of them well enough to ask sensitive questions that you have answered here today. I wish you the best. I am also STUNNED that you did this in SOUTH CAROLINA OF ALL PLACES. I've lived in a LOT of places, and this state (where I now live) is the cruelest, most judgemental, backwards, and narrow minded states of any that I have lived in. Amazing story that proves that if you can conceive it, you can achieve it. Thanks again.
I feel ya. As far as we've come as a society, I still can't reveal certain facts to my parents.
We have come far with normalcy and acceptance (in certain ways), while we are still indoctrinated and engrained with realistic fears of how we may be received due to how we physically express ourselves against a backdrop of stereotypical expectations of societal norms. Stay brave and positive!
@@savannahhauk3359I have a question
As a rich man born in a poor mans body, I get it! Please send money for only then will I feel accepted.
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😶😶😶😶😶 😂
You think you’re doing something here but you’re not.
Wow, repetition of a inane joke from 2018, what a great mind! Hardy-friggin-ha!
Hard to imagine how do you really feel, if you are reading comment section under this TEDx Savannah/Chuck. I'm always surprised in bad way, how many people are hateful against something odd, what doesn't fit to their world, but it is completely harmless to them. So I wish to you to find as much support you need, and ideally no hate against your personality. :)
I'm always surprised at the depths people will reach to call something "hateful".
I don't find this person "odd," or in need of support. (Except obviously as pertains to all Americans)
@Eugene Kendrick, perfect! I mean, c'mon! what's your problem? Quite clear it is eschizophrenia, at least: to say the least, he has splitted ID's.
Gender expression, as any social construct, is super diverse and doesn't have to be in a box. Loved it!
Very nice! This was great. Thanks Ted talk for sharing.
Thank you for your comment. i really do appreciate it.
I dress in mens clothing for months at a time and I am yet to receive my invitation to do a Ted talk.
Is there more to it than dresses and make up? That's not really 'womanhood', just the superficial parts. I don't know enough about this to judge it as a concept.
Savannah is an expression of Chuck's femininity not his womanhood.
@@frannyparkerful He could do that without giving himself a traditionally female name, using female pronouns and demanding access to female segregated spaces. So no, he's actually equating femininity with womanhood: same old misogynistic thinking, different century.
@@exiledeve i think the response he might find while dressed as 'Savanah' in a mens loo couod be very uncomfortable at the least and very dangerous at the worst. Also you cant speak to how different Savanah feels to Chuck, it might feel completely appropriate to Savanah.
I live in southeastern Louisiana so I know exactly where you're coming from. Luckily I'm only a half hour from New Orleans and love to express myself when I see my therapist whose not only supportive, but encouraging. I have a very small support bubble and it's nice to have people who truly accept you for who you are. I've just crossed the threshold of the half century mark and just beginning to openly express my feminine desires which have been repressed for too long. Safe journeys Savannah and to all other explorers.
Seek help but some proper one which will cure you instead of encourage in wicked behaviour
Matthew Chapter 7 and Vs 2.
Praise God!
I am greatful to here this story, I know that I can be a safe place for anyone to be themselves around me. Regardless of the clothes they wear!
Pickup your brain from the ground and learn some critical thinking.
@@Terra-Incognlta Follow your own advice
Imagine being triggered by a guy wanting to dress feminine lool (LOOKIN AT YOU COMMENT SECTION)
Took the words out of my mouth! Thanks
What an incredibly brave person you are.
Thank you. We are all brave in our own ways.
@@savannahhauk3359 Not me, I would never be able to do what you did. I live in the dark, in secrecy, terrified and ashamed. Shunned by family and friends and alone with my humiliation. Perhaps my next life will be better. Thank you for taking the time to reply.
@@steveroberts728 We all find the spark of bravery for our authenticity in different ways and avenues. How I present to the world is not the only way to exist and thrive. Just need to find that sense of inner peace fro yourself.
✨WE LOVE U, SAVANNAH!✨
No no we don’t
I support you! I proudly identify as an ally, and invite others to be allies.
Until they try touching your kids. But, of course you don't have any. Thankfully. I pity this man's wife.
Best I can do is indifference fam
@@Paulthegoalie51 same here.
