She Felt Trapped By Her Abusive Husband - With No Way Out.
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Lisa didn't realize her relationship was abusive at first, she thought her husbands attempts to control her were normal. But as the relationship went on the abuse compounded. She took her 4 kids to a shelter but could not find help with housing and the courts would not uphold a restraining order against her husband so she returned home for another 7 years. Then she put herself through school, got her nursing degree, and is now living on her own with her 4 children safe, and free from their abuser.
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You finished nursing school through all of that AND took care of 5 children?!?! Lady you are a superhero
She has four children.
Well done you xx
I went to school, worked PT in school and now am an RN. It has been 22 years of on and off again narc/alcoholic abuse. I am now trying to learn not to react to his nonsense. Bless you. Please pray for me to have courage to leave again. I did leave for 4 months but we got back together. Hoovering is real but I didnt realize that is what it was until after I came back. Trying to educate myself and make a safety plan to go within 6 months. I want to save. Thank u so much for your story. Bless you
Most of us are super heroes ..we get downgraded by men in our lives .. We fall for it .. Then before we know it ..were nothing ..right where they want us
Rambling Ruthie
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For all women out there thinking of leaving their partner, please do not let them know you are leaving. It is so dangerous they will do anything to force you to stay, some would rather see you dead than let you go. Find someone to help you leave while they are gone from the house. God speed. Sending prayers and strength.
Thistle DoNicely Oh yes Thistle. You are so right. I’ve been there and a secret getaway is so often the only possible action. Thank you for telling other women this ❤️❤️❤️
Kathleen Rayner Kathleen you are a warrior. I have the utmost respect for women who have suffered at the hands of men. ✌️❤️
Thank you so much Thistle. By the way I simply LOVE your name 🤗🤗🤗💕💕
Kathleen Rayner Thank you Kathleen. Stay safe ❤️
Dear Thistle. Many years ago I left ( rapidly ) in the night with an 18 month baby. Most frightening thing I’ve ever done. But we did succeed and with a friends help we did escape to another state. Once the mind is brave enough you all can do it. But the key is PLAN AHEAD 💕💕💕💕💕
My mother told me to keep money aside,I might need to get out, one day I had to leave,thank god I did.
That's very good advice!!
Good thinking.
N i did not ...tht was my biggest mistake
I had had money put back with the last one but I hadn't planned on leaving until the night it happened.
What if they watch every single penny?
Am so proud that women find the courage to leave and win!!
yolanda neely Women should leave earlier and tell people there’s a lot of shame involved
It takes SUPERHUMAN STRENGTH
If a woman stays with a man who is abusive, she is teaching her sons that it's ok to abuse women, and she is teaching her daughters that it's ok to be abused. This woman is super smart to have found a way to escape. It's really not as easy as it looks from the outside.
Moneca Savoie,hope you are with a good man
I can’t believe that you suffered the same abuse at the shelter. They need to be reported!
Some shelter workers are doing it for the wrong reason. My narcissistic mother worked at a women's shelter so she could torment the victims. Meanwhile I was trying to escape from an abusive relationship and she wouldn't give me any help at all. This resulted in me almost losing my life.
In my case i didn't suffer abuse at the shelter. But some of the woman who worked there were mean and racist if u werent there color. Some of the workers looked at me like i was stupid. Kinda judgmental.
@@trickynicky2118 she tormented those poor woman? WTF! Wdy mean she "tormented" them, i am intrigued right now. Details. Sorry to ask,l. Just when I think ppl can't get any worse!
@@laurenm9563 Sure I can explain more. One lady was Asian and bought out to Australia as a bride by an abuser. She came to the womens shelter and was telling my mother how he was having affairs and abusing her in various ways. My mother explained this was normal behaviour in Australia, part of our cultural ways. The woman was shocked and asked more eventually my mother said 'Just joking.' Sick head games on a vulnerable female who had been dragged around her house by her hair by her husband. Another woman was bought in after her live in lover (abuser) almost destroyed her. Apparantly he was quite a well respected businessman in the town who had strong friendships with the police. The abuser had portrayed the woman as the problem. She was terrified and when bought to the shelter hid under a table in fear. My mother said "She was like a frightened animal so I leaned down under the table and said 'Well was he at least a good F@#k?". My mother described the fear in her eyes. I said to her of course she was scared, she had been through hell and thought she was safe. Then she realised she couldn't let her gaurd down yet. I felt so sorry hearing about this woman's pain and said to my mother she needed reassurance, soothing words. My mother then became angry and hostile at me for suggesting she wasn't helping the woman properly. These are just the stories she told me herself. My mother should never have been working at a women's shelter. She attacked me physically on multiple occasions, threatened her father with a knife, had a major alcohol problem, tried to sexually molest me and laughed when I told her the neighbour had grabbed my breast at 13 years old. It became a standing joke my 'crush on the neighbour. Sorry this is so long but I guess I want people to be aware not all women's shelter workers are healthy. Many are tireless advocates for women in need, I in no way believe my mother typifies the average shelter worker. It's just a warning to be aware sick people can be where you least expect them. This was a small town in Western Australia in the 1990's for context. My mother also worked as a mediator between criminals and victims of crime. I am No Contact with her now.
