When he visited her in Trinidad, he wears his expensive watches and suits and brings his louis vuitton luggage… but says he is hiding his wealth from her. 🤦🏽♀️
She doesn’t have to be a ride or die ! Tf, he’s acting like she’s in her early 20s. She’s in her late 30s… she’s not trying to play games like he is. She isn’t a gold digger, she’s being REALISTIC !
Even if she was in her early 20’s I still don’t see why people are calling her a gold digger. She left her entire family and home to be “tested” to live in an abandoned house 🙄. Y’all are crazy af for calling her gold digger
Play stupid games, win stupid prizes. He flexed his lifestyle all over the place, he also flexed in Trinidad, then he wants to play loyalty reindeer games. Man, GOHWTBS.
@@e2dwf976 1. The producers probably told her to do that because it looks scripted. 2. I said what I said. He's playing stupid games and nothing she said depicted "gold digger". He presented himself one way then playing games to make her believe he's cash strapped. That will raise questions. But go ahead label her a gold digger because that's low-hanging fruit.
many will disagree with me but whatever . This woman is so well spoken, patient and expressed her valid concerns appropriately ! And for him to take so much pride in his childhood home you’d THINK he’d take care of it. Imaging being picked up in a kidnap van, brought to an abandoned house shit I would be TERRIFIED. She is not a gold digger in any way to me. She is a grown successful woman, Who left everything SHE has worked just as hard for to be with him , WITHOUT Having seen any of his possessions . So I cannot wrap my head around why in the hell he thought this was necessary . Speaks more volumes of HIS character, than hers
Exactlyyy my thoughts. The host was shit for trying to shift all the blame on her calling her as red flag, then what colour flag is Bilal. This white van is called kidnappers van in my country, because hell lot of kidnappings used to happen in these. I wouldn't have even stepped into it, I would have run back into the airport. This whole setup looked like a kidnap for ransom, rape and organ trafficking.
This made me unnecessarily mad. Like why do this? Why play stupid games? This was very childish even including the meal. I may not have a lot of money but if I love someone and is meeting them for the first time I’m gonna show them how much they mean to me. You can be romantic with cheap ideas. This annoyed me to the max. Lying for no reason one her first day
She knows she’s being manipulated. Someone who flexes online with flashy designer luggage and watches but doesn’t take care of his home is a HUGE red flag for misplaced priorities. Even if you don’t care about money… that points to someone irresponsible with their finances. She’s considering marrying this man.
Wait, misplaced priorities? I know a lot of people who had flashy homes and cars and then in 2007/08 they were in foreclosure. I have expensive shoes and a condo. I drive a 2007 FJ cruiser but my hubs and I are wealthy. My hubs is a 2 figure millionaire and I met him in a shitty studio and driving a beat up car. She def is with him bc of his resume. She noticed his luggage, his watch, & mentioned his job and what he should make. There’s tons of real estate ppl who make nothing. If I had a home paid off why would I buy a bigger home. Maybe what u think are priorities maybe isn’t. I came from a hut in a 3rd world and worked my ass off. I had roommates until 28. That didn’t define my bank account. Matter of fact many ppl I knew didn’t know I was about to sell my company for a lot of money. I had enough to buy a duplex in NYC but I kept my roommates. If u saw me in red bottom shoes and a designer dress but saw my car- how would my priorities not be straight. The true ppl I know who are wealthy look like rags. JRR Martin for example. My old Jewish boss who wore the same exact thing daily and drove a 15yo car. Bilal knew she may be material and needed to confirm it. I don’t agree with how he did it but she’s a golddigger
Nope. Most men leave the house to the woman - especially when they are busy WORKING. I have had friends with millions of dollars and even know a few billionaires who live in modest homes in safe neighborhoods. One of the Gettys used to drive a white station wagon and Steve Jobs drove a small green pickup truck. The owner of the Oakland Raiders drove a still uses a 2003 Nokia phone and drives a minivan. I know a billionaire who still texts me on his Blackberry 😂 Homes are in safe neighborhoods a little bit set back for privacy NOT mansions but 3 bedrooms.
She kept it real 100%. To be honest, I would feel the same way as her. I ain't living in that mess when my parents are well off. I still like her and them together. Stop testing each other before you lose each other.
The man wore his money in front of her. That is what she expects of him. Not a broke poser but an established, wealthy man. HE put himself out there that way. He should of been a REAL man and not flash his wealth. Then to "test" her out after showing his money around. This dumbass is LUCKY she has her own money and morals. And poor thing actually loves him....😔
Melisia..you are wrong on this..he also wouldn't be with her if she was fat and unattractive..she has standards!And I love her bluntness.. Sanford and Son! Hilarious
Considering she has her own wealth I say it's OK for her to want someone at her level but let's say this trick was real, she is not being kind and humble about it. She was demeaning him and his upbringing. She could have handled it with more class. She's spoiled. God forbid they go through a rough patch financially, she would not hold the "for worse" in the vows.
Melicia is insane. yeah the way Shaeeda went on it but as a black woman Melicia sounds downright insane 4 talking about some ride or die when black women have been programmed to be mules for years to men that don't even return the favour or even value them. get real. It is not bad 4 a woman to be assured that a man she is about to marry will be able to financially take care of things. dunno what Melicia is on
I usually Agree with you....... but not this time. He didn't need to play that ridiculous, manipulative game. He knows damn well what type of person she is and he accepted that and chose to marry her. He was dead wrong 💯
Speaking as a trini we don’t live in unkept houses! Clean homes is part of our culture. Even people who aren’t well off every year repaint their homes, do upkeeps, it’s just how we are. So I’m sure she came from a well kept home so going to a dilapidated one would obviously unsettle her. Cause that’s not what she’s used too
Exactly it doesn't matter the size of the house it must be clean and well kept. Did you see her house in the video chat? It looked very clean and well put together.
Right! Taking this beautiful lady to a gross house with the roof caving in and expects her to be 'appreciative'. So stupid. Couldn't even keep the house in good repair and picks her up in a human trafficking looking van.
I'm not upset about her not wanting to ride in a vehicle of filth and does not want to live in a run down house. That being said, it doesn't matter the KIND of vehicle but CLEAN IS CLEAN. Filth is unacceptable. Similarly, the kind of house doesn't matter, but again SAFE AND CLEAN matters. Busted out windows, falling roof, mold, etc... Is unacceptable.
I agree. Just because you don't have a lot of money doesn't mean you have to be filthy. My grandparents didn't have much but they weren't filthy. Her home was well kept.
There is strong correlation between childhood illness/disease and this type of living conditions. Rose and her family kept their place more presentable then this guy.
It was *NOT* "a vehicle of filth." He had his toolbox and other materials in there. The fact that she called it "filth" just shows how shallow and materialistic she is.
When I moved to the states, my husband's financial situation wasn't great, because he was unfortunately just laid off like a month before i got here. So it was a very hard and frustrating time bc I wasn't legally allowed to work and contribute for like a year. And considering I had a very successful job in my country and was doing really well for myself it was difficult. And on top of that you don't have friends and family to support you. Let's not act like being financially stable is not important. Especially since as a K1 visa fiance you are 100% dependent on your spouse for at least a year. The main cause of arguments in couples is about money and in the US no one wants to talk about it. Money is important especially when you don't have enough. If I was her age when I first came here I would have been hell no... I am putting my ass back on a plane and going home..living with mold is not acceptable since it can cause serious health issues. It's about being comfortable in a clean safe space.
Sticking with my Caribbean sister on this… we don’t encourage dutty car or house full a mould 🙄 it’s not about flashy things it’s about taking care of stuff by being clean
Yes! In fact i was talking to a Trinidadian and they were saying they take real pride in their home and it being clean and tidy..this poor girl shouldn't be 'tested" and so far, she's the only one keeping it real!
@@toyyibatadewunmi8170 IKR? Imagine someone saying, "I take pride in my house being clean", and having few enough braincells that the best comeback you have is, "Go back to your country!" XD
Let's be real here. She is not a child, but a grown woman with expectations. I would act just like her. I'm sure she lives in a better house back home. Don't bring a grown woman to your struggle situation unless she agrees to it. No one is 18 trying to come up. When you're over 35 heading to retirement, nobody has time for that game. I would book a flight and go back home. He can save that for a kid. She probably thinking she will have to take care of him, because he is not financially settled.
Amen! Well said! Tiffany Galloway. I didn't like this move at all. He started this visit with a lie. If he was that concerned he should've been open and over 2 years you would've seen who she was. I don't like the lies and games. Not cute for a grown man. He should've been sure before putting a ring on her finger.
This man doesn’t love himself for who he is because he has to pretend to be someone else on social media… And he expects her to love him for who he is? After you’ve been caught lying? Cmon, man.
@@lemonlemon7186 yes. If he can’t discern her motives in over two years then maybe he shouldn’t be dating yet. Also, if that’s such a huge concern for him he needs to date someone at or above his income level.
Agreed because as a Trini woman if I had to leave my very well established life for struggle life it would be a big problem. I’m on the flight back home.
No Shaeeda slander would be tolerated!!!So she can't be boujee or unimpressed by a Chevy because she's from Trinidad? I bet she lives a better house in Trinidad and drives a better car. Alyuh fass and outah place.
Right??? Why would she leave her life in her country where she can support herself and live with a man who doesn't have his priorities straight??? She wants to add value to her life not make it harder. Anyone who has all designer everything but lives in a dump doesn't have their priorities straight.
I hated how he was so condescending to her on top of the BS "test" talking about "you know some people don't have a roof" this old fool acting like he picked her up from the side of the Beetham or something.
I thought Shaeeda’s response made perfect sense. Bilal was sneaky in keeping his living situation from her. She is leaving the comfort of where she grew up to live with him. Anyone getting annoyed by her response also don’t know Caribbean people. They are very real, honest and blunt. That’s why I’m proud to be a Caribbean descendant. (Barbados 🇧🇧) Americans come very elitist in their thinking like people should kiss the ground they walk on whether they’re poor or rich. Every season there is someone with that mindset. Bilal was expecting a certain reaction from her which is why this prank failed. How dare he even test her when he has never been completely upfront with her. Smh.
I totally disagree with your take on this, Melicia. This so call test is trash!! Starting off their life together with trickery and deception. That says more about his character than hers. This American attitude that everyone must be put through a gold digger test is ridiculous. She is a successful, driven woman of her own means. She wants a partner who can bring the same values and motivated outlook to the table. It's not just about him having money.
Totally agree! She's probably feeling catfished right now thinking he's someone he's not and trying to marry her up quick. He shouldn't have proposed before "testing" her.
Listen, Carribean Women.... We are raised to keep our space tidy. It's not about being rich. Even the most poor person keeps their shack tidy. You have pride in how you carry yourself & how you represent your family. You don't bring people in your space when it's messy.
Melissa you know damn well this is wrong. She a business woman she has her own money and she smart to. I would be scared to get into a kidnap van and going to a run down home too. I don't think the girl is a good digger. I get that he wants to show her his childhood home but he did this the wrong way, if he would have trust her to bring her to his actual house I think she will appreciate the truth instead of lying to her.
I don’t think it’s unreasonable for a guy in his 40s who’s trying to sponsor a foreign bride to be financially set. In fact it would be irresponsible if he wasn’t. However Bilal should not confuse being poor with unkempt.
I said the same exact thing! Textbook gaslighting. He literally lying to her and making her seem crazy for having comprehension skills. He has portrayed a certain lifestyle this whole time they've been together and all of a sudden this is where they're staying? I would have questions too.
