Takes our time, our happiness, our innocence, our peace, our trust, basically everything good, lovely, pure,, true, and replaces it with lies, misery, and pain. Now we fight to restore ourselves, and find ourselves again🙏🕊️❤️ Much love Andrew.
The verbal abuse was so traumatic, he almost succeeded in shaking my confidence. A couple of months ago I was so depressed and suicidal, I felt 💔 😔 like he almost sucked the life out of me. Not anymore!!! Today I cruised around my city with my little dog 🐶 💕 and we had a fabulous 👌 time. Thank you Andrew! Your video blog has been therapeutic ✨️ ✌️💖😌 Namaste 🙏
Indie, I am so glad that you are in a better place now. I went through this too and it is a horrible, lonely place to be in. You don't have to be there because you have plenty of us that understand and love you. I am so glad you have a fur baby to love, they are special and loving beyond belief. Much love to you!
Man, Andrew. I Absolutely LOVE You. At Age 62, I confirm every single word you spoke here. For Me, Mastery arrived after two and a half years of Peaceful Isolation following an entire lifetime of one Narc after another. From September 1960 to July 2020, I endured the whole spectrum of this beginning with My Mother and ending on My Retirement Day. You get through like few others can, concisely, accurately, at the speed of thought. Don't We ALL Love this Brilliant light of yours.
All my holidays, special occasion and vacations were ruined by a narcissist. And after some research on this subject I found out that's the common trend among narcissists. Why is that?
When I was younger, I had the belief that most people had some decency in their soul. I was a fool. Many people are stupid, selfish and uncaring. Hard lessons, for sure.
"Think about that for a minute" It makes me smile when you say that Andrew, with the look you give. You give us space, freedom and validation to think for ourselves. All of this taken by the narcs. Thank you for rebuilding my confidence one day at a time. Peace and love to you 💞
Another thing they take from you is the ability to think clearly and communicate succinctly. You become a confused mess due to their constant talking down to you and talking over you. This is also why it's hard to get others to believe that they are the crazy one, not you. The journey out of the narcissistic fog takes time but the freedom and peace you feel is amazing. The time you have lost was not completely wasted. Thanks for another great episode Andrew.
The gaslighting is the most destabilizing and everyone is still participating in the sick masquerade. My family has truly shown me exactly how they feel about me.
@@valentinavelkova3480 that's typical. The others are probably narcissistic peices of crap or flying monkeys. Just move on and be happy. Find new people who value and respect you.
So true, I was financially crippled and had to move home, across the country, So the narcissist was able to say anything about me , because I was far away and not around for people to see. I’m not that bad.🙏
Great video Andrew. My narcissist definitely took a lot from me. Year's 7 years of abuse. He took all that I had to give and then discarded me. My heart he trampled . My finances definitely left me in shambles. Took all my friends . I was left with nothing. And I still miss him sometimes, even though I know he doesn't care about me . Now I'm learning and healing. One day at a time. Thanks everyone and stay strong everyone.
Carlos, I was engaged for 5 years. He never had any intentions of marrying me. I'm 11.3 years out. TIME healed me, plus these videos. Good luck to you. ❤️💙
Hi Carlos, right now you are loved and valued...you have walked through the fire and are just starting out again. Mine did the same to me, took everything away, left my life in ruins and then slipped away under cover of darkness. I did miss him at first, wondered if I could have done more, but it's not on you, you are the best, an empath, kind and giving. Yes, it's one day at a time, and Andrew's videos are a life saver. You are here now with this community, please feel loved and cared for🌻
Carlos ....this is for you " the concept of belonging is playing an important role in your life currently...now is a time to thrive in rhe community ...you will flourish as part of a network of like-minded and like-hearted people .Stick to what feels good and resonates with your heart as true .When you understand the value of this community ,you will discover everything you're hoping for...and much more than you're expecting." (From Oracle of The 7 Energies" ) This is not a spam 😉 not an entertainmetn .This is a gift from my heart to your heart Carlos ❤🙌❤
Looks like we all did time for the Narcissist! I had a 26+ year marriage and a 14 month marriage both to Narcissist. Not my best claim to fame. I was able to keep my nursing license active and went back to work to help me all around. My loss is behind me now. I have never been a quitter, perhaps that was a downside to myself. I am reminded "not everyone will like or love me." So I'm taking stock in me. Hoping the best for you Carlos, the path gets better.
It really is the craziest, most mind warping thing I've ever been through. 2.5 months out and I'm still so confused as to how a human being can treat another so horribly?
Yes- this is the 3rd version of me and I am doing so well without the abuse! The narc situation was the worst situation in my entire life. Was in the toxic situation for 25 years!! I worked very hard for years while he went to law school and supported his practice. Never got anything out of it except harshness, rudeness and
Glad to hear this. I spent so much time trying to be a good husband and wondering why things did not workout. Now I know what the problem was. When i hear other people likeyou share I am encouraged that I made the right decision to leave even though it is hard at times. Thanks!
Going thru the Narc relationship is not a learning curve - it's a learning roller coaster in a dark spooky place! I keep trying to get away, this wasn't what I signed up for, but I didn't know how. This channel and others has been my beacon of hope. Blessings and hope for a better future for all survivors
Liz to leave and not to get back,is so hard. Please find a way,as longer as you be in that relationship the worse. If I reading that,I felt that he discarded me where like a deep cut with a knife. It hurts so much,but these cut as I look back,had to happened. I had stayed till the end of my life,being manipulated. Being so thankful,for every breadcrumb. You deserve more. Sending you blessings and a bit of my power. That's not much but I hope it helps and remember you are not alone.
@@Mariposa62196 Thanks for your kind words. I let him take everything from me, my family, home and possessions. I'm living in emergency accomodation. I've not had contact for months but one of the kids got real sick so I had to contact him. Long complicated story but he managed to make it all about himself and somehow it was my fault. I don't own his blame anymore. I just want to be free. Thanks again
Liz the lord bless you and keep you he makes his face to shine upon you and he is gracious to you he lifts up his countenance upon you and he turns his face towards you and he gives you his beloved his PEACE 🌈🌈God loves you 🌈🌈
@@lizh6420 Me to,but there are no Kids involved. I understand that is a special situation. Blessings to you and your kids. Remember,you are not alone. If you were my neighbour or in every other country and we know how difficult it is. Why,because we go to the fire as you.
@@ESSIEMARIE1998 I have learned more in the last year than I think I have in 28 years! I was a flying monkey and had little knowledge about narcissistic behavior until I was discarded last year and got me and my children into therapy. Andrew's website is a supplement to my therapy along with dr. Ramini and dr. Carter! I have learned so so much and no longer feel alone. Everything now makes so much sense. I'm not crazy. Just working on bettering myself now.❤. What an awakening!
@@Phoenixrises71 , for me it was 20 years, can you image.Yes, you can! I understand about the flying monkey part also. I did that for so many years, I was his cheer leader and would not see what was Infront of me, till I did. I let the most unacceptable things become acceptable. This was another thing I let him steal, my sense of right and wrong, of decency.
Even though we can stand back and see the narcissist for what they are, the twisted games they play, the emotional blackmail they push and the insidious triangulation they set...Its our hearts that keep us blind, hoping theyll, change, hoping we havent wasted all that time with them, wondering if they are the only ones who will ever love us....This is what kept me trapped in my grief. Thanks Andrew again, whenever I feel low I turn to your channel...Youve saved many lives
@@lisamariesmith3610I think she did for a very brief period, very brief. Sometimes I saw a slither of her realself, she would tell me a rare truth about herself which could only hurt her, she would tell me how damaged she was and that I should run as far away from her as possible, that she would lie to me in the future. Then the mask would go back on and all the lies and deceit would start over....maybe all this was another game to her but sometimes it felt like I could see a prisoner inside her own body and mind, maybe I'm a naive fool but I still struggle to think that love is beyond everybody's grasp...even hers.
Isolation post narcissist relationship phase is brutal , absolutely brutal. Thank you, Andrew Can’t wait for the series. This will help so many when we did it alone. All, Courage! Know IT WILL BE BETTER AND YOU WILL HAVE SUPERPOWERS AT THE END OF THE DARKNESS! so much love for this community. Wrapping you all in warm embrace and praying for everyone’s highest good! 🙏✨❤️🕊💪🙌🫶
It's so hard to wrap your mind around all the details, and what's happened. Especially the fact that some creature was objectifying you 24/7 stealing your personality, strengths, dreams/ goals, your vocabulary, trust, heart, health and essence. All to be used in their demonic game, until they cease to exist. If I ever needed proof that evil exists, I got it. Peace and blessings to all
He took my HAIR! Broke my car. Six months in. Seven years recovering. Three years I HAD no choice but to go full time TH-cam therapy!!! I was rock bottom disabled. I did not even KNOW the definition of a "Boundary". I am VERY happy to have lost my deluded "social circle"!! Thanks to this education about Narcissism, I have become my best friend! "Friends", neighbors, vampirish family members, all safely in the past. A few new contacts look promising.
