Yeah Aba saying you don’t care about animals makes you a disgusting person. People that are decent human beings don’t proudly proclaim they don’t like animals.
Yeah. Caring about animals is a 1st world thing. Yall grew up on Disney movies so you've romanticized animals. Go anywhere in the world where people have real problems and they don't talk about animals like y'all. Don't give a fk about animals!
@@AbaNPreach Yeah because they’re supremely uneducated and working class. It’s not my problem if other people’s parents don’t possess enough intelligence to raise them properly
@@rickyjiggens2180 Enticing women with money is NOT game. Quite a number of broke guys out here with great game who are sleeping with everything from young models to married women. I've seen it with my own eyes.
besides having at least a somewhat healthy self esteem and confidence, another important part is choosing to date someone that vibes with you, which iv felt is the most important part. LITERALLY ALL THE HARD PARTS take care of themselves without thought or effort if you just ask out people that you actually like, not just the looks by itself.
I mean the fact that the women know he has people in his ear is immediately a turn off. Like they forsure just did this for the cash. This is the dumbest thing cut has done. They just humiliate this poor guy for no reason.
I know, and I can tell that its messed up because they probably feel like they arent talking to himself and have people listening in. They really just ruined his whole shit.
This guy earn confidence to do it (with them in his ear) - it’s is just psychology… I saw so many homies be awkward/creepy alone … But when you know they are there and having your back you feel powerful/invincible…
"Staying single 2021 is really about working on myself." That is NOT a signal to talk about YOU. She is opening up to you. You COULD ask "What are you most trying to improve?" or "Are you trying to learn some new skills, or find a new hobby?", things like that. She is LITERALLY sharing her experience and perspective with you, and the sage advice was "Shut that shit down and talk about you.". Really?
I wouldn't have started talking about myself either, but i think i would be a little intimated by her saying she stays single. Cause i am then not sure, if she really is interested in dating, so I probably wouldnt have thought about asking her about what she wants to improve but i think you are right. Its a good question.
@@jayo4282 That's why dating coaches are worthless. They give the worst advice that may work for some girls but they always try to sell you some shit ideology its never little tips and tricks to improve your charisma or confidence its always shit advice.
Yeah - honestly, bad advice can look good when executed well... but this guy never had a chance... listening to a gay guy and two self-absorbed female "coaches" simultaneously is just an awful idea... to say nothing of the fact that they're all white and he isn't...
There is no license, permit, or degree to be a, "dating coach." Anyone can claim to be a dating coach and not have any skills at reading others or communication.
@@Freek314 Yeah, but licenses give you a basic reference of "This person has this passed this level of qualification at this point". There is some level that you can expect of them, and hold them to it.
I would say you should just avoid that question entirely. Making a girl tell you what she likes about you makes you seem worried about what she thinks about you. If you are confident enough to think she likes you, you’ll probably identify why she likes you too.
Vast majority of the Dating Coaches out there have done very little dating. They haven't tried most of the theoretical bullshit they're spewing. If they got something to sell they're probably frauds and if not, just triple check their credentials. Most of the game y'all would ever need is offered for free online. Don't fall for game just to get play.
I truly think dating/game/pickup advice needs to be regulated in some way. This just makes the whole industry look bad and discourages those that need help from real teachers.
I feel bad for the insecure guy who's date they sabotaged, but I find it hilarious that these worthless dating coaches just carpet bombed their own careers. :')
@@akawiangel Well the customers who's dates they've ruined will certainly not be coming back. And for any potential new customers, this video content of them being terribly incompetent at what they claim to be experts at, this is a perfect repellent. No one will want their dating advice after having seen this. This is carreer self harm.
My issue with this vid: theyre telling him To say things that he would never say in a million years, hes not being true to himself and its apparent to the women
True, girls sniff that out in no time. They don't know _exactly_ what's up, they just get that vibe you're not what you're trying to be and are turned off.
He needs to be a polished version of his current self; just breathe and be confident in his own interests. You notice that when he talked about why he wanted to be a doctor and about anime was when the women found him most interesting? The only general advice I would give is to compliment something specific about the women when you first see her and not to push for a second date until near the end of the current date, which I guess in this speed dating case was gonna be kind of early. But normally, just enjoy the date that you're on.
I think they're called the Sidemen and did this exact same thing. These dating coaches were honestly on the same level when they were interrupting him. 😅
These dating coaches remind me of Highschoolers who encourage their unconfident friend by 'helping' them and instead they realize he'll say anything and they make a massive joke out of it, trying to get him to say embarrassing shit so they get a laugh out of it.
What I took away from this: 1. Avoid making face value compliments, starting off. Things like nice eyes, hair, skin, etc, bc they are already things that they’ve heard from tons of men before you, and it’s something that they know alr. The best compliments are the ones you didn’t expect. Maybe different aspects of their personality, their hobbies, or their achievements(these questions might be kinda of tame to more experienced guys, but I’m definitely not experienced) 2. Have free flowing conversations. Those are the type of conversations that get both sides engaged and leaves you wondering where the time went. Neither side is really focused on trying to be impressive or appealing, which both lead to stress, anxiety, and awkwardness that kills the date, because they’re both too engaged. Having conversations in a way that constantly brings stress and anxiety, never really sat right with me anyway
1. How can you compliment anything other than appearance when you’re meeting someone for the first time and know nothing about them except their appearance at that moment. 2. If free flowing conversation was easy for everyone it would already be happening, just telling people to do something well that they’re not good at is completely useless advice ‘just be better at things than you are’
Guy: "You got Beautiful eyes". Girl: "Thank you". Guy: "Can i have them?" Girl: "Uhm, No. So, do you have any hobbies?" Guy: "Yes. I collect things". Girl: "Things like what?" Guy: "Eyes".
yea jubillee, because they are extremely imperfect human being animals like the rest of us, will just shamelessly use and dispose of people for the clicks. money and clout are truly the roots of all evil.
This guy seems like a genuinely cool dude, I wouldn't worry about him not finding a decent relationship. He's pretty young and his anxiety is coming from there, which is completely normal.
@Pantelis Tzimas Sometimes I wonder if that’s just how this particular space feels about it or is the general consensus really like that out there? I’d love to hear a guy describe the modern dating scene without knowing about A & P, “red pill” stuff, and everything else on TH-cam. Are they losing hope?
Those "coaches" were basically just telling him to pretend to be someone he's not, which is one of the worst things you can do when trying to get to know someone. How the hell are you ever going to have a healthy, satisfying relationship if you're hiding who you really are?
Right? I had to tap out halfway through the first girl, but my man's out here working his way through it. It's rough, but he's not dying. Then they're giving him terrible prompts. He's not in a place to be able to segue in and out of this stuff yet so it's very jarring. I think if you just let him take a run at 3-5 girls consecutively, he'd do better recognizing where things are taking turns.
He’s just awkward and inexperienced. I think if he keeps putting himself out there (without becoming discouraged) he could have success finding somebody. He seems like a good dude once he relaxes he’ll do better.
And that's how you do it but some people think we are born natural to do this well mainly girls say so but its tough for a guy who is just starting. That's why i advice to learn and probably hire a dating coach but i say be careful who you choose cause not all are good. Specially if some of them are still single.
exactly Tarumarugan i was the same when i had 18 to 21 years in life. now at 26 im just chilling when you try to seduce enought or talked to a lot of women it becomes natural what you should not ask to them ever.
The first suggestion he got from the female started him off wrong to begin with. As a woman she should have known that her statement was a bait statement for him to ask her about herself. Anyone on a date that states the intended on remaining single should make you want to know why they are there in the first place. All he had to do was ask her why and she would have elaborated. Her answer would have told him most of what he needed to know about her.
He looked and sound like a woman. He was so feminized in everyone of his expressions. Nothing wrong with that. But he seemed like he’s gay. Can’t give advice to straight men, especially if you don’t what your doing calling yourself a dating” coach “
I liked the second girl. She was in tune. She saw this dude didn't have confidence so she was very kind and encouraging to him. That's exactly what he needs, a few positive experiences to boost his confidence. Even if it doesn't lead to anything, that's going to be good for him and she felt that perfectly. But those stupid 'coaches' ruined that by pressuring him into being something that he's clearly not.