@@trickynicky2118 so sorry to hear that glad you are no contact. She sounds like a narcissist and a bully who enjoyed seeing people suffer but would pretend to be a nice caring charitable person.Jobs working with vulnerable people check criminal records but i think there should be some kind of personality empathy test as well.
I hope this lady is doing well. I wish her the very best.
It took me years to heal from an abusive relationship. This was the second one I experienced. I finally felt like myself after about 5 years. I don't date because I know I'll pick an abusive man. I'm much happier than I ever have been.
I did the same thought my life would be all abusive men but i am now married to a wonerful man i thank god for him everyday he has changed my world
Good for you. You can do many things that would make you happy. You don't need a man.
I am the author of the book LOOK ME IN THE EYE- Caryl Wyatt. My own life story of childhood abuse and violent marriages. Bravo to every woman who manages to break free. It takes tremendous courage to break the cycle and even more to speak out about it. Bravo.
@Caryl Park - I looked on Amazon for your book and couldn't find it. Where is your book sold? I am interested in reading it. Thank you.
@@nangrayson532 - As far as I can see its still available but you can also try Barnes and Noble. Amazon have it on Kindle as well.
It is interesting that you had more than one violent marriage - and terrible, too, obviously. Do you think some v women are drawn to dangerous men or that these men pick on certain women they think they can control?
@@jomc20 Two things. 1. Abusive people are like wounded lions they prey on the vulnerable in order to survive themselves. 2. Why do vulnerable people go for controlling abusive partners? The reptilian brain that has experienced childhoid trauma seeks a stronger partner for their own survival.
There is a video somewhere on YT of a lion locking a baby buck, nurturing it but the second that little buck tries to run to Mama believe me the lion will kill it.
In my own life I had only ever known my whole life, dominance abuse and control. So it was easier for me to understand but it's taken 15 years of therapy and healing to be FREE from CPTSD and my mind and heart able to understand and recognise the abusive personality. I stay well clare of both men and women who show any signs at all of being controlling or abusive. I'm happier and at peace. It's never too late to have all your heart desires.
@@nangrayson532 please try Barnes and Noble. But I've just searched on Amazon too and there are some available. Even second hand.
This woman is amazing. Bless her heart.
46 abusive husbands gave this the thumbs down! A very brave lady. So pleased she left her loser husband and that her children are doing much better now....🙂🙋♀️🇬🇧
Zero respect after 10 years. Congratulations for having the strength & will to get out. It’s alright to cry. Crying washes away the pain.
ZERO repsect after almost 13 years, and giving birth to his daughter. I gave him repsect and dignity and he shit all over me in return. My love for him made him abuse me even harder. He thought since i loved him, he could screw around, masturbate 2 porn while i had to stay up with our daughter, beat, and cheat on me. But let me get mean with the bastard, and he respects me and listens. I am so confused and spun out. I want out. But sucks, i will be the fool 2 have 2 pack up and leave the comfort of my and my daughters home (not him) simply bc of HIS mistakes. Men R wicked and dangerous. Im now scared of men and i would NEVER give a man my love because of the hell i endured bc of his monster ass!
