But if your partner is an avoidant. Honestly anxiety will just act up. We are just humans at the end of the day. Only after the relationship ended and breakup is done . We got hit by the impact. Only then we will find out more about attachment styles.
But if i tell my ex “ i love you and I want to work things out, give me a call if you change your mind”, doesn’t this give him the power over me ??? And doesn’t this give the impression that I’ll be waiting for him ? I don’t want him to think I’ll be waiting for him..
No. You tell that and go no contact. When he doesn't know what you're doing.. What you've been upto.. He'll start to feel the curiosity and then you'll have the power. By saying those things you're just saying what you feel but also saying that you respect his decision.
Sorrin Sorin well. We met at a mutual friends party, he looked happy to see me, wanted to chat all the time, at the end of the evening when we were about to leave, he helped me put my coat on and kisse me on the uforehead then left .. I was confused Last week was my birthday, he sent me a text when he was on ski vacation ... his colleagues that are my friends told me he asked about me if I was doing well ...
I keep telling myself when i miss them...if they didn't want you as much as you wanted them then why the hell do i want someone like that? Low self worth so i will settle for less and they know that and hence the letting me go
I was suffering with generalized anxiety after some serious medical issues 😔 this lead to my break up I’m positive. I was needy and constantly anxious. I couldn’t help it. And the more I saw my ex fade slowly the more anxious I became. I was waiting for the shoe to drop and it finally did about 3 weeks ago. I miss him and my anxiety is worse than ever. Not just because of the breakup, but overall life. I hope we can work things out now that I’m on my own and MUST face myself and my issues💔
What is we were never in an official relationship but did everything that couples do. I went 2 his work function, dinner, movies, sex etc. then he said he doesn’t want a relationship I tell him respect that. Now he text me Happy New Year. What should I do. We were never in a relationship
Marcy Allison me too. It was in last November. After this we have not met. We were chatting once or 2x, 3x a month, but 1 month ago he texted me he started a relationship. I was shocked. But I started a very serious no contact. And I have pain. I hoped the situation was better....so. I have to heal myself.
My ex hmu after 3 years, and we ended up having 2 conversations over a month period. I asked to meet on the second convo which she agreed but she wanted to talk before so. I came across too needy on the phone, pushing to work things out again to which she responded with ghosting the following day. I wasn’t being myself due to other issues, issues which are gone now. It’s been a little over 5 weeks. Should I brake no contact and apologize for the way I acted? Or is it just done?...
Lol. Im almost finished with all of Rory's video to soothe my anxiety especially during this lockdown. I can't do all of the advice like go to the gym, go out with friends, do something new 😥. I've been doing home workouts but that's it. I still have anxiety almost 1 month from the break up. I can't move forward cause I need to deal with our apartment. Our lease has ended and I don't want to pay for it anymore cause no one is living there now. I took everything from there including her things cause she's far away and can't travel during this lockdown. The going back to our place tortures me. Now, I have to separate her things and clothes from mine and organize it. ITS TORTURING ME! She doesn't even care. I asked her to find a place for her stuff so she can get it there after lockdown and NO REPLY, NO SEEN FROM MESSENGER, NOTHING! I don't know why she is doing this, I'm thinking she's doing it on purpose to make me suffer.
@@KBGameOver There are so many that are really good... One that comes to mind is one on ‘slow fading’. There is also a brilliant one on ‘caring too soon’ All her videos have exceptional content. She is extremely wise and has helped me tremendously
I was pretty needy in my last relationship but i have been focusing on myself and I have hope we come together again I wasn't able to let the person go
Recieving no texts or calls for 3 days in a row and I definitely got anxious was it wrong of me to let him know that it made me upset ? Or am I needy ? I dont need to see him everyday. Hell we hang out 1 a week if we're lucky but not always sometimes 1 every 2 weeks but not seeing him is okay as long as he talks to me.