I don't remember if it was in this video or another,but at the end he literally tells her "wow,I am disappointed in your reaction ". Such a gaslighter thing to say
It’s not about her true character. She’s allowed to have expectations. He wore his best things when he was in Trinidad and here she lands after a long journey from her comfort zone and he is subjecting her to trash test. Not ok at all. He could have landed her into a clean moderate environment at least.
@@ivydemichael3661 Didn't have to be rude? Are you mad? You lie to me, being me to another country after i was living quite well, and I only move cause i love you and am okay with what you show to me as your image.
I watched that episode and cringed the entire time. How did NO ONE tell him "testing" a grown women with deception was a bad idea? She had every right to react the way she did.
I love her. Play stupid games win stupid prizes. She's not some poor struggling woman desperate for some American man to save her. She's a business woman. She's travelled. She's fashionable.
Facts...people love to act like they don't have a long list of what they want in a partner. Just like him, there's a reason she chose him. It's not fair she's portrayed as a "gold digger"
CE, yes she is, she’s just like every reality star trying to come to America. When she finds out that this man is a self-made money machine her entire attitude is going to change. But, she’s going to have a problem (and it won't be him), it's his mother and sister. Most of the relationships from 90 days don't last. Stay turn we wi see.
I have to say this, I do not blame her at all. If this man wanted to test her love, then go plain to trinidad and let her fall in live with you there. No flash, belts, watches or louis luggage. If you wanted to see her heart, that is where it should have started, when you first met, not the second when she comes to what is to be her forever home. In short, unfair test after showing your true self in Trinidad!
I agree with you guys. The way he went about it was wrong. He should have shown her her humble side from the get go, it’s very misleading to make someone believe you are “this” “when you are “that”. For me it would not even be about the money, she has worked hard to get to where she is, why should she have to settle for someone who “doesn’t have it together” per say and pretended he did? No man come on
IMO Bilal went too far with the house. Shaeeda moved thousands of miles, left family, and friends, even though she is in love, why would she want to do that and only move to a lower level or the same level of where she was? Maybe if she was very young and she still saw life in an idealistic way or if she was immature and still felt life only needed love then moving down would be alright. When you are very young 2 people in love can build their life from scratch together. She isn't very young or immature so she lives with the big picture in mind, not just starting out. The house was too much of a shock for her at her age and with her visions. I doubt she was expecting a castle. Just nice and well cared for.
Why do people equate poor / low budget with unkept ? That house was falling apart and may need a health and safety inspection. She has every right to be concerned and upset and he’s childish.
Melicia you are wrong on this one. I’m surprised because usually you are pretty unbiased. Americans need to stop this idea that the US is the best place to live in the world!
He portrayed a certain image to her. I would be concerned if I left my home and business to be with a man that acted like he was able to take care of himself and me. Then he shows her the side of him that he doesn’t live anymore. I wouldn’t plan to marry anyone that wasn’t honest about finances. He hid his whole live from her. And he thinks it’s all a joke. Not funny. She’s the only one being honest in this relationship.
I think bilal is going too far with this whole “Idk if my lady wants me for my money so let me take her to a raggedy house” he doesn’t want her to know he’s rich but yet he posts his lavish lifestyle online and has to question if this woman wants him for his money? Why did he marry her if he doesn’t trust her? His actions will make him end up losing her
Sheeida do not marry this cruel selfish bilal !!!!!look how he treats you now.you will never never be happy.find out why his first wife left him.i am very concerned about this couple!!
Can you imagine how this girl felt when she planned to move countries and marry a man who seemed like he was financially comfortable ? and then come to find out he’s living in horrid conditions. I’m sorry but that’s called being catfished, her reaction was warranted. If he wanted to test her, he should of presented himself as someone who is not wealthy, instead of selling her a dream and then snatching it away. She probably felt deceived and lied to and when she voiced her discomfort, she’s labelled a “gold digger” that’s not fair! We’re always so hard on our black sisters who do not accept struggle love smh why can’t she love him for him and the life that he provides her, who is to say she doesn’t deserve that? I hope Shaeeda lays it down on the hosts comments during the interview 😂 because they were absolutely biased.
Its the way she comea off that makes me do that facial expression thats like embarrassment for someone. Like she keeps bringing up rats for some reason and maybe little ole me just doesnt get it, but i have friends in every tax bracket and none of them live with rats..... regardless of being poor. I woulda got offended that she thinks im dirty cause im poor. And she keeps this thing up about the 1900's... again wtf. Normal people live like this throughout the country. This doesnt need to be equated to the 1900's. Idk, she just kinda has weird vibes to me it makes me weary
I am totally in support of Shy. It is absolutely unfair what Bilal did. How can deception in any form be condoned?! Why did he not video call her and show himself living in that house and driving that van? I don't see any justification for Bilal's dirty trick, nothing but deception. Anything that comes from Shy after that is excused.
She works hard too! She's an accomplished businesswoman & built herself up. Idk why Melicia is coming down on HER for him coming off as dirty & lowdown. I'm completely for Shaeeda on this. She knows what she deserves and this brother isn't it! She just travelled all this way to come to a joke. She's tired, she's hungry and would like to be in a clean & safe place. Boy, bye!
If she is so bothered by it then why doesn't she offer to pay for a hotel so that they are both more comfortable? Like a good Muslim woman she is expecting the guy to provide everything while she just chills.
@@l.c.7955 why would she pay a hotel when she's coming to STAY! Is not vacations girl🤣 and as far as I know they took their nikkah which means they are married him as a good "muslim husband" shouldn't be playing games on her
As an Island person, i can tell she isnt from a poor family. dont assume evryone from 3rd world is poor guys. personally I wud have went back home to my beautiful island in the sun, thank you
She has every right to be disappointed. She feels catfished. She feels he’s a phony. That speaks to his character and can change whether she wants to ride or die for someone who had her fall in love with someone he’s not.
You're wrong. He has every rights to test her loyalty and love. Females like you wouldn't even stick around if a man is struggling. He has every rights to test her. Will she love him for him or for his money?
I agree Ms Chelle I would have lost respect for him he's not confident in their 2 years and he's deceitful, if he didn't trust her he should have just broke up.
No, she was vile straight away about the van. I come from a very wealthy family - and wealthy people get into vans lol. I can understand the shock over the house as that was extreme, but she was already horrible the second she arrived because she is not a nice person. She is a gold digger and a snake. I’d be annoyed if a man lied to me too, but she’s more disappointed over him not being wealthy than him lying to her. If you were upset about lies you’d say “you lied to me yet I am not after your money” and I’d break it off and say “I’m sorry I can’t be with you, you’ve insulted me, and what else could you lie about?” but the first thing she said and did wasn’t that - she said she wanted to see his “house and car” and then she kicked off when she saw the van. That’s a massive red flag. She doesn’t care about morality or being deceived - she just wants money.
My thing is…why would u “TEST” your partner’s intentions (after 2 whole years) by showing her fake shit, and bringin her into uncomfortable situations!? Especially if u never showed her your ACTUAL living situations, or car, why would u test if she’s using you!? Based off shit the YOU do or don’t post on YOUR social media sir 🙄 How can she actually give u her real reaction? 🙄 he’s annoyin. Most likely lame af in real life 🤣🤷🏽♀️ why can’t she wanna see his car? 🙄 why tf u hiding a car in the first place? 🙄 I can’t stand him 🥴
Think of this like the police using "Car bait" situations, if you aint no thief, they'll never get u right? Samething, if you're a humble and a nice woman, no matter what test comes your way you will act accordingly and not act rude and entitled. That's the whole point here, her reaction was so unnecessary even if the test is unfair. No different than police placing a fake bycicle or car w open door in street to catch a thief. Call traps/tests unfair but at the end of the day You are who you are.
So Shaeda shouldn’t be honest but he literally set up a lie & expects a grown ass woman to be ok with that? Smh. I would be overwhelmed too! Fresh off of a flight, hungry, tired & feeling like I got catfished
@@cindytrejo7338 So why start off a relationship with secrets??? He’s already decided to marry her for crying out loud! Like just get a prenup and then time will tell
Shaeeda being excited about seeing Bilal's house does not make her materialistic. She is genuinely interested in seeing how Bilal lives, as his flashiness on social media contrasts greatly w/ their video calls. She is CURIOUS and wants some questions answered. Her interest in his possessions does not make her a gold digger, especially when he brags about it online but says nothing about his success when they interact. We need to be talking about Bilal's deception instead of her reactions to his LIES! Bilal set them both up for failure. His deep-rooted insecurities are evident in this twisted joke. I have to disagree with how Melicia is portraying Shaeeda.
There is a strong correlation between childhood illness and disease and poor living conditions. She has every right to be giving attitude. She has her own career and can support herself in her country why would ANYONE give that up to marry below them?
Agreed!!!!! What he did was terrible, and he made It seemed like she was after his money. She is a successful entrepreneur herself and he put himself also out there as a successful person and for her to see this Ofcourse who wouldn’t be surprised and disappointed? Like where is the dishonesty in this,? What else is he lying about or what even is the truth anymore?
So disappointing that he uses her reaction to make himself seem righteous. He definitely portrayed himself differently when he went to Trinidad so of course she’s going to be upset when she sees his fake house. Shaeeda needs to look twice when dealing with his messiness
Funny how you skipped over the part about her being interested in his car🤔 That’s the main evidence for why she is a gold digger. Caring about the non important stuff. 🤦🏾♂️
Thank you. He gonna take me to the real house and I’d still leave bc why are you lying and creating unnecessary drama. The house ceilings are literally peeling and last I heard you shouldn’t be around any peeling paint. Especially since they said that house hasn’t been occupied in 15 years it probably has lead paint in it.
@@meghanelaraby277 I hope 🤞 so , I hope he buys her a one way ticket 🎫 back home and block her ! These kind of women are gold diggers… my son has dealt with a few … I saw it, he didn’t and the outcome was exactly what I envisioned !
I think her reactions are completely acceptable. The fact that he thinks the things she’s saying are “hurtful” when he’s a grown ass man lying about his way of living and income. Testing someone in a relationship is childish.
@@arusalexandre2284 he lied ...if he wanted to test her then it has to be done prior...not after the engagement...he flashed his riches in his social media, and I am pretty sure he did too when he was in Trinidad..and now he acted poor...
This man has trust issues and therefore shouldn't be marrying or asking women to leave their countries and family and friends so she can heal his hurt, insecure ego. Also I would never move to another country (or across the hall) without knowing what the situation is, that can be dangerous. Irony is that I am sure men with far more money than Bilal have propostioned Shaeeda as she is a beautiful woman and she turned them down. She is in love and followed her heart. He should have not given her the impression (expensive suits, watches, LV luggage) that he was well off if he is afraid a woman is after his bougie lifestyle. And her comments about his childhood house were all fair. If I were her I would seriously be thinking about not unpacking and getting on a plane back home. Run Shaeeda run! Snd don't drop your personals on the dirty airport floor next time! Definitely a producer's idea.
It's a major red flag if someone has all those material things you mention then lives in a dump... they are extremely immature and have horrible priorities.
I bet if he brought her to a super small, but clean house and safe house, in a lower class neighborhood, in an old but clean car, it would have been a different story.
