Charlie bestie I don’t know if you’re neurotypical or not but boy are you pleasant to watch as an autistic person. Your channel is one of the few seeing channels that keeps me engaged, so grateful for your videos!
same here, I got the double trouble AuDHD and boy does she match the kind of energy I have it makes it so natural to watch her, she one of the rare cases where I can easily follow and understand the process right away without getting confused or bored. Also sure rare to find a youtuber where I don't need to turn on 2x speed to stay engaged.
Not only are you making complete sense, it's like you're explaining my ADHD brain to me! For me, adding physical disabilities into the mix makes for complexities upon complexities. Thank you for giving us a glimpse into your brain process and how you're learning to work with your brain. This video was absolutely delightful. ❤
I was thinking exacly the same in terms of ADHD. I felt like Charlie was talking about my brain. The only difference is that right now I'm not able to make myself do anything (because of some comorbidities) so it's really nice to see someone actually realize their plans 😅
@@izoldakombajnistka THIS. All this. Oh my gods it's so validating to see someone who Gets Stuff Done who also struggles with at least some of the same stuff I do. (ADHD w/ chronic disabilities here, so man is it hard to get the brain to shut up.)
2:20 It was so satisfying to say “Remainders!” Like I’m watching Dora the explorer and then to hear the correct answer repeated back - I laughed so freaking hard
You have no idea how relatable the hair on the back of the neck thing is. Like recently i became suddenly extremely bothered by carpet on bare skin and im 35. I had to pretend this wasnt an issue because i cant just answer most people asking "whats wrong?" With "today i woke up and discovered the feeling of carpet makes my teeth hurt". I got over it just as suddenly but now i have a worry about it coming back
Thank you SO MUCH for your brain rambling. Your recognition that just because something "isn't logical" doesn't mean it's less important to recognize. This very much identifies what both my husband and I are learning about ourselves in our 40s.
Oh my goodness yes! It seems so important because of the emotional attachment even though we logically recognize the issue at hand isn't the actual priority or problem.
A tip from a lactose-intolerant yogurt lover: if you make your own yogurt, you can leave it to… ripen? Ferment? Culture? for longer so that the critters that turn the milk to yogurt can digest all the lactose, so you don’t have to.
True, and you can also leave shop-bought yoghurt until it's close to the use-by, then all the lactose has become food for the culture and it's easier on people tummies.
I appreciate the mental health talk. It’s easy to feel like you’re the only one struggling with those types of feelings. Thank you for sharing; it helps!
This video is straight up ADHD therapy! Aggghhh. So relatable! I told my husband recently, “You’re my Ritalin!” I am so much better at regulating when he is around. I love your conversation in this video just as much as the *adorable* finished dress! My brain literally cannot work without a pattern because of my struggle with numbers and geometry, so I admire your ability to just imagine and create a thing!
Ms. Charlie, you see us, but I see YOU. (Not in a creepy way, I just realized what it sounded like xD). Thank you for sharing your "Parfait Brain" with us. I have a severe Generalized Anxiety Disorder diagnosis and that "weird" is my brain. Every. Single. Day. (With added adhd). I know what it's like and you are a champ. I rarely comment (see above disorder), but I thought this was more than worth mentioning. Thank you for making, sharing and just being you.
Anyone else get low-key stressed when Charlie is sitting at the "coffee table" chatting and gesturing wildly with the pin dish right under her hand? Like one good flail and that dish is going flying. Just me? Okay. - - Also it is so nice to see Link living his best life as I grieve the loss of our (over 15yo) lab. Yes I wanna see all the puppy cuddles and butt skritches. It helps.
Condolences on the loss of your furry friend. Link is one of my favourite of the many TH-cam dogs I watch, he is just adorable. And no, you are not the only one feeling stress over that pin dish. 😁
Nearly every therapy session I've ever paid for has been less useful than this. Thanks for proposing some ways of processing that you've found useful. And explaining them the way they make sense for you. They're pretty applicable to me too - in ways that a lot of therapists just... aren't. Because what they had signed off on, as things they're allowed to teach people... just aren't a good fit for me. Or they're explaining it in ways that don't help. So... thanks. I appreciate you internet friend.
Looks at you taking care of your mental health!! My mom flew out to help me organize my place because I'm buried under my layered brain and layered piles of possibilities 🙃 It's pretty embarrassing as an adult but it helped my mental health and she liked being able to help make my daily life easier. Very grateful for her. She too told me to do exactly what you're doing, I need to complete something so I can get a win under my wings.
This dress is amazing! I'm definitely going to make a dress inspired by this, thank you! Pleeeeease show your simple projects! I'm not a beginner, but it's so nice to watch those videos too! Just because someone is "leveling up" their sewing skills doesn't mean they have to make projects only for that level. Keep the simple ones going, they're just as fun to watch as the other ones! 😍
I just want to thank you. I have recently been binge-watching most of your episodes, and you have shown me that its ok if projects don't go how you think they will. Its the process of making them, learning, and having fun. This has given me the courage to try to learn how to sew.
Again you have said what my brain knows to be true about me. If I can name what is harassing me, it almost immediately loses its power to do so! ..... I don't have a problem stopping a project in the middle, though. However, RESTARTING something is like pulling teeth! Thank you for your honesty and lightheartedness. You made my day! SHalom!
Something that I have seen on the internet as a helpful tool for starting up again, and it seems to work about 3/4 of the time for me: set a timer for a short amount of time and get going with it. When the timer goes out, you can keep going, reset the timer for another check in session if needed, or set the work away and know that you have made progress on it. (Rewording the idea for how it works for me in real life terms.) I like that I tend to make forwards progress most times, and even reverse progress is a learning experience for what didn’t work out well that way. I hope that this helps you some, and Shalom as well!
I enjoy being a lone also. Watching your videos is like visiting a friend without the stress of wanting them to leave. Love the dress. It is simple but elegant. I say wear it around the house if you want. You can never have too much swoosh.
Funny thing about parfait: my husband started recording TikTok videos about board games and he wanted a fun image to use when he said the word "layers." He asked me what I thought: parfait, of course! That's what he thought too, and was somehow surprised that I also came up with it. Parfait now also means "I love you" in my house. My brain has been doing similar weird things of late. I think your mental health dress project is glorious.
