I was always grateful my parents divorced when I was a baby because I never saw the fighting. Like you said, it’s all I knew. As I got older I saw how different my parents were and I couldn’t imagine them being together. The only advice I can give is “don’t talk negatively about the other parent in front of the child.” Kids love both their parents and nobody likes hearing someone talk bad about them.
Same! My parents divorced before I was 2 and I never resented it, even when I was little. I wish they had put more effort into coparenting as I got older though. I don't think there was as much information on it in the 90s
I really admire how you are always talking positively about Arrow’s dad because one day you know Arrow or her friends will come after these videos . 👏🏻 proud of you 💗
I watch my boyfriend coparent with his oldest child's mother, I know how hard it can be but I didn't realize just how strong you have to be until I had a baby and it's like how there's sooooo much you have to consider - all the child's ins and outs. It's alot. Hugs to everyone watching this xoxo
I can never imagine how it must have been for you going through these two years. I am so impressed how you handle everything, how strong and what a loving mom you are. Thank you so much for your openess and honest vlogs throughout very hard times. Life is up and down, but in the hardest times it seems so full of darkness.. then look at your daughter and visit your own mom. Nothing heals more than the love of our own mom.
I’m a single parent & a new mom . Trying to co-parent with a newborn is difficult especially with no friends that are In the situation, to relate too. I appreciate this video.
My son is 5 months and I am now single, learning to co parent with his father. It's going great so far we knew it needed to happen but it hit my heart so hard when you were talking about wanting to share those moments with someone. It's honestly the hardest part. It hurts every time. But I couldn't be more grateful that I have him 100% of the time and I get the opportunity to be there for all of those moments.
This is the first time I’ve EVER seen a coparent video and it’s so refreshing to see your side of what happens followed by advice. I’m proud of you and you’re so strong for making this for all of us to see :’) Arrow is Blessed to have you as her Mama
Putting on that COPARENTING HAT is so spot on! We’ve got to remove ourselves. It’s all about Arrow and you make that obvious!! It’s admirable the way you’ve gone about your journey. Yes we’re responsible for our journey BUT we don’t necessarily choose all the scenarios we are put into to say the least!!! Keep up the positivity! You are SHINING!!!! You are such a good momma to look up to and look towards for tips and advice. THANK U FOR SHARING THIS PERSONAL JOURNEY! We know it’s never easy, big cheers! 🥂 Commendable mommy is what you are!!!!
I'm not a single parent but I still love your videos! My son is a few months younger than your daughter. He's 18 months now. But I just had baby #2 7 weeks ago and that was the first time I'd left my first son overnight. IT WAS SO HARD. I didn't care about the labor pain because I was missing him so much. I cried when I saw him again. It sounds so dramatic. I am now a SAHM and have the utmost respect for single parents. It's. So. Hard. Best wishes to your family in your journey ❤️
My parents got divorced when my siblings and I were much older but still remained “friends” it’s the best thing they could have done for us as children. We did holidays together every year, both parents and their significant others could be in the same room and actually enjoy themselves, nothing ever felt awkward. I remember all of my friends while I was growing up being like “that’s so weird, your parents are divorced but they still hang out” it was never weird for me, it was great. It’s so important for parents to set aside their differences for the sake of the children. I know it was such a positive influence for my siblings and I.
I cried so much when i watched this video... I'm in a similar situation and I can completely relate to what you're saying. You're so strong and I'm sure your baby will be really proud of you. Thanks for sharing.
The analogy you gave about watching a beautiful night sky alone and comparing it to single parenthood was vivid and sweet and beautiful and bittersweet all at the same time. As a mother of an 8-month-old, I can picture what you mean and love how you expressed that tribulation.
Coparenting is the most difficult thing I’ve been through. Although it was short lived it was extremely difficult. So many roller coaster of emotions. You’re doing great girl! So inspirational and all I see are happy and peaceful days ahead for you and your family/Arrow
I started coparenting with my oldest daughter very early in her life as well. It definitely gets easier with time especially with a supportive/understanding coparent. Love the realness of this video ❤
I'm 29 now with my own babies (10m old twin girls ♥️) and I was about the same age as Arrow when my parents divorced. There was so much animosity between them, and there still is now. The fact that you get along so well with Arrow’s dad and that you both consistently make the effort to be kind and caring will go such a long way for Arrow. My parents hating each other was (and is) the most difficult and painful thing to navigate both as a child and an adult. So you're doing amazing, even when things feel hard, remind yourself that you are doing the very best. Arrow is so lucky ♥️
I can only imagine how hard it is, but I want to tell you that not modeling a relationship that wasn’t fulfilling and wasn’t working will allow your daughter to grow up and have better relationships for herself. Sometimes people stay in bad marriage a for their kids or to avoid this type of thing but the children then grow up not having a good grasp on what a loving relationship looks like. You have really dealt with this with so much wisdom and compassion, it is admirable.