@@iwantgoals1566 oh please God no Kevin samuels is twice divorced and an asshole that will not help him he seems like a nice guy just shy he needs a confidence booster and he can only give himself that
low key? lol the reason he black girl sounded so much better is cause she know he's getting fucked up and his delivery sucks. you cant be talking to a woman like its a race and you cant be a snail also all while saying something interesting to them
Yooo I was actually thinking some of this advice sounded exactly like stuff Skippy would say. Like insinuating there would be a second date after a tragically failed date or inviting the girl over for food at his place after 2 minutes of small talk.
Yooo…coaches were TERRIBLE. Shout out to my man though, he really did try his best considering the bullshit they put him on. That first girl was cringey as fuck, she was checked out from the get go. I don’t blame her either. But man that was rough to watch
He has more game then the fucking coaches. Where he was naturally taking the conversation the girl was interested but would quickly lose interest when he took there adviced
He could've turned this around by just being like 'hey you wanna hear what these dating experts just told me to say?' A first date that's just ragging on dating coaches sounds like a blast to me
These "Dating coaches" were literally setting up hurdles for him every time they talked. Too many tangents and one-way conversations set him up for failure.
This guy will have no problem, he just needs to keep getting out there and meeting people. He has really good energy. He's not boring, he's not super annoying. He's interesting and putting himself out there. He doesn't need coaches, he needs friends to go out w/ and to keep going out. He'll do fine
Agreed. Tbh he probably would have done better without the terrible advice of those coaches. First because he would have been himself, but also because he would have been simply more successful, because he'll be okay like you said.
Honestly, all the guy needed to do was stay calm, remember that the person he's sitting across is a human just like him, and be open. These "experts" sometimes over complicate dating.
Guy: “Ask her for consent to ask a question.” Also Guy: “Tell her she looks like a Thai dish and basically insinuate you want to eat her.” Me: “Can we get consent to shut this fool up?”
For real. In his insulated world, shouldn't he have said, "Ask her permission to ask her a question, then ask her if you have her consent to ask a bold question..."
As a woman whose refused to date for like 2 years now literally just because it’s torture for someone super introverted like me. I will say y’all had some great advice…and as a woman who has had my share of shit ass dates I really appreciated everything aba was sayin especially the being pushy so soon with coming over to cook for a woman you just met. A lot of women don’t even feel comfortable being alone in their home with a man they’ve just met… I mean and they definitely shouldn’t, its risky and it’s dangerous.
100% agree. Ugh went on a date with a guy who kept suggesting the cooking at his house date. Even wanted me to come back to his house that night to “listen to music.” I told him I wasn’t comfortable going to his house because we just met, he persisted, and then when I turned him down over text he continued texting me for months until I blocked him on everything
I’m cross faded so that probably had nothing to do with what you said but yes his advice is so good, especially asking “what made you wanna go on this date” instead of “what do you like about me”
They interrupted him to give him bad advice. They really made him ask for permission, ask for consent for words of affection or affirmation. That's fucked up.
From a woman... don't ask for consent for dumb shit, especially when it comes to conversation. That's insane. No woman will respond well to you ever asking "do I have your consent to ask this question?" JUST. ASK. We aren't babies and we don't need to be coddled. We like people who are okay with taking the lead and can keep a conversation going that's comfortable and enjoyable. Consent to ask a question?? Gtfoh 🙄🙄
Honestly, he wasn't too bad. The guy was sincere, nerdy, and cool. When he was Vibing with the black girl they just messed him up! he was getting comfortable with her.
Facts he could still use some game but overall the first girl he did terrible the second one he could have possibly built something but then his coaches messed him up mainly the outside ones
To be fair what the second girl seemed to find most interesting about him was his "ambition".. aka she saw dollar signs when he mentioned med school. But I can't really blame her too much since the whole setup of going on a date with a guy who literally has an earpiece on is sketchy from the get go. But yeah their advice was mostly trash. Especially the dude, "Ask for consent to *ask* her a *bold* question" then "tell her some corny as hell joke about Asian food then imply she looks delicious in the corniest, most childish way you can."
My biggest pet peeve with dating coaches are the ones that think good advice is 'say this' and 'be like this' when it isn't. As a dating coach you should be giving advice on confidence boosting and little body exercises like breathing to control nervousness, not what certain things to say, think, or do.
I know about 20 women who would date him because of his shirt. Geeky girls would bond immediately. My husband and I are geeky as hell and we have a great marriage.
Yeah! in this day and age that stuffs not even really considered geeky anymore. It’s relatable, a whole generation grew up with those shows. It seems like in the us there is a huge mainstream nostalgia culture right now.
@@Milk-hb5ve I think she was implying that women who were into cartoons would recognize that nickelodeon logo as something her date and her could have as a common interest. I don't think its much different in principle than women who want financial security (or even gold-diggers) typically go after expensively dressed men, women who like athletes go after men who dress athletic, etc... or vice versa. (men do this too). It sounds shallow, but you can actually tell a lot about someones personality by the way they prefer to dress.
Yeah, and little bro some of these older guys I date need. Damn, their advice was exactly what I dream about announcing on a loud speaker that’ll reach the entire city (I’m in Sydney but from Cali).
I'm telling you that NOBODY, none of us could manage a date well with 3 people chipping into your head from outside! Not even you guys could cope with that sort of 'back-seat driving'! I can't even unlock a tricky door if my wife starts with the 'Why don't you do this? Oh, what's that? Is this bit important?' Aaaaaaaargh!!!
If they were actually experts and good... then they wouldn't be having any discussion on what to do. And as such, it would work. I also couldn't watch the video, but I didn't even see them give any advice on body language yet. Look into her eyes a lot, smile when she tells you about the things she loves and make sure that you show a little bit of extra interest when she does, etc. You can even play around a bit with the unspoken language, that's part of making it feel fun for the lady (but do try to make sure that you are taking her seriously and aren't just making fun of her).
The advice abt taking a beat and breathing instead of just filling the air with words was absolutely priceless for him. If he remembers that he will do perfectly fine om his own going forward.
This literally feels less like an “advice in an earpiece” type thing, and more of an impractical jokers episode. The coach’s on the far right and left were literally smiling in anticipation while telling him to say shit.
"She was questioning his sincerity"? Gee I wonder why, probably had something to do w/ him looking like he's got the secret service in his ear. Bad idea from jump.
My advice is just practice. I lost my virginity at 23. I was 400lbs until I decided to change it at 21. Took two years. Went on a dating site. I was honest with the girls. My confidence came from losing all the weight and seeing women give me smiles (never happened when I was 400lb 😂). I had several failed dates. 10 years later I don’t even remember them. I remember the first date that went well.
I lost 60 pounds over 3 years. Losing that much weight you lost is savage bruh. Really hard but it’s the only option overweight men have out there. And I completely understand that feeling lol. I been called ugly fat before, and now I’m being called cute. Everyone has that natural beauty in them. But people have to carve it out of all that extra useless stuff. If there’s anyone who’s obese and is reading this then I’m telling you, hit the gym bruh. Don’t aim for losing 200lbs all a sudden, even losing 5 to 10 lbs make you feel like a different person. Eat right, sleep right, and exercise right, and make sure to talk with your doctor and ask questions cus they have some great advice. I wish you the best.
Thats basicly the key to body positivity. Be as healthy as you can be. Thats how you get happy in life. The love aspect comes on its own. But being fit has only advantages for booth men and women. Its sad when people fight tooth and nail because they are overweight or scrawny and get mad the healthy people don't find them attractive. Thats self sabotage.
@William Schlass Im speaking about the movement. But even so loving your body means you want to bring the best out of it but do not hate it ethier. Being unhralthy is not positivity thats negative. If you are a burn victim, deformed or otherwise crippled yes. Its putely acceptance. But the moment you can do something about it do it. Otherwise you dont do yourself justice and drown in comfortable excuses why you dont work on yourself.
"ohh, he's doing it on his own" YEAHHHH, almost like when you put someone together with someone with mutual interests and both similar awkwardness, conversation is more likely to evolve naturally. Jesus, how do I get a job as a relationship coach because apparently you need to know nothing what so ever. poor dude being humiliated like that.
