how to find your style + the confidence to wear it

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  • @myeahonline
    @myeahonline 5 ปีที่แล้ว +17460

    "From this fashion disaster, to this *fashionable* disaster"
    I STAN AN INTELLECTUAL

  • @elliee.232
    @elliee.232 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2897

    "fashion disaster to fashionable disaster" is the transformation we all aspire to

  • @Ktbolton2
    @Ktbolton2 5 ปีที่แล้ว +8300

    Ashley: does it reflect your personality
    Me: *existential crisis on what my personality is*

    • @VictoriaMeira7
      @VictoriaMeira7 5 ปีที่แล้ว +150

      Oof I felt that one

    • @honeylavenderbakery
      @honeylavenderbakery 5 ปีที่แล้ว +20

      oops

    • @yc2877
      @yc2877 5 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      Katie Bolton me too

    • @momordinarydays
      @momordinarydays 5 ปีที่แล้ว +62

      when you're a gemini so you've got 5 different personalities to reflect

    • @bleuleuc6961
      @bleuleuc6961 5 ปีที่แล้ว +135

      Questions about my personality make me wonder if I even have one

  • @theatrekid5898
    @theatrekid5898 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4071

    Does anyone else wanna assess their wardrobe but feels so guilty about getting rid of stuff cause you feel like u wasted ur money?

    • @aaliyonnahrobertson5099
      @aaliyonnahrobertson5099 3 ปีที่แล้ว +131

      sell it

    • @hi-kt8jj
      @hi-kt8jj 3 ปีที่แล้ว +453

      gurl my style is "whatever my mom approves of" i'll GLADLY sell/donate my entire wardrobe no cap

    • @hebebebe139
      @hebebebe139 3 ปีที่แล้ว +58

      I've decided to clear out most of my wardrobe and start nre besides a few favourite items and I'm only allowing myself to spend the money I make selling to get new clothes, and thrift it all

    • @hi-kt8jj
      @hi-kt8jj 3 ปีที่แล้ว +21

      @@hebebebe139 where do you sell your clothes? i usually donate mine but idk what store would pay for used clothes

    • @hi-kt8jj
      @hi-kt8jj 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@hebebebe139 oh ok thank you!

  • @Imyourcherryybomb
    @Imyourcherryybomb 5 ปีที่แล้ว +20419

    Ashley really is the big sister we all so desperately need in our insecure lives.

    • @kristina-my5ws
      @kristina-my5ws 5 ปีที่แล้ว +142

      facts, life would be so much easier if she was my big sister lmao

    • @marahdais9773
      @marahdais9773 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      so true

    • @Meg_Lovegood
      @Meg_Lovegood 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      2.2k of easy pickings...

    • @zoerapanot
      @zoerapanot 5 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      Jongin is Holy this is actually the best description of ashely i’ve ever seen

    • @rebekkalindknoph1557
      @rebekkalindknoph1557 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      couldn't have said this any better

  • @mj-zl7kf
    @mj-zl7kf 5 ปีที่แล้ว +16378

    “who are you trying to impress?” is the most compliment-y/non-compliment-y/uncomfortable question ever

    • @whitykitty2651
      @whitykitty2651 5 ปีที่แล้ว +789

      It's just fun to wear what you want I don't understand how some people don't understand that

    • @nikolinaninkovic6748
      @nikolinaninkovic6748 5 ปีที่แล้ว +599

      Dude, I put on a dress and every fucker in my surroundings asks me that.

    • @funkybugman
      @funkybugman 5 ปีที่แล้ว +466

      My little cousin asked me that the other day, I just looked at her and said, “myself, honey life is too short, do things for yourself”

    • @klompaca5934
      @klompaca5934 5 ปีที่แล้ว +204

      it's so awkward cause rn my friends think i am dressing up for my driving instructor (spoiler: i'm not. i am dressing up for myself)

    • @duhberman
      @duhberman 5 ปีที่แล้ว +214

      Also things like "oh, look who's wearing (x item of clothing, ex. a skirt)!!! Like, pls stop, I feel weird already and you're not helping

  • @sarahbear2928
    @sarahbear2928 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1646

    I remember wearing dresses my freshman year and everyone would be like 'oh what's the occasion'. I would say 'there isn't one, I just wanted to show my cankles ok'. Lol

    • @geengengena
      @geengengena 5 ปีที่แล้ว +72

      Sarah bear same experience! "Are you going on a date?" uhhhh no

    • @dianneperico
      @dianneperico 5 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      All the damn time I get this comment in school. We only have one day to wear our preferred outfits since we have school uniforms, I wear plain longsleeves, croptops and other super casual for me and still some just can't let me be 😌😂

    • @zahara1115
      @zahara1115 5 ปีที่แล้ว +49

      I’m a very confusing person and often I’ll go from a hoodie and sweatpants one day to a dress and stilettos another 😂

    • @emijune2171
      @emijune2171 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Same, a lot of my friends had this happen to them. We're just on another level 😉

    • @monsta6144
      @monsta6144 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I used to have a thing for blazers & shirts so when I was walking in hoodie filled corridors at school, ppl mistook me for a teacher all the time. (shirts I still love so much I will be buried in one so crisp you could cut someone with it and so bright it'll temporarily blind you if you look directly at it lol)

  • @BeaR-gd8ll
    @BeaR-gd8ll 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4053

    Anyone else actually love fashion but is not confident enough to wear anything because you don't want to look "overdressed" or get asked "wHo aRe yOu tRyInG tO iMpReSs?"

    • @ananyasampathkumar3832
      @ananyasampathkumar3832 3 ปีที่แล้ว +314

      ive been dressing up a little recently whenever i go out, and while my parents gave me those comments a lot, they eventually stopped. if you just power through, you’ll be fine. at some point, id be able to go to the mall in a ballgown if i wanted to, and my mom would just accept it.

    • @Cam-fv5op
      @Cam-fv5op 3 ปีที่แล้ว +147

      Literally I wore a crop top and some jeans in which was a top my mom bought me and some jeans she gave me and she said who you tryna impress like you think I'm tryna impress the icecream in kroger or smthn😭

    • @gabrielle6663
      @gabrielle6663 3 ปีที่แล้ว +116

      "who are you trying to impress" literally me, its for me...and other cute girls but mostly for me

    • @kio4173
      @kio4173 3 ปีที่แล้ว +71

      I've always been so insecure about that. Like, I would want to wear an outfit, but then in the back of my brain, im panicking if I'm overdressed or if it isn't the right occasion or if its even fit for the weather. It's a lot-

    • @pandajoyd4992
      @pandajoyd4992 3 ปีที่แล้ว +33

      “Myself! I like wearing things for me :)”
      Also in my experience most people are really sweet and excited about how cute your clothes are :) and if no one is, you don’t dress for other people anyway. And if lots of people are excited, that’s great! But you don’t dress for them. My advice is to not get too caught up in making sure people like (or continue to like) your outfits. Have fun! And relax :))

  • @nosir0174
    @nosir0174 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3953

    me, in corona lockdown: oh! this'll pass the time!!
    her: track what you wear every day and it'll show your style
    me in pj's because i have no reason to get dressed: oh.

    • @thechattycavy1551
      @thechattycavy1551 4 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      Stella Saridis lol same

    • @mea5989
      @mea5989 4 ปีที่แล้ว +22

      So totally only do this if you want to, but if you have work to do during this quarantine like, maybe working from home or going to school, getting dressed will actually make you more productive. This is called embodied cognition (well, this is a subset of embodied cognition called enclothed cognition, but same diff) and it's really helped me do my school work :)

    • @floorberendsen3567
      @floorberendsen3567 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Ha I get dressed every day to at least try to be productive but it ends up being the same two outfits in rotation

    • @thechattycavy1551
      @thechattycavy1551 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Mea I get dressed but it’s mainly lounge wear that I get dressed in now

    • @PS-bn6st
      @PS-bn6st 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Mood

  • @thelazygirllifestyle3562
    @thelazygirllifestyle3562 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1697

    My coworker: "why are you dressed up today"
    Me: " I wanted to feel pretty today."
    That's all you need to dress up! Love yourself enough to Indulge in your fashion.