Lauren M I keep thinking - I can't live like this anymore. I can't see myself being unhappy for the rest of my life when the best I can hope for is my husband not being a selfish asshole for at least a day or two. Not love, not caring, just not nasty. Now he has been diagnosed with depression, and I think a lot of these men are depressed themselves and don't really realize it. They make themselves feel better by putting someone else down. Ive done a lot of research and diet has a lot to do with it. Not enough of the proper nutrients needed to create the right balance of brain chemicals. My husband lives on sugar and carbohydrates, and won't take better care of himself. I've tried. I know now that I can't help him after putting him and his needs first for over 10 years. I trusted that we were building a life together and allowed him to convince me to move from a big city, where I had a good job, to a small one where it is hard to find a decent job. But I am a loser and useless, you see. I have a university degree in psychology for all that does for me here. I did go back to school last year and took a college course in medical terminology to hopefully help me get a better paying job at the local hospital. So far, the only response to my applications has been a typing test, and I am now apparently on a list when an opportunity comes up. If I had not given up my personal savings for some of his crazy schemes, I would probably have left before. I've had friends concerned about me offer me rooms to stay in. I guess what I am saying to you is you and your child deserve better, and you have to start figuring out how to make a life for yourself. I started taking better care of myself, adopting a mostly vegan diet to lose some extra weight and improve my immune system; I have started seeing a counsellor to help me reach those next, seemingly impossible steps to believing in myself; I've also started saving some money just in case. I'm a young-looking 50 now, and honestly, if I divorce, I will never date again. I never want to be in a position again where someone can feel they have the right to judge me and my choices. Make me feel not good enough. No thank you! But you can find someone who will cherish properly one day. Make a plan. Envision the type of life you really want. Enlist help. Seek a therapist who can help you overcome whatever made you feel like this is treatment of you is okay and normal before you date again or you will attract the same kind of man. I believe in you. Hugs from Canada!
I recognise your story. Mine was similar I had four children and after being beaten one night and he tried to strangle me the kids woke up and where screaming. The next day we left the area and never went back. The fear on my kids faces was the straw that broke the camels back. It was hard for a while and we had very little but we were so very happy. My kids are all grown now with kids of their own. Their lives are good. Xxx
He sounds like my ex husband! I had to listen to mine talk to me non stop. He’d get mad if I didn’t pay attention to him. He’d also scream and rage at me for hours. The only way I could get him to snap out of that mode was to tell him I had to go to the bathroom! Utterly ridiculous. I walked out 3 years ago and am free now.
Good for you
Glad that you are out.
It's always us sweet woman that get abused.and beat up! The skanks and whores get more repsect than the sweet innocent wife that has 2 put up with the bastard!
I had one that spent 13 years telling me not to talk about whatever I brought up, including not talking about our boys. I also went to nursing school in the midst of that so I knew I could support myself and the boys eventually. After the divorce when he was dropping off the kids, I asked him why he divorced me, His response. You wouldn't talk to me!!!!! 113 years of telling me not to talk to him and then he divorces me because I didn't. He is one mentally ill sick puppy. Except for the physical abuse, I went through everything else at times.
Hip hip hooray! For you!
Never ever lay your finacial life into the hands of a man! A man who loves and respects you will understand this.
Best advice I have heard ladies please your financial life in order
Well some of us didn't do it on purpose. I lost my career due to a disability. No one chooses that. Was with a narc for 20 yrs, 2 if those yrs he was Mr. Nice guy.
Finally got rid of him, but my pain is worse after having chronic pain, as well as back surgery to remove a tumor 2 yrs ago.
Even though we are no longer together, divorced, he had been court ordered to pay a certain amt per month, but bec he's a narcissist, the rules don't apply to him, or so he thinks.
He is still destroying me financially. The best advice women can hope for, is don't ever get disabled, and damn sure don't marry a narcissist. Don't get born into a family who hates you, bec they are abusive narcs too.
See how much of this was my choice? Not much except marrying the devil.
The rest was just some horrible bad luck.
Oh and let's not forget the son of a bitch James Griffith who denied me my disability. He was a complete asshole who ruined my life. I fought for 7 yrs for disability, and every mf who ignored all my evidence, they will get theirs.
If you are brown in racist ass missouri, you are not disabled. Even though my medical records document differently.
So yeah, life can hand you a lot of repeated shit that seems never ending.
@@tranquility9325 I'm sorry for all You went through! I wish You only good things to happen in the future, I wish You strength to fight You're enemies and no pain anymore! Do You have a chance to move from Missouri? I know, it's a huge step to make but sometimes it is just the best to leave the hated place even though it is perhaps the only place You realy know.
I made that mistake. I didn't kno what i was doing (i was 18 at the time). He told me that he would work and i cook & clean. I thought with my teenage mind, "fair enough". Time went on. I had job interviews and he would sabatoge them. He says i should be "grateful" that i dont work and i needed 2 basically obey him. He has humiliated me financially by leaving me w/o, and having to ask and beg for basic things. Im 29 now and planning my exit. If possible. The only thing i own is my own car. No friends or family left, and now we have a four year old daughter in the mix
I grow more depressed daily. He makes me obey basic relationship rules and i found out a yearcago he never respected our relationship. He never obeyed as i did. The more i loved he more he abused
I want out. I feel so ashamed. This man has beat on me so many times in 12 years and i thought i deserved it. Today I tried to talk 2 him about an issue in our relationship thay really has me upset over. He wouldn't engage and silenced me with violence. Hes emotionally retarded. This isnt love. This is control, abuse of power, and sadistic. I don't want 2 grow old standing behind him. Thats my worst fear being an old battered woman. I have been 2 a womans shelter it wasnt bad. Im kinda scared 2 have 2 leave my comfort zone. He just won't respect me, never will.
