what did you originally think her ethnicity was? this is a genuine question haha! I think I had thought she was maybe Turkish or Armenian or something.
iz a I’ve had multiple times where I had breakdowns then told her I could never pay her back and that I wanted her to have the best life. I told her when I’m mad I don’t mean it, and I still loved her.
Touching. My Mother and Father fell in love but couldn't even communicate because she didn't speak English and he didn't speak Korean. She left Korea with him and I, and she didn't get to go back until I was out of High school. I always felt for her when she would cry, missing Halmoni, when we had to go to places that had no Korean food.....so I always told myself I would never leave her alone. Now My Father and Younger brother are in Heaven and it's me her and my Husband. I appreciate so much her sacrifices, and the sacrifices my Dad made just to raise us with love......now I'm crying, I'm going to go call her.
charlene hughes-peseta I'm sorry but you need to stay strong, I know you are. Your situation is much better than thoose peole who grow up without mother and father. Stay with your mom and don't ever let her go, enjoy every moment with her, be with her when she needs you. Love her when she is nice and love her stronger when se isn't. Froget all bad things, just thing how lucky you are to have such a strong mother, think about every sunny day that you would spend with your family. Look at the sky and say and you will see your brother and father. It s really simple to ve happy you just need a smile and thats all. I'm crying while writing this
"I'm sorry I used to pretend I was white" just made me stop crying. And that when she said " I'm sorry I used to pretend that I wasn't Muslim" made me cry again
Saf's apology hit me right in the feels. I was the exact same way, I used to pretend I was white and not a muslim but I'm so happy to have finally embraced who I am
I use to pretend I’m white because I have an Australia passport, and be ashamed for f being Asian (even though I go to school in Hong Kong and I’m from Hong Kong -_-) but I have never been prouder to be Asian now
Not many videos make me cry but Safiya's apology gets me every time. She's amazing and it really hits hard especially with the "pretending to be white part". I just can't imagine.
Kelly McMahan I actually say that I'm half Chinese and half pakistani and that I don't know to speak in my father's language which is urdu(Pakistani) my mom is like quarter Chinese and I was only born in Hong Kong so yeah but I speak in Urdu with my family and I don't regret having my dad as Pakistani and I respect that
Now do you see why Asians are so obsessed with math and APs and good grades and all that stuff? It's to survive . Even if there isn't a legal discrimination there is still a LOT of discrimination behind our back and to have an equal opportunity as whites, we need to work so much harder.
not really? i agree on the people of colour being considered unequal, but the "super smart" stereotype is most definitely not a good thing. that "super smart" stereotype is also known as the model minority stereotype, which, if you've ever experienced it, is not a good thing. whenever i (as a vietnamese person growing up in america) i accomplished something in school, it was attributed to my asian-ness. no! it wasn't because i worked hard for it! it's not because i studied, right? what about the asians who don't fit into the stereotype? whenever i got something wrong or if i ever was not perfect, it was like a blow to the head. i thought something was wrong with me. was i not smart? i was asian, so how could i not uphold the "expectation"? i'm sick of having my hard earned accomplishments being treated as an automatic result of my being born as an asian. it's not a good thing. it glosses over the fact that we have to work as hard, if not harder, for what we want in life here. it further separates PoC and prevents us from uniting in solidarity.
***** I know. I was talking in more general -wider- view. I don't like science and math but I still have to pretend like I'm good at them because I'm an Asian and everyone will be like "you're an Asian, how are you not good at science and math?". It just makes me sad that this stereotype exists since it is a proof and history of Asian discrimination.
travis welsch well yeah b/c Asians have worked so hard over years and years. Do you not know Japanese Relocation during WWII? What about the word 'yellow fever'? There have always been at least some discrimination upon Asian people and so they're working so hard to survive and that's how 'Asian=smart' stereotype was created. That is a fact. You should think before you talk.
its sad you know, us as minorities, we get called free loaders and job stealers and lazy, but in reality we are the most hard working people out there. shout out to all my minorities out there with the parents who weren't there that often because they were working odd jobs trying to provide for you. or the ones who tried and tried to get jobs to provide for the family but wasn't given the chance to because of their race and ethnicity. God Bless
+hhhuuugggzzz What you just did in your comment is called "stereotyping", and you are what some people call "prejudiced". Thank you for the comment, I enjoyed it.
I can't think of anyone in my family who has been through this but I agree completely, those people have to work so hard and make so many sacrifices and try to help their family and even being rejected and made fun of so much in the process.
+hhhuuugggzzz Depends on which minority groups. Some are (generally) worthless freeloaders, others hare (generally) hardworking. The easiest way to tell which from which is by the rates of upward mobility. Asians like the guy at 2:55 even improve their lives without the assistance of affirmative action. Asians are actually hit harder by it than white people.
I cried because I know how a lot them feel. My parents are immigrants from Mexico and I've seen them sacrifice so much. The worst I would say is when they don't see their parents and siblings for years. My dad hasn't seen his older siblings in over 20 years. His mom died and he couldn't even go to her funeral. And now his dad is really sick and he can't even go see him. Same for my mom. Her little brother just recently died and it crushed her because she dreamed of visiting their old house, knocking at the door, and seeing her brother's surprised face as he saw her. Immigrant parents give up so much for their children. We have to give thanks for what our parents provide us, no matter the background.
i used to be bullied because my mother is palestinian so everyone treated me different which made me so ashamed of who i am and who my mother was. the more i grew, the more i realized that i'm blessed to have such a wonderful and a strong loving mother like her in my life. i appreciate her and everything she has sacrificed for me and my siblings. i'm proud to be mixed.
+Nina Belle I totally feel you. My parents were born in Jordan but my grandparents were born in what is now the Palestinian Territories. People at my school would treat me differently especially because I was muslim. They would call me names and stuff and I cried in my room everyday because I thought there was something wrong with me. I later got passed that and learned to accept myself but it still gets to me. My parents sacrificed so much for my siblings but they never had trouble learning English because in Jordan, English is the second main language. But that doesn't mean I shouldn't appreciate them.
Girl we are Palestinian people should always feel proud about our country,traditional food , customs, language and our land head up babe millions of us are proud and u should be one
*"Parents are real heros"* . . . . *EDIT- I see many of you commenting about the one's who abuse and all and I'm sorry this comment of mine is as appreciation comment towards the immigrant parents or such parents (including mine) who sacrifice sm for their children. The parents in the vid and even mine belong to a country where government does not fund kids like they do in n. Americam and Euro countries we belong to countries with very expensive exhausting medical and education systems our parents work day and night to even provide us with basic education and most of them move into west countries to provide us with a better livelihood and future (good education and medical care) I'm sorry if I offended you but most of you all in west don't acknowledge much of of the struggle of the rest of the world and take the things you get for granted by saying "We pay taxes" while in our country we do as well but we don't get the quality like you guys do so please be understandable and stop commenting about the abuse one's I've seen many kids from abusive families and I'm sorry for them but like i said this comment is just to appreciate cuz most of hete feel what they are going through just like you feel for the abusive one's or maybe you were abused and I'm sorry*
10,000 subscribers Without friends Yes, all. The „parents“ that treat their children and/or spouses badly are not parents. They are merely being the biological source of life. A parent is a hero. If you have earned the title „parent“ then you are a hero.
Yeah I always thought she was Christian but she’s Muslim which is great because I’m one too and there should be no difference just a world with more peace.❤️
Damn. That was really sweet. Wish I had parents who sacrificed things for me & actually cared like theirs. Just makes me want to be a better parent when I get the chance.
***** I think it applies to everyone, and that fact that many of us are lucky enough to have parents that have done more for us that we will ever know.
It's funny because I try to explain to some people what life is like as a child of an immigrant- there's so much academic pressure and so much pressure in general for success because your parents sacrifice so much- and people laugh at this and say "well my parents sacrificed a lot too. I have pressure on me too" but people don't understand it's not the same. Our families abandoned their country and the rest of their family to put us in a better place and help set us up for success. It's a whole different pressure than just getting good grades and having a good job and some people don't understand that.
All you immigrants out there, I am very happy and proud that u are in my country. You help make America diverse, and help contribute to our economy. I hope you all know that your lives have meaning to them, and I am a proud that you are looking for that meaning in the states. Welcome to the United States! I hope you learn to adjust to the U.S. and become a proud American (:
Mariam Alaa You said the muslim girl separate because she's muslim and so are you or else you would have described her another way Wow Guess you don't know about One Love Do you?