I am so sorry to hear that. They are MONSTERS. Mine almost killed me. Was in the Hospital with severe stomach problems. He also took my money. I'm away from him 11.3 years. I left him, otherwise I'd be dead! Good luck to you, honey..⚘️⚘️
❤❤❤ im no longer people pleaser, i come 1st, 2nd, and 3rd. This feels Sooo good!! Im still in shock, of what i allowed. But Thank You!!! So much Andrew. God Bless You!
Just had my narc mother today tell me that "you didn't want to be this person when you were a little boy" implying that I'm a failure and my younger self would be ashamed of me. The most ironic part is that both her and my narc father worked tirelessly to sabotage all attempts at success I made and them when it didn't work out its my fault and I'm a failure and I'm letting my younger self down. These things are literally demons and no one deserves the trauma the inflict
@@ecwilliams777 please be strong. You are not what they say. Only trying to hurt you. Hopefully you stand up to them. Don’t know your situation. Leave when they start narcissist abuse. Blessings to you
They take everything from you. They LOVE to ruin holidays and special occasions. So sad when the narcissist is your own child. Yes, I'm both an empath and HSP; however, I am starting to put myself first. The smear campaign is REAL. Sadly, the "flying monkeys" around her are quite numerous. Family members just try to keep their distance, because they want to stay on her good side. So, they are of no help; I can't talk about it, even with the trusted ones. I've had to have a very difficult, painful wake-up call. Thank you for helping us through this nightmare, Andrew. 🙏🏻🌻
Hang in there. Try to surround yourself with good people and make good memories at holidays. Narcissists will ruin any occasion that makes their victims happy. I like to go back to places that I had a bad experience with the narcissist and create a new memory with nice people who really like or love me. It helps to minimize that bad memory.
This is a great community to talk to others and share life altering experiences it feels safe here and I enjoy that love you guys love you Andrew! Keep doing what you’re doing! Your making a great impact on others. ♥️😊
The part about moving in and wanting a bigger house, bang on! Then when the relationship / marriage crashes and burns with a narcissist they’ll then try to take it all without contributing a dime. Vile creatures!
They take away a lot of things from you, both material and non. But the most important resource is time, we all know, we can never take it back. Time spent with the narcissist is WASTED and can never be returned. Think about time spent on ruminating after devaluation and discard trying to understand what just happened. I wasn't moving anywhere with my life when being with the narcissist, was always walking on eggshells, and couldn't focus on anything. Didn't have time for my friends. After the discard I found the strength to keep moving forward, I got an amazing new job and started growing in my career. And I know the narcissist wants me 6 feet under the ground like Andrew said, and it's not going to happen. I will continue to raise like a Phoenix! 😇 Namaste.🙏🙏🙏✌️👊 Wishing everyone a wonderful weekend!
This is so accurate. I didn't even know what a narcissist was before my current relationship, these videos have helped so much. I'm in the midst of trying to break the cycle right now. Thank you Andrew so much.
Do you know what Andrew those characters took so much off us and drained us of all our resources......but do you know what....I am finding myself laughing......it’s been a long time since I laughed, really laughed and it’s all because of you and your commitment to helping us. Very Many Thanks Andrew 😊😊☀️🙏🙌
Hi Andrew. Wow, another great topic. The MOST IMPORTANT thing the narcissist took from me was my TIME! My TIME to meet someone with a heart. He took my HEALTH away for 6 months in which I almost died in a Hospital. I missed my money that took me years to save. He took it all, especially my ❤️ HEART. After 11.3 years of no contact, no closure , and losing 5 friends, I pulled thru. I now have NEW friends, I date platonically, and I'm back to myself! It was a rough road for me, but I made it, thank God. I prayed a lot! God bless ALL YOU BEAUTIFUL PEOPLE WHO HAVE SUFFERED & ARE STILL SUFFERING!
you are such a testimony of coming out of the fire - and thriving! I'm so thankful you didn't just survive near death, but you are ENJOYING your life! Thank you for sharing this.
@@ESSIEMARIE1998 Hey Martha, I'm doing well, and I look forward to see all these beautiful people in this room. Martha, we are ALL HEALING TOGETHER..⚘️❤️🕊🕊
@@gratefultobehere Thamk you Chelsea for your kind words. I wish you all the best, and remember always, we are all on a new journey now. A beautiful journey that will bring us ALL happiness and peace of mind..⚘️
So greatful for the information you share. I'm 50 and I've lived through every example you've spoken on. It helps so much to understand why and how so many years of my life were stolen from me. Seeing life differently and trying to make peace with myself and not punish myself for being so naive. Can't be angry at anyone but myself and I don't want to waste anymore of my life because my health physically has been affected by so much pain and suffering. God bless us all and may we all heal and find peace.
Thank you for sharing this. I am older and feel like so much of me has been taken by the narc. I have this self talk that I should have known better. I find it hard to let go of that kind of thinking. Your words help me. Thank you!
Our passion(s) - I think that is what I'm realizing more now. Initially, yes, the physical things and our time and all the things Andrew that you listed (there can be a very very good mini-series on all of this I agree). But I surrendered my creativity and passions. That is a mixture of anger and sadness and depression and I don't know what else as I have become aware. The vision of our deepest heart and destinies. But we overcome and we come out stronger. We have purpose and you've illustrated it clearly Andrew. God bless you and all tonight.
I was definitely financially abused, but it was so sophisticated…under any other circumstance, I would’ve never allowed that. These people are adult groomers. What they give you is a dream, a false security, an illusion and the price for that is pretty much everything…your money, your innocence, your ability to trust and to trust yourself, your time, everything you mentioned. I have done a lot of healing and learning and I’d love to see you do a video about navigating new relationships with newfound wisdom. What to do differently, what to look out for, how not to over-correct. Thanks for all you do! ❤
Extremely destructive. Lessons learned. You got it exactly right! Have to be grateful snd happy! Let them live their life thank you Andrew. Namaste 🥰🎶🙏❤️
He visited my new house , but he knew he would be up against my 2sons, the straw that broke the camel's back ,was when he tried to by pass them and tried to convince me to move in with him, he had a hard job,, and no one would be allowed to break up my family and the strong love and trust we have, I just left and I'm so glad and thankful I had a lucky escape indeed,.bless you Andrew and your work 👍👍👍
I'm thinking about it. This is a short list of what I lost. I lost myself !!!! My self confidence Self worth My nervous system Laughter Joy Peace Fun Health: mental, spiritual, physical emotional Sense of adventure Travelling Freedom to enjoy other peoples company Friends Family Car House Money Career Business Independence Descion making Future planning Community Calmness Tranquility Generosity Trust I almost lost my life! And so much more. My ex narc said these words to me: I will get you! I will get you! And if I don't do it, I will get someone else to do it". Think about that. That was a direct threat to my life. I phoned a policeman that I knew and told him what had been going on including the physical attack. I took photos. When you are building a case, you need proof. Be absolutely quiet about gathering evidence and hide it in several places. The policeman strony advised me to go to court and get a restraining order. I pretended to drive to the shops for groceries, and went to the court. The whole ordeal made me vomit bile. I was physically sick. This is a long a very hectic storey. The case of abuse is registered on the court roll. I had flee to another city. I also reported the case to FAMSA. I did this to have a track record incase he killed me and there would be a history of domestic violence. Narcissits are master manipulstors and supreme liars, and will make people believe they are the victim, not you. These are very very dangerous people. Please please extract yourself from such a person and get to safety! Quietly, make your plans and run. My life was destroyed after 14 years of narcissitic abuse. Before the narc I was fine. Even though I left in 2018, it took a long time to mentally and physically get better. It's also a soul injury which nobody can see. A mortal wound to your spirit. Even today, my life is not the same. I dont live in my own country anymore. And all those king standing friends I thought I had are gone. I often need time out now. Peace and quiet. Love and peace to you all. Stay safe always. Andrew, Namaste dear heart. Thank you. 🙏💜🌹
Taking Action: “If not now… when?” Very good question and powerful words. Asking myself the right questions are just as important as the answers🎉. Great video
Everything you say Andrew is exactly how life was with the cruel, evil narcissist. Devastating, but we are not alone. We thank you from the bottom of our hearts. God bless.
I learned from that toxic nauseating narc issist quicksand ball & chain strain .- Bled me dry right down to the bone .Now I am educating myself to healing everyday .Thank you Andrew
This is the truth .It takes time to find yourself again but it does happen .It's so frightening to be dismantled and destroyed and have the people and word you have happily exsisted in just citicised and rejected.Yet everyone has been so accommodating and all embracing .I know there are friends and family I won't ever see again because of the staining behaviour you are lumped n with where everyone thinks you don't care . I sense now after 7 years it's turning in my favour ....it's incredible the way you have to be unnatural and guarded just to fend off the traps and supply bombs. This is yet another brilliant film guidng us with awarenesses and bringing a brightly lit path to find yourself .Thank you Andrew . I appreciate you more every post .You give so much if yourself .Hope you are healing well too
The narcisist has taken almost everything you have described here! It has been a massive spiritual battle going on for over four years and almost everything of non-spiritual value has been taken away from me! But once you come out on the other side of This fire you become a different, new, strong individual. It has been Absolutely devastating but worth it! Thank you Andrew. God bless you.
