REACTING TO KAT GRAHAM'S NATURAL HAIR ROUTINE😳 I cannot believe this...
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 13 ต.ค. 2024
- Back with another reaction video and today we're reacting to Kat Graham's Natural Hair Routine which was quite touching... Thumbs up for more!
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considering the fact that she had to wear wigs all the time for vampire diaries, because they refused to let her wear natural hairstyles...and growing up with a yt mother that had no clue what to do with her hair, I'm so proud of her
It's especially frustrating because she was playing a black character, so why couldn't she let her hair be what it is?
Let’s distribute blame to her dad
The word “refuse” makes my eyes bug out.
@envymiixjen they didn’t??? did not know that
Tbh it’s good they wouldn’t let her wear her natural hair. Most black actresses don’t. The stress of constant manipulation and heat probably would’ve ruined it. It appears she has fine medium density hair texture. Constantly messing with it could damage it. So I think it was good
Can we talk about how GORGEOUS the character of Bonnie would have been with her natural hair..????
i’m pretty sure kat suggest that at one point. they couldn’t have her outshine anyone else tho 👀
Right!!
Haha! Yet I bet NONE of YOU wear your hair natural! Hypocrites!
@@GravityPancake444 well... Given that I am very, very white with no curl pattern in my hair.. Yes mine's natural. Unless you count a hairtie as not natural, because my hair is always up then no, technically it's not natural. But if someone wants to wear their hair a certain way, that's up to them. But it seems like Kat got a lot of pressure to have her hair always under a wig because of not knowing what to do with her natural hair / people not wanting her to show her natural hair - which is the point. No one should feel ashamed of hiding their natural beauty, it's different if they want to change it up, wear a wig, add extensions, that's all good and fine and more power to those who WANT to do that. But hiding it because you're ashamed or pressured is just heartbreaking. So who cares if no one else wears it "natural" if they don't feel like it today? Natural hair is a LOT of maintenance. Let them do what they want.
@@GravityPancake444 um how would you know?? i’ve been natural for all my life who tf are you??
I feel for Kat Graham, I never knew it was this bad for her. Having to deal with her hair now and understanding herself was very touching. Can’t wait until she posts an update on how she washes her hair
This was deep stuff
There's a previous video that Kandid Kinks (on YT) reacted to on that. th-cam.com/video/Ah7Z6gnsodE/w-d-xo.html
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She went through a lot with racism in Hollywood it seems. Troyce TV did a video about her time at Vampire Diaries and it was a lot
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When she said, “I hope one day to play a character I actually look like” I was in shock for a full 10 seconds and then I started crying 🥺
Crying
Yep sounds about right
@@SL-yy2kd ?
Crying for what?
@@tianafisher6642 as she said in the vid hair can play a big part of our identity. That’s why it’s so important in the black community bc it was what we had to hide it in some way throughout history until the 70’s. Even when I was younger I struggled with my hair. And I’m still trying to love my hair. The first time I watched that vid of kat, I cried too
Imagine if show runners hired black hairdressers for their black women on set. That would be amazing. There are too many damn hairstyles out here for us for them to only be sticking with three- relaxed, cheap synthetic wig, or a 3c twist out.
They had Kat's hair looking a goddamn mess on TVD. The only reason it started looking alright is because she got it relaxed so that the hair dressers could handle her hair. They always had the white women slayed to the nines. You aren't a professional hair dresser if you dont know how to do ALL people's hair.
they actually made her wear wigs throughout TVD . she wasn't allowed to wear her natural hair out
Wow truth...we should have our own hair and makeup artist on set at all times. That know the different textures and skin complexions and have the different makeup that each beautiful complexion needs. I watched a buzz feed video and the black girl had a white makeup artist and hair stylist that made this beautiful sista look like trash. The real test if you are a master at the craft no matter what color, the real test is if you know exactly what to do and bring out our unique and wonderful beauty. The guy doing the sista's hair on BuzzFeed did not know what to do with that poor woman's hair he just ran his hands over it and said it was just fabulous by itself... Meaning" idk what I am doing". Then slapped some off tone foundation on her that made her look ashy because he did not have foundation for her color. Of course he went for the gold eyeshadow 😩😩😩I know we are golden but dag we can play with other colors. All the black chicks dragged that make up artist and buzz feed. Good!
@@mariamlawal4428 It feels like Vanessa Morgan all over again.
So true! Well said!
@@victoriaburton4633 can you share the video?
I feel like Kat’s tears came from a little bit of shame, acceptance, and relief. She made me cry.
True
I didn't read shame in anything she said, but I'm sure it pleases you to think that African diaspora women are ashamed of not being pasty-skinned and stringy haired. Stop projecting, "white" woman.
I felt it
@@mewho6199 I think she meant shame in the sense of not embracing her hair before and letting the media apply that kind of pressure on her. I'm white as Fuck, but my mom is black and I learned how to trim, dye and style black hair because of her. I have had a lot of black friends having the same feeling and reaction as Kat after learning how they look with natural hair, because is gorgeous and sad that society tells black women otherwise.
So true.❤
Shes experienced alot of racism from her vampire diaries cast, and was bullied and treated like an extra...etc. So that's why she's emotional. Poor thing
Are you serious? Wow I use to love that show I hope it was none of the main characters
@@Lovelyparadise1 It was most of the staff, unfortunately.
@@Lovelyparadise1 mostly Matt and Alaric.Damon was her number one supporter and was willing to leave the show cause she was tired of everything and wanted to leave after s7
@@cassietheweirdo that’s horrible idk why people are still like that . But makes me love Damon even more !!
@@Lovelyparadise1 right!! Matt even put up the hitler hand thing in an interview with her and she’s Jewish!
One of my very dear friends in middle school was exactly like her. I remember when I introduced her to pink oil moisturizer back in the day, she cried too. When she started getting her hair done by black stylists, she started to accept that nothing was wrong with her hair.
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Awwww! That's so good to hear.