@@izziestevens5835 because she literally left her job, family, business for a man..... Everything he git for his test was run down. If it was good quality, it would have been a different story
@@izziestevens5835 no she wasn’t talking the Chevy down , in the full episode you can tell that in fact she laughed because she thought the Chevy was his, but was laughing because it was the large kidnapped van that was actually his and not the Chevy
I can't believe HER character is being questioned. Melicia knows good and well if she flew across the world to start a life in a poorly maintained home... especially one that is a TEST (which is extremely petty), she would be livid and insulted. Shaeeda handled this extremely well given this situation. It's not about wanting the man's money. It's about the way he has presented himself and the "life" they will live together and he's essentially hid himself or at least pieces of himself- which is no way to start a marriage, let alone a relationship. Experience in life will teach you that this type of thing is not cool at all. The man is childish and the marriage already has a lot to overcome of they end up going through with it. He is essentially embarrassing both of them on TV. It's never not going to exist somewhere forever.
*BOTH* of them deserve to have their characters called into question. It was shady for him to lie to her about his lifestyle in order to test her. But it's *EQUALLY* shady for her to react like she did, whining about his humble lodgings and what not, making it clear that she's engaging in shameless gold-digging. People are being *WAY* too one-sided in their reactions to this storyline.
@@WestIndianAK I don't agree that she is being a gold digger. I do think it was very unwise of her to pick up her life and leave to be with someone who kept secrets and hid aspects of his life and lifestyle. He presented himself as a real estate investor and brought lv bags and good watches and suits when he visited her. I live in kc. I know exactly where that house is and that neighborhood. It ain't a good look. She has every right to feel disappointed that he made his first impression one thing and this impression as something completely different. Even if he did live there, it would have shown that he mishandled whatever income he has. That being said, I understand that he wants to make sure that she's not with him for his finances. That part I understand. How he went about it was foul though. He could have vetted her intentions in a much more appropriate way.
@@WestIndianAK I agree. I think it’s staged as hell, but I hadn’t seen the full extent of her apparent reaction until now “do you have rats in the kitchen?”, “something that’s from a clean bowl”, “can you afford that?”…..like that is rude AF no matter what, especially since the house looked pretty clean to me, just run down. She didn’t only display simple disapproval…(which would’ve been understandable), she started treating him like downright trash. If it were me and that happened to me….I would’ve been as polite as possible while mentally planning my trip home…not only because of being misled, but also because if he’s flashing all that stuff on social media but lives in a place like that, that’s a big sign of irresponsibility and mismanaged priorities. Not someone I’d even consider having children with. So yea, with the assumption that this scenario was actually real, I think he was in the wrong for testing/manipulating her in this manner, as if he’s not super materialistic and doesn’t like people to know he’s wealthy himself, but her reaction was also over the top and indicative of character flaws regardless.
@@missladygray so yall decided to completely ignore the fact she knew it was red flags b4 she boarded the plane & left her country.. now let me ask you what do you think the driving force was behind her decision to do that seeing as if she’s being placed on this pedestal as the responsible 1 in this situation?? We’ll since it’s clear u can’t see I’ll enlighten you. She a gold digger plain and simple. She ignored all that in hopes of living a lavish lifestyle & now she’s mad bc she “feels” played but in retrospect she’s out to use & play him. Her whole perception of him is based 90% off what she saw when they 1st met & she makes that well-known by continuously circling back to that moment & those material items.
This guy is missing the point, and he can't be proud of the "family home" that's falling apart and dirty. He's looking for problems where there aren't there. Guy has issues.
At 6:00 she said she wanted to see the thing he’s been hiding plus she said know he flips property and houses she know he got money and she has a yoga business that’s make her money they been known if eachother for 2y/o outside the show he just insecure 😕
At 8:07 she right she don’t have be mean and nasty but her reaction is not wrong she at 8:12 she said she knew about his career meaning thinking sun wrong with him
If his car was clean and tidy, and his house was well maintained and didn't have a bunch of crap in the front yard, maybe she would've had less of a problem with it. I'm not wealthy and I live in a very small, cheap place, but I put a little effort into making it look decent. I think she's reacting more to how run down and unmaintained the house looks rather than how cheap it is. The paint is peeling, the siding of the house is falling off, the ceilings are caved... If he fixed the place up it could be a really nice place to live. A guy too lazy to clean up his front yard or his vehicle, or fix a broken window isn't who I'd want to date 🤷 It doesn't have much to do with wealth.
I am a Trini and she has put Trini to shame, she is a gold digger and she is after his money This woman does not care, one bit about Bilal. That man is a genius to pull something off like that was good, it only shows what and how she's thinking,, Greed and selfish on her part. RED FLAG She is not as humble as you think, she came to America to pick money from trees the audacity of her demands! Sickening I am ashamed of her being a Trini, not a good example for Trinis!.
If Bilal is indeed so well off as a result of real estate ventures and flipping houses, why is his beloved family home in need of so many repairs???? A modest home is one thing: sagging ceilings and a rotting foundation is something *COMPLETELY* different. Shaeeda is not a gold digger. She is blunt. And I can only imagine what she will say about this "trick." In answer to your question, I do believe true love is more precious than wealth. However, true love doesn't involve playing games and testing one's devotion, imho.
You have to understand that doing "well" where he lives gives him a comfortable lifestyle.... just like someone making 150K 200K in NYC is considered middle class only...
@@bonefishgrill6382 So, your point seems to be that his "comfortable lifestyle" can't accommodate necessary repairs on his childhood home. I assume his children are his first/biggest priority: good. That house is still in the family for a reason, so why isn't it worth investing in its upkeep? Maybe others in the family can pitch in. Perhaps he needs a financial advisor, or to reconsider his lavish spending. Or both.
The whole test was dumb. I wouldn’t want to be w/anybody that had to “test” me either, but she’s also super obnoxious w/the digs & insults. However if he’s flexing on the ‘gram like she perceived, then that’s deceptive. Both of them get an F grade from me.
She is trying to improve her life by digging for gold not making herself successful. And if she loved him she would not have criticized him and made rude remarks the way she did. Love is acceptance.
@@patty2943 Does he really love her if he's playing these games and being so manipulative from the moment she lands? Also love doesn't mean you have to accept everything... that's called being a doormat.
Me too! The American mentality that everyone outside the US Is dying to come to the US is flawed and wrong. It’s not a blessing to be in US especially with all the blatant racism.
It's not the point of having standards, there was nothing wrong with that house it didn't look dirty to me and she's from Trinidad she doesn't live in the mansion
@@isszzy1208 she comes from money in Trinidad.....not everyone lives in poverty in our country so even tho she seems like she's a gold digger...noo hunnie she has her standards ......she is willing to work with him even tho he has his own money
He's nuts, and his ex was correct. He has an internet persona of someone wealthy and then plays a trick on Shaeeda by scooping her up in the van and taking her to his childhood home to "test her loyalty"? I would've been put off by it too. She's probably worried that he was the type of man whose into perceived wealth, and not taking care of his personal finances appropriately. Being that she never saw his home or anything it wouldn't be a hard conclusion to jump to.
His ex said he was always flexing on Facebook. She knows what wealth he has already. She says hurtful n disrespectful things. I'm not liking Bilal either.
Lots of not most people on line are perpetrating frauds. It's not unusual to meet someone who presents a wealthy online personality but in reality are broke in the hood. Bilal is just perpetrating backwards. I don't blame him, who wants to be with someone who is only into you for $$$$. She on the other hand is perpetrating in that hijab she is wearing.
He's missing the point, she didn't say anything about the size of the house. The ceiling in falling, and it's dirty. I wouldn't want to live in a house like that. She obviously makes her own money, and has a social media following. I want someone who brings something to the table as well. She said they can build together.
EXACTLY! It could be modest but for the love of god his truck and house should have been clean and he could have dressed up a bit and taken her out on her first night together. I’d have gotten back on the plane right away. Go back to that beach paradise 💯
She said it's dirty...doesn't mean it was. The ceiling needs work but that doesn't mean it's dirty. And she clearly exaggerates as made clear by what she said in the van. Calling it "dirty" because there were tools.
@@jerometruitt2731 it probably was dirty to her standards. I'm the same way, always cleaning my house, and my husband and kids never think there's anything wrong with it when a little messy. I understand her. If he's so grateful why doesn't he live there? Why didn't he fix up his family home, and stay in that neighborhood? Truth be told he didn't even want to be there, why should she.
I've only seen him with a sincere smile twice at the when he visited her and at the airport. She only reacted to his actions, he got exactly what he thought, now she is showing him, how clever she is.
I loooooove her accent. When she said “This look like Sanford and Son” I cried! And Melicia, I agree with your take 99% of the time but on this one, I couldn’t disagree more, for all the same reasons everyone else listed. I also want to point out that he has presented himself as wealthy and successful on social media going back several years, so she is in the right to expect him to have a certain standard. I love that at some point she suggested look maybe you should think of selling LV luggage and get your roof fixed. She is 100% correct.
@@ogralph803onig6 She's West Indian. She can find a wealthy West Indian man to put up with her ALL day long if this man doesn't want to. She has plenty of options regardless of her age. Luckily she doesn't live in your online alt-universe with made up rules.
I know this episode is months ago, but I see why Bilal's ex-wife came at Sheada with so much aggression and accused her if being a gold digger. After seeing this episode, Bilal probably confided in the ex-wife and fed her that golddigger suspicion energy before the 2 women met. Men never take responsibility for pouring gasoline on the fire.
One thing about us Caribbean women we are going to tell you how it is. She knows damn well this man is playing games. If you are secretive and u pick me up in a kidnapping van and take me to a house where the ceiling is falling and has mold...I may have to say something and run.
I have had that experience and honestly I love and respect it. No sugar coating. But also go to any home of someone from the islands and their homes are spotless in the UK.
Personally speaking, that is the pictures of his luxury possessions like cars and watches on his Facebook which first attracted her attention and aroused her interest in talking to him. Her expectations were based on what she has seen on his Facebook. So when she finally arrived in USA and found out where he is staying, she, without a doubt, is totally disappointed. She definitely likes him for what he has, not for who he is.
I totally agree with you! If she was so established she would not have to depend on him until she gets green card as well! You can tell that she is looking at a come up period! If he hadn’t displayed his fine items I bet you she would not even looked his way! A lot of foreigners be looking for a come up period!! Y’all need to stop! That’s what attracted her to him his flashy clothes and jewelry!!!! Gtfoh
Shaeeda isn't a gold digger. What Bilal posts on social media hugely contrasts with what he's showing her rn. This essentially makes him a liar. No woman would feel comfy going into a foreign country and realising their fiancée lied to them all along. And not having fancy things is one thing, but what Bilal is portraying is that he is untidy and so irresponsible that he didn't even bother to fix his home, which is definitely not the attitude Shaeeda fell in love with. His home looks like it's gonna collapse, and that's more of a safety issue than a not-luxurious issue.
So she isn't a gold digger but she is with him because of how he portrays himself in social media? GOLD DIGGGER. Seems like people feel because they are the same color they have to defend her 😆
True character? Girl please, you missed the mark on this one. Bilal has a supposedly sacred childhood hone with all thos so called money. But he's let it fall apart like that? Obviously he doesn't have much love or respect for this home . It wouldn't be galling apart orherwise
It’s really the fact that he took her there on purpose cause he KNEW himself that his childhood home was not in a great state & for him to get mad at her because of her concerns with the house is what really blows my mind. Manipulation at its finest.
No offence but he doesn't seem like a serious Muslim to me. I've discussed having multiple wives with my friend who is Muslim and he said he would never do it because you have to provide a great lifestyle for them all equally. He can only afford to treat one woman like a queen. That's a real man, not Bilal.
