I also have a fear/distrust of men. I completely understand that it's not all men, and that there are many men that are great. I know good men, I know they're out there. But the thing is, I don't know WHICH men are good or bad. If I talk to a male stranger/acquaintance , I cannot know if they have good or bad intentions. This is why it's so hard to get out of the mindset, because it's just so hard to know which ones are the good/bad ones. Of course there are also good/bad women, but because I am a woman I am less scared of them. Our physical capabilities are similar and I would be able to defend myself if something happened. If a man attacked me, I would almost certainly not be able to defend myself, which makes my fear of men grow larger.
I don't believe you have to let your guard down with people immediately, I think it is extremely healthy and safe to be guarded around strangers. I was talking more about men that you already know, that you have known for a while. I wouldn't ever encourage you to let down your guard with strangers.
Best defense is evasion is someone attacks you unprovoked they are very likely gonna have a weapon which the best defense against a weapon being running
I am a lifetime sufferer of male on female violence! Never met one bloke who wasn't an abusive bully n I'm now 48 year old! Not likely now as my trust is zero towards most men now and I feel safe wen I'm nowhere near a bloke who cud attack me or try to sexually push himself on me which I HATE!
@@myrawest there was a video maker he is known as Greg Onision that jerk hurt many young females I caution so many never to make videos with that person he is a very bad man . I also have reported this to other channels Publishers Clearing House sells lies to people these scams have me not wanting to log into any dating websites out there because I don't trust them no way not ever now I'm not saying all date sites are bad I just won't go into any of them and that's it . those who are lonely as I often feel it's important to make efforts rather than always feeling depressed in your room crying about thinking and believing no person will ever love you . damn it I'm getting mysty eyes some days are unbearable for me . 😭
Wow you took the words out of my mind Thank you so much. People told me to see red flags..but even finding red flags is hard because people got smarter in hiding them. This information is to read for everyone on the internet so. No trust is left pf.f
I truly understand what you’re going through, and why you’ve felt the way you do. I have been traumatized in life and combatting my beliefs about men has become one of the biggest struggles in my life. It’s nice to see another girl who has gone through similar things, and has similar struggles. But you’re right that awareness is key. It’s so sad seeing people struggling with bitterness and having no idea that their perspective is desperately flawed. My deepest fear is becoming that person. Becoming so warped by bitterness and pain that I become completely blind to reality. It IS a lie. I don’t know that people -in general- are good.. but there is ALWAYS someone who is. Rather than looking outside of myself and feeling depressed about the world, I want to focus on me, and make me the best I can be. My pastor said something the other week that I thought was really great (he was talking about marriage). He said, “you want to make your marriage better? Draw a biiiiiiig circle around yourself- and then focus on that circle.” Thats my advice to men and women struggling with bitterness- there are good people everywhere. Stop looking around you and losing heart at the evil in the world. Focus on you, and on becoming kinder, and more gracious towards others.
Something that REALLY helps me is to make a physical list of the names of men (including celebrities) who you consider to be good men. A random example that comes to mind is Robert Irwin (Steve Irwin's son). He is just the purest, sweetest, kindest soul.... Men like him help me to believe that there are truly good men. So make a list!! And add to it as you meet more of them. And remember the list whenever you're feeling hopeless about men. Another list you can make is to write down whenever a man does something kind for you (like opening a door or smiling in a friendly way, or being respectful of gentlemanly in some way)
That’s a great quote! Our own anecdotal experiences shape our future a lot more we think. The key to freedom is letting go of that, but that is not an easy task at all
I have a lot of respect for people like you who are self aware, identify the problem in their POV of the world and are willing to rectify. I admire your willingness to change the opinion. Its hard to find that on the internet.
I think it was Socrates who said ,"The only thing I know is that I know nothing". As we get older the struggle is to free ourselves from the prison we have constructed for ourselves from our own biases and prejudices. One of the most freeing sentences I ever learned in my 40s was, "I don't know". You are certainly on the right path young lady. Never stop questioning and challenging per-conceptions and growing to be a more decent human being. peace from Australia.
as a middle aged guy I don't believe in "set in your ways" Not at all. Im constantly growing and learning. Life is hard and adversity changes you and challenges you to grow.
People become 'life-exhausted' and they just want comfort, keeping an open mind is uncomfortable on a deep level and it is definitely a skill that can be 'lost' and it is a muscle and should be exercised once in a while or it will atrophy.
Dear Frank James, you say you're middle aged? In your profile picture you look much younger.😀 And I bet you're feeling younger, too.👍 Myra says the majority of us was good. ‼️So let's hope that the two of us belong to this majority ! 🤔I would't like to get my bottom spanked by Myra for being a naughty boy. 🤭No, honesty, since I do what Myra recommends my life has become much better. 😆Aren't we lucky guys to have found her? 😍Lots of love and best wishes Wolfgang 😊👌
This is an INCREDIBLY mature observation and analysis. I'm only 26 and I've had similar thoughts before, but I've ever given it this level of depth of time to study. Very wise and very well explained. Will definitely be sharing this with some friends.
I feel bad that there was someone out there that hurt you, no one deserves to be hurt. I would like to say congrats to you for working out your feelings and becoming self-aware of those buried feelings, you are very brave to do that in front of such a big audience. I am not sure if I could do that myself but I imagine it has to be very liberating. That is an epiphany and an inspiration, so thank you for sharing that with us.
Thank you, honestly I am absolutely terrified. I've never been so scared to release a video. But thank you so much for the love. I appreciate you so much ♡
Good evening how you doing I thought just say that, I been following you on here for awhile now. I must say that I looks to me that you been hurt by a lot of evil people. You are not alone on that topic. I too been hurt by crazy women but I managed to over come incredible odds that lots of those women thought I could not! When actually they are the ones were probably not sure with themselves when it came to dating or being with high standard men! Men that value themselves highly so then can be accepted by society and still be fine. But please don't worry you will overcome your odds! I wanted to ask if we can be good friends maybe we can help each other on these matters!
Myra is so beautiful she deserves a GOOD man to treat her kindly .. I hope she can find one .. keep looking Myra .. many many GOOD men out there for ya :)
Something that I thought over that helped me with my bias against women as a man, is that women and men (despite what some people think) aren't two different species, they are people. People, no matter the gender, are all the best kinds of amazing and the worst types of horrible.
I was kinda reluctant to click on the video, but I'm glad I did, your points are very solid. I'm full of those subconscious beliefs too. I love women, but subconsciously I think I'm actually terrified of them, because that's how I felt when I was a kid. Btw, I'm watching your videos for quite some time. I can only say you are becoming wiser by the day,
You are fortunate to discover these things while you are young. I’m 47yo. What I have come to believe recently is that many of my beliefs are based on presumption. I believe that many people in this world presume to know something. But in reality, they are just regurgitating what they have been taught/told by others.
Yes!! I completely agree. People can feel so certain about something that actually don't know. I'm glad I know that, but it comes with a price, which is basically being in a constant state of overwhelm because you know you know nothing and most people know nothing but think they do
Even though i am a guy i grew up with a terrible step dad that treated me and my siblings like trash, i went through a faze of hating all men, i would treat every woman i met as a Angel, because my mum was a amazing person and took on a lot bringing us up after my Dad left, i started to believe all women were kind hearted and loving like my mum, i had to learn the hard way, and as ive got older i have learned to not look at the gender but the person inside
I've studied psych for a few years now and I think what you are going through is normal. Our environment plays a huge role in the way we develop, and our environment for those born around '95 - '00 was quite crazy growing up as we were born in a world that was just on the cusp of the most impactful social revolution of all time with the introduction of things like cell phones and the internet and were still able to live a relatively normal childhood because these things were still in their infancy and had very little impact on our lives compared to what they had in the years to come. People before us were too old to really understand it in the same way because they weren't conditioned to be accustomed to it, and people after us don't know what life is like without it. I believe people born in this "in between" time have the weight of the world on their shoulders because we can really see the intricacies of how this technology truly changed society in an unprecedented way. Anyways, my point is that this technology has caused people to have highly irrational beliefs about social expectations and these beliefs get validated and perpetuated through this technology which precipitates in all areas of life in the real world.
But why? I genuinely can't understand what's so great about men like I don't get it I've never met any good men in my life. I hate getting compliments from so I try to make them hate me so they won't find me attractive.
The unfortunate reality is that there are some really great men out in the world but for some horrible reason you have been confronted with mostly dirt-bags. Imagine how upside down your world would turn if you were to met a very great man whom you were attracted to in more way than one and him likewise towards you. It can happen but you must stand strong, continue to be patient and not lose hope. PS. You are such a wonderfully self-aware, intelligent, lovely woman with so much depth of character. Hope you accept this about yourself!
I believe it can happen! And the thing is, this year especially I have met so many truly amazing and good men! (The attraction part is just not there.) But I am hopeful for the future and preparing myself and OBVIOUSLY I have a lot of work to do on myself until then. Thanks so much for such an encouraging comment ♡
@@myrawest "I have met so many truly amazing and good men! (The attraction part is just not there.)" Because you are not attracted to nice men. And you are attracted to men that will dominate you and probably treat you bad. It's been proven over and over that women are only attracted to the top 20% of the most successful and attractive men. And more attracted to the Narcissistic type. And throw away nice men (you even said it yourself). Start giving those nice men a chance and you will find yourself in a wonderful relationship. The fact is you want the rich good looking guy that is outgoing and successful. But those guys have tons of options and since you're so quiet and reserved they will probably walk all over you and you'll end up just hating men more. You are single because you reject the good men. You have a limited window with your youth and attractiveness to find a great nice guy. Don't throw them away now and then when you are in your 40's be begging for them to take you.
@@VROOOOOOOOOOOOOOOM this is just shallow and presumptive. She has obviously done her research and is very aware of her flaws and is actively doing something to fix them. Attraction cannot be forced, it has to happen naturally and organically.
Men that say this have historically been the most emotionally abusive in my past, and most likely for others. Gaslighting is emotional abuse, and many women face it constantly. This comment shows how disconnected you are from the reality that women live in
i don't hate men. i just hate when they put down women, being so high and arrogant, boasting their ego, show how strong and logical they are. how they are better creatures than women. it's painful and hurtful actually, but they would be like "you're just being sensitive and can't take joke". that's when i start losing my interest and prefer to be alone.
Being a human is a really weird and bizarre thing, we all just have to do our best to improve the lives of ourselves and those around us. Keep doing what you gotta do in order to live as happily as you can!
As the saying goes: "a few bad apples ruin the whole bunch." I've been extremely lucky and privileged to have very good men and women in my life so far. I too have gone through the same mental struggles when listening to the other side. Yeah, I'd get defensive and offended by so many women venting about how horrible men can be and I have to agree, there's merit in that. We can't deny or argue against someone else's experiences. Regardless, I agree that it's not okay to put women or men down because of bad people who happened to be male or female that hurt you. There is no justified reason for abuse or mistreatment from anyone and personally, I'm so sorry that you went through that from some of the men in your life. I completely empathize with you on how you feel and your internalized beliefs. There's nothing to apologize for. We can all learn to do better and appreciate the good people in our lives (especially of the opposite sex) and not let the negative experiences damage our relationships. I feel for all the women who've had bad experiences with men and likewise men with bad experiences. There is no shortage of that unfortunately. I think it's so good to listen and be respectful of the other side but also going forward to be a better person and treat everyone with the respect and decency that they deserve. P.S. I subscribed a while back but I honestly haven't seen a whole lot of your videos. When I do, I'm always impressed with how relatable and down to earth you are! I really like listening to what you have to share. I'm glad to be subscribed.
You definitely caught my attention with that title but I figured the video would be about this. I came to realise I don't truly know anything some time ago as well. I always want to keep an open mind. And indeed our monkey brains can easily fall into hating an entire type of person based on one bad experience. Good video, I feel like a lot of people don't understand this or want to accept it. Overcoming bias isn't easy but it can be done.
