Continues into the bed when I am trying to sleep, so I try to entertain myself with a very curious and interesting thing I haven't given enough thought yet. It's maybe bizarre for some but a difficult (but very interesting) question or subject can actually put me to sleep and keeps away other thoughts that is worrying me and would essentially keep me awake.
Reasoning. Upon reasoning. Others might also but ours is likened to near perfection. If there was the perfect mindset and judgement.... That's the INFJ.
you know you're an INFJ when you're literally having a conversation with yourself throughout this video (about this video) lol.. my mind is so noisy right now
How far down the rabbit hole have you gotten? I went from Aliens>Illuminate>New World Order>Lizard People>Demons> Chakra>Energy>Vibrations>Karma/Reincarnation> Numerology>Guides>Starseeds>Lightworkers>Angels>The Source> Psychics>Multi-Dimensional Existence>Manifestation/Reality Manipulation and now I'm at Middle Earth/Elementals/Deities/Gaia... typing it all out now made me realize it's been a wild ride...
This made me laugh because before I watched this video, I Googled "How many types of chocolate are there?" That search led me here. I like to ask the serious questions.
Not really. INFJ are much more fascinated by their own thoughts, ideas and emotional processes. Curiosity and awareness are definitely a strong trait, but it would mainly manifest in silent meditations.
Wow, so good to share that. I had read our brain miraculously filters out errors/emotional damage to others. I think I remember every single time I’ve made a stupid error... i expect perfection of myself... and very time I’ve hurt someone.... I expect perfection in that area also. Like you, it appears, I remember errors made as far back as grammar school, and I’m 76. So bad news: it won’t resolve itself!
The hardest part pf being an INFJ, is that, you can feel deeply all the emotions around you. And since you always want to help people and to please them, it is hard to ignore some truths about life like, you can't fix everything or can't help all of them.
@Mona Alrefai Aljandali 24 same, happens to me too. I'm so keen on fixing other people's problems. Sometimes it's best to give them some private space and figure stuff out on their own.
I was like hmm I don't know if I really do that... then I remembered I stopped answering my dad's texts years ago when he turned into a total dickwad after my parents got divorced lol
frfr, idgaf how fine u r, how nice u were, all the times we had together, or how long we've been friends, u say some sideways shit more than once, we done fa life. and thats that
I thnik that being an INFJ is always making sure that everyone in a group feels heard, but when you want to say something you feel like no one is really interested and you prefer to be silent and have a conversation in your mind
I didn't know that :/ As an ENFJ my eyes and ears are fully focused when an INFJ friend speaks - you'rethe ones I most love connecting with (but it's so difficultto reach that point of connection). I do feel we have a lot in common though...but with different energies.
Everyone around me thinks I am insane for spending my time listening to sad songs, that includes my twin. The truth is that the songs are works of art!
INFJ’s are very all or nothing people. We’re either on a diet or at a buffet. We either do something perfect or not at all. At least that’s been my experience
Daniel Shover Do you like it? I’m curious because I rarely run across people like myself (0.5% of the population right so 1 in 200 people and that’s only IF you can find one)
@@djvelocity well I've kinda started liking it. INFJ are very extroverted introverts and I'm trying to leverage things that are so unique in whole population. When I started reading about INFJ , I kinda feel happy now for being one.
The majority of my coworkers immerse themselves with trivial boring petty subjects and I honestly find it difficult to be sincerely interested and involved; I hope I don't come off as a snob ,but the constant shallow talk causes me to drift away . I'm grateful for the honest sincere deep friends who have won my trust.
A friend of mine called me an INFJ..... and I was puzzled. but it scared me a touch watching this because it is exactly what I am. From what I can work out, we are amongst the most caring people - that can't be so bad
We are walking contradictions We live in our heads We feel misunderstood We love others more than ourselves We hate small talk We have small groups of friends, but we are very close to them We want to do well, as it is important to us, but we procrastinate We have hard times focusing on the here and now We overthink A LOT We can have hard times trusting We are very empathetic We want to help everyone We have thought of conversations before we even could be in them We can panic easily by overloading things We are independent We are so focused on pleasing others We are *amazing* *We are INFJ's* I want you to breathe for a moment Hello, my friend :)
J K was just recently discussing this with my mentor. the difficult part is not feeling contradictory, is mostly that people seem to perceive that flexibility as incoherence
@@michaelaramis1210 not. You tell someone to not do something, but underneath, they could all along. Just bc it's not obvious enough doesn't make the person unlikely...fail. not your comment, ppls perceptions
“They try hard, or not at all” This is so true. I couldn’t care less about most things I’m not passionate about... But when I am passionate about something, the world is gonna know.
Especially as an artist who draws, one moment you are empty of creativity for months, the next picosecond you are able to create a steampunk sci-fi world with unique technology and machines.
@@xenos2352 bro you're not even 18. How life starts to make a sense for you. You are gonna be facing many challenges in future. And then they'll be making the sense.
@@s3i8 I mean that some days ago I discovered I'm INFJ, and a lot of things started to make sense. I know there's a lot of things I still need to face, but at least I know I have a starting point.
+KaiyoteinHiatus. Exactly. I only engage in it in the hopes of developing a real conversation, or not wanting to come of as cold, or insensitive....but it always feels so ingenuous.
As an INFJ, good genuine small talks comes easily to me via a couple of choice questions. However, if they give crappy answers or show disinterest I feel disappointed and start to throw up barriers. But hey, I dont have to bother about liking them anymore. So, some of my go to questions would be like, "So, have any plans this weekend? (movies, anything)" But it isn't just about the plans, you can go much further. E.g. The person doesnt have anything planned. "No plans, really? Do you prefer to relax at home? Me too! etc, etc" If the person is going hiking "Oh wow! where? tell me more about it" . "Video games?" What do you play, what do you love about those games? Typically, if its a subject that I'm knowledgeable about I'll add my own perspectives and stuff e.g. musical. If its something that I'm unfamiliar, then I ask tons of questions, I want to know more about why they love that thing/topic/hobby. I'm usually drawing more connections subconsciously in the background like, is this person genuine, do i feel comfortable, etc. It takes practice sure but once you've done it a few times, you dont have to think about any more. Also, people really like others who are genuine which is a huge bonus for us!
BSJ yep. Alone you can be free to do whatever - read, fold laundry, clean out a drawer, watch your tv show...or is that just me? In a crowd you feel pressured to “entertain” with stories and hate being put on the spot. Or is that just me?🤣🤣
Wendy that might be part of it, being free to do whatever you want when alone. But for me it's also that I don't seem to know how to socialize the way other people do. I've heard it described this way: to an INFJ observing other people interacting socially, their conversations seem to follow a linear flow, where one thing will lead into the next. But the INFJ does not follow this pattern. In our minds we go all over the place, exploring each topic more fully, and bounce around in all directions, not a linear flow. It's described in this video starting at 1:45 (though I certainly recommend the entire video): th-cam.com/video/aeNXy_DCFTI/w-d-xo.html . Do you identify with this description? Perhaps INFJ is more comfortable alone because we're not attuned to the social patterns of others, so instead of feeling "put on the spot", it's easier to do our own thing.
Do any other INFJ's feel like when dealing with other people it's like playing a game of chess, you are 3 or 4 steps ahead of them and they dont even realize?
@@taoteki9215 Yes omg, it's like you ask obvious questions over again just to keep it going cause you usually just dont know what to ask cause you dont care, plus im bad at talking to anyone even my friends😐 i cant keep a conversation going for 2 min.
It's fairly simple when you think about it. An INFJ has trouble connecting with most people both ways, so naturally being surrounded by lots of people is only going to rub their difference in their face, hence causing them to be more alone than actually alone.
@Swapna Arghya With all due respect, I will personally leave this opportunity to others. I already have very little precious time in my life for the friends and family I already have, so I will remain a simple random person on the Internet for the moment. ^_^ I wish you the best of luck with that, however.
oh exactly.. my siblings would observe me secretly when i was in high school and they would always worry why i tend to be quiet while im with my classmates..now i understand why..
imagine being an INFJ and having a friend that's also an INFJ, and you're feeling all those things together... basically soulmates at that point I wish I had.
Then me thinking to myself "u poor sucker u have no idea what you just missed out on". freak is a relative term also. Just my opinion but better to be someone's freak than someone's doormat
I am an INFJ female. Can you guys pls recommend me some songs!! Actually I am still trying to confirm whether I am a true INFJ or not. I can relate 100% to this video but am still somewhat spektical to this.
As an INFJ, I sometimes worry i’m never gonna date/fall in love due to my strong judgements towards people’s style/personality/grades/family. I can’t control my judging!!
Me too... The fact that I started to rant onto the screen when I spotted an error (well it could be a grammar error, typo or the context itself but who knows how far can we judge? 🤷).
Ah... Same for me, one time, a guy tried on hit on me in dm, like he only sent one word or two, and i found my self unconsciously judging him on the way he chat, his manner.... I felt bad and guilty.
I talk to myself almost everyday, have fantasy stories in my head like a boss, creating characters and storyline, listen to some music and it's a whole movie 👏🏾👏🏾🤭 .
i hate this! i always thought im weird that i imagining lot of things when i listen to music. I keep them on repeat, make my own music video in my head. When i told my husband, friend & family, they all saying im weird & childish
I took a personality test and found out I was an INFJ, so I went on a marathon to find out more about this personality. I was extremely shocked when you talked about the music taste of an INFJ, no one has ever understood my love for sad songs with calm melodies and heartbreaking lyrics. Honestly, now I am a hundred percent convinced I’m an INFJ.
Post rock, dream pop, shoegaze, grunge, any sort of sad calm piano, violins, love it all so much :D Everyone post a song here :D Slowdive - Slomo th-cam.com/video/KDIDLIE7Z1E/w-d-xo.html
It’s perfectly awesome and normal to talk to yourself, so long as you don’t answer yourself. My Doctor always told me, “you’ve got to talk to yourself.” I don’t like talking about this while attaching a label to myself. I enjoy reading what everyone else has to say but to me it’s the same as talking about my drinking problem. If I choose to share that’s one thing but I hate it when other people start talking about how I quit drinking and all of the stupid things that I’ve done. It feels the same. We are all very different but share this exciting and mysterious quality. It’s great learning about it, however it is interrupting my Linux time, bed time and my cats/reading time, I didn’t do the dishes or work in my lawn today either. I did go shopping though so at least I got dressed and left my house. Winner.
