Video hasn’t even fully came on and I’m tearing up. I’m a 21 year old single mom with two girls and this shit is really hard. On top of that trying to be a human, be a happy mom, and have a separate life and continue on with the pain of not being with their dad. It’s a lot. To all my other single moms, just know it’ll be better and easier one day… Love y’all. ❤️🩹
Thank you 🙏🏽❤️ I have 2 girls 22 and 9 and they are the most respectful young girls. I’ve never had a problem out of either and they’ve never been disrespectful to me or anything and my home is so peaceful. People that do come to my house which isn’t many because I’m very careful of that tell me how peaceful my home is so the negative comments mean nothing to me because being a single parent isn’t easy but it’s so rewarding. They teach me so much ❤️
Yes,. I'm a single mom and he is right. Single moms must expose their sons to positive activities where they can socialize with responsible men too. There are things boys go through and questions they have that only a man can understand and answer because they can relate.
@@home4life505 sometimes you can't. Do you just not provide a positive male role model in the meantime or not at all before you find a suitable husband?
Shout out to the single Mothers that are able to raise their son's. Many Mother abort or give their child up for adoption, system, or another person because they do not have the help or support after the father leave or die. Being a single Mother is difficult, so if you have custody of your son and doing YOUR BEST to raise them to be productive citizens of society!! Pat yourself on the back....I salute you!!!
@@ninabee4899 clown. Lol. You and your "new guy" ain't shyt. And your dumb butt believes him enough to repeat that foolishness. 😂😂😂😂 After he does whatever and gets whatever from your trash behind you will be looking for another "new guy." You are just another baby making parasite. You are common and basic. Both literally and figuratively. 😂
It's not just a black thing, in some races/ cultures women are taught to stay and turn a blind eye to bad signs in a man who they have children with and/ or are married to.
this is so true. being a single mother is tough, and i never chose this path. sometimes the mistakes that we end up having to deal with makes us stronger. i want a better husband for my son, and my son biological father just isn't what i thought he was
But you did choose this path and what you want from another man isn't gonna happen. Men don't want to raise another man's sperm ESPECIALLLY if he is still alive and comes to visit the kids in the relationship. Women need to understand that.
Your a mother to a boy learn to take accountability. You chose this path, no child is born without a woman’s say. 20 contraceptives, day after pill, abortion. You made that choice, your body your right ?
A lot of comments on here bashing single moms. My sister is a single mom to one child. She was in a serious relationship, engaged to him. They were together for 3 yrs. Both worked hard, she worked up to 1 week before delivering the baby, doing 12 hr shifts. Only to find out that her man had been hiding a drug problem the whole time. Now, my sister was quite sheltered and naive and figured his mood swings were due to his job, her long hours away from home. Some of us wondered, but didn't say anything cause we didn't know for sure. To shorten the story a bit, she ended up leaving him with baby in tow. He doesn't see his daughter because all his money and focus is on drugs. My sister did try to help him and waited 2 yrs for him as she really loved him. She always welcomed him to visit their child as long as he wasn't high when he came over. He promised that poor kid for 3yrs every weekend and wouldn't show. I felt bad for my niece as it broke her heart everytime. I agree that children need a father, but in this case, my nieces father would have done more damage living with them as a drug addict. I don't see my sister as damaged goods. I see her as a hard working person and loving mom. She has never taken a hand out from the government and also manages to help look after our grandma. Any guy would be lucky to have her. My girlfriend and I have tried to set her up with friends, but she is happy living the way she does.
For all you who are bashing single moms or commenting “ use condoms” etc etc you are nothing more than ungrateful to life. We single moms chose to give life to these kids, we chose to not kill, give up or in some cases throw our children in a dumpster! We decided with it without the dad and the world, that we’d bring these boys up to strong respectful men. Though sometimes life throws us some serious curve balls. While we working hard and late to put food on the table and a roof over their heads and clothing on their bodies, someone else is working hard to shove drugs into our babies hands and try to convince them that their true family is a gang. We must teach our children the word of God never think they are to young to know about drugs, sex, alcohol and gangs. You drill it in day and night no matter if they roll their eyes and you make sure you remind them how much you love them and what they are worth and why they are here. They see what you do, they know what you do because kids are very smart. So if you think dancing and drinking with the girls or having guys in and out of your life is t affecting them, damn sure it is. So you stay strong you show your worthiness, you are their pilot, don’t let that aircraft hit nose first onto ground. What we must do is instill gentleness from day one, but like everything in life, a sprinkle here and there. Tell them they never should fear anyone no matter how small or big they are. Tell them they can always say no if they want, because no is a strong word and silence is the power a weak person has. Yes yes yes put them in sports, piano, shit even ballet let them experience it all. ( you can’t afford it) there’s programs that will help you, have your kids do fundraisers for their stuff, with family, or friends even with your co-workers. Most if not all will support that. You can make and sell popcorn baggies, cookies, or banners for companies during your game. Go to your local park and put up a pop up tent and have sodas, waters and popcorn, chips and ask for donations for your favorite hobby. People always help if it’s for a good cause. You moms have a night in with your school moms, don’t be shy. Have them come over but a pizza or two and dust out the board games and movies, place photo albums out for them to view to get to imagine how your children enjoyed their time before they met each other. Take turns and help babysitting each others kids, help each other don’t bash each other. When you need food, you can get stuff from your local pantry or church. Remember God doesn’t let us die of hunger, look at the birds they don’t have hands, they always have food and water. Why wouldn’t we, we that have hands and feet and so many options. You can buy basics and so so many dishes with it. I always have these staples; rice, beans, peas, tuna, corn, tortillas, eggs, potatoes, tomatoes (canned or fresh) onions, garlic, salt, sugar, lemons, spaghetti, sauce, ketchup, butter, oil, milk, cheese, water, and bread. I make them potato salads, baked potatoes, rice, tacos, quesadillas, enchiladas, French toast, rice pudding, scrambled eggs, etc etc they and you will be fine. Don’t eat out it’s expensive and a waste of money. Do it as a treat once a week only. Have them cook with you so they appreciate the meal and time it takes to make. Have them do chores. Help them with homework and if you don’t know it, ( like my son said “ Sit with me support me just watch me it helps.” ) I thought telling them do your homework, going to conferences, making sure they didn’t miss school and helping them with project, your missing an assignment was enough. NO! They need ya next to them, refresh or learn something along them. You have the time even if you’re dead tired you have the strength and time. Sleep when it’s time to sleep, make use of the time you have with them. Spending time with them and gathering up special memories of a lifetime is a must, because you only have one chance and if you blow it for anyone else it’s never going to give you another chance. Take them to the zoo, beach, park road driving in towns you have not driven around in take silly pictures too. Take them to farms, petting zoos and to the dog pounds. Nourish their brains and heart. My boys are 19 and 14 they still hug me and walk with their arms around me and kiss me in front of people. They love going to get a pedi or mani with me, they even get their hair cut and eyebrows cleaned when I go. They don’t back down on any guy ( I’ve seen it ) but they respect people and they are loved everywhere. They’ve done some mistakes, close calls too, have had me stay up and worry and have made me cry or lose my temper, but we’re not perfect we are humans and anyone who is human must bleak with joy, cry with sadness, fear evil, etc etc because we are humans! Thankfully they are not gang related, or are drinking or using drugs , they are not hitting me, they respect God and know he is mighty. So ladies don’t give up, like I tell my kids every bad thing that happens to us weather it’s we lose our place, don’t have laundry money, gas money, etc etc we will be k because everything happens for a reason there’s always the bad side and good side in life and every bad thing that’s thrown out way is replaced with beautiful blessings afterwards be it in new people we meet, places, experiences and yes even moment in the future we will sigh n laugh about. You can do it don’t give up ladies and men be responsible- be ther for those boys they don’t just need, but they all wish they had a dad next to them.