You really are so strong, Brittany. I've watched you in awe since before your divorce (we were pregnant at the same time) and moreso the past 14 months. Arrow will grow up and know everything you did for her ♥️♥️
I'm not in a coparenting situation and even I get tired and burned out with my husband's help. You are a super mama for doing all the stuff you're doing at home and everything else in between. I teared up watching this because I can feel the emotions and empathize. You are doing great!
“Happiness only real when shared” but on the positive Arrow will grow into someone you will eventually get to share everything with and you’ll be able to see HER get excited about things. And there’s something in that too.
I became a single parent in September 2020, my daughter was 6 weeks old when her dad walked out… your videos have been a saving grace, in a time when I felt so lonely and broken, it’s been so helpful to relate to someone. Thank you.
I’d love to know how you emotionally dealt with arrow meeting the girlfriend. I’m struggling with that coming soon for me. The difference is he cheated on me with her, while I was pregnant with our second baby at that. So i was the one hurt in this situation and now have to also hand my kids off to him with the girlfriend soon. It’s been very very hard.
I’m in a similar situation with my daughters father except now his new girl is pregnant and he hasn’t seen my daughter since she was 2 weeks old. As selfish as it is when I hear stuff like this I’m grateful he isn’t bcus I’m not sure how I’d handle it and being away from her. Praying for you!
Just like with any other situation you have to put your feelings to the side and not let them affect anything you do in your coparenting relationship. If you focus on your child and not the other parent it makes everything easier. My daughters dad left me at 3 months pregnant so my situation is similar.
Augh. Feel for you honey. Ex husband left me for someone else, luckily I didn’t have kids with him, (coparenting with the next one 😂.) One of my friends has this situation and other woman has now just become pregnant. Lots of feelings to navigate, but once the Band-Aid is ripped off with all the ‘firsts’ she gets stronger and stronger. I hope you get that too. Love to you x
I’m not a single parent, I’m with my fiancé and on baby #2, but I can still relate to this video especially the part about experiencing things alone. My fiancé at one point had a job where he was gone most of the time, only home to sleep. Our son was just learning to walk and I was so sad that he missed his first steps. It’s the feeling of celebrating and really wanting to turn to someone to share in that moment of joy, but no one is there. I definitely teared up at that part. Sending hugs and wishing nothing but happiness for you ❤️
I just want to add that even while married, you still have to co-parent. The only difference is that our daughter does not have to change environments. But we still balance our time like single co-parents. There is no other way to do it without one parent being burnt out!
Ughh this got me. I’m not a single parent but my husband deployed when our son was 9 mo and won’t return until our baby is about a year & a half and all these firsts for my baby just completely gut me when I experience it without him home. Big hugs to you mama🤍
You explained it all so well. I get a lot of questions about how I’m so “happy” when my daughters with her dad when the reality is, am I happy she’s away from me? No. It’s so hard I miss her 24/7 but I can’t sit and cry all day that’s not healthy for anyone. Am I happy she’s with her dad who she loves and he’s such a great dad who stayed in her life? Absolutely. I always remind myself how grateful we are that he’s even in the picture still cause it’s so common for the dads to not be. Cheers to everyone co-parenting!
Im going through the same phase as you, when I watch your videos I feel that I’m not alone in this difficult journey, thank you so much for sharing your life with us, you are helping me and many other single moms to overcome those hard times and get stronger.
I love these videos. Currently going through this with my 15month old. It’s the hardest thing I’ve ever experienced, living my biggest fear. It’s good to see how healthy your relationship is with her father.
The ‘cheers’ at the end was too cute, Arrow cheering to how amazing her parents are at coparenting! Thank you for this video. I’m hoping one day I’ll be able to get to this healthy point with my daughter’s father.
Hey Brittany, I watch your videos regularly since winter 2020/21. It was crazy, when I saw your video where you told that your are separated from Arrows dad, the father of my son just broke up with me, our son was 4 months old. So I can relate pretty well with a lot of emotions of you, the ups and downs were often similar. I just wanted to thank you for your honesty and sharing such private and emotional moments and experiences. I think I know how you feel when Arrow is with her father. I know the feeling of a missing part when it comes to sharing the miracle of a baby / toddler growing up. I send you a hug from Germany. You can be proud of yourself. You are a strong beautiful woman and mother.
I’ve been through this journey along with you from being pregnant. I was also pregnant at the time too, now at 18 months me and my sons dad have separated. Your videos are what keep me going, thank you so much for sharing 🤍
My boyfriend (also father of my 1 year old) is a cheater, and leaving has been so hard due to the thought of not seeing my baby everyday😭 Your advice and realness really helps so much. I just need the confidence to make that final step
Can't imagine what you're going through and I am so sorry, but you've got this and I am sending you a giant hug! You're going to be ok then good then GREAT 🖤.
I love how supportive and positive your videos are and your subscribers are also so positive. I am not a co parent and I don’t have any children but I love learning about all different types of lives and experiences. Your channel is not the typical for me but I just love your videos so much. I wish you the very best on your journey 🥰
I really liked this video format. Your daughter is two months older than mine and I cannot imagine how difficult the separation, especially overnights, must be for you. I’m really sorry you have to deal with that anxiety but you seem to be doing a great job and Arrow looks very happy!