A wonderful description. You have found the right words. Myra sometimes thinks all the men are on her channel because of her face. But it's more because of what you describe . I always say she's the type of girl every man wants inside his horse-drawn waggon on his way to the West. Probability is high that with Myra on your side you'll finally make it. She even made it to California all alone, all by herself in her ramshackle almost broken down automobile she loved so dearly. Today a girl no longer needs a man to make it to California. Her message to all the girls out there in the world: If you want it, you can make it. Just do it, girl!! No need to ask anyone for permission. Watch her ordeal in Portland, how tough and brave she was in that hell of a choking smoke. For me she is part of the American dream. If Myra can make it here, she can make it anywhere . She is the tough and loving, the clever and honest, the just and the beautiful but consequent all-American female hero. She is caring for us and sharing with us. She raises up the tempest-tossed and huddled masses. She has a profoundly good heart. I wish I could watch a full lenth western movie with Myra in the main rôle. (Think of Mae West. ) And one last thing: If Myra was president everything would be better in America. There is a supply chain disruption of love and prices are skyrocketing. At least that's how I feel about her. Do you agree ? Best wishes, nice to have met you and have a good time. I'll keep my fingers crossed for you and wish you all the luck in the world. 👍👏👌
@@andersonbastos1110 One of these days I'll have her arrested.👮♂️ For being too beautiful. 😍The police 👮♀️ can't allow that ❣️ 🚔 🚓You know, I'm just💘 thunderstruck. ⛈️🌩️Call me crazy, but Myra knocked me right off my trolley 🚑. I mean, she really knocked me right off. ⚔️⭐ 😮 ⭐ Today my heart is not much more than an I O U on Myra. 💵💰🤑 💵 My doctor told me this disease 🤒 is not curable . 👨🔬👨🍳🏥. Maybe Benny 🐰, Myra's bunny can help me, 🐇 a little bird told me 🐦 But please don't tell Myra about it 🤫, this is a secret just between the two of us. 🤐 The good news is, that I woun't die ⚰️from it.🌈 🦄 ☄️ 💞
@@myrawest Dear Myra! P L E A S E ‼️ take a short look at Rid's channel, too. I think she is called Rachelle and her family comes from Ukraine. She is the only one of her family born in the USA. This somehow sets her apart. She's just your age, 23. My impression is she is very sympathetic, a good girl with a strong personality. She definitely loves you, too (who doesn't?) and would like to be your friend. She'd jump sky-high if you'd send her a few hearts and some kisses. Lots of love, Wolfgang 💕😘❣️
@@andersonbastos1110 Your comment on Myra's face kept me busy thinking. There are hundreds of thousands of men who like Myra's face. I happen to be just one of them. Just as there are millions of women who love the face of Jesus Christ. But they don't love him exclusively for his good looks, do they ? There are some other qualities , too, that make women love Jesus. Of course Myra is a pretty woman. But just as we can't touch Jesus, Myra is not the woman we can touch and hold in our arms .It's a pitty, though , but we can't help it. But we can kiss a picture of her just as we can touch a crucifix. If they had known each other Myra and Jesus would have been very close friends ! But I bet most of us men also love her for what she does and says. It's her words and her actions. Many people actually feel the presence of Jesus in their hearts. So why shouldn't I be allowed to feel Myra's presence in my heart? This love gives me warmth and life and truth. She gives me hope and helps me carry on. She is always with me and she gives me strength and confidence. I am her disciple, faithful and true to her in my spirit and in my soul . Myra defies our thoughts and feelings. She makes us think again and revise our perspective. She helps us reassess our point of view. It is these things that have made a myramaniac out of me and I confess this openly. Man, after all, is a religious being. I happen to believe in Myra. And, boy, how she has changed my life❗Lots of love, Wolfgang
You are a very intelligent person, many many people just live their lives hating men/women and they dont change it. Mostly because some cant reflect, and others do not want to change theirselves. I am also 23 years old, and I lived a big part of my life hating woman because of childhood abuse. During covid i was searching for a woman, even though i feared/hated them (same situation as you). I thought, that contact in reality with women would change that. Then i met a girl via Tinder for long term relationship. Before the first date - i was waiting at a place near my house - i felt pretty bad. I was about to vomit out of pure fear, but i refused to leave and i waited for her. When she finally arrived, all bad feelings were gone. I quickly found out, that she is a warm hearted, live loving woman. This girl is my girlfriend now, she changed my views forever.
@J B It’s common occurrence unfortunately... but the majority of people do not engage in those terrible things. Remember that there are 8 billion people on earth which is going to mean a lot of terrible things. But the percentage of people that actually do them are small.
You are so gorgeous it's unbelievable. Love from Australia. Side note, I'm in my 40's and always learning and changing. It's called unconscious bias and people that get upset when they get challenged is due to ego
It's hard to be happy when we mistake our anecdotal experiences as universal truth. The pain is real. And we can come to understand it, live with it and move past it. It's a big world.
Simply put, kind of cliche, but "never judge a book by its cover". This statement holds a lot of truth. I have had a few bad experiences with women myself, pretty much every girl I've dated so far, but you know what, I do not hate all women. You cannot group an entire gender under the same hateful umbrella based on those few bad instances. I know that the majority of women are good. Going back to the opening statement, everyone is different. You cannot judge them based on surface appearance and how they come across, you have to get to know them well before you make any kind of judgement call. Great video and topic! Keep on being awesome Myra!
What happens at a very young age, before five years old, have a deep impact in us, in how we socialize among other things. Your message is a positive one and I think you are in the right path. I wish you the best. Thanks for sharing your perspective.
This video is not about hatred at all. It is all about love. Myra is on her way to bridge the ever widening gap between women and men and she invites us on her journey . Please accept this invitation and listen carefully to what Myra has got to say. This is a unique chance, an eye-opening experience that helps us overcome cognitive dissonance and confirmation bias.
Thank you Myra and thank God you're amongst the wise and deep thinkers out there!! Be prepared to have alot of enemies though, that's the risk of telling the truth on a deeper, more profound and detailed level of analysis. But you'll also have many more backing you in support too because it's the truth and it's what helps us to create reciprocal peace to sustain our lives and our world. And I am one of them. We're going to think our way through this to act better as individuals and together.
@@myrawest You're welcome! I think you're a rare voice of reason, who is both gentle enough and firm/bold enough. It's a necessary balancing proposition amongst the more fashionable ideas of excessively dangerous short term wants and fast gratification these days. We need you and to ease that pressure and burden, you have people like us to talk to who support you by mutually generating ideas to solve problems. Likewise for me (and probably others that are similarly supportive) as well. I feel supported by you too with my own convictions by you speaking out yourself. So thank you and much appreciated too!
Hey Myra, there's no way I would unsubscribe from your channel. I find your thoughts and insights to be genuine, truthful, and simply spot on. I feel bad that you've had such negative early experiences, but yet I marvel at the manner in which you dispute your feelings and recognize that the opposites are true. At the conclusion of this episode, I just thought to myself, "Wow," how I would enjoy a conversation over a cup of coffee. Of course, however, I will settle for tuning in to future videos. I could go on but for now, I will say take care and be safe.
I’m a man, early twenties, and I’ve developed this feeling that most other men are only looking at kids, even if they have an S/O that’s appropriate. A lot of these crimes are unnoticed or simply ignored. It needs to be condemned more by society as a whole, and television has clearly been shown as part of the problem. That, and some believe that “cave man brain” is natural and can be embraced. You never know how deeply rooted the problem is in our society until you’ve witnessed it firsthand and had to hear the sorts of “defence” they think they can give to get you to believe they’ll change, these types of men…literally seem like they’re everywhere. It’s not paranoia, and to be honest I’m pleasantly surprised by the amount of support you’ve received here! ❤️ You’re very articulate in your thoughts, I hope you have many around that value your mind and ambitions. I hope future generations learn from people like you and maybe myself if I can find my voice, to just be aware and self-sufficient. Sorry for the ramble, to anyone that may have been bothered to read this. Love and peace. ✌🏻
There is a theory in neuroscience called ‘Predictive Coding’ that our unconscious brains are constantly predicting the future based on past experiences. So, that feeling of fear that I get when I’m afraid of judgement from people is my amygdala predicting potential emotional harm. But I know I didn’t always care about what people thought of me. However, I realized later in college that in sophomore year of high school, I constantly worried about what people thought of me, and that this constant behavior set up a predictive pattern for my unconscious brain to protect me from any kind of potential emotional harm if I were exposed to circumstances that entail judgement from people. It seems the only way to rid oneself of this phenomenon is to essentially prove the prediction wrong consistently until my unconscious brains stops making those predictions that warrant fear.
There is a theory about genetical transmission of a certain behavior trought the generation. It's what can be called primitive behavior. Why, we transmit only the behavior that has a value in survival. But we human are not the same as the animals we can think. So sometimes we create new pattern, to see if it can work but it can be conflicting with primitive brain. It a little bit tricky to say so. And the primitive behavior is not the same for men and women.
A lot of guys have the same traumatic experiences and mistrust of women. I know that I do (at times) Honestly every woman I have ever been romantically involved with has been mentally abusive and manipulative. All though this has been my experience i don't think that ALL women are vapid, selfish, manipulative, and narcissistic but i do have anxiety about new women i bring into my life. That doesn't make me wrong or sexist it just makes me guarded of my own feelings. And the same is perfectly normal for women on the otherside of the spectrum.
And as if it s a joke we keep finding toxic men or women. This cant be just coincidence. Im pretty sure we get attracted to toxic people for a reason. It is very sad and hard to change. :(
@@dreama8168 For me it was definitely a self esteem problem. Being mixed race i had a lot of issues fitting in which kept me from being able to connect with people so when i did it was hard to let go if that person treated me poorly.
Yes, this is a very strange phenomenon. Exactly the same thing happens to me but with men ... it is definitely a problem of self-esteem. I think the abusive person knows exactly what we are like and what we want to hear, and since we are emotionally weak, they take advantage. In my case I was like... One of those silicone dolls, but extra real or something. He didn't even see me as a human being with feelings
I'm also kind of afraid of men even though I was never abused growing up (at least that I remember... I hope not....) Like I get extremely nervous when a group of men walk near me on the street for example. I don't know if it's fear of getting judged, cat-called or just simply me wanting them to like me? Even though I have a boyfriend and I'm not even interested in other men like that? It's hella confusing
Here I am again. Matt from Illinois. It makes me feel shitty to be a man when I feel such desire and empathy for a female who has been wronged by men. My issue was being put down and made to not like myself by peers, both male and female. I have never been able to recover my feelings of self worth and just being OK. I always knew that I would figure it out and make myself right! In my early 30's I sought out professional help. By my 50's I actually figured it out on my own. But my life had mostly passed me by. And I still don't like myself! I can't change it by myself and I can't find anyone to help me!
Hey, never dislike yourself for something you have not done. You're not responsible for what you haven't done. I'm sure you're a respectable, good person
The thing about the internet is that it attracts people with extreme beliefs, it's a place where they can anonymously express their unpopular opinions. Hating all men or hating all women is a fairly extreme belief and thankfully it's an opinion of the minority, a minority that is also very vocal. The problem is that telling those people "that's not true most people are good" doesn't really work, because those people are too rooted in their anecdotal experiences. And it can be so extreme that they will disagree with what most people would consider common sense, common sense that we all know is true but it's very difficult to prove. Without making this a 20k word comment the main takeaway for me is that some people just don't have the mental capacity to really breakdown, rationalize, and understand these problems and just end up relying on their instincts and subconsciousness as the main guidance for their conclusion, never realizing that their subconsciousness based on anecdotal experiences. Myra in this video gave us a great point A to B example of how a normal healthy person should be rationalizing their experiences by looking at the broader picture and knowing that her subconsciousness can be misleading, thus coming to a more healthy conclusion.
i love it that you talk about cognitive dissonance! it's a big challenge in all peoples life to deal with and most people live life without doing anything about it.
I feel what you're saying. I prefer the company of women as i'm more at ease around women, as when i was a child, i was abused by a male family member. Its not to say that i hate men, but i am uncomfortable around most (not all) men. But i do have a few male friends who i'm comfortable around as well. But i still prefer to be in the company of women instead of men.
Given your username and profile pic, I initially thought this was just a movie reference, and that the "male family member" would have been God... who did indeed mistreat Lucifer, too, as the series repeatedly showed us... 😉 But of course, if you're serious, you have my sympathy.
I'm sorry that happened to you. I can relate to what you experienced and it really sucks. When I was a kid, I was sexually abused by 2 mid-30s women. Then, as a teen, I was intentionally falsely accused of rape and it almost ruined my life. It made me have trust issues towards women and now it has completely worsened. I now have difficulty trusting people in general, doesn't matter if they're a woman or man. I really don't know what practices I can do to remove my trust issues. It's ruining my relationships and interaction with people. Would you say that your awareness of your distrust helped you remove your subconscious distrust of men or is your distrust something that can't be removed? Sorry for my English. I'm not a native English speaker
I respect you for giving clarification directly at the beginning of the video. Being self aware and realizing biases is something I respect and value even more than that.
I hope you find a good man. They are really hard to find. Hating men subconsciously is definitely a part of your experience. You want to believe that men have good inside of them but you don’t trust them to an extreme level. I don’t think you hate men, I think you just don’t trust them at all, and it seems like that is leading towards hatred. About 3 minutes into the video that became apparent.
@@mooeww143 If you listen to her whole video that's the point she discusses, among others. Men and women can both be either bad, good or of various combinations of each.
Your level of self-awareness is super inspiring. I love that you're such a net force for good in this world. The message you're sharing here is deeply important and valuable, more so than you probably realize. I think what you're saying here is going to positively resonate with thousands of people and make things for them, and for the people in their lives, a little bit better. You should be proud of the person you are, you have amazing wisdom for your age, and this stranger firmly believes that your future looks bright as heck! Best of luck to you :)
This video might have hurt as a male, but i think we can all agree that it is understandable that Myra thinks the way she does. Sorry you had to go through this. Much love.