16 Homebody. 15 Inside my head. Never-ending conversation with yourself. Feel isolated, rare, misunderstood. 14 Good speaker. Acting, marketing, teaching, social working. 13 Feel mentally jumbled. Need to have a harmonious atmosphere. Tidy up. 12 Intuitive. Abstract. Can feel impressions. 11 Helpful. 10 Hate small talk. 09 Prefers small groups of trusted friends. Can subtly cut people out of their lives. They do not need you. 08 Can be an open book to those they trust. 07 Not fake. Hate anything that is fake. 06 Falls in love deeply, and stays in love. Loyal. 05 Nonconformist. 04 Questioning people around them, and concerned they are not good enough. They set goals too high, or too many goals. They need to take things one step at a time. They seek perfection, but this can be their undoing. 03 They try hard, or not at all. 02 Enjoy depth and sad songs. Sadness is happiness for deep people. 01 Heavy conscience.
It's true for me as an INFJ that when someone broke my trust, I have this strong rule within myself to not to talk with them anymore or ignore their existence.
Your a human being not a label or a limitation put on u by yourself or anyone else. No TH-cam video can define you as a person. Your bigger than the opinions of other. Believe in that simplistic Beauty
introverts can be like that, it's normal. When we know someone who we trust, we open up to them and sometimes looks like an extrovert. And i think we often looks less introvert to other introvert person, because we relate to them ????
i am an INFJ-T and just found out. feels weird sharing this but i thought i had a mental disorder but now i can understand why i am the way i am. but it feels good to finally know.
yk kael omg same. i seriously thought i had autism or something because i was different, but i wasn’t really showing any signs of autism. i just liked to be alone and sorted things. i was also terrible at communication, and kept to myself.
Hahaha I literally cried today when I found out I as an INFJ. Suddenly everything started to make sense and I was immediately relieved that I wasn't some abnormal mentally fucked guy lol
So true..I am on the same category,all these years I thought I was different and I do have some psychological problems..now that everything has an expntn
waulpall since the title states INFJ most INFJs will watch the video if they know they are since they want to know more about themselves:) this might explain the 147%. Even 1% are about 7 000 000 ppl world wide.
Holy shit yes, sometimes I have a whole conversation in my head in response to something someone said to me.. then I'm just having a discussion with myself and forget to even respond to the person.
INFJ here. The smiling issue: I'm an educator and have had to tell my students that just because I'm not smiling isn't because I'm mad. I tell them I have a "thinking face" on. My upper grade students totally get it. Ever since I realized this, it's made teaching a lot easier. Usually the extrovert students get up enough nerve to test out if I'm mad or not by approaching to tell a joke. I laugh and then the more introverted students approach me... Because us introverts observe most of the time 😉 it's the cutest thing when they figure out body and facial ques.
See this is what's likely going to happen when I'm a Nurse Practitioner 😅. Also 'thinking face' is better (and more appropriate) than what I call RBF. I just return to my default neutral look when I'm applying myself
my friends always say he doesnt even know about cricket football famous actors etc 😁Because I DONT CARE ABOUT THESE GAMES AND ACTORS I LOVE DOING STUFF BY MYSELF AND I FEEL PROUD ON MY WORK...... AND IN MY JOB I TROUBLESHOOT LIKE A CHEEZEE CAKE.
"It's easy for them to feel isolated, even around friends. It may seem contradictory, but people who possess this personality type feel lonelier in a group than they do when they're actually alone." Bro, I always feel drained and sad even if I'm in the middle of a crowd or a party. I even wondered if that's a normal thing to feel.
Also why i ignore my parents most of the time. It may seem disrespectful and it is but when it's done often, 12 hours is far from enough time to recharge on top of having other problems. Misunderstanding arises
A blessing and a curse are the same thing, it depends on how you choose to see things. Like " half full vs half empty". Or what you love having, you fear loosing.
Hiram Rosenkreuz We hide in the corner of the sports bar while the limelight is in the center until 1 or several popular extroverts lock in on you & find themselves drawn to you, male & females alike as we are reserved in demeanor as choosing the furthest corner would suggest, our unique & often unfamiliar yet refreshing spiritual presence will often equate to a unicorn 🦄 trying to hide in the corner of a bar. Now your lil corner has suddenly turned into limelight central😂. Total strangers of all ethnic background male and female as I am a stocky built, bald, Mid forties African American man with a deeper than most voice with soft facial features who probably wouldn’t perform karaoke in front of my own wife & kids let alone strangers even if you paid me. Yet people have always approached me who I’ve never met before desperately in need of a kind understanding soul to reveal common personal issues to unthinkable issues that really needed someone who could remain calm. Years ago as I worked graveyard briefly in a huge factory amongst mostly Latinos a tall heavyset Mexican cholo covered in tats who I had never met asked could he talk to me of all people in a factory full of Latinos, he chooses me. We go on break together & go outside as he reveals to me that if I fuck this up & fail to get thru to him he’s going home & he’s gonna murder the guy who lives in the back house, go to his house which is the front house & murder his wife who he was positive had slept with the guy in back house & after her, murder his 2 Children ages 2 & 5!!! Calling Police never entered my mind & apparently he knew it wouldn’t himself. I proceeded to rip him a new asshole, he didn’t go thru with it & we became inseparable at work until he got shot, he survived but couldn’t work for awhile so we lost contact. That is only one of many encounters I’ve had with strangers who felt comfortable talking to me about some deep shit. Everyone seems to hold me in high esteem. Everyone but by wife There’s something about me that she is really envious of so instead of being my teammate she is my competitor when I only compete against myself I never try to outdo other people only myself. The gift & the curse INFJ
"If you mistreat them, they will retaliate. Not in an outburst, but by subtly cutting you out of their lives." I had to pause the video and scream at how accurate this sentence is. The amount of people I've subtly cut off is unbelievable. I don't like conflict, so they've all been subtle. Lmao I guess I really am a true INFJ.
This is me too. I have no issues cutting someone out that doesn’t treat me right. I’m such a loving and helpful friend, I don’t have time for people that mistreat me or for that matter others too. ☺️
The last one really got to me.. I've always been struggling with letting go of the smallest things I think I've said or done wrong, and thinking about it for days, weeks or even years. Does anybody else experience this?
Yes, it's a huge problem for me. Even when I think I've moved on, things comes back to haunt me years later and I beat myself up over it all over again. Having OCD doesn't help either 😑
Loyalty comes with a high price and I feel that this personality trait suits me to a tee 100%. I'm grateful for your comment. I'm happy to know I'm not alone, lol.
Naw I'm 27 and have anxiety about stuff I've seen or did while in school. Add all of this videos stuff together and then chronic anxiety along with OCD and you get a guy who is stressed all the time for no real particular reason.
Oh yes, I am still thinking about what I've done YEARS ago ... oh god its exhausting cause I always feel bad when it comes to the little things that COULD have hurt someone while others wouldn't care about you. It wasn't even something bad, just me, overrating and overthinking situations
12:00 Painfully true: "If they've hurt somebody, they will do everything in their power to fix it. If they don't know how they've upset a person, they have extreme anxiety because they're not sure how to atone."
This is so true.. I rarely got into a trouble with people and I try to avoid one at all cost but there will always be a time that you'll slip especially to those who are sensitive or bad-tempered. They'll got me into severe anxiety and mental breakdown.
When I was around 8, my mom asked me why I talked to myself all the time. I said because I’m the most interesting person I know. I took this test at work and it all makes sense now.
You know you are an INFJ when you find it uncomfortable to tell others that you are an INFJ.... Because you feel like they will think you are trying to be unique/intresting.. Is it just me or?? Edit: Yo what's up the new statistics says we are not the most rare anymore.I'm personally happy because now it feels more comfortable.And now we don't have to face all the people saying we are mistyped.
But when i knew that i absolutely alright n i was just an injf, i wanted to shout to everyone that I'm an INFJ so they better study abt it before jumping to conclusions!
You got that right Knowing how strangers are feeling is hard, but being so close to someone you love so much and knowing and feeling their pain when you are almost a hundred miles away from them is unbearable! First time that ever happened to me, I was 21 years old. I was driving to my parents house in a different town, when suddenly my left side erupted in serious pain, I was in tears leaning over the steering wheel. I felt like I was dying and all I could think of was getting to my Mother! Once I got to my parents house, I saw yellow tape through their yard?! I ran to the door to find out my Mother had been shot and killed by an intruder.. Then I found out she was shot on her left side, exactly where I was hurting and about the very same time I stsrted hurting. Sadly, this happened on Mother's Day and my Father, my Brother and my Sister's 18 month old Daughter were all murdered as well.... Being an INFJ and dealing with this plunged me into a dark rabbit hold of sever depression for a very long time! Then I discovered INFJ's do in fact have an ability to heal ourselves! The ability to project good, peace, love and Joy into other peoples lives, despite how we feel breathes these things back into our hearts! I truly believe in "Being the change, I want to see in the world"! I always, ALWAYS find The Silver Lining in EVERY situation, (even the bad ones) I realized what happened to me was horrible, but I was not going to let it be a life sentence! I choose JOY everyday I wake up!! Do not let anyone steal Your Joy! My alone time is imperative to maintaining my peace of mind!
Me too!! They think I'm a horrible person or something, but, unfortunately, I'm in a position where I have to spend almost all of my time with someone who transmits extremely negative energy most of the time which I find unbearably suffocating! Any chance I get where I can be on my own, I grab it with both hands, but they can't accept that..!
@@davinagibson1665 your not a horrable person, you just dont like crowded areas, I'm the same way, I'll start getting edgey around people I don't know in big crowds, I'll shy away from groups, I mostly prefer if I do go anywhere to take it in a few hours span before I leave. It's just who we are. I've also tried explaining this to many people, they don't understand, but they have to learn alittle at a time threw exposure. I'm glad I was recommended this video cause now I can explain to friends and family and even my boyfriend why I act like this.
Having been unhappy for a decade, I finally figured out I am an INFJ in my late 50s. When I watched this video I was truly astounded by how accurate every statement is. I hope others learn from this at a young age and avoid the painful consequences of guilt, self-criticism and putting yourself last. You are worth it!
i am an INFJ-T and i literally thought that id be forever lonely and that no one will ever understand me. i was also worried that i had some serious problems but nvm it is such a relief to know that people out there feel the same too lol
Louize Lapira no one will ever understand you. They won’t. But it will still be okay, because you don’t need it as much as you think you do. It’s okay, really. When you are growing up and into your 20s, it still feels hard, but it will change. It will always frustrate you how easy it is for you to see things, and how obtuse other people seem, but it somehow works out okay. So just know that while it feels this way, it may not actually be as true as you perceive it to be now. I promise. It’s a good outcome. Keep the faith.