In safiya's wedding video i saw her mom dressed in saree and i wondered if she's indian.....now i get that she is a muslim. Edit: idk why you all are so sensitive. I know the difference between religion and culture. Its just that when i see a saree the first thing that strikes my mind is India but then many Muslims living in or related to southern asia wear saree too which i got to realise here hence commented. Maybe my words are wrong for which i would apologise but isn't it enough for 1 person to correct me rather than everyone commenting the same thing? Or is it that you wanna boast your knowledge and belittle everyone you see on the internet?😶
Yay guys....i got to know about this from my comment on another video of hers. But one thing that i still don't understand is why would she wear saree....i mean thats not what most of the muslims here wear. They have this cool dress called "sharara" that looks bomb. Anyway its her choice. Its time for me to shut my over curious brain😂
amythist kitty // nothing is wrong with them. Not every parent cares about their kids a single bit. Some kids get abused verbally or physically. Their parents may not accept who they are. Like they said. Their parents don't accept them, there's many things on what they could've meant by "someone who doesn't accept me" they can be gay or trans or a different religion that their parents don't agree with, don't say "tf is wrong with you" because something horrible can be happening that we don't know off. Their parents may not be treating them right so Don't judge a book by its cover.
Safiyah's story hit me the hardest. That is what I used to do too. I was so embarrassed by my mother and the traditional things that she used to do. My mother loved to share her culture with other people so she used to bring traditional food to our school etc. Like Safiyah, I'm a muslim, and people were not open to what she had to say or show, instead, I was made fun off, so I became angry too and told her to not come. She stopped coming, and I saw her became more and more depressed each year. I didn't know that it hurt her, until I was older. My mother is the most divine, pure-hearted woman in the world and I'm so proud of her, and I wish I could show that when I was younger, instead of making her feel bad for who she is and the culture that she was so proud of. She fled Somalia in 1988, which is over 28 years ago, and hasn't been back ever since. She lost both of her parents, and doesn't have contact with her siblings because she doesn't know where they are. My mother had depression and I heard her cry herself to sleep every night. We grew up in a city where we are the only Somali people, so she never had someone she could talk to or communicate with. Teaching people in our town about Somali traditions and making them our food was her way of staying in touch with her culture and making her happy, and I took that away from her. I never knew that I made her feel more like an outsider. People already looked at her and made comments, and I should've been the person she felt comfortable around, but I wasn't. I made her feel even worse about herself. I wish that I showed her that I was proud of having her heritage, instead of just showing my dad that I was proud of having his. I should've embraced her culture the same way I embraced my father's. I have taken steps to learn the somali language now, and I have seen the smile that puts on her face, especially when I ask her to teach me how to make somali food. Mother, I love you. ❤️
Jazmine A. M -MASHALLAH- how beautiful your mom sounds ❤️ may -ALLAH- bless you and your family and remember how many good deeds you all will get for holding onto your deen ❤️
“I’m sorry that I used to pretend that I was white, I’m really sorry that I used to pretend that I wasn’t Muslim.” GOD DAMN IT, that hit me... Cried so much watching this.
@@emmanuelokine8096 not that rare: 2 muslim majority countries in eastern europe(Bosnia and Albania) and several muslim majority republics inside Russia (Chechnya, Tatarstan, Ingushetia, Dagestan). I think the media just doesn't give much attention to european muslims, but they aren't that rare.
@@marcelogoncalvesdocouto4080 exactly! I once saw a video of a Bangladeshi Muslim woman marrying a white man who's from Bosnia & ppl in the comments were judging her for marrying a non Muslim when the guy is *actually* a Muslim bcuz Bosnia is a Muslim majority country. Seriously, these ppl think that a white person can't be Muslim or they're white to be Muslim which is so stupid.
Usually I don't get that emotional towards these things, but I actually almost teared at this video. Kind of odd because I didn't feel much of a sad emotion or anything...
same my mom has made so many sacrifices for me and my older sister and as a single mom i always tell her i love her. She always goes out of her way to make sure we have the things we need to be successful and teaches us to be independent. My dad was barely around and didn't really teach us anything so our mom had to be the mother and fath, but now when i am 19 and my sister 22 he was trying to get back into our lives, but we told him it's too late when we needed him he wasn't there our mom has had to do everything. I really couldn't have asked for a better mom, I LOVE HER SOOO MUCH!!!
My mum was walking across the street once and some kids stopped her and started throwing sticks at her and telling her to take her scarf off. They said some other stuff too and I wasn't aware until my mum told me weeks later.
I can really relate. My parents are really successful back in China. They choose to quit their jobs leave everything behind. Start a new life...they struggle to learn English. Thank you mom and dad.
@nadder19 I can’t speak to the original commentor’s experience but even though a family is successful in one of these Asian countries, They sometimes choose to leave to give their children more opportunities. Life in Vietnam for example (home of my ancestors) could be great for many who are able to make it but it is a life surrounded by corruption and hands tied by the government. Your children will have better opportunity elsewhere even if you are successful. Stories of immigrants are hard to understand and explain. My parents were immigrants and I feel their pain of what they experienced and understand why they had to leave, but I can never retell or recount their stories to the degree at which they do. Just know that life within these Asian countries just 30-40 years ago was very difficult (and still is for many) and life in the new, free world will always be better. You just have to live it or visit these countries to understand. I kind of went off on a tangent that isn’t related to your original question. It’s just a topic I’m very passionate about.
I believe the word being "sucessful" can be defined differently from one another. Having a stable place to stay and enough food to eat can be " successful".
@@naddee19 because things in these are not so good to say the least. Even if you're successful, you can't change the system and the government. No matter how rich you are, you still are a part of that system which is almost unchangeable.
As white Americans, my parents have never had to go through any of this. Hearing their stories really struck a chord with me. I think it's really important to think of what other people might be going through. Having my grandparents and all of my other relatives living here really made my life easy. I can't imagine what it would be like to leave your family to find a better life for yourself and your children. It makes me have a lot of respect for immigrants and I think it's sad that so many Americans want them gone. They've worked really hard to come to this country and have made many sacrifices that my relatives will never have to make. They deserve more respect than most Americans.
*THE STRUGGLE IS REAL* and just imagine having to experience it everyday and just have the thought that we have to suffer and mostly why do you guys want us gone?? I'm also Muslim and why do you guys want us gone?? I don't live in America because I live in my country where I was born. But is it forbidden for different religions to not enter America? Is it now illegal or something?? Idk, it seems like people who just doesn't know the struggle won't understand us well enough to reason with us and explain why you think we are forbidden to not enter America (for Asian ppl who are muslims)
honestly, as an asian teenager, there are a lot of people in school that make fun of me for my race. they ask me if i eat dogs and cats, they call me squinty, they assume i am the smartest person ever so they copy off my work. it doesnt feel good to be honest...
+Lily Clark It's agreeable, I live in the UK, and my parents are from China, more specifically Hong Kong, but I was born in the UK. I get the "stereotypes" often, but I make fun of myself for that as well. The reason is that if I say it, it shows that I don't care about it, and their "bullying" (as majority bully people for attention) wont be feeding them the attention, and I don't feel offended. It's like my name for example, (you know, asians only get rice lol) I make fun of myself like the "squinty eyes" or the "me no engrish" jokes. It's just something to state that I've made the joke, you don't need to. I got asked "what's an Asian's favourite pudding?", they said "Rice pudding". Tbh, it was a bad joke, but it's something that I don't really take too seriously, and they know that I don't, so there's no "bullying" happening.
Exactly, it really doesn't feel good, like Well I am sorry for not being born exactly the same as yoy and no i dont eat dogs or cats. I like animals, it's really offensive
Wake Up! Maybe you need to educate yourself on proper grammar before you tell anyone else to educate themselves 😂😂 not only that but there’s something called negative and positive *engagement* you should know that negative *engagement* does not help, because it spreads *NEGATIVE* views. Please, stop being a spoiled brat thinking that you are clever. Go educate yourself
I really hate that when someone asks me about my religion or what do I believe in , I have to tell them , I'm Muslim , but I'm not a terrorist. like I feel obligated to say that from the way our society thinks . I completely understand this girl because every time I tell someone that I'm Muslim , I'm afraid that they won't talk to me anymore or make fun of me .
Do not deny Allah or he will deny you. Your so called friends aren't important and if they even did think you were some sort of a terrorist then it's better off you're without them because they aren't good people
Well as a Muslim educate them on what Islam is and how it's not what is portrayed in the media. and if they still hold onto any judgments well that's their problem not yours. they obviously not the kind of friends you want so hold you're head high and be proud.
+BandsAndFandoms your profile picture is my life omg the phandom has arrived! and i feel the same. since im christian, im automatically obligated to shun gays. i fully support gays
Maria A When she started talking and emotion was literally seeping from her skin I burst out in tears. Stop making me cry. media.tumblr.com/tumblr_lkr8jqqnFG1qagx30.gif#crying%20gifs
It's really sad how being nonwhite in this country can make you want to change yourself and even turn against your family and friends. She was embarrassed of who she was and what she believed in! That is what this country does to people. It was CHILDREN who made her feel this way, so what are their parents teaching them? What is society teaching them? I'm just happy that she grew out of that and realized her mistakes, because some people don't. Be proud of who you are. Be proud of your skin, hair, eyes, weight, culture... Be proud of you.
cornish Pete they actually work really hard. The producers, at least. A few of the people in this video have left already because it's so overwhelming. And all around they seem to have good morals and be doing something with their life so what's the bfd?
cornish Pete because that was the subject of the video they decided to focus on? I believe they did one for latinos as well. And you're right everyone's parents always have to give up something that's no secret! For immigrants all around the world though the path is harder, especially if they're coming from a developing nation.
cornish Pete whether you like buzzfeed or not, you can't deny that their employees are hardworking and sacrifice a lot for their jobs. All of the videos you see are mostly produced entirely by the people you see on screen. They aren't just actors that the company hires and reuses. They write, film, edit and do all the behind the scenes work, along with their other jobs inside the office. The only help they get is from other people around the office, not the magic tooth fairy, so yeah I'd say they are pretty good role models.
