Susan I worked at Walmart a few years ago for yr and a half , and heard many times how much ppl appreciated coming into my line every week bc I was fun to talk to. One day an older man came in, I could tell he wouldn’t want much interaction so I didn’t speak a lot but I ALWAYS smiled from the time I came in until I left for the day. He came in the next day and apologized for being so grumpy the day before He had lost his mom recently. And he said she had talked abt a woman so nice to her @ Walmart..😳 and he knew it was me! And I remembered her!!! They did not get along very well, but he thanked me(with tears in his eyes) for talking to his mom and making her happy! Made my year♥️🌟🙏🏼
@zuzuspetals - Wow, what a wonderful, heartwarming story - you just never know what a little kindness can mean to someone & how things you do can really touch the lives of people you don’t even know …. Blessings to you !
I still remember “Sharon” an older, kind, dark-haired woman who worked the checkout at Safeway where I grew up. I am now 59. That store is long gone, but we all remember Sharon. 💕🌺
You don’t have to live alone to feel lonely. I have been married to the same man for 50 years and I feel lonely most of the time. You are a strong woman Susan!
I agree. I felt more alone in my 27 yr marriage than I do today, living alone. My little doggie died in Nov ' 22 and I cried each day for 4 months. I never cried once when I divorced. I went dancing 3 times per week for about 15 years, travelled the world, had a great job and enjoyed life. I'm quieter today, have family & friends, travel within my country and not lonely. ❤ peace is priceless
I was at the grocery store recently and a woman commented on my bag. We started talking . For some reason I sensed that she needed to interact with someone. I decided to stop rushing around and we ended up chatting for 20 minutes. It made her feel better and me too! I think one of the best gifts you can give someone is your time. A small gesture of kindness means so much. Love your chats ❤. Thanks for spending time with all of us
I find that once you start talking with someone, breaking the ice, you find that the two of you have much in common! Loss of a partner, difficult circumstances, maybe health problems or family problems. We’re really not all that different! It’s amazing to look at someone and think you know about them til you start talking to them and find out they have similar problems that maybe you do, too!
This has happened to me quite a few times. I think to talk to a stranger about anything….. shopping…clothes… a recent weather event…and yes they can go 20 minutes… and you both leave feeling a connection a quite chat and the world can feel so different.
God bless you for being so astute to the moment. Opportunities are there every day to brighten someone’s day and make it more meaningful for them and be a blessing to your wellbeing as well. It really doesn’t take much. Even just a smile , a recognition of value.
For me having a pet helps tremendously with loneliness. I have my little dogs to talk to, cuddle with and care for. Sometimes they are the only ones I speak out loud to all week long and that’s ok with me. It’s unconditional love. At almost 63 I’ve learned there is a huge difference between being alone and being lonely.
My beautiful female doberman dog passed away last year in June. She was 14 and my faithful loving companion and guard dog. I am hard of hearing and she was my ears and my watch dog. I always felt safe in my home with her. I am looking for another dog and hope I can find one before winter sets in. Having a dog does make a difference. They are always there for you no matter what. I am asking God to direct my path in choosing a new dog and one that I can afford financially. I cast my cares of this world on our Lord and he has never failed to comfort me with his unfailing love. Very seldom do I feel lonely.
My Logan girl passed away a month ago. I received her and YES received her when she was only 3 months old. She was 16 1/2 when she passed. It was like the program, Touched By An Angel, when I walked out of the restaurant in 2006 where a man and woman spoke up and said to me, you look like you are looking for a dog. My 2 daughters who were in college with me. One look at Logan and I scooped her up in my arms. She became my best friend. I talked to her and with her being gone I am so lost. Not only has her passing been hard but its like empty nest all over again.
Today my daughter mentioned that a lady talked to her in the ladies room. She thought that was a little odd. I told her older people often look for any reason to speak to someone safe. Because they are lonely. She cried. She told me she was so glad I explained that situation. She said she’d make sure she’d speak to more older women any time she gets the chance.
@@spirituallysafe I agree. But the younger generation doesn’t do so as easily as we do. I appreciated my daughter asking me. I’m trying to share with her how it is to be an older woman.
Yes, we need to slow down and talk to the elders when we are out and about. They need human interaction. A smile, a greeting, or being courteous is well needed in this society. Older people have so much time - earned wisdom and life experience. I love older folks. I am 59, but I am young in their eyes a lot of them. I can be kind and make someone elses day a little bit better..
One time I was in the Sam’s Club parking lot. I smiled at a lady who looked sad. She came up to me and asked if I would hug her. I said sure and I am glad I did! Who knows what burdens others may bear ?
I am not lonely. I am 68. I was divorced 35 years ago. In December 2021, I downsized and decluttered into a studio apartment. I love it. I buy my clothes at resale and thrift shops. If you buy classic pieces, you will always be in style. I didn’t learn until later in life that happiness = peace of mind. I cherish the friends I can have deep meaningful conversations with. Sharing with authenticity. Thank you for the video and for my opportunity to comment.
I was a librarian for many years. It was in hindsight that I realized that all those chatty visits with with senior patrons were not just picking up reading material but may have been the only visit that week.
You know I’m married for 50 years and can feel very alone so I put on my TH-cam friends and catch up with them and instantly I’m understood by you and my spirits are lifted. You’re a wonderful tonic. Thank you. 💝
Totally agree they expect their models to be perfect the same way they expect the human models to be and we all know nothing in this world is perfect. It’s all one big illusion that makes people feel less than adequate. Desi is beautiful, and those little teeth that stick out seal the deal for me and makes my heart happy!
You help me not feel so lonely! I too am 70, live alone and have no family or friends close by. It's hard. I agree with you about the difference in loneliness at 32 and 70. When I was 32 I was rarely lonely, I worked, i had many friends, I could afford to do things. Now when I get lonely there is no one to call, no money to shop, a car that may break down at any time, and a body that is slowly turning on me. Don't get me wrong I am grateful for the breath in my lungs, the fact that I am alive but sad that I no longer really have a life. Thank you for your lovely words of wisdom, you are a beautiful soul.❤
I fear I am entering the phase you described. I slowly see it happening. I can see my partner aging faster than I. That scares me. There is a difference between living and surviving. I am afraid I will do the latter if I lose him one day.
I'm sorry to hear this. But, is there a Woman's Club you can join ? Or, a small church you can attend, a senior center ? Please, look into the social gatherings in your town. Take care ❤
@@SpringNotes That's so sweet of you to mention. I tried all those after my husband passed, and already part of a church- but I think it more a spiritual loneliness. (for me)
Susan, thanks for this topic this week. I am a widow. I lost my husband of 38 yrs.from cancer two yrs.ago. I'm just 59. I was extremely lonely and terrified at first. I had never lived on my own before. Now I live alone in my little house and take care of everything by myself, like you. With the Lords help, I am doing much better than I ever thought I would. And here in the last 6 mths.or so, I find that I'm feeling less lonely. I miss my husband, yes, but this is the first time in my life that I don't HAVE to take care of anyone, and I kind of like it. My three adult daughters live within 30 miles of me, but they are busy with my 6 grandkids. If i need them, all I have to do is call. But, I am surprised at myself, I can do this! I have good credit, pay my bills on time, pay all of my insurances and taxes. I have learned to budget well. I go out a few times a week for errands and shopping. But I actually like being at home. It is my little nest that reflects who i am. I still have many years ahead of me, God willing, and YOU have given me encouragment for that future. You are such a warm and lovely person! Thank you again. Kiss Desi on the head for me. He is the cutest litlle man! ❤ Renee
I lost my husband of 25 years at age 56 (in 2016) He was my soulmate. It took some time to adjust, but I am like you. I miss him, yes, but I kind of like being on my own. My daughter and family live 10 minutes away. I work part-time at a job that I enjoy, pay my bills, and enjoy my time at home with my 2 dogs and cat who were with me every step of the way through my /our loss. I sold our house and we moved to a different state to be closer to family
@@maryjwashburnSorry for your loss Mary, my husband passed Dec '17. Christmas is an extra tough time for sure but I know I'm not the only lady who lost a spouse in Dec. :( Hugs to you!
I lost my beloved husband too, Thanksgiving day, 2001. I was 47, a few months after my 1st grandchild was born. Kids are grown with their own lives. All lived 100 miles away at the time. The house was so quiet. I know the feeling of being totally alone even in a crowded room full of people you know. If it had not been for my granddaughter being born Valentine's I don't know how I would have survived. Just knowing she was there was enough. Now I see all my grandchildren often. My name is Renee also ❤
I am your age and I am an artist. I work from home and teach part time at an art college. This keeps me going along with my kids and pets. I lost my husband of 40 years almost 7 years ago. Yes I do feel lonely sometimes, but having a purpose in life helps tremendously.
I also am yr age and an artist. My husband’s health is poor and I am taking over more and more of the physical chores on our little farm. At first it was sad but I am so proud of myself now. Keeping busy whether with making art or doing chores is wonderful TH-cam is a godsend.
My marriage of 24 yrs ended 25 yrs ago. Happily single, although I’ve had a couple of really nice relationships, I truthfully was lonelier when married than I’ve ever been single. The peacefulness I hold inside is priceless. Me been single I realized that the secret to making a million is making better investment. I always tell myself you don't need that new car or that vacation just yet and that mindset helps me make more money investing.
No she's not!... TH-cam is a public place; i can't drop her information here but You can just put her name on google and you will be directed to her website and drop her your message.
Taken from a painting of a downtrodden woman. “ON THE DARKEST DAYS WHEN I FEEL INADEQUATE UNLOVED AND UNWORTHY, I REMEMBER WHOSE DAUGHTER I AM AND I STRAIGHTEN MY CROWN” LOVE FROM THE FATHER WHO WILL NEVER LET US DOWN.❤️🙏🏻✝️
My marriage of 24 yrs ended 25 yrs ago. Happily single, although I’ve had a couple of really nice relationships, I truthfully was lonelier when married than I’ve ever been single. The peacefulness I hold inside is priceless. 🌹
Girl, you smack me right in the heart every week. You have created something truly special here on your channel, and I will continue to support you and precious Desi for as long as you see fit to share your life with us. The only thing that would be better is TWO videos a week 😉.
I very rarely feel lonely at home because I have my little dog, plus I really do enjoy my own company, and have my hobbies. The times I feel a twinge of loneliness are in hospital waiting rooms. Sitting for hours staring at a wall. Everyone seems to have someone with them; a partner, relative or friend, for support. Times like that are a stark reminder that I'm alone. So I tell myself how brave and independent I am, and suddenly I no longer feel lonely, I feel empowered. Desi is such a star! I love him ❤
I appreciate the effort that you put into your videos. You are able to discuss what is needed to not only help yourself but others - thank you for that! I'm happy that you connect with all of us! And, of course, Desi is just too cute! Enjoy your painting! Hugs to you both and onto more adventures! See you next week!
I was thinking about loneliness while watching this and it dawned on me that even being married I go through times of loneliness. It’s like a waft of air comes in and takes over with memories of a happy time or a sad time but all in all it’s a time in my past that will never be again. It could be my children in their youth, my mother, or even times with my husband. For some reason it leaves me feeling lonely. Hard to explain…because it teeters somewhere between nostalgia and loneliness. ❤
You have expressed how I sometimes feel as well, sometimes to the point that tears start flowing. I’m not feeling sorry for myself, I have a lot to be grateful for, but I don’t think we can help having these feelings at times…must be part of being human.
Wow, I feel the exact same way you do. My husband is great and my daughter and grandkids are my joys in life but there are times I feel lonely and sad. I guess for me I think about what great times we had in the past and knowing those days are gone really saddens me.
I needed this so bad,just out of hospital and alone in a marriage where my husband could not be asked to visit or even pick me up when it was time to go home.Thank God for my sons and the checkout ladies that still exist.