Thank you for your talk. I’ve kept my crossdressing hidden for 40 years, and I opened up to a few friends a couple weeks ago. I ended up spending the weekend wearing a skirt on a rafting trip. For years I’ve dealt with the anxiety and mental strife that many of us face daily. I’ve spent thousands of dollars binging and purging female clothing. I fought my way through alcoholism and addiction, and I used to contemplate suicide daily. I’m not fixed, but I’m doing better today. Again, thank you.
Such a great talk. Especially for someone like me who aren't in that community at all. Still let's me learn and see the world from more perspectives. Helps me raise my boys right I think, to know how to educate them and support them how ever they may grow up.
Thank you Savannah, for being you
It's really cool to understand the difference between a crossdresser and a drag queen, its really clear
@@Terra-Incognlta everyone may need therapy, especially if you let yourself be affected by others choices
Well done Savannah, always nice to see and hear you.
You are also a beacon of positivity for community and enlightenment.
Well done Savannah. Here in the UK the scene is quite similar. I can recall going out in the centre of London and having a great time. Most of the places in thee 1970's were accepting and I had made many friends there. Denmark id also a good place, you can walk the streets of Copenhagen day or night and feel very welcome. If you get the chance, come on over to England, you will be very welcome !
As a Straight Male Transvestic Fetishist Who wears Women's Footwear, especially High Heels. I would Love to live in London, or where You found the Courage to be Truly Yourself to the Other Non-judgemental Side of the World. I just want to wear The Footwear of my choice, but Not Of The "Norm".💯👠
It's lovely to see the face and voice behind the books. I love your story and it resonates with me as a TGirl only out since June 2020. Why is it so hard to be accepted as yourself? I've identified mainly female all my life and love my days out as a woman but have to live my life mainly as a man because of things... Keep up the good work Savannah, you have a British fan, living in Spain x
Thank you so much for your kind words and endorsement for the "Living with Crossdressing" book series. I'm thrilled to have a Spain-residing, British-bred fan!!
Very helpful for me to hear your story. I commend you. You are taking this huge risk by being your true self. It is difficult to see someone struggle with imposed shame, guilt and insecurity. You go girl !
Excellent. I am so very glad to be of help and service. Everyone dealing with imposed shame (of any kind) deserve to live a life out from under its yoke.
Do what you want to do homie. Supposedly it's a free country.
@XORRE Projecting your insecurities on others is actually worse for yourself in the long run. You should get help instead of ignoring your own issues and blaming them on others. Sorry to be blunt.
@XORRE when people are told they are wrong and/or weird, they don't accept your prescription and suddenly change...in fact, they are prone to dig their heels further into their beliefs and go harder for their cause. The same way a stranger on the internet telling me how I should see/approach a crossdresser doesn't move me. It's a time honored terrible tactic and I'd rather play chess in a checker playing culture.
If this dude wants to go out looking like Janet Reno evey day in this country, he should be able to say and do what he wants by the rights afforded in the constitution- as long as he doesn't hurt anyone physically. But he is also not free from the consequences of people who believe his behavior is abnormal who may say or do what they are free to say or do what they want, as long as they don't physically HURT him in the process.
If I see it becomes somehow directly HARMFUL to me or mines- I'm in it with both fists. But until then, I been thru too much in life to expend my energy arguing.
Honest Q: How will this dude wanting to wear a dress in public make things "worse" for you or others?
@@ozgoodphotos right. The dude in consistent cognitive decline who prob has 6 months left to live is the antichrist to America.
Years ago, I befriended a guy who towed my car... So desperate for acceptance he confided that he loves to cross dress. I gave him some of my clothes. I'm so happy for him.
Bet you'd give a drunk a bottle of whisky...
You must be a very open minded and loving person on the outside, too, Betty. 🥰
@@jettsoma Enabling is the opposite of loving.
@@cheebawobanu Exactly, the pursuit of happiness is despicable. How dare anyone attempt to love themselves.
I am always surprised at how mean people can be.
My ex wife loves me as a crossdresser,if it wasn't she in my life,,I would have never embraced my feminity.
Embracing our truth--hopefully with the support of loved one--is so very important to our mental well-being and a healthy productive thriving existence on this earth.
There is no mysticism about it. There has always been effeminate straight men. No need to make a deal out of it. It's getting very boring.
All the comments shows how actually there is a big problem about it 😅
@@BioUmano I don't think so.