When my best buddy was having issues dating, I told him simply "pretend like you are just catching up with a friend you haven't seen since high school. Calm and genuinely interested in what's going on with them." As opposed to talking to a stranger you hope to bone later. It worked like a charm. This dude was going pretty good with the second gal, even if she kind of a gold digger, until the "coaches" ruined it.
lmao, in todays world thats how men are expected to treat women, ask their consent for every little thing or else it's a violation of their female space and boundaries.
Lol if you feel you have to ask someone's consent for a simple question either it's probably too personal for a first date or you're acting silly and treating them wayy too special besides that.
I'm not a dating coach and I have never had a girlfriend, but I just have to say that their advice was TERRIBLE!! If I was the dating coach I would've told him "Yo so for this first date I'm just going to hang back and let you do everything. That way so I can see how you operate and what not, to see what your strengths and weaknesses are, and build off of that." Based off of what I saw in the video the guy got very awkward and nervous every time one of the dating coaches told him what to do because, 1. They were interrupting the conversation by talking in his ear with no warning, preventing him from being able to pay attention to what the girls said, 2. Often times their advice didn't fit the flow of the conversation, making them both very awkward and uncomfortable around each other.
Let’s go, now that’s a conversation worth having, because it’s a Hobbies and an interest. It should be normalised to talk about things we actually like, tbh us folks here in the comments would be waaay more qualified then those bitch ass dating coaches.
One tip I have: When a lady comes to your table to introduce herself, stand up. All that aside, though, I’m not gonna lie. I like this guy. I hope he does well.
They are trying to make sure this dude sails through the friendzone for the rest of his life. The first date... should have been just them seeing how he talks, holds himself and just his vibe in general then give advice to help him bring up his confidence and just be able to tone down that nervous energy. Cause that's all that there was.. he was hella nervous and the first thing that can mess some one up is anxiety. Damn I hope he don't try to go back to them for advice anymore!
Taking dating advice from women about how to get women is a Big FAILURE FOR MEN unless that woman is speaking real facts about women female nature secrets other than that don’t take dating advice from women ever
As someone who's a 33 yr virgin myself (non religious), I say experience will be your best teacher over time. But researching about the dating world from articles & books from legit Relationship Advisors who've went and graduated from top schools about psychology, sex & science don't hurt imo.
Aba's comment about genuine curiosity is one that I learned at an early age to make friends. I moved around a lot as a kid, and lost friends constantly, so I learned quickly that being super interested in people's hobbies endeared me to them quickly. I do think it's more complicated in dating, but this kind of advice is a really great way to make friends quickly.
I mean Michael Hussey had camilla cabella but she broke it off with him. Since then no girl yet. Yet he still has tens of millions of followers. So idk.
I’ve known girls who said that they felt like the guy was distant and didn’t share anything about himself but it’s a soft hand kind of thing. I find it’s best to share something small about yourself and turn it into a question about her. “I had the best stew for dinner last night. What kind of food do you like? What’s your favorite restaurant? I like that too! Have you ever been to such and sick a place that also makes that kind of food? Maybe we could go some time! I love trying new restaurants. What’s the last new place you tried? Have you ever traveled to a different city or state And been somewhere with great food or even just something cool? Oh you’ve been there? Were you there for working or visiting family?” Etc. You can turn one thing about yourself into a whole evening of questions about her of you do it right.
Maybe they thought a woman that would ignore everything else the moment she found out he was gonna be a doctor was the most compatible choice available that day...
Yeah, he needs someone on his same wavelength. He’s not even that quirky imo, just a bit nervous. I’m sure him talking about shared interests with a woman would really help him feel more comfortable on the date.
I definitely agree with Aba and Preach’s assessment of the dating coach’s advice. I feel more comfortable when both of us are interested in the topic. One sided conversations are a waste of time for me because I like to hear other people’s opinions about different subjects.
are they even actual dating coaches? like the dude is def not. took one look at him and knew he wasn't. im pretty sure they are just random people they picked off the street and was like yall wanna make some money all you gotta do is pretend to be a dating coach and fuck this dude up for the lolz
Why wouldn’t they prep him for these dates first? He wasn’t good at having a flow to the convo, which they could’ve prepped before. So now they’re feeding him clearly set up questions that just sound stupid.
@@h2t26 dating coaches arent in their ear during dates anyway, the point is to teach someone to do it naturally themselves. kinda defeats the purpose right?
@@agathachris9722 my social skills were already so ass but weirdly bc california has had so much quarantine it was easier to talk to people because everyone just excited to meet new people again.
If he took the advice selectively it wouldve gone better cause that thai food joke was hot garbage and shouldve been ignored also he was nervous and when they spoke to him he kind of froze up and lost his train of thought making the transition between points really rough
except that the movies did it better BECAUSE the other person didn't know. Most people blissfully ignore the fact that women actively look for reasons to disqualify men, we could even argue that this mindset exaggerated NOW than ever before because men are no longer needed by women to survive. The average man needs every little advantage he can get just to seem acceptable to the avg woman😂😂
They have very genuine good energy and sometimes a need the laugh to hang with some of the bullshit they tackle. (Bullshit in the world that needs to be addressed
There is only one way to win a date like this... Ignore the coaches, and LET THE DATE KNOW YOU ARE DOING IT. "Coach wants me to ask why you want to stay single... So... Why do you think pineapple belongs on pizza?"
The funny part is he does so much better without them. Like, whenever they give him advice, it just goes extremely bad. That second date was going well. He was making her laugh. He was making her feel a charm towards him with the doctor thing. And then they're like, ask her if it's okay if you ask a bold question about yourself... smh.
Exactly, the dude is charming, and seems like he’s got a good heart and is ambitious. He doesn’t need a bunch of “advice” he just needs encouragement and a few simple tips about how to stay calm and speak with confidence.
@@robertnguyen9493 confidence has to be earned to be honest. I was this guy until I actually made myself into someone worthy of my own respect. Once that happened I just changed and things happened for me. Now I'm in an LTR for almost two years.
idk man, i read her demeanor and body language as not being genuinely interested from beginning to end. She seemed to want to root for him and encourage him but to me, it was clear there was no interest. And sorry, no this dude is not that charming. I dont know if people in the comments are identifying with him and deluding themselves to make themselves feel better about their insecurities or if theyre reading the situation differently or im just in the wrong or what. Hes wearing a nickelodeon t shirt and stuttering and its clear hes very nervous overall, his conversation skills arent exactly up there either but hes a kind genuine guy overall so he probably doesnt need to worry so much, however its clear he does and thats not the characteristics of a person who knows what theyre doing. He literally joined this video its clear hes got no game! And if he does or he has the potential, he needs to work on his confidence instead. He can be charming and he doesnt have to be, i think the intense focus people have on being charming on this channel is weird, its literally an advertisement of who you are not who you really are (unless its very natural charm, but then still, youre not like that literally 24/7). Anyways this was a whole essay and thank you for reading
He was kinda awkward, the setting with the covid screen and camera's etc was awkward. He was playing on the homefield, the voices over the earpiece just threw him off. He most likely experiences awkwardness on a regulair basis while the girls do less so. So it's familiar territory (or it can be) Awkwardness just means you don't know what you are supposed to do in that situation. First thing people do in those situations is look around them at how other people are handling the situation. They are looking for someone to take the lead and guide them out of the awkwardness. If you can get yourself to be comfortable with awkward situations (you've survived all of them, so why worry?) you're playing with home advantage
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Yeah Aba saying you don’t care about animals makes you a disgusting person. People that are decent human beings don’t proudly proclaim they don’t like animals.
Yeah. Caring about animals is a 1st world thing. Yall grew up on Disney movies so you've romanticized animals.
Go anywhere in the world where people have real problems and they don't talk about animals like y'all.
Don't give a fk about animals!
Pin of shame
Yup i agree as a dude from a third world country 🙋
@@AbaNPreach Yeah because they’re supremely uneducated and working class. It’s not my problem if other people’s parents don’t possess enough intelligence to raise them properly
@@KingxDers Pin of truth ;))))
That guy didn't need them coaching him...he has charisma and a bubbly personality. He just needs more self-esteem and confidence.