Safiya's story really hit me hard, because as a Muslim,I know how much we get misunderstood and get called terrorists etc., when we really aren't. Some try to become people they are not,ashamed of who they are, especially by the influence of others, when really they should embrace and show the beauty of their religion,their country and who they are in general.
To my best friend’s dad, who immigrated from the Philippines, thank you for raising my best friend and providing her with everything she needed. I know you must have been through a lot. You probably still do. But you’re an amazing father and husband. And you’ll always be my favorite.
I was adopted from China. My biological parents left me in the middle of a medical building so that I would be found. I was actually suppose to be some sort of abortion but they kept me for 10 days and gave me a chance at life. They risked their lives for mine literally because during the time, it was a taboo to abandon your child which results in bad punishment, could be death. I now live in the United States, but I can't say I'm happy with the family I was adopted into. I know I should be grateful that I got to live. So I'd like to travel to China and find my birth parents. The only problems are, I have no idea where to start. I don't know their name and the name I was given was through the orphanage so I don't think it has any relations to my parents. Anyone have any idea, tips, advice, etc. about where I can start my search?
+Luna Star unfortunately there's no set or official DNA system to check. With all of the Amercian Chinese adoptees it would be nice to have one, but as you said, it is illegal for parents to abandon their children, even if that is a better choice for them. One way you might start is by searching for found baby ads in Chinese news papers. (Use a Chinese search engine and mix and match different terms, such as lost baby, the city you were found in, the date, and even your Chinese name.) beyond that I'm not sure where you would go. The best thing would to learn as much as you can from your story, where exactly you were found, who found you, and if you were left with anything. I wish you luck. -source looking for my parents
Woah, I'm adopted too! Not from China, but I also was abandoned by my birth parents and adopted into a family. I also want to find my parents as well and have no clue where to start but I would really like to find them as well.
Why does racism really exist. I suffer from it everyday day at school, I hide it from my parents as I don't want them to worry about me. My parents try there best to look after me financially and physically. I really do not think I will have a successful career. I really do hate school ..
Avinash - ROBLOX you will. Don't worry about it. Stand for yourself at school and do not let haters affect your life. About having a successful life, it should be you who make decisions. Do you view racism as a thing that make you hate yourself or it is the thing that you decide to make a change and work harder to show people that they are just bullies and weak?
Avinash - ROBLOX if haters defined the career I don't think Obama could have been the president. Stay strong and believe me your haters are gonna kiss your feet when u are gonna succeed. Who knows maybe u will some day own the firm they work in. People give what they have. They only have hate, so they can give only hate. What do u have Avinash?
Yes. I faced racism at skl because I have indian in me but now i am at college so everyone is more mature now but i still get the racist vybe from certian ppl
When Saf talked about her mom I kinda related since my mom would come to school and sometimes talk about Eid and Ramadan in assembly, and I used to get so embarrassed since we lived in japan
Parents are the most wonderful thing in the world. They'll do anything and everything to do what's right for their kids. This video is extremely touching.
Yo guys my mom is about to become a citizen after like 25 years of being here so happy she won't have to live in fear someone is going to show up and take her away from her family
Oh she was was illegal she came here from Mexico because there the gang people will show up at your house and force you to give you the title to your house or kidnap family members for money so yeah she came here to have her kids and to give them their best shot at a decent life and if you hate her for coming into this country even though this county was taken from other people and your ancestors were once the immigrants jokes on you because she's here to stay :)
Michelle Castillo Congratulations. My dad and I have been citizens for almost a decade, but now that my mom's green card as expired we're currently in the process of getting her citizenship as well.
I feel like safiya inspired me not to be ashamed to be a Muslim ever since I watched this I got more confident and I am proud to be a Muslim thank u safiya😭😘
I absolutely never cry about videos but seeing all of them crying and appreciating their parents made me cry so hard. Especially Saf, she meant every word she said
I'm Muslim, and so are my parents. They had to sacrifice many things to just take care of me. My moms husband lives in Dubai and were in America. I always ask her "why don't go and see you're husband?" And she would respond "cause I can't leave you" my dad hasn't signed my passport yet, for me to,go and visit Dubai. I beg but he doesn't listen. We want to plan to live in Dubai, so she can be with him, and live as a family. But she can't, she can't leave me she says. So never misunderstood you're parents they do everything they could, just to be with u, and love u. Tell them u love them
this video (especially saf's part, as a fellow muslim who used to feel like an outcast amidst predominantly white christian children at primary school) really touched me. my parents moved to london and left their families behind when they knew they wanted to start a family of their own, because they wanted my siblings and i to be educated in the UK and ensure that we had a better future. they are fortunate enough to have jobs that allow them to provide amazingly for us, despite coming here with no higher education whatsoever. they're one of the main reasons behind my motivation to always work hard and do well at school. i'm really grateful to them and i know a lot of other asian children feel the same way.
We have the exact opposite problem here... most of the people here(99.9%) are muslim. Even tho im catholic i still respect them and they respect me so i have no problem with it
Danggg this really makes me think. My dad is from Malaysia and left his family to move to the UK. I remember the first time I saw him cry was when his parents came to visit and he was saying goodbye to them at the airport. I thought it was so funny at the time because I had never seen him cry before but now I'm older I can't even phantom how hard that must be. Especially now that my grandparents are much older, every time he leaves he really doesn't know if that will be the last moment he will get to spend with them.
Stray Ray pretty much.. just like we are all human beings and a child of someone else who are our parents...but this comment really made me tear up and was so sad..
As I'm from India i have seen soo many arrange marriages eveb thought the parents don't love each other or even if they want to give divorce to each other they won't they'll still stick themselves together for there kids they'll be fine with Livin in rooms with no acs but buying the most expensive and the best thing for there kids. Even if you fail in ur life you're 25 your parents will still love you and let you stay with them for the rest of there lives and take all your expenses. When you're a parent you learn to sacrifice yourself and it automatically happens always love and adore ur parents .💞
Ishika - yep and I’m not Indian and I agree. Also among South Asia, child marriages used to be the norm, which is what probs got the idea of Arranged marriages
Yeah I agree with you. But personally for me, with my parents having an arranged marriage, it's harder for me with them being together. My dad is never happy and him and my mum are always fighting, and he treats me, my mum and my sister like crap and just recently he hit my mum for the first time. They are together "for their kids" but I seriously want them to divorce. It's hurting us all and I get its a sin in the bible to divorce but I'm sick of how unhappy we are as a family.
@@triciafradrick3731 damn, my parents fight here and there, and are angry and were arranged marriage but like they like being together. Like if I joke around with either my parents, or try to stop them from fighting, they go full defensive mode on the other parent. Just watch this video from SuperWoman which explains my parents in a nutshell: th-cam.com/video/x6kBXbw9E5M/w-d-xo.html
My dad's West Indian and my mom's from Trinidad. They both moved to America for a "better life" but when we (my sisters and I) were born everything became harder. My dad was very talented in mathematics but he works 2 jobs so he can see us. My mom is a teacher but she comes home with back pain and high blood pressure. She's always so stressed but she still keeps a smile on her face. Neither of them can always make it to my band concerts or come take pictures during my award ceremonies but they're trying their best. Children of immigrants all understand that we can't always have what we need but our parents will always try their best.🇹🇹🇹🇹🇹🇹🍛🍛
Also from Trinidad 🇹🇹....I mean we never know the struggle our parents actually go through until we get a little bit older and look a little closer and realized the sacrifices they make for us I can relate ..........respect 🙌
Gina Cook im not white and im half asian but im the same and i should feel ashamed but rn im not and i cant get over that its really bad but i dont feel the conection to be a muslim and i dont see that side of me
Perrywinkle smile maybe you should learn more about your religion from authentic sources, that may help you embrace your religion. If you need any help in that, I'll be more than glad to answer your questions and help you learn more inshaallah.
"And im really sorry that i used to pretend i was white, and im really sorry that i pretended that i wasnt muslim" that got me that just killed me inside like bam
karen ontiverosI usually don't comment on youtube videos, but this one I had to. I never really appreciated how much my parents have done for me and this helped me to realize it.
"You did more than, I ever deserved." That brought me to tears.
Leah Unicorn same
GOT U TO 1K
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Great line. Respect
immigrant parents are truly an inspiration.
baby girl, Thank you.
