My narc Is addicted to sex alcohol gambling,drama Fighting and I guess I don’t know what else however, however, thank God I’m free of them and they’ve never tried to Hoover me since I quit seeing them two years ago. Thank you for your videos.
They are never happy no matter who is next to them. Even if it’s the most kind, beautiful inside out , loyal, sweet, genuine human being. It’s NEVER enough. And they find your imperfections and throw them in your face. God forbid you gained a pound or have a blemish. It’s the end. Because they are “perfect”…🧐 You can’t fix a black hole, so don’t waste your time. (Especially with ♏️ men btw)… Always run a full background check on anyone you date. A lot of narcissists have a criminal history. Never trust anyone until proven trustworthy. Be safe! ❤
Its crazy they will never be happy. I was with one 2 years into it she started cutting off her side supplies but I found out about the others ones and dropped her after she dropped the other ones.
She broadcasted to everyone in the community and everywhere in the community that “she’s never been happier in her life“ after she ran off and discarded me. The thing is, I know who she is, the community doesn’t know who she is….when I see her what I see is a person who is not happy at all, but making vain efforts to purport happiness. It’s all a big joke!
When she discarded me a couple months later, she put on Facebook. This is a true smile, playing the victim card. She probably discarded you too because you were setting up boundaries and stuff would be my guest.
the one thing that sticks out to me that he said before i knew he was a narc...."you are so independent" I thought that was so strange cuz he knew that before he got with me didnt he? so bizarre
"A babysitting, Bill paying Teddy bear" I love it, that IS exactly what it boils down to. I do not feel sorry for them though I too, had childhood trauma and different trauma as an adult but I never took it out on anyone. Thanks though Jess amazing as always ❤
Sounds like what I was to her.. the discarding towards the end was mind blowing. Could never imagine treating anyone, let alone someone you said you loved like they treated me. Cold and rotten.. all I did was take care of her. She left her cat that she supposedly DEARLY loved as well that she swore she'd take. Guess the cat and I are one in the same. She's turning 50 and back at home with mom and dad.. again. I'm so much happier being alone.. I'll have more money to myself as well. Can go home without wondering what I'm coming home to!
your clip helped me to hate them less and instead look at them as mentally ill. Of course this doesn't change the fact they need to be avoided at all costs.
My narc faunted the fact that she wasn't able to form attachments, but she insisted that that doesn't mean she was using or exploiting people. The second part made me mad more than anything.
Learning about narcissism, I realized no, they can't be alone, my mother was an overt narc. Listening to this video, I'm just noticing my mother was rarely alone.
I just can’t get past the idea that he’s doing so well after leaving me for dead. He’s been with the new supply for nearly a year and I’m still trying to get back on my feet.
They are demonic. Mine just forgot about me all of a sudden. Who cares what he is doing. Believe me on the inside they are not doing well. They are miserable sea creatures putting up a front. They can never be happy. They can only act. No matter who they are with. Most likely another narc or a desperate push over.
I used to belong to a group who regularly went out to listen to music and dance. The ringleader mystified me after awhile because I couldn't figure out what was driving her to be out so much. She wasn't really moved by the music or the people from what I could see. I thought maybe she was just shy or restrained. Eventually I figured out she was a covert narc, she needed the attention. I had no idea. I sure learned when I extricate myself and get pressured and smeared. Very sneaky indeed.
He seems perfectly happy with her. she bought him a car and supports him financially. They have been together for five years and although he was the one who discarded me he keeps trying to contact me and is still driving by my place from time to time. Their head is a mess...
Ive been with narc right, sometimes it feels to me like im a narcissist. Sometimes it feels like whatever she is like she transferred it to me.. i can see it sometimes " like yo what you did there was not nice" Tell me is it normal? I don't want to be like this
Spot on my ex was like this and violent I had to get away she injured me bad physically and not realizing the degree of it with no real sense of conciseness and empathy I couldn’t forgive her repeating the same mistakes and really like they have mental issues if they know or not what their doing and behaving exhausting and total hell split persons behaviour and I forgived her many times and she was a piece of shit always wanted to argue instead of realizing enjoying life a real handicap not realizing to loving her until she makes me hate her badly i just miss the first months of first year 2019 memories it was after everything 2020 everything went to hell
You may make it sound as if they had horrible life which you wouldn't want to live, but actually they are "satisfied" with it. Not like happy but if you think about it, they ALWAYS have supply, ALWAYS are distracted with someone or something exciting. They wouldn't want it to be different. Since they get quickly bored, finding new people only stimulates their need = they are not bored anymore + get attention + new supply = fun. Its like it scratches the right spot. I have been best friend with female narcissist for 11 years. Saw her cry only 1 time in life, the second time she only had tears in eyes. She never was sad or bothered by something or afraid. She was all about fun, good time etc. I doubt someone can pretend so much. She really wasnt miserable. So where is the proof that narcissists are miserable?
