OP need to grow some fucking ball, his wife literally almost choke him to death and he feel sorry for her, like wtf, and now their daughter holding against her, he need to move out and stop being a fucking simp cause soon or later the wife going abuse him again and years later, their daughter going cut all contract with them and he don't know why cause he stay with abuse
@KodibearIndigo When someone is deeply manipulated, your mind doesn't even see leaving as an option. You're a toxic butthole WITH ZERO compassion. You are NOT a good person or human.
the anorexia storie is so about power abuse, when someone has so low self steem we are willing to put our life on the line for people to like us it takes so little validation from an abuser to manipulate someone that's at their low, remember that most of the people who prey on children don't even like them that much, they are just easier to manipulate
those are the type that predate in vulnerability....anykind, but mostly the psychological, maybe that's why she looked after anorexia, frail state of mind, even more fragile physic
There are also anorexia fetishists, which is definitely the vibe I got from Lena. And honestly, if OP has been struggling with this since before puberty, it's possible that he didn't really go through puberty "properly" - which may be why he's still 5'0", so maybe he has quite a childish physique even at 40, lending credence to Lena being a PDF file.
Right? I almost cried hearing him say that he is bad parent for arguing. Imagine roles were reversed and it was a man hurting a woman, nobody would skip a beat before condemning them.
Right. He didn't cause this, she did. It will indeed become a core memory for the daughter for better or worse and she knows she can't trust her mother.
@Pioootr parents argue, it's unfortunate, but it can/will happen. OP isn't a bad dad for that. However, if he doesn't get himself and his daughter out of that toxic situation, then he will be a bad parent. That mom is abusive and I really hope OP and daughter get away from her before momma dearest decides to turn her abuse towards her child.
Story 3: rslash, sadly you're not wrong. The whole thing about "anorexia fetish" (as well as feederism) is wanting your partner to be totally dependent on you as some sick powerplay. They want their partner to be bedridden and immobile and in the end, die as some ultimate control move. But also a lot of the people who want to starve their partner do it because the smaller their partner is, the more they remind them of a child, and since they don't want to end up in jail, they choose the next best thing, so to speak. I'm so sorry for OP, I hope he gets therapy and can recover from this and that he has at least some friends who can help him through this. That woman is sick, I don't know if what she did is considered illegal but it should be. She was literally trying to murder her husband for her sick paraphilias.
It’s been a very long time since I heard of a case like this, I know one if it’s old references was “porcelain syndrome” and I think that’s from the 17-1800s. It might actually be the basis of the saying love you to death, really creepy if you think about it.
8:38 Beyond cheating, this is abhorrent and predatory behavior. I am concerned about the affair partner being an 18-year-old anorexic young woman when the wife is obsessed with anorexic people. Out of all mental illnesses, having ED is the deadliest! She’s targeting someone at such an impressionable age and 1) creating a toxic dynamic with the age gap and 2) promoting harmful habits in this young person.
@@mattybrunolucaszeneresalas9072 I don’t even know what you’re saying “I don’t think so” to. What’s the point of typing this out if you’re not going to refer to which point(s) you disagree with and have some kind of reasoned response?
Mind you, this is a man who views preparing the dinner and taking care of laundry after he comes home from work as 'not doing enough', while the wife seems to be stay at home and apparently 'constantly stressed with chores' and supposedly doing the 'hard stuff'. And he thinks she has valid arguments to constantly berate him over this. So yea, his views are a bit skewed from the start to say the least...
@N0xiety he seems to be so manipulated and brainwashed he thinks this is normal. She IS a bad mother. I hope op can see the comments and run. It seems he has no support system around him which wouldn't be surprising given the wife's controlling and abusive behavior.. this is a scary situation and once a person puts their hands on your neck your chance of death goes up by 500%
@@bryn1063 Yup, he obviously is not a bad husband, but he doesn't seem to recognize that, thus he just takes the constant abuse coming from his wife as if it's normal.
@@N0xiety No, he's a bad husband. Not because he doesn't do enough, but because he is modeling abusive relationships for his daughter, ensuring she will be abused too.
@@machinethatgoesblorp To be fair, if you were a parent who was brainwashed into thinking this obvious abuse is completely normal in your eyes, it would be hard to see your child's concerns and worrisome about the situation.
Story 2: This makes me sad that OP doesn't realize how badly he's being abused. Men don't get the same treatment as women when it comes to any type of abuse, and the fact that OP is so willing to just sweep it under the rug despite the fact that even his daughter is actively disgusted with her mom, it's just heartbreaking. I really hope OP finds the support he deserves and gets away from that psycho lady
Welcome to being a man. Where No one gives a single fuck about you and your mental and emotional needs. There's a reason us men commit suicide so much 💔
@@HackiePuffs unfortunate reality. If a man shows emotion he's to weak. If he shows no emotion he's a monster. There is no in-between in the minds of the ignorant.
OP need to grow some fucking ball, his wife literally almost choke him to death and he feel sorry for her, like wtf, and now their daughter holding against her, he need to move out and stop being a fucking simp cause soon or later the wife going abuse him again and years later, their daughter going cut all contract with them and he don't know why cause he stay with abuse
Wait i don't even get how he is in any way supposed to be 'a bit of an ahole'. Is it because he yelled back after being berated and yelled at by wife? He has a job, and he takes care of the laundry and dinner after work, while wife seems to be stay at home if i read into it right? Like, what more should he do? The man doesn't even have dinner waiting for him at home after work, he has to come back from work and prepare dinner for everyone, and apparently constantly get berated over this. He actually seems to even believe that he isn't doing enough. While the wife apparently does all the 'hard stuff', constantly 'stressed with daughter and chores'. Huh? Am i reading into this wrong?
Dude wasn't the AH tho. Like... at all in this story. The only thing this guy did wrong is that he is still with his wife. He shared how he "usually" tries to de-agro his wife. This is a common issue. That is domestic abuse man. The man should've left yesterday. For his and his daughters sake. That already IS a core memory for the kid. And staying with the wife will likely cause more. Plu... no, you're not a bad husband for not being able to "control" your woman. A good husband doesn't do that. And a good wife wouldn't behave like that. Just run man, run. Take as much parenting right (I forget the proper term) as is possible in the divorce and then stay away from that woman... Drastic but if the wife doesn't see the problem and refuses therapy for her blatant issues.. that is the only step forward.
Yeah... im having a bit of an absurdity giggle right now (when you laugh at how crazy and absurd a situation is, not cause its funny) That... kinda escalated.
@@avesatanaenono pranks are great, just uh, try not to bring anything that could cause damage (physical, mental, property, etc) into the mix or you'll end up with a roof caving into a poor house
I honestly feel so bad for his friend and the prankster. They meant it to be super harmless but it ended up changing his friends life hopefully not for the worst
TBH i feel the prank story is a bit of a stretch, rigging the hose from the ball cocktail of a toilet won't cause the toilet rank to not fill even on those older ones cause the hose only diverts water to allow the bowl to refill and reseal the trap in the toilet, unless he was able to make it so the chain on the flapper would get stuck as well. The fill valve of a toilet has 2 openings for water, one for the tank and one for the hose into the overflow tube.
Story 2: op you need to divorce NOW if not for you for your daughter because the hopefully ex wife's behaviour is inexcusable and I can guarantee she will strike again
Story 1: Man, i feel sooo sorry for Derek :/ Op’s stupid prank destroyed his home and uprooted his life :/. I also really don’t like how in the comments of his post Op seems to downplay what he did…
IDK of he was really downplaying it. Seems more like he was telling the story from his perspective at the time, as a kid. From the last update OP gave, he clearly is still torn up about it, despite all the years that have passed. He should track the dude down on socials and apologize to him directly. Bring both of them some closure. Who knows? Maybe the move improved things for Derrick. OP said the house was already close to being condemned. Maybe the move saw Derrick's life improve?