Every parents are inspiration. ❣️
True true
My dad and mom had to sacrifice leaving there homeland and leaving there family in the Philippines 🇵🇭
My grandparents from both sides are immigrants so they always told the sacrifices they made to come to America when I was younger.
I cried so hard when Safiya started crying
Bluejay same.
me too. I think it's because no one has ever really seen her upset :(
Same I also cried when she died in escape the night
I didn't know she was a Muslim also I am a muslim
Same
Y'all are here being suprised that saf is a muslim and I'm here being surprised that she is indian and danish
Exactly, I was wondering why there were so many Indian people during her wedding. Now it makes sense.
Tejaswini Chhetry I was wondering the same thing
I was wondering about the same thing!!, there were some women wearing saree in her wedding, but I ignored the fact somehow...now it makes sense
She’s talked about being Danish, though. At least in her live-streams.
what did you originally think her ethnicity was? this is a genuine question haha! I think I had thought she was maybe Turkish or Armenian or something.
"I'm sorry that I pretended that I was white and that I wasn't Muslim" was the most painful part of this video.
Yea that hurt
So true.
yea
That just hits you to your core
Yeah true it was the part the most painful thing that targeted our heads into (well not everyones)
watching saf cry was the most hurtful and heartbraking thing i've ever done.
Ulas Onal ikr 😭
I know
Me too. Also 666th like
Regina Phalange I think all of them made us cry
Ikr 😭 btw it's heartbreaking
Aw man, when Saf broke down... She took me with her. As a mother myself, I guarantee your parents appreciate you appreciating them!
Angela Siedell me too😭😭😭😭
Same😭
I think I cried because no one has ever seen saf cry or be upset so thats why she really made me sob
Angela Siedell Sameeee
Same
My biggest fear in life would be not being able to pay them back, or give them the life they deserve.
Me too . I love you mom . 🤱🏻
My mum passed away before I had the chance. Its one of the things I struggle with the most
iz a I’ve had multiple times where I had breakdowns then told her I could never pay her back and that I wanted her to have the best life. I told her when I’m mad I don’t mean it, and I still loved her.
RoseannaHughes I’m so sorry 🙏🏼
Very true.
It breaks my heart everytime to see Safiya cry.
Regina B. I think all of them made us cry
yea@@iknowexactlywhoyouare8701
@@iknowexactlywhoyouare8701 okay.......Victoria justice
@@confusion1779 I've just come from her wedding video and it made me cry but in a good way
Eszter same
Touching. My Mother and Father fell in love but couldn't even communicate because she didn't speak English and he didn't speak Korean. She left Korea with him and I, and she didn't get to go back until I was out of High school. I always felt for her when she would cry, missing Halmoni, when we had to go to places that had no Korean food.....so I always told myself I would never leave her alone. Now My Father and Younger brother are in Heaven and it's me her and my Husband. I appreciate so much her sacrifices, and the sacrifices my Dad made just to raise us with love......now I'm crying, I'm going to go call her.
charlene hughes-peseta I'm so sorry, if it makes you feel any better they're up there protecting you. You will never be hurt from now on.
charlene hughes-peseta I'm sorry but you need to stay strong, I know you are. Your situation is much better than thoose peole who grow up without mother and father. Stay with your mom and don't ever let her go, enjoy every moment with her, be with her when she needs you. Love her when she is nice and love her stronger when se isn't. Froget all bad things, just thing how lucky you are to have such a strong mother, think about every sunny day that you would spend with your family. Look at the sky and say and you will see your brother and father. It s really simple to ve happy you just need a smile and thats all. I'm crying while writing this
charlene hughes-peseta your mum most be proud of you. You have a nice heart ❤️
charlene hughes-peseta aww
charlene hughes-peseta
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"I'm sorry I used to pretend I was white" just made me stop crying.
And that when she said " I'm sorry I used to pretend that I wasn't Muslim" made me cry again
I relate to her :cccc
Same
She’s half white tho
Sirin Subliminals whites can be Muslim...Islam is a religion, not a race.
I relate so hard..... I am biracial. I teared up....
Saf's apology hit me right in the feels. I was the exact same way, I used to pretend I was white and not a muslim but I'm so happy to have finally embraced who I am
Same with me but I told lots of people I'm Muslim and now sometimes my friends forget I'm even Muslim because of way I act
yasmine Labdi same
preach
I use to pretend I’m white because I have an Australia passport, and be ashamed for f being Asian (even though I go to school in Hong Kong and I’m from Hong Kong -_-) but I have never been prouder to be Asian now
@@werid0235 the way you act. You sound as a sinner to me
Not many videos make me cry but Safiya's apology gets me every time. She's amazing and it really hits hard especially with the "pretending to be white part". I just can't imagine.
Kelly McMahan I actually say that I'm half Chinese and half pakistani and that I don't know to speak in my father's language which is urdu(Pakistani) my mom is like quarter Chinese and I was only born in Hong Kong so yeah but I speak in Urdu with my family and I don't regret having my dad as Pakistani and I respect that
Sorry I wrote too much
Now do you see why Asians are so obsessed with math and APs and good grades and all that stuff? It's to survive . Even if there isn't a legal discrimination there is still a LOT of discrimination behind our back and to have an equal opportunity as whites, we need to work so much harder.
***** But they 'especially' do since they are not considered equal.
not really? i agree on the people of colour being considered unequal, but the "super smart" stereotype is most definitely not a good thing. that "super smart" stereotype is also known as the model minority stereotype, which, if you've ever experienced it, is not a good thing. whenever i (as a vietnamese person growing up in america) i accomplished something in school, it was attributed to my asian-ness. no! it wasn't because i worked hard for it! it's not because i studied, right? what about the asians who don't fit into the stereotype? whenever i got something wrong or if i ever was not perfect, it was like a blow to the head. i thought something was wrong with me. was i not smart? i was asian, so how could i not uphold the "expectation"? i'm sick of having my hard earned accomplishments being treated as an automatic result of my being born as an asian. it's not a good thing. it glosses over the fact that we have to work as hard, if not harder, for what we want in life here. it further separates PoC and prevents us from uniting in solidarity.
***** I know. I was talking in more general -wider- view. I don't like science and math but I still have to pretend like I'm good at them because I'm an Asian and everyone will be like "you're an Asian, how are you not good at science and math?". It just makes me sad that this stereotype exists since it is a proof and history of Asian discrimination.
travis welsch well yeah b/c Asians have worked so hard over years and years. Do you not know Japanese Relocation during WWII? What about the word 'yellow fever'? There have always been at least some discrimination upon Asian people and so they're working so hard to survive and that's how 'Asian=smart' stereotype was created. That is a fact. You should think before you talk.
***** no it's when white men are obsessed with dating Asian women because they think Asian women are subordinate.
I didn't bring my permission slip to go on this feels trip
Thomas Alvarez Clouds filled with tears of feels
john doe cried..got to laugh at this comment for 5 min, then continued to cry
john doe XD im gonna use that
john doe and my parents didn't get to sign it...
Hehehehehe
Whose after saf tied the knot
Me wondering about her mom since I didn’t see her play a big role in her wedding....
Meee
I want to report abuse to my soul after seeing young Saf cry
@@rel1129 rightt
forever and ever me
Omg when safiya cried I cried
Bella Smith Kirk Franklin reference
Bella Smith me too
Bella Smith same!!!!!
Ikr I was holding back tears but then when saf started crying I couldn't anymore
it was weird bc i was good up until then
its sad you know, us as minorities, we get called free loaders and job stealers and lazy, but in reality we are the most hard working people out there. shout out to all my minorities out there with the parents who weren't there that often because they were working odd jobs trying to provide for you. or the ones who tried and tried to get jobs to provide for the family but wasn't given the chance to because of their race and ethnicity. God Bless
+hhhuuugggzzz What you just did in your comment is called "stereotyping", and you are what some people call "prejudiced". Thank you for the comment, I enjoyed it.
exactly tell them
yeah... they call us job sealers but they are the ones too lazy to look are a job themselves
I can't think of anyone in my family who has been through this but I agree completely, those people have to work so hard and make so many sacrifices and try to help their family and even being rejected and made fun of so much in the process.
+hhhuuugggzzz Depends on which minority groups. Some are (generally) worthless freeloaders, others hare (generally) hardworking.
The easiest way to tell which from which is by the rates of upward mobility.
Asians like the guy at 2:55 even improve their lives without the assistance of affirmative action. Asians are actually hit harder by it than white people.
i was tearing up this whole video, and safiya's last part made me cry. i understand how she feels. and how everyone here did.
I know
I know
“You did more than I ever deserved”
*The feels*
I cried because I know how a lot them feel. My parents are immigrants from Mexico and I've seen them sacrifice so much. The worst I would say is when they don't see their parents and siblings for years. My dad hasn't seen his older siblings in over 20 years. His mom died and he couldn't even go to her funeral. And now his dad is really sick and he can't even go see him. Same for my mom. Her little brother just recently died and it crushed her because she dreamed of visiting their old house, knocking at the door, and seeing her brother's surprised face as he saw her. Immigrant parents give up so much for their children. We have to give thanks for what our parents provide us, no matter the background.