@@MrPakurfulo If so many people can't accept an innocent freedom of others, it means that there is a problem because this persons who want to do an innocent action like crossdressing won't be able to live a normal life without prejudice
@@BioUmano nobody needs to "accept" anything. Crossdresser are free to crossdress, and some people is free not like it. I also don't like people who don't wash, and I also don't need to accept it.
@@MrPakurfulo The problem of acceptance exist in the instance of work space, public space, discrimination etc.
Do you really think that people care what others accept or not, but personal opinion mustn't translate into lack of freedom.
Maybe for you there isn't any problem and people can crossdress as much as they want, but for many commenters, if they'd have the possibility, they'd happily make disappear crossdresser from society, obligating them to hide and not do it in public etc.
You are travelling in a time wave, your destination is determined by your mind waves, create positive waves as per your life goal which takes you to desired environment. Be happy on your travel, life is all about memories and experience. 😃 Have a Nice day 😊😄
Excellent presentation!!!
Thank you very much. I very much appreciate it.
I am a man who lives as a woman. It took courage to overcome the fear of getting out there and do normal things like buy groceries. My parents accepted me in front of me but behind my back not so much. They complained that I was isolating myself from the family, yet I am always making attempts to reach out. Tomorrow they are coming to visit again. And I will proudly receive them as my guests with my purple nails and in my tasteful dress.
I congratulate you for keeping your masculine identity no matter how you present yourself. I am also a man who presents like a woman with my bust, long hair, and dresses. John
Thank you for sharing your story and a portion of your personal life . It takes a LOT of courage to share your truth, your growth in a world where people love to be critics . Mastering yourself is huge . Empowering others to stand up for the less popular opinion is huge . Again, thank you for educating and teaching people that thought processes are out dated and ‘maybe’ we can learn a few things if we just listen instead of talking , and allow people to be their true selves as long as it doesn’t hurt anyone .
I can't believe how important this is and how much this has so incredibly and drastically changed my life, I'm so glad we are finally getting to the things that *really* matter in life. So, so incredibly thankful for this massive step forward in human evolution. I can't imagine life without it. Just simply wonderful. This is so much more relevant than making life multiplanetary, fighting climate change, or anything else really. So happy this is here for us to learn from and change our lives. Simply wonderful. Cannot speak highly enough of it.
@@phantomblue523 what attitude? I'm clearly being very genuine and happy to have learned this. I'm blown away. This has changed my entire outlook on the universe. Without this ted talk, I'm not sure life would still be worth living. This is simply earth shattering. Simply wonderful
@@phantomblue523 so glad we see eye to eye on this. We need to take this message now to the entire world. Climate change accords need to pause, Mars can wait, technology must halt... this must be discussed and witnessed by everyone. We must begin now, for our future as a species now depends on this
Sharing our own stories is "transformative": you experience now makes you a sronger and more confident individual.
Thank you for your wonderful and affirming comment.
“Under alllll this”
Nah chuck i see you.🤣
Hey insecure bully trying to feel power!
I see you!
@@claudiaxander “well congratulations, seeing me can be very great, its the truth” very great.” - Donald j Trump. or me idk whatever.
Also i hope chuck has a great life, i will make jokes tho.
🤣🤣
@XORRE In fact, bullies are. A confident person will never criticize someone not objectively. Not in all cases, of course.
@XORRE It depends on a case.
To savannah thank you for your interesting talk having discussed this with my lady friend she went out and purchased both of your books look forward to reading them thank you for your courage your bravery an intestinal fortitude and bringing something that is an all cross dressers that needs to be brought into the open and accepting not something that is a abolishment to be
Stuffed pigeonholed and leading to Abyss of depression. Thank you again
Thank you so much for your comment and compliment. Knowing how dire our existence can be without support and visible individuals to model after, it warms my heart that the talk resonated with you. Thank you, Maryjayne, so much.
So many of these comments are bigoted and full of hate. Smh.
It’s okay. I read through all of the comments in order to better understand the opposition’s philosophies... and to applaud those brave enough to be allies and defenders.
you hate women if you think this dude is a women
@@kingsalami80 He never even claimed to be trans you radfem nutter
@@foxphoenixpodcast Hi!! None of the negativity here takes away from your achievements and you deserve to be seen and heard. As someone who dreams about giving a ted talk one day, you are truly an inspiration! Thank you for giving this ted talk and creating a space for dialogue on these topics. I wish more people would be more open-minded to simply listen without hate!