You introduced her to the PINK😂😂 you go girl
A girl like you saved my hair too. After school I let this girl shareese play in my hair, she parted it and braided it up and used something called carefree curl. I cried so much, but my hair had never felt so hydrated and it finely wasn’t stick up all over the place. The braids weren’t lumpy at all, and they stayed nice the rest of the week. This was 8th grade, and I’ve had to relearn how to think about my hair. I can say, I love my hair! And have a big smile on my face, because it’s true!
I love it
She was the highlight of the vampire diaries. She saved everyone's ass for 8 years - they couldn't even get a stylist that could work on 4C hair. She was also treated like shit by the writer, the producer, and some cast mates. It was total bullshit. She is a sweetheart, and is so beautiful and so talented... I really hope she is appreciated on her future projects.
I appreciate your comment AND honesty. Knew nothing about this part of Kat's experience with the show. And I am appalled.
On another note, her treatment must be the flip side of 'light skinned priveledge'.
@@robyndismon394 if you don’t STFU about that privilege. Obviously it doesn’t exist. That whale of a writer saw Kat as *BLACK*. PERIOD. Light or not. The sooner y’all figure that out the better.
@@BlitzoSuck33 Calm your demons baby. I navigate this ship NOT you. And learn how to have a mature and respectful conversation with someone when u disagree.
I said what said and it STILL stands as a legitimate question whether you approve or not
@@robyndismon394 Exactly. There is a light skin privilege. Yet, Kat seem to have gotten the Meghan Markle treatment where she has been given light skin privilege until she's put in a situation where she is actually treated like a black woman
@@chysel4860 Pardon me. Kat was not 'put' in a situation. She was doing her job just like everyone else.
Either the priveledge you speak of actually exists or it doesn't. Which is it? Other viewers mentioned just how poorly she was treated on set yet her character and abilities carried the show. So the priveledge is there up until someone takes it away? Is that the correct understanding?
this woman is TIRED of neglecting her hair, glad she found her way into taking good care of herself
All the CW chicks know who Kat Graham is. She carried the Vampire Diaries series
Both she and her character were absolutely disrespected on that show. Bonnie was my fave tho!
@@raindropsroses1088 periodt Bonnie was everything
Literally just finished rewatching the series and bruh. They literally never let Kat/Bonnie be happy. She carried that damn show and her character was everything.
@@kahfiiking4975 watch troyce tv little documentary about her on the show. It explains why
@@kahfiiking4975 I got so mad rewatching the show. I was like why the F is Elena still alive. I don’t with this chick, useless.
This made me realize how lucky I was to be biracial with a black mother. Not only a black
Mother but one that didn’t tell me I had “good hair”, but also tried to assure me of how beautiful it was when I constantly begged her to straighten it. She showed me first hand that all textures and types are beautiful and for that I’m forever grateful.
I’m glad you had this experience. I’ve debated straightening my hair bc it’s simplier and that’s what I grew up with but I don’t like perms and I don’t want my children to think their hair isn’t beautiful because mama straighten hers while theirs is still curly
A mother who knew how to do your hair, not a black mother. I’ve seen plenty of “fully” black kids walking around with messy hair. My white mother knew how to manage my hair and when she didn’t, she took my to a salon
@@alexstyles5808 Everyone knows when it’s comes to biracial kids ,when your mom is black ,Your hair isn’t also seen as messy ,so yes a black mom !
@@alexstyles5808 This is true! I can say that how? Because I'm black and these hands don't know how to do hair 😭
That’s beautiful.. My mom (who is black) only likes my type 4 hair when it’s long and blown out.. When I do a big chop and it’s short, she stares at my head when I get out the shower and tells me I need to comb my hair, and she likes to say that other people have good hair, “she doesn’t have hair like you, she has good hair”.. I try to tell her that as long as hair is healthy, it’s good.. She hurts my feelings at times.. I’m glad your mom isn’t like that..
honestly her video was so emotional and relatable because so many black people, especially mixed black people have such complex, sometimes harmful relationships with their hair. it’s honestly heartbreaking
From what I’ve seen mixed black people have gorgeous hair. I don’t understand why they wouldn’t like it
@@alexstyles5808 sometimes the white side becomes embarrassed doesn't know what to do and damages your hair to the point where you feel something is wrong with you, and then black people tell you your hair isn't black enough
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Yes that's why biracial Afro-ethnic people really need to have community amongst themselves so they can heal and cope. Yes the Black community is there as support but unless you live with a non Black parent and side of the family it will be hard to get the struggle.
@@israeliana yea for sure, i live with my white mother and my older sibling has hair like my father’s and it’s hard cuz they don’t have someone to help them out :/
Yep I’m mixed this was issue my whole life I went natural in 2013 and never looked back. And my hair is 3a/3b/c
I actually cried when she said “she hope she can play a character she looks like”. This is deep! This is so fucking sad. That’s all I’m saying
She did play a character that looks EXACTLY like her. Just google her, 99% photos will be straight or wavy hair when she is off set, so she liked those hairstyles for herself, and on vampire diaries they didn't force her to change anything since it was literally her own preference. Victim mentality is a true plague these days
@@robertan.2491 she has wig's on because it goes with the look, I even like to have straight hair sometimes. That doesn't automatically mean I don't like my natural hair. So I don't know what you're trying to do here lmao
@@robertan.2491 But you know what nvm coz I've seen the rest of your comments and I couldn't be bothered explaining to and idiot
@@yourmumschesthair4009 Right? Roberta has chosen a mission…
@@robertan.2491 dude kat Graham even said that she asked the directors if she could wear her natural hair and they shut her down.
I feel like an asshole for how shook I am at her hair texture lol. all these years I was just thinking she had typical loose curl "mixed girl" hair. Boy,the media just messing me up lol. "A character she actually looks like" ..wow,I love her so much.
