i must say, some narcs actually do alot for others, but not with the right intention, they do it to look good, brag, etc and have a cover for themselves to appear as noble
Mine (ex) is a doctor. There is no better occupation for a narc then a doctor who saves the lives of children (which he does). All the adoring grown-ups who "owe (the narc) our lives" "how can we repay you" "will forever live in debt to (this narc)". On the surface, it seems remarkable. Then a dear friend (who quickly was thrown away after this observation said... "(narc)? Isn't it funny... those who love you the most...are the ones who know you the least."
Magnus Melenkurion I feel your pain...The most annoying thing is everybody loves the person I deal with ...but the jus love the fake person...I hve saw the other side to them...scary
6 A.m....He just threatened to beat me and got out of his car to do it and rear ended the new Nissan because his company car wasn't in P-a-r-k. I laughed out loud. I do.
Katie Mason what would you do in a situation were your narcissist husband says don’t come back and pick me up from work when I drop him off because he knows I will think he’s cheating and I will probably cry
Katie Mason I took him to work this morning but right before work ended he said don’t come up to his job and pick him up he knows I will think he’s with another woman after work but he don’t care
Narcissists never learned “Do unto others as you would have them do to you.” A taste of their own “medicine” is exactly what these toxic trolls need and deserve.
As soon as I started giving my narcissist a taste of their own medicine they got so Mad they started blaming me for everything and pointing the finger as much as they could giving them a taste of their own medicine means your the bad guy I’m the guy who don’t take shit from no one that’s what I am you treat people how you want to be treated that’s the only way they may learn being the bigger person just give them a reason to keep walking on you for being to nice I rather not be the bigger person and give them a taste of their own BS and be labeled the bad one then let someone walk all over me
I know what you mean...I feel the same! Everyday for one reason or the other is very difficult and overwhelming. It's like a dog eat dog world now and you're always having to look out for yourself and avoid being a victim of something or someone. It's tiring and anxiety inducing being on flight or fight mode constantly. Where I live everyone is pretty miserable and walking hostile shells so it's draining when their bad vibes rub off. I can't help but absorb that negative energy. At the same time being an empath I'm highly concerned about society and the direction the world is going. Thanks for listening to my blabberings. Phew, good to get it out 😅😅😅
@@KooPooky your in no way blabbing! We need fellow empaths to talk to and if possible get with another in person to recharge and get your frequency back up where it naturally emanates, although it seems extremely hard to find any nowadays. As far as living where majority are hostile, bitter, etc. , unfortunately that seems to be where society has vastly gone and it leaves us more vulnerable and forced to be in a constant state of defense and seeking to understand why they do what they do. We are so acutely tuned in to not only our own energy and emotions but also all that surrounds us and we are easy targets, especially for the narcissist. Beings of light in as dark world, yes exhausting but getting to experience the full spectrum of deep intimate emotions makes it worth it:)
Hi Maat11. I genuinely understand where you're coming from but there's no winners and losers in the situation you appear to be in - just survivors.- and you're bound to feel as though you've "lost", and that you're "weak", if you treat your situation as a battle. As tough as it is to do in the moment try to recognise and accept that that's a battle of egos they _must_ fight (it's what defines their illness,) and one you'll _always_ "lose", regardless of how well you fight. Respectfully, if you ask yourself why you fight back (and question how you fight back) you'll get a better understanding of how to move forward in a healthy way. Something you'll need to accept is that if the person in question is someone you love, and want to be loved by, then you're bound to get scarred to some extent regardless of what you do - that's a heartbreaking but unavoidable fact; it's how you respond to that scarring that'll determine how deeply you're scarred. I don't know the specifics of your situation but I'll remind you that remaining well (physically and emotionally) and "letting go" are two entirely separate issues, and that how "strong" you truly are depends on how you wear your own scars, not how many scars you inflict on others. All the best to you.
Yep. I don't think there's ANYTHING I could say or do bc he is ALWAYS right regardless. I learned to just stay away from him and don't engage in conversations. Works perfectly
I did this and it DROVE her NUTS. She was talking to me on the phone and telling me what I "need to do with my life" so I said "Oh! My cat is choking!!" (I don't have a cat) and hung up the phone. Never talked to her again but I see her often. It drives her NUTS.... hahah nah beech go away LOL!!!!!
Reese see I’m dealing with this now. He is using drugs and drinks alcohol so it makes things worse . He told me that I make everything his fault. So he is now saying that I bring up things that he doesn’t remember telling me and he says it’s nerve wracking. He also hates for me to hang up when he is cussing me out and calling me out of my name. I think I’m at a breaking point.
@@blessedone28 and thats why you need to run to the hills baby, it only gets worse, they are satan kids, star manipulator and will drive you crazy, they breaks down your self esteem make you feel like you do everything wrong, Im telling you what God loves, Break that cycle before it gets worse, because believe me you, it does. Fast, pray that demon out your mind, body, and soul.
Easier said than done when you are a child of someone narcissistic who doesn't seem to care or live you. Just not that simple, as you grow up thinking you're quite flawed to never be able to please your parent.
pamzpam TruthpushingPatriot I’m sorry😔 But now you are AWARE you can change the way people make you feel. Strip away the parental conditioning and yes there’s steps to it it’s not easy but once you do you’ll have a breakthrough and aha moment and you really can change the way you see yourself and ultimately love yourself unconditionally. I know you can do it no matter what has happened in your life. I got faith in you💚💚💚💚 Your a beautiful soul never let anyone dim your light including Narcissistic parents💚💚💚💚
“You’re giving you them what they’re giving to you every day” spoke to me. It’s so funny that when you start treating shady people the way they treat you, they dont like it and suddenly you are “mean” or “toxic” 🤣
Omg!!! When I first was suggested that my mom was a narc I instantly thought "why would she be a narcissist? she has no accomplishments or does anything at all?" How funny looking back.
The people who judge you for employing these tactics have never lived under the psychologically abusive yoke of a narcissist. It’s about survival, redemption, liberty, and regaining your personal sovereignty from an abuser.
He digs at me all day, then asks me wtf is wrong with me? Why I'm so depressed? So lately I just smile and give one word answers. Or say, "sorry you feel that way". Little does he know I'm moving out, little by little..in just a few days I'll be gone, no goodbye, no contact. I'm going to completely cut him off. It will drive him insane. I've watched so many of these videos and read alot on how to deal with a narc..I am prepared! NO CONTACT!
@@dawnemile4974 Decades of youth time, full of energy, full of motivation. Now, tired, body hurts, have a portion of the progress that didn't need to be wasted had I not been brought back to starting at step one over and over again. The narcissist has nothing, they squandered theirs as well as most of mine. To add even more metrics the young version could lay over a thousand bricks a day consecutively over a week the pathetic old version can barely manage 400 a day and still needs a little time to recover. The young could lift 270kg and run 8 miles averaging just under 6 minutes/mile on the flat, the pathetic old can barely lift 90kg and can still run 8 miles but needs over 10 minutes/mile on the flat.
@@kynchan3332 I'm sorry. But you got to accept reality for what it is. The narcissist has screwed your life over and it can't be undone. What can be done is live the rest of your life as you wish raising a giant middle finger to your narcissistic oppressor. Even I felt the same way when I realised.
Permission To Exist And Im the king of assholes.I use to try to be a man of peace do to my life of stress and depression but when i tapped into my rebellious aka dark side my narc became frustrated.
I have to say that, any interaction with a narc drains my energy. Even if I win with it, somehow I always absorb some of their poison. Avoiding any contact is best for me. Nice video, Thx.
Rafal Jakubek i have beaten narcs at their own game, i am only left with an empty feeling because i do not enjoy other's pain the way they do. no contact is best contact
Rafal....exactly.....but they don't have to know this....all I can say is when you outsmart them they lose it...knowing their next move is vital...even if you don't...Narcs are all the same...attention whores..
Hey Joe...so right...I have flashbacks...it's not fun...he stole so much from me...I got rid of people that even reminded me of a narcissist....Selfishness and greed are a sure sign
I'm the same Rafal. It's completely draining. The best advice I can possibly offer to anybody reading the comments is to give them a completely wide birth. They are the biggest waste of time. Do not believe the charm and the lies. Just walk the other way and do not look back.
When I have contact with my narc mother, I focus on innocently talking about all the good and successful things in my life and how happy I am, and when she says something negative I just ignore it and talk about yet another thing that went well for me and how lucky that makes me feel, she HATES it 😂 the happier I am the more she suffers, it’s a win win, success really is the best revenge.
Yes! I see my old witch mother crumple with rage and frustration when I am just plain happy and doing my own thing. If she does attempt an information dig, I usually bring up the need to get our living wills and funeral arrangements done and this really deflates her. I laugh and say: We are at that age, Mom. You or I could drop dead any day. She is a very somatic narcissist and aging has been terrible for her.
If you can ever experience a narc get laughed at or made fun of by another person in front of you when they are trying tear you down its pure Heaven 😃💯❤😂
He just hoovered..with the whole "I have realized how badly I treated you and how much I regret losing you." My response: 'That's great.' He was PISSED..🤣🤣
Jim Allen nah, that was probably one of the most satisfying moments of my life, I wrote that guy like a 5 paragraph essay on how bad he makes my day for him to give me that response, and it was priceless to finally have him off my back
Understand that what they do is not a reflection of you or who you are. They act crazy or as a demon because they are. Separate them and their actions from you. Like a light switch, cut it off. Be head strong. You and them are two separate people. Just look at her and say, nothing you can do or say bothers me, I know you’re crazy and I’m not. And walk away.
I was on a long cruise and there was a couple that were the empath and the narcissist if I've ever seen it. He was overt. Very dark and aggressive. She was obviously afraid of him. Trying to please him. What I did so that he wouldn't be so dark was to ask him about his scuba diving adventure. He immediately was friendly and much more tolerable to be around. He loved talking about himself. Too funny!
I did realise that i was doing the gray-rock technique already, everytime we fight and there’s hoovering and on and on, until this monday i injured his narc by just asking for his time, then now his giving me a silent treatment. I knew from the first fight i didn’t fckn listen to my intuition, but now. I am saving all my energy to execute my exit plan. For all the empath souls reading this, i wish us all healing 🙏🏼 and radical acceptance
To deal with one... you had best be strong minded and one with yourself. Because they're full of shit and only out for themselves. This lady said study them. I did exactly that for years. I learned what NOT to be and what I didn't want to be surrounded by. Once you learn more... the more you will see. The sad part is...you will start seeing it in more people than you wish to and realize how sick our society is.
Mines was a bully when I checked him he sat down somewhere then he was apologizing....I told him don't apoogize you're entitled to your feelings he argued with me about letting him apologize I laughed and told him I was coming over....he said don't I showed up anyway he was such a good boy....you can't show fear nor weakness...he can't slander me because everyone knows my business I'm an open book no secrets mean no ammunition....then I tell everyone to fuck off I stand my ground....narcissist in a weird way are turned on and weaken by a person that has balls but it's how you do it that's key....my narcissist is a bully I know what to do with bullies
Tough Shit mine is a bully too. I need help. I’ve been learning to hang up and ignore him, but at times it doesn’t work. He got mad when I needed to get off the phone because I wasn’t feeling well. So this morning he tells me he can’t talk to me because I was sick and he’s sick today, lying ass.
Yep they may believe that if they outwork someone, they become better than them. That’s how they think they can control whether or not they’re the best. That’s why I don’t agree with the part of the video that said they’re lazy. They’re only lazy when it’s a task that does not elevate them.
The ones I know are very busy putting themselves out there for adoration. They dont sit still long. But they dont work. They are lazy because they dont like tasking for others. That said there are many that do work but its usually doing something that gives them their narsisistic supply. Many are politicians, CEOS, surgeons etc. And some like to make you think they are busy. Pretend or lying about their work.
