I work in a nursing home. I wouldn’t say I have x-ray vision but at 61 years old, I feel that I have a level of empathy, understanding, and compassion for our residents and patients that my coworkers several decades younger do not have. I find it frustrating, sad really, when the elderly are treated as children or as less than and not respected as the amazing individuals that they are. Perhaps part of my life purpose is to still be working in this environment in order to advocate for these individuals and share their remaining years with them. If you are looking for volunteer work, please consider reaching out to local nursing homes and see if you can visit with these wonderful souls… They really would appreciate someone to talk to🙂
My husband was in a nursing home for five years and died of Covid there in 2020. I get to be friends with the residents as I looked at them, not as old, poor souls but as people that were once young, had full lives, raised families and through no fault of their own ended up in a facility. Unfortunately, many nursing homes are a for-profit endeavor with investors that expect pay-back every month. So funds extended to the home rarely go to the residents, but to ‘keeping up appearances’ like remodeling the public spaces (lobby, therapy departments) but not the individual rooms of the residents. I visited many folks in that place and became friends with many. I took them things that they wanted, took gifts at Christmas time and made it fun for many. When my husband died, I actually missed going there as it was not only where my husband was but my second home where friends and holidays were spent. Now my life is a little lonelier because I don’t have that place to go to. I’ve started visiting shut ins through a new program and it feels quite the same as visiting those people in the nursing home, many of whom had no visitors, ever!
I never expected to be alone during my retirement. I worked as a teacher (32 years) and then when it was time to retire, my husband had Parkinson’s. He just passed away, and now I am alone. I keep active with my grandchildren, taking care of my mother who is 90 years old and maintaining my home. This is not easy but I thank God that I have my health.
The latter part of my life these past 23 years I spent caring for family. I have no regrets although it was not always easy. Know that sincere hearts always find a place to rest and be appreciated…it’s called home (whether sharing with other members or living alone). Home is indeed where the heart is. God bless😊
Bless you for taking care of your mum. I did the same thing 2 yrs ago. And if I hadn’t ended up on my own I would never have had the privilege of being able to have done that… And it was a privilege as my mum loved me into the world and I was able to love her out… It is a wonderful thing that you are doing 💝
Good for you. We want life to be easy but in hindsight, it rarely is. These challenging things in life are the ones that crystallize our intelligence and make us the kind, empathetic, thoughtful people we are. I sense you are just this person…missing your partner is a beautiful, bittersweet journey but it sounds as if you have a rich life full of ones who love you. May you find peace in this new normal you are experiencing…
I grew up without guidance so I was on my own to figure things out at age 5: cooking, housework, taking care of my 4 year old brother and working in the fields to earn income. My mission has always been to problem solve and never look to someone else to take care of me or my children. I am 70 years old but I have yet to meet anyone who can love me more than I can, and yes, I can buy myself flowers. 🌹🌹🌹
Oh Susan you do so much for all us older women actually all women I'm 75 and your talk wakes me up😊 All your videos are very informative and always correct and right on the spot God bless you for always helping us through everything whether it's makeups that hurt us or treatments that are not good for us that other people don't bring up or things that we feel about ourselves that we shouldn't this neglect feeling it's 75 years old it's awful God bless you and thank you for this wonderful video of enlightenment❤❤❤
When you were quoting your son, and what he said to you, each sentence was love. Real love. Not words, not kissing up, exactly what love, real love, looks like. I was listening to what he said, with my mouth hanging open!
I am 82 years old, the only thing I would really want, is to have a cup of coffee ☕️ with all of you, and tell you about what I have gone through🙈. I would also love to know everything about you and your Mothers and grandmother. God bless everyone of you. ♥️♥️♥️🌹🌹🌹🙏🙏🙏
You such a beautiful lady. My support system is gone. 58 alone and trying to handle single life . Healing and trying to live but so hard. Thank you for your encouragement. ❤
👏👏👏👏👏👏to you and your amazing son! He has realized what brings you joy and beauty to your home and is not worried about the little of his time it will take to deal with it when you are gone. You are lucky to have that love and acceptance!
This may sound strange but my mother taught me to be a strong, independent woman. My dad was a workaholic & not home much. My mother worked as an aircraft welder during WWII, one of the very first. I think that's what made her strong. I watched my mom paint, wallpaper, move furniture around throughout our house, by herself. She cooked, cleaned, mowed the lawn, gardened alone. My sister & I helped as we got older & my grandma lived with us too, so mostly just us "girls ". I'm greatful as I've been alone since my mid-40s. I got my sons & live with the youngest & his family now, but I still have my independent spirit. My son will say mom, why didn't you let me do that? Lol cause I'm used to doing it myself. I'll be 77 in a few months & I'm still climbing ladders & painting walls 😅❤
Good for you. I am 75 and still independent, live alone, take care of all that I can even on days when I’m suffering with arthritis and lower back issues . Garden in my small courtyard … do art stuff and do annual Christmas art projects for my grandchildren…two no as the other two are in college and working. R have to keep going before it gets here we cannot anymore.
When I turned 65 this year, I had an epiphany. If I only have so many good years left, then I am going to make them count! I got really clear on what was important to me, and I am living much more intentionally.
Think on this, I know I do, my grandmother lived to 105 - take 65 years away from that and YOU still have 40 good years left. Sounds like you want to make the most of those last 40 years, so, just go for it Good luck and God bless.
I am 65 and 2 years ago my husband and myself retired to a beautiful place in Somerset to live a slower happy life, we have beautiful walks on our door step and our Son and daughter are just a car ride away. The only sadness I felt was leaving my 90 year old father behind because he didn't want to leave his home, this is now all about to change as he is selling his home and looking to come and live near us which will make my life complete again. We are planning all our outings and car rides and taking his beautiful dog for walks and family gatherings around our table. My dad lost his way and became so lonely and realised he needed to be with us as much as we need and love him. I cannot wait until I can pop in and pop the kettle on and chat and watch a movie. Hopefully it won't be long till his house has a sold sign outside and he can start his new life. Your words today made me cry and made me realise our lives really do mean so much❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
My mom and I have talked about this inability to remember things, many times! I am 60 and she is 81. But we have decided that a lot of it, if not dementia or the like, is just simply a really FULL brain!!! After all these years and all of the memories and information we have gathered over 60 and 81 years, it has to become a little harder to sift through all of that life!!! OF COURSE we're going to have a hard time on occasion remembering someone's name, or the name of a song or that street our old best friend lived on! AND especially if you have a partner and/or children! We are remembering not only our own life events, but the events in the lives of the people we love. THAT is a HUGE amount of information to maintain, sort through and bring to the front! SO yes, we do have a hard time recalling a word here and there, and some young thing, might bring it up in seconds! BUT they don't have as much sorting to do, do they? So I say, when you feel like you're "losing it" because you can't quickly remember the name of something, DO remember you have many, many years of life and memories and wisdom to sift through and it has nothing to do with loss, but rather all of the wonderful moments that you have gather over the years! LOVE YA! ~Kelly~ (Colorado)
Bravo Kelly 👏👏👏 I've been making a joke of this exact same thing for Year's! I gave up even trying to remember some things... like name's for instance. I've told people for year's that I will not remember their name... BUT if I were to see them again elsewhere and I did remember them it was because I liked them 😁 Heck, I ran medical offices over 3/yrs besides the life and family I had. Any idea of just how many people I've met? LoL Me either 🤣 I've been saying that my brain only has do much space, so certain things just move along in order to make room for other's. I 100% agree with what you've explained here way better than I am!! Blessings 💞 PS I just turned 65
Coupyk, you are a very blessed woman to still have your mother with you. Oh, how I wish my mother was still here in my older age. I understand what she was talking about when she was my age. ❤️
Beautiful video, Susan. I am 66 and was raised with one requirement: finish college and get a good job, so that I could always take care of myself. We asked the same of our daughters. My mother became a widow at 70, and continued her active, busy, relevant life until her 90’s. We are role models to our daughters and all the young women in our lives- let them see how happy, productive, generous and significant we are! They will do the same in their elder years, because that was what was modeled for them. You and Desi are precious.
Hi Susan My mother’s lament as she got older was that she became invisible - she felt snubbed, unseen, and de-valued. One time when she was in her early 60s and on jury duty she felt the younger women on the jury didn’t include her in their group lunch trips because she was older than them. I didn’t give her feelings the proper respect I should have- and now I have experienced what she was talking about. I think talking about these aspects of getting older is very empowering. I am always encouraged when I see “older” women in my community out and about holding their own and claiming their space. Tonight’s video was so beautiful and uplifting. Thank You❤ and love to Desi❤
My health took a turn for the worse at 55. I am 63 now and the more I seem to let go of the past the better I feel. I did a lot of gardening and hard laborious work for me today. I feel fine, so I know that my mental care is sometimes the most important thing I can do for myself. The stronger I feel mentally the more I accomplish and I realize I can’t do what I did at 20, but I sure try!💓 Don’t fret on the past, it’s OVER. You will be in a much better place if your life starts fresh each day with a prayer and a smile.💓💓💓😊💓💓💓
Wonderful advice. I almost died 8 years ago of a near fatal heart attack and have other health issues. Sometimes I can't and spend a lot of time in bed, but when I feel up to it I pack it in.
@@SonetLandman I hope your health is improving and I’m sorry to hear you suffered a heart attack! 🥹 I know I have limitations, but my best advise to myself is to really care for me and not the rest of the world. I can’t make a difference if I’m so sick and at my age I concentrate on myself, it may sound a bit selfish…I become at peace if I do things planned out and when I have extra energy I’ll tackle what I can. The world issues are so vast and sometimes too much to listen too. I use to watch the world news and become so upset. I avoid it and realize at my age I can’t offer a lot. So my world is small and at peace.🍁🐿️🍂🪴My best to you and I hope you continue to improve or have more good days!😊
Always love your videos. I lost my husband at 51. I never expected that. I had always dreamed of growing old together and having the time to enjoy our life together. Financial he had seeing to it that when ever anything happened to him I would be cared for but nothing could ever prepaid me for losing him. I never in my wildest dream eased imagined a life with out him. I am 75 now and live alone . I am just so thankful that I had something most people never get in a life time and that was a love that is still lasting.
I’m 67 living with my 71 year old husband for 40 years. Not always easy…but now in our golden years we’ve taken on the task of raising our 8 year old granddaughter - whew - never saw this coming!!!!!
I am 62 and my 21 year old granddaughter who happens to be on the spectrum, lives with me. It is still a big responsibility. I never saw that coming either! We grandmas are awesome! I am proud of you taking on your granddaughter and giving her so many great memories that she will never forget. 💜
I applaud you for taking care of your young granddaughter. In this country more and more grandparents are raising their grandchildren. My husband and I practically raised our now 18 year old grandson and he has turned out to be the most responsible, level headed and kind young man I know. I don't know if he would have been that had it not been for the stable life my husband and I provided him. Just know you are not alone. Blessings to you from Texas.