I feel ya
^ should HAVE kept your opinion to yourself.
@randomguy that's a lie. You don't know other peoples struggles, so saying that someone else's aren't as difficult is bullshit.
I get you bro my parents are from mexico city this really got to me I started tearing up.
***** I don't know why you have to diminish the someone's experience to make your point. That's incredibly rude.
i used to be bullied because my mother is palestinian so everyone treated me different which made me so ashamed of who i am and who my mother was. the more i grew, the more i realized that i'm blessed to have such a wonderful and a strong loving mother like her in my life. i appreciate her and everything she has sacrificed for me and my siblings. i'm proud to be mixed.
thanks brother i appreciate it!
+Nina Belle I totally feel you. My parents were born in Jordan but my grandparents were born in what is now the Palestinian Territories. People at my school would treat me differently especially because I was muslim. They would call me names and stuff and I cried in my room everyday because I thought there was something wrong with me. I later got passed that and learned to accept myself but it still gets to me. My parents sacrificed so much for my siblings but they never had trouble learning English because in Jordan, English is the second main language. But that doesn't mean I shouldn't appreciate them.
Same (but because I'm Iraqi)
Girl we are Palestinian people should always feel proud about our country,traditional food , customs, language and our land head up babe millions of us are proud and u should be one
+my mother thank you you just made my day. ☺️ Thank you so much!!! 😊😊😊
the muslim part one got me right in the heart .
sarah the fangirl same especially because I'm a Muslim
Danya Mustafa me too
Sarah Mbarik me tooo
Shaam Firas sooo am i
Sarah Mbarik I see probably was bullied because of 9/11 and the bonging of the marathon and stuff that muslims did but I love her
*"Parents are real heros"*
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*EDIT- I see many of you commenting about the one's who abuse and all and I'm sorry this comment of mine is as appreciation comment towards the immigrant parents or such parents (including mine) who sacrifice sm for their children. The parents in the vid and even mine belong to a country where government does not fund kids like they do in n. Americam and Euro countries we belong to countries with very expensive exhausting medical and education systems our parents work day and night to even provide us with basic education and most of them move into west countries to provide us with a better livelihood and future (good education and medical care) I'm sorry if I offended you but most of you all in west don't acknowledge much of of the struggle of the rest of the world and take the things you get for granted by saying "We pay taxes" while in our country we do as well but we don't get the quality like you guys do so please be understandable and stop commenting about the abuse one's I've seen many kids from abusive families and I'm sorry for them but like i said this comment is just to appreciate cuz most of hete feel what they are going through just like you feel for the abusive one's or maybe you were abused and I'm sorry*
Not all tho
Only 360 likes after one year? Come on! You need a million!!
That's not true my dad killed my mom and left me and my sister we now live in granny's house
I read this as
*Parents are real herbs*
Bcause of my tears
10,000 subscribers Without friends Yes, all. The „parents“ that treat their children and/or spouses badly are not parents. They are merely being the biological source of life. A parent is a hero. If you have earned the title „parent“ then you are a hero.
I couldn't hold things back till Safiya cried 😭😭😭
I know me too
The_Real_Ghosh_God I think all of them made us cry
The_Real_Ghosh_God 😭😭sameee 🤧🤧🤧
True...
I wish saf talked more in this
Dean Kerins yes. She made me cry 😔
Yeah I always thought she was Christian but she’s Muslim which is great because I’m one too and there should be no difference just a world with more peace.❤️
Dean Kerins I know I did not even know she was Muslim
how can she be a muslim if her father a dane?
I love Safiyas channel
Damn. That was really sweet. Wish I had parents who sacrificed things for me & actually cared like theirs. Just makes me want to be a better parent when I get the chance.
Actually, the video made me cried. Even tho my dad isn't like that , it inspires me to becomes like one of those parents
esterbrito121523 me too man, me too.
"You did more than I ever deserved." That hit me.
I'm not asian, my parents arent immigrants, but I cried.
portuguese autocorrector...
oh right, sorry, i was being mean
***** Why do you have to be asian to be moved like this.
***** I think it applies to everyone, and that fact that many of us are lucky enough to have parents that have done more for us that we will ever know.
***** i cried too
y must u make me cry buzzfeed
Oh hey, it's you. 😂
Aster Li hi?
lol what do you mean
BellaPineda no, i just see you around in the comments on cube vids
Aster Li Oh then hey! Fellow Cube fan!
For real
It's funny because I try to explain to some people what life is like as a child of an immigrant- there's so much academic pressure and so much pressure in general for success because your parents sacrifice so much- and people laugh at this and say "well my parents sacrificed a lot too. I have pressure on me too" but people don't understand it's not the same. Our families abandoned their country and the rest of their family to put us in a better place and help set us up for success. It's a whole different pressure than just getting good grades and having a good job and some people don't understand that.
Sandyrah95 exactly
👏👏👏
This is so true😫
Preach 🙌🙌🙌👏👏👏👏
Sandyrah95 well said
Me, an Asian: crying with all of them
Im Asian American, and this video turned my room into a swimming pool
Not Asian but still cried
Ye me to as a south Asian (Indian)
Australian
@@vrindabhardwaj5040
Same I am Indian too
"You did more than I ever deserved." wow...that really hit it. :(
me too
Me too
All you immigrants out there, I am very happy and proud that u are in my country. You help make America diverse, and help contribute to our economy. I hope you all know that your lives have meaning to them, and I am a proud that you are looking for that meaning in the states. Welcome to the United States! I hope you learn to adjust to the U.S. and become a proud American (:
You own America now?
BEAN B no but I'm a citizen so I can say what I want.
Wow you are a genuinely kind person we do need more people like you :D
Moy Rios Unless you are Native American your ancestors were probably immigrants too
noooooooooooooooooo another reason why we all should accept immigrants
Shout out to all parents who struggled a lot and to the muslim girl
Mariam Alaa I likes your comment cause no one else did you touched me
Mariam Alaa Safyia
Mariam Alaa
Olivia Farro that is my grandmother's name😊😊😊😊
Mariam Alaa You said the muslim girl separate because she's muslim and so are you or else you would have described her another way Wow Guess you don't know about One Love Do you?
In safiya's wedding video i saw her mom dressed in saree and i wondered if she's indian.....now i get that she is a muslim.
Edit: idk why you all are so sensitive.
I know the difference between religion and culture. Its just that when i see a saree the first thing that strikes my mind is India but then many Muslims living in or related to southern asia wear saree too which i got to realise here hence commented.
Maybe my words are wrong for which i would apologise but isn't it enough for 1 person to correct me rather than everyone commenting the same thing? Or is it that you wanna boast your knowledge and belittle everyone you see on the internet?😶
Safs mum is Indian x
She is Muslim and Indian.
Yay guys....i got to know about this from my comment on another video of hers.
But one thing that i still don't understand is why would she wear saree....i mean thats not what most of the muslims here wear. They have this cool dress called "sharara" that looks bomb.
Anyway its her choice. Its time for me to shut my over curious brain😂
@@winterflower2002 because a Saree is part of the Indian culture
La Luna umm may be not every Indian's culture. 😅
Man made me think of all the things my parents gave up. My mom hasn't been back to the Philippines since '91 and she misses her family.
Danielle Mallari Lol sucks for her, maybe she should buy a ticket to the Phillipines
SidTheSloth you think it's that easy ?
SidTheSloth Maybe you should just shut up, because apparently you have nothing nice to say.
Jessica Le don't feed the obvious troll, he or she is just doing it to touch themselves
i hope she goes and visits. the same problem with my mom. best of luck for you. Danielle Mallari
after this video i legit ran downstairs and gave my mom a hug
Loesieamare I didn't. Why should I hug someone who doesn't accept who I am.
no 1 understaaands me omg
+Hema Zaman because its your mom
The_Neko_ Knight tf is wrong with you
amythist kitty // nothing is wrong with them. Not every parent cares about their kids a single bit. Some kids get abused verbally or physically. Their parents may not accept who they are. Like they said. Their parents don't accept them, there's many things on what they could've meant by "someone who doesn't accept me" they can be gay or trans or a different religion that their parents don't agree with, don't say "tf is wrong with you" because something horrible can be happening that we don't know off. Their parents may not be treating them right so Don't judge a book by its cover.
Safiyah's story hit me the hardest. That is what I used to do too. I was so embarrassed by my mother and the traditional things that she used to do. My mother loved to share her culture with other people so she used to bring traditional food to our school etc. Like Safiyah, I'm a muslim, and people were not open to what she had to say or show, instead, I was made fun off, so I became angry too and told her to not come. She stopped coming, and I saw her became more and more depressed each year.
I didn't know that it hurt her, until I was older. My mother is the most divine, pure-hearted woman in the world and I'm so proud of her, and I wish I could show that when I was younger, instead of making her feel bad for who she is and the culture that she was so proud of. She fled Somalia in 1988, which is over 28 years ago, and hasn't been back ever since. She lost both of her parents, and doesn't have contact with her siblings because she doesn't know where they are. My mother had depression and I heard her cry herself to sleep every night.