    • @eva3173
      @eva3173 5 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      PREACH

    • @geuresu
      @geuresu 5 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      true!!!!!! my friend asked me a few days ago why i was so chippy(???) dk what it means but then he explained that i was wearing my boots (and he didn’t point it out but he obv wanted to say something about me wearing a skirt but ok) and i rly didn’t know what to say so i was like... “cos it’s winter” like come on i don’t need to explain my outfit (sorry i made a little rant)

    • @taniawew
      @taniawew 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      TheLazyGirlLifestyle lol😂

    • @tenleyhanson1077
      @tenleyhanson1077 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      this is me in the middle of the night wearing makeup and a fancy dress

  • @emilyisawesome1455
    @emilyisawesome1455 5 ปีที่แล้ว +18048

    people: who are you so dressed up for?
    me: you never know where harry styles could be, karen.

    • @connyspiess9665
      @connyspiess9665 5 ปีที่แล้ว +415

      only aliferxus this is an incredibly underrated comment

    • @dominiquesimonetan4187
      @dominiquesimonetan4187 5 ปีที่แล้ว +351

      It's always the Karen

    • @5675-n5u
      @5675-n5u 5 ปีที่แล้ว +32

      ^^^

    • @harrystyles1122
      @harrystyles1122 5 ปีที่แล้ว +71

      I LOVE YOUUUU

    • @elena-3172
      @elena-3172 5 ปีที่แล้ว +102

      Yesssss, I only care about how I look because i want to look good if I see someone I Stan and I would have a cute picture with them.

  • @card0qnyu
    @card0qnyu 3 ปีที่แล้ว +74

    11:30 I seriously felt this because I have had the same style of dark shirts, sweaters, jeans, and very bland clothes just because I've always been afraid to wear my preferred style OR I'm so weird about people seeing me want to change who I've been for so long. It's a sad view and I'm like ready to start changing a bit by bit, I'm seriously into fashion and I'm very thankful for this video. Cheers to finally dressing the way I have always wanted to, and to be confident enough to stand out 💕💕

  • @juneritter31
    @juneritter31 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2117

    “You shouldn’t have to change for your clothes” wow that hit hard

    • @juneritter31
      @juneritter31 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Marielle makes senseee

    • @kelseybradbury1241
      @kelseybradbury1241 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      suddenly i don’t speak english

    • @m.kjordan5449
      @m.kjordan5449 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Ur pfp-💀😂

    • @laragrove75
      @laragrove75 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      *me having lost 10 out of the 20 pounds i need to fit into my new wardrobe* : 👁️👄👁️

    • @negg7046
      @negg7046 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      *cough* brAndy

  • @soobdragon2962
    @soobdragon2962 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2207

    Step one: look at your wardrobe
    Me: I have three black T-shirt’s and a pair of jeans, let’s get it

    • @franny9344
      @franny9344 5 ปีที่แล้ว +46

      Highkey an underrated comment

    • @lavellans
      @lavellans 5 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      I’m laughing so hard xD

    • @violet-uv8xm
      @violet-uv8xm 5 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      FUCKING MEEEEE

    • @sayuriando3379
      @sayuriando3379 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      I have mainly black t-shirts.
      I have one piece of clothing in 3 different colours which I wear on hot days but I don't like the cleverage so I mainly wear them at home.
      In my wardrobe is a grey dress that I want to wear more but I don't know how which is still better than the grey-brownish woollen blazer that I got thanks to my mom [and she annoys me with saying that I should wear it more often]. It's warm enough that it only makes sense during cold days but at the same time moving my arm even a tiny bit means exposing my wrist to the cold. Yeah, the next time I go through my closet I cm going to get rid of it

    • @ulisesescorza3323
      @ulisesescorza3323 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Oh yessss. I have a lot of plain shirts, and most of them are grey.

  • @oliviacoe7297
    @oliviacoe7297 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2331

    bestdressed: "Is this clothing something that suits my personality?"
    me: "searches how to find out what your personality is video"

    • @PS-bn6st
      @PS-bn6st 4 ปีที่แล้ว +35

      There's videos and niche pictures about outfits for your zodiac, Meyers briggs, ennegram, fandom, Harry Potter house, etc

    • @greta5835
      @greta5835 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      HAHAHAHA SAMMMMMEEE!😂

    • @anoushka2946
      @anoushka2946 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Sameeee ! 😂

    • @AnjaliBakhru
      @AnjaliBakhru 4 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      @@PS-bn6st the way i've done all of those things because i'm in a permanent identity crisis 😂

    • @PS-bn6st
      @PS-bn6st 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@AnjaliBakhru omg same 😂

  • @maryeckberger5758
    @maryeckberger5758 4 ปีที่แล้ว +65

    I worked in fashion retail, please know we loved customers like you. Always smiling, making other customers smile and using fashion like the basic art it is.

  • @irisl2359
    @irisl2359 5 ปีที่แล้ว +9267

    me : *wears a hat*
    social anxiety : *intensifies*

    • @ldksjgldkshjgsdlkf6381
      @ldksjgldkshjgsdlkf6381 5 ปีที่แล้ว +639

      me: wears anything other than hoodies and leggings
      social anxiety: *intensifies*

    • @candy3974
      @candy3974 4 ปีที่แล้ว +262

      Me: has been wearing the same thing over and over and over again since I was 6 and wanting to be able to wear converse, shorts, ripped jeans, crop tops without being called fat by my parents while they also say I dress like a grandma
      Depression: *INTENSIFIES*

    • @saalthmeme
      @saalthmeme 4 ปีที่แล้ว +92

      i wish i had the confidence to wear leggings😔😔

    • @mochismom7572
      @mochismom7572 4 ปีที่แล้ว +26

      oim veuch ikr. If i where anything i usually dont no matter how cute i think it is i get insecure

    • @brittneyearnshaw6015
      @brittneyearnshaw6015 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      hahaha i felt this in my soul

  • @lyssamary5845
    @lyssamary5845 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1346

    When her necklace broke, the CC said " *goes through all five stages of grief* " haha I love it :')

    • @reehufflepuff9909
      @reehufflepuff9909 4 ปีที่แล้ว +30

      Lyssa R
      Me when when I have to put in the *slightest* bit of effort into anything

  • @Abby-vs1nx
    @Abby-vs1nx 5 ปีที่แล้ว +6122

    i hate those “wHo ArE YoU TrYiNg tO ImPResS” headass people lmao

    • @ellatrentini2209
      @ellatrentini2209 5 ปีที่แล้ว +316

      Abby YES! Im dressing for myself now shut your mouth (the people that say that are the ones who wear sweats everyday 🥵)

    • @sistershook232
      @sistershook232 5 ปีที่แล้ว +94

      Well to those people I say myself and thank you for telling me I look good

    • @panagiotis4805
      @panagiotis4805 5 ปีที่แล้ว +100

      If you're getting comments like that, it means you're doing it right 💜

    • @somebodysopinion543
      @somebodysopinion543 5 ปีที่แล้ว +36

      my mum tells me this everyday and my sisters LOL

    • @alaebk7825
      @alaebk7825 5 ปีที่แล้ว +71

      Abby "AhA YoU hAvE a CrUsH!1!1!1!1"

  • @cailynpope6167
    @cailynpope6167 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3599

    When you can't choose between grunge, cottagecore, and light academia.

    • @polly1579
      @polly1579 3 ปีที่แล้ว +224

      I can't choose between dark academia, fairycore, and skater/surfer...
      :(

    • @agirlcalledmist
      @agirlcalledmist 3 ปีที่แล้ว +202

      @@polly1579 beachy acedemic fairy that likes to vibe at skate parks BAM!

    • @polly1579
      @polly1579 3 ปีที่แล้ว +31

      @@agirlcalledmist lol thank you!