The important takeaway is I know that there is only a certain subset of men who are not good, whereas the majority of men, yourself included, are good. I know that most men are good :) hopefully it also makes you question if you have any unhealthy internalized beliefs about women. Thanks for being here and sharing love ♡
@@myrawest I know that it is smth that is far out of your control, it is just hard to cope with someone saying they hate you for smth like being male, smth i can't control (this of course doesn't target you, i have been told this exact thing several times before). And eventho i had some very abd experience with women, i had equally as many with male, non-binaries, etc. When i meet people with the same gender as with people i had a bad experience with i usually talk about my experiences so they better understand. Still, i hope you have an amazing day, thanks for sharing ur feelings and ur thoughts
im fairly sure people are all similar moralities between men and women, but the bad and good comes out in different ways because of just really rather small differences. I say small differences because i believe because we as human are highly tuned into differences in other humans, an example think how to theoretical space aliens we would likely all look the same, and they would all look the same to us. We would also seem comparative intelligence, even if our dumb and smart together. Yeah, we really notice patterns well as humans, but also we can get way too focused on differences as a downside and notice things that arent even there, its seems as part of our normal psychology. again, im not going to say any of this is "bad" but we are very complex organisms
Very smart and insightful video Myra. There’s an abundance of good men out there. I’ve been equally hurt by people of both genders, especially someone who I dated a few years ago who turned out to be narcissistic AF. But yes, a few bad eggs doesn’t mean the end of the world. Keep up these awesome clips
I know how it feels. I’ve been left by so many friends because once they got to know me. They didn’t want to be friends with me. They thought I was weird and wacky just because I was a little different than most people. I still am tbh. Then a few years ago I just viewed people in general as bad. I viewed relationships as a negative thing. and just thought nope I don’t need people anymore, they’ll just make me worse! But thankfully I got out of that mindset around 2 years ago. I developed a fear of making friendships and relationships because of that. I still do have it but it’s work in progress. But I’m turning 20 in a couple of months and my only regret was not getting out of that mindset sooner!
I feel like the video you made about having no friends was recommended to ppl who also had no friends by the TH-cam algorithm. It's fairly easy to detect if someone is lonely or depressed by the content they consume. So the people who are subscribed to you will generally have similar personalities and problems as you. But there are also likely a lot of "incels" who were recommended that video because they are in that demographic of lonely depressed people. That's probably why you get an unusually high amount of misogynistic comments. But overall I think if we actually listen to the points that everyone has to offer with an open mind, then we can discover great insights about various social issues affecting us all: chronic loneliness, depression, misogyny, and gender dynamics. I feel like we humans are at a point where we should care less about our animalistic instincts/traditional roles and try to openly discuss with each other the problems we are all facing to find better ways of creating a more accepting and loving global society. I believe this channel is very important in this regard because what you speak is really an unfiltered representation of what millions are feeling, yet are afraid to openly say. I guess the more vulnerable you are, the higher the chance that others will authenticity relate to it because at the end of the day, we humans are all not that different. Very interesting vid and keep doing what you're doing because it helps a lot of people and promotes open discussion that we troubled souls need!
Thank you Noah. Also, random, but you splitting up your paragraphs really makes it so much easier to read than a huge block of text. Thanks for doing that :)
I think that these "incels" you speak of are a highly misunderstood group. While their circumstances tend to breed resentment and bitterness, which is explicitly expressed when you see them make misogynistic comments, however it is clear to me that the great majority of them are fairly normal people and actually just as you described her subs to be. The problem is that people who harbor resentment tend to exploit those who show vulnerability in a way that appeases their ego. I just found out about Myra a few hours ago and I was instantly drawn to her because she is so genuine and I think she is quite brave to speak so openly about these issues.
I'm really REALLY glad you've figured this out. This was literally the EXACT conclusion I'd come to earlier in my life, as in: cognitive dissonance + confirmation bias = irrational belief. And this realization can make a world of difference!
For me personally, I have a lot of fear. I've spent most of my life trying to conquer it and it's generally had the opposite effect. The prospect of releasing a video to the internet with my most personal feelings / shortcomings etc is absolutely f*****g bat***t terrifying. When I saw your original blowup (breakout?) video on having no friends at 21 (relatable lol) I thought, "wow, this person has a ton of courage!". It's hard enough to be vulnerable in everyday life let alone in front of so many people online. Whether you frame it for yourself like that or not, people definitely respect when someone is prepared to publicly say something that needs saying even if it risks backlash. You should be very proud of yourself for having those qualities, Myra. And hey, you've really stuck it to your subconscious with this one. Conscious mind ftw! :D
The way you are able to (apparently) so casually and comfortably acknowledge that your TH-cam analytics are showing information that is because of your pretty face, I find really wholesome. I find it wholesome because it helps to show acceptance and embracing of people following and pursuing things they find attractive, even if it's kinda superficial. It's a really small detail for me to notice about the video, I know. But I thought it was cool. Anyway have a good day if you read this, Myra, and thank you for the beautiful message you are putting out with this video, regarding subconscious fear and distrust. Something interesting about subconscious things, is that it seems like we can maybe influence them, if we somehow become conscious and self aware about them.
In your old age, you’ve got decades of lived experience, so part of being “set in your ways” is mental inflexibility, but part of it is also actually knowing better due to experience. Good men may or may not choose to relate with or engage with you. Men who are predators are always searching for those whom they believe they can victimize, and seem to have a radar for it, magnifying their presence in society even though their numbers are actually few. Most men are actually good people. It’s okay for women to be choosy because it’s a valuable survival mechanism.
Thank you for making this video. I’ve realized recently that I’ve avoided actually trying to date because of my inherent distrust of men. My only relationship was toxic and with a guy who always put me last and manipulated my emotions. It took me years to heal from that pain. On top of that, I’ve had multiple instances of guys stalking me at school and hitting on me at work as an adult. And in all of them, I felt unsafe and like I was a conquest and not a person being respected. Then I find out some of those same guys assaulted my two best friends (forcibly tried to kiss them). No wonder when I’m out in public I instantly have my guard up. I avoid maintaining eye contact with guys, even if they do nothing wrong. I try to tell myself not all of them have bad intentions. Because I know they don’t. Even if someone is attractive to me, I’m terrified and avoid them. I know I can’t go on this way if I want to get married and have a family like I’ve always wanted. So I’m working on all of this in therapy. Here’s to all of us getting past our fears and not letting them hold us back ❤
@@beaulieuonnp593 I hope those bad men and women because both can be monsters, hope that they could mend their ways and just leave people be. I just want peace for everyone.
This is totally true🙌We can't judge everyone by categorising them into a group of people. Those experiences only applicable to those who made us experienced it. People are different, they have their own life and everyone's life is not the same. Please respect every individual, I'm sorry for what've you experienced. The moral of the story is never ever be a bad guy. Instead, be kind, bring happiness to people, so that we can live happily together. Everyone deserves a happy life except the ones who first destroy other people's life.
Great job at seeking help sorting out your past traumas early in your 20s. *EXCELLENT* work on finding out that evil has no gender at such a young age.
As a man, i can say it's definitely not just because of the face. Probably it's because men can relate to you more. Believe me, we are the emotional ones, it's that we just don't know how to express them😅❤️
Men do have emotions but we cannot afford to spend time crying about feelings. The male prerogative is analysis and action. I always try to think like a test pilot does, to suppress the emotion and focus on the problem at hand.
@SusanCommie Wojpsycho wow, you're so messed up inside, your hate for women shows through your comment. No wonder some women hate men, there are so many like you around after all.
Thank you! I understand. I have been waiting. I have been waiting that someone would say this. Your courage to post this video is something extraordinary and unique. You know it's not common that somebody would write the tittle "I hate men" and then speak about how we all are under the psychological rules. Those rules make us all vulnerable but as you said, we may need to see them in order to connect to the world correctly. The world which has many good people too. In the other hand, somebody would say that we are all guilty and that way "bad". Or good and guilty same time ;) There is an adjective for that: human. It is definitely not easy to speak about subject like this. It is not easy to put yourself in the middle of the inestimable situation where is possibilities to conflict. It is not easy to paint the world as a good place for those who may not see it that way. Still, you did it. Thank you for that!
I try constantly to contradict my personal beliefs just so I can understand both sides of a certain subject to better form a true or more neutral opinion on whatever the matter may be. Being raised a certain way usually continues into adulthood, and I knew I needed to make some changes whether they be socially, politically, etc. or I was sure to end up like my parents/end up "stuck" as you said in my original beliefs and thinking. Loved this video! :)
i do the same thing and i thought i was the only one lol. whenever i make a statement in my head i start debating it and try to contradict it, and it really helps to see the big picture and to understand all perspectives.
I’m like what ? Wait a minute 😄 No I do understand what your saying . I used to be that way toward some women until I became grateful that the bad relationships happened or else I wouldn’t have learned how things can not always be perfect . I love your videos and appreciate you sharing your journeys with us.
John Stuart Mill in his essay " On Liberty" mentioned a similar idea, that there is no absolutely right or wrong opinion, but that each differing position is a mixed ratio of truth and falsity. I've tried to see the ones who harmed me through their own lens of experiences and in doing that, was able to forgive them, or at least to understand them. That's kept me from hating them, or becoming one of the MGTOW guys. Sadly, when you listen to some of them rant, it's almost scary. Some of them are heavy on the narcissism scale and think they're somehow so much superior to women. Great video! Maybe the title could've been different, but you bring up very valid points that both men and women could use to make their life better, as well as that of the people around them. After all, life's too fleeting to spend it mired in hatred or conflict!
"Do we have thoughts or do thoughts have us?" -Unknown (to me at least) Not sure if Einstein said that the important thing is to never stop asking questions. Confirmation bias is a powerful thing, so we have to question ourselves and explore our thoughts and feelings.
Myra, the topic is so important and so serious that you left me speech less. All day long I 've been walking all alone through a dense wilderness. Alone ? - No, you' ve been with me, of course. As always. When I came back I saw, you had posted this video. I just couldn't write a comment. I was baffled and confused. I 've never hurt a girl. I' ve never been rude to any girl in my whole life. I've only been dreaming of love. Of true love. Of sharing life and common feelings with each other. But I feel so guilty. I'"m so ashamed for being a man. If someone hurt you, it's these men who kill my dream. It was a hot day and I finally came to a well. It was a wishing well. Instead of wishing anything for myself I wanted you, Myra, to have a wish. You could have said: " Great spirit of the forests and of the water, heal me from my sorrows and my pain. Clean me from everything I have ever suffered. Heal my wounds and restore my confidence in men. Let me overcome all of my nightmares." The great spirit would have done it. He would have helped you. Yet he would have left me with all my guilt. I am a man and I can't help it. It was my kind who hurt you. What has been done can never be undone. It is so awful. It is so terrible. It will haunt me on all my ways. I always hoped that at least as a spirit I might have been worthy of you. But not even that. I am male and have no right to dream of a fairy. I'm part of the guilty bunch. They've messed it all up. All the happiness and the luck that we could have had at least in our dreams. I hate men, too. I hate them all. For what they've donne to you. I hate myself for it. I had the Beach Boys in my ears when I started out this morning: "Wouldn't it be nice...we wouldn't have to wait so long..." - What a wonderful dream. What wonderful hope this American band brought into the hearts of people fifty, sixty years ago. They must have been happy people. And they realized their American dream. Someone commented my comment saying:" I'm not crying. You are." He was right. Could perhaps someone tell me how to stop crying ?
Hey, nothing is on you. There's absolutely no reason to feel responisble or guilty. You're a good man, you're loving and kind and you deserve love and kindess in return. Sending you my best wishes
@@myrawest Oh thank you Myra, for drying my tears. Thank you. I needed that. This video really really is important. For all of us. The lighting is perfect. You're sitting somewhere between a rock and a hard place. There is no music as in all your other videos. You're even more beautiful, more desirable , more charming, more irresistible than ever. And you are telling the truth. From your first to your last sentence everything you say is completely indisputable. And you know it. You know very well what you are talking about. You're holding court with us. If only we could repent, if only we could tell you we're feeling sorry for what we did to you as a child. But we can't even do that. We can't. Because we weren't present at the time when it happened. But collectively we are still guilty because of our gender. Somehow deep inside of us something bad is hidden. There is no denying it. There is a hidden potential for sexual aggression in all of us males even if it never erupts in a lifetime. The French say: "Le mal c'est le mâle." So, however well- intentionened we are, we are not to be trusted. The kind gentleman who opens the door for you with a friendly smile might violate you once this door closes behind you. It's Doctor Jeckyl and Mister Hyde... When confidence is lost between us, life turns into a perpetual nightmare. Professor William Toel (to be watched here on youtu.be) taught us that at Bledgeley Park in 1943 not only the German Enigma - machine was deciphered but 200 of the brightest bains in the world were paid to "solve the German Problem" for good. They wanted to do away with the germans once and for all. The Morgenthau plan was to kill half of them on the spot and sterilize the rest of them. The Kaufmann plan was to sterilize all of them, from the smallest baby to seventy year olds. But thanks to the American public who thought this was too brutal, these plans were never carried out. But they realized the Hooton plan. Each gouvernement we ever had after the war told the world that germans are not to be trusted. Germans no longer trust themselves nowadays. At Bledgeley Park they decided that the destruction has got to come from within. Just destroy society by destroying confidence. The cohesion of society dissolves. Women no longer have children. They talk to their dogs because men cannot be trusted. It's bizzar. I can see the hatred in their eyes. I cannot be trusted because I am a man. I cannot be trusted because I'"m German. I cannot be trusted because I'm white . And I cannot be trusted because I'm " old". What shall I do? Shoot myself ? That would give Mr Morgenthau a big fat smug smile. Sometimes I think I'm only staying alive in order not to do him this favour. Most of you will tell me now to go and see a good therapist. I have spent half my life with therapists. I got to know Katy in a clinic. (confer the comments in Myra's video twenty three and single, there you'll find Katy's story) I never asked Katy for anything. After a few weeks S H E told me she wanted to sleep with me. She told me either I marry her or she 'd get an abortion. I couldn't have my own child killed, so of course we got married . The mariage was much much better than I could ever have hoped for. It was definitely the most beautiful time in my life. We were both absolutely happy. It was pure bliss, it was heaven on earth much more beautiful than you could ever imagine. When she was pregnant with her third child she was so happy. She had just turned thirty fife when this virus came and killed her. And now I'm old and white and german and as I've just learned I'm even male, probably still the worst of all of these diseases. My elder son just opened up to me that he loved his mum much more than me. I don't blame him. His grandparents hate me because Katy died when she was with me. In Frankfurt, they say, she would never have died. The medical staff is much more competent in Frankfurt... I can't help it. Guess what: When you are as old as me, as German as me, as lonely me, as white as me (please excuse my ignorance, but I know that whites could never really feel the blues within...) and above all as male as me I just cannot help falling in love with Myra. I feel mighty ashamed of myself and I have got no right to feel these things and I don't do it on purpose. It just comes over me. It's the law of nature. When you see someone on TH-cam who looks just like the love of your life you've just lost it comes over you. I'm quite conscious of the fact that it's all just a dream and that it could never come true in real life. In real life nothing will ever come true again. I've dreamed so long now that I've become part of a daydream myself. All of you who have read this to this point deserve to hear the end of the Kreuzer Sonata by Leo Tolstoy: "I killed a woman a long time ago. I killed her by making love to her without loving her. That's how we all kill our women. That way."