I agree
@Xavier Rodriguez that's good if you want to attract somebody who's interested in your wallet
@@rickyjiggens2180 Enticing women with money is NOT game. Quite a number of broke guys out here with great game who are sleeping with everything from young models to married women. I've seen it with my own eyes.
besides having at least a somewhat healthy self esteem and confidence, another important part is choosing to date someone that vibes with you, which iv felt is the most important part. LITERALLY ALL THE HARD PARTS take care of themselves without thought or effort if you just ask out people that you actually like, not just the looks by itself.
@Xavier Rodriguez you're the problem dude
I mean the fact that the women know he has people in his ear is immediately a turn off. Like they forsure just did this for the cash. This is the dumbest thing cut has done. They just humiliate this poor guy for no reason.
I know, and I can tell that its messed up because they probably feel like they arent talking to himself and have people listening in. They really just ruined his whole shit.
Only take away I see for him is the experience, even though that itself is questionable...
@@Rextle he can cry with some extra cash now..
Calling this the dumbest thing cut has done is quite a big stretch, this is just another one in the vast collection.
@@AspireGMD her: he has experts in his ear and this all the game he got? Shiiiitt
This guy could’ve done way better on his own honestly, like these “coaches” suck
Don't ask a fish how to catch a fish ;-)
This guy earn confidence to do it (with them in his ear) - it’s is just psychology… I saw so many homies be awkward/creepy alone … But when you know they are there and having your back you feel powerful/invincible…
I was literally about to say this
@@BodyGuardCZ yeah but at some point you gotta think for yourself and think if their advice is good or not
Is like the blind leading the blind these dating coaches thing shouldn’t exist just giving bad advice all around
"Staying single 2021 is really about working on myself."
That is NOT a signal to talk about YOU. She is opening up to you. You COULD ask "What are you most trying to improve?" or "Are you trying to learn some new skills, or find a new hobby?", things like that.
She is LITERALLY sharing her experience and perspective with you, and the sage advice was "Shut that shit down and talk about you.". Really?
Im not the wittiest at banter myself, but I KNEW interjecting with things abt himself were the WRONG way to go... Coaches and specialists huh?
Why waste time on someone who wants to be single?
@@afhostie She probably just said that to make rejecting him easier
I wouldn't have started talking about myself either, but i think i would be a little intimated by her saying she stays single. Cause i am then not sure, if she really is interested in dating, so I probably wouldnt have thought about asking her about what she wants to improve but i think you are right. Its a good question.
@@jayo4282 That's why dating coaches are worthless. They give the worst advice that may work for some girls but they always try to sell you some shit ideology its never little tips and tricks to improve your charisma or confidence its always shit advice.
We live in an age where the LEAST experienced people give the MOST advice. Everyone's a coach for a quick buck.
Oh not just dating coaches, but a lot of other "professions" too
Remember, fellas: NEVER ask a fish how to go fishing. Ask a fisherman.
right? anyone can call themselves an expert nowadays
Facts
@@mad4song01 fkin bars right here
Dating coach: “He seems to have no confidence.”
And that’s why he called you.
Yea they seam like they talking more about him then being there for him smh
i mean y'all really expected the fish to know how to fish?
@@FOH45 gotta need some ice for that one sheeeeesh
Saint Rei
bruh, the women in this case were better than the dude. So in this case, it’s either believing a fish or a really bad fisherman
@@justadummy8076 *That's not saying much.*
Having 3 different coaches at the same time is the stupidest concept ever.
That's like having 3 different directors direct an actor at the same time.
Yeah - honestly, bad advice can look good when executed well... but this guy never had a chance... listening to a gay guy and two self-absorbed female "coaches" simultaneously is just an awful idea... to say nothing of the fact that they're all white and he isn't...
Like having 3 police officers yell different orders at you at the same time lol
@@GodSin777 sounds like basic training lmao
One is stupis at least
@@moonknight4053 one at a time? Yes. In real time all 3? Yeah its not great in any context
There is no license, permit, or degree to be a, "dating coach."
Anyone can claim to be a dating coach and not have any skills at reading others or communication.
And this video absolutely proves that
People with licenses, permits, and degrees can suck at their jobs, too. Just saying lol
@@Freek314 Yeah, but licenses give you a basic reference of "This person has this passed this level of qualification at this point".
There is some level that you can expect of them, and hold them to it.
"Ask her what she likes about you"
Don't ever do this,unless you are 100% certain she likes you.
how are you supposed to tell a person you've only known for three minutes what you like about them? how could you possibly give an honest answer?
@@entropicflux8849 exactly🤣🤣🤣 so cringe
That makes me think of those guy who propose on the jumbo tron and get rejected
I would say you should just avoid that question entirely. Making a girl tell you what she likes about you makes you seem worried about what she thinks about you. If you are confident enough to think she likes you, you’ll probably identify why she likes you too.
If she likes you she'll tell you. Don't even ask.
Vast majority of the Dating Coaches out there have done very little dating. They haven't tried most of the theoretical bullshit they're spewing. If they got something to sell they're probably frauds and if not, just triple check their credentials.
Most of the game y'all would ever need is offered for free online. Don't fall for game just to get play.
I agree with this, lots of frauds out there - My dating coach told me consent is not important
I truly think dating/game/pickup advice needs to be regulated in some way. This just makes the whole industry look bad and discourages those that need help from real teachers.
*Y'all should collab with Anthony Recenello! Maybe do a dual reaction*
They should be treated like snake oil salesmen or psychics. While, someone feels good about it, they almost never work.
@@Main815 Consent is not important? Can u clarify please?
He honestly did the best he could with their terrible suggestions.
Did better then most dudes who is probably on here and still never asked out a girl yet.
Yea that shit was trash
Yea I agree they were making him uncomfortable with stupid ass suggestions
Yeah I can tell cause when the guy "coach" told him to say "Tom-Yum", you can tell he fucking hesitated and knew that it wasn't a good line lmao
Strip them of that "professional" label 😐
I feel bad for the insecure guy who's date they sabotaged, but I find it hilarious that these worthless dating coaches just carpet bombed their own careers. :')
They do this so they keep getting their customers to come back
@@akawiangel Well the customers who's dates they've ruined will certainly not be coming back. And for any potential new customers, this video content of them being terribly incompetent at what they claim to be experts at, this is a perfect repellent. No one will want their dating advice after having seen this.
This is carreer self harm.
My issue with this vid: theyre telling him
To say things that he would never say in a million years, hes not being true to himself and its apparent to the women
That Tom Yum and James Bond line made me want to punch those coaches. If you are not there to help this man, then just leave!
True, girls sniff that out in no time. They don't know _exactly_ what's up, they just get that vibe you're not what you're trying to be and are turned off.
Its also things a guy would never say. No girl is ever going to say "I was really impressed he asked me what I liked about him"
The dude is a nerdy virgin. He's gotta work on himself
He needs to be a polished version of his current self; just breathe and be confident in his own interests. You notice that when he talked about why he wanted to be a doctor and about anime was when the women found him most interesting? The only general advice I would give is to compliment something specific about the women when you first see her and not to push for a second date until near the end of the current date, which I guess in this speed dating case was gonna be kind of early. But normally, just enjoy the date that you're on.
This is like Impractical Jokers where three friends give the worst advice you have to follow.
I did not think of this similarity! Maybe they could take notes
I think they're called the Sidemen and did this exact same thing. These dating coaches were honestly on the same level when they were interrupting him. 😅
Looks like Sal is tonight’s big loser, the other jokers will put him in a date and feed him terrible lines til a date throws water in his face
but at least they know they are getting messed with
lmaao
These dating coaches remind me of Highschoolers who encourage their unconfident friend by 'helping' them and instead they realize he'll say anything and they make a massive joke out of it, trying to get him to say embarrassing shit so they get a laugh out of it.
It's like an episode of Impractical Jokers.