I have been following your journey for a while. I love watching you as a TH-cam personality, but I also love watching all of your genuine feelings coming through the screen. I think you took a lemon 🍋 and turned into gold :) I enjoy seeing your daughter growing with you! I watched part of this video with my daughter today❤ she is one year old
Thank you SO much for sharing this. I was scared to watch at first because, as a co-parenting mom, I know these feelings all too well. My daughter’s father and I decided to part ways when she was about 2 months. She’s now 14 months and you’re absolutely right, it’s a journey that’s personal and different for every family. I miss her so much sometimes, that I’ll get the worse anxiety attacks. But I think what I’ll try and do is keep busy and productive like you said. These are all great tips! Thank you and you’re awesome! ♥️
Coparenting helps you take those breaks you don't want to take but that you need. These breaks help me be a better parent. My son is older and I still miss him everytime he's gone. I used to worry about missing him learn new things now when i miss him i think of how short the amount of time i have left with him until he goes to college.
Thank you for sharing this, Brittany. It’s a super vulnerable topic and I appreciate your insights. You’re such a strong, dedicated, loving mother and I have learned a lot from you since we were pregnant together in 2020. Sending love 💛💛💛
Thanks for sharing this vulnerable aspect of your life. I had a baby with someone from another continent, almost 20.000km away, and when I applied for child support, he blocked ud on all social media. I have my kid full time.
Omg I am so sorry! 😖 My childs father lives on a different continent as well. Luckily child support went through but he is basically not interested and I have no family.
This video was perfectly done Brit ✔️ Your co parenting skills are top notch and Arrow is soo lucky to have you both care and put so much love and effort in to her life! She is going to grow up being so thankful 💗 So much love from your Brit from Canada 🇨🇦 💗
i am coming from a divorced family and they didnt coparent, it was just my mom🤍 when you give the shooting star example my heart completely shettared. After 22 years now i understand what my mom went trought while im growing up 🥺
😭🥰🥰🥰🥰 you are the best mommmy ever and I literally get so excited for Mondays! It’s my routine when my baby girl goes down for a nap on mondays and I watch as I do laundry. My daughters 15 months and I found you when we were both prego, you obviously a little farther along, but so happy I did! You are the sweetest and have helped me a lot with motherhood ❤️❤️
Iam a single mom of an 8 month old babygirl and I got you said about wishing to have someone to share your daughter's milestones with. It is though because I feel the same my daughter went through all that sleeping regrations, got to see her first teeth come out, etc. It is beautiful but sometimes like you said you wish to have someone to share with.
In India after delivery a child .. mothers usually stay with their parents until the baby turns 1/2 years old .. so that couples don’t end up getting a divorce because of new member in the family n that new moms nursing their newborn .. it really gets a bit tiring mentally n physically … so yeah I’m a new mom but with my parents until my baby turns one year old so that my husband doesn’t breaks up
Hey there! Loved watching your video on coparenting! Your honesty, advice, and sharing your mistakes really resonated with me. We all have our unique journeys in parenthood, but we're definitely on the right path. You're doing amazing, and we got this! Cheers to us!"
I have been following you ever arrow was in your tummy and man, do I relate so much to you. I am glad I’m not going through this alone, and you aren’t alone either Brittany! Love ya❤️❤️❤️
Couldn’t agree more about it becoming harder to be away from your baby! I find it incredibly hard when my daughter leaves and have to be very careful to not cry so she doesn’t panic. I find myself just sitting doing nothing whilst she’s gone waiting for her to return, which is comforting but also not. I remind myself how good it does for me to have the time away so I can be better when she returns.
Thank you so much for creating your videos! This one is extremely helpful, as im coparenting for my 2yr old son now... and the journey is real. So much love, Brit.
Thank you for being real with us, gives me reassurance I am not alone. I am a single mom, co parenting from day one with a verbally abusive, disrespectful person. & everyone expects time with their bio father to be a good thing. especially when as you said every single thing you do is by yourself & that’s not easy. but it literally rips my heart out. I’ve had such a hard time with it too and can’t help feel the same as you do that you are missing out with your baby.
Oh Brittany! Thank you for this video. I have just separated from my partner of 7 years. Our daughter has just turned 1. He was not the father I thought he would be, or the partner he once was, so I gave it a year to make my final decision. He was almost never there the first year of her life, so all the firsts were only witnessed by only me too.
This brings up a unique question… if you have to put on the coparenting hat on immediately after break up is there any time to process the actual breakup?!
Yes to all of this! I think being ‘friends’ has been my compass. We broke up week one after baby arrived! I’m not looking forward to the time apart as a toddler 😭 I have been blocking out thinking about it. I’m so grateful you are sharing this. X
I’m not going through coparenting but knowing what I know I’d like to give back to you & say truly you’re appreciated! As a mom, I see you. As a woman, a human being. It’s ok to say it sucks, doesn’t mean you’re not resigned to the reality but it still hurts. I say this because the beautiful sky analogy touched me. I just know Arrow will know how much you fought & stayed strong for her. Hugs 💝
You inspire me so much! I hope I can get to a decent place like you two have with Arrow! Thank you for putting this out in the world for others to see. I know I can be hard to talk about things like this.