Yeah cos it's like we just sit there and hand over our lives to them!?!? NO this is what they do!! Theu manipulate their way into tpur life and make you believe they will take care of you! Just lulling you into a false sense of security!! Making you feel like you can trust them!! Making women trust the most untrustworthy men just shows the power or the narssasist!! They are cold, calculated and can manipulate like nothing else!!!
It's such a lonely mindf*cking Hell only survivers truly understand. God bless you!
You are so right about that!!! I've never been married but my brother is controlling me. I'm 58 years old, with no mental illness or disabilities.
I recall women talking about this crap in the 60s.... We've come a long way baby???? No. No justice in the legal system!
The devil never wins against God. You went through hell with that man and I'm glad you won the battle. You are inspirational, strong courageous woman. God bless you.
What is this shit about the devil. It is history. The history of men having power. Grow fking up
Diana B grow the fuck up and stop commenting then
Amen!
@@2Sugarbears why is it always some puppet of Satan who cannot stand any talk about the things he has created. Repent or perish.
@@simonegreene50 thank you.
It sounds like the shelter was almost as traumatic as the relationship.. :-(
And this is yet another barrier and an answer to the question that so many ask, which is "Why doesn't she/he just leave". It's not that simple. We definitely need more awareness and better services all around.
thats why i would never leave my abusive parents to go to a shelter again, it was worse. they are just as unhumane, not worth it. rather have the money and nice things and be abused than nothing.
@@Mo_1P services are TRASH. 100% trust
@Mrssewhardtoplease churches dont give a sh*t. not surprised either
I went to the womens shelter and told them my dad was abusive and they rejected me because it was my dad not an intimate partner.
I am so sorry that the shelter you went to was not a safe place for you.. You are so courageous.
I´m glad you are safe. Please report that horrible "shelter"..
Margaret Eileen Jones,Hope you are with a good man !
You had the strength to leave this abusive overgrown man-child and for that thank god. Yes our children suffer and they never forget it. My children even though they are now adults are still dealing with what they lived through. Bless you.
Eva Sinclair,hope you are with a good man!
I remember being in an abusive relationship for 4 years. On his birthday one November I decided to leave after a fight about him wanting us to go out and I didn’t want him to drink. That Christmas I was sitting in a townhome with no vehicle, no job and boxes all around me because I couldn’t afford the townhouse on my own. I had just lost my job a week before and the two vehicles were in his name. My truck had a bad engine that was too expensive to fix. He had moved out by then. I remember looking around at these boxes and having the best feeling because I would never have to wake up again and fear what the day would bring. It all worked out. I went to live w a friend, got a new job and found an old car that ran and I could afford. I left and never looked back. You can’t put a price on peace.
Boy I tell you sometimes women go through hell and we still come out as purest Gold... God continue to bless and keep you...
sandrika cameron It was God that put her through all of that chaos and turmoil! Thanks for nothing God!
May God send his angels to surround you and protect you all of your life! ❤️
AMEN!
What an extraordinary comment God didn't protect her all those years she was being abused so why would you expect him to do so now??
@@jomc20 God's protection was there All the time. We don't ALWAYS get things the way we want it, but the fact that she's there to share her story says alot of God's grace towards her. She had to perhaps go through her Abusive ordeal so that her Children, viewers and others will learn from her Experience and become wiser about Abuse, Redoect and Self Respect
@@janemuller2066 Would you willingly put up with 20 years of abuse in the hope that it might make others more aware of the problem? And would you be happy for god to impose that misery on you when he had the power to stop the abuser or not create men with abusive tendencies in the first place?
Only religion can make ordinary, decent people (which I am assuming you are), believe wicked, immoral things. Pain and suffering should be eliminated wherever possible. Do you stand aside if a child falls over because you believe suffering is good for his soul? Would you ignore cries for help from a woman being battered by her husband?
@@jomc20 sometimes we have to face/suffer the consequences of the choices we make. It's through people's pain & misery that they still see the goodness of God upon their lives. God doesn't make us suffer, He is Love 1 Cor 13 tells us what Love is. Pain & suffering is the result of sin. It is how you see it and believe it.