Hi cynophilist boi. Laziness isn't a rare character trait and that's all it is - a character trait, not an expression of narcissism. Loosely put, narcissists have damaged egos, and the bulk of their narcissistic behaviour stems from a pathological need to protect their ego from further injury. How they do that is as varied as it is with 'well' people. So while 1710tmk's observation is reasonable, given there are more 'workaholics' than 'lazy people' in the general population, and 'work' is a common way to deal with self-esteem issues, those traits in themselves are not particularly useful in helping to establish whether someone is a narcissist or not. Credentialed and armchair experts alike have taken to spreading many ignorant claims regarding narcissism (I'm guessing for reasons that have more to do with their own ego issues), which has led to a lot of general confusion and misinformation about the condition. One important (and pertinent) example of that is this bizarre notion that narcissists "lack empathy". As you I hope know, that's utter crap - narcissists, like sociopaths (as distinct from psychopaths), simply have an irrational tendency to override their empathy when they feel the _need_ to. (So if your dad has never shown you an empathy he is not "merely" a narcissist, which is entirely possible of course). I feel for you (it's an ugly situation to be in ain't it) but I certainly hope you don't take the advice given in this video - it'll just turn you into a toxic person and that'll just add one more "victim" to the list. However difficult it may be for you to rationalise at the moment your dad's not 'evil' mate, he's really unwell, and a sad truth is that it's extremely unlikely he'll ever be 'healed' of his narcissism. He has very little control over his narcissistic behaviour,; in fact, despite how "obviously wrong" this may sound to you now, know that _you_ have more control over how he acts than he does. If you use that knowledge lovingly, and can resist falling into the trap of "demanding" (or expecting) that hee _not_ act narcissistically (very difficult to do - we all have an ego' right?) you may be suprised at how much less toxic your situation can become. Again, and contrary to what some would have you believe, your dad's not trying to _wilfully_ destroy your ego, he's trying to _pathologically_ protect his own. Try keep that in mind - especially at the worse of times. If you don't you'll just be adding bitterness to your heartache. All the best to you.
Narcissists are sadistic and enjoy kicking people to the curb. They don’t lie to be near anyone who makes them feel insecure or is more beautiful or talented or successful them and they project narcissism into others for superficial reasons. It’s interesting theses channels don’t go into how narcissists actually manipulate and dominate others with narcissism with hunts. Narcissists are evil people of the lie who manipulate with logical fallacies and cognitive distortions. These channels don’t seem to discuss evaluating our own character defects and questioning ourselves or the issues with reflective functioning or objectification. Triangulation. It’s a witch-hunt.
@@misstmemrs So the archetype of the "narcissist" is as important to understand as our own potential for taking on the archetype of the role as "victim?" If that's the case (and I understand you correctly) then agreed, certainly - learning to handle a narc is as important as learning to understand our own toxic behaviors and relationship to the narc.
Just got discarded the second time and now I am really kinda enjoying being at peace at home relaxing. Feels good. No more wondering...pondering...trying to figure out a problem that never ends...weird silences...guilt trips...questions...lies...its just evil. Peace is great!
dude went through the same with this guy. tried to gaslight me but i never replied back cause I know thats what he wanted. The chase. I said, Im going over here.
It is great to have peace and quiet! I especially enjoy just laughing at nothing at all now while I'm all alone! I just crack myself up! Smiling at random people and they Smile back!! It's such an amazing feeling to be well and safe! 💪
@@Mel-oe3dw ,then that person cant be gas lit and accused of being crazy and being projected upon. If you've been with a narc you know the projection,the gas lighting, the deflecting. The recoedings can come in useful at court or simply to remind you that youre not the one at fault as the narcissist is good at convincing their victims they are the problem.
@@amoore7960 well apparently those two are lolololling cause I mean... we have all known each other for a long time and this is all true down to the gum wrapper stuff lol. So...
I was with a narcissist for four years ...once I caught on I that I had wasted years on a man that was nothing but a weak piece of shit It became quite easy for me to send him into a deep state of depression and self doubt - everything he did to me - I did to him....after a while you realise that you're behaving no better then person you are trying to destroy.....it is best to just have no contact with the abuser at all - EVER and focus on getting yourself back to the old you - that is what I have done....single life can feel lonely but at the end of the day it is much better to be alone then be with a person that makes you loose yourself.....
Mitchell Babies I'm glad :) I sometimes feel silly leaving a comment...as I'm far from perfect or an expert on this subject but you saying that has made me realise it isn't a waste of time to speak from the heart and try reach a stranger :) hope you find happiness and peace 🍀✌️💐
Let them finish the their long sentence look them straight in the eyes crack a smile and just clap your hands in a robust applause as if at the theater for about 10 seconds long without saying a word I guarantee you they will go INSANE.
Play dumb / play dead / be boring = "Gray Rock Strategy" = problem solved = Awesome! Your videos are so outstanding and spot-on. I hope you are well xoxoxox
I do like that the channel is called "permission to exist" because that's what it's like when you grow up with a narcissistic parent. They expect you to get their permission for existence
+Jenni Smeltzer: I had to ask permission to go to the bathroom!!!! They'd gnore me, look at each other, make me ask two and three times till they'd laugh and say yes you can go. Talk about uncaring and possessive. All those memories don't go away... then they expect us to drop everything we've worked for (home, sons, career) to go cook and clean for them and oh yeah.... I would also be EXPECTED to pay her rent too!! LMAO!! Freaking INSANE! SO DONE :))
+OldManClutch I do not believe that all of them are 100% BAD. It is not always easy to get away from them. I am married to one, and I unfortunately, have depended upon him for way too much (he became successful in his film/tv career, since we have met). I am trying to get out of this situation, and to become more independent. I do feel like a fool. It seems to me like narcissist are very good at fooling people to who they really are. My husband has been good on and off since we have been together. He does make me feel miserable because of these narcissist traits. He has made me many promises. I have music , which has been monetized , and I feel like he hates talking about this and other promising issues that are now going on for me. I fully support him in his endeavors. I feel very betrayed. I am angry , but I really do not know what to do now. I have helped him in many ways and I feel like I am getting the short end of the stick, and he also becomes enraged when I try to discuss what I need to do.
I actually got a call from a narc asking how I was. She was actually trying to see if I'm suffering. I came to a point that I spoke so much they eventually said they really have to go now and basically hung up on me. I felt so good afterwards.
The Narcissistic in my life only call me about a problem to hear, or their suffering or health issues searched for to find a problem to dramatise as it is not you but them whom is important I have tryed to get advice from Narcissistic people and they will gaslight me to non important person only needed to work for their egocentric nature on demand of phone call
@@empresszoe9351 when I am suffered from depression or physical pain she laughs and sends me shots of herself having a huge time socially. I'm in pain but her having facebook photos. I really needed a friend and asked for some form of friendship loving? I was not called or contacted by her even in the death of my father nothing as a Man and her sex life was everything 💯 😌 I wasnt a friend I was useful to laugh at
@@empresszoe9351 Tryed but am being punished as I was so 😔 Alone. I tryed change in dynamics in cutting her off ....I was told I was Mad. If I died no empathy would be easy for her.
The best way to mess with them is to realise who and what they are, then drop them completely out of your life. It may take time but get RID. It’s empowering, freeing and completely liberating.
The reason why this video is so fantastic, is because you added the element OF FUN. Otherwise, it would be just another boring narcissist video. I love it.
I was crying when I clicked on this video, feeling hopeless with my narc spouse in the next room that I’m trapped with. And now I’m laughing my ass off!
Wow, this is so true, narcissists are lazy, they hate to help others unless there is a benefit in it for them. I know several, they love to ride on the good deeds of others as though those were theirs. They even take credit for what others do, while they did nothing.
My narcissist father used to do that all the time. A friend of his had a son who was a doctor. My dad would always make comments such as, "He's one of the best surgeons in the United States," as if it was one of his OWN accomplishments!!
Our niece is a narcissist and yes you can ignore your narcissistic relative(s). It is for your peace of mind. To get out of the constant drama and chaos.
A narcissist is a bit like a flame. A flame cannot exist without oxygen; cut off the oxygen and the flame dies out very quickly. A narcissist also has no real power or control without other people around or accessable to abuse/use/charm/manipulate. This is essentially what they live for - to create drama, pain, sadness, and chaos, especially to those closest to them. They simply cannot avoid doing this or miss an opportunity, since this is a big source of supply to them and they need it. If you were to take a narcissist to a remote island with absolutely no people, no way to get back home and just leave them there with no communication tools, they'd most likely go crazy and be extremely bored and depressed until they either offed themselves or died of starvation. Therefore, the only real way to injure the narcissist is to take away/lessen their sources of supply, or ignore them and don't feed into them. They need attention constantly, so if their targets don't seem to be affected, it will most likely confuse them and throw off their plans a little bit. A narcissist can't exist without a captive audience. They must always reflect themselves onto others, like some sort of tragic soulless vampire that will never ever get enough. Their personalities are black holes, and they have gaping dark voids where their hearts should be.
How to beat a narcissist? Go no contact, forgive them, go and have a successful life without them while developing a relationship with God through Jesus Christ.
Do NOT forgive them. This gives them permission. Have faith in yourself. Organised religion is very narcissistic itself. Grandiose, entitled, esp Christianity and Islam. IMO of course. Love to you all. Xxx
if u go no contact should i block them or should i leave them as if nothing happened and continue to follow me on social media so they get jealous and leave as if they never existed ? i need helpppp
I paid for a trip for my boyfriend to see his mother whom I had never met. Boyfriend told me his life story. So I had a clue. She's only 6 years older than me. Huge challenge to her image goals of babies. Within 20 minutes of leaving she text him "blah blah blah, My house is small and I know your girlfriend is used to better" I exclaimed "why, cause I have a 2001 CRV?" I thought it was hilarious and it said way more about her. 5 years later...she triangulates the stupidist attacks. "Grandma was afraid she was going to eat bugs because your girlfriend decided to eat outside" 3 months after we had Christmas dinner in Florida outside on a Beautiful deck.
Ha! I actually tried the note taking. I was being harassed and singled out at work by the Director. One day, she sent someone to tell me, "I can't have him writing down everything I say." My response? "Tell her to quit talking. Then, I'll have to quit writing."
@@aceofswords8637 That's not only false, that's downright insulting! Documentation is your legal right. The burden of proof would be on them should you require an attorney and legal action. And, vice versa.
@@aceofswords8637 Oh my goodness! I had a college professor who absolutely forbid anyone to tape his class or even after or between classes. I always tape recorded my classes so I could listen over and over in order to study. He was especially paranoid about being taped between classes. Probably because he would flirt with girls etc. Unbeknownst to him, I would turn my recorder on (phone) and have it in the front zipped pocket of my backpack. Recorded LOUD and CLEAR! He was so full of himself.....acted like such a jerk!
She DID say if you are stuck with the narcissist whether it's for legal or familial in the intro - in other words, if you have to be around them, it's fun to mess with them. I have to admit, I laughed out loud several times as I know EXACTLY how my ex would have responded in every one of her suggestions, and it WILL drive them cray cray.
About the little digs and passive-aggressive put downs: I like to agree with them. If my narc makes a remark about me being an airhead, I just laugh and agree, "Yep, I always have been!" and show by your attitude that whatever they are trying to make you feel badly about is something that you love about yourself :) I really enjoyed listening to this video. You made me laugh -thanks!
Mark Connely wow. yeah its been awhile but the whole fam calls me a blonde... so yeah 🤣😭😂 i actually got it to shut them up & looked cute while doing it!
My narc husband likes to attack my religion (Catholic), he recently used the unfortunate event of those dead kids being found on Catholic property. He goes “Well, how does THAT make you feel that the Catholics did this?” in a snarky tone. I simply told him I felt bad about it, but it wasn’t my place to judge or punish. The proper authorities will deal with it accordingly. That shut him up because I didn’t give him the reaction he wanted. I also told him that ALL religions have their down sides and people who abuse it. He always grasps at straws, trying to find things to get me on; meanwhile, HE is the alcoholic, HE is the cheater, HE is the narcissist…
A long time ago in a far away land I started studying (exclusively) this subject of narcissism. It was blatantly obvious that it was everywhere in society and even family relationships. I have to tell you that the adventure is worth the brain power you put into your studies. I want to thank you for your posting of this you tube message because although narcissists are really sad people who lack insight and content of heart and humanity. I have always believed that self armor is the best protection through educational means. Thank you ❤️
hahahaha lol. They just LOVE to define you! Mine tells my children and everyone who will listen that I HATE him. My response...."I don't hate him. I'm not giving him anymore of my energy." Mine used to tell me what I was thinking..... I said you don't know what is in my mind. Him: "Oh yes I do" Me: (Starts singing a silly children's song) Asks him "Ever heard that song before?" Him: No Me: Then how in the world could you possibly know what I am thinking. And guess what! I have a whole catalog of songs in my head that you have never heard! LOL..... End of conversation!