You’re so brave and strong. I don’t think I can do this. I rather be single. It’s just required so much. Physically, financially, mentally, and emotional. Being a mom is hard. Let alone co-parenting.
As someone who went through a nasty divorce as a child with parents who acted like complete selfish idiots, this is needed! You are doing exactly what arrow needs from you! Huge props for always putting her first ❤️ So refreshing to hear how you are approaching the situation so respectfully.
You are a wonderful mama! Your maturity and love for your daughter is inspiring. Thank you for letting us see a sneak peak of your beautiful family life 💓
I can relate to this video 100% as I’m watching this video my daughter is with her father as well. I started this process 3 months after my daughter was born, but my situation was different with my ex. It was emotionally abusive and isolating. I commend you so much for your strength as a mother and a woman. Love your videos
I love this video so much as I currently start this same journey 😓 also I LOVE how when you film these sit down talking videos you switch up the scenes!
coparenting was so hard! we did each other so wrong, next thing i know find out i’m pregnant and even though i never wanted to see them again we were stuck still speaking on a daily basis, everyday being triggered by their voice, the way they can still have a say in my schedule/ my mental health/ how i view myself.. beyond debilitating when only one is trying so hard to make it work while the other is just vengeful
I think any video you make is great. I love how genuine you are about sharing all things good and bad. You’re doing amazing & Arrow is so lucky to have you :)
I started watching your videos when I was pregnant. I knew that we would be going our seperate ways, but it was just a matter of time. My son is now 7 months and we are finally going through a divorce. As you were talking about celebrating and going through things alone, I know what you mean. I have pretty much been doing it all alone since the beginning even though we were together. It does hurt to celebrate it alone or to go through a rough moment by yourself. Thank you for sharing your journey and for the information.
My babies father and I just split up after being together for 6 years and this video could not have come at a better time 😭 wowza 😭😭😭 thank you, truly ❤️
My parents were never married, but they separated when I was a baby. Now that I'm older and have kids of my own, I truly appreciate how well they did as co parents. It makes my life easier that I can invite my dad and his side of the family and my mom and her side of the family and everyone can get along! If my parents did have their differences when I was younger they made sure I never knew it. On another note though my little brother had a different father and my brothers dad and mom never got along and to this day my brother is 21 and they still can't seem to get along.
I love the way you articulate your words and experience and say "your" experience!! alot of people say this is definite but you're right it's so different per person per family! myself and my husband are taking sometime apart we have 4yr old and 2 yr old boys and our first baby girl on the way I'm 26wks today :) it's really hard and difficult but definitely needed it got too toxic and we're hoping we can work things out and be a happy family one-day but I really love your videos and bits of advice :) thank you for being you and honesty!!
I left a domestic violence marriage while 13 weeks pregnant. He will never see our child because it’s in the best for my daughter. I have my father and her uncles to look up to as men. But as for the father he’s in jail and I have no plans on ever returning or placing my daughter in his presence! No way.
I was always grateful my parents divorced when I was a baby because I never saw the fighting. Like you said, it’s all I knew. As I got older I saw how different my parents were and I couldn’t imagine them being together. The only advice I can give is “don’t talk negatively about the other parent in front of the child.” Kids love both their parents and nobody likes hearing someone talk bad about them.
Same! My parents divorced before I was 2 and I never resented it, even when I was little. I wish they had put more effort into coparenting as I got older though. I don't think there was as much information on it in the 90s
Agreed. I can’t imagine them together
I’m like how do y’all even know each other?? Oh..yeah. They’re just so different
I really admire how you are always talking positively about Arrow’s dad because one day you know Arrow or her friends will come after these videos . 👏🏻 proud of you 💗
I watch my boyfriend coparent with his oldest child's mother, I know how hard it can be but I didn't realize just how strong you have to be until I had a baby and it's like how there's sooooo much you have to consider - all the child's ins and outs. It's alot. Hugs to everyone watching this xoxo
I can never imagine how it must have been for you going through these two years. I am so impressed how you handle everything, how strong and what a loving mom you are. Thank you so much for your openess and honest vlogs throughout very hard times. Life is up and down, but in the hardest times it seems so full of darkness.. then look at your daughter and visit your own mom. Nothing heals more than the love of our own mom.
I’m a single parent & a new mom . Trying to co-parent with a newborn is difficult especially with no friends that are In the situation, to relate too. I appreciate this video.
How do you co parent with a newborn bubs is attached to you 24/7 ?
Hang in there ❤️❤️ sending lots of love!
My son is 5 months and I am now single, learning to co parent with his father. It's going great so far we knew it needed to happen but it hit my heart so hard when you were talking about wanting to share those moments with someone. It's honestly the hardest part. It hurts every time. But I couldn't be more grateful that I have him 100% of the time and I get the opportunity to be there for all of those moments.