I remarried at the age of 50 after having been single for 8 years. I thought I had finally found “the love of my life”. What I found instead was an imposter. I could have never imagined that at 60 that I would find myself alone again. No, I was not prepared… but honestly, I’ve started over so many times in life that it seems to be the rule and not the exception. I agree with you wholeheartedly Susan… we need to be prepared to be single, because life happens to all of us. Much love to you & Desi❣️😘
My best friend got out of a 47 year marriage and remarried 2 years ago. She called me one day to tell me she hated being alone, WHILE MARRIED!!!! One day a couple of months ago, he told her he's moving out and wanted a divorce. Now shes starting over again. So I feel for you.
I am glad that I have become selfish in my loneliness. I don't want to share my bed with anybody else but my animals anymore. I don't want to make room in my cupboards for somebody else's stuff to move in. I don't want to stand ready in the kitchen to cook and make food because somebody else is hungry and then you are left to stand and do the dishes all by yourself while he retires to the lounge and watch TV. I don't want to do somebody else's washing and ironing. I hate ironing. So there, I have become selfish and it is protecting me.
These biblical guidelines are for us Christians, only. We cannot impose what our God tells us, onto others. And in fact, there are two exclusions that God gives us, one is abandonment, and the other is if the spouse has remained. Then, the marital bond is completely broken. Just as we do not, for example, live by the guidelines or commandments of Islam or Hindu, etc. nor can we expect others who are not Christians to live by our commandments.
As my husband is dying of cancer, I ponder these things. I'm 72, and I'm very much into my beloved three dogs and two cats. OK, honestly, if I could find someone who would care for the cats as well as I do, keeping them safe from harm, fed quality food, etc. I could let them go. But never my dogs. I've wondered if I could let another man into my life, and mainly for the reasons you mentioned...making meals, cleaning up everything myself, doing the washing, ironing, bed linens, cleaning the home, etc. Do I really want to do this for someone who does not reciprocate? I think not.
After being married for 25 years ; then divorced at 48 and still single at 69 I never knew the struggles i had ahead in the next 20 years. I survived a tornedo and then moving alone to Florida not knowing a soul and bingo; i had a huge. hurricane bust up my small home!! Its not easy rebuilding homes all alone after such disasters!! Thank God i have a caring bunch of friends who are. always there for me. After retiring i stayed to myself and even though i can be a loner thats when i felt balance is a good thing!! So just last night I went with 3 friends to a outdoor concert and heard a 70s rock band; ate sweet potato fries and giggled when a few young men came to our table and ask our names. On the way home i said it was such fun and i felt so alive
You are so adorable. Im 65. Noone told me anything or led me in a direction. I had one son at 16, who is 47 & hasnt spoke to me for 4 years. It is difficult at times, but i am thriving am an artist, recently diagnosed with stenosis, had surgery, not 100%. Still carry on with love and optomism. I feel better than ever! Thank you sweet soul and Desi 🐕 Love y'all
I was married for thirty years and divorced and he died a couple years later. Now I am single and totally self sufficient. I remember my mother telling me “ be able to support yourself” She never had to do it but god bless her for giving me a heads up ❤
My grandma always said “you are who you are your whole life” I never understood this until now. I’ll be 65. Susan you are right about empathy and how much better we are at reading people. I also have realized my many mistakes that I made when younger and cannot undo. With age comes wisdom
Never prepared no.. especially since my mama passed 8 months ago. You see I was assigned the "care taker" role from a very young age mostly from my step father I looked after both of them without ever thinking about myself...so Im now Learning after 60 how to take care of myself and that Im smart and have a lot of life I need to live for me. That's scary but you Susan & your precious Desi help me soooo much you cant imagine just Love all you & all your videos!❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤ ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
At my daughter's Hen party prior to her wedding, guest put advice to the Bride in a memory book. I drew a big heart and said keep your own bank account! My daughter aged 31 was offended! My mother told me the same thing and believe she was right!
That's good advice. Actually excellent advice. You can spend what you want and not be badgered or, God forbid things don't work out. She shouldn't have been offended. You were looking out for her best interests.
You are correct.. when everything is beautiful it’s flowers and roses but when it’s wilting and dying , we wished we would have done known better!!!!!!! Love is Temporary, just like life is!!!!!!!!!!!
I’m in my mid 50’s and these videos are very informative and eye opening. I’ve watched many women a bit older than me go into widowhood and work their way through this new chapter of their life with lots of help from friends and other members of the church. Statistically you’re right about prepare for singleness because of the higher rate of men dying before their spouse in many cases. Thanks again and I love your thrifting videos and beauty and atmosphere of your lovely home! Blessings!
Thank you! I agree with you completely. I am 81, and I have gone through so much of what you have gone through. Today was so on target. So many friends are gone and I have moved to a different area. I so enjoy listening to you and feeling like I'm having an adult conversation. I am blessed with a large family, but I don't have many peers. You are making a difference.🧚♂️💙🧚🧡
I used to watch your videos years ago and when Cooper passed I was just to sad to watch anymore. I started watching your videos again and I am so glad I came back. Your videos are so beautiful and you say things I need to hear. Each video really is a work of art. Thank you so much for sharing your life.
I love your comments about x-ray vision and I know exactly what you mean. The journey of getting older definitely opens a pathway to many different things… I, like you had never planned to be alone at 66 years old and after taking a few years to even come out from under my duvet it was either sink or swim… Six years on, I am swimming and there is so much I have learnt and am learning about myself… Thank you Susan for another wonderful inspiring video. And I would love to read your book. Love again from New Zealand. ( Down under 😊)❤
Thank you so much Susan for the encouragement . It was much needed and appreciated and I will keep going one step at a time and I will make it all the way home. Hugs to you and Desi!
My husband passed in March 2020, i was not prepared to go on by myself. Its hard. & no one knows how i really feel. Thanks for the advice. Thanks Susan & Desi i really love your channel.❤
Hugs to you during this period of adjustment to life on your own. You will be OK. Give it time to discover the you that will be learning more about who you are now and have a new growth spurt.😔🙏🥰
Hi Christinesoria 6158 , I’m very sorry that your husband left first I lost my husband in November 2021 and I know how you feel there are not words that alleviate the pain and the absence, but we have to continuing while we meet again. Christian communion help to heal the pain. 🍃💛🍃 🙏🙏🙏
I am here at 36 because I have a deep need to see a future of freedom and creativity. I was very touched by your stories of love. The only thing I have been so happy with in my life has been my children and their love for each other. I am blessed already beyond what one can ask for. But it is good to see you leading the way forward!
Yes I notice I am more empathetic now at 70 (tomorrow is my 70th birthday). I watched a Home Tour video the other day about Joe Minton (Interior Designer-90 years young) it opened my eyes that aging is not a number. You are truly as young as you feel!
I just got an awakening. I retired 4 years ago at 67. Since then I've been moping around the house. My husband's words. A fee days ago I injured my hip muscle. Now I'm in pain and can't move. I long for thr healthy days I wasted assuming I'd always feel ok. If/when i get over what is wrong, I'm not going to waste my body and mind "moping". I have learned the lesson God sent to me. Never waste a single day thinking you've always have tomorrow. Happy Sunday everyone.
We still sparkle like the valuable treasure we are..no matter what our age …we have immeasurable worth! Thank you Susan for being here for all of us …..you are a gift and I am so proud of you!!!❤
I wasn't prepared for what my mid-sixties have brought my way. I can walk into a grocery store, or be shopping for clothes at a mall, and I feel like I don't fit in anymore in public. I can't tell you why, because I don't know. I'm happy at home, happy at church, but when I am around strangers, I begin to feel so vulnerable. It's not about my aging looks I don't think, although I know it's important for me to understand this. I just can't pinpoint he reason. I didn't think life for me would turn out the way it has. Maybe I am stunned at the years flying by, the children gone, and sensing that this whole thing really is close to winding up. I don't want to leave my family, especially in this crazy unpredictable world. I use to teach ppl how to have confidence, so it's ironic I find myself feeling insecure at such an advanced time in my life. I do see through a lot of the people i meet, which makes things harder sometimes, if that makes sense.
Susan ; In 2005 I lost my son and my husband 30 days apart, and believe me I sure didn't see that coming, 18 yrs.ago and I'm still trying to recreate my life.
I'm in Canada. Our Thanksgiving is this weekend. I'm 78 widow and the first Thanksgiving in over 60 years sitting alone. My large family of 18 people are all "BUSY" indeed Shocking, in conceivable but sadly true!!! What is going on in this world and with families!!!!??? Very dark why continue living?
“I am so proud of you!” is a welcome reminder to all children as they grow. My grandbabies hear that from me so often that it never gets “old”! Thanks Susan and Desi for your insight and sharing messages.
I am 67 years old, have been married 51 years. Due to Covid I was forced to retire from my very long-term job in 2020. We have 3 grown children, 10 grandchildren and several great grandchildren. I am in close contact with most of them but still feel lost and confused about what I am supposed to be doing on a day to day basis. I was so used to a routine and busyness every day and now I don't know what to do. Even having someone with me 24/7 doesn't help, I was used to being pretty independent. Now it seems like I am useless.
You can give your time to many areas. Food pantry, nursing homes, library or take up a hobby or take a class or learn something new just by watching TH-cam’s. Maybe painting or other crafts. Good luck but never feel useless. I pray you know the Lord. Get involved in church or a local women’s Bible study. 🙏
@@vallang4832I realize that I really have nothing to complain about. We have enough money to get by,, a nice house and plenty to eat which many people do no have. I am grateful. I have been baking, cooking and thought about taking up sewing again. I also wanted to volunteer, I should look into that. Thanks for the suggestions. I hope your health improves and you have a great rest of your life.
I have worked at trying to be prepared to be alone one day. Most women outlive their husbands. We downsized and moved into town where everything is easy to get to. I know all about the finances, all the service people to call to keep the house going, I know my neighbors. What I don't know is how to handle death. There isn't any way to prepare for that even though I've thought about it and tried to prepare. I think women who are alone need to develop a network of other women so that there is someone to call when they need help. I don't have that. I must say that I really don't have many friends at all at this age. I think I'm not alone in that. Thanks Susan for your vlogs. Hi to sweet Desi. He is loving life and he makes me smile.
No you are not alone at not having many friends at this age. I am 69. When my daughter was young I was involved in so many things, subdivision clubs, women's club, Bunco, PTO, Swim Team my daughter was on, Choir & Cheerleading Booster she was in, Band, church etc I had lots of friends. Then life changed after she graduated high school. I put my all into working and being the best wife. Now with my husband gone I am lonely with only 2-3 real friends. Saddest for me is that my daughter is so involved with her new marriage she rarely checks on my or visits unless she needs something. I sit and wonder what did I do wrong.
I have found recently that I don't feel prepared for being 68. I see clearly things that I should have done earlier in life, but I had no idea at the time. I took care of people. My family, elderly people in church or the neighborhood who had no one. We always had kids from the neighborhood in our home. One darling girl lived with us for 4 years. I took care of my elderly parents, and when they each died, I was with them. I have a husband and 2 sons, no grandchildren. I've been busy. In reading this back, I realize that the people who were in my life have been a blessing to me. In all that time, though, I just wish I put some thought into my senior years. Now here I am.