What a wonderful, inspirational video Susan. Such heartfelt advice for people in a lonely state. It is hard. I am married and celebrate my golden wedding anniversary next week, but our daughter died and we have no other family to speak of so we have a different type of loneliness. A loneliness that comes from having no daughter or grandchildren or siblings. So we as a couple can feel lonely and worried if we were left alone. Life is a journey and a winding road that we have to take step by step and day by day and deal the best way we can with whatever comes. That little dog, darling Desi, is a an absolute joy and a star. He did great with his modelling. Love him and you too. God bless you both. 🌸
First, I want to express my sincere condolences to you, for the loss of your daughter. I can't imagine the pain, trough you still go through. I am in my early 50s, and was raised in a family which had many losses. I never meet my maternal grandmother, she died when she was 31 years old. And I heard my great grandparents, and obsessed they life, after her passing. Life will never be the same, and was not the same for them as long as they lived on earth. They're beautiful daughter, and only one, left 2 daughters behind, my mom, 11 years old and my aunt 5 years old at the time of her passing. All my love to you.❤
I am so sorry that you lost your daughter. I think loosing a child must be one of the hardest things that you can ever go through in life. Life sure gives some people difficult things to deal with.
I am so sorry you lost your daughter we lost our only daughter at 15 yrs old in 2000 you never think you would go through something like that Jesus softly helped us through I'll never get over it but is better with time God bless you❤
This video really had a major impact on me. Back in December 2020, my mom found she enjoyed watching TH-cam videos and came upon Little Poet's "Alone at Christmas" video. Mom was 91 years old and lived with my sister in Reno, and I live in Arizona. She was frail and could not do as much so she spent a good amount of time on her computer to search recipes and stories, send emails to people, and watch videos. She emailed me telling me about the Little Poet Christmas video she saw and said she wanted me to look it up and so I did. From that day on, we would check every Sunday for Little Poet's newest video and we'd send each other emails not to forget to see it. Mom's health started to decline, and it got to the point she was struggling to find her favorites on TH-cam. So, every Sunday I would send Mom the link to Little Poet's newest video, and she enjoyed them so much and told me "This one made my day!". She especially got such a kick out of Desi. Mom died October 2022 at the age of 93, and at first, I found it so hard to bring myself to watch Little Poet videos knowing she was no longer there and was not able to watch them. But then I thought to myself "Mom would want me to carry on our tradition" and so I did. I miss her especially when Sunday comes now, and feel that pang of loneliness. But I also feel like she is right there with me, standing over my shoulder as we watch it together.
Oh Susan, This was so heartfelt. I’m sharing it with my cousin. Her husband passed at age 62 after 30 years of marriage. She was completely unprepared and over the last 4 years she has gone through extreme periods of grief and loneliness. The good news is that she has two wonderful pups like your sweet Desi and they provide her a great deal of comfort as well as bringing lots of joy into her life. She’s hoping she will meet someone special one day to spend her senior years with. That’s not happened yet but she keeps herself busy with her pups, her hobbies, and church. Thank you for all you share. You have no idea how many hearts you touch!! Love and God Bless, Mary ❤ PS…Congratulations to Desi! He’s a SuperStar!! ❤🐶❤️
I look forward to your videos every week. No time to feel lonely when I watch you and Desi. I love that little guy and I am so happy he has you and you have him. You take such good care of him. ❤️💙
This video about loneliness was very therapeutic. There is a sense of shame associated with it- we often tell ourselves that we are “losers” because we are lonely. I think it needs to be talked about more. I’m 66, live alone after divorce, rarely see my adult children. Most of the time I’m ok, but when I do feel lonely I beat myself up over it, like it shouldn’t be happening if I managed my life better
I feel very similarly. Empty nester, still working. Job is draining and on weekends I often don't have it in me to be social. I rest and have lots of hobbies to keep me busy. It's hard on long weekends and holidays. I can hear everyone in our neighborhood having backyard parties and gatherings. I think "Where did I go wrong?" Not a great feeling. I get it.
Turning 65 recently, & losing my brother less than a year ago has invited me to reflect on many things. I realized I was far more lonely in my 2 marriages than I am now when alone. I love my solitude, find comfort in it as well as joy. Thank You Susan- Love, Joy & Hugs to You & Desi.
I'm so sorry for both of you. I lost my brother, Ty, April 17th. He was 53. I never imagined how difficult it would be. Everyone expects me to be fine already... thank you for sharing.
I am so sorry you lost your brother Ty in April. If you're like me( everybody is different) I was in shock for about a year, my mind couldn't process his loss. The second year is when the grief sunk its teeth in, but you will get through it. Lean on your faith and no in my opinion you shouldn't be over your loss so please don't rush it because that might keep you in the denial stage. Your loss is so fresh, be kind and patient with yourself.
I’m 57 as of July. Two years ago I finally got my freedom from a horrible marriage. I moved in with an old high school classmate. My dream came true! Now a year ago in August, I lost him to death. I moved to Missouri close to my grand baby. Recently I moved into my fabulous apartment. I have so enjoyed watching you and getting great tips on decorating. Because of your tips, I’m now nurturing my need for skin care. I guess I get lonely sometimes just to have some one to pal around with or talk to. So I started walking 2 to 6 miles daily. I also drive to different towns and thrift as a coping mechanism. Now I’m getting into Ultra’s 21 days of beauty and marking my calendar. I have no desire to get married and since I’m finally free from a bad marriage I can be my anal self in keeping my house and self look great! Sincerely, Wanda Allen Lide
Well I am quite offended that anyone would think Desi isn't cute enough to to represent their product ! He is just adorable . I am 71, lost my husband to cancer 10 years ago and have lived by myself since then. I keep myself entertained. I love to read, love to cross stitch and have my favorite TV programs ! I share my hobby with my best friend and have no problem going out to shoo or eat by myself. I learned I can't wait for someone else to entertain me 😊. I am that lady who will smile and talk to strangers at Walmart or anywhere I'm shopping, yep I will give you a smile when I pass by you. Love your lady picture, looks like a classy lady !! Enjoy your videos Susan, you and Desi always make me smile.
This is one of my favorite videos of yours, so far. I am SO ANGRY that Desi got 'dissed' by that bow-tie company! All those 'flaws' are what makes Desi so adorable and special (and gangsta)! I concur w/you 100%: being lonely after 50 is VERY different than being lonely in our more youthful years. I could write an entire essay about that topic!
It helps me from feeling isolated and lonely by cooking meals for friends or family that are elderly and disabled and delivering it to them. I love you and Desi and your new home is so charming !
By sheer happenstance your channel popped up a year ago, the weekend my husband was in ICU before going into hospice. During his last months and since then, your videos lend sparkle to my week. While we come from very different life experiences, you and your programs are authentic, relatable, dignified, and filled with hope. So glad you’re out there LittlePoet!
I was with my husband almost 40 years so losing him a few months ago has been so hard. Yes I feel very lonely but what scares me is I have health problems and no spouse to help me anymore.I lost my cat too so it’s been awful but pets are amazing company and I hope to rescue again someday 💕
I lost my husband of 41 years two years ago. I have two dogs which helps, but I have a hard time picturing what the future looks like for me now. I feel the same as you about being alone and having medical issues. Church is a wonderful place to get support and assistance from caring people.
I understand how both of you feel. I lost my husband almost 14 years ago, but I have my 28 year old grandson with me. Last year I lost my ability to walk and it scared me so much. I can get around now, but I have to use the walker when I go out. I was in the hospital for five weeks and had back surgery. But with no husband, it's not the same. Wishing you both the best and take care. ❤
Desi is a star! He looks so dapper with his bow tie and his meticulous grooming. The CEO of the bow tie company made a huge mistake letting him go. It's Desi's little imperfections that makes him so adorable and perfect!
I love orange too. It's my favorite color. I get that same sudden lonely feeling at antique flea markets. I decided that it comes from things I see that remind me of friends and family that are gone and I miss. When I worked in retail at a department store, a woman would come into the store and fill her cart with items, then abandon it and leave the store. One evening while I was re-folding some clothing we got to chatting and I asked if there was a problem with the items she chose and she told me she was lonely at home and was a recovering TV shopaholic. So she came into the store , a safe place, fulfilled her need to shop without spending money and was around people so she wasn't lonely. I always feel so connected to your chats. Thank you for sharing.❤
Thank you for another week of deep thoughts and tears. I look forward every week. Yes, I’m lonely sometimes but it could be a lot worse. Thank you Desi for the smile you give me every week!
I was widowed at 39. Remarried at 50, my husband died the first week we were married. Have been a widow for over 20 years. I have never felt lonely. I have my faith, my children and their families, my part time job, friends. I miss my husband immensely, but have enough in my life to be happy. I used to tell my husband I had the best and would not look any further. I haven’t dated since he passed…my choice.
I learn so much from you. You just keep it so real! When I get to feeling lonely I get off my butt and take a walk in my beautiful neighborhood and get to pet all the dogs being walked by their owners. They make me smile. Love to you and Desi. ❤
Hi, I just found your channel. I am 72 yrs. old. I retired at 62 because of caregiving circumstances for my elderly parents. It was very difficult but now looking back I am grateful that I was able to do that for them. I was a flight attendant for 42 years for a major carrier so I was around thousands of people,different cultures, and many foreign countries. I was married to a very narcissistic man for 7 yrs., but produced a wonderful daughter that I raised mostly by myself . Divorced in 1993, and have been single since then. I wanted to meet a godly man but obviously that was not God's plan for me. I've always loved animals,so that is where my passion and my energy and time went to rescuing animals but unfortunately ,I cannot give them away or find them homes. But having these animals give me alot of joy and great company. My daughter does not share my passion so she is always telling me that I have too many and I better stay healthy because she will not be taking care of them after I am gone. They are alot of work but at this time, fortunately I am still fine physically and I am able to clean up after them. I have a small 3 bedroom home that I maintained myself. Of course, I wish I had a companion to help me around the house, go out to eat with or watch television with. I am active in my church and co-lead a women's bible study. All of my church friends are happily married and so I am mostly by myself in the evening so that is when I get lonely in the evening at times. But I try to not focus on that and just busy myself with something else. I had such a bad marriage with a controlling person that I am so glad that I do not have anyone telling me what to do and when to do it, even though I was working full time during the marriage. So the only respite I had was my layovers , but I had a very young child then so I chose to fly short trips. Anyway, I want to thank you for making these videos. What a great idea to be able to share your contented life with us older women. My prayer is that the women who watch your channel will find contentment in their singleness but I only credit my contentment to my belief in God, my Lord Jesus Christ. Thank you so much.
I live alone, a widow, just retired. I decided to find a hobby and am so happy to be challenged to be artistic! Lonely? Maybe sometimes when I miss my husband. My home, responsibilities, friends and family relationships keep me from focusing solely on me. When alone, I have so many memories of happy years of love and joy to fill up those hours. At 71 it's not all dancing and singing, but I am content with my life. Oh, and where would we all be without Desi? What a cutie!🥰
I'm pushing 80 this month. I live alone and have lived alone for over 40 years. But I have a 12 year old boy in my neighborhood who is lonely and trying his best to be a tough guy. I give him my time every time he comes around. He needs me sometimes. I need to be able to take care of myself the best I can. I'm not taking anyone into my house. Just keep on taking care of yourself and those who come to you for no reason.
I believe loneliness sets in too many seniors especially if they have no siblings or family they become isolated alone and feeling like nobody cares for them the best thing a senior can do to alleviate some of the loneliness is get a pet it doesn't matter what it is it makes you feel like you have a purpose that might be all they talked to in a week's time but it gives them the company they need as a senior grows old many don't go out as much as they used to and a lot of those people they knew died that's when loneliness sets in. When it comes to dealing out in the public it is almost only momentarily for a short while then they go home alone. It's difficult making true friends as you grow old the people that live alone have a hard time getting out to circulate to meet anyone my advice would be to get an animal and make that animal your friend someone who you can wake up to every day and take away some of the emptiness throughout the hours of each day a lot of elderly people will say well if I die what will happen to the animals Elder euthanized that is not true because an adoption agency will come in and take the animal and Foster them to a good home but in the meantime it gives a person's life substance and fills a lot of the loneliness that they experience each day make that your best friend the animal will always be there for you it will never betray you lie cheat cause you any harm it will be a truly dedicated friend and companion
I ❤ your comment. Lifelong dog rescuer. Many senior pups need homes. I’m 70 now. My dogs are my only reason to get up, face the pain, and do another day again. Sorry cat folks but cats = BarcaLoungers. Lazy Boys.
This is your best video yet. My husband passed away 19 months ago and I am so lonesome and lost. I am active in my church, volunteer, and have so many friends, but my lonliness is overwhelming. Thank you for your beautiful words of encouragement. Love from Alabama. Congratulations Desi!