She left her whole ass country, work, home, family, friends, lifestyle for him... Why don't we see what her life was like in Trinidad? I feel like people have this perception that all Trinis live in total poverty... It's really not the case. If he was down and out... Don't you think that Bilal should rethink bringing someone who would be dependent on him? Like what quality of life u want her to expect??? What kind of life did he give her an idea of while talking on the phone? So you telling me that I should just be grateful for anything just because I in America?? I think she expected something clean for the very least... I think she's TOTALLY justified in the way she reacted...
He is making sure she knows it’s his wealth and only his..that’s such a huge red flag! He is so consumed with protecting his “wealth” that its getting in the way of actually forming a real connection with her. Ladies avoid insecure men like this.
Megan he's not insecure he's smart most men would have wined and dined this lady he kept his bases covered thats not insecurity that called being smart he didn't make that money being stupid
@@l.c.7955 She didn’t deceive him, she never stated she didn’t like him. He came with an image, and posted designer things on social media, and was expecting his lifestyle to match his persona, coming to a house, and neighborhood that doesn’t match how one presents oneself is deceiving. She said (if this were true) that he would’ve told her first, that way she can be more prepared.
As a trini living in trinidad, we have a hot mouth and put ppl in their place. We are straight to the point. We have pride in the way we upkeep ourselves and belongings. So I understand her reaction. And we trini doh take bs. We say it as it is. You need a tough skin to be around a trini. Done talk🙅♀️💁♀️
He is middle aged. She has a right to inquire and be concerned about his finances. He is actually legally and financially responsible for her per the k1 process right. He is playing games and I hate that. He can protect himself legally at some point but what's with the games?
An absolute and undeniable fact, but hateful gold diggers and "baggers" in here want to see this man ultimately taken advantage of by this possibly very dangerous woman.
What Bilal did was absolutely childish. I would have packed up my bags, feeling like I was deceived by the image he portrayed, and hopped on a plane back to Trini. Why would I stay with you if you can’t even provide for me the same level of lifestyle that I provide for myself on my own?
So far Shaeda is the most honest party in this relationship so she gets all the points. Requiring a man to be financially stable before getting married does not equate to wanting a man for his money. GROW UP BILAL
Totally agree with you because he probably didn't know of Trinidad he must have thought it's an impoverish country and all the women there are looking for a rich husband like the South American or Filipino women but Trinidad is rich and ppl live a high standard of living
But she's *NOT* just "requiring him to be financially stable being getting married." Her reaction made it clear that she wants to be with a *RICH* man, and she doesn't want to settle with somebody with more humble finances than that. That's gold-digging, and it's not cool either.
@@KTSalyer83 Theres no way you are married and you are not familiar with the K-1 Visa process. He is SPONSORING her to come to the United States. She just left her home, family and livelihood to come and live with him as a married couple. He gave her the impression that he could take care of her financially, and now when she actually took the leap of faith he is changing the tune. That is the issue here.
@@WestIndianAK Her reaction did not indicate any of that. If you leave a house uninhabited for a year it starts to break down. This house has not been lived in for YEARS, so you can imagine the state. That does not indicate "humble finances", that is POVERTY. You want a almost 40 year old women to be ok leaving her own home to come and live with you in a broken down house and drive a chiddy bang bang vehicle. As a man that should not even sit right with you.
There should never be a need for testing one's loyalty in a relationship, be honest from the start and let them show you their character through their actions. Then decide if the relationship should be worth it or not
Yah don't drag it two years , if she's a gold digger he should've decide long time ago when they were dating , don't play with ppl time , move them another country , marry them n test them he is so wrong
How many women approach a relationship with honesty? I have yet to meet one who would be honest from the beginning. Most women would hide their past and intentions until marriage and unpack their issues. I'm pretty sure you know the rate of success of relationships, and more importantly, marriage.
Malecia is somewhat wrong about Shaeeda! The way he tested her is not good. Her reactions were natural and acceptable. I really didn’t like that the ex wife is still involved in his love life choices.
@@138PM true. She talked about this situation as if she was on her shoe when she isn’t. Majority of what she said here were all about her opinions and perceptions/ideals. I meant, let us be realistic. If you marry someone whether that person is from other country or not, we always check the house, income etc not because a person is a gold digger but because everybody wants a good marriage life where you are comfortable and do not go hungry..no offense to homeless people but if I have a good/comfortable life why would I marry someone who is homeless?
She came there expecting a mansion and a Ferrari…. Come on now… she didn’t come there with Love in her heart for him. She came with high maintenance expectations!
This lady trusts this man a lot. 1. I would not have moved without seeing the house and the car via video chat at least. 2. I wouldn't have gotten into that van or went into that house. She's only spent 7 days with him in person. I would have thought he was going to hold me hostage in the basement. 3. She good to offer to help fix it up, because I wouldn't have. He wouldn't have gotten his feelings hurt if he was playing stupid, childish games.
If I was her I would check into a hotel and figure out going back home. She had a film crew filming her so that is probably why she felt safe being with him.
When he visited her in Trinidad, he wears his expensive watches and suits and brings his louis vuitton luggage… but says he is hiding his wealth from her. 🤦🏽♀️
Exactly! Make it make sense 🤡
Exactly! Smh and not Melina backing him up.
Exactly 💯 tru
😂 then is hurt cause she expected something better from him
All that could have been fake. Look how many people walk around with fake merch
She doesn’t have to be a ride or die ! Tf, he’s acting like she’s in her early 20s. She’s in her late 30s… she’s not trying to play games like he is. She isn’t a gold digger, she’s being REALISTIC !
The thing is,she said she was ride or die. She should have been honest as well.
Just because you are in your late 30s doesn't mean you can't be a gold digger.
A girl usually never stop digging…It is known👽😶🌫️
Even if she was in her early 20’s I still don’t see why people are calling her a gold digger. She left her entire family and home to be “tested” to live in an abandoned house 🙄. Y’all are crazy af for calling her gold digger
@@morningsunshine0216 she said she was a ride or die… he wants to make sure it’s not his Facebook lifestyle that she wants
Yo, y’all tripping. She had every right to feel how she did and throw all the shade. I would’ve walked right out that roach house.
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Being a man knowing women only want you for money it's good to test them because most of the time they will fail
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I would be civil, but I would probably ask him to take me back to the airport so that I could go back home. First impressions are everything.
Yes!
Play stupid games, win stupid prizes. He flexed his lifestyle all over the place, he also flexed in Trinidad, then he wants to play loyalty reindeer games. Man, GOHWTBS.
She literally drop her stuff on the ground at the airport and she complaining about her stuff in the van this girl is a gold digger ..
@@e2dwf976 1. The producers probably told her to do that because it looks scripted. 2. I said what I said. He's playing stupid games and nothing she said depicted "gold digger". He presented himself one way then playing games to make her believe he's cash strapped. That will raise questions. But go ahead label her a gold digger because that's low-hanging fruit.
@@apm11221 you just wrote the dumbest comment I ever read
Right! He gets women by flexing and then wants to question if a person wants him for money.
This game seems a little toxic.
many will disagree with me but whatever . This woman is so well spoken, patient and expressed her valid concerns appropriately ! And for him to take so much pride in his childhood home you’d THINK he’d take care of it. Imaging being picked up in a kidnap van, brought to an abandoned house shit I would be TERRIFIED. She is not a gold digger in any way to me. She is a grown successful woman, Who left everything SHE has worked just as hard for to be with him , WITHOUT Having seen any of his possessions . So I cannot wrap my head around why in the hell he thought this was necessary .
Speaks more volumes of HIS character, than hers
YES GIRL, YES.
Exactlyyy my thoughts. The host was shit for trying to shift all the blame on her calling her as red flag, then what colour flag is Bilal.
This white van is called kidnappers van in my country, because hell lot of kidnappings used to happen in these. I wouldn't have even stepped into it, I would have run back into the airport. This whole setup looked like a kidnap for ransom, rape and organ trafficking.
@@Rose-dr6uo yes! I loveeee Melissa , but cmon
Yesssss👏
Omg.... I didn't even think of that. RIGHT?!?! If that is his childhood home he should have taken care of it!
Poverty does not equal messy, untid, dirty and unkempt.
Yup❤
Can you imagine having to be “tested” after leaving your whole life behind, and traveling all day.
Disrespectful. They think Trinidadians swinging on trees........ some Trinis live better than most Americans.
So annoying and disrespectful
Exactly! This is just beyond insulting! The nerve of this guy. 😤😤😤😤😤
Exactly. All I could do was cringe for her. 🚩🚩🚩🚩
This made me unnecessarily mad. Like why do this? Why play stupid games? This was very childish even including the meal. I may not have a lot of money but if I love someone and is meeting them for the first time I’m gonna show them how much they mean to me. You can be romantic with cheap ideas. This annoyed me to the max. Lying for no reason one her first day
She knows she’s being manipulated. Someone who flexes online with flashy designer luggage and watches but doesn’t take care of his home is a HUGE red flag for misplaced priorities. Even if you don’t care about money… that points to someone irresponsible with their finances. She’s considering marrying this man.
He also said that’s why he didn’t want to talk to her at 1st.She said he had Louise Luggage and fancy watch shows you what’s she focused on
She only worried about what he has not who he is .
Wait, misplaced priorities? I know a lot of people who had flashy homes and cars and then in 2007/08 they were in foreclosure. I have expensive shoes and a condo. I drive a 2007 FJ cruiser but my hubs and I are wealthy. My hubs is a 2 figure millionaire and I met him in a shitty studio and driving a beat up car.
She def is with him bc of his resume. She noticed his luggage, his watch, & mentioned his job and what he should make. There’s tons of real estate ppl who make nothing. If I had a home paid off why would I buy a bigger home. Maybe what u think are priorities maybe isn’t. I came from a hut in a 3rd world and worked my ass off. I had roommates until 28. That didn’t define my bank account. Matter of fact many ppl I knew didn’t know I was about to sell my company for a lot of money. I had enough to buy a duplex in NYC but I kept my roommates. If u saw me in red bottom shoes and a designer dress but saw my car- how would my priorities not be straight. The true ppl I know who are wealthy look like rags. JRR Martin for example. My old Jewish boss who wore the same exact thing daily and drove a 15yo car. Bilal knew she may be material and needed to confirm it. I don’t agree with how he did it but she’s a golddigger
Yeah. From rags to riches but the rags should be hidden just because your successful. Narcissistic bs
Nope. Most men leave the house to the woman - especially when they are busy WORKING. I have had friends with millions of dollars and even know a few billionaires who live in modest homes in safe neighborhoods.
One of the Gettys used to drive a white station wagon and Steve Jobs drove a small green pickup truck. The owner of the Oakland Raiders drove a still uses a 2003 Nokia phone and drives a minivan. I know a billionaire who still texts me on his Blackberry 😂
Homes are in safe neighborhoods a little bit set back for privacy NOT mansions but 3 bedrooms.
She kept it real 100%. To be honest, I would feel the same way as her. I ain't living in that mess when my parents are well off. I still like her and them together. Stop testing each other before you lose each other.
The man wore his money in front of her. That is what she expects of him. Not a broke poser but an established, wealthy man. HE put himself out there that way.
He should of been a REAL man and not flash his wealth. Then to "test" her out after showing his money around. This dumbass is LUCKY she has her own money and morals. And poor thing actually loves him....😔
He can’t change his behaviour because he’s a narcissist
She had him in a trash Airbnb in Trinidad in a rough area.