I’ve noticed that I am more in tune with my internal cues.. I had many times during my time with narc, that I minimized my irritation and physical signs that things were not right, but I’m much more aware of my interactions now
Thank you again, Andrew! It’s hard to accept that this version is the best one. Why? It doesn’t feel good. I was far more optimistic, happier and trusting before. Go ahead and laugh, but it reminds me of an old Toby Keith song, “I wish I didn’t know now, what I didn’t know then”. The song is about a romantic situation and my own personal Hell involves a parent, but the sentiment is the same. I was in denial then, but at least I still had hope. Now I don’t even have that. I’m not saying this for sympathy and I don’t necessarily want sympathy, but to be honest. The work of educating ourselves is important, but it ain’t fun. Like you always say, healing isn’t linear. It’s more like a rollercoaster. 😵💫😤😭😢🤪🤯🙃
The lord bless you and keep you he makes his face to shine upon you and he is gracious to you he lifts up his countenance upon you and he turns his face towards you and he gives you his beloved his PEACE 🌈🌈God loves you 🌈🌈and he forgives you so forgive your self I find grateful lists help get my mind thinking right
Took my mum years and abuse directed at her in adulthood, for my mum to believe me about all of the physical and mental abuse I had to endure from my sister when I was a kid. After the reaction from my mum, I never bothered trying to tell my dad about what happened with my sister as he has a physically abusive side and would probably have tried to defend her actions. My parents divorced when I was in my teens and both remarried, my sister has now managed to blow up relationships with both my parents and their partners, etc. My parents partners hate what my sister has done to them and how much hurt she has caused. My parents try to stay in contact but it's unbelievably difficult for them to manage. One time about ten years ago my mum was going to drive her car straight into a brick wall because of it all, she just couldn't handle her any more. Extended family don't understand it, they think she's the sweetest person ever. Only just starting to realise how all of this has screwed ME up as much as it has. They take a LOT. Thank you Andrew 🙏
I always felt sorry for her, I know how deep her pain and hurt runs and that she just can't handle life and I feel that despite what's happened, she's my sister and I'd always be there if she really needed me. But thinking about it she's an adult and should be able to see that her actions are hurtful and unreasonable, she should be accountable for her actions, so I don't know why I still feel that. I guess that was a trauma bond just like in my recent relationship
@@_Louise__ hi Louise, you have been through hell, I know how it goes! Keep tuned into the education, in time all the peace 's will settle into place and you will know how to feel, the layers of the truth onion keep peeling back.....gradually! Thinking of you, and send you golden sun beams.🙏💙🏵️🦊🕷️🔥💕🕊️🦋
@@mariageaney2362 Thanks Maria, I never really thought about it like this until today - it just felt like that's how family life is and so I've never told anyone other than my parents, or my best friends in passing when they ask why I don't see her much, because there is other stuff from my childhood that has really influenced my life that I've focused on working through up till now. Starting to realise what a big deal it all was/is. Thank you so much for your comment, it took a fair bit of courage to put that down in text as I've never expressed it to others before 🙏
@@_Louise__ let yourself flow, allow yourself, your soul and spirit to take sanctuary in sweet release. Share your storey as you see fit. Every day there is a revelation. The more we learn the more we are rudely awoken! It has been this way for me. And I embrace the rude awakenings! I am so glad of the confirmations, that I was right after all! Feel like a millionaire in truth and support!🙏💕🫂💙🕊️🦋🦊🕷️🔥
I would say that the thing my ex took from me that I had precious little of to begin with was my ability to trust people, as you’ve mentioned here. 😔 I had a fear of abandonment and he just exploited that. Certainly wasn’t the _only_ thing he did to abuse me *nor* was it the most evil. I know it seems to many here that I recovered in _record_ time, but… credit where credit is due, _he_ made it *easy* to get over him quickly 😁👍 the hardest part of _that_ was acknowledging that it wasn’t _worth_ holding onto the relationship and that he would just _always_ treat me that way. This channel made me step back and look at the big picture and see where that road would lead. 😁🙏 I’m *FOREVER* grateful for that! GREAT video today, Andrew! Again, you read my mind in terms of the _important_ things he took from me that are hard, if not _impossible_ to get back! I hope you had a WONDERFUL day, handsome! XO 😘💋☀️🤗❤️ Love ya! I hope _everyone_ here enjoyed their day! ❤️❤️❤️ you, my friends!!! 🥰
Hello Jennifer. Great topic today. My TIME IS IMPORTANT to me, and that MONSTER took 5 years from me. I'm 11.3 years out now and I thank God I found this room and such "BEAUTIFUL" PEOPLE..⚘️❤️👍💙
@@ESSIEMARIE1998 Hey Martha! I’m doing pretty good, how are you? I _do_ have a bit of a headache tonight 😔 I’m a highly sensitive person, so who knows 🤷♀️ maybe there’s a storm 500 miles off the coast that I don’t know about yet 😛 I swear… I’m just weird like that. We just joke about it in my family. The signal on the tv goes out and I ask my parents if they’d like me to go stand on the roof of the car and face south and see if _that_ works 😛😆 With _me_ it probably _could_ 🌧😒📡 😂
Unfortunately, the main problem was family which sets you up for narcissistic relationships. I'm healing and enjoying my life after decades of all sorts of abuse! Living my own life by my own rules! Relief!!!@
That friendship stuff Hit me hard i was such in a fog by the time I reached out to my best friend since middle school we went to prom together we rented limousines together she was like my sister last I talked to her she went in to get help. Within 5 6 months of not talking , I checked on her she had committed suicide and when I was crying all he told me was I lost people too and never gave a crap about my grief. Now that im free, I'm to late she's gone 😭
Yes, took my health, time, ability to trust, loved ones, joyful attitude, my hair (fell out), investments, respect and peace. All with his incessant lying. Years believing a selfish, immature coward. I’m grateful I’m not like this despicable person who hurt me.
Hi Cheyanne. I was with him (engaged) for 5 years. I can write a book. I'm 11.3 years out, and this is the happiest I've been. TIME healed me, and these rooms. Take care..⚘️
@@jannlewandowski5540 I am so happy for you_I am the happiest I have ever been too,! I am looking back over the years now, and FINALLY my questions are being answered (such a blessing), and now i KNOW what was really going on. SO, it is kind of resurfacing as I look back and see the truth, but there is not pain associated with it any more. Just a knowing. Hugs to you!! WE ARE FREE!!!
Billy, i almost died, but here I am, healthy again, and 11.3 years without the narc. God bless you. TIME helped me, and coming into these videos. Take care...
Until you get rid of his behind,. The narcissist takes everything away from you that meant anything to you !! They keep taking until you feel destroyed and don't even know why ! Thank God months and months ago that the only only way to get myself back was to finally I mean finally go No Contact No Contact No Contact . I'm free and breathing with ease today Andrew ! Great Video as always and is definitely needed for education purposes 🙏🙏🙏
Thank you Andrew. I feel quite torn. Have I made a mistake. Judged unfairly. Been out of the relationship nine months. Very painful ones for me. I am being love bombed again. I wish I could trust. Something tells me to be very careful and try to keep my boundaries. I need your support Andrew. You have educated me so much. Things about Narcissus that I had no idea about .. I continue to work on my boundaries. Thank you again😊❤️🙏🎨🎨
There is so much good stuff being shared here! That feeling of being the only one to have gone through thisis not true. You allare giving me courage and hope to get through. Andrew. Your videos daily are what I look forward to. I thank you and all the folks here forhelpinggo through thisdifficult process. What can I say? This is good stuff!!
Excellent video Andrew. You are right about all that the narc takes. That is what they do. These creatures are capable of taking every thing that you have. Yet they remain Worthless. Stay away. God bless.
So true. I didn’t know what narcissistic abuse was. I’m too kind and forgiving. Not saying anything about my sister’s activities (committing felonies against me and other family members) when she was running a smear campaign against me the whole time. It’s so crazy. But for so long I knew something was wrong with my family but I couldn’t put my finger on it. The gaslighting was what did it for me. The “That never happened, I never said that, you gave me the money” and BS like that. And they are very aware that they are abusing you. And she has so many flying monkeys I feel like I can’t win. But she’s the victim. It’s all so sad because we could have had such a happy family but they destroy relationships. That’s what they love to do.
I’m sorry that you have experienced this! There are so many of us out there, whether it be a narc sister, parent, spouse etc. Personally I wish I had this channel years ago because there was so little information at the time. Congratulations because you’ve come full circle and realize exactly what has happened, and just feel sadness about the whole darn thing. It had nothing to do with you! Now you know you are your own person, and all that matters is you, your accomplishments, contributions and future goals and dreams. 🤗❤️🍎 Go no contact with that sister!