Same! I NEVER knew
Same. I was shook when she took them plaits out
You'd be surprised how many mixed women have 4b/c hair and at how many dark women with two black parents have type 3 hair. People think that whatever media shows is true and it's all just a gimmick.
"Mixed people hair" TFFF you don't Have to be' mixed to Have looser curls
That's why we say, not all lightskins have the same experiences. I know exactly how she feels.
Before you have biracial children, make sure you are committed to learning how to do their hair!! Don't neglect your children.
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The fact her mom would send her to a salon. I didn't even have that. My white mom hated my hair I didn't get any love or support. I just had to do my own hair since I was a kid.
That's the yt fee fale for ya. She only likes n_word males and they DO NOT care for US! 😤
Yeahhhh.... they love the man, they love the bbc, but don’t love the result from beginning to end. Huge fail by BOTH parents.
oh come on, my sister ain't never done her daughter's hair lol. In Africa a lot of time we send our kids to get their hair done. Y'all really need to stop with this.
Teyonah Parris in Wanda Vision (Disney Plus, MCU show) had her natural hair the whole time! It was seriously so nice to see a woman of color with her natural hair.
I was living for it. I loved it! It made me tear up and she was so beautiful and they took time to style it so well.
My husband and I talked about this while watching WandaVision! It was so great to see a dark skin Black woman rocking her natural hair!!
Even Teyonah is wearing a wig specifically designed to look like her real hair- look up Cookie Jordan, she is an amazing wig designer- think about all those movies where Sam Jackson has a lot of hair- those are well made wigs! Some of them incorporate Natura edges and some have lace edges. Natural hair takes time and movie/ tv loves wigs because of effectiveness of time. The awesome thing is when the wigs are designed to look like 4C hair it’s so awesome!
Also check out Zazie Beetz who played Domino in Deadpool 2, rockin that natural hair
I pointed to the tv and said to my daughter, "Look! The pretty lady has hair like yours!"
Me a white girl with Alopecia (so completely bald) watching a video on black hair and crying because it’s so beautiful to see women be able to cherish the hair they were born with
We love you 🥰🥰
Bless you heart ❤️
Don't cry girl you pretty as fuck
We love you 💕
@@Isiaha43_1..IWGMTTLOML thank you 🥺😭❤️
Literally went from crying with her to chuckles when I seen the amount of product she put in her hair lol. I can attest and relate in so many ways which is why I got emotional. Kat is so beautiful and I hope one day she gets to play a character that looks just like her. ❤️❤️❤️
She did play a character that looks just like her. Why would she wear 4c hair in vampire diaries if she didn't even wear 4c hair in real life, always straight or wavy as well. It's her choice what roles she auditions for, I'm 100% sure noone in TWD set asked to change her natural hair
@@robertan.2491 👍🏾
@@robertan.2491 because her white mom never let her embrace her natural hair so she was scared to start, what else could she do. But she was given an opportunity to embrace her hair over quarantine
@@rachellecollin3661 Where did she say her mom never LET her embrace the natural hair? Perhaps being of different race she was simply clueless of how to care for it so she never taught Kat, but saying she didn't let her is just so shitty. Yall want to see everyone as racist so you can blame them for your problems and never hold yourselves accountable for anything
I’m biracial with a white mom and she specifically said before she had mixed kids she would know how to do natural hair. My mom does all my hair styles from box braids to sew ins to Marley twists and they all look great! And if you’re wondering my hair is 4b.
She cared enough to learn🥰🥰
@@neenah827 that makes my heart feel all warm. I’m so happy she took the time to do that for you
That is awesome!
I love to see it..a mom being so dedicated to learning new things for the sake of their child ❤️
Good mom! And shout out all my type 4 biracials!!!!
Product instructions: use a dimed sized amount
Women with Natural hair: *sticks whole hand in jar*
😂😂😂😭 sis our hair dont play by the rules so why should we
Last I checked the only dime sized amount of anything that we can actually use to satiate a need is heat protectant
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Yup!
You don't even have to be biracial to have this issue of your "mom" not being able to do your hair. Black moms can have a different texture and curl pattern than their black children and won't know how to care for it.
My mom hair was/is 2C - and mine is type 4: She wasn’t good at styling my hair, so she sent me to the hair dresser every two weeks. Thank goodness I went to a school w many black girls, so I learned from them how to do my own hair by the time I was in 4th grade.
my mom and dad both had the same exact hair type as me and still couldn’t care for my hair properly, or teach me how. i hope i have a baby with curly hair so i can help them learn how beautiful it is 🥺 it took me 20 years to not hate my hair and now it’s one of my best features❣️
I’m like who are these people with parents who knew how to do all natural hair?? The amount of black mothers I still see write on groups that they relax their children hair because they can’t handle their hair is a lot.
Yeah. I don't really know what texture my mom's hair is, probably 4a/4b but mine is 3b/3c/4a and I think she doesn't know how to take care of natural curly hair in general. She would moisturize both of our hair with grease, shea butter or coconut oil or some other type of oils but I don't think it was an actual routine or technique. Her hair is in locs now and whenever I talk to her about the things I recently learned about natural hair, she doesn't know much of what I'm talking about or she thinks I'm using too much of something. I'm not sure she knows about porosity either. She's not a white mom but we do have a multiracial background but we're a "black" family. She grew up in the 60s-70s, so I guess all she knew about was relaxers and whatnot. She only ever relaxed my hair once or twice as a child but never again after that. She always wanted my hair to be natural and healthy.
@@CARATMom Maybe her mom is different because she's from Africa? I don't know much about African mothers and how they do with hair. My assumption was African mothers knew how to do hair and braid and stuff.
Kat said in a really old interview that she once asked the producers of TVD if her character, Bonnie, could wear her hair in it's natural state and they quickly shot her down.
Can you send a link please?
Well we did discover that the people on the TVD set were racist and weren't shy about it at all.
When she said "I hope one day in Hollywood there is a character I can play that I actually look like"... That summarizes how things are for most of black female actresses. Wow...
