Thank you Samuel! I am the betrayed spouse and got a lot of great and useful information. I have always been a good communicator and empath so I have been in touch with my emotions, others and especially my husband. Since the discovery 4 months ago I have become a not so good communicator. I either cry, sob, yell, rant, disassociate, hysterical bond or become irrational. Thank you for your wise words. I realize I need to work on my own accountability if I want my H to join me. I feel like a foreign person in my own brain sometimes. Be part of the solution, not the problem! I have power over my own reactions. I guess awareness is what both my H and myself need to work on.
I was struggling so much letting my emotions control me and spent so much time lashing out at my unfaithful husband it wasn’t until my new therapist explained to me that I had unrealistic expectations and will face constant disappointment every time I expect him to act like he did before which is only adding to my stress and anger because my husband is not equipped to explore the reasons why he had a 2 yr affair, my therapist said I need to be patient and give therapy a chance, we both have individual therapists and have recently got a couples therapist we will be seeing at the end of January, I’m hoping we are able to explore some topics with the therapist we are unable to discuss right now on our own, I have also been doing my deep breathing exercises to regulate my stress specifically my anger and frustration … I have also disengaged from him and focus more on my own healing giving him space … it is calmer around our house since I shifted my focus and stopped lashing out … I was told this journey is a marathon not a sprint so I guess I will have to buckle up … GOOD LUCK TO ALL THE COUPLES TRYING TO RECOVER FROM INFIDELITY AND REBUILD THEIR RELATIONSHIPS 🙏🤞🙏🤞🙏🤞
A care team would be great, unfortunately there aren’t any friends in my circle anymore, no mentor to call. Counselling is virtually impossible as they are backed up for months. Seems like a hopeless situation at times. Thank you for being there Sam, your videos have helped me a lot over the last couple months.
I'm so sorry my friend. Look at one of our courses on line as part of your care team: www.affairrecovery.com/programs-and-courses/online-courses you'll find mentorship as well as other support in our courses or intensives. i know it's hard, but it's not impossible.
Here in MN, the state of bipolar weather, we're currently at 24°, but the "feels like" temperature is 12°.🥶 I'm new to Team Betrayed, and it is truly the pits! I do feel fortunate to have found this channel. I watch them alone, he'll watch them alone, and sometimes we'll convene and watch it together. We get to discuss the purdanent information that pertains to where we are in our recovery. These videos have already helped so much. Just watching any video, reminds me that all of my feelings, and at times, unsavory reactions, aren't specific to me. I feel truly understood by so many others! Y'all are wonderful! Grateful 🙏
Hi Samuel, your videos have been so helpful. You tell it as is and it is good hear the truth. We were in EMS weekend in March and couldn’t talk to you. We were wondering how to get a accountability partner? We wanted to get in touch with you. But not sure if that is even possible. Any advice would help. Thank you for all what you do. It’s been really helpful.
Yes we could no longer talk. Total shut down. Defensiveness and Stonewalling got us nowhere. He refused to open up to me at all. He turned to her completely. I let my walls down apologized for what I did wrong and for what I did not even know I did wrong. I could not do anything else. The most dangerous thing in the world is to force someone to be where they do not want to be. It was decided that he would remain married to me and his heart belong to her. He treated me that way. Lies and all. It was time for him to go.
Do you guys have ANY offices close to the Charlotte NC area or no any good reference to another office? We want in person visits and Really needing help and I don't want to see any unqualified help. Really enjoy you guys.
Thank you Samuel!
I am the betrayed spouse and got a lot of great and useful information. I have always been a good communicator and empath so I have been in touch with my emotions, others and especially my husband. Since the discovery 4 months ago I have become a not so good communicator. I either cry, sob, yell, rant, disassociate, hysterical bond or become irrational. Thank you for your wise words. I realize I need to work on my own accountability if I want my H to join me. I feel like a foreign person in my own brain sometimes. Be part of the solution, not the problem! I have power over my own reactions. I guess awareness is what both my H and myself need to work on.
so glad I could help. i would get a trauma expert involved in your own healing asap my friend. it will be a game changer for you.
I was struggling so much letting my emotions control me and spent so much time lashing out at my unfaithful husband it wasn’t until my new therapist explained to me that I had unrealistic expectations and will face constant disappointment every time I expect him to act like he did before which is only adding to my stress and anger because my husband is not equipped to explore the reasons why he had a 2 yr affair, my therapist said I need to be patient and give therapy a chance, we both have individual therapists and have recently got a couples therapist we will be seeing at the end of January, I’m hoping we are able to explore some topics with the therapist we are unable to discuss right now on our own, I have also been doing my deep breathing exercises to regulate my stress specifically my anger and frustration … I have also disengaged from him and focus more on my own healing giving him space … it is calmer around our house since I shifted my focus and stopped lashing out … I was told this journey is a marathon not a sprint so I guess I will have to buckle up … GOOD LUCK TO ALL THE COUPLES TRYING TO RECOVER FROM INFIDELITY AND REBUILD THEIR RELATIONSHIPS 🙏🤞🙏🤞🙏🤞
A care team would be great, unfortunately there aren’t any friends in my circle anymore, no mentor to call. Counselling is virtually impossible as they are backed up for months. Seems like a hopeless situation at times. Thank you for being there Sam, your videos have helped me a lot over the last couple months.
I'm so sorry my friend. Look at one of our courses on line as part of your care team: www.affairrecovery.com/programs-and-courses/online-courses you'll find mentorship as well as other support in our courses or intensives. i know it's hard, but it's not impossible.
Here in MN, the state of bipolar weather, we're currently at 24°, but the "feels like" temperature is 12°.🥶
I'm new to Team Betrayed, and it is truly the pits!
I do feel fortunate to have found this channel. I watch them alone, he'll watch them alone, and sometimes we'll convene and watch it together. We get to discuss the purdanent information that pertains to where we are in our recovery.
These videos have already helped so much. Just watching any video, reminds me that all of my feelings, and at times, unsavory reactions, aren't specific to me. I feel truly understood by so many others!
Y'all are wonderful!
Grateful 🙏
so glad I could help. thank you for watching and leaving a comment. many couples take that approach as well and it works just fine.
Thanks man, your words always help and always seem to just what I need at just the rite time. Keeps me on track.
thank you. so glad i could help brother.
Hi Samuel, your videos have been so helpful. You tell it as is and it is good hear the truth. We were in EMS weekend in March and couldn’t talk to you. We were wondering how to get a accountability partner? We wanted to get in touch with you. But not sure if that is even possible. Any advice would help. Thank you for all what you do. It’s been really helpful.
Yes we could no longer talk. Total shut down. Defensiveness and Stonewalling got us nowhere. He refused to open up to me at all. He turned to her completely. I let my walls down apologized for what I did wrong and for what I did not even know I did wrong. I could not do anything else. The most dangerous thing in the world is to force someone to be where they do not want to be. It was decided that he would remain married to me and his heart belong to her. He treated me that way. Lies and all. It was time for him to go.
Do you guys have ANY offices close to the Charlotte NC area or no any good reference to another office? We want in person visits and Really needing help and I don't want to see any unqualified help. Really enjoy you guys.