Glass Empire TV. That what my Ex narc almost said: They feel threatened by my presence. Lol. I come to think, they all act alike, like they are one person. It’s a cult, the Jezebel cult, you join before you pick up a body, or something like that. It’s definitely a spiritual warfare. Leave that one to God to deal with, it’s way over our normal humans head. thanks
I've been doing this for 5 years now. It is too much fun! I totally ignore him, I play dumb, I purposely "misunderstand", I laugh when he insults me pretending he was kidding, then "playfully" insult him back. I stop him when he's talking, telling him I was distracted and wasn't listening. I apologize "sincerely" and ask him to start over. When he does, I wander away. It's funny to watch him follow me trying to get my attention! I play up the depression that he caused. I'm dull, listless, uncaring, and unresponsive until suddenly I jump up, get ready, and go out with my friends and have fun! Then come back and go back into "depression", but laugh when I'm on the phone or watching TV. I'm totally unpredictable. Drives him crazy! The best revenge is to create a happy life that he isn't part of and watch his jealousy. Yep, like 4 yr olds. Manipulative geniuses... I think not!
the best show to learn how to be so distractidly happy is Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt!! The Queen of You're Not Raining On My Parade!!! I'mma Make You Unsad Instead!!!
It’s really fun to watch when you turn the heat on them. I gaslighted him so bad that he became confused and worried about how he had become so forgetful. Already he was having sleepless nights and was forgetting things so gaslighting him really worked! I could see the pain in his eyes when I pretended I didn’t remember the things he told me or did for me because they didn’t happen and that his mind was playing tricks on him.
LOL this was JUST what I needed this morning!! My husband treated me so badly & as I started to get mad I remembered to stop & breathe. I kept my emotions in check & eventually while he was trying to poke me to cause a fight & go down 10 different rabbit holes, he got so angry that I was playing a game on my phone, still communicating but wasn't giving him much attention. He kept mentioning that but I didn't stop. Then he asked what my plans were for tomorrow (now today) & he said I'm going to get really angry!! (Like I'm supposed to comfort him, ha) He started with his fake empathy & it was so unbelievable I felt like laughing. He kept insisting i tell him my plans & when i refused he got so upset!! I'll leave you with this quote I saw on pintrest that makes for a good chuckle! Arguing with an idiot is like playing chess with a pigeon. No matter how good you are, the pigeon is only going to shit on the board, & strut around like he's won. Think of that the next time you're being provoked. Lol
Tim Marchant In speaking for "Jesse James" , I don't think you get it. Sometimes, they have no place ELSE to go or NO family to help them.Perhaps they are AFRAID, as the "narc" has threatened them & CONVINCED them that it would be "unwise" to leave. Perhaps there are children involved, but if they were to leave, they'd be LIED about. (REMEMBER! NARCCISSTS are VERY GOOD TALKERS & VERY CONVINCING)! ESPECIALLY after they've screwed ones head all up! Please don't just assume that they can simply leave.
Jesse James I just tried to explain your situation to "Tim Marchant". If I stepped outta line, I'm really sorry.But some people just don't get it! I DO!
My Covert Ex Narc GF was always cleaning and cooking etc ? That's how she kept her foot in the door at my house when she wasn't paying rent etc..She also loved decorating and diy..
no they are lazy AND too good for that. hahaha! I had one that was to good to do anything including her job. She was my boss too. She was to good for it and pee on people had to always do it. it was a small office and she always crapped in the toilet and left it there. If I didnt live there too I'd have dragged people in and nit picked her over that like she nit picked and insulted everything I did while making me do my job and her job, because she was to lazy to actually be there and to good to do it. Yeah I guess she was to good to flush a toilet too.
Even though I said it sounds excellent but wouldn't that be opening the door? (that we so firmly closed to that evil demon!) Come to think about it, wouldn't the best thing to do is say nothing at all? I think that would damage their ego more rather than to feed it. That way it will take away their power after all. :D
I have been using these tips for the past 3 days and I cant stop laughing at this fool. I have him running around like a chicken with his head cut off! Thank you!!! 😂😂😂
Me too. I just flip from complying with his bs, then I shut off emotion for a bit, then I'll go no contact a few days.... damn he's now showing attachment. But I don't want it now... Now I know who he really is and it's gross. But it was fun to mind screw him back then drop him like nothing. 😂 the day he turned sour on me, I did research and was like... Nah hunny you aren't doing this to me. So he's obviously pissed. Figured him out right at that moment. 🙄
Thank you for the humor. I needed to laugh as the stress has made me literally sick after being married to this cruel monster. They are mockers and have no empathy! I will survive and I will escape. Say a prayer for me. Mental cruelty can be much worse than physical.
Misty DeLaine. Honey please don't do what I did! Save money, stash away if you can and be really sure to have the best attorney who understands your with a narcissist and a phony compulsive liar. Protect yourself. A weak attorney will hurt you bad divorcing the narc. Good luck.
Misty DeLaine I’m with you. After 15 years, mine is still a monster. He moved 4 min from me and life has been hell. He’s becoming more and more threatening. But now that I know what he has, I’m working on becoming more mentally strong! Prayers for you!
Yes it’s interesting we are not hearing about the cognitive distortions and logical fallacies. That’s because narcissists conduct narcissism witch-hunts.
@@ingvildxo8230 if you don't think she can hurt you... then I would doubt she is a Narc. It is like fire... if I don't think it can burn me... it may not be a fire. There is no such thing as a fire that does not burn or a Narc that does not harm. They harm you in such subtle ways... you may not notice. They do evil things with a smile on their face. While meticulously eating away your soul.
I recently looked at an N with a blank stare when she started her junk. I also killed her with kindness during our time that we had to spend together grieving for a loved one. I know it will be months if not years before I see her again. They ask for it and they got it.
How dangerous can they be if you are physically stronger than a narc? I think they like to target people they think are weak, so that makes them a coward, not strong
The narcissist loves to get you off of your center, always stay centered, NEVER take them seriously. Don't reply, but if you MUST reply to their subtle attacks, just say: "INDEED" and nothing more, then leave. Be BORING and or NEEDY, drain THEIR energy. It says somewhere in Sun Tzu's Art of War, that sometimes it PAYS to use the enemy's OWN strategies AGAINST them, usually they can't take it. Offer them canceler responses to their silly, loaded speeches, just give them a response like "TIME WILL TELL". If they ask you where did you get your new sweater? Time will tell. You respond with something GENERIC. They can be fun IF you know they are a narcissist.
It is and They didn't ask for this - narcs are Very good at what they do very patient THEY DO AMAZING THINGS IN THE BEGINNING AND SLOWLY START BEING IN COMPETITION WITH U THEY ARE DEMONIC SICK CREATURES THE SENSE OF ENTITLEMENT THEY HAVE EVEN WHEN THEY ARE BUMS IS JUST RIDICULOUS UGGH + HAVE FITS SO DAMN DRAMATIC MAKES THE KIDS START ACTING LIKE THEM TURN THE KIDS AGAIN THEIR MOM THIS IS A SICK PUP
@@sheilagunn596 please don't do that. Ask family and friends for help to divorce him. You will need the support and protection because when you dump this umworthy sack of shit, he will blow a gasket
Sheila Gunn ... get out of that marraige and find a new life. It's time for you to live now... it'll be ok. I've left 2 narc husbands and had a narc BF for 8 years in between. You'll survive leaving him if you survived living with the monster. Life WILL get so much better... you'll finally be at peace. Leave him. It took me a couple of years to get the guts to leave but I finally left the last one... find a way. *hugs*
I tell my husband I know you can relate to others feelings but Please stop lol he says I know , ugh ? Do they know they can't ? My husband never shuts up
Narcissists experienced abuse in the past so they keep the abuse to abuse others. They are sharing their pain, they don't want to be lonely in suffering.
Maybe because their parents only wanted to hear about their successes and not their problems. My parents did this to my sister. She even got kudos from them for controlling me. It's so painful!!
J B my whole family does this. My cousins aunts and uncles are mostly all in competition with one another. Needless to say I'm slowly trying to disappear with no one noticing. 👤 👻
LOL! I had a boss who was a master on gaslighting and, without knowing about this narcissist thing, i once told him, i should start taking notes of what he tells me to do. Looking back now at his reaction, it was priceless! And he started doing it much less, because he understood he could no longer easily fool me : ))) Definitely, try it!
My narc is a actress, singer, and model. I just drove her crazy by talking subject to subject and she said you keep interrupting me and won't let me talk. LOL She texted me I don't think I can be with someone like you. I texted I just bought this purple shirt at the mall and I love it! LOL Holy shit! She asked me if I was high or whats wrong with me ... "something changed about you". I then robo texted her 50 text in a row about every subject, topic, and mundane thought I could think of..... LOOL it drove her nuts!!!!!! SHE EVEN SCREENSHOT MY RAMBLING IN TEXT TO TRY TO SHOW THAT I WAS CRAZY. THIS IS THE BEST TH-cam VIDEO I HAVE EVER SEEN IN MY LIFE!!!!! THANK YOU AND HOW i WAS LAUGHING LIKE YOU THE WHOLE WAY THROUGH!!!!!
David C Oh my God you're HILARIOUS. I LOVE what you did LOL!! Narc: "Blah blah blah mememememe" You: "Oh hey ya...I just bought this purple shirt at the mall & I love it!!..." Narc: "WTF??" HAHAHAHA!!
David C My narc mom can't STAND it if anybody else talks a lot at once. She says in a shocked tone "they just started babbling!" and everyone else looks at each other and tries not to smile. Good for you.
Thank you!! I have always had a very adventurous spirit! If you have dated more than 1 person with narcissist personality disorder, they become so transparent and predictable YOU YOURSELF START TO FEEL PSYCHIC AND CAN PREDICT EXACTLY WHAT THEY ARE GOING TO DO. She told me I was perfect ( which I know I am not) , she was constantly watching my expressions and misreading them, she tried to TRAUMA BOND with me by telling me every horrible story or wrong doing she perceived happened to her, she took my jokes as literal ,needed to talk to me all day, then it went to lies and discard because she said I wasn't taking care of her financial needs?!. It was like a light switch and a weird surreal experience. The idea that most empathetic people are weak is a myth. Its takes a lot of inner strength to be vulnerable and kind to others. But push us too far, and we will take a strong stand. Narcs misjudge their empathetic partners. AND PLEASE DO THIS AT YOUR OWN RISK. SHE ENDED UP CHARGING MY CREDIT CARD $3000 OR POSTED MY CC INFO ON THE INTERNET AND SOMEBODY ELSE TRIED TO SCAM ME. ( she saved my credit card number when I bought her a $600 plane ticket)
David C Crap. I thought I was the only one doing that in the world. Thanks for sharing HahahahahahahahaI I remembered an incident. She was in a fucking rage screaming and throwing stuff and demolishing the kitchen. ( yes, she push all the crockery off the cabinet to the floor. I stood calmly and looked at her simultaneously lift my finger sloooowly. It caught her attention and when silent. I said. ..SURPRISEEEE!!!😁I'll let you use your imagination what the out come. I honestly think she so wish wanted to burn me alive 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
My 40 yr old son is a narcissist & I hate him. He can’t control me anymore so he stays away which is a relief for me. He’s toxic. My life is better now without him. Please don’t judge me if you haven’t lived in the agony.
SilvaMC No judgement. It's natural to feel that way, especially when it's someone you feel obligated to love and care for and the guilt piles up on top of all the suffering they cause you. Me and my sister are struggling with that. But I don't agree what this lady is saying. Yes, some of her tips can be very useful to repel a narcissist, but with her, they are coming from a place of revenge and getting even, and whatever else we do, true freedom from a narcissist mean we are free to be the complete opposite of everything they represent. I'm learning to hold my mother off by doing things like ignoring her jabs, refusing to respond when I know she wants a reaction, learning to keep secrets from her (most importantly, secretly planning and executing my escape), and learning never to explain, defend, or try to use logic on her. I don't do these to make her feel bad, although they do. I do it to make her let go, and at the end of the day I know I am not like her, because if she were in my place, she wouldn't even be able to keep that happy grin off her face.