People from the past pulled that on me. They're not your friends zndthey look down on you
What I took away from this:
1. Avoid making face value compliments, starting off. Things like nice eyes, hair, skin, etc, bc they are already things that they’ve heard from tons of men before you, and it’s something that they know alr. The best compliments are the ones you didn’t expect. Maybe different aspects of their personality, their hobbies, or their achievements(these questions might be kinda of tame to more experienced guys, but I’m definitely not experienced)
2. Have free flowing conversations. Those are the type of conversations that get both sides engaged and leaves you wondering where the time went. Neither side is really focused on trying to be impressive or appealing, which both lead to stress, anxiety, and awkwardness that kills the date, because they’re both too engaged. Having conversations in a way that constantly brings stress and anxiety, never really sat right with me anyway
1. How can you compliment anything other than appearance when you’re meeting someone for the first time and know nothing about them except their appearance at that moment.
2. If free flowing conversation was easy for everyone it would already be happening, just telling people to do something well that they’re not good at is completely useless advice ‘just be better at things than you are’
@@sirsurnamethefirstofhisnam7986 ironically the best way to get better at these kinda things is to do it more to be better at those things
Guy: "You got Beautiful eyes".
Girl: "Thank you".
Guy: "Can i have them?"
Girl: "Uhm, No. So, do you have any hobbies?"
Guy: "Yes. I collect things".
Girl: "Things like what?"
Guy: "Eyes".
Guy: Your eyes are like blueberries. I wanna just eat them.
Girl: *furiously dialing 911*
Thank you Ed Gein 😅
Haha
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
😂 lord have mercy
they were playing with that poor boy’s life 😔
Aba and Preach should be the ones helping him out.
"Ask permission to ask a bold question."
Doesn't that undo the boldness?
yea jubillee, because they are extremely imperfect human being animals like the rest of us, will just shamelessly use and dispose of people for the clicks. money and clout are truly the roots of all evil.
Right?! If I were him I would have yanked that headset out.
Proud of the guy for putting himself out there. Lots of dudes have just given up on dating
well modern dating that is.
This guy seems like a genuinely cool dude, I wouldn't worry about him not finding a decent relationship. He's pretty young and his anxiety is coming from there, which is completely normal.
And rightfully so. There's almost nothing of value to be gained at this point; especially for the potential risk involved.
Lots of dudes given up dating because its a losing game for most men.
@Pantelis Tzimas Sometimes I wonder if that’s just how this particular space feels about it or is the general consensus really like that out there? I’d love to hear a guy describe the modern dating scene without knowing about A & P, “red pill” stuff, and everything else on TH-cam. Are they losing hope?
Those "coaches" were basically just telling him to pretend to be someone he's not, which is one of the worst things you can do when trying to get to know someone. How the hell are you ever going to have a healthy, satisfying relationship if you're hiding who you really are?
I bet you haven’t heard this one. So a gay guy and two women give dating advice to an awkward heterosexual… what could go wrong…?
Hahaha!
They're also way too young to be giving advice
What di you mean?!
"Tell her you'll make her some food you've never heard of and have no idea how to cook."
Yeaaaaaah.....
The comment I was looking for
"do you like anime"
"yeeeaaarr big weeb" as they both giggle
thats it take that piece out of ur ear and throw it....no more input needed
LITERALLY THOUGH ❤️❤️❤️
Yes!
on god
this is when i knew they were full of shit. Imagine being a dating coach and making a man feel shamed for sharing what he likes. Fuck these people.
Facts lol I was happy for them.
Awkward af.. these coaches did worse than the dude was doing by himself.
man the poor guy is doing so great on his own, he's going 1000mp/h listening to their BS in the bckground and trying to react. he's awesome!
They aren’t helping him at all. Their advice is cringe. He is cool but they are screwing him over. I honestly feel he could do better by himself.
Toughest video i’ve ever had to watch
The girl in the middle isnt so bad, it's the guy. Honestly, he doesn't need a dating coach he needs counseling and therapy.
@@TomikaKelly especially after that terrible advice
Right? I had to tap out halfway through the first girl, but my man's out here working his way through it. It's rough, but he's not dying. Then they're giving him terrible prompts. He's not in a place to be able to segue in and out of this stuff yet so it's very jarring. I think if you just let him take a run at 3-5 girls consecutively, he'd do better recognizing where things are taking turns.
He’s just awkward and inexperienced. I think if he keeps putting himself out there (without becoming discouraged) he could have success finding somebody. He seems like a good dude once he relaxes he’ll do better.
And that's how you do it but some people think we are born natural to do this well mainly girls say so but its tough for a guy who is just starting. That's why i advice to learn and probably hire a dating coach but i say be careful who you choose cause not all are good. Specially if some of them are still single.
Honestly. He seems really sweet, and genuine if he can relax a little. I think he will be ok.
Nah. He wont start doing good till he starts making money
I like how u worded ur shit brotha!! You’re absolutely right with all of it.
exactly Tarumarugan i was the same when i had 18 to 21 years in life. now at 26 im just chilling when you try to seduce enought or talked to a lot of women it becomes natural what you should not ask to them ever.
That male dating coach was pure cringe. Every thing he suggested was sabotage.
Yeah Fr he was kinda creepy too like his suggestions were something the weird kid in class would say
@@nickskrill2005 _"Hey I like your eyes. They look like blueberries..can I.. can I have them?.."_
The first suggestion he got from the female started him off wrong to begin with. As a woman she should have known that her statement was a bait statement for him to ask her about herself. Anyone on a date that states the intended on remaining single should make you want to know why they are there in the first place. All he had to do was ask her why and she would have elaborated. Her answer would have told him most of what he needed to know about her.
Not surprised he’s from Portland. Fucking dork central out here, guys have zero game. ZERO!
He looked and sound like a woman. He was so feminized in everyone of his expressions. Nothing wrong with that. But he seemed like he’s gay. Can’t give advice to straight men, especially if you don’t what your doing calling yourself a dating” coach “
I liked the second girl. She was in tune. She saw this dude didn't have confidence so she was very kind and encouraging to him. That's exactly what he needs, a few positive experiences to boost his confidence. Even if it doesn't lead to anything, that's going to be good for him and she felt that perfectly. But those stupid 'coaches' ruined that by pressuring him into being something that he's clearly not.
Yeah the second one was an absolute sweetheart
@@Lemonpie167 Third girl had the best personality she matched him to a T
These coaches are so bad, this guy would have been better off on his own.
Yaaaaasss!! Then their acting as if it's him who screwed up 🙄
FOR SURE!!!!
Nice profile picture Nihilus
@@bradenbash5916 ah, a person of culture. Yes, his my favorite sith.
@@jigsaw2036 badass
They were literally making the G look stupid.. and they were low key enjoying the shit show 💔... Let’s find this brother 🙏🏾. He needs to see this
Bit of AMS and Kevin Samuels will put this brother on GAME.
@@iwantgoals1566 oh please God no Kevin samuels is twice divorced and an asshole that will not help him he seems like a nice guy just shy he needs a confidence booster and he can only give himself that
@@iwantgoals1566 Send him to Miami so Fresh & Fit can get a go at him.
@@uok6216 Kevin will get him right, he has all the opportunty's and options in the world
@@uok6216 that’s facts actually I doubt these girls were really his type
They low key wanted him to fail. Lol Apparently, they also suck at dating.
Because if dating coaches were successful, they’d put themselves out of business.
I'm pretty sure half of them don't even know what gender they'd like to date. "coaches"
I think these coaches wanted some failure to make it interesting because they already knew the girl wouldn’t click so they wanted it to fail harder
low key? lol the reason he black girl sounded so much better is cause she know he's getting fucked up and his delivery sucks. you cant be talking to a woman like its a race and you cant be a snail also all while saying something interesting to them
@@AlexanderSkinnerVids *PREACH BROTHER!*
I bailed on a date because she talked about herself all the time. By the time I heard “because I’m a model” for the 52nd time over dinner I was done.
Surprised skippy wasn’t a dating coach with this group of “experts” 😂😂
He would have given better advice than the "pros", no cap
As dumb and gooberish af "asking for consent to ask your bold question" is, what is consent to Skippy? 🥴
Yooo I was actually thinking some of this advice sounded exactly like stuff Skippy would say. Like insinuating there would be a second date after a tragically failed date or inviting the girl over for food at his place after 2 minutes of small talk.