I'm sorry for your loss Kitty! My husband has been in Heaven for about 5 yrs....doesn't feel like it. 😢 We lived in AL for almost 6 yrs my husband worked at Children's but we lived between Trussville & Pinedale Shores on 59. Which direction are you from Bhm?
Your happiness is contagious, thanks for sharing your special moments. Desi is a natural to the camera, so adorable.❤ Have learned to acknowledge people who are lonely when I am out & about, can feel their presence a mile away. Take a moment of your time to say hello, or listen to them talk about whatever, answer a question, help them out if they need a helping hand. If you really tune in and look around, you could make someone's day brighter.🌈🌞😊
I just stay busy each and everyday I am remodeling my house by myself at 74 I am so proud it is looking so nice when I finish I am going to throw a party and at night I fall asleep right away. I can do this things were looking sad now each room is coming alive and so am i❤
First, I have to say that Desi is a wonderful spokesdog! A natural! I was crushingly lonely after my husband died five years ago. You're right, Susan. That was grief. Now the loneliness feels much more like homesickness. The problem I'm working on now is that I feel as if I should be lonely. I'm a widow. People expect it. I'm not lonely. I have kids and grandchildren and friends and four really wonderful dogs. I'm a reader and a jewelry designer. Yes, I'm homesick. I'm not lonely. I hope that makes sense. Much love to you and Desi.
The work you used"homesick" is the perfect word to describe the people in nursing homes that don't understand why they could never be at home or there isn't a home to return to
Susan, you made some excellent points. I remember being at home with a baby and I was lonely and I made "friends" with all the grocery store clerks. They helped validate my existence through the week. I was more lonely raising two boys as my husband traveled and few people wanted to be around a mother of two active children. So now that I am 62, I make a point to give some attention to parents of young children, especially parents who do not have a supportive network.
Just beginning Your Video, I’m 66 and I have Winnie the Pooh sheets on my bed as we speak so I’d say Snoopy is fair game😁PS You have a Gift for Decorating, I’m Always Amazed at the Beauty of Your Home🧡
Susan, I really related to this video. I never felt lonely when I was younger. And what you said about not having time to mess up at this age is so true. I even tell myself that. So, after being married to a cold and self absorbed man I married when I was 43 I am finally leaving him so that I can feel alive again. I'm 66 now, have a very affectionate yorkie name Sunny who since the day I got him in 2015 sits next to me every single New Years Eve and we watch the ball drop. (Desi reminds me of him). I am hoping to start next spring looking for a home and being happy. It's sad when you are an outgoing, young at heart person who isn't even seen by the one who married you. What I do if I need that "good" feeling is play my Frank Sinatra music loud, along with Michael Buble' and 70's music. It suddenly transports me to being young and happy, and I get out of my funk. Hugs to All ~ Thanks for being out here Susan and her followers, you are friends.
I struggled with loneliness during my childhood and twenties. The loneliness left as I married and had children. Now my husband has passed away and a month ago I became an empty nester with my children scattered around the country. Loneliness has found me again and I feel paralyzed as to how to start this journey alone. I so admire your strength and find encouragement in your words.
You deserve happiness. It comes from within as a choice. I'm sorry you feel alone. I can relate to that. Doing enjoyable activities alone is a learned skill. Helping others or caring for animals can help too. Sending you a big hug💖
I understand how you feel. I've been divorced for 20 years, gave up on the dating scene years ago, too many "fools" out there, and my youngest son moved out 4 years ago. It's definitely been a struggle for me after 22 years of marriage and raising 5 kids to be alone. My kids and grandkids are close so I see them, I have wonderful neighbors, I have other family, but it's still a struggle sometimes with loneliness. When my son moved out I thought it was the end of the world, it was HARD! But, I just had to get out of the house, even just to "look around" in a store or wherever. I find things to keep busy, but in reality, it's not the same as having someone around every day. Just know you'll be ok, it takes time, sometimes a lot of time to adjust to living and handling life alone, but you can do its:) Sending you lots of love and strength❤And know, that you are NOT alone in feeling loneliness, there's nothing wrong with you, it's just another difficult part of life we have to learn to navigate through, and it's not always easy for some of us.
@@nigella4me I am feeling similar to you. I was a single mother to one child, who has gone far away to college. I was always so busy raising my daughter...and yes, gave up on dating a long time ago. No desire. I am a keep to myself kind of person. But I am struggling with loneliness this time around...My daughter brings a lot of life and friends into our home. It's been so quiet here without her...and to make it worse, I've had an injury. Anyway, I just wanted to say thank you for sharing here. When I read what you wrote, I felt less alone.
@@CynthiaAva I'm so sorry about your injury. Getting sick or injured when you live alone is so very hard. I feel for you. I never dreamed I'd be alone at 68 but life had other plans. Strangely enough, my neighbor across the street, the neighbors on each side of my house, and a younger neighbor that's a man, all live alone. I call it the lonely hearts club. We visit and talk with each other all the time, but the reality is, we go back to our empty houses, and sometimes it's just plain hard. I know how you feel about it being quiet without your daughter. After my son moved out, I was literally heartbroken, cried for weeks and weeks and the silence without him was HORRIBLE. I still miss him so much even though he lives in the same city and visits me. I had to totally change everything in his room immediately because it hurt so much to even look in there. It still gets to me sometimes just knowing, he used to be in there. People in videos always say to get a hobby, find new friends, keep busy, travel, etc., but the hard truth is, like I tell my sister who lives in another state, everything I do and anyone I see, it's all very temporary, a brief moment in time, and it doesn't take care of all the other hours in the day and night. If it weren't for my little dog Pixie, I'd go nuts. She is everything to me now. I sincerely hope you find a way to deal with your loneliness. I don't follow a certain religion, but I do believe in God and Jesus. During my toughest, loneliest times, I literally call or cry out to God or Jesus for help, pray to them in my own words, and something always comes along to help with what I'm going through. Being alone is not an easy path for many of us. Sending you love and strength, and if you don't mind, prayers too.❤
You did a great job on Desi’s haircut..At 77 there are a lot of times I feel lonely. Sometimes just going for a drive in the car, and maybe stop at McDonalds for a coffee will perk me up…and if I have a book with me, I’ll park in the parking lot at Mickey D’s and read my book and drink my coffee. Sometimes, you just need to get out of the house!
You're so sweet saying you love your audience. I've always taught my kids that whatever comes out of somebody's mouth is how they feel about themselves. You must be filled with joy.
@@kayingthao5072 Thanks! When I was raising my kids I would take them to the park daily. I would put on my headphones and listen to a radio psychologist who would take peoples calls. I learned so much from her. That's one of the things I remember her saying a lot and I always remembered it.
What a wonderful video message! I'm 68 and have had bouts of loneliness. I have found that staying active by volunteering or just working part time a few hours a week makes so much difference. It makes me feel productive and I'm not focusing on myself, but on others. I'm not lonely much only once in a while it rears up. Give to others and watch what happens!! Thank you Susan!!!! So happy for Desi and his new gig! Deb in Southern Oregon
Honestly, I think some of my loneliest moments were in my 30s. I find now that I’m in my mid-60s there are fewer lonely moments, thankfully. I think it’s because at this time of our life, we are more accepting of our self and others, and we meet people where they’re at. And no more than ever I understand the importance of connecting and keeping connections sacred.
Absolutely agree with you. If anyone had told me I would be living alone in my 60’s when I was in my 50’s I would of been very worried. I love living alone with my dogs.
I'm in my 70s and when I get lonely. I usually go on my porch and watch the sky. I love looking at certain clouds in the sky. Some of them have great shapes. Well, one day I wanted to go some where so so bad! No car, no buses to catch, no money for cabs etc. No friends or family to give me a ride so as I was standing on my porch. The idea came. Look at your beautiful yard! Leave this porch and walk around your house! So I did. I notice things I never looked at before. People passing. Looked at me, smiled, and spoke to me. They never spoke to me before. Great feeling! I have a stick with me, in case I fall but my doctor says, good exercise. And it's safer than being on the street. I sleep better n have more energy. Thank you for inspiring me. Happy for the little dog. He is great! Love that picture
Oh my gosh…that picture is gorgeous. I can’t believe he gave it to you for $18.00. It is wonderful. Desi looked precious with his cut. He is a precious baby. Love you Susan 😊
Thanks Susan- it’s nice to listen to someone my age talk about life. My husband has Alzheimer’s disease and we’ve lost the friendship we once shared. He can’t relate to me in serious or adult ways. He acts like a toddler most of the time. Not complaining- it’s just the way it is. So I guess I am lonely for our past relationship. Mr Desi looks so handsome! What a cutie pie!
Thank you for this video Susan. I hope to turn 71 on Dec 2. I have stage IV ovarian cancer, no husband nor kids but I don’t feel lonely. I take a yoga class twice a month and I recently joined a group of cancer patients with stage IV cancer that meet up once a month. I love to read, make earrings, knit or crochet. This way I keep myself busy and enjoy my life. Always look forward to your videos. XXX
Oh wow, you are such a strong lady. I wish I could be near you so you can feel less lonely. I don't have family or kids and getting sick is my biggest fear. I won't be able to make it. I really admire you!! All the best to you, hope you are healed, miracles happen, I will keep you in my thoughts ❤❤❤
Love Desi’s on camera look❤❤ How dare he say he wasn’t camera ready🤬🤬 Thank you for another inspiring video. My friend and neighbor of 20 years who was getting ready to start a new adventure , she is single was going to move from Massachusetts to Georgia signed the purchase and sales on both houses and last Saturday morning at 5:45 I noticed there was a missed phone call from her and I saw the ambulance out the window. Needless to say I was trying to locate her for two days. She had a massive stroke and the reason she didn’t leave me a voice message was because she couldn’t speak… she has been unresponsive for a week and now she’s has a fever.. I was so upset that she was leaving me to go to Georgia and now I would give anything just to have her back and to move ..and I know the Lord can do anything but it does not look good. So live the best life you can, love your friends because you never know what’s going happen from moment to moment..me and Otis🐶 Massachusetts* I love reading I used to read all the time and then life got in the way.. now I am reading, alot.. I love being involved with my church. It makes me so happy and fulfilling, but most of all I love walking with Otis every morning 3 to 4 miles a day weather permitting, it gives me a sense of freedom and clarity 😊and I meet a lot of nice people on the way.
Wow, that is a powerful story and it is packed with a message we all need. We just never know what tomorrow holds, only God know the days of our lives. So sorry for your friend and neighbor. I have prayed for your friend and for you.
@@leek7987 thank you for your prayers. My faith has gotten me this far♥️ it’s so surreal to me. We are all on our town houses and she is in the middle unit right next to me. I am at the end and we’ve been friends for 20 years.
Most days I don't have a spare moment to feel lonely. I'm a passionate gardener, devoted Memaw, still have a hubby of 48 yrs, and most days move along way too fast. I enjoy this life and all the beautiful gifts in this earth, how blessed are those who find the peace that passes understanding. Never bored in Pa❤
💚💚Love that Desi is sponsor perfect. Thank you Ceewes for loving Desi, like we do. He has personality plus. I don't think what I feel is lonely. Mostly I feel safe from drama. I don't have the patience for people and their bad attitudes. I will admit that I do grieve for where I thought my life would be now with the man I loved and having a 28 year marriage end badly.
Hello to you and Desi. My mom and I used to watch you together. She passed away on August 2, 2023. Her passing was sudden and unexpected. I am an only child with no first cousins, aunts, uncles, or grandparents. People find it difficult to believe that someone can exist with no family, but it's my painful reality. Both my mom and I talked about getting out more to see the world in the event that something happened to one of us so that the other would not be alone. Unfortunately, life and time did not grant us this precious opportunity. Everything has fallen upon me suddenly. I'm trying to navigate finances and things that I never had to manage due to losing my beloved mother. Someone asked me how I could return to our home where we lived, and I responded with, "Where else am I to go, this is my home." Intense grief, sadness, the profound loss are consuming. I am the last one standing while trying to manage the heartache and loneliness. Thank you for making this video.
Hi Susan and Desi!! 😊 🩷 🌞 Thank you for being my weekly therapy!! Loved how you got that painting and it looks perfect where you have it in your beautiful home!! Aww ..sweet, adorable Desi!! Lots of love to you, sweet friend!! 🩷🩷
Thank you for your inspiration. I have been lonely since I lost my husband and I do have many friends and a wonderful church group. I have 2 rescue cats that actually rescued me. When I’m sad they snuggle right up to me and I adore them. Life is very different now and I’m trying hard to adjust
You give us so much practical advice and insights into aging with grace and beauty. I worry about loneliness too. I stay super busy with my job and I crochet and teach my great niece how to sew. It is so wonderful to teach a young person a craft. She is nine years old and just loves to learn and it fills my heart with joy to share my knowledge with her!! Giving back is the best way to not feel lonely!