I took the test but when I saw that being an INFJ was rare I was like “hold up, now I’m doubting myself so I’ll take it again to be sure” … I took it like tree more times and got INFJ-t all times but I’m still wary lol
When someone asks you to explain something that you knew "in your gut" and you can't actually put it into words, but it actually makes perfect sense to you, and yet they are completely perplexed...
I find it weird , Im always unconsciously making random conversations and always trying to prove something that doesn't even make sense and later on i realize it was all made up by my brain.
I like going out, BUT I must have at least one friend that I can cling to if I start getting overwhelmed by being around too many people I’m not close with
I usually go out - always to see a live band - I don't see any reason to go out to a bar or other venue otherwise, and I do rock out and dance - by myself. It keeps most people away from me, probably because they think I'm weird, which I proudly am, except a few friends who I run into doing the same thing, but I'm the only woman I know who isn't afraid to go out by herself. If someone walks up and wants to just enjoy the music with me, great. If they talk too much, I ask them to please be quiet while the band is playing. And I can escape for a while, or leave altogether anytime I want to.
Completely Paradoxial... The only reason we can be dark. Is because we truly see Both Heaven and Hell. Standing on the edge of a world we aren't really part of. But desperately want to save.
Tauney Elysia Woah, that was scary accurate. I’ve never heard anyone describe my thoughts so accurately. What the heck.. Edit: Straight up, I shed a tear. I rarely cry.
That unreal feeling of reading an INFJ thought after ages of drowning in insipid notes. I should expect it by now, for how many times I've been struck by awe reading other INFJs. I see MBTI now commonly dismissed or even debunked in the media. The overall system may have flaws but there's clearly a tangible insight within it. Or its reflection of my own mind wouldn't be so regularly and utterly astonishing.
That's because we are Earthbound Angels. Most of us are lightworkers. We are also a natural Healers and spiritual doctors. I say this because virtually all diseases that manifest physically originate on the energetic level. We are I'm highly intuitive although a lot of the world is uncomfortable with the term psychic.
Feel you man, started the beginning of highschool and finally 6 years later now through persistent meditation and forcing a severe routine into my life, I can finally sleep...
@@qminlee225 I was going to suggest the same thing. Through continued meditation I am able to "turn my thoughts off" completely at night. What also helps is thinking about one topic and focusing on it so it becomes the theme of your dreams.
I took the test 2 times (1 year gap), get the same INFJ-A result. I hope im other type bcs the INFJ type of person actually aren't really good for myself, I hope I could be other type so I could get along with people. INFJ sounds like a stranger if people don't understand who we are. That's why I find isolated myself in a room and reading books are better option.
I Know right! I'm reading tomes from people I don't know because it's mostly like I've written it.. Comforting to know that we're not alone but probably none of us will meet anyone we've read here.
When I first took the Myers-Briggs test and the early 70s the counselor said you must be very lonely. And I looked at them quite quizzically and ask them did I seem like I was lonely? I was only in my very early twenties at the time. And they said no, it's just that you will rarely encounter someone who is just like you. That explains it. And as I've gone through my life I will admit that I am lonely. I feel like an animal that is going extinct. My deepest sadness is not knowing people who think the way I think and feel the way I feel. Which means I don't have anybody to really talk with at my level of understanding, intuition and passion.
I am gonna turn 26 this year and have yet to find anyone whom can relate and speak to me on my level of understanding and depth. I can't even speak to my family members about what is going on in my mind and what I am thinking of let alone tell a friend. I am looking for my soul mate and the one whom will complete and understand me. For now I am just wandering around this earth like a lost person.
God do I understand.. wonder if a group of us in a large town would get together..or be repelled by our need to help others? I need to help others to listen to them to try to help..but accepting help...it's easier..but still not my first choice
crazykenna this was actually me as a kid, to the point where I was one of the special ed kids in elementary school because I started speaking so late LMAO (not in special ed anymore tho)
I think this rings true as adults too.. I'm studying a third language and I don't want to practice speaking until I feel like I have a grasp on the sounds and structure. I'm full on observing mode.
Its just a vibe. I get it all the time. I've had 7 or 8 random people message me through my life and every time they've had a issue they needed to talk about or need help with.
Sora Jo how old are you? That’s awfully sweet. We know you. You know us. I used to be a professor and I would have all the students (optionally) take the humanmetrics.com free mbti test. I never actually used it as a means of getting to know them, ironically, but I was just very curious during the first few classes of a semester, and it was a fun ice breaker. I found with the other infjs, when we were one on one, we almost wouldn’t talk. I think our understanding of one another was so innate, we didn’t have to. Is that weird or what? It was almost surreal. It’s almost as if it would be redundant if we spoke actual words. But in a group, they are my sisters and brothers. So are the INTJs and the ENFJS.
@@quintuplebanned4267 I'm not too young, I'm 20. :) That's so interesting that you did that. It must have been great to meet others who understood you. Before this test, I thought that I was alone and strange but that feeling has almost completely left me. I believe for people like INFJs, just knowing that you aren't weird, is all that matters to make them feel whole again.
Hello, fellow INFJ's. I took the 16 personalities test like 6 times. I always got the same result INFJ-A and most of the traits described I can actually relate to. The thinking that never stops, the fact that I can stay at home and shut myself off from the rest of the world even for weeks, hate small talk, love sad music and music overall and have a deep love for abstract concepts like the meaning of life and astronomy. I always felt alone even when in a relationship, definitely among big groups of people. I'm often misunderstood as the extraverted type but going out drains me quickly and I want back to my shelter. I play dumb in front of people and mostly choose to ignore than start a conflict unless it is a matter that I feel is of utter importance and goes against my values. I have a talent for expressing myself through writing and I love discovering language patterns, and languages altogether. I speak 5 languages. I consider myself a minimalist and materialistic things never excited me. I constantly try to analyze behaviors and patterns and somehow understand most of the time why people feel the way they do. Although sensitive and kind, serving in the army for 8 years I have learned to put myself first and toughen up and look extraverted when needed. I was a big pushover years ago and although I don't like it and I would like the world to be in harmony and that people understand each other, I have come to know that this is not possible, although it really saddens me that others are not as compassionate. What took me years to realize is that I can't expect others to think and feel the way I do. Sorry for the long post, but I felt the urge to say a few things about me underneath a video where most of you should understand, as we share the same personality type. Stay healthy, kind and compassionate.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts. It helps the rest of us in some way even if its small. It helps to know none of us are really alone we just don't know about each other and we can learn from others to grow and be encouraged.
It’s ironic how many times we INFJ s can listen to these outlines of our personalities and continue to gain useful information. Thanks for producing this one so well!
Yep. Also consider sending links to these videos to folks who know you and maybe don't understand why you are the way you are. One thing she didn't talk about is the 'ghosting' thing, which a lot of us do (i.e. disappearing from other people's RADAR screens for longish to long periods of time, or avoiding social invitations for periods of time.) Well she sort of touched on the latter. A lot of folks probably misunderstand this. If they better understood our personality types, they may discover that it has no hidden meaning and isn't about them. The one I find funniest is the thing about reading other people's emotions or thoughts. I have that a lot. Of course maybe it's not always right, but I have it a lot and to the degree I get to find out, it's usually right. I just have these very sudden, short feelings that I'm hearing what they are thinking or feeling. I assume it's just that we watch and think more than we react, so we catch those very subtle cues in people's faces and eyes that may betray what's going on behind the curtain.
Jeremy Christsanto i have seen this that as an INFJ I keep on playing in my head some deep conversation and disagreement that I had with people. I do not know how do I get rid of this habbit.
Ravishing Twinkle i know the feeling, i used to be so before ... but then someone betrayed me and it keeps playing in my head ... but somehow i decide to make it stop and make my happiness as priority ... would you live for yourself ?
@@jimjs5672 you should not forget ... because happiness is a choice ... you should choose it ... no one can bring the happiness for you but yourself ... because i used to do the same but i decide to bring happiness for myself ... i hope you can do the same ... wish you all the best !
Infjs will never be understood by anyone , the most important thing is to know yourself and appreciate your personality and once you do that ,the journey to self love , interest and discovery becomes so amazing and never ending.
I’m an INFJ and sometimes I’m so deep in my thoughts that I don’t realise that someone has asked me a question or that I Have been having a conversation with myself for about over an hour when it feels like 10 minutes. Can anyone else relate? Pls do, I’m hoping I’m not mental.
Hanoona, don't let it bug you, think it through by all means but let it pass. I'm in a technical field and can think a problem through for hours, my wife, an Angel for putting up with me, will eventually get through with coffee in hand. If people don't understand, well, so be it but I have a mantra, slightly tongue in cheek, DILLIGAF.... Find something to level yourself out, DILLIGAF does it for me.... You are not mad, insane metal, just deep in thought!
@@ts074 I'm willing to change my perception if new evidence arises but normally I'm pretty accurate. I just try to be nice to everyone until they give me a reason to stop.
Yep....I can walk into a place and instantly know something shady is going on....my whole body can feel it without even making eye contact with anyone....I just KNOW someone there is up to no good
As an infj, i tend to get piss off easily by a person's attitude or moral but i'm angry at myself for thinking abt being angry at them so i just focus on their positive sides and love them as a whole 💕
I was like this but with some people focusing on positive sides and loving them as a whole can hurt you. Been there few times. :( I finally had to learn to not get hurt anymore and I just cut people off completely if their attitude or moral doesn't match my own. It's way healthier for me now and I don't feel as drained. Being INFJ is nice but at the same time it's exhausting. :(
So true, I often can't remember the exact words of a conversation, but clearly remember the feelings they elicited. Try arguing you're point but you can't remember what was said 😂
My husband and I have very different religious beliefs. He uses logic and science to prove his views are right. I don't got anything but my feelings and intuition and it doesn't sound nearly as convincing when I try to put it into words. I feel what I believe is truth so strongly as though it's part of me.
@Caleb Scotton Me too! I thought I was the only one who repeatably would forget the Words, but remembered the Feelings; like something was wrong with my Brain. Ultimately, we are highly-sensitive Peace proponents.
She: "You can't achieve the impossible." Me: Yes I agree but I also strongly believe that nothing is impossible so... (*internally struggling to collect thoughts and decide what to say next) Bye!