👏👏👏yay for using your platform to be open about mental health and even more kudos for being brave enough to be vulnerable!! The crunchy-parfait brain is so relatable and in general with your videos that talking it out loud to figure it out is part of why your content is so good-yes like everything on the internets it might be curated and edited but your videos have a rawness that is too frequently left out, thank you! 💞💞💞💞💞💞💞
So real about the hair thing and always being aware of it! This happens to me all the time but being too aware of my fingers/ toes touching one another. Takes all my mental energy to try and ignore it, makes me wanna crawl out of my skin fr fr
Oh that’s soo true, I was laying down watching this and I cannot feel my left hand pinkie and ring finger in the normal way, it’s like my fingers are in a glove you know it’s there you can feel it there but the outside is numb, so I’m forever trying to pull of a glove that does not exist and this time my finger nail on my pinkie was annoying me until I realised the darn nail was half an inch long😳 I have always kept my nails at 4mm at the max 2mm at minimum and here it was half an inch long. I hate filing that nail because I cannot feel it like my other fingers it’s like running your fingers down the chalk board 😭😭😭😭 at every stroke of the file. Arrrrrr
out of curiosity, does wearing gloves or toe socks help? (if ya even can, cause I am on team "socks bad" and will subconsciously kick socks off when I'm not paying attention. )
On the outside chance you aren't already aware, a Google search for "neurodivergent managing sensory overload" should pull up a bunch of very useful tips and techniques for managing sensory distractions like this so you don't need to spend such a large chunk of your attention budget actively ignoring this kind of thing 😊
Reflexology for tension release or maybe massage by trained pro and chiropractic care has helped me. I could touch my head but putting a brush of any type to my scalp was excruciating. Base of the back of the skull pressure point release has been very helpful. Just an idea.
Love the dress! And I related way too much about the weird brain days. For me it’s always when the routine shifts for reasons that may be partially out of control. And yeah a loud talking too, because the brain is busy with other things, definitely makes a difference.
Thank you for putting so much of this into words. I highly suspect I am Autistic if not AuDHD, but when my guardian was told to get me tested -they refused to, and so much of what you said is so relatable! When I was able to sew, I wouldn't want to stop. I'm waiting for my youngest to be a but older so I can start making clothes for them.
This dress is stunning! One of my faves you’ve made. And I relate to the brain chat. More mental health chat please! I also love the tip to talk it all through out loud. That helps me a lot too. ❤ you’re allowed to feel bothered and stressed by stuff. Renovating a house and your partner being away a lot are both completely normal and acceptable things to be bothered by! (And even if they weren’t, you’re still allowed to be bothered!!) Also your dog is adorable, I love all the butt scritches. 😊
… the whole 'unable to finish important thing' and 'getting stopped from doing other stuff because of it' and the WHOLE mental health side is waaayyyy too relatable. *offers good vibes from over the pond * (also? good good ideas/method on how to troubleshoot one's mental state. will try to unpack some of my own difficulties in that way
I love your channel so much. It's so comforting to watch someone not be afraid to go "What if I just do this?" I love watching your videos while I crochet! I also adore the bloopers at the end of every video
Jeesus Charlie, I feel ya. 😅 So many things that you just said are things that I have also struggled a LOT with and use the ecxact same coping skills for them. Those feelings are valid. I think a lot of people get stuck in qualifying if the "brainhurt" or "weirdness" comes from a valid reason without realising that it already is here. Some people drown in 3 meters of water and others drown in 3 kilometers. It does not really matter how deep the water was, the situation is still the same. You feeling weird is completely valid and the things that make you feel weird are valid. ❤ With realising that I am ADHD helped me to find more coping skills that work for my brain and not against it. 'Cause, in the end, if there is a way to do things that help your brain instead of hurting it, then why the heckity-hoo not? Might help anyone reading this too.
Brains are poop-heads sometimes. Your way of looking at levels of ick is a thing I will be adding into my collection of “gah, bad brain!” Management methods. Also, totally agree, save points in projects make the whole thing easier, and when I can’t reasonably get to them it leaves me a little unsettled.
I appreciate that you always show us the footage of you petting your doggy, lots of other TH-camrs show their pets without petting them and the pets look sad
Cute flowy black dress & strappy sandals. (I knew you must have shoes, lol.). That plunging neckline could very easily be an after 5:00 cocktail dress, with the right pearl accessories, like a choker, earrings & bracelet & small clutch bag. Also regarding the wind noise check to see if your fireplace flue is closed. (If it's open it will effect your utility expenses.
100% understand and sympathise. about a year ago, i had to start having weekly meetings with myself, just so I could stop getting to this point so often. my issues take a turn each to air their grievances, and we try to come up with a solution. it's been a game changer for me really. I do sometimes have to shout over all the chatter to be able to call the meeting to order, but it's worth it. I hope you can find a way to deal with the noisy brain too. love the finished dress. looks gorgeous!
Thank you for being open during your hardest times. For me, I lack the motivation, confidence, everything that comes with creativity. I love your channel. I watch more than the others. U're energetic, funny, entertaining, encouraging & everything I want to be. Thanks for being u.
Awesome crafter storage tip: IKEA have a three tiered rolling wagon named RÅSKOG (Raw-Forest). A supersuper useful trolley for all the small stuff! They can roll from room to room and help keep things in check.
Love the new dress - it's gorgeous and fits perfectly. Also loved the chat about screwing our heads back on and taking the time to figure out why we're out of sorts. And of course, YAY for Matt's return. Happily awaiting the next step in your sewing room - I'm sure it will be terrific. The voices in my head are screaming out organizational ideas and that you should watch Shannon Makes episode about her amazing table. It's big, it's on wheels, it has a top on which you can pin fabric, it has shelves for fabric, trim, patterns and such. One woman put a power strip on hers so that she can also iron on a pad Some people op for the ability to raise and lower it - my point is that you will figure stuff out that suits you, not some other Maker. Best wishes.
Yes, the dress IS fabulous and swooshy (and those SHOES OMG) and beautifully done! But the talk is relatable and helpful and cozy, and I appreciate it just as much. And it is seriously a good reminder about the "out loud" thing, which I know in general but constantly forget.
“Must complete task before eating or going to the bathroom.” I hear you!!! 😂 I would call my husband crying because I was so overwhelmed by work and one of the “ layers” was needing to pee. He would sanely say “go to the bathroom!” And I would sob “I can’t! There’s so much to do!”
This was perfect timing ...I keep pushing myself and then its not fun...my therapist said talking out loud is a coping mechanism for anxiety..as you are working through thoughts...you are listening to strategy.. For me is the grocery store....love love the dress...oh to be young and flirty again...I was seeing a peasant style top with the skirt, but your idea was perfect...I'm glad I watched your post today...see no schedule, you post, I watch, I have no idea when you post...hugs
Might I suggest making it again with that hot pink in your stash? And double circle skirt? And black edge binding? Go full 1950's and make a swing dress!