They take away our innocence, our joy, our peace, our friendships, our sex lives, our romantic vibe, our time, our innocent smile, our dignity, our peace to just be, our hard work, our passion for beautiful things, our self- confidence, our life's rhythm ... But God will restore our health and heal our hearts, in the name of Jesus. I used to feel sooooooo sick and confused, but now, I am free!!!! Thank you Jesus! The Lord is good! All glory to God for a man like Andrew! Thank you for your videos; they are so healing.
I regret all those years and all that i sacrificed because i sank deeper and deeper down into severe depression. Im still severly depressed and i have not much will to live even though i try the best i can at the place im in. So much got destroyd in me but the worst is that i will never trust ppl again sadly
What she took from me. My happiness, my laughter, my drive, almost my young so. The reason to live. Then she ghosted me for 9 weeks. We both work in the emergency services and I have to speak to her at times. Last time, she spoke to me like nothing ever happened. Be careful, be strong and support this channel. Much love from the UK ❤️
They take your energy; self esteem; joy; motivation; mental health; power to effect change due to stonewalling, criticism, contempt, and manipulation; it eventually affects your physical health due to being drained; and depleted. Hi from Australia!
Another great video Andrew ❤️. The narc did take my time, I didn’t realise early on that when I was with him, I lived to his timetable, when we got up in the morning, lunch, activities, dinner, film on tv then bed, he has 2 dogs so I never really got a minute peace. Regarding the house, yes, he had a tiny house, I lived in rental, he suggested we buy this 4 bedroom house and a couple of weeks later he was trying to get me out and suggested he got a mortgage to do it, so this is what’s happening now, hopefully I should be out in a few weeks, while he is keeping the house, I heard him ask the new supply if she wanted to move in, he’s only known her a month, history repeating itself, he’s bought 3 houses with 3 women, including me, in the last 7 years. If I can give any advice…..secretly record any arguments and keep back ups. I’m taking my copies to a lawyer to ask for advice on his coercive abuse. Also, DONT give them cash, always transfer the money from your bank account to theirs as then there is a paper trail. 👍
I really literally had no boundaries with him he made me feel a certain type of way that I can be more open than I have been before he made me do things that I know I shouldn't have but I did I believe a lot of the reasons why I was taking advantage of so easily was because back then I was drinking I was drinking everyday all day. So I believe he honed in on my weakness which was alcohol. I am sober today I am much clearer and focused. And I was dealing with a lot of things that I wasn't dealing with if that makes sense. Even though I had this unfortunate chapter in my life I still do believe that it has made me a more better person and a little bit more cautious.
You hit the nail on the head with so many statements you made. I didn't realise she was a narcissist until I got married and had a child with her, that's when the real abuse started and I was also sober enough to realise how bad it was. Now I'm in the middle of an ugly divorce and I am fighting over the custody of my son, or at least a fair arrangement. It's draining me but I'm hanging in there. My son is the only good thing that came out of this relationship. I couldn't imagine life without him.
A narcissist take everything from you! Thank the Lord, I've got back in contact with my mom and we are taking once again. Even though my ex separated us for a few years, everything is great. Even my mom went through a narcissist marriage, crazy huh? Never believe in anything a narcissist says, it's just lies. Believe in yourself and stay strong. Have another song to share Overcomer by Mandisa My God keep ya safe and strong, believe that it will get better. Allow yourself to heal and believe. Thank ya Andrew for another great video.
2 paths to choose from in this life: Path of darkness or Path of light. I didn't understand what unequally yoked meant...it means you are not together on the same path. I've decided the narcissist chose the dark, while I can only exist in the light.
Yes, I have rosen from the ashes, narcissist relationship changed me forever. I have a good knowledge of education on all I been through with her, I have healthy boundaries now, I know what the sighns are with people that are toxic and my empath ability is stronger than its ever been. I have new super power, and I'm very grateful. My depression is gone, im not isolating anymore, my creativity is back , I could never thought I could overcome abuse I've been through and post traumatic like feelings I experienced is come to a halt. Thank you Andrew for all your knowledge and education.
I came from a narc relationship and the fall out was terrible. We were having a few issues (the usual couple fights) and she never wanted to talk about these issues. One day I suggested therapy, and later that evening I got a text saying it's over. Instances of gas lighting and social defamation followed the break up. I did not react because I knew that this was not the life I was going to continue living. It's been a month now and I'm glad I dodged that bullet. I'm 24, working my way up the corporate ladder, and all I desire is to better myself for a genuine relationship in the future.
Fantastic Wish this had been available years ago. I lost eveything but miraculously regained it thanks to a good counsellor, a good lawyer and a no nonsense judge, God rescued me. If you are a victim get out now. Stop at nothing and do not go back. Your mental and physical health are at stake Thank you Andrew. God Bless
Spot on as always. You are so right about how isolation takes on a whole new level post relationship. As you say, it is isolation to the nth degree. Isolation and invisibility are two recurring themes in the unhealthy dynamic. There is personal power in invisibility post relationship because the 'invisibleness' gives us space to process everything and it supports our healing. Thank you Andrew!!! 🙏🙏🙏👌🎯😊🌹
Hello Andrew great video,my narcissistic is very cheap and petty he always has to speak louder then anyone I know,he has taken whatever he can to make his life better!!😎
Another fantastic video, Andrew. Everything you said is true about what they took away from us. I so don't miss my time being wasted. Sitting around on the couch, going to bed extremely late, sleeping in, getting up and the narc not wanting to do anything and all of a sudden the weekend is wasted. The financial abuse was pretty bad too. Sad thing is he made more money than me. They are cheap and they want to give absolutely nothing to the person who is giving them their all.
Mine took my time,texting back every second innocence,love,energy,mental peace and he burdened me with life and children that he never wanted.but I love my children to pieces.i wouldn’t exchange them for the world.
Takes our time, our happiness, our innocence, our peace, our trust, basically everything good, lovely, pure,, true, and replaces it with lies, misery, and pain. Now we fight to restore ourselves, and find ourselves again🙏🕊️❤️ Much love Andrew.
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YES, THEY TAKE OUR TIME! I agree with you 100%
I agree 100 percent with you.
I completely agree. They take everything from us.
I’m not alone, thanks for sharing. It happened to me as well
The verbal abuse was so traumatic, he almost succeeded in shaking my confidence. A couple of months ago I was so depressed and suicidal, I felt 💔 😔 like he almost sucked the life out of me. Not anymore!!! Today I cruised around my city with my little dog 🐶 💕 and we had a fabulous 👌 time. Thank you Andrew! Your video blog has been therapeutic ✨️ ✌️💖😌 Namaste 🙏
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Indie, I am so glad that you are in a better place now. I went through this too and it is a horrible, lonely place to be in. You don't have to be there because you have plenty of us that understand and love you. I am so glad you have a fur baby to love, they are special and loving beyond belief. Much love to you!
At times I feel like I literally was going crazy like for real
Congratulations I'm so happy for you and your little puppy.
Nothing like a dog they’re amazing.
Man, Andrew. I Absolutely LOVE You. At Age 62, I confirm every single word you spoke here. For Me, Mastery arrived after two and a half years of Peaceful Isolation following an entire lifetime of one Narc after another. From September 1960 to July 2020, I endured the whole spectrum of this beginning with My Mother and ending on My Retirement Day. You get through like few others can, concisely, accurately, at the speed of thought. Don't We ALL Love this Brilliant light of yours.
Thank you for sharing this message ☀️🙌💯🙏
They take your health, ruin special events like birthdays, friendships, will to live ……
You can count on the damage
I can relate to you. I was in the Hospital with severe stomach problems. Take care..
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Agreed 👍 💯
All my holidays, special occasion and vacations were ruined by a narcissist. And after some research on this subject I found out that's the common trend among narcissists. Why is that?
When I was younger, I had the belief that most people had some decency in their soul. I was a fool. Many people are stupid, selfish and uncaring. Hard lessons, for sure.
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"Think about that for a minute"
It makes me smile when you say that Andrew, with the look you give.
You give us space, freedom and validation to think for ourselves. All of this taken by the narcs. Thank you for rebuilding my confidence one day at a time. Peace and love to you 💞
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Narcissists steal the very fibre of your being. Thank you for your support and motivational advice.🙏🙏🙏
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Another thing they take from you is the ability to think clearly and communicate succinctly. You become a confused mess due to their constant talking down to you and talking over you. This is also why it's hard to get others to believe that they are the crazy one, not you. The journey out of the narcissistic fog takes time but the freedom and peace you feel is amazing. The time you have lost was not completely wasted. Thanks for another great episode Andrew.
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Evrythink is true but no one belive me
Yes it was baby
The gaslighting is the most destabilizing and everyone is still participating in the sick masquerade. My family has truly shown me exactly how they feel about me.
@@valentinavelkova3480 that's typical. The others are probably narcissistic peices of crap or flying monkeys. Just move on and be happy. Find new people who value and respect you.