That sentence kind of bothered me. I hate being told that I can’t do something and that it’s impossible for me. It just makes me angry and I can’t seem to accept it
INFJ = constant, never-ending conversation with yourself
Mark Hiatt yup lol
Continues into the bed when I am trying to sleep, so I try to entertain myself with a very curious and interesting thing I haven't given enough thought yet. It's maybe bizarre for some but a difficult (but very interesting) question or subject can actually put me to sleep and keeps away other thoughts that is worrying me and would essentially keep me awake.
Soooo cool to see someone else write that...I'm not the only one that does it.
True.
Reasoning. Upon reasoning. Others might also but ours is likened to near perfection. If there was the perfect mindset and judgement.... That's the INFJ.
Everytime I speak:
What I talk: 10%
What's in my mind: 90%
Let's do hope that is actually true for every kind of personality except tourettes! lmao
i feel you
Same It's difficult to express
i feel you man
quarantine is a bless for me
I've been so busy with my self
I can relate, it happens all the time
"Feels more alone in a group than alone"
*This*
Unless that group is full if infjs
@@vinnyhorapeti2461 that would be so great
This tho,
This really hits me
Whenever I go out with friends I tend to think instead of actually talking to them
@@murasaki1417 same here
Me too
This comment section makes me feel like I have friends
hands down the best comment section ive ever read.... i fit in!!!!
Why just feel like you have friends when 99% of this comment section are some of the most caring and supportive people ever? XD
Yeah
I never knew there was an explanation for who I was and the things that I do
@@joepecaro117 omg same!
People think I’m quiet but I’m actually just having a conversation with myself.
Yh at last someone gets me !!
Excuse me for interrupting your conversation with yourself. Probably not as interesting 🧐
Fido its literally not though
John Jacob Two channel’s that might intrigue you 1) ADAPT 2030 2) Mike Morales.
Sometimes I hold my phone to my ear while talking to myself out loud so people dont think I'm insane 😂
you know you're an INFJ when you're literally having a conversation with yourself throughout this video (about this video) lol.. my mind is so noisy right now
😂 yeah I was constantly talking to myself while I was watching this vid!
Same! Haha I kept pausing the video and speaking to myself as if I was a reaction channel 😂
I thought i was the only one haha! Omg INFJ unite! ❤️
*laughs out loud*
Gosh.. IM NOT ALONE🤣
lol you know you're an INFJ when being understood on a TH-cam video more than anyone in your life makes you shed a tear.
Lol , omg totally feeling that after this video
Ugh the questioning and guilt numbers felt like an intervention
True
Spot on!
Absolutely
You know you're an INFJ when your google searches are a never-ending string of pointless questions that youhave about the universe
How far down the rabbit hole have you gotten? I went from Aliens>Illuminate>New World Order>Lizard People>Demons>
Chakra>Energy>Vibrations>Karma/Reincarnation>
Numerology>Guides>Starseeds>Lightworkers>Angels>The Source>
Psychics>Multi-Dimensional Existence>Manifestation/Reality Manipulation
and now I'm at Middle Earth/Elementals/Deities/Gaia...
typing it all out now made me realize it's been a wild ride...
This made me laugh because before I watched this video, I Googled "How many types of chocolate are there?" That search led me here.
I like to ask the serious questions.
My sister is an infp and we are very different, but I see where you are coming from
@@athavavalisio9585 wow, we can sit down and talk for an eternity.
Not really. INFJ are much more fascinated by their own thoughts, ideas and emotional processes. Curiosity and awareness are definitely a strong trait, but it would mainly manifest in silent meditations.
I am NEVER alone when I’m by myself.
We feel like there is so much to think about that we don't want to "lose" time talking with people who doesn't count for us
Michel Mélinot
HaleluYah!!!
Being alone is the best
I'm never alone, I'm alone all the time. Now I know the meaning to the Bush song.
If you think about that it sounds kinds scary XD
“INFJ’s usually feel more alone when in a group than alone”
Wow. I’ve never felt so understood
Yup
Ikr
Thats exactly the case with me as well.
Same here man
yep! i feel more lonely in a group even though everyone constantly includes me XD
Once, in high school, which was 32 years ago I gave the wrong answer to a question my teacher asked me. I still think about that to this very day. 😔
Wow, so good to share that. I had read our brain miraculously filters out errors/emotional damage to others. I think I remember every single time I’ve made a stupid error... i expect perfection of myself... and very time I’ve hurt someone.... I expect perfection in that area also. Like you, it appears, I remember errors made as far back as grammar school, and I’m 76. So bad news: it won’t resolve itself!
Damn me to
I feel sorry for an answer I knew but didn't speak.. That was 7years ago
OMG. So do I. I think is stupid to keep remembering that, but I just can't forget about it.
SAME
It always happens to me too I just can't get rid of all my mistakes even those I did in my childhood :(
The hardest part pf being an INFJ, is that, you can feel deeply all the emotions around you. And since you always want to help people and to please them, it is hard to ignore some truths about life like, you can't fix everything or can't help all of them.
Yes this is very true of me as an INFJ
yessss i can relate to this
@Mona Alrefai Aljandali 24 same, happens to me too. I'm so keen on fixing other people's problems. Sometimes it's best to give them some private space and figure stuff out on their own.
Pathologic 2 taught me that.
Yup, that always hurts me😭
“Once you mistreat an INFJ they will cut you off” 🤣🤣 without question
I was like hmm I don't know if I really do that... then I remembered I stopped answering my dad's texts years ago when he turned into a total dickwad after my parents got divorced lol
Yes we will. Only accept truth.
I LIVE this!
True
frfr, idgaf how fine u r, how nice u were, all the times we had together, or how long we've been friends, u say some sideways shit more than once, we done fa life. and thats that
"So focused on being a good person" TRUE
Always focused on being a good person that I see myself emotionally hurt others than think about it for long periods of time
HI ARMY!!
So focused that they didn’t bother defining what a “good person” is.
You have 699 likes, so I'm gonna be mean and not like it. I would like it if I could, though.
@@zinzoosnakes1837 lol
I am INFJ and if you who are reading this are INFJ too
I love you!
Jane 777 awww ☺
thank you glenn :(..
You're welcome Lawrence
I'm enfp and why do I find infj so amazing an charming? Help hahaha 😂🐙🐙🐙
I love you too
I thnik that being an INFJ is always making sure that everyone in a group feels heard, but when you want to say something you feel like no one is really interested and you prefer to be silent and have a conversation in your mind
Yeah :(
I almost cried reading your comment. It is true.
So true.
I listen to everyone - when it's my turn to speak - no one listens.
Lizzy from Aus.
🧡🦘🐨😊👍
Don't expose me like that and remind of the fact I do too much for others
I didn't know that :/ As an ENFJ my eyes and ears are fully focused when an INFJ friend speaks - you'rethe ones I most love connecting with (but it's so difficultto reach that point of connection). I do feel we have a lot in common though...but with different energies.
Sad Songs: their not sad, their just beautiful pieces of art I am taking in.
Exactly!!! They are Just true expression
Right!!
Facts!!
Everyone around me thinks I am insane for spending my time listening to sad songs, that includes my twin. The truth is that the songs are works of art!
They’re* come on now, thought u was one of us...
INFJ’s are very all or nothing people. We’re either on a diet or at a buffet. We either do something perfect or not at all. At least that’s been my experience
So true
Daniel Shover fellow INFJ?
Yes I'm an INFJ 🙂
Daniel Shover Do you like it? I’m curious because I rarely run across people like myself (0.5% of the population right so 1 in 200 people and that’s only IF you can find one)
@@djvelocity well I've kinda started liking it. INFJ are very extroverted introverts and I'm trying to leverage things that are so unique in whole population. When I started reading about INFJ , I kinda feel happy now for being one.
As an INFJ, Ive had countless people tell me they thought I was snobby or stuck up because I was so quiet and unable to use small talk. Anyone else?
They tell me the same thing all the time!
I can relate to being thought of as snobby. I was even accused of being 'retatded'! How cruel! Just because I was really quiet in school.
The majority of my coworkers immerse themselves with trivial boring petty subjects and I honestly find it difficult to be sincerely interested and involved; I hope I don't come off as a snob ,but the constant shallow talk causes me to drift away . I'm grateful for the honest sincere deep friends who have won my trust.
A friend of mine called me an INFJ..... and I was puzzled. but it scared me a touch watching this because it is exactly what I am. From what I can work out, we are amongst the most caring people - that can't be so bad
Yep, same here
We are walking contradictions
We live in our heads
We feel misunderstood
We love others more than ourselves
We hate small talk
We have small groups of friends, but we are very close to them
We want to do well, as it is important to us, but we procrastinate
We have hard times focusing on the here and now
We overthink A LOT
We can have hard times trusting
We are very empathetic
We want to help everyone
We have thought of conversations before we even could be in them
We can panic easily by overloading things
We are independent
We are so focused on pleasing others
We are *amazing*
*We are INFJ's*
I want you to breathe for a moment
Hello, my friend :)
Perfect
How did you know I wasn’t breathing? 💀
Yes!!
Hiyaaa
I have finally learned to be HAPPY.about who IAM..I USED TO ASKED"GOD"to help me to be NORMAL.. now I know he/she MADE ME this WAY..
When i found out about INFJ’s i almost started crying because it fit me so perfectly and i just knew i was one
same..reading through comments just made me feel like wow i’m not the only one, i feel understood
@@multicolouredmochi1769 same 🥰
Nathan Tomlinson awww....I know, me too. This stuff has helped me more than any therapy ever has or could.
Nathan Tomlinson I started crying because for the first time I could see that existed others that could exactly understand how I feel and that’s great
Ikr. It felt like i was reading about myself
INFJ will also get anxiety about the fact that different aspects of their personality are somewhat contradictory.
J K was just recently discussing this with my mentor.
the difficult part is not feeling contradictory, is mostly that people seem to perceive that flexibility as incoherence
Michael Aramis Yes, I can see that.
@@michaelaramis1210 not. You tell someone to not do something, but underneath, they could all along. Just bc it's not obvious enough doesn't make the person unlikely...fail. not your comment, ppls perceptions
amen sista
Yes, jeeessuss. Can think yourself into believing you're a hypocrite sometimes
“They try hard, or not at all”
This is so true. I couldn’t care less about most things I’m not passionate about... But when I am passionate about something, the world is gonna know.
Especially as an artist who draws, one moment you are empty of creativity for months, the next picosecond you are able to create a steampunk sci-fi world with unique technology and machines.