I must say, I love the time you put into your captions! I have a hard time hearing speach when I can't read lips simultaneously, so your videos are perfect. I feel like I'm part of the secret captions club. 😊 Thank you. 💕
It's a really great dress, and I think making the simpler, wear around the house if you want, kind of projects is just as important as the big fancy ones. Perhaps even more so, since most of us have more loafing around the house days than big occasions
Sounds like you are in MY head! Physical disabilities and moving house after 26 years aren't compatible (read VERY stressful). I really enjoyed listening to you and found it very validating. The dress is delightful. I love the juxtaposition of serious black with a 'fun and flirty' style. it's so flattering too. I also think it could look fab with different fabrics for the bodice and skirt.
Not gonna lie...I want to make a dozen or more of these for daily wear. I'm the type to get dressed to go to the store, take Kiddo to school, or drive Hubs to work, then change as soon as I get back home. Everything you make on your channel inspires me to actually start sewing my own garments, rather than cycle through the same few things that are comfy, which wears them out so fast.
2 things: 1) I totally relate to the brain parfait situation 2) the dress turned out so pretty! 10/10 would love to have that magically appear in my own wardrobe ♥️🤌
the living room table shakes because it is lightweight and on wheels. If you like working with it in the living room investigate if you can lock the wheels somehow.
For the record, I could watch you make those random dresses every week for the next 2 years and not get bored. It is fun to watch. So please, go ahead. This one turned out very well, it looks lovely on you. It would also look lovely (and possibly more day wear) if you did the black skirt on the bottom and the floral on the top? Loads of other options with that elastic. Culottes? Full length and floaty. Oooh, I am having too many inspirational ideas for someone thousands of miles away from a roll of that elastic! 😂 Thanks Charlie - love from England xx
I really needed to hear the brain rambling, I'm going through a similar thing (off work having been diagnosed with autism and ADHD at 40, starting to feel very isolated). Thank you for making me feel less alone.
Oh my gods , the dress is so pretty! Also, my brain lately works along the lines of the memefied "... x number of tabs open, two of them are playing music and you don't know which they are..." Super distracting in addition to the outside chaos produced by two tiny humans. So I feel you so much on the psychology level. Best wishes and thanks for the video
My favorite thing about dogs is that they don't seem to know what to do with their heads when getting cuddles. They just become an Adorable Wiggle Floof regardless of the amount of dog or the amount of fluff on the said dog. I love it. I may be missing my mother's dog just a little bit. Thank you for including the puppy in your videos edit: omg the puppy jumps!! They go boink!!! Just a straight up hippity hop! So cute
Just wanted to say thank you for the care you put into your captions! Some of the things you do, like specifying when it’s video-you or voiceover-you speaking (which is fantastic for lip-readers) go above and beyond what’s expected for professional captioners and I am incredibly grateful. If I could make a tiny request, though, do you think you could have the little [message] at the beginning/end as actual text on the screen? When the audio and captions don’t match, it (unintentionally!) assumes the viewer can hear well enough to tell the difference. I love the extra messages you leave in your videos, but the current format is less accessible to your deaf/HOH audience
when your pile of fabrics will be ready to move back to your studio, you can take a chance and create digital version of your stash. it's rather easy to do via notion, but there're multiple cross platform tools out there i did this a while back and it saves me so much time when I'm planning the project! yes, with the amount of fabric you already have, the task could feel rather tedious but it's so worth it! you can create fabric cards with different properties, add pictures of a fabrics, group them by properties so than you can filthher them out (for example the type of a print - stripes/flowers/dots and so on), show how many feet you have left, whether you've washed it or not, whether it's knit or not, have you got a thread for the fabric - options are limitless! I'm sure with your love for a good table you'll love it too :) also the pictures can be shown in the main catalogue as a "card cover", properties can be shown as well and voila you have all of your stash right in front of you, like it's in the online shop :)
I LOVE the dress. And I hear you on the incessant inner voices (and the long hair). I currently acknowledge at least 7 unfinished quilting/sewing/knitting projects demanding my creative attention, a house in desperate need of cleaning/organizing so I can get to those creative things, and life and work in general. Remember to breathe. And hug the puppy (and Matt, when he's in reach).
😂 as soon as Charlie sneezed, i automatically said, "bless you." Charlie, we love the videos. Glad you made a dress that you love and is fancy enough for date night and soft enough to wear at home. Dresses that fit those criteria are some of my favorites to have and wear.
I totally understand “parfait brain”…or, as it is known in my home, Lyme brain. I was infected 30+ years ago but only diagnosed in 2016 after an extremely catastrophic to me year. Might want to look it up. Thank goodness for supportive family and pups ❤
Gorgeous dress! It was like you were in my mind. It is difficult to not see a partner regularly because of work commitments, especially when you are a home body. I was recently introduced to bilateral music which really helps when I have brain overload. It stops all those competing voices and I can focus on one thing at a time.
Oh good lord, you have just managed to diagnose my brain in one video lol! I get you so much it’s so refreshing to hear somebody explain in normal speak what seemingly a lot of us feel. Thank you Charlie, oh and I love love love your dress ☺️🩷
My gosh I love watching…listening…to your videos. Today, was so deep and I LOVED IT! So, try this…next time you can’t find your keys. You are walking around the house, mentally thinking…keys?keys? Keys? Stop…say the words out loud…”where are my keys” and your brain will instantly go to the last time you used them and thus..where you put them. There does not have to be anyone in the house, a dog will do as a listener, but your brains NEEDS to hear the words. It is how some of us just work. You are loved, you are fantastic, you can do this!👍
This dress is fabulous, really! Trying to produce a project which is simple is not easy - there's a challenge for you. Years ago I decided it was time to learn to calm down all those voices in my head - about 5 conversations going on at once. I took up meditation by going to classes and learning about different ways of doing meditation. I made up a routine which I practised twice daily, starting with 2 minutes a session. Six months later my mind was calmer and less loud. Looking into the subject of autism makes me feel I had most of the symptoms till then. One exception is that I can concentrate if I want to. Oh! A second exception is that I like people and being in the midst of a crowd. I guess we are all different.
I totally hear you on the feeling your hair thing, although for me when it kicks in I start feeling them all at the /root/, and that is...less avoidable. 🤣😭 The balance I've had to find is how to feel what I'm feeling, allow it to bother me, but continue on with what needs to happen while being in that headspace. It's a super-hard balance, because I'm absolutely a stiff-upper-lip type, but knowing how to exist alongside the not-great feelings and not let them affect other people too badly is really how I can keep going.