Why don't you choose to keep your legs closed? Use birth control? Refuse sex until you get a wedding ring and get married? Refuse sex without the use of condoms? Your comment makes it seem like women are getting barebacked by force when we know that is far from the truth. If you choose to lay down unprotected and have a baby by a stranger or weird acting man that do not want you, you have serious issues and should raise your child while leaving that man and his resources alone. Any woman that puts a man on child support is a real piece of shit in my opinion
@@jamloc7578 not only that. She is affecting the child as well by not growing up in a home. The child needs both parents. These women are selfish. They dont think of the children they only care about themselves.
Having and raising children is not the end all and be all of life. There is so much more out there in the world that is way more exciting than raising children. If a man wants to settle down and raise children, fine, but he should not do so if it means he has to give up other things he really wants to do- if they are his kids, that's different, but no man has any obligation to raise kids that don't belong to him.
Need to go to the ROOT of the PROBLEM: SINGLE FATHERS 101: Men- How To Participate in Your Children's Lives to Help Guide Their Futures. (They need a father's participation NOT just a book for the mothers alone.) Many women are tired of trying to be both mother and father. Men are intelligent also: How about Single Parents 101: (Male and Female/Baby Daddy's and Mamma's) WORKING TOGETHER FOR the Sake of THEIR CHILDREN. PLEASE STOP PUTTING HEAVY LOADS ON BLACK SINGLE MOTHERS alone. (Then one wonders why some of them become angry so often. They are tired and stressed out). They didn't make these babies by themselves. Please teach our young men to MAN UP and learn responsibilities which build positive character for their lifetimes.
If women put standards on who they have sex with AND waited until they were married men would have no choice but to act right. If your job paid you regardless of whether you showed up to work what kind of employee would you be?
Sid Jones negative. Men don’t respect women that make them wait. They call it playing games and then blame her for when he cheats on a woman who WILL put out. It’s unwinnable
Yall aint all single parents because you got lied on some of yall were the problem and the older the son gets the more clear it is that many of yall were unfit to be mothers experience, wisdom, all lacking clothes and food arnt enough
I am a 50 yr old mother of 2 men.. I have to learn to be supportive of these men.. I didn't get that support as a child.. but I know that I can do this.. Lord help us..
Some songle moms never learn too. I know some women who has victim mindset but keeps on choosing the wrong guy and ended up having a child with them and leaving them
This is so true, the minute you see yourself as a victim you never realize your internal issues that need to be fixed so that you stop attracting the wrong dudes
Self centered "women" who never think they are wrong. The "men" are guilty of procreating with these same women because they are attracted to their looks or because of easily they give it up. Just shallow relationships overall.
@@thipimotsoare4228 I am a new single mom , i need anyone , who can help me sometimes advice , is not easy sometimes I don't know what to do if baby cry
Some women are single moms by choice, others are widows. many single moms are in my country,are single by choice, when you have two three baby daddies and it dosent last something wrong with the woman not the man.
Lies...am 35 single with 2 sons...the father of my youngest son spend 4 years with me..but disappeared when I told him I was pregnant... how is that my fault???
@Monica58 Buttercups u r right...I played myself....but my eggs will not wait till forty for a decent man....am already 35..there is 75% chances that I will never get married...but I wanted children...
@@Decimation1030 That's harsh. There are many many different reasons, why women end up single parents. What about guys that end up single fathers? Is it all their fault too?
I will be purchasing his book soon because its never to late my son is 5 and I have a 7 year old daughter it's only so much a single parent can do within this lifetime but it's worth it 🙌🏾💕💕
A strong man making a difference. I love to see that and when I do, I always try to encourage those. A lot of times, those who uplift need to be uplifted. They pour out so much, they need to be refilled!
I see a comment on here that says we need to be with men who want to be fathers.... That's ridiculous being a single mom ain't a choice it's a job... We have to do it.. Words are wind a man can say all sorts of shit n we know it
Working single mother of 3 sons 20, 11 and 6 yrs of ages.. Im trying to raised the right, ive been on my spiritual journey bettering my self so that i can do better by my children ... I realised they need my time, sit and talk with them,how was school ?,what did you learn? ,which kids at beside you in class?., 1 hr a evening home work ,sit with them ,learn what they are learning, tell them i love them before bed .. i wake up half hr early before the kids wake, so that i can get up calm and relaxed and not rushed ,because its always drama once the kids have woken...i work night shift ,i am extremely tired in the morning after work,i still have to get home ,get kids ready for school ,two different school drop off ...i found myself taking my fustration out on the kids ,being snappy ,i have rid of that habit I think it really starts with the little things
Judging single parents is not gonna solve raisin kids... WTH.. People in these comments ignorant... Matter of fact why yal here ? Never know a person situation of why there single parents. Probably better than what they was goin threw..
Lets start by addressing the elephant in the chat: Pregnancy CAN be prevented and we forget that! There is protection and if that doesn't work you have plan b, there's spermicide, birth control, etc. This is the problem! If a woman is against abortions knowing what risks come from sex, you should be doing everything in your power to make sure you don't get pregnant. Take proper precautions or stay abstinent! Stop having children because "I don't believe in abortions" or "oh it's my body and you can't tell me what to do with it". This is part of the problem as to why so many children are being raised fatherless and it some occasions parentless. Children should be brought in this world if both parents AGREE that are READY, and are secured in a loving/genuine/communicative relationship. Because at the end of the day, yes it's our bodies that bare children but are we forgetting that we SHARE this kid with someone else!? It's not just YOUR baby. It's a WE concept. And I've been realizing a lot of women who are choosing to keep a baby are based off of they're own( let's be honest) personal/selfish/temporary views and feelings, and really not thinking about the child being brought in the world and how PERMANENT this new life is that you will have to take care of and raise! At some point this conversation has to be had. We women have to start taking responsibility in acknowledging that we are CHOOSING to be a single mother knowing the other parent was NOT ready. Mothers you CAN NOT get mad if the man is inconsistent/not present in the child's life, if yall both DID NOT AGREE to have that commitment. It takes two to tango not one! So if you knew he wasn't MORALLY ready to be RESPONSIBLE and MATURE to raise a child, then it's our fault ladies, I'm sorry. Idc how bad you want a baby, you are setting your child's life up on a 1 sided foundation the moment you choose to keep a child knowing the other parent doesn't agree to it. You have to choose the rational choice for both you and the child. Not just yourself. Women aren't asking real REFLECTIVE life changing questions to themselves, like "Am I making the right choice for my child or just myself?" "Am I making a choice off of temporary feelings?" "How will my choice effect my child later?" "Am i really ready?" "How do I want my child to be raised?" "What foundation do I want our child to be produced from?" Etc.. This is why I can't always blame the man. If a woman is mentally, physically, financially, emotionally, spiritually ready to bring new life into this world on her own terms, but isn't solidified in a secured relationship, there's always the choice to go to a sperm bank and not deal with the stressful baby daddy drama/co parenting/child support issues! There are choices ladies! That way it's on the mothers own accord because she knows what the pros and cons are and willing to accept that choice. Because I get it as a woman(Nursery school teacher), we all have our bio clocks ticking and baby fever and want to have someone to call our own who we know will love us always. But there's a safe, unselfish, and rational way to do that.
Hope you never have a kid with someone you really love and feel secure the person leaves you with kid start making your life worse and you have no chance to terminate the pregnancy, you’re right but you’re acting like men when you’re a woman there’s different reasons.
@@ednaabilio1334 you clearly didn't read everything I said....I put " this is PART of the problem" I didn't put sole blame on one side. Both parties are responsible, but I wanted to point out the other side that women don't like to own up to and admit. Women at the end of the day hold power in if a baby is brought in this world, and I don't think its fair. Yes I am a woman, and it is my body, but I didn't make it alone. So the father should have a right to choose as well. I will only carry that child for 9 months. Once its out, I would need the help of the dad
I am trying to block my son's father out his life for good. But I'm not bitter. I have been very accommodating, even asking him to take him for weekends. But he's not stepping up and being very inconsistent. Does not help financially and keeps standing up our son. At this point I feel it's better if he just stays away. I have legal custody and he has always had liberal visitation. I'm just tired of comforting my son who feels like I'm keeping him away from his dad.