We grew up in a city where we are the only Somali people, so she never had someone she could talk to or communicate with. Teaching people in our town about Somali traditions and making them our food was her way of staying in touch with her culture and making her happy, and I took that away from her. I never knew that I made her feel more like an outsider. People already looked at her and made comments, and I should've been the person she felt comfortable around, but I wasn't. I made her feel even worse about herself.
I wish that I showed her that I was proud of having her heritage, instead of just showing my dad that I was proud of having his. I should've embraced her culture the same way I embraced my father's. I have taken steps to learn the somali language now, and I have seen the smile that puts on her face, especially when I ask her to teach me how to make somali food.
Mother, I love you. ❤️
Jazmine A. M that choked me a little, so I'm gonna add a bit of humour....
69th like waheyyyyyyy
Jazmine A. M I'm somali to 😃
Jazmine A. M -MASHALLAH- how beautiful your mom sounds ❤️ may -ALLAH- bless you and your family and remember how many good deeds you all will get for holding onto your deen ❤️
Dont lie we all cried at saf’s apology
I'm crying harder than I did watching the fucking Notebook
Calm down
Goofiest Goober Thank you, I will try.
+Sophia Hayes you should be, their stories are actually real
+Sophia Hayes yes omg
+Sophia Hayes I cried so much, this was so heartbreaking to watch.
Saf made me cry :(((
Sammeee😫😢
Same
Dance Is Life sameee
Same I’m DYING
Dance Is Life yesss I am tearing up
Not even asian. Still cried.
Tim McAuliffe dude you just need to be a human being
mean teen words to live by
Damn I want some sushi now
Tim McAuliffe Central ASIA is also part of the middle east :P
Tim McAuliffe Well you don't have to be Asian...I feel like most people who grew up with immigrant parents can truly relate to this video.
“I’m sorry that I used to pretend that I was white, I’m really sorry that I used to pretend that I wasn’t Muslim.” GOD DAMN IT, that hit me... Cried so much watching this.
Victoria Nascif like I can’t relate at all, I’m as white as it gets, and it just made me cry to see her crying like that
What does being white have to do with being Muslim? White Muslims exist.
@@Michael-zt9ik they rare. Check it out
@@emmanuelokine8096 not that rare: 2 muslim majority countries in eastern europe(Bosnia and Albania) and several muslim majority republics inside Russia (Chechnya, Tatarstan, Ingushetia, Dagestan). I think the media just doesn't give much attention to european muslims, but they aren't that rare.
@@marcelogoncalvesdocouto4080 exactly! I once saw a video of a Bangladeshi Muslim woman marrying a white man who's from Bosnia & ppl in the comments were judging her for marrying a non Muslim when the guy is *actually* a Muslim bcuz Bosnia is a Muslim majority country. Seriously, these ppl think that a white person can't be Muslim or they're white to be Muslim which is so stupid.
OH MY GOD I NEVER CRY AT ANYTHING WHYYYYY
MeiLinEakin That's not a must. What's must is treat your parents with kindness and respect.
*sigh* what I was trying to say is that I cried at this video even though I don't cry at most things
MeiLinEakin sorry sarcasm not detected. And it still does not change my first reply.
Same here. I held it in until 'do you have anything to say to parents?' No one had even answered yet and I was crying.
Usually I don't get that emotional towards these things, but I actually almost teared at this video. Kind of odd because I didn't feel much of a sad emotion or anything...
Oh my God I started crying in this video... It really reminded me of how parents would do anything for the well being of their children.
DB Crazed same
DB Crazed literally same
DB Crazed same
same my mom has made so many sacrifices for me and my older sister and as a single mom i always tell her i love her. She always goes out of her way to make sure we have the things we need to be successful and teaches us to be independent. My dad was barely around and didn't really teach us anything so our mom had to be the mother and fath, but now when i am 19 and my sister 22 he was trying to get back into our lives, but we told him it's too late when we needed him he wasn't there our mom has had to do everything. I really couldn't have asked for a better mom, I LOVE HER SOOO MUCH!!!
same
May Allah bless your mum safiya I am Muslim too and I know how much it hurts when Kids teas you. I am with you Safiya
Little Miss Aysha23 I know how you feel everyone makes jokes about me being a terrorist and they think its funny ,But i really feel hurt
Tease*
#Muslim4life 😂😀🙃
white ppl wont get what Brown Muslim like me go thru
My mum was walking across the street once and some kids stopped her and started throwing sticks at her and telling her to take her scarf off. They said some other stuff too and I wasn't aware until my mum told me weeks later.
I can really relate. My parents are really successful back in China. They choose to quit their jobs leave everything behind. Start a new life...they struggle to learn English. Thank you mom and dad.
Why did they leave if they were successful?
mine were too
@nadder19 I can’t speak to the original commentor’s experience but even though a family is successful in one of these Asian countries, They sometimes choose to leave to give their children more opportunities. Life in Vietnam for example (home of my ancestors) could be great for many who are able to make it but it is a life surrounded by corruption and hands tied by the government. Your children will have better opportunity elsewhere even if you are successful. Stories of immigrants are hard to understand and explain. My parents were immigrants and I feel their pain of what they experienced and understand why they had to leave, but I can never retell or recount their stories to the degree at which they do. Just know that life within these Asian countries just 30-40 years ago was very difficult (and still is for many) and life in the new, free world will always be better. You just have to live it or visit these countries to understand. I kind of went off on a tangent that isn’t related to your original question. It’s just a topic I’m very passionate about.
I believe the word being "sucessful" can be defined differently from one another. Having a stable place to stay and enough food to eat can be " successful".
@@naddee19 because things in these are not so good to say the least. Even if you're successful, you can't change the system and the government. No matter how rich you are, you still are a part of that system which is almost unchangeable.
As white Americans, my parents have never had to go through any of this. Hearing their stories really struck a chord with me. I think it's really important to think of what other people might be going through. Having my grandparents and all of my other relatives living here really made my life easy. I can't imagine what it would be like to leave your family to find a better life for yourself and your children. It makes me have a lot of respect for immigrants and I think it's sad that so many Americans want them gone. They've worked really hard to come to this country and have made many sacrifices that my relatives will never have to make. They deserve more respect than most Americans.
Agurl Rox bless you ❤️
Agurl Rox Thanks, you're awesome for this message.
*THE STRUGGLE IS REAL* and just imagine having to experience it everyday and just have the thought that we have to suffer and mostly why do you guys want us gone?? I'm also Muslim and why do you guys want us gone?? I don't live in America because I live in my country where I was born. But is it forbidden for different religions to not enter America? Is it now illegal or something?? Idk, it seems like people who just doesn't know the struggle won't understand us well enough to reason with us and explain why you think we are forbidden to not enter America (for Asian ppl who are muslims)
Agurl Rox thankyou for this 💓
But yet, white americans still discrimate us for our race
honestly, as an asian teenager, there are a lot of people in school that make fun of me for my race. they ask me if i eat dogs and cats, they call me squinty, they assume i am the smartest person ever so they copy off my work. it doesnt feel good to be honest...
Tell them you are an American. Just like them
+Lily Clark It's agreeable, I live in the UK, and my parents are from China, more specifically Hong Kong, but I was born in the UK. I get the "stereotypes" often, but I make fun of myself for that as well. The reason is that if I say it, it shows that I don't care about it, and their "bullying" (as majority bully people for attention) wont be feeding them the attention, and I don't feel offended. It's like my name for example, (you know, asians only get rice lol) I make fun of myself like the "squinty eyes" or the "me no engrish" jokes. It's just something to state that I've made the joke, you don't need to. I got asked "what's an Asian's favourite pudding?", they said "Rice pudding". Tbh, it was a bad joke, but it's something that I don't really take too seriously, and they know that I don't, so there's no "bullying" happening.
Yep, they always say that. I tell them, I don't know, I don't eat them. I say to them, keep getting fat with your McDonald's xD
Exactly, it really doesn't feel good, like Well I am sorry for not being born exactly the same as yoy and no i dont eat dogs or cats. I like animals, it's really offensive
And people saying that you're cheep and poor...
This is honestly how I feel about my mother. I love you uma
YOUR PROFILE PIC YES
Dil Howlter *YOUR* PROFILE PIC YES (and yes Happy is awesome too)
Haha FAIRY TAIL FOREVER (●□●)
Lana Perice Are you korean?
My My Luv yes ^^
Saf really got me with her and also why are there so many dislikes are people so heartless😢😢😢😢😭😭😭😭
Damn same
Redaina Afridi Or they didn’t like the video? But no everybody who didn’t like it is racist
Al C. Why wouldn’t they like the video? What’s there to dislike?