Story 3: as someone who’s been in ‘semi-recovery’ for the past 3-ish years and was previously part of the ‘pro-recovery’ side of ED Twitter, there are absolutely people like this, and like op’s ex, they absolutely prey on young vulnerable people in the ED community. It’s disgusting how many literal children I saw saying some creep followed their public account. All that said, words can’t express how proud I am of OP for choosing recovery. From one struggler to another, I’m so proud of you, man. Keep going. You are worth it and you are loved.
yup. edtwt is hell bro. Pro recovery or not, i wish twitter censorship existed at least to keep those people out. Although it might not stop them, it would keep impressionable people from finding them, joining the community, and getting worse. seeing "deathspo" threads just popping up... i'm proud of this dude for recovering and anyone else who does too.
Story 3(?): as a woman who’s had an ED most my life- anorexia is SO fetishized in the same kind of way that feeding is. And yes, the amount of people with that fetish who are also PDF files is TERRIFYING
How is dating an 18 year old anywhere near a PDF? It's humorous how many of y'all hide your desires through projection. And yes I'm calling the majority of you PDFs yourselves otherwise children and acts like that wouldn't cross your minds at every opportunity.
I hope you’ve gotten to a good place now but I completely get your point. This just seems like the inverse of feederism but the motivation is the exact same. I’m 5’2” 100lbs so small but nothing crazy and I fit into some children’s clothes. A PDF seeking such a sick, small adult as a substitute for what they really want is just horrifying though it makes sense. Just read the other comment lol. Don’t want to reply to him directly but a PDF dating an 18 year old doesn’t make them not a PDF!!!!! That relationship may be legal and sure, it’s better to be with a small adult than a kid but that is such a low bar. Also what would you call a person like in the story? Is the opposite of a feeder a starver? A restrictor?
@@KodibearIndigo Are you... an idiot? Most PDFs know that their desires will get them behind bars if found out. The body of an anorexia suffering adult will look vastly different than a healthy one. The "helplessness" due to their stature and literal lack of muscle plays a big part into why they make a great substitute. Many PDFs like children for their helplessness. Be it due to trauma resons or fetishisation of a helpless person you can do anything to as they physically can't stop you (the same kind that many 🍇ists have but without the fear of them actually being able to fight you). It plays a lot into wanting dominance for many of them. Second: pointing out obvious bs like booty shorts for toddlers doesn't make one a PDF-file. And you pretending that it automatically means we are all attracted to kids is mind numbing. Did you eat a tidepod or something? It'd explain alot. I wish I had half the maturity of the commentor above me. Shouldn't have tagged this doofus.
@KodibearIndigo It its grooming. A 30 year old is much more mature and has a fully developed brain compared to an 18 year old. It's also a disgusting power dynamic. I don't think calling some grown ass adult dating a barely legal adult is "projecting." It sounds like you are extremely offended about this and you have a reason for it 🤔.
Well I gotta say, I’m surprised at how surprised *Dabney is* at the idea of that. Anorexia has been not so subtly fetishized in American culture (at the very least) for decades at this point. About 6 or 7 if I’m not mistaken, and that’s only from my earliest thing I can think of is housewives swallowing tapeworms as a diet fad 😅 No, thin culture is much more normalized than it should be, although, we’re getting just a little bit better with these coming generations, a lot more inclusivity today, than 2005 right?
Two things that stood out to me in the choking story: 1) "She started smacking me and I tried to sid down because it USUALLY makes her less angry" - so OP is constantly being abused for at least a while and 2) I'm pretty certain that he's actually doing enough in the house but he's just been abused and gaslit so much that he just thinks he isn't
Story 2: this is heart wrenching OP fully believes that everything is his fault, saying he doesn't do enough around the house and that justifies his wife yelling an beating him. The fact that he said that him sitting down normally calms her down shows that she regularly beats him and this time it escalated into strangling him. The man was beaten, strangled until unconscious and then hit his head and still thinks it's his fault. I honestly don't think I can even believe him with the excuse of "I don't do enough," because if he believes getting attacked is his fault who knows what else he'll believe, and even IF he is right that still doesn't justify abuse.
I know a guy who has been an ER doctor for 20+ years. I once asked him "Are hospitals more like 'SCRUBS' with everyone pranking each other all the time or 'Grey's Anatomy' with everyone sleeping with everyone?" His answer: "Both. In about equal measure."
My bf & I were wild as teens, hanging with older guys, drinking & smoking. She'd leave me alone with guys while she & a random guy went in back. I'm shocked nothing ever happened to me. Of course, they'd beg & plead, but they never forced themselves. If you're a young girl with a friend like mine, DUMP THEM. They do NOT care about you. My life would've gone on a completely different (much better) trajectory without her in my life, teaching me to skip school, do drugs, and use my feminine skills. Listen to your family when they give their opinions about your friends. They gave your best interest at heart. Friends come and go.
Even if OP does have the balls to make a social media account to find Derek and confess it’ll do more harm than good. Like, is the knowledge that his childhood friend inadvertently caused his family to move a good thing to know? Sounds like it’d be like picking at an old wound and throwing salt on it.
The truth will set you free that's why people who lie go against it (they keep their victims trapped). What happened to you happen to you regardless of whether or not you know. Also if an old wound hasn't healed after a couple years and can still hurt when you scratch it or put salt then you should probably get that checked out. Time might heal all wounds, but if you have an infection it's only a matter of time.
@@ElytraNoble What Fanatic did you steal that from? Also, bullshit! As a German, our honesty and directness is already considered rude by many standards! Even so I prefer it heavily! But about every person calling themselves "brutally honest" is usually just an asshole! The Truth is a hammer! Which may shatter the shackles holding us down or attached to our baggage... But also or ego, confidence or self worth.... And most importantly, always leaves permanent marks! There is a reason, why we as a species have decided to more often than not protect children from the truth.
I feel so awful for 3 people in this video: Derek, OP 2 (let’s just Hope he will divorce) and mostly OP 3.. OP 3 deserves so much better than this, they litterally was body shamed and cheated by a sick pedo! I’m happy that they got healthier (by gaining weight ofc), but.. They need a real caring person, not a person who’s attracted by sick people like Lena do.. It’s seriously disgusting
Holy fuck dad needs to run before she loses both her parents he needs to look at some spouse stats, like specifically the one about likely hood of murder after choking
The 3rd story with the anorexia kink, that's beyond sickening. She wanted OP to be suffering from a disorder and then cheated on him with an 18 yo who had the same disorder...she sounds evil, like some sick mad scientist poking at a sick, small, injured mouse with some sort of sick glee...I cant with this story.
it might have roots in more sinister stuff as you said but anorexia fetish IS a real thing and is extremely predatory and prevalent and denying it is wrong. both ana fetishists and feeders have a fetish for unaliving people through these means and many people keep score. she got upset that he went into recovery bc he had a week left to live!!!
The anorexia story may be even darker than having a thing for children. It may even be a thing for watching people suffer and slowly die. Which honestly seems a bit more plausible than the children thing. Cause an anorexic at their peak looks like a literal walking corpse.
Remember if your partner feeds your mental issues and makes your illness worse leave. They don't have your best interests in mind. Good partners wants to keep you healthy. I'm glad OP in the anorexia got better and hopefully OP find better partner.
OP, why didn't you go to the hospital? Why aren't you pressing charges? If a man did that to a woman, then he'd be in prison the next day. How could you possibly brush off being choked like that!? Never mind getting knocked out! Dude, she says she feels like a bad mom, but what about her feelings about herself as a wife? She doesn't care about you _at all,_ OP! Take your daughter, press charges against your wife, & divorce the crazy woman.
Because the only other witness IS a child. Courts already deal with male abusers so horribly, let alone female abusers especially in a system where women usually get the kids.