I think its kinda funny, kinda sweet all the AuDHD-ers are relating to this. Myself included. Idk if you have a diagnosis or care to get one but a lot of what you said is a very typical neurodiverse experience; looking into adhd might help you and your parfait brain a lot! Either way its good to know other people go through this, thank you for being so open, its nice to be seen
This was just what I needed to listen to today, as my anxiety has been running rampant the last few days. Your dress is lovely, as always, and I love the way you include Link in the videos. Thank you for being you, and sharing yourself with us. And yes, even strong independent women can miss their partners when not seeing them for awhile; I know this firsthand.
The hair comment at 19:00!!! SO REAL!!! I have been having a real issue with this while sewing lately - feels like bugs crawling on me! Been loving watching your videos - I hang out with you almost every day (much more than I see real friends in real life LOL)
The dress IS delightful and the crunchy mental state so relatable ❤. You should definitely make a skirt (or 3😂) with some of that elastic. It would be fantastic with some dark lightweight denim or black corduroy. It would also be useful as just a belt. You could easily slip the elastic band into a tube of any fabric to create a belt to match anything.
You remind me so much of myself, and it really really helps me to hear you talk about your mental health issues, coping mechanisms, and solutions. Thank you for sharing these parts of you so openly. It makes a world of difference for my own thought patterns. 💗
First off, I think this is one of my favorite dresses you've made so far. It flatters you so much! Second, thank you for your brain rambles. I feel seen, and I can relate on so many levels. I'm feeling very scrambled right now, the weather here in upstate NY is still very unsettled, and even though I'm not a hot weather girl, I'd like it a little nicer and less dramatic. I love that puppy man is such a part of your videos, he makes me smile so much! I'm very thankful for my kitty girl, she knows exactly when mommy needs a cuddle, just like your boy. ❤❤❤.
So glad to watch this! Sometimes when I am sewing I begrudge having to stop and drink water ( I am on medication that necessitates it). I was thinking the other day I should get one of those caps that could hold my cans of water and has straws so I could drink hands free and my sewing wouldn’t be interrupted. lol glad to see I am not alone!
Charlie, that dress is stunning! So simple, so clean, yet so stylish. I love that your fabric choice really puts the elastic to the fore. And that slight cross-over on the v-neck is inspired! And I also love how you're taking the time to take care of you... and your parfait. 😉
19:21 Oh my goodness - I think you're me!! I was driving home from work when I suddenly became hyper aware of the fact that I was WEARING A BRA. My body was screaming at me and I was like "whoa dude this is not new, y u screm??" #solidarity
My partner is a trucker. There’s some times I miss him when he’s home because he’s choosing to do things other than spending time with me. I get it. Partners are missable. Even though I’m used to him being gone most of the time, it’s still not always easy. I’m a home body too. Work makes me get out.
"Stress stack" is 👌-- so descriptive of what it feels like! Also, AMEN to the hair thing, which is why I chopped mine all off in a pixie cut. Best decision ever. The black dress IS so simple and gorgeous and I love it for you on every level!
You are very strict with yourself, my favourite sewist. It’s probably why you’re so successful. But the world would also love you if you allowed yourself to take a potty break without reaching a goal first. xoxoxo ❤
I like what you said about emotions as layer cake, and getting to the source...also, not immediately dubbing the 'off' feelings as depression. Very useful, thanks!
I'm rather new to your channel, and I've noticed several times when I've gone, "I so get that," to something you've said off-hand about how you interact with the world or experience your environment. This video brought on a whole new level of, "I completely get you." I feel like we are mental twins in so many ways, and it's extremely reassuring to get that I'm-not-the-only-one validation from listening to you talk about your mental state and health so openly. So... as someone who often struggles to topple the tower of stress, I thank you for the affirmation and encouragement that you put forward here. Just knowing I'm not alone in the struggle gives some small relief.
Charlie, if something is bothering you, then it's clearly important enough to you to bother you and those who call you their friend should be respectful of that and try to help you think through it and visa versa, not tell you it's petty or you're being stupid. You're not stupid. You're just human, like everyone else.
The more I watch your videos the more I think we should be neighbors and besties! 🥳Bargains 🛒, Sewing 🪡🧵 , Puppies 🐶 🐾, Musicals 🎶🎭, Distractions🐿️, and oh my goodness loose hair on the back 😂
As a neurodivergent person, I’m still figuring out how to deal with inner voices and societal expectations. Like you, I find writing down or talking aloud helps a lot. Thanks for sharing your experience. I’m glad to hear you’re feeling better now. ❤
Yay for mental health! I love it when a simple project can help to reset the creative brain. And the way you explained talking through the layers of stress was super helpful. I will be using that technique in the future. Oh, and fruit. Fruit goes in a parfait.
Ms Charlie, i hope you always know how much all of us love and admire you and cheer you on your such an amazing and gifted (don’t argue, i said your gifted, accept It bc I wholeheartedly mean it) person and you are such an inspiration to many of us who watch you
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Charlie bestie I don’t know if you’re neurotypical or not but boy are you pleasant to watch as an autistic person. Your channel is one of the few seeing channels that keeps me engaged, so grateful for your videos!
I was just gonna comment something like this! Soooo many autistic relatable things
SAME
She must be nd , doesn't she ? It is still my guess
She’s just as entertaining to non-neurotypical people in my opinion ❤
same here, I got the double trouble AuDHD and boy does she match the kind of energy I have it makes it so natural to watch her, she one of the rare cases where I can easily follow and understand the process right away without getting confused or bored. Also sure rare to find a youtuber where I don't need to turn on 2x speed to stay engaged.
Not only are you making complete sense, it's like you're explaining my ADHD brain to me! For me, adding physical disabilities into the mix makes for complexities upon complexities. Thank you for giving us a glimpse into your brain process and how you're learning to work with your brain. This video was absolutely delightful. ❤
I was thinking exacly the same in terms of ADHD. I felt like Charlie was talking about my brain. The only difference is that right now I'm not able to make myself do anything (because of some comorbidities) so it's really nice to see someone actually realize their plans 😅
@@izoldakombajnistka THIS. All this. Oh my gods it's so validating to see someone who Gets Stuff Done who also struggles with at least some of the same stuff I do. (ADHD w/ chronic disabilities here, so man is it hard to get the brain to shut up.)
2:20 It was so satisfying to say “Remainders!” Like I’m watching Dora the explorer and then to hear the correct answer repeated back - I laughed so freaking hard
Me too!!
Chuckle. Yup. Even I chimed in with "remainders" as she awaited our response.
I ran to the comments to see if I was the only one, glad to know we're all on the same level.
Hahah! I’ve found my people!
Except I said 'remnants!... no... ... remainders!'