Wake Up! Maybe you need to educate yourself on proper grammar before you tell anyone else to educate themselves 😂😂 not only that but there’s something called negative and positive *engagement* you should know that negative *engagement* does not help, because it spreads *NEGATIVE* views. Please, stop being a spoiled brat thinking that you are clever. Go educate yourself
Wake Up! Literally shut up...
Saf's story made me proud that I would always embrace myself and my ethnic background. I am telling people always be proud of your roots.
Sorcerer Vaati64 jhjv
I really hate that when someone asks me about my religion or what do I believe in , I have to tell them ,
I'm Muslim , but I'm not a terrorist.
like I feel obligated to say that from the way our society thinks .
I completely understand this girl because every time I tell someone that I'm Muslim , I'm afraid that they won't talk to me anymore or make fun of me .
Do not deny Allah or he will deny you. Your so called friends aren't important and if they even did think you were some sort of a terrorist then it's better off you're without them because they aren't good people
Well as a Muslim educate them on what Islam is and how it's not what is portrayed in the media.
and if they still hold onto any judgments well that's their problem not yours.
they obviously not the kind of friends you want so hold you're head high and be proud.
Eray Akbulut Crystal clear xx
+BandsAndFandoms your profile picture is my life omg the phandom has arrived! and i feel the same. since im christian, im automatically obligated to shun gays. i fully support gays
YEYYY THE PHANDOM IS EVERYWHERE, and same with me , I don't really care is someone is gay or not :) Morgan Hollingsworth
The girl at 3:55 made me cry so fucking much
Maria A Same here.
Same, especially because her story is very similar to mine 😢
Maria A When she started talking and emotion was literally seeping from her skin I burst out in tears. Stop making me cry. media.tumblr.com/tumblr_lkr8jqqnFG1qagx30.gif#crying%20gifs
Maria A does anyone know what she's called?
The whole tire time my eyes were watering but when she start talking i was crying.
This was a roller coaster and I’m not sure I was tall enough to ride
this made me tear up.
yoni steinman Shut up you fucking pest
yoni steinman XD
I'm pretty sure girls don't have balls! And if she did they'd be bigger than yours!
Godrocksandyousuck LMAO thanks for making me laugh after crying
FLEECE JOHNSON(Booty Warrior) You ain't no booty warrior boy. Let me in that booty.
the lady who is Muslim cut me deep because I did the exact same thing to my aunty and my aunty never came to any of my gigs... now she's gone
I'm so sorry.
aw i'm so sorry, stay strong💪🏽💕
+Samantha K it's okay she's still around. she keeps closing my door haha and I write letters to her :)
+heythereitsbonnie thanks hun but everything's okay. she's still around- she keeps closing my door hahaha
+Ryu bro. ❤️❤️
It's really sad how being nonwhite in this country can make you want to change yourself and even turn against your family and friends. She was embarrassed of who she was and what she believed in! That is what this country does to people.
It was CHILDREN who made her feel this way, so what are their parents teaching them? What is society teaching them?
I'm just happy that she grew out of that and realized her mistakes, because some people don't.
Be proud of who you are. Be proud of your skin, hair, eyes, weight, culture... Be proud of you.
I'm watching this after binge watching Safiya's videos. Never thought that she was muslim. But her apology just hit me right on the feel
Is a muslim, not was a muslim.
It hurts to see ur role models cry.
kane SC lo
Fine choice of role models.
cornish Pete they actually work really hard. The producers, at least. A few of the people in this video have left already because it's so overwhelming. And all around they seem to have good morals and be doing something with their life so what's the bfd?
cornish Pete because that was the subject of the video they decided to focus on? I believe they did one for latinos as well. And you're right everyone's parents always have to give up something that's no secret! For immigrants all around the world though the path is harder, especially if they're coming from a developing nation.
cornish Pete whether you like buzzfeed or not, you can't deny that their employees are hardworking and sacrifice a lot for their jobs. All of the videos you see are mostly produced entirely by the people you see on screen. They aren't just actors that the company hires and reuses. They write, film, edit and do all the behind the scenes work, along with their other jobs inside the office. The only help they get is from other people around the office, not the magic tooth fairy, so yeah I'd say they are pretty good role models.
Safiya's story really hit me hard, because as a Muslim,I know how much we get misunderstood and get called terrorists etc., when we really aren't. Some try to become people they are not,ashamed of who they are, especially by the influence of others, when really they should embrace and show the beauty of their religion,their country and who they are in general.
IKR!
ikr
same
true but if she is muslim how come she dating tyler
so what if shes dating tylers isnt zayn dating Gigi it doesnt matter love is not haram what are you 5?
When Safiya cried😭
feels😭😭
+Sikh Scythian Whaddya mean? Indians are Asians.
Davina Sengheu Indians are not mongoloid people
+Sikh Scythian you are not a regular stupid... you are advanced stupid
+Estefanía Núñez BUUUUUURN
I never know Safiyah was a Muslim. It really hit me when she started crying 😭
Only coz she is a Muslim ?
She is a muslim not was a muslim.
@@youtubeflix8033 gosh you are here also...
I have been watching buzzfeed vids for so long and had no idea saf was a muslim
omg when she cried it got to me
Farihah khan I know right? I cried. Literally cried. It's so sad.
Farihah khan I knew it. She looks like one
Farihah khan SAME
Farihah khan I know I was like she's a Muslim?!? It really sounded cool to me
Cause I'm a Muslim too
i dont think that she's muslim.. i think its just her mom
Safi absolutely shattered my heart. That's what peer pressure and racism does to you.
Did anyone else cry or am I the only one
Mia Ruiz me
Mia Ruiz me 😭😭😭
guilty
😭
same
To my best friend’s dad, who immigrated from the Philippines, thank you for raising my best friend and providing her with everything she needed. I know you must have been through a lot. You probably still do. But you’re an amazing father and husband. And you’ll always be my favorite.
I made the mistake of cutting onions while watching this
😂😂😂
😂😂😂
Lol
My eyes kept sweating
+M Block
It's not Laughing Out Loud. This is sad why would you type Lol
I was adopted from China. My biological parents left me in the middle of a medical building so that I would be found. I was actually suppose to be some sort of abortion but they kept me for 10 days and gave me a chance at life. They risked their lives for mine literally because during the time, it was a taboo to abandon your child which results in bad punishment, could be death.
I now live in the United States, but I can't say I'm happy with the family I was adopted into. I know I should be grateful that I got to live. So I'd like to travel to China and find my birth parents. The only problems are, I have no idea where to start. I don't know their name and the name I was given was through the orphanage so I don't think it has any relations to my parents.
Anyone have any idea, tips, advice, etc. about where I can start my search?
I SirPubstomp I is China's DNA system the same as America's?
+Luna Star unfortunately there's no set or official DNA system to check. With all of the Amercian Chinese adoptees it would be nice to have one, but as you said, it is illegal for parents to abandon their children, even if that is a better choice for them. One way you might start is by searching for found baby ads in Chinese news papers. (Use a Chinese search engine and mix and match different terms, such as lost baby, the city you were found in, the date, and even your Chinese name.) beyond that I'm not sure where you would go. The best thing would to learn as much as you can from your story, where exactly you were found, who found you, and if you were left with anything. I wish you luck.
-source looking for my parents
Aquaria Wolf ok, thank you for the very helpful advice!
Woah, I'm adopted too! Not from China, but I also was abandoned by my birth parents and adopted into a family. I also want to find my parents as well and have no clue where to start but I would really like to find them as well.
animetwilight75 where were you adopted from?
Why does racism really exist. I suffer from it everyday day at school, I hide it from my parents as I don't want them to worry about me. My parents try there best to look after me financially and physically. I really do not think I will have a successful career. I really do hate school ..
Avinash - ROBLOX you will. Don't worry about it. Stand for yourself at school and do not let haters affect your life. About having a successful life, it should be you who make decisions. Do you view racism as a thing that make you hate yourself or it is the thing that you decide to make a change and work harder to show people that they are just bullies and weak?
Avinash - ROBLOX if haters defined the career I don't think Obama could have been the president. Stay strong and believe me your haters are gonna kiss your feet when u are gonna succeed. Who knows maybe u will some day own the firm they work in. People give what they have. They only have hate, so they can give only hate. What do u have Avinash?
Avinash - ROBLOX you’ll be fine, I really think to talk about this to a teacher or a principal, there’s always a way even without parents
You are who you are and they can NOT tell you what you are,can or can't be.Tell the teachers!Fon't them bring you down!
Yes. I faced racism at skl because I have indian in me but now i am at college so everyone is more mature now but i still get the racist vybe from certian ppl
When Saf talked about her mom I kinda related since my mom would come to school and sometimes talk about Eid and Ramadan in assembly, and I used to get so embarrassed since we lived in japan
Wow do u still live in japan? R there any mosques and halal food in japan?
Safiya crying got me
Yeah
same
Same, but after seeing your profile pic, I just started cracking up
so we're crafting together, I'm sorry
You're picture just killed the sad moment. I was about to cry too, and then I saw your pic. 😩😩😩😩😩😆😆😆😆😆
Parents are the most wonderful thing in the world. They'll do anything and everything to do what's right for their kids. This video is extremely touching.
