how to find your style + the confidence to wear it

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    In this chatty video, I answer one of my most asked questions: how do I find my style and the confidence to wear what I want? I break it down into steps, from assessing what clothes you already wear the most in your wardrobe, to finding aesthetic inspiration, building a moodboard, and tips for going shopping and styling outfits.
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  • @malinasakamoto
    @malinasakamoto 4 ปีที่แล้ว +16175

    i have a style...i just don’t own anything that is that style

    • @emerelisrohena7413
      @emerelisrohena7413 4 ปีที่แล้ว +299

      Same

    • @zay6744
      @zay6744 4 ปีที่แล้ว +334

      OH MY GOOODDDDDD SAMEEEEE 😭😭😭😑💀

    • @d4n1ellaa
      @d4n1ellaa 4 ปีที่แล้ว +156

      I feel u

    • @izzyykatherine
      @izzyykatherine 4 ปีที่แล้ว +98

      Yoooooo same

    • @j.drvnsk
      @j.drvnsk 4 ปีที่แล้ว +74

      Sameeeee😫

  • @mj-zl7kf
    @mj-zl7kf 4 ปีที่แล้ว +16350

    “who are you trying to impress?” is the most compliment-y/non-compliment-y/uncomfortable question ever

    • @whitykitty2651
      @whitykitty2651 4 ปีที่แล้ว +789

      It's just fun to wear what you want I don't understand how some people don't understand that

    • @nikolinaninkovic6748
      @nikolinaninkovic6748 4 ปีที่แล้ว +598

      Dude, I put on a dress and every fucker in my surroundings asks me that.

    • @funkybugman
      @funkybugman 4 ปีที่แล้ว +465

      My little cousin asked me that the other day, I just looked at her and said, “myself, honey life is too short, do things for yourself”

    • @klompaca5934
      @klompaca5934 4 ปีที่แล้ว +203

      it's so awkward cause rn my friends think i am dressing up for my driving instructor (spoiler: i'm not. i am dressing up for myself)

    • @duhberman
      @duhberman 4 ปีที่แล้ว +212

      Also things like "oh, look who's wearing (x item of clothing, ex. a skirt)!!! Like, pls stop, I feel weird already and you're not helping

  • @theatrekid5898
    @theatrekid5898 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4056

    Does anyone else wanna assess their wardrobe but feels so guilty about getting rid of stuff cause you feel like u wasted ur money?

    • @aaliyonnahrobertson5099
      @aaliyonnahrobertson5099 3 ปีที่แล้ว +128

      sell it

    • @hi-kt8jj
      @hi-kt8jj 3 ปีที่แล้ว +450

      gurl my style is "whatever my mom approves of" i'll GLADLY sell/donate my entire wardrobe no cap

    • @hebebebe139
      @hebebebe139 3 ปีที่แล้ว +56

      I've decided to clear out most of my wardrobe and start nre besides a few favourite items and I'm only allowing myself to spend the money I make selling to get new clothes, and thrift it all

    • @hi-kt8jj
      @hi-kt8jj 3 ปีที่แล้ว +20

      @@hebebebe139 where do you sell your clothes? i usually donate mine but idk what store would pay for used clothes

    • @hi-kt8jj
      @hi-kt8jj 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@hebebebe139 oh ok thank you!

  • @BeaR-gd8ll
    @BeaR-gd8ll 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4027

    Anyone else actually love fashion but is not confident enough to wear anything because you don't want to look "overdressed" or get asked "wHo aRe yOu tRyInG tO iMpReSs?"

    • @ananyasampathkumar3832
      @ananyasampathkumar3832 3 ปีที่แล้ว +312

      ive been dressing up a little recently whenever i go out, and while my parents gave me those comments a lot, they eventually stopped. if you just power through, you’ll be fine. at some point, id be able to go to the mall in a ballgown if i wanted to, and my mom would just accept it.

    • @Cam-fv5op
      @Cam-fv5op 3 ปีที่แล้ว +144

      Literally I wore a crop top and some jeans in which was a top my mom bought me and some jeans she gave me and she said who you tryna impress like you think I'm tryna impress the icecream in kroger or smthn😭

    • @gabrielle6663
      @gabrielle6663 3 ปีที่แล้ว +114

      "who are you trying to impress" literally me, its for me...and other cute girls but mostly for me

    • @kio4173
      @kio4173 3 ปีที่แล้ว +68

      I've always been so insecure about that. Like, I would want to wear an outfit, but then in the back of my brain, im panicking if I'm overdressed or if it isn't the right occasion or if its even fit for the weather. It's a lot-

    • @pandajoyd4992
      @pandajoyd4992 3 ปีที่แล้ว +33

      “Myself! I like wearing things for me :)”
      Also in my experience most people are really sweet and excited about how cute your clothes are :) and if no one is, you don’t dress for other people anyway. And if lots of people are excited, that’s great! But you don’t dress for them. My advice is to not get too caught up in making sure people like (or continue to like) your outfits. Have fun! And relax :))

  • @Abby-vs1nx
    @Abby-vs1nx 5 ปีที่แล้ว +6122

    i hate those “wHo ArE YoU TrYiNg tO ImPResS” headass people lmao

    • @ellatrentini2209
      @ellatrentini2209 5 ปีที่แล้ว +316

      Abby YES! Im dressing for myself now shut your mouth (the people that say that are the ones who wear sweats everyday 🥵)

    • @sistershook232
      @sistershook232 5 ปีที่แล้ว +94

      Well to those people I say myself and thank you for telling me I look good

    • @panagiotis4805
      @panagiotis4805 5 ปีที่แล้ว +100

      If you're getting comments like that, it means you're doing it right 💜

    • @somebodysopinion543
      @somebodysopinion543 5 ปีที่แล้ว +36

      my mum tells me this everyday and my sisters LOL

    • @alaebk7825
      @alaebk7825 5 ปีที่แล้ว +71

      Abby "AhA YoU hAvE a CrUsH!1!1!1!1"

  • @Ktbolton2
    @Ktbolton2 5 ปีที่แล้ว +8278

    Ashley: does it reflect your personality
    Me: *existential crisis on what my personality is*

    • @VictoriaMeira7
      @VictoriaMeira7 5 ปีที่แล้ว +148

      Oof I felt that one

    • @honeylavenderbakery
      @honeylavenderbakery 5 ปีที่แล้ว +19

      oops

    • @yc2877
      @yc2877 5 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      Katie Bolton me too

    • @marinejoseph5304
      @marinejoseph5304 5 ปีที่แล้ว +62

      when you're a gemini so you've got 5 different personalities to reflect

    • @bleuleuc6961
      @bleuleuc6961 5 ปีที่แล้ว +133

      Questions about my personality make me wonder if I even have one

  • @cailynpope6167
    @cailynpope6167 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3599

    When you can't choose between grunge, cottagecore, and light academia.

    • @polly1579
      @polly1579 3 ปีที่แล้ว +222

      I can't choose between dark academia, fairycore, and skater/surfer...
      :(

    • @agirlcalledmist
      @agirlcalledmist 3 ปีที่แล้ว +199

      @@polly1579 beachy acedemic fairy that likes to vibe at skate parks BAM!