Most Man that make comment such as this are the worse type of man period, irresponsible, careless, never taking a accountability for thier actions...slaves to their flesh and wolves behind the mask... clearly a bad role model for the Child. Spend alot of time stealing souls, lying, deceiving and destroying lives...taking everything lightly, I mean completing destroying and altering the course of where life was suppose to go.and you only get one, some figure most spend it till the end still lost and confused. And a "I'm sorry is suppose to do." " bitter you say" .... it's about all of the demons she has consumed, the person she had becomes due to the lack of love, trust and honesty. Woman are internal creatures, we give, nurture and create life.. but when your pouring into the wrong person, lost your self, then when it's time to step back out there in the world you dont feel worthy, you've lost your identity and it's this constant up hill battle of your self vs your self, retraining the mind to be something different. I feel like I've lost apart of me I'm spending alot of time trying to put me back together while raising a child. I get so tired of waking and having to literally FIGHT WIH MYSELF AS IF THERE MULTIPLE WITH IN ME.. one is telling you useless, Pathetic... while the other it's trying to combat it. I mean my child's Father Dogged me, abused me mentally, physically and emotionally. I asked god to bring me a Good God fearing Man into my life after all of that and he did but after the damage was done, I was so damaged, he was so perfect but I felt like I wasn't worthy of him. Or anything good because of how I was treating. Your trying to rebuild yourself while trying to raise and be a role model for this innocent, pure little being. When you brake a leg you dont just slap a bandage on it and keep it moving it's the same thing with your insides. It takes a second to kill someone But 9 months to create a child think about that. 1 seconds to make a wrong move but the process of creating, investing in what ever it's that you are doing.. it's a process and it the same thing with healing. But the healing is much slower when you have another being to take care of. When you have a child that is what you are suppose to be focusing. NOT REBUILDING YOURSELF BACK ALL OVER AGAIN. I just hope God can repair me again.
Oh and I Never banded my child from seeing mines either. Most woman arnt being vengeful thet are trying to find themselves again, most people can get away from a toxic, manipulative, Ex partner it's whole another thing when you have a child with them, and you are the one that had to carry the child. Let it alone be life sentence to a generational curse, which affects the child unless you get lucky and find the right man at actually wants a woman with a child that already has a kid. Lol while yall get up and move that shit along like it nothing. And you either continue to keep making the same mistakes or better find another woman and she gets the better you, the man you help raised. I mean that's insane to me. But see I was raised old school, this new generation of Men and Woman are something else, woman are doing the same thing men doing now thinking with thier pussies. A very selfish, self serving, me me, what an I get vs what I can give generation.
I'm just now seeing this and these comments are sad.. most people on these comments seem like they are offended this is not about taking the father out of the home this is about unfortunate situations happening to people where they become a single mother... yes boys do need a father but when it's not an option this is a handy book I never read it but I sure am going to buy it.... keep the positive love.... 😍😍🤩👏👏🙌🤩😍😍
props to the single mothers who are able to see that they need help understanding how to raise men, and take the action to help there kid succeed in life
@@FF-fd4tm adjust your lens, in the most profound way. Your not eager to learn so you don't absorb the value, or it hurts too much you become lost in delusion. Stay well. Go touch some grass
Single mother can’t understand what it takes to be a man so how can you expect too. Some can sure but look at these punks nowadays be real. Plus some baby mamas are evil so men stay away. It’s hard. Father’s teach their sons how to fight when not to. All that bigger picture people
I can't stand seeing "happy fathers day to all the single mothers" like... no. Maybe you're an amazing Mother but you CAN'T be a father no matter how hard you try. I know a single Mom, in my life, that puts such quotes on fb every year but what she doesn't realize is that she has raised useless sons. I know she means well but the problem is, I think she overcompensates to make up for the fact that their father abandoned them. All she did was create 200lb babies. Sad really. 😓
After my husband took off with the side chick I was left to raise our two beautiful boys alone. At least I got the house in the divorce. Being a single mom is so rewarding. I know my sons will always love their mummy and they let me know that everyday.
@@janedeane3656 it’s k . I have been for years now. And to be honest I don’t 👩🏫 it. Friends only due to the fact I have one ☝️ kid for him. Men before and the ones today. They 🥵 Mess.😂😂😂
I read these comments and I really feel sorry for you judge mental people that think y’all so smart and think that y’all so right I just want to see some of the stuff that y’all bash people about that u don’t even know there situation happen to you all and then I bet y’all would shut your mouths and never open them the lord judge us all ..in if that’s the case who without sin cast the first stone John 8:7 you can’t please worldly people & I would never try ..you all gonna have to answer to God for your wicked &rude behavior I pray that God have mercy on all of your souls I pray that y’all get hosea 4:6 &before you go in to bash my comments because I’m speaking like a child of Christ .i say to you touch not my anointing &do my prophets no harm psalm 105:15 be blessed to the strong ones only u will survive 🙏🏾✝️💜
We single Latino mother's need help for our young Latino boys as well. Why can't there be a group like that in Houston, Texas? That would be a blessing!
Exactly but um a single mother it's not are fault that we are single mothers the father left are. family to be out there and mess with Tom. Dick and harry
@SunTai These F boys are out here impregnating women under the guise of “I’m in fertile”, “We’re engaged”, all kinds of BS. Then when the child gets here. That F boy decides “I can’t handle being a parent”. Once he decides that, it’s a deadly situation for the mother. He could harm her and her child in various ways to avoid being held responsible himself.
@SunTai So you know future drug addicts, gamblers, mass shooters before they have that mental break to even do such things? It’s not normal to start a family and then walk away from it. It’s not normal to start a family and then decide to murder the spouse and children. That stuff is mental health stuff.
@SunTai the same amount that marry and have solid successful families. You’d be surprised the kinds of men and women that started off shiftless and then changed over for their family.
Process is: 1. Someone disrepectz single moms. 2. Someone gives anecdote about 1 great single mom. 3. Everyone claps (some half heartedly). Uncomfortable fact is, single moms are the greatest root cause problem to our entire society. (750k) lifetime impact to budget per. Stop clapping, start shaming.
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I believe God put me right at this video to listen to it , I recieve the wisdom that will be spoken on this video as a single mother I am strong and I will do what it takes to progress for my children ..
Ok so ....what if the " Father " ain't about shit to do with fatherhood 🤷🏽♀️. Then what? Wouldn't it be scary to push your child off on a man that doesn't want him?
Sad to think this is all about "after the fact" treatments for the problem. The real cure for boys who want to become men is their Father. Women. God gave you the ability to create life. DO NOT give it up so easily and freely.
Women are the gatekeepers to sex...period. Choosing a partner should be a bit more than, "Oh, look at that bling, he is tall, and he drives (insert expensive car here). It all falls down to a simple case of Hypergamy. The woman chases after the top 10% (apparent) of men. The problem is...all the women are throwing themselves at the 10%. Those men do not and will not have to choose. Nor do they want to ever settle with a single woman, especially when the buffet table runs to them.
@@bowmaredebrouchee4753 the thing is instead of blaming woman how about owning up to everything a man has sex and gets many woman pregnant and don’t take care of their children nothing is ever said of it woman fall in love and choose the wrong man cause in my situation the only man I gave myself too I was with him 7 years the moment we had a kid he was out yet he always said he wanted kids and responsibilities etc men need to own up and be honest with what they want quit lying to woman and quit disrespecting us cause a woman gives her love and everything and a man throws it and stomps on it which is y woman now don’t care abt love and just care abt money thankfully I’m not their yet I still believe in love
@@MrsMillion I wish you all the luck in the world. Nature has provided granite proof of Hypergamy. No two situations are alike, but the statistics bear out. I am not blaming women..you gals cannot help yourself. That is why modern societies set up laws and moral codes. These two items have been discarded, so now women are feeling the results.