So true, I was financially crippled and had to move home, across the country, So the narcissist was able to say anything about me , because I was far away and not around for people to see. I’m not that bad.🙏
I understand completely 💯🙌🙏
P.S. YES, she has broken our family forever. Narcissists are EVIL. 🙏🏻❤️
Great video Andrew. My narcissist definitely took a lot from me. Year's 7 years of abuse. He took all that I had to give and then discarded me. My heart he trampled . My finances definitely left me in shambles. Took all my friends . I was left with nothing. And I still miss him sometimes, even though I know he doesn't care about me . Now I'm learning and healing. One day at a time. Thanks everyone and stay strong everyone.
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Carlos, I was engaged for 5 years. He never had any intentions of marrying me. I'm 11.3 years out. TIME healed me, plus these videos. Good luck to you. ❤️💙
Hi Carlos, right now you are loved and valued...you have walked through the fire and are just starting out again. Mine did the same to me, took everything away, left my life in ruins and then slipped away under cover of darkness. I did miss him at first, wondered if I could have done more, but it's not on you, you are the best, an empath, kind and giving. Yes, it's one day at a time, and Andrew's videos are a life saver. You are here now with this community, please feel loved and cared for🌻
Carlos ....this is for you " the concept of belonging is playing an important role in your life currently...now is a time to thrive in rhe community ...you will flourish as part of a network of like-minded and like-hearted people .Stick to what feels good and resonates with your heart as true .When you understand the value of this community ,you will discover everything you're hoping for...and much more than you're expecting." (From Oracle of The 7 Energies" ) This is not a spam 😉 not an entertainmetn .This is a gift from my heart to your heart Carlos ❤🙌❤
Looks like we all did time for the Narcissist! I had a 26+ year marriage and a 14 month marriage both to Narcissist. Not my best claim to fame. I was able to keep my nursing license active and went back to work to help me all around. My loss is behind me now. I have never been a quitter, perhaps that was a downside to myself. I am reminded "not everyone will like or love me." So I'm taking stock in me. Hoping the best for you Carlos, the path gets better.
It really is the craziest, most mind warping thing I've ever been through. 2.5 months out and I'm still so confused as to how a human being can treat another so horribly?
I understand 💯🙏🙌
I agree, is hard to wrap your head around it?
Yes- this is the 3rd version of me and I am doing so well without the abuse! The narc situation was the worst situation in my entire life. Was in the toxic situation for 25 years!! I worked very hard for years while he went to law school and supported his practice. Never got anything out of it except harshness, rudeness and
Trying to respond on a phone-- ???. Thank you Andrew and love to all. 💕💕
Thank you for sharing ☀️💯🙌🙏
In all my life, I've never been with a MONSTER like the narc I was engaged to. Thank God it's over! God bless you..⚘️❤️
Glad to hear this. I spent so much time trying to be a good husband and wondering why things did not workout. Now I know what the problem was. When i hear other people likeyou share I am encouraged that I made the right decision to leave even though it is hard at times. Thanks!
I have come through this narcissistic challenge stronger and wiser. I can now see it as a blessing in disguise...thank you for these videos, Andrew!
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Going thru the Narc relationship is not a learning curve - it's a learning roller coaster in a dark spooky place! I keep trying to get away, this wasn't what I signed up for, but I didn't know how. This channel and others has been my beacon of hope. Blessings and hope for a better future for all survivors
Liz to leave and not to get back,is so hard. Please find a way,as longer as you be in that relationship the worse. If I reading that,I felt that he discarded me where like a deep cut with a knife. It hurts so much,but these cut as I look back,had to happened. I had stayed till the end of my life,being manipulated. Being so thankful,for every breadcrumb. You deserve more. Sending you blessings and a bit of my power. That's not much but I hope it helps and remember you are not alone.
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@@Mariposa62196 Thanks for your kind words. I let him take everything from me, my family, home and possessions. I'm living in emergency accomodation. I've not had contact for months but one of the kids got real sick so I had to contact him. Long complicated story but he managed to make it all about himself and somehow it was my fault. I don't own his blame anymore. I just want to be free. Thanks again
Liz the lord bless you and keep you he makes his face to shine upon you and he is gracious to you he lifts up his countenance upon you and he turns his face towards you and he gives you his beloved his PEACE 🌈🌈God loves you 🌈🌈
@@lizh6420 Me to,but there are no Kids involved. I understand that is a special situation. Blessings to you and your kids. Remember,you are not alone. If you were my neighbour or in every other country and we know how difficult it is. Why,because we go to the fire as you.
28 years. discarded last year. Healing. Learning and becoming enlightened. Spiritual awakening. ❤ helping my children deal.
Sending healing energy ☀️💯🙌🙏
@@ESSIEMARIE1998 I have learned more in the last year than I think I have in 28 years! I was a flying monkey and had little knowledge about narcissistic behavior until I was discarded last year and got me and my children into therapy. Andrew's website is a supplement to my therapy along with dr. Ramini and dr. Carter! I have learned so so much and no longer feel alone. Everything now makes so much sense. I'm not crazy. Just working on bettering myself now.❤. What an awakening!
@@Phoenixrises71 , for me it was 20 years, can you image.Yes, you can! I understand about the flying monkey part also. I did that for so many years, I was his cheer leader and would not see what was Infront of me, till I did. I let the most unacceptable things become acceptable. This was another thing I let him steal, my sense of right and wrong, of decency.
Even though we can stand back and see the narcissist for what they are, the twisted games they play, the emotional blackmail they push and the insidious triangulation they set...Its our hearts that keep us blind, hoping theyll, change, hoping we havent wasted all that time with them, wondering if they are the only ones who will ever love us....This is what kept me trapped in my grief. Thanks Andrew again, whenever I feel low I turn to your channel...Youve saved many lives
Thank you for sharing this message 🙏🙌☀️💯
They never loved us.
@@lisamariesmith3610I think she did for a very brief period, very brief. Sometimes I saw a slither of her realself, she would tell me a rare truth about herself which could only hurt her, she would tell me how damaged she was and that I should run as far away from her as possible, that she would lie to me in the future. Then the mask would go back on and all the lies and deceit would start over....maybe all this was another game to her but sometimes it felt like I could see a prisoner inside her own body and mind, maybe I'm a naive fool but I still struggle to think that love is beyond everybody's grasp...even hers.
Isolation post narcissist relationship phase is brutal , absolutely brutal. Thank you, Andrew Can’t wait for the series. This will help so many when we did it alone.
All, Courage! Know IT WILL BE BETTER AND YOU WILL HAVE SUPERPOWERS AT THE END OF THE DARKNESS!
so much love for this community. Wrapping you all in warm embrace and praying for everyone’s highest good!
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It's so hard to wrap your mind around all the details, and what's happened. Especially the fact that some creature was objectifying you 24/7 stealing your personality, strengths, dreams/ goals, your vocabulary, trust, heart, health and essence. All to be used in their demonic game, until they cease to exist. If I ever needed proof that evil exists, I got it. Peace and blessings to all
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your vocabulary. Yes. I've not heard this statement yet, but that is huge. God bless you
I absolutely positively agree 💯
He took my HAIR!
Broke my car.
Six months in.
Seven years recovering.
Three years I HAD no choice but to go full time TH-cam therapy!!!
I was rock bottom disabled.
I did not even KNOW the definition of a "Boundary".
I am VERY happy to have lost my deluded "social circle"!!
Thanks to this education about Narcissism, I have become my best friend!
"Friends", neighbors, vampirish family members, all safely in the past.
A few new contacts look promising.
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I am so sorry to hear that. They are MONSTERS. Mine almost killed me. Was in the Hospital with severe stomach problems. He also took my money. I'm away from him 11.3 years. I left him, otherwise I'd be dead! Good luck to you, honey..⚘️⚘️
Sounds like a poem or song I'm singing right along with you Patricia - beautiful!
My narcissist took a lot from me but...I am much stronger now .I finally love myself and I love my life .Thank you Andrew 🍁🙌🍁
Yayy! You win
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❤❤❤ im no longer people pleaser, i come 1st, 2nd, and 3rd. This feels Sooo good!! Im still in shock, of what i allowed. But Thank You!!! So much Andrew. God Bless You!
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Just had my narc mother today tell me that "you didn't want to be this person when you were a little boy" implying that I'm a failure and my younger self would be ashamed of me. The most ironic part is that both her and my narc father worked tirelessly to sabotage all attempts at success I made and them when it didn't work out its my fault and I'm a failure and I'm letting my younger self down. These things are literally demons and no one deserves the trauma the inflict
Be strong those are just narcissistic words. I know they wound. Get out of the trap. Blessings to you
@@karenlacy8950 thank you, Karen! I'm trying my hardest
@@ecwilliams777 please be strong. You are not what they say. Only trying to hurt you. Hopefully you stand up to them. Don’t know your situation. Leave when they start narcissist abuse. Blessings to you
@@karenlacy8950 thank you very much, Karen 🙏🏻. Your words are very helpful
@@ecwilliams777 I want you to be okay. Blessings to you
They take everything from you. They LOVE to ruin holidays and special occasions. So sad when the narcissist is your own child. Yes, I'm both an empath and HSP; however, I am starting to put myself first. The smear campaign is REAL. Sadly, the "flying monkeys" around her are quite numerous. Family members just try to keep their distance, because they want to stay on her good side. So, they are of no help; I can't talk about it, even with the trusted ones. I've had to have a very difficult, painful wake-up call. Thank you for helping us through this nightmare, Andrew. 🙏🏻🌻
I'm just curious... do you ever ask yourself, where did I go wrong in raising a narcissist?