No judgement SilvaMC. Because they're family doesn't mean you're obligated to also love them. I'm 60 and live with my aunt and her son and grandson, the narc. If I could afford to move would've done it four years ago. The son and I are in agreement about him. I can't make a comment to him without him telling me I'm miserable or a bitch and then the old fuck you. He's twenty nine next month and never been out of his Mom's or Grandma's site. In fact two years ago his mom left moved an hour away and stuck us and her Mother with him. I try my best not to speak at all, buts it's difficult.
don't feel bad SilvaMC, I don't like my narcissistic 19 year old but maybe there is still time for her to change. but sometimes I wish she was never born. Just being a parent does not mean you can deal with this shit
My brother in law is a narc too and my mother in law says she's loves him because he's her son but she doesn't like him at all . I hate him and wouldn't spit on him if he were on fire😌
I have used these tactics and they go berserk!! 😂These are good for those people at work that you can't really get rid of. Obviously, if your spouse is a narcissist just leave, don't bother using these, just leave.
Dealing with a long distance narc. I refuse ALL phone calls where he can talk over me or rage on me. He's been reduced to texting and emails. It sure curbs his outbursts cuz he doesn't want ANYTHING in writing!
this is my mother and her sister my mother 98 her sister 96, call each other every day fight on the phone and call each other names then hang up on each other, one time in my home i had to kick them both out, physical fight, my aunt developed respect for me i later found out, this is 2-16-2018 and they are still doing it, its my mother who has all the manipulative power over my aunt, but my aunt is good at it also. My aunt said you will never get the best of me, of course my mother tells me all of this at our 1 hour we spend together each week, i don't respond or react to anything she says.
I now know why my mother-in-law hates me as I've been subconsciously doing this to her for years. It's all fine for me but she has damaged 5 children including my husband- such a shame
When you have identified that your spouse is a NARC and that you do not want to take the easy way out by walking out of the door, but rather make the marriage work, is playing dumb the only way out????????..
Ali mo, me too. We're going thru it right now. We moved in to take care of my father in law when he was on hospice. He passed away almost a year ago. My mother in law is the narc, and it's been hell. We have a hard time saving enough to move back out because of her sucking our finances dry plus her junky grandson robs us daily. We can't call the law because then we're homeless. I know God has a plan for us...a way out of here
@@merlyn8062 yes, play dumb with him but work on your self esteem at the same time (self care, build other healthy relationships, learn new things, go to school, improve your career etc.)
@@beatricep8282 this is the best solution. Without some of yourself emotionally and commit it to yourself through God. It works. I know this too well, and every time I slip up and invest too much, I get scorched. It hurts.
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i must say, some narcs actually do alot for others, but not with the right intention, they do it to look good, brag, etc and have a cover for themselves to appear as noble
avopia . Oh yes , they will do shit for you , so they can ruin you later , it's easier to ruin you like this, cos now you are they b...🐶
Mine (ex) is a doctor. There is no better occupation for a narc then a doctor who saves the lives of children (which he does). All the adoring grown-ups who "owe (the narc) our lives" "how can we repay you" "will forever live in debt to (this narc)". On the surface, it seems remarkable. Then a dear friend (who quickly was thrown away after this observation said... "(narc)? Isn't it funny... those who love you the most...are the ones who know you the least."
avopia you nailed it...build up the profile...
Magnus Melenkurion I feel your pain...The most annoying thing is everybody loves the person I deal with ...but the jus love the fake person...I hve saw the other side to them...scary
yes my ex tried to buy me stuff and at the same time he felt like a god because of that, and he called me poor and he is so rich.
When you can laugh at the things the NARC has done you are healed.
hopefully one day.
how about when you torture a Narc family and don't even know because I don't care about bs and I can play games too
I will never be able to laugh about children's lives being destroyed by a narcissist
Superb! I agree!!!!!! I was actually laughing out loud yesterday! Great advice!
HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAI
If you're going through hell with a narc, I love you and it will be OK.
Thanks! Almost didn't make it.
Brea S ❤️
Thanks. It’s hard to deal with one who drinks and uses drugs.
Thanks 😚
She honestly made me want me to kms
I never hear anybody laugh when they discuss dealing with their narcissist. This really is such a relief to listen to.
I did once! I started laughing and saying he looked like a child throwing a tantrum! He did not like it at all! I loved it!
Yes it’s funny when we learn too play them there insanity back.
6 A.m....He just threatened to beat me and got out of his car to do it and rear ended the new Nissan because his company car wasn't in P-a-r-k. I laughed out loud. I do.
I’ve done it and she was thoroughly confused while I was tickled.
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Fun with a narcissist is an oxymoron... not being around them is truly fun
She said if you cannot not be around them for various reasons.
Loled 😂
Mine decided to project and gaslight me Christmas and leave me. So my cats and I threw and impromptu party! Yall are invited!
agreed! it isn't fun it it survival even though i am healed i have to use these techniques to stay healed!
Best advice! The air is so much clearer without them!
Isn’t it liberating when you finally figure them out but keep it a secret and change your behavior around them? Nothing pisses them off more!
Katie Mason what would you do in a situation were your narcissist husband says don’t come back and pick me up from work when I drop him off because he knows I will think he’s cheating and I will probably cry
HALLELUYAH So if I am understanding correctly, he tells you to not come back but then asks you to pick him up after work?
Katie Mason I took him to work this morning but right before work ended he said don’t come up to his job and pick him up he knows I will think he’s with another woman after work but he don’t care
Omg yes lol they do not know how to act or deal with you but it's a constant struggle to never let them manipulate you
@@carziyah4192 I would start to consider the possibility of leaving - you deserve better!!
"Overgrown 4 year olds who never got their empathy chip installed" - AMEN to that!
My ex narc is almost 50 and still plays with dolls
Its really funny, but is sii true
True dat! I called mine a 12 year old 40 year old.
I beg, stop comparing them to innocent Children who have LOOOTS of Empathy, Folks :)
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Narcissists never learned “Do unto others as you would have them do to you.” A taste of their own “medicine” is exactly what these toxic trolls need and deserve.
I agree
Yes, but be prepared for the backlash....
Absolutely
As soon as I started giving my narcissist a taste of their own medicine they got so Mad they started blaming me for everything and pointing the finger as much as they could giving them a taste of their own medicine means your the bad guy I’m the guy who don’t take shit from no one that’s what I am you treat people how you want to be treated that’s the only way they may learn being the bigger person just give them a reason to keep walking on you for being to nice I rather not be the bigger person and give them a taste of their own BS and be labeled the bad one then let someone walk all over me
I gave him a taste of his own medicine and he totally zipped up 😂😂😂😂😂😂he wouldn't believe how excellent IAM at his own game
Being a genuine empath in the world today is so overwhelmingly hard and that's putting it lightly
I know what you mean...I feel the same! Everyday for one reason or the other is very difficult and overwhelming. It's like a dog eat dog world now and you're always having to look out for yourself and avoid being a victim of something or someone. It's tiring and anxiety inducing being on flight or fight mode constantly.
Where I live everyone is pretty miserable and walking hostile shells so it's draining when their bad vibes rub off. I can't help but absorb that negative energy. At the same time being an empath I'm highly concerned about society and the direction the world is going.
Thanks for listening to my blabberings. Phew, good to get it out 😅😅😅
@@KooPooky your in no way blabbing! We need fellow empaths to talk to and if possible get with another in person to recharge and get your frequency back up where it naturally emanates, although it seems extremely hard to find any nowadays. As far as living where majority are hostile, bitter, etc. , unfortunately that seems to be where society has vastly gone and it leaves us more vulnerable and forced to be in a constant state of defense and seeking to understand why they do what they do. We are so acutely tuned in to not only our own energy and emotions but also all that surrounds us and we are easy targets, especially for the narcissist. Beings of light in as dark world, yes exhausting but getting to experience the full spectrum of deep intimate emotions makes it worth it:)
Capitalism is being abused by narcissists who reward and promote one another.
@@mxmike1388 Thank you...this is so true and accurate all of what you said. It is a blessing but can also mean protecting our natural pure gifts :)
It is not hard.
I've learned that the best way to silence a narcissist is to recover and live well, while keeping them out of your life.
Golden Allicaster Seems weak to just move on especially if they will stalk you later. I wish I could just let go.
Raman Dhaliwal I agree with you, but I feel like they win since I walked away.
BEAUTIFUL... ABSOLUTELY BEAUTIFUL!!!!!
AMEN!!!!!!!!
Hi Maat11. I genuinely understand where you're coming from but there's no winners and losers in the situation you appear to be in - just survivors.- and you're bound to feel as though you've "lost", and that you're "weak", if you treat your situation as a battle. As tough as it is to do in the moment try to recognise and accept that that's a battle of egos they _must_ fight (it's what defines their illness,) and one you'll _always_ "lose", regardless of how well you fight. Respectfully, if you ask yourself why you fight back (and question how you fight back) you'll get a better understanding of how to move forward in a healthy way.
Something you'll need to accept is that if the person in question is someone you love, and want to be loved by, then you're bound to get scarred to some extent regardless of what you do - that's a heartbreaking but unavoidable fact; it's how you respond to that scarring that'll determine how deeply you're scarred. I don't know the specifics of your situation but I'll remind you that remaining well (physically and emotionally) and "letting go" are two entirely separate issues, and that how "strong" you truly are depends on how you wear your own scars, not how many scars you inflict on others. All the best to you.
Ignoring them is the best.. It KILLS them.. Ive learned from the best..
Absolutely, I've learned ignoring my narc and not engaging with them causes them to lose interest. At least for a little while. 😀
Yep. I don't think there's ANYTHING I could say or do bc he is ALWAYS right regardless. I learned to just stay away from him and don't engage in conversations. Works perfectly
But how about if he blackmail u? Shall i ignore him? He=bf
I did this and it DROVE her NUTS. She was talking to me on the phone and telling me what I "need to do with my life" so I said "Oh! My cat is choking!!" (I don't have a cat) and hung up the phone. Never talked to her again but I see her often. It drives her NUTS.... hahah nah beech go away LOL!!!!!
@@o.h.w.6638 I woulda been like, omg, something happened!! i don't fuckin care! then hang up.
Why even waste your time with a narcissist doing any of these games? Just walk away get out of their lives. That is the best revenge of all
My narcissist won’t let me leave
sometimes it's the parent. and you might be stuck with them at home as a college student, a minor or a caretaker.
When its family or parents its a lot harder unfortunately
@@SweeteesLifestyle leave
Sometimes it is a DIL
The only way to get real revenge and power, is to focus on bettering yourself.
Latania Is here I couldn’t agree more
I'm working on that every day.
Very true! And heal the wounds
I agree with that
Hallelujah!
They are demon possessed and it’s so hard to talk to the person. They get mad at you for everything and blow things out of proportion.
This is so true lol bruh i had to leave my ex bitch she was a sick fuck immature
blessedone28 yep and at the end, it’s always your fault
Reese see I’m dealing with this now. He is using drugs and drinks alcohol so it makes things worse . He told me that I make everything his fault. So he is now saying that I bring up things that he doesn’t remember telling me and he says it’s nerve wracking. He also hates for me to hang up when he is cussing me out and calling me out of my name. I think I’m at a breaking point.
@@blessedone28 and thats why you need to run to the hills baby, it only gets worse, they are satan kids, star manipulator and will drive you crazy, they breaks down your self esteem make you feel like you do everything wrong, Im telling you what God loves, Break that cycle before it gets worse, because believe me you, it does. Fast, pray that demon out your mind, body, and soul.
@@blessedone28 see, what I tell you, my ex just called a sec ago, literally, DECLINE😇
Do not give ANYBODY power over your emotions. You control how someone makes you feel. Love yourself and nothing can break that.