This is the first time I’ve EVER seen a coparent video and it’s so refreshing to see your side of what happens followed by advice. I’m proud of you and you’re so strong for making this for all of us to see :’) Arrow is Blessed to have you as her Mama
As a child of divorced parents I admire the hell out of your commitment to providing stability and positivity in this challenging situation
Putting on that COPARENTING HAT is so spot on! We’ve got to remove ourselves. It’s all about Arrow and you make that obvious!! It’s admirable the way you’ve gone about your journey. Yes we’re responsible for our journey BUT we don’t necessarily choose all the scenarios we are put into to say the least!!! Keep up the positivity! You are SHINING!!!! You are such a good momma to look up to and look towards for tips and advice. THANK U FOR SHARING THIS PERSONAL JOURNEY! We know it’s never easy, big cheers! 🥂 Commendable mommy is what you are!!!!
I just want to add. I hope you never stop TH-cam and sharing your parenting journey. I know it’s a huge job. But you are so good at it.
Being a mom of a 16 month old this video brought tears to my eyes. More strength to you Brittany. You're a superwoman! Love you so much.
I'm not a single parent but I still love your videos! My son is a few months younger than your daughter. He's 18 months now. But I just had baby #2 7 weeks ago and that was the first time I'd left my first son overnight. IT WAS SO HARD. I didn't care about the labor pain because I was missing him so much. I cried when I saw him again. It sounds so dramatic. I am now a SAHM and have the utmost respect for single parents. It's. So. Hard. Best wishes to your family in your journey ❤️
My parents got divorced when my siblings and I were much older but still remained “friends” it’s the best thing they could have done for us as children. We did holidays together every year, both parents and their significant others could be in the same room and actually enjoy themselves, nothing ever felt awkward. I remember all of my friends while I was growing up being like “that’s so weird, your parents are divorced but they still hang out” it was never weird for me, it was great. It’s so important for parents to set aside their differences for the sake of the children. I know it was such a positive influence for my siblings and I.
You have handled this whole situation with class and poise! Very inspiring!
I cried so much when i watched this video... I'm in a similar situation and I can completely relate to what you're saying. You're so strong and I'm sure your baby will be really proud of you. Thanks for sharing.
The analogy you gave about watching a beautiful night sky alone and comparing it to single parenthood was vivid and sweet and beautiful and bittersweet all at the same time. As a mother of an 8-month-old, I can picture what you mean and love how you expressed that tribulation.
Coparenting is the most difficult thing I’ve been through. Although it was short lived it was extremely difficult. So many roller coaster of emotions. You’re doing great girl! So inspirational and all I see are happy and peaceful days ahead for you and your family/Arrow
I started coparenting with my oldest daughter very early in her life as well. It definitely gets easier with time especially with a supportive/understanding coparent. Love the realness of this video ❤
I'm 29 now with my own babies (10m old twin girls ♥️) and I was about the same age as Arrow when my parents divorced. There was so much animosity between them, and there still is now. The fact that you get along so well with Arrow’s dad and that you both consistently make the effort to be kind and caring will go such a long way for Arrow. My parents hating each other was (and is) the most difficult and painful thing to navigate both as a child and an adult. So you're doing amazing, even when things feel hard, remind yourself that you are doing the very best. Arrow is so lucky ♥️
Arrow looks so happy and I think that's the best stamp of approval that you're doing a great job 💕
im co-parenting and it's the most hardest thing for me. it has me so drained :(. it feels good seeing your videos and hearing your advice
Co parenting has been my biggest battle I’m so happy to finally be at a point where we both get a long and only our son matters.
I can only imagine how hard it is, but I want to tell you that not modeling a relationship that wasn’t fulfilling and wasn’t working will allow your daughter to grow up and have better relationships for herself. Sometimes people stay in bad marriage a for their kids or to avoid this type of thing but the children then grow up not having a good grasp on what a loving relationship looks like.
You have really dealt with this with so much wisdom and compassion, it is admirable.
You really are so strong, Brittany. I've watched you in awe since before your divorce (we were pregnant at the same time) and moreso the past 14 months. Arrow will grow up and know everything you did for her ♥️♥️
I'm not in a coparenting situation and even I get tired and burned out with my husband's help. You are a super mama for doing all the stuff you're doing at home and everything else in between. I teared up watching this because I can feel the emotions and empathize. You are doing great!
“Happiness only real when shared” but on the positive Arrow will grow into someone you will eventually get to share everything with and you’ll be able to see HER get excited about things. And there’s something in that too.
I became a single parent in September 2020, my daughter was 6 weeks old when her dad walked out… your videos have been a saving grace, in a time when I felt so lonely and broken, it’s been so helpful to relate to someone. Thank you.
I’d love to know how you emotionally dealt with arrow meeting the girlfriend. I’m struggling with that coming soon for me. The difference is he cheated on me with her, while I was pregnant with our second baby at that. So i was the one hurt in this situation and now have to also hand my kids off to him with the girlfriend soon. It’s been very very hard.