Hang in there. Try to surround yourself with good people and make good memories at holidays. Narcissists will ruin any occasion that makes their victims happy. I like to go back to places that I had a bad experience with the narcissist and create a new memory with nice people who really like or love me. It helps to minimize that bad memory.
This is a great community to talk to others and share life altering experiences it feels safe here and I enjoy that love you guys love you Andrew! Keep doing what you’re doing! Your making a great impact on others. ♥️😊
Thank you for sharing this 😊☀️🙏
We love you too. Keep coming back..❤️⚘️
Well said Serena! I too feel the love of humanity here. 🤔❤🇺🇸
The part about moving in and wanting a bigger house, bang on! Then when the relationship / marriage crashes and burns with a narcissist they’ll then try to take it all without contributing a dime. Vile creatures!
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All properties I paid for but put in the name of the narcissist at his request 😔
They take away a lot of things from you, both material and non. But the most important resource is time, we all know, we can never take it back. Time spent with the narcissist is WASTED and can never be returned. Think about time spent on ruminating after devaluation and discard trying to understand what just happened.
I wasn't moving anywhere with my life when being with the narcissist, was always walking on eggshells, and couldn't focus on anything. Didn't have time for my friends.
After the discard I found the strength to keep moving forward, I got an amazing new job and started growing in my career.
And I know the narcissist wants me 6 feet under the ground like Andrew said, and it's not going to happen. I will continue to raise like a Phoenix! 😇
Namaste.🙏🙏🙏✌️👊
Wishing everyone a wonderful weekend!
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This is so accurate. I didn't even know what a narcissist was before my current relationship, these videos have helped so much. I'm in the midst of trying to break the cycle right now. Thank you Andrew so much.
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Do you know what Andrew those characters took so much off us and drained us of all our resources......but do you know what....I am finding myself laughing......it’s been a long time since I laughed, really laughed and it’s all because of you and your commitment to helping us. Very Many Thanks Andrew 😊😊☀️🙏🙌
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Hi Andrew. Wow, another great topic. The MOST IMPORTANT thing the narcissist took from me was my TIME! My TIME to meet someone with a heart. He took my HEALTH away for 6 months in which I almost died in a Hospital. I missed my money that took me years to save. He took it all, especially my ❤️ HEART. After 11.3 years of no contact, no closure , and losing 5 friends, I pulled thru. I now have NEW friends, I date platonically, and I'm back to myself!
It was a rough road for me, but I made it, thank God. I prayed a lot! God bless ALL YOU BEAUTIFUL PEOPLE WHO HAVE SUFFERED & ARE STILL SUFFERING!
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you are such a testimony of coming out of the fire - and thriving! I'm so thankful you didn't just survive near death, but you are ENJOYING your life! Thank you for sharing this.
@@ESSIEMARIE1998 Hey Martha, I'm doing well, and I look forward to see all these beautiful people in this room. Martha, we are ALL HEALING TOGETHER..⚘️❤️🕊🕊
@@gratefultobehere Thamk you Chelsea for your kind words. I wish you all the best, and remember always, we are all on a new journey now. A beautiful journey that will bring us ALL happiness and peace of mind..⚘️
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26 years of me constantly giving,caring....now just emptiness
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So greatful for the information you share. I'm 50 and I've lived through every example you've spoken on. It helps so much to understand why and how so many years of my life were stolen from me. Seeing life differently and trying to make peace with myself and not punish myself for being so naive. Can't be angry at anyone but myself and I don't want to waste anymore of my life because my health physically has been affected by so much pain and suffering. God bless us all and may we all heal and find peace.
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Thank you for sharing this. I am older and feel like so much of me has been taken by the narc. I have this self talk that I should have known better. I find it hard to let go of that kind of thinking. Your words help me. Thank you!
Our passion(s) - I think that is what I'm realizing more now. Initially, yes, the physical things and our time and all the things Andrew that you listed (there can be a very very good mini-series on all of this I agree). But I surrendered my creativity and passions. That is a mixture of anger and sadness and depression and I don't know what else as I have become aware. The vision of our deepest heart and destinies. But we overcome and we come out stronger. We have purpose and you've illustrated it clearly Andrew. God bless you and all tonight.
Thank you 🙏💯☀️
I was definitely financially abused, but it was so sophisticated…under any other circumstance, I would’ve never allowed that. These people are adult groomers. What they give you is a dream, a false security, an illusion and the price for that is pretty much everything…your money, your innocence, your ability to trust and to trust yourself, your time, everything you mentioned. I have done a lot of healing and learning and I’d love to see you do a video about navigating new relationships with newfound wisdom. What to do differently, what to look out for, how not to over-correct. Thanks for all you do! ❤
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Extremely destructive. Lessons learned. You got it exactly right! Have to be grateful snd happy! Let them live their life thank you Andrew. Namaste 🥰🎶🙏❤️
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They take your soul They soul killing creatures..
He visited my new house , but he knew he would be up against my 2sons, the straw that broke the camel's back ,was when he tried to by pass them and tried to convince me to move in with him, he had a hard job,, and no one would be allowed to break up my family and the strong love and trust we have, I just left and I'm so glad and thankful I had a lucky escape indeed,.bless you Andrew and your work 👍👍👍
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This is hundred percent me! I’m just shocked how you nailed it. Wow!!!!
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I'm thinking about it. This is a short list of what I lost.
I lost myself !!!!
My self confidence
Self worth
My nervous system
Laughter
Joy
Peace
Fun
Health: mental, spiritual, physical emotional
Sense of adventure
Travelling
Freedom to enjoy other peoples company
Friends
Family
Car
House
Money
Career
Business
Independence
Descion making
Future planning
Community
Calmness
Tranquility
Generosity
Trust
I almost lost my life!
And so much more.
My ex narc said these words to me:
I will get you! I will get you! And if I don't do it, I will get someone else to do it". Think about that.
That was a direct threat to my life.
I phoned a policeman that I knew and told him what had been going on including the physical attack. I took photos.
When you are building a case, you need proof.
Be absolutely quiet about gathering evidence and hide it in several places. The policeman strony advised me to go to court and get a restraining order. I pretended to drive to the shops for groceries, and went to the court. The whole ordeal made me vomit bile. I was physically sick. This is a long a very hectic storey. The case of abuse is registered on the court roll. I had flee to another city. I also reported the case to FAMSA.
I did this to have a track record incase he killed me and there would be a history of domestic violence. Narcissits are master manipulstors and supreme liars, and will make people believe they are the victim, not you.
These are very very dangerous people. Please please extract yourself from such a person and get to safety! Quietly, make your plans and run.
My life was destroyed after 14 years of narcissitic abuse. Before the narc I was fine.
Even though I left in 2018, it took a long time to mentally and physically get better. It's also a soul injury which nobody can see. A mortal wound to your spirit.
Even today, my life is not the same. I dont live in my own country anymore. And all those king standing friends I thought I had are gone.
I often need time out now. Peace and quiet.
Love and peace to you all. Stay safe always.
Andrew, Namaste dear heart. Thank you. 🙏💜🌹
Believing in yourself was the hardest for me as they belittle you I never felt good enough I know better now
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Taking Action: “If not now… when?” Very good question and powerful words. Asking myself the right questions are just as important as the answers🎉. Great video
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Sometimes the narcissist is financially generous, but they stay their narcissistic manipulative self and nothing changes. Cannot always trust them.
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@@ESSIEMARIE1998 So true.
We must never trust them and must never be obligated to them.
Everything you say Andrew is exactly how life was with the cruel, evil narcissist. Devastating, but we are not alone. We thank you from the bottom of our hearts. God bless.
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🤔What do you call a narcissist criminal walking down the stairs?
A condescending con descending.
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@@ESSIEMARIE1998 Hi Martha! 😊💖ABSOLUTELY! 💫✨🤩🌟⭐️✨
@@gratefultobehere Hi Chelsea 😄💖🌟✨
@@Star-ze8dh good evening Star - hope you're great
Lol! Now that is so funny. Thanks for sharing. 🤣😂
Andrew your spot on on Every Situation 💥
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I learned from that toxic nauseating narc issist quicksand ball & chain strain .- Bled me dry right down to the bone .Now I am educating myself to healing everyday .Thank you Andrew
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This is the truth .It takes time to find yourself again but it does happen .It's so frightening to be dismantled and destroyed and have the people and word you have happily exsisted in just citicised and rejected.Yet everyone has been so accommodating and all embracing .I know there are friends and family I won't ever see again because of the staining behaviour you are lumped n with where everyone thinks you don't care .