So he has all this money and he can’t fix his Moms ceiling? Or buy her a new place? He’s shady and immature.
...and he works in real estate...the irony
True
No one has lived in the home for 15 years. I’m not sure where his parents are or if they have passed on.
Miser
Is mum still alive, looks like nobody lives there.
Melisia..you are wrong on this..he also wouldn't be with her if she was fat and unattractive..she has standards!And I love her bluntness.. Sanford and Son! Hilarious
Thank you
Considering she has her own wealth I say it's OK for her to want someone at her level but let's say this trick was real, she is not being kind and humble about it. She was demeaning him and his upbringing. She could have handled it with more class. She's spoiled. God forbid they go through a rough patch financially, she would not hold the "for worse" in the vows.
Melicia is insane. yeah the way Shaeeda went on it but as a black woman Melicia sounds downright insane 4 talking about some ride or die when black women have been programmed to be mules for years to men that don't even return the favour or even value them. get real. It is not bad 4 a woman to be assured that a man she is about to marry will be able to financially take care of things. dunno what Melicia is on
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This lady mean as hell I swear women be seeing men as wallets .
I usually Agree with you....... but not this time. He didn't need to play that ridiculous, manipulative game. He knows damn well what type of person she is and he accepted that and chose to marry her. He was dead wrong 💯
Speaking as a trini we don’t live in unkept houses! Clean homes is part of our culture. Even people who aren’t well off every year repaint their homes, do upkeeps, it’s just how we are. So I’m sure she came from a well kept home so going to a dilapidated one would obviously unsettle her. Cause that’s not what she’s used too
Exactly it doesn't matter the size of the house it must be clean and well kept. Did you see her house in the video chat? It looked very clean and well put together.
Let dem know
Right! Taking this beautiful lady to a gross house with the roof caving in and expects her to be 'appreciative'. So stupid. Couldn't even keep the house in good repair and picks her up in a human trafficking looking van.
clean homes is apart of FBA/ADOS Culture too fck you mean., most of yall would sell your kids to come over to america lol
stop the cap.
Was waiting for someone to step in and say sumn before I said a word. THANK YOU MAAM!! Say it louder 🗣🗣🗣🗣🗣
I'm not upset about her not wanting to ride in a vehicle of filth and does not want to live in a run down house. That being said, it doesn't matter the KIND of vehicle but CLEAN IS CLEAN. Filth is unacceptable. Similarly, the kind of house doesn't matter, but again SAFE AND CLEAN matters. Busted out windows, falling roof, mold, etc... Is unacceptable.
I agree. Just because you don't have a lot of money doesn't mean you have to be filthy. My grandparents didn't have much but they weren't filthy. Her home was well kept.
There is strong correlation between childhood illness/disease and this type of living conditions. Rose and her family kept their place more presentable then this guy.
She wasn't happy with the out side of it either 🤣
It was *NOT* "a vehicle of filth." He had his toolbox and other materials in there. The fact that she called it "filth" just shows how shallow and materialistic she is.
The vehicle wasn't even dirty. She was being dramatic. It was a van with tools in it.
When I moved to the states, my husband's financial situation wasn't great, because he was unfortunately just laid off like a month before i got here. So it was a very hard and frustrating time bc I wasn't legally allowed to work and contribute for like a year. And considering I had a very successful job in my country and was doing really well for myself it was difficult. And on top of that you don't have friends and family to support you. Let's not act like being financially stable is not important. Especially since as a K1 visa fiance you are 100% dependent on your spouse for at least a year. The main cause of arguments in couples is about money and in the US no one wants to talk about it. Money is important especially when you don't have enough. If I was her age when I first came here I would have been hell no... I am putting my ass back on a plane and going home..living with mold is not acceptable since it can cause serious health issues. It's about being comfortable in a clean safe space.
Sticking with my Caribbean sister on this… we don’t encourage dutty car or house full a mould 🙄 it’s not about flashy things it’s about taking care of stuff by being clean
Yes! In fact i was talking to a Trinidadian and they were saying they take real pride in their home and it being clean and tidy..this poor girl shouldn't be 'tested" and so far, she's the only one keeping it real!
Dutty??
Than you all should stay at your perfect clean country! Why go abroad ! If life is perfect there than should stay !
@@cuteduckdontlie4636 This is such a nonsensical comment. She moved because she’s MARRIED. People move for various reasons, get over yourself.
@@toyyibatadewunmi8170 IKR? Imagine someone saying, "I take pride in my house being clean", and having few enough braincells that the best comeback you have is, "Go back to your country!" XD
Let's be real here. She is not a child, but a grown woman with expectations. I would act just like her. I'm sure she lives in a better house back home. Don't bring a grown woman to your struggle situation unless she agrees to it. No one is 18 trying to come up. When you're over 35 heading to retirement, nobody has time for that game. I would book a flight and go back home. He can save that for a kid. She probably thinking she will have to take care of him, because he is not financially settled.
Amen! Well said! Tiffany Galloway. I didn't like this move at all. He started this visit with a lie. If he was that concerned he should've been open and over 2 years you would've seen who she was. I don't like the lies and games. Not cute for a grown man. He should've been sure before putting a ring on her finger.
Amen!
Women love money….period ! 🙄
easier to understand term of describing her would be "a gold digger"
She has a business too like you expect her to settle?
This man doesn’t love himself for who he is because he has to pretend to be someone else on social media…
And he expects her to love him for who he is?
After you’ve been caught lying?
Cmon, man.
Yes! He is fake as
I find it weird that Shaeeda has to be grateful but he is LITERALLY showing he isn’t even honest 🥴
Agreed. He’s a grown man, he needs to present himself as he is and not be insecure.
@@danielareds Yes! It is so strange how people are normalizing his behavior.
@@lemonlemon7186 yes. If he can’t discern her motives in over two years then maybe he shouldn’t be dating yet. Also, if that’s such a huge concern for him he needs to date someone at or above his income level.
@@danielareds it’s just that simple! 👌
Agreed because as a Trini woman if I had to leave my very well established life for struggle life it would be a big problem. I’m on the flight back home.
No Shaeeda slander would be tolerated!!!So she can't be boujee or unimpressed by a Chevy because she's from Trinidad? I bet she lives a better house in Trinidad and drives a better car. Alyuh fass and outah place.
Right??? Why would she leave her life in her country where she can support herself and live with a man who doesn't have his priorities straight??? She wants to add value to her life not make it harder. Anyone who has all designer everything but lives in a dump doesn't have their priorities straight.
@@prittyugly86 exactly!!!
I hated how he was so condescending to her on top of the BS "test" talking about "you know some people don't have a roof" this old fool acting like he picked her up from the side of the Beetham or something.
@@apm11221 lmao not the beetham. I'm sure he visited her family and saw how she lives and it's nothing like that house he carried her to.
These comments have me weak but yours takes the win they really fast and outa place.
I thought Shaeeda’s response made perfect sense. Bilal was sneaky in keeping his living situation from her. She is leaving the comfort of where she grew up to live with him. Anyone getting annoyed by her response also don’t know Caribbean people. They are very real, honest and blunt. That’s why I’m proud to be a Caribbean descendant. (Barbados 🇧🇧) Americans come very elitist in their thinking like people should kiss the ground they walk on whether they’re poor or rich. Every season there is someone with that mindset. Bilal was expecting a certain reaction from her which is why this prank failed. How dare he even test her when he has never been completely upfront with her. Smh.
I totally disagree with your take on this, Melicia. This so call test is trash!! Starting off their life together with trickery and deception. That says more about his character than hers. This American attitude that everyone must be put through a gold digger test is ridiculous. She is a successful, driven woman of her own means. She wants a partner who can bring the same values and motivated outlook to the table. It's not just about him having money.
It's srsly so condescending, If you need to put your fiance thru such a test , just break things off. Ya'll have no trust.
YES. He hasn't seen her in 2 years but picks her up in a dirty, kidnappy looking van and didn't even attempt to fix up the house. Look a damn mess.
Yes!! It's outrageous
Totally agree! She's probably feeling catfished right now thinking he's someone he's not and trying to marry her up quick. He shouldn't have proposed before "testing" her.
Why is Melicia so set in making him look like the victim? She's not obviously putting herself in Shaeeda's shoes.
If you can't trust her then don't get engaged. I can't believe this man is 40+ years old ,and is still playing games. SMH, she can do so much better.
Trust is gained hope u blindly trust the one u engage
Yeah he’s 42/43. Too old for games. Dude thinks he’s all that because he makes a little bit a money. Please.
How is that games he don’t need a fake wife
@@marriejames01 he's only one age 42
At 37 she can't do better. She's old
Listen, Carribean Women.... We are raised to keep our space tidy. It's not about being rich. Even the most poor person keeps their shack tidy. You have pride in how you carry yourself & how you represent your family. You don't bring people in your space when it's messy.
Melissa you know damn well this is wrong. She a business woman she has her own money and she smart to. I would be scared to get into a kidnap van and going to a run down home too. I don't think the girl is a good digger. I get that he wants to show her his childhood home but he did this the wrong way, if he would have trust her to bring her to his actual house I think she will appreciate the truth instead of lying to her.
I agree but I know you from Trinidad
Than she should go back dear ! To her “rich” life ! He will find true love !
Who's going to kidnap you while you are being filmed on a TV show????🤔🤔🤔
@@cuteduckdontlie4636 Exactly!
Shes a gold digger obviously lol
I don’t think it’s unreasonable for a guy in his 40s who’s trying to sponsor a foreign bride to be financially set. In fact it would be irresponsible if he wasn’t. However Bilal should not confuse being poor with unkempt.
You have to watch the show
Agreed!
Yes, he insults everyone in that neighborhood.
@@natalierivera5997 exactly!
I’d be irritated too if I thought he was wasting money on clothes and Louie bags but living in squalor. That means his priorities are messed up
I am not sold on her being a golddigger story. I am holding my judgment on that yet,but he was totally gaslighting her at the end
That was the DEFINITION of gas lighting
I said the same exact thing! Textbook gaslighting. He literally lying to her and making her seem crazy for having comprehension skills. He has portrayed a certain lifestyle this whole time they've been together and all of a sudden this is where they're staying? I would have questions too.
I don't remember if it was in this video or another,but at the end he literally tells her "wow,I am disappointed in your reaction ". Such a gaslighter thing to say
No he wasn't. She made assumptions. He never promised her anything other than love. Mind you she jumped in his DMs not the other way around.
@@zari2662 She made assumptions based on superficial factors. That doesn't equate lies on his part.
It’s not about her true character. She’s allowed to have expectations. He wore his best things when he was in Trinidad and here she lands after a long journey from her comfort zone and he is subjecting her to trash test. Not ok at all. He could have landed her into a clean moderate environment at least.
She didn't have to be rude. And she was
Thank you
@HairGreaseTBMOTH women test men all the time.
@@jerometruitt2731 And you think that excuses this?
Some women being trashcans makes you wanna join in?
Nasty ass
@@ivydemichael3661 Didn't have to be rude?
Are you mad?
You lie to me, being me to another country after i was living quite well, and I only move cause i love you and am okay with what you show to me as your image.
I watched that episode and cringed the entire time. How did NO ONE tell him "testing" a grown women with deception was a bad idea?
She had every right to react the way she did.
I love her. Play stupid games win stupid prizes. She's not some poor struggling woman desperate for some American man to save her.
She's a business woman. She's travelled. She's fashionable.
Thank you!