Shame on that tie company for discriminating on our sweet Desi! They would have sold a million ties if they had Desi as their ambassador. Desi is so handsome and would have made those ties look way better than they probably are. Susan, you hit a spot with me on today’s video. I lost my wonderful, loving mother this past June. I feel like a lonely orphan without her. I have an unhappy marriage, my only sister has psychological problems and my only child lives 2000 miles away. My mother was my best friend and we did everything together. I have been thinking about going back to church and possibly volunteering somewhere. One thing that I do that helps is going to visit my daughter and my sweet granddaughter. I would love to move to where they live but I have to take care of my sister. When I get really lonely I do retail therapy. LOL It really helps too. Love to you and Desi ❤️
Sweet Susan, you MAY be the therapist some of us need yet can't afford. Your advice is perfect. Your stories are so relatable and believable. I've watched many of your videos, but this one is my favorite because I'm 80 and am lonely at times. I read one of the comments you received where the writer says to "stay out of the past", and I couldn't agree more. If I listen to music from the fifties and sixties (high school times), I'm soooooo wanting to retreat and re-live those times. I think I'll take the writer's advice and CHANGE THE RADIO STATION !! Thanks, Susan, and you will never know how many people are helped by your experiences. Oh, and Desi is the cutest dog EVER.
Go out into nature, I garden so am never alone. I plant natives now so my yard is full of butterflies. Waiting for trees to grow for more birds! I have a dog & two cats and still talk to myself hahaha!
You are a beautiful soul! Every week you inspire me and how I view my life moving forward. Everyday I have a 30 minute commute to my office and I watch/ listen to one of your videos. By the time I reach my office I feel ready to conquer my day! Desi is a celebrity in my book, sponsorship or not ❤️🐾
Recently I was at Walmart's and remembered I needed a new lightbulb. When I got to that aisle a 94 year man struck up a conversation with me. We talked for more than an hour. Towards the end of our conversation he had to hold onto my cart and his but it was amazing that he could stand in one place for that long. He would have continued talking but I needed to get home. I have to say, I enjoyed our conversation. Since I am a talker, I seem to always find someone to converse with when I go out; therefore, I am rarely lonely. By the way, you did an excellent job with this topic and I always love seeing Desi!
I love your videos every week. Your wisdom and kindness is so wonderful. Thank you for the joy you bring me. I am 72, alone, and sometimes get lonely. When I do, I watch your videos. I really wish we were neighbors!❤❤❤
Thank you dear Susan I lost mother this April.I.srill can't believe it. I was her care taker for many years and we had friends etc. Now they have passed or no longer in my life. Its my new normal but I know Ill be ok. Watching you and Desi means so much it warms my ❤ and inspires me to keep going...Thank you and many blessings to you both...Desi is just beyond precious! 💖
YES Susan, keeping busy is the key to it all. I have set up a set schedule and daily routine, and taken up pet sitting and dog walking on weekdays from 10 AM to 1 PM. I live in a large eastern city with no family nearby as I did not grow up here. I have been divorced since 2001 and have no children except for a cat that turned 20. I own my one vintage condo built in 1929 in this city and I do love it. I was a nurse and now I am semi-retired after a bad bout with a "virus" precipitated into a health condition. I just keep busy doing small projects for others administratively and planning my future. I am your age. I do not think about it and just live each day the best I can. I try to be friendly to people and make friends but I notice that people often have their own lives and so are only superficial. I am just grateful for what I do have and I want to be positive as I know things could be much worse. Thanks for your videos--I enjoy them each week. Can you tell me what kind of dog that Desi is? He is adorable!
Love your comment. Keep flourishing! One of my pups is Dezi’s larger twin. I’ve had sooo many but Lulu stands out as Disney dog. Real talker, listener. So smart. She’s a terrier.
While I took my husband through the dying process during Covid the super market check out lady Rose was a comforting connection. She knew him & we briefly chatted about him every visit. Scroll ahead to bereavement group & this was such a shared lifeline for others. At 72 I rejoined & became active in my Church, helping others…I do art & photography. I write poetry on grief, even submitting one to the Library of Congress for Copyright. I am glad that you are near your family. I still struggle. Jeanne ( retired RN)
🌻Oh my, that pawn shop sounds scarey-I would have left pronto!! A sad subject, loneliness, but so true. My ex announced he didn’t want to be married any more, altho we stayed married for 10 more years so he could blow our savings and stock, then finally he filed five years ago. Aged 62, I was alone after marriage 35 years! Now I’m 67, moved here to be close to my son and his family, live in an apartment and broke, I’m very very lonely. I cry every day. But also believe there are good times ahead. I envy your home, your independence, and your nice friends and family. I haven’t been able to make any friends here. But I’m forging ahead. Thank you, Susan and everyone here. I love Desi!!!! Enjoy a great weekend! 🍂🍁🧡
Im a first time viewer and I am so glad I found your channel. I can not believe you are 68, what? What a beautiful, gentle soul you are. God bless you ❤
I do not like the self-check out stuff. As high as groceries are we should at least have someone else to ring them up for us!! LOL It's okay, but they are usually so busy, just like the long line where they have an actual person ringing up your items. I do feel down sometimes, actually quite a lot lately. I was feeling really low one day and I went to a restaurant to eat, just to get out and do something. The waitress had the nicest smile, and she was nice, but it was really her nice warm smile that made me feel better. Talking with someone does make it better. I have been pretty good at getting out and doing things in the past, like taking any free classes at the library, or pay for painting classes, or going on a bus trip with seniors from church, etc. It's easy to get in that lonely state if we lay around and dwell on it. I must do better since I have been down a lot lately!! That Desi is so cute!!
Desi was great! ❤ He was so calm when you were grooming him and his fur looked really soft and shiny. He is a wonderful brand ambassador! I agree with you that being lonely at 72 (or 62 in my case) is very different from my lonliness at 32. I don't have any tips to overcome loneliness, but I am trying to keep busy. I just signed up for a photography class in the hope getting out of the house will help me find a out of this incredible loneliness I feel. This is a beautiful video. Thank you for speaking about this.
So very glad I found your channel!!! Can't wait to see where your journey takes you!!! I think the difference between 35 and 65 for me is...I truly love myself!!!
I loved this video. I do think as seniors most of our loneliness comes from the grief of all those we have lost and the good times that have passed. I’ve noticed each time I lose a loved one I go through a period of loneliness brought on by grief. Keeping busy with a project, hobby or social life is about all that seems to help. That’s why I plan to get out of my house almost on a daily basis and live life! Keep the mind’s battlefield occupied with good thoughts.
I go to a Yoga studio at least 3 times a week and always feel so great after I leave. I found if I surround myself with people who lift me up it makes me feel happy. Have a great week and blessings from Melbourne Australia ❤❤🇦🇺🇦🇺
I am very alone. I lost my younger sister, younger brother, and mother ,all in 9 months in 2021 and 2022. Then, I found out my husband of 46 years was living with another woman while across the country for work . We divorced because he wanted her over our family. He was not here for me when I needed him so much. I thought we were forever, and I was trustful and devoted. Just 3 weeks ago,I had to put my wonderful cat down. I have been so depressed for so long. I am finally getting my house back in order,but I have plans for so much purging and reorganization . I have not done any sewing in a while. I plan to get back into it, too. I am doing things for others, and it is now time for me. I gave my heart and soul all of my life and need ME again. I love your videos and positive ,helpful, words. I am turning 67 in Nov. I feel it will be only me forever. Give Desi a kiss for me.
I look forward to your video every week, I'm 74, I'm married but still alone. I married a narcissistic man, never heard that term before, I over did everything thinking he would like me, of all the places we met at church, I worked full time and on the road 3 hours a day. Sometimes I'd cry coming home, not wanting to go there. I kept telling myself take one day at a time. All i am to him is a handyman, he's never treated me like a woman. I had come out of a marriage with 2 grown daughters and for 3 years I was single having a good time with my friends. Now we are just 2 people living under the same roof. He has signs of dementia to the extent he forgets directions. All I want is my 30 years back. It was so nice having my own life.
I have never commented before, though I have listened to many of your videos. This one about loneliness hit me hard. I am a writer (have been for over 51 years with many books out there under Kathryn Meyer Griffith) and I now know loneliness for the first time in my 73 years very well. My husband of 44 years, Russell, died two years ago and I am now living alone for the first time in my long life. I grew up in a huge family, married the first time, had a child, got divorced at 27 and then met the love of my life, Russell, and married him in 1978. He died in 2021 and now I am totally alone. You are right, loneliness at 73 is different...many of my friends, family, have passed or are so old we don't see each other much. It is loneliness plus grief that makes my life so hard now, even with my writing, my home and my cat, Sasha. So, I really identified with your last video more than any other you have done. I just wanted to say...I love your videos and your take on life. Thank you. Kathryn Meyer Griffith
Susan I worked at Walmart a few years ago for yr and a half , and heard many times how much ppl appreciated coming into my line every week bc I was fun to talk to. One day an older man came in, I could tell he wouldn’t want much interaction so I didn’t speak a lot but I ALWAYS smiled from the time I came in until I left for the day. He came in the next day and apologized for being so grumpy the day before He had lost his mom recently. And he said she had talked abt a woman so nice to her @ Walmart..😳 and he knew it was me! And I remembered her!!! They did not get along very well, but he thanked me(with tears in his eyes) for talking to his mom and making her happy! Made my year♥️🌟🙏🏼
I could not help but cry reading this....thank you for your service to all those that need your kind heart and words
@zuzuspetals - Wow, what a wonderful, heartwarming story - you just never know what a little kindness can mean to someone & how things you do can really touch the lives of people you don’t even know …. Blessings to you !
I still remember “Sharon” an older, kind, dark-haired woman who worked the checkout at Safeway where I grew up. I am now 59. That store is long gone, but we all remember Sharon. 💕🌺
Now that's a God thing!
What a sweet story . I will begin to feel some pride shopping there love wally world
The hardest loneliness I have ever felt was when I was married.
Me too. Almost 45 years.
I agree!
Same for me! I’d rather be alone, then in a marriage and feel lonely! After my divorce, I felt free and less lonely!
I agree. I was never so lonely.
That was second only to my childhood.
You don’t have to live alone to feel lonely. I have been married to the same man for 50 years and I feel lonely most of the time. You are a strong woman Susan!
Lonely in a marriage is the worst kind of pain...my love to you..xxoo Susan
I agree. I felt more alone in my 27 yr marriage than I do today, living alone. My little doggie died in Nov ' 22 and I cried each day for 4 months. I never cried once when I divorced. I went dancing 3 times per week for about 15 years, travelled the world, had a great job and enjoyed life. I'm quieter today, have family & friends, travel within my country and not lonely. ❤ peace is priceless
It’s sad, but I would bet that at least half of older married women feel that way - maybe half is even optimistic 😊
Oh Lucy I'm so sorry! 😢
This is so true Lucy. I was thinking the exact same thing while watching this video. Then I scrolled down and read your comment. Hugs.
I was at the grocery store recently and a woman commented on my bag. We started talking . For some reason I sensed that she needed to interact with someone. I decided to stop rushing around and we ended up chatting for 20 minutes. It made her feel better and me too! I think one of the best gifts you can give someone is your time. A small gesture of kindness means so much. Love your chats ❤. Thanks for spending time with all of us
I find that once you start talking with someone, breaking the ice, you find that the two of you have much in common! Loss of a partner, difficult circumstances, maybe health problems or family problems. We’re really not all that different!
It’s amazing to look at someone and think you know about them til you start talking to them and find out they have similar problems that maybe you do, too!
This has happened to me quite a few times. I think to talk to a stranger about anything….. shopping…clothes… a recent weather event…and yes they can go 20 minutes… and you both leave feeling a connection a quite chat and the world can feel so different.
God bless you for being so astute to the moment. Opportunities are there every day to brighten someone’s day and make it more meaningful for them and be a blessing to your wellbeing as well. It really doesn’t take much. Even just a smile , a recognition of value.
Thank you for having empathy for that lady….