Bonnie would have been stunning if they let her wear her natural hair. She is literally the reason I stayed with the Vampire Diaries. Kat really carried the show.
I am biracial and my black mom was raised to relax her hair so that's what she did to me. It's not only white moms who don't know what to do with their kids' curls. I was 20 years old when I started my natural hair journey. Thankfully, I am 13 years older than my baby brother who has identical hair to me and I've been able to teach him to care for his curls and he prefers having longer hair now.
Same my mom has the equivalent to 3c/4a hair and still would cut her hair off and just wear wigs. She relaxed my hair and I thought it was normal. I was 23 before I realized i had curls, I had always relaxed or straightened. I'm 14 years in and still discovering things about my hair.
Similar story. My mom is a mixed race Caribbean with type 3 hair and my father is Black. I have type 4 hair and she did not know how to care for my hair nor did she have the patience to. So from I was 5 years old until my teens my mom relaxed my hair. It’s not only mixed kids with white moms that have hair issues.
Yep, a lot of black moms also aren’t aware of how and/or unwilling to manage their children’s Afro textured hair. There are 1 year old babies getting perms. SMH
Same here. I’m 22 and just now starting to accept my natural hair. I relaxed it from the time I was 13 to 17 and when that got too strenuous, I just straightened it everyday. I do wish my mom would’ve known how to do my hair growing up so I could’ve avoided a lot of the damage (whether emotional or physical). However, I’m learning to respect the process and be patient!
I wish my mon never permed my hair…cause my hair really isn’t hard to manage..it’s dry but it doesn’t take much effort to do my hair..but my mom has always had a looser hair texture then mine so the way she does her hair is different from how I do mine
Damn this hurt because, it is way deeper than hair! She basically is in an environment where she had to put away her "blackness" as most as possible to be accepted. And then when the time come when she can be herself and in synch with her origins she doesn't even know how to do it anymore. I am perfectly aware of what us lighter skin people have as privilege, but there is a whole lot on us too. I just am happy she is starting her journey toward being herself.
She's not lightskin she's just biracial. And it's the 4c hair struggle against texturism but she's also fighting against the false narratives of mixed-race Afro-ethnic features.. as a biracial Afro-American woman the world, and likely her mama, expects her to have Type3 hair and fair skin.
But she's medium tan and has type 4 hair. This is why we need proper representation. Let biracial actors play themselves! And let Black actors play themselves.
LSBW Is not mixedrace, and biracial is not always fair or tan with type 3. Biracial Afro-ethnic can be fair/tan/medium/deep toned and have type 2/3/4. If we had more accurate representation then people would stop with the ignorance and there'd be less self hate. Kat would finally be able to play a character that looks like her!
We don't cast biracial Afro-ethnic people as white [two white parents] so we should not cast them as Black [two Black parents or 3+ Black grandparents]. The media/social media needs to represent Black and biracial Afro-ethnic people as two separate groups because we are not interchangeable and we all deserve the diverse representation of our respective groups.
@@israeliana wouldn't you need someone white in your family lineage to eventually become light skin?
@@israeliana Girl this is a hot mess she's black get over it
@@Smittenhamster no the Eve Gene allows Black women to give birth to any skin colour or hair texture or eye colour. Search it up.
And there are many fully Black Africans that are light skin, even in my family. And my best friends are very lightskin and they're fully Black African.
@@mikaylaraymond3173 she’s mixed hun. You wouldn’t call Halsey black so why would you call her black? 🤣
The black woman who gave her Cantu knew what she was doing, we all started with their products 🥺
Facts! Cantu brings back memories!!!
Cantu just disagreed with my hair!
How do you know it was a black woman and not a white lady?
@@KylieJonkman Yes it's possible, but unlikely.
@@KylieJonkman the sentiment is the same, you’re worried about the wrong things 🤦♀️
This pandemic has open so many eyes to things we easily overlook. This made me so emotional for her, as she was completely transparent by the fact she had to hide her identity “hair”,...... and conform to what the character she played deemed “acceptable”. Deep. I’m sooo happy for her and glad she’s embracing it.
As a mixed person I relate to this. My mom is black so she always did my hair in braids, but when I was 7 I started straightening my hair every 3-5 weeks until age 14. I got my first relaxer at age 12 because my mom has arthritis. I for my big chop may 2020. I’ve grown my hair, and slowly cut off the tiny straight hairs. I’ve also been acting for plays and musicals for 15 years. I always thought my hair had to be straight to get a big role, but I learned this year that I didn’t. I ended up getting a big role with my natural hair. It has been so liberating for it. I felt worthy of looking pretty with or without my curls. It’s been really empowering. I’m glad to see another mixed person talk about these struggles.
Anyways sorry for the rant.
Thank you for sharing this! omg im getting emotional. i have been straightening my hair for years and recently shaved it. So i kinda relate
This makes a lot of sense b/c on Vampire Diaries they had her hair looking crazy at times
Lord it was a tragedy and it made me upset. ESPECIALLY THE FIRST SEASON. I just -😩😩😩 I had my friend watch for the first time and the first thing she said was “Ummm I already don’t like this- why they do her head like this and why can’t any of them act but her” 💀💀
ON GOD
@@marcobrown1307 right?! Her hair was so bad 😭
I didn’t know who she was so I thought I’ll search TH-cam for vampire diaries with no intention of watching any of the videos just to see her in the thumb nail.... and you know what it took so much scrolling to find ONE thumbnail with her in... that’s just sad, just the white characters... Hollywood really needs a wake up call
@@stagefish41 for real
"My hair will work with me if I don't give on it" I felt that so much.
With all that product in one sitting, she needs a Cantu sponsorship
Cantu to me is bomb. I’m so glad they came out with their avocado and grapefruit lines because while I like their original line, They needed some variety. I’m glad they hopped off the coconut train.
@@caramia4143 Right, I personally like Cantu! It's moisturizing but I _have_ recently found it has started flaking on me.