Exactly you said it well
Facts...people love to act like they don't have a long list of what they want in a partner. Just like him, there's a reason she chose him. It's not fair she's portrayed as a "gold digger"
CE, yes she is, she’s just like every reality star trying to come to America. When she finds out that this man is a self-made money machine her entire attitude is going to change. But, she’s going to have a problem (and it won't be him), it's his mother and sister. Most of the relationships from 90 days don't last. Stay turn we wi see.
She’s ungrateful and with a man for wrong reasons
I have to say this, I do not blame her at all. If this man wanted to test her love, then go plain to trinidad and let her fall in live with you there. No flash, belts, watches or louis luggage. If you wanted to see her heart, that is where it should have started, when you first met, not the second when she comes to what is to be her forever home. In short, unfair test after showing your true self in Trinidad!
I agree with you guys. The way he went about it was wrong. He should have shown her her humble side from the get go, it’s very misleading to make someone believe you are “this” “when you are “that”. For me it would not even be about the money, she has worked hard to get to where she is, why should she have to settle for someone who “doesn’t have it together” per say and pretended he did? No man come on
Ya he should of went in basic
IMO Bilal went too far with the house. Shaeeda moved thousands of miles, left family, and friends, even though she is in love, why would she want to do that and only move to a lower level or the same level of where she was? Maybe if she was very young and she still saw life in an idealistic way or if she was immature and still felt life only needed love then moving down would be alright. When you are very young 2 people in love can build their life from scratch together. She isn't very young or immature so she lives with the big picture in mind, not just starting out. The house was too much of a shock for her at her age and with her visions. I doubt she was expecting a castle. Just nice and well cared for.
Why do people equate poor / low budget with unkept ? That house was falling apart and may need a health and safety inspection. She has every right to be concerned and upset and he’s childish.
Melicia you are wrong on this one. I’m surprised because usually you are pretty unbiased. Americans need to stop this idea that the US is the best place to live in the world!
Exactly , ..when she said " what care she drives in Trinidad" I was like HUHHH?
Trinidad/Caribbean is FILLED with fancy cars lmao 🤣
Melecia is showing red flags in this programme.... I wondering if it's ET's producers that came up with her lines....
He portrayed a certain image to her. I would be concerned if I left my home and business to be with a man that acted like he was able to take care of himself and me. Then he shows her the side of him that he doesn’t live anymore. I wouldn’t plan to marry anyone that wasn’t honest about finances. He hid his whole live from her. And he thinks it’s all a joke. Not funny. She’s the only one being honest in this relationship.
So what i get from watching this video is he wanted to test her to see if she still will love him without the Glitz and Glamour.
@@BayouKitchenGuy the question i have is, if he wanted to test that then why didnt he pretend to be poor when he was picking up women? Why start now?
I think bilal is going too far with this whole “Idk if my lady wants me for my money so let me take her to a raggedy house” he doesn’t want her to know he’s rich but yet he posts his lavish lifestyle online and has to question if this woman wants him for his money? Why did he marry her if he doesn’t trust her? His actions will make him end up losing her
If my man flips houses and takes me to a house that's falling apart I'd wonder what he thinks about me.
@@FionaChandoll I’d be like… Bilal do you think I’m dumb or stupid??
@@briannaje5419 And I would quickly tell him to kiss my....u know what???
Sheeida do not marry this cruel selfish bilal !!!!!look how he treats you now.you will never never be happy.find out why his first wife left him.i am very concerned about this couple!!
Can you imagine how this girl felt when she planned to move countries and marry a man who seemed like he was financially comfortable ? and then come to find out he’s living in horrid conditions. I’m sorry but that’s called being catfished, her reaction was warranted. If he wanted to test her, he should of presented himself as someone who is not wealthy, instead of selling her a dream and then snatching it away. She probably felt deceived and lied to and when she voiced her discomfort, she’s labelled a “gold digger” that’s not fair! We’re always so hard on our black sisters who do not accept struggle love smh why can’t she love him for him and the life that he provides her, who is to say she doesn’t deserve that? I hope Shaeeda lays it down on the hosts comments during the interview 😂 because they were absolutely biased.
Girl you spoke the truth this was the comment I was looking for!!!
Yes, Melicia is usually on the money but this time her take is wrong.It's like she has a crush on Bilal.
Its the way she comea off that makes me do that facial expression thats like embarrassment for someone. Like she keeps bringing up rats for some reason and maybe little ole me just doesnt get it, but i have friends in every tax bracket and none of them live with rats..... regardless of being poor. I woulda got offended that she thinks im dirty cause im poor. And she keeps this thing up about the 1900's... again wtf. Normal people live like this throughout the country. This doesnt need to be equated to the 1900's. Idk, she just kinda has weird vibes to me it makes me weary
@@melaninibaadaye4080 Well if you bring someone to a dilapidated house its normal to ask if rats live there too.
I am totally in support of Shy. It is absolutely unfair what Bilal did. How can deception in any form be condoned?! Why did he not video call her and show himself living in that house and driving that van? I don't see any justification for Bilal's dirty trick, nothing but deception. Anything that comes from Shy after that is excused.
She works hard too! She's an accomplished businesswoman & built herself up. Idk why Melicia is coming down on HER for him coming off as dirty & lowdown. I'm completely for Shaeeda on this. She knows what she deserves and this brother isn't it! She just travelled all this way to come to a joke. She's tired, she's hungry and would like to be in a clean & safe place. Boy, bye!
If she is so bothered by it then why doesn't she offer to pay for a hotel so that they are both more comfortable? Like a good Muslim woman she is expecting the guy to provide everything while she just chills.
@@l.c.7955 why would she pay a hotel when she's coming to STAY! Is not vacations girl🤣 and as far as I know they took their nikkah which means they are married him as a good "muslim husband" shouldn't be playing games on her
@@l.c.7955 Are you okay? A Muslim man is the provider. Stop talking by your own Haram standards.
Melicia is giving pick me vibes
Because African American women are taught to accept broke black men or they're gold diggers lmao
As an Island person, i can tell she isnt from a poor family. dont assume evryone from 3rd world is poor guys. personally I wud have went back home to my beautiful island in the sun, thank you
She has every right to be disappointed. She feels catfished. She feels he’s a phony. That speaks to his character and can change whether she wants to ride or die for someone who had her fall in love with someone he’s not.
You're wrong. He has every rights to test her loyalty and love. Females like you wouldn't even stick around if a man is struggling. He has every rights to test her. Will she love him for him or for his money?
Gold digger
I agree Ms Chelle I would have lost respect for him he's not confident in their 2 years and he's deceitful, if he didn't trust her he should have just broke up.
@@LFranklya Exactly.
No, she was vile straight away about the van. I come from a very wealthy family - and wealthy people get into vans lol. I can understand the shock over the house as that was extreme, but she was already horrible the second she arrived because she is not a nice person. She is a gold digger and a snake. I’d be annoyed if a man lied to me too, but she’s more disappointed over him not being wealthy than him lying to her. If you were upset about lies you’d say “you lied to me yet I am not after your money” and I’d break it off and say “I’m sorry I can’t be with you, you’ve insulted me, and what else could you lie about?” but the first thing she said and did wasn’t that - she said she wanted to see his “house and car” and then she kicked off when she saw the van. That’s a massive red flag. She doesn’t care about morality or being deceived - she just wants money.
My thing is…why would u “TEST” your partner’s intentions (after 2 whole years) by showing her fake shit, and bringin her into uncomfortable situations!? Especially if u never showed her your ACTUAL living situations, or car, why would u test if she’s using you!? Based off shit the YOU do or don’t post on YOUR social media sir 🙄 How can she actually give u her real reaction? 🙄 he’s annoyin. Most likely lame af in real life 🤣🤷🏽♀️ why can’t she wanna see his car? 🙄 why tf u hiding a car in the first place? 🙄 I can’t stand him 🥴
Yes Ma'am I agree!
he watched Coming To America and thought he could do something similar.
@@adamjaxn3156 I was 5 when this movie came out but, it's a great film & I agree!
@@adamjaxn3156 I was thinking the same thing 😂🤣
Think of this like the police using "Car bait" situations, if you aint no thief, they'll never get u right? Samething, if you're a humble and a nice woman, no matter what test comes your way you will act accordingly and not act rude and entitled. That's the whole point here, her reaction was so unnecessary even if the test is unfair. No different than police placing a fake bycicle or car w open door in street to catch a thief. Call traps/tests unfair but at the end of the day You are who you are.
I think Milicia wants Bilal as her husband. And he has 2 exwives.
So Shaeda shouldn’t be honest but he literally set up a lie & expects a grown ass woman to be ok with that? Smh. I would be overwhelmed too! Fresh off of a flight, hungry, tired & feeling like I got catfished
Melicia is usually on point but I think she got it all wrong this episode. Bilal was wrong PERIODT. You don’t put your partner through tests
Melicia really surprised me on this one or should I say disappointed me.
Why not it's his money..
@@02loudNo she was on point
Yeah. I wouldn’t want to cause unnecessary drama in the first few hours of reuniting.
@@cindytrejo7338 So why start off a relationship with secrets??? He’s already decided to marry her for crying out loud! Like just get a prenup and then time will tell
Bilal went about this the wrong way.
Shaeeda being excited about seeing Bilal's house does not make her materialistic. She is genuinely interested in seeing how Bilal lives, as his flashiness on social media contrasts greatly w/ their video calls. She is CURIOUS and wants some questions answered. Her interest in his possessions does not make her a gold digger, especially when he brags about it online but says nothing about his success when they interact. We need to be talking about Bilal's deception instead of her reactions to his LIES! Bilal set them both up for failure. His deep-rooted insecurities are evident in this twisted joke. I have to disagree with how Melicia is portraying Shaeeda.
There is a strong correlation between childhood illness and disease and poor living conditions. She has every right to be giving attitude. She has her own career and can support herself in her country why would ANYONE give that up to marry below them?
Agreed!!!!! What he did was terrible, and he made It seemed like she was after his money. She is a successful entrepreneur herself and he put himself also out there as a successful person and for her to see this Ofcourse who wouldn’t be surprised and disappointed? Like where is the dishonesty in this,? What else is he lying about or what even is the truth anymore?
So disappointing that he uses her reaction to make himself seem righteous. He definitely portrayed himself differently when he went to Trinidad so of course she’s going to be upset when she sees his fake house. Shaeeda needs to look twice when dealing with his messiness
Facts 💯 however delusionalist will argue against your sound logic 😒
Funny how you skipped over the part about her being interested in his car🤔 That’s the main evidence for why she is a gold digger. Caring about the non important stuff. 🤦🏾♂️
If a guy has to trick and "test" me starting off our relationship, then we're not meant to be.
Thank you. He gonna take me to the real house and I’d still leave bc why are you lying and creating unnecessary drama. The house ceilings are literally peeling and last I heard you shouldn’t be around any peeling paint. Especially since they said that house hasn’t been occupied in 15 years it probably has lead paint in it.
Exacly, while he himself wouldn't put his expensive bad in that old truck. No, so wrong to insult a woman as if she's an opportunist
She’s a gold digger and her accent is so annoying.
She saw him flashing his wealth on social media she’s definitely a gold digger
I am both mortified and unreasonably excited to see her reaction when she finds out he was lying this whole time.
I think she'd be rather disappointed and mad at him, since what he's done is really not acceptable tbh
She'll be gone before finding out !!! 😏
@@mertmitm Really??? let's wait and see if she'll even continue staying with him thinking he's not rich!!
@@meghanelaraby277 he isn't rich.