@@cokemachine62590 yeah true lol. I agree with y'all
Lol
Yooo…coaches were TERRIBLE. Shout out to my man though, he really did try his best considering the bullshit they put him on. That first girl was cringey as fuck, she was checked out from the get go. I don’t blame her either. But man that was rough to watch
Yep he had even looked once and aske twice if the date was over. They made it go on too long just for more video.
I'm just dying from cringe and so I ran to the comments section looking for this comment to be buried in.
I have many regrets.
They were L manz (and womenz)
He has more game then the fucking coaches. Where he was naturally taking the conversation the girl was interested but would quickly lose interest when he took there adviced
I won't even lie, I can't make it through this one and came right to the comments to see how bad it actually was
He could've turned this around by just being like 'hey you wanna hear what these dating experts just told me to say?' A first date that's just ragging on dating coaches sounds like a blast to me
Epic, it would be flawless victory lol, im sure the coaches would've had me ctffu & clowning them lmaoo
True, I would have said “These guys just gave me horrible advice. Wanna hear it? “🤣🤣😂
These "Dating coaches" were literally setting up hurdles for him every time they talked. Too many tangents and one-way conversations set him up for failure.
This guy will have no problem, he just needs to keep getting out there and meeting people. He has really good energy. He's not boring, he's not super annoying. He's interesting and putting himself out there. He doesn't need coaches, he needs friends to go out w/ and to keep going out. He'll do fine
Agreed. Tbh he probably would have done better without the terrible advice of those coaches. First because he would have been himself, but also because he would have been simply more successful, because he'll be okay like you said.
Honestly, all the guy needed to do was stay calm, remember that the person he's sitting across is a human just like him, and be open.
These "experts" sometimes over complicate dating.
A human being that smells good, mesmerizing, a sweet voice, and born with a vag//na. Lol it’s very difficult it takes years to get to that point.
@@mark_kline lool
That's the point, how would they get customers if people actually had relationships?
Guy: “Ask her for consent to ask a question.”
Also Guy: “Tell her she looks like a Thai dish and basically insinuate you want to eat her.”
Me: “Can we get consent to shut this fool up?”
For real. In his insulated world, shouldn't he have said, "Ask her permission to ask her a question, then ask her if you have her consent to ask a bold question..."
I feel like this guy never flirt with a women or he wanted to just laugh at this boy
LMAO
The worst part is people pay for their advice these are the worst dating coaches I've ever heard
This guy does not fuck. How is he a dating coach
As a woman whose refused to date for like 2 years now literally just because it’s torture for someone super introverted like me. I will say y’all had some great advice…and as a woman who has had my share of shit ass dates I really appreciated everything aba was sayin especially the being pushy so soon with coming over to cook for a woman you just met. A lot of women don’t even feel comfortable being alone in their home with a man they’ve just met… I mean and they definitely shouldn’t, its risky and it’s dangerous.
This comment is even more valuable because it’s coming from a female - dating coaches are a scam
100% agree. Ugh went on a date with a guy who kept suggesting the cooking at his house date. Even wanted me to come back to his house that night to “listen to music.” I told him I wasn’t comfortable going to his house because we just met, he persisted, and then when I turned him down over text he continued texting me for months until I blocked him on everything
I’m cross faded so that probably had nothing to do with what you said but yes his advice is so good, especially asking “what made you wanna go on this date” instead of “what do you like about me”
They interrupted him to give him bad advice. They really made him ask for permission, ask for consent for words of affection or affirmation. That's fucked up.
Yeah. He'd have done way better if they didn't do anything.
Aba should of been on the mic he got better advice than them
Feminism ruined love and dating
@@usernameluis305 Fucking preach.
From a woman... don't ask for consent for dumb shit, especially when it comes to conversation. That's insane. No woman will respond well to you ever asking "do I have your consent to ask this question?"
JUST. ASK.
We aren't babies and we don't need to be coddled. We like people who are okay with taking the lead and can keep a conversation going that's comfortable and enjoyable.
Consent to ask a question?? Gtfoh 🙄🙄
Honestly, he wasn't too bad. The guy was sincere, nerdy, and cool. When he was Vibing with the black girl they just messed him up! he was getting comfortable with her.
They were jealous
Facts he could still use some game but overall the first girl he did terrible the second one he could have possibly built something but then his coaches messed him up mainly the outside ones
And the third 1 there's definitely going to be a second date
To be fair what the second girl seemed to find most interesting about him was his "ambition".. aka she saw dollar signs when he mentioned med school. But I can't really blame her too much since the whole setup of going on a date with a guy who literally has an earpiece on is sketchy from the get go. But yeah their advice was mostly trash. Especially the dude, "Ask for consent to *ask* her a *bold* question" then "tell her some corny as hell joke about Asian food then imply she looks delicious in the corniest, most childish way you can."
@@reoden7546 Third girl was the cutest Ironically and she actually had a matching personality, which is important when dating.
Kid would have done better by himself. Hes got tons of personality.
He does maybe hes nervous, but the advice they gave him ain't sound to helpful.
@Peppi Roni Personality is useless? What are you an incel dude?
@@bravo561 yes
@Peppi Roni hes not even ugly lmao
@Peppi Roni He looks awful? Okay dude. He looks like a perfectly normal dude.
My biggest pet peeve with dating coaches are the ones that think good advice is 'say this' and 'be like this' when it isn't. As a dating coach you should be giving advice on confidence boosting and little body exercises like breathing to control nervousness, not what certain things to say, think, or do.
I know about 20 women who would date him because of his shirt. Geeky girls would bond immediately. My husband and I are geeky as hell and we have a great marriage.
Yeah! in this day and age that stuffs not even really considered geeky anymore. It’s relatable, a whole generation grew up with those shows. It seems like in the us there is a huge mainstream nostalgia culture right now.
Not buying it. 😂😂😂
@@ImpowermentGroup for real CAP
So you’re saying a female would date him cause of a shirt? You sound really dumb.
@@Milk-hb5ve I think she was implying that women who were into cartoons would recognize that nickelodeon logo as something her date and her could have as a common interest. I don't think its much different in principle than women who want financial security (or even gold-diggers) typically go after expensively dressed men, women who like athletes go after men who dress athletic, etc... or vice versa. (men do this too). It sounds shallow, but you can actually tell a lot about someones personality by the way they prefer to dress.
If that guy is a dating coach, I’m president doofus.
Nah, you're good...Biden is president doofus.
no, you're tom yummy
@@yourvirtualdad 🤣😂🤣😂🤣
Then I will be Vlad the impaler
Well I didn't vote for you
ABA AND PREACH ARE THE ELDER BROTHER WE ALL NEED
Yes
They sure are, to all of us 😁
Yeah, and little bro some of these older guys I date need. Damn, their advice was exactly what I dream about announcing on a loud speaker that’ll reach the entire city (I’m in Sydney but from Cali).
Facts just blessing the streets with good game jack
speak for yourself
im actually thankful for this video. knowing that there are people who are this awkward gave me a big confidence boost.
Don’t get your confidence from other peoples misfortune 😂 super L
The title should be: "Virgin pays for 3 people to laugh at his dating problems"
Virgin and 3 clowns
I don’t think he payed though I’m pretty sure he got payed
5 people to laugh at his dating problems
HA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! DAMN!
I'm telling you that NOBODY, none of us could manage a date well with 3 people chipping into your head from outside! Not even you guys could cope with that sort of 'back-seat driving'! I can't even unlock a tricky door if my wife starts with the 'Why don't you do this? Oh, what's that? Is this bit important?' Aaaaaaaargh!!!
Truth
If they were actually experts and good... then they wouldn't be having any discussion on what to do. And as such, it would work. I also couldn't watch the video, but I didn't even see them give any advice on body language yet. Look into her eyes a lot, smile when she tells you about the things she loves and make sure that you show a little bit of extra interest when she does, etc. You can even play around a bit with the unspoken language, that's part of making it feel fun for the lady (but do try to make sure that you are taking her seriously and aren't just making fun of her).