Thank you for doing that Lynn, It gives me great Joy when I do that too!God Bless You and Best Wishes Valerie.😊😊
For me having a pet helps tremendously with loneliness. I have my little dogs to talk to, cuddle with and care for. Sometimes they are the only ones I speak out loud to all week long and that’s ok with me. It’s unconditional love. At almost 63 I’ve learned there is a huge difference between being alone and being lonely.
Oh I do the same thing with my dog…..I talk to her all the time because some days she is all I have. 😊
My beautiful female doberman dog passed away last year in June. She was 14 and my faithful loving companion and guard dog. I am hard of hearing and she was my ears and my watch dog. I always felt safe in my home with her. I am looking for another dog and hope I can find one before winter sets in. Having a dog does make a difference. They are always there for you no matter what. I am asking God to direct my path in choosing a new dog and one that I can afford financially. I cast my cares of this world on our Lord and he has never failed to comfort me with his unfailing love. Very seldom do I feel lonely.
@@jmar665 I lost my friend (golden retriever) last year too, so I sympathize. I pray you find the perfect companion!
My dogs are everything. Even if my life is sh*t they’re going running like the wolves. Restores my ❤& soul.
My Logan girl passed away a month ago. I received her and YES received her when she was only 3 months old. She was 16 1/2 when she passed. It was like the program, Touched By An Angel, when I walked out of the restaurant in 2006 where a man and woman spoke up and said to me, you look like you are looking for a dog. My 2 daughters who were in college with me. One look at Logan and I scooped her up in my arms. She became my best friend. I talked to her and with her being gone I am so lost. Not only has her passing been hard but its like empty nest all over again.
Today my daughter mentioned that a lady talked to her in the ladies room. She thought that was a little odd. I told her older people often look for any reason to speak to someone safe. Because they are lonely. She cried. She told me she was so glad I explained that situation. She said she’d make sure she’d speak to more older women any time she gets the chance.
This is so beautiful....thank you so much Nina...
Aww 😊
It is not odd for ladies to speak to one another in the ladies. Why would anyone think so?
@@spirituallysafe I agree. But the younger generation doesn’t do so as easily as we do. I appreciated my daughter asking me. I’m trying to share with her how it is to be an older woman.
Yes, we need to slow down and talk to the elders when we are out and about. They need human interaction. A smile, a greeting, or being courteous is well needed in this society. Older people have so much time - earned wisdom and life experience. I love older folks. I am 59, but I am young in their eyes a lot of them. I can be kind and make someone elses day a little bit better..
One time I was in the Sam’s Club parking lot. I smiled at a lady who looked sad. She came up to me and asked if I would hug her. I said sure and I am glad I did! Who knows what burdens others may bear ?
You were her angel
You were her angel that day. Bless you for your incredible kindness to another.
That breaks my heart. But I’m glad you were there!
You never know when you are entertaining angels
Wow ...😥
I am not lonely. I am 68. I was divorced 35 years ago. In December 2021, I downsized and decluttered into a studio apartment. I love it. I buy my clothes at resale and thrift shops. If you buy classic pieces, you will always be in style. I didn’t learn until later in life that happiness = peace of mind. I cherish the friends I can have deep meaningful conversations with. Sharing with authenticity. Thank you for the video and for my opportunity to comment.
I love your story thank you so much...👍
I was a librarian for many years. It was in hindsight that I realized that all those chatty visits with with senior patrons were not just picking up reading material but may have been the only visit that week.
True that. Poet so nailed the grocery checkout “interaction.” But yes, the kind people @ library as well.
So true!
You know I’m married for 50 years and can feel very alone so I put on my TH-cam friends and catch up with them and instantly I’m understood by you and my spirits are lifted. You’re a wonderful tonic. Thank you. 💝
How dare anyone say Desi didn’t meet their expectation! Desi is perfect with his “imperfections”. Have a great week.❤
As a longtime dog rescuer my mantra: Every dog deserves a loving home. Sadly, most people don’t deserve a dog. 💜Desi!
Totally agree they expect their models to be perfect the same way they expect the human models to be and we all know nothing in this world is perfect. It’s all one big illusion that makes people feel less than adequate. Desi is beautiful, and those little teeth that stick out seal the deal for me and makes my heart happy!
Agree! Desi is a beautiful boy!💙🐾
Oh, yes. Desi's so-called imperfections are his glory. A missed opportunity for that other potential sponsor!
I love Desi ! I’m looking for his twin to live with me in my new house. 💙
You help me not feel so lonely! I too am 70, live alone and have no family or friends close by. It's hard. I agree with you about the difference in loneliness at 32 and 70. When I was 32 I was rarely lonely, I worked, i had many friends, I could afford to do things. Now when I get lonely there is no one to call, no money to shop, a car that may break down at any time, and a body that is slowly turning on me. Don't get me wrong I am grateful for the breath in my lungs, the fact that I am alive but sad that I no longer really have a life. Thank you for your lovely words of wisdom, you are a beautiful soul.❤
I fear I am entering the phase you described. I slowly see it happening. I can see my partner aging faster than I. That scares me. There is a difference between living and surviving. I am afraid I will do the latter if I lose him one day.
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I'm sorry to hear this. But, is there a Woman's Club you can join ? Or, a small church you can attend, a senior center ? Please, look into the social gatherings in your town. Take care ❤
@@SpringNotes That's so sweet of you to mention. I tried all those after my husband passed, and already part of a church- but I think it more a spiritual loneliness. (for me)
@@SpringNotes join a gym best thing to do
When I go out shopping and browsing and take the time to be kind to others, that takes away my loneliness. ❤
Susan, thanks for this topic this week. I am a widow. I lost my husband of 38 yrs.from cancer two yrs.ago. I'm just 59. I was extremely lonely and terrified at first. I had never lived on my own before. Now I live alone in my little house and take care of everything by myself, like you. With the Lords help, I am doing much better than I ever thought I would. And here in the last 6 mths.or so, I find that I'm feeling less lonely. I miss my husband, yes, but this is the first time in my life that I don't HAVE to take care of anyone, and I kind of like it. My three adult daughters live within 30 miles of me, but they are busy with my 6 grandkids. If i need them, all I have to do is call. But, I am surprised at myself, I can do this! I have good credit, pay my bills on time, pay all of my insurances and taxes. I have learned to budget well. I go out a few times a week for errands and shopping. But I actually like being at home. It is my little nest that reflects who i am. I still have many years ahead of me, God willing, and YOU have given me encouragment for that future. You are such a warm and lovely person! Thank you again. Kiss Desi on the head for me. He is the cutest litlle man! ❤ Renee
I lost my husband of 25 years at age 56 (in 2016) He was my soulmate. It took some time to adjust, but I am like you. I miss him, yes, but I kind of like being on my own. My daughter and family live 10 minutes away. I work part-time at a job that I enjoy, pay my bills, and enjoy my time at home with my 2 dogs and cat who were with me every step of the way through my /our loss. I sold our house and we moved to a different state to be closer to family
Both of these posts lifted my spirits. Thank you to both of you for sharing.
Sorry for your loss Renee! ❤
@@maryjwashburnSorry for your loss Mary, my husband passed Dec '17. Christmas is an extra tough time for sure but I know I'm not the only lady who lost a spouse in Dec.
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Hugs to you!
I lost my beloved husband too, Thanksgiving day, 2001. I was 47, a few months after my 1st grandchild was born. Kids are grown with their own lives. All lived 100 miles away at the time. The house was so quiet. I know the feeling of being totally alone even in a crowded room full of people you know. If it had not been for my granddaughter being born Valentine's I don't know how I would have survived. Just knowing she was there was enough. Now I see all my grandchildren often. My name is Renee also ❤
I am your age and I am an artist. I work from home and teach part time at an art college. This keeps me going along with my kids and pets. I lost my husband of 40 years almost 7 years ago. Yes I do feel lonely sometimes, but having a purpose in life helps tremendously.
I also am yr age and an artist. My husband’s health is poor and I am taking over more and more of the physical chores on our little farm. At first it was sad but I am so proud of myself now. Keeping busy whether with making art or doing chores is wonderful TH-cam is a godsend.
My marriage of 24 yrs ended 25 yrs ago. Happily single, although I’ve had a couple of really nice relationships, I truthfully was lonelier when married than I’ve ever been single. The peacefulness I hold inside is priceless. Me been single I realized that the secret to making a million is making better investment. I always tell myself you don't need that new car or that vacation just yet and that mindset helps me make more money investing.
What I think everyone need is a Financial Adviser, who can help you get in and out of any investment at any time and you'd sure be in Profit
*Jenny Pamogas Canaya,* That's whom i work with.
No she's not!... TH-cam is a public place; i can't drop her information here but You can just put her name on google and you will be directed to her website and drop her your message.
Hello Susan good morning
Taken from a painting of a downtrodden woman.
“ON THE DARKEST DAYS WHEN I FEEL INADEQUATE UNLOVED AND UNWORTHY, I REMEMBER WHOSE DAUGHTER I AM AND I STRAIGHTEN MY CROWN”
LOVE FROM THE FATHER WHO WILL NEVER LET US DOWN.❤️🙏🏻✝️
Beautiful and true
Love this so much!
Amen sister I’m never alone My Jesus is with me wherever I go
Thank you for this, loved it, so true!
Thank you Lord!!
My marriage of 24 yrs ended 25 yrs ago. Happily single, although I’ve had a couple of really nice relationships, I truthfully was lonelier when married than I’ve ever been single. The peacefulness I hold inside is priceless. 🌹
Girl, you smack me right in the heart every week. You have created something truly special here on your channel, and I will continue to support you and precious Desi for as long as you see fit to share your life with us. The only thing that would be better is TWO videos a week 😉.
I very rarely feel lonely at home because I have my little dog, plus I really do enjoy my own company, and have my hobbies.
The times I feel a twinge of loneliness are in hospital waiting rooms. Sitting for hours staring at a wall. Everyone seems to have someone with them; a partner, relative or friend, for support. Times like that are a stark reminder that I'm alone. So I tell myself how brave and independent I am, and suddenly I no longer feel lonely, I feel empowered.
Desi is such a star! I love him ❤
I appreciate the effort that you put into your videos. You are able to discuss what is needed to not only help yourself but others - thank you for that! I'm happy that you connect with all of us! And, of course, Desi is just too cute! Enjoy your painting! Hugs to you both and onto more adventures! See you next week!
Sometimes being alone and lonely beats being with someone that should love you but doesnt. Believe it.
I was thinking about loneliness while watching this and it dawned on me that even being married I go through times of loneliness. It’s like a waft of air comes in and takes over with memories of a happy time or a sad time but all in all it’s a time in my past that will never be again. It could be my children in their youth, my mother, or even times with my husband. For some reason it leaves me feeling lonely. Hard to explain…because it teeters somewhere between nostalgia and loneliness. ❤
I know what you mean 💙
I am the same way.
I agree with you. I’ve been married for 39 yrs. We said it all. Nothing to talk about anymore. Son has his family and his life. So I paint. ❤
You have expressed how I sometimes feel as well, sometimes to the point that tears start flowing. I’m not feeling sorry for myself, I have a lot to be grateful for, but I don’t think we can help having these feelings at times…must be part of being human.
Wow, I feel the exact same way you do. My husband is great and my daughter and grandkids are my joys in life but there are times I feel lonely and sad. I guess for me I think about what great times we had in the past and knowing those days are gone really saddens me.
I needed this so bad,just out of hospital and alone in a marriage where my husband could not be asked to visit or even pick me up when it was time to go home.Thank God for my sons and the checkout ladies that still exist.
What a wonderful, inspirational video Susan. Such heartfelt advice for people in a lonely state. It is hard. I am married and celebrate my golden wedding anniversary next week, but our daughter died and we have no other family to speak of so we have a different type of loneliness. A loneliness that comes from having no daughter or grandchildren or siblings. So we as a couple can feel lonely and worried if we were left alone. Life is a journey and a winding road that we have to take step by step and day by day and deal the best way we can with whatever comes.