    • @polly1579
      @polly1579 3 ปีที่แล้ว +29

      @@agirlcalledmist lol thank you!

    • @mikuhidinginyourwifi5615
      @mikuhidinginyourwifi5615 3 ปีที่แล้ว +86

      mix mix mix

    • @salonikullar3627
      @salonikullar3627 3 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      OMG SAME

  • @houseplant_3084
    @houseplant_3084 3 ปีที่แล้ว +363

    I have a style I know my aesthetic BUT I have strict parents, therefore I am screwed

    • @Filsan.fr13
      @Filsan.fr13 3 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      They would just look at me like is this my child then look back at there phone ._.

    • @darnielladd6131
      @darnielladd6131 3 ปีที่แล้ว +28

      Same. I'm expecting a major glow-up when I move out but you can wear things that have a flattering fit that doesn't need to be showing a lot of skin.

    • @keyachy1657
      @keyachy1657 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      samee

    • @beamiauu
      @beamiauu 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Yah me too

    • @Trisha._3
      @Trisha._3 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Same here

  • @Sisuchkaaa
    @Sisuchkaaa 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4189

    my style is just: going to the mall with my mom and i end up hating my mom...

    • @susannalinshalm5638
      @susannalinshalm5638 4 ปีที่แล้ว +345

      Your're not the only one. The problem is that my friends don't really help, either and I'm not confident enough to buy clothes on my own.

    • @aetosia6490
      @aetosia6490 4 ปีที่แล้ว +83

      Why is that such a mood

    • @ravn_73
      @ravn_73 4 ปีที่แล้ว +123

      Sameee my mom forces me into dresses and I I littarly only were jeans 👁👄👁

    • @rskjghdaljf
      @rskjghdaljf 4 ปีที่แล้ว +122

      Same, she always says I need basic t-shirts. I want to get into Gothic Lolita fashion. If I find a cute blouse or something, she says it looks like old lady clothes T-T

    • @skiesky6224
      @skiesky6224 4 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      Damnn i feel you

  • @myeahonline
    @myeahonline 5 ปีที่แล้ว +17438

    "From this fashion disaster, to this *fashionable* disaster"
    I STAN AN INTELLECTUAL

  • @matcha2953
    @matcha2953 3 ปีที่แล้ว +176

    I sorta found my style through it and my mother described it as "Hello, yes I am an intern at my grandmother's workplace"

    • @peterevans6480
      @peterevans6480 2 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      PFFT IM SORRY FOR LAUGHING BUT I LOVE YOUR MOM

    • @indeedical26
      @indeedical26 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      LMAOOO I AM SORRY

    • @thatcrowkiddraws
      @thatcrowkiddraws 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      IM CRYING 🤣🤣🤣🤣

  • @paul8623
    @paul8623 3 ปีที่แล้ว +251

    Does this happen to anyone else? I try on an outfit, think its ugly, then keep changing something one by one until im in a completely new outfit. Then I just change back into my first outfit lol.

    • @SalamanderMagic
      @SalamanderMagic 3 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      every fucking morning

    • @rubymack5782
      @rubymack5782 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      yess

    • @Cam-fv5op
      @Cam-fv5op 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      All the time🥲

    • @pineapplec0ke
      @pineapplec0ke 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Yeah lmao

    • @Matrixxx.u
      @Matrixxx.u 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      My dying so fucking relatable 😅😂 i legit mess up my ENTIRE room, closet...just to go through hell cleaning it all up and wearing the same jeans and graphic tee 🥸

  • @irisl2359
    @irisl2359 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9271

    me : *wears a hat*
    social anxiety : *intensifies*

    • @ldksjgldkshjgsdlkf6381
      @ldksjgldkshjgsdlkf6381 4 ปีที่แล้ว +639

      me: wears anything other than hoodies and leggings
      social anxiety: *intensifies*

    • @candy3974
      @candy3974 4 ปีที่แล้ว +262

      Me: has been wearing the same thing over and over and over again since I was 6 and wanting to be able to wear converse, shorts, ripped jeans, crop tops without being called fat by my parents while they also say I dress like a grandma
      Depression: *INTENSIFIES*

    • @saalthmeme5280
      @saalthmeme5280 4 ปีที่แล้ว +92

      i wish i had the confidence to wear leggings😔😔

    • @mochismom7572
      @mochismom7572 4 ปีที่แล้ว +26

      oim veuch ikr. If i where anything i usually dont no matter how cute i think it is i get insecure

    • @brittneyearnshaw6015
      @brittneyearnshaw6015 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      hahaha i felt this in my soul

  • @ivyk1050
    @ivyk1050 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2552

    when my style is different from what i wear because
    1.I have no confidence to wear it
    2. im poor, no money to buy those clothes

    • @fwelony5252
      @fwelony5252 4 ปีที่แล้ว +34

      Rightttt I’m looking on Aliexpress and ROMWE for clothes 😭

    • @avery6648
      @avery6648 4 ปีที่แล้ว +44

      I agree with the first one so much 😭😭😭 I know what my style is and I can afford to buy most of the clothing I want but I’m too scared to wear skirts and dresses to school

    • @madyv8620
      @madyv8620 4 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      @@fwelony5252 me to, me to :( AND I STILL CANT AFFORD IT-

    • @valeria3325
      @valeria3325 4 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      Maybe try thrifting? It's pretty cheap and you can find pieces that you love

    • @claireporter2416
      @claireporter2416 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Vælærïå yes thrifting is amazing, but you definitely need to have the patience to flip through everything

  • @card0qnyu
    @card0qnyu 2 ปีที่แล้ว +74

    11:30 I seriously felt this because I have had the same style of dark shirts, sweaters, jeans, and very bland clothes just because I've always been afraid to wear my preferred style OR I'm so weird about people seeing me want to change who I've been for so long. It's a sad view and I'm like ready to start changing a bit by bit, I'm seriously into fashion and I'm very thankful for this video. Cheers to finally dressing the way I have always wanted to, and to be confident enough to stand out 💕💕

  • @kat08
    @kat08 3 ปีที่แล้ว +64

    I would also totally recommend thrift stores when trying out a new style!! You can get a lot of pieces for cheaper and it's less of a risk if you end up not liking the style bc you didn't spend a ton of money on it

  • @soobdragon2962
    @soobdragon2962 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2202

    Step one: look at your wardrobe
    Me: I have three black T-shirt’s and a pair of jeans, let’s get it

    • @franny9344
      @franny9344 5 ปีที่แล้ว +47

      Highkey an underrated comment

    • @lavellans
      @lavellans 5 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      I’m laughing so hard xD

    • @violet-uv8xm
      @violet-uv8xm 5 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      FUCKING MEEEEE

    • @sayuriando3379
      @sayuriando3379 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      I have mainly black t-shirts.
      I have one piece of clothing in 3 different colours which I wear on hot days but I don't like the cleverage so I mainly wear them at home.
      In my wardrobe is a grey dress that I want to wear more but I don't know how which is still better than the grey-brownish woollen blazer that I got thanks to my mom [and she annoys me with saying that I should wear it more often]. It's warm enough that it only makes sense during cold days but at the same time moving my arm even a tiny bit means exposing my wrist to the cold. Yeah, the next time I go through my closet I cm going to get rid of it

    • @ulisesescorza3323
      @ulisesescorza3323 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Oh yessss. I have a lot of plain shirts, and most of them are grey.