I feel the same way, I was always an independent person. I was always working both at home and outside the home. Retirement came as a shock to me. If I could have a “ do over” I would have worked part time for a year or two. I don’t know what I want to do. I know more about what I don’t want to do. I am am empathetic so I have done or got involved with things I really didn’t want to do. I am cautious about taking on a job or volunteer work because I don’t want to be trapped. My daughter wants me to move closer to her, my sister wants me to do the same. My daughter in law asked me if I was going to move closer to her. My son in law says the same thing. Please do not think I am being boastful I am truly thankful and grateful. I am wrestling with the question “ what do I want?” I wish everyone of us kindred spirits a happy and healthy week ❤
I think it's wonderful that you have been a blessing to so many people. The 60's, 70's, and even 80's are just another phase of life. It's your time to rediscover things you like to do.
I met my prince charming when I was 17 & fresh from college. He had been the love of my life and best friend for 43 years. We did everything together, we were enough just the two of us together. In 2020 we retired and moved to a new city with big plans to enjoy our retirement . Covid hit & lockdowns and for one wonderful year we cherished our time setting up our new home. Suddenly he died. Alone in a new city & for the first time in my adult life without him. Financially I manage, but I don't know how to be just me alone. I have tried for two years now. But I don't think there is any purpose to my life anymore. I never prepared myself to be alone & don't think I can do it.
I'm so sorry for what you are going through, but you CAN do it.. you need to dig deep to find things that will give your life meaning again.. whether that be new hobbies, new friends or a new pet to keep you company. Your husband would never want your life to stop just because he is gone.. I'm not sure whether you are a believer or not, but the support of a good church may be helpful, or some time with a therapist to help you through your grief..
Hi Susan and Desi. I’m 70 years old and when my mother was 69 she was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s. So, of course there was a time when I braced myself that the same could happen to me. Long story short, I started quilting and learning new creative arts to keep my brain busy in my 60’s. I also garden and although not a person to have many friends, I do have two very close girlfriends and belong to a stitching group. I’ve been married for 48 years and have tried to maintain a sense of independence. Thanks for sharing this important topic with us.
Really enjoyed this video. I did miss that you didn’t include any spiritual side to our lives as we age. That one thing is what really, truly, & concretely get us through life - no matter our age? But especially as we age & out environment changes. That area is a constant guiding light - no matter what.
I have been single my whole life, yes I’ve lived with guys for short periods of time but never wanted to settle down and have a family and would soon want to move on. Traveled the world, bought 3 homes on my on and at 78 still travel. (Just returned from a wonderful trip to Canada). In the end, we each have to make our own path and be comfortable with that path . Being single is wonderful, you don’t need a Prince.
I'm 70, my husband, also 70 and my best friend, has AFib, so instead of doing all the things we dreamed of in retirement, we are now savoring and making the best of each day and reminding ourselves to count our blessings. Your pep talk was just what I needed. Thank you for being in my life every week. ❤
Just wanted to share my mom is 93, has a fib and got a pacemaker about 7 years ago. Still lives alone and takes care of her home. She’s doing great! A fib can be well controlled and you can continue to live a normal life.
Listening from Australia ❤ we need for not much. Stay out of debt and talk to yourself with comforting caring words of wisdom like "1 day at a time." Ive been playing Chess, Gardening flowers and other smaller hobbies, enjoying my fave doggie, the Whippet hound. Love for our pet and hobbies make life delightful. Keep learning; keep living! 👌
We found out two weeks ago that my husband of almost 8 years (second marriage for both, late in life) has untreatable cancer and he has been given 6-12 months to live. But he is fading fast. I'm so frightened. I lived on my own after my first marriage, for many years. So why am I so afraid now? I guess because I am 72, with mobility issues, and living in a very tiny rural French community. The neighbors, who I might have relied on, have moved to The Canary Islands. I feel so alone and so vulnerable, even though we have other friends, all of whom have offered to help us, but its not the same as having the young, strong man and woman next door, and their adorable son, who loved to visit us, close by.
Thank you for sharing your life and I am saying prayers for you and your husband...I know you will find your way. You are so strong and I pray you find peace and happiness in the coming years. xxoo Susan
@Annahayes1007, Sorry about your husband’s illness. You will make it through. We are stronger than we think. Life will open a new path for us to travel on. Maybe if you started to make a plan ahead as to what to do in the next chapter of your life, you’ll have a direction and not be so lost. Tell yourself daily, “Whatever happens, I’ll handle it!” Meantime, make beautiful memories with your husband as best as you can. For every moment in life is precious! Blessings… ❤
No i was not prepated. Husband passed away, lost my employment, i lost my home to default, my health took a turn. So now i need to find a new life. Its hard and lonely.❤❤❤❤❤ love you, your messages and your channel. Thank you.
My 95 year old parents are at the end of their lives and I have cared for them for almost 10 years. I just realized I'm not prepared for the loss I'm about to experience. I'm so thankful for my sweet Annie🐾❤️. You are so blessed to have family. Enjoy every second. Hugs to Desi 🐾❤️
Was I prepared to age? To be 69? Single? Invisible? Yes, as much as one can repare. Butwhat I wasn't prepared for and could never have seen coming was for all my friends to be gone. All prematurely. I always assummed we'd grow all together like the Golden Girls. The people that really know me. Knew me, are all gone. I can do alone. But you can't replace life long friendships or the comfort and familiarity that is it's hallmark. Thanks for yet another insightful vid Susan, my friend in my head.
I never thought I would loose my husband when he passed away and not enough was in my name for my credit. So I had to start over. I have learned so much. This is a really good conversation to have and just wish someone would have told me more. Thank you so much for sharing, it's so inspiring and I look forward each week to spend time with you.
It’s so sad, but you’re right we do have to be prepared as women. I was on my own for seven years before I married. I have my own bank account. The house is not just in his name and I do all the bills. I’m not afraid of being alone. I saw what happened to my mother. It’s not gonna happen to me. But I will plan for the best hope for the best, but be prepared for the worst. We’re about to celebrate our 40th anniversary. We’ve been together for 47 years. But still life happens and so does death. I don’t want to be caught of guard in things like finances.
This video is fantastic, one of your very best! Lots of things to think about and your photography is just stunning! The shots of leaves floating in water reminded me of the work of Monet. So beautiful I had to stop and rewind in parts and when the video was done, I watched it all over again. Thanks Susan for all you bring to us each week! Love to you and Desi
My late husband never wanted anything to do with paying the bills, doing taxes, or keeping the budget and while it was frustrating at the time, now that he is gone I am grateful I know how to handle it all. I mentor a lot of homeschooling families and it concerns me when young woman say they have no interest in education beyond keeping house and nurturing children. I’m all for women who desire to make raising kids “one” of their careers, but husbands do die. We never ever expect it and sometimes it happens far too early. I love that they have a heart for children, but refusing to learn marketable skills or learn how to manage life on your own is very shortsighted, almost lazy.
I’m not yet 60 (close). I wanted to share that in this world where everything is disposable or discarded when it’s not new anymore or in “fashion” I think what your son told you is one of the most beautiful things an adult child can tell their parent. He loves you enough and respects you enough to want you to not just be comfortable in your home but to enjoy and be inspired by your surroundings, to love your home filled with found treasures and cherished mementos. ❤ What a gift your son is!
Marlene peters - iam 81 and i do thrift decor and i have a booth in one our stores. Iam making fall wreaths fall florals and decorating baskets with fall decor flowers branches and pine cones and pumpkins. I have been doing this for four years. I love it. Find something you like to do and make it your own (hobby).
Is anyone ever prepared for the next season of their life? The best we can do is to know that things will change and that remain centered on the main thing. For me that’s my faith. My Lord and Savior is in control of all things. I am called to walk in love everyday and do what I do “as unto the Lord”. My confidence comes from Him and when I ask for wisdom He said, “He would give it abundantly”. I’ve learned to just do the next thing. My Dad said that I should prepare for worst but to expect the best. Now those are words of wisdom.
Agree!! How do you prepare for something you haven't yet walked? As a believer, we know that we are never alone, and that He walks with us.. and that is enough
I love seeing Autumn in your area. The leaves seem to fall gracefully accepting their new existence ahead. We should all be so lucky or maybe we are, but just not recognizing it as God's will for us. Great message Susan. 💞💞🙏🏻
Hi Susan! I was almost in tears viewing your video, but you shed some light on what I've been feeling for years. My x-ray vision is pretty sharp at 75. You have made me look at myself in a different way. Thank you for making my Saturday evenings so enjoyable.🥰
I was sitting having a coffee with my hubby last week when I saw a lady walking through the center I smiled at her & 10 minutes later I heard a comment over my shoulder “ you are a lovely looking woman “ it was that same lady , I said thank you her eyes filled with tears as she said I lost my husband to brain tumour I miss him so much & before I could say anything she walked away wiping her tears away. I love to give smiles & hello’s away it costs nothing but can be gold to someone else . That is what makes my life worthwhile along with the fact that I have 2 adult children who still come to me & say Mum I’ve decided to do this ….. what do you think . My hubby & I have been married 54 yrs on 25 of this month it’s not been easy but we’ve achieved it. It’s the little things we give . GOD bless everyone on here who reads this have a great week . ✨🌹✨💕
I really connected to this video Susan. I lost my husband to cancer 9 years ago and 7 years ago had 3 grandsons come to live with me becuse i wasnt letting them go in foster care. I am 71 and on a fixed income but my husband made sure everything was payed for before he passed and i was the one that handled all our finances in our home, so that didnt throw me for a loop as I've seen it do with some widows. I have found that we can get so involved in others we forget who we really are. I had a friend ask me that question yesterday and i had to say, I dont know, and he said its time to look within and find out and do what you feel in your heart. That has really given me something to think about. I only have 2 boys living with me now and they are 15 and 18. Susan I always look forward to seeing you and sweet Desi every week. You have helped me to look deep within myself and im grateful for that!
I see so many who don't have anything to do. God bless you for taking care of your grandsons. You have provided security for them. I think we are at our best when we give of ourselves. God bless you, Margaret.
Susan, this was an exceptionally beautiful video and I loved every word. Was I prepared after 60? Not really. I’m now 75 and think the past 15 years have been wonderful and I’m definitely looking forward to the next 15 with all kinds of fun things planned! I’m at a point when I can pick and choose what I want to do for really the very first time ever. We are told what to do our first 20 years, we take care of others our next 40 years and now it is our time to be just beautiful. Life is GRAND! 💖
We only have today. We never know when our heavenly train will be boarding. My Church's gardner, around 70?, past in his sleep about 2 wks ago. We wasn't sick (cancer) & apparently had no other chronic health conditions. It was a shock, to be sure. There but for the Grace of God... Not to be morbid, but age aside we need to live like today is the 1st day of the rest, & 2nd to last day, of our life. Share a smile, a kind word, be thankful, listen to the 🐦, take a walk and really inhale. Have a cup of hot tea and settle down with a good book. Enjoy something today, but take time to do an overdo task, also. Live, love, laugh. Pray for a troubled area in the 🌎 and 🚶♀️ daily with a goal to bring a little Heaven to earth.❤
I love what your son said - so great!! When I retired, I went through all drawers, closets and donated so much. However, I still go thrift ing almost every week 😁.