@yourlocalcoffeeaddict9603 The kid, who can prove it was mom attacking dad, is a reason not to do anything? What? Did you even read my comment? Wtf are you trying to say?
@@Richard_Nickerson because it's heavily traumatic for the child to have to go be a witness and have to explain what happened in a court room and I'm not sure if anyone will take that seriously or not. obviously it's FAR more traumatic for OP to stay with his wife though but both options are rlly sucky for the kid ://
@@yourlocalcoffeeaddict9603 Dude... you're missing the actual point I was making to begin with... You know what else is traumatizing? Raising your kid in an abusive home. You know what else is traumatizing? Being abused. You're saying it's better & healthier for the kid to stay in the situation without doing anything? A woman does that & you don't think the man should take the kid with him? You're objectively unhinged.
@@Richard_Nickerson hi so I've actually been abused most of my life by both my parents and sibling, thank u. I was SA-ed multiple times for YEARS. do NOT come @ me about how damaging it is to be in an abusive house, I know how damaging it is bc I went thru it and still am. All I'm saying is that the little girl going through court will be traumatized by it and I don't even know if it would be allowed to happen given how young she is. That's all I'm saying. I think women can and do abuse, in fact I think they get away with it a lot easier/lighter than men do and that's something I try to bring awareness to. I'm not saying for OP to stay with his wife, I'm saying that objectively OP is in a really tough situation either way but I hope he makes it through with his daughter.
Oof.. OP, if you ever see this video and read the comments, RUN, don't walk, to the nearest exit. Your wife may only focus on you now, but she might eventually turn her aggression onto your daughter, especially if she does all of these things knowing you're scared of her. Eventually you'll grow numb to that fear, which, it honestly already sounds like you have, the next best thing an abuser can do it threaten to harm, or actually go through with harming, something or someone else you love. Your daughter is not exempt nor protected from your wife's bs, she'll use her to instill a new fear into you eventually... Your kid also doesn't need to grow up watching her mother abuse her father. What part of your relationship do you want her to view as "happy"? It's never been happy from the sound of it, it'll never *be* happy, and you shouldn't normalize this sort of thing for her.
100% OP 3's wife is attracted to children. The fact op even says that if it were legal her wife would date younger says A LOT. Plus with the control and power dynamic manipulation, she clearly has the tendencies of an abuser. OP needs to flee ASAP and probably notify local law enforcement if theres any evidence of it.
6:24 "I'm so afraid this will become a core memory for her" SHE THOUGHT YOU DIED WHAT DO YOU EFFING THINK?! You're a bad father for keeping that woman in your daughter's life.
Unfortunately I can confirm there are definitely people attracted to disabilities and mental health issues. Not attracted to people despite these problems, i mean actually attracted to the disability itself. Its largely tied to having a power imbalance fetish, they love having a certain power, control and codependence over someone. They get off on the idea of their victim needing the, of being the only person that will ever want them. Everyone from autistic people, to paraplegics, to the clinically depressed, to the blind and everything in between are targets. One of the biggest warning signs that that person isn't interested in you but just your condition is fixation. Are they asking about your hobbies? Family? Dreams? Or does almost every conversation seem to shift to your disability?
As someone who unfortunately is familiar with online anorexia/ed communities, anorexia fetishists are absolutely a thing. And yes, a horrifying amount of them are also going after children... Although I have never heard of a female anorexia fetishist, all of them I've encountered before are men who mainly go after vulnerable teenage girls on eating disorder forums and chatrooms. And girls have died because of this, fetishists have indirectly (or even directly) contributed to people with this illness starving to death or taking their own lives. It's a dark, dark world to be in. I'm so glad op was able to escape, usually these kinds of stories do not have a good ending.
Story titled family tea. I can speak from experience in this it took me 18 years to escape. Female aggressor domestic violence is real. I was fortunate enough to escape and be able to rescue my two sons out of this situation. Now I have them both and she has no rights at all. People say it's rare but true statistics show it happens about 50/50 with male aggressive domestic violence. The lesson here is just be careful and learn how to spot the red flags early so you can get out before the violence starts
It's incredibly region specific (even in and especially in large countries like the u.s)so sometimes other laws are available/ the only option in some cases theses being laws related to endangering others and accessory after the fact would be pertinent some laws do based around mental health in some places would also be options but I digress my original point is there are places with specific laws and specific legal language targeting exactly what you're describing
Another "Chapter Titles That Do Not Match the Story" post. How does this happen? Is this someone's idea of Malicious Compliance?" Last Story: Fifty Shades of Blue Cross!
I was in a similar situation as OP 2. I didn’t do as much housework, but I did work a lot more and help with appointments and stuff. While I certainly didn’t do nothing, I absolutely could have done more. Regardless, that doesn’t excuse that sort of abusive behavior. My wife was never physical, but there was a lot of what I have come to consider emotional/verbal abuse and manipulation.
Plot Twist: Derricks family was already planning to move but he hadn't told anyone yet. He actually discovered OPs prank and decided to to the tables by concocting the flooding story then making sure OP was told after the move.
12:10 was not expecting the in-n-out lol, reminds me of how my hometown, Boise, recently got our first one built right across from the mall. I rode my bike to said mall the day it opened by complete coincidence and the line was crazy, I was like “was there a wreck in the drive thru?” No, it’s just there’s only 2 in the whole state of Idaho, this one and one in Meridian, which is part of the same metropolitan area. I’ve only eaten at in and out once on a trip to SoCal (Anaheim) last year, pretty good but I don’t understand why it’s so overhyped here. It’s just a burger.
For story 2: No one will believe him and it’s not possible for men to be the victim according to a lot of people, he’s stronger and more powerful therefore she’s not a danger to him. But I hope he gets out of there.
I wonder if the last op's toy was pinching the vagus nerve, which would definitely make someone pass out! Same reason some people pass out on the toilet from straining...
@@erikmckoul2478 there is (or was) a show called "sex brought me to the ER" or something like that, can't remember which network, though there were some hilarious stuff people had done
Story 1: If that's all it took to cause all of that, it was probably better that something happened while everyone was away. Yes that's a lot of water, and leaks can cause a lot of damage, but in a safe building some water damage over the weekend doesn't completely destroy it. The prank is crappy, but there may have been a silver lining.
The abused husband needs to start a paper trail of abuse from calling the cops to file a report, pictures of the bruises, hospital visit n a witness statement from his daughter. As a man he will likely have difficulty proving the abuse without the proper evidence n documentation after the events. At least the daughter saw it this time so hopefully it will spur him on to do what is necessary to get them both away from the woman. Sadly he will have a very hard time trying to get full custody since he is a man but her witness statement will go a long ways. I am sure she has heard plenty of yelling from her mom during the altercations which will help but he’ll still have an uphill battle since he has not made reports before. I pray they will get out n never have to see that woman again. 🥺🙏🏻💖
"no one will ever love you like I did" ya that's a good thing. The way you loved me was no ok and you meed help though iI highly doubt you will seek it and I feel bad for your next victim. I'm glad OP didn't die during any of this.
3:00 what do you mean? He flushed without notice? Anything? I still don’t understand what this “hose” is. Is it in the back of the toilet? Cause I’ve never heard of this.
basically: The pipes leading to a toilet do not provide enough water to guarantee a flush if you just let them flow directly into the porcelain throne. So it gets stored into a reservoir and after a minute or two, there is enough in the reservoir that you can empty the reservoir and guarantee a full flush. The reservoir has a little floaty-thing that rises with the water, and triggers a sensor that cuts off the flow when the thing gets full. They took the little hose going from the plumbing into the reservoir, and removed it from the reservoir. So that when the toilet flushes, and the water drains, the floater drops and makes the pipe put water through the hose again. the idea was that the water would flow out of the hose, and spray the guy the moment he flushes, so the magazine paints it as a harmless thing. you get wet, realise the hose is lose and put it back in the reservoir (or at least cut-off the water until someone who understands how toilets work does it for you). Theoretically a harmless prank, even in the case where someone flushes and doesnt notice, they'd notice later that same day when they step into a small puddle and wet their socks. In most situations, this would've been a relatively harmless prank (2 hours of water at most before someone goes to the toilet, gets their socks wet, even if they dont notice it when they get sprayed by the hose. Still a nasty prank dont get me wrong, maybe some water spilling into the hallway but not "ruin a families finances forever" levels of bad.) But an entire week where no one actually enters the bathroom to spot it? thats death by woodrot.