“Dating coaches” that have as much game as Skippy lol
Skippy got a bit more since ge actually got a chick to go on dates with him. It's cringe but still.
@@itstriplem2069 that's because they were Mormons, they expect each other to be a little weird.
these coaches way low-key grooming him to be a Skippy
😂
The advice abt taking a beat and breathing instead of just filling the air with words was absolutely priceless for him. If he remembers that he will do perfectly fine om his own going forward.
This literally feels less like an “advice in an earpiece” type thing, and more of an impractical jokers episode. The coach’s on the far right and left were literally smiling in anticipation while telling him to say shit.
Sal's up for punishment.
@@steelrarebit7387 every time
th-cam.com/video/f2rgzsO-AMM/w-d-xo.html
Was watching this and thinking, "he's on Impractical Jokers and doesn't even realize it"
Literallyyyyy
"She was questioning his sincerity"? Gee I wonder why, probably had something to do w/ him looking like he's got the secret service in his ear. Bad idea from jump.
My advice is just practice. I lost my virginity at 23. I was 400lbs until I decided to change it at 21. Took two years. Went on a dating site. I was honest with the girls. My confidence came from losing all the weight and seeing women give me smiles (never happened when I was 400lb 😂). I had several failed dates. 10 years later I don’t even remember them. I remember the first date that went well.
W
Losing weight was the best thing for me too. I got fit and confidence went up.
I lost 60 pounds over 3 years. Losing that much weight you lost is savage bruh. Really hard but it’s the only option overweight men have out there. And I completely understand that feeling lol. I been called ugly fat before, and now I’m being called cute. Everyone has that natural beauty in them. But people have to carve it out of all that extra useless stuff. If there’s anyone who’s obese and is reading this then I’m telling you, hit the gym bruh. Don’t aim for losing 200lbs all a sudden, even losing 5 to 10 lbs make you feel like a different person. Eat right, sleep right, and exercise right, and make sure to talk with your doctor and ask questions cus they have some great advice. I wish you the best.
Thats basicly the key to body positivity. Be as healthy as you can be.
Thats how you get happy in life. The love aspect comes on its own. But being fit has only advantages for booth men and women. Its sad when people fight tooth and nail because they are overweight or scrawny and get mad the healthy people don't find them attractive.
Thats self sabotage.
@William Schlass Im speaking about the movement.
But even so loving your body means you want to bring the best out of it but do not hate it ethier. Being unhralthy is not positivity thats negative.
If you are a burn victim, deformed or otherwise crippled yes. Its putely acceptance. But the moment you can do something about it do it. Otherwise you dont do yourself justice and drown in comfortable excuses why you dont work on yourself.
"ohh, he's doing it on his own" YEAHHHH, almost like when you put someone together with someone with mutual interests and both similar awkwardness, conversation is more likely to evolve naturally. Jesus, how do I get a job as a relationship coach because apparently you need to know nothing what so ever. poor dude being humiliated like that.
When my best buddy was having issues dating, I told him simply "pretend like you are just catching up with a friend you haven't seen since high school. Calm and genuinely interested in what's going on with them." As opposed to talking to a stranger you hope to bone later. It worked like a charm.
This dude was going pretty good with the second gal, even if she kind of a gold digger, until the "coaches" ruined it.
Respect for this guy being willing to put himself in this crazy ass scenario.
Preach was like "TH-cam please give us an ad break right here."
TH-cam: I got you fam.
They actually did it 😂😂
Lmao yea
I was looking for this comment
I was actually kinda surprised tbh TH-cam actually listen to content creators for once lol
Even the TH-cam moderators couldn't handle that level of cringe. That's impressive
Dude has an earpiece in with coaches telling him want to say and the coach goes "she was in fact questioning his sincerity quite a lot".
I can't even.
"Get her consent to ask a question."
Yo, they're woman, not gods.
Lol
That is some goofy advice. If you have to ask for consent to ask a question then you shouldn't be asking that question.
lmao, in todays world thats how men are expected to treat women, ask their consent for every little thing or else it's a violation of their female space and boundaries.
Lol if you feel you have to ask someone's consent for a simple question either it's probably too personal for a first date or you're acting silly and treating them wayy too special besides that.
@@maineman5757 asking for consent is a question itself
I'm not a dating coach and I have never had a girlfriend, but I just have to say that their advice was TERRIBLE!!
If I was the dating coach I would've told him "Yo so for this first date I'm just going to hang back and let you do everything. That way so I can see how you operate and what not, to see what your strengths and weaknesses are, and build off of that."
Based off of what I saw in the video the guy got very awkward and nervous every time one of the dating coaches told him what to do because, 1. They were interrupting the conversation by talking in his ear with no warning, preventing him from being able to pay attention to what the girls said, 2. Often times their advice didn't fit the flow of the conversation, making them both very awkward and uncomfortable around each other.
He'd be better off ignoring the coaches and talked about nickelodeon
lol
Let’s go, now that’s a conversation worth having, because it’s a Hobbies and an interest. It should be normalised to talk about things we actually like, tbh us folks here in the comments would be waaay more qualified then those bitch ass dating coaches.
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He would've killed it if he just took the earpiece out. These weirdo coaches were 100 proof trash juice
man started off with "howdy" I knew it was gonna be one of THOSE vids
He should said what’s up ma like it’s the early 200’s 😭😭
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One tip I have: When a lady comes to your table to introduce herself, stand up.
All that aside, though, I’m not gonna lie. I like this guy. I hope he does well.
Yep, that's a nice gesture
Never ever gonna happen lmao
@@Ticketman99 I wouldnt stand for a lot of these modern chicks
That's common courtesy in some cultures. Man or woman, you stand up to greet the person.
Or just lean out to shake their hand. Lead out gesturely somehow
They are trying to make sure this dude sails through the friendzone for the rest of his life.
The first date... should have been just them seeing how he talks, holds himself and just his vibe in general then give advice to help him bring up his confidence and just be able to tone down that nervous energy. Cause that's all that there was.. he was hella nervous and the first thing that can mess some one up is anxiety.
Damn I hope he don't try to go back to them for advice anymore!
Taking dating advice from women about how to get women is a Big FAILURE FOR MEN unless that woman is speaking real facts about women female nature secrets other than that don’t take dating advice from women ever
As someone who's a 33 yr virgin myself (non religious), I say experience will be your best teacher over time. But researching about the dating world from articles & books from legit Relationship Advisors who've went and graduated from top schools about psychology, sex & science don't hurt imo.
Bro please go get some coochie, im praying for you frfr
Preach: "Im asking TH-cam for an ad break"
Me: *ad pops up* "damn preach getting some wizard powers 2"
Yo.. That shit lowkey pissed me off 🤣
I thought the creators pick where ads go in their videos. I figured they placed it thete
@@mollynino861 Yes, they do
Lmao I died when the ad started
Same
Aba's comment about genuine curiosity is one that I learned at an early age to make friends. I moved around a lot as a kid, and lost friends constantly, so I learned quickly that being super interested in people's hobbies endeared me to them quickly. I do think it's more complicated in dating, but this kind of advice is a really great way to make friends quickly.
you just seem like such a sweet person
That guy dating coach literally sold him so hard I thought it was the 1800s
Lmao Risky. But a damn good joke
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that one took me a second but damn hahaha
Damn u edgy edgy😂
LeRon Harris as all jokes should be
Bro you guys are mad funny, you guys give good advice, laughs and this dude probably would have had more games without these coaches
He would've done better with his second date without their advice. They seemed to vibing a bit before he started really following their advice.
Yep!
You just wanted him to get with a black woman instead of the white or asian girl
I wonder how many dating coaches have never been in any kind of meaningful relationship and still advise people.
I mean Michael Hussey had camilla cabella but she broke it off with him. Since then no girl yet. Yet he still has tens of millions of followers. So idk.
@@rubenjr4908 I mean with no dating experience at all.
@@breewashere Id assume not many. Most are just decent but not experts like these jokers.
Kinda like thrice divorced marriage councilors.
@@rubenjr4908 They're goofy as hell. Especially the one that said GeT hEr CoNsEnT tO aSk A bOlD qUeStIoN. WHAT DOES THAT EVEN MEAN GAHHH
The guy getting advice from three different people is already set up to fail.