  • @emilyisawesome1455
    @emilyisawesome1455 4 ปีที่แล้ว +18069

    people: who are you so dressed up for?
    me: you never know where harry styles could be, karen.

    • @connyspiess9665
      @connyspiess9665 4 ปีที่แล้ว +418

      only aliferxus this is an incredibly underrated comment

    • @dominiquesimonetan4187
      @dominiquesimonetan4187 4 ปีที่แล้ว +353

      It's always the Karen

    • @user-hb6mt9eq3t
      @user-hb6mt9eq3t 4 ปีที่แล้ว +32

      ^^^

    • @harrystyles1122
      @harrystyles1122 4 ปีที่แล้ว +71

      I LOVE YOUUUU

    • @elena-3172
      @elena-3172 4 ปีที่แล้ว +104

      Yesssss, I only care about how I look because i want to look good if I see someone I Stan and I would have a cute picture with them.

  • @onionpuddle8124
    @onionpuddle8124 3 ปีที่แล้ว +136

    me: wearing something that i want to wear and that fits my style
    my sister: you don’t look in that/ you can’t pull that off
    me: going back to wearing sweatpants and sweatshirts 24/7

    • @klavi842
      @klavi842 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      oh my god me too

    • @alllamalala9903
      @alllamalala9903 3 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      You guys got this! Fashion is only about confidence, yall can slay it!

    • @erinyes3943
      @erinyes3943 3 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      All I’m saying is that spite can be an amazing motivator-

    • @jacquelinematte1663
      @jacquelinematte1663 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      I hate judgement by sisters so I can sympathize

    • @asr4405
      @asr4405 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Sis are the biggest problem lol!

  • @maryeckberger5758
    @maryeckberger5758 3 ปีที่แล้ว +65

    I worked in fashion retail, please know we loved customers like you. Always smiling, making other customers smile and using fashion like the basic art it is.

  • @lmaoabby9034
    @lmaoabby9034 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6641

    *when you have a dream aesthetic but your aesthetic doesn’t look good on you*
    👁💧👄💧👁

    • @aninhasS2
      @aninhasS2 3 ปีที่แล้ว +215

      Story of my life 👁💧👄💧👁👍

    • @Scott-on2er
      @Scott-on2er 3 ปีที่แล้ว +262

      girl you just need clothes with a silhouette that flatters your body type

    • @shreya8719
      @shreya8719 3 ปีที่แล้ว +50

      The struggle 😩

    • @phoebe1273
      @phoebe1273 3 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      sameeee

    • @hoolhyoh
      @hoolhyoh 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      relatable

  • @thelazygirllifestyle3562
    @thelazygirllifestyle3562 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1684

    My coworker: "why are you dressed up today"
    Me: " I wanted to feel pretty today."
    That's all you need to dress up! Love yourself enough to Indulge in your fashion.

    • @eva3173
      @eva3173 5 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      PREACH

    • @geuresu
      @geuresu 5 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      true!!!!!! my friend asked me a few days ago why i was so chippy(???) dk what it means but then he explained that i was wearing my boots (and he didn’t point it out but he obv wanted to say something about me wearing a skirt but ok) and i rly didn’t know what to say so i was like... “cos it’s winter” like come on i don’t need to explain my outfit (sorry i made a little rant)

    • @taniawew
      @taniawew 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      TheLazyGirlLifestyle lol😂

    • @tenleyhanson1077
      @tenleyhanson1077 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      this is me in the middle of the night wearing makeup and a fancy dress

  • @rosalindwinneker8638
    @rosalindwinneker8638 2 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    Another tip I suggest is looking at movie characters who’s style you like.
    Since they exist in their little bubble of existence, they can’t change and follow current trends which more often then not, you follow cause you see a lot of people wearing and then get sick of.

  • @haruutoee
    @haruutoee 2 ปีที่แล้ว +35

    For anyone whos 13-18 years of age watching this video, IT WORKS.
    My confidence sky rocketed.
    PS: Have fun having a glow up! You deserve it

  • @yuhh111
    @yuhh111 4 ปีที่แล้ว +17267

    Who else can’t choose between soft girl and street wear lmao

    • @Messiah036
      @Messiah036 4 ปีที่แล้ว +811

      If it’s what you like, then you do both figure out how you feel that day.

    • @contactmyheart3296
      @contactmyheart3296 4 ปีที่แล้ว +715

      i wanna be a soft girl but i’m not skinny 😔

    • @carolinesnderskovpedersen2730
      @carolinesnderskovpedersen2730 4 ปีที่แล้ว +733

      jins noodles you don’t need to be skinny to have a certain style! Love yourself you’re beautiful❤️

    • @saplingboss8248
      @saplingboss8248 4 ปีที่แล้ว +50

      Omg yes😑

    • @charlotte8659
      @charlotte8659 4 ปีที่แล้ว +300

      I can’t choose between dark academia and vintage

  • @jonginisholy
    @jonginisholy 5 ปีที่แล้ว +20429

    Ashley really is the big sister we all so desperately need in our insecure lives.

    • @kristina-my5ws
      @kristina-my5ws 5 ปีที่แล้ว +142

      facts, life would be so much easier if she was my big sister lmao

    • @marahdais9773
      @marahdais9773 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      so true

    • @Meg_Lovegood
      @Meg_Lovegood 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      2.2k of easy pickings...

    • @zoerapanot
      @zoerapanot 5 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      Jongin is Holy this is actually the best description of ashely i’ve ever seen

    • @rebekkalindknoph1557
      @rebekkalindknoph1557 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      couldn't have said this any better

  • @leciaraphim
    @leciaraphim 3 ปีที่แล้ว +30

    i’ve found my style this quarantine yet i haven’t bought those clothes yet. i’m mostly inspired by kpop idols lol

  • @AshlynnHerondale
    @AshlynnHerondale 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    this video is so helpful and i love how she talks about finding the confidence to actually fit your style 🥺

  • @elliee.232
    @elliee.232 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2875

    "fashion disaster to fashionable disaster" is the transformation we all aspire to

  • @thegallantgangster577
    @thegallantgangster577 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3355

    "what's your style?" *sweaters*
    "what do you wear?" *sweaters*
    "what's the fit?" *sweaters*
    "what colour palette?" *sWeAtEr-CoLoUr!*

    • @helenaravens6812
      @helenaravens6812 4 ปีที่แล้ว +91

      The Gallant Gangster I did NOT ask to be called out like this

    • @coolperson4418
      @coolperson4418 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Mee

    • @AlciesWorld
      @AlciesWorld 4 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      This is so funny 😂 😂😂😂

    • @hariniobla422
      @hariniobla422 4 ปีที่แล้ว +49

      Sweaters have styles too! Turtleneck? Cowl neck? Mock neck? Tight? Loose? Drop shoulder? Long? Short? Crop?