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For me Cantu leaves my hair feeling greasy but I also have low porosity 🤷🏾♀️
I used to live by cantu when I first went natural! It was my holy grail.
Second comment on the same video. It truly made me emotional when you said biracial people are a part of the black community. I needed to hear that today. :)))
Who would have thought a video about hair could be so emotional. The moment I accepted my natural curls and stopped seeing it as difficult, I felt liberated.
Man, I teared up along with her. I can definitely understand her struggle - I'm not bi-racial, but I know how it feels to be alone with your hair for the first time. My first time was actually during quarantine...my mom did my hair the first 17yrs of my life, and then I went to salons until quarantine started. I didn't even own shampoo or conditioner!!! I was so lost, plus I was transitioning which was a whole different terror. I was emotional when I big chopped, yes because of the texture and length, but more of how I looked. I never felt so pretty. I hated my relaxed hair.
Exactly the same for me
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@@gracefire9067 I don't know how people do it for such a long time. My goal was 1.5yrs, but it was getting to heartbreaking so I stopped after 6m. The breakage was out of this world.
As a white woman, I love afros, big hair, natural hair.. I can’t understand it not being shown in media, movies, tv. Honestly I think it has so much more personality than straight hair.
Sadly, The Vampire Diaries wouldn’t allow Kay to wear a natural hairstyle.
@@plee6223 yea, I just find that silly.. (not saying your wrong, saying Hollywood is wrong). I am all for if black women want to straighten their hair but I think showing lot of different hairstyles is cool and shows how everyone is different (and that’s a good thing).
crazy how we're not allowed to wear the literal hair that grows out of our head, but everyone else can. We literally have to think about what wig we'll wear to a job interview bc if we wear our natural hair we won't get it or we'll be seen an unprofessional.
@@laurenn2645 I must say (not that it is right) I think that is a very old person way of thinking. Atleast in my professional experience. I hope with the way our world is changing this stereotype changes quickly. I gladly comment on how pretty another women’s hair is, especially knowing natural hair takes takes much more time and effort to get some of the glamorous styles.
@@laurenn2645 yeah that’s so fucked up honestly. I’ve heard black people say they couldn’t wear their natural hair because it was seen as « unprofessional », like WTF? With the amount of work it takes to take care of natural hair I don’t see where it makes you seem unprofessional. I know people have biases, and that’s inevitable because we grow up in a fundamentally biased society, but this is just ridiculous. A lot of people have biases when it comes to body modifications and stuff like that but HAIR??? Really? I don’t fucking get it
When I first watched her video I cried because she’s such a beautiful soul, and she didn’t and doesn’t deserve the treatment she’s receives from Hollywood.
This touched me, my mom is biracial and never knew how to do my hair. I got a relaxer at 5 years old so now as a 36 year old woman I’m finally able to see how my hair is in its natural state.
Exact same story. Biracial mom with loose type 3 hair and Black father. I have dense type 4 hair and my mom didn’t know how to care for it so she related it from I was 5 years old until my teens. I remember she gave me a jerry curl once.
5 years old???
@@DorothyDandridge 5?? Shit
I live in Middle East and watching black women loving and inspiring their natural hair inspired me to love my curly hair and embrace it 🥰❤️
Her video striked a familiar emotion in me. As women and as black women our hair is a big deal and not by choice.
Yes! That not by choice part. Exactly! You hit it right on the button.
This comment is highly underrated!
“Our hair is a big deal and not by choice.”
YES!
th-cam.com/video/t4QtVx7cLLQ/w-d-xo.html👈👂🌹❤️🥰
Right. I see it in movies and shows all the time. The way white people, and even black people (Looking at you Tyler Perry) treat our hair is atrocious. Black woman either have to have natural 3A-4A hair (or a thick mane of 4b-c hair that looks like Tracee Ellis Ross'), straightened hair or a horrible wig. The lack of stylists that have no knowledge on how to deal with our hair is unacceptable. On the show, Kat Graham's hair looked a hot ass mess until like the end of the 4th season, but that's only because they got her a wig with bangs and that's pretty hard to mess us. Then she got her hair relaxed. I felt so bad for her because everyone else's hair was always done up to look nice.
She’s one of those ppl that you have to know her back story, and the problems she faced surrounding her hair and blackness. This video needs a lot more context
Exactly because I was like sis why are you crying and why have you with your means allowed yourself to remain uneducated/naive .... all to your self respect and hair's detriment
I just started watching you. I’m a Caucasian female but when I was in cosmetology school I really embraced and enjoyed my tight curl patterned hair clients. I got really educated and practiced new techniques on my clients and sometimes failed horribly but never quit trying. Through this process I had many clients who were so timid and quiet when they came in with tangles and knots and had their hair in a scarf or a loose braid. By the time they left with a simple shampoo, deep conditioner and twist, they were lit up. The smiles and vibrancy that was brought back made me emotional. One time a girl (about 13) was going to a school dance. Her mom dropped her off without a word, and when I exposed the inside of the hair by sectioning, I found that this child had a 1cm thick layer of product buildup on her scalp from lack of care. I asked what her routine was and she said her mom would just put conditioner on it once a week, and back into the scarf. She seemed embarrassed and that broke my heart. There needs to be attention brought to light that parents aren’t always teaching their children how to manage their curly BEAUTIFUL hair. They feel lost and confused and self conscious. I ended up doing a clarification treatment and a hot oil treatment after to re lubricate each strand. I explained the process and each step to her and even gave her sample products to take home so that she would be excited about her hair and make it a fun experience. When I revealed her hair in the mirror completely natural with no braids and not even fully dry, she cried. She hugged me and said she’d never known she could be “beautiful” with her own hair. That’s the way so many girls and women feel and have spent thousands of dollars on wigs sew ins or even relaxers. As a white woman I have no place to insert myself into certain conversations amid the black community but as a cosmetologist I feel my opinion is valid in this specific matter. I began getting referrals and word of mouth about my styling and many black women started coming to me to show them how to do THEIR hair. Not to cover it, slick it back, straighten it, or braid it... but to let it live. And let them live with self love and I couldn’t be more fulfilled by that. You are doing a great thing and spreading such an incredible message. I wish There were more women like you who could bring to light these very emotional topics that get written off as “it’s just hair” it’s not just hair and we ALL (WHITE STYLISTS WHO LEAVE THEIR BLACK CLIENTS LOOKING LIKE THEY NEVER GOT A LICENSE) need to educate and learn about this social aspect of hair and how important it really is to all of us.