You're a warrior! You are incredibly strong. Thanks for sharing and being an inspiration. You did the BEST thing by leaving for you and your kids. God bless you.
I agree……100!
My boss left her abusive husband years ago because he kept threatening to kill her and the kids. He left for a weekend and she moved them all out and into an apartment. She stills feel guilty (!) about leaving him that way but she knows she did it to save her life and her kids.
Why in God's name would she feel guilty? HE doesn't want her or the children tobe hurt.
Never give up...the healing is different as you get older...I totally don't talk to my EX...and I love it ..
Angela Hagerman could you elaborate on what you mean by you saying that the healing is different when you get older?
“Asking permission” is one thing. Communicating is another (I never have others over without considering my husband). Love that he forgot to hang up the phone & the police heard it.
truthseeker,Hope you are with a good man!
Incredible how the kids started to recover just by being away from that environment.. ❤
So sorry you have to go through that horrible experience.
Thank God you survived that nightmare!! Not sure why you didn't file for Divorce and sue his $12,000.00 per month ass for Alimony and child support? Physical, sexual, and emotional abuse is not a marriage it's a Prison!!! Please, please don't ever let a demon like that back into your life. You are a Queen, and he's a Disordered Demon!!! 😡😡😡
Prisoners had better treatment than her.
Cuz she lying a bit Ray Charles can see that .. she said she couldn’t do something cuz she was white .. like huhhh?!
Divorcing an abuser can take years.
You were married to a narcissist. I know what that's all about. Been there, done that.
I was raised by two of them. I can also relate. They are like another species.
Currently in this with a narc. 12 years now 2 long. I feel myself dying every week. Im only 29. What made me done was when I found his porn addiction, and he was so comfortabe watching porn while i was 10 feet away oblivious. I kept hearing low moans and i thought i was being paranoid. I confronted and he tells me im hallucinating and countinues w hours of porn, than wakes me up from sleep 2 degrade me like a porn star. My morals feel like pornography has no business regularly in a relationship. If hes lying about his porn addictipn, there has 2 be SO much more. Right? I always was a good woman 2 him and if i had done that, he prob would have beat me and cried like a bitch. One sided relationSHIT! I have my own car, but no family or friends
Im ashamed i allowed abuse thinking it was love or my fault. He won't respect me, or communicate w me about this porn addiction. It hurts my soul 2 be with him.
Lauren M I’d wager he was doing meth too his high sex drive and waking you up to degrade you is classic meth use.
@@joshuagreen9095 ur saying U think hes doing meth?
Lauren M from what you described he fits the criteria for meth use to a tee
She forgot to say financial abuse. He only gave her 1000 a week when he made 12k a week
He made $12,000 a month and she had $1,000 a month for herself and the kids (6:40). (Not per week.)
@@milkweedlake o ok sorry and that's even worse. A woman is suppose to have access to her husbands money. All of it not just a small allowance
I hope she was able to get a hold of some of that income in their divorce.
Amen
One thousand dollars a week is good
He was evil.
Yes,he was Evil,she wasnt even allowed to open a book,she failed her exams and he was Happy.
I totally recognize myself and my whole story in hers. Never again!!!!
Ditto! Amen sister!!
Ditto... Me too...
What a remarkably strong woman, this made me cry.
Does anyone else ever wonder "what on earth has happened to the male of our species, originally created in God's image"???
I ask this to myself almost daily...
Me 😩 I feel like this everyday. Especially seeing groups like mgtow (just google or TH-cam it) it's horrific. my husband was abusive and now that I've separated he has joined mgtow and red pill men's online communities that hate women and blame them for wanting to "go there own way" they play victim but many if not most of these men like my husband are narcissists. My husband claims to be a Christian too but you can't be a Christian when you are abusive and entertaining Antichrist abusive movements.
It’s a demonic spirit that’s running rampant in our community
Always ... They have turned into monsters
That is so true. Most men are so abusive emotionally and physically. I wonder what happenned to men.
The high cost of domestic abuse has a ripple affect, you directly, your children, extended family, finances, government help, police involvement, therapy, school, courts, lawyers, on and on and on. One abuser causes such a high cost to society. Glad you got out safely, hope the rest of your life sees hope and prosperity and much love.
You are such a brave woman. I don't know you, but I'm so proud of you!
Thank you for sharing your pain...I am so glad you were strong enough to go through all you have gone through to a new life of peace, self worth and able to make your own decisions for your future.