Especially when the date coach is a woman that teach man how to date women
3 different personalities Jesus
I agree with aba the middle woman wasn’t so bad, but the guy and the girl was ridiculous
I’ve known girls who said that they felt like the guy was distant and didn’t share anything about himself but it’s a soft hand kind of thing. I find it’s best to share something small about yourself and turn it into a question about her. “I had the best stew for dinner last night. What kind of food do you like? What’s your favorite restaurant? I like that too! Have you ever been to such and sick a place that also makes that kind of food? Maybe we could go some time! I love trying new restaurants. What’s the last new place you tried? Have you ever traveled to a different city or state And been somewhere with great food or even just something cool? Oh you’ve been there? Were you there for working or visiting family?” Etc. You can turn one thing about yourself into a whole evening of questions about her of you do it right.
“Ask for her consent to ask a bold question”
*pause*
*BIG PAUSE*
@@Colechamdiceman even he has standards
Simple move
They should've picked women who they thought would be compatible with him. Someone just as quirky would've helped.
Maybe they thought a woman that would ignore everything else the moment she found out he was gonna be a doctor was the most compatible choice available that day...
Yeah, he needs someone on his same wavelength. He’s not even that quirky imo, just a bit nervous. I’m sure him talking about shared interests with a woman would really help him feel more comfortable on the date.
Like that last girl he was talking to?
@@PanameraTurboSEHybrid Yup, honestly I think they did that purposefully to make themselves look “successful” in coaching him tbh
@@PanameraTurboSEHybrid yes
I definitely agree with Aba and Preach’s assessment of the dating coach’s advice. I feel more comfortable when both of us are interested in the topic. One sided conversations are a waste of time for me because I like to hear other people’s opinions about different subjects.
last one is the only one that felt like an actual conversation between 2 ppl
Takeaway: 95% of "dating coaches" don't know sh*t about what they're talking about
Auto Correct at it again lol
"Data"
xD
@@sevionus80 🤣🤣🤣 Thanks man.
@@sevionus80 hey, data is beautiful alright. Those ones and zeros bring tears to my eyes. 😭
are they even actual dating coaches? like the dude is def not. took one look at him and knew he wasn't. im pretty sure they are just random people they picked off the street and was like yall wanna make some money all you gotta do is pretend to be a dating coach and fuck this dude up for the lolz
Why wouldn’t they prep him for these dates first? He wasn’t good at having a flow to the convo, which they could’ve prepped before. So now they’re feeding him clearly set up questions that just sound stupid.
I feel like as soon as he started to get there in the convo they would interject with their "advice" and throw him off
would have done a before and after, not a during. Especially with someone already having issues and with a huge 1990's ear peace.
@@h2t26 dating coaches arent in their ear during dates anyway, the point is to teach someone to do it naturally themselves.
kinda defeats the purpose right?
Even after she is openly thirsty for money. She rejected him, how bad was the advice.
She wasn't thirsty for money. She liked his ambition.
Dating helps when you are naturally charismatic.
@@flowersforme375 "I like men with money"
@@flowersforme375 she didn't say I like men with ambition. She said "with money".
@@flowersforme375 Same thing
Right when she said, “I think she wants you to talk about yourself” I was like no no no 😂😂
Ngl quarantine almost had me like this
as virginized as him?
Bruh just talking to people at the bar was hard lol
My social skills took a dive during covid.
@@agathachris9722 my social skills were already so ass but weirdly bc california has had so much quarantine it was easier to talk to people because everyone just excited to meet new people again.
Ngl I’ve never been the social mf but covid had me bored snapping a lot of mfs so I lw got better. But anyways you’ll turn it around just gotta warmup
I feel like the guy could've done a better job without listening to them.
If he took the advice selectively it wouldve gone better cause that thai food joke was hot garbage and shouldve been ignored also he was nervous and when they spoke to him he kind of froze up and lost his train of thought making the transition between points really rough
“What’s the guy on the left doing?”
“He’s getting his cut” 😂😂😂
Self amusement in conversations is so important
Must be weird knowing the dude is getting advice from people in his ear like some teen movie.
We all got to start somewhere at least he's trying most people on here probably won't even try to say hello to a girl.
@@mysticstrikeforce5957 still but the guy seemed like he was doing better when they didn’t say anything
@@mysticstrikeforce5957 He would have been better off on his own
except that the movies did it better BECAUSE the other person didn't know. Most people blissfully ignore the fact that women actively look for reasons to disqualify men, we could even argue that this mindset exaggerated NOW than ever before because men are no longer needed by women to survive. The average man needs every little advantage he can get just to seem acceptable to the avg woman😂😂
Love how supportive Aba and Preach are in this video, so wholesome
They have very genuine good energy and sometimes a need the laugh to hang with some of the bullshit they tackle. (Bullshit in the world that needs to be addressed
I think if he just slowed the pace in which he spoke, the date would have gone SO MUCH better and smoother, even with his weird remarks.
Yep, I get the feeling his not comfortable with silence and might take it as a bad sign so has to fill the air with anything.
"Don't talk about previous dates" is the kind of advice I grew up with. I don't see how it could make sense now.
There is only one way to win a date like this... Ignore the coaches, and LET THE DATE KNOW YOU ARE DOING IT.
"Coach wants me to ask why you want to stay single... So... Why do you think pineapple belongs on pizza?"
Dude, way fucking better than any of those 3.
Now I wanna go on a pizza date..
Yeah, he should have taken out his ear piece in front of the girls.
The funny part is he does so much better without them. Like, whenever they give him advice, it just goes extremely bad. That second date was going well. He was making her laugh. He was making her feel a charm towards him with the doctor thing. And then they're like, ask her if it's okay if you ask a bold question about yourself... smh.
Exactly, the dude is charming, and seems like he’s got a good heart and is ambitious. He doesn’t need a bunch of “advice” he just needs encouragement and a few simple tips about how to stay calm and speak with confidence.
I think this was one big troll.
@@robertnguyen9493 confidence has to be earned to be honest. I was this guy until I actually made myself into someone worthy of my own respect. Once that happened I just changed and things happened for me. Now I'm in an LTR for almost two years.
idk man, i read her demeanor and body language as not being genuinely interested from beginning to end. She seemed to want to root for him and encourage him but to me, it was clear there was no interest. And sorry, no this dude is not that charming. I dont know if people in the comments are identifying with him and deluding themselves to make themselves feel better about their insecurities or if theyre reading the situation differently or im just in the wrong or what. Hes wearing a nickelodeon t shirt and stuttering and its clear hes very nervous overall, his conversation skills arent exactly up there either but hes a kind genuine guy overall so he probably doesnt need to worry so much, however its clear he does and thats not the characteristics of a person who knows what theyre doing. He literally joined this video its clear hes got no game! And if he does or he has the potential, he needs to work on his confidence instead. He can be charming and he doesnt have to be, i think the intense focus people have on being charming on this channel is weird, its literally an advertisement of who you are not who you really are (unless its very natural charm, but then still, youre not like that literally 24/7). Anyways this was a whole essay and thank you for reading
@@matthewwarren7879 im so happy for you, that must have been so hard to do!
I’d like to see if he’d do better without the coaches yapping in his ears. Maybe he would’ve relaxed quicker.
You actually did if you watched the 3rd date
Bruh y'all speaking facts. I know from experience the biggest thing is being relaxed and letting it glow
100% this guy would have done way better by himself, the whole situation he is in just weird, they did him dirty
He was kinda awkward, the setting with the covid screen and camera's etc was awkward. He was playing on the homefield, the voices over the earpiece just threw him off.
He most likely experiences awkwardness on a regulair basis while the girls do less so. So it's familiar territory (or it can be) Awkwardness just means you don't know what you are supposed to do in that situation. First thing people do in those situations is look around them at how other people are handling the situation. They are looking for someone to take the lead and guide them out of the awkwardness. If you can get yourself to be comfortable with awkward situations (you've survived all of them, so why worry?) you're playing with home advantage
He was better of on his own and learning from his own mistakes than the garbage that came outta their mouths
Their giving him advice that doesn't match his personality at all