I'm sorry momma. You got this, you will find strength, in a few years you will laugh at this ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ I'm sending you love 💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕
I'm sorry you're going through this. That is really painful, may you have peace, healing, happiness, health, wealth and all the good things.
I’m in a similar situation with my daughters father except now his new girl is pregnant and he hasn’t seen my daughter since she was 2 weeks old. As selfish as it is when I hear stuff like this I’m grateful he isn’t bcus I’m not sure how I’d handle it and being away from her. Praying for you!
Just like with any other situation you have to put your feelings to the side and not let them affect anything you do in your coparenting relationship. If you focus on your child and not the other parent it makes everything easier. My daughters dad left me at 3 months pregnant so my situation is similar.
Augh. Feel for you honey. Ex husband left me for someone else, luckily I didn’t have kids with him, (coparenting with the next one 😂.)
One of my friends has this situation and other woman has now just become pregnant. Lots of feelings to navigate, but once the Band-Aid is ripped off with all the ‘firsts’ she gets stronger and stronger. I hope you get that too. Love to you x
I’m not a single parent, I’m with my fiancé and on baby #2, but I can still relate to this video especially the part about experiencing things alone. My fiancé at one point had a job where he was gone most of the time, only home to sleep. Our son was just learning to walk and I was so sad that he missed his first steps. It’s the feeling of celebrating and really wanting to turn to someone to share in that moment of joy, but no one is there. I definitely teared up at that part. Sending hugs and wishing nothing but happiness for you ❤️
I just want to add that even while married, you still have to co-parent. The only difference is that our daughter does not have to change environments. But we still balance our time like single co-parents. There is no other way to do it without one parent being burnt out!
Ughh this got me. I’m not a single parent but my husband deployed when our son was 9 mo and won’t return until our baby is about a year & a half and all these firsts for my baby just completely gut me when I experience it without him home. Big hugs to you mama🤍
I appreciate that, too. My husband was gone from 3 till 9 months.
You explained it all so well. I get a lot of questions about how I’m so “happy” when my daughters with her dad when the reality is, am I happy she’s away from me? No. It’s so hard I miss her 24/7 but I can’t sit and cry all day that’s not healthy for anyone. Am I happy she’s with her dad who she loves and he’s such a great dad who stayed in her life? Absolutely. I always remind myself how grateful we are that he’s even in the picture still cause it’s so common for the dads to not be. Cheers to everyone co-parenting!
Im going through the same phase as you, when I watch your videos I feel that I’m not alone in this difficult journey, thank you so much for sharing your life with us, you are helping me and many other single moms to overcome those hard times and get stronger.
I was crying with you where you explained that it's gotten harder to spend time apart.. Arrow is sooo increadibly cute💗
unrelated but i can't stop staring at your eyes, we need an updated makeup routine pls ❤
I love these videos. Currently going through this with my 15month old. It’s the hardest thing I’ve ever experienced, living my biggest fear. It’s good to see how healthy your relationship is with her father.
The ‘cheers’ at the end was too cute, Arrow cheering to how amazing her parents are at coparenting! Thank you for this video. I’m hoping one day I’ll be able to get to this healthy point with my daughter’s father.
Hey Brittany, I watch your videos regularly since winter 2020/21. It was crazy, when I saw your video where you told that your are separated from Arrows dad, the father of my son just broke up with me, our son was 4 months old. So I can relate pretty well with a lot of emotions of you, the ups and downs were often similar.
I just wanted to thank you for your honesty and sharing such private and emotional moments and experiences.
I think I know how you feel when Arrow is with her father. I know the feeling of a missing part when it comes to sharing the miracle of a baby / toddler growing up.
I send you a hug from Germany. You can be proud of yourself. You are a strong beautiful woman and mother.
I’ve been through this journey along with you from being pregnant. I was also pregnant at the time too, now at 18 months me and my sons dad have separated. Your videos are what keep me going, thank you so much for sharing 🤍
My boyfriend (also father of my 1 year old) is a cheater, and leaving has been so hard due to the thought of not seeing my baby everyday😭 Your advice and realness really helps so much. I just need the confidence to make that final step
Can't imagine what you're going through and I am so sorry, but you've got this and I am sending you a giant hug! You're going to be ok then good then GREAT 🖤.
I love how supportive and positive your videos are and your subscribers are also so positive. I am not a co parent and I don’t have any children but I love learning about all different types of lives and experiences. Your channel is not the typical for me but I just love your videos so much. I wish you the very best on your journey 🥰
I really liked this video format. Your daughter is two months older than mine and I cannot imagine how difficult the separation, especially overnights, must be for you. I’m really sorry you have to deal with that anxiety but you seem to be doing a great job and Arrow looks very happy!