Great conversation that you posted. I'm impressed that you were able to see the social stigma that some people put on each other. I'm a man, but I rarely ever look at people as bad at first glance regardless of gender, or most appearances. I've mostly looked at peoples actions to make any kind of judgment call about someone, if I feel I need to make that judgment call for safety reasons. Yes your looks is what got me to check out your 1st video a year ago, but that's because you look a lot like a good friend of mine from years back, so it made me curious to look. What you say in your videos is what keeps me coming back for more. Keep up the curiosity, asking questions, and trying to find your answers to them. You're doing a good job, and I sincerely enjoy what you're doing and saying. I also (as a viewer) take no offense to all of what you said in this video about men, it's a good topic about people, and one that should be had.
Hi Myra, and thanks for having the guts to open up about this subject. I watch all your videos and wish you all the best. I am old enough to be your father and am definitely stuck in my ways. With me it has always been a mistrust (dislike ?) of women. I was hurt by six women when I was younger and I can relate to you in many ways altough from a totally different angle. I was lucky to find a lady that supported me through thick and thin, and she remained my best friend (the relationship never became sexual) until she sadly passed over last year. Our friendship lasted over 30 years, my distrust of nearly all women still remains ! Good luck to you Myra, stay safe and God bless. Greetings from an american living and working in Germany.
I reckon you're doing a major disservice to yourself by holding this belief that your success is mostly due to your appearance. Your honesty, self-reflection, and unique outlook on the world are vastly more important factors. Attributing positive attention to just physicality downplays so much of the other things that make you who you are and I believe it's those things that draw people towards your videos and what you have to say.
Woah, I hadn't thought about it like that. Thank you. The thing is, I had to ask myself why it is mostly men watching and subscribing, why aren't women? And the only difference I could think of, was my looks. If it was my personality only, wouldn't women be watching equally as much?
@@myrawest Maybe in the beginning, when you made your video about having no friends, there were more men who could relate to this kind of loneliness than women? I think your attractiveness is a bonus point too but I doubt this would explain the gender difference completely. I think there is a difference in interest in the TH-cam community when you look at cis-gender people. Your analytical style of emotional reflections probably speaks more to male-socialized beings - maybe a lot of older women could find your videos interesting too but they are probably less surfing on TH-cam. I assume you are a bit riper, mature than many girls in your age. This is something what fascinates many straight men, also the fact that you talk open about insecurities etc - show that women can feel unwanted or lonely too - but this could also keep straight girls apart, because you don´t fit in their category of alpha-woman from which they can learn to be successful, etc. I have to chose my words carefully bc I don´t want to sound sexist, I am aware that these are just tendencies and just statements about typicial cis gender people.But to me it makes intuitively completely sense why you have less female followers than male ones and the physical attraction is just one part of it. It could also irritate some sort of straight girls, who only watch other straight girls when they learn beauty tips from them, or when particular girls problems are addressed. You could be too individualistic to resonate with them. That sounds like I think young girls are mostly superficial. But I would not generalize this. Both genders have superficial tendencies. You probably attract some percentage of superficial boys who primarily like your face but you also scare some superficial girls away with your honest way of communication. I guess several factors come together here.
@@myrawest the irony about that is i did watch your video how your young and you had no friends i was drawn to your channel because i related with you on a personality level. I guess its just coincidence that im male. But that does puzzle ne most subbed to you are male
@@myrawest In general, more men use youtube, i think its 60% to 40% women... and probably another factor is that women are likely to have friends they can talk deeply with, more than men, so they may not relate as much to the no friends thing. Men are taught from a young age not to engage with their feelings. I am a woman, and I relate to it because I have a disability and can't really go out all that much. But I do know its easier to find women friends to discuss emotions on a deeper level than it is to do that with men. I think many men are searching for these kind of conversations and can't find them.
Six o'clock in the morning. Driving to the mountains . The Beach Boys in my ears. Big Sur. Myra in my heart and in my soul . Next woman I'll see , I'll give her a kind, warm, loving smile. And I'll mean it. Myra taught me to do that. No more suspicions, distrust or grumpyness. I'll just look at her as if she was Myra. I'll give her the love Myra put into my heart. Myra brought a wonderful change into my heart. I'm rich now that I know even I have something to give to the world. 🌹 💞
It actually worked wonderfully . On my way I had so many nice chats. First for about half an hour with a Dutch lady . Very nice. Then with a middle-aged local man . Very informative. And then for about three hours with a sort of Jesus figure next to his tent. Now that was really healing and revealing. These are the results of Myra's therapy for me. And by the way, Myra, we 75 % male audience are not exclusively on your channel because of your face (as you suppose) but because you ask the right questions and give the right answers . I have learned that my life improves when I do what you say. 👍👌👏
I think you have brought up the importance of empathy in other videos which is the key component to understanding other people. If we can learn to empathize more and try to put ourselves in the mindset of the person we are trying to communicate with, it will help create a better understanding of that person and ultimately lead to more positive energy and feelings. I really enjoyed this video!
I’m so sorry to hear of your hurt, it’s so sad, and very courageous of you come out on here and share it. I found your blog a while ago when searching for another blog by someone also called West. It was the title of your video 21 Years Old: I Have No Friends that caught my attention as I could identify with the “I have no friends” bit, and so I watched it. Yes, you are very pretty and you should be justifiably proud of your looks and the way out look after yourself, but having watched and listened to that first video it is your content that I find interesting, and your honest, calm and gentle presentation style that I find relaxing to listen to. That is why I follow you. I find you interesting, relevant and credible in a world of fakes. Personally, I had a long relationship with a woman who was physically and mentally abusive and manipulative. Eventually I didn’t care any more and the relationship ended, but it did not make me hate women. I enjoy their company, they are so different, and quite charming. However, I am much less trusting of people in general, so in a way the experience helped, I think. I did have a good upbringing though, which I’m sure forms a good foundation for dealing with others in the future. I for one shall remain a keen follower, you are an honest and talented presenter. Well done Myra.
I heard someone say "Facts don't care about your feelings" and I thought: if a man and a wife get in an argument and the man uses that ideal that it is all about facts and little about feelings... that just seems off to me. It should be a balance of both. Value the other side. Yes. See the merit and the value and the good and bad. See it all and make more wholesome (I like that the word wholesome has whole in it) decisions. I can't fix you or anybody, but I can fix myself. I can't make you believe anything, but I can be better and maybe, just maybe have some effect on others. This is what comes to my mind when watching this video.
Thank you once again for having the courage to say some of the deepest and most sensitive things that many of us feel and experience. You are so brave and so inspiring. Don't ever stop being your authentic self. 😊
You would make a great psychologist or Life Coach The world needs more people like you.You are so genunine and believalbe It is your gift to the world.
As a man myself, I thought I would just get hate thrown at people of my gender here, but this was actually something really beautiful what you said. You are an amazing intellectual person. Keep it up!
You are a beautiful soul! Thank you for putting out such helpful and heartwarming information! I know this took a lot of courage. You are very much appreciated. 🙏☺❤
We all have issues and face challenges. By learning more about ourselves we learn more about others. I think the trick is to not stop growing and continue not let the past define the future.
The skill we're talking about here is pretense. Putting people in boxes. Person is man. men are bad, man is bad. If we drop the pretense and take people one by one, sure there are bad people but see whats in front of you, not what's behind. If you go in thinking I will hate the thing. Good chances itll come true. We're with ya myra. Stay awesome.
Our brains are predisposed to categorizing things because it makes things a lot simpler and boy does the brain like simple. It hates doing work and will actively work against your wishes. We wish we could take people as they come as individuals and not as a member of a category be it a gender, sex, race, age, origin, belief or profession, but the 'mental exhaustion' of perpetual 'sonder' is so terrifying to our brain it's just oh so easy for it to revert back to 'autopilot'. Categories are useful, they help us make sense of the world but we must be aware of how easily our brains decides to employ them. The brain's goal of optimizing, to use minimal effort, to be lazy is one of the biggest contributors to prejudice in the world.
I also have a fear/distrust of men. I completely understand that it's not all men, and that there are many men that are great. I know good men, I know they're out there. But the thing is, I don't know WHICH men are good or bad. If I talk to a male stranger/acquaintance , I cannot know if they have good or bad intentions. This is why it's so hard to get out of the mindset, because it's just so hard to know which ones are the good/bad ones. Of course there are also good/bad women, but because I am a woman I am less scared of them. Our physical capabilities are similar and I would be able to defend myself if something happened. If a man attacked me, I would almost certainly not be able to defend myself, which makes my fear of men grow larger.
I don't believe you have to let your guard down with people immediately, I think it is extremely healthy and safe to be guarded around strangers.
I was talking more about men that you already know, that you have known for a while. I wouldn't ever encourage you to let down your guard with strangers.
Best defense is evasion is someone attacks you unprovoked they are very likely gonna have a weapon which the best defense against a weapon being running
I am a lifetime sufferer of male on female violence! Never met one bloke who wasn't an abusive bully n I'm now 48 year old! Not likely now as my trust is zero towards most men now and I feel safe wen I'm nowhere near a bloke who cud attack me or try to sexually push himself on me which I HATE!
@@myrawest there was a video maker he is known as Greg Onision that jerk hurt many young females I caution so many never to make videos with that person he is a very bad man .
I also have reported this to other channels Publishers Clearing House sells lies to people these scams have me not wanting to log into any dating websites out there because I don't trust them no way not ever now I'm not saying all date sites are bad I just won't go into any of them and that's it .
those who are lonely as I often feel it's important to make efforts rather than always feeling depressed in your room crying about thinking and believing no person will ever love you .
damn it I'm getting mysty eyes some days are unbearable for me . 😭
Wow you took the words out of my mind
Thank you so much. People told me to see red flags..but even finding red flags is hard because people got smarter in hiding them. This information is to read for everyone on the internet so. No trust is left pf.f
I truly understand what you’re going through, and why you’ve felt the way you do. I have been traumatized in life and combatting my beliefs about men has become one of the biggest struggles in my life. It’s nice to see another girl who has gone through similar things, and has similar struggles.
But you’re right that awareness is key. It’s so sad seeing people struggling with bitterness and having no idea that their perspective is desperately flawed. My deepest fear is becoming that person. Becoming so warped by bitterness and pain that I become completely blind to reality.
It IS a lie. I don’t know that people -in general- are good.. but there is ALWAYS someone who is. Rather than looking outside of myself and feeling depressed about the world, I want to focus on me, and make me the best I can be. My pastor said something the other week that I thought was really great (he was talking about marriage). He said, “you want to make your marriage better? Draw a biiiiiiig circle around yourself- and then focus on that circle.” Thats my advice to men and women struggling with bitterness- there are good people everywhere. Stop looking around you and losing heart at the evil in the world. Focus on you, and on becoming kinder, and more gracious towards others.
I love this so much Bethany, I could not agree more. I'm so proud of you and anyone who chooses to address it and work through it ♡♡
We bigfoots just hate all humans equally
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Hey, you've been around my channel for a long time!
We just want a photograph.
@@daheikkinen .. and to leave my Malamutes' chow dishes alone. lol
Well, we are constantly destroying your forests. I don't really blame you bigfoots if you hate us.