Please keep doing what you’re doing 💛💛
Thank you for the love and respect you offer everyone. I can tell you really value all your clients and the work you do. It's beautiful. ❤️
I love that she is really learning and embracing the woman she is. To hear her explain the knowledge that she wish she had of her own hair breaks my heart…. You can see and hear the depth of this. My heart.
This video got me over here crying aaalll the biracial hair/white mom tears! I didn’t develop a healthy relationship with my natural hair until I had a daughter with hair like mine. Once I realized I would have to teach her to love her hair, I had to learn to love mine first. Haven’t looked back at the creamy crack since. It’s so difficult for black women to love our hair when we’re constantly being told it’s not beautiful. Once you stop listening to all those voices and truly connect with yourself, it’s easy to fall in love with your own hair. Love Kat Graham. Hope she continues her natural hair journey.
I love Kats vulnerability....good for her embracing her naturalness.
Im biracial with a Chinese mom and im grateful she learned to braid my natural hair when I was younger. It wasnt until I was older and on my own with my hair when I started perming and flat ironing my hair. Never again 😂 I'm going on 3 years natural 🙅🏾♀️
I’m going on being natural for 3 years too and whewwwww. My parents are both black but my hair is a very thick, dense 4B, and my mom had been getting her hair relaxed for so long that the only thing she could do to maintain it was braid. it used to take whole weekends for her to do all of it. I also kept my hair straightened and relaxed for years, until I decided it was time to meet my hair. I hope you’re journey was worth it to you, because mines was for me😁😁
My mom is black also and permed my hair for the first time when I was 8 years old. because it was super curly and she didn’t know how to manage it without me crying. She permed it until I was 16 years old and that’s all I knew, so I continued working it until I was 22. I’m 32 now and have been natural (I flat iron it maybe once every few months) for 10 years now.
It's so touching to hear you connect with and appreciate her so genuinely. I could feel the compassion and how honest your response was, it's really nice to see someone who is open to connecting to someone even in something unexpected like while filming a reaction video. I don't know if I'm making much sense, but it made me feel hopeful.
It is so heartbreaking and real when Kat is talking about her relationship with her hair but then at 8:45 when she takes all that cantu and plops it on her head, Chizi's reaction had me cracking up ❤️❤️❤️ love you (both) so much
I burst out laughing
She has high porosity hair that’s why it drank it up.
Exactly! My low porosity hair could never😭
She put that chunk in with no water though 😂 so it's no wonder lol
@@RiFit she probably had water
What exactly is the product?
Edit: I didn't mean to say that straightening your hair or wearing a wig is anything bad. What I meant was that women should not feel pressured to do that.
You know what's insane? I'm a white woman who grew up in a country where 99% of the population is white. And I literally never even knew what black women are going through when it comes to their hair. I never knew how many of them hide their natural hair under wigs or destroy it with relaxers because society deems their hair not acceptable. I thought to myself "wow that's interesting, there are so many black people with straight hair". I am ashamed of my ignorance but I never saw any black people, let alone women with their natural hair in my local media. When Kat said that she wishes she can one day play a character that looks like her, it made me so sad. I can't even imagine what it feels like, watching a film or a series where not a single character looks like you.
Lately TH-cam algorythm has been feeding me natural haircare content and it has opened up a whole new world for me. I love seeing all the wonderful types and textures of hair. And it's tragic how society treats black hair when some caucasian people don't even KNOW what it actually looks like. All hair can be and IS beautiful if properly cared for and I'm so happy that more and more black and biracial women are embracing their natural hair.
Awwww thank you! We appreciate it!😢🤗❤
This was such an nice message thank you so much 😭🥺🥺
Representation isn't just important for those being represented, but also for others to learn and understand those around them.
Martha you are what is right in this world
Well said Miss Martha, well said! 👏🏾🙌🏾
She should have added, "that isn't a slave or some old historical character".
that part.
Or have anything to do with the freaking cops!!!!! I’m so tired of the police being brought up in EVERY. SINGLE. STORY!
@@SynterraSteen thank you!!!
Literally
Even then they would likely put a long weave in her hair. Think Halle Berry in "Queen".
When she put that leave in conditioner.......😭ooh. She really REALLY loves the Cantu.
i’m so thankful that i had parents that put a lot of effort into learning how to do my hair. my mother is white and taught me proper ways to care for it. and my dad is black and taught me lots of hairstyles.
I've been wanting you to react to this one. It definitely made me cry and I mean tears were running down my face too. I'm not mixed like her, but I am an African whose mom relaxed her hair until I decided to cut it off myself and go natural at 14. It took until the last two years for me to really understand, thoroughly fall in love with, and be patient with my hair. I'm 20 rn, but for Kat as a full blown adult to come to that realisation so late in life hit me in the gut. That's heavy
same with everything you said! I'm 21 though and shaved it all off at the beginning of quarantine when I was 20. But my mom is African, alway braided my hair but put relaxers in and I never learned how to do my natural hair. It can be really hard.
I'm white with a lot of curly hair. My mother has straight very fine, thin hair. While growing up, there were times my mother was virtually abusive trying to detangle, moisturize and style my hair. In 6th grade my teacher drew a face with hair like a tornado on the chalkboard and wrote my name next it. That same year the school nurse called my mother and asked her if I had a hair brush. I was in my 20's before I realized how to truly care for my hair.