    • @thegallantgangster577
      @thegallantgangster577 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      AllyHiran 1215 gah i don't know these things! teach me 😂

  • @ChicaneMedia
    @ChicaneMedia ปีที่แล้ว +9

    I feel most people are lacking the confidence to be themselves because they aren't completely open towards how other people express themselves. What we personally find uncomfortable, we tend to think of negative thoughts first-hand because it's something different which feels alien to you. I feel that in order to be more confident you have to accept others for who they are and see everyone more open minded. That in hand makes you more comfortable wearing what you want because others see you being yourself and don't judge you for it

  • @aflowercloud
    @aflowercloud 3 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    The second waves starting here and I am going on my second marathon of all of Ashley's videos and I am so freaking proud that my teenage self discovered her cause I am rewatching all of these videos and realising wWOW!!

  • @nosir0174
    @nosir0174 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3954

    me, in corona lockdown: oh! this'll pass the time!!
    her: track what you wear every day and it'll show your style
    me in pj's because i have no reason to get dressed: oh.

    • @thechattycavy1551
      @thechattycavy1551 4 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      Stella Saridis lol same

    • @mea5989
      @mea5989 4 ปีที่แล้ว +22

      So totally only do this if you want to, but if you have work to do during this quarantine like, maybe working from home or going to school, getting dressed will actually make you more productive. This is called embodied cognition (well, this is a subset of embodied cognition called enclothed cognition, but same diff) and it's really helped me do my school work :)

    • @floorberendsen3567
      @floorberendsen3567 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Ha I get dressed every day to at least try to be productive but it ends up being the same two outfits in rotation

    • @thechattycavy1551
      @thechattycavy1551 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Mea I get dressed but it’s mainly lounge wear that I get dressed in now

    • @PS-bn6st
      @PS-bn6st 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Mood

  • @yesicastefanie
    @yesicastefanie 5 ปีที่แล้ว +16227

    the only two problems about finding my style:
    1. don’t have the money for it
    2. don’t have the body for it

    • @rosesfromseptember517
      @rosesfromseptember517 5 ปีที่แล้ว +641

      Go to a thrift store or a second hand store! So many gems from so many different styles haha

    • @hunterkristina9106
      @hunterkristina9106 5 ปีที่แล้ว +327

      Yesica Stefanie the money struggle is so real

    • @salmalk6737
      @salmalk6737 5 ปีที่แล้ว +41

      Same

    • @hunterkristina9106
      @hunterkristina9106 5 ปีที่แล้ว +78

      elf bugs there are also apps like poshmark and depop which sell second hand

    • @user-dm5sd6qz6j
      @user-dm5sd6qz6j 5 ปีที่แล้ว +254

      You just don’t know yet what types of clothes is great for your body

  • @sugarhoneyicedtea9704
    @sugarhoneyicedtea9704 3 ปีที่แล้ว +38

    Sections ✨
    1. Asses current wardrobe (0:50)
    2. Finding inspiration (2:48)
    3. Create a moodboard (5:58)
    5. Shopping (7:30)
    6. Practise (8:23)
    7. Confidence (10:52)
    8. Fashion is subjective (13:32)

  • @aastha8034
    @aastha8034 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I really love how Ashley just increases our confidence by her amazing personality. Most of the times, we are all surrounded by people who either judge us for our style or are more stylish than us which makes us insecure as hell! I accidentally stumbled upon Ashley's channel a few days back and I am OBSESSED! She's natural, friendly and just amazing. I feel my fashion improving already. Thanks a lot Ashley!

  • @sangeetha6979
    @sangeetha6979 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7202

    *me* : likes vintage clothing
    *every single person I know* : yOU DrEsS likE A grAndMa
    well atleast I'm trying karen

    • @joanagutierrez7082
      @joanagutierrez7082 4 ปีที่แล้ว +157

      Sangeetha at least not like your grandma, karen

    • @arson8265
      @arson8265 4 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      Sis you already one

    • @arson8265
      @arson8265 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      @karen

    • @zahrasultan6460
      @zahrasultan6460 4 ปีที่แล้ว +99

      I call it "grandma chic"

    • @evelyn-bz7hv
      @evelyn-bz7hv 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Joana Gutierrez well yeah, she’s not going to dress like a gHoSt

  • @oliviacoe7297
    @oliviacoe7297 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2332

    bestdressed: "Is this clothing something that suits my personality?"
    me: "searches how to find out what your personality is video"

    • @PS-bn6st
      @PS-bn6st 4 ปีที่แล้ว +35

      There's videos and niche pictures about outfits for your zodiac, Meyers briggs, ennegram, fandom, Harry Potter house, etc

    • @greta5835
      @greta5835 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      HAHAHAHA SAMMMMMEEE!😂

    • @anoushka2946
      @anoushka2946 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Sameeee ! 😂

    • @AnjaliBakhru
      @AnjaliBakhru 3 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      @@PS-bn6st the way i've done all of those things because i'm in a permanent identity crisis 😂

    • @PS-bn6st
      @PS-bn6st 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@AnjaliBakhru omg same 😂

  • @lasutherlin9398
    @lasutherlin9398 2 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    It’s so nice to look at this after a few years and realize I did follow this advice. Thank you so much this really helped me dress in a way that gives me confident in myself

  • @littlemaniacinmyhead
    @littlemaniacinmyhead 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    The one and only helpful video about style on youtube! I keep coming back, rewatching it every so often ecpecially when I feel lost in my own style. Much love to you girly!

  • @Janelou42
    @Janelou42 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6636

    There is a style I like, but that style doesn't like me.

    • @sara-vf5xz
      @sara-vf5xz 3 ปีที่แล้ว +311

      I felt this 😔 I really like a couple styles but they don’t work with my skin color, height, or build

    • @nuriam.1598
      @nuriam.1598 3 ปีที่แล้ว +238

      @@sara-vf5xz same. I like korean fashion, and a bit of cottagecore but I'm not a tall skinny girl :/

    • @ThatOneLadyOverHere
      @ThatOneLadyOverHere 3 ปีที่แล้ว +161

      @@sara-vf5xz the skin color thing is just a matter of adjusting the colors slightly so that they match your skin color. Do you have warm or cool skin? If you don't know what I'm talking about then look it up, there's plenty of resources for helping you understand it and figure it out. Took me a while, but I have warm skin color and I love purple, but the purple that is typically sold is too blue and washes me out, eventually I realized that when purple is more red looks amazing on me. Just small adjustments to any color and you can make it work.

    • @bbeach5675
      @bbeach5675 3 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      Everyone should love their own style or maybe u don't have any style but that doesn't mean you are guilty or boring type person .....It simply means "just stand on your feet and buy all clothes that you love and wear it even though it doesn't look good on you..bt still wear it"and and and specially if you love western clothes bt cannot wear it ..then it's ok ....bc hiding our body is wayy better than showing off body!