    • @mikuhidinginyourwifi5615
      @mikuhidinginyourwifi5615 3 ปีที่แล้ว +89

      mix mix mix

    • @salonikullar3627
      @salonikullar3627 3 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      OMG SAME

  • @nithiyaakarunakaran8319
    @nithiyaakarunakaran8319 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2227

    I WANT A 3-HOUR VIDEO ON YOUR ENTIRE CLOSET PLEASE AND THANK YOU

    • @cheruwong2075
      @cheruwong2075 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Nithiyaa Karunakaran same

    • @diywithparnika689
      @diywithparnika689 5 ปีที่แล้ว +25

      She made a video with everything in her closet already! :)

    • @nithiyaakarunakaran8319
      @nithiyaakarunakaran8319 5 ปีที่แล้ว +30

      DIYwithParnika haha yeah i know but wasn’t that like 7 months ago, and knowing ashley and her thrift-addiction she must’ve gotten something new - also i want three hours not 7 minutes, haha :)

    • @ratking6668
      @ratking6668 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Yess

    • @alexmacnab-stark8593
      @alexmacnab-stark8593 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      DIYwithParnika I went through that video on the slowest speed to look at all those clothes 😂

  • @Doeneseya
    @Doeneseya 5 ปีที่แล้ว +738

    *“Fashion Disaster to Fashionable Disaster.”* 😭😹💗

  • @hannahbanana6149
    @hannahbanana6149 5 ปีที่แล้ว +7372

    Story: In high school I literally wore dresses every. single. day. Most people knew or people in my class just knew that I wore dresses every day. One day I showed up to school in jeans and I visited my friend in another class and she was like "you're wearing pants!!" and some random guy in her class looks over, and pops in like "I don't even KNOW you and I know you wear dresses every day"
    yeetin

    • @lararibeiro3343
      @lararibeiro3343 5 ปีที่แล้ว +893

      i admire your motivation and the jeans day was a power move. well done

    • @rymno7466
      @rymno7466 5 ปีที่แล้ว +435

      It’s the opposite for me haha props to you for being comfortable wearing dresses to school.

    • @emmarose9997
      @emmarose9997 5 ปีที่แล้ว +260

      every time i wear jeans random people are like no dress?? and if i do wear jeans it’s jeans flats and a blouse i wore a hoodie and jeans one day and my friends thought i was dying

    • @ruth9077
      @ruth9077 5 ปีที่แล้ว +40

      Haha I love that!! I wish it was warm enough where I am to do that

    • @emilia3313
      @emilia3313 5 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      Hannah Banana this was totally me in middle school! Except with skirts as well as dresses

  • @kat08
    @kat08 3 ปีที่แล้ว +65

    I would also totally recommend thrift stores when trying out a new style!! You can get a lot of pieces for cheaper and it's less of a risk if you end up not liking the style bc you didn't spend a ton of money on it

  • @gracedsouza9067
    @gracedsouza9067 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1899

    Ashley: Find Inspiration
    Me: Goes to TH-cam and types bestdressed

  • @dodo-sr8jp
    @dodo-sr8jp 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2766

    Ashley is only TH-camr who gives tips that I actually follow because they're actually useful and researched.
    This is quality content.

    • @lilpoppy1328
      @lilpoppy1328 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      True😬

    • @ibenengberg6713
      @ibenengberg6713 5 ปีที่แล้ว +21

      try watching some of AlexandrasGirlyTalk's videos, I love ashley as well, but if you are looking for more with real tips, try her :))

    • @furrylego643
      @furrylego643 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      th-cam.com/channels/U8ssMY0rZQtCgWVwQNpmUA.html

    • @TheMsPants
      @TheMsPants 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      I just just thinking 'this girl is very clever and I would actually follow her advice !'

  • @thegallantgangster577
    @thegallantgangster577 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3356

    "what's your style?" *sweaters*
    "what do you wear?" *sweaters*
    "what's the fit?" *sweaters*
    "what colour palette?" *sWeAtEr-CoLoUr!*

    • @helenaravens6812
      @helenaravens6812 4 ปีที่แล้ว +92

      The Gallant Gangster I did NOT ask to be called out like this

    • @coolperson4418
      @coolperson4418 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Mee

    • @AlciesWorld
      @AlciesWorld 4 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      This is so funny 😂 😂😂😂

    • @hariniobla422
      @hariniobla422 4 ปีที่แล้ว +49

      Sweaters have styles too! Turtleneck? Cowl neck? Mock neck? Tight? Loose? Drop shoulder? Long? Short? Crop?

    • @thegallantgangster577
      @thegallantgangster577 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      AllyHiran 1215 gah i don't know these things! teach me 😂

  • @haruutoee
    @haruutoee 3 ปีที่แล้ว +36

    For anyone whos 13-18 years of age watching this video, IT WORKS.
    My confidence sky rocketed.
    PS: Have fun having a glow up! You deserve it

  • @melissapilato6541
    @melissapilato6541 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4486

    I have anxiety, so whenever I wear clothing that I really love I become insecure and paranoid. that’s why I usually come back to the same boring clothes.

    • @contactmyheart3296
      @contactmyheart3296 4 ปีที่แล้ว +74

      same 😔

    • @kiaraw8297
      @kiaraw8297 4 ปีที่แล้ว +151

      Be confident in yourself and the things you love to wear! Heck!,my own family talks bad about my style but idc because I love it 😻!!

    • @goddessloretta776
      @goddessloretta776 4 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      Me too.

    • @bearsneezer1929
      @bearsneezer1929 4 ปีที่แล้ว +79

      I believe in u girl I do too but I’m slowly starting to change my style without stretching too far, so just swap baggy tees with tucked in tees that are pulled out halfway, for an example

    • @Emma-ku6ql
      @Emma-ku6ql 4 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      Kiara Walker HOW

  • @ivyk1050
    @ivyk1050 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2548

    when my style is different from what i wear because
    1.I have no confidence to wear it
    2. im poor, no money to buy those clothes

    • @fwelony5252
      @fwelony5252 4 ปีที่แล้ว +34

      Rightttt I’m looking on Aliexpress and ROMWE for clothes 😭

    • @avery6648
      @avery6648 4 ปีที่แล้ว +44

      I agree with the first one so much 😭😭😭 I know what my style is and I can afford to buy most of the clothing I want but I’m too scared to wear skirts and dresses to school

    • @madyv8620
      @madyv8620 4 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      @@fwelony5252 me to, me to :( AND I STILL CANT AFFORD IT-

    • @valeria3325
      @valeria3325 4 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      Maybe try thrifting? It's pretty cheap and you can find pieces that you love

    • @claireporter2416
      @claireporter2416 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Vælærïå yes thrifting is amazing, but you definitely need to have the patience to flip through everything

  • @mer4738
    @mer4738 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4044

    When I put together a nice outfit that really makes me feel comfortable and "100% my style" i take a pic of the whole look and save it to an outfit album on my phone gallery, when i don't know what to wear i just check these outfits and mix the pieces then come up with a few new ones! maybe this advice could help someone

    • @isabellap9703
      @isabellap9703 5 ปีที่แล้ว +33

      Mer Vargas omg!! i do that too and it’s so helpful

    • @zoereid782
      @zoereid782 5 ปีที่แล้ว +59

      That’s so SMART

    • @Marie02605
      @Marie02605 5 ปีที่แล้ว +21

      Ooo I love this tip

    • @jello8867
      @jello8867 4 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      Fricken genius

    • @duckcylinder9903
      @duckcylinder9903 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      i do that! its very helpful

  • @sugarhoneyicedtea9704
    @sugarhoneyicedtea9704 3 ปีที่แล้ว +38

    Sections ✨
    1. Asses current wardrobe (0:50)
    2. Finding inspiration (2:48)
    3. Create a moodboard (5:58)
    5. Shopping (7:30)
    6. Practise (8:23)
    7. Confidence (10:52)
    8. Fashion is subjective (13:32)

  • @sangeetha6979
    @sangeetha6979 5 ปีที่แล้ว +7184

    *me* : likes vintage clothing
    *every single person I know* : yOU DrEsS likE A grAndMa
    well atleast I'm trying karen

    • @joanagutierrez7082
      @joanagutierrez7082 5 ปีที่แล้ว +157

      Sangeetha at least not like your grandma, karen

    • @arson8265
      @arson8265 4 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      Sis you already one

    • @arson8265
      @arson8265 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      @karen

    • @zahrasultan6460
      @zahrasultan6460 4 ปีที่แล้ว +99

      I call it "grandma chic"

    • @evelyn-bz7hv
      @evelyn-bz7hv 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Joana Gutierrez well yeah, she’s not going to dress like a gHoSt

  • @klc2834
    @klc2834 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5920

    So like, referring to step one, what if I hate all the clothes I own?