Anyone, please I want honesty. I feel in love with a 26 woman with an 8 year old Son. I'm not perfect and have my own personal baggage so I can tolerate to some degree being a influence for the innocent kid. However, the issue that REALLY bothers me is his father is all the way in Quatamala. It would be different if he was present and providing at least 50% for HIS son. I would be lying if I said it's ok when it's absolutely not ok for me. I'm stuck. What should I do how do I approach this? Thank to any and all for productive honest advice. Thanks.
First off Charles i really applaud you for your honesty. If you love that women,you have to love her child. Not saying you dislike the child,but that's a bad feeling for a child to feel that they're just being tolerated. If you guys are in this for the long run, she gonna want you to play a huge role in her childs life,especially if his dad is far away. If that's something you can't deal with,that perfectly fine Charles. You have that right,but you can't be with her. Hope everything works out
Mom's can do it by themselves cause God made them for it, the problem is "the man" has stolen oir birthright they only know what they know because of a women until "The Man" made the laws and rules that changes the words that we "moms" gave them, I know because I've been changed changed too but god saved me... so that I could save my children two boys and two girls.
It's eye opening today seeing so many single parent houses !! I don't have the fix but stop bringing more lives into poverty that's not fair!!! And then the comments 🙆 if your with a man more than a year and he doesn't bring up marriage that egg on your face 7 years 7 times the egg!! Don't get pregnant after all that that won't fix it or help your situation!!! Ladies all you have to do is ask and I'll keep it 💯 with you!!! You already know these answers but if you need your feelings stepped on please inquire!!! Y'all don't need to be told these things.....An no not 1 female can raise a boy into a man!!!Sorry!!!!
I wonder if there's a book called Womanhood 101 because God knows some of these women out there need it, then they wouldn't be making babies out of wedlock. I do commend this man to try and lead those young men who's fathers walked out.🙏💙
Has anyone been able to locate the book? I tried the website mentioned and it’s not legit. Tried Amazon and Barnes and Nobles and no luck. I’m a single mother of 4 boys, age range 6 to 20 and can really use a good book to guide me through raising boys to men. Any other book suggestions if I can’t get hold of Frank’s?
Hey Is Very Handsome Man. An Would Love To Read His Book About Young Men. I had A Business With Young Girl’s And Young Men. My Business is DIVA GIRL’s And Those Girls Need To Read That Book. But I’m Going Reading First.
Who decided that pink is for females and blue for males? All colours are for all peoples. The style of the clothing specifically designed and accepted for males and styles for male is the reference.
THE FATHERS NEED TO DO THEIR DUTY, IF THEY WALK OUT THEY DON'T DESERVE TO LIVE! JESUS TOLD THE HUSBANDS TO "LOVE YOUR WIVES AS I LOVED THE CHURCH" THE HUSBANDS ARE SUPPOSED TO SACRIFICE ALL THEIR SINS, LUSTS AND GIVE THEIR ALL TO THEIR WIVES THIS IS NOT GOOD ENOUGH SINGLE MOTHERS! THIS IS NOT GODS PLAN FOR WOMEN TO BE SINGLE MOTHERS!
word! Single mom harlets! You had a chance to raise a family but Tyrone and Chad .. you couldnt help yourself. Al;ways the Dads fault but not your own. These fools are simps. Eve ate the forbidden fruit but we dont have to remember that! 2021 w00t. Stronk and independant Whamen!
Lol how about teaching Women to communicate and coparent he was raised by a single black woman like most of us and he still teaching black women how to be a strong and single it’s just a revolving door
How can Steve talk about what a woman should do,when he have a habit of not doing it myself. Wake up women and stop listening to men who have been married multiple times. They filling your head up with bullshit and leaving bitter and mad.
I'm a single mom and I hate it . But a lot of these single mom talks I can't relate to. I feel like I'm in a subgroup no one pays attention to . I'm a homeowner , make 6 figures and both my kids dads are in their lives. My son goes to the barbershop often and "works" with his dad. Like where is the conversation for single moms like me
It puzzles me, how the single moms life is tough? wasn't reproduction your choice? Weren't Birth control, abortion/adoption options? U could've chose any other life instead of producing life. Smh
Raising a child on our own is tough. Birth control isn’t always safe or 💯 effective. Everyone doesn’t agree with abortions or adoption and some of us believed the father would be there. Why not ask your guys why they’re so quick to leave the mom ?!
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Video hasn’t even fully came on and I’m tearing up. I’m a 21 year old single mom with two girls and this shit is really hard. On top of that trying to be a human, be a happy mom, and have a separate life and continue on with the pain of not being with their dad. It’s a lot. To all my other single moms, just know it’ll be better and easier one day… Love y’all. ❤️🩹
Thank you Queen! We love you too. 😘
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How are you 21 years old, with two kids, and no father in sight? Stop fxcking so much..Jesus.
Thank you 🙏🏽❤️ I have 2 girls 22 and 9 and they are the most respectful young girls. I’ve never had a problem out of either and they’ve never been disrespectful to me or anything and my home is so peaceful. People that do come to my house which isn’t many because I’m very careful of that tell me how peaceful my home is so the negative comments mean nothing to me because being a single parent isn’t easy but it’s so rewarding. They teach me so much ❤️
Its better to go back to their father and continue with ur life
Yes,. I'm a single mom and he is right. Single moms must expose their sons to positive activities where they can socialize with responsible men too. There are things boys go through and questions they have that only a man can understand and answer because they can relate.
Your comment enforces the reason why people should have kids in marriage. Why provide a mentor? Provide a dad
@@home4life505 sometimes you can't. Do you just not provide a positive male role model in the meantime or not at all before you find a suitable husband?
Your son needs to forgive you. Until then he can’t be a man. Rev. Jessie Lee Peterson.
Single moms must not spread legs giving birth to dead beats kids I agree
@@home4life505 it takes a village to raise one child. We need mentors too.
Shout out to the single Mothers that are able to raise their son's. Many Mother abort or give their child up for adoption, system, or another person because they do not have the help or support after the father leave or die. Being a single Mother is difficult, so if you have custody of your son and doing YOUR BEST to raise them to be productive citizens of society!! Pat yourself on the back....I salute you!!!
@@ninabee4899 clown. Lol. You and your "new guy" ain't shyt. And your dumb butt believes him enough to repeat that foolishness. 😂😂😂😂
After he does whatever and gets whatever from your trash behind you will be looking for another "new guy." You are just another baby making parasite. You are common and basic. Both literally and figuratively. 😂
Most retarded shit I've heard in my life. Yea let's congratulate a huge fucking mistake
It's not happening no single mother is doing anything without a cheque
Message to single moms close legs n stop giving birth to dead beats kids
Thank you!
It's not just a black thing, in some races/ cultures women are taught to stay and turn a blind eye to bad signs in a man who they have children with and/ or are married to.
Turn a blind eye before they have kids?
THOSE WOMEN DO NOT GET TO CHOOSE WHO THEY LET BETWEEN THEIR LEGS AND MARYY
I am not a single mother but boy i need this raising boys is not easy even with a good husband
this is so true. being a single mother is tough, and i never chose this path. sometimes the mistakes that we end up having to deal with makes us stronger. i want a better husband for my son, and my son biological father just isn't what i thought he was
But you did choose this path and what you want from another man isn't gonna happen. Men don't want to raise another man's sperm ESPECIALLLY if he is still alive and comes to visit the kids in the relationship. Women need to understand that.
@Sjsj Sjdjsj Just curious, do you think a woman should raise kids that aren't hers as well?
@@spideranansi929 No. Unless you want to adopt
Your a mother to a boy learn to take accountability. You chose this path, no child is born without a woman’s say. 20 contraceptives, day after pill, abortion. You made that choice, your body your right ?
@@andrew2393 YES!