    • @urvimande
      @urvimande 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      I feel you
      I'm fat so nothing really looks good on me (especially in my eyes)😂

  • @annalynpoulsen2077
    @annalynpoulsen2077 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2901

    “it’s a 30 year old mom thing or a thing for 17 year olds” i feel attacked

  • @shannongabriella
    @shannongabriella 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    dressing up and looking stylish and good is so fun!! it gives me an enormous amount of happiness and confidence that not a lot of people in my life can “give”, especially during this quarantine period :))

  • @thejazzpianist25
    @thejazzpianist25 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I love how you say it takes time and you have to be patient and that you're not just born with perfect fashion this is so helpful

  • @mielynotcyrus
    @mielynotcyrus 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5480

    *"Does it reflects your personality"*
    Me: Which one?

  • @melissapilato6541
    @melissapilato6541 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4488

    I have anxiety, so whenever I wear clothing that I really love I become insecure and paranoid. that’s why I usually come back to the same boring clothes.

    • @contactmyheart3296
      @contactmyheart3296 4 ปีที่แล้ว +74

      same 😔

    • @kiaraw8297
      @kiaraw8297 4 ปีที่แล้ว +150

      Be confident in yourself and the things you love to wear! Heck!,my own family talks bad about my style but idc because I love it 😻!!

    • @goddessloretta776
      @goddessloretta776 4 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      Me too.

    • @bearsneezer1929
      @bearsneezer1929 4 ปีที่แล้ว +78

      I believe in u girl I do too but I’m slowly starting to change my style without stretching too far, so just swap baggy tees with tucked in tees that are pulled out halfway, for an example

    • @Emma-ku6ql
      @Emma-ku6ql 4 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      Kiara Walker HOW

  • @sushidashi6152
    @sushidashi6152 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I used to watch your videos in awe, like, I could never be that fashionable or confident. I'm 21 now and I can't believe that I'm finally finding my own style and curating my closet with the help of your videos.

  • @theprousteffect9717
    @theprousteffect9717 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Understanding that your style journey is an ongoing process that is never fully complete, is really key. I have a terrible habit of wanting to curate the "perfect" wardrobe right now and buying a bunch of items all at once. I have since decluttered or don't wear most of what I've purchased over the past few years 😩
    Your content is just so positive and inspiring! I wish I had known all of these things when I was young like you, and could have saved myself years of feeling unattractive and uncomfortable in my clothing. But I'm very grateful to have found your channel.

  • @hannahbanana6149
    @hannahbanana6149 5 ปีที่แล้ว +7375

    Story: In high school I literally wore dresses every. single. day. Most people knew or people in my class just knew that I wore dresses every day. One day I showed up to school in jeans and I visited my friend in another class and she was like "you're wearing pants!!" and some random guy in her class looks over, and pops in like "I don't even KNOW you and I know you wear dresses every day"
    yeetin

    • @lararibeiro3343
      @lararibeiro3343 4 ปีที่แล้ว +892

      i admire your motivation and the jeans day was a power move. well done

    • @rymno7466
      @rymno7466 4 ปีที่แล้ว +435

      It’s the opposite for me haha props to you for being comfortable wearing dresses to school.

    • @emmarose9997
      @emmarose9997 4 ปีที่แล้ว +259

      every time i wear jeans random people are like no dress?? and if i do wear jeans it’s jeans flats and a blouse i wore a hoodie and jeans one day and my friends thought i was dying

    • @ruth9077
      @ruth9077 4 ปีที่แล้ว +40

      Haha I love that!! I wish it was warm enough where I am to do that

    • @emilia3313
      @emilia3313 4 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      Hannah Banana this was totally me in middle school! Except with skirts as well as dresses

  • @sarahbear2928
    @sarahbear2928 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1637

    I remember wearing dresses my freshman year and everyone would be like 'oh what's the occasion'. I would say 'there isn't one, I just wanted to show my cankles ok'. Lol

    • @geengengena
      @geengengena 5 ปีที่แล้ว +72

      Sarah bear same experience! "Are you going on a date?" uhhhh no

    • @dianneperico
      @dianneperico 5 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      All the damn time I get this comment in school. We only have one day to wear our preferred outfits since we have school uniforms, I wear plain longsleeves, croptops and other super casual for me and still some just can't let me be 😌😂

    • @zahara1115
      @zahara1115 5 ปีที่แล้ว +49

      I’m a very confusing person and often I’ll go from a hoodie and sweatpants one day to a dress and stilettos another 😂

    • @emijune2171
      @emijune2171 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Same, a lot of my friends had this happen to them. We're just on another level 😉

    • @monsta6144
      @monsta6144 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I used to have a thing for blazers & shirts so when I was walking in hoodie filled corridors at school, ppl mistook me for a teacher all the time. (shirts I still love so much I will be buried in one so crisp you could cut someone with it and so bright it'll temporarily blind you if you look directly at it lol)

  • @lifeisgood9889
    @lifeisgood9889 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Hey, Ashley, you’ve been a major inspiration for me in finding my sense of style. And I definitely agree that confidence takes time. I personally think of confidence as a skill, one you have to practice to get better at. These days, I wear a superhero cape to class, because it’s fun. And it makes me very happy. I’m glad I got to see this video, because it was very helpful

  • @karinasoch612
    @karinasoch612 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I love how she's so confident and funny talking about something that really passionate her

  • @kaylasanchez1228
    @kaylasanchez1228 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1657

    *me having 2 tee shirts
    "Ah yes, time to assess"

    • @rat7465
      @rat7465 4 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      Lmao me

    • @eden-.-3483
      @eden-.-3483 4 ปีที่แล้ว +26

      The only reason I'm here is because my mom told me I need more clothes. But I'm not sure what my style is yet so I just get some stuff and kinda forget I need clothes.

    • @honeyheaven482
      @honeyheaven482 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      { kaylapitter } I felt that 😔

    • @lauraduca125
      @lauraduca125 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I feel attacked

    • @ari-xn5dr
      @ari-xn5dr 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      same i wear the same sweatpants and hoodie every day

  • @klc2834
    @klc2834 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5935

    So like, referring to step one, what if I hate all the clothes I own?

    • @-t9214
      @-t9214 4 ปีที่แล้ว +79

      KLC 28 me

    • @hium8716
      @hium8716 4 ปีที่แล้ว +421

      Same. All of them are like Walmart and target kid clothes because there cheap . Crap didn't think this comment would blow up but also all I basic own is a couple good shirt , shorts, and jeans and I'm still stuck with my cat clothing from last year lol

    • @adriananoriega
      @adriananoriega 4 ปีที่แล้ว +169

      BRO same. I have one pair of shorts I like

    • @jaycrawford752
      @jaycrawford752 4 ปีที่แล้ว +26

      Same

    • @casevids818
      @casevids818 4 ปีที่แล้ว +194

      Same. I’m here to fix my style because the only thing I wear is a t-shirt and shorts

  • @sarasicus
    @sarasicus 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Genuinely thank you so much for this. I've spent so much time buying random thrifted clothes that I just kind of like. This really helped me think about what I really like wearing and it helped find my personal style. I ended up clearing out 75% of my wardrobe, selling and donating it all, and then buying clothes I actually would wear and love. You probably won't see this but thank you Ashley!