I have been following your journey for a while. I love watching you as a TH-cam personality, but I also love watching all of your genuine feelings coming through the screen. I think you took a lemon 🍋 and turned into gold :) I enjoy seeing your daughter growing with you! I watched part of this video with my daughter today❤ she is one year old
Thank you SO much for sharing this. I was scared to watch at first because, as a co-parenting mom, I know these feelings all too well. My daughter’s father and I decided to part ways when she was about 2 months. She’s now 14 months and you’re absolutely right, it’s a journey that’s personal and different for every family. I miss her so much sometimes, that I’ll get the worse anxiety attacks. But I think what I’ll try and do is keep busy and productive like you said. These are all great tips! Thank you and you’re awesome! ♥️
Coparenting helps you take those breaks you don't want to take but that you need. These breaks help me be a better parent. My son is older and I still miss him everytime he's gone. I used to worry about missing him learn new things now when i miss him i think of how short the amount of time i have left with him until he goes to college.
Thank you for sharing this, Brittany. It’s a super vulnerable topic and I appreciate your insights. You’re such a strong, dedicated, loving mother and I have learned a lot from you since we were pregnant together in 2020. Sending love 💛💛💛
Thanks for sharing this vulnerable aspect of your life. I had a baby with someone from another continent, almost 20.000km away, and when I applied for child support, he blocked ud on all social media. I have my kid full time.
Omg I am so sorry! 😖 My childs father lives on a different continent as well. Luckily child support went through but he is basically not interested and I have no family.
You are so strong and graceful through this process
This video was perfectly done Brit ✔️
Your co parenting skills are top notch and Arrow is soo lucky to have you both care and put so much love and effort in to her life! She is going to grow up being so thankful 💗
So much love from your Brit from Canada 🇨🇦 💗
i am coming from a divorced family and they didnt coparent, it was just my mom🤍 when you give the shooting star example my heart completely shettared. After 22 years now i understand what my mom went trought while im growing up 🥺
😭🥰🥰🥰🥰 you are the best mommmy ever and I literally get so excited for Mondays! It’s my routine when my baby girl goes down for a nap on mondays and I watch as I do laundry. My daughters 15 months and I found you when we were both prego, you obviously a little farther along, but so happy I did! You are the sweetest and have helped me a lot with motherhood ❤️❤️
Iam a single mom of an 8 month old babygirl and I got you said about wishing to have someone to share your daughter's milestones with. It is though because I feel the same my daughter went through all that sleeping regrations, got to see her first teeth come out, etc. It is beautiful but sometimes like you said you wish to have someone to share with.
When you started putting on your shoes, it gave major mister rodgers vibes 🤣 loved this video so much ❤️❤️
You are so so strong Brittany, you are an inspiration, thanks for being so honest..
So proud of you. 👐
I appreciate you showing us a look into how you do the dance of coparenting.
In India after delivery a child .. mothers usually stay with their parents until the baby turns 1/2 years old .. so that couples don’t end up getting a divorce because of new member in the family n that new moms nursing their newborn .. it really gets a bit tiring mentally n physically … so yeah I’m a new mom but with my parents until my baby turns one year old so that my husband doesn’t breaks up
Hey there! Loved watching your video on coparenting! Your honesty, advice, and sharing your mistakes really resonated with me. We all have our unique journeys in parenthood, but we're definitely on the right path. You're doing amazing, and we got this! Cheers to us!"
I have been following you ever arrow was in your tummy and man, do I relate so much to you. I am glad I’m not going through this alone, and you aren’t alone either Brittany! Love ya❤️❤️❤️
Couldn’t agree more about it becoming harder to be away from your baby! I find it incredibly hard when my daughter leaves and have to be very careful to not cry so she doesn’t panic. I find myself just sitting doing nothing whilst she’s gone waiting for her to return, which is comforting but also not. I remind myself how good it does for me to have the time away so I can be better when she returns.
love you Britt 🤍Arrow knows nothing but LOVE from the both of you and that is so so important.
I love chatty videos. Deep thinking, really real chatty videos are my absolute favorite
Thank you so much for creating your videos! This one is extremely helpful, as im coparenting for my 2yr old son now... and the journey is real. So much love, Brit.
Every week I adore you even more!! Thank you for being so vulnerable and honest about your experience.
Thank you for being real with us, gives me reassurance I am not alone. I am a single mom, co parenting from day one with a verbally abusive, disrespectful person. & everyone expects time with their bio father to be a good thing. especially when as you said every single thing you do is by yourself & that’s not easy. but it literally rips my heart out. I’ve had such a hard time with it too and can’t help feel the same as you do that you are missing out with your baby.
Thank You for that video. It really helped me stop feeling so down on myself and focus on healing
Oh Brittany! Thank you for this video. I have just separated from my partner of 7 years. Our daughter has just turned 1. He was not the father I thought he would be, or the partner he once was, so I gave it a year to make my final decision. He was almost never there the first year of her life, so all the firsts were only witnessed by only me too.
Saaaaaaame… it makes xo parenting so hard when they don’t step up
This brings up a unique question… if you have to put on the coparenting hat on immediately after break up is there any time to process the actual breakup?!