I hope that u/anoncheesegrater never went out with that dude again, because "they've known each other since they were kids" doesn't change the fact that if she was slurring her words, she was too drunk to consent and therefore it would have been r*pe.
That abuse story, it goes to say how long would it ve before the mother starts treating their kid like that? Especially when they grow older and less "compliant"
If you go unconscious from a head injury you need to seek medical help. Put simply you dont go unconscious like that without some form of damage, temporary or not. Story 2 OP feels bad about his wife giving him actual brain damage.
What was the statistic if someone is choked out by their partner there's 700% more likely to die or something like that? Anyways people are used to the dude being the one choking out the girl so good luck OP you're going to need it. Prepare yourself for "You probably did something to deserve it" and other stupid comments like that.
Story 3: anorexia doesn't necessarily destroy your sex drive. My ex wife's kicked into high gear. It was difficult. Lena is a massive asshole. She saw somebody vulnerable and used his vulnerabilities against him. Encouraging somebody who is anorexic to restrict and complimenting them for the disordered parts of them is disgusting. She legitimately just played into his disorder for her own sick benefit. I'm in tears over here. I spent years doing everything to help my ex-wife. To think there was someone out there encouraging him to go through what we went through hurts me a lot. I cannot even imagine how you can look at somebody in that situation and want it to be worse. The stone cold lack of empathy is sickening. She's literally targetting sick people. What a disgusting piece of garbage. I hope nobody ever loves OP like she did, because the way she loved him was not at all. Edit: Rslash, if you're right, then she's even more disgusting than she already seems to be, which I didn't think was possible.
Attempting to choke somebody and causing bodily harm far outweighs not being helpful at home in terms of who is being a bad person. Op's daughter has just seen how terrible her mother is even if he hasn't realized it yet
Drunk or not, trying to force a girl into a situation where she can be taken advantage of is horrible. One thing to keep "begging" her, but unless/until she agrees, then there shouldn't be any physical attempts to take it further. Some (not all) girls like to play hard to get and so will keep saying no until they decide that the guy(s) have begged long enough (or until she herself is too eager to wait any longer) and finally agrees. But again, unless (and until) she agrees, it's absolutely a no. Now, if the girl is drunk but the guy isn't, then it's a no anyway unless she consented before getting drunk. If both are drunk, then it's fair game (so long as neither forces the other).
10:30 you never heard of people starving their partner for physical attraction? Really?? That is so common among men to pester their girlfriends and wives about their weight, so they start to starve them selves. Much more common, than feeders I would say.
Theres a massive difference between mentioning that someone is overweight and encouraging literal anorexia. The former is fixed just by not eating 2 peoples meales every meal lmao.( Also im fat)
@@donlgoff No, I didn´t mean someone, who eats 2 meals. I mean couples, where usualy man comments about girl´s weight and portion sizes. Eventualy it gets to you and you can develope an eating disorder.
Last story: They were looking for a habanero boost and got a ghost pepper blast instead. Be careful how spicy you try to go in the bedroom, because no amount of milk can fix the burn if you overdo it, lol.
5:14 not only is this physical abuse of him but this is chil chile abuse, specifically emotional abuse (called Mental Injury” in SC) of their daughter. OP def needs to file a police report and/or contact CPS depending on what state they’re in. Mom can be charged for both crimes and actions can be taken against her for their protection.
5:56 OP hits his head? has bruises on the back of his neck? and BLACKS OUT? DUDE, HOSPITAL, NOW!
Not just hospital, he needs to call the fucking police
OP need to grow some fucking ball, his wife literally almost choke him to death and he feel sorry for her, like wtf, and now their daughter holding against her, he need to move out and stop being a fucking simp cause soon or later the wife going abuse him again and years later, their daughter going cut all contract with them and he don't know why cause he stay with abuse
Let darwinism take care of the spineless, like him.
@@KodibearIndigobro what the fuck, having a spine doesn’t mean shit if you don’t have even basic empathy for other humans
@KodibearIndigo When someone is deeply manipulated, your mind doesn't even see leaving as an option. You're a toxic butthole WITH ZERO compassion. You are NOT a good person or human.
the anorexia storie is so about power abuse, when someone has so low self steem we are willing to put our life on the line for people to like us it takes so little validation from an abuser to manipulate someone that's at their low, remember that most of the people who prey on children don't even like them that much, they are just easier to manipulate
This feels like Munchausen by proxy syndrome
those are the type that predate in vulnerability....anykind, but mostly the psychological, maybe that's why she looked after anorexia, frail state of mind, even more fragile physic
@@Yumi_JayI didn’t think of that one, it seems more like reverse feederism to me. There’s a fair bit of overlap between the terms though
There are also anorexia fetishists, which is definitely the vibe I got from Lena.
And honestly, if OP has been struggling with this since before puberty, it's possible that he didn't really go through puberty "properly" - which may be why he's still 5'0", so maybe he has quite a childish physique even at 40, lending credence to Lena being a PDF file.
6:21
She IS a horrible mother. Any person who beats their spouse or partner IN FRONT of their children is an absolute monster.
Divorce, now.
Even without the kid there.
Any person that beats their spouse/partner is a monster.
Right? I almost cried hearing him say that he is bad parent for arguing. Imagine roles were reversed and it was a man hurting a woman, nobody would skip a beat before condemning them.
@@michaeljenkins178 period
Right. He didn't cause this, she did. It will indeed become a core memory for the daughter for better or worse and she knows she can't trust her mother.
@Pioootr parents argue, it's unfortunate, but it can/will happen. OP isn't a bad dad for that. However, if he doesn't get himself and his daughter out of that toxic situation, then he will be a bad parent. That mom is abusive and I really hope OP and daughter get away from her before momma dearest decides to turn her abuse towards her child.
Story 3. "No one will ever like you like I do!" Yes, and we're all rooting for OP that that will be true because your "love" is toxic and unhealthy.
Literally unhealthy at that...
Classic "You will never met someone like me!" That's literally the point lmao
OP should hope so!
"no one will ever love you like I do!"
"god, I freaking hope so!"
Story 3: rslash, sadly you're not wrong. The whole thing about "anorexia fetish" (as well as feederism) is wanting your partner to be totally dependent on you as some sick powerplay. They want their partner to be bedridden and immobile and in the end, die as some ultimate control move. But also a lot of the people who want to starve their partner do it because the smaller their partner is, the more they remind them of a child, and since they don't want to end up in jail, they choose the next best thing, so to speak. I'm so sorry for OP, I hope he gets therapy and can recover from this and that he has at least some friends who can help him through this. That woman is sick, I don't know if what she did is considered illegal but it should be. She was literally trying to murder her husband for her sick paraphilias.
It’s been a very long time since I heard of a case like this, I know one if it’s old references was “porcelain syndrome” and I think that’s from the 17-1800s. It might actually be the basis of the saying love you to death, really creepy if you think about it.
8:38 Beyond cheating, this is abhorrent and predatory behavior. I am concerned about the affair partner being an 18-year-old anorexic young woman when the wife is obsessed with anorexic people. Out of all mental illnesses, having ED is the deadliest! She’s targeting someone at such an impressionable age and 1) creating a toxic dynamic with the age gap and 2) promoting harmful habits in this young person.