Easier said than done when you are a child of someone narcissistic who doesn't seem to care or live you. Just not that simple, as you grow up thinking you're quite flawed to never be able to please your parent.
@Her Right There nooo, ask God above or Jesus Christ.
pamzpam TruthpushingPatriot absolutely ask god!! He’s first and foremost but you gotta love yourself that’s power!!
pamzpam TruthpushingPatriot I’m sorry😔 But now you are AWARE you can change the way people make you feel. Strip away the parental conditioning and yes there’s steps to it it’s not easy but once you do you’ll have a breakthrough and aha moment and you really can change the way you see yourself and ultimately love yourself unconditionally. I know you can do it no matter what has happened in your life. I got faith in you💚💚💚💚 Your a beautiful soul never let anyone dim your light including Narcissistic parents💚💚💚💚
Too late for me my childhood was shit and now I’m one of them
“You’re giving you them what they’re giving to you every day” spoke to me. It’s so funny that when you start treating shady people the way they treat you, they dont like it and suddenly you are “mean” or “toxic” 🤣
Ahuh! And they will convince others to hate you too😂😂😂😂 i'm so immune with toxic people😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
@@sabrinawanderer7560 exactly.
🤣🤣🤣
Exactly!!!!
As she points out, they don't like to do anything for other people.
I've never met a narcissist with anything worth being jealous about.
LMAO right???
Omg!!! When I first was suggested that my mom was a narc I instantly thought "why would she be a narcissist? she has no accomplishments or does anything at all?" How funny looking back.
I have. But it must be an illusion.
@@prittyugly86 the shrinks say Narcissists are jealous of everyone. Say jealousy is hate from childhood in adult form. Strange, isn't it???
Amen!! 🙌🏽
having those kinds of ppl in your life is so draining. lifesuckers.
reduced fat girl
They should be called life suckers instead of narcs
big time drainning energy
Phewwwww, , broke up with one, the best thing I’ve ever did in life
@@sumayakenan6955 ,
Parasites
Mrs. Cardona What if it's my Mother? I feel like she uses my Autism against me.
The people who judge you for employing these tactics have never lived under the psychologically abusive yoke of a narcissist. It’s about survival, redemption, liberty, and regaining your personal sovereignty from an abuser.
Amen!
Unless it unwittingly also makes you an abuser.
Vaughn Emett, you’ve obviously never lived under the boot of one of them.
REVENGE. Sweet one. I see no moral code violation. You are not physically harming any one. Fuck the judgments.
Vaughn its starting to show bud stop commenting narcissist fuck
They need a serious spiritual cleansing and an exorcism
exorcism LMFAO! 😂
No one can help them. They are demons
Add in a good ass whooping to that spiritual cleansing and exorcism😂🙌
I have told my NEX your EXACT words!
😂😂😂 thank you.
The best way to deal with one.....pretend they don't even exist
libra42ful that’s what they do with you so might as well
just mirror them.
Amen to that. 😎
libra42ful FOR REAL 😳
FOR SURE AMEN
Absolutely!
They love to listen if u r giving them some sort of information, they love the information, so that they can use against u later on
OR praise of some sort.
Yep that is true. You open yourself up then they betray you.
So true.
Good lord this is to true👏👏👏👏
Give them fake news then..😁
He digs at me all day, then asks me wtf is wrong with me? Why I'm so depressed? So lately I just smile and give one word answers. Or say, "sorry you feel that way". Little does he know I'm moving out, little by little..in just a few days I'll be gone, no goodbye, no contact. I'm going to completely cut him off. It will drive him insane. I've watched so many of these videos and read alot on how to deal with a narc..I am prepared! NO CONTACT!
Meredith B I hope you are well...and away from him💗
How did it go?
YES! NO CONTACT! DO NOT GO BACK!!!! You are way better off - these people are beyond psychotic
Meredith, how did it go??
Meredith B I’m just seeing that you left a year ago already how are you holding up.
Truth is I don't want to get even with the narcissist I just want all my time back.
You have lots of time.
@@dawnemile4974 Decades of youth time, full of energy, full of motivation. Now, tired, body hurts, have a portion of the progress that didn't need to be wasted had I not been brought back to starting at step one over and over again.
The narcissist has nothing, they squandered theirs as well as most of mine.
To add even more metrics the young version could lay over a thousand bricks a day consecutively over a week the pathetic old version can barely manage 400 a day and still needs a little time to recover. The young could lift 270kg and run 8 miles averaging just under 6 minutes/mile on the flat, the pathetic old can barely lift 90kg and can still run 8 miles but needs over 10 minutes/mile on the flat.
Sooner or later, narcissists will mess with the wrong person and get some get back.
@@kynchan3332 I'm sorry. But you got to accept reality for what it is. The narcissist has screwed your life over and it can't be undone. What can be done is live the rest of your life as you wish raising a giant middle finger to your narcissistic oppressor. Even I felt the same way when I realised.
Revenge makes U as worse as them.that was Satan's plans all along. Change course. Pray for them . Forgive.
I got my narcissist to the point he no longer wanted to be in my life
Knowledge Copes Congratulations! 🎉
Permission To Exist And Im the king of assholes.I use to try to be a man of peace do to my life of stress and depression but when i tapped into my rebellious aka dark side my narc became frustrated.
Ohhh yessss girl. I need your suggestions and tips
+Ruth LOL at that name, Ruthless Aggression, so proud of your serious defect :)
Ruthless Aggression :'D
I have to say that, any interaction with a narc drains my energy. Even if I win with it, somehow I always absorb some of their poison. Avoiding any contact is best for me.
Nice video, Thx.
yes its like a smear campaign....some of the shit will stay and at least leave a stink....
Rafal Jakubek i have beaten narcs at their own game, i am only left with an empty feeling because i do not enjoy other's pain the way they do. no contact is best contact
Rafal....exactly.....but they don't have to know this....all I can say is when you outsmart them they lose it...knowing their next move is vital...even if you don't...Narcs are all the same...attention whores..
Hey Joe...so right...I have flashbacks...it's not fun...he stole so much from me...I got rid of people that even reminded me of a narcissist....Selfishness and greed are a sure sign
I'm the same Rafal. It's completely draining. The best advice I can possibly offer to anybody reading the comments is to give them a completely wide birth. They are the biggest waste of time. Do not believe the charm and the lies. Just walk the other way and do not look back.
I finally learned from a narcissist and if you use their tricks on them THEY FREAK ! LOL!
When I have contact with my narc mother, I focus on innocently talking about all the good and successful things in my life and how happy I am, and when she says something negative I just ignore it and talk about yet another thing that went well for me and how lucky that makes me feel, she HATES it 😂 the happier I am the more she suffers, it’s a win win, success really is the best revenge.
Yes! I see my old witch mother crumple with rage and frustration when I am just plain happy and doing my own thing. If she does attempt an information dig, I usually bring up the need to get our living wills and funeral arrangements done and this really deflates her. I laugh and say: We are at that age, Mom. You or I could drop dead any day. She is a very somatic narcissist and aging has been terrible for her.
COOL ;)
Revenge makes U as worse as them.that was Satan's plans all along. Change course. Pray for them . Forgive.
If you can ever experience a narc get laughed at or made fun of by another person in front of you when they are trying tear you down its pure Heaven 😃💯❤😂
Karma 😊
It did feel awesome!
Omg'sh YES!!!!
YES!!
Yes lol
He just hoovered..with the whole "I have realized how badly I treated you and how much I regret losing you."
My response: 'That's great.'
He was PISSED..🤣🤣
Andrea 😂😂😂😂 I responded with "cool"
Damn, I wish I would’ve done that to my bully, I just blocked him and removed his number after he said that
better to be pissed off than pissed on!
Jim Allen nah, that was probably one of the most satisfying moments of my life, I wrote that guy like a 5 paragraph essay on how bad he makes my day for him to give me that response, and it was priceless to finally have him off my back
lol That's awesome. Point noted for future deployment.
Every personal problem i told her in confidentiality is being weaponized against me.
Name your fear and you no longer fear it. Same applies with what you just wrote here. No longer give her ammunition to throw back in your face.
Understand that what they do is not a reflection of you or who you are. They act crazy or as a demon because they are. Separate them and their actions from you. Like a light switch, cut it off. Be head strong. You and them are two separate people. Just look at her and say, nothing you can do or say bothers me, I know you’re crazy and I’m not. And walk away.
Act oblivious😂
That's exactly what they do. Hang on. It'll get better.
I was on a long cruise and there was a couple that were the empath and the narcissist if I've ever seen it. He was overt. Very dark and aggressive. She was obviously afraid of him. Trying to please him. What I did so that he wouldn't be so dark was to ask him about his scuba diving adventure. He immediately was friendly and much more tolerable to be around. He loved talking about himself. Too funny!
I did realise that i was doing the gray-rock technique already, everytime we fight and there’s hoovering and on and on, until this monday i injured his narc by just asking for his time, then now his giving me a silent treatment. I knew from the first fight i didn’t fckn listen to my intuition, but now. I am saving all my energy to execute my exit plan.
For all the empath souls reading this, i wish us all healing 🙏🏼 and radical acceptance
To deal with one... you had best be strong minded and one with yourself. Because they're full of shit and only out for themselves.
This lady said study them. I did exactly that for years. I learned what NOT to be and what I didn't want to be surrounded by. Once you learn more... the more you will see. The sad part is...you will start seeing it in more people than you wish to and realize how sick our society is.
Mines was a bully when I checked him he sat down somewhere then he was apologizing....I told him don't apoogize you're entitled to your feelings he argued with me about letting him apologize I laughed and told him I was coming over....he said don't I showed up anyway he was such a good boy....you can't show fear nor weakness...he can't slander me because everyone knows my business I'm an open book no secrets mean no ammunition....then I tell everyone to fuck off I stand my ground....narcissist in a weird way are turned on and weaken by a person that has balls but it's how you do it that's key....my narcissist is a bully I know what to do with bullies
@April M. at least you see it and you are wiser and will chose ppl carefully....
You also see it in yourself
Tough Shit mine is a bully too. I need help. I’ve been learning to hang up and ignore him, but at times it doesn’t work. He got mad when I needed to get off the phone because I wasn’t feeling well. So this morning he tells me he can’t talk to me because I was sick and he’s sick today, lying ass.
Yes indeed
narcissists are often workaholic because it is the main way to keep their self-esteem
Yep they may believe that if they outwork someone, they become better than them. That’s how they think they can control whether or not they’re the best. That’s why I don’t agree with the part of the video that said they’re lazy. They’re only lazy when it’s a task that does not elevate them.
Hmm, mine bragged that he's never taken a day off sick.. Interesting!
The ones I know are very busy putting themselves out there for adoration. They dont sit still long. But they dont work. They are lazy because they dont like tasking for others. That said there are many that do work but its usually doing something that gives them their narsisistic supply. Many are politicians, CEOS, surgeons etc. And some like to make you think they are busy. Pretend or lying about their work.
Hi cynophilist boi. Laziness isn't a rare character trait and that's all it is - a character trait, not an expression of narcissism. Loosely put, narcissists have damaged egos, and the bulk of their narcissistic behaviour stems from a pathological need to protect their ego from further injury. How they do that is as varied as it is with 'well' people. So while 1710tmk's observation is reasonable, given there are more 'workaholics' than 'lazy people' in the general population, and 'work' is a common way to deal with self-esteem issues, those traits in themselves are not particularly useful in helping to establish whether someone is a narcissist or not.
Credentialed and armchair experts alike have taken to spreading many ignorant claims regarding narcissism (I'm guessing for reasons that have more to do with their own ego issues), which has led to a lot of general confusion and misinformation about the condition. One important (and pertinent) example of that is this bizarre notion that narcissists "lack empathy". As you I hope know, that's utter crap - narcissists, like sociopaths (as distinct from psychopaths), simply have an irrational tendency to override their empathy when they feel the _need_ to. (So if your dad has never shown you an empathy he is not "merely" a narcissist, which is entirely possible of course).
I feel for you (it's an ugly situation to be in ain't it) but I certainly hope you don't take the advice given in this video - it'll just turn you into a toxic person and that'll just add one more "victim" to the list.