You have no idea how relatable the hair on the back of the neck thing is. Like recently i became suddenly extremely bothered by carpet on bare skin and im 35. I had to pretend this wasnt an issue because i cant just answer most people asking "whats wrong?" With "today i woke up and discovered the feeling of carpet makes my teeth hurt". I got over it just as suddenly but now i have a worry about it coming back
Thank you SO MUCH for your brain rambling. Your recognition that just because something "isn't logical" doesn't mean it's less important to recognize. This very much identifies what both my husband and I are learning about ourselves in our 40s.
I know right! Emotions sometimes aren't logical, or easy, or small. And can make things super hard or complicated.
Oh my goodness yes! It seems so important because of the emotional attachment even though we logically recognize the issue at hand isn't the actual priority or problem.
A tip from a lactose-intolerant yogurt lover: if you make your own yogurt, you can leave it to… ripen? Ferment? Culture? for longer so that the critters that turn the milk to yogurt can digest all the lactose, so you don’t have to.
That’s actually really cool
True, and you can also leave shop-bought yoghurt until it's close to the use-by, then all the lactose has become food for the culture and it's easier on people tummies.
I will have to try this. Been a while since I made yogurt.
And yogurt is one of those really easy "impressive-made-it-myself" projects.
There are some lactose free yogurts now that have the enzymes added before they leave the production facility, which has been a game changer!
I appreciate the mental health talk. It’s easy to feel like you’re the only one struggling with those types of feelings. Thank you for sharing; it helps!
Charlie: ... brain parfait
*looks at my just-written 4 projects with 3 steps each to-do list*
yep.
This video is straight up ADHD therapy! Aggghhh. So relatable! I told my husband recently, “You’re my Ritalin!” I am so much better at regulating when he is around. I love your conversation in this video just as much as the *adorable* finished dress! My brain literally cannot work without a pattern because of my struggle with numbers and geometry, so I admire your ability to just imagine and create a thing!
OMG, that dress is fabulous! 🤩
I have the ADHD brain, so I feel ya on the "brain never shutting up" part.
Ms. Charlie, you see us, but I see YOU. (Not in a creepy way, I just realized what it sounded like xD). Thank you for sharing your "Parfait Brain" with us. I have a severe Generalized Anxiety Disorder diagnosis and that "weird" is my brain. Every. Single. Day. (With added adhd). I know what it's like and you are a champ. I rarely comment (see above disorder), but I thought this was more than worth mentioning. Thank you for making, sharing and just being you.
Anyone else get low-key stressed when Charlie is sitting at the "coffee table" chatting and gesturing wildly with the pin dish right under her hand? Like one good flail and that dish is going flying. Just me? Okay.
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Also it is so nice to see Link living his best life as I grieve the loss of our (over 15yo) lab. Yes I wanna see all the puppy cuddles and butt skritches. It helps.
Condolences on the loss of your furry friend. Link is one of my favourite of the many TH-cam dogs I watch, he is just adorable. And no, you are not the only one feeling stress over that pin dish. 😁
It's magnetic. Magnetic pin dishes are basically magic.
@@mquentaroI didn't even think of that, thank you. I can relax now. 😁
@@mquentaro I was really hoping it was magnetic the entire image 😂 thanks for confirming!
@a.k.v.3042, I empathize with you on the loss of your beautiful lab. Sending you Love, Light & Healing Energies! 💖🕯️❤️🩹🐶
Nearly every therapy session I've ever paid for has been less useful than this.
Thanks for proposing some ways of processing that you've found useful. And explaining them the way they make sense for you.
They're pretty applicable to me too - in ways that a lot of therapists just... aren't. Because what they had signed off on, as things they're allowed to teach people... just aren't a good fit for me. Or they're explaining it in ways that don't help.
So... thanks. I appreciate you internet friend.
Looks at you taking care of your mental health!!
My mom flew out to help me organize my place because I'm buried under my layered brain and layered piles of possibilities 🙃 It's pretty embarrassing as an adult but it helped my mental health and she liked being able to help make my daily life easier. Very grateful for her. She too told me to do exactly what you're doing, I need to complete something so I can get a win under my wings.
This dress is amazing! I'm definitely going to make a dress inspired by this, thank you!
Pleeeeease show your simple projects! I'm not a beginner, but it's so nice to watch those videos too! Just because someone is "leveling up" their sewing skills doesn't mean they have to make projects only for that level. Keep the simple ones going, they're just as fun to watch as the other ones! 😍
Lmao at Cotton Eyed Joe on brain repeat, that's a mood.
That’s really quite enough to drive you batty. 😂
I just want to thank you. I have recently been binge-watching most of your episodes, and you have shown me that its ok if projects don't go how you think they will. Its the process of making them, learning, and having fun. This has given me the courage to try to learn how to sew.
So great to read I am not the only one thi king this. Her "yall" makes.me.smile everytime!
This black dress is gorgeous! These simple projects are so much fun to watch and listen to
Again you have said what my brain knows to be true about me. If I can name what is harassing me, it almost immediately loses its power to do so! ..... I don't have a problem stopping a project in the middle, though. However, RESTARTING something is like pulling teeth! Thank you for your honesty and lightheartedness. You made my day! SHalom!
Something that I have seen on the internet as a helpful tool for starting up again, and it seems to work about 3/4 of the time for me: set a timer for a short amount of time and get going with it. When the timer goes out, you can keep going, reset the timer for another check in session if needed, or set the work away and know that you have made progress on it. (Rewording the idea for how it works for me in real life terms.)
I like that I tend to make forwards progress most times, and even reverse progress is a learning experience for what didn’t work out well that way.
I hope that this helps you some, and Shalom as well!
I enjoy being a lone also. Watching your videos is like visiting a friend without the stress of wanting them to leave. Love the dress. It is simple but elegant. I say wear it around the house if you want. You can never have too much swoosh.
Funny thing about parfait: my husband started recording TikTok videos about board games and he wanted a fun image to use when he said the word "layers." He asked me what I thought: parfait, of course! That's what he thought too, and was somehow surprised that I also came up with it. Parfait now also means "I love you" in my house.
My brain has been doing similar weird things of late. I think your mental health dress project is glorious.