I am 69 and I have come to realize that I now have TIME to stop and ponder over things to LOOK at things SEE things for what they really are. When I was younger I was always rushing never taking TIME, not thinking things through, rushing projects,wanting things right now. So getting older made me realize how wonderful taking your TIME IS.
Thank you sharing your conversation with your son. I was not prepared for where I am now. My health robbed me of my confidence and stamina. Long story but I’m single navigating what I was thinking of as my last days. I’ve been cleaning out and Swedish death cleaning. I let go many things I didn’t want to and it has all made me very sad. Then my son told me Mom just stop. When it is time and you are gone, I will cherish all the things that will remind me of you and things that will let me know and understand you better. My life will be enriched. I may not be able to keep everything but I will have the choice. I love you. My attitude has totally changed, l feel more myself and not so afraid to move into the next part of my journey. Thank you for all the beauty you bring to the world ❤
I’m so very proud of you Susan, I love that you’re beginning to write a book . You definitely have a story to tell and wisdom to share. Your son is correct , you make everything pretty.❤ I appreciate your vlogs and look forward to our Saturday nights together 😊
Well I’d buy a copy of that book you’re writing for sure Susan. To me, after being with my husband for 57 years…..50 of them married…..well it scares me every day the thought of being alone. We’ve hardly any family and our dear daughter died 16 years ago, so we’ve only got each other. Your videos are a great inspiration and comfort Susan and something to draw on. Thank you for being there and sharing your experiences and your thoughts. You and Desi are simply wonderful. God bless 🌸
No I was not prepared emotionally to be alone at this age. I have made the best of it. Determined to prove him wrong that I was not able to take care of my life without him. Sometimes it can be scary facing obstacles, but I research it and find a way to overcome.
I know where you are coming from, research and finding solutions to problems will get us through! He never had any right to say those insulting things, I'm sure!
My parents were married for 71 years...the last 5 of which my mother had dementia. The last 3 was spent in a memory care unit. My father visited her 2x a week. He had to adjust to being alone. He is 90 and very independent. I have been single for a very long time...i raised 6 kids...a grandchild...i ❤ living alone. Living alone teaches us who we really are. Of course I have...Jane...my 10 month old Yorkie. She is the sweetest and is in love with an older man...Desi. Enjoyed this video as I do all of your videos.❤
Hello Susan and Desi🧡 I just want to let you know I received my two hairsprays today. I cannot wait to try them.🧡I have been living alone since 2009..my husband passed in 2014, had to go into long care as his stroke had gotten worse since 2006. I am so used to doing things alone. It’s like second nature to me now, sometimes I don’t like it, it would be nice to have someone aside of me so I don’t have to share some burdens alone, but at 72 soon to be 73, my man and Otis🐶and I walk 2/3 miles a day. I do my weights twice a week and praise God. I thank Him every morning and night, because I am healthy today🙏and I have enough to live on today. I have four children and 12 grandchildren all grown. I am blessed with my family, and my church family. Also thank you for sharing this video. Have a blessed weekend love to you and Desi from me and Otis.🧡🧡
Faith you sound so positive! Give Ottis a big smootch for me and thanks for lifting our night with your comment..I can’t wait to try the hairspray too! ((Hugs))
@@sandykish9608 that was so sweet Sandy, thank you😘 he is sleeping right aside of me, so I will definitely do that when he wakes up.. you know that old saying, “let sleeping dogs lie” 😂 have a blessed night and weekend my friend🎃🍂🤎🧡 oh, and let me know how you like the hairspray!
I have never felt my age until l hit 60.. now at 61 I know that l'm in a different stage of life.. and that it's a time to slow down.. it's ok to take a nap if I'm tired and it's ok if that project or load of laundry waits until tomorrow.. there is no rush, and l need to learn to give myself grace.. grace to wait.. to slow down and let things go.. l also need to refocus; to put effort and time into getting fit, and to maintain my health.. I'm at a point in my life where l can really think about how l want to spend these 'slower' years as l look to slow down from work (and retire at some point) and have more time to do the things l want.. l know that l need to have a plan as l look at retiring to find a new purpose in life, as my job has given me meaning and purpose for the last 45 years.. now l need to find some new things to invest my time in.. I'm excited at the prospect, and also alittle saddened to end a career that l love..
Your son's statement got me! I have felt we needed to clean things out so our kids don't have to do it after we are gone. Never once have any of the four kids commented that we have to much stuff. 60 has been the first decade i kind of dreaded. I'm not sue why. I'm 63 now. Facing retirement in a few years is finally starting to appeal to me. Blessings to you and Desi from Midas and me!
So glad my mom didn’t give me that fairytale life story. I’m 71 and I see so many women my age and younger that built their life around a husband and kids and not themselves and once that’s over they’re lost. You don’t need to be attached to anyone to have a great life. We might be in the last quarter but we’re still in the game. Buck up and live your best life.
I lost my husband at 50 and it feels that my struggle seems to get bigger every year. I really try to stay positive, but financially I do not get out of stressing about my years to come. I am much wiser than 20 years ago. I am now 61 and still healthy and strong. Thank you Lord . Thank you for your videos, I love you and Dezi.❤
Thank you SO much for addressing the loss of memory issue...I've been trying to deal with this, as it seems to be getting worse. I get SO angry with myself...and I know that's ridiculous. It's just part of the aging process.
Never thought I’d ever be divorced, but I’ve been single for almost ten years. I’m so very thankful that I had unknowingly prepared myself to be okay financially. My relationship with God sustains me, and times of solitude-more often than not-feel like a cozy, warm blanket. The legacy I leave behind is important to me, and I feel the need to oh so carefully choose how I spend my time. Love your videos! Your nature and home shots are truly works of art! They feed my soul! ❤️
What an amazing video! You have grown so wise and are so beautiful! Thank you for sharing that with us. You really inspired me and lifted me up tonight. A big smile just spread across my face when you talked about the positives of aging. I never even thought about retirement or how it would be. At 55 I was working full time and thinking about launching my career independently and moving forward. Then my father died and 3 weeks later my 29 year old son died unexpectedly while living in Japan. It was the worst nightmare I could imagine, then there was a nasty court case going on regarding my fathers piece of property. Somehow, someway I hung in there and left my work as I was like a walking zombie for a few years and just had to take the pressure off and process how my world had shattered in pieces. I was alone with no husband or family. So here I am soon to be 65 and can’t explain what happened to those years, I was just so overwhelmed with trying to make it through the day and then some medical issues, there was no planning for retirement or wondering what life would be like at 65 plus. It is like a big void of 8-9’years but it has all settled down now. I relish a quite life now and enjoy my pets and making my home beautiful as well as seeing friends and reading. I do wonder if life had gone on its ‘normal’ path what things would be like. When I think if I had pursued the new independent career and all that happened I would probably had been so stressed I would have had a heart attack. In some ways I am shocked to be here still and functioning as well as I am. My short term memory and knees sure took a hard hit but I am grateful to share smiles and special moments in this world. Much love and appreciation to you and all the lovely women that follow you and share their wisdom too! ❤
You are such an inspiration to me! I so love your stories, advice and courage. When there are not enough words I give you ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️. Give sweet handsome Desi a hug.
Susan, I sure needed this video. I did not prepare to have a fiance terminally sick for 8 years and to live my 60s being a caregiver. Now tha he is in a nursing home, I am struggling to regain my life to remember me. Your video helps me so much to try to reclain my value. Thank you so much.
Susan, I’m newly divorced. I’m very independent,always have been. Although the breakup after 16 years was very painful. I’m set financially (my own making, not his) my home is mine. He’s the one sharing a house with another man also in his 60’s. I know women that are totally dependent on a man. Yes, that was generally how we were taught or that tradition back in our day. Lucky for me I was just always independent. It saved me! I need no one. I have myself. I’m a problem solver and a doer. I’ll admit I’m lonely for my man frequently. But putting one foot in front of the other and carrying on. ❤
This was absolutely beautiful!! Thank you for exposing your heart and emotions to us. You made me tear and smile. I’m 52 and uncertain of my future, mostly emotionally. The only part I disliked of this video is that it had to end. Sending you and Desi hugs, and much love ❤️
No. I was not prepared for my life after 60, simply because I did not have a plan in place. I guess I just thought, as I have most of my life, that all men {my father, my brothers, my uncles, my cousins}, just took care of the details. Well, I must have been in a total brain fog. Not anymore! It took me until I was this many years old to get up, face reality, grab hold, make a plan, and follow thru! Thank you for sharing!
I work in a nursing home. I wouldn’t say I have x-ray vision but at 61 years old, I feel that I have a level of empathy, understanding, and compassion for our residents and patients that my coworkers several decades younger do not have. I find it frustrating, sad really, when the elderly are treated as children or as less than and not respected as the amazing individuals that they are. Perhaps part of my life purpose is to still be working in this environment in order to advocate for these individuals and share their remaining years with them. If you are looking for volunteer work, please consider reaching out to local nursing homes and see if you can visit with these wonderful souls… They really would appreciate someone to talk to🙂
I visit them each week and have enjoyed hearing their stories, so much wisdom and they are so grateful!
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What a wonderful idea
Such a great thought! Bless you in your work!
Thank you for this reminder! Much ❤
My husband was in a nursing home for five years and died of Covid there in 2020.
I get to be friends with the residents as I looked at them, not as old, poor souls but as people that were once young, had full lives, raised families and through no fault of their own ended up in a facility.
Unfortunately, many nursing homes are a for-profit endeavor with investors that expect pay-back every month. So funds extended to the home rarely go to the residents, but to ‘keeping up appearances’ like remodeling the public spaces (lobby, therapy departments) but not the individual rooms of the residents.
I visited many folks in that place and became friends with many. I took them things that they wanted, took gifts at Christmas time and made it fun for many.
When my husband died, I actually missed going there as it was not only where my husband was but my second home where friends and holidays were spent.
Now my life is a little lonelier because I don’t have that place to go to.
I’ve started visiting shut ins through a new program and it feels quite the same as visiting those people in the nursing home, many of whom had no visitors, ever!
I never expected to be alone during my retirement. I worked as a teacher (32 years) and then when it was time to retire, my husband had Parkinson’s. He just passed away, and now I am alone. I keep active with my grandchildren, taking care of my mother who is 90 years old and maintaining my home. This is not easy but I thank God that I have my health.
You sound like an amazing woman, Maryann. God bless.
The latter part of my life these past 23 years I spent caring for family. I have no regrets although it was not always easy. Know that sincere hearts always find a place to rest and be appreciated…it’s called home (whether sharing with other members or living alone). Home is indeed where the heart is. God bless😊
I love your outlook and positivity. You have your health and your taking care of your mom! Your a blessing to those around you! ❤
Bless you for taking care of your mum. I did the same thing 2 yrs ago. And if I hadn’t ended up on my own I would never have had the privilege of being able to have done that… And it was a privilege as my mum loved me into the world and I was able to love her out… It is a wonderful thing that you are doing 💝
Good for you. We want life to be easy but in hindsight, it rarely is. These challenging things in life are the ones that crystallize our intelligence and make us the kind, empathetic, thoughtful people we are. I sense you are just this person…missing your partner is a beautiful, bittersweet journey but it sounds as if you have a rich life full of ones who love you. May you find peace in this new normal you are experiencing…
Your son’s comments were so touching to me!! You did a good job raising a fine, respectful man!!