As a women struggling with negative feelings about men, thank you for this video. I needed this
Glad this video was able to help you, very positive message, Val ( Male )
Something that REALLY helps me is to make a physical list of the names of men (including celebrities) who you consider to be good men.
A random example that comes to mind is Robert Irwin (Steve Irwin's son). He is just the purest, sweetest, kindest soul.... Men like him help me to believe that there are truly good men.
So make a list!! And add to it as you meet more of them. And remember the list whenever you're feeling hopeless about men.
Another list you can make is to write down whenever a man does something kind for you (like opening a door or smiling in a friendly way, or being respectful of gentlemanly in some way)
The never ending cycle of "hurt people, hurt people".
One of the many generational issues we must end.
agree never ending cycle of hate to men and women
Never let your past rob your future
YES.
That’s a great quote! Our own anecdotal experiences shape our future a lot more we think. The key to freedom is letting go of that, but that is not an easy task at all
I have a lot of respect for people like you who are self aware, identify the problem in their POV of the world and are willing to rectify. I admire your willingness to change the opinion. Its hard to find that on the internet.
I think it was Socrates who said ,"The only thing I know is that I know nothing".
As we get older the struggle is to free ourselves from the prison we have constructed for ourselves from our own biases and prejudices.
One of the most freeing sentences I ever learned in my 40s was, "I don't know".
You are certainly on the right path young lady. Never stop questioning and challenging per-conceptions and growing to be a more decent human being.
peace from Australia.
as a middle aged guy I don't believe in "set in your ways" Not at all. Im constantly growing and learning. Life is hard and adversity changes you and challenges you to grow.
People become 'life-exhausted' and they just want comfort, keeping an open mind is uncomfortable on a deep level and it is definitely a skill that can be 'lost' and it is a muscle and should be exercised once in a while or it will atrophy.
Dear Frank James, you say you're middle aged? In your profile picture you look much younger.😀 And I bet you're feeling younger, too.👍 Myra says the majority of us was good. ‼️So let's hope that the two of us belong to this majority ! 🤔I would't like to get my bottom spanked by Myra for being a naughty boy. 🤭No, honesty, since I do what Myra recommends my life has become much better. 😆Aren't we lucky guys to have found her? 😍Lots of love and best wishes Wolfgang 😊👌
@@wolfgangsprenger3700 😬
This is an INCREDIBLY mature observation and analysis. I'm only 26 and I've had similar thoughts before, but I've ever given it this level of depth of time to study. Very wise and very well explained. Will definitely be sharing this with some friends.
Wow I'm honored.
I feel bad that there was someone out there that hurt you, no one deserves to be hurt. I would like to say congrats to you for working out your feelings and becoming self-aware of those buried feelings, you are very brave to do that in front of such a big audience. I am not sure if I could do that myself but I imagine it has to be very liberating. That is an epiphany and an inspiration, so thank you for sharing that with us.
Thank you, honestly I am absolutely terrified. I've never been so scared to release a video. But thank you so much for the love. I appreciate you so much ♡
Good evening how you doing I thought just say that, I been following you on here for awhile now. I must say that I looks to me that you been hurt by a lot of evil people. You are not alone on that topic. I too been hurt by crazy women but I managed to over come incredible odds that lots of those women thought I could not! When actually they are the ones were probably not sure with themselves when it came to dating or being with high standard men! Men that value themselves highly so then can be accepted by society and still be fine.
But please don't worry you will overcome your odds!
I wanted to ask if we can be good friends maybe we can help each other on these matters!
Well, _some_ people deserve to be hurt; evil people do.
When people set themselves up to be hurt, they do deserve to be hurt. It's called karma, and it comes to everyone eventually.
Myra is so beautiful she deserves a GOOD man to treat her kindly .. I hope she can find one .. keep looking Myra .. many many GOOD men out there for ya :)
Something that I thought over that helped me with my bias against women as a man, is that women and men (despite what some people think) aren't two different species, they are people. People, no matter the gender, are all the best kinds of amazing and the worst types of horrible.
yes!
Thank you for this. Truly.
I was kinda reluctant to click on the video, but I'm glad I did, your points are very solid.
I'm full of those subconscious beliefs too. I love women, but subconsciously I think I'm actually terrified of them, because that's how I felt when I was a kid.
Btw, I'm watching your videos for quite some time. I can only say you are becoming wiser by the day,
You are fortunate to discover these things while you are young. I’m 47yo. What I have come to believe recently is that many of my beliefs are based on presumption. I believe that many people in this world presume to know something. But in reality, they are just regurgitating what they have been taught/told by others.
Yes!! I completely agree. People can feel so certain about something that actually don't know. I'm glad I know that, but it comes with a price, which is basically being in a constant state of overwhelm because you know you know nothing and most people know nothing but think they do
Even though i am a guy i grew up with a terrible step dad that treated me and my siblings like trash, i went through a faze of hating all men, i would treat every woman i met as a Angel, because my mum was a amazing person and took on a lot bringing us up after my Dad left, i started to believe all women were kind hearted and loving like my mum, i had to learn the hard way, and as ive got older i have learned to not look at the gender but the person inside
I've studied psych for a few years now and I think what you are going through is normal. Our environment plays a huge role in the way we develop, and our environment for those born around '95 - '00 was quite crazy growing up as we were born in a world that was just on the cusp of the most impactful social revolution of all time with the introduction of things like cell phones and the internet and were still able to live a relatively normal childhood because these things were still in their infancy and had very little impact on our lives compared to what they had in the years to come. People before us were too old to really understand it in the same way because they weren't conditioned to be accustomed to it, and people after us don't know what life is like without it. I believe people born in this "in between" time have the weight of the world on their shoulders because we can really see the intricacies of how this technology truly changed society in an unprecedented way. Anyways, my point is that this technology has caused people to have highly irrational beliefs about social expectations and these beliefs get validated and perpetuated through this technology which precipitates in all areas of life in the real world.
Me reading this title thinking... I love men
Me too ♡ hopefully you see most of the video :) Men are wonderful.
liar
@@myrawest you'll find someone someday your prince charming will come you just got to follow your heart
But why? I genuinely can't understand what's so great about men like I don't get it I've never met any good men in my life. I hate getting compliments from so I try to make them hate me so they won't find me attractive.
Me reading the title: "Oh Lord, here we go."
Me watching the video: "Yes....yes....omg yes!" *nods vigorously*
Yeah, same. I would say this was a useful clickbait.
God bless You, Myra!
People aren't watching the video. They see the title, get angry, start hating her.
ikr! they judge so quickly without even watching the video and trying to understand what she's trying to say
They were never here for the content. They were here for the pretty girl.
@@ScarletSky03 OHYMYGOD LOUDERR 😳
@@alexunfiltered5756 Why would you react to something before watching it? Most of us fell for the title too, but at least we saw the video.
@@abdullahmohammad848 I watched the full video too. I was just saying in instant commenters defense, it was a clickbait title.
showed up for the face but stayed for the thoughtfulness
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The unfortunate reality is that there are some really great men out in the world but for some horrible reason you have been confronted with mostly dirt-bags. Imagine how upside down your world would turn if you were to met a very great man whom you were attracted to in more way than one and him likewise towards you. It can happen but you must stand strong, continue to be patient and not lose hope. PS. You are such a wonderfully self-aware, intelligent, lovely woman with so much depth of character. Hope you accept this about yourself!
I believe it can happen! And the thing is, this year especially I have met so many truly amazing and good men! (The attraction part is just not there.) But I am hopeful for the future and preparing myself and OBVIOUSLY I have a lot of work to do on myself until then.
Thanks so much for such an encouraging comment ♡
@@myrawest "I have met so many truly amazing and good men! (The attraction part is just not there.)"
Because you are not attracted to nice men. And you are attracted to men that will dominate you and probably treat you bad. It's been proven over and over that women are only attracted to the top 20% of the most successful and attractive men. And more attracted to the Narcissistic type. And throw away nice men (you even said it yourself). Start giving those nice men a chance and you will find yourself in a wonderful relationship. The fact is you want the rich good looking guy that is outgoing and successful. But those guys have tons of options and since you're so quiet and reserved they will probably walk all over you and you'll end up just hating men more. You are single because you reject the good men. You have a limited window with your youth and attractiveness to find a great nice guy. Don't throw them away now and then when you are in your 40's be begging for them to take you.
@@VROOOOOOOOOOOOOOOM this is just shallow and presumptive. She has obviously done her research and is very aware of her flaws and is actively doing something to fix them. Attraction cannot be forced, it has to happen naturally and organically.
She’s responsible for her choices. It’s a well-known and we’ll-documented fact that women worship bad boys.
Men that say this have historically been the most emotionally abusive in my past, and most likely for others. Gaslighting is emotional abuse, and many women face it constantly. This comment shows how disconnected you are from the reality that women live in
i don't hate men. i just hate when they put down women, being so high and arrogant, boasting their ego, show how strong and logical they are. how they are better creatures than women. it's painful and hurtful actually, but they would be like "you're just being sensitive and can't take joke". that's when i start losing my interest and prefer to be alone.
Being a human is a really weird and bizarre thing, we all just have to do our best to improve the lives of ourselves and those around us. Keep doing what you gotta do in order to live as happily as you can!
It's funny how out of the many animals species in the world, humans have caused the most trouble
Truth is their is always some one who ruling us we I'll never be Free
As the saying goes: "a few bad apples ruin the whole bunch." I've been extremely lucky and privileged to have very good men and women in my life so far. I too have gone through the same mental struggles when listening to the other side. Yeah, I'd get defensive and offended by so many women venting about how horrible men can be and I have to agree, there's merit in that. We can't deny or argue against someone else's experiences. Regardless, I agree that it's not okay to put women or men down because of bad people who happened to be male or female that hurt you. There is no justified reason for abuse or mistreatment from anyone and personally, I'm so sorry that you went through that from some of the men in your life. I completely empathize with you on how you feel and your internalized beliefs. There's nothing to apologize for. We can all learn to do better and appreciate the good people in our lives (especially of the opposite sex) and not let the negative experiences damage our relationships. I feel for all the women who've had bad experiences with men and likewise men with bad experiences. There is no shortage of that unfortunately. I think it's so good to listen and be respectful of the other side but also going forward to be a better person and treat everyone with the respect and decency that they deserve.
P.S. I subscribed a while back but I honestly haven't seen a whole lot of your videos. When I do, I'm always impressed with how relatable and down to earth you are! I really like listening to what you have to share. I'm glad to be subscribed.
Aww Spencer I'm glad you're here! Thank you so much for leaving this comment! I could not agree more! Yes!
You definitely caught my attention with that title but I figured the video would be about this. I came to realise I don't truly know anything some time ago as well. I always want to keep an open mind. And indeed our monkey brains can easily fall into hating an entire type of person based on one bad experience. Good video, I feel like a lot of people don't understand this or want to accept it. Overcoming bias isn't easy but it can be done.
Thank you, I'm so glad you get it. It is incredible to learn about our brains and how flawed we are
flaws are also part of the deal, part of the advantages to being highly adaptable and incredible organisms, i think is a good way to look at it too
You’re so intellectual and interesting, and your mind is so beautiful.
Thank you so much, I'm flattered ♡
A wonderful description. You have found the right words. Myra sometimes thinks all the men are on her channel because of her face. But it's more because of what you describe . I always say she's the type of girl every man wants inside his horse-drawn waggon on his way to the West. Probability is high that with Myra on your side you'll finally make it. She even made it to California all alone, all by herself in her ramshackle almost broken down automobile she loved so dearly. Today a girl no longer needs a man to make it to California. Her message to all the girls out there in the world: If you want it, you can make it. Just do it, girl!! No need to ask anyone for permission. Watch her ordeal in Portland, how tough and brave she was in that hell of a choking smoke. For me she is part of the American dream. If Myra can make it here, she can make it anywhere . She is the tough and loving, the clever and honest, the just and the beautiful but consequent all-American female hero. She is caring for us and sharing with us. She raises up the tempest-tossed and huddled masses. She has a profoundly good heart. I wish I could watch a full lenth western movie with Myra in the main rôle. (Think of Mae West. ) And one last thing: If Myra was president everything would be better in America. There is a supply chain disruption of love and prices are skyrocketing. At least that's how I feel about her. Do you agree ?