Sis I appreciate what you’re saying but you can’t relate and tbh it doesn’t help this struggle when white women come into our spaces trying to equalize this struggle to their issues just stop please and thank you
@@idi.h5460 Naw, your space. Many people can relate to her. Especially biracial women with curly hair. If she never told you she was white her story lines up with the video. Which is about a biracial women. Please stop it.
@@ThisIsMeVernD Right. Like I don't understand the rudeness. Her story pertains to the video. People are just bitter. 🤦🏾♀️
@@idi.h5460 it was actually seeing white people with curly hair who didn’t feel accepted that led me to not flat ironing my hair anymore. The struggle is not being accepted for not fitting the stereotype of classic beauty.
Even my own black mom did not like my natural hair. The older generations just encourage you to blend in, conform and not accept yourself.
Yeah the curly hair struggle is different, but there are similarities
As a biracial person myself I completely relate to Kat Graham's struggle. Everyone told me I had to take care of my hair but no one told me how. I remember so many times just sitting in tears with a brush in one hand and half my hair not even done because I was so overwhelmed. It's great to see that I'm not alone in that struggle and for others who didn't have that struggle to empathize with it rather than criticize.
She’s trying. She’s trying to figure it out on her own. I love you, Kat💛
I am half black and Mexican, and my mother, being Mexican, always put our hair in 2 braids, she did her best. It took me years and to learn and I'm still learning how to take care of my hair.
Type 4 hair as we all know isn't embraced by mainstream media and her being a biracial woman who doesn't have the stereotypical"good hair" wouldn't have made it any easier. Natural hair is only ever shown in a positive light when it's within the type 3 curl pattern.
I'll keep my comments about representation for biracial women on colorism platforms😶.
Biracial women never get positive representation and especially if we are not gorgeous
also they only show one type of biracial look , not all is biracial look the same. I’m dark skin with 3a hair.
This is true!! The monolith view of Blackness has made the view of biracial Afro-American people to be so narrows. lsbw are not mixed race, and mixed raced Afro-ethnic people can be deep brown tone.
Media/social media representation makes it look like mixed race Afro people must have type 3 hair and be fair skinned.
But biracial Afro-ethnic people can be fair/tan/medium/deep toned and type 2/3/4 hair! We should expand representation.
Biracial actors should play biracial characters and Black characters should play Black characters. We can start to expand the representation of ourselves!
Israelina, black people are mixed race so the idea that mixed race people shouldn’t play black roles makes no sense
@@alexstyles5808 The aren’t black they are mixed . Both black and white . That’s the whole point of being biracial 😂
The edges product has a strong scent. I think that’s why she was talking about the perfume.
Nah I don’t think they were supposed to have any correlation. She says “one thing about me while I do my baby hairs.” She was just talking ig :)
@@kiiarax4685 yeah I think she meant it like: while I do my baby hairs, let me tell you about this perfume I love
I can’t explain why I’m sitting here in full tears crying with Kat Graham. But I can relate and it’s so important to love every part of ourselves even when we don’t see it on tv.
GOOO KAT!!! I LITERALLY just finished binge watching Vampire Diaries' season 7 & 8 over the past four days lol...LOVE HER!!!
I haven't seen many of your videos, but I just realized why I enjoy them... You're such an empathetic person. You're not mean or judgemental. You note Kat's errors, and instead of calling her out, you see the reason behind them. I love that. ♥️
"Hair is deep." YES! From a woman who has survived cancer, YES. Hair is DEEP 😞😫
Much love to you!❤❤❤❤❤
God bless you ❤️
Bless you! ❤❤
Thank you for understanding she’s still new to this. But her voice cracking after expressing she’s never had to be alone with her hair really hit me. My mom never taught me how to do my own hair. She always just did it for me. So I can resonate with that anxiety.
This made me cry because I'm 27 yrs old just figuring out my natural hair. Born and raised from a single white mom with no one around me who taught me how to do my hair. TH-cam has been a life saver and I'm so happy for Kat to be able to lover her own hair 😭
Soooo Gald you did this reaction because I love Kat EVEN MORE. She was genuine in her journey. We all have one. We should appreciate all struggles.
This video was filled with so much emotion. I literally had tears In my eyes after hearing her speak about having to be on her own with her hair. Then her scoop of cantu had me cracking up with the tears still in my eyes.
It was so good for you to do this on Kat because we need to realize that all biracial women don't have a loose curl pattern like Tracee Ellis Ross and they still have to use product to manipulate their curls
i didnt even watch Vampire Diaries but i came across in my recommedations a compilations of Kat Graham facing microagressions from the writer of that show. I had already watched the video prior to watching the compilation,but watching that made me feel for her even more. Kat Graham is a precious cinamon roll and I stan her.
Agreed! 😍🤗
That's exactly how I feel about that curling cream as well lol
Kat!!
I see u in all the videos I watch Kat even kpop abdjsjdjs AND you have amazing content?!?! How can a TH-camr be so perfect😩❤️
omg you’re everywhere 💓
@@Nyma6000 sameeee also kpop ahahhhhh
She’s getting to know her hair like a best friend! ❤
Oh, my goodness. I just want to give her a hug.
Kat, if you ever find this video, your hair is beautiful, and you are beautiful. You deserve to feel comfortable in your skin, no matter the texture of hair that grows from it. You deserve kindness and compassion and support and acceptance and love, no matter what your body looks like.
Thank you for being so vulnerable with us. Thank you for normalizing expressing emotion and healing from being mistreated.
I hope, too, that you can play characters who look like you. You deserve characters in media who you can fully relate to and see yourself in.
I'm sending you hugs, if you want them.
A lot of black and biracial women in the industry has beautiful natural hair and had to hide it which is so sad. I love how excited she is 🥰🥰. Remember she's still new Chiz
I wasn't expecting the feels watching this... I'm not crying you are 😭
Not true...my eyes are just sweating.