Zîgglêr Fân 4 Lîfê Not all parents. Definitely not all.
angie- chan most certainly not all parents
thinktwicex for sure not all
thinktwicex well they at lest try to help there children.
Your right parents will do anything for us!
Yo guys my mom is about to become a citizen after like 25 years of being here so happy she won't have to live in fear someone is going to show up and take her away from her family
Michelle Castillo congrats for her!
Oh she was was illegal she came here from Mexico because there the gang people will show up at your house and force you to give you the title to your house or kidnap family members for money so yeah she came here to have her kids and to give them their best shot at a decent life and if you hate her for coming into this country even though this county was taken from other people and your ancestors were once the immigrants jokes on you because she's here to stay :)
Michelle Castillo Congratulations. My dad and I have been citizens for almost a decade, but now that my mom's green card as expired we're currently in the process of getting her citizenship as well.
Michelle Castillo all the best
Cheers ! I'm happy for you , hope my mom gets the opportunity soon :)
Baby Saf 💕 now she’s a married woman and shiii
THIS IS SO FUCKING BEAUTIFUL!!
Visst e de Nelly!
It truly is!!
What's beautiful is how the words "fucking" and "beautiful" work together so good
me ilikecheese exactly.
Nelly Engström YES. YES IT IS!!! *tear*
I feel like safiya inspired me not to be ashamed to be a Muslim ever since I watched this I got more confident and I am proud to be a Muslim thank u safiya😭😘
Who is cutting onions in my room?!
Squidward..
Nosfuratu!
+Harley 437 😂😂😂😂😂👏👏👏👏👏👏
Seriously, that's a lot of onions.
+Hark Seg I know it's hundreds
The story of the computer engineer I cried so hard!!!!!! She’s a hero!
Tbh, probably a relief to quit her job lol (speaking from exp). But maybe not who knows.
I personally think she was miserable at her job and used her son as an excuse to quit
I lost it when saf started crying.
When saf started to cry the tears just came a gushing
I was balling when Safina cried😭
*Safiya
Same 😭😭
Same 😭😭
Im still crying😫😫😫
i did too😢😢😢😢
I absolutely never cry about videos but seeing all of them crying and appreciating their parents made me cry so hard. Especially Saf, she meant every word she said
Ik😭
Fr I am literally biting the inside of my cheeks so I don’t cry in front of my entire family and then having to explain
The muslim girl broke my heart :(
Yes :-(
littlemisstoes Mostly because she almost explained my childhood. Sorry mom.
littlemisstoes who is her name btw?
Me too..
SAME.
I'm Muslim, and so are my parents. They had to sacrifice many things to just take care of me. My moms husband lives in Dubai and were in America. I always ask her "why don't go and see you're husband?" And she would respond "cause I can't leave you" my dad hasn't signed my passport yet, for me to,go and visit Dubai. I beg but he doesn't listen. We want to plan to live in Dubai, so she can be with him, and live as a family. But she can't, she can't leave me she says. So never misunderstood you're parents they do everything they could, just to be with u, and love u. Tell them u love them
Justin uHub happy Ramadan 😊
Justin uHub CrystalWinterx happy ramadhan from indonesia to all of u out there!!
Khazra Fatima Happy Ramadan :)
***** thank you, and happy ramandan mubarak
CrystalWinterx Happy fasting month, sister^_^
this video (especially saf's part, as a fellow muslim who used to feel like an outcast amidst predominantly white christian children at primary school) really touched me. my parents moved to london and left their families behind when they knew they wanted to start a family of their own, because they wanted my siblings and i to be educated in the UK and ensure that we had a better future. they are fortunate enough to have jobs that allow them to provide amazingly for us, despite coming here with no higher education whatsoever. they're one of the main reasons behind my motivation to always work hard and do well at school. i'm really grateful to them and i know a lot of other asian children feel the same way.
Army
We have the exact opposite problem here... most of the people here(99.9%) are muslim. Even tho im catholic i still respect them and they respect me so i have no problem with it
I relate to you
I have a 4.0 GPA and my family's past is my main motivation
My parents sacrafices for me like that too
watching saf cry was the most hurtful and heartbraking thing i've ever done.
Everyone cried, don’t lie, I see you, acting like your not crying, I can see those tears
no
@@joshua.ynginho same lol , no
It made me cry when Safiya started to cry
i just started to bawl at the end
Mukti Patel that's the way to go :)
wimpppp
Mukti Patel You're not alone.
Danggg this really makes me think. My dad is from Malaysia and left his family to move to the UK. I remember the first time I saw him cry was when his parents came to visit and he was saying goodbye to them at the airport. I thought it was so funny at the time because I had never seen him cry before but now I'm older I can't even phantom how hard that must be. Especially now that my grandparents are much older, every time he leaves he really doesn't know if that will be the last moment he will get to spend with them.
I also cried loads just now, thanks BuzzFeed!
Stray Ray pretty much.. just like we are all human beings and a child of someone else who are our parents...but this comment really made me tear up and was so sad..
As I'm from India i have seen soo many arrange marriages eveb thought the parents don't love each other or even if they want to give divorce to each other they won't they'll still stick themselves together for there kids they'll be fine with Livin in rooms with no acs but buying the most expensive and the best thing for there kids. Even if you fail in ur life you're 25 your parents will still love you and let you stay with them for the rest of there lives and take all your expenses. When you're a parent you learn to sacrifice yourself and it automatically happens always love and adore ur parents .💞
Ishika - yep and I’m not Indian and I agree. Also among South Asia, child marriages used to be the norm, which is what probs got the idea of Arranged marriages
Yeah I agree with you. But personally for me, with my parents having an arranged marriage, it's harder for me with them being together. My dad is never happy and him and my mum are always fighting, and he treats me, my mum and my sister like crap and just recently he hit my mum for the first time. They are together "for their kids" but I seriously want them to divorce. It's hurting us all and I get its a sin in the bible to divorce but I'm sick of how unhappy we are as a family.
@@triciafradrick3731 damn, my parents fight here and there, and are angry and were arranged marriage but like they like being together. Like if I joke around with either my parents, or try to stop them from fighting, they go full defensive mode on the other parent. Just watch this video from SuperWoman which explains my parents in a nutshell: th-cam.com/video/x6kBXbw9E5M/w-d-xo.html
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My parents aren’t happy together and all it’s done is make us all miserable. So I’m not gonna be thankful for that
My dad's West Indian and my mom's from Trinidad. They both moved to America for a "better life" but when we (my sisters and I) were born everything became harder. My dad was very talented in mathematics but he works 2 jobs so he can see us. My mom is a teacher but she comes home with back pain and high blood pressure. She's always so stressed but she still keeps a smile on her face. Neither of them can always make it to my band concerts or come take pictures during my award ceremonies but they're trying their best. Children of immigrants all understand that we can't always have what we need but our parents will always try their best.🇹🇹🇹🇹🇹🇹🍛🍛
Not that it matters but are u Indian Caribbean
Hey I'm from Trinidad🇹🇹 life down here isn't great
Abde Abde We call it West-Indian. I’m Guyanese and am considered West-Indian, not Indian Caribbean. 🇬🇾
Also from Trinidad 🇹🇹....I mean we never know the struggle our parents actually go through until we get a little bit older and look a little closer and realized the sacrifices they make for us I can relate ..........respect 🙌
Safiya made me cry , I'm a teenager and I pretend that I am white and say I'm not Muslim and this made me realise what a bad decision
Gina Cook im not white and im half asian but im the same and i should feel ashamed but rn im not and i cant get over that its really bad but i dont feel the conection to be a muslim and i dont see that side of me
Perrywinkle smile maybe you should learn more about your religion from authentic sources, that may help you embrace your religion. If you need any help in that, I'll be more than glad to answer your questions and help you learn more inshaallah.
You were blessed with the most perfect religion
i think it's mostly because people have these bad images of muslims..
ugh what a shame, Muslim kids and parents have to sacrifice their own religion since 9/11 just to fit in society 😟
Okay who in the world is cutting onions??? 😰
Me
+Subat Rodoshe me
not u
lol.
The invisible ninjas cut onions
im cutting 100000 onions and stuffing them into my eyes
I have all the onions in the world being cut right now
I started bawling when Safia started crying.
I never and when i say never, I mean i never cry at anything, but this.... this did get to me :(
Hugs
Yup.. Saf made me cry SOOO BAD
me too oh my god
"And im really sorry that i used to pretend i was white, and im really sorry that i pretended that i wasnt muslim" that got me that just killed me inside like bam
3ly •-• When she said that, those words hit my soul
I got emotional
I cried right after I commented
chea resan me too...
Same haha
karen ontiverosI usually don't comment on youtube videos, but this one I had to. I never really appreciated how much my parents have done for me and this helped me to realize it.
So did I 😢
"You did more than I ever deserved."
No matter how high i may go in life, this statement will always, always be true