I sense now after 7 years it's turning in my favour ....it's incredible the way you have to be unnatural and guarded just to fend off the traps and supply bombs.
This is yet another brilliant film guidng us with awarenesses and bringing a brightly lit
path to find yourself .Thank you Andrew .
I appreciate you more every post .You give so much if yourself .Hope you are healing well too
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He took so much from me. Pride, friends and my money, but he never took my soul and my will to live a wholesome life! Done!!
I understand completely 💯🙌🙏
The narcisist has taken almost everything you have described here! It has been a massive spiritual battle going on for over four years and almost everything of non-spiritual value has been taken away from me! But once you come out on the other side of This fire you become a different, new, strong individual. It has been Absolutely devastating but worth it! Thank you Andrew. God bless you.
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Narcissists are in a relationship with you to 'Silently Destroy Your Soul '.....
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I’ve noticed that I am more in tune with my internal cues.. I had many times during my time with narc, that I minimized my irritation and physical signs that things were not right, but I’m much more aware of my interactions now
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Thank you again, Andrew! It’s hard to accept that this version is the best one. Why? It doesn’t feel good. I was far more optimistic, happier and trusting before. Go ahead and laugh, but it reminds me of an old Toby Keith song, “I wish I didn’t know now, what I didn’t know then”. The song is about a romantic situation and my own personal Hell involves a parent, but the sentiment is the same. I was in denial then, but at least I still had hope. Now I don’t even have that. I’m not saying this for sympathy and I don’t necessarily want sympathy, but to be honest. The work of educating ourselves is important, but it ain’t fun. Like you always say, healing isn’t linear. It’s more like a rollercoaster. 😵💫😤😭😢🤪🤯🙃
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The lord bless you and keep you he makes his face to shine upon you and he is gracious to you he lifts up his countenance upon you and he turns his face towards you and he gives you his beloved his PEACE 🌈🌈God loves you 🌈🌈and he forgives you so forgive your self I find grateful lists help get my mind thinking right
Took my mum years and abuse directed at her in adulthood, for my mum to believe me about all of the physical and mental abuse I had to endure from my sister when I was a kid. After the reaction from my mum, I never bothered trying to tell my dad about what happened with my sister as he has a physically abusive side and would probably have tried to defend her actions. My parents divorced when I was in my teens and both remarried, my sister has now managed to blow up relationships with both my parents and their partners, etc. My parents partners hate what my sister has done to them and how much hurt she has caused. My parents try to stay in contact but it's unbelievably difficult for them to manage. One time about ten years ago my mum was going to drive her car straight into a brick wall because of it all, she just couldn't handle her any more. Extended family don't understand it, they think she's the sweetest person ever. Only just starting to realise how all of this has screwed ME up as much as it has. They take a LOT. Thank you Andrew 🙏
I always felt sorry for her, I know how deep her pain and hurt runs and that she just can't handle life and I feel that despite what's happened, she's my sister and I'd always be there if she really needed me. But thinking about it she's an adult and should be able to see that her actions are hurtful and unreasonable, she should be accountable for her actions, so I don't know why I still feel that. I guess that was a trauma bond just like in my recent relationship
@@_Louise__ hi Louise, you have been through hell, I know how it goes! Keep tuned into the education, in time all the peace 's will settle into place and you will know how to feel, the layers of the truth onion keep peeling back.....gradually!
Thinking of you, and send you golden sun beams.🙏💙🏵️🦊🕷️🔥💕🕊️🦋
@@mariageaney2362 Thanks Maria, I never really thought about it like this until today - it just felt like that's how family life is and so I've never told anyone other than my parents, or my best friends in passing when they ask why I don't see her much, because there is other stuff from my childhood that has really influenced my life that I've focused on working through up till now. Starting to realise what a big deal it all was/is. Thank you so much for your comment, it took a fair bit of courage to put that down in text as I've never expressed it to others before 🙏
@@_Louise__ let yourself flow, allow yourself, your soul and spirit to take sanctuary in sweet release. Share your storey as you see fit.
Every day there is a revelation.
The more we learn the more we are rudely awoken!
It has been this way for me.
And I embrace the rude awakenings! I am so glad of the confirmations, that I was right after all! Feel like a millionaire in truth and support!🙏💕🫂💙🕊️🦋🦊🕷️🔥
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I would say that the thing my ex took from me that I had precious little of to begin with was my ability to trust people, as you’ve mentioned here. 😔 I had a fear of abandonment and he just exploited that. Certainly wasn’t the _only_ thing he did to abuse me *nor* was it the most evil. I know it seems to many here that I recovered in _record_ time, but… credit where credit is due, _he_ made it *easy* to get over him quickly 😁👍 the hardest part of _that_ was acknowledging that it wasn’t _worth_ holding onto the relationship and that he would just _always_ treat me that way. This channel made me step back and look at the big picture and see where that road would lead. 😁🙏 I’m *FOREVER* grateful for that!
GREAT video today, Andrew! Again, you read my mind in terms of the _important_ things he took from me that are hard, if not _impossible_ to get back! I hope you had a WONDERFUL day, handsome! XO 😘💋☀️🤗❤️ Love ya!
I hope _everyone_ here enjoyed their day! ❤️❤️❤️ you, my friends!!! 🥰
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@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone 😊 You’re welcome Andrew! Hope you’re enjoying your evening 🤗❤️
Hello Jennifer. Great topic today. My TIME IS IMPORTANT to me, and that MONSTER took 5 years from me. I'm 11.3 years out now and I thank God I found this room and such "BEAUTIFUL" PEOPLE..⚘️❤️👍💙
@@ESSIEMARIE1998 Hey Martha! I’m doing pretty good, how are you? I _do_ have a bit of a headache tonight 😔 I’m a highly sensitive person, so who knows 🤷♀️ maybe there’s a storm 500 miles off the coast that I don’t know about yet 😛 I swear… I’m just weird like that. We just joke about it in my family. The signal on the tv goes out and I ask my parents if they’d like me to go stand on the roof of the car and face south and see if _that_ works 😛😆 With _me_ it probably _could_ 🌧😒📡 😂
@@jannlewandowski5540 Me too, Jann! It’s AWESOME here! I ❤️❤️❤️ all the friends I’ve made here!!! It means _everything_ to me!!!
Unfortunately, the main problem was family which sets you up for narcissistic relationships. I'm healing and enjoying my life after decades of all sorts of abuse! Living my own life by my own rules! Relief!!!@
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That friendship stuff Hit me hard i was such in a fog by the time I reached out to my best friend since middle school we went to prom together we rented limousines together she was like my sister last I talked to her she went in to get help. Within 5 6 months of not talking , I checked on her she had committed suicide and when I was crying all he told me was I lost people too and never gave a crap about my grief. Now that im free, I'm to late she's gone 😭
Sending healing energy 🙏🙌☀️
Yes, took my health, time, ability to trust, loved ones, joyful attitude, my hair (fell out), investments, respect and peace. All with his incessant lying.
Years believing a selfish, immature coward. I’m grateful I’m not like this despicable person who hurt me.
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So much truth. I see your pain in your words. We love and appreciate you. 🙏
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Great video. Yep. So many things that cannot be covered in 10 minutes. More on this please.
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Hi Cheyanne. I was with him (engaged) for 5 years. I can write a book. I'm 11.3 years out, and this is the happiest I've been. TIME healed me, and these rooms. Take care..⚘️
@@jannlewandowski5540 I am so happy for you_I am the happiest I have ever been too,! I am looking back over the years now, and FINALLY my questions are being answered (such a blessing), and now i KNOW what was really going on. SO, it is kind of resurfacing as I look back and see the truth, but there is not pain associated with it any more. Just a knowing. Hugs to you!! WE ARE FREE!!!
Thank you for giving me clarity. It is always good to hear the truth no matter how brutal it is ❤🙏
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Billy, i almost died, but here I am, healthy again, and 11.3 years without the narc. God bless you. TIME helped me, and coming into these videos. Take care...
Yes , I am doing well . No one takes nothing from me anymore
Ps. Love your words of encouragement. Everyday. For healing.
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Wow it’s amazing to see how many people relate to the craziness cruelty we’ve all been through.
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Until you get rid of his behind,. The narcissist takes everything away from you that meant anything to you !! They keep taking until you feel destroyed and don't even know why ! Thank God months and months ago that the only only way to get myself back was to finally I mean finally go No Contact No Contact No Contact . I'm free and breathing with ease today Andrew ! Great Video as always and is definitely needed for education purposes 🙏🙏🙏
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Thank you Andrew. I feel quite torn. Have I made a mistake. Judged unfairly. Been out of the relationship nine months. Very painful ones for me. I am being love bombed again. I wish I could trust. Something tells me to be very careful and try to keep my boundaries. I need your support Andrew. You have educated me so much. Things about Narcissus that I had no idea about .. I continue to work on my boundaries. Thank you again😊❤️🙏🎨🎨
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There is so much good stuff being shared here! That feeling of being the only one to have gone through thisis not true. You allare giving me courage and hope to get through. Andrew. Your videos daily are what I look forward to. I thank you and all the folks here forhelpinggo through thisdifficult process. What can I say? This is good stuff!!