I always felt exhausted just watching him go out to open mic nights to play his guitar and do his Dylan imitation. The man was 63 and I could never understand his need to be out till late for something that didn't even pay $2. I just wanted to watch a movie and grow old together. Never felt so alone as I did then. Now after 6 years of education, I realise he was a narc and a psychopath. All those 40 yrs of torture are finally explained. I divorced him after he ran off with some ol gal he knew before me. Losers!
I had a narc friend who was married before I met them. From what I can gather them and their partner were obsessed with each other. The partner did literally everything for them and kind of owned and babied them (I dont know the partners mental state but from what I can gather seemed a well liked person). But then the partner died and left the narc devastated. I can see that the narc has lost a bit of a doormat and amazing supply, but what I cant get my head around is the closeness and apparent happiness of that relationship. It doesnt seem to fit with narc behaviour.
When they laugh there’s no warmth in it !
They will NEVER be happy.
I love you! I’m 6 years in and still learning. I just laugh now on how they struggle ! Karma does come true!
I hope so
You gotta wait… they do it all to themselves!!!
They also can’t have any fun or genuinely laugh
My narc Is addicted to sex alcohol gambling,drama Fighting and I guess I don’t know what else however, however, thank God I’m free of them and they’ve never tried to Hoover me since I quit seeing them two years ago. Thank you for your videos.
Same.
She's been gone almost a year and I haven't heard a peep, whinny, or a moo from her.
@@sirg-had8821 a moo 🐄🐮
SAVAGE
They are never happy no matter who is next to them. Even if it’s the most kind, beautiful inside out , loyal, sweet, genuine human being. It’s NEVER enough. And they find your imperfections and throw them in your face. God forbid you gained a pound or have a blemish. It’s the end. Because they are “perfect”…🧐
You can’t fix a black hole, so don’t waste your time. (Especially with ♏️ men btw)…
Always run a full background check on anyone you date. A lot of narcissists have a criminal history. Never trust anyone until proven trustworthy. Be safe! ❤
So true Jess. Pride keeps them from getting help 😐
Its crazy they will never be happy. I was with one 2 years into it she started cutting off her side supplies but I found out about the others ones and dropped her after she dropped the other ones.
Thinking about it now must be the hardest narcissistic injury dealt 😂
I told the covert narcissist that he will never find what he's looking for. I'm not talking to him but I told him that along time ago.
She broadcasted to everyone in the community and everywhere in the community that “she’s never been happier in her life“ after she ran off and discarded me. The thing is, I know who she is, the community doesn’t know who she is….when I see her what I see is a person who is not happy at all, but making vain efforts to purport happiness. It’s all a big joke!
When she discarded me a couple months later, she put on Facebook. This is a true smile, playing the victim card. She probably discarded you too because you were setting up boundaries and stuff would be my guest.
@@Thunder-lightning852 that was part of it, trying to establish boundaries, which I know she did not like!
Same
the one thing that sticks out to me that he said before i knew he was a narc...."you are so independent" I thought that was so strange cuz he knew that before he got with me didnt he? so bizarre
My X used to say….whatever u want you seem to get…well you have to be positive to manifest
They know what they do, but don't know why they do it. I believe
"A babysitting, Bill paying Teddy bear" I love it, that IS exactly what it boils down to. I do not feel sorry for them though I too, had childhood trauma and different trauma as an adult but I never took it out on anyone. Thanks though Jess amazing as always ❤
Sounds like what I was to her.. the discarding towards the end was mind blowing.
Could never imagine treating anyone, let alone someone you said you loved like they treated me. Cold and rotten.. all I did was take care of her.
She left her cat that she supposedly DEARLY loved as well that she swore she'd take. Guess the cat and I are one in the same.
She's turning 50 and back at home with mom and dad.. again.
I'm so much happier being alone.. I'll have more money to myself as well. Can go home without wondering what I'm coming home to!
Thank you Jess. I was down thinking that the exnarc got away with abuse when this video popped up. They live their karma every day.
your clip helped me to hate them less and instead look at them as mentally ill. Of course this doesn't change the fact they need to be avoided at all costs.