    • @-t9214
      @-t9214 4 ปีที่แล้ว +78

      KLC 28 me

    • @hium8716
      @hium8716 4 ปีที่แล้ว +420

      Same. All of them are like Walmart and target kid clothes because there cheap . Crap didn't think this comment would blow up but also all I basic own is a couple good shirt , shorts, and jeans and I'm still stuck with my cat clothing from last year lol

    • @adriananoriega
      @adriananoriega 4 ปีที่แล้ว +167

      BRO same. I have one pair of shorts I like

    • @jaycrawford752
      @jaycrawford752 4 ปีที่แล้ว +26

      Same

    • @casevids818
      @casevids818 4 ปีที่แล้ว +193

      Same. I’m here to fix my style because the only thing I wear is a t-shirt and shorts

  • @annalynpoulsen2077
    @annalynpoulsen2077 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2898

    “it’s a 30 year old mom thing or a thing for 17 year olds” i feel attacked

  • @rosalindwinneker8638
    @rosalindwinneker8638 3 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    Another tip I suggest is looking at movie characters who’s style you like.
    Since they exist in their little bubble of existence, they can’t change and follow current trends which more often then not, you follow cause you see a lot of people wearing and then get sick of.

  • @LiliLala1991
    @LiliLala1991 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3278

    this video is quite
    1. informative
    2. clear
    3. motivating
    4. inspiring
    !

    • @taniawew
      @taniawew 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Диана Ганеева ikr

    • @eliechch5324
      @eliechch5324 5 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      And aesthetically pleasing

    • @PreeyaSharma
      @PreeyaSharma 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      I read this in her voice lol

    • @janiebb98
      @janiebb98 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      and well-edited!

    • @nesrinedekkiche6490
      @nesrinedekkiche6490 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      -wholesome

  • @sally-annehunt8820
    @sally-annehunt8820 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1784

    I can just imagine Ashley dragging in all those houseplants from around her house just to have them in the frame and you know what...? Me too Ashley. Me too.

    • @bestdressed
      @bestdressed  5 ปีที่แล้ว +221

      the tragic part is that i own so many plants that i didn't even have to move any into frame.. those are just the usual plants that hang out in my mirror corner

    • @sally-annehunt8820
      @sally-annehunt8820 5 ปีที่แล้ว +35

      @@bestdressed Hahaha I hope one day I own so many plants that I end up having 4 in the same corner

    • @cebulsoon8232
      @cebulsoon8232 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      relatable. cuz we care in this house. WE CARE

  • @samantanicoleruiz9181
    @samantanicoleruiz9181 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2098

    Honestly Ashley should start a podcast, I could hear her talk for the rest of my life with no problem

    • @ysa2117
      @ysa2117 5 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      pls start a podcast ashley uwu

    • @marnie-vlog
      @marnie-vlog 5 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      same hereee, hope she does!!

    • @ali-zd7ww
      @ali-zd7ww 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      can this pls happen 😔

    • @mrs.nobody739
      @mrs.nobody739 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Yaaaaaaaaaas

    • @KristiAna884
      @KristiAna884 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Omg yes

  • @ChicaneMedia
    @ChicaneMedia 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    I feel most people are lacking the confidence to be themselves because they aren't completely open towards how other people express themselves. What we personally find uncomfortable, we tend to think of negative thoughts first-hand because it's something different which feels alien to you. I feel that in order to be more confident you have to accept others for who they are and see everyone more open minded. That in hand makes you more comfortable wearing what you want because others see you being yourself and don't judge you for it

  • @vophie
    @vophie 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2162

    My tip is, don't be afraid to be "basic" and to wear ordinary or common clothing, you don't have to be unique to be incredible

    • @orangew.3055
      @orangew.3055 5 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Yash

    • @m_mmko
      @m_mmko 5 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      Sophie Williams This!

    • @annabanana1141
      @annabanana1141 5 ปีที่แล้ว +23

      Sophie Williams i been wanting the fila disruptors but i’ve seen so many people roast them & i don’t want to be flamed on

    • @bethb9926
      @bethb9926 5 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      I felt like a badass wearing a plain tank top with black leggings and a white jacket with (more black) sneakers. So, this!! Yes.

    • @soapy2587
      @soapy2587 5 ปีที่แล้ว +19

      this...i always like to wear bright colors and eye attracting stuff because i thought basic clothes were boring but recently i have experimented with basic crop tops & jeans and i find that it really flatters my body :>

  • @Sisuchkaaa
    @Sisuchkaaa 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4183

    my style is just: going to the mall with my mom and i end up hating my mom...

    • @susannalinshalm5638
      @susannalinshalm5638 4 ปีที่แล้ว +344

      Your're not the only one. The problem is that my friends don't really help, either and I'm not confident enough to buy clothes on my own.

    • @aetosia6490
      @aetosia6490 4 ปีที่แล้ว +83

      Why is that such a mood

    • @RowanITP
      @RowanITP 4 ปีที่แล้ว +123

      Sameee my mom forces me into dresses and I I littarly only were jeans 👁👄👁

    • @rskjghdaljf
      @rskjghdaljf 4 ปีที่แล้ว +122

      Same, she always says I need basic t-shirts. I want to get into Gothic Lolita fashion. If I find a cute blouse or something, she says it looks like old lady clothes T-T

    • @skiesky6224
      @skiesky6224 4 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      Damnn i feel you

  • @RosyPosyGirl
    @RosyPosyGirl 5 ปีที่แล้ว +13796

    Damn Ashley, stop improving my life so much. I might end up an actual person instead of a potato

    • @jadyn.nicole6336
      @jadyn.nicole6336 5 ปีที่แล้ว +277

      I felt that

    • @beatriztandrea
      @beatriztandrea 5 ปีที่แล้ว +191

      Damn I really felt that

    • @LaLaChole8714
      @LaLaChole8714 5 ปีที่แล้ว +45

      Yes😂👏🏼

    • @saana5422
      @saana5422 5 ปีที่แล้ว +82

      when you said 🥔, I felt that🥺

    • @veisnthere9
      @veisnthere9 5 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      So true 👏

  • @theprousteffect9717
    @theprousteffect9717 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Understanding that your style journey is an ongoing process that is never fully complete, is really key. I have a terrible habit of wanting to curate the "perfect" wardrobe right now and buying a bunch of items all at once. I have since decluttered or don't wear most of what I've purchased over the past few years 😩
    Your content is just so positive and inspiring! I wish I had known all of these things when I was young like you, and could have saved myself years of feeling unattractive and uncomfortable in my clothing. But I'm very grateful to have found your channel.

  • @additivelicht
    @additivelicht 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2554

    My issue: scared of looking like overdressing/being extra loooll cuz i sometimes i like polished styles (like buttoned shirt, slacks, loafers) but most people in my class wears hoodie/tshirt and jeans :/

    • @gewglepluswhyigottachangem7042
      @gewglepluswhyigottachangem7042 5 ปีที่แล้ว +224

      omg do it hunny!!!! i used to wear oxfords and button ups with a slim jean jacket! no one cares, express yourself!

    • @coolperson4418
      @coolperson4418 4 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      Same hereeee

    • @tamani2514
      @tamani2514 4 ปีที่แล้ว +112

      Do it! I used to wear skinny high waist jeans with Tshirt so like really basic and stuff and it never felt right. It was okay but not RIGHT. Now I wear (extremely) ripped, Jeans, oversized Tshirt and men's sweater, stuff like that and since this change I feel so much more comfortable and it feels more like myself. You'll find people loving you for beeing that extra. Don't hide in the crowd be special!

    • @thegallantgangster577
      @thegallantgangster577 4 ปีที่แล้ว +90

      that's me exactly. i feel like i'm going to stand out because my entire school wears sweats and sweatshirts, and i want to wear a skirt and blouse and clothing that makes me look nice.

    • @evelyn-bz7hv
      @evelyn-bz7hv 4 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      Be confident!!!

  • @livelaughlovingthroughlife
    @livelaughlovingthroughlife 5 ปีที่แล้ว +399

    The background of your apartment looks SPLENDID

    • @ghg2841
      @ghg2841 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      No Name honestlyyyyyyyy

  • @elficity-2737
    @elficity-2737 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1950

    Okay, but when my mother takes me shopping, she needs to know the difference between taking your time to shop, and literally just spending forever trying to convince me to buy something I don’t wanT

    • @anuroigas942
      @anuroigas942 4 ปีที่แล้ว +128

      I had the same problem but i get around it with saying:"you will just throw away money on something that i will never wear" maybe that will help you

    • @TyTy-gr4lt
      @TyTy-gr4lt 4 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      YESS OMG

    • @hannahslager6674
      @hannahslager6674 4 ปีที่แล้ว +36

      my mom used to do that and i would just never wear it and she eventually stopped

    • @fuwa1276
      @fuwa1276 4 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      Or stay in one section of the store for over an hour deciding to buy jeans#1 or jeans#2 -.-

    • @leeyaa457
      @leeyaa457 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Mom used to do that too & I decided to stop wearing them & not buying clothes... Then she stopped but eventually my mom choice of choosing my clothes got better.. I was kinda surprised lol

  • @houseplant_3084
    @houseplant_3084 4 ปีที่แล้ว +366

    I have a style I know my aesthetic BUT I have strict parents, therefore I am screwed

    • @Pr1ncess0vv
      @Pr1ncess0vv 3 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      They would just look at me like is this my child then look back at there phone ._.