“Affair partner”? Those 2 words have never been sent together. that’s not cheating bro 😂it’s grooming but not the sexkind
@ I don’t think so
@@mattybrunolucaszeneresalas9072 I don’t even know what you’re saying “I don’t think so” to. What’s the point of typing this out if you’re not going to refer to which point(s) you disagree with and have some kind of reasoned response?
@@mattybrunolucaszeneresalas9072You must live under a rock if you've never seen the term "Affair Partner" before. I've seen it hundreds of times.
He was choked, hit his head, lost conciousness and has memory loss because his wife attacked him?!?!? And that's supposed to be normal!?!?!?
Mind you, this is a man who views preparing the dinner and taking care of laundry after he comes home from work as 'not doing enough', while the wife seems to be stay at home and apparently 'constantly stressed with chores' and supposedly doing the 'hard stuff'. And he thinks she has valid arguments to constantly berate him over this. So yea, his views are a bit skewed from the start to say the least...
@N0xiety he seems to be so manipulated and brainwashed he thinks this is normal. She IS a bad mother. I hope op can see the comments and run. It seems he has no support system around him which wouldn't be surprising given the wife's controlling and abusive behavior.. this is a scary situation and once a person puts their hands on your neck your chance of death goes up by 500%
@@bryn1063 Yup, he obviously is not a bad husband, but he doesn't seem to recognize that, thus he just takes the constant abuse coming from his wife as if it's normal.
@@N0xiety No, he's a bad husband. Not because he doesn't do enough, but because he is modeling abusive relationships for his daughter, ensuring she will be abused too.
@@machinethatgoesblorp To be fair, if you were a parent who was brainwashed into thinking this obvious abuse is completely normal in your eyes, it would be hard to see your child's concerns and worrisome about the situation.
Story 2: This makes me sad that OP doesn't realize how badly he's being abused. Men don't get the same treatment as women when it comes to any type of abuse, and the fact that OP is so willing to just sweep it under the rug despite the fact that even his daughter is actively disgusted with her mom, it's just heartbreaking. I really hope OP finds the support he deserves and gets away from that psycho lady
And if op goes anywhere outside a very specific bubble he'll be mocked instead of helped just because he's a man.
Welcome to being a man. Where No one gives a single fuck about you and your mental and emotional needs. There's a reason us men commit suicide so much 💔
Yep no such thing as unconditional when it comes to society and men @bajablastme9240
@@ZaxTax-h8tseems to me like lots of people are already mocking him here smh
@@HackiePuffs unfortunate reality.
If a man shows emotion he's to weak. If he shows no emotion he's a monster.
There is no in-between in the minds of the ignorant.
"I'm a bad dad for not stopping my wife from trying to murder me."
Dude, call the damn cops! She tried to k*ll you!
And the cops will more often then not laugh it off.
Cuz has a man. And men can't be abused.
Or twist it bad into him@@ZaxTax-h8t
@@ZaxTax-h8t That's not abuse it's attempted murder, which is different.
@@erikmckoul2478 and then there people like you who have to argue about pointless things rather then the bigger picture.
@@ZaxTax-h8t This entire comment section is pointless.
"I'm a bad dad for not stopping my wife from trying to murder me." Jesus Christ, man, that's not an acceptable response to being a bit of an asshole.
True. OP is the Ahole! Because remember kids "It's OK if a woman does it"
OP need to grow some fucking ball, his wife literally almost choke him to death and he feel sorry for her, like wtf, and now their daughter holding against her, he need to move out and stop being a fucking simp cause soon or later the wife going abuse him again and years later, their daughter going cut all contract with them and he don't know why cause he stay with abuse
I just hope Reddit doesn’t bully him because he’s a man and should know “better”
Wait i don't even get how he is in any way supposed to be 'a bit of an ahole'. Is it because he yelled back after being berated and yelled at by wife? He has a job, and he takes care of the laundry and dinner after work, while wife seems to be stay at home if i read into it right? Like, what more should he do? The man doesn't even have dinner waiting for him at home after work, he has to come back from work and prepare dinner for everyone, and apparently constantly get berated over this. He actually seems to even believe that he isn't doing enough. While the wife apparently does all the 'hard stuff', constantly 'stressed with daughter and chores'. Huh? Am i reading into this wrong?
Dude wasn't the AH tho. Like... at all in this story. The only thing this guy did wrong is that he is still with his wife. He shared how he "usually" tries to de-agro his wife. This is a common issue. That is domestic abuse man. The man should've left yesterday. For his and his daughters sake.
That already IS a core memory for the kid. And staying with the wife will likely cause more.
Plu... no, you're not a bad husband for not being able to "control" your woman. A good husband doesn't do that. And a good wife wouldn't behave like that. Just run man, run. Take as much parenting right (I forget the proper term) as is possible in the divorce and then stay away from that woman...
Drastic but if the wife doesn't see the problem and refuses therapy for her blatant issues.. that is the only step forward.
The first story is genuinely like the Simpsons prank when Bart shakes up the can of beer and blows up the house
My heart broke when I heard the aftermath of the prank story.
Yeah... im having a bit of an absurdity giggle right now (when you laugh at how crazy and absurd a situation is, not cause its funny)
That... kinda escalated.
@@avesatanaenono pranks are great, just uh, try not to bring anything that could cause damage (physical, mental, property, etc) into the mix or you'll end up with a roof caving into a poor house
I honestly feel so bad for his friend and the prankster. They meant it to be super harmless but it ended up changing his friends life hopefully not for the worst
TBH i feel the prank story is a bit of a stretch, rigging the hose from the ball cocktail of a toilet won't cause the toilet rank to not fill even on those older ones cause the hose only diverts water to allow the bowl to refill and reseal the trap in the toilet, unless he was able to make it so the chain on the flapper would get stuck as well. The fill valve of a toilet has 2 openings for water, one for the tank and one for the hose into the overflow tube.
Story 2: op you need to divorce NOW if not for you for your daughter because the hopefully ex wife's behaviour is inexcusable and I can guarantee she will strike again
Story 1: Man, i feel sooo sorry for Derek :/ Op’s stupid prank destroyed his home and uprooted his life :/.
I also really don’t like how in the comments of his post Op seems to downplay what he did…
IDK of he was really downplaying it. Seems more like he was telling the story from his perspective at the time, as a kid. From the last update OP gave, he clearly is still torn up about it, despite all the years that have passed. He should track the dude down on socials and apologize to him directly. Bring both of them some closure. Who knows? Maybe the move improved things for Derrick. OP said the house was already close to being condemned. Maybe the move saw Derrick's life improve?
As a Derek. I feel for him.
Right, poor kid had to move out and his family's finances were screwed up really bad. Holy fffffuucck.
@@SkunkApe407 No dude. He's totally "poor me" in the extebded comments.
I mean on one hand I get what you're saying but like he was a young kid doing young dumb kid things, how are you gonna blame a 12 year old
13:59 dude. "Known each other since they were kids" does not mean "safe."
That guy needs to see Promising Young Woman! His response gave me the chills.
@@eksassy901 Everyone should see that movie, it's great!
Story 3: as someone who’s been in ‘semi-recovery’ for the past 3-ish years and was previously part of the ‘pro-recovery’ side of ED Twitter, there are absolutely people like this, and like op’s ex, they absolutely prey on young vulnerable people in the ED community. It’s disgusting how many literal children I saw saying some creep followed their public account.
All that said, words can’t express how proud I am of OP for choosing recovery. From one struggler to another, I’m so proud of you, man. Keep going. You are worth it and you are loved.
yup. edtwt is hell bro. Pro recovery or not, i wish twitter censorship existed at least to keep those people out. Although it might not stop them, it would keep impressionable people from finding them, joining the community, and getting worse. seeing "deathspo" threads just popping up... i'm proud of this dude for recovering and anyone else who does too.