However difficult it may be for you to rationalise at the moment your dad's not 'evil' mate, he's really unwell, and a sad truth is that it's extremely unlikely he'll ever be 'healed' of his narcissism. He has very little control over his narcissistic behaviour,; in fact, despite how "obviously wrong" this may sound to you now, know that _you_ have more control over how he acts than he does. If you use that knowledge lovingly, and can resist falling into the trap of "demanding" (or expecting) that hee _not_ act narcissistically (very difficult to do - we all have an ego' right?) you may be suprised at how much less toxic your situation can become. Again, and contrary to what some would have you believe, your dad's not trying to _wilfully_ destroy your ego, he's trying to _pathologically_ protect his own. Try keep that in mind - especially at the worse of times. If you don't you'll just be adding bitterness to your heartache. All the best to you.
Kim Young I agree. The ones I know work for their supply only.....
FUN is kicking them to the curb and beyond!!!!
Total waste of time to be anywhere near them!!!
Narcissists are sadistic and enjoy kicking people to the curb. They don’t lie to be near anyone who makes them feel insecure or is more beautiful or talented or successful them and they project narcissism into others for superficial reasons. It’s interesting theses channels don’t go into how narcissists actually manipulate and dominate others with narcissism with hunts. Narcissists are evil people of the lie who manipulate with logical fallacies and cognitive distortions. These channels don’t seem to discuss evaluating our own character defects and questioning ourselves or the issues with reflective functioning or objectification. Triangulation. It’s a witch-hunt.
Families Supporting Trauma Recovery a narc is mentaly ill..whats your excuse
Nonsense bully talk. Logical fallacy. Gaslighting.
@@misstmemrs So the archetype of the "narcissist" is as important to understand as our own potential for taking on the archetype of the role as "victim?" If that's the case (and I understand you correctly) then agreed, certainly - learning to handle a narc is as important as learning to understand our own toxic behaviors and relationship to the narc.
Fallacious question. Abusers communicate with common propaganda techniques. And missatuned.
Finally someone who says get back some redemption before going No Contact.
I really wish there could be more of these types
@@stacymilligan4011 It is the only way to deter their future bad behavior.
Just throw the whole narc away😂😂😂😂
doitBIG lewis amen
How? 😛 I must know? Maybe like this: 🔥😵😜
doitBIG lewis I did. Beat him at his own game and divorced him. Yayyyyyy me.
doitBIG lewis 😂😂😂😂
LOL LOL👍
Predictable is the prime word when you know you're dealing with a Narcissist.
💯 they are very predictable. I make sure I don't even see them. Turn my back and close my door.
Just got discarded the second time and now I am really kinda enjoying being at peace at home relaxing. Feels good. No more wondering...pondering...trying to figure out a problem that never ends...weird silences...guilt trips...questions...lies...its just evil. Peace is great!
dude went through the same with this guy. tried to gaslight me but i never replied back cause I know thats what he wanted. The chase. I said, Im going over here.
It is great to have peace and quiet! I especially enjoy just laughing at nothing at all now while I'm all alone! I just crack myself up! Smiling at random people and they Smile back!! It's such an amazing feeling to be well and safe! 💪
Dunno what yours is about but agreed lol.
@@celeste3100 I eventually met a more mature one and it's not been awful lol.
sungirl99 oh I get that wondering too much weight lost, I’m over it
THE BEST PART IS WHEN U KNO ALL THEIR WEAKNESSES. CAUSING A DOMINO EFFECT IN THEIR LIFE
Start recording all, conversations,especially when they are being abusive.Warning! Act in secret, always be careful.
@Marichu Quional which ever you can get away with.lol
And then?
@@Mel-oe3dw ,then that person cant be gas lit and accused of being crazy and being projected upon. If you've been with a narc you know the projection,the gas lighting, the deflecting. The recoedings can come in useful at court or simply to remind you that youre not the one at fault as the narcissist is good at convincing their victims they are the problem.
@@johnmiller-jf3ez thanks for this comment!
@@alexispritchard1955 hope its useful.
Your humor reminds me that actually using humor can be affective. Knowing how absurd narcs are, laughing at them can throw them off, too.
Humor is an amazing relief!
This is good to know lol
@@amoore7960 well apparently those two are lolololling cause I mean... we have all known each other for a long time and this is all true down to the gum wrapper stuff lol. So...
That's what's called being an "Heyoka Empath".
@@rekietastovall2084 ....what is a heyoka????
I was with a narcissist for four years ...once I caught on I that I had wasted years on a man that was nothing but a weak piece of shit It became quite easy for me to send him into a deep state of depression and self doubt - everything he did to me - I did to him....after a while you realise that you're behaving no better then person you are trying to destroy.....it is best to just have no contact with the abuser at all - EVER and focus on getting yourself back to the old you - that is what I have done....single life can feel lonely but at the end of the day it is much better to be alone then be with a person that makes you loose yourself.....
Jesse lee Same here. Agree, my ex wasn't worth it. Glad you're free now, blessings!
TaliWho9 hey :) thank you ... Appreciate that - glad for you as well😊🍀life is too precious - we can't waste it on those that do not appreciate us hey
Exactly what I needed to hear!
Mitchell Babies I'm glad :) I sometimes feel silly leaving a comment...as I'm far from perfect or an expert on this subject but you saying that has made me realise it isn't a waste of time to speak from the heart and try reach a stranger :) hope you find happiness and peace 🍀✌️💐
Trippy Cookie AMEN!!!!
Let them finish the their long sentence look them straight in the eyes crack a smile and just clap your hands in a robust applause as if at the theater for about 10 seconds long without saying a word I guarantee you they will go INSANE.
HAHAHA
Love it!
I think this will either put them in a rage, or cause them to save it up for revenge later. Not a good idea.
Classic LOL. Yeah this type of mocking is the best thing in fights. They will absolutely meltdown.
Narcissist have serious mental illness and personality disorder.
Play dumb / play dead / be boring =
"Gray Rock Strategy" = problem solved = Awesome!
Your videos are so outstanding and spot-on. I hope you are well xoxoxox
I do like that the channel is called "permission to exist" because that's what it's like when you grow up with a narcissistic parent. They expect you to get their permission for existence
So true. I used to thank my narc mother for feeding me.
Gwen doesn't everyone thank their mother for giving them food though? That's just basic manners
Also when you grow up with a partner🤔
Loved it... Permission to Exist... You Rock... I live with a Narc.. it’s almost like living with my happy soul’s predator. Nailed it sister!!!😘
+Jenni Smeltzer: I had to ask permission to go to the bathroom!!!! They'd gnore me, look at each other, make me ask two and three times till they'd laugh and say yes you can go. Talk about uncaring and possessive. All those memories don't go away... then they expect us to drop everything we've worked for (home, sons, career) to go cook and clean for them and oh yeah.... I would also be EXPECTED to pay her rent too!! LMAO!! Freaking INSANE! SO DONE :))
I don’t play games with narcs .. I have better things to do with my time .. and better people who deserve my time ..
But you're here🤷
Right
+OldManClutch I do not believe that all of them are 100% BAD. It is not always easy to get away from them. I am married to one, and I unfortunately, have depended upon him for way too much (he became successful in his film/tv career, since we have met). I am trying to get out of this situation, and to become more independent. I do feel like a fool. It seems to me like narcissist are very good at fooling people to who they really are. My husband has been good on and off since we have been together. He does make me feel miserable because of these narcissist traits. He has made me many promises. I have music , which has been monetized , and I feel like he hates talking about this and other promising issues that are now going on for me. I fully support him in his endeavors. I feel very betrayed. I am angry , but I really do not know what to do now. I have helped him in many ways and I feel like I am getting the short end of the stick, and he also becomes enraged when I try to discuss what I need to do.
Some narcs are unavoidable (inlaws/bosses).
OldManClutch me either. I stay away from them and focus on myself
I actually got a call from a narc asking how I was. She was actually trying to see if I'm suffering. I came to a point that I spoke so much they eventually said they really have to go now and basically hung up on me. I felt so good afterwards.
The Narcissistic in my life only call me about a problem to hear, or their suffering or health issues searched for to find a problem to dramatise as it is not you but them whom is important
I have tryed to get advice from Narcissistic people and they will gaslight me to non important person
only needed to work for their egocentric nature on demand of phone call
@@kimsherlock8969 Everything revolves around them.
@@empresszoe9351 when I am suffered from depression or physical pain she laughs and sends me shots of herself having a huge time socially.
I'm in pain but her having facebook photos.
I really needed a friend and asked for some form of friendship loving?
I was not called or contacted by her even in the death of my father nothing as a Man and her sex life was everything 💯 😌
I wasnt a friend I was useful to laugh at
@@kimsherlock8969 Hope she's out of your life.
@@empresszoe9351 Tryed but am being punished as I was so 😔 Alone.
I tryed change in dynamics in cutting her off ....I was told I was Mad.
If I died no empathy would be easy for her.
I don't have time to be playing games. I despise Narcs and can't stand being around them. No Contact!!!
sometimes you can't go no contact
Serena Rossi
Than you go Low Contact if you have children, otherwise No Contact.
What about the kids. Help
Empathy for your anxiety- perhaps this You-tube link might help: Lisa A. Romano Breakthrough Life Coach Inc.
Ann, I've found this woman's approach very genuine and helpful: Lisa A. Romano Breakthrough Life Coach Inc.
The best way to mess with them is to realise who and what they are, then drop them completely out of your life. It may take time but get RID. It’s empowering, freeing and completely liberating.
Lol that doesn’t work with some of them
Lord of Cinder Some one finally says something that makes sense! YOU!!!! TYSVM!!!!!
@@Cortanasboyfriend Why? Just ignore their ass and if they insist continue to ignore
ABSOLUTELY!!!
Best way to converse with a narcissist: Just say, "Whatever," and move on.
The reason why this video is so fantastic, is because you added the element OF FUN. Otherwise, it would be just another boring narcissist video. I love it.
I was crying when I clicked on this video, feeling hopeless with my narc spouse in the next room that I’m trapped with. And now I’m laughing my ass off!
Wow, this is so true, narcissists are lazy, they hate to help others unless there is a benefit in it for them. I know several, they love to ride on the good deeds of others as though those were theirs. They even take credit for what others do, while they did nothing.
Gwendolyn Wehage Yes so true!
Gwendolyn Wehage YEP!!!
My narcissist father used to do that all the time. A friend of his had a son who was a doctor. My dad would always make comments such as, "He's one of the best surgeons in the United States," as if it was one of his OWN accomplishments!!
Gwendolyn Wehage So So True! My narc sister does this to me all the time!
Gwendolyn Wehage you are right. They like to shine at other people's expense
Playing around with a narcissist is dangerous, I would not - better to eliminate them from your life.
Not everyone has that option
What if the narcissist is your mother?
Our niece is a narcissist and yes you can ignore your narcissistic relative(s). It is for your peace of mind. To get out of the constant drama and chaos.
Omg, I wrote everything down, and they tore my journal out of my hand 😂 I couldn’t stop laughing which made them angrier resulting in more laughter
Please explain more!!!
When they give YOU a task, F it up miserably! Lol!!😂🙌😂 Woman, you're hilarious💙💙
"If you really want to sketch out your narcissist (boss) switch up the color of notebook, every time you take notes!"
Hahaha! Too funny!
A narcissist is a bit like a flame. A flame cannot exist without oxygen; cut off the oxygen and the flame dies out very quickly.
A narcissist also has no real power or control without other people around or accessable to abuse/use/charm/manipulate. This is essentially what they live for - to create drama, pain, sadness, and chaos, especially to those closest to them. They simply cannot avoid doing this or miss an opportunity, since this is a big source of supply to them and they need it.
If you were to take a narcissist to a remote island with absolutely no people, no way to get back home and just leave them there with no communication tools, they'd most likely go crazy and be extremely bored and depressed until they either offed themselves or died of starvation.
Therefore, the only real way to injure the narcissist is to take away/lessen their sources of supply, or ignore them and don't feed into them. They need attention constantly, so if their targets don't seem to be affected, it will most likely confuse them and throw off their plans a little bit.