👏👏👏yay for using your platform to be open about mental health and even more kudos for being brave enough to be vulnerable!! The crunchy-parfait brain is so relatable and in general with your videos that talking it out loud to figure it out is part of why your content is so good-yes like everything on the internets it might be curated and edited but your videos have a rawness that is too frequently left out, thank you! 💞💞💞💞💞💞💞
So real about the hair thing and always being aware of it! This happens to me all the time but being too aware of my fingers/ toes touching one another. Takes all my mental energy to try and ignore it, makes me wanna crawl out of my skin fr fr
Oh that’s soo true, I was laying down watching this and I cannot feel my left hand pinkie and ring finger in the normal way, it’s like my fingers are in a glove you know it’s there you can feel it there but the outside is numb, so I’m forever trying to pull of a glove that does not exist and this time my finger nail on my pinkie was annoying me until I realised the darn nail was half an inch long😳 I have always kept my nails at 4mm at the max 2mm at minimum and here it was half an inch long. I hate filing that nail because I cannot feel it like my other fingers it’s like running your fingers down the chalk board 😭😭😭😭 at every stroke of the file. Arrrrrr
out of curiosity, does wearing gloves or toe socks help? (if ya even can, cause I am on team "socks bad" and will subconsciously kick socks off when I'm not paying attention. )
On the outside chance you aren't already aware, a Google search for "neurodivergent managing sensory overload" should pull up a bunch of very useful tips and techniques for managing sensory distractions like this so you don't need to spend such a large chunk of your attention budget actively ignoring this kind of thing 😊
Reflexology for tension release or maybe massage by trained pro and chiropractic care has helped me. I could touch my head but putting a brush of any type to my scalp was excruciating. Base of the back of the skull pressure point release has been very helpful. Just an idea.
@@redthorned I sometimes wear my compression gloves I have for knitting and they help :3
I'm so glad you talked about how important it is to acknowledge how we really feel about things and not what we think we should feel about things.
Love the dress! And I related way too much about the weird brain days. For me it’s always when the routine shifts for reasons that may be partially out of control. And yeah a loud talking too, because the brain is busy with other things, definitely makes a difference.
You literally described the Gestalt Pearl theory that is used in Neuro-linguistic Programming therapy. It can heal lifelong trauma in minutes!
I hate having to stop to pee. I end up getting angry whenever I have to take potty breaks. 😅
Omg same. Bodies are so needy!
Thank you for putting so much of this into words.
I highly suspect I am Autistic if not AuDHD, but when my guardian was told to get me tested -they refused to, and so much of what you said is so relatable!
When I was able to sew, I wouldn't want to stop. I'm waiting for my youngest to be a but older so I can start making clothes for them.
The black with white polka dots on your pile screamed out to me
ME TOO!
This dress is stunning! One of my faves you’ve made. And I relate to the brain chat. More mental health chat please! I also love the tip to talk it all through out loud. That helps me a lot too. ❤ you’re allowed to feel bothered and stressed by stuff. Renovating a house and your partner being away a lot are both completely normal and acceptable things to be bothered by! (And even if they weren’t, you’re still allowed to be bothered!!) Also your dog is adorable, I love all the butt scritches. 😊
… the whole 'unable to finish important thing' and 'getting stopped from doing other stuff because of it' and the WHOLE mental health side is waaayyyy too relatable. *offers good vibes from over the pond *
(also? good good ideas/method on how to troubleshoot one's mental state. will try to unpack some of my own difficulties in that way
I love your channel so much. It's so comforting to watch someone not be afraid to go "What if I just do this?" I love watching your videos while I crochet! I also adore the bloopers at the end of every video
Jeesus Charlie, I feel ya. 😅 So many things that you just said are things that I have also struggled a LOT with and use the ecxact same coping skills for them. Those feelings are valid. I think a lot of people get stuck in qualifying if the "brainhurt" or "weirdness" comes from a valid reason without realising that it already is here. Some people drown in 3 meters of water and others drown in 3 kilometers. It does not really matter how deep the water was, the situation is still the same. You feeling weird is completely valid and the things that make you feel weird are valid. ❤
With realising that I am ADHD helped me to find more coping skills that work for my brain and not against it. 'Cause, in the end, if there is a way to do things that help your brain instead of hurting it, then why the heckity-hoo not? Might help anyone reading this too.
Brains are poop-heads sometimes. Your way of looking at levels of ick is a thing I will be adding into my collection of “gah, bad brain!” Management methods.
Also, totally agree, save points in projects make the whole thing easier, and when I can’t reasonably get to them it leaves me a little unsettled.
Everything you've described fits my ADHD to a T. I might play this video to my hubby cause I've tried and failed so many times to describe it to him.
I appreciate that you always show us the footage of you petting your doggy, lots of other TH-camrs show their pets without petting them and the pets look sad
Cute flowy black dress & strappy sandals. (I knew you must have shoes, lol.). That plunging neckline could very easily be an after 5:00 cocktail dress, with the right pearl accessories, like a choker, earrings & bracelet & small clutch bag.
Also regarding the wind noise check to see if your fireplace flue is closed. (If it's open it will effect your utility expenses.
100% understand and sympathise. about a year ago, i had to start having weekly meetings with myself, just so I could stop getting to this point so often. my issues take a turn each to air their grievances, and we try to come up with a solution. it's been a game changer for me really. I do sometimes have to shout over all the chatter to be able to call the meeting to order, but it's worth it. I hope you can find a way to deal with the noisy brain too.
love the finished dress. looks gorgeous!
Thank you for being open during your hardest times. For me, I lack the motivation, confidence, everything that comes with creativity. I love your channel. I watch more than the others. U're energetic, funny, entertaining, encouraging & everything I want to be. Thanks for being u.
It is so much fun to watch a person twirl, who knows how to twirl!🎉 and not end up cross legged or stumbling🎉
Awesome crafter storage tip: IKEA have a three tiered rolling wagon named RÅSKOG (Raw-Forest). A supersuper useful trolley for all the small stuff! They can roll from room to room and help keep things in check.
Love the new dress - it's gorgeous and fits perfectly. Also loved the chat about screwing our heads back on and taking the time to figure out why we're out of sorts. And of course, YAY for Matt's return. Happily awaiting the next step in your sewing room - I'm sure it will be terrific. The voices in my head are screaming out organizational ideas and that you should watch Shannon Makes episode about her amazing table. It's big, it's on wheels, it has a top on which you can pin fabric, it has shelves for fabric, trim, patterns and such. One woman put a power strip on hers so that she can also iron on a pad Some people op for the ability to raise and lower it - my point is that you will figure stuff out that suits you, not some other Maker. Best wishes.
Yes, the dress IS fabulous and swooshy (and those SHOES OMG) and beautifully done! But the talk is relatable and helpful and cozy, and I appreciate it just as much. And it is seriously a good reminder about the "out loud" thing, which I know in general but constantly forget.
“Must complete task before eating or going to the bathroom.” I hear you!!! 😂 I would call my husband crying because I was so overwhelmed by work and one of the “ layers” was needing to pee. He would sanely say “go to the bathroom!” And I would sob “I can’t! There’s so much to do!”