Agreeee
YEP a blessing and a curse. Don't think others would really understand or appreciate it.
@@rokairu0-216 LOL, why is this so true?
mhm
agreed!
I’m nearly 60 and suddenly life is starting to make sense - thank you.
36 here, same :)
21, same. Lol
17, yup
@@xenos2352 bro you're not even 18. How life starts to make a sense for you. You are gonna be facing many challenges in future. And then they'll be making the sense.
@@s3i8 I mean that some days ago I discovered I'm INFJ, and a lot of things started to make sense. I know there's a lot of things I still need to face, but at least I know I have a starting point.
As an INFJ, I am literally the worst at small talk. It makes me feel dumb. I think it’s the in-genuine aspect of it I just cannot engage in bs.
+KaiyoteinHiatus. Exactly. I only engage in it in the hopes of developing a real conversation, or not wanting to come of as cold, or insensitive....but it always feels so ingenuous.
Yess. That's why it's hard for me to talk to my crush or just new people. I cant find ways to keep it going!!
I've been called "stuck up" because I shut down during small talk. It's so pointless though.
As an INFJ, good genuine small talks comes easily to me via a couple of choice questions. However, if they give crappy answers or show disinterest I feel disappointed and start to throw up barriers. But hey, I dont have to bother about liking them anymore. So, some of my go to questions would be like, "So, have any plans this weekend? (movies, anything)" But it isn't just about the plans, you can go much further. E.g. The person doesnt have anything planned. "No plans, really? Do you prefer to relax at home? Me too! etc, etc" If the person is going hiking "Oh wow! where? tell me more about it" . "Video games?" What do you play, what do you love about those games? Typically, if its a subject that I'm knowledgeable about I'll add my own perspectives and stuff e.g. musical. If its something that I'm unfamiliar, then I ask tons of questions, I want to know more about why they love that thing/topic/hobby. I'm usually drawing more connections subconsciously in the background like, is this person genuine, do i feel comfortable, etc. It takes practice sure but once you've done it a few times, you dont have to think about any more. Also, people really like others who are genuine which is a huge bonus for us!
Same! I end up sounding awkward
Feel lonelier in a group than when alone, YES so true
Yup so real!
sameee
Agreed
BSJ yep. Alone you can be free to do whatever - read, fold laundry, clean out a drawer, watch your tv show...or is that just me? In a crowd you feel pressured to “entertain” with stories and hate being put on the spot. Or is that just me?🤣🤣
Wendy that might be part of it, being free to do whatever you want when alone. But for me it's also that I don't seem to know how to socialize the way other people do. I've heard it described this way: to an INFJ observing other people interacting socially, their conversations seem to follow a linear flow, where one thing will lead into the next. But the INFJ does not follow this pattern. In our minds we go all over the place, exploring each topic more fully, and bounce around in all directions, not a linear flow. It's described in this video starting at 1:45 (though I certainly recommend the entire video): th-cam.com/video/aeNXy_DCFTI/w-d-xo.html . Do you identify with this description? Perhaps INFJ is more comfortable alone because we're not attuned to the social patterns of others, so instead of feeling "put on the spot", it's easier to do our own thing.
INFJ's UNITE! we should make a support group for ourselves xD
DEW IT
But I’m afraid all of us won’t open ourselves in the small talk 🤣🤣🤣
@@Kaiser.852 same page lol
Yessss
Yes
A huge INFJ struggle: living in a body that doesn't want to conform to the perfectionistic, creative, and harmonious image in their mind.
From ENTP: Conforming is not what bodies do. You might want to try a different tact.
@@richsackett3423 yes, thank you for your very encouraging comment.
@@wk1810 Sarcasm does not suit you.
Do any other INFJ's feel like when dealing with other people it's like playing a game of chess, you are 3 or 4 steps ahead of them and they dont even realize?
yeah, I guess because I'm. always. thinking ahead in the game so...or maybe I just overthink things...
I act dump sometimes to comfort the conversarion
Lol same even tho I’m INTP.
@@taoteki9215 Yes omg, it's like you ask obvious questions over again just to keep it going cause you usually just dont know what to ask cause you dont care, plus im bad at talking to anyone even my friends😐 i cant keep a conversation going for 2 min.
Yes.
woman: "INFJs are not open books"
also woman: *literally described me to the core in a 12-minute video*
Ahmed Ahmedov ikr
IKRR
Made my day hahaha
LUL
Calm down cawboys! Did you know that this test can be altered depending on you mood, diet, health etc.
5 years ago, my cousin wanted me to tell me something but then he just said forget it. *I am still curious of what he wanted to say to this day*
😂 damn
😂😂😂
Lol😂😂😂.
You don't understand.
.
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.
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He just wanted to say, "Forget it
Im INFP but im now curious too :D
People tell me I’m quiet and I’m like “uhhh I’m talking all the time”. Then I realize that’s in my head 😅
Sameee
“....feel more alone in a group than alone” finally someone understands
It's fairly simple when you think about it. An INFJ has trouble connecting with most people both ways, so naturally being surrounded by lots of people is only going to rub their difference in their face, hence causing them to be more alone than actually alone.
Yes I always feel that way until I get to know people
@Swapna Arghya With all due respect, I will personally leave this opportunity to others. I already have very little precious time in my life for the friends and family I already have, so I will remain a simple random person on the Internet for the moment. ^_^ I wish you the best of luck with that, however.
oh exactly.. my siblings would observe me secretly when i was in high school and they would always worry why i tend to be quiet while im with my classmates..now i understand why..
exactly
Imagine being an INFJ with depression.
Oh wait
Fuuuc.....
Damn....
It's the worst....
d-don't...
Guilt keeps eating me always
imagine being an INFJ and having a friend that's also an INFJ, and you're feeling all those things together... basically soulmates at that point I wish I had.
I can confirm that it's great, I have 3 :))
Yesss it's amazing ❤
I wish I met another INJF ;(
So true being INFJ-T can be so lonely
Let's be friend
“Feel lonelier in a group than by themselves”that hit hard but true 🥺
Me in my own head thinking of something funny and smiling*
Random guy watching me: Wow what a freak
😂😂😂 That's me right there!
Then me thinking to myself "u poor sucker u have no idea what you just missed out on". freak is a relative term also. Just my opinion but better to be someone's freak than someone's doormat
yes i know that...
„what are you looking at, do you want a picture“ Me: excuse me
„Why are you smiling“ Me: why not
My sister laughs at me sometimes for this exact reason 😂
Lol omg all the time. People are always wondering what I’m smiling about, it looks like I’m always up to something
About the music part, I'm an INFJ and I think we can listen to up beat music, a long as it has a meaning that speaks to us.
Yes, I have a very specific music taste because I only listen to music that has a real story behind it!
I’m also an INFJ and I mostly listed to fast upbeat metal, which I guess could connect with the sad themes.
I am an INFJ female. Can you guys pls recommend me some songs!! Actually I am still trying to confirm whether I am a true INFJ or not. I can relate 100% to this video but am still somewhat spektical to this.
Sakshi Pathak My favourite artist is The Weeknd, because of the melancholic music
@@sakshipathak7298 I really like Lauv's music
It hasn’t been easy being this way, but it’s also a blessing. I’m lonely but perfectly fine with it :)
hey thats exactly how I feel. I can barely find people who understand me. It can be difficult but we will find more people !!
@Reinhardt Danube I CAN RELATEEEEEEEE i love being alone but that doesn't make me lonely !! we should create a group chat
Where can I find you people. I really need friends who understand me
@@NoName-zs1wt lets create a group chat on insta or whatsapp
@@speadlove7194 I'd like that
“INFJ’s are known for being inside their heads most of the time.”
My head: *CREATES WHOLE OC STORY ARC*
you didnt have to call me out like that
Don’t worry, I called myself out too lol
relatable
lmao!, i literally create a whole 6 worth of movies in my head, and it's still going on to this day
Same
People think we’re quiet but if they could hear all the stuff we have stored in our heads they would probably get annoyed pretty quickly 😂
Absolutely
No, their heads would just explode 😂
Yeah,
It’s all 🤪“fun & games” for them until they hear what we think about.
This time, a friend of mine told me what i was thinking and i told him he wouldn't last a second about what i would think
It's true. There are a couple people who can handle my endless stream of thoughts. They get really worn out if I'm in a verbal mood 😂😂😂
As an INFJ, I sometimes worry i’m never gonna date/fall in love due to my strong judgements towards people’s style/personality/grades/family. I can’t control my judging!!
Don't worry. You're not alone. I have the same sentiments too.
Me too... The fact that I started to rant onto the screen when I spotted an error (well it could be a grammar error, typo or the context itself but who knows how far can we judge? 🤷).
Ah... Same for me, one time, a guy tried on hit on me in dm, like he only sent one word or two, and i found my self unconsciously judging him on the way he chat, his manner.... I felt bad and guilty.
Klara Maria literally me, I find everything wrong someone did
Same here I'm always worrying about those
When a video understands you more than other people💀💀
Spoken like a true INFJ!
Bruhhh
Yeah!!!😞😞
Care emoji
Yes it's so true. I just wanna cry now..
I talk to myself almost everyday, have fantasy stories in my head like a boss, creating characters and storyline, listen to some music and it's a whole movie 👏🏾👏🏾🤭 .
I’ve written comic books for Sonic and used video game music for inspiration, I very much relate to what you’re saying
Everyday there is a new murder mystery happening in my head
Maybe u called me 😂
I never related so hard in my life- anytime I listen to music, I am definitely daydreaming
i hate this! i always thought im weird that i imagining lot of things when i listen to music. I keep them on repeat, make my own music video in my head. When i told my husband, friend & family, they all saying im weird & childish
I took a personality test and found out I was an INFJ, so I went on a marathon to find out more about this personality. I was extremely shocked when you talked about the music taste of an INFJ, no one has ever understood my love for sad songs with calm melodies and heartbreaking lyrics. Honestly, now I am a hundred percent convinced I’m an INFJ.
Me too 😂
Me, too.
Same!
Post rock, dream pop, shoegaze, grunge, any sort of sad calm piano, violins, love it all so much :D Everyone post a song here :D
Slowdive - Slomo th-cam.com/video/KDIDLIE7Z1E/w-d-xo.html
Yes!!! I love song that just breaks my heart and makes me cry. They’re the best. You can feel the raw emotions in the lyrics.
soo.. im not the only one that talks to them selfs randomly through out the day?