I don't like how many toxic comments are posted here.
By "toxic" do you mean "factual"?
@@thebigdawgj : They mean obvious bigots like you.
I don't like how this toxic weirdness is shown on TED Talk
@@aylbdrmadison1051
How are facts bigoted exactly?
The comments are truly disturbing. I hope the man who gave the speech doesn't read them.
I Love Your Story and Testimony, as I Still (In my Mid-60's) am partially in "The Closet". I went thru and experienced the same emotional Sense of Shame, Scecrecy and Fear of being Judged by the "Norms" that Society has dictated for What, How, Why, etc., We should Live.
We absolutely should!
I dress fairly often and am the same age as you.
Thank you Savannah, go Girl
And Thanks Chuck, just go for it
🙏🏼❤️🙏🏼
I highly doubt the people in the comment sections would be complaining if it was a woman wearng male clothing, typical anti-male double standards.
A woman wearing male cloths is typically associated with the term Tomboy. What double standard are you talking about?
"male" clothes are considered to be neutral though. Man is the default.
Ok , let's stop woman to dress like man but then feminst idiots will come and say it's her choice 😂
My problem is that we would rather encourage these useless antics than encourage them to get help for their deep seated psychological issues that may be contributing.
I'm so glad you're vastly educated in mental health enough to take to the youtube comment section and right this wrong. What would we do without your heroic honesty?
@@phantomblue523 right???
So many highly educated PhDs seem to have found their way to this video - it's like a miracle from heaven.
No, but in a seriousness: it's sad how so many people classify Chuck's/Savannah's story as a mental illness, just because they don't get it.
And I don't really get why tbh, but the fact that people still won't accept what they don't understand.
What psychological are issues would u say are behind crossdressing?
I, as a man who has been on estrogen and have developed a feminine appearance including a bust, wear dresses, and have hair beyond my shoulders. I retain my masculine name and gender designation as a male. I guess I have been very fortunate in that I have never been hassled or threatened. I am an active member of a Bible believing church and sing second bass in my church choir.
I live in the Dallas-Fort Worth area. John
I sense a deep anger and unresolved fear in Savannah: from the lack of acceptance given by his/her parents, which is projected towards society at large. Absolutey, we as a society should learn to be more accepting, and see the common humanity of all people, and that they are worthy of respect and love, no matter if they are man, women, both, neither, or some shade of both. Absolutely. But at the same time, I deeply sense Savannah is here because, unable to find love and acceptance from his/her own parents, they are now on a misguided crusade to change the entire world instead.
I deeply believe we attract the partners we deserve and believe. If there is a part of us that cannot accept our own cross dressing, for example, we will also attract a partner who does not accept this part of us. I can only imagine the pain it must have been to go through not one but two long term relationships ending due to this. When in many perspective, there was no need to get into a relationship with someone who cannot accept this important aspect of you in the first place. There are many wonderful people out there who would love him/her just as they are.
I humbly submit before Savannah, to perhaps turn and find the courage to speak to his/her parents. Then, no matter their respones, to keep your heart open to communicaiton and love; and find your crowd and people. Continue to nudge the world closer to acceptance and love, absolutely. But we must also not hide from the shadows and demons of our childhood/generational trauma, for it is often there that we find the true resolution and longing we seek.
As a wise psychologist (I apologize I can't remember who) said: "Often the people who can provide us with the deepest and most profound healing, are the very people we resist and avoid." But regardless, I wish you well Savannah, and you are a beautiful human being.
Deep stuff here. Maybe he just likes to wear a dress?
I am glad we are finally tackling the really important questions in life.
My sentiments exactly. Screw genocide and child trafficking.
@@melissagrosse1185 oorrrr, hear me out, do... BOTH :o
ironic?
High rates of male suicide are worth tackling and as gender identity issues have often been linked with suicide I think there's a good argument for this being discussed...
Nobody said these are the "really important questions in life" but clearly they are important topics to some people's lives...But you knew that...right?