This was perfect timing ...I keep pushing myself and then its not fun...my therapist said talking out loud is a coping mechanism for anxiety..as you are working through thoughts...you are listening to strategy.. For me is the grocery store....love love the dress...oh to be young and flirty again...I was seeing a peasant style top with the skirt, but your idea was perfect...I'm glad I watched your post today...see no schedule, you post, I watch, I have no idea when you post...hugs
God your brain makes so much sense to me. Don't ever feel like you're alone in this. I get you.
Love what you can do w/o a pattern! That dress looks so very, very lovely on you. Great job!
Might I suggest making it again with that hot pink in your stash? And double circle skirt? And black edge binding?
Go full 1950's and make a swing dress!
I must say, I love the time you put into your captions! I have a hard time hearing speach when I can't read lips simultaneously, so your videos are perfect. I feel like I'm part of the secret captions club. 😊
Thank you. 💕
It's a really great dress, and I think making the simpler, wear around the house if you want, kind of projects is just as important as the big fancy ones. Perhaps even more so, since most of us have more loafing around the house days than big occasions
Sounds like you are in MY head! Physical disabilities and moving house after 26 years aren't compatible (read VERY stressful). I really enjoyed listening to you and found it very validating. The dress is delightful. I love the juxtaposition of serious black with a 'fun and flirty' style. it's so flattering too. I also think it could look fab with different fabrics for the bodice and skirt.
Not gonna lie...I want to make a dozen or more of these for daily wear. I'm the type to get dressed to go to the store, take Kiddo to school, or drive Hubs to work, then change as soon as I get back home.
Everything you make on your channel inspires me to actually start sewing my own garments, rather than cycle through the same few things that are comfy, which wears them out so fast.
2 things:
1) I totally relate to the brain parfait situation
2) the dress turned out so pretty! 10/10 would love to have that magically appear in my own wardrobe ♥️🤌
the living room table shakes because it is lightweight and on wheels. If you like working with it in the living room investigate if you can lock the wheels somehow.
For the record, I could watch you make those random dresses every week for the next 2 years and not get bored. It is fun to watch. So please, go ahead. This one turned out very well, it looks lovely on you. It would also look lovely (and possibly more day wear) if you did the black skirt on the bottom and the floral on the top? Loads of other options with that elastic. Culottes? Full length and floaty. Oooh, I am having too many inspirational ideas for someone thousands of miles away from a roll of that elastic! 😂 Thanks Charlie - love from England xx
I really needed to hear the brain rambling, I'm going through a similar thing (off work having been diagnosed with autism and ADHD at 40, starting to feel very isolated). Thank you for making me feel less alone.
Oh my gods , the dress is so pretty!
Also, my brain lately works along the lines of the memefied "... x number of tabs open, two of them are playing music and you don't know which they are..." Super distracting in addition to the outside chaos produced by two tiny humans. So I feel you so much on the psychology level.
Best wishes and thanks for the video
My favorite thing about dogs is that they don't seem to know what to do with their heads when getting cuddles. They just become an Adorable Wiggle Floof regardless of the amount of dog or the amount of fluff on the said dog. I love it. I may be missing my mother's dog just a little bit. Thank you for including the puppy in your videos
edit: omg the puppy jumps!! They go boink!!! Just a straight up hippity hop! So cute
Just wanted to say thank you for the care you put into your captions! Some of the things you do, like specifying when it’s video-you or voiceover-you speaking (which is fantastic for lip-readers) go above and beyond what’s expected for professional captioners and I am incredibly grateful.
If I could make a tiny request, though, do you think you could have the little [message] at the beginning/end as actual text on the screen? When the audio and captions don’t match, it (unintentionally!) assumes the viewer can hear well enough to tell the difference. I love the extra messages you leave in your videos, but the current format is less accessible to your deaf/HOH audience
when your pile of fabrics will be ready to move back to your studio, you can take a chance and create digital version of your stash. it's rather easy to do via notion, but there're multiple cross platform tools out there
i did this a while back and it saves me so much time when I'm planning the project! yes, with the amount of fabric you already have, the task could feel rather tedious but it's so worth it!
you can create fabric cards with different properties, add pictures of a fabrics, group them by properties so than you can filthher them out (for example the type of a print - stripes/flowers/dots and so on), show how many feet you have left, whether you've washed it or not, whether it's knit or not, have you got a thread for the fabric - options are limitless!
I'm sure with your love for a good table you'll love it too :)
also the pictures can be shown in the main catalogue as a "card cover", properties can be shown as well and voila you have all of your stash right in front of you, like it's in the online shop :)
Logic and emotion are not friendly, sometimes. Love the dress.
Charlie: “Do you ever…..”
Every neurodivergent person watching: “absolutely yes! Bestie, we hear you ❤”
That final product *chef's kiss* wish I could wear it!
(Also RE 21:40 ...my windows actually SING when it's windy 😂 full blown spooky chords!!)
About your major workroom refurb: I hear you, but it's going to be great, TRUST THE PROCESS. ❤
Upside: the horsey looks wonderful with the wall colour ❤
I LOVE the dress. And I hear you on the incessant inner voices (and the long hair). I currently acknowledge at least 7 unfinished quilting/sewing/knitting projects demanding my creative attention, a house in desperate need of cleaning/organizing so I can get to those creative things, and life and work in general. Remember to breathe. And hug the puppy (and Matt, when he's in reach).
😂 as soon as Charlie sneezed, i automatically said, "bless you."
Charlie, we love the videos. Glad you made a dress that you love and is fancy enough for date night and soft enough to wear at home. Dresses that fit those criteria are some of my favorites to have and wear.
I totally understand “parfait brain”…or, as it is known in my home, Lyme brain. I was infected 30+ years ago but only diagnosed in 2016 after an extremely catastrophic to me year. Might want to look it up. Thank goodness for supportive family and pups ❤
Gorgeous dress! It was like you were in my mind. It is difficult to not see a partner regularly because of work commitments, especially when you are a home body. I was recently introduced to bilateral music which really helps when I have brain overload. It stops all those competing voices and I can focus on one thing at a time.
Oh good lord, you have just managed to diagnose my brain in one video lol! I get you so much it’s so refreshing to hear somebody explain in normal speak what seemingly a lot of us feel. Thank you Charlie, oh and I love love love your dress ☺️🩷
My gosh I love watching…listening…to your videos. Today, was so deep and I LOVED IT! So, try this…next time you can’t find your keys. You are walking around the house, mentally thinking…keys?keys? Keys? Stop…say the words out loud…”where are my keys” and your brain will instantly go to the last time you used them and thus..where you put them. There does not have to be anyone in the house, a dog will do as a listener, but your brains NEEDS to hear the words. It is how some of us just work. You are loved, you are fantastic, you can do this!👍
That dress is stunning and you look fantastic wearing it! You keep talking girl -we are all here to listen.