Karin Pierson,your lovely smile 😊 can make the news!😊😊😍
No one knows what women go through, there are few too many resources to help
Law enforcement does not take dv serious. A man can nearly kill his wife and then spend maybe 1 yr in prison. If he did it to a complete stranger he would spend 10 yrs or more.
Gail Gray,hope you are with a good man!😍😍😍
I was abused physically & verbally for my entire marriage. I stayed until my daughter moved out of the country to keep her safe. 25 years. He threatened to kill me numerous times. He put a shotgun to the back of my head when I had my daughter on my hip. Yet in the world everyone thought he was the nicest guy. I am so very proud of you for having the strength to survive. I'm so sorry he abused you. I hope your life and your children's lives continue to get better as every day passes. ❤
Yeah an abusive husband deserves death.
Tell me this somebody, why is it these men think that if we love them, they can beat on us and cheat on us? Our love for them makes them abuse us! This makes no sense. 13 years w my abusive bastard, and I kno i deserve a betted life, i simply don't kno how 2 leave. No friends or family 2 go 2. Just have my own car, yet no job. He wouldn't want me working. I would get job interviews, and he would sabatoge me, and stop me from going 2 interviews. The day i was called in for training on a new job, was the day his car had a flat tire. Which meant i had 2 drive him 2 work and back .he knew that would disrupt my job. He dont want me 2 work and be independent, yet he calls me lazy, and puts me down 4 not having a job!!!!! "Lazy bitch!" "Y don't u have a job? Get off your ass!" Im not laying on my ass u bastard u won't allow me 2 work, and i have to stay at home 2 watch our daughter for free. Thst itself is a huge responsibility in itself!
Im happy that you got out. I'm in one 23 years I can totally relate. I don't want to spend the rest of my life this way😔
I am so glad you are free. There are no words to describe your ex husband. Education is freedom. I hope your story helps others to escape from an abusive relationship. Keep on speaking out you are an inspiration.
You are so strong. Your kids must be so proud of you. I grew up with a dad like this. I used to cry in bed at night wishing my parent would break up. Mum didn’t stop him from beating us up. My big brother killed himself 2 years ago. He was 41 years old.
You did the best thing......... and don’t let him near your kids.... he will manipulate them or worse. I don’t think narcissists can change, because they don’t recognise anything’s wrong with them.
You are a shining light.... bless you 💕💕💕🌸🌸🌸
I just want to hug this woman.
God bless this woman. I'm so sorry for what she went through and I'm very happy she's alive. That being said - parents please raise your daughters to be educated, trained in a vocation, self-sufficient and never have to be dependent on a man financially. Woman are partners with men and should never be dominated and controlled by them. Women - leave your abusers if they won't change and never look back.
Unfortunately my mother abused and neglected me terrible which only later set me up for extreme poverty on top of disability. I agree with you %100
God love her please don’t go back.
Alma Francis,I admire the beautiful smiles 😊😊
Listening to your story is so triggering it's brought a flood of tears. Bless you for sharing.
jan gandy, you look stunning 🌹🌹
My heart breaks for you and your children:( I am a survivor of domestic violence, and it is hard to move forward, but as time goes on life gets a lot better.
Kay P & Kes's Roaming, you deserve better 🙏🙏🙏
What a story of courage, strength, and determination! Keep going Girrrlll.You got this!
God bless you and your children. It took great courage to put yourself thru school and leave your sick abuser.
😭😭😭😭😭 just want to say i love you so much and like so many other courageous women you are an inspiration 💖💗💖
I endured 27 years marriage that was a hell I will never go through again been divorced almost 3years and I found more strength I never knew I had and I actually can have a peaceful home. I actually can smile without being yelled at anymore. No more 5am wakeup to tell me all the things I am in trouble for that he created up in his head. Being told to get out every day. Now I Love my life and peaceful even though I still have a son who goes every other weekend to his dad's house but I don't take no crap and he knows it too. You did the right thing and I will be praying for you and may God bless you 100 times over for all you had to endure I truly understand the pain .
Sherrie Beazley
Did he ever try to brainwash your kids against u mine did and succeeded
regina hehir yes he tried it on my oldest son and still today that really hurts. My youngest son is autistic and lives with me because of his disability my ex could not affect him. My ex has not gave me 10 cents since I left and divorced him and it's really hard but he can go to hell .