I wasn’t really needy But yes, I was anxious af I wanted constant reassurance from my ex boyfriend He did But it went to the point where he was stressed out it became too much for him He told me again and again and again he loved me but I found it hard to believe I was analysing the relationship like a math problem of some sort So one day he said “we need to talk” And broke up with me So yes it kills your relationship
I would say...ditch the shared phone bill. Get your ex off your phone bill and get your own. If you want to get your exes attention, then this will show them you are strong and confident and that you don't need them. It will really help to open their eyes regarding you and get them thinking....
Thelovechat your contents are great advices are really excellent but I feel like I was listening to coachcoreywayne but just in a different tone of voice. the styles are so much alike. Your intro and outro sounds like coach coreywayne. But then again I’m just saying🤷🏾♂️
The most I appreciate with this channel is the black screen. Saving my battery 🔋
But if your partner is an avoidant. Honestly anxiety will just act up.
We are just humans at the end of the day. Only after the relationship ended and breakup is done . We got hit by the impact. Only then we will find out more about attachment styles.
But if i tell my ex “ i love you and I want to work things out, give me a call if you change your mind”, doesn’t this give him the power over me ??? And doesn’t this give the impression that I’ll be waiting for him ? I don’t want him to think I’ll be waiting for him..
No. You tell that and go no contact. When he doesn't know what you're doing.. What you've been upto.. He'll start to feel the curiosity and then you'll have the power. By saying those things you're just saying what you feel but also saying that you respect his decision.
aparna iyer you might be right. :)
Thanks for the advice
@@sweetmery1988 happy to help. Stay strong. Good luck ♥️🌼
Update?
Sorrin Sorin well. We met at a mutual friends party, he looked happy to see me, wanted to chat all the time, at the end of the evening when we were about to leave, he helped me put my coat on and kisse me on the uforehead then left .. I was confused
Last week was my birthday, he sent me a text when he was on ski vacation ... his colleagues that are my friends told me he asked about me if I was doing well ...
What if you acted needy and begged but ended up regaining yourself and backing off like that wanted?
I keep telling myself when i miss them...if they didn't want you as much as you wanted them then why the hell do i want someone like that? Low self worth so i will settle for less and they know that and hence the letting me go
I was suffering with generalized anxiety after some serious medical issues 😔 this lead to my break up I’m positive. I was needy and constantly anxious. I couldn’t help it. And the more I saw my ex fade slowly the more anxious I became. I was waiting for the shoe to drop and it finally did about 3 weeks ago. I miss him and my anxiety is worse than ever. Not just because of the breakup, but overall life. I hope we can work things out now that I’m on my own and MUST face myself and my issues💔
What is we were never in an official relationship but did everything that couples do. I went 2 his work function, dinner, movies, sex etc. then he said he doesn’t want a relationship I tell him respect that. Now he text me Happy New Year. What should I do. We were never in a relationship
My ex wanted friends with benefits. I said no way.
Good for you!!
Marcy Allison me too. It was in last November. After this we have not met. We were chatting once or 2x, 3x a month, but 1 month ago he texted me he started a relationship. I was shocked. But I started a very serious no contact. And I have pain. I hoped the situation was better....so. I have to heal myself.
My ex hmu after 3 years, and we ended up having 2 conversations over a month period. I asked to meet on the second convo which she agreed but she wanted to talk before so. I came across too needy on the phone, pushing to work things out again to which she responded with ghosting the following day. I wasn’t being myself due to other issues, issues which are gone now. It’s been a little over 5 weeks. Should I brake no contact and apologize for the way I acted? Or is it just done?...
Leave it at that man, you deserve someone who reciprocates how you feel about them
My ex talked to another man behind my back, I told her after the breakup I knew about it.. why shouldn’t she know she was shady?
What was the final outcome of this writer's case?
Lol. Im almost finished with all of Rory's video to soothe my anxiety especially during this lockdown. I can't do all of the advice like go to the gym, go out with friends, do something new 😥. I've been doing home workouts but that's it. I still have anxiety almost 1 month from the break up.