  • @Cool-jt1br
    @Cool-jt1br 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    You are really gentle and chill

  • @juneritter31
    @juneritter31 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2117

    “You shouldn’t have to change for your clothes” wow that hit hard

    • @juneritter31
      @juneritter31 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Marielle makes senseee

    • @kelseybradbury1241
      @kelseybradbury1241 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      suddenly i don’t speak english

    • @m.kjordan5449
      @m.kjordan5449 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Ur pfp-💀😂

    • @laragrove75
      @laragrove75 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      *me having lost 10 out of the 20 pounds i need to fit into my new wardrobe* : 👁️👄👁️

    • @negg7046
      @negg7046 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      *cough* brAndy

  • @lyssamary5845
    @lyssamary5845 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1341

    When her necklace broke, the CC said " *goes through all five stages of grief* " haha I love it :')

    • @reehufflepuff9909
      @reehufflepuff9909 4 ปีที่แล้ว +30

      Lyssa R
      Me when when I have to put in the *slightest* bit of effort into anything

  • @41ft
    @41ft 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Ashley is literally the most inspirational, and relatable you tubers I’ve ever watched

  • @doodlemort
    @doodlemort 3 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    0:50
    *goes over to dresser:* *sees black shirts, white shirts, and sweatpants:* oh..

  • @tohruchan6093
    @tohruchan6093 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3248

    "Why're you all dressed up?" idk mum I just wanted to look cute but I guess I'll go change-
    I'll wait until I move out to do that thing we call fashion.

    • @anjaanja6448
      @anjaanja6448 5 ปีที่แล้ว +82

      Tohru Chan no you got this do your thing now:)

    • @emijune2171
      @emijune2171 5 ปีที่แล้ว +111

      I have the same philosophy about eating healthily oof

    • @tohruchan6093
      @tohruchan6093 5 ปีที่แล้ว +53

      @@emijune2171 I feel that. I don't know why some things just seem like you shouldn't them, even though you probably should and it's just normal???

    • @sayuriando3379
      @sayuriando3379 5 ปีที่แล้ว +22

      I slowly managed to change it more to my style but to be honest I still have a lot of clothes that belonged once to my sisters since I'm the smallest one and our mom doesn't accept reasons like it does not fit my style to go shopping for new outfits

    • @shizotypical
      @shizotypical 5 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Why change tho? Nothing wrong with dressing nice if you want to!

  • @rosesndthorns
    @rosesndthorns 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2492

    Me: wants to buy that thing that really fits my style and calls my heart.
    Thing: is $300
    Me: *blinks*
    Edit: wow glad I’m not alone 😭

    • @ratafeia
      @ratafeia 5 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      Elsa thrift shops!!!

    • @ratafeia
      @ratafeia 5 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      Elsa oh and also depop!

    • @jksbananamilk
      @jksbananamilk 5 ปีที่แล้ว +25

      Jennifer Bordignon I can never find anything good in thrift shops 😩

    • @Celestialperils
      @Celestialperils 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Go to multiple thrift shops! Consignment!

    • @jessicakay3695
      @jessicakay3695 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Try stores like Ross, TJMax, Winners, and outlets like Dillard’s Clearance Outlet (you can get high quality name brands for cheap prices) hope that helps 💕

  • @lenalikescats6583
    @lenalikescats6583 3 ปีที่แล้ว +61

    Everyone : I know my style
    Me : **Cries in Fat**

    • @rubymack5782
      @rubymack5782 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      nooo i hope u feel as beautiful as u are soon

    • @Cam-fv5op
      @Cam-fv5op 3 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      Not fat, pretty and simply a bit bigger. I know it doesn't help having all this stick figure models and influencers and what not but you're like a normal human being 🙂

    • @lenalikescats6583
      @lenalikescats6583 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@Cam-fv5op Awh ty!

    • @Cam-fv5op
      @Cam-fv5op 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@lenalikescats6583 omg np

    • @sophiagionis
      @sophiagionis 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      im kinda late but just know that beauty standards are absolute bullshit and the beauty industry is constantly making up "problems" in order for people to buy their "solution" products - nothing can take away from your own beauty and the only opinion that matters is your own :) i hope you're more comfortable with your body now, sending lots of love

  • @vcmickey
    @vcmickey 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    watching this again in 2021... love you so much Ashley!! thank you for being so sincere and encouraging and vulnerable. you made a difference in the way I view fashion :)

  • @mer4738
    @mer4738 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4048

    When I put together a nice outfit that really makes me feel comfortable and "100% my style" i take a pic of the whole look and save it to an outfit album on my phone gallery, when i don't know what to wear i just check these outfits and mix the pieces then come up with a few new ones! maybe this advice could help someone

    • @isabellap9703
      @isabellap9703 4 ปีที่แล้ว +33

      Mer Vargas omg!! i do that too and it’s so helpful

    • @zoereid782
      @zoereid782 4 ปีที่แล้ว +59

      That’s so SMART

    • @Marie02605
      @Marie02605 4 ปีที่แล้ว +21

      Ooo I love this tip

    • @jello8867
      @jello8867 4 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      Fricken genius

    • @duckcylinder9903
      @duckcylinder9903 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      i do that! its very helpful

  • @davidcamus3385
    @davidcamus3385 5 ปีที่แล้ว +8558

    So the real question is am I allowed to just rotate 7 Hawaiian shirts and call it good?

  • @ariskremcallac6720
    @ariskremcallac6720 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I can totally relate to the "there's no one close to me that I feel appreciates my fashion style" and it's so hard to change your style cause I feel like it not something that I should do cause it's different from how people see me.

  • @froliczone3915
    @froliczone3915 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    She is a whole mood ❤️

  • @muripu206
    @muripu206 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4729

    “step 1: assess your wardrobe.”
    me: *looks at 2 shirts and 1 pair of jeans that i own*

    • @aachal9852
      @aachal9852 3 ปีที่แล้ว +35

      Lmao

    • @francescakyanda9182
      @francescakyanda9182 3 ปีที่แล้ว +130

      *looks at collection of Star Wars shirts*

    • @katelyn2876
      @katelyn2876 3 ปีที่แล้ว +45

      i don't even have jeans asgklsjdf

    • @luisacoms6532
      @luisacoms6532 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      omg thats me lol

    • @cleetus_
      @cleetus_ 3 ปีที่แล้ว +78

      *looks at cute tops that are too small, too big, or that i dont have the confidence to wear and settles on a oversized hoodie from six months ago*

  • @ayeirin
    @ayeirin 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1852

    1. assess ur current wardrobe
    me: *looks in wardrobe*
    me: school uniform, ok
    me: *looks on the floor*
    floor: hoodies, sweatpants, tshirts
    me: ok then

    • @Zoe-gp1uj
      @Zoe-gp1uj 3 ปีที่แล้ว +64

      LOL. I have no clothe because I’m usually wearing my school uniform

    • @marinamorton8458
      @marinamorton8458 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      felt

    • @greencheese3717
      @greencheese3717 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Same gurl same ...