Best wishes, nice to have met you and have a good time. I'll keep my fingers crossed for you and wish you all the luck in the world. 👍👏👌
@@andersonbastos1110 One of these days I'll have her arrested.👮♂️ For being too beautiful. 😍The police 👮♀️ can't allow that ❣️ 🚔 🚓You know, I'm just💘 thunderstruck. ⛈️🌩️Call me crazy, but Myra knocked me right off my trolley 🚑. I mean, she really knocked me right off. ⚔️⭐ 😮 ⭐ Today my heart is not much more than an I O U on Myra. 💵💰🤑 💵 My doctor told me this disease 🤒 is not curable . 👨🔬👨🍳🏥. Maybe Benny 🐰, Myra's bunny can help me, 🐇 a little bird told me 🐦 But please don't tell Myra about it 🤫, this is a secret just between the two of us. 🤐 The good news is, that I woun't die ⚰️from it.🌈 🦄 ☄️ 💞
@@myrawest Dear Myra! P L E A S E ‼️ take a short look at Rid's channel, too. I think she is called Rachelle and her family comes from Ukraine. She is the only one of her family born in the USA. This somehow sets her apart. She's just your age, 23. My impression is she is very sympathetic, a good girl with a strong personality. She definitely loves you, too (who doesn't?) and would like to be your friend. She'd jump sky-high if you'd send her a few hearts and some kisses. Lots of love, Wolfgang 💕😘❣️
@@andersonbastos1110 Your comment on Myra's face kept me busy thinking. There are hundreds of thousands of men who like Myra's face. I happen to be just one of them. Just as there are millions of women who love the face of Jesus Christ. But they don't love him exclusively for his good looks, do they ? There are some other qualities , too, that make women love Jesus. Of course Myra is a pretty woman. But just as we can't touch Jesus, Myra is not the woman we can touch and hold in our arms .It's a pitty, though , but we can't help it. But we can kiss a picture of her just as we can touch a crucifix. If they had known each other Myra and Jesus would have been very close friends ! But I bet most of us men also love her for what she does and says. It's her words and her actions. Many people actually feel the presence of Jesus in their hearts. So why shouldn't I be allowed to feel Myra's presence in my heart? This love gives me warmth and life and truth. She gives me hope and helps me carry on. She is always with me and she gives me strength and confidence. I am her disciple, faithful and true to her in my spirit and in my soul . Myra defies our thoughts and feelings. She makes us think again and revise our perspective. She helps us reassess our point of view. It is these things that have made a myramaniac out of me and I confess this openly. Man, after all, is a religious being. I happen to believe in Myra. And, boy, how she has changed my life❗Lots of love, Wolfgang
You are a very intelligent person, many many people just live their lives hating men/women and they dont change it. Mostly because some cant reflect, and others do not want to change theirselves. I am also 23 years old, and I lived a big part of my life hating woman because of childhood abuse. During covid i was searching for a woman, even though i feared/hated them (same situation as you). I thought, that contact in reality with women would change that. Then i met a girl via Tinder for long term relationship. Before the first date - i was waiting at a place near my house - i felt pretty bad. I was about to vomit out of pure fear, but i refused to leave and i waited for her. When she finally arrived, all bad feelings were gone. I quickly found out, that she is a warm hearted, live loving woman. This girl is my girlfriend now, she changed my views forever.
We love you too. Smart, drop dead gorgeous, level headed and a heart of gold. Keep being you hon, you are special and you need to know it.
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I find that most Men and Women are good decent people from all walks of life.
I agree.
Or at least they're trying to be.
@J B It’s common occurrence unfortunately... but the majority of people do not engage in those terrible things. Remember that there are 8 billion people on earth which is going to mean a lot of terrible things. But the percentage of people that actually do them are small.
Yeah. As a man, I've met great women, im just not interested in dating rn though
You are so gorgeous it's unbelievable. Love from Australia. Side note, I'm in my 40's and always learning and changing. It's called unconscious bias and people that get upset when they get challenged is due to ego
It's hard to be happy when we mistake our anecdotal experiences as universal truth. The pain is real. And we can come to understand it, live with it and move past it. It's a big world.
Simply put, kind of cliche, but "never judge a book by its cover". This statement holds a lot of truth. I have had a few bad experiences with women myself, pretty much every girl I've dated so far, but you know what, I do not hate all women. You cannot group an entire gender under the same hateful umbrella based on those few bad instances. I know that the majority of women are good. Going back to the opening statement, everyone is different. You cannot judge them based on surface appearance and how they come across, you have to get to know them well before you make any kind of judgement call. Great video and topic! Keep on being awesome Myra!
What happens at a very young age, before five years old, have a deep impact in us, in how we socialize among other things.
Your message is a positive one and I think you are in the right path. I wish you the best.
Thanks for sharing your perspective.
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This video is not about hatred at all. It is all about love. Myra is on her way to bridge the ever widening gap between women and men and she invites us on her journey . Please accept this invitation and listen carefully to what Myra has got to say. This is a unique chance, an eye-opening experience that helps us overcome cognitive dissonance and confirmation bias.
Thank you Myra and thank God you're amongst the wise and deep thinkers out there!! Be prepared to have alot of enemies though, that's the risk of telling the truth on a deeper, more profound and detailed level of analysis. But you'll also have many more backing you in support too because it's the truth and it's what helps us to create reciprocal peace to sustain our lives and our world. And I am one of them. We're going to think our way through this to act better as individuals and together.
Oh god I appreciate this so much. I appreciate you. I feel your support and I am so grateful, you have no idea how much.
@@myrawest You're welcome! I think you're a rare voice of reason, who is both gentle enough and firm/bold enough. It's a necessary balancing proposition amongst the more fashionable ideas of excessively dangerous short term wants and fast gratification these days. We need you and to ease that pressure and burden, you have people like us to talk to who support you by mutually generating ideas to solve problems. Likewise for me (and probably others that are similarly supportive) as well. I feel supported by you too with my own convictions by you speaking out yourself. So thank you and much appreciated too!
@@myrawest i appreciate all your videos ur a beautiful person human
I'm the same way with people in general. Nothing to do with race, gender or age, just all people in general. I prefer cats.
Omg yes! I prefer bunnies! 😌
Puppies:)
@@myrawest Puppies are also acceptable.
So there with you! 🤭
Cats are pretty great. So are dogs. xD
Hey Myra, there's no way I would unsubscribe from your channel. I find your thoughts and insights to be genuine, truthful, and simply spot on. I feel bad that you've had such negative early experiences, but yet I marvel at the manner in which you dispute your feelings and recognize that the opposites are true. At the conclusion of this episode, I just thought to myself, "Wow," how I would enjoy a conversation over a cup of coffee. Of course, however, I will settle for tuning in to future videos. I could go on but for now, I will say take care and be safe.
I’m a man, early twenties, and I’ve developed this feeling that most other men are only looking at kids, even if they have an S/O that’s appropriate. A lot of these crimes are unnoticed or simply ignored. It needs to be condemned more by society as a whole, and television has clearly been shown as part of the problem. That, and some believe that “cave man brain” is natural and can be embraced. You never know how deeply rooted the problem is in our society until you’ve witnessed it firsthand and had to hear the sorts of “defence” they think they can give to get you to believe they’ll change, these types of men…literally seem like they’re everywhere. It’s not paranoia, and to be honest I’m pleasantly surprised by the amount of support you’ve received here! ❤️ You’re very articulate in your thoughts, I hope you have many around that value your mind and ambitions. I hope future generations learn from people like you and maybe myself if I can find my voice, to just be aware and self-sufficient. Sorry for the ramble, to anyone that may have been bothered to read this. Love and peace. ✌🏻
There is a theory in neuroscience called ‘Predictive Coding’ that our unconscious brains are constantly predicting the future based on past experiences. So, that feeling of fear that I get when I’m afraid of judgement from people is my amygdala predicting potential emotional harm. But I know I didn’t always care about what people thought of me. However, I realized later in college that in sophomore year of high school, I constantly worried about what people thought of me, and that this constant behavior set up a predictive pattern for my unconscious brain to protect me from any kind of potential emotional harm if I were exposed to circumstances that entail judgement from people. It seems the only way to rid oneself of this phenomenon is to essentially prove the prediction wrong consistently until my unconscious brains stops making those predictions that warrant fear.
Wow!! I had recently learned about that too!! So fascinating!
There is a theory about genetical transmission of a certain behavior trought the generation.
It's what can be called primitive behavior.
Why, we transmit only the behavior that has a value in survival.
But we human are not the same as the animals we can think.
So sometimes we create new pattern, to see if it can work but it can be conflicting with primitive brain.
It a little bit tricky to say so.
And the primitive behavior is not the same for men and women.
There is one thing Í´ve learned about people. There are no good or bad men and no good or bad women, there are just good or bad persons
A lot of guys have the same traumatic experiences and mistrust of women. I know that I do (at times) Honestly every woman I have ever been romantically involved with has been mentally abusive and manipulative. All though this has been my experience i don't think that ALL women are vapid, selfish, manipulative, and narcissistic but i do have anxiety about new women i bring into my life. That doesn't make me wrong or sexist it just makes me guarded of my own feelings. And the same is perfectly normal for women on the otherside of the spectrum.
Agreed
Yes.
And as if it s a joke we keep finding toxic men or women. This cant be just coincidence. Im pretty sure we get attracted to toxic people for a reason. It is very sad and hard to change. :(
@@dreama8168 For me it was definitely a self esteem problem. Being mixed race i had a lot of issues fitting in which kept me from being able to connect with people so when i did it was hard to let go if that person treated me poorly.
Yes, this is a very strange phenomenon. Exactly the same thing happens to me but with men ... it is definitely a problem of self-esteem. I think the abusive person knows exactly what we are like and what we want to hear, and since we are emotionally weak, they take advantage. In my case I was like... One of those silicone dolls, but extra real or something. He didn't even see me as a human being with feelings
I'm also kind of afraid of men even though I was never abused growing up (at least that I remember... I hope not....) Like I get extremely nervous when a group of men walk near me on the street for example. I don't know if it's fear of getting judged, cat-called or just simply me wanting them to like me? Even though I have a boyfriend and I'm not even interested in other men like that? It's hella confusing
Here I am again. Matt from Illinois. It makes me feel shitty to be a man when I feel such desire and empathy for a female who has been wronged by men. My issue was being put down and made to not like myself by peers, both male and female. I have never been able to recover my feelings of self worth and just being OK. I always knew that I would figure it out and make myself right! In my early 30's I sought out professional help. By my 50's I actually figured it out on my own. But my life had mostly passed me by. And I still don't like myself! I can't change it by myself and I can't find anyone to help me!
Hey, never dislike yourself for something you have not done. You're not responsible for what you haven't done. I'm sure you're a respectable, good person
The thing about the internet is that it attracts people with extreme beliefs, it's a place where they can anonymously express their unpopular opinions. Hating all men or hating all women is a fairly extreme belief and thankfully it's an opinion of the minority, a minority that is also very vocal.
The problem is that telling those people "that's not true most people are good" doesn't really work, because those people are too rooted in their anecdotal experiences. And it can be so extreme that they will disagree with what most people would consider common sense, common sense that we all know is true but it's very difficult to prove.
Without making this a 20k word comment the main takeaway for me is that some people just don't have the mental capacity to really breakdown, rationalize, and understand these problems and just end up relying on their instincts and subconsciousness as the main guidance for their conclusion, never realizing that their subconsciousness based on anecdotal experiences. Myra in this video gave us a great point A to B example of how a normal healthy person should be rationalizing their experiences by looking at the broader picture and knowing that her subconsciousness can be misleading, thus coming to a more healthy conclusion.
i love it that you talk about cognitive dissonance! it's a big challenge in all peoples life to deal with and most people live life without doing anything about it.
Learning to accept the dialectical nature of one's self creates emotional regulation and wisdom.
You are a rare breed Myra. A good person.
I feel what you're saying. I prefer the company of women as i'm more at ease around women, as when i was a child, i was abused by a male family member. Its not to say that i hate men, but i am uncomfortable around most (not all) men. But i do have a few male friends who i'm comfortable around as well. But i still prefer to be in the company of women instead of men.
I'm so sorry that happened. We all have a story. I'm glad I can do something, if nothing else, make you feel less alone.
Given your username and profile pic, I initially thought this was just a movie reference, and that the "male family member" would have been God... who did indeed mistreat Lucifer, too, as the series repeatedly showed us... 😉 But of course, if you're serious, you have my sympathy.
I'm sorry that happened to you. I can relate to what you experienced and it really sucks. When I was a kid, I was sexually abused by 2 mid-30s women. Then, as a teen, I was intentionally falsely accused of rape and it almost ruined my life. It made me have trust issues towards women and now it has completely worsened. I now have difficulty trusting people in general, doesn't matter if they're a woman or man. I really don't know what practices I can do to remove my trust issues. It's ruining my relationships and interaction with people. Would you say that your awareness of your distrust helped you remove your subconscious distrust of men or is your distrust something that can't be removed?
Sorry for my English. I'm not a native English speaker
I respect you for giving clarification directly at the beginning of the video. Being self aware and realizing biases is something I respect and value even more than that.
I hope you find a good man. They are really hard to find. Hating men subconsciously is definitely a part of your experience. You want to believe that men have good inside of them but you don’t trust them to an extreme level. I don’t think you hate men, I think you just don’t trust them at all, and it seems like that is leading towards hatred. About 3 minutes into the video that became apparent.
i don't trust all women so whos in the wrong exactly?
@@mooeww143 no one is in the wrong. Its all about personal life experiences.
Everyone wants to have a good friend, but not everyone is capable of beinge a good friend themselves.
I hope we all find good life partners✌️
Yes, distrust would be a better descriptor. But I do want to stress that, consciously I love men and I personally know so many good men.
@@mooeww143 If you listen to her whole video that's the point she discusses, among others. Men and women can both be either bad, good or of various combinations of each.
Your level of self-awareness is super inspiring. I love that you're such a net force for good in this world. The message you're sharing here is deeply important and valuable, more so than you probably realize. I think what you're saying here is going to positively resonate with thousands of people and make things for them, and for the people in their lives, a little bit better.