Sherrie Beazley I left my x years back kids were two and four only way I can
Describe it was he caused uproar abuse turmoil for another twenty years turning them against me teaching them to do wrong to do opposite to me I had to cope with one of my sons abusing me being like the behaviour he saw and I was blamed for it after I reached out for help it was so traumatic I still live with effects of hyper viligance fear what he did to me he also told both to not attend school or listen to one word I said and they dropped out of school thinking I was wrong how can people b so evil and how when we reach out are the mothers blamed
Mine would wake me up before he went to work every morning at 4 45 am. He would yell at me because he didn't want 2 go 2 work. I was called "lazy and fat." I was put down for not working and "laying on my fat ass for free." Yet he didn't want me having a job! He would have me and my daughter in bed trembling. He made sure on his bad days every morning for work, that me and my daughter were up taking his insults.
He would slam the door, and leave us with bare minimum. No texts during the day to check on us and he would take MY car each and everyday like it was his. Something was always wrong w his car so he abused me into having 2 gice up my car until he got home. Imagine 4 45 am getting choked, and told ur useless and fat, ur items getting broken for no reason. I shudder at how horrible and horrific he would be. This was 1 of the deal breakers. His constant buderns were placed on my shoulder, yet my issues he wouldn't discuss.
He has lost a very special lady.He didn't ever deserve her in the first place.
Thank God you and your children are alive.
Its been 7 yrs that i left my x husband it was hard but so worth it ..just do it !!
Wow, listening to this as I’m in a emotional abusive relationship and trying to muster the strength to somehow get out with my 2 kids. You are amazing! Thanks for telling your story
Many in your place made it to separate and leave. Consider your safety and that of your kids. Praying for you. You will make it!
So glad you got out...and you got your kids.
Mary Brady she should have earlier
These judges make me sick. Too much control
Exactly……100!
i wish i could like this comment 100000000 times
And zero understanding of coercion and the effect on a family of a complete narcissistic person and until they do nothing is going to change and women and children will continue to die. I understand that this also happens to some men, it's not a competition but it is mostly women that die at the hands of men
What an amazing mother you are! You are brave and an example to everyone experiencing abuse. You can put an end to it. God bless you and your kids. 💖
This is why we have to get out EARLY ladies!!!
Bless your heart!!! Stay strong! Best wishes to you and your family.
Keep going don’t look back your doing well your strong a wonderful mum and you can do whatever you want now x
I know the abuse you speak of and I am glad you were so determined to leave and to get back to nursing school.you did it.i know god guides your steps and I pray he puts a hedge of protection over you and your children.you are on your way.congratulations.....don't you dare go back to him.....
Bless you for having the courage to move out, why didn’t HE move and you and children stay, it would have been less disruptive .
hope you have now found peace in your life & enjoy your nursing. Well done
Education is the key...so happy you got your nursing degree!! That shelter sounds like a nightmare....I worked part time at a DV shelter for many years and our butts would be SO fired if we treated you like that!! I enjoyed the overnight shifts as when the kids were sleeping, many women would then come and chat with us. I'm really happy you and your kids are doing so well! Stay strong!
Move on now you are out of the abusive relationship, go go go encourage your children and make your swift bold steps!!
It still difficult, she needs baby steps. She's been hunted by ptsd. Its a terrible phase she will get through gradually, she will regain her strength, her speech. Been there. It took me a year to stop crying.
Where are these peoples' families, for help? 😰🇦🇺
By their side. You are the problem, not their child.
Your wonderful soul I wish you happy healthy life .Your kids have one amazing mom God bless you
Thank you so much for this, You now know you're the strong one, You did it girl, Wishing you and your kids nothing except happiness ❤
I send you a big 🤗 hug!!!! So happy this woman was able to move forward !!
Another problem is when family defends the abuser they are very good at hiding the true monster they are
Thank for sharing your story. I am one of those children. Thank you for finding the strength to leave, and give you and your children a chance to heal and thrive❣
I've been through something similar and got my kid's out at 2 and 5. I've had a few relationships and I'm honestly too scared to live with someone. I miss love but I love my peace!
You are a very beautiful lady. May God bless you !
IT TAKES TREMENDOUS COURAGE to share what you be been through but by doing so you are giving so much courage to others wishing you + your family all the Best
Wow, what a great openly honest share she painfully got through in order to educate/help other Domestic Abuse survivors.
This woman is a "Big Time:Hero of Mine" I grew (together with sisters and brothers) in an Domestically Abusive family situation. The pain and trauma are real. One day I hope the vicious cycle of abuse will be broken. It is sharing (stories) and caring (support of each other) that will bring it about if anything will.
This is important so that the victims (men, women and childten, all) do not perpetually slide back and forth into the "denial of reality" that is part of the vicious cycle of PTSD or CPTSD. Best Warmest Wishes together with Love, Peace and Prayers to all! ❤❤❤
The children definitely need counseling, especially your son. God bless you and your family.