I grew up without guidance so I was on my own to figure things out at age 5: cooking, housework, taking care of my 4 year old brother and working in the fields to earn income. My mission has always been to problem solve and never look to someone else to take care of me or my children. I am 70 years old but I have yet to meet anyone who can love me more than I can, and yes, I can buy myself flowers. 🌹🌹🌹
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Oh Susan you do so much for all us older women actually all women I'm 75 and your talk wakes me up😊 All your videos are very informative and always correct and right on the spot God bless you for always helping us through everything whether it's makeups that hurt us or treatments that are not good for us that other people don't bring up or things that we feel about ourselves that we shouldn't this neglect feeling it's 75 years old it's awful God bless you and thank you for this wonderful video of enlightenment❤❤❤
When you were quoting your son, and what he said to you, each sentence was love. Real love. Not words, not kissing up, exactly what love, real love, looks like. I was listening to what he said, with my mouth hanging open!
Somebody that has that character and that love in him, towards you deserves you moving to be closer. Leah
Imo the most fulfilling thing in my 62 years has been serving others and not myself. ❤
I am 82 years old, the only thing I would really want, is to have a cup of coffee ☕️ with all of you, and tell you about what I have gone through🙈. I would also love to know everything about you and your Mothers and grandmother. God bless everyone of you. ♥️♥️♥️🌹🌹🌹🙏🙏🙏
You such a beautiful lady. My support system is gone. 58 alone and trying to handle single life . Healing and trying to live but so hard. Thank you for your encouragement. ❤
👏👏👏👏👏👏to you and your amazing son! He has realized what brings you joy and beauty to your home and is not worried about the little of his time it will take to deal with it when you are gone. You are lucky to have that love and acceptance!
This may sound strange but my mother taught me to be a strong, independent woman. My dad was a workaholic & not home much. My mother worked as an aircraft welder during WWII, one of the very first. I think that's what made her strong. I watched my mom paint, wallpaper, move furniture around throughout our house, by herself. She cooked, cleaned, mowed the lawn, gardened alone. My sister & I helped as we got older & my grandma lived with us too, so mostly just us "girls ". I'm greatful as I've been alone since my mid-40s. I got my sons & live with the youngest & his family now, but I still have my independent spirit. My son will say mom, why didn't you let me do that? Lol cause I'm used to doing it myself. I'll be 77 in a few months & I'm still climbing ladders & painting walls 😅❤
Good for you. I am 75 and still independent, live alone, take care of all that I can even on days when I’m suffering with arthritis and lower back issues . Garden in my small courtyard … do art stuff and do annual Christmas art projects for my grandchildren…two no as the other two are in college and working. R have to keep going before it gets here we cannot anymore.
I admire both of you strong ladies ❤️
When I turned 65 this year, I had an epiphany. If I only have so many good years left, then I am going to make them count! I got really clear on what was important to me, and I am living much more intentionally.
Think on this, I know I do, my grandmother lived to 105 - take 65 years away from that and YOU still have 40 good years left. Sounds like you want to make the most of those last 40 years, so, just go for it Good luck and God bless.
Me too!!
This was a great topic I may not be very smart but I am definitely wiser ❤❤love u little poet you're the best😊
I am 65 and 2 years ago my husband and myself retired to a beautiful place in Somerset to live a slower happy life, we have beautiful walks on our door step and our Son and daughter are just a car ride away. The only sadness I felt was leaving my 90 year old father behind because he didn't want to leave his home, this is now all about to change as he is selling his home and looking to come and live near us which will make my life complete again. We are planning all our outings and car rides and taking his beautiful dog for walks and family gatherings around our table. My dad lost his way and became so lonely and realised he needed to be with us as much as we need and love him. I cannot wait until I can pop in and pop the kettle on and chat and watch a movie. Hopefully it won't be long till his house has a sold sign outside and he can start his new life. Your words today made me cry and made me realise our lives really do mean so much❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Wise and really useful. Be together but know how to stand alone within it! X
My mom and I have talked about this inability to remember things, many times! I am 60 and she is 81. But we have decided that a lot of it, if not dementia or the like, is just simply a really FULL brain!!! After all these years and all of the memories and information we have gathered over 60 and 81 years, it has to become a little harder to sift through all of that life!!! OF COURSE we're going to have a hard time on occasion remembering someone's name, or the name of a song or that street our old best friend lived on! AND especially if you have a partner and/or children! We are remembering not only our own life events, but the events in the lives of the people we love. THAT is a HUGE amount of information to maintain, sort through and bring to the front! SO yes, we do have a hard time recalling a word here and there, and some young thing, might bring it up in seconds! BUT they don't have as much sorting to do, do they? So I say, when you feel like you're "losing it" because you can't quickly remember the name of something, DO remember you have many, many years of life and memories and wisdom to sift through and it has nothing to do with loss, but rather all of the wonderful moments that you have gather over the years! LOVE YA! ~Kelly~ (Colorado)
I love that analogy
Bravo Kelly 👏👏👏
I've been making a joke of this exact same thing for Year's!
I gave up even trying to remember some things... like name's for instance.
I've told people for year's that I will not remember their name... BUT if I were to see them again elsewhere and I did remember them it was because I liked them 😁
Heck, I ran medical offices over 3/yrs besides the life and family I had. Any idea of just how many people I've met?
LoL
Me either 🤣
I've been saying that my brain only has do much space, so certain things just move along in order to make room for other's.
I 100% agree with what you've explained here way better than I am!!
Blessings 💞
PS I just turned 65
Kelly. Well said. I can relate, and us living in Co.’s high altitude probably adds to the “what was her name” syndrome. 👍
Lovely thoughts!
Coupyk, you are a very blessed woman to still have your mother with you. Oh, how I wish my mother was still here in my older age. I understand what she was talking about when she was my age. ❤️
Beautiful video, Susan. I am 66 and was raised with one requirement: finish college and get a good job, so that I could always take care of myself. We asked the same of our daughters. My mother became a widow at 70, and continued her active, busy, relevant life until her 90’s. We are role models to our daughters and all the young women in our lives- let them see how happy, productive, generous and significant we are! They will do the same in their elder years, because that was what was modeled for them. You and Desi are precious.
Hi Susan My mother’s lament as she got older was that she became invisible - she felt snubbed, unseen, and de-valued. One time when she was in her early 60s and on jury duty she felt the younger women on the jury didn’t include her in their group lunch trips because she was older than them. I didn’t give her feelings the proper respect I should have- and now I have experienced what she was talking about. I think talking about these aspects of getting older is very empowering. I am always encouraged when I see “older” women in my community out and about holding their own and claiming their space.
Tonight’s video was so beautiful and uplifting. Thank You❤ and love to Desi❤
I can relate to this video ! We were not
taught about being independent as we get older !! Thank u so much ❤
Your topics are always sensitive and deep. I appreciate your awareness and wisdom. Thank you!❤❤❤
My health took a turn for the worse at 55. I am 63 now and the more I seem to let go of the past the better I feel. I did a lot of gardening and hard laborious work for me today. I feel fine, so I know that my mental care is sometimes the most important thing I can do for myself. The stronger I feel mentally the more I accomplish and I realize I can’t do what I did at 20, but I sure try!💓 Don’t fret on the past, it’s OVER.
You will be in a much better place if your life starts fresh each day with a prayer and a smile.💓💓💓😊💓💓💓
Wonderful advice. I almost died 8 years ago of a near fatal heart attack and have other health issues. Sometimes I can't and spend a lot of time in bed, but when I feel up to it I pack it in.
@@SonetLandman I hope your health is improving and I’m sorry to hear you suffered a heart attack! 🥹 I know I have limitations, but my best advise to myself is to really care for me and not the rest of the world. I can’t make a difference if I’m so sick and at my age I concentrate on myself, it may sound a bit selfish…I become at peace if I do things planned out and when I have extra energy I’ll tackle what I can. The world issues are so vast and sometimes too much to listen too. I use to watch the world news and become so upset. I avoid it and
realize at my age I can’t offer a lot. So my world is small and at peace.🍁🐿️🍂🪴My best to you and I hope you continue to improve or have more good days!😊
Such a beautiful reply. Thank you so much and I do agree one hundred percent with everything you have said.
Me too!
Always love your videos. I lost my husband at 51. I never expected that. I had always dreamed of growing old together and having the time to enjoy our life together. Financial he had seeing to it that when ever anything happened to him I would be cared for but nothing could ever prepaid me for losing him. I never in my wildest dream eased imagined a life with out him. I am 75 now and live alone . I am just so thankful that I had something most people never get in a life time and that was a love that is still lasting.
Yes, you were so fortunate.
I’m 67 living with my 71 year old husband for 40 years. Not always easy…but now in our golden years we’ve taken on the task of raising our 8 year old granddaughter - whew - never saw this coming!!!!!
I am 62 and my 21 year old granddaughter who happens to be on the spectrum, lives with me. It is still a big responsibility. I never saw that coming either! We grandmas are awesome! I am proud of you taking on your granddaughter and giving her so many great memories that she will never forget. 💜
Nothing could prepare us for the future. One day at a time. Nothing to look forward to, or very little! Keep doing what you do. You are the best!!!!
I applaud you for taking care of your young granddaughter. In this country more and more grandparents are raising their grandchildren. My husband and I practically raised our now 18 year old grandson and he has turned out to be the most responsible, level headed and kind young man I know. I don't know if he would have been that had it not been for the stable life my husband and I provided him. Just know you are not alone. Blessings to you from Texas.
One day at a time ❤️
You're blessed... You can do it!!!
What a sweet & loving son you have! That would have made my heart skip so fast with joy.
I remarried at the age of 50 after having been single for 8 years. I thought I had finally found “the love of my life”. What I found instead was an imposter. I could have never imagined that at 60 that I would find myself alone again. No, I was not prepared… but honestly, I’ve started over so many times in life that it seems to be the rule and not the exception. I agree with you wholeheartedly Susan… we need to be prepared to be single, because life happens to all of us. Much love to you & Desi❣️😘
My best friend got out of a 47 year marriage and remarried 2 years ago. She called me one day to tell me she hated being alone, WHILE MARRIED!!!! One day a couple of months ago, he told her he's moving out and wanted a divorce. Now shes starting over again. So I feel for you.
I am glad that I have become selfish in my loneliness. I don't want to share my bed with anybody else but my animals anymore. I don't want to make room in my cupboards for somebody else's stuff to move in. I don't want to stand ready in the kitchen to cook and make food because somebody else is hungry and then you are left to stand and do the dishes all by yourself while he retires to the lounge and watch TV. I don't want to do somebody else's washing and ironing. I hate ironing. So there, I have become selfish and it is protecting me.
I like to listen to what you have to say. And Desi’s energy is amazing. Thank you for making your videos.