    • @sophisticatedwrat
      @sophisticatedwrat 3 ปีที่แล้ว +28

      Same. I'm expecting a major glow-up when I move out but you can wear things that have a flattering fit that doesn't need to be showing a lot of skin.

    • @keyachy1657
      @keyachy1657 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      samee

    • @miaumeows
      @miaumeows 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Yah me too

    • @Trisha._3
      @Trisha._3 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Same here

  • @larissam4267
    @larissam4267 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1357

    Could you do a video of facing your fashion fears??!!

    • @larissam4267
      @larissam4267 5 ปีที่แล้ว +30

      I think you would make a good video on working with pieces that you yourself have trouble being confident in sometimes

    • @vmstevy
      @vmstevy 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      yes pls

    • @lilia426
      @lilia426 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @Larissa M 1000st like! I agree!

    • @faithh6565
      @faithh6565 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Larissa M yesssss

  • @tohruchan6093
    @tohruchan6093 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3247

    "Why're you all dressed up?" idk mum I just wanted to look cute but I guess I'll go change-
    I'll wait until I move out to do that thing we call fashion.

    • @anjaanja6448
      @anjaanja6448 5 ปีที่แล้ว +82

      Tohru Chan no you got this do your thing now:)

    • @emijune2171
      @emijune2171 5 ปีที่แล้ว +111

      I have the same philosophy about eating healthily oof

    • @tohruchan6093
      @tohruchan6093 5 ปีที่แล้ว +53

      @@emijune2171 I feel that. I don't know why some things just seem like you shouldn't them, even though you probably should and it's just normal???

    • @sayuriando3379
      @sayuriando3379 5 ปีที่แล้ว +22

      I slowly managed to change it more to my style but to be honest I still have a lot of clothes that belonged once to my sisters since I'm the smallest one and our mom doesn't accept reasons like it does not fit my style to go shopping for new outfits

    • @shizotypical
      @shizotypical 5 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Why change tho? Nothing wrong with dressing nice if you want to!

  • @kaylasanchez1228
    @kaylasanchez1228 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1658

    *me having 2 tee shirts
    "Ah yes, time to assess"

    • @rat7465
      @rat7465 4 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      Lmao me

    • @eden-.-3483
      @eden-.-3483 4 ปีที่แล้ว +26

      The only reason I'm here is because my mom told me I need more clothes. But I'm not sure what my style is yet so I just get some stuff and kinda forget I need clothes.

    • @honeyheaven482
      @honeyheaven482 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      { kaylapitter } I felt that 😔

    • @lauraduca125
      @lauraduca125 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I feel attacked

    • @ari-xn5dr
      @ari-xn5dr 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      same i wear the same sweatpants and hoodie every day

  • @onionpuddle8124
    @onionpuddle8124 4 ปีที่แล้ว +137

    me: wearing something that i want to wear and that fits my style
    my sister: you don’t look in that/ you can’t pull that off
    me: going back to wearing sweatpants and sweatshirts 24/7

    • @klavi842
      @klavi842 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      oh my god me too

    • @alllamalala9903
      @alllamalala9903 3 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      You guys got this! Fashion is only about confidence, yall can slay it!

    • @erinyes3943
      @erinyes3943 3 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      All I’m saying is that spite can be an amazing motivator-

    • @jacquelinematte1663
      @jacquelinematte1663 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      I hate judgement by sisters so I can sympathize

    • @asr4405
      @asr4405 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Sis are the biggest problem lol!

  • @malinasakamoto
    @malinasakamoto 4 ปีที่แล้ว +16145

    i have a style...i just don’t own anything that is that style

    • @emerelisrohena7413
      @emerelisrohena7413 4 ปีที่แล้ว +297

      Same

    • @zay6744
      @zay6744 4 ปีที่แล้ว +333

      OH MY GOOODDDDDD SAMEEEEE 😭😭😭😑💀

    • @d4n1ellaa
      @d4n1ellaa 4 ปีที่แล้ว +156

      I feel u

    • @izzyykatherine
      @izzyykatherine 4 ปีที่แล้ว +97

      Yoooooo same

    • @j.drvnsk
      @j.drvnsk 4 ปีที่แล้ว +74

      Sameeeee😫

  • @AnushaGames
    @AnushaGames 5 ปีที่แล้ว +702

    "Their image of you is going to catch up with your image of yourself" - I absolutely adore you for this

    • @가령-u8z
      @가령-u8z 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Anusha Garg i read this while she said it lol

  • @claireabel2788
    @claireabel2788 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1930

    I’d love it if you did a fashion for beginners! Like about different cuts and shapes etc and also how to dress for your body shape x

    • @sarahstans9801
      @sarahstans9801 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Yes!!!!

    • @madeleiner4035
      @madeleiner4035 5 ปีที่แล้ว +36

      @alexandrasgirlytalk has some really helpful videos about different cuts and what looks good on the body, I'd def recommend checking them out :)

    • @LL-sp9nb
      @LL-sp9nb 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Check out, Alessandra's Girly Talks

    • @BocolatePlays
      @BocolatePlays 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Oof Alexandra's girly talk is 👌👌 when it comes to that

    • @KpopManiac4Life
      @KpopManiac4Life 5 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Justine leconte is perfect for this

  • @matcha2953
    @matcha2953 4 ปีที่แล้ว +177

    I sorta found my style through it and my mother described it as "Hello, yes I am an intern at my grandmother's workplace"

    • @peterevans6480
      @peterevans6480 3 ปีที่แล้ว +19

      PFFT IM SORRY FOR LAUGHING BUT I LOVE YOUR MOM

    • @indeedical26
      @indeedical26 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      LMAOOO I AM SORRY

    • @thatcrowkiddraws
      @thatcrowkiddraws 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      IM CRYING 🤣🤣🤣🤣

  • @honeyhive2896
    @honeyhive2896 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4762

    *Picks out a cute shirt I like* Mom: YoU lIkE tHaT?😣 Me: *sigh* I guess not

    • @vividd1186
      @vividd1186 5 ปีที่แล้ว +325

      Oh my goodness it's the same with me😞 It's so sad honestly

    • @rosiefoulston1635
      @rosiefoulston1635 5 ปีที่แล้ว +186

      Don’t let that stop you!! ❤️

    • @zakyiaclanton6877
      @zakyiaclanton6877 5 ปีที่แล้ว +83

      Same I’m like come on uhhh

    • @angelacooper5681
      @angelacooper5681 5 ปีที่แล้ว +37

      Ahh yes so true

    • @renoirrr
      @renoirrr 5 ปีที่แล้ว +156

      Why are parents still stuck in the past?

  • @softmongreal
    @softmongreal 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2065

    Ashley should start a podcast. I swear she's such a good motivational speaker and a smart ass person I wish to hang out with. Her cool style & understanding of things just calms me down because finally, I'm not the only one struggling here, even Ashley who's a famous girl with a wonderful fashion sense is still struggling sometimes. WE NEED ASHLEY TO MAKE PODCASTS.
    LIKE HARDER SO ASHLEY CAN SEE AND NOTICE OUR PLEA!! PODCASTS!!!

    • @hamnahfareed931
      @hamnahfareed931 5 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Yup, u stole my words.

    • @Julia-ws9pq
      @Julia-ws9pq 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Omg yesss

    • @cath5137
      @cath5137 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      i would 100% listen to her in the morning while i’m getting ready lol💖

    • @hamnahfareed931
      @hamnahfareed931 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@cath5137 sameeeee

    • @AllisonLee0110
      @AllisonLee0110 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Oh my God yes, she can talk about so many things and her voice ugh I can just listen for hours!!