Absolutely not
@@amruthavalli1260 I like your channel picture.. you've got good taste :)
It’s perfectly awesome and normal to talk to yourself, so long as you don’t answer yourself. My Doctor always told me, “you’ve got to talk to yourself.” I don’t like talking about this while attaching a label to myself. I enjoy reading what everyone else has to say but to me it’s the same as talking about my drinking problem. If I choose to share that’s one thing but I hate it when other people start talking about how I quit drinking and all of the stupid things that I’ve done. It feels the same. We are all very different but share this exciting and mysterious quality. It’s great learning about it, however it is interrupting my Linux time, bed time and my cats/reading time, I didn’t do the dishes or work in my lawn today either. I did go shopping though so at least I got dressed and left my house. Winner.
@@myrtle243 😉thank you!
@APxFeezy What do you mean?
16 Homebody.
15 Inside my head. Never-ending conversation with yourself. Feel isolated, rare, misunderstood.
14 Good speaker. Acting, marketing, teaching, social working.
13 Feel mentally jumbled. Need to have a harmonious atmosphere. Tidy up.
12 Intuitive. Abstract. Can feel impressions.
11 Helpful.
10 Hate small talk.
09 Prefers small groups of trusted friends. Can subtly cut people out of their lives. They do not need you.
08 Can be an open book to those they trust.
07 Not fake. Hate anything that is fake.
06 Falls in love deeply, and stays in love. Loyal.
05 Nonconformist.
04 Questioning people around them, and concerned they are not good enough. They set goals too high, or too many goals. They need to take things one step at a time. They seek perfection, but this can be their undoing.
03 They try hard, or not at all.
02 Enjoy depth and sad songs. Sadness is happiness for deep people.
01 Heavy conscience.
Thank you!
Hey wow thanks, you must be infj also lol
Thank you :)
sadness is happiness for deep people...
i felt that
btw, thanks for the list
it feels like this is a stalking.
It's true for me as an INFJ that when someone broke my trust, I have this strong rule within myself to not to talk with them anymore or ignore their existence.
Here I'm thinking wtf am I..
I am an introvert most of the time but I can be a extrovert sometimes to peoples that are shyer than me.
YESS THATS ME
I relate completely!
Your a human being not a label or a limitation put on u by yourself or anyone else. No TH-cam video can define you as a person. Your bigger than the opinions of other. Believe in that simplistic Beauty
theres a thing called an ambivert
introverts can be like that, it's normal. When we know someone who we trust, we open up to them and sometimes looks like an extrovert. And i think we often looks less introvert to other introvert person, because we relate to them ????
i am an INFJ-T and just found out. feels weird sharing this but i thought i had a mental disorder but now i can understand why i am the way i am. but it feels good to finally know.
yk kael omg same. i seriously thought i had autism or something because i was different, but i wasn’t really showing any signs of autism. i just liked to be alone and sorted things. i was also terrible at communication, and kept to myself.
Hahaha I literally cried today when I found out I as an INFJ. Suddenly everything started to make sense and I was immediately relieved that I wasn't some abnormal mentally fucked guy lol
Same. My enneagram is also 6 wing 5 so I'm just a mess 😂 we can be in this together lol
I feel the same
So true..I am on the same category,all these years I thought I was different and I do have some psychological problems..now that everything has an expntn
they said we are so rare.
so i'm glad this vid gathered us in one place. :D
Yeah
Jhes 😂😂😂😂😂
As am I!!
yea...
Awwww why did that make me emotional 😂
I didn't realize my personality is so rare..
Same
😭🤞
It’s so weird someone describing exactly who you are as a person to the dot
Absolutely agree!
It’s not that they describe you but rather that you are the definition of the characteristics. If that makes any sense ?
absolutely..
I was lowkey scared😳
Dude i cant, i always thought im the only person who think like this and then there is a whole personality like me hahaha
INFJ population: 1.5%
TH-cam comments: 157%
waulpall since the title states INFJ most INFJs will watch the video if they know they are since they want to know more about themselves:) this might explain the 147%. Even 1% are about 7 000 000 ppl world wide.
@@Abhsgvahah That would be ~70,000,000 ppl worldwide.
Charles Petrizzi true:)
We are all here . Bcz i have no life in my real life
I actually did the personality test sooooo Idk what's going on here XD
Holy shit yes, sometimes I have a whole conversation in my head in response to something someone said to me.. then I'm just having a discussion with myself and forget to even respond to the person.
Exactly.
I do that too!
Sammee
Yup! Same here
Omg I just laugh it off
INFJ here. The smiling issue: I'm an educator and have had to tell my students that just because I'm not smiling isn't because I'm mad. I tell them I have a "thinking face" on. My upper grade students totally get it. Ever since I realized this, it's made teaching a lot easier. Usually the extrovert students get up enough nerve to test out if I'm mad or not by approaching to tell a joke. I laugh and then the more introverted students approach me... Because us introverts observe most of the time 😉 it's the cutest thing when they figure out body and facial ques.
See this is what's likely going to happen when I'm a Nurse Practitioner 😅. Also 'thinking face' is better (and more appropriate) than what I call RBF. I just return to my default neutral look when I'm applying myself
I can't tell you how many times I've been asked if im okay because I was too deep in thought. It's like they either think I'm angry or sad
Sames
I can relate
Omg me too
Ya... 👌. My friends ask me everyday and I feel sad and irritating on hearing it 😅😂😂👉👍🤝
my friends always say he doesnt even know about cricket football famous actors etc 😁Because I DONT CARE ABOUT THESE GAMES AND ACTORS I LOVE DOING STUFF BY MYSELF AND I FEEL PROUD ON MY WORK...... AND IN MY JOB I TROUBLESHOOT LIKE A CHEEZEE CAKE.
"It's easy for them to feel isolated, even around friends. It may seem contradictory, but people who possess this personality type feel lonelier in a group than they do when they're actually alone." Bro, I always feel drained and sad even if I'm in the middle of a crowd or a party. I even wondered if that's a normal thing to feel.
Sometimes im just like what? Im asian... Leave me alone.*looks studious* even though i wasnt trying to be. I was just trying to avoid interaction
Also why i ignore my parents most of the time. It may seem disrespectful and it is but when it's done often, 12 hours is far from enough time to recharge on top of having other problems. Misunderstanding arises
God saaammeee
Same. I feel much lonelier in a group than I do by myself?? Idk
Omg so true !!!!!
We are a blessed and yet cursed bunch.
honestly
A blessing and a curse are the same thing, it depends on how you choose to see things. Like " half full vs half empty". Or what you love having, you fear loosing.
Love you guys ♥️
🙊...😳...😂...😿
Hiram Rosenkreuz We hide in the corner of the sports bar while the limelight is in the center until 1 or several popular extroverts lock in on you & find themselves drawn to you, male & females alike as we are reserved in demeanor as choosing the furthest corner would suggest, our unique & often unfamiliar yet refreshing spiritual presence will often equate to a unicorn 🦄 trying to hide in the corner of a bar. Now your lil corner has suddenly turned into limelight central😂. Total strangers of all ethnic background male and female as I am a stocky built, bald, Mid forties African American man with a deeper than most voice with soft facial features who probably wouldn’t perform karaoke in front of my own wife & kids let alone strangers even if you paid me. Yet people have always approached me who I’ve never met before desperately in need of a kind understanding soul to reveal common personal issues to unthinkable issues that really needed someone who could remain calm. Years ago as I worked graveyard briefly in a huge factory amongst mostly Latinos a tall heavyset Mexican cholo covered in tats who I had never met asked could he talk to me of all people in a factory full of Latinos, he chooses me. We go on break together & go outside as he reveals to me that if I fuck this up & fail to get thru to him he’s going home & he’s gonna murder the guy who lives in the back house, go to his house which is the front house & murder his wife who he was positive had slept with the guy in back house & after her, murder his 2 Children ages 2 & 5!!! Calling Police never entered my mind & apparently he knew it wouldn’t himself. I proceeded to rip him a new asshole, he didn’t go thru with it & we became inseparable at work until he got shot, he survived but couldn’t work for awhile so we lost contact. That is only one of many encounters I’ve had with strangers who felt comfortable talking to me about some deep shit. Everyone seems to hold me in high esteem. Everyone but by wife There’s something about me that she is really envious of so instead of being my teammate she is my competitor when I only compete against myself I never try to outdo other people only myself. The gift & the curse INFJ
"If you mistreat them, they will retaliate. Not in an outburst, but by subtly cutting you out of their lives." I had to pause the video and scream at how accurate this sentence is. The amount of people I've subtly cut off is unbelievable. I don't like conflict, so they've all been subtle. Lmao I guess I really am a true INFJ.
This is me too. I have no issues cutting someone out that doesn’t treat me right. I’m such a loving and helpful friend, I don’t have time for people that mistreat me or for that matter others too. ☺️
The last one really got to me.. I've always been struggling with letting go of the smallest things I think I've said or done wrong, and thinking about it for days, weeks or even years. Does anybody else experience this?
Yes, it's a huge problem for me. Even when I think I've moved on, things comes back to haunt me years later and I beat myself up over it all over again. Having OCD doesn't help either 😑
Loyalty comes with a high price and I feel that this personality trait suits me to a tee 100%. I'm grateful for your comment. I'm happy to know I'm not alone, lol.
Naw I'm 27 and have anxiety about stuff I've seen or did while in school. Add all of this videos stuff together and then chronic anxiety along with OCD and you get a guy who is stressed all the time for no real particular reason.
yes.
Oh yes, I am still thinking about what I've done YEARS ago ... oh god its exhausting cause I always feel bad when it comes to the little things that COULD have hurt someone while others wouldn't care about you. It wasn't even something bad, just me, overrating and overthinking situations
12:00 Painfully true: "If they've hurt somebody, they will do everything in their power to fix it. If they don't know how they've upset a person, they have extreme anxiety because they're not sure how to atone."
Karen Woolley I needed this.. 😭 hits me right in the feels. I thought it’s only me.
sameee
Sara Hoeschele very true.
This is so true.. I rarely got into a trouble with people and I try to avoid one at all cost but there will always be a time that you'll slip especially to those who are sensitive or bad-tempered. They'll got me into severe anxiety and mental breakdown.
I hate when that happens, especially if I really appreciate that friendship, Id overthink on posible reasons and solutions for weeks
May I know who gave you the right to expose me like this
Sonialay /black space ikrr
Ikr what the heck
Yea, how dare u expose me!!!😁
lmao same this whole video is literally me
Right.....