These biblical guidelines are for us Christians, only. We cannot impose what our God tells us, onto others. And in fact, there are two exclusions that God gives us, one is abandonment, and the other is if the spouse has remained. Then, the marital bond is completely broken. Just as we do not, for example, live by the guidelines or commandments of Islam or Hindu, etc. nor can we expect others who are not Christians to live by our commandments.
As my husband is dying of cancer, I ponder these things. I'm 72, and I'm very much into my beloved three dogs and two cats. OK, honestly, if I could find someone who would care for the cats as well as I do, keeping them safe from harm, fed quality food, etc. I could let them go. But never my dogs. I've wondered if I could let another man into my life, and mainly for the reasons you mentioned...making meals, cleaning up everything myself, doing the washing, ironing, bed linens, cleaning the home, etc. Do I really want to do this for someone who does not reciprocate? I think not.
After being married for 25 years ; then divorced at 48 and still single at 69 I never knew the struggles i had ahead in the next 20 years. I survived a tornedo and then moving alone to Florida not knowing a soul and bingo; i had a huge. hurricane bust up my small home!! Its not easy rebuilding homes all alone after such disasters!! Thank God i have a caring bunch of friends who are. always there for me. After retiring i stayed to myself and even though i can be a loner thats when i felt balance is a good thing!! So just last night I went with 3 friends to a outdoor concert and heard a 70s rock band; ate sweet potato fries and giggled when a few young men came to our table and ask our names. On the way home i said it was such fun and i felt so alive
You are so adorable. Im 65. Noone told me anything or led me in a direction. I had one son at 16, who is 47 & hasnt spoke to me for 4 years. It is difficult at times, but i am thriving am an artist, recently diagnosed with stenosis, had surgery, not 100%. Still carry on with love and optomism. I feel better than ever! Thank you sweet soul and Desi 🐕
Love y'all
I was married for thirty years and divorced and he died a couple years later. Now I am single and totally self sufficient. I remember my mother telling me “ be able to support yourself” She never had to do it but god bless her for giving me a heads up ❤
My grandma always said “you are who you are your whole life” I never understood this until now. I’ll be 65. Susan you are right about empathy and how much better we are at reading people. I also have realized my many mistakes that I made when younger and cannot undo. With age comes wisdom
Never prepared no.. especially since my mama passed 8 months ago. You see I was assigned the "care taker" role from a very young age mostly from my step father I looked after both of them without ever thinking about myself...so Im now
Learning after 60 how to take care of myself and that Im smart and have a lot of life I need to live for me. That's scary but you Susan & your precious Desi help me soooo much you cant imagine just Love all you & all your videos!❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤ ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
At my daughter's Hen party prior to her wedding, guest put advice to the Bride in a memory book. I drew a big heart and said keep your own bank account! My daughter aged 31 was offended! My mother told me the same thing and believe she was right!
That's good advice. Actually excellent advice. You can spend what you want and not be badgered or, God forbid things don't work out. She shouldn't have been offended. You were looking out for her best interests.
You are correct.. when everything is beautiful it’s flowers and roses but when it’s wilting and dying , we wished we would have done known better!!!!!!! Love is Temporary, just like life is!!!!!!!!!!!
@@lolaloren1773
True love doesn't have to be 'temporary'..
Rather it's a choice that we make everyday.
Your own bank account and SAVINGS! Excellent advice for every woman. Life is tricky.
What a marvelous son and he obviously learned all of his Grace's from his loving mother.
I’m in my mid 50’s and these videos are very informative and eye opening. I’ve watched many women a bit older than me go into widowhood and work their way through this new chapter of their life with lots of help from friends and other members of the church. Statistically you’re right about prepare for singleness because of the higher rate of men dying before their spouse in many cases. Thanks again and I love your thrifting videos and beauty and atmosphere of your lovely home! Blessings!
Hi from Sweden
I am a 64 years widow
Thank you
Thank you! I agree with you completely. I am 81, and I have gone through so much of what you have gone through. Today was so on target. So many friends are gone and I have moved to a different area. I so enjoy listening to you and
feeling like I'm having an adult conversation. I am blessed with a large family, but I don't have many peers. You are making a difference.🧚♂️💙🧚🧡
Yes you are!❤
Susan feels like my sister. One video is a nice visit with wisdom.
Pray for the best, but prepare for the worst.
I used to watch your videos years ago and when Cooper passed I was just to sad to watch anymore. I started watching your videos again and I am so glad I came back. Your videos are so beautiful and you say things I need to hear. Each video really is a work of art. Thank you so much for sharing your life.
I love your comments about x-ray vision and I know exactly what you mean. The journey of getting older definitely opens a pathway to many different things… I, like you had never planned to be alone at 66 years old and after taking a few years to even come out from under my duvet it was either sink or swim… Six years on, I am swimming and there is so much I have learnt and am learning about myself… Thank you Susan for another wonderful inspiring video. And I would love to read your book. Love again from New Zealand. ( Down under 😊)❤
I have always had human radar most of my life. I feel deeply and connected to people.
I believe that the one consistent thing in life is change And those who are adaptable survive
Not just survive, but survive and thrive.
Thank you so much Susan for the encouragement . It was much needed and appreciated and I will keep going one step at a time and I will make it all the way home. Hugs to you and Desi!
My husband passed in March 2020, i was not prepared to go on by myself. Its hard. & no one knows how i really feel. Thanks for the advice. Thanks Susan & Desi i really love your channel.❤
sending you love and hugs always, Susan & Dez
Hugs to you during this period of adjustment to life on your own. You will be OK. Give it time to discover the you that will be learning more about who you are now and have a new growth spurt.😔🙏🥰
Many of us here do know how you feel sweet friend.Hoping you’ll find your footing soon. Be kind to yourself while finding you again.
Hi Christinesoria 6158 , I’m very sorry that your husband left first I lost my husband in November 2021 and I know how you feel there are not words that alleviate the pain and the absence, but we have to continuing while we meet again.
Christian communion help to heal the pain. 🍃💛🍃
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Thanks to everyone for all the kind & helpful words. It means alot to me . ❤️
I am here at 36 because I have a deep need to see a future of freedom and creativity. I was very touched by your stories of love. The only thing I have been so happy with in my life has been my children and their love for each other. I am blessed already beyond what one can ask for. But it is good to see you leading the way forward!
Yes I notice I am more empathetic now at 70 (tomorrow is my 70th birthday). I watched a Home Tour video the other day about Joe Minton (Interior Designer-90 years young) it opened my eyes that aging is not a number. You are truly as young as you feel!
Happy Birthday 🎂 🥳 🎉
I just got an awakening. I retired 4 years ago at 67. Since then I've been moping around the house. My husband's words. A fee days ago I injured my hip muscle. Now I'm in pain and can't move. I long for thr healthy days I wasted assuming I'd always feel ok. If/when i get over what is wrong, I'm not going to waste my body and mind "moping". I have learned the lesson God sent to me. Never waste a single day thinking you've always have tomorrow. Happy Sunday everyone.
We still sparkle like the valuable treasure we are..no matter what our age …we have immeasurable worth! Thank you Susan for being here for all of us …..you are a gift and I am so proud of you!!!❤
You are so kind and sweet!!!
I wasn't prepared for what my mid-sixties have brought my way. I can walk into a grocery store, or be shopping for clothes at a mall, and I feel like I don't fit in anymore in public. I can't tell you why, because I don't know. I'm happy at home, happy at church, but when I am around strangers, I begin to feel so vulnerable. It's not about my aging looks I don't think, although I know it's important for me to understand this. I just can't pinpoint he reason. I didn't think life for me would turn out the way it has. Maybe I am stunned at the years flying by, the children gone, and sensing that this whole thing really is close to winding up. I don't want to leave my family, especially in this crazy unpredictable world. I use to teach ppl how to have confidence, so it's ironic I find myself feeling insecure at such an advanced time in my life. I do see through a lot of the people i meet, which makes things harder sometimes, if that makes sense.
Susan ; In 2005 I lost my son and my husband 30 days apart, and believe me I sure didn't see that coming, 18 yrs.ago and I'm still trying to recreate my life.
I can't even imagine... I believe you can do it.
So sweet of your son, saying if you are happy Mom, I'm happy! Love it!
I'm in Canada. Our Thanksgiving is this weekend. I'm 78 widow and the first Thanksgiving in over 60 years sitting alone. My large family of 18 people are all "BUSY" indeed Shocking, in conceivable but sadly true!!!
What is going on in this world and with families!!!!??? Very dark why continue living?
Knowing my Grandmother is one of my life's blessings. Spend as much time as you can with your grandchildren just loving them .
loving and listening, and not lecturing.... their parents can teach them,you can be their best friend and supporter of their dreams❤
“I am so proud of you!” is a welcome reminder to all children as they grow. My grandbabies hear that from me so often that it never gets “old”! Thanks Susan and Desi for your insight and sharing messages.
I am 67 years old, have been married 51 years. Due to Covid I was forced to retire from my very long-term job in 2020. We have 3 grown children, 10 grandchildren and several great grandchildren. I am in close contact with most of them but still feel lost and confused about what I am supposed to be doing on a day to day basis. I was so used to a routine and busyness every day and now I don't know what to do. Even having someone with me 24/7 doesn't help, I was used to being pretty independent. Now it seems like I am useless.
I was lost also till I got involved with a hobby which is sewing, crochet and cross stitch. I would volunteer if my health was better.
should be enjoying your retirement darling ❤😊 it's a new start
You can give your time to many areas. Food pantry, nursing homes, library or take up a hobby or take a class or learn something new just by watching TH-cam’s. Maybe painting or other crafts. Good luck but never feel useless. I pray you know the Lord. Get involved in church or a local women’s Bible study. 🙏
@@vallang4832I realize that I really have nothing to complain about. We have enough money to get by,, a nice house and plenty to eat which many people do no have. I am grateful. I have been baking, cooking and thought about taking up sewing again. I also wanted to volunteer, I should look into that. Thanks for the suggestions. I hope your health improves and you have a great rest of your life.
Try to find a hobby you would enjoy doing.
I have worked at trying to be prepared to be alone one day. Most women outlive their husbands. We downsized and moved into town where everything is easy to get to. I know all about the finances, all the service people to call to keep the house going, I know my neighbors. What I don't know is how to handle death. There isn't any way to prepare for that even though I've thought about it and tried to prepare. I think women who are alone need to develop a network of other women so that there is someone to call when they need help. I don't have that. I must say that I really don't have many friends at all at this age. I think I'm not alone in that. Thanks Susan for your vlogs. Hi to sweet Desi. He is loving life and he makes me smile.
No you are not alone at not having many friends at this age. I am 69. When my daughter was young I was involved in so many things, subdivision clubs, women's club, Bunco, PTO, Swim Team my daughter was on, Choir & Cheerleading Booster she was in, Band, church etc I had lots of friends. Then life changed after she graduated high school. I put my all into working and being the best wife. Now with my husband gone I am lonely with only 2-3 real friends. Saddest for me is that my daughter is so involved with her new marriage she rarely checks on my or visits unless she needs something. I sit and wonder what did I do wrong.