A lot of comments on here bashing single moms. My sister is a single mom to one child. She was in a serious relationship, engaged to him. They were together for 3 yrs. Both worked hard, she worked up to 1 week before delivering the baby, doing 12 hr shifts. Only to find out that her man had been hiding a drug problem the whole time. Now, my sister was quite sheltered and naive and figured his mood swings were due to his job, her long hours away from home. Some of us wondered, but didn't say anything cause we didn't know for sure. To shorten the story a bit, she ended up leaving him with baby in tow. He doesn't see his daughter because all his money and focus is on drugs. My sister did try to help him and waited 2 yrs for him as she really loved him. She always welcomed him to visit their child as long as he wasn't high when he came over. He promised that poor kid for 3yrs every weekend and wouldn't show. I felt bad for my niece as it broke her heart everytime. I agree that children need a father, but in this case, my nieces father would have done more damage living with them as a drug addict. I don't see my sister as damaged goods. I see her as a hard working person and loving mom. She has never taken a hand out from the government and also manages to help look after our grandma. Any guy would be lucky to have her. My girlfriend and I have tried to set her up with friends, but she is happy living the way she does.
Such problems are unsolvable... good she left.
Single moms are a disaster and neither situation is preferable. Your anecdote is an exception to the rule.
😭struggles with my teenagers led me here! Prayers for all the single parents and all the kids that think they know… and have no idea 🙏🏽
For all you who are bashing single moms or commenting “ use condoms” etc etc you are nothing more than ungrateful to life. We single moms chose to give life to these kids, we chose to not kill, give up or in some cases throw our children in a dumpster! We decided with it without the dad and the world, that we’d bring these boys up to strong respectful men. Though sometimes life throws us some serious curve balls. While we working hard and late to put food on the table and a roof over their heads and clothing on their bodies, someone else is working hard to shove drugs into our babies hands and try to convince them that their true family is a gang. We must teach our children the word of God never think they are to young to know about drugs, sex, alcohol and gangs. You drill it in day and night no matter if they roll their eyes and you make sure you remind them how much you love them and what they are worth and why they are here. They see what you do, they know what you do because kids are very smart. So if you think dancing and drinking with the girls or having guys in and out of your life is t affecting them, damn sure it is. So you stay strong you show your worthiness, you are their pilot, don’t let that aircraft hit nose first onto ground. What we must do is instill gentleness from day one, but like everything in life, a sprinkle here and there. Tell them they never should fear anyone no matter how small or big they are. Tell them they can always say no if they want, because no is a strong word and silence is the power a weak person has. Yes yes yes put them in sports, piano, shit even ballet let them experience it all. ( you can’t afford it) there’s programs that will help you, have your kids do fundraisers for their stuff, with family, or friends even with your co-workers. Most if not all will support that. You can make and sell popcorn baggies, cookies, or banners for companies during your game. Go to your local park and put up a pop up tent and have sodas, waters and popcorn, chips and ask for donations for your favorite hobby. People always help if it’s for a good cause. You moms have a night in with your school moms, don’t be shy. Have them come over but a pizza or two and dust out the board games and movies, place photo albums out for them to view to get to imagine how your children enjoyed their time before they met each other. Take turns and help babysitting each others kids, help each other don’t bash each other. When you need food, you can get stuff from your local pantry or church. Remember God doesn’t let us die of hunger, look at the birds they don’t have hands, they always have food and water. Why wouldn’t we, we that have hands and feet and so many options. You can buy basics and so so many dishes with it. I always have these staples; rice, beans, peas, tuna, corn, tortillas, eggs, potatoes, tomatoes (canned or fresh) onions, garlic, salt, sugar, lemons, spaghetti, sauce, ketchup, butter, oil, milk, cheese, water, and bread. I make them potato salads, baked potatoes, rice, tacos, quesadillas, enchiladas, French toast, rice pudding, scrambled eggs, etc etc they and you will be fine. Don’t eat out it’s expensive and a waste of money. Do it as a treat once a week only. Have them cook with you so they appreciate the meal and time it takes to make. Have them do chores. Help them with homework and if you don’t know it, ( like my son said “ Sit with me support me just watch me it helps.” ) I thought telling them do your homework, going to conferences, making sure they didn’t miss school and helping them with project, your missing an assignment was enough. NO! They need ya next to them, refresh or learn something along them. You have the time even if you’re dead tired you have the strength and time. Sleep when it’s time to sleep, make use of the time you have with them. Spending time with them and gathering up special memories of a lifetime is a must, because you only have one chance and if you blow it for anyone else it’s never going to give you another chance. Take them to the zoo, beach, park road driving in towns you have not driven around in take silly pictures too. Take them to farms, petting zoos and to the dog pounds. Nourish their brains and heart. My boys are 19 and 14 they still hug me and walk with their arms around me and kiss me in front of people. They love going to get a pedi or mani with me, they even get their hair cut and eyebrows cleaned when I go. They don’t back down on any guy ( I’ve seen it ) but they respect people and they are loved everywhere. They’ve done some mistakes, close calls too, have had me stay up and worry and have made me cry or lose my temper, but we’re not perfect we are humans and anyone who is human must bleak with joy, cry with sadness, fear evil, etc etc because we are humans! Thankfully they are not gang related, or are drinking or using drugs , they are not hitting me, they respect God and know he is mighty. So ladies don’t give up, like I tell my kids every bad thing that happens to us weather it’s we lose our place, don’t have laundry money, gas money, etc etc we will be k because everything happens for a reason there’s always the bad side and good side in life and every bad thing that’s thrown out way is replaced with beautiful blessings afterwards be it in new people we meet, places, experiences and yes even moment in the future we will sigh n laugh about. You can do it don’t give up ladies and men be responsible- be ther for those boys they don’t just need, but they all wish they had a dad next to them.
Hot Chilips you act like men don’t work you clown
Why don't you choose to keep your legs closed? Use birth control? Refuse sex until you get a wedding ring and get married? Refuse sex without the use of condoms? Your comment makes it seem like women are getting barebacked by force when we know that is far from the truth. If you choose to lay down unprotected and have a baby by a stranger or weird acting man that do not want you, you have serious issues and should raise your child while leaving that man and his resources alone. Any woman that puts a man on child support is a real piece of shit in my opinion
@@jamloc7578 not only that. She is affecting the child as well by not growing up in a home. The child needs both parents. These women are selfish. They dont think of the children they only care about themselves.
TL:DR.
Having and raising children is not the end all and be all of life. There is so much more out there in the world that is way more exciting than raising children. If a man wants to settle down and raise children, fine, but he should not do so if it means he has to give up other things he really wants to do- if they are his kids, that's different, but no man has any obligation to raise kids that don't belong to him.
Need to go to the ROOT of the PROBLEM:
SINGLE FATHERS 101: Men- How To Participate in Your Children's Lives to Help Guide Their Futures. (They need a father's participation NOT just a book for the mothers alone.) Many women are tired of trying to be both mother and father.
Men are intelligent also:
How about Single Parents 101: (Male and Female/Baby Daddy's and Mamma's) WORKING TOGETHER FOR the Sake of THEIR CHILDREN.
PLEASE STOP PUTTING HEAVY LOADS ON BLACK SINGLE MOTHERS alone. (Then one wonders why some of them become angry so often. They are tired and stressed out). They didn't make these babies by themselves.
Please teach our young men to MAN UP and learn responsibilities which build positive character for their lifetimes.
Cee Gabe 🙌🏾
If women put standards on who they have sex with AND waited until they were married men would have no choice but to act right.
If your job paid you regardless of whether you showed up to work what kind of employee would you be?
Sid Jones negative. Men don’t respect women that make them wait. They call it playing games and then blame her for when he cheats on a woman who WILL put out. It’s unwinnable
marla79 A man who loves God will wait...can you see that guy? They're out there.
Erfbgu 2 hate to burst your bubble but most men in church are waiting on sex with other men or hoe hoping.
Comments here are toxic. Everybody who is not a single parent and who never got lied and manipulated by somebody doesn't have a right to judge.
Don't play the victim, you're on the internet here, the politically correct censorship has less power, it mean like it or not you will face the truth.
Amen
@@auriel8300 hush
Yall aint all single parents because you got lied on some of yall were the problem and the older the son gets the more clear it is that many of yall were unfit to be mothers experience, wisdom, all lacking clothes and food arnt enough
Single parents need to leave dating alone, simple.