I can't move forward cause I need to deal with our apartment. Our lease has ended and I don't want to pay for it anymore cause no one is living there now. I took everything from there including her things cause she's far away and can't travel during this lockdown. The going back to our place tortures me. Now, I have to separate her things and clothes from mine and organize it. ITS TORTURING ME!
She doesn't even care. I asked her to find a place for her stuff so she can get it there after lockdown and NO REPLY, NO SEEN FROM MESSENGER, NOTHING! I don't know why she is doing this, I'm thinking she's doing it on purpose to make me suffer.
this lockdown makes everything difficult for all of us 😥
@@yusellawinda4744 Yes and my anxiety of her coming back to get her stuff back makes me go crazy
Hey! How are you doing now?? Hope you've been recovering even just bit by bit.... !!
Weird. This was my recent break up point by point.
Rory, in your opinion and experience, was this writer's situation salvageable despite the mistakes he made? Could he still get his ex back?
Susan Winter has some seriously good advice! I’ve had some real Ah-hu moments.
Storm, which video did you find was the best of hers? for the Ah hu moments?
@@KBGameOver There are so many that are really good... One that comes to mind is one on ‘slow fading’. There is also a brilliant one on ‘caring too soon’ All her videos have exceptional content. She is extremely wise and has helped me tremendously
@@stormfalcon72 Thank you sooo much :), I will take a look :)
Susan winter is the real deal as well. Check out her channel.
OMG not another channel 😂 Ive watched every video on craig kenneths, DG and TLC.
Wait, how the hell does he know that she blocked/unblocked him on whatsapp?
When you unblock someone you have to wait 48 hrs to block them again, fb wont let you.
I was pretty needy in my last relationship but i have been focusing on myself and I have hope we come together again I wasn't able to let the person go
Trouble is, we don't realize what needs to be done until its too late! Good on you for working on yourself!!
Jaylene Flores has your ex contacted you since them?
Did you ex get in touch?
Recieving no texts or calls for 3 days in a row and I definitely got anxious was it wrong of me to let him know that it made me upset ? Or am I needy ? I dont need to see him everyday. Hell we hang out 1 a week if we're lucky but not always sometimes 1 every 2 weeks but not seeing him is okay as long as he talks to me.
Will u talk about breakups because of failures going on in your ex life and how to handle them?
I wasn’t really needy
But yes,
I was anxious af
I wanted constant reassurance from my ex boyfriend
He did
But it went to the point where he was stressed out it became too much for him
He told me again and again and again he loved me but I found it hard to believe
I was analysing the relationship like a math problem of some sort
So one day he said “we need to talk”
And broke up with me
So yes it kills your relationship
Did you go no contact? Did it ever work out again?
@@Romz-i3n I am on no contact since
But I uninstalled my messager
I just don’t get it she’s keep reaching out for her phone bill should I just ignore her we still share the same bill.
See I dont know about that one either. I share a phone bill with my ex. Ughhhhh
Dtfluff where are you now 7 months later?
I would say...ditch the shared phone bill. Get your ex off your phone bill and get your own. If you want to get your exes attention, then this will show them you are strong and confident and that you don't need them. It will really help to open their eyes regarding you and get them thinking....
So my ex blocked me lol :( most of my ex blocked me anyways so it doesn’t hurt lol jk. But yeah.. I was annoying I’d blocked myself as well🤣🤣
This is funnt
Video on gf partying too much
You like Corey Wayne??!! This may be new info for me... I'm not particularly fond of him
I like the information he has - I don't like the way he packages it.
Corey Wayne, too full of himself if you ask me.
Lucia is to the point but a little too harsh almost to the point of being cynical.
Thelovechat your contents are great advices are really excellent but I feel like I was listening to coachcoreywayne but just in a different tone of voice. the styles are so much alike. Your intro and outro sounds like coach coreywayne. But then again I’m just saying🤷🏾♂️
How dare you compare Rory with Wayne! 😂❤️ Rory is an INFJ..a very rare male..