@@meghanelaraby277
I hope 🤞 so , I hope he buys her a one way ticket 🎫 back home and block her !
These kind of women are gold diggers… my son has dealt with a few … I saw it, he didn’t and the outcome was exactly what I envisioned !
I think her reactions are completely acceptable. The fact that he thinks the things she’s saying are “hurtful” when he’s a grown ass man lying about his way of living and income. Testing someone in a relationship is childish.
SAY WORD!!
Agreed he is just ridiculous!
How was he Childish? He's not lying he just put her to test.
@@arusalexandre2284 Yup I agree with you..
@@arusalexandre2284 he lied ...if he wanted to test her then it has to be done prior...not after the engagement...he flashed his riches in his social media, and I am pretty sure he did too when he was in Trinidad..and now he acted poor...
Why are women shamed for wanting a financially set man? That struggle love is not cute.
This man has trust issues and therefore shouldn't be marrying or asking women to leave their countries and family and friends so she can heal his hurt, insecure ego. Also I would never move to another country (or across the hall) without knowing what the situation is, that can be dangerous. Irony is that I am sure men with far more money than Bilal have propostioned Shaeeda as she is a beautiful woman and she turned them down. She is in love and followed her heart. He should have not given her the impression (expensive suits, watches, LV luggage) that he was well off if he is afraid a woman is after his bougie lifestyle. And her comments about his childhood house were all fair. If I were her I would seriously be thinking about not unpacking and getting on a plane back home. Run Shaeeda run! Snd don't drop your personals on the dirty airport floor next time! Definitely a producer's idea.
It's a major red flag if someone has all those material things you mention then lives in a dump... they are extremely immature and have horrible priorities.
Great comment! I agree 💯
I bet if he brought her to a super small, but clean house and safe house, in a lower class neighborhood, in an old but clean car, it would have been a different story.
Thank you. She complained about the car being dirty and the house in disrepair. Not that it wasn’t lavish or posh.
@@SailorSlay What about the Chevy sedan? Why was she making faces?
@@izziestevens5835 because she literally left her job, family, business for a man..... Everything he git for his test was run down. If it was good quality, it would have been a different story
@@izziestevens5835 no she wasn’t talking the Chevy down , in the full episode you can tell that in fact she laughed because she thought the Chevy was his, but was laughing because it was the large kidnapped van that was actually his and not the Chevy
I agree
I actually love that he did this smart move
I can't believe HER character is being questioned. Melicia knows good and well if she flew across the world to start a life in a poorly maintained home... especially one that is a TEST (which is extremely petty), she would be livid and insulted. Shaeeda handled this extremely well given this situation. It's not about wanting the man's money. It's about the way he has presented himself and the "life" they will live together and he's essentially hid himself or at least pieces of himself- which is no way to start a marriage, let alone a relationship. Experience in life will teach you that this type of thing is not cool at all. The man is childish and the marriage already has a lot to overcome of they end up going through with it. He is essentially embarrassing both of them on TV. It's never not going to exist somewhere forever.
*BOTH* of them deserve to have their characters called into question. It was shady for him to lie to her about his lifestyle in order to test her. But it's *EQUALLY* shady for her to react like she did, whining about his humble lodgings and what not, making it clear that she's engaging in shameless gold-digging. People are being *WAY* too one-sided in their reactions to this storyline.
@@WestIndianAK I don't agree that she is being a gold digger. I do think it was very unwise of her to pick up her life and leave to be with someone who kept secrets and hid aspects of his life and lifestyle. He presented himself as a real estate investor and brought lv bags and good watches and suits when he visited her. I live in kc. I know exactly where that house is and that neighborhood. It ain't a good look. She has every right to feel disappointed that he made his first impression one thing and this impression as something completely different. Even if he did live there, it would have shown that he mishandled whatever income he has. That being said, I understand that he wants to make sure that she's not with him for his finances. That part I understand. How he went about it was foul though. He could have vetted her intentions in a much more appropriate way.
But She was the one that told him she'd be willing to sleep in a tent with him
@@WestIndianAK I agree. I think it’s staged as hell, but I hadn’t seen the full extent of her apparent reaction until now “do you have rats in the kitchen?”, “something that’s from a clean bowl”, “can you afford that?”…..like that is rude AF no matter what, especially since the house looked pretty clean to me, just run down. She didn’t only display simple disapproval…(which would’ve been understandable), she started treating him like downright trash. If it were me and that happened to me….I would’ve been as polite as possible while mentally planning my trip home…not only because of being misled, but also because if he’s flashing all that stuff on social media but lives in a place like that, that’s a big sign of irresponsibility and mismanaged priorities. Not someone I’d even consider having children with.
So yea, with the assumption that this scenario was actually real, I think he was in the wrong for testing/manipulating her in this manner, as if he’s not super materialistic and doesn’t like people to know he’s wealthy himself, but her reaction was also over the top and indicative of character flaws regardless.
@@missladygray so yall decided to completely ignore the fact she knew it was red flags b4 she boarded the plane & left her country.. now let me ask you what do you think the driving force was behind her decision to do that seeing as if she’s being placed on this pedestal as the responsible 1 in this situation?? We’ll since it’s clear u can’t see I’ll enlighten you. She a gold digger plain and simple. She ignored all that in hopes of living a lavish lifestyle & now she’s mad bc she “feels” played but in retrospect she’s out to use & play him. Her whole perception of him is based 90% off what she saw when they 1st met & she makes that well-known by continuously circling back to that moment & those material items.
This guy is missing the point, and he can't be proud of the "family home" that's falling apart and dirty. He's looking for problems where there aren't there. Guy has issues.
When she said "I want to see your car" my gold digger's detector blinked.
Right
At 6:00 she said she wanted to see the thing he’s been hiding plus she said know he flips property and houses she know he got money and she has a yoga business that’s make her money they been known if eachother for 2y/o outside the show he just insecure 😕
At 8:07 she right she don’t have be mean and nasty but her reaction is not wrong she at 8:12 she said she knew about his career meaning thinking sun wrong with him
If his car was clean and tidy, and his house was well maintained and didn't have a bunch of crap in the front yard, maybe she would've had less of a problem with it.
I'm not wealthy and I live in a very small, cheap place, but I put a little effort into making it look decent.
I think she's reacting more to how run down and unmaintained the house looks rather than how cheap it is. The paint is peeling, the siding of the house is falling off, the ceilings are caved... If he fixed the place up it could be a really nice place to live.
A guy too lazy to clean up his front yard or his vehicle, or fix a broken window isn't who I'd want to date 🤷 It doesn't have much to do with wealth.
Yes these were my thoughts exactly!
Agreed.
Not a chance
A guy who flips houses and is into real estate at that... make it make sense
he catfished her, not by his looks, but by his lifestyle
He didn't, he manipulated her
I am a Trini and she has put Trini to shame, she is a gold digger and she is after his money This woman does not care, one bit about Bilal. That man is a genius to pull something off like that was good, it only shows what and how she's thinking,, Greed and selfish on her part. RED FLAG She is not as humble as you think, she came to America to pick money from trees the audacity of her demands! Sickening I am ashamed of her being a Trini, not a good example for Trinis!.
If Bilal is indeed so well off as a result of real estate ventures and flipping houses, why is his beloved family home in need of so many repairs???? A modest home is one thing: sagging ceilings and a rotting foundation is something *COMPLETELY* different. Shaeeda is not a gold digger. She is blunt. And I can only imagine what she will say about this "trick." In answer to your question, I do believe true love is more precious than wealth. However, true love doesn't involve playing games and testing one's devotion, imho.
Yes, how do you say you flip houses for a living then bring your fiancé to a dilapidated home?
You have to understand that doing "well" where he lives gives him a comfortable lifestyle.... just like someone making 150K 200K in NYC is considered middle class only...
@@bonefishgrill6382 So, your point seems to be that his "comfortable lifestyle" can't accommodate necessary repairs on his childhood home. I assume his children are his first/biggest priority: good. That house is still in the family for a reason, so why isn't it worth investing in its upkeep? Maybe others in the family can pitch in. Perhaps he needs a financial advisor, or to reconsider his lavish spending. Or both.
Bro you can't show off like your rich and then act like you're poor to test a woman's loyalty? This dude's corny🤦🏻♂️🤡🤣
Seriously corny… this is so annoying. Why does she need to prove anything to him in regards to her tolerance of living in poverty.
The whole test was dumb. I wouldn’t want to be w/anybody that had to “test” me either, but she’s also super obnoxious w/the digs & insults. However if he’s flexing on the ‘gram like she perceived, then that’s deceptive. Both of them get an F grade from me.
Can’t both things be true? She loves him AND wants to improve her station in life…
Or mantain it
She is trying to improve her life by digging for gold not making herself successful. And if she loved him she would not have criticized him and made rude remarks the way she did. Love is acceptance.
I agree but it’s not popular these days
@@patty2943 Does he really love her if he's playing these games and being so manipulative from the moment she lands? Also love doesn't mean you have to accept everything... that's called being a doormat.
@@patty2943 she has her own business.
He playin games and manipulated this whole situation and STILL found a way to make her look bad. Nah fuck that. I’m team Shaeeda 💪🏽💪🏽
Me too! The American mentality that everyone outside the US Is dying to come to the US is flawed and wrong. It’s not a blessing to be in US especially with all the blatant racism.
🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
Me too, girl! He trifling.
Yes girl!!
Facts!
That man is a red flag, trying to make her change, lying to her 🙄
He deserves whats coming.. epic fail on his behalf
So he has standards, but she can’t ? A true narcissist.
It's not the point of having standards, there was nothing wrong with that house it didn't look dirty to me and she's from Trinidad she doesn't live in the mansion
So she's supposed to be a Muslim woman she knows better than what she's doing now
@@isszzy1208 the ceiling is fucking falling apart what you mean it don't look dirty
@@isszzy1208 she comes from money in Trinidad.....not everyone lives in poverty in our country so even tho she seems like she's a gold digger...noo hunnie she has her standards
......she is willing to work with him even tho he has his own money
@@sailopez1827 $1 in Trinidad equals 15 cents in the United States so don't be stupid
NOOOOO Bilal was wrong! He is dishonest and she is not a child! His behavior is unacceptable!
He's nuts, and his ex was correct. He has an internet persona of someone wealthy and then plays a trick on Shaeeda by scooping her up in the van and taking her to his childhood home to "test her loyalty"? I would've been put off by it too. She's probably worried that he was the type of man whose into perceived wealth, and not taking care of his personal finances appropriately. Being that she never saw his home or anything it wouldn't be a hard conclusion to jump to.
His ex said he was always flexing on Facebook. She knows what wealth he has already. She says hurtful n disrespectful things. I'm not liking Bilal either.
@@cathymurray agreed, they both trash😂
Lots of not most people on line are perpetrating frauds. It's not unusual to meet someone who presents a wealthy online personality but in reality are broke in the hood. Bilal is just perpetrating backwards. I don't blame him, who wants to be with someone who is only into you for $$$$. She on the other hand is perpetrating in that hijab she is wearing.
He's missing the point, she didn't say anything about the size of the house. The ceiling in falling, and it's dirty. I wouldn't want to live in a house like that. She obviously makes her own money, and has a social media following. I want someone who brings something to the table as well. She said they can build together.
He literally said himself that that house hasn't been lived in in 15 years and he decided to bring her there. That place must be so dingy and unclean.