I am a 50 yr old mother of 2 men.. I have to learn to be supportive of these men.. I didn't get that support as a child.. but I know that I can do this.. Lord help us..
This this this I didn't get it at all.
Some songle moms never learn too. I know some women who has victim mindset but keeps on choosing the wrong guy and ended up having a child with them and leaving them
This is so true, the minute you see yourself as a victim you never realize your internal issues that need to be fixed so that you stop attracting the wrong dudes
Self centered "women" who never think they are wrong. The "men" are guilty of procreating with these same women because they are attracted to their looks or because of easily they give it up. Just shallow relationships overall.
@@LambertBowden56 Im a single mom. I promised myself not to be a burden to anyone.
I am a new single mom , i need anyone , who can help me sometimes advice , is not easy sometimes I don't know what to do if baby cry
@@thipimotsoare4228 I am a new single mom , i need anyone , who can help me sometimes advice , is not easy sometimes I don't know what to do if baby cry
Some women are single moms by choice, others are widows. many single moms are in my country,are single by choice, when you have two three baby daddies and it dosent last something wrong with the woman not the man.
Women who are single mothers by choice are a testament to their stupidity and selfishness.
Lies...am 35 single with 2 sons...the father of my youngest son spend 4 years with me..but disappeared when I told him I was pregnant... how is that my fault???
@Monica58 Buttercups u r right...I played myself....but my eggs will not wait till forty for a decent man....am already 35..there is 75% chances that I will never get married...but I wanted children...
@@Decimation1030 That's harsh. There are many many different reasons, why women end up single parents. What about guys that end up single fathers? Is it all their fault too?
@@spideranansi929 I've never met a man that became a single father by choice.
I will be purchasing his book soon because its never to late my son is 5 and I have a 7 year old daughter it's only so much a single parent can do within this lifetime but it's worth it 🙌🏾💕💕
A strong man making a difference. I love to see that and when I do, I always try to encourage those. A lot of times, those who uplift need to be uplifted. They pour out so much, they need to be refilled!
Hello beautiful
That’s nice
I see a comment on here that says we need to be with men who want to be fathers.... That's ridiculous being a single mom ain't a choice it's a job... We have to do it..
Words are wind a man can say all sorts of shit n we know it
How come this doesn't happen to african women
Working single mother of 3 sons 20, 11 and 6 yrs of ages..
Im trying to raised the right, ive been on my spiritual journey bettering my self so that i can do better by my children ...
I realised they need my time, sit and talk with them,how was school ?,what did you learn? ,which kids at beside you in class?., 1 hr a evening home work ,sit with them ,learn what they are learning, tell them i love them before bed .. i wake up half hr early before the kids wake, so that i can get up calm and relaxed and not rushed ,because its always drama once the kids have woken...i work night shift ,i am extremely tired in the morning after work,i still have to get home ,get kids ready for school ,two different school drop off ...i found myself taking my fustration out on the kids ,being snappy ,i have rid of that habit
I think it really starts with the little things
Judging single parents is not gonna solve raisin kids... WTH.. People in these comments ignorant... Matter of fact why yal here ? Never know a person situation of why there single parents. Probably better than what they was goin threw..
Kids from a single mom are a lost cause, let’s be real
@@sketchpadangel Lol bless your heart
Agreed👍
@@sketchpadangel Kids from single parent homes become some of the most successful people be careful what you comment and write Karma is real
Putting boys in sports is one of the best things any parent can do for their child!
Lets start by addressing the elephant in the chat: Pregnancy CAN be prevented and we forget that! There is protection and if that doesn't work you have plan b, there's spermicide, birth control, etc. This is the problem! If a woman is against abortions knowing what risks come from sex, you should be doing everything in your power to make sure you don't get pregnant. Take proper precautions or stay abstinent! Stop having children because "I don't believe in abortions" or "oh it's my body and you can't tell me what to do with it". This is part of the problem as to why so many children are being raised fatherless and it some occasions parentless. Children should be brought in this world if both parents AGREE that are READY, and are secured in a loving/genuine/communicative relationship. Because at the end of the day, yes it's our bodies that bare children but are we forgetting that we SHARE this kid with someone else!? It's not just YOUR baby. It's a WE concept. And I've been realizing a lot of women who are choosing to keep a baby are based off of they're own( let's be honest) personal/selfish/temporary views and feelings, and really not thinking about the child being brought in the world and how PERMANENT this new life is that you will have to take care of and raise! At some point this conversation has to be had. We women have to start taking responsibility in acknowledging that we are CHOOSING to be a single mother knowing the other parent was NOT ready. Mothers you CAN NOT get mad if the man is inconsistent/not present in the child's life, if yall both DID NOT AGREE to have that commitment. It takes two to tango not one! So if you knew he wasn't MORALLY ready to be RESPONSIBLE and MATURE to raise a child, then it's our fault ladies, I'm sorry. Idc how bad you want a baby, you are setting your child's life up on a 1 sided foundation the moment you choose to keep a child knowing the other parent doesn't agree to it. You have to choose the rational choice for both you and the child. Not just yourself. Women aren't asking real REFLECTIVE life changing questions to themselves, like "Am I making the right choice for my child or just myself?" "Am I making a choice off of temporary feelings?" "How will my choice effect my child later?" "Am i really ready?" "How do I want my child to be raised?" "What foundation do I want our child to be produced from?" Etc.. This is why I can't always blame the man. If a woman is mentally, physically, financially, emotionally, spiritually ready to bring new life into this world on her own terms, but isn't solidified in a secured relationship, there's always the choice to go to a sperm bank and not deal with the stressful baby daddy drama/co parenting/child support issues! There are choices ladies! That way it's on the mothers own accord because she knows what the pros and cons are and willing to accept that choice. Because I get it as a woman(Nursery school teacher), we all have our bio clocks ticking and baby fever and want to have someone to call our own who we know will love us always. But there's a safe, unselfish, and rational way to do that.
Hope you never have a kid with someone you really love and feel secure the person leaves you with kid start making your life worse and you have no chance to terminate the pregnancy, you’re right but you’re acting like men when you’re a woman there’s different reasons.
Honestly i agree.
Thank you. Sadly we are not ready to have this conversation. It’s easier to shout reeee and blame everyone else
@@ednaabilio1334 you’re not ready to have a logical conversation. You run on feelings. That my friend is the problem
@@ednaabilio1334 you clearly didn't read everything I said....I put " this is PART of the problem" I didn't put sole blame on one side. Both parties are responsible, but I wanted to point out the other side that women don't like to own up to and admit. Women at the end of the day hold power in if a baby is brought in this world, and I don't think its fair. Yes I am a woman, and it is my body, but I didn't make it alone. So the father should have a right to choose as well. I will only carry that child for 9 months. Once its out, I would need the help of the dad
Let’s talk a bit of men being barred from seeing their kids because vengeful exes wanting to get back at him
Facts 👍🏽
...or the ones that divorce their husbands thinking they can do better.
I am trying to block my son's father out his life for good. But I'm not bitter. I have been very accommodating, even asking him to take him for weekends. But he's not stepping up and being very inconsistent. Does not help financially and keeps standing up our son. At this point I feel it's better if he just stays away. I have legal custody and he has always had liberal visitation. I'm just tired of comforting my son who feels like I'm keeping him away from his dad.
Most Man that make comment such as this are the worse type of man period, irresponsible, careless, never taking a accountability for thier actions...slaves to their flesh and wolves behind the mask... clearly a bad role model for the Child.
Spend alot of time stealing souls, lying, deceiving and destroying lives...taking everything lightly,
I mean completing destroying and altering the course of where life was suppose to go.and you only get one, some figure most spend it till the end still lost and confused.
And a "I'm sorry is suppose to do."
" bitter you say" .... it's about all of the demons she has consumed, the person she had becomes due to the lack of love, trust and honesty.
Woman are internal creatures, we give, nurture and create life.. but when your pouring into the wrong person, lost your self, then when it's time to step back out there in the world you dont feel worthy, you've lost your identity and it's this constant up hill battle of your self vs your self, retraining the mind to be something different.