You should be proud of the person you are, you have amazing wisdom for your age, and this stranger firmly believes that your future looks bright as heck!
Best of luck to you :)
I'm a teen girl :) I just discovered your channel and for the first time, I feel like someone understands me.
Aw I'm so glad you're here!!!
I feel the same. I don't hate men. But I can't help but fear them.
This video might have hurt as a male, but i think we can all agree that it is understandable that Myra thinks the way she does. Sorry you had to go through this. Much love.
Fact you show empathy is what we need.
The important takeaway is I know that there is only a certain subset of men who are not good, whereas the majority of men, yourself included, are good. I know that most men are good :) hopefully it also makes you question if you have any unhealthy internalized beliefs about women. Thanks for being here and sharing love ♡
@@myrawest I know that it is smth that is far out of your control, it is just hard to cope with someone saying they hate you for smth like being male, smth i can't control (this of course doesn't target you, i have been told this exact thing several times before). And eventho i had some very abd experience with women, i had equally as many with male, non-binaries, etc. When i meet people with the same gender as with people i had a bad experience with i usually talk about my experiences so they better understand. Still, i hope you have an amazing day, thanks for sharing ur feelings and ur thoughts
im fairly sure people are all similar moralities between men and women, but the bad and good comes out in different ways because of just really rather small differences. I say small differences because i believe because we as human are highly tuned into differences in other humans, an example think how to theoretical space aliens we would likely all look the same, and they would all look the same to us. We would also seem comparative intelligence, even if our dumb and smart together.
Yeah, we really notice patterns well as humans, but also we can get way too focused on differences as a downside and notice things that arent even there, its seems as part of our normal psychology. again, im not going to say any of this is "bad" but we are very complex organisms
@@SuperSamboiman i agree, we really are very complex beings
Very smart and insightful video Myra. There’s an abundance of good men out there.
I’ve been equally hurt by people of both genders, especially someone who I dated a few years ago who turned out to be narcissistic AF. But yes, a few bad eggs doesn’t mean the end of the world.
Keep up these awesome clips
I know how it feels. I’ve been left by so many friends because once they got to know me. They didn’t want to be friends with me. They thought I was weird and wacky just because I was a little different than most people. I still am tbh. Then a few years ago I just viewed people in general as bad. I viewed relationships as a negative thing. and just thought nope I don’t need people anymore, they’ll just make me worse! But thankfully I got out of that mindset around 2 years ago. I developed a fear of making friendships and relationships because of that. I still do have it but it’s work in progress. But I’m turning 20 in a couple of months and my only regret was not getting out of that mindset sooner!
This was a brave video to post. I agree with the points you made. It took a lot of courage to do this and I respect you for it.
I feel like the video you made about having no friends was recommended to ppl who also had no friends by the TH-cam algorithm. It's fairly easy to detect if someone is lonely or depressed by the content they consume.
So the people who are subscribed to you will generally have similar personalities and problems as you.
But there are also likely a lot of "incels" who were recommended that video because they are in that demographic of lonely depressed people.
That's probably why you get an unusually high amount of misogynistic comments.
But overall I think if we actually listen to the points that everyone has to offer with an open mind, then we can discover great insights about various social issues affecting us all: chronic loneliness, depression, misogyny, and gender dynamics.
I feel like we humans are at a point where we should care less about our animalistic instincts/traditional roles and try to openly discuss with each other the problems we are all facing to find better ways of creating a more accepting and loving global society.
I believe this channel is very important in this regard because what you speak is really an unfiltered representation of what millions are feeling, yet are afraid to openly say.
I guess the more vulnerable you are, the higher the chance that others will authenticity relate to it because at the end of the day, we humans are all not that different.
Very interesting vid and keep doing what you're doing because it helps a lot of people and promotes open discussion that we troubled souls need!
Thank you Noah.
Also, random, but you splitting up your paragraphs really makes it so much easier to read than a huge block of text. Thanks for doing that :)
I think that these "incels" you speak of are a highly misunderstood group. While their circumstances tend to breed resentment and bitterness, which is explicitly expressed when you see them make misogynistic comments, however it is clear to me that the great majority of them are fairly normal people and actually just as you described her subs to be. The problem is that people who harbor resentment tend to exploit those who show vulnerability in a way that appeases their ego. I just found out about Myra a few hours ago and I was instantly drawn to her because she is so genuine and I think she is quite brave to speak so openly about these issues.
I would just like to add misandry to the list of social issues, which is also very real.
The title belies great maturity
I'm really REALLY glad you've figured this out. This was literally the EXACT conclusion I'd come to earlier in my life, as in: cognitive dissonance + confirmation bias = irrational belief. And this realization can make a world of difference!
For me personally, I have a lot of fear. I've spent most of my life trying to conquer it and it's generally had the opposite effect. The prospect of releasing a video to the internet with my most personal feelings / shortcomings etc is absolutely f*****g bat***t terrifying. When I saw your original blowup (breakout?) video on having no friends at 21 (relatable lol) I thought, "wow, this person has a ton of courage!". It's hard enough to be vulnerable in everyday life let alone in front of so many people online. Whether you frame it for yourself like that or not, people definitely respect when someone is prepared to publicly say something that needs saying even if it risks backlash. You should be very proud of yourself for having those qualities, Myra.
And hey, you've really stuck it to your subconscious with this one. Conscious mind ftw! :D
The way you are able to (apparently) so casually and comfortably acknowledge that your TH-cam analytics are showing information that is because of your pretty face, I find really wholesome.
I find it wholesome because it helps to show acceptance and embracing of people following and pursuing things they find attractive, even if it's kinda superficial.
It's a really small detail for me to notice about the video, I know. But I thought it was cool.
Anyway have a good day if you read this, Myra, and thank you for the beautiful message you are putting out with this video, regarding subconscious fear and distrust. Something interesting about subconscious things, is that it seems like we can maybe influence them, if we somehow become conscious and self aware about them.
In your old age, you’ve got decades of lived experience, so part of being “set in your ways” is mental inflexibility, but part of it is also actually knowing better due to experience. Good men may or may not choose to relate with or engage with you. Men who are predators are always searching for those whom they believe they can victimize, and seem to have a radar for it, magnifying their presence in society even though their numbers are actually few. Most men are actually good people. It’s okay for women to be choosy because it’s a valuable survival mechanism.
I really appreciate your openness and how passionate you are. This really hits home for me on so many levels.
Confirmation bias yes! So much truth here. We need to be aware of this.
We tend to project our fears onto others. When we are hurting we don't want to blame ourselves for poor decisions.
Thank you for making this video. I’ve realized recently that I’ve avoided actually trying to date because of my inherent distrust of men. My only relationship was toxic and with a guy who always put me last and manipulated my emotions. It took me years to heal from that pain. On top of that, I’ve had multiple instances of guys stalking me at school and hitting on me at work as an adult. And in all of them, I felt unsafe and like I was a conquest and not a person being respected. Then I find out some of those same guys assaulted my two best friends (forcibly tried to kiss them). No wonder when I’m out in public I instantly have my guard up. I avoid maintaining eye contact with guys, even if they do nothing wrong. I try to tell myself not all of them have bad intentions. Because I know they don’t. Even if someone is attractive to me, I’m terrified and avoid them. I know I can’t go on this way if I want to get married and have a family like I’ve always wanted. So I’m working on all of this in therapy. Here’s to all of us getting past our fears and not letting them hold us back ❤
Appreciate you not blaming all men for the actions of a few
There is more than a few. Should be zero.
@@beaulieuonnp593 I hope those bad men and women because both can be monsters, hope that they could mend their ways and just leave people be. I just want peace for everyone.
You don’t come to this type of analysis living in a gregarious fishbowl. So darn interesting.
you're a level headed person, comment for the algorithm
Hey, you don't have to just comment for the algorithm, I also want to hear what you have to say :)
I do appreciate that you do that though :)
this video has changed my perspective completely. thank you for posting
Wow, this is so cool to hear. Thank you so much for telling me.
This is totally true🙌We can't judge everyone by categorising them into a group of people. Those experiences only applicable to those who made us experienced it. People are different, they have their own life and everyone's life is not the same. Please respect every individual, I'm sorry for what've you experienced.
The moral of the story is never ever be a bad guy. Instead, be kind, bring happiness to people, so that we can live happily together. Everyone deserves a happy life except the ones who first destroy other people's life.
Yes!! Be kind, spread love. I love this ♡
Great job at seeking help sorting out your past traumas early in your 20s. *EXCELLENT* work on finding out that evil has no gender at such a young age.
As a man, i can say it's definitely not just because of the face. Probably it's because men can relate to you more. Believe me, we are the emotional ones, it's that we just don't know how to express them😅❤️
Men do have emotions but we cannot afford to spend time crying about feelings. The male prerogative is analysis and action. I always try to think like a test pilot does, to suppress the emotion and focus on the problem at hand.
@@zoidberg444 perhaps sometimes we can and need to do more.
@SusanCommie Wojpsycho wow, you're so messed up inside, your hate for women shows through your comment. No wonder some women hate men, there are so many like you around after all.
@SusanCommie Wojpsycho Emotions are for bitches- what is so purely logical about that statement? It sucks so bad I wasn't even arguing it.
Thank you! I understand. I have been waiting. I have been waiting that someone would say this. Your courage to post this video is something extraordinary and unique.
You know it's not common that somebody would write the tittle "I hate men" and then speak about how we all are under the psychological rules. Those rules make us all vulnerable but as you said, we may need to see them in order to connect to the world correctly. The world which has many good people too. In the other hand, somebody would say that we are all guilty and that way "bad". Or good and guilty same time ;) There is an adjective for that: human.
It is definitely not easy to speak about subject like this. It is not easy to put yourself in the middle of the inestimable situation where is possibilities to conflict. It is not easy to paint the world as a good place for those who may not see it that way. Still, you did it. Thank you for that!
was expecting some creepy dude to jump out from behind that big rock.
Not today lol
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I try constantly to contradict my personal beliefs just so I can understand both sides of a certain subject to better form a true or more neutral opinion on whatever the matter may be. Being raised a certain way usually continues into adulthood, and I knew I needed to make some changes whether they be socially, politically, etc. or I was sure to end up like my parents/end up "stuck" as you said in my original beliefs and thinking.
Loved this video! :)
i do the same thing and i thought i was the only one lol. whenever i make a statement in my head i start debating it and try to contradict it, and it really helps to see the big picture and to understand all perspectives.
@@catreenel Yessss!!! Exactly
I’m like what ? Wait a minute 😄
No I do understand what your saying .
I used to be that way toward some women until I became grateful that the bad relationships happened or else I wouldn’t have learned how things can not always be perfect .
I love your videos and appreciate you sharing your journeys with us.
John Stuart Mill in his essay " On Liberty" mentioned a similar idea, that there is no absolutely right or wrong opinion, but that each differing position is a mixed ratio of truth and falsity.
I've tried to see the ones who harmed me through their own lens of experiences and in doing that, was able to forgive them, or at least to understand them.
That's kept me from hating them, or becoming one of the MGTOW guys. Sadly, when you listen to some of them rant, it's almost scary. Some of them are heavy on the narcissism scale and think they're somehow so much superior to women.
Great video! Maybe the title could've been different, but you bring up very valid points that both men and women could use to make their life better, as well as that of the people around them.
After all, life's too fleeting to spend it mired in hatred or conflict!
Thank you for this.
I just used this title because I feel the message should be heard by as many people as possible
Ironically you did exactly what you preached against to “the Mgtow guys” :)
you have a very healthy way of thinking, its quite admirable :)
I try. Its not so healthy lol, I find I overthink and often have analysis paralysis
It is truly NOT just your face lady!!!! You are a great Woman. The example of a true woman. Keep that great spirit!
"Do we have thoughts or do thoughts have us?"
-Unknown (to me at least)
Not sure if Einstein said that the important thing is to never stop asking questions. Confirmation bias is a powerful thing, so we have to question ourselves and explore our thoughts and feelings.
Myra, the topic is so important and so serious that you left me speech less. All day long I 've been walking all alone through a dense wilderness. Alone ? - No, you' ve been with me, of course. As always. When I came back I saw, you had posted this video. I just couldn't write a comment. I was baffled and confused. I 've never hurt a girl. I' ve never been rude to any girl in my whole life. I've only been dreaming of love. Of true love. Of sharing life and common feelings with each other. But I feel so guilty. I'"m so ashamed for being a man. If someone hurt you, it's these men who kill my dream. It was a hot day and I finally came to a well. It was a wishing well. Instead of wishing anything for myself I wanted you, Myra, to have a wish. You could have said: " Great spirit of the forests and of the water, heal me from my sorrows and my pain. Clean me from everything I have ever suffered. Heal my wounds and restore my confidence in men. Let me overcome all of my nightmares." The great spirit would have done it. He would have helped you. Yet he would have left me with all my guilt. I am a man and I can't help it. It was my kind who hurt you. What has been done can never be undone. It is so awful. It is so terrible. It will haunt me on all my ways. I always hoped that at least as a spirit I might have been worthy of you. But not even that. I am male and have no right to dream of a fairy. I'm part of the guilty bunch. They've messed it all up. All the happiness and the luck that we could have had at least in our dreams. I hate men, too. I hate them all. For what they've donne to you. I hate myself for it. I had the Beach Boys in my ears when I started out this morning: "Wouldn't it be nice...we wouldn't have to wait so long..." - What a wonderful dream. What wonderful hope this American band brought into the hearts of people fifty, sixty years ago. They must have been happy people. And they realized their American dream. Someone commented my comment saying:" I'm not crying. You are." He was right. Could perhaps someone tell me how to stop crying ?