An amazing talk Savannah, so well explained. Thank you x
Thank you for the positive comment
“So How did I get here?” *4chan and Reddit flashbacks*
There are many who can love and accept what you are saying and doing. Clothes are harmless expression of inner experience. Expression of our inner word in the outer world is important. You are compelled, keep going, find the purpose, I believe it is to help others. We must make a better, more loving world.
Thank you for the kind words. And, you are right. Displaying our gender identity through clothing is a harmless, yet a powerful way of expression. I look forward to a more accepting and loving world.
This is what happens when you neglect deeply rooted psychological issues.
Yes you are.
@@aylbdrmadison1051 you are
Bless your heart. How are you not knighted?
No, it isn’t. What you’re commenting is what happens when YOU neglect deeply rooted psychological issues. Casting assumptions, commenting on something you clearly haven’t found the time to truly learn about- THAT is your own problem. Savannah is brave, mentally sound, and one of the most beautiful human beings I’ve ever had the pleasure of knowing. She spoke exactly about people like you- people who cast assumptions. She is specifically trying to demystify the ignorance around how people assume this is a “fetish”, a “psychological issue”, a “problem”…to try and educate individuals like yourself who aren’t open minded to the fact that just because someone doesn’t fit into what YOU believe is “normal”, does NOT mean she or any other beautiful human being who cross dresses has a “psychological issue”.
You could have skipped this video entirely. You could have not commented at all. Instead, you chose to leave a comment regarding this brave woman’s mental state- and I can’t stress enough how much more that says about you than about Savannah.
Educate. Research. Learn. Hear people’s stories. And for the love of all that is holy- please do not go around accusing someone who doesn’t fit into your “box” of what is considered normal as having a “deeply rooted psychological issue”.
I hope one day you learn to love and accept those who are different from you without casting rude assumptions regarding their mental state. Truly. And that’s all I have to say to people like you.
@@michywiz Bro nobody wants to read your passive aggressive, whiny wall of text, regardless of if you're making a good point or not.
I am not against crossdressing
I am also not in favour of crossdressing .
If crossdressing sets ur soul free then do it .
If it hurt u deep down ... Then avoid it .
It should be strictly avoided no matter what. It is a very big deal and shouldn’t happen ever
Moral Decay Of Our Society.
Nope, that’s Boston. You are 2nd.
@@nopenada2610 Nope. It's the deranged Left.
More than that,this a societal insanity😎
Says a LOT of people, usually (but not always) on the old side, in every generation ever. Try something new for once: perspective. And you will see that your comment is ridiculously biased and unfounded.
@@mariebourgot4949 my position can't be more biased than yours,slimeball 😎
It's so funny seeing people in the comments so scared and nervous because of some clothes
it's probably more the behavior. You see the vast majority of people using the internet and leaving comments like this still remember the 90's. Grunge and Punk resulted in dresses for everybody in defiance of social norms. So when people like this man start asking for special consideration decades later, they tend to be judged on a bit more than clothing choice. In this case the glaring list of red flags suggesting this man is extremely mentally disturbed.
Right!
It's not just clothes. She, or should I say he, created an entire another identity with its own name. It's not offending, no, I'm all for it when someone wants to express themselves in a uncommon for gender norms way, but I'm definitely against encouraging psychological issues, especially on a TED talk. Disappointed. Crossdressing is art, creating identities is not.
@@merey7695 what type of disorder is this? Because he definitely doesn't have multiple personalities or DID, he just doesn't have a traditional identity, changing your name and clothes isn't a mental issue, it's a conscious choice
@@ZennExile I don't see any red flag, what are you talking about?
I am a femme fatale kinda woman. I love fashion, make up and being feminine....I never obsessed over my mothers high heels. NEVER!
We’re just this abundant of a society that fabric* can have this much depth. But any who , if it harms none ,do as you will.
Exactly right! If one does no harm to themselves or others, why is fabric and the way it is sew together into a specific garment so off-putting? Love your comment.
Thank you that was amazing!
Thank you so much!
What a powerful speaker. So glad I listened.
You are so kind to offer your words of support. I am happy to have left a positive impression.
this whole crossdress/trans issue is an absolute smack to the face for womens rights lmao. to think a man can just declare himself a woman now, im sure the suffragettes are rolling in their graves
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He is a man.
Bruh it's not the same
@@bwmanhath3770 they are both not Christ like therefore they are the same to me
@@zayt.t3047 whether they pretend to be a woman for 20 minutes or 20 years doesn’t make a different to me. It should be opposed.