“ It’s business.” Good insight. They don’t have feelings, only inward when they feel emotions
It's true that keeping up a false front all the time must be hard work. I know a covert narc and that is a very thorough facade.
My narc faunted the fact that she wasn't able to form attachments, but she insisted that that doesn't mean she was using or exploiting people. The second part made me mad more than anything.
Learning about narcissism, I realized no, they can't be alone, my mother was an overt narc. Listening to this video, I'm just noticing my mother was rarely alone.
Their lives are their punishment.
I just can’t get past the idea that he’s doing so well after leaving me for dead. He’s been with the new supply for nearly a year and I’m still trying to get back on my feet.
They are demonic. Mine just forgot about me all of a sudden. Who cares what he is doing. Believe me on the inside they are not doing well. They are miserable sea creatures putting up a front. They can never be happy. They can only act. No matter who they are with. Most likely another narc or a desperate push over.
Wow Jess, this is really comprehensive!
Amen!!! I need to schedule something a session with you.
Love the falling snow ^_^ so relaxing 🙏
If anyone has a clue about npd, they know the narcissist is living in hell and will for the rest of their life.
Going back to A narc is like wearing someone else's DIRTY UNDERWEAR
When they socialize with acquaintances they TMI
Why when driving a narcissist home to their house do they suddenly start acting nasty and aggressive out of nowhere for absolutely no apparent reason
I used to belong to a group who regularly went out to listen to music and dance. The ringleader mystified me after awhile because I couldn't figure out what was driving her to be out so much. She wasn't really moved by the music or the people from what I could see. I thought maybe she was just shy or restrained. Eventually I figured out she was a covert narc, she needed the attention. I had no idea. I sure learned when I extricate myself and get pressured and smeared. Very sneaky indeed.
TRUE!!!
Thanks
He seems perfectly happy with her. she bought him a car and supports him financially. They have been together for five years and although he was the one who discarded me he keeps trying to contact me and is still driving by my place from time to time. Their head is a mess...
Wow. Great video! You ALWAYS nail it.
My mother developed a love affair with Jesus. She said “ I love Jesus so much, it’s almost sort of romantic “.
🤢🤢
They have no class😮😮
All facts! Thank you for the video and specifically pointing these things out. It’s very helpful 🙏
Ive been with narc right, sometimes it feels to me like im a narcissist.
Sometimes it feels like whatever she is like she transferred it to me.. i can see it sometimes " like yo what you did there was not nice"
Tell me is it normal? I don't want to be like this
Spot on my ex was like this and violent I had to get away she injured me bad physically and not realizing the degree of it with no real sense of conciseness and empathy I couldn’t forgive her repeating the same mistakes and really like they have mental issues if they know or not what their doing and behaving exhausting and total hell split persons behaviour and I forgived her many times and she was a piece of shit always wanted to argue instead of realizing enjoying life a real handicap not realizing to loving her until she makes me hate her badly i just miss the first months of first year 2019 memories it was after everything 2020 everything went to hell
You may make it sound as if they had horrible life which you wouldn't want to live, but actually they are "satisfied" with it. Not like happy but if you think about it, they ALWAYS have supply, ALWAYS are distracted with someone or something exciting. They wouldn't want it to be different. Since they get quickly bored, finding new people only stimulates their need = they are not bored anymore + get attention + new supply = fun. Its like it scratches the right spot. I have been best friend with female narcissist for 11 years. Saw her cry only 1 time in life, the second time she only had tears in eyes. She never was sad or bothered by something or afraid. She was all about fun, good time etc. I doubt someone can pretend so much. She really wasnt miserable. So where is the proof that narcissists are miserable?
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I always felt exhausted just watching him go out to open mic nights to play his guitar and do his Dylan imitation. The man was 63 and I could never understand his need to be out till late for something that didn't even pay $2.
I just wanted to watch a movie and grow old together. Never felt so alone as I did then.
Now after 6 years of education, I realise he was a narc and a psychopath. All those 40 yrs of torture are finally explained. I divorced him after he ran off with some ol gal he knew before me. Losers!
She has bpd my ex-girlfriend. 😮😮
I had a narc friend who was married before I met them. From what I can gather them and their partner were obsessed with each other. The partner did literally everything for them and kind of owned and babied them (I dont know the partners mental state but from what I can gather seemed a well liked person). But then the partner died and left the narc devastated. I can see that the narc has lost a bit of a doormat and amazing supply, but what I cant get my head around is the closeness and apparent happiness of that relationship. It doesnt seem to fit with narc behaviour.
They turned into a narc post their partner's death?