I am an Egyptian who is half black and now I am almost 18 and I finally took the step to stop straightening my curly hair, even tho my mum is half black too, she is the one who doesn't approve of curly hair and still of these people who think that curly hair is ugly and stuff, my dad on other side is half black too but looks white just told me that I grew up and I need to embrace my hair and take care of it and it's been hard with mum, but I think she will get around the idea soon especially that I just started the journey of healing my hair from the damage, so I hope if u r mixed like me and my parents please come around ur natural hair, it's gorgeous and it needs lots of effort and patience so it can look good and feel healthy too. Good luck on ur won journey :-)
Are Egyptians white?
I'm not biracial but can relate...I know when I was growing up having any type of afro hair texture was like taboo...I remember my sister and I would get bullied because we wore our natural hair...people would say your hair is nappy-kinky-ugly etc...they would literally be disgusted because we wore our natural hair-we were very upset and practically begging our mom for anything that would straighten our hair-so we could be accepted by society "beauty standards"
smh
Lol I saw your expression in the thumbnail and I just came to make sure you wasn’t talking about my girl lol .. I love Kat ❤️ but Now I’m glad I’m here & im subscribed ❤️😊
I have so much respect for how transparent she was with her journey 💛
Side note: She said “I love Amber” and was like how does she know me 👁👄👁
Who doesn’t know Kat Graham! 🤧
She was Bonnie the witch in Vampire Diaries
Right? xD
I dont know her...lol
Me! Here... Haha never watched that show. She's so gorgeous. I hope she's able to keep wearing her hair the natural way. I've seen so many black women with gorgeous natural hair. And it would be just such a perfect match to see it reflected on TV. We really need to have this kind of things beinf imprinted in young minds acceptance and self love in a whole.
Right 👏🏾She also has been a video girl ... she’s a hard worker glad to see her loving her hair ... having a biracial child myself I am so glad I taught her how to love her hair ⭐️
@@AlaynaMoebius I believe so too
Kat is so precious you can tell she's very passionate about her hair😍❤
Why did I cry 😭 She has no idea she’s abt to start the most amazing (toughest) journey ever lol
Love Kat Graham! I started crying when she did lol I'm glad that regardless of her not doing her own hair most of her life, she still loves it and embraces it
She's so sweet you guys. So so sweet. From someone who has and is struggling with my own natural hair and lived in hair pieces. Kat is so refreshing. And So innocent when it comes to the natural hair thing.
The way she just slapped that product on 😂. Sometimes all you need is a good leave in!
I'm biracial black and Mexican it took me so long to develop a positive relationship with my hair because my mom didn't know how to do much with it. I started trying to learn around junior year of high school through TH-cam and it's been a journey for sure!
@@mjbridges thank you love!
When we went into lockdown, I found out so many people, black people didn't know how to do their own hair. I was really shocked. I grew up going to the hair salon but I was also taught how to take care of my hair. So she isn't alone. I'm glad she is discovering her hair. 🌹💐
That's what I realised. I remember thinking those women who rely on salons are gonna be in trouble. There's nothing wrong with going, but everyone needs to know the basics on how to take care of their hair when money and/or access is an issue.
Welcome to Africa where we rely heavily on salons. I remember growing up, before I started growing my hair there was this hairstylist who could braid her own her and she was tagged as a "witch" because it wasn't normal for people to be able to braid their hair. Truthfully my mum even stopped patronizing her because other hair stylists were giving her a bad name that it wasn't possible to do your own hair.
I started growing my hair, came on youtube for help on how to take care of my hair and I realized you can actually braid your own hair. The first time I fixed a weave-on on my own head, I was so happy and jubilant. Since then I do my hair 80% of the time. We aren't taught how to manage our hair by ourselves.
I mean it's not surprising lol the natural hair movement and knowledge on how to do hair is still recent so a lot of bw are still learning or discovering
“I know we heavy handed, but dang,” lol. 😄😄😄
Ngl I think she was the most powerful character in the vampire diaries because she died and came back to life multiple times but everyone needed her bc she was a witch so at the end of the day everyone wanted her help she was also a great best friend and at the end of the day I'm proud that she stayed alive till the last episode she was great!!!!
Finally watched season 7 & 8 this week and I felt as I always did when I used to watch it...Bonnie's a BAD ASS! Hated that her character didn't have much of a love interest like the others until the end. And I'm definitely not for the witch thing, but I loved seeing how it took her and the women in her family line to save them. Something so powerful in seeing us united!
This made me really grateful for my mama. I’m biracial as well and she took the time to learn my hair. So happy for her
I think the connection between the baby hairs and scent is that I think she was trying to say that the edge control gel she used smelled like her favorite scent amber.
I’m glad you watched it. It was so sweet. Someone in the hair care community needs to collaborate with Kat Graham and walk her through some natural hair care tips.
Kat Graham, has finallyfound herself. Yay. I stand by Jamaican black castor oil, jojoba and Shea butter. These products, promote conditioning and moisture.
I love the inclusive way you spoke about all black women, and I really enjoyed watching your genuine reaction to Kat's natural hair routine.
Someone needs to get Deeper Than Hair to this girl, bless her
This was the video that let us know that Kat Graham is definitely a high porosity natural😂
It is deep and hard when you are just starting this journey but it's never just hair for most of us it's alot more than hair
I cried with her and I remembered watching her on Vampire Diaries and always wondered why her natural hair wasn’t out. She’s gorgeous and glowing over the years.❤️❤️❤️
Man honey, real tears here. I totally can feel her pain. She is still learning her hair and herself in all honesty. Wow! Sending her love and natural hair peace! ❤
Only watched one video.. ONE VIDEO, and her face is now all over my TH-cam recommendations. So naturally, I just had to subscribe.
This video really shows that some people are still searching for self love within their natural selves. I'm so grateful to have been rooted by this, so I never saw it as a struggle or suppression.
❤️ Good luck Kat& others