  • @artisticsoulless
    @artisticsoulless 5 ปีที่แล้ว +769

    me: putting together a dope outfit for school
    also me: realizing it is way to extra and that i cant pull it off because who do i think i am

    • @memequeen5026
      @memequeen5026 5 ปีที่แล้ว +38

      a big fat MOOD

    • @ellagibbons1416
      @ellagibbons1416 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      exactly

    • @coainc
      @coainc 5 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      ok i’m gonna be cheesy and say that i’m 100% sure you can, it’s all about confidence. go wear whatever you want and just know that you rock it

    • @hamnahfareed931
      @hamnahfareed931 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      SAME.

    • @goyangeden9891
      @goyangeden9891 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      hey wear it ! you're you that's all you need to be to wear an extra outfit !

  • @lasutherlin9398
    @lasutherlin9398 2 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    It’s so nice to look at this after a few years and realize I did follow this advice. Thank you so much this really helped me dress in a way that gives me confident in myself

  • @muripu206
    @muripu206 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4715

    “step 1: assess your wardrobe.”
    me: *looks at 2 shirts and 1 pair of jeans that i own*

    • @aachal9852
      @aachal9852 4 ปีที่แล้ว +35

      Lmao

    • @francescakyanda9182
      @francescakyanda9182 4 ปีที่แล้ว +129

      *looks at collection of Star Wars shirts*

    • @katelyn2876
      @katelyn2876 4 ปีที่แล้ว +45

      i don't even have jeans asgklsjdf

    • @luisacoms6532
      @luisacoms6532 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      omg thats me lol

    • @cleetus_
      @cleetus_ 4 ปีที่แล้ว +78

      *looks at cute tops that are too small, too big, or that i dont have the confidence to wear and settles on a oversized hoodie from six months ago*

  • @gabrielleholt446
    @gabrielleholt446 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3463

    If I were ever to become a mom, I would NEVER say a bad thing about my child's taste in clothing. The only comments on ANYONE'S clothing choices should be in terms of respect, like censoring to ensure they arent blaring hateful messages of any kind. Other than that, wear what ever ya love my dudes. Wear whatever gives ya soul the warm fuzzies

    • @aeri3930
      @aeri3930 5 ปีที่แล้ว +100

      Yeah and just make sure your personal bits arent out there

    • @shizotypical
      @shizotypical 5 ปีที่แล้ว +90

      But what if your child wears socks with sandals?

    • @leejasmin9922
      @leejasmin9922 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Omg how hurt you

    • @lynxaway
      @lynxaway 5 ปีที่แล้ว +25

      @Lee jasmin hey, hey, no need to be rude. It’s true that parents should be supportive of their kids’ choices (so long as they’re not harming anyone), and it’s also true that not all of them are.

    • @katespaulding4563
      @katespaulding4563 5 ปีที่แล้ว +20

      @@shizotypical socks with sandals is the MOST stylish look. (actually as a backpacker i am guilty of wearing it haha..)

  • @shannongabriella
    @shannongabriella 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    dressing up and looking stylish and good is so fun!! it gives me an enormous amount of happiness and confidence that not a lot of people in my life can “give”, especially during this quarantine period :))

  • @ayeirin
    @ayeirin 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1848

    1. assess ur current wardrobe
    me: *looks in wardrobe*
    me: school uniform, ok
    me: *looks on the floor*
    floor: hoodies, sweatpants, tshirts
    me: ok then

    • @Zoe-gp1uj
      @Zoe-gp1uj 4 ปีที่แล้ว +64

      LOL. I have no clothe because I’m usually wearing my school uniform

    • @marinamorton8458
      @marinamorton8458 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      felt

    • @greencheese3717
      @greencheese3717 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Same gurl same ...

    • @siyona6569
      @siyona6569 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      You could go for like a grunge type of look? Maybe go with oversized stuff

    • @janicelau5309
      @janicelau5309 3 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      I THOUGHT I WAS THE ONLY ONE WHO WEARS SCHOOL STUFF EVERY DAY LMAO

  • @kateswain7325
    @kateswain7325 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1503

    mom: why are you so dressed up, we're just going shopping?
    brain: *imagines meeting a celebrity out in public who will compliment my outfit*
    me: no reason

    • @hium8716
      @hium8716 4 ปีที่แล้ว +76

      And that's reading 'those' Wattpad stories at 10pm

    • @kendalljackson6595
      @kendalljackson6595 4 ปีที่แล้ว +19

      like not that i care what other people think of me but I just love it when random people complement my outfit lol

    • @angelicat9440
      @angelicat9440 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @Alina Oscar Wilde (❁´◡`❁)

    • @angelicat9440
      @angelicat9440 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@jodigriffin9439 You did what you had to.

    • @jhordanaduval
      @jhordanaduval 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Same!!! I don't know what I'd do if I ever met a celebrity and I'm in practically pj's

  • @alyssahall9830
    @alyssahall9830 4 ปีที่แล้ว +706

    Also I’ve found that building self-confidence helps with enjoying fashion in general. I use this tip: Next time you’re sitting at a coffee shop or outside somewhere, or even scrolling through Instagram. Try and think one positive thing about everyone you see, “damn they look confident af!” “Wow girl is killing it in those shoes” “those glasses look awesome on him!” “Her hair is styled so well, looks amazing!” “I love that jacket he’s wearing!” “They look sensational” “I love the colour they dyed their hair!” Etc etc Then at some point after you just keep complimenting everyone instead of comparing yourself to them you slowly start just building that positivity about others and internalising it, to a point where you can say “yeah I look good today!” “I’m feeling confident in this” “I love this jacket it makes me feel good” “I love how my hair is styled this morning” and recognise sometimes you’re just going to have off days, but keep going ❤️

    • @CarolinaMendivil
      @CarolinaMendivil 4 ปีที่แล้ว +28

      Alyssa Hall I love this so much

    • @laura6204
      @laura6204 4 ปีที่แล้ว +24

      You are the nicest person ever. Thank you so much!!!!

    • @Alicia-kg3hs
      @Alicia-kg3hs 4 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      This is sweet!

    • @wonholover1507
      @wonholover1507 4 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      Thank will be using this 😍

    • @NENEBIRK
      @NENEBIRK 4 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      I love this. Thank u so much. I will!🦋

  • @aflowercloud
    @aflowercloud 3 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    The second waves starting here and I am going on my second marathon of all of Ashley's videos and I am so freaking proud that my teenage self discovered her cause I am rewatching all of these videos and realising wWOW!!

  • @holliedaw5011
    @holliedaw5011 5 ปีที่แล้ว +335

    I love how thorough this video is, instead of saying:
    HoW tO fiNd YouR sTyLe:
    STep OnE: drinK WaTeR

    • @khuranapriyanka
      @khuranapriyanka 5 ปีที่แล้ว +26

      Step two: make your bed

    • @softtboiledegg
      @softtboiledegg 5 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      step three: water your neighbors lawn

    • @elise1485
      @elise1485 5 ปีที่แล้ว +22

      step 5: reach out to your ex

    • @rielleva1925
      @rielleva1925 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Elise Kemp oh no 🤣🤣

    • @amyj4399
      @amyj4399 5 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      step 6:eat a roast dinner

  • @dithmith6593
    @dithmith6593 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2325

    Me: *holding a shirt that I like*
    My parents: ...you like that?
    Me: no i just carry clothes around in a clothing store -_-

  • @fatyhl377
    @fatyhl377 5 ปีที่แล้ว +210

    Maaan I respect the effort that this women puts into making her background soooooo nice. Holy shit.

  • @lifeisgood9889
    @lifeisgood9889 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Hey, Ashley, you’ve been a major inspiration for me in finding my sense of style. And I definitely agree that confidence takes time. I personally think of confidence as a skill, one you have to practice to get better at. These days, I wear a superhero cape to class, because it’s fun. And it makes me very happy. I’m glad I got to see this video, because it was very helpful

  • @zahavabg
    @zahavabg 5 ปีที่แล้ว +548

    My mom explained my style as “she only wears hoodies and once in awhile a solid color T-shirt” and I’ve never heard anything more accurate in my life

    • @jaylin4216
      @jaylin4216 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      honestly same

    • @danni9704
      @danni9704 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I really wish I had more than 1 hoodie tbh

    • @jaylin4216
      @jaylin4216 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      • Rosa 'Sunsprite' • i have a whole closet that’s pretty much only hoodies... i think i have an issue

    • @danni9704
      @danni9704 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@jaylin4216 You remind me of my friend who collects pens. She has a whole separate pencil case because they don't fit into her normal one. (′~' )

  • @3d.e3
    @3d.e3 5 ปีที่แล้ว +599

    Ashley's slowly creating a Jungle in her room. Lol. The amount of plants are so beautiful on cam though!