    • @siyona6569
      @siyona6569 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      You could go for like a grunge type of look? Maybe go with oversized stuff

    • @janicelau5309
      @janicelau5309 3 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      I THOUGHT I WAS THE ONLY ONE WHO WEARS SCHOOL STUFF EVERY DAY LMAO

  • @adaholt1915
    @adaholt1915 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    I love you so much please never stop making videos, you're saving my fashion sense

  • @mikaylabutler56
    @mikaylabutler56 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    my aesthetic is things my mom finds for me that i don’t find cute when it’s in store but when i see something similar in a thrift video i love

  • @elficity-2737
    @elficity-2737 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1953

    Okay, but when my mother takes me shopping, she needs to know the difference between taking your time to shop, and literally just spending forever trying to convince me to buy something I don’t wanT

    • @anuroigas942
      @anuroigas942 4 ปีที่แล้ว +128

      I had the same problem but i get around it with saying:"you will just throw away money on something that i will never wear" maybe that will help you

    • @TyTy-gr4lt
      @TyTy-gr4lt 4 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      YESS OMG

    • @hannahslager6674
      @hannahslager6674 4 ปีที่แล้ว +36

      my mom used to do that and i would just never wear it and she eventually stopped

    • @fuwa1276
      @fuwa1276 3 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      Or stay in one section of the store for over an hour deciding to buy jeans#1 or jeans#2 -.-

    • @leeyaa457
      @leeyaa457 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Mom used to do that too & I decided to stop wearing them & not buying clothes... Then she stopped but eventually my mom choice of choosing my clothes got better.. I was kinda surprised lol

  • @kkellyngoo
    @kkellyngoo 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1527

    My mom is like no thats ugly so i cant be aesthetic

    • @kiwi8389
      @kiwi8389 4 ปีที่แล้ว +44

      same 😔

    • @night._.kitten
      @night._.kitten 4 ปีที่แล้ว +30

      Same sis, same

    • @cerisakatchmart3604
      @cerisakatchmart3604 4 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      same

    • @vivianm6276
      @vivianm6276 4 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      felt

    • @xuxiixx
      @xuxiixx 3 ปีที่แล้ว +62

      I wore shorts with an oversized hoodie for the first time and my parents said it looked bad like I had no pants on- so oup I never wore that again my self confidence went 📉

  • @runway5338
    @runway5338 3 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    Thank you so much for mentioning how most of us have an eclectic style when we’re first trying to figure out what types of aesthetics we love and reflect our most authentic selves.
    I personally love vintage, minimalism, dark & light academia, and also a basic outfit consisting of a crop top and high waisted bottoms. I’m definitely figuring out how to wind them in together that is uniquely me. 💕

  • @dan-tz9dl
    @dan-tz9dl 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    i only recently started to put effort in the way i present myself, and i found that small steps help a lot. i remember the first time i was wearing a jean jacket at school instead of some random hoodie and i was so nervous (for no reason at all??). then a girl in my class complimented my jacket (idk if she was being genuine or not) and i got a huge confidence boost

  • @artisticsoulless
    @artisticsoulless 5 ปีที่แล้ว +771

    me: putting together a dope outfit for school
    also me: realizing it is way to extra and that i cant pull it off because who do i think i am

    • @memequeen5026
      @memequeen5026 5 ปีที่แล้ว +38

      a big fat MOOD

    • @ellagibbons1416
      @ellagibbons1416 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      exactly

    • @coainc
      @coainc 5 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      ok i’m gonna be cheesy and say that i’m 100% sure you can, it’s all about confidence. go wear whatever you want and just know that you rock it

    • @hamnahfareed931
      @hamnahfareed931 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      SAME.

    • @goyangeden9891
      @goyangeden9891 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      hey wear it ! you're you that's all you need to be to wear an extra outfit !

  • @sally-annehunt8820
    @sally-annehunt8820 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1784

    I can just imagine Ashley dragging in all those houseplants from around her house just to have them in the frame and you know what...? Me too Ashley. Me too.

    • @bestdressed
      @bestdressed  5 ปีที่แล้ว +220

      the tragic part is that i own so many plants that i didn't even have to move any into frame.. those are just the usual plants that hang out in my mirror corner

    • @sally-annehunt8820
      @sally-annehunt8820 5 ปีที่แล้ว +34

      @@bestdressed Hahaha I hope one day I own so many plants that I end up having 4 in the same corner

    • @cebulsoon8232
      @cebulsoon8232 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      relatable. cuz we care in this house. WE CARE

  • @Jesusismyking4
    @Jesusismyking4 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    you fr are gorgeous never feel like you need to look like someone else girly ❤

  • @stimo7060
    @stimo7060 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    PERIODT!!!!! PLEASE YES YES YES SAY IT!!!!!!! the last sentence was reallyyy powerful. (The jimmy & gaga one) THANK YOU!

  • @mikazvis6231
    @mikazvis6231 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4265

    me: *goes to men’s section*
    mom: Are you lesbian? Why do you like this? *proceeds to lecture*
    me: ...i just really like men’s sweaters?

    • @mushroompoet
      @mushroompoet 5 ปีที่แล้ว +292

      Omg yeah like i want actual pockets leave me alone

    • @destroyer6945
      @destroyer6945 5 ปีที่แล้ว +82

      I occasionally go to the men's section and I'm bi, soooo....

    • @chimmyeatingkookies8419
      @chimmyeatingkookies8419 4 ปีที่แล้ว +101

      Im the same! I love mens jumpers and people always question it. Theyre nice, compfy, oversized, etc. mens clothing (jumpers and tops especially) are so comfortable!

    • @lonelyghost1851
      @lonelyghost1851 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      same omg

    • @kalenakien8036
      @kalenakien8036 4 ปีที่แล้ว +24

      omg same. sometimes i buy boy’s jeans/men’s jeans because the legs fit me better ;(

  • @nithiyaakarunakaran8319
    @nithiyaakarunakaran8319 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2234

    I WANT A 3-HOUR VIDEO ON YOUR ENTIRE CLOSET PLEASE AND THANK YOU

    • @cheruwong2075
      @cheruwong2075 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Nithiyaa Karunakaran same

    • @diywithparnika689
      @diywithparnika689 5 ปีที่แล้ว +25

      She made a video with everything in her closet already! :)

    • @nithiyaakarunakaran8319
      @nithiyaakarunakaran8319 5 ปีที่แล้ว +30

      DIYwithParnika haha yeah i know but wasn’t that like 7 months ago, and knowing ashley and her thrift-addiction she must’ve gotten something new - also i want three hours not 7 minutes, haha :)

    • @ratking6668
      @ratking6668 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Yess

    • @alexmacnab-stark8593
      @alexmacnab-stark8593 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      DIYwithParnika I went through that video on the slowest speed to look at all those clothes 😂

  • @bethany4881
    @bethany4881 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    This video... this video is so helpful to loads of people. Thank you so much you have became my favourite TH-camr in a matter of days!