Thank you for sharing all the good and challenging stuff! You are such a smart and kind person and an amazing mom for always putting arrow first
Yes to all of this! I think being ‘friends’ has been my compass. We broke up week one after baby arrived!
I’m not looking forward to the time apart as a toddler 😭 I have been blocking out thinking about it. I’m so grateful you are sharing this. X
I’m not going through coparenting but knowing what I know I’d like to give back to you & say truly you’re appreciated! As a mom, I see you. As a woman, a human being. It’s ok to say it sucks, doesn’t mean you’re not resigned to the reality but it still hurts. I say this because the beautiful sky analogy touched me. I just know Arrow will know how much you fought & stayed strong for her. Hugs 💝
You inspire me so much! I hope I can get to a decent place like you two have with Arrow! Thank you for putting this out in the world for others to see. I know I can be hard to talk about things like this.
You’re so brave and strong. I don’t think I can do this. I rather be single. It’s just required so much. Physically, financially, mentally, and emotional. Being a mom is hard. Let alone co-parenting.
I watched and accompanied my husband through all stages of his coparenting with my step son! You are so strong. Sending love ❤️
I just came from your video from 13 years ago. I love your genuine personality that remained the same
As someone who went through a nasty divorce as a child with parents who acted like complete selfish idiots, this is needed!
You are doing exactly what arrow needs from you! Huge props for always putting her first ❤️
So refreshing to hear how you are approaching the situation so respectfully.
You are a wonderful mama! Your maturity and love for your daughter is inspiring. Thank you for letting us see a sneak peak of your beautiful family life 💓
I can relate to this video 100% as I’m watching this video my daughter is with her father as well. I started this process 3 months after my daughter was born, but my situation was different with my ex. It was emotionally abusive and isolating. I commend you so much for your strength as a mother and a woman. Love your videos
I love this video so much as I currently start this same journey 😓 also I LOVE how when you film these sit down talking videos you switch up the scenes!
Thank you so much for this💕 figuring out how to coparent is one of the hardest things. Your insight is so valuable and appreciated.
Your videos always come out when I need to feel like I’m not alone! Thank you 🥺 You’re so strong!
This is a very well Made video.
Also, your home looks beautiful, and so do you. Strong Mama.
We love you Brittany ❤️ You are so strong.
you are the most inspiring, incredible momma, Thankyou for sharing and sending love ❤️👑
coparenting was so hard! we did each other so wrong, next thing i know find out i’m pregnant and even though i never wanted to see them again we were stuck still speaking on a daily basis, everyday being triggered by their voice, the way they can still have a say in my schedule/ my mental health/ how i view myself.. beyond debilitating when only one is trying so hard to make it work while the other is just vengeful
Hoping to be more like this 🙌🏼 Just in everyday life. So classy
Such great advice this should go viral ! Also I love your makeup ! Tutorial please !
Love this style of video! I never got bored!
You go mama!❤️ You both sound like you’re doing an amazing job at supporting each other and your precious daughter❤️
Just had to hop in and say your eyes are freaking mesmerizing! Have a great day!
I think any video you make is great. I love how genuine you are about sharing all things good and bad. You’re doing amazing & Arrow is so lucky to have you :)
I started watching your videos when I was pregnant. I knew that we would be going our seperate ways, but it was just a matter of time. My son is now 7 months and we are finally going through a divorce.
As you were talking about celebrating and going through things alone, I know what you mean. I have pretty much been doing it all alone since the beginning even though we were together. It does hurt to celebrate it alone or to go through a rough moment by yourself.
Thank you for sharing your journey and for the information.
Love you Brittany and your amazing daughter Arrow so much ❤you are both are just awesome. Hugs xxxx
I love this. Raw, truth and real.
My babies father and I just split up after being together for 6 years and this video could not have come at a better time 😭 wowza 😭😭😭 thank you, truly ❤️
My parents were never married, but they separated when I was a baby. Now that I'm older and have kids of my own, I truly appreciate how well they did as co parents. It makes my life easier that I can invite my dad and his side of the family and my mom and her side of the family and everyone can get along! If my parents did have their differences when I was younger they made sure I never knew it. On another note though my little brother had a different father and my brothers dad and mom never got along and to this day my brother is 21 and they still can't seem to get along.
Love this video. Although I don’t have kids or not going through a separation i hope this video do help someone 🤍
I love the way you articulate your words and experience and say "your" experience!! alot of people say this is definite but you're right it's so different per person per family! myself and my husband are taking sometime apart we have 4yr old and 2 yr old boys and our first baby girl on the way I'm 26wks today :) it's really hard and difficult but definitely needed it got too toxic and we're hoping we can work things out and be a happy family one-day but I really love your videos and bits of advice :) thank you for being you and honesty!!
You are strong mama ❤
Thank you so much 💕💕 i would absolutely cherish more videos like this
I left a domestic violence marriage while 13 weeks pregnant. He will never see our child because it’s in the best for my daughter. I have my father and her uncles to look up to as men. But as for the father he’s in jail and I have no plans on ever returning or placing my daughter in his presence! No way.