That little dog, darling Desi, is a an absolute joy and a star. He did great with his modelling. Love him and you too. God bless you both. 🌸
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First, I want to express my sincere condolences to you, for the loss of your daughter. I can't imagine the pain, trough you still go through. I am in my early 50s, and was raised in a family which had many losses. I never meet my maternal grandmother, she died when she was 31 years old. And I heard my great grandparents, and obsessed they life, after her passing. Life will never be the same, and was not the same for them as long as they lived on earth. They're beautiful daughter, and only one, left 2 daughters behind, my mom, 11 years old and my aunt 5 years old at the time of her passing. All my love to you.❤
God bless to you camellia for telling that touching and very sad story. Everyone has their grief in one way or another 🌸@@camelianauta3203
I am so sorry that you lost your daughter. I think loosing a child must be one of the hardest things that you can ever go through in life. Life sure gives some people difficult things to deal with.
I am so sorry you lost your daughter we lost our only daughter at 15 yrs old in 2000 you never think you would go through something like that Jesus softly helped us through I'll never get over it but is better with time God bless you❤
This video really had a major impact on me. Back in December 2020, my mom found she enjoyed watching TH-cam videos and came upon Little Poet's "Alone at Christmas" video. Mom was 91 years old and lived with my sister in Reno, and I live in Arizona. She was frail and could not do as much so she spent a good amount of time on her computer to search recipes and stories, send emails to people, and watch videos. She emailed me telling me about the Little Poet Christmas video she saw and said she wanted me to look it up and so I did. From that day on, we would check every Sunday for Little Poet's newest video and we'd send each other emails not to forget to see it. Mom's health started to decline, and it got to the point she was struggling to find her favorites on TH-cam. So, every Sunday I would send Mom the link to Little Poet's newest video, and she enjoyed them so much and told me "This one made my day!". She especially got such a kick out of Desi. Mom died October 2022 at the age of 93, and at first, I found it so hard to bring myself to watch Little Poet videos knowing she was no longer there and was not able to watch them. But then I thought to myself "Mom would want me to carry on our tradition" and so I did. I miss her especially when Sunday comes now, and feel that pang of loneliness. But I also feel like she is right there with me, standing over my shoulder as we watch it together.
I'm trying to learn how To be alone
God bless you and your mother too❤
@@jeriemaggi611🎉It isn't easy but it can be done!! I have been on my own for 4 years now at age 67 and I'm just starting to BLOOM!🌺🌺🥳
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Phew, every week... you hit the nail on the head... being alone or lonely - or a mix of both? Keep being you.
Oh Susan, This was so heartfelt. I’m sharing it with my cousin. Her husband passed at age 62 after 30 years of marriage. She was completely unprepared and over the last 4 years she has gone through extreme periods of grief and loneliness. The good news is that she has two wonderful pups like your sweet Desi and they provide her a great deal of comfort as well as bringing lots of joy into her life. She’s hoping she will meet someone special one day to spend her senior years with. That’s not happened yet but she keeps herself busy with her pups, her hobbies, and church. Thank you for all you share. You have no idea how many hearts you touch!! Love and God Bless, Mary ❤ PS…Congratulations to Desi! He’s a SuperStar!! ❤🐶❤️
I look forward to your videos every week. No time to feel lonely when I watch you and Desi. I love that little guy and I am so happy he has you and you have him. You take such good care of him. ❤️💙
This video about loneliness was very therapeutic. There is a sense of shame associated with it- we often tell ourselves that we are “losers” because we are lonely. I think it needs to be talked about more. I’m 66, live alone after divorce, rarely see my adult children. Most of the time I’m ok, but when I do feel lonely I beat myself up over it, like it shouldn’t be happening if I managed my life better
I feel very similarly. Empty nester, still working. Job is draining and on weekends I often don't have it in me to be social. I rest and have lots of hobbies to keep me busy. It's hard on long weekends and holidays. I can hear everyone in our neighborhood having backyard parties and gatherings. I think "Where did I go wrong?" Not a great feeling. I get it.
Can relate have my moments too. I wonder how on earth did I end up like this . I had such a full life , rarely alone . I’m also 66.
Turning 65 recently, & losing my brother less than a year ago has invited me to reflect on many things. I realized I was far more lonely in my 2 marriages than I am now when alone. I love my solitude, find comfort in it as well as joy. Thank You Susan- Love, Joy & Hugs to You & Desi.
I'm so sorry for the loss of your brother I know how that feels. I lost my big brother David in 1997 when he was just 40.
I'm so sorry for both of you. I lost my brother, Ty, April 17th. He was 53. I never imagined how difficult it would be. Everyone expects me to be fine already... thank you for sharing.
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I am so sorry you lost your brother Ty in April. If you're like me( everybody is different) I was in shock for about a year, my mind couldn't process his loss. The second year is when the grief sunk its teeth in, but you will get through it. Lean on your faith and no in my opinion you shouldn't be over your loss so please don't rush it because that might keep you in the denial stage. Your loss is so fresh, be kind and patient with yourself.
I’m 57 as of July. Two years ago I finally got my freedom from a horrible marriage. I moved in with an old high school classmate. My dream came true! Now a year ago in August, I lost him to death. I moved to Missouri close to my grand baby. Recently I moved into my fabulous apartment. I have so enjoyed watching you and getting great tips on decorating. Because of your tips, I’m now nurturing my need for skin care.
I guess I get lonely sometimes just to have some one to pal around with or talk to. So I started walking 2 to 6 miles daily. I also drive to different towns and thrift as a coping mechanism. Now I’m getting into Ultra’s 21 days of beauty and marking my calendar.
I have no desire to get married and since I’m finally free from a bad marriage I can be my anal self in keeping my house and self look great!
Sincerely, Wanda Allen Lide
Walking is transformative for body and mind. 🌺
@@LilyGazou i walk from 2 to 6 miles a day
Well I am quite offended that anyone would think Desi isn't cute enough to to represent their product ! He is just adorable . I am 71, lost my husband to cancer 10 years ago and have lived by myself since then. I keep myself entertained. I love to read, love to cross stitch and have my favorite TV programs ! I share my hobby with my best friend and have no problem going out to shoo or eat by myself. I learned I can't wait for someone else to entertain me 😊. I am that lady who will smile and talk to strangers at Walmart or anywhere I'm shopping, yep I will give you a smile when I pass by you. Love your lady picture, looks like a classy lady !! Enjoy your videos Susan, you and Desi always make me smile.
Wonderful comment ❤
This is one of my favorite videos of yours, so far. I am SO ANGRY that Desi got 'dissed' by that bow-tie company! All those 'flaws' are what makes Desi so adorable and special (and gangsta)! I concur w/you 100%: being lonely after 50 is VERY different than being lonely in our more youthful years. I could write an entire essay about that topic!
It helps me from feeling isolated and lonely by cooking meals for friends or family that are elderly and disabled and delivering it to them. I love you and Desi and your new home is so charming !
By sheer happenstance your channel popped up a year ago, the weekend my husband was in ICU before going into hospice. During his last months and since then, your videos lend sparkle to my week. While we come from very different life experiences, you and your programs are authentic, relatable, dignified, and filled with hope. So glad you’re out there LittlePoet!
You touch my heart...I am so sorry what you are going through and have said a prayer
I was with my husband almost 40 years so losing him a few months ago has been so hard. Yes I feel very lonely but what scares me is I have health problems and no spouse to help me anymore.I lost my cat too so it’s been awful but pets are amazing company and I hope to rescue again someday 💕
I lost my husband of 41 years two years ago. I have two dogs which helps, but I have a hard time picturing what the future looks like for me now. I feel the same as you about being alone and having medical issues. Church is a wonderful place to get support and assistance from caring people.
Don't hesitate get another pet.
I understand how both of you feel. I lost my husband almost 14 years ago, but I have my 28 year old grandson with me. Last year I lost my ability to walk and it scared me so much. I can get around now, but I have to use the walker when I go out. I was in the hospital for five weeks and had back surgery. But with no husband, it's not the same. Wishing you both the best and take care. ❤
@@pamcornelius9122 I’m sorry for your loss too. It’s a totally different life now isn’t it
@@streaming5332 My house is up for sale but once settled I’ll rescue again. I love animals and miss my cat so much
Desi is a star! He looks so dapper with his bow tie and his meticulous grooming. The CEO of the bow tie company made a huge mistake letting him go. It's Desi's little imperfections that makes him so adorable and perfect!
Dapper Desi is the CUTEST product spokesman ever❣️He looks absolutely WONDERFUL!!! The bow tie people totally missed out 🐾💙🐾
I love orange too. It's my favorite color. I get that same sudden lonely feeling at antique flea markets. I decided that it comes from things I see that remind me of friends and family that are gone and I miss. When I worked in retail at a department store, a woman would come into the store and fill her cart with items, then abandon it and leave the store. One evening while I was re-folding some clothing we got to chatting and I asked if there was a problem with the items she chose and she told me she was lonely at home and was a recovering TV shopaholic. So she came into the store , a safe place, fulfilled her need to shop without spending money and was around people so she wasn't lonely. I always feel so connected to your chats. Thank you for sharing.❤
Thank you for another week of deep thoughts and tears. I look forward every week. Yes, I’m lonely sometimes but it could be a lot worse. Thank you Desi for the smile you give me every week!
I was widowed at 39. Remarried at 50, my husband died the first week we were married. Have been a widow for over 20 years. I have never felt lonely. I have my faith, my children and their families, my part time job, friends. I miss my husband immensely, but have enough in my life to be happy. I used to tell my husband I had the best and would not look any further. I haven’t dated since he passed…my choice.
I learn so much from you. You just keep it so real!
When I get to feeling lonely I get off my butt and take a walk in my beautiful neighborhood and get to pet all the dogs being walked by their owners. They make me smile.
Love to you and Desi. ❤
Great plan!
Hi, I just found your channel. I am 72 yrs. old. I retired at 62 because of caregiving circumstances for my elderly parents. It was very difficult but now looking back I am grateful that I was able to do that for them. I was a flight attendant for 42 years for a major carrier so I was around thousands of people,different cultures, and many foreign countries. I was married to a very narcissistic man for 7 yrs., but produced a wonderful daughter that I raised mostly by myself . Divorced in 1993, and have been single since then. I wanted to meet a godly man but obviously that was not God's plan for me. I've always loved animals,so that is where my passion and my energy and time went to rescuing animals but unfortunately ,I cannot give them away or find them homes. But having these animals give me alot of joy and great company. My daughter does not share my passion so she is always telling me that I have too many and I better stay healthy because she will not be taking care of them after I am gone. They are alot of work but at this time, fortunately I am still fine physically and I am able to clean up after them. I have a small 3 bedroom home that I maintained myself. Of course, I wish I had a companion to help me around the house, go out to eat with or watch television with. I am active in my church and co-lead a women's bible study. All of my church friends are happily married and so I am mostly by myself in the evening so that is when I get lonely in the evening at times. But I try to not focus on that and just busy myself with something else. I had such a bad marriage with a controlling person that I am so glad that I do not have anyone telling me what to do and when to do it, even though I was working full time during the marriage. So the only respite I had was my layovers , but I had a very young child then so I chose to fly short trips. Anyway, I want to thank you for making these videos. What a great idea to be able to share your contented life with us older women. My prayer is that the women who watch your channel will find contentment in their singleness but I only credit my contentment to my belief in God, my Lord Jesus Christ. Thank you so much.
I live alone, a widow, just retired. I decided to find a hobby and am so happy to be challenged to be artistic! Lonely? Maybe sometimes when I miss my husband. My home, responsibilities, friends and family relationships keep me from focusing solely on me. When alone, I have so many memories of happy years of love and joy to fill up those hours. At 71 it's not all dancing and singing, but I am content with my life. Oh, and where would we all be without Desi? What a cutie!🥰
I'm pushing 80 this month. I live alone and have lived alone for over 40 years. But I have a 12 year old boy in my neighborhood who is lonely and trying his best to be a tough guy. I give him my time every time he comes around. He needs me sometimes. I need to be able to take care of myself the best I can. I'm not taking anyone into my house. Just keep on taking care of yourself and those who come to you for no reason.
I believe loneliness sets in too many seniors especially if they have no siblings or family they become isolated alone and feeling like nobody cares for them the best thing a senior can do to alleviate some of the loneliness is get a pet it doesn't matter what it is it makes you feel like you have a purpose that might be all they talked to in a week's time but it gives them the company they need as a senior grows old many don't go out as much as they used to and a lot of those people they knew died that's when loneliness sets in.