  • @ThatOneLadyOverHere
    @ThatOneLadyOverHere 3 ปีที่แล้ว +50

    Me: starting a new instagram to try to redefine my style that I haven't updated in years
    Me: liking elements of vastly different styles
    Also me: "No Instagram, I don't want to be a witch, wear dreadlocks, or be a fancy country girl."
    Instagram: visible confusion

  • @Doeneseya
    @Doeneseya 5 ปีที่แล้ว +740

    *“Fashion Disaster to Fashionable Disaster.”* 😭😹💗

  • @honeyhive2896
    @honeyhive2896 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4761

    *Picks out a cute shirt I like* Mom: YoU lIkE tHaT?😣 Me: *sigh* I guess not

    • @vividd1186
      @vividd1186 5 ปีที่แล้ว +325

      Oh my goodness it's the same with me😞 It's so sad honestly

    • @rosiefoulston1635
      @rosiefoulston1635 5 ปีที่แล้ว +185

      Don’t let that stop you!! ❤️

    • @zakyiaclanton6877
      @zakyiaclanton6877 5 ปีที่แล้ว +83

      Same I’m like come on uhhh

    • @angelacooper5681
      @angelacooper5681 5 ปีที่แล้ว +37

      Ahh yes so true

    • @renoirrr
      @renoirrr 5 ปีที่แล้ว +156

      Why are parents still stuck in the past?

  • @mizzorino
    @mizzorino 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    legit the most sensible explanation to finding your style

  • @rebeccaribnick4119
    @rebeccaribnick4119 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    This was awesome! Loved the practical tips and the talk about the real feelings of vulnerability and confidence that go with it. Thanks girl!

  • @Whxmsa
    @Whxmsa 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2469

    “why are you so dressed up?”
    im not. i just don’t feel like wearing pants :/

    • @theunicorn1167
      @theunicorn1167 5 ปีที่แล้ว +81

      Fun Fact: If you don‘t have enough motivation and are in a bad mood so you don‘t want to search two pieces of clothing, wear a dress, people will think you‘re dressed up even tho you were just too lazy to match two things.

    • @emmarose9997
      @emmarose9997 5 ปีที่แล้ว +24

      i hear this all the time i wear a wrap dress denim jacket and converse most day i wear a girly casual thing everyday my friends think i dress up too much

    • @sydneysonnleitner2680
      @sydneysonnleitner2680 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      that hits lmao

    • @paprika8334
      @paprika8334 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      EXACTLY! I love dresses because I don’t have to wear pants and it’s SO comfy

    • @leja9380
      @leja9380 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@emmarose9997 lmao ikr it's insane

  • @gracedsouza9067
    @gracedsouza9067 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1896

    Ashley: Find Inspiration
    Me: Goes to TH-cam and types bestdressed

  • @patricia_largo
    @patricia_largo 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Love the discussion about being confident

  • @Oliwolf78
    @Oliwolf78 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    This is great advice for guys too. I love watching ur videos because it provides a slightly different perspective that most male oriented channels do, but still is very applicable. Honestly, I feel like I'm learning more from watching these videos than most girls are because it's opening my mind.

  • @kiirolicht
    @kiirolicht 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2554

    My issue: scared of looking like overdressing/being extra loooll cuz i sometimes i like polished styles (like buttoned shirt, slacks, loafers) but most people in my class wears hoodie/tshirt and jeans :/

    • @gewglepluswhyigottachangem7042
      @gewglepluswhyigottachangem7042 4 ปีที่แล้ว +224

      omg do it hunny!!!! i used to wear oxfords and button ups with a slim jean jacket! no one cares, express yourself!

    • @coolperson4418
      @coolperson4418 4 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      Same hereeee

    • @tamani2514
      @tamani2514 4 ปีที่แล้ว +112

      Do it! I used to wear skinny high waist jeans with Tshirt so like really basic and stuff and it never felt right. It was okay but not RIGHT. Now I wear (extremely) ripped, Jeans, oversized Tshirt and men's sweater, stuff like that and since this change I feel so much more comfortable and it feels more like myself. You'll find people loving you for beeing that extra. Don't hide in the crowd be special!

    • @thegallantgangster577
      @thegallantgangster577 4 ปีที่แล้ว +90

      that's me exactly. i feel like i'm going to stand out because my entire school wears sweats and sweatshirts, and i want to wear a skirt and blouse and clothing that makes me look nice.

    • @evelyn-bz7hv
      @evelyn-bz7hv 4 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      Be confident!!!

  • @sthuvbot
    @sthuvbot 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1658

    Me: *assumes my style is gothy casual*
    Also Me: *looks at my wardrobe and realizes I'm just Dolly Parton gone emo*

    • @hannahcampbell7746
      @hannahcampbell7746 4 ปีที่แล้ว +57

      Me wanting to dress grungy/alternative but being too scared to cuz I don't want my peers or parents to judge me and also not having the clothes to actually be alternative or grungy ;(

    • @renidere
      @renidere 4 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      Hannah Campbell thrift or learn to upcycle clothes! I'm trying to get a casual grunge and vintage mixed style, and I have exactly nothing of what I need to dress like that, or at least I thought I didn't. I actually realized that a lot of my pants/shorts sort of match that style, and now I only need to search for shirts and jackets. Narrow it down a bit like that and try to collect pieces over time!

    • @racistwhiteguy4869
      @racistwhiteguy4869 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Oh damn I thought I was simple emo but then I realised I was flat and depressed

    • @lollipoprandom5249
      @lollipoprandom5249 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      What is grungy, because I just like wearing black or dark colors

    • @casperdapimp
      @casperdapimp 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      im like a skater-girl/egirl mixed with a pink classy princess and idek anymore

  • @hebebebe139
    @hebebebe139 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    I needed this video today. Battling with my 6 month post partum body, yoyoing between hating the way my clothes look on me and to wanting to dress the way I've always wanted to

  • @oyesheerahman902
    @oyesheerahman902 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I'd binge watch all your videos just to see your smile. I'm officially obsessed with you.✨

  • @dithmith6593
    @dithmith6593 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2324

    Me: *holding a shirt that I like*
    My parents: ...you like that?
    Me: no i just carry clothes around in a clothing store -_-

  • @larissam4267
    @larissam4267 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1358

    Could you do a video of facing your fashion fears??!!

    • @larissam4267
      @larissam4267 5 ปีที่แล้ว +30

      I think you would make a good video on working with pieces that you yourself have trouble being confident in sometimes

    • @vmstevy
      @vmstevy 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      yes pls

    • @lilia426
      @lilia426 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @Larissa M 1000st like! I agree!

    • @faithh6565
      @faithh6565 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Larissa M yesssss

  • @uNL4m3nt3d
    @uNL4m3nt3d ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Thank you so much for this video. I've always felt worthless and think that I never deserve to live the best life because I am ugly. Your video literally saved my life.

  • @lefty_lck
    @lefty_lck 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you so much for this bubble of positivity ❤️