When I was around 8, my mom asked me why I talked to myself all the time. I said because I’m the most interesting person I know. I took this test at work and it all makes sense now.
You know you are an INFJ when you find it uncomfortable to tell others that you are an INFJ....
Because you feel like they will think you are trying to be unique/intresting..
Is it just me or??
Edit: Yo what's up the new statistics says we are not the most rare anymore.I'm personally happy because now it feels more comfortable.And now we don't have to face all the people saying we are mistyped.
Absolutely !
Yessss u know ur an INFJ when u think farrrr about other people's perspectives
It’s a superpower. Keep it to yourself. “Never teach your soldiers all of your cunning. You’ll become a victim of yourself”
So true
But when i knew that i absolutely alright n i was just an injf, i wanted to shout to everyone that I'm an INFJ so they better study abt it before jumping to conclusions!
I am an INFJ. My friends and family at times can’t understand me and why I love being alone. I am so tired of absorbing energy from others.
Ughhhh I feeeel youu😫😫 I hate feeling other’s emotions so deeply when I clearly have my own problems -.-
You got that right Knowing how strangers are feeling is hard, but being so close to someone you love so much and knowing and feeling their pain when you are almost a hundred miles away from them is unbearable! First time that ever happened to me, I was 21 years old. I was driving to my parents house in a different town, when suddenly my left side erupted in serious pain, I was in tears leaning over the steering wheel. I felt like I was dying and all I could think of was getting to my Mother! Once I got to my parents house, I saw yellow tape through their yard?! I ran to the door to find out my Mother had been shot and killed by an intruder.. Then I found out she was shot on her left side, exactly where I was hurting and about the very same time I stsrted hurting. Sadly, this happened on Mother's Day and my Father, my Brother and my Sister's 18 month old Daughter were all murdered as well.... Being an INFJ and dealing with this plunged me into a dark rabbit hold of sever depression for a very long time! Then I discovered INFJ's do in fact have an ability to heal ourselves! The ability to project good, peace, love and Joy into other peoples lives, despite how we feel breathes these things back into our hearts! I truly believe in "Being the change, I want to see in the world"! I always, ALWAYS find The Silver Lining in EVERY situation, (even the bad ones) I realized what happened to me was horrible, but I was not going to let it be a life sentence! I choose JOY everyday I wake up!! Do not let anyone steal Your Joy! My alone time is imperative to maintaining my peace of mind!
I hear you girl :)
Me too!! They think I'm a horrible person or something, but, unfortunately, I'm in a position where I have to spend almost all of my time with someone who transmits extremely negative energy most of the time which I find unbearably suffocating! Any chance I get where I can be on my own, I grab it with both hands, but they can't accept that..!
@@davinagibson1665 your not a horrable person, you just dont like crowded areas, I'm the same way, I'll start getting edgey around people I don't know in big crowds, I'll shy away from groups, I mostly prefer if I do go anywhere to take it in a few hours span before I leave. It's just who we are. I've also tried explaining this to many people, they don't understand, but they have to learn alittle at a time threw exposure. I'm glad I was recommended this video cause now I can explain to friends and family and even my boyfriend why I act like this.
I have litterally never felt so understood in my entire life
I get you, sister. Love from Kentucky.
never heard of Briggs Meyers/ INTFJEST etc before today, this is my 2nd video and I match everything on both. Ridic!
Right
scrolling the comment section: "There are really other aliens like me??? And how do they look like?"
Same! Sending love from the Bronx NYC
Having been unhappy for a decade, I finally figured out I am an INFJ in my late 50s. When I watched this video I was truly astounded by how accurate every statement is. I hope others learn from this at a young age and avoid the painful consequences of guilt, self-criticism and putting yourself last. You are worth it!
I've found my people
True dat
Yes you have
lets cry together
I feel the same
This is the way
I wish all people had a little nametag saying
Name: _______
Personality Type: ______
lol thatd be so interesting
And zodiac sign
Ashton r are u an infj?
That’d be fun
That would make dating so much easier.
i am an INFJ-T and i literally thought that id be forever lonely and that no one will ever understand me. i was also worried that i had some serious problems but nvm it is such a relief to know that people out there feel the same too lol
Louize Lapira no one will ever understand you. They won’t. But it will still be okay, because you don’t need it as much as you think you do. It’s okay, really. When you are growing up and into your 20s, it still feels hard, but it will change. It will always frustrate you how easy it is for you to see things, and how obtuse other people seem, but it somehow works out okay. So just know that while it feels this way, it may not actually be as true as you perceive it to be now. I promise. It’s a good outcome. Keep the faith.
@@quintuplebanned4267 you made me cry:'
You have no idea how much I relate ;-; ....
@louize Lapira,
I am also infj-A. Wish you all the best mate!
Gurl SaME
I took the test but when I saw that being an INFJ was rare I was like “hold up, now I’m doubting myself so I’ll take it again to be sure” … I took it like tree more times and got INFJ-t all times but I’m still wary lol
I got the same thing
I could’ve sworn a long time ago it said ENFP for myself, but the latest, which I took the test twice in college, now states I’m an INFJ
And thats how you know your infj lol
Sounds 100
Same, but number one kind of hit hard.
When someone asks you to explain something that you knew "in your gut" and you can't actually put it into words, but it actually makes perfect sense to you, and yet they are completely perplexed...
Chris Yes, spot on, see Billy Bob Josè above and his replies...
Not to mention extremely judgy and a tad personally offended. Which I find so weird.
Spot on. I wish I knew more people like this!😭
All the time...
SO RELATABLE
I find it weird , Im always unconsciously making random conversations and always trying to prove something that doesn't even make sense and later on i realize it was all made up by my brain.
i relate to this :(
lmao i thought i was the only one :((
I do this all the time I thought I was the only one
I like going out, BUT I must have at least one friend that I can cling to if I start getting overwhelmed by being around too many people I’m not close with
Mee too I always need someone to cling to
Whatttt ?!?! How do you know what i’ve been feeling my whole life that i cant even describe it better than you..
yup
I usually go out - always to see a live band - I don't see any reason to go out to a bar or other venue otherwise, and I do rock out and dance - by myself. It keeps most people away from me, probably because they think I'm weird, which I proudly am, except a few friends who I run into doing the same thing, but I'm the only woman I know who isn't afraid to go out by herself. If someone walks up and wants to just enjoy the music with me, great. If they talk too much, I ask them to please be quiet while the band is playing. And I can escape for a while, or leave altogether anytime I want to.
This! I never go anywhere social (party, gathering, restaurant) unless I have a close friend with me
Just saying, this is one of the most supportive comment sections I've ever seen. Go IFNJ people! (Including me)
It’s sad when your infj and have such a low self esteem that it stops you from pursuing love
keira cullen this is literally me right now 😅 if you’re going through this, I feel you. therefore, you’re not the only one going through this 💙
That's me.
this.
As an INFJ-T I especially relate
@@jolinemaher3514 u play guitar? Cause I just checked your channel and there is a video of one band
Completely Paradoxial... The only reason we can be dark. Is because we truly see Both Heaven and Hell. Standing on the edge of a world we aren't really part of. But desperately want to save.
Accurate
Tauney Elysia Woah, that was scary accurate. I’ve never heard anyone describe my thoughts so accurately. What the heck.. Edit: Straight up, I shed a tear. I rarely cry.
That unreal feeling of reading an INFJ thought after ages of drowning in insipid notes.
I should expect it by now, for how many times I've been struck by awe reading other INFJs.
I see MBTI now commonly dismissed or even debunked in the media.
The overall system may have flaws but there's clearly a tangible insight within it.
Or its reflection of my own mind wouldn't be so regularly and utterly astonishing.
Tauney Elysia soundcloud.com/vedo95/the-edge I am an INFJ music artist please check out my creations from my personal life
That's because we are Earthbound Angels. Most of us are lightworkers. We are also a natural Healers and spiritual doctors. I say this because virtually all diseases that manifest physically originate on the energetic level. We are I'm highly intuitive although a lot of the world is uncomfortable with the term psychic.
Brain at bedtime: sleep? Oh heck no, we’re finally on our own, it’s time to do our own thang...all night...ugggggh...I gotta sleeeeep!!!
El Sea 😄 You’re telling the absolute truth of my every day life
haha too true. that is the worst part in my opinion.
Feel you man, started the beginning of highschool and finally 6 years later now through persistent meditation and forcing a severe routine into my life, I can finally sleep...
music seems to help. so does living in Colorado ;)
@@qminlee225 I was going to suggest the same thing. Through continued meditation I am able to "turn my thoughts off" completely at night.
What also helps is thinking about one topic and focusing on it so it becomes the theme of your dreams.
I was always the quite weird kid playing by myself. I have entire conversations and possible situations in my head
Same here
me, after taking MBTI test: "finally, someone understand me"
Fitri Dayanti are you one of us? INFJs 😊
@@ianian5099 both of you are not INFJ only narcisists
@@BalkanBoyBiH Look up what NPD is mate...
I understand you because I am an ENFP and ENFJ! ;0)
I took the test 2 times (1 year gap), get the same INFJ-A result. I hope im other type bcs the INFJ type of person actually aren't really good for myself, I hope I could be other type so I could get along with people.
INFJ sounds like a stranger if people don't understand who we are. That's why I find isolated myself in a room and reading books are better option.
You can tell that most of us are INFJs because we’re having deep conversations in the comments of a TH-cam video 😂
I Know right!
I'm reading tomes from people I don't know because it's mostly like I've written it..
Comforting to know that we're not alone but probably none of us will meet anyone we've read here.
Fibi Wright. OMG fr I was literally thinking the same thing!! 😂😂😂
Always by accident on a James Frank video. Search him on youtube...
Your all gay
Sorry, I didn't hear that, I'm too deep.
When I first took the Myers-Briggs test and the early 70s the counselor said you must be very lonely. And I looked at them quite quizzically and ask them did I seem like I was lonely? I was only in my very early twenties at the time. And they said no, it's just that you will rarely encounter someone who is just like you. That explains it. And as I've gone through my life I will admit that I am lonely. I feel like an animal that is going extinct. My deepest sadness is not knowing people who think the way I think and feel the way I feel. Which means I don't have anybody to really talk with at my level of understanding, intuition and passion.
It's a struggle. I'm 36 and still never married, lol 😐
I feel the exact same way. I wanna meet and connect with an Infj female before I die at least.