When it comes to dealing out in the public it is almost only momentarily for a short while then they go home alone. It's difficult making true friends as you grow old the people that live alone have a hard time getting out to circulate to meet anyone my advice would be to get an animal and make that animal your friend someone who you can wake up to every day and take away some of the emptiness throughout the hours of each day a lot of elderly people will say well if I die what will happen to the animals Elder euthanized that is not true because an adoption agency will come in and take the animal and Foster them to a good home but in the meantime it gives a person's life substance and fills a lot of the loneliness that they experience each day make that your best friend the animal will always be there for you it will never betray you lie cheat cause you any harm it will be a truly dedicated friend and companion
I ❤ your comment. Lifelong dog rescuer. Many senior pups need homes. I’m 70 now. My dogs are my only reason to get up, face the pain, and do another day again. Sorry cat folks but cats = BarcaLoungers. Lazy Boys.
What agency and who contacts them. Thanks in advance
This is your best video yet. My husband passed away 19 months ago and I am so lonesome and lost. I am active in my church, volunteer, and have so many friends, but my lonliness is overwhelming. Thank you for your beautiful words of encouragement. Love from Alabama. Congratulations Desi!
We are all here for you!
I'm sorry for your loss Kitty! My husband has been in Heaven for about 5 yrs....doesn't feel like it. 😢 We lived in AL for almost 6 yrs my husband worked at Children's but we lived between Trussville & Pinedale Shores on 59. Which direction are you from Bhm?
It takes a long time to ground yourself after such a loss. 🌺
You have a lot of company out here.
Your happiness is contagious, thanks for sharing your special moments. Desi is a natural to the camera, so adorable.❤
Have learned to acknowledge people who are lonely when I am out & about, can feel their presence a mile away. Take a moment of your time to say hello, or listen to them talk about whatever, answer a question, help them out if they need a helping hand. If you really tune in and look around, you could make someone's day brighter.🌈🌞😊
I just stay busy each and everyday I am remodeling my house by myself at 74 I am so proud it is looking so nice when I finish I am going to throw a party and at night I fall asleep right away. I can do this things were looking sad now each room is coming alive and so am i❤
First, I have to say that Desi is a wonderful spokesdog! A natural!
I was crushingly lonely after my husband died five years ago. You're right, Susan. That was grief. Now the loneliness feels much more like homesickness.
The problem I'm working on now is that I feel as if I should be lonely. I'm a widow. People expect it. I'm not lonely. I have kids and grandchildren and friends and four really wonderful dogs. I'm a reader and a jewelry designer. Yes, I'm homesick. I'm not lonely. I hope that makes sense.
Much love to you and Desi.
That makes perfect sense.
Homesick for my heavenly home❣️
The work you used"homesick" is the perfect word to describe the people in nursing homes that don't understand why they could never be at home or there isn't a home to return to
@@tonihendrix6652Amen
Susan, you made some excellent points. I remember being at home with a baby and I was lonely and I made "friends" with all the grocery store clerks. They helped validate my existence through the week. I was more lonely raising two boys as my husband traveled and few people wanted to be around a mother of two active children. So now that I am 62, I make a point to give some attention to parents of young children, especially parents who do not have a supportive network.
Just beginning Your Video, I’m 66 and I have Winnie the Pooh sheets on my bed as we speak so I’d say Snoopy is fair game😁PS You have a Gift for Decorating, I’m Always Amazed at the Beauty of Your Home🧡
Me too. Do what makes you happy! 77 here 🎉
Susan, I really related to this video. I never felt lonely when I was younger. And what you said about not having time to mess up at this age is so true. I even tell myself that. So, after being married to a cold and self absorbed man I married when I was 43 I am finally leaving him so that I can feel alive again. I'm 66 now, have a very affectionate yorkie name Sunny who since the day I got him in 2015 sits next to me every single New Years Eve and we watch the ball drop. (Desi reminds me of him). I am hoping to start next spring looking for a home and being happy. It's sad when you are an outgoing, young at heart person who isn't even seen by the one who married you. What I do if I need that "good" feeling is play my Frank Sinatra music loud, along with Michael Buble' and 70's music. It suddenly transports me to being young and happy, and I get out of my funk. Hugs to All ~ Thanks for being out here Susan and her followers, you are friends.
My go-to music is Cajun👍🏼
I struggled with loneliness during my childhood and twenties. The loneliness left as I married and had children. Now my husband has passed away and a month ago I became an empty nester with my children scattered around the country. Loneliness has found me again and I feel paralyzed as to how to start this journey alone. I so admire your strength and find encouragement in your words.
You deserve happiness. It comes from within as a choice. I'm sorry you feel alone. I can relate to that. Doing enjoyable activities alone is a learned skill. Helping others or caring for animals can help too. Sending you a big hug💖
I understand how you feel. I've been divorced for 20 years, gave up on the dating scene years ago, too many "fools" out there, and my youngest son moved out 4 years ago. It's definitely been a struggle for me after 22 years of marriage and raising 5 kids to be alone. My kids and grandkids are close so I see them, I have wonderful neighbors, I have other family, but it's still a struggle sometimes with loneliness. When my son moved out I thought it was the end of the world, it was HARD! But, I just had to get out of the house, even just to "look around" in a store or wherever. I find things to keep busy, but in reality, it's not the same as having someone around every day. Just know you'll be ok, it takes time, sometimes a lot of time to adjust to living and handling life alone, but you can do its:) Sending you lots of love and strength❤And know, that you are NOT alone in feeling loneliness, there's nothing wrong with you, it's just another difficult part of life we have to learn to navigate through, and it's not always easy for some of us.
@@nigella4me I am feeling similar to you. I was a single mother to one child, who has gone far away to college. I was always so busy raising my daughter...and yes, gave up on dating a long time ago. No desire. I am a keep to myself kind of person. But I am struggling with loneliness this time around...My daughter brings a lot of life and friends into our home. It's been so quiet here without her...and to make it worse, I've had an injury. Anyway, I just wanted to say thank you for sharing here. When I read what you wrote, I felt less alone.
@@CynthiaAva I'm so sorry about your injury. Getting sick or injured when you live alone is so very hard. I feel for you. I never dreamed I'd be alone at 68 but life had other plans. Strangely enough, my neighbor across the street, the neighbors on each side of my house, and a younger neighbor that's a man, all live alone. I call it the lonely hearts club. We visit and talk with each other all the time, but the reality is, we go back to our empty houses, and sometimes it's just plain hard. I know how you feel about it being quiet without your daughter. After my son moved out, I was literally heartbroken, cried for weeks and weeks and the silence without him was HORRIBLE. I still miss him so much even though he lives in the same city and visits me. I had to totally change everything in his room immediately because it hurt so much to even look in there. It still gets to me sometimes just knowing, he used to be in there. People in videos always say to get a hobby, find new friends, keep busy, travel, etc., but the hard truth is, like I tell my sister who lives in another state, everything I do and anyone I see, it's all very temporary, a brief moment in time, and it doesn't take care of all the other hours in the day and night. If it weren't for my little dog Pixie, I'd go nuts. She is everything to me now. I sincerely hope you find a way to deal with your loneliness. I don't follow a certain religion, but I do believe in God and Jesus. During my toughest, loneliest times, I literally call or cry out to God or Jesus for help, pray to them in my own words, and something always comes along to help with what I'm going through. Being alone is not an easy path for many of us. Sending you love and strength, and if you don't mind, prayers too.❤
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As soon as I saw the picture in the promo, I thought she looked like you. So beautiful!
Desi is so handsome! The bowtie sponsor must be blind.
I love all your video's they make me rethink how I need to stay happy and content no matter what is happening around me. Thank you for being you!!!!!❤
You did a great job on Desi’s haircut..At 77 there are a lot of times I feel lonely. Sometimes just going for a drive in the car, and maybe stop at McDonalds for a coffee will perk me up…and if I have a book with me, I’ll park in the parking lot at Mickey D’s and read my book and drink my coffee. Sometimes, you just need to get out of the house!
You're so sweet saying you love your audience. I've always taught my kids that whatever comes out of somebody's mouth is how they feel about themselves. You must be filled with joy.
I love that “whatever comes out of someone’s mouth is how they feel about themselves “
@@kayingthao5072 Thanks! When I was raising my kids I would take them to the park daily. I would put on my headphones and listen to a radio psychologist who would take peoples calls. I learned so much from her. That's one of the things I remember her saying a lot and I always remembered it.
What a wonderful video message! I'm 68 and have had bouts of loneliness. I have found that staying active by volunteering or just working part time a few hours a week makes so much difference. It makes me feel productive and I'm not focusing on myself, but on others. I'm not lonely much only once in a while it rears up. Give to others and watch what happens!! Thank you Susan!!!! So happy for Desi and his new gig! Deb in Southern Oregon
Thank you so much!! Have a great Sunday...sending love and hugs, Susan & Desi
Honestly, I think some of my loneliest moments were in my 30s. I find now that I’m in my mid-60s there are fewer lonely moments, thankfully. I think it’s because at this time of our life, we are more accepting of our self and others, and we meet people where they’re at. And no more than ever I understand the importance of connecting and keeping connections sacred.
Absolutely agree with you. If anyone had told me I would be living alone in my 60’s when I was in my 50’s I would of been very worried. I love living alone with my dogs.
I'm in my 70s and when I get lonely. I usually go on my porch and watch the sky. I love looking at certain clouds in the sky. Some of them have great shapes. Well, one day I wanted to go some where so so bad! No car, no buses to catch, no money for cabs etc. No friends or family to give me a ride so as I was standing on my porch. The idea came. Look at your beautiful yard! Leave this porch and walk around your house! So I did. I notice things I never looked at before. People passing. Looked at me, smiled, and spoke to me. They never spoke to me before. Great feeling! I have a stick with me, in case I fall but my doctor says, good exercise. And it's safer than being on the street. I sleep better n have more energy. Thank you for inspiring me. Happy for the little dog. He is great! Love that picture
Oh my gosh…that picture is gorgeous. I can’t believe he gave it to you for $18.00. It is wonderful. Desi looked precious with his cut. He is a precious baby. Love you Susan 😊
Thanks Susan- it’s nice to listen to someone my age talk about life. My husband has Alzheimer’s disease and we’ve lost the friendship we once shared. He can’t relate to me in serious or adult ways. He acts like a toddler most of the time. Not complaining- it’s just the way it is. So I guess I am lonely for our past relationship. Mr Desi looks so handsome! What a cutie pie!
I put on music I am 70 and I start dancing and singing it makes me smile and makes me feel so happy
Thank you for this video Susan. I hope to turn 71 on Dec 2. I have stage IV ovarian cancer, no husband nor kids but I don’t feel lonely. I take a yoga class twice a month and I recently joined a group of cancer patients with stage IV cancer that meet up once a month. I love to read, make earrings, knit or crochet. This way I keep myself busy and enjoy my life. Always look forward to your videos. XXX
wow...you got this!!! Saying prayers for you. Thank you so much for such an endearing comment! xo Love always, Susan & Desi
Oh wow, you are such a strong lady. I wish I could be near you so you can feel less lonely. I don't have family or kids and getting sick is my biggest fear. I won't be able to make it. I really admire you!! All the best to you, hope you are healed, miracles happen, I will keep you in my thoughts ❤❤❤
@@joannaheart8167 thank you so much.
Love Desi’s on camera look❤❤ How dare he say he wasn’t camera ready🤬🤬 Thank you for another inspiring video. My friend and neighbor of 20 years who was getting ready to start a new adventure , she is single was going to move from Massachusetts to Georgia signed the purchase and sales on both houses and last Saturday morning at 5:45 I noticed there was a missed phone call from her and I saw the ambulance out the window. Needless to say I was trying to locate her for two days. She had a massive stroke and the reason she didn’t leave me a voice message was because she couldn’t speak… she has been unresponsive for a week and now she’s has a fever.. I was so upset that she was leaving me to go to Georgia and now I would give anything just to have her back and to move ..and I know the Lord can do anything but it does not look good. So live the best life you can, love your friends because you never know what’s going happen from moment to moment..me and Otis🐶 Massachusetts* I love reading I used to read all the time and then life got in the way.. now I am reading, alot.. I love being involved with my church. It makes me so happy and fulfilling, but most of all I love walking with Otis every morning 3 to 4 miles a day weather permitting, it gives me a sense of freedom and clarity 😊and I meet a lot of nice people on the way.
Wow, that is a powerful story and it is packed with a message we all need. We just never know what tomorrow holds, only God know the days of our lives. So sorry for your friend and neighbor. I have prayed for your friend and for you.