Story 3(?): as a woman who’s had an ED most my life- anorexia is SO fetishized in the same kind of way that feeding is. And yes, the amount of people with that fetish who are also PDF files is TERRIFYING
How is dating an 18 year old anywhere near a PDF? It's humorous how many of y'all hide your desires through projection. And yes I'm calling the majority of you PDFs yourselves otherwise children and acts like that wouldn't cross your minds at every opportunity.
I hope you’ve gotten to a good place now but I completely get your point. This just seems like the inverse of feederism but the motivation is the exact same.
I’m 5’2” 100lbs so small but nothing crazy and I fit into some children’s clothes. A PDF seeking such a sick, small adult as a substitute for what they really want is just horrifying though it makes sense.
Just read the other comment lol. Don’t want to reply to him directly but a PDF dating an 18 year old doesn’t make them not a PDF!!!!! That relationship may be legal and sure, it’s better to be with a small adult than a kid but that is such a low bar.
Also what would you call a person like in the story? Is the opposite of a feeder a starver? A restrictor?
@@KodibearIndigo Are you... an idiot?
Most PDFs know that their desires will get them behind bars if found out. The body of an anorexia suffering adult will look vastly different than a healthy one. The "helplessness" due to their stature and literal lack of muscle plays a big part into why they make a great substitute. Many PDFs like children for their helplessness. Be it due to trauma resons or fetishisation of a helpless person you can do anything to as they physically can't stop you (the same kind that many 🍇ists have but without the fear of them actually being able to fight you). It plays a lot into wanting dominance for many of them.
Second: pointing out obvious bs like booty shorts for toddlers doesn't make one a PDF-file. And you pretending that it automatically means we are all attracted to kids is mind numbing. Did you eat a tidepod or something? It'd explain alot.
I wish I had half the maturity of the commentor above me. Shouldn't have tagged this doofus.
@KodibearIndigo It its grooming. A 30 year old is much more mature and has a fully developed brain compared to an 18 year old. It's also a disgusting power dynamic. I don't think calling some grown ass adult dating a barely legal adult is "projecting." It sounds like you are extremely offended about this and you have a reason for it 🤔.
Well I gotta say, I’m surprised at how surprised *Dabney is* at the idea of that. Anorexia has been not so subtly fetishized in American culture (at the very least) for decades at this point. About 6 or 7 if I’m not mistaken, and that’s only from my earliest thing I can think of is housewives swallowing tapeworms as a diet fad 😅
No, thin culture is much more normalized than it should be, although, we’re getting just a little bit better with these coming generations, a lot more inclusivity today, than 2005 right?
I kinda hope that destroyed house post ends up on r/BestOf in the future with Derek having found it.
Yeah, I want to know what happened to Derek.
Two things that stood out to me in the choking story: 1) "She started smacking me and I tried to sid down because it USUALLY makes her less angry" - so OP is constantly being abused for at least a while and 2) I'm pretty certain that he's actually doing enough in the house but he's just been abused and gaslit so much that he just thinks he isn't
Story 2: this is heart wrenching OP fully believes that everything is his fault, saying he doesn't do enough around the house and that justifies his wife yelling an beating him. The fact that he said that him sitting down normally calms her down shows that she regularly beats him and this time it escalated into strangling him. The man was beaten, strangled until unconscious and then hit his head and still thinks it's his fault. I honestly don't think I can even believe him with the excuse of "I don't do enough," because if he believes getting attacked is his fault who knows what else he'll believe, and even IF he is right that still doesn't justify abuse.
Thats modern media and overall anti man bias when it comes to relationships and mental health as well as abuse.
Misogyny affects men too, and this is that. I hope he gets the help he needs. No one derseves abuse. @totalldwarf640
I know a guy who has been an ER doctor for 20+ years. I once asked him "Are hospitals more like 'SCRUBS' with everyone pranking each other all the time or 'Grey's Anatomy' with everyone sleeping with everyone?"
His answer: "Both. In about equal measure."
My bf & I were wild as teens, hanging with older guys, drinking & smoking. She'd leave me alone with guys while she & a random guy went in back. I'm shocked nothing ever happened to me. Of course, they'd beg & plead, but they never forced themselves.
If you're a young girl with a friend like mine, DUMP THEM. They do NOT care about you. My life would've gone on a completely different (much better) trajectory without her in my life, teaching me to skip school, do drugs, and use my feminine skills. Listen to your family when they give their opinions about your friends. They gave your best interest at heart. Friends come and go.
Even if OP does have the balls to make a social media account to find Derek and confess it’ll do more harm than good. Like, is the knowledge that his childhood friend inadvertently caused his family to move a good thing to know? Sounds like it’d be like picking at an old wound and throwing salt on it.
The truth will set you free that's why people who lie go against it (they keep their victims trapped). What happened to you happen to you regardless of whether or not you know. Also if an old wound hasn't healed after a couple years and can still hurt when you scratch it or put salt then you should probably get that checked out. Time might heal all wounds, but if you have an infection it's only a matter of time.
And his parents might sue for the loss
@@ElytraNoble What Fanatic did you steal that from?
Also, bullshit!
As a German, our honesty and directness is already considered rude by many standards! Even so I prefer it heavily!
But about every person calling themselves "brutally honest" is usually just an asshole!
The Truth is a hammer!
Which may shatter the shackles holding us down or attached to our baggage... But also or ego, confidence or self worth....
And most importantly, always leaves permanent marks!
There is a reason, why we as a species have decided to more often than not protect children from the truth.
I feel so awful for 3 people in this video: Derek, OP 2 (let’s just Hope he will divorce) and mostly OP 3.. OP 3 deserves so much better than this, they litterally was body shamed and cheated by a sick pedo! I’m happy that they got healthier (by gaining weight ofc), but.. They need a real caring person, not a person who’s attracted by sick people like Lena do.. It’s seriously disgusting
What’s up fellow bisexual
Story 2: WTF did I just hear. Wife attempted to unalive OP and he's all "i iz bad husband" GET YOUR KID OUT OF THERE BECAUSE SHE WILL BE NEXT.
Lmao the poor gal on the surgeon story is literally stuck living as a side character in real world greys anatomy
Holy fuck dad needs to run before she loses both her parents he needs to look at some spouse stats, like specifically the one about likely hood of murder after choking
Story 3 : OPs wife is twisted. I had the exact same immediate reaction that she is a p-word.
The 3rd story with the anorexia kink, that's beyond sickening. She wanted OP to be suffering from a disorder and then cheated on him with an 18 yo who had the same disorder...she sounds evil, like some sick mad scientist poking at a sick, small, injured mouse with some sort of sick glee...I cant with this story.
" no one will ever love you like i do".
Yeah, that's the point.
it might have roots in more sinister stuff as you said but anorexia fetish IS a real thing and is extremely predatory and prevalent and denying it is wrong. both ana fetishists and feeders have a fetish for unaliving people through these means and many people keep score. she got upset that he went into recovery bc he had a week left to live!!!
The anorexia story may be even darker than having a thing for children. It may even be a thing for watching people suffer and slowly die. Which honestly seems a bit more plausible than the children thing. Cause an anorexic at their peak looks like a literal walking corpse.
Remember if your partner feeds your mental issues and makes your illness worse leave. They don't have your best interests in mind.
Good partners wants to keep you healthy. I'm glad OP in the anorexia got better and hopefully OP find better partner.
OP, why didn't you go to the hospital? Why aren't you pressing charges?
If a man did that to a woman, then he'd be in prison the next day. How could you possibly brush off being choked like that!? Never mind getting knocked out!
Dude, she says she feels like a bad mom, but what about her feelings about herself as a wife? She doesn't care about you _at all,_ OP!
Take your daughter, press charges against your wife, & divorce the crazy woman.
Because the only other witness IS a child. Courts already deal with male abusers so horribly, let alone female abusers especially in a system where women usually get the kids.