A narcissist can't exist without a captive audience. They must always reflect themselves onto others, like some sort of tragic soulless vampire that will never ever get enough. Their personalities are
black holes, and they have gaping dark voids where their hearts should be.
One thing I notice about narcs is they hate when your right and doing the right thing
How to beat a narcissist? Go no contact, forgive them, go and have a successful life without them while developing a relationship with God through Jesus Christ.
Do NOT forgive them. This gives them permission.
Have faith in yourself. Organised religion is very narcissistic itself. Grandiose, entitled, esp Christianity and Islam.
IMO of course. Love to you all. Xxx
Forgive yourselves for being human, normal and having hope and empathy. All qualities that are used against you.
You are ABSOLUTELY CORRECT.
Good advice
if u go no contact should i block them or should i leave them as if nothing happened and continue to follow me on social media so they get jealous and leave as if they never existed ? i need helpppp
This is funny. They become unraveled when you don't give them what they want
I paid for a trip for my boyfriend to see his mother whom I had never met. Boyfriend told me his life story. So I had a clue. She's only 6 years older than me. Huge challenge to her image goals of babies. Within 20 minutes of leaving she text him "blah blah blah, My house is small and I know your girlfriend is used to better" I exclaimed "why, cause I have a 2001 CRV?" I thought it was hilarious and it said way more about her. 5 years later...she triangulates the stupidist attacks. "Grandma was afraid she was going to eat bugs because your girlfriend decided to eat outside" 3 months after we had Christmas dinner in Florida outside on a Beautiful deck.
Bonnie -- what does an Ns unravelling look like? It looks like RAGE.
It seems like they don't want the target to just be themselves.
Ha! I actually tried the note taking. I was being harassed and singled out at work by the Director. One day, she sent someone to tell me, "I can't have him writing down everything I say." My response? "Tell her to quit talking. Then, I'll have to quit writing."
😂😂😂😂👍👍👍👊👊👊👊 something similar happened to me but they told me i could not recap our conversations that was their job only not mine 😂😂😂
@@aceofswords8637 That's not only false, that's downright insulting! Documentation is your legal right. The burden of proof would be on them should you require an attorney and legal action. And, vice versa.
@@aceofswords8637 Oh my goodness! I had a college professor who absolutely forbid anyone to tape his class or even after or between classes. I always tape recorded my classes so I could listen over and over in order to study. He was especially paranoid about being taped between classes. Probably because he would flirt with girls etc. Unbeknownst to him, I would turn my recorder on (phone) and have it in the front zipped pocket of my backpack. Recorded LOUD and CLEAR! He was so full of himself.....acted like such a jerk!
Hilarious
Bahaha! 😂 That's SO great!!!!
This is soooo funny. They are literally looney bins.
Finally a voice on TH-cam that isn’t painful to listen to. 😀
This is too much energy spent on one person. They're not worth it.
Exactly
She DID say if you are stuck with the narcissist whether it's for legal or familial in the intro - in other words, if you have to be around them, it's fun to mess with them. I have to admit, I laughed out loud several times as I know EXACTLY how my ex would have responded in every one of her suggestions, and it WILL drive them cray cray.
Yeah if I wasn’t born from one I’d cut them out of my life instantly
Amy Pattie duuuuuude!!! I’m in that boat. I financially can’t move out so this is helpful lol
This narcissistic is my grown son who has my grandson . I would to like axe him out my life buy I can’t .
You sound like a very healthy intelligent stable person describing a chaotic 3 year old
About the little digs and passive-aggressive put downs: I like to agree with them. If my narc makes a remark about me being an airhead, I just laugh and agree, "Yep, I always have been!" and show by your attitude that whatever they are trying to make you feel badly about is something that you love about yourself :) I really enjoyed listening to this video. You made me laugh -thanks!
Mark Connely wow. yeah its been awhile but the whole fam calls me a blonde... so yeah 🤣😭😂 i actually got it to shut them up & looked cute while doing it!
They know how to get to you , if they are messing with you its because this is fuel for them.
Mine said you are brainless, I said I know that's why I am with you
My narc husband likes to attack my religion (Catholic), he recently used the unfortunate event of those dead kids being found on Catholic property. He goes “Well, how does THAT make you feel that the Catholics did this?” in a snarky tone. I simply told him I felt bad about it, but it wasn’t my place to judge or punish. The proper authorities will deal with it accordingly. That shut him up because I didn’t give him the reaction he wanted. I also told him that ALL religions have their down sides and people who abuse it. He always grasps at straws, trying to find things to get me on; meanwhile, HE is the alcoholic, HE is the cheater, HE is the narcissist…
@@MrsNsf74 ba ha😂😂😂😂 ha ha ha ha!!!!!!! Excellent 👌👌👌👌😊
You do not sound like a victim but one who is in control.. I love that:)
I scared him so much and convinced him I was crazy and broke. Gone forever.
Jillian S Lmao when u say you’re BROKE aww damn they don’t want u so that IS definitely effective
A long time ago in a far away land I started studying (exclusively) this subject of narcissism. It was blatantly obvious that it was everywhere in society and even family relationships. I have to tell you that the adventure is worth the brain power you put into your studies. I want to thank you for your posting of this you tube message because although narcissists are really sad people who lack insight and content of heart and humanity. I have always believed that self armor is the best protection through educational means. Thank you ❤️
I refuse to stoop to his level,I am walking away with my head held up high and beginning the journey of working on myself for myself .
My famiiar narc said to me "you're threatened by my presence" lol i laughed. To which he said "are you on drugs" 😂
hahahaha lol. They just LOVE to define you! Mine tells my children and everyone who will listen that I HATE him. My response...."I don't hate him. I'm not giving him anymore of my energy." Mine used to tell me what I was thinking..... I said you don't know what is in my mind. Him: "Oh yes I do" Me: (Starts singing a silly children's song) Asks him "Ever heard that song before?" Him: No Me: Then how in the world could you possibly know what I am thinking. And guess what! I have a whole catalog of songs in my head that you have never heard! LOL..... End of conversation!
Glass Empire TV. That what my Ex narc almost said: They feel threatened by my presence. Lol. I come to think, they all act alike, like they are one person. It’s a cult, the Jezebel cult, you join before you pick up a body, or something like that. It’s definitely a spiritual warfare. Leave that one to God to deal with, it’s way over our normal humans head. thanks
Katja Koston hive mind. 😳
@@ifeelprettyohsopretty806 They're not important enough to hate.
Lol
I've been doing this for 5 years now. It is too much fun! I totally ignore him, I play dumb, I purposely "misunderstand", I laugh when he insults me pretending he was kidding, then "playfully" insult him back. I stop him when he's talking, telling him I was distracted and wasn't listening. I apologize "sincerely" and ask him to start over. When he does, I wander away. It's funny to watch him follow me trying to get my attention! I play up the depression that he caused. I'm dull, listless, uncaring, and unresponsive until suddenly I jump up, get ready, and go out with my friends and have fun! Then come back and go back into "depression", but laugh when I'm on the phone or watching TV. I'm totally unpredictable. Drives him crazy! The best revenge is to create a happy life that he isn't part of and watch his jealousy. Yep, like 4 yr olds.
Manipulative geniuses... I think not!
the best show to learn how to be so distractidly happy is Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt!! The Queen of You're Not Raining On My Parade!!! I'mma Make You Unsad Instead!!!
Yes narcissists lie all the time like you.
This is hilarious! Love it.
Your becoming him. That is the goal. Like a vampire bite.
Follow?
T bird Why do you waste so much energy? The hell with him.
It’s really fun to watch when you turn the heat on them. I gaslighted him so bad that he became confused and worried about how he had become so forgetful. Already he was having sleepless nights and was forgetting things so gaslighting him really worked!
I could see the pain in his eyes when I pretended I didn’t remember the things he told me or did for me because they didn’t happen and that his mind was playing tricks on him.
Fabulous!!! Feel the same hearing your presentation xx
Be careful. When you are acting like them, you might as well be one. Don’t stoop
LOL this was JUST what I needed this morning!! My husband treated me so badly & as I started to get mad I remembered to stop & breathe. I kept my emotions in check & eventually while he was trying to poke me to cause a fight & go down 10 different rabbit holes, he got so angry that I was playing a game on my phone, still communicating but wasn't giving him much attention. He kept mentioning that but I didn't stop. Then he asked what my plans were for tomorrow (now today) & he said I'm going to get really angry!! (Like I'm supposed to comfort him, ha) He started with his fake empathy & it was so unbelievable I felt like laughing. He kept insisting i tell him my plans & when i refused he got so upset!! I'll leave you with this quote I saw on pintrest that makes for a good chuckle! Arguing with an idiot is like playing chess with a pigeon. No matter how good you are, the pigeon is only going to shit on the board, & strut around like he's won. Think of that the next time you're being provoked. Lol
Jesse James My VERY BEST to you! I GET IT!!
Oh the pigeon thing made me smile...... I hope life got better for you. Thank you
so why havent you left this narcissist idiot and found sombody else?
Tim Marchant In speaking for "Jesse James" , I don't think you get it. Sometimes, they have no place ELSE to go or NO family to help them.Perhaps they are AFRAID, as the "narc" has threatened them & CONVINCED them that it would be "unwise" to leave. Perhaps there are children involved, but if they were to leave, they'd be LIED about. (REMEMBER! NARCCISSTS are VERY GOOD TALKERS & VERY CONVINCING)! ESPECIALLY after they've screwed ones head all up! Please don't just assume that they can simply leave.
Jesse James I just tried to explain your situation to "Tim Marchant". If I stepped outta line, I'm really sorry.But some people just don't get it! I DO!
Also they are not lazy, they just feel superior. They do not like to do menial tasks because they value their time very highly.
My Covert Ex Narc GF was always cleaning and cooking etc ? That's how she kept her foot in the door at my house when she wasn't paying rent etc..She also loved decorating and diy..
Agreed.
no they are lazy AND too good for that. hahaha! I had one that was to good to do anything including her job. She was my boss too. She was to good for it and pee on people had to always do it. it was a small office and she always crapped in the toilet and left it there. If I didnt live there too I'd have dragged people in and nit picked her over that like she nit picked and insulted everything I did while making me do my job and her job, because she was to lazy to actually be there and to good to do it. Yeah I guess she was to good to flush a toilet too.
@Pernilla Simonsson Khammar they wish they had a maid and butler to do all the menial work
Spot on mate
Girl, When you said play dead, Baby, I almost choked laughing. Great video.
D C Me, too!!! 😂
D C: I liked the "poke you with a stick" part!
Carol Gage...Yesss, Also the kick at the preys feet. Baby, I hollered. 😂
Man u r only person who made me laugh aftr going through PTSD meeting a narcissist recently.
Same I think this is hilarious 🤣😆😂 really made me chuckle 😆x
I ignore him for a while and then say (innocently) 'did you say something ?'
Excellent! :D
LOL!
. Now that's a good strategy. Like it.
Even though I said it sounds excellent but wouldn't that be opening the door? (that we so firmly closed to that evil demon!) Come to think about it, wouldn't the best thing to do is say nothing at all? I think that would damage their ego more rather than to feed it. That way it will take away their power after all. :D
lol!!!!
I have been using these tips for the past 3 days and I cant stop laughing at this fool. I have him running around like a chicken with his head cut off! Thank you!!! 😂😂😂
Me too. I just flip from complying with his bs, then I shut off emotion for a bit, then I'll go no contact a few days.... damn he's now showing attachment. But I don't want it now...
Now I know who he really is and it's gross. But it was fun to mind screw him back then drop him like nothing. 😂 the day he turned sour on me, I did research and was like... Nah hunny you aren't doing this to me. So he's obviously pissed. Figured him out right at that moment. 🙄
Yay for both of you! This just cracks me up!!! I love humor while dealing with a stressful situation!
Objectification and lack of reflective functioning.
You made me soo lough
Thank you for the humor. I needed to laugh as the stress has made me literally sick after being married to this cruel monster. They are mockers and have no empathy! I will survive and I will escape. Say a prayer for me. Mental cruelty can be much worse than physical.