Sending a hug and prayer for you and your friend.
@@leek7987 thank you for your prayers. My faith has gotten me this far♥️ it’s so surreal to me. We are all on our town houses and she is in the middle unit right next to me. I am at the end and we’ve been friends for 20 years.
@@rhonies9229 thank you, I so appreciate your comment and prayers♥️
Most days I don't have a spare moment to feel lonely. I'm a passionate gardener, devoted Memaw, still have a hubby of 48 yrs, and most days move along way too fast. I enjoy this life and all the beautiful gifts in this earth, how blessed are those who find the peace that passes understanding. Never bored in Pa❤
💚💚Love that Desi is sponsor perfect. Thank you Ceewes for loving Desi, like we do. He has personality plus. I don't think what I feel is lonely. Mostly I feel safe from drama. I don't have the patience for people and their bad attitudes. I will admit that I do grieve for where I thought my life would be now with the man I loved and having a 28 year marriage end badly.
You come across as a beautiful woman I’d like to meet.
Hello to you and Desi. My mom and I used to watch you together. She passed away on August 2, 2023. Her passing was sudden and unexpected. I am an only child with no first cousins, aunts, uncles, or grandparents. People find it difficult to believe that someone can exist with no family, but it's my painful reality. Both my mom and I talked about getting out more to see the world in the event that something happened to one of us so that the other would not be alone. Unfortunately, life and time did not grant us this precious opportunity. Everything has fallen upon me suddenly. I'm trying to navigate finances and things that I never had to manage due to losing my beloved mother. Someone asked me how I could return to our home where we lived, and I responded with, "Where else am I to go, this is my home." Intense grief, sadness, the profound loss are consuming. I am the last one standing while trying to manage the heartache and loneliness. Thank you for making this video.
Hi Susan and Desi!! 😊 🩷 🌞
Thank you for being my weekly therapy!! Loved how you got that painting and it looks perfect where you have it in your beautiful home!! Aww ..sweet, adorable Desi!!
Lots of love to you, sweet friend!! 🩷🩷
Thank you for your inspiration. I have been lonely since I lost my husband and I do have many friends and a wonderful church group. I have 2 rescue cats that actually rescued me. When I’m sad they snuggle right up to me and I adore them. Life is very different now and I’m trying hard to adjust
You give us so much practical advice and insights into aging with grace and beauty. I worry about loneliness too. I stay super busy with my job and I crochet and teach my great niece how to sew. It is so wonderful to teach a young person a craft. She is nine years old and just loves to learn and it fills my heart with joy to share my knowledge with her!! Giving back is the best way to not feel lonely!
You rescued Grandma from the dark, smelly cave. I think she was calling out to you. 😊
As soon as I saw your painting I thought she looks just like you Susan. She really does!
When I'm lonely I read, go for a walk, smile at someone, do something for someone...
Shame on that tie company for discriminating on our sweet Desi! They would have sold a million ties if they had Desi as their ambassador. Desi is so handsome and would have made those ties look way better than they probably are.
Susan, you hit a spot with me on today’s video. I lost my wonderful, loving mother this past June. I feel like a lonely orphan without her. I have an unhappy marriage, my only sister has psychological problems and my only child lives 2000 miles away. My mother was my best friend and we did everything together. I have been thinking about going back to church and possibly volunteering somewhere. One thing that I do that helps is going to visit my daughter and my sweet granddaughter. I would love to move to where they live but I have to take care of my sister. When I get really lonely I do retail therapy. LOL It really helps too.
Love to you and Desi ❤️
I am sorry about the loss of your mother. 🙏
Sweet Susan, you MAY be the therapist some of us need yet can't afford. Your advice is perfect. Your stories are so relatable and believable. I've watched many of your videos, but this one is my favorite because I'm 80 and am lonely at times. I read one of the comments you received where the writer says to "stay out of the past", and I couldn't agree more. If I listen to music from the fifties and sixties (high school times), I'm soooooo wanting to retreat and re-live those times. I think I'll take the writer's advice and CHANGE THE RADIO STATION !! Thanks, Susan, and you will never know how many people are helped by your experiences. Oh, and Desi is the cutest dog EVER.
Thank you for sharing. I often wonder how Hal is doing, I hope he is well. Enjoy your week Susan and Desi!
Go out into nature, I garden so am never alone. I plant natives now so my yard is full of butterflies. Waiting for trees to grow for more birds! I have a dog & two cats and still talk to myself hahaha!
You are a beautiful soul! Every week you inspire me and how I view my life moving forward. Everyday I have a 30 minute commute to my office and I watch/ listen to one of your videos. By the time I reach my office I feel ready to conquer my day! Desi is a celebrity in my book, sponsorship or not ❤️🐾
Recently I was at Walmart's and remembered I needed a new lightbulb. When I got to that aisle a 94 year man struck up a conversation with me. We talked for more than an hour. Towards the end of our conversation he had to hold onto my cart and his but it was amazing that he could stand in one place for that long. He would have continued talking but I needed to get home. I have to say, I enjoyed our conversation. Since I am a talker, I seem to always find someone to converse with when I go out; therefore, I am rarely lonely. By the way, you did an excellent job with this topic and I always love seeing Desi!
I love your videos every week. Your wisdom and kindness is so wonderful. Thank you for the joy you bring me. I am 72, alone, and sometimes get lonely. When I do, I watch your videos. I really wish we were neighbors!❤❤❤
Wouldn’t it be good if Poet would do meetups or trips together? Don’t want to take her away from Dezi tho!
Thank you dear Susan I lost mother this April.I.srill can't believe it. I was her care taker for many years and we had friends etc. Now they have passed or no longer in my life. Its my new normal but I know Ill be ok. Watching you and Desi means so much it warms my ❤ and inspires me to keep going...Thank you and many blessings to you both...Desi is just beyond precious! 💖
YES Susan, keeping busy is the key to it all. I have set up a set schedule and daily routine, and taken up pet sitting and dog walking on weekdays from 10 AM to 1 PM. I live in a large eastern city with no family nearby as I did not grow up here. I have been divorced since 2001 and have no children except for a cat that turned 20. I own my one vintage condo built in 1929 in this city and I do love it. I was a nurse and now I am semi-retired after a bad bout with a "virus" precipitated into a health condition. I just keep busy doing small projects for others administratively and planning my future. I am your age. I do not think about it and just live each day the best I can. I try to be friendly to people and make friends but I notice that people often have their own lives and so are only superficial. I am just grateful for what I do have and I want to be positive as I know things could be much worse. Thanks for your videos--I enjoy them each week. Can you tell me what kind of dog that Desi is? He is adorable!
Love your comment. Keep flourishing! One of my pups is Dezi’s larger twin. I’ve had sooo many but Lulu stands out as Disney dog. Real talker, listener. So smart. She’s a terrier.
While I took my husband through the dying process during Covid the super market check out lady Rose was a comforting connection. She knew him & we briefly chatted about him every visit. Scroll ahead to bereavement group & this was such a shared lifeline for others. At 72 I rejoined & became active in my Church, helping others…I do art & photography. I write poetry on grief, even submitting one to the Library of Congress for Copyright. I am glad that you are near your family. I still struggle. Jeanne ( retired RN)
🌻Oh my, that pawn shop sounds scarey-I would have left pronto!! A sad subject, loneliness, but so true. My ex announced he didn’t want to be married any more, altho we stayed married for 10 more years so he could blow our savings and stock, then finally he filed five years ago. Aged 62, I was alone after marriage 35 years! Now I’m 67, moved here to be close to my son and his family, live in an apartment and broke, I’m very very lonely. I cry every day. But also believe there are good times ahead. I envy your home, your independence, and your nice friends and family. I haven’t been able to make any friends here. But I’m forging ahead. Thank you, Susan and everyone here. I love Desi!!!! Enjoy a great weekend! 🍂🍁🧡
Im a first time viewer and I am so glad I found your channel. I can not believe you are 68, what? What a beautiful, gentle soul you are. God bless you ❤
When I'm visiting with you and Desi in your warm, lovely home; I feel less lonely. ❤️
I do not like the self-check out stuff. As high as groceries are we should at least have someone else to ring them up for us!! LOL It's okay, but they are usually so busy, just like the long line where they have an actual person ringing up your items. I do feel down sometimes, actually quite a lot lately. I was feeling really low one day and I went to a restaurant to eat, just to get out and do something. The waitress had the nicest smile, and she was nice, but it was really her nice warm smile that made me feel better. Talking with someone does make it better. I have been pretty good at getting out and doing things in the past, like taking any free classes at the library, or pay for painting classes, or going on a bus trip with seniors from church, etc. It's easy to get in that lonely state if we lay around and dwell on it. I must do better since I have been down a lot lately!! That Desi is so cute!!
Desi was great! ❤ He was so calm when you were grooming him and his fur looked really soft and shiny. He is a wonderful brand ambassador! I agree with you that being lonely at 72 (or 62 in my case) is very different from my lonliness at 32. I don't have any tips to overcome loneliness, but I am trying to keep busy. I just signed up for a photography class in the hope getting out of the house will help me find a out of this incredible loneliness I feel. This is a beautiful video. Thank you for speaking about this.
Love this comment. Dezi “brand ambassador.” Yep.
So very glad I found your channel!!! Can't wait to see where your journey takes you!!! I think the difference between 35 and 65 for me is...I truly love myself!!!
Love how relatable your content is! I like living alone and sometimes feel lonely. Interactions at stores or the library can really make my day.
I know my mute, incommunicado husband rolls his eyes @ my checkout stories. But these days it’s all I have.
I loved this video. I do think as seniors most of our loneliness comes from the grief of all those we have lost and the good times that have passed. I’ve noticed each time I lose a loved one I go through a period of loneliness brought on by grief. Keeping busy with a project, hobby or social life is about all that seems to help. That’s why I plan to get out of my house almost on a daily basis and live life! Keep the mind’s battlefield occupied with good thoughts.
... it's not so much about feeling lonely.. although sometimes I do, it's more about the longing to feel a human touch... 💔
I go to a Yoga studio at least 3 times a week and always feel so great after I leave. I found if I surround myself with people who lift me up it makes me feel happy. Have a great week and blessings from Melbourne Australia ❤❤🇦🇺🇦🇺
Much love to you and Desi. You create community here every single week. Thank you!
I am very alone. I lost my younger sister, younger brother, and mother ,all in 9 months in 2021 and 2022. Then, I found out my husband of 46 years was living with another woman while across the country for work . We divorced because he wanted her over our family. He was not here for me when I needed him so much. I thought we were forever, and I was trustful and devoted. Just 3 weeks ago,I had to put my wonderful cat down. I have been so depressed for so long. I am finally getting my house back in order,but I have plans for so much purging and reorganization . I have not done any sewing in a while. I plan to get back into it, too. I am doing things for others, and it is now time for me. I gave my heart and soul all of my life and need ME again. I love your videos and positive ,helpful,
words. I am turning 67 in Nov. I feel it will be only me forever. Give Desi a kiss for me.
I look forward to your video every week, I'm 74, I'm married but still alone. I married a narcissistic man, never heard that term before, I over did everything thinking he would like me, of all the places we met at church, I worked full time and on the road 3 hours a day. Sometimes I'd cry coming home, not wanting to go there. I kept telling myself take one day at a time. All i am to him is a handyman, he's never treated me like a woman. I had come out of a marriage with 2 grown daughters and for 3 years I was single having a good time with my friends. Now we are just 2 people living under the same roof. He has signs of dementia to the extent he forgets directions. All I want is my 30 years back. It was so nice having my own life.
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I have never commented before, though I have listened to many of your videos. This one about loneliness hit me hard. I am a writer (have been for over 51 years with many books out there under Kathryn Meyer Griffith) and I now know loneliness for the first time in my 73 years very well. My husband of 44 years, Russell, died two years ago and I am now living alone for the first time in my long life. I grew up in a huge family, married the first time, had a child, got divorced at 27 and then met the love of my life, Russell, and married him in 1978. He died in 2021 and now I am totally alone. You are right, loneliness at 73 is different...many of my friends, family, have passed or are so old we don't see each other much. It is loneliness plus grief that makes my life so hard now, even with my writing, my home and my cat, Sasha. So, I really identified with your last video more than any other you have done. I just wanted to say...I love your videos and your take on life. Thank you. Kathryn Meyer Griffith