So true 😑
I am gonna turn 26 this year and have yet to find anyone whom can relate and speak to me on my level of understanding and depth. I can't even speak to my family members about what is going on in my mind and what I am thinking of let alone tell a friend. I am looking for my soul mate and the one whom will complete and understand me. For now I am just wandering around this earth like a lost person.
God do I understand.. wonder if a group of us in a large town would get together..or be repelled by our need to help others? I need to help others to listen to them to try to help..but accepting help...it's easier..but still not my first choice
"They feel more lonely with people then they do by themselves"
and there it is.
INFJ toddler: listens to other kids talk and doesn't speak until they're able to form sentences.
crazykenna this was actually me as a kid, to the point where I was one of the special ed kids in elementary school because I started speaking so late LMAO (not in special ed anymore tho)
I spoke at the age of 7 years old.. Yeah pretty late hahaha
I think this rings true as adults too.. I'm studying a third language and I don't want to practice speaking until I feel like I have a grasp on the sounds and structure. I'm full on observing mode.
that was me oml
Literally...my parents were about to bring me to a speech therapist.
Made me shed a tear watching this. How can someone who doesnt know me, know me better than anyone i know?
It's hard to be misunderstood...
Its just a vibe. I get it all the time. I've had 7 or 8 random people message me through my life and every time they've had a issue they needed to talk about or need help with.
Sora Jo so true
Sora Jo how old are you? That’s awfully sweet. We know you. You know us. I used to be a professor and I would have all the students (optionally) take the humanmetrics.com free mbti test. I never actually used it as a means of getting to know them, ironically, but I was just very curious during the first few classes of a semester, and it was a fun ice breaker. I found with the other infjs, when we were one on one, we almost wouldn’t talk. I think our understanding of one another was so innate, we didn’t have to. Is that weird or what? It was almost surreal. It’s almost as if it would be redundant if we spoke actual words. But in a group, they are my sisters and brothers. So are the INTJs and the ENFJS.
@@quintuplebanned4267 I'm not too young, I'm 20. :) That's so interesting that you did that. It must have been great to meet others who understood you. Before this test, I thought that I was alone and strange but that feeling has almost completely left me. I believe for people like INFJs, just knowing that you aren't weird, is all that matters to make them feel whole again.
Hello, fellow INFJ's. I took the 16 personalities test like 6 times. I always got the same result INFJ-A and most of the traits described I can actually relate to. The thinking that never stops, the fact that I can stay at home and shut myself off from the rest of the world even for weeks, hate small talk, love sad music and music overall and have a deep love for abstract concepts like the meaning of life and astronomy. I always felt alone even when in a relationship, definitely among big groups of people.
I'm often misunderstood as the extraverted type but going out drains me quickly and I want back to my shelter. I play dumb in front of people and mostly choose to ignore than start a conflict unless it is a matter that I feel is of utter importance and goes against my values. I have a talent for expressing myself through writing and I love discovering language patterns, and languages altogether. I speak 5 languages.
I consider myself a minimalist and materialistic things never excited me. I constantly try to analyze behaviors and patterns and somehow understand most of the time why people feel the way they do. Although sensitive and kind, serving in the army for 8 years I have learned to put myself first and toughen up and look extraverted when needed. I was a big pushover years ago and although I don't like it and I would like the world to be in harmony and that people understand each other, I have come to know that this is not possible, although it really saddens me that others are not as compassionate. What took me years to realize is that I can't expect others to think and feel the way I do.
Sorry for the long post, but I felt the urge to say a few things about me underneath a video where most of you should understand, as we share the same personality type. Stay healthy, kind and compassionate.
I understand your feelings
I understand. :)
Thank you for sharing your thoughts. It helps the rest of us in some way even if its small. It helps to know none of us are really alone we just don't know about each other and we can learn from others to grow and be encouraged.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts. I was so shook reading this because this is so me!!
Infj: is just basically this👆👆👆
I love how the title is "Things only a true INFJ would understand" because if we show this to our friends, they wouldn't understand.
If I had a dollar for every time my mom told me to smile... I could afford a house and avocado toast.
Ashly Sorenson This is my family in a nutshell
holy shit. i know that feeling TOO well.
TheLoreAxe dude my mom told me the exact same thing. She’s an ENFJ though so it’s natural for her.
True
Why does this only have 66 likes??😂🤣
It’s ironic how many times we INFJ s can listen to these outlines of our personalities and continue to gain useful information. Thanks for producing this one so well!
rebecca sykes exactly lol
So trueeee
Yep. Also consider sending links to these videos to folks who know you and maybe don't understand why you are the way you are.
One thing she didn't talk about is the 'ghosting' thing, which a lot of us do (i.e. disappearing from other people's RADAR screens for longish to long periods of time, or avoiding social invitations for periods of time.) Well she sort of touched on the latter.
A lot of folks probably misunderstand this. If they better understood our personality types, they may discover that it has no hidden meaning and isn't about them.
The one I find funniest is the thing about reading other people's emotions or thoughts. I have that a lot. Of course maybe it's not always right, but I have it a lot and to the degree I get to find out, it's usually right. I just have these very sudden, short feelings that I'm hearing what they are thinking or feeling. I assume it's just that we watch and think more than we react, so we catch those very subtle cues in people's faces and eyes that may betray what's going on behind the curtain.
Dean Roddey soooo right n on point.. ghosting ..read others emotions n getting it right ..the cues..
Ironic? I don’t understand how it’s ironic
For all INFJs in this world ... dont forget to make yourself happy ... it is a necessity ...
Jeremy Christsanto i have seen this that as an INFJ I keep on playing in my head some deep conversation and disagreement that I had with people. I do not know how do I get rid of this habbit.
Ravishing Twinkle i know the feeling, i used to be so before ... but then someone betrayed me and it keeps playing in my head ... but somehow i decide to make it stop and make my happiness as priority ... would you live for yourself ?
I forget this...all the time
@@jimjs5672 you should not forget ... because happiness is a choice ... you should choose it ... no one can bring the happiness for you but yourself ... because i used to do the same but i decide to bring happiness for myself ... i hope you can do the same ... wish you all the best !
I am just learning this, but thank you for pointing that out.
Infjs will never be understood by anyone , the most important thing is to know yourself and appreciate your personality and once you do that ,the journey to self love , interest and discovery becomes so amazing and never ending.
This is rather accurate. It’s nice to know you’re not alone and there’s a tribe just as weird as you are. Hello fellow INFJ’s 👋
Michael Navarro True !!!
Hello 👋🏼 🙃
oh yay
Hi weird tribe members!
Hello
I’m an INFJ and sometimes I’m so deep in my thoughts that I don’t realise that someone has asked me a question or that I Have been having a conversation with myself for about over an hour when it feels like 10 minutes.
Can anyone else relate?
Pls do, I’m hoping I’m not mental.
@Hanoona M.A yea honestly i can relate to this! No worries! ^^
Hanoona, don't let it bug you, think it through by all means but let it pass.
I'm in a technical field and can think a problem through for hours, my wife, an Angel for putting up with me, will eventually get through with coffee in hand.
If people don't understand, well, so be it but I have a mantra, slightly tongue in cheek, DILLIGAF....
Find something to level yourself out, DILLIGAF does it for me....
You are not mad, insane metal, just deep in thought!
I'm sometimes so deep in my thoughts that I ignore everything around me, and it can last for hours. It's like being in another reality
I relate to this so much!
Yep that's kinda me.. INFJ here
Fellow INFJ's, WHERE YOU AT?!
i didn't really know what to reply.. umm in my bedroom? :/
I'm in my head. (As usual)
In the kitchen, drinking beer, making a roast for my family. Where you at? Feeling Fabulous yet? ;)
I'm getting a INFJ personalized license plate on my car, so when other INFJs drive by, we can wave at each other :)
ilovemytribe we should get stickers!
Being an infj ain't easy yet it's the most wonderful thing to realise that we are trying our best to stand out and help others ❤️...
Is that we are so sensitive to energy. We observe more than we talk, we see people’s malice from a mile away nd our intuition is mostly correct.
Exactly! I've met people I knew were shady in just 5 minutes of observing them. I'm always confused when other people can't see how someone really is.
suicune2001 Yes! This is so frustrating and makes me sometimes question my judgement since I’m often the only who can see it.
@@ts074 I'm willing to change my perception if new evidence arises but normally I'm pretty accurate. I just try to be nice to everyone until they give me a reason to stop.
xLiquidWolf Gaming gut feeling
Yep....I can walk into a place and instantly know something shady is going on....my whole body can feel it without even making eye contact with anyone....I just KNOW someone there is up to no good
As an infj, i tend to get piss off easily by a person's attitude or moral but i'm angry at myself for thinking abt being angry at them so i just focus on their positive sides and love them as a whole 💕
Yasss always trying to improve ourselves
sad but true, most people are just straight up stupid or worse...trying to put sense into them is like trying to penetrate a steel wall with words
😁😁🤣🤣
I was like this but with some people focusing on positive sides and loving them as a whole can hurt you. Been there few times. :( I finally had to learn to not get hurt anymore and I just cut people off completely if their attitude or moral doesn't match my own. It's way healthier for me now and I don't feel as drained. Being INFJ is nice but at the same time it's exhausting. :(
@@Moriartea_chan i'm sorry you have to experience that :(( good thing you endured all of it and changed for your own benefit😌
So true, I often can't remember the exact words of a conversation, but clearly remember the feelings they elicited. Try arguing you're point but you can't remember what was said 😂
My husband and I have very different religious beliefs. He uses logic and science to prove his views are right. I don't got anything but my feelings and intuition and it doesn't sound nearly as convincing when I try to put it into words.
I feel what I believe is truth so strongly as though it's part of me.
E Rhea Flower hahaha I am so happy that I’m not the only one dealing with this! I am soooo bad at arguing because I forget everything!
It's so hard!
And it makes you unable to describe the event/conversation to others rite, but you remember the feeling of the event
@Caleb Scotton Me too! I thought I was the only one who repeatably would forget the Words, but remembered the Feelings; like something was wrong with my Brain. Ultimately, we are highly-sensitive Peace proponents.
She: "You can't achieve the impossible."
Me: Yes I agree but I also strongly believe that nothing is impossible so... (*internally struggling to collect thoughts and decide what to say next) Bye!
I hate when that happens. Can't even express myself like I want to. 😫
Yessss i also believe that nothing is impossible
Absolutely
That sentence kind of bothered me. I hate being told that I can’t do something and that it’s impossible for me. It just makes me angry and I can’t seem to accept it