I have found recently that I don't feel prepared for being 68. I see clearly things that I should have done earlier in life, but I had no idea at the time. I took care of people. My family, elderly people in church or the neighborhood who had no one. We always had kids from the neighborhood in our home. One darling girl lived with us for 4 years. I took care of my elderly parents, and when they each died, I was with them. I have a husband and 2 sons, no grandchildren. I've been busy. In reading this back, I realize that the people who were in my life have been a blessing to me. In all that time, though, I just wish I put some thought into my senior years. Now here I am.
I feel the same way, I was always an independent person. I was always working both at home and outside the home. Retirement came as a shock to me. If I could have a “ do over” I would have worked part time for a year or two. I don’t know what I want to do. I know more about what I don’t want to do. I am am empathetic so I have done or got involved with things I really didn’t want to do. I am cautious about taking on a job or volunteer work because I don’t want to be trapped. My daughter wants me to move closer to her, my sister wants me to do the same. My daughter in law asked me if I was going to move closer to her. My son in law says the same thing. Please do not think I am being boastful I am truly thankful and grateful. I am wrestling with the question “ what do I want?”
I wish everyone of us kindred spirits a happy and healthy week ❤
I think it's wonderful that you have been a blessing to so many people. The 60's, 70's, and even 80's are just another phase of life. It's your time to rediscover things you like to do.
That's a blessing to have so many wanting to have you move close to them. All I can say is choose wisely.
I met my prince charming when I was 17 & fresh from college. He had been the love of my life and best friend for 43 years. We did everything together, we were enough just the two of us together. In 2020 we retired and moved to a new city with big plans to enjoy our retirement . Covid hit & lockdowns and for one wonderful year we cherished our time setting up our new home. Suddenly he died. Alone in a new city & for the first time in my adult life without him. Financially I manage, but I don't know how to be just me alone. I have tried for two years now. But I don't think there is any purpose to my life anymore. I never prepared myself to be alone & don't think I can do it.
I'm so sorry for what you are going through, but you CAN do it.. you need to dig deep to find things that will give your life meaning again.. whether that be new hobbies, new friends or a new pet to keep you company. Your husband would never want your life to stop just because he is gone.. I'm not sure whether you are a believer or not, but the support of a good church may be helpful, or some time with a therapist to help you through your grief..
Oh, yes.... always prepare to be single. Never know.
Thank you so much, truly my life has improved since I discovered you and Desi. You are helping more than you know ❤
I'm so glad! That makes me day!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Hi Susan and Desi. I’m 70 years old and when my mother was 69 she was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s. So, of course there was a time when I braced myself that the same could happen to me. Long story short, I started quilting and learning new creative arts to keep my brain busy in my 60’s. I also garden and although not a person to have many friends, I do have two very close girlfriends and belong to a stitching group. I’ve been married for 48 years and have tried to maintain a sense of independence. Thanks for sharing this important topic with us.
I think a lot of getting Alzheimer's depends on diet. My mother had it. It'a terrible disease.
The price of wisdom is pain. You are one of the wisest ladies on the internet. ❤
Really enjoyed this video. I did miss that you didn’t include any spiritual side to our lives as we age. That one thing is what really, truly, & concretely get us through life - no matter our age? But especially as we age & out environment changes. That area is a constant guiding light - no matter what.
I have been single my whole life, yes I’ve lived with guys for short periods of time but never wanted to settle down and have a family and would soon want to move on. Traveled the world, bought 3 homes on my on and at 78 still travel. (Just returned from a wonderful trip to Canada). In the end, we each have to make our own path and be comfortable with that path . Being single is wonderful, you don’t need a Prince.
I'm 70, my husband, also 70 and my best friend, has AFib, so instead of doing all the things we dreamed of in retirement, we are now savoring and making the best of each day and reminding ourselves to count our blessings. Your pep talk was just what I needed. Thank you for being in my life every week. ❤
Just wanted to share my mom is 93, has a fib and got a pacemaker about 7 years ago. Still lives alone and takes care of her home. She’s doing great! A fib can be well controlled and you can continue to live a normal life.
Listening from Australia ❤ we need for not much. Stay out of debt and talk to yourself with comforting caring words of wisdom like "1 day at a time." Ive been playing Chess, Gardening flowers and other smaller hobbies, enjoying my fave doggie, the Whippet hound. Love for our pet and hobbies make life delightful. Keep learning; keep living! 👌
We found out two weeks ago that my husband of almost 8 years (second marriage for both, late in life) has untreatable cancer and he has been given 6-12 months to live. But he is fading fast. I'm so frightened. I lived on my own after my first marriage, for many years. So why am I so afraid now? I guess because I am 72, with mobility issues, and living in a very tiny rural French community. The neighbors, who I might have relied on, have moved to The Canary Islands. I feel so alone and so vulnerable, even though we have other friends, all of whom have offered to help us, but its not the same as having the young, strong man and woman next door, and their adorable son, who loved to visit us, close by.
Thank you for sharing your life and I am saying prayers for you and your husband...I know you will find your way. You are so strong and I pray you find peace and happiness in the coming years. xxoo Susan
@Annahayes1007, Sorry about your husband’s illness. You will make it through. We are stronger than we think. Life will open a new path for us to travel on. Maybe if you started to make a plan ahead as to what to do in the next chapter of your life, you’ll have a direction and not be so lost. Tell yourself daily, “Whatever happens, I’ll handle it!” Meantime, make beautiful memories with your husband as best as you can. For every moment in life is precious! Blessings… ❤
"Prepare for a single life no matter what!" The most profound way I've ever heard it described and so, so very true.
No i was not prepated. Husband passed away, lost my employment, i lost my home to default, my health took a turn. So now i need to find a new life. Its hard and lonely.❤❤❤❤❤ love you, your messages and your channel. Thank you.
My 95 year old parents are at the end of their lives and I have cared for them for almost 10 years. I just realized I'm not prepared for the loss I'm about to experience. I'm so thankful for my sweet Annie🐾❤️. You are so blessed to have family. Enjoy every second. Hugs to Desi 🐾❤️
Was I prepared to age? To be 69? Single? Invisible? Yes, as much as one can repare. Butwhat I wasn't prepared for and could never have seen coming was for all my friends to be gone. All prematurely. I always assummed we'd grow all together like the Golden Girls. The people that really know me. Knew me, are all gone. I can do alone. But you can't replace life long friendships or the comfort and familiarity that is it's hallmark. Thanks for yet another insightful vid Susan, my friend in my head.
Ah thank you so much for being here!!! Love always from Desi and me!!! xxoo
Beautiful conversation! You are really very generous, sweet and truthful! Thank you what a privilege you, me, us! Many many blessings.
I never thought I would loose my husband when he passed away and not enough was in my name for my credit. So I had to start over. I have learned so much. This is a really good conversation to have and just wish someone would have told me more. Thank you so much for sharing, it's so inspiring and I look forward each week to spend time with you.
It’s so sad, but you’re right we do have to be prepared as women. I was on my own for seven years before I married. I have my own bank account. The house is not just in his name and I do all the bills. I’m not afraid of being alone. I saw what happened to my mother. It’s not gonna happen to me. But I will plan for the best hope for the best, but be prepared for the worst. We’re about to celebrate our 40th anniversary. We’ve been together for 47 years. But still life happens and so does death. I don’t want to be caught of guard in things like finances.
This video is fantastic, one of your very best! Lots of things to think about and your photography is just stunning! The shots of leaves floating in water reminded me of the work of Monet. So beautiful I had to stop and rewind in parts and when the video was done, I watched it all over again. Thanks Susan for all you bring to us each week! Love to you and Desi
Well said, EAdams! I completely agree, one of Susan's best! I re-wound several times. And the music was so beautiful. So thoughtful and positive too.
My late husband never wanted anything to do with paying the bills, doing taxes, or keeping the budget and while it was frustrating at the time, now that he is gone I am grateful I know how to handle it all. I mentor a lot of homeschooling families and it concerns me when young woman say they have no interest in education beyond keeping house and nurturing children. I’m all for women who desire to make raising kids “one” of their careers, but husbands do die. We never ever expect it and sometimes it happens far too early. I love that they have a heart for children, but refusing to learn marketable skills or learn how to manage life on your own is very shortsighted, almost lazy.
I’m not yet 60 (close). I wanted to share that in this world where everything is disposable or discarded when it’s not new anymore or in “fashion” I think what your son told you is one of the most beautiful things an adult child can tell their parent. He loves you enough and respects you enough to want you to not just be comfortable in your home but to enjoy and be inspired by your surroundings, to love your home filled with found treasures and cherished mementos. ❤ What a gift your son is!
I have been watching your channel for several years but just joined the “Crazy for Coffee lipstick” Club😜
Love that! That lipstick is so fabulous!!!!!!!!!!!
Marlene peters - iam 81 and i do thrift decor and i have a booth in one our stores. Iam making fall wreaths fall florals and decorating baskets with fall decor flowers branches and pine cones and pumpkins. I have been doing this for four years. I love it. Find something you like to do and make it your own (hobby).
Great advice! Thank you! 🌺
Is anyone ever prepared for the next season of their life? The best we can do is to know that things will change and that remain centered on the main thing. For me that’s my faith. My Lord and Savior is in control of all things. I am called to walk in love everyday and do what I do “as unto the Lord”. My confidence comes from Him and when I ask for wisdom He said, “He would give it abundantly”. I’ve learned to just do the next thing. My Dad said that I should prepare for worst but to expect the best. Now those are words of wisdom.
Isn’t it so good when we know our Savior Jesus is in control of all things?❤ I have asked before how others can have any hope without Him.
Agree!! How do you prepare for something you haven't yet walked? As a believer, we know that we are never alone, and that He walks with us.. and that is enough
I love seeing Autumn in your area. The leaves seem to fall gracefully accepting their new existence ahead. We should all be so lucky or maybe we are, but just not recognizing it as God's will for us. Great message Susan. 💞💞🙏🏻
I agree❤
Hi Susan! I was almost in tears viewing your video, but you shed some light on what I've been feeling for years. My x-ray vision is pretty sharp at 75. You have made me look at myself in a different way. Thank you for making my Saturday evenings so enjoyable.🥰
Ah thank you so much for being here!!!
I was sitting having a coffee with my hubby last week when I saw a lady walking through the center I smiled at her & 10 minutes later I heard a comment over my shoulder “ you are a lovely looking woman “ it was that same lady , I said thank you her eyes filled with tears as she said I lost my husband to brain tumour I miss him so much & before I could say anything she walked away wiping her tears away.
I love to give smiles & hello’s away it costs nothing but can be gold to someone else .
That is what makes my life worthwhile along with the fact that I have 2 adult children who still come to me & say Mum I’ve decided to do this ….. what do you think .
My hubby & I have been married 54 yrs on 25 of this month it’s not been easy but we’ve achieved it. It’s the little things we give .
