Another great video. I definitely can relate to his story. I grew up in a military family, my father is retired Army. Very strict, very controlling, very disciplined. Showing any type of emotions was considered a sign of weakness, had to “man up” also. As a consequence, I lacked the appropriate coping skills to deal and process my emotions in a healthy manner. Alcohol was my solution to all of my problems. Resented my parents for a long while until I realized that’s how they were brought up. He is spot on when he talks about doing inner work, figuring out who you are, how to process feelings, how to live life on life’s terms. I use to be a people pleaser also but I quit seeking validation of who I am from outside sources. I now know myself and love myself and I’m very proud of the person I’ve become. Thanks for sharing ❤️🙏
@@kenfranklin3916 you’ve become an amazing person. And get to prove to people that doesn’t matter what age you are you can quit drinking. Well done. ❤️
Thanks Ferry and Meghan for another great podcast some very interesting points made especially about the mimicking as a youngster. I finally made my first year sober heres to another one thanks Meghan.
I related to what he spoke about how your mind set really shifts so much as you go along getting sober, it’s really is interesting to experience you see people and things in a whole new way. Thank you sir for sharing and wish you well going forward!
Thanks for having me on! Thank you for being able to give back to the sober community for what the community did for me! The delay in the connection is clearly visible sometimes :-)
I've noticed that my friends and family members can't really remember what happened when they recall recent memories. Or they'll recall a memory like I wasn't there and I'm like - "Uh......I was literally standing next to you when that happened." It's kind of shocking. I didn't notice this until I got sober. Makes me wonder how many memories I don't remember myself!
I am a firm believer in the Inner Child study that he's addressing. My parents, like most, meant well, but they brought me here and placed me in a perfect storm of doing parenting the wrong way. As a result, I became totally incapable of performing in the workplace and of forming romantic relationships. It took half of my adult life to figure this out, and to make only some progress. Really, all I could do is "retire" and go from there. I'm sure I'm not the only one out there like this: smart enough, but inept.
Another great video. I definitely can relate to his story. I grew up in a military family, my father is retired Army. Very strict, very controlling, very disciplined. Showing any type of emotions was considered a sign of weakness, had to “man up” also. As a consequence, I lacked the appropriate coping skills to deal and process my emotions in a healthy manner. Alcohol was my solution to all of my problems. Resented my parents for a long while until I realized that’s how they were brought up. He is spot on when he talks about doing inner work, figuring out who you are, how to process feelings, how to live life on life’s terms. I use to be a people pleaser also but I quit seeking validation of who I am from outside sources. I now know myself and love myself and I’m very proud of the person I’ve become.
Thanks for sharing
❤️🙏
@@kenfranklin3916 you’ve become an amazing person. And get to prove to people that doesn’t matter what age you are you can quit drinking. Well done. ❤️
Thanks Ferry and Meghan for another great podcast some very interesting points made especially about the mimicking as a youngster. I finally made my first year sober heres to another one thanks Meghan.
@@keithdodsworth7541 so proud of you!!!
I related to what he spoke about how your mind set really shifts so much as you go along getting sober, it’s really is interesting to experience you see people and things in a whole new way. Thank you sir for sharing and wish you well going forward!
Thanks for having me on! Thank you for being able to give back to the sober community for what the community did for me! The delay in the connection is clearly visible sometimes :-)
@@soberexpat I really appreciate you coming on!!! Yeah, the delay was annoying but we made it happen 🤗!
@@Soberstrong Good luck with your channel, Meghan! I'll record a video once in a while as well. It's good to give back.
I've noticed that my friends and family members can't really remember what happened when they recall recent memories. Or they'll recall a memory like I wasn't there and I'm like - "Uh......I was literally standing next to you when that happened." It's kind of shocking. I didn't notice this until I got sober. Makes me wonder how many memories I don't remember myself!
I really liked him. Great guest Meghan 👌
Aww, I’m glad you liked him!
I am a firm believer in the Inner Child study that he's addressing. My parents, like most, meant well, but they brought me here and placed me in a perfect storm of doing parenting the wrong way. As a result, I became totally incapable of performing in the workplace and of forming romantic relationships. It took half of my adult life to figure this out, and to make only some progress. Really, all I could do is "retire" and go from there. I'm sure I'm not the only one out there like this: smart enough, but inept.
@@13abcde I think a lot of of us actually have very similar upbringing. And we don’t realize it until we quit drinking.
I finally ended it. Now I just wish my mother would follow suit.
I am this guy
Same story, same age
AF since 20/8 2022
a fe days sober now....some progress i guess...doing the gym as well
the last time I got drunk was 13 years ago
I feel like ive heard a similar story 1,000 times this year... alcohol needs more education and regulation.
Im about 2.5 years sober myself right now!
Good content but he interrupts her alot. A bit self centered and rude..
💩 in his the background L😂L
Yup, a symbolic feat of "not giving a shit anymore". Actually I stole it from Mark Manson