  • @perfectlyanest
    @perfectlyanest 5 ปีที่แล้ว +432

    ugh yes i feel this
    everytime i wear a dress people are like "oh you dressed up"
    i'm like yes but NO
    i want to wear this

    • @jazzclarke7128
      @jazzclarke7128 5 ปีที่แล้ว +32

      an huang when i wear a dress people are like “you look so nice what’s the occasion?” and i just say “i didn’t wanna put on pants”

    • @perfectlyanest
      @perfectlyanest 5 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @@jazzclarke7128
      Lmaoooo that's such a mood
      especially on hot summer days it's like
      um this is practical now i dont get hot around that area 😂

    • @targetbleach8689
      @targetbleach8689 5 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      Lol I wanna wear dresses to school but everyone will think I'm trying too hard when in reality, it's more comfortable than jeans, and if I wear a hoodie and sweatpants, people are gonna judge me for not trying enough like seriously let people wear whatever they want to school as long as its not against dress code or whatever😭

    • @hannahhipolito2812
      @hannahhipolito2812 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@targetbleach8689 So I'm going into high school next year, and the reason I didn't wear any dresses or skirts this past year is because I didn't want people asking questions! Up until this past year I wasn't ever really interested in the more "feminine side" of fashion, so I didn't want people to ask me why I was changing it up. Now I'm glad I can start next year and (hopefully) not get too many questions!

    • @andreeagaitan9307
      @andreeagaitan9307 5 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      I wore a skirt to a boy’s birthday party.I rlly liked my outfit,but when I arrived there all the girls especially were dressed very casual with sweats and jeans on.I was like “i still like my outfit” but then a girl told me”why are you dressed so formal?” and jfudjjehd it just ruined my confidence for the whole night.

  • @aastha8034
    @aastha8034 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I really love how Ashley just increases our confidence by her amazing personality. Most of the times, we are all surrounded by people who either judge us for our style or are more stylish than us which makes us insecure as hell! I accidentally stumbled upon Ashley's channel a few days back and I am OBSESSED! She's natural, friendly and just amazing. I feel my fashion improving already. Thanks a lot Ashley!

  • @sthuvbot
    @sthuvbot 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1658

    Me: *assumes my style is gothy casual*
    Also Me: *looks at my wardrobe and realizes I'm just Dolly Parton gone emo*

    • @hannahcampbell7746
      @hannahcampbell7746 4 ปีที่แล้ว +57

      Me wanting to dress grungy/alternative but being too scared to cuz I don't want my peers or parents to judge me and also not having the clothes to actually be alternative or grungy ;(

    • @renidere
      @renidere 4 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      Hannah Campbell thrift or learn to upcycle clothes! I'm trying to get a casual grunge and vintage mixed style, and I have exactly nothing of what I need to dress like that, or at least I thought I didn't. I actually realized that a lot of my pants/shorts sort of match that style, and now I only need to search for shirts and jackets. Narrow it down a bit like that and try to collect pieces over time!

    • @racistwhiteguy4869
      @racistwhiteguy4869 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Oh damn I thought I was simple emo but then I realised I was flat and depressed

    • @lollipoprandom5249
      @lollipoprandom5249 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      What is grungy, because I just like wearing black or dark colors

    • @casperdapimp
      @casperdapimp 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      im like a skater-girl/egirl mixed with a pink classy princess and idek anymore

  • @shynluege127
    @shynluege127 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1107

    Ashley never failed me everytime i watch her. She's always prepared and her content is sooooooooo informative and inspiring

    • @YourFriendlyInsuranceAdjuster
      @YourFriendlyInsuranceAdjuster 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Yeah I wonder how much she writes out beforehand

    • @kiyoponnn
      @kiyoponnn 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@YourFriendlyInsuranceAdjuster Smart people don't need to write things down(I'm implying that you're dumb)

  • @rosesndthorns
    @rosesndthorns 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2493

    Me: wants to buy that thing that really fits my style and calls my heart.
    Thing: is $300
    Me: *blinks*
    Edit: wow glad I’m not alone 😭

    • @ratafeia
      @ratafeia 5 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      Elsa thrift shops!!!

    • @ratafeia
      @ratafeia 5 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      Elsa oh and also depop!

    • @jksbananamilk
      @jksbananamilk 5 ปีที่แล้ว +25

      Jennifer Bordignon I can never find anything good in thrift shops 😩

    • @Celestialperils
      @Celestialperils 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Go to multiple thrift shops! Consignment!

    • @jessicakay3695
      @jessicakay3695 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Try stores like Ross, TJMax, Winners, and outlets like Dillard’s Clearance Outlet (you can get high quality name brands for cheap prices) hope that helps 💕

  • @sarasicus
    @sarasicus 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Genuinely thank you so much for this. I've spent so much time buying random thrifted clothes that I just kind of like. This really helped me think about what I really like wearing and it helped find my personal style. I ended up clearing out 75% of my wardrobe, selling and donating it all, and then buying clothes I actually would wear and love. You probably won't see this but thank you Ashley!

  • @Kneec4ps
    @Kneec4ps 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3109

    You need to make merch labeled “fashionable disaster”

  • @catrocks7180
    @catrocks7180 5 ปีที่แล้ว +132

    Can we just talk about how fantastic her setup is? Like the two matching wooden bags hanging, the mirror at the back that reflects what she sees except she covers the camera, and the plants.
    Like, girl, you aesthetic man, subscribed.

  • @HH-lr2zt
    @HH-lr2zt 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1515

    My friends have described my style as, "Divorce court lawyer who is also a churchgoing single mom with a wild side" and I think thats pretty accurate. I attend a school that's 20% VSCO, 15% emo, and 60% athleisure so I stick out a bit when I walk into a sea of black sweatpants and scrunchies with a vintage blouse, teal blazer, mom jeans, and heels at 8 in the morning.

    • @coreymathews4623
      @coreymathews4623 5 ปีที่แล้ว +76

      Hannah Henderson so I guess you’re NoT lIkE tHe OtHeR gIrLs

    • @nico5991
      @nico5991 5 ปีที่แล้ว +37

      corey mathews her and the other 5 % 💀

    • @user-sb9mv3yn4p
      @user-sb9mv3yn4p 5 ปีที่แล้ว +80

      I would describe my style as every style just mashed together as long as the colors match lol

    • @nico5991
      @nico5991 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      the little big family literally me 😗

    • @allielee
      @allielee 5 ปีที่แล้ว +26

      same demographics for my school but also the people who dress fashionably stick out in a GOOD WAY i'm always jealous

  • @sushidashi6152
    @sushidashi6152 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I used to watch your videos in awe, like, I could never be that fashionable or confident. I'm 21 now and I can't believe that I'm finally finding my own style and curating my closet with the help of your videos.

  • @Anika-tc6ih
    @Anika-tc6ih 5 ปีที่แล้ว +832

    I used to be a confident little girl
    Puberty what a funny little thing

  • @marydarko3380
    @marydarko3380 5 ปีที่แล้ว +498

    as someone who wore school uniforms for most of my teen years, I NEED THIS

    • @liete-sl2wg
      @liete-sl2wg 5 ปีที่แล้ว +20

      Girl same the only time I wear my clothes are on weekends

    • @no.6460
      @no.6460 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      C JX err dont you change out of your school uniform..

    • @klaussstele
      @klaussstele 5 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      @@no.6460 i have a school uniform but after school i just put on whatever i see first, so i only really pick out clothes at the weekend

    • @monychan6689
      @monychan6689 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@liete-sl2wg same

    • @klaussstele
      @klaussstele 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @Jami_doger777 im UK my school is like the opposite of posh 😂

  • @abigailwathen2783
    @abigailwathen2783 4 ปีที่แล้ว +865

    Confidence is key! After being in a shitty relationship for 4 years, and him literally throwing all of my clothes and makeup away. I left and now 6 years later I am finally starting to buy more clothes that I love. I recently bought a pair of bright pink gingham trousers and they made me so happy! And everyone I saw that day made a nice compliment on them. Now I feel so much better and I'm delving into my fashion a lot more which is what I love! Like the old me I finally feel like I'm back 😄

    • @vv5813
      @vv5813 4 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      Yessss Queen!!!!💕😁🙌

    • @abigailwathen2783
      @abigailwathen2783 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Thank you 🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰

    • @ak__ri583
      @ak__ri583 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      👍👍👍👍👍 Awesome 🎉🎊 Enjoy girl.