Hey, nothing is on you. There's absolutely no reason to feel responisble or guilty. You're a good man, you're loving and kind and you deserve love and kindess in return. Sending you my best wishes
@@myrawest Oh thank you Myra, for drying my tears. Thank you. I needed that. This video really really is important. For all of us. The lighting is perfect. You're sitting somewhere between a rock and a hard place. There is no music as in all your other videos. You're even more beautiful, more desirable , more charming, more irresistible than ever. And you are telling the truth. From your first to your last sentence everything you say is completely indisputable. And you know it. You know very well what you are talking about. You're holding court with us. If only we could repent, if only we could tell you we're feeling sorry for what we did to you as a child. But we can't even do that. We can't. Because we weren't present at the time when it happened. But collectively we are still guilty because of our gender. Somehow deep inside of us something bad is hidden. There is no denying it. There is a hidden potential for sexual aggression in all of us males even if it never erupts in a lifetime. The French say: "Le mal c'est le mâle." So, however well- intentionened we are, we are not to be trusted. The kind gentleman who opens the door for you with a friendly smile might violate you once this door closes behind you. It's Doctor Jeckyl and Mister Hyde... When confidence is lost between us, life turns into a perpetual nightmare. Professor William Toel (to be watched here on youtu.be) taught us that at Bledgeley Park in 1943 not only the German Enigma - machine was deciphered but 200 of the brightest bains in the world were paid to "solve the German Problem" for good. They wanted to do away with the germans once and for all. The Morgenthau plan was to kill half of them on the spot and sterilize the rest of them. The Kaufmann plan was to sterilize all of them, from the smallest baby to seventy year olds. But thanks to the American public who thought this was too brutal, these plans were never carried out. But they realized the Hooton plan. Each gouvernement we ever had after the war told the world that germans are not to be trusted. Germans no longer trust themselves nowadays. At Bledgeley Park they decided that the destruction has got to come from within. Just destroy society by destroying confidence. The cohesion of society dissolves. Women no longer have children. They talk to their dogs because men cannot be trusted. It's bizzar. I can see the hatred in their eyes. I cannot be trusted because I am a man. I cannot be trusted because I'"m German. I cannot be trusted because I'm white . And I cannot be trusted because I'm " old". What shall I do? Shoot myself ? That would give Mr Morgenthau a big fat smug smile. Sometimes I think I'm only staying alive in order not to do him this favour. Most of you will tell me now to go and see a good therapist. I have spent half my life with therapists. I got to know Katy in a clinic. (confer the comments in Myra's video twenty three and single, there you'll find Katy's story) I never asked Katy for anything. After a few weeks S H E told me she wanted to sleep with me. She told me either I marry her or she 'd get an abortion. I couldn't have my own child killed, so of course we got married . The mariage was much much better than I could ever have hoped for. It was definitely the most beautiful time in my life. We were both absolutely happy. It was pure bliss, it was heaven on earth much more beautiful than you could ever imagine. When she was pregnant with her third child she was so happy. She had just turned thirty fife when this virus came and killed her. And now I'm old and white and german and as I've just learned I'm even male, probably still the worst of all of these diseases. My elder son just opened up to me that he loved his mum much more than me. I don't blame him. His grandparents hate me because Katy died when she was with me. In Frankfurt, they say, she would never have died. The medical staff is much more competent in Frankfurt... I can't help it. Guess what: When you are as old as me, as German as me, as lonely me, as white as me (please excuse my ignorance, but I know that whites could never really feel the blues within...) and above all as male as me I just cannot help falling in love with Myra. I feel mighty ashamed of myself and I have got no right to feel these things and I don't do it on purpose. It just comes over me. It's the law of nature. When you see someone on TH-cam who looks just like the love of your life you've just lost it comes over you. I'm quite conscious of the fact that it's all just a dream and that it could never come true in real life. In real life nothing will ever come true again. I've dreamed so long now that I've become part of a daydream myself. All of you who have read this to this point deserve to hear the end of the Kreuzer Sonata by Leo Tolstoy: "I killed a woman a long time ago. I killed her by making love to her without loving her. That's how we all kill our women. That way."
Thanks Myra for sharing your experiences, it takes a lot of courage to be vulnerable and share this with the world. God bless.
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Great conversation that you posted. I'm impressed that you were able to
see the social stigma that some people put on each other. I'm a
man, but I rarely ever look at people as bad at first glance regardless
of gender, or most appearances. I've mostly looked at peoples actions to
make any kind of judgment call about someone, if I feel I need to make
that judgment call for safety reasons. Yes your looks is what got me to
check out your 1st video a year ago, but that's because you look a lot
like a good friend
of mine from years back, so it made me curious to look. What you say in your
videos is what keeps me
coming back for more. Keep up the curiosity, asking questions, and
trying to find your answers to them. You're doing a good job, and I
sincerely enjoy what you're doing and saying. I also (as a viewer) take no offense to all of what
you said in this video about men, it's a good topic about people, and
one that should be had.
I was ready to tear this video apart but Myra actually saying some very wise and intelligent reflections about human behavior and thought bravo!
Hi Myra, and thanks for having the guts to open up about this subject. I watch all your videos and wish you all the best. I am old enough to be your father and am definitely stuck in my ways. With me it has always been a mistrust (dislike ?) of women. I was hurt by six women when I was younger and I can relate to you in many ways altough from a totally different angle. I was lucky to find a lady that supported me through thick and thin, and she remained my best friend (the relationship never became sexual) until she sadly passed over last year. Our friendship lasted over 30 years, my distrust of nearly all women still remains ! Good luck to you Myra, stay safe and God bless. Greetings from an american living and working in Germany.
I reckon you're doing a major disservice to yourself by holding this belief that your success is mostly due to your appearance. Your honesty, self-reflection, and unique outlook on the world are vastly more important factors.
Attributing positive attention to just physicality downplays so much of the other things that make you who you are and I believe it's those things that draw people towards your videos and what you have to say.
Woah, I hadn't thought about it like that. Thank you.
The thing is, I had to ask myself why it is mostly men watching and subscribing, why aren't women? And the only difference I could think of, was my looks. If it was my personality only, wouldn't women be watching equally as much?
@@myrawest Maybe in the beginning, when you made your video about having no friends, there were more men who could relate to this kind of loneliness than women? I think your attractiveness is a bonus point too but I doubt this would explain the gender difference completely. I think there is a difference in interest in the TH-cam community when you look at cis-gender people. Your analytical style of emotional reflections probably speaks more to male-socialized beings - maybe a lot of older women could find your videos interesting too but they are probably less surfing on TH-cam. I assume you are a bit riper, mature than many girls in your age. This is something what fascinates many straight men, also the fact that you talk open about insecurities etc - show that women can feel unwanted or lonely too - but this could also keep straight girls apart, because you don´t fit in their category of alpha-woman from which they can learn to be successful, etc. I have to chose my words carefully bc I don´t want to sound sexist, I am aware that these are just tendencies and just statements about typicial cis gender people.But to me it makes intuitively completely sense why you have less female followers than male ones and the physical attraction is just one part of it. It could also irritate some sort of straight girls, who only watch other straight girls when they learn beauty tips from them, or when particular girls problems are addressed. You could be too individualistic to resonate with them. That sounds like I think young girls are mostly superficial. But I would not generalize this. Both genders have superficial tendencies. You probably attract some percentage of superficial boys who primarily like your face but you also scare some superficial girls away with your honest way of communication. I guess several factors come together here.
@@myrawest the irony about that is i did watch your video how your young and you had no friends i was drawn to your channel because i related with you on a personality level. I guess its just coincidence that im male. But that does puzzle ne most subbed to you are male
@@myrawest There is some truth to this.
@@myrawest In general, more men use youtube, i think its 60% to 40% women... and probably another factor is that women are likely to have friends they can talk deeply with, more than men, so they may not relate as much to the no friends thing. Men are taught from a young age not to engage with their feelings. I am a woman, and I relate to it because I have a disability and can't really go out all that much. But I do know its easier to find women friends to discuss emotions on a deeper level than it is to do that with men. I think many men are searching for these kind of conversations and can't find them.
It's so necessary to experience cognitive dissonance especially when it makes you uncomfortable! I really enjoyed this video! So good! ❤ you Myra :)
Six o'clock in the morning. Driving to the mountains . The Beach Boys in my ears. Big Sur. Myra in my heart and in my soul . Next woman I'll see , I'll give her a kind, warm, loving smile. And I'll mean it. Myra taught me to do that. No more suspicions, distrust or grumpyness. I'll just look at her as if she was Myra. I'll give her the love Myra put into my heart. Myra brought a wonderful change into my heart. I'm rich now that I know even I have something to give to the world. 🌹 💞
It actually worked wonderfully . On my way I had so many nice chats. First for about half an hour with a Dutch lady . Very nice. Then with a middle-aged local man . Very informative. And then for about three hours with a sort of Jesus figure next to his tent. Now that was really healing and revealing. These are the results of Myra's therapy for me. And by the way, Myra, we 75 % male audience are not exclusively on your channel because of your face (as you suppose) but because you ask the right questions and give the right answers . I have learned that my life improves when I do what you say. 👍👌👏
I think you have brought up the importance of empathy in other videos which is the key component to understanding other people. If we can learn to empathize more and try to put ourselves in the mindset of the person we are trying to communicate with, it will help create a better understanding of that person and ultimately lead to more positive energy and feelings. I really enjoyed this video!
I’m so sorry to hear of your hurt, it’s so sad, and very courageous of you come out on here and share it. I found your blog a while ago when searching for another blog by someone also called West. It was the title of your video 21 Years Old: I Have No Friends that caught my attention as I could identify with the “I have no friends” bit, and so I watched it. Yes, you are very pretty and you should be justifiably proud of your looks and the way out look after yourself, but having watched and listened to that first video it is your content that I find interesting, and your honest, calm and gentle presentation style that I find relaxing to listen to. That is why I follow you. I find you interesting, relevant and credible in a world of fakes. Personally, I had a long relationship with a woman who was physically and mentally abusive and manipulative. Eventually I didn’t care any more and the relationship ended, but it did not make me hate women. I enjoy their company, they are so different, and quite charming. However, I am much less trusting of people in general, so in a way the experience helped, I think. I did have a good upbringing though, which I’m sure forms a good foundation for dealing with others in the future. I for one shall remain a keen follower, you are an honest and talented presenter. Well done Myra.
It's surreal to hear this as a man... 😮
I heard someone say "Facts don't care about your feelings" and I thought: if a man and a wife get in an argument and the man uses that ideal that it is all about facts and little about feelings... that just seems off to me. It should be a balance of both. Value the other side. Yes. See the merit and the value and the good and bad. See it all and make more wholesome (I like that the word wholesome has whole in it) decisions. I can't fix you or anybody, but I can fix myself. I can't make you believe anything, but I can be better and maybe, just maybe have some effect on others. This is what comes to my mind when watching this video.
Oh my gosh, i absolutely love this!! I couldn't agree more. I'm so glad you shared it
Thank you once again for having the courage to say some of the deepest and most sensitive things that many of us feel and experience. You are so brave and so inspiring. Don't ever stop being your authentic self. 😊
Myra, you are wise beyond your years.
You would make a great psychologist or Life Coach The world needs more people like you.You are so genunine and believalbe It is your gift to the world.
Until people realize that men and women are part of the same species and not separated this constant blaming will never stop.
Yeah pretty much
As a man myself, I thought I would just get hate thrown at people of my gender here, but this was actually something really beautiful what you said. You are an amazing intellectual person. Keep it up!
You are a beautiful soul! Thank you for putting out such helpful and heartwarming information! I know this took a lot of courage. You are very much appreciated. 🙏☺❤
We all have issues and face challenges. By learning more about ourselves we learn more about others. I think the trick is to not stop growing and continue not let the past define the future.
The skill we're talking about here is pretense. Putting people in boxes. Person is man. men are bad, man is bad. If we drop the pretense and take people one by one, sure there are bad people but see whats in front of you, not what's behind. If you go in thinking I will hate the thing. Good chances itll come true. We're with ya myra. Stay awesome.
Our brains are predisposed to categorizing things because it makes things a lot simpler and boy does the brain like simple.
It hates doing work and will actively work against your wishes. We wish we could take people as they come as individuals and not as a member of a category be it a gender, sex, race, age, origin, belief or profession, but the 'mental exhaustion' of perpetual 'sonder' is so terrifying to our brain it's just oh so easy for it to revert back to 'autopilot'.
Categories are useful, they help us make sense of the world but we must be aware of how easily our brains decides to employ them.
The brain's goal of optimizing, to use minimal effort, to be lazy is one of the biggest contributors to prejudice in the world.