@@raiden2048 so it doesn’t make a difference to you, but you insist it must be opposed?? What?
Who hurt you?
Thank you so much for doing this. I've purchased and read your book as well. You echo my thoughts and feelings so closely. I too grew up in the 70s and 80s and although no one except my wife knows, I'm OK with that. She still loves me for who I am and I'm so grateful for that. I love to hear you speak. If ever we could meet, that would be a pleasure. Keep up the great work.
Thank you for your kind words. Yes, having a system of love and support is so so validating and important for a healthy and thriving existence. Thank you for supporting my efforts as well. If you ever make it to a conference or travel to the southeastern USA, let me know! xoxo
this is a pretty cool tedx talk
I’m a proud cross dresser 👗 my family and friends knows I cross dress 😁
Very happy to hear you have a good support system.
Nothing to be proud of at all
Thank you Savannah! You are inspirational !
You are so very welcome. I hope I can inspire others so they can, in turn, inspire others.
@@savannahhauk3359 can you suggest any resources to help "beginners"?
@@elsewherehouse try looking for group in your local area that support lgbtq and/or trans issues and community. Otherwise, maybe give the “Living with Crossdressing” book series a read. You can also reach to me through social media for more details.
I'm here for the comments
That was very meaningful and I fully support you. Thanks so much for sharing! 😊
Thank YOU for your positive and supportive comment.
Great talk! Thanks for sharing. I learned some things, not to mention this is an enjoyable listen. You're a storyteller and a speaker. You're courageous. You're beautiful. You're strong af. Wonderful job. Brava! (Oh, and now I know my cross-dressing name is Woody John Cabbot! lol)
@@jonoharper4729 no one was looking at you, boo
This is a sign of severe psychological issues requiring professional treatment.
How, exactly?
Severe psychological issues such as?
@@abbliee5439 ,you.
@@SIC-SEMPER-TYRANNIS Is that the only response you have? You took time to harasss this poor man...but you can't even justify it with a reason? Are you just harsh for no reason? Did u come into this Earth just to be a happiness leech for other people?
Do u really have a good enough reason as to why that man shouldn't dress however he likes?
Why do u assume that there's something wrong with him if he likes womens clothing?
@@abbliee5439autism. It needs a cure
Thank you for being brave enough to share your story Savannah 💗 love your shoes.
Well done!
Thank you so very much!
This sounds very similar to people that LARP, cos play, or do reenactments... he's just playing. He's using a character to facilitate that. Same thing. It's not that unusual, people just have attachments to their assumed gender roles so this bothers those people. Let it go man. We made up gender roles -we can change them.
Gender role of both genders is to use brain. Which you failed miserably in it seems
Internal gender identity never changes.
Since when is tedtalk so progressive?, ideological manipulation of everything that gives
Your dogma is not science.
You support anti-male double standards, you are the exact image of the progressives you claim to hate.
@@phantomblue523 Not really?
This generation is so doomed, its not even funny.
which generation?
Says every older generation to the younger one since antiquity.
@@mariebourgot4949 Maybe the kids should listen-. "In the United States today, there is a pervasive tendency to treat children as adults, and adults as children. The options of children are thus steadily expanded, while those of adults are progressively constricted. The result is unruly children and childish adults." -Thomas Szasz
@@vmark26 Which ever generation grows up with these fruitcake ideas as the norm.
@@KrunoslavStifter Why do you care about what some random person wears?
Your courage is to be admired, you are a role model for I suspect, 100s of 1000s of people, at the very least, across this country. Even more globally.
Thank you for your kind words. I hope my words can help at least one person.
Why is he not mentioning that it’s a fetish to him. AGP.
a good indication that it isn't
Thanks for this. And yes it's time for us to be more visible. I willing to stand up and start doing that.
Thank you! each person who stands up with confidence can affect so many others in a positive way.
I am a Christian so I do not agree with this kind of lifestyle, but I will never make anyone feel bad for how they feel. God bless you Savannah 🙏🕊️👸🌹
How about loving them enough to tell them the truth? You know, like Jesus did?
Yea there are clear scriptural rules against this exact thing
Theres a verse specifically talking about men not dressing in women's apparel.