Misty DeLaine, keep strong and remember you are never alone in your striving. “Struggle is a beautiful thing”
Misty DeLaine
Awww Bigg hugg beautiful!! I'm gonna pray for you! God bless
Misty DeLaine ur stronger now, no doubt 👍
Misty DeLaine. Honey please don't do what I did! Save money, stash away if you can and be really sure to have the best attorney who understands your with a narcissist and a phony compulsive liar. Protect yourself. A weak attorney will hurt you bad divorcing the narc. Good luck.
Misty DeLaine I’m with you. After 15 years, mine is still a monster. He moved 4 min from me and life has been hell. He’s becoming more and more threatening. But now that I know what he has, I’m working on becoming more mentally strong! Prayers for you!
"Missing the empathy Chip"...
I love this 😂🤣🤣
Exactly... once you know what they are... they are sooo predictable. But remember they are very dangerous.
Yes it’s interesting we are not hearing about the cognitive distortions and logical fallacies. That’s because narcissists conduct narcissism witch-hunts.
Jay Smyth Can they really hurt you, you think? I have a «friend» that is a covert narc.... But i don’t know HOW dangerous she really is..
@@ingvildxo8230 if you don't think she can hurt you... then I would doubt she is a Narc. It is like fire... if I don't think it can burn me... it may not be a fire. There is no such thing as a fire that does not burn or a Narc that does not harm. They harm you in such subtle ways... you may not notice. They do evil things with a smile on their face. While meticulously eating away your soul.
I recently looked at an N with a blank stare when she started her junk. I also killed her with kindness during our time that we had to spend together grieving for a loved one. I know it will be months if not years before I see her again. They ask for it and they got it.
How dangerous can they be if you are physically stronger than a narc? I think they like to target people they think are weak, so that makes them a coward, not strong
The narcissist loves to get you off of your center, always stay centered, NEVER take them seriously. Don't reply, but if you MUST reply to their subtle attacks, just say: "INDEED" and nothing more, then leave. Be BORING and or NEEDY, drain THEIR energy. It says somewhere in Sun Tzu's Art of War, that sometimes it PAYS to use the enemy's OWN strategies AGAINST them, usually they can't take it.
Offer them canceler responses to their silly, loaded speeches, just give them a response like "TIME WILL TELL". If they ask you where did you get your new sweater? Time will tell. You respond with something GENERIC. They can be fun IF you know they are a narcissist.
"Beat the grass...to startle the snakes". So to speak. Beat ever so lightly.
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This is the funniest comment I've ever read. Lol. So true!
I am amazed at how many married couples are married to a narcissist.Sounds like a horrid life.
Christel Mayer it is!!! It's the reason divorce exists
It is hell. But he has destroyed me so thoroughly I will likely commit suicide one day.
It is and They didn't ask for this - narcs are Very good at what they do very patient THEY DO AMAZING THINGS IN THE BEGINNING AND SLOWLY START BEING IN COMPETITION WITH U THEY ARE DEMONIC SICK CREATURES THE SENSE OF ENTITLEMENT THEY HAVE EVEN WHEN THEY ARE BUMS IS JUST RIDICULOUS UGGH + HAVE FITS SO DAMN DRAMATIC MAKES THE KIDS START ACTING LIKE THEM TURN THE KIDS AGAIN THEIR MOM THIS IS A SICK PUP
@@sheilagunn596 please don't do that. Ask family and friends for help to divorce him. You will need the support and protection because when you dump this umworthy sack of shit, he will blow a gasket
Sheila Gunn ... get out of that marraige and find a new life. It's time for you to live now... it'll be ok. I've left 2 narc husbands and had a narc BF for 8 years in between. You'll survive leaving him if you survived living with the monster. Life WILL get so much better... you'll finally be at peace. Leave him. It took me a couple of years to get the guts to leave but I finally left the last one... find a way. *hugs*
Love these tactics! Perfect for keeping your sense of humor while the narcissistic attempts to drain you!
They're clowns
🤔👀 That moment when you realize a lot of your close friends and family members are narcissist!👀😠
So so true but sad !!
Tyra Renae Lmao! That ain't no lie!
Wait is that possible? Aren’t actual diagnosable narcissists like 1 in 100?
@@diynoreally close friends and family members qualify to be that 1 in a 100 of ACTUAL diagnosable narcissists.....
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“I know you’re missing the empathy chip” 😭😭😭😂
Exactly ...
Yeah it’s actually an upgrade to not have empathy cause fuck that
I tell my husband I know you can relate to others feelings but Please stop lol he says I know , ugh ? Do they know they can't ? My husband never shuts up
😂😂😂😂😃
Narcissists experienced abuse in the past so they keep the abuse to abuse others. They are sharing their pain, they don't want to be lonely in suffering.
Kooch man sooo not fair!
Kooch man 😉💯❤️
BOOM
Maybe because their parents only wanted to hear about their successes and not their problems. My parents did this to my sister. She even got kudos from them for controlling me. It's so painful!!
J B my whole family does this. My cousins aunts and uncles are mostly all in competition with one another. Needless to say I'm slowly trying to disappear with no one noticing. 👤 👻
LOL! I had a boss who was a master on gaslighting and, without knowing about this narcissist thing, i once told him, i should start taking notes of what he tells me to do. Looking back now at his reaction, it was priceless! And he started doing it much less, because he understood he could no longer easily fool me : ))) Definitely, try it!
My narc is a actress, singer, and model. I just drove her crazy by talking subject to subject and she said you keep interrupting me and won't let me talk. LOL She texted me I don't think I can be with someone like you. I texted I just bought this purple shirt at the mall and I love it! LOL Holy shit! She asked me if I was high or whats wrong with me ... "something changed about you". I then robo texted her 50 text in a row about every subject, topic, and mundane thought I could think of..... LOOL it drove her nuts!!!!!! SHE EVEN SCREENSHOT MY RAMBLING IN TEXT TO TRY TO SHOW THAT I WAS CRAZY.
THIS IS THE BEST TH-cam VIDEO I HAVE EVER SEEN IN MY LIFE!!!!! THANK YOU
AND HOW i WAS LAUGHING LIKE YOU THE WHOLE WAY THROUGH!!!!!
David C Oh my God you're HILARIOUS. I LOVE what you did LOL!!
Narc: "Blah blah blah mememememe"
You: "Oh hey ya...I just bought this purple shirt at the mall & I love it!!..."
Narc: "WTF??"
HAHAHAHA!!
David C My narc mom can't STAND it if anybody else talks a lot at once. She says in a shocked tone "they just started babbling!" and everyone else looks at each other and tries not to smile. Good for you.
Wow best video I've seen yet thanks for sharing
Thank you!! I have always had a very adventurous spirit! If you have dated more than 1 person with narcissist personality disorder, they become so transparent and predictable YOU YOURSELF START TO FEEL PSYCHIC AND CAN PREDICT EXACTLY WHAT THEY ARE GOING TO DO. She told me I was perfect ( which I know I am not) , she was constantly watching my expressions and misreading them, she tried to TRAUMA BOND with me by telling me every horrible story or wrong doing she perceived happened to her, she took my jokes as literal ,needed to talk to me all day, then it went to lies and discard because she said I wasn't taking care of her financial needs?!. It was like a light switch and a weird surreal experience.
The idea that most empathetic people are weak is a myth. Its takes a lot of inner strength to be vulnerable and kind to others. But push us too far, and we will take a strong stand. Narcs misjudge their empathetic partners.
AND PLEASE DO THIS AT YOUR OWN RISK. SHE ENDED UP CHARGING MY CREDIT CARD $3000 OR POSTED MY CC INFO ON THE INTERNET AND SOMEBODY ELSE TRIED TO SCAM ME. ( she saved my credit card number when I bought her a $600 plane ticket)
David C
Crap. I thought I was the only one doing that in the world. Thanks for sharing
HahahahahahahahaI
I remembered an incident. She was in a fucking rage screaming and throwing stuff and demolishing the kitchen. ( yes, she push all the crockery off the cabinet to the floor. I stood calmly and looked at her simultaneously lift my finger sloooowly. It caught her attention and when silent. I said. ..SURPRISEEEE!!!😁I'll let you use your imagination what the out come.
I honestly think she so wish wanted to burn me alive 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
My 40 yr old son is a narcissist & I hate him. He can’t control me anymore so he stays away which is a relief for me. He’s toxic. My life is better now without him.
Please don’t judge me if you haven’t lived in the agony.
SilvaMC No judgement. It's natural to feel that way, especially when it's someone you feel obligated to love and care for and the guilt piles up on top of all the suffering they cause you. Me and my sister are struggling with that. But I don't agree what this lady is saying. Yes, some of her tips can be very useful to repel a narcissist, but with her, they are coming from a place of revenge and getting even, and whatever else we do, true freedom from a narcissist mean we are free to be the complete opposite of everything they represent. I'm learning to hold my mother off by doing things like ignoring her jabs, refusing to respond when I know she wants a reaction, learning to keep secrets from her (most importantly, secretly planning and executing my escape), and learning never to explain, defend, or try to use logic on her. I don't do these to make her feel bad, although they do. I do it to make her let go, and at the end of the day I know I am not like her, because if she were in my place, she wouldn't even be able to keep that happy grin off her face.
No judgement SilvaMC. Because they're family doesn't mean you're obligated to also love them. I'm 60 and live with my aunt and her son and grandson, the narc. If I could afford to move would've done it four years ago. The son and I are in agreement about him. I can't make a comment to him without him telling me I'm miserable or a bitch and then the old fuck you. He's twenty nine next month and never been out of his Mom's or Grandma's site. In fact two years ago his mom left moved an hour away and stuck us and her Mother with him. I try my best not to speak at all, buts it's difficult.
No hate, no judgement. Narcissists are the worst.
don't feel bad SilvaMC, I don't like my narcissistic 19 year old but maybe there is still time for her to change. but sometimes I wish she was never born. Just being a parent does not mean you can deal with this shit
My brother in law is a narc too and my mother in law says she's loves him because he's her son but she doesn't like him at all .
I hate him and wouldn't spit on him if he were on fire😌
I have used these tactics and they go berserk!! 😂These are good for those people at work that you can't really get rid of. Obviously, if your spouse is a narcissist just leave, don't bother using these, just leave.
Haha!! “Give their ass a task.”
lmao this is soooooo gooood. I did some of these and they were pissed off. I was dying inside. these sick people need torture . they torture us daily.
Dealing with a long distance narc. I refuse ALL phone calls where he can talk over me or rage on me. He's been reduced to texting and emails. It sure curbs his outbursts cuz he doesn't want ANYTHING in writing!
Thats interesting my bpd narcissistic wife coudnt resist raging via Skype messaging.
bythebay CK ha love this. I've started saving screen shots of messages for future use. She knows it too. It's been quite for a while now hehe
How lucky you are that he's long distance!
this is my mother and her sister my mother 98 her sister 96, call each other every day fight on the phone and call each other names then hang up on each other, one time in my home i had to kick them both out, physical fight, my aunt developed respect for me i later found out, this is 2-16-2018 and they are still doing it, its my mother who has all the manipulative power over my aunt, but my aunt is good at it also. My aunt said you will never get the best of me, of course my mother tells me all of this at our 1 hour we spend together each week, i don't respond or react to anything she says.
I now know why my mother-in-law hates me as I've been subconsciously doing this to her for years. It's all fine for me but she has damaged 5 children including my husband- such a shame
When you have identified that your spouse is a NARC and that you do not want to take the easy way out by walking out of the door, but rather make the marriage work, is playing dumb the only way out????????..
Ali mo, me too. We're going thru it right now. We moved in to take care of my father in law when he was on hospice. He passed away almost a year ago. My mother in law is the narc, and it's been hell. We have a hard time saving enough to move back out because of her sucking our finances dry plus her junky grandson robs us daily. We can't call the law because then we're homeless. I know God has a plan for us...a way out of here
@@merlyn8062 yes, play dumb with him but work on your self esteem at the same time (self care, build other healthy relationships, learn new things, go to school, improve your career etc.)
@@beatricep8282 this is the best solution. Without some of yourself emotionally and commit it to yourself through God. It works. I know this too well, and every time I slip up and invest too much, I get scorched. It hurts.
What's really frightening is that if you are not vigilant, some of their evil characteristics can rub off on you.