I feel like I've lost apart of me I'm spending alot of time trying to put me back together while raising a child. I get so tired of waking and having to literally FIGHT WIH MYSELF AS IF THERE MULTIPLE WITH IN ME.. one is telling you useless, Pathetic... while the other it's trying to combat it. I mean my child's Father Dogged me, abused me mentally, physically and emotionally.
I asked god to bring me a Good God fearing Man into my life after all of that and he did but after the damage was done, I was so damaged, he was so perfect but I felt like I wasn't worthy of him.
Or anything good because of how I was treating.
Your trying to rebuild yourself while trying to raise and be a role model for this innocent, pure little being.
When you brake a leg you dont just slap a bandage on it and keep it moving it's the same thing with your insides.
It takes a second to kill someone
But 9 months to create a child think about that. 1 seconds to make a wrong move but the process of creating, investing in what ever it's that you are doing.. it's a process and it the same thing with healing.
But the healing is much slower when you have another being to take care of.
When you have a child that is what you are suppose to be focusing. NOT REBUILDING YOURSELF BACK ALL OVER AGAIN.
I just hope God can repair me again.
Oh and I Never banded my child from seeing mines either. Most woman arnt being vengeful thet are trying to find themselves again, most people can get away from a toxic, manipulative, Ex partner it's whole another thing when you have a child with them, and you are the one that had to carry the child. Let it alone be life sentence to a generational curse, which affects the child unless you get lucky and find the right man at actually wants a woman with a child that already has a kid. Lol while yall get up and move that shit along like it nothing.
And you either continue to keep making the same mistakes or better find another woman and she gets the better you, the man you help raised.
I mean that's insane to me.
But see I was raised old school, this new generation of Men and Woman are something else, woman are doing the same thing men doing now thinking with thier pussies. A very selfish, self serving, me me, what an I get vs what I can give generation.
This man is doing great cause even with both parents in the home the kids or boy is still lacking...KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK MAN🤩🤩🤩🙌👏👏
I'm just now seeing this and these comments are sad.. most people on these comments seem like they are offended this is not about taking the father out of the home this is about unfortunate situations happening to people where they become a single mother... yes boys do need a father but when it's not an option this is a handy book I never read it but I sure am going to buy it.... keep the positive love.... 😍😍🤩👏👏🙌🤩😍😍
All you moms gotta stop putting the fathers out of their kids lives!!
props to the single mothers who are able to see that they need help understanding how to raise men, and take the action to help there kid succeed in life
I am a new single mom , i need anyone , who can help me sometimes advice , is not easy sometimes I don't know what to do if baby cry
@@martigladi2696 i recommend you watch kevin samules , hope that helps ,god bless
@@lunaticg2003 how is Kevin Samuels going to help?? All he gonna do is make her feel like crap. He mainly works for young women with no children.
@@FF-fd4tm adjust your lens, in the most profound way. Your not eager to learn so you don't absorb the value, or it hurts too much you become lost in delusion. Stay well. Go touch some grass
@@lunaticg2003 I love to watch Kevin Samuels dude. What u talking about?
A man marries a woman hoping she won’t change , and A woman marries a man hoping he will change, and eventually it comes to a head ...✅
I am a new single mom , i need anyone , who can help me sometimes advice , is not easy sometimes I don't know what to do if baby cry
Single mother can’t understand what it takes to be a man so how can you expect too. Some can sure but look at these punks nowadays be real.
Plus some baby mamas are evil so men stay away. It’s hard. Father’s teach their sons how to fight when not to. All that bigger picture people
I can't stand seeing "happy fathers day to all the single mothers" like... no. Maybe you're an amazing Mother but you CAN'T be a father no matter how hard you try. I know a single Mom, in my life, that puts such quotes on fb every year but what she doesn't realize is that she has raised useless sons. I know she means well but the problem is, I think she overcompensates to make up for the fact that their father abandoned them. All she did was create 200lb babies. Sad really. 😓
After my husband took off with the side chick I was left to raise our two beautiful boys alone. At least I got the house in the divorce. Being a single mom is so rewarding. I know my sons will always love their mummy and they let me know that everyday.
😂😂😂😂😂 Serious but funny
@@rosemaryoneale6694 😡
@@janedeane3656 don’t be sad..🥰
@@rosemaryoneale6694 u r right I am over my ex.
@@janedeane3656 it’s k . I have been for years now. And to be honest I don’t 👩🏫 it. Friends only due to the fact I have one ☝️ kid for him. Men before and the ones today. They 🥵 Mess.😂😂😂
I read these comments and I really feel sorry for you judge mental people that think y’all so smart and think that y’all so right I just want to see some of the stuff that y’all bash people about that u don’t even know there situation happen to you all and then I bet y’all would shut your mouths and never open them the lord judge us all ..in if that’s the case who without sin cast the first stone John 8:7 you can’t please worldly people & I would never try ..you all gonna have to answer to God for your wicked &rude behavior I pray that God have mercy on all of your souls I pray that y’all get hosea 4:6 &before you go in to bash my comments because I’m speaking like a child of Christ .i say to you touch not my anointing &do my prophets no harm psalm 105:15 be blessed to the strong ones only u will survive 🙏🏾✝️💜
Take the red pill
We single Latino mother's need help for our young Latino boys as well. Why can't there be a group like that in Houston, Texas? That would be a blessing!
Yeah I think there’s a group
This is great. Keep up the great work for helping these mothers raise good men for the next generation 👏
I keep praying to find people who can do the things I can't for my kids.
I’m 19 and a single mother of two GIRLS.. My girls need dads too but ok.
Exactly but um a single mother it's not are fault that we are single mothers the father left are. family to be out there and mess with Tom. Dick and harry
@SunTai look this so old
@SunTai These F boys are out here impregnating women under the guise of “I’m in fertile”, “We’re engaged”, all kinds of BS. Then when the child gets here. That F boy decides “I can’t handle being a parent”.
Once he decides that, it’s a deadly situation for the mother. He could harm her and her child in various ways to avoid being held responsible himself.
@SunTai So you know future drug addicts, gamblers, mass shooters before they have that mental break to even do such things?
It’s not normal to start a family and then walk away from it. It’s not normal to start a family and then decide to murder the spouse and children. That stuff is mental health stuff.
@SunTai the same amount that marry and have solid successful families. You’d be surprised the kinds of men and women that started off shiftless and then changed over for their family.
There are alot of dads who smoke week and good off that their kids need to hear this
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Process is: 1. Someone disrepectz single moms. 2. Someone gives anecdote about 1 great single mom. 3. Everyone claps (some half heartedly).
Uncomfortable fact is, single moms are the greatest root cause problem to our entire society. (750k) lifetime impact to budget per. Stop clapping, start shaming.
My life..now but god got me
Mothers make terrible fathers.
I to damaged. Wish I could do better for my sweet young man. All I can do is try my best.
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These women are messed up because the men are messed up. Its a vicious cycle and innocent children are suffering because of it.
I believe God put me right at this video to listen to it , I recieve the wisdom that will be spoken on this video as a single mother I am strong and I will do what it takes to progress for my children ..
I am a new single mom , i need anyone , who can help me sometimes advice , is not easy sometimes I don't know what to do if baby cry
I need this book. I have twin boys 6 years old in chicago i know its going to be a hard road
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I need this book.
What about young girls especially when they are extremely stubborn I'm a single first time mom
I am a new single mom , i need anyone , who can help me sometimes advice , is not easy sometimes I don't know what to do if baby cry
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love the manspreading
Ok so ....what if the " Father " ain't about shit to do with fatherhood 🤷🏽♀️. Then what? Wouldn't it be scary to push your child off on a man that doesn't want him?
Sad to think this is all about "after the fact" treatments for the problem.
The real cure for boys who want to become men is their Father.
Women. God gave you the ability to create life. DO NOT give it up so easily and freely.