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Excellent video Andrew. You are right about all that the narc takes. That is what they do. These creatures are capable of taking every thing that you have. Yet they remain Worthless. Stay away. God bless.
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So true. I didn’t know what narcissistic abuse was. I’m too kind and forgiving. Not saying anything about my sister’s activities (committing felonies against me and other family members) when she was running a smear campaign against me the whole time. It’s so crazy. But for so long I knew something was wrong with my family but I couldn’t put my finger on it. The gaslighting was what did it for me. The “That never happened, I never said that, you gave me the money” and BS like that. And they are very aware that they are abusing you. And she has so many flying monkeys I feel like I can’t win. But she’s the victim. It’s all so sad because we could have had such a happy family but they destroy relationships. That’s what they love to do.
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I’m sorry that you have experienced this! There are so many of us out there, whether it be a narc sister, parent, spouse etc. Personally I wish I had this channel years ago because there was so little information at the time. Congratulations because you’ve come full circle and realize exactly what has happened, and just feel sadness about the whole darn thing. It had nothing to do with you! Now you know you are your own person, and all that matters is you, your accomplishments, contributions and future goals and dreams. 🤗❤️🍎 Go no contact with that sister!
They take away our innocence, our joy, our peace, our friendships, our sex lives, our romantic vibe, our time, our innocent smile, our dignity, our peace to just be, our hard work, our passion for beautiful things, our self- confidence, our life's rhythm ...
But God will restore our health and heal our hearts, in the name of Jesus.
I used to feel sooooooo sick and confused, but now, I am free!!!!
Thank you Jesus! The Lord is good!
All glory to God for a man like Andrew!
Thank you for your videos; they are so healing.
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This is a tough one. Why, now, I work hard to stay present.
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I regret all those years and all that i sacrificed because i sank deeper and deeper down into severe depression. Im still severly depressed and i have not much will to live even though i try the best i can at the place im in. So much got destroyd in me but the worst is that i will never trust ppl again sadly
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@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone Thank you Andrew ❤️ I wish you a goodnight and sweet dreams 😴
What she took from me. My happiness, my laughter, my drive, almost my young so. The reason to live. Then she ghosted me for 9 weeks. We both work in the emergency services and I have to speak to her at times. Last time, she spoke to me like nothing ever happened. Be careful, be strong and support this channel. Much love from the UK ❤️
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Thank you Andrew. The one person who has it completely nailed. You have the knowledge, the wisdom, the strength to help others. what a gift.
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They take your energy; self esteem; joy; motivation; mental health; power to effect change due to stonewalling, criticism, contempt, and manipulation; it eventually affects your physical health due to being drained; and depleted. Hi from Australia!
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Nailed it. Absolutely nailed it, Andrew. It's taken me many, many years to understand it, and heal from it. I Thank God, I have.
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Anthony is SO chill😌💙
Another great video Andrew ❤️. The narc did take my time, I didn’t realise early on that when I was with him, I lived to his timetable, when we got up in the morning, lunch, activities, dinner, film on tv then bed, he has 2 dogs so I never really got a minute peace.
Regarding the house, yes, he had a tiny house, I lived in rental, he suggested we buy this 4 bedroom house and a couple of weeks later he was trying to get me out and suggested he got a mortgage to do it, so this is what’s happening now, hopefully I should be out in a few weeks, while he is keeping the house, I heard him ask the new supply if she wanted to move in, he’s only known her a month, history repeating itself, he’s bought 3 houses with 3 women, including me, in the last 7 years.
If I can give any advice…..secretly record any arguments and keep back ups. I’m taking my copies to a lawyer to ask for advice on his coercive abuse.
Also, DONT give them cash, always transfer the money from your bank account to theirs as then there is a paper trail. 👍
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They destroy your peace and joy and then when the narcissist is not finished, they want to take your soul. Go no contact and don't ever look back.
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I really literally had no boundaries with him he made me feel a certain type of way that I can be more open than I have been before he made me do things that I know I shouldn't have but I did I believe a lot of the reasons why I was taking advantage of so easily was because back then I was drinking I was drinking everyday all day. So I believe he honed in on my weakness which was alcohol. I am sober today I am much clearer and focused. And I was dealing with a lot of things that I wasn't dealing with if that makes sense. Even though I had this unfortunate chapter in my life I still do believe that it has made me a more better person and a little bit more cautious.
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@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone your welcome 🙂
Great video 🌈🌈God bless you brother 🌈🌈
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So true, thank you💯 Namaste, strength, love much, and peace🙌🌠
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Such clarify and confirmation. I pray all who read and listen are becoming more strong and set on truth than ever before. Thank you again❤
You hit the nail on the head with so many statements you made. I didn't realise she was a narcissist until I got married and had a child with her, that's when the real abuse started and I was also sober enough to realise how bad it was. Now I'm in the middle of an ugly divorce and I am fighting over the custody of my son, or at least a fair arrangement. It's draining me but I'm hanging in there. My son is the only good thing that came out of this relationship. I couldn't imagine life without him.
Hi Andrew, Demons take everything from you, they breake your boundries again and again, You guys, listen to Andrew he got this❤
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@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone. Andrew you are wellcome ✊❤.
A narcissist take everything from you!
Thank the Lord, I've got back in contact with my mom and we are taking once again. Even though my ex separated us for a few years, everything is great. Even my mom went through a narcissist marriage, crazy huh?
Never believe in anything a narcissist says, it's just lies.
Believe in yourself and stay strong.
Have another song to share
Overcomer by Mandisa
My God keep ya safe and strong, believe that it will get better. Allow yourself to heal and believe.
Thank ya Andrew for another great video.
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2 paths to choose from in this life:
Path of darkness or
Path of light.
I didn't understand what unequally yoked meant...it means you are not together on
the same path.
I've decided the narcissist chose the dark, while I can only exist in the light.
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Great video! U are my life line Andrew!!! God bless you 😊
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you described my wife 100 percent!! Im switching gears in my life and thank you for opening my eyes
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The narcissists prevented me from getting anything or anywhere.
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Yes, I have rosen from the ashes, narcissist relationship changed me forever. I have a good knowledge of education on all I been through with her, I have healthy boundaries now, I know what the sighns are with people that are toxic and my empath ability is stronger than its ever been. I have new super power, and I'm very grateful. My depression is gone, im not isolating anymore, my creativity is back , I could never thought I could overcome abuse I've been through and post traumatic like feelings I experienced is come to a halt. Thank you Andrew for all your knowledge and education.
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I came from a narc relationship and the fall out was terrible. We were having a few issues (the usual couple fights) and she never wanted to talk about these issues. One day I suggested therapy, and later that evening I got a text saying it's over. Instances of gas lighting and social defamation followed the break up. I did not react because I knew that this was not the life I was going to continue living. It's been a month now and I'm glad I dodged that bullet. I'm 24, working my way up the corporate ladder, and all I desire is to better myself for a genuine relationship in the future.
Sending healing energy and strength 🙌🙏💯
@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone Thank you for the videos, I listen to them when I'm working.
People are like countries -- need boundaries with security cams (red flag warnings)
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Fantastic
Wish this had been available years ago.
I lost eveything but miraculously regained it thanks to a good counsellor, a good lawyer and a no nonsense judge, God rescued me.
If you are a victim get out now. Stop at nothing and do not go back. Your mental and physical health are at stake
Thank you Andrew. God Bless
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Spot on as always. You are so right about how isolation takes on a whole new level post relationship.
As you say, it is isolation to the nth degree. Isolation and invisibility are two recurring themes in the unhealthy dynamic.
There is personal power in invisibility post relationship because the 'invisibleness' gives us space to process everything and it supports our healing.
Thank you Andrew!!! 🙏🙏🙏👌🎯😊🌹
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Hello Andrew great video,my narcissistic is very cheap and petty he always has to speak louder then anyone I know,he has taken whatever he can to make his life better!!😎
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Another fantastic video, Andrew. Everything you said is true about what they took away from us. I so don't miss my time being wasted. Sitting around on the couch, going to bed extremely late, sleeping in, getting up and the narc not wanting to do anything and all of a sudden the weekend is wasted. The financial abuse was pretty bad too. Sad thing is he made more money than me. They are cheap and they want to give absolutely nothing to the person who is giving them their all.
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Truth ☝ ☝
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Mine took my time,texting back every second innocence,love,energy,mental peace and he burdened me with life and children that he never wanted.but I love my children to pieces.i wouldn’t exchange them for the world.
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Thank you for your healing.
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