GOD bless everyone on here who reads this have a great week . ✨🌹✨💕
I really connected to this video Susan. I lost my husband to cancer 9 years ago and 7 years ago had 3 grandsons come to live with me becuse i wasnt letting them go in foster care. I am 71 and on a fixed income but my husband made sure everything was payed for before he passed and i was the one that handled all our finances in our home, so that didnt throw me for a loop as I've seen it do with some widows. I have found that we can get so involved in others we forget who we really are. I had a friend ask me that question yesterday and i had to say, I dont know, and he said its time to look within and find out and do what you feel in your heart. That has really given me something to think about. I only have 2 boys living with me now and they are 15 and 18. Susan I always look forward to seeing you and sweet Desi every week. You have helped me to look deep within myself and im grateful for that!
I see so many who don't have anything to do. God bless you for taking care of your grandsons. You have provided security for them. I think we are at our best when we give of ourselves. God bless you, Margaret.
Susan, this was an exceptionally beautiful video and I loved every word. Was I prepared after 60? Not really. I’m now 75 and think the past 15 years have been wonderful and I’m definitely looking forward to the next 15 with all kinds of fun things planned! I’m at a point when I can pick and choose what I want to do for really the very first time ever. We are told what to do our first 20 years, we take care of others our next 40 years and now it is our time to be just beautiful. Life is GRAND! 💖
Agree, I feel the same.
We only have today. We never know when our heavenly train will be boarding.
My Church's gardner, around 70?, past in his sleep about 2 wks ago. We wasn't sick (cancer) & apparently had no other chronic health conditions. It was a shock, to be sure. There but for the Grace of God... Not to be morbid, but age aside we need to live like today is the 1st day of the rest, & 2nd to last day, of our life. Share a smile, a kind word, be thankful, listen to the 🐦, take a walk and really inhale. Have a cup of hot tea and settle down with a good book. Enjoy something today, but take time to do an overdo task, also. Live, love, laugh. Pray for a troubled area in the 🌎 and 🚶♀️ daily with a goal to bring a little Heaven to earth.❤
I love what your son said - so great!!
When I retired, I went through all drawers, closets and donated so much. However, I still go thrift ing almost every week 😁.
I am 69 and I have come to realize that I now have TIME to stop and ponder over things to LOOK at things SEE things for what they really are. When I was younger I was always rushing never taking TIME, not thinking things through, rushing projects,wanting things right now. So getting older made me realize how wonderful taking your TIME IS.
Thank you sharing your conversation with your son. I was not prepared for where I am now. My health robbed me of my confidence and stamina. Long story but I’m single navigating what I was thinking of as my last days. I’ve been cleaning out and Swedish death cleaning. I let go many things I didn’t want to and it has all made me very sad. Then my son told me Mom just stop. When it is time and you are gone, I will cherish all the things that will remind me of you and things that will let me know and understand you better. My life will be enriched. I may not be able to keep everything but I will have the choice. I love you.
My attitude has totally changed, l feel more myself and not so afraid to move into the next part of my journey.
Thank you for all the beauty you bring to the world ❤
I’m so very proud of you Susan, I love that you’re beginning to write a book . You definitely have a story to tell and wisdom to share. Your son is correct , you make everything pretty.❤ I appreciate your vlogs and look forward to our Saturday nights together 😊
Well I’d buy a copy of that book you’re writing for sure Susan.
To me, after being with my husband for 57 years…..50 of them married…..well it scares me every day the thought of being alone. We’ve hardly any family and our dear daughter died 16 years ago, so we’ve only got each other. Your videos are a great inspiration and comfort Susan and something to draw on. Thank you for being there and sharing your experiences and your thoughts. You and Desi are simply wonderful. God bless 🌸
No I was not prepared emotionally to be alone at this age. I have made the best of it. Determined to prove him wrong that I was not able to take care of my life without him. Sometimes it can be scary facing obstacles, but I research it and find a way to overcome.
I know where you are coming from, research and finding solutions to problems will get us through! He never had any right to say those insulting things, I'm sure!
My parents were married for 71 years...the last 5 of which my mother had dementia. The last 3 was spent in a memory care unit. My father visited her 2x a week. He had to adjust to being alone. He is 90 and very independent.
I have been single for a very long time...i raised 6 kids...a grandchild...i ❤ living alone. Living alone teaches us who we really are. Of course I have...Jane...my 10 month old Yorkie. She is the sweetest and is in love with an older man...Desi. Enjoyed this video as I do all of your videos.❤
Hello Susan and Desi🧡 I just want to let you know I received my two hairsprays today. I cannot wait to try them.🧡I have been living alone since 2009..my husband passed in 2014, had to go into long care as his stroke had gotten worse since 2006. I am so used to doing things alone. It’s like second nature to me now, sometimes I don’t like it, it would be nice to have someone aside of me so I don’t have to share some burdens alone, but at 72 soon to be 73, my man and Otis🐶and I walk 2/3 miles a day. I do my weights twice a week and praise God. I thank Him every morning and night, because I am healthy today🙏and I have enough to live on today. I have four children and 12 grandchildren all grown. I am blessed with my family, and my church family. Also thank you for sharing this video. Have a blessed weekend love to you and Desi from me and Otis.🧡🧡
great!!!!!!!!!!!!! Omg...so happy to hear from you!!!
Faith you sound so positive! Give Ottis a big smootch for me and thanks for lifting our night with your comment..I can’t wait to try the hairspray too! ((Hugs))
@@sandykish9608 that was so sweet Sandy, thank you😘 he is sleeping right aside of me, so I will definitely do that when he wakes up.. you know that old saying, “let sleeping dogs lie” 😂 have a blessed night and weekend my friend🎃🍂🤎🧡 oh, and let me know how you like the hairspray!
Gratitude for all lessons of life the twist and turns all of it great to be alive.
@@lindafrazier8092 Amen Linda, I am so grateful for everything that I have. Have a blessed weekend my friend.
I have never felt my age until l hit 60.. now at 61 I know that l'm in a different stage of life.. and that it's a time to slow down.. it's ok to take a nap if I'm tired and it's ok if that project or load of laundry waits until tomorrow.. there is no rush, and l need to learn to give myself grace.. grace to wait.. to slow down and let things go.. l also need to refocus; to put effort and time into getting fit, and to maintain my health.. I'm at a point in my life where l can really think about how l want to spend these 'slower' years as l look to slow down from work (and retire at some point) and have more time to do the things l want.. l know that l need to have a plan as l look at retiring to find a new purpose in life, as my job has given me meaning and purpose for the last 45 years.. now l need to find some new things to invest my time in.. I'm excited at the prospect, and also alittle saddened to end a career that l love..
Your son's statement got me! I have felt we needed to clean things out so our kids don't have to do it after we are gone. Never once have any of the four kids commented that we have to much stuff.
60 has been the first decade i kind of dreaded. I'm not sue why. I'm 63 now. Facing retirement in a few years is finally starting to appeal to me. Blessings to you and Desi from Midas and me!
So glad my mom didn’t give me that fairytale life story. I’m 71 and I see so many women my age and younger that built their life around a husband and kids and not themselves and once that’s over they’re lost. You don’t need to be attached to anyone to have a great life. We might be in the last quarter but we’re still in the game. Buck up and live your best life.
I lost my husband at 50 and it feels that my struggle seems to get bigger every year. I really try to stay positive, but financially I do not get out of stressing about my years to come. I am much wiser than 20 years ago. I am now 61 and still healthy and strong. Thank you Lord . Thank you for your videos, I love you and Dezi.❤
Give Desi a big hug and kiss. HE can show you more love than any man his heart is the real thing.
Wow! Your son's response was beautiful. Got me in the feels.
I did not think I would be alone, but boy I am loving it! and at 70 starting a second career to add to my current one!
Thank you SO much for addressing the loss of memory issue...I've been trying to deal with this, as it seems to be getting worse. I get SO angry with myself...and I know that's ridiculous. It's just part of the aging process.
Laugh about it and move in, it happens to all of us.
Start supplementing with vitamin B12 along with B complex.
another fabulous chat.... thank you so very much...
Never thought I’d ever be divorced, but I’ve been single for almost ten years. I’m so very thankful that I had unknowingly prepared myself to be okay financially. My relationship with God sustains me, and times of solitude-more often than not-feel like a cozy, warm blanket. The legacy I leave behind is important to me, and I feel the need to oh so carefully choose how I spend my time. Love your videos! Your nature and home shots are truly works of art! They feed my soul! ❤️
Your videos are beautiful informative and inspiring ❤
What an amazing video! You have grown so wise and are so beautiful! Thank you for sharing that with us. You really inspired me and lifted me up tonight. A big smile just spread across my face when you talked about the positives of aging.
I never even thought about retirement or how it would be. At 55 I was working full time and thinking about launching my career independently and moving forward. Then my father died and 3 weeks later my 29 year old son died unexpectedly while living in Japan. It was the worst nightmare I could imagine, then there was a nasty court case going on regarding my fathers piece of property. Somehow, someway I hung in there and left my work as I was like a walking zombie for a few years and just had to take the pressure off and process how my world had shattered in pieces. I was alone with no husband or family. So here I am soon to be 65 and can’t explain what happened to those years, I was just so overwhelmed with trying to make it through the day and then some medical issues, there was no planning for retirement or wondering what life would be like at 65 plus. It is like a big void of 8-9’years but it has all settled down now. I relish a quite life now and enjoy my pets and making my home beautiful as well
as seeing friends and reading. I do wonder if life had gone on its ‘normal’ path what things would be like. When I think if I had pursued the new independent career and all that happened I would probably had been so stressed I would have had a heart attack. In some ways I am shocked to be here still and functioning as well as I am. My short term memory and knees sure took a hard hit but I am grateful to share smiles and special moments in this world.
Much love and appreciation to you and all the lovely women that follow you and share their wisdom too! ❤
You are such an inspiration to me! I so love your stories, advice and courage. When there are not enough words I give you ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️. Give sweet handsome Desi a hug.
Susan, I sure needed this video. I did not prepare to have a fiance terminally sick for 8 years and to live my 60s being a caregiver. Now tha he is in a nursing home, I am struggling to regain my life to remember me. Your video helps me so much to try to reclain my value. Thank you so much.
Susan, I’m newly divorced. I’m very independent,always have been. Although the breakup after 16 years was very painful. I’m set financially (my own making, not his) my home is mine. He’s the one sharing a house with another man also in his 60’s. I know women that are totally dependent on a man. Yes, that was generally how we were taught or that tradition back in our day. Lucky for me I was just always independent. It saved me! I need no one. I have myself. I’m a problem solver and a doer. I’ll admit I’m lonely for my man frequently. But putting one foot in front of the other and carrying on.
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This was absolutely beautiful!! Thank you for exposing your heart and emotions to us. You made me tear and smile. I’m 52 and uncertain of my future, mostly emotionally. The only part I disliked of this video is that it had to end. Sending you and Desi hugs, and much love ❤️
No. I was not prepared for my life after 60, simply because I did not have a plan in place. I guess I just thought, as I have most of my life, that all men {my father, my brothers, my uncles, my cousins}, just took care of the details. Well, I must have been in a total brain fog. Not anymore! It took me until I was this many years old to get up, face reality, grab hold, make a plan, and follow thru! Thank you for sharing!
Thank you very much for the encouragement! I really needed to hear this. Much love from Australia.