    • @kateliu5476
      @kateliu5476 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      YAY CONGRATS GIRL!

    • @starrycactusx5978
      @starrycactusx5978 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      YOU GO GIRL

  • @runway5338
    @runway5338 3 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    Thank you so much for mentioning how most of us have an eclectic style when we’re first trying to figure out what types of aesthetics we love and reflect our most authentic selves.
    I personally love vintage, minimalism, dark & light academia, and also a basic outfit consisting of a crop top and high waisted bottoms. I’m definitely figuring out how to wind them in together that is uniquely me. 💕

  • @kireicha9432
    @kireicha9432 5 ปีที่แล้ว +142

    i love the fact that ashley addressed how scary it can be to wear what u wanna wear, and i honestly appreciate that so much bcs i thought nobody else relates ;-;

  • @Whxmsa
    @Whxmsa 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2463

    “why are you so dressed up?”
    im not. i just don’t feel like wearing pants :/

    • @theunicorn1167
      @theunicorn1167 5 ปีที่แล้ว +81

      Fun Fact: If you don‘t have enough motivation and are in a bad mood so you don‘t want to search two pieces of clothing, wear a dress, people will think you‘re dressed up even tho you were just too lazy to match two things.

    • @emmarose9997
      @emmarose9997 5 ปีที่แล้ว +24

      i hear this all the time i wear a wrap dress denim jacket and converse most day i wear a girly casual thing everyday my friends think i dress up too much

    • @sydneysonnleitner2680
      @sydneysonnleitner2680 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      that hits lmao

    • @paprika8334
      @paprika8334 5 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      EXACTLY! I love dresses because I don’t have to wear pants and it’s SO comfy

    • @leja9380
      @leja9380 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@emmarose9997 lmao ikr it's insane

  • @pplchangeppl7693
    @pplchangeppl7693 5 ปีที่แล้ว +323

    Also totally relate to the dressing fancy anxiety. My friend group almost exclusively wears like nerd t-shirts and as much as I love nerd t-shirts, I love feeling dressed to impress

    • @thelazygirllifestyle3562
      @thelazygirllifestyle3562 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      My mom always told me "anytime you step out into the world, put your best foot forward"
      Dress up, love yourself, explore your options and have fun with fashion. I get that anxiety sometimes but then I push past it and then dress how I went. Once I leave the house I feel beautiful and amazing. When I am unable to I wind up feeling gross and awful anytime I pass by a window.
      And hey, maybe you dressing up will encourage others who thought they couldn't.

    • @literaIIyshy
      @literaIIyshy 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      I'm glad I'm not the only one with this problem. I always want to dress nicely and pristine but I don't want to look overdressed in comparison with my friends or people around me and feel uncomfortable.

  • @littlemaniacinmyhead
    @littlemaniacinmyhead ปีที่แล้ว +1

    The one and only helpful video about style on youtube! I keep coming back, rewatching it every so often ecpecially when I feel lost in my own style. Much love to you girly!

  • @diana-xn4fi
    @diana-xn4fi 5 ปีที่แล้ว +769

    unrelated to the vid but i just realized that this day last year was when you hit 100k subs and now you have 1.8M!! we’re so proud of you :’)

    • @nancy7258
      @nancy7258 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      she really deserves it

    • @itshannahost
      @itshannahost 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Yes omg I remember!!

  • @mikazvis6231
    @mikazvis6231 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4263

    me: *goes to men’s section*
    mom: Are you lesbian? Why do you like this? *proceeds to lecture*
    me: ...i just really like men’s sweaters?

    • @mushroompoet
      @mushroompoet 5 ปีที่แล้ว +292

      Omg yeah like i want actual pockets leave me alone

    • @destroyer6945
      @destroyer6945 5 ปีที่แล้ว +82

      I occasionally go to the men's section and I'm bi, soooo....

    • @chimmyeatingkookies8419
      @chimmyeatingkookies8419 5 ปีที่แล้ว +100

      Im the same! I love mens jumpers and people always question it. Theyre nice, compfy, oversized, etc. mens clothing (jumpers and tops especially) are so comfortable!

    • @bagellover1203
      @bagellover1203 5 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      same omg

    • @kalenakien8036
      @kalenakien8036 5 ปีที่แล้ว +24

      omg same. sometimes i buy boy’s jeans/men’s jeans because the legs fit me better ;(

  • @sydney9699
    @sydney9699 5 ปีที่แล้ว +680

    I always feel pressure at school to always wear sweatpants/joggers and all the stuff... sometimes I wanted to dress nicer, but I felt like people would make fun of me for caring. This video really inspired me to be myself, and to wear whatever I want to wear. Thank you so much for pushing me to be myself❤

    • @jazlynnhernandez8549
      @jazlynnhernandez8549 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Sydney yes girl!

    • @poppy1118
      @poppy1118 5 ปีที่แล้ว +25

      glad that people are getting their self confidence, i relate so so much and i have finally found what i like. be yourself and don’t give a damn what people think. if someone doesn’t like your outfit it doesn’t matter as long as your like it that’s all that matters!

    • @daniii37
      @daniii37 5 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Sydney yess everyone has different styles don’t let what other people think stop you from being yourself! My best friend would always dress up for highschool and would never leave her house in sweatpants. Me on the other hand, I wore sweatpants or sometimes jeans everyday in school because that’s what was comfortable for me ☺️

    • @mal4448
      @mal4448 5 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Sydney omg I couldn't relate more 😂 I've always wanted to wear a skirt to school, but the one time I did everybody was like 'oMg wHy aRe yOu dReSsEd lIkE tHaT tO scHOOl hUH?' So I never did it again, but now I'm starting to have more confidence and maybe do it again one day 😂

    • @notnanni
      @notnanni 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      It was literally the exact opposite at my school, everyone came from rich households and had nice brand name clothes and I made/make like 85% of my wardrobe myself. It was a struggle but now in university people are less judgemental :)

  • @thejazzpianist25
    @thejazzpianist25 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I love how you say it takes time and you have to be patient and that you're not just born with perfect fashion this is so helpful

  • @mielynotcyrus
    @mielynotcyrus 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5463

    *"Does it reflects your personality"*
    Me: Which one?

  • @indiar9721
    @indiar9721 5 ปีที่แล้ว +517

    I’ve got 3 styles
    1- sexy victorian going to a funeral
    2- turtle necks
    3- Christmas as most of the clothes I own are either red or green

  • @thunngsh
    @thunngsh 5 ปีที่แล้ว +505

    Ashley has upgraded from a helpful big sister we needed to the mom of the 21st century and that’s the real tea my loves ☕️☕️☕️

    • @marlene1630
      @marlene1630 5 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      we love ourselves an online mom 👼🏼😂

    • @liamichael5638
      @liamichael5638 5 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      like almost as good as steve harrington

    • @simranthakwani8283
      @simranthakwani8283 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      So true 🙌🏻

    • @thunngsh
      @thunngsh 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      marlène ikrrrr

    • @thunngsh
      @thunngsh 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Ashley Rizzo 😂😂😂

  • @AshlynnHerondale
    @AshlynnHerondale 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    this video is so helpful and i love how she talks about finding the confidence to actually fit your style 🥺

  • @miyaleibovich9214
    @miyaleibovich9214 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1740

    i've been trying to find my own style for almost two years now and i have noticed that the clothes that i'm comfortable in is not necesarily the one's i want to wear. like i kinda want to try more feminine style but i'm just not comfortable in it.

    • @aniketnagar9008
      @aniketnagar9008 4 ปีที่แล้ว +119

      Why this comment is talking about me 😑

    • @moonchild1866
      @moonchild1866 4 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      Me

    • @Ananyaagainstallodds
      @Ananyaagainstallodds 4 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      @@bella-qo6wb u did not understand her comment she means that she can relate

    • @aurora-cc6hk
      @aurora-cc6hk 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      @@bella-qo6wb and rude.

    • @datmangotho9618
      @datmangotho9618 4 ปีที่แล้ว +88

      How has it been going? If this helps: the first time you wear something outside your comfort zone it will feel pretty weird and people might look at you a lil differently. But after you wear more clothes of that style, people will start to not care and get used to how you dress and you will get used to it too :)