EXACTLY! It could be modest but for the love of god his truck and house should have been clean and he could have dressed up a bit and taken her out on her first night together. I’d have gotten back on the plane right away. Go back to that beach paradise 💯
@@zari2662 omg and he wants her to sleep in that bed. Knowing him I know he didn’t bother to wash the sheets
She said it's dirty...doesn't mean it was. The ceiling needs work but that doesn't mean it's dirty. And she clearly exaggerates as made clear by what she said in the van. Calling it "dirty" because there were tools.
@@jerometruitt2731 it probably was dirty to her standards. I'm the same way, always cleaning my house, and my husband and kids never think there's anything wrong with it when a little messy. I understand her.
If he's so grateful why doesn't he live there? Why didn't he fix up his family home, and stay in that neighborhood? Truth be told he didn't even want to be there, why should she.
I've only seen him with a sincere smile twice at the when he visited her and at the airport. She only reacted to his actions, he got exactly what he thought, now she is showing him, how clever she is.
I loooooove her accent. When she said “This look like Sanford and Son” I cried!
And Melicia, I agree with your take 99% of the time but on this one, I couldn’t disagree more, for all the same reasons everyone else listed.
I also want to point out that he has presented himself as wealthy and successful on social media going back several years, so she is in the right to expect him to have a certain standard. I love that at some point she suggested look maybe you should think of selling LV luggage and get your roof fixed. She is 100% correct.
She is sooo West Indian! I howled when she said that.
Trini to de bone
Trini to d bone.....
Typical disrespectful bw. It's okay to not like something but the insults are unacceptable. Especially for a 37 year old
@@ogralph803onig6 She's West Indian. She can find a wealthy West Indian man to put up with her ALL day long if this man doesn't want to. She has plenty of options regardless of her age. Luckily she doesn't live in your online alt-universe with made up rules.
"Do you have enough money for that?" So me!!! Id be rolling my eyes and jeering through the roof. Can't deal with nonsense🤣😅
lol that was funny
Wow eh
I know this episode is months ago, but I see why Bilal's ex-wife came at Sheada with so much aggression and accused her if being a gold digger. After seeing this episode, Bilal probably confided in the ex-wife and fed her that golddigger suspicion energy before the 2 women met. Men never take responsibility for pouring gasoline on the fire.
Bilal had no clue that his cheap / dirty games ,and jokes he's playing on her is going to backfire eventually.
Yeah he will find true love and get rip of this gold digger
One thing about us Caribbean women we are going to tell you how it is. She knows damn well this man is playing games. If you are secretive and u pick me up in a kidnapping van and take me to a house where the ceiling is falling and has mold...I may have to say something and run.
I have had that experience and honestly I love and respect it.
No sugar coating. But also go to any home of someone from the islands and their homes are spotless in the UK.
I wouldn't have unpacked my bags if I was her. I would have been on a plane back home.
Personally speaking, that is the pictures of his luxury possessions like cars and watches on his Facebook which first attracted her attention and aroused her interest in talking to him. Her expectations were based on what she has seen on his Facebook. So when she finally arrived in USA and found out where he is staying, she, without a doubt, is totally disappointed. She definitely likes him for what he has, not for who he is.
I totally agree with you! If she was so established she would not have to depend on him until she gets green card as well! You can tell that she is looking at a come up period! If he hadn’t displayed his fine items I bet you she would not even looked his way! A lot of foreigners be looking for a come up period!! Y’all need to stop! That’s what attracted her to him his flashy clothes and jewelry!!!! Gtfoh
Absolutely without any doubt! If she was so successful back home she don’t need to rely on him to support her…??
Shaeeda isn't a gold digger. What Bilal posts on social media hugely contrasts with what he's showing her rn. This essentially makes him a liar. No woman would feel comfy going into a foreign country and realising their fiancée lied to them all along. And not having fancy things is one thing, but what Bilal is portraying is that he is untidy and so irresponsible that he didn't even bother to fix his home, which is definitely not the attitude Shaeeda fell in love with. His home looks like it's gonna collapse, and that's more of a safety issue than a not-luxurious issue.
Absolutely
If that isn’t a gold digger I don’t know what is !
So she's excited about what she sees on social media 🤣😂🤣😂😂
So she isn't a gold digger but she is with him because of how he portrays himself in social media? GOLD DIGGGER. Seems like people feel because they are the same color they have to defend her 😆
True character? Girl please, you missed the mark on this one. Bilal has a supposedly sacred childhood hone with all thos so called money. But he's let it fall apart like that? Obviously he doesn't have much love or respect for this home . It wouldn't be galling apart orherwise
She was really rude 👎
It’s really the fact that he took her there on purpose cause he KNEW himself that his childhood home was not in a great state & for him to get mad at her because of her concerns with the house is what really blows my mind. Manipulation at its finest.
I thought the Koran says you're supposed to bring a woman into a situation as what SHE IS USED TO OR BETTER.
He probably never even read the Koran.
No offence but he doesn't seem like a serious Muslim to me. I've discussed having multiple wives with my friend who is Muslim and he said he would never do it because you have to provide a great lifestyle for them all equally. He can only afford to treat one woman like a queen. That's a real man, not Bilal.
Oh that's a good one. Seems like he is not reading his Koran just talking about being a Muslim.
yep, that's what it said....equal or better than what her father provided or what she is used to....NOT below.
She left her whole ass country, work, home, family, friends, lifestyle for him... Why don't we see what her life was like in Trinidad? I feel like people have this perception that all Trinis live in total poverty... It's really not the case. If he was down and out... Don't you think that Bilal should rethink bringing someone who would be dependent on him? Like what quality of life u want her to expect??? What kind of life did he give her an idea of while talking on the phone? So you telling me that I should just be grateful for anything just because I in America?? I think she expected something clean for the very least... I think she's TOTALLY justified in the way she reacted...
He is making sure she knows it’s his wealth and only his..that’s such a huge red flag! He is so consumed with protecting his “wealth” that its getting in the way of actually forming a real connection with her. Ladies avoid insecure men like this.
He look like the type to cheat and they cry and say his religion has told him he’s forgiven I just don’t see good in him
Megan he's not insecure he's smart most men would have wined and dined this lady he kept his bases covered thats not insecurity that called being smart he didn't make that money being stupid
@@rashaunwilliams7834 Nah, he deceived her.
@@applefarm6126 so did she. He thought she liked him for what he was. Turns out she was looking at the baggage and the watches 😆
@@l.c.7955 She didn’t deceive him, she never stated she didn’t like him. He came with an image, and posted designer things on social media, and was expecting his lifestyle to match his persona, coming to a house, and neighborhood that doesn’t match how one presents oneself is deceiving. She said (if this were true) that he would’ve told her first, that way she can be more prepared.
As a trini living in trinidad, we have a hot mouth and put ppl in their place. We are straight to the point. We have pride in the way we upkeep ourselves and belongings. So I understand her reaction. And we trini doh take bs. We say it as it is. You need a tough skin to be around a trini. Done talk🙅♀️💁♀️
Tell dem! 🇹🇹🇹🇹🇹🇹🇹🇹
We couldn't tell by just looking at you. Sorry.
True talk
This was the funniest break down! Love it, makes me want to watch this series 😂
Bilal is toxic. He feels are valid, that house looks condemned.
And I thought you shouldn’t be around where there is paint peeling
He is middle aged. She has a right to inquire and be concerned about his finances. He is actually legally and financially responsible for her per the k1 process right. He is playing games and I hate that. He can protect himself legally at some point but what's with the games?
Well. She is 37...I would be asking why doesn't she have kids at 37?????
@@themaseratiinn5743 exactly, he is about to run out of chances to have children if he stays with her
Many of us have brought people overseas only to be used. So well done Bilal
An absolute and undeniable fact, but hateful gold diggers and "baggers" in here want to see this man ultimately taken advantage of by this possibly very dangerous woman.
@@nagone11 amen
What Bilal did was absolutely childish. I would have packed up my bags, feeling like I was deceived by the image he portrayed, and hopped on a plane back to Trini. Why would I stay with you if you can’t even provide for me the same level of lifestyle that I provide for myself on my own?
So far Shaeda is the most honest party in this relationship so she gets all the points. Requiring a man to be financially stable before getting married does not equate to wanting a man for his money. GROW UP BILAL
Totally agree with you because he probably didn't know of Trinidad he must have thought it's an impoverish country and all the women there are looking for a rich husband like the South American or Filipino women but Trinidad is rich and ppl live a high standard of living
But she's *NOT* just "requiring him to be financially stable being getting married." Her reaction made it clear that she wants to be with a *RICH* man, and she doesn't want to settle with somebody with more humble finances than that. That's gold-digging, and it's not cool either.
It absolutely does. You don’t get to require a certain level of finances. Did she bring her finances to the table?
@@KTSalyer83 Theres no way you are married and you are not familiar with the K-1 Visa process. He is SPONSORING her to come to the United States. She just left her home, family and livelihood to come and live with him as a married couple. He gave her the impression that he could take care of her financially, and now when she actually took the leap of faith he is changing the tune. That is the issue here.
@@WestIndianAK Her reaction did not indicate any of that. If you leave a house uninhabited for a year it starts to break down. This house has not been lived in for YEARS, so you can imagine the state. That does not indicate "humble finances", that is POVERTY. You want a almost 40 year old women to be ok leaving her own home to come and live with you in a broken down house and drive a chiddy bang bang vehicle. As a man that should not even sit right with you.
The guy pretended to be super rich to her and she showed up and looked like he was a bum lying to her… LOL
There should never be a need for testing one's loyalty in a relationship, be honest from the start and let them show you their character through their actions. Then decide if the relationship should be worth it or not
Yah don't drag it two years , if she's a gold digger he should've decide long time ago when they were dating , don't play with ppl time , move them another country , marry them n test them he is so wrong
How many women approach a relationship with honesty? I have yet to meet one who would be honest from the beginning. Most women would hide their past and intentions until marriage and unpack their issues. I'm pretty sure you know the rate of success of relationships, and more importantly, marriage.
Malecia is somewhat wrong about Shaeeda! The way he tested her is not good. Her reactions were natural and acceptable. I really didn’t like that the ex wife is still involved in his love life choices.
Malecia is all the way wrong about her...which is not fair.
Yeah this was easily Malecia’s worst review yet…
@@138PM true. She talked about this situation as if she was on her shoe when she isn’t. Majority of what she said here were all about her opinions and perceptions/ideals. I meant, let us be realistic. If you marry someone whether that person is from other country or not, we always check the house, income etc not because a person is a gold digger but because everybody wants a good marriage life where you are comfortable and do not go hungry..no offense to homeless people but if I have a good/comfortable life why would I marry someone who is homeless?
She came there expecting a mansion and a Ferrari…. Come on now… she didn’t come there with Love in her heart for him. She came with high maintenance expectations!
This lady trusts this man a lot. 1. I would not have moved without seeing the house and the car via video chat at least. 2. I wouldn't have gotten into that van or went into that house. She's only spent 7 days with him in person. I would have thought he was going to hold me hostage in the basement. 3. She good to offer to help fix it up, because I wouldn't have. He wouldn't have gotten his feelings hurt if he was playing stupid, childish games.
Why the car thou?????The car should not be an issue...
@@themaseratiinn5743 I see your point. I just need to see reliable transportation. I know that could be the van.
@@themaseratiinn5743 Because its the number one car of kidnappers everywhere. A white van with no windows.
If I was her I would check into a hotel and figure out going back home. She had a film crew filming her so that is probably why she felt safe being with him.
@@natalierivera5997 lol kidnappers, when you are on national television and camera men are following you