It's hilarious that mothers are held to a higher standard when the father is equally responsible. Lol 😂
Women are the gatekeepers to sex...period. Choosing a partner should be a bit more than, "Oh, look at that bling, he is tall, and he drives (insert expensive car here). It all falls down to a simple case of Hypergamy. The woman chases after the top 10% (apparent) of men. The problem is...all the women are throwing themselves at the 10%. Those men do not and will not have to choose. Nor do they want to ever settle with a single woman, especially when the buffet table runs to them.
@@bowmaredebrouchee4753 just proving her point.
@@bowmaredebrouchee4753 the thing is instead of blaming woman how about owning up to everything a man has sex and gets many woman pregnant and don’t take care of their children nothing is ever said of it woman fall in love and choose the wrong man cause in my situation the only man I gave myself too I was with him 7 years the moment we had a kid he was out yet he always said he wanted kids and responsibilities etc men need to own up and be honest with what they want quit lying to woman and quit disrespecting us cause a woman gives her love and everything and a man throws it and stomps on it which is y woman now don’t care abt love and just care abt money thankfully I’m not their yet I still believe in love
@@MrsMillion I wish you all the luck in the world. Nature has provided granite proof of Hypergamy. No two situations are alike, but the statistics bear out. I am not blaming women..you gals cannot help yourself. That is why modern societies set up laws and moral codes. These two items have been discarded, so now women are feeling the results.
Hand over custody to the biological father. We’ll hold him to standards so high it’ll make your head spin.
I have 10 kids and I need that book
Kimberly Dill damn lol
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Bless him
Where are the fathers?! Start talking about that.
Heavenly Father thank for letting me find this video!!!
Amen
Beautiful!!!!
Steve's face, though!
Happy for you cousin keep doing what you doing love you 💟
He’s your cousin ?
This man deserves a lot of respect
Anyone, please I want honesty. I feel in love with a 26 woman with an 8 year old Son. I'm not perfect and have my own personal baggage so I can tolerate to some degree being a influence for the innocent kid. However, the issue that REALLY bothers me is his father is all the way in Quatamala. It would be different if he was present and providing at least 50% for HIS son. I would be lying if I said it's ok when it's absolutely not ok for me. I'm stuck. What should I do how do I approach this? Thank to any and all for productive honest advice. Thanks.
First off Charles i really applaud you for your honesty. If you love that women,you have to love her child. Not saying you dislike the child,but that's a bad feeling for a child to feel that they're just being tolerated. If you guys are in this for the long run, she gonna want you to play a huge role in her childs life,especially if his dad is far away. If that's something you can't deal with,that perfectly fine Charles. You have that right,but you can't be with her. Hope everything works out
If you really love her, you will make this work.
If in doubt- nought.
Is anyone else struggling to find the book online?
Put God First Before marriage.
Yesss, love this!!
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i am also a single mom but i do believe we should Teach both children equally today's world is tough for both.
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I commend this men. Unlike umar Johnson you can see he has touched the lives of many without collecting a dime.
Mom's can do it by themselves cause God made them for it, the problem is "the man" has stolen oir birthright they only know what they know because of a women until "The Man" made the laws and rules that changes the words that we "moms" gave them, I know because I've been changed changed too but god saved me... so that I could save my children two boys and two girls.
He sound like Steve when he speaks. It sounds like Mr. Steve Harvey had been his mentor. Either way, 👏 We need more men mentors like them.❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
How do we order this book !!! the website is Confusing & it’s not on amazon ??
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Put marriage before children
I dont trust this guy..I don't know why?
the answer its in your heart ;)
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Any man with something to sell to women is going to.. nvm
Wear condoms no matter what until you determine the woman or man is right.
100%...you'd think by now everyone is on board with that simple strategy!
It's eye opening today seeing so many single parent houses !! I don't have the fix but stop bringing more lives into poverty that's not fair!!! And then the comments 🙆 if your with a man more than a year and he doesn't bring up marriage that egg on your face 7 years 7 times the egg!! Don't get pregnant after all that that won't fix it or help your situation!!! Ladies all you have to do is ask and I'll keep it 💯 with you!!! You already know these answers but if you need your feelings stepped on please inquire!!! Y'all don't need to be told these things.....An no not 1 female can raise a boy into a man!!!Sorry!!!!
I’m a single Mother of 7 2 are just becoming adults but still need me lol. God is a way maker trust Him
Where can I get this book? It's not on amazon
Waoh, that's wonderful!
I wonder if there's a book called Womanhood 101 because God knows some of these women out there need it, then they wouldn't be making babies out of wedlock.
I do commend this man to try and lead those young men who's fathers walked out.🙏💙
I thought I had a deja vu....
Has anyone been able to locate the book? I tried the website mentioned and it’s not legit. Tried Amazon and Barnes and Nobles and no luck. I’m a single mother of 4 boys, age range 6 to 20 and can really use a good book to guide me through raising boys to men. Any other book suggestions if I can’t get hold of Frank’s?
Nice one 😊
they should have a program for yong women
because nowadays
they out of control
I’m not raising another mans child
No one asked you too
Hey Is Very Handsome Man. An Would Love To Read His Book About Young Men. I had A Business With Young Girl’s And Young Men. My Business is DIVA GIRL’s And Those Girls Need To Read That Book. But I’m Going Reading First.
What's this with pink t shirts? The Bible says men aren't supposed to wear clothing that pertains to woman.
Who decided that pink is for females and blue for males? All colours are for all peoples. The style of the clothing specifically designed and accepted for males and styles for male is the reference.
sexual immorality leads to this
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THE FATHERS NEED TO DO THEIR DUTY, IF THEY WALK OUT THEY DON'T DESERVE TO LIVE! JESUS TOLD THE HUSBANDS TO "LOVE YOUR WIVES AS I LOVED THE CHURCH" THE HUSBANDS ARE SUPPOSED TO SACRIFICE ALL THEIR SINS, LUSTS AND GIVE THEIR ALL TO THEIR WIVES THIS IS NOT GOOD ENOUGH SINGLE MOTHERS! THIS IS NOT GODS PLAN FOR WOMEN TO BE SINGLE MOTHERS!
word! Single mom harlets! You had a chance to raise a family but Tyrone and Chad .. you couldnt help yourself. Al;ways the Dads fault but not your own. These fools are simps. Eve ate the forbidden fruit but we dont have to remember that! 2021 w00t. Stronk and independant Whamen!
Where is this place
Boys need fathers
Fathers don't care about their sons they care about other hot woman that's why they leave their families
It's this simple in high school make your kids do summer help with a construction company. Be around men all day
Workaholic
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I hope I never have a son..
Easier than raising girls I'd imagine
18 yo= Iblike bad boys.
40+ w/kids= WHERE ARE THE GOOD MEN?
Lol how about teaching Women to communicate and coparent he was raised by a single black woman like most of us and he still teaching black women how to be a strong and single it’s just a revolving door
My dreams are coming true in full circle, I saw this before, it's called déjá vue, that's what I'm talking about. 😇
Scheena Farmer k
lmao feel bad single mom
How can Steve talk about what a woman should do,when he have a habit of not doing it myself. Wake up women and stop listening to men who have been married multiple times. They filling your head up with bullshit and leaving bitter and mad.
Comment a purple 💜 if you choose not to make yourself a single Mother.
I am 35 years old. I am a single mother of two
I'm a single mom and I hate it . But a lot of these single mom talks I can't relate to. I feel like I'm in a subgroup no one pays attention to . I'm a homeowner , make 6 figures and both my kids dads are in their lives. My son goes to the barbershop often and "works" with his dad.
Like where is the conversation for single moms like me
Single moms....pass not my bill
It puzzles me, how the single moms life is tough? wasn't reproduction your choice? Weren't Birth control, abortion/adoption options? U could've chose any other life instead of producing life. Smh
Raising a child on our own is tough. Birth control isn’t always safe or 💯 effective. Everyone doesn’t agree with abortions or adoption and some of us believed the father would be there. Why not ask your guys why they’re so quick to leave the mom ?!