As a Christian its you're responsibility to stand up against wrong
Then you should feel no need to comment. Keep your "biblical" opinions to yourself. God bless you too.
@@phantomblue523 I disagree completely. As a christian you're commanded to stand against wrong.
This is wrong and regardless of how people feel about me I'll continue to say it.
@@codyleslie478 The same verse also takes about women not dressing in men's apparel but that seems to be forgotten strangely enough
Well darn. I was just down the road in Greenville. I could have had coffee with you. Hang in there.
Well... let me know when !!
@@foxphoenixpodcast I would love to but we moved away from there :( we might be back in a few years though ha ha.
@@fashionforwardfellow oh well! Stay amazing!
Stop trying to normalize this
Wow
This society is getting scary 😟
No, you're just scared. Not all fear are rational.
@@mariebourgot4949 ^^
Normalize history and science lessons... Its far more normal than you think... Its been around a lot longer than you have...
society is composed of shared myths, nothing is normal
@@CreepX You have your own leftist history or science ?
Humanity is lost at this point
If anyone from TED is reading this, I apologize for all the ignorance and bigotry in the comments
Yes, the people who support this cross dressing guy are very intolerant and bigoted against those who don't.
You should be apologizing for your brainlessness and contrìbuting to societal decay.
@@Rahbinah Misandry shouldn't be tolerated
Nah! You know who too was a crossdresser? The villain in Silence of the lambs. So no, we're not gonna go along with these disorders and nonsense.
@@catholicfran >i get my views from a movie
Confirmed brainlet
Man. That's a great talk. That last minute hit me like a tonne of bricks. You are amazing.
I really wonder, always, how can you just entitle yourself into deciding what people can't and can do in their own freedom, it just shocks me how the concept of innocent freedom is so simple, yet so misunderstood.
Look up musterbation.
Thanks
Thank you for sharing. I found it really interesting when you were talking about your childhood. Since you don't like conflict, I wonder if you internalized your parent's criticism of your neighbor and took on that role to psychologically ally yourself with him so you could find some level of control and/or say against those feelings of rejection?
That's too much drama for nothing... You don't need to be dressed like a woman to go to the supermarket, just go dressed like a normal men and wear whatever you want at home if you are afraid... I don't understand the problem here...
Bruh the point was that they want change, and that can only be achieved if they sometimes don’t choose to hide their identity for safety.
They want to show the society how weird they are..lol
No one is normal including you
you made me cry
Thank you. That is very sweet to say as I was a bit choked up at the end of the talk myself. Especially when talking about my parents.
@@savannahhauk3359 I'd like to believe that we 1% of the population but it just doesn't ring true. 1% of us are out and saying "this is me" that if understand. We need not alter any aspect of "civilisation" to allow gender expression. A touch of education is all that is needed. And everyone benefits from education.
@@burningbothbinaries9889 So true.
Very good talk .
Im a crossdresser from New Zealand ive kept it secret and hidden for all my life im 50 in January its a long tomr to kep it a secret .
Told my wife she said she accepts it and understands it but strugles with it i understand that its a big thing to tell her .
She even said we have go buy dresses for you i was so happy .
But now i have to hide in the house im not alowed ouside incase the neighbors see .
It feels like im back to square one again .
I want to walk up a strett dressed up buy clothes etc dont think its goingvto happen unless i sneak out and do it
thank you for that talk, savannah!
If your gonna cross dress,,,,, pick out a dress more flattering.
It's quite elegant to me. 🤔
Either that, Savanah needs to tell Chuck to hit the gym
It is sad that underneath a video about acceptance and inclusiveness, you guys feel the need to be rude and to tell people what they can and can't do in their own body
@@Cora.T he acts like he can't hit the gym, I'm just letting the speaker know that he *can* hit the gym.
@@insaneExtrapilot do you genuinely think s/he doesn't know what they look like... and needs you to point that out? Clearly they go places and do things as Chuck, and if they felt the need to lose weight they would do so.
Ted talks are for these people now huh? He needs therapy, not spreading his "excuses".
Where are the scientists, engineers, psychologists, artists, war veterans, monks, and teachers?
They are in another videos, so just click on one of these?
Why wasting your time on commenting on a video of which you already could have guessed the content of?
From this behaviour alone I doubt your mental capacity to understand an engineer's video tbh.....
Why does he need therapy?