This dress is fabulous, really! Trying to produce a project which is simple is not easy - there's a challenge for you.
Years ago I decided it was time to learn to calm down all those voices in my head - about 5 conversations going on at once. I took up meditation by going to classes and learning about different ways of doing meditation. I made up a routine which I practised twice daily, starting with 2 minutes a session. Six months later my mind was calmer and less loud.
Looking into the subject of autism makes me feel I had most of the symptoms till then. One exception is that I can concentrate if I want to. Oh! A second exception is that I like people and being in the midst of a crowd. I guess we are all different.
YES!!!! To the hair on the back of the neck thing. This is why I have an undercut. The back of my neck is shaved. I love it!
I totally hear you on the feeling your hair thing, although for me when it kicks in I start feeling them all at the /root/, and that is...less avoidable. 🤣😭
The balance I've had to find is how to feel what I'm feeling, allow it to bother me, but continue on with what needs to happen while being in that headspace. It's a super-hard balance, because I'm absolutely a stiff-upper-lip type, but knowing how to exist alongside the not-great feelings and not let them affect other people too badly is really how I can keep going.
I think its kinda funny, kinda sweet all the AuDHD-ers are relating to this. Myself included.
Idk if you have a diagnosis or care to get one but a lot of what you said is a very typical neurodiverse experience; looking into adhd might help you and your parfait brain a lot!
Either way its good to know other people go through this, thank you for being so open, its nice to be seen
This was just what I needed to listen to today, as my anxiety has been running rampant the last few days. Your dress is lovely, as always, and I love the way you include Link in the videos. Thank you for being you, and sharing yourself with us. And yes, even strong independent women can miss their partners when not seeing them for awhile; I know this firsthand.
The hair comment at 19:00!!! SO REAL!!! I have been having a real issue with this while sewing lately - feels like bugs crawling on me! Been loving watching your videos - I hang out with you almost every day (much more than I see real friends in real life LOL)
"...you may now go eat sleep or pee" will be my new mantra. I didn't realize I needed to hear that, but I really did.
What a wonderful dress. It wants to go EVERYWHERE! To the supermarket, the doctor, the park - everywhere! ❤❤❤
The dress IS delightful and the crunchy mental state so relatable ❤. You should definitely make a skirt (or 3😂) with some of that elastic. It would be fantastic with some dark lightweight denim or black corduroy. It would also be useful as just a belt. You could easily slip the elastic band into a tube of any fabric to create a belt to match anything.
You remind me so much of myself, and it really really helps me to hear you talk about your mental health issues, coping mechanisms, and solutions. Thank you for sharing these parts of you so openly. It makes a world of difference for my own thought patterns. 💗
First off, I think this is one of my favorite dresses you've made so far. It flatters you so much! Second, thank you for your brain rambles. I feel seen, and I can relate on so many levels. I'm feeling very scrambled right now, the weather here in upstate NY is still very unsettled, and even though I'm not a hot weather girl, I'd like it a little nicer and less dramatic. I love that puppy man is such a part of your videos, he makes me smile so much! I'm very thankful for my kitty girl, she knows exactly when mommy needs a cuddle, just like your boy. ❤❤❤.
We’re glad to watch everyday sewing projects too. Absolutely love your stream of consciousness narration..
Now I'm fighting the urge to drop everything and make a dress😂. Thanks for this video! You are awesome! I'm glad you worked through the layers!
So glad to watch this! Sometimes when I am sewing I begrudge having to stop and drink water ( I am on medication that necessitates it). I was thinking the other day I should get one of those caps that could hold my cans of water and has straws so I could drink hands free and my sewing wouldn’t be interrupted. lol glad to see I am not alone!
Charlie, that dress is stunning! So simple, so clean, yet so stylish.
I love that your fabric choice really puts the elastic to the fore.
And that slight cross-over on the v-neck is inspired!
And I also love how you're taking the time to take care of you... and your parfait. 😉
19:21 Oh my goodness - I think you're me!!
I was driving home from work when I suddenly became hyper aware of the fact that I was WEARING A BRA.
My body was screaming at me and I was like "whoa dude this is not new, y u screm??"
#solidarity
My partner is a trucker. There’s some times I miss him when he’s home because he’s choosing to do things other than spending time with me. I get it. Partners are missable. Even though I’m used to him being gone most of the time, it’s still not always easy. I’m a home body too. Work makes me get out.
"Stress stack" is 👌-- so descriptive of what it feels like! Also, AMEN to the hair thing, which is why I chopped mine all off in a pixie cut. Best decision ever. The black dress IS so simple and gorgeous and I love it for you on every level!
You are very strict with yourself, my favourite sewist. It’s probably why you’re so successful. But the world would also love you if you allowed yourself to take a potty break without reaching a goal first. xoxoxo ❤
I like what you said about emotions as layer cake, and getting to the source...also, not immediately dubbing the 'off' feelings as depression. Very useful, thanks!
I'm rather new to your channel, and I've noticed several times when I've gone, "I so get that," to something you've said off-hand about how you interact with the world or experience your environment. This video brought on a whole new level of, "I completely get you." I feel like we are mental twins in so many ways, and it's extremely reassuring to get that I'm-not-the-only-one validation from listening to you talk about your mental state and health so openly. So... as someone who often struggles to topple the tower of stress, I thank you for the affirmation and encouragement that you put forward here. Just knowing I'm not alone in the struggle gives some small relief.
Charlie, if something is bothering you, then it's clearly important enough to you to bother you and those who call you their friend should be respectful of that and try to help you think through it and visa versa, not tell you it's petty or you're being stupid. You're not stupid. You're just human, like everyone else.
17:27 OMG, its like a skirt with a built-in “waspy” belt!
The more I watch your videos the more I think we should be neighbors and besties! 🥳Bargains 🛒, Sewing 🪡🧵 , Puppies 🐶 🐾, Musicals 🎶🎭, Distractions🐿️, and oh my goodness loose hair on the back 😂
As a neurodivergent person, I’m still figuring out how to deal with inner voices and societal expectations. Like you, I find writing down or talking aloud helps a lot. Thanks for sharing your experience. I’m glad to hear you’re feeling better now. ❤
"...in the brain parfait" lololol i need to use this. I died laughing -- it caught me off guard!
Yay for mental health! I love it when a simple project can help to reset the creative brain. And the way you explained talking through the layers of stress was super helpful. I will be using that technique in the future.
Oh, and fruit. Fruit goes in a parfait.
Ms Charlie, i hope you always know how much all of us love and admire you and cheer you on your such an amazing and gifted (don’t argue, i said your gifted, accept
It bc I wholeheartedly mean it) person and you are such an inspiration to many of us who watch you