@yourlocalcoffeeaddict9603
The kid, who can prove it was mom attacking dad, is a reason not to do anything? What? Did you even read my comment? Wtf are you trying to say?
@@Richard_Nickerson because it's heavily traumatic for the child to have to go be a witness and have to explain what happened in a court room and I'm not sure if anyone will take that seriously or not. obviously it's FAR more traumatic for OP to stay with his wife though but both options are rlly sucky for the kid ://
@@yourlocalcoffeeaddict9603
Dude... you're missing the actual point I was making to begin with...
You know what else is traumatizing? Raising your kid in an abusive home. You know what else is traumatizing? Being abused.
You're saying it's better & healthier for the kid to stay in the situation without doing anything?
A woman does that & you don't think the man should take the kid with him?
You're objectively unhinged.
@@Richard_Nickerson hi so I've actually been abused most of my life by both my parents and sibling, thank u. I was SA-ed multiple times for YEARS. do NOT come @ me about how damaging it is to be in an abusive house, I know how damaging it is bc I went thru it and still am. All I'm saying is that the little girl going through court will be traumatized by it and I don't even know if it would be allowed to happen given how young she is. That's all I'm saying. I think women can and do abuse, in fact I think they get away with it a lot easier/lighter than men do and that's something I try to bring awareness to. I'm not saying for OP to stay with his wife, I'm saying that objectively OP is in a really tough situation either way but I hope he makes it through with his daughter.
Oof.. OP, if you ever see this video and read the comments, RUN, don't walk, to the nearest exit. Your wife may only focus on you now, but she might eventually turn her aggression onto your daughter, especially if she does all of these things knowing you're scared of her. Eventually you'll grow numb to that fear, which, it honestly already sounds like you have, the next best thing an abuser can do it threaten to harm, or actually go through with harming, something or someone else you love.
Your daughter is not exempt nor protected from your wife's bs, she'll use her to instill a new fear into you eventually... Your kid also doesn't need to grow up watching her mother abuse her father. What part of your relationship do you want her to view as "happy"? It's never been happy from the sound of it, it'll never *be* happy, and you shouldn't normalize this sort of thing for her.
100% OP 3's wife is attracted to children. The fact op even says that if it were legal her wife would date younger says A LOT. Plus with the control and power dynamic manipulation, she clearly has the tendencies of an abuser. OP needs to flee ASAP and probably notify local law enforcement if theres any evidence of it.
Hey R/Slash, The Timecodes Are Incorrect. The Second Story Actually Starts At 5:10 , For Instance
Kids, water damage is NEVER harmless. Ever.
Poor Derek. Op should try to find him and clear Derek's name to his family at least
6:24 "I'm so afraid this will become a core memory for her" SHE THOUGHT YOU DIED WHAT DO YOU EFFING THINK?! You're a bad father for keeping that woman in your daughter's life.
Unfortunately I can confirm there are definitely people attracted to disabilities and mental health issues. Not attracted to people despite these problems, i mean actually attracted to the disability itself. Its largely tied to having a power imbalance fetish, they love having a certain power, control and codependence over someone. They get off on the idea of their victim needing the, of being the only person that will ever want them. Everyone from autistic people, to paraplegics, to the clinically depressed, to the blind and everything in between are targets.
One of the biggest warning signs that that person isn't interested in you but just your condition is fixation. Are they asking about your hobbies? Family? Dreams? Or does almost every conversation seem to shift to your disability?
As someone who unfortunately is familiar with online anorexia/ed communities, anorexia fetishists are absolutely a thing. And yes, a horrifying amount of them are also going after children... Although I have never heard of a female anorexia fetishist, all of them I've encountered before are men who mainly go after vulnerable teenage girls on eating disorder forums and chatrooms. And girls have died because of this, fetishists have indirectly (or even directly) contributed to people with this illness starving to death or taking their own lives. It's a dark, dark world to be in. I'm so glad op was able to escape, usually these kinds of stories do not have a good ending.
The added information about op2 not helping around the house wasnt necessary. Thats shitty, yes, but not at all grounds for being abused.
And it’s not even true, the guy would make dinner and do the laundry at least.
Story titled family tea. I can speak from experience in this it took me 18 years to escape. Female aggressor domestic violence is real. I was fortunate enough to escape and be able to rescue my two sons out of this situation. Now I have them both and she has no rights at all. People say it's rare but true statistics show it happens about 50/50 with male aggressive domestic violence. The lesson here is just be careful and learn how to spot the red flags early so you can get out before the violence starts
all i can say about most of these stories is what in the living hell did i just listen to
Is it a crime to encourage bad behavior to the point of hospitalization? Because if it’s not, it should be.
It's incredibly region specific (even in and especially in large countries like the u.s)so sometimes other laws are available/ the only option in some cases theses being laws related to endangering others and accessory after the fact would be pertinent some laws do based around mental health in some places would also be options but I digress my original point is there are places with specific laws and specific legal language targeting exactly what you're describing
Another "Chapter Titles That Do Not Match the Story" post. How does this happen? Is this someone's idea of Malicious Compliance?" Last Story: Fifty Shades of Blue Cross!
Story 3 Definitely a power thing. Things with children and frail people stems from the need to control and overpower.
11:33, what in the grey's anatomy?
I was in a similar situation as OP 2. I didn’t do as much housework, but I did work a lot more and help with appointments and stuff. While I certainly didn’t do nothing, I absolutely could have done more.
Regardless, that doesn’t excuse that sort of abusive behavior. My wife was never physical, but there was a lot of what I have come to consider emotional/verbal abuse and manipulation.
I bet Lena had a MASSIVE life insurance policy on OP
Plot Twist: Derricks family was already planning to move but he hadn't told anyone yet. He actually discovered OPs prank and decided to to the tables by concocting the flooding story then making sure OP was told after the move.
12:10 was not expecting the in-n-out lol, reminds me of how my hometown, Boise, recently got our first one built right across from the mall. I rode my bike to said mall the day it opened by complete coincidence and the line was crazy, I was like “was there a wreck in the drive thru?” No, it’s just there’s only 2 in the whole state of Idaho, this one and one in Meridian, which is part of the same metropolitan area. I’ve only eaten at in and out once on a trip to SoCal (Anaheim) last year, pretty good but I don’t understand why it’s so overhyped here. It’s just a burger.
You poor poor man😢 6:43
For story 2: No one will believe him and it’s not possible for men to be the victim according to a lot of people, he’s stronger and more powerful therefore she’s not a danger to him.
But I hope he gets out of there.
I wonder if the last op's toy was pinching the vagus nerve, which would definitely make someone pass out! Same reason some people pass out on the toilet from straining...
OMFG first the guy who tried to murder his wife with his genitalia now a poor lad’s GF nearly murders her BF with an adult toy 😂
I wonder how many people have to go to the ER for stuff like this, the people working in the ER must have seen some crazy shit.
@@erikmckoul2478 there is (or was) a show called "sex brought me to the ER" or something like that, can't remember which network, though there were some hilarious stuff people had done
Story 1: If that's all it took to cause all of that, it was probably better that something happened while everyone was away. Yes that's a lot of water, and leaks can cause a lot of damage, but in a safe building some water damage over the weekend doesn't completely destroy it. The prank is crappy, but there may have been a silver lining.
Story 3: There’s a lot of truly sick people in this world. 😰
(The psycho ex, obviously.)
Seriously...
You think anorexia IS NOT a sickness?
The fuck is wrong with you?
The ex was simply evil!
But OP was actually sick!
That introduction followed by "I'm a middle schooler..." caught me off guard 😅😂
The abused husband needs to start a paper trail of abuse from calling the cops to file a report, pictures of the bruises, hospital visit n a witness statement from his daughter. As a man he will likely have difficulty proving the abuse without the proper evidence n documentation after the events. At least the daughter saw it this time so hopefully it will spur him on to do what is necessary to get them both away from the woman. Sadly he will have a very hard time trying to get full custody since he is a man but her witness statement will go a long ways. I am sure she has heard plenty of yelling from her mom during the altercations which will help but he’ll still have an uphill battle since he has not made reports before. I pray they will get out n never have to see that woman again. 🥺🙏🏻💖
Story 4: DAMN IT, DABNEY! I WAS GONNA MAKE THAT JOKE!