I am so incredibly proud of you! I’m so glad your son recognized his wrong behavior and said he was sorry. I will pray for you and your children.
God bless u ur beautiful ur a child of God ✝️
Beautiful lady in every sense of the word...Bless.
Cheryl Johnson,hope you are with a good man!😊😊😍😍😍
Both men and women take note of this story of an incredibly abused woman who struggled with the system it is shameful.
That is what I have PTSD..It takes a while..
Good to know you all are safe. Thank you for sharing your story of courage.
Janie Ann Brydges,you must be a good being ❤️☺️
You are an amazing and strong lady 💕💕💕💕💕lots of love and light sent 2 u and your children 💕💕💕💕💕💕very inspiring thank you 4 sharing 💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕
Dear Lady: My Daughter went thro’ this also, when she finally left, she was so scared! Someone told her, ‘you have to start from where you are standing’! She is doing well, her children are good, one in college, another starting next spring, 2 boys doing well working. What a journey it has been!
You are a hero. You are a strong person to survive everything you have been thru. God bless you and your children🙏🙏🙏🙏💖💖💖💖💖
Wow you are so brave well done .
Tranquil Swan A-Z,your pretty smile ☺️ can make the news!
Congratulations on finding the strength to leave. But I want to know what is wrong with the refuge workers who treated you appallingly when you were extremely vulnerable. Good luck!
Lisa, you have my utmost respect. You should be proud of your inner strength to graduate medical school during that abuse and to find a place to live for you and your children with very little resources at your disposal. Sending my best wishes for a peaceful life the way you want to live and not at the beck and call of your abusive ex-husband. Stay strong and look forward to your own future. Cheers.
Thank you for sharing. We've been through it all, it affects us and children for life. Although God may feel distant that his grace is delayed, he always cover us with his grace and mercy. Try prayers it helps
These are words” to people whom haven’t been through this ...yet hopefully a warning or help. To those who have been through this abuse such as myself you give us comfort and understanding. Thank you 🙏 ❤
How the Hell does he get the house and children and she ends up in a Shelter?!?
this is why we stay!! to protect our children. its terrifying.
You are very brave and very beautiful.
Meg Hamer,You must be a good being ❤️☺️
You are beyond words brave!! You did it!! You got away!!!Look at you go now!! You’re awesome your kids are safe and they will be just fine now !!
I just want to hug that woman. She has gone through so much. She is showing her children strength.
I just don’t understand what it is about men...they’re SO inherently capable of being a lemon. So many of them sure you can see the red flags early on but then you get those deceiving ones that look nice & shiny on the outside but once they’ve perceived you as theirs that’s when you find out that you didn’t get a good one at all-you got a lemon. 😑😞 As a mother to a son that I treasure so much and so far he seems to be coming along nicely,like a normal human being but I know in the back of my mind how fragile males are,how delicate they are. How easily a good boy could become another lemon. Ugh! What the HELL?!? 😩😩What the heck is WRONG with them???
There upbringing, they saw there mothers getting beat or degraded, they hate woman bc of rejection, and another huge factor is porn. Some think porn is harmless, and fun. But the shit these bastards have 2 have after they become porn addicted, makes my stomach sink so bad! They R monsters... especially the narsisstic ones!
Once they got U hooked, they see how much U will take. U leave them, than they make fake promises and it gets worse when u give them a 2nd chance! I'm scared 2 death of men now.
And how do you think that makes good men feel?
Abuse is sexual, physical,mental,emotional,verbal, and financial. I think they all bad and you will never forget the past. I hope people recognize abusive relationship and get help for the family.
You are a strong person who survived a horrible relationship.
An amazing and inspirational woman! Having lived through this I can tell everyone that this situation is incredibly difficult. People say 'but why didn't you leave?' they have absolutely no idea how hard that is. I too suffered PTSD, and trauma after my long marriage crumbled because my ex chose to live a double life, I will NEVER know the real truth of the past, he lied and cheated, manipulated and controlled. The toughest part that makes leaving is financial abuse, he would get loans credit cards without my knowledge. He would even control what was in the fridge. It just creeps upon you, and one day when you are armed with the information you begin to see what has been happening all along. You think they will change but people like this NEVER change because they don't think they are doing anything wrong, or as my ex said to me 'it is you that has the problem, not me'. Had I not had a change of circumstances that put me in a better position I would still be with him, so GET OUT of a relationship that can only ever destroy you. It hurts but it is worth doing if you can.