The stories today were so dark omg. Especially that third one, that's straight vile.
Me practicing my acting for sad events. I opened the video fake crying. I was caught so off guard lol
Third story: That is such a messed up fetish. She would fit in with the Victorian England people who thought people with deadly illnesses were hot.
"no one will ever love you like I did" ya that's a good thing. The way you loved me was no ok and you meed help though iI highly doubt you will seek it and I feel bad for your next victim.
I'm glad OP didn't die during any of this.
3:00 what do you mean? He flushed without notice? Anything? I still don’t understand what this “hose” is. Is it in the back of the toilet? Cause I’ve never heard of this.
basically: The pipes leading to a toilet do not provide enough water to guarantee a flush if you just let them flow directly into the porcelain throne. So it gets stored into a reservoir and after a minute or two, there is enough in the reservoir that you can empty the reservoir and guarantee a full flush.
The reservoir has a little floaty-thing that rises with the water, and triggers a sensor that cuts off the flow when the thing gets full.
They took the little hose going from the plumbing into the reservoir, and removed it from the reservoir. So that when the toilet flushes, and the water drains, the floater drops and makes the pipe put water through the hose again.
the idea was that the water would flow out of the hose, and spray the guy the moment he flushes, so the magazine paints it as a harmless thing. you get wet, realise the hose is lose and put it back in the reservoir (or at least cut-off the water until someone who understands how toilets work does it for you).
Theoretically a harmless prank, even in the case where someone flushes and doesnt notice, they'd notice later that same day when they step into a small puddle and wet their socks.
In most situations, this would've been a relatively harmless prank (2 hours of water at most before someone goes to the toilet, gets their socks wet, even if they dont notice it when they get sprayed by the hose. Still a nasty prank dont get me wrong, maybe some water spilling into the hallway but not "ruin a families finances forever" levels of bad.)
But an entire week where no one actually enters the bathroom to spot it? thats death by woodrot.
Story 1
Its like, "I feel bad about destroying their home, but i wont tell anyone, cause i dont wanna pay for my actions, its your problem, sry bro".
I mean OP was a literal child when that happened, how tf was he supposed to "pay for" all that?
@0XBlondie96X0 hes not a child anymore.
He feels guilty, because he didnt stand up for what he did wrong. And he should.
Last story: *Don't say it...*
Man, what a pain in the ass
*D'Oh!*
story 2
Abused husband needs to go to the Police and file for divorce.
I hope that u/anoncheesegrater never went out with that dude again, because "they've known each other since they were kids" doesn't change the fact that if she was slurring her words, she was too drunk to consent and therefore it would have been r*pe.
Am I the only one who thinks why would they have the dog be alone for all of that time.
Nope, Poor dog. Pets get lonely, especially dogs and cats.
It was only 2 days and Derrick was still coming daily
@ only two days? Sounds like you’d never owned a dog before. A lot of shit can happen between when the dog sitter shows up or if they even did.
@@niyanna yeah, but the dog was still probably kind of lonely. Poor dog.
That abuse story, it goes to say how long would it ve before the mother starts treating their kid like that? Especially when they grow older and less "compliant"
All of these stories were WILD 😂😮
12:15 you tease us with the burger, but don't share the picture? Not cool, Dabney 🤣
First story: womp to the f***ing womp Derek 😂😂😂😂😂😂
Never thought folks like me would get referenced on frickin' RSlash...
6:35 why isnt he pressing charges. Why arent you leaving
i felt my eyes roll involuntarily at that in-n-out joke 🙄😂
I was going to school but I couldn’t resist listening to this
SHEESH THAT CHEATER STORY!!!! God damn shes the opposite of those feeder types its just awful their taste kill people
Story 4: What in the Greys Anatomy?
14:54 this triggers some unwanted memories 💀
⟟ hope when u see this reply u remember this comment and the story and then ur unwanted memories
Anorexia fetishists are absolutely a thing. Eugenia Cooney is notorious for intentionally appealing to them.
8:29 wow, she's an abuser!!!!
Story one how does Op live with himself? A pang of guilt, dude you are a monster
Thanks for that last story. That was definitely some needed levity.
OP in the 2nd story had the throwaway account deleted and all comments removed.
No idea what happened to OP.
Storey 2 & Story 3
That is a vile wife
If you go unconscious from a head injury you need to seek medical help. Put simply you dont go unconscious like that without some form of damage, temporary or not. Story 2 OP feels bad about his wife giving him actual brain damage.
The anorexic story: yes it is a fetish for anorexia, it’s not a p**n category for no reason. It’s sick and disgusting.
What was the statistic if someone is choked out by their partner there's 700% more likely to die or something like that? Anyways people are used to the dude being the one choking out the girl so good luck OP you're going to need it.
Prepare yourself for "You probably did something to deserve it" and other stupid comments like that.
Oh. My. God. I love the last couple so much for sharing that gold
Story 3: anorexia doesn't necessarily destroy your sex drive. My ex wife's kicked into high gear. It was difficult.
Lena is a massive asshole. She saw somebody vulnerable and used his vulnerabilities against him. Encouraging somebody who is anorexic to restrict and complimenting them for the disordered parts of them is disgusting. She legitimately just played into his disorder for her own sick benefit.
I'm in tears over here. I spent years doing everything to help my ex-wife. To think there was someone out there encouraging him to go through what we went through hurts me a lot. I cannot even imagine how you can look at somebody in that situation and want it to be worse. The stone cold lack of empathy is sickening.
She's literally targetting sick people. What a disgusting piece of garbage. I hope nobody ever loves OP like she did, because the way she loved him was not at all.
Edit: Rslash, if you're right, then she's even more disgusting than she already seems to be, which I didn't think was possible.
Attempting to choke somebody and causing bodily harm far outweighs not being helpful at home in terms of who is being a bad person. Op's daughter has just seen how terrible her mother is even if he hasn't realized it yet
6:38 dude casually brushing off abuse like nothing 💀
Drunk or not, trying to force a girl into a situation where she can be taken advantage of is horrible. One thing to keep "begging" her, but unless/until she agrees, then there shouldn't be any physical attempts to take it further. Some (not all) girls like to play hard to get and so will keep saying no until they decide that the guy(s) have begged long enough (or until she herself is too eager to wait any longer) and finally agrees. But again, unless (and until) she agrees, it's absolutely a no. Now, if the girl is drunk but the guy isn't, then it's a no anyway unless she consented before getting drunk. If both are drunk, then it's fair game (so long as neither forces the other).
10:30 you never heard of people starving their partner for physical attraction? Really?? That is so common among men to pester their girlfriends and wives about their weight, so they start to starve them selves. Much more common, than feeders I would say.
Theres a massive difference between mentioning that someone is overweight and encouraging literal anorexia. The former is fixed just by not eating 2 peoples meales every meal lmao.( Also im fat)
@@donlgoff No, I didn´t mean someone, who eats 2 meals. I mean couples, where usualy man comments about girl´s weight and portion sizes. Eventualy it gets to you and you can develope an eating disorder.
Last story: They were looking for a habanero boost and got a ghost pepper blast instead. Be careful how spicy you try to go in the bedroom, because no amount of milk can fix the burn if you overdo it, lol.
5:14 not only is this physical abuse of him but this is chil chile abuse, specifically emotional abuse (called Mental Injury” in SC) of their daughter. OP def needs to file a police report and/or contact CPS depending on what state they’re in. Mom can be